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Speaker 1: I just want to talk about filler because I've seen

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Speaker 1: there forever like you. That's why people's faces get really

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Speaker 1: fucked up because it's just sitting inside your face, and

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Speaker 1: the people who are saying that it doesn't stay there

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Speaker 1: to someone selling filler. So even plastic surgeons will say

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Speaker 1: it to you in private, but they won't say it

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Speaker 1: to you publicly because they are thrown so much business

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Speaker 1: from dermatologists that make their living off of filler. Like

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Speaker 1: most people, like you know, makeup artists aren't making their

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Speaker 1: big money if they have big brands off of doing makeup.

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Speaker 1: They're making their big, big, giant money off of the brand,

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Speaker 1: off of the So if you're a dermatologist, you know,

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Speaker 1: picking someone's pimple is not where you're making your money.

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Speaker 1: It's your products and all that other stuff, and you

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Speaker 1: and your filler and those botoxes. So they live off

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Speaker 1: by the way at all, and know that that filler

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Speaker 1: is the devil. That filler is the devil. But botox

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Speaker 1: is different to me. Botox I'm not counting. I mean

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Speaker 1: the stuff where it puts like that shit inside botox

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Speaker 1: or removed my job on if that's possible. That sounds

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Speaker 1: not the most important decision of your life or one

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Speaker 1: of you know. I mean, whether you're gonna have kids

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Speaker 1: is an important decision, But like relationship, who you're gonna

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Speaker 1: with your body with that's really important. And people somehow

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Speaker 1: to be snatched up three months later. Anything good takes

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Speaker 1: waiting and it's hard to be patient. But if you're

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Speaker 1: working a quality versus quantity model, and I've never really

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Speaker 1: subscribed to this, I've jumped into relationships and I, for

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Speaker 1: the first time in my life at this age, realize

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Speaker 1: too soon. Because think about anybody who loses a tremendous

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Speaker 1: If you rush to meet someone just because you're feeling

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Speaker 1: because it's such an important decision. And also, if anyone's

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Speaker 1: So you have to be your own matchmaker, no different

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Speaker 1: And I've done that so many times. And when I

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Speaker 1: go back to trusting the process. Think about an executive search.

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Speaker 1: Are you looking for any basic dope? If you are

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Speaker 1: Let's say the CEO of Apple has left or a

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Speaker 1: look around anybody. Let's look on the want ads and

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Speaker 1: see if this person wants to replace the CEO of Apple. Right,

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Speaker 1: what they're gonna do is carefully do vetting, interviewing. They're

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Speaker 1: They're gonna go word of mouth, they're gonna do some

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Speaker 1: like the way you're talking, it's talking like you're like

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Speaker 1: not take scraps or scrubs. Be alone in that case,

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Speaker 1: like be alone, go back to the drawing board. But

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Speaker 1: power back, even if you are the doormat that's making

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Speaker 1: Pull that shit together, that'll surprise that person more. You know,

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Speaker 1: that person that you're texting with who's kind of blowing

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Speaker 1: scraps thinking you're gonna somehow majestically get them if you

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Speaker 1: you forget to text back. Sometimes you're not that you know,

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Speaker 1: obsessed with it. You're just like, oh sorry, trying to

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Speaker 1: be kind. You don't care. You be nice to them,

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Speaker 1: not nice, it doesn't matter to you. You're not overthinking

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Speaker 1: every comma and semi colon. That's how you have to

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Speaker 1: be with the people that you do like like be

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Speaker 1: super nice, but you're not like overthinking it. Respond right away,

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Speaker 1: then next time, respond not away. But you can shut

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Speaker 1: just get your power back where you'll just feel good like, okay,

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Speaker 1: you got the last words. Someone treated and it's never

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Speaker 1: to lay. You could be a doormat. Someone could cheat

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Speaker 1: on you. You could be a doormat, and you could

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Speaker 1: realize on a delay, what am I doing? This person

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Speaker 1: disrespecting me and I'm not respecting myself. You could pull

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Speaker 1: your bootstrips up. Then anytime you can do it. It's like

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Speaker 1: starting to eat healthier, exercise. You don't have to do

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Speaker 1: a delay, so do it when, but you could just

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