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Speaker 3: Welcome to Can't Beleeve Reckless, the production of iHeartRadio and
Speaker 3: The Black Effects, And just like that, we're back with
Speaker 3: yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl Jess hilarious.
Speaker 1: What I'll be doing. I'll be fixing mess y'all.
Speaker 3: We don't have any goddamn voice notes, y'all I SENDI
Speaker 3: me no goddamn voice notes, but y'all a sending me
Speaker 3: these long as paragraphs. Yes, I am going to keep
Speaker 3: complaining about it. You know why cause y'all don't care. Man,
Speaker 3: y'all y'all can't fucking spell, and y'all be talking about
Speaker 3: a bitch can't read.
Speaker 1: Y'all can't spell the five. So that's why I be
Speaker 1: mad shit.
Speaker 3: But anyway, we're gonna jump straight into it. I'm not
Speaker 3: in the studio today, so I don't have Taylor here
Speaker 3: to read with me or to help fix y'all mess.
Speaker 3: But we just go and jump into it, and it's
Speaker 3: gonna be me. Okay, here we go.
Speaker 1: Hey, Jess.
Speaker 3: So I have a friend that is going through relationship problems.
Speaker 3: She always confides in me because she knows I'm going
Speaker 3: to be honest with her and actually listen, you know,
Speaker 3: like a good friend is supposed to. Lately, things have
Speaker 3: been getting worse for her. Don't really want to say
Speaker 3: too much, but it has. I have given her all
Speaker 3: the advice I can, but she just runs back. It's
Speaker 3: starting to get a little annoying because she would also
Speaker 3: get me involved. Like Jess, last week, we slashed this
Speaker 3: nigga tires, laughed my ass off, and by the next
Speaker 3: night they was laid back up like nothing ever happened.
Speaker 3: And then that following night she wanted to jump him
Speaker 3: in his sleep, which wasn't a good idea laughing my
Speaker 3: ass off and bitch, ain't none of this shit funny.
Speaker 3: Continuing My point is, I'm just tired of telling her
Speaker 3: the same thing and she goes right back to him.
Speaker 3: So last night she called me to vent her usual
Speaker 3: and I told her before she even spoke, if we're
Speaker 3: gonna talk about the nigga, you might as well hang up,
Speaker 3: because I honestly don't want to hear it. She straight
Speaker 3: ignored me and started to proceed with her conversation. I
Speaker 3: got so irritated and said, your dumbass gonna go straight back,
Speaker 3: so why does it matter? Yes, that was harsh, but
Speaker 3: I'm fed up with it, Jess, and I don't take
Speaker 3: your back either. We talk every morning on our way
Speaker 3: to work or at least text, but girl shanet reach out,
Speaker 3: not one time.
Speaker 1: I get it.
Speaker 3: She's probably upset and need some time because maybe she
Speaker 3: wasn't expecting that out of me. I just want my
Speaker 3: friend to wake up and realize she's worth so much
Speaker 3: more than this nigga.
Speaker 1: Okay, so that's how it ended.
Speaker 3: So I'm guessing you just want advice on advice that
Speaker 3: you can give to your friend to help her move on. Listen,
Speaker 3: it ain't gonna happen. She not gonna get tired and
Speaker 3: says she gets tired. You can get tired for somebody
Speaker 3: as much as you want. The inevitable thing about it
Speaker 3: is your friend not gonna be ready to let this
Speaker 3: man go until she's ready to let him go. No,
Speaker 3: I don't know who y'all are and everything, because I
Speaker 3: take it depending I give y'all advice depending on y'all age.
Speaker 3: Now this shit sound young. It sounds like y'all are
Speaker 3: very young, and I totally get it. Let me say,
Speaker 3: because I remember I was doing this type shit when
Speaker 3: I first met Rome. That's the that's my baby ball,
Speaker 3: but the first baby ball I had, I was doing
Speaker 3: this type of shit with my cousin London, running around
Speaker 3: slashing her own tires, and well, roll ain't get a
Speaker 3: call until later on. So when he did get a
Speaker 3: call when he you know, wasn't traveling on his feet
Speaker 3: after a few years. Yes, I bust his windows flat
Speaker 3: and hiss tires. I did all that, But I did
Speaker 3: all that shit in my early twenties, you know what
Speaker 3: I mean. Like I did a few things while I
Speaker 3: was pregnant too, but I was nineteen. So you gotta
Speaker 3: be young, like y'all got to be young and shit.
Speaker 3: And that's just the downside of it, right, because you
Speaker 3: want your friend, you want your friend to notice she
Speaker 3: that girl for sure, but if she not ready to
Speaker 3: give up on dude, and she's just not ready now,
Speaker 3: I think you should talk to her, like show her
Speaker 3: her worth. You can't like come at her and say
Speaker 3: shit like your dumb ass gonna go right back, you know.
Speaker 1: And that's why she not talking to you. I get
Speaker 1: it now.
Speaker 3: Lately, I've been on my shit where I've been, you know,
Speaker 3: making the women take accountability and everything.
Speaker 1: So you right on brand.
Speaker 3: But listen, you can't help her go do this shit
Speaker 3: and then try to tell her lead a nigga alone.
Speaker 3: You was right there slashing the right tie and while
Speaker 3: she was slashing the other tie on the other side.
Speaker 3: You was right there over there jumping a nigga in
Speaker 3: his sleep with her. You know, you know you down,
Speaker 3: you there, you down the ride through whatever, through thick
Speaker 3: and thin. That's your homegirl. Yes, but you can't be
Speaker 3: the person that is indulging into the crime, because that's
Speaker 3: what all it is. You just admitted a bunch of
Speaker 3: crimes that you've committed with your friend to me, So
Speaker 3: you can't be down to do all that shit and
Speaker 3: then you be the same you want turn her around
Speaker 3: trying to give her a fucking intervention or for intervention.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. The leader's nigga alone.
Speaker 3: But I think what you should should do is instead
Speaker 3: of coming at her, you got to meet her where
Speaker 3: she at. You get what I'm saying, Like, you really
Speaker 3: have to be honest and just level with her, you know,
Speaker 3: speak life into her. Yeah, y'all are young, but you
Speaker 3: can do that, you know, help her see her worth.
Speaker 3: Not by coming at her for fucking with the nigga,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, but more so just complimenting her,
Speaker 3: letting her know, girl, you are worth more than this shit.
Speaker 3: Like you can get any nigga you want, friend, like
Speaker 3: take her out, let her show her a good girl's
Speaker 3: night out or whatever. You know, look, send a ass
Speaker 3: hold on the blind date, you know, do a twenty
Speaker 3: v one whatever. You know, the shit that y'all kids
Speaker 3: be doing, I'm just automatically assume that y'all youngest shit,
Speaker 3: because all of this behavior is youngest shit. It's very childish. Now,
Speaker 3: there are some adults that do shit like this too,
Speaker 3: but very seldom. It's very seldom that you would see
Speaker 3: this come from a mature woman, like a person who
Speaker 3: knows her worth already, you know what I mean, a
Speaker 3: female who knows her worth, but like, yeah, meet her
Speaker 3: where she is and give her the best advice by
Speaker 3: showing her who she is.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean? You know that that's saying that, oh,
Speaker 1: my friend is exactly who she thinks she is.
Speaker 3: Oh, you know what I'm saying, Hype her up like that,
Speaker 3: show bitch, and she needs to always remember that if
Speaker 3: you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then
Speaker 3: we'll be right back show her ways like that.
Speaker 1: Okay, that was pretty easy because I remember actually.
Speaker 3: Going through shit like that, Like I remember doing that
Speaker 3: with my cousin.
Speaker 1: Like we used to be the treacherous twins.
Speaker 3: All right, I'm talking about popping up on niggas at
Speaker 3: these jobs. Come outside, come outside all that, right, rod shit,
Speaker 3: this shit ain't cool.
Speaker 1: It's a bunch of toxicity.
Speaker 3: She got to get that shit together before she gets older,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Because a lot of women,
Speaker 3: and it starts very young, think that's what love is like,
Speaker 3: if y'all ain't fighting, or if y'all ain't arguing, if
Speaker 3: you know, like a lot of that's that's a lot
Speaker 3: of women's love language. Like they think that that's cool.
Speaker 3: It's toxic, and that's probably all that they've seen, you know,
Speaker 3: whether that's growing up or whether that's just how they've
Speaker 3: seen relationship.
Speaker 1: You know. However, whatever that may be. Hell, no, love.
Speaker 3: Don't supposed to go like that. You ain't supposed to
Speaker 3: be busting on nig upside his head in his sleep.
Speaker 3: That ain't cool or cute, goofy asses.
Speaker 1: Please don't do that. I don't like that.
Speaker 3: But I want to talk about this story that somebody
Speaker 3: had called up to the breakfast club and asked me
Speaker 3: to fix their mess about. So it was this woman
Speaker 3: she had called up and she was saying that she's gay,
Speaker 3: and she deals with two women right now. Neither one
Speaker 3: of the girls know about each other. I'm gonna say girls,
Speaker 3: because they were young. She did tell me that she
Speaker 3: was twenty years old. She didn't tell me how old
Speaker 3: the two girls were that she was talking to. But
Speaker 3: she has two girls on a roster, right and they
Speaker 3: don't know about each other. And now one of the
Speaker 3: girls she likes more than the other, so she wants
Speaker 3: the girl. She likes one of them more than the other,
Speaker 3: but she doesn't want to make that one her girlfriend
Speaker 3: because she's not ready to be committed. She's only twenty.
Speaker 3: She's testing the water, dating to see what she likes
Speaker 3: and everything like that. However, she is, you know, lesbian.
Speaker 3: But she had heard out, I mean, she had heard
Speaker 3: from out in the streets that one of the girls
Speaker 3: that she deal with, right, the main one that she
Speaker 3: likes more than the other one, was out at like
Speaker 3: a bar or a club or restaurant or something, and
Speaker 3: she was, you know, there with another girl, and it
Speaker 3: had gotten back to her that they were very touchy philly.
Speaker 3: They was all up on each other and things like that.
Speaker 3: And somebody that knew that this girl was talking to her,
Speaker 3: they told her. They took a picture and sent the
Speaker 3: picture to her and was like, damn, you know your
Speaker 3: girl out here. You know this is your girl. So
Speaker 3: she was calling up to tell me, I mean to
Speaker 3: ask me what she should do about it. Do I
Speaker 3: think that she should confront the girl about, you know,
Speaker 3: being out in public with somebody, like she's not dating
Speaker 3: her too, or she just not say anything. And my
Speaker 3: advice to that was, let's just strip the age away
Speaker 3: from it, right, Okay, you just told me that you
Speaker 3: had two girls that you're talking to and you like
Speaker 3: one more than the other. However, you don't want to
Speaker 3: commit because that's something that that's just not something that
Speaker 3: you see yourself doing right now.
Speaker 1: That's not something that you're ready for.
Speaker 3: But in the same breath you're telling me, are you
Speaker 3: asking me rather advice on pulling up on your main girl,
Speaker 3: you know, the one one of your girls, confronting her
Speaker 3: about her being out with somebody else?
Speaker 1: You got two of them. They don't even know about
Speaker 1: each other, you know what I mean.
Speaker 3: That's the pot calling the kettle black and the black
Speaker 3: calling the well. You can't contradict yourself like that, Lady, shady, lady,
Speaker 3: that's crazy. She was like, I mean, I just I
Speaker 3: don't know, Jazz. I feel like I like her a lot,
Speaker 3: and I do want her more than I want the
Speaker 3: other one. I like both of them, but I just
Speaker 3: I love her like I love her more than I
Speaker 3: you know, I don't even love the other one. I
Speaker 3: just like her, but I love this one. Yeah, but
Speaker 3: you still don't. You don't love her enough to give
Speaker 3: her a commitment. So how can you pull her up
Speaker 3: about something that she's doing outside of you when you've
Speaker 3: got somebody outside of her too. And the reason why
Speaker 3: I say I'm a stripped age away from it, because
Speaker 3: that's also what happens when you're older too. Like that
Speaker 3: has no age, that has no age.
Speaker 1: On it, you know what I mean? Like men play
Speaker 1: games like that.
Speaker 3: Women play games like that in their forties, in their fifties,
Speaker 3: god damn thirties, twenties, it don't matter. Like I dated
Speaker 3: a lot of different age groups, okay, And trust me,
Speaker 3: just because you're older does not mean you are mature
Speaker 3: and you got it all together because a lot of
Speaker 3: older people still want to be young, and so they
Speaker 3: still live in those days and he lives and they
Speaker 3: live in those times. They get stuck. It's like pre dementia,
Speaker 3: like nigga, No, like you, you getting stuck back there?
Speaker 3: Grow the fuck up. I call them people, the stragglers,
Speaker 3: them older guys and older women who don't want to
Speaker 3: be their fucking age and act accordingly to their age.
Speaker 3: That's just what I want to say about that. And then, look,
Speaker 3: I know y'all probably get mad at this. I don't care.
Speaker 3: I said, you are twenty years old. You have a
Speaker 3: lot more life to live. You're gonna meet the lady
Speaker 3: of your life, and it may even be the man.
Speaker 3: A man might steal your heart.
Speaker 1: You don't know. You don't know.
Speaker 3: You're only twenty years old. You may be just curious
Speaker 3: right now. This gay lifestyle may be a phase for
Speaker 3: you. You may end up with a man with kids. I
Speaker 3: don't know if she was a stut or not, but
Speaker 3: when I said the man party sounded like she got
Speaker 3: a little bit more feminine, you know, so she might
Speaker 3: end up liking Dick later. Who knows, we're going back
Speaker 3: to it out of next or what our history was,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean?
Speaker 1: Just too much.
Speaker 3: But don't contradict yourselves, ladies. You know, and listen, mind
Speaker 3: you if you want to be the only one. You
Speaker 3: gotta treat people like you want to be fucking treated.
Speaker 3: I just saw something online where somebody had challenged that.
Speaker 3: I don't know if it was doctor Cheyenne Brian, I
Speaker 3: don't know. No, no, no, it wasn't doctor Brian. It
Speaker 3: wasn't doctor Brian about to throw something on this lady.
Speaker 3: And she didn't even say it. It was something else, somebody else,
Speaker 3: but somebody disagree with that. Treat people like you want
Speaker 3: to be treated, you know, do unto people like you
Speaker 3: want to be done unto? You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 3: like I and I'm a firm believer in that. How
Speaker 3: the fuck I'm a cheat on you? Or I I'm
Speaker 3: being honest with you, like all right, I don't want
Speaker 3: to commitment, so you're not the only person I talk
Speaker 3: to you. And mind you, she didn't even tell either
Speaker 3: one of her girls that they're not the only ones,
Speaker 3: like so they just thinking they're exclusively talking to this girl,
Speaker 3: like we're exclusively dating.
Speaker 1: But no, you got two girls. How are you.
Speaker 3: Going to lead like that but then get mad when
Speaker 3: somebody else pulling you on you? Cause she was out
Speaker 3: in public doing it, right, I guess that's that's what hurts.
Speaker 3: But it still doesn't change the fact.
Speaker 1: Of the matter.
Speaker 3: Is you you like this girl, you say, you say
Speaker 3: you love her, but you don't love her enough to
Speaker 3: be her girlfriend, to commit to her. That's some bullshit.
Speaker 3: I don't really like that myself. So that's the advice
Speaker 3: that I gave her, y'all.
Speaker 1: Hold up, Hold up.
Speaker 3: I know this shit getting good, but listen to just
Speaker 3: a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me,
Speaker 3: you'll listen.
Speaker 1: Listen.
Speaker 3: I just want to clear something up also, right, So
Speaker 3: I did Club Shasha a couple weeks ago, right, And
Speaker 3: now this is the thing, of course, blugs grab, you know,
Speaker 3: just video clips and not even any context around the
Speaker 3: small clip that looks like it's meant to be one way,
Speaker 3: you know, but it's interpreted so differently and so negatively,
Speaker 3: because that's what blogs like to do for clickbait. Right,
Speaker 3: So they're never going to grab the context around the
Speaker 3: subject that they were talking about, you know, I mean
Speaker 3: that they posted about, right, and they should do.
Speaker 1: So I hate that. I used to love making the blogs.
Speaker 3: I hate when I be I get butterflies in my
Speaker 3: stomach when somebody called me like yoh, you ain't say
Speaker 3: they posted on Shape Room or on Spiritual Word, or
Speaker 3: on Hollywood Unlocked or on the Neighborhood Talk or I'm like, no,
Speaker 3: Nigad didn't, Oh my god didn't on site shout out
Speaker 3: to Rashida Ali. Listen on site, they be getting the
Speaker 3: shit man, and I'd be like, no, please don't post
Speaker 3: me on the motherfucking blogs. Should be crazy. That shit
Speaker 3: is exhausting, especially when somebody to pick what you said
Speaker 3: the wrong way because the blogs grab a few seconds.
Speaker 1: So listen.
Speaker 3: I sat down with Shannon Sharp and he was asking
Speaker 3: me about marriage. The topic was marriage, right, and I said,
Speaker 3: no marriage is perfect. I forget exactly how we got
Speaker 3: on Kirk and Rashida right is we were speaking about
Speaker 3: marriage and how no marriage is perfect, and a lot
Speaker 3: of people in the public I they like for their
Speaker 3: marriage to seem perfect, you know what I mean, when
Speaker 3: in all reality, you don't have to do that.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, you don't have to do that.
Speaker 1: It's okay.
Speaker 3: I think I think the people win staying more relatable
Speaker 3: because don't nobody want to see a facade, you know
Speaker 3: what I mean, Because that's just not reality.
Speaker 1: That's not real.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. That's why I ain't gonna lie.
Speaker 3: I love and respect, love and hip hop, Atlanta. The
Speaker 3: marriages on there that have lasted through the test of
Speaker 3: time now look in no way, shape or form what
Speaker 3: I want my husband to cheat on me and make
Speaker 3: a baby.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: In no way, shape or form would I be Okay,
Speaker 3: I don't even think I would be able to get
Speaker 3: past Chris having a baby on me. I would not
Speaker 3: be able to just fathom even what the fuck that
Speaker 3: looks like, you know what I mean. No, But and
Speaker 3: I didn't say Kirk and Rashida have the perfect marriage,
Speaker 3: which Hollywood unlock quote it wrong.
Speaker 1: I did not say that.
Speaker 3: I said they put it in their caption that many
Speaker 3: headlines that I said, that's the perfect marriage.
Speaker 4: To me.
Speaker 3: No, I said, that's the perfect example of a marriage
Speaker 3: that has stood and went. They went through everything and
Speaker 3: they still are standing till this day. That's the perfect
Speaker 3: example of how strong a marriage can be when they
Speaker 3: have to endure shit coming from here.
Speaker 1: There. They're they're, they're they're like.
Speaker 3: Yo, even before Kirk had a baby, you know what
Speaker 3: I'm saying, which was not something that like he purposely did.
Speaker 1: I'm not making excuses for this man, No I'm not.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying.
Speaker 3: It's marriages that made it through worse than that. And
Speaker 3: I know you say it don't get no worse than
Speaker 3: having another baby. Oh yes, the fuck it does. I
Speaker 3: know women who've husbands have come out to them, okay,
Speaker 3: but they were saying that they were battling something. And
Speaker 3: I know why who have stayed and helped you know
Speaker 3: them through their healing process. It was a couple of
Speaker 3: seasons ago a woman had wrote me, right, and she said,
Speaker 3: I've been married for umpteen years. I don't even know,
Speaker 3: you know, the umpteen is just, you know, it's a
Speaker 3: lot of years, a lot of years. And she was like,
Speaker 3: I was wondering why my husband don't look at me
Speaker 3: the same? Why why they you know, why he you know,
Speaker 3: I don't feel like he's attracted to me. Doesn't compliment
Speaker 3: me much anymore. He doesn't take me out. When he
Speaker 3: kisses me, it's no tongue. He just pecks me. Now,
Speaker 3: it's like I'm growing to be unattractive in my husband's eyes. Right,
Speaker 3: And she said, so, I just went through his phone,
Speaker 3: didn't find anything. I went through his email, and I
Speaker 3: found out that he was seeing men, you know. But
Speaker 3: she said she dug a little deeper, and she also
Speaker 3: found out that he was seeing a therapist for this, right,
Speaker 3: and he didn't know how to come to his wife,
Speaker 3: so she approached him. And she was a very calm woman,
Speaker 3: by the way, because she didn't say she went off.
Speaker 3: She didn't say she Janey Jackson, this nigga, remember, oh,
Speaker 3: you're doing depending how you marry a woman. Didn't turn
Speaker 3: a run to be gay, like. She ain't say she
Speaker 3: did that, you know, she said that the fact that
Speaker 3: she she.
Speaker 1: Was going to do it, though.
Speaker 3: Believe that because I remember her telling me like, oh,
Speaker 3: I was about to go off until I dug a
Speaker 3: little deeper and I saw that he was actually seeking
Speaker 3: some type of counsel for this, like he was actually
Speaker 3: going to therapy for this.
Speaker 1: And she ended up staying with her husband. Long story short, like,
Speaker 1: she ended up staying with.
Speaker 3: This man, like you know, it bothered her, And as
Speaker 3: much as it bothered her, she didn't want to give
Speaker 3: up on her husband. She was with him for umpteen years.
Speaker 3: And what I say, I'm teen, I think I don't
Speaker 3: I think it was definitely more than ten years. She
Speaker 3: had kids with him, you know what I'm saying, Like
Speaker 3: they had businesses together and all that type of shit
Speaker 3: real estate, Like they had companies that they had built
Speaker 3: from ground up together. She had known this man since teenagers,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean, since they were teenagers, and
Speaker 3: he did tell her when when confronting him, he don't
Speaker 3: know why he had these feelings. He's been having them
Speaker 3: since a teenager. But he's done a better job when
Speaker 3: he was younger of burying them and not acting on
Speaker 3: his feelings, you know what I mean.
Speaker 1: Like he but.
Speaker 3: As the older that he got his curiosity like grew,
Speaker 3: you know, and he was already married. They married young,
Speaker 3: you know, and he had been just talking to them,
Speaker 3: and he did tell his wife he's never slept with
Speaker 3: a man, but that's why, you know, he had those
Speaker 3: urges like he wanted to so that's why he went
Speaker 3: to therapy, and his therapist then referred him to a
Speaker 3: psychologist or something, a psyche psychiatrist or a psychologist, which
Speaker 3: are two different things, by the way, But and I
Speaker 3: don't know the differ, like the critical difference, I don't
Speaker 3: know the concrete difference. But I do know that there
Speaker 3: is a difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist, and
Speaker 3: he got all the help that he needed. And she
Speaker 3: hasn't updated me or anything, but she was just saying
Speaker 3: that he wanted to be better, he didn't want to
Speaker 3: have these feelings, and that he was willing to go
Speaker 3: through any type of you know, willing to go to
Speaker 3: any extreme to get this out of his system or whatever.
Speaker 3: And she said she was going to stick by her
Speaker 3: man and stag wiham you know what I'm saying, and
Speaker 3: just being vulnerable enough to expose that to me, in
Speaker 3: which she said, anonymous, you know what I mean. She
Speaker 3: said she didn't have many friends to talk to about it.
Speaker 3: She didn't want to talk to a lot of people
Speaker 3: about it because she didn't want to be judged because
Speaker 3: it's a real, very it was a very real thing,
Speaker 3: and the first thing you would do when you think
Speaker 3: about that type shit, you know, when a man is
Speaker 3: battling something like that, you are straight to oh, but
Speaker 3: you better leave him, because yeah, once you gay, you
Speaker 3: always gay, and all that type shit. But he expressed
Speaker 3: to her that he didn't want to have those feelings,
Speaker 3: you know, I mean, like it was different for them.
Speaker 3: So that also, I would say, is a marriage a
Speaker 3: perfect example of a marriage that can stand the test
Speaker 3: of time, that can go through anything. I did not
Speaker 3: say that is a marriage that I would want to
Speaker 3: be in. I didn't say that that is a marriage
Speaker 3: I glorify. But I did say that's the perfect example.
Speaker 3: I'm gonna say it for the people in the back,
Speaker 3: open your motherucking ears. That is a perfect example of
Speaker 3: two people that can get through anything. Okay, Now, no,
Speaker 3: Kirk didn't have to have a baby or Rashida to
Speaker 3: prove how strong their marriage is.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. No, he didn't.
Speaker 3: But he didn't do that on purpose either. Shit happens.
Speaker 3: It is what it is, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: And then another thing I made clear when I was
Speaker 3: sitting down with Shannon Sharp is they married very early.
Speaker 3: So did my parents. And YO, when you married straight
Speaker 3: out of high school, when you get married like right,
Speaker 3: you know, in college and shit like when you're twenty one,
Speaker 3: early twenties and you've been knowing this this motherfucker since
Speaker 3: you know.
Speaker 1: You get married to.
Speaker 3: Your middle school sweetheart, you high school sweetheart, your college sweetheart,
Speaker 3: whatever you got to think about it, y'all right out
Speaker 3: of fucking school, y'all are still growing up.
Speaker 1: So y'all growing up together. You grew up with this person.
Speaker 3: You never got to live out your bachelorette days. You
Speaker 3: never got to live out your bachelor life, you know
Speaker 3: what I'm saying. Like you didn't get to go and
Speaker 3: smash all these holes and you know, go through the
Speaker 3: roster or women like you don't get to do You
Speaker 3: didn't get to do that like my dad. My dad
Speaker 3: married my mom right out of high school before you
Speaker 3: went to the Marines, you know what I mean. So
Speaker 3: paid that plays a big part in the infidelity when
Speaker 3: you are with one person from a teenager on up.
Speaker 1: You know what I mean. So shit happens, man, And look,
Speaker 1: life be lifing, and life don't have no manual, no
Speaker 1: rule book.
Speaker 3: You know, whatever aligns with you, whatever is compatible with you,
Speaker 3: you go with that. Sh It ain't as traditional as
Speaker 3: it used to be, you know what I'm saying. And look,
Speaker 3: y'all still woul't disagree with me. But how many couples
Speaker 3: have we made our couple's goals and then later on
Speaker 3: we found out that couples were struggling.
Speaker 1: That couple was struggling.
Speaker 3: Look at Will and Jada had no idea about the
Speaker 3: entanglemental august Alsinas did. We We didn't know anything about that.
Speaker 3: Look at the jay Z and Beyonce. That was everybody.
Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, And it still may be
Speaker 3: some people's goals, but look like we would have never
Speaker 3: known jay Z cheated of Shane dropped leimonade. But that's
Speaker 3: regular shit. That's also a perfect example. Okay, cool, We
Speaker 3: don't hear nothing else about them, but you know, apparently
Speaker 3: he cheated, you know, allegendly he Cheatedlady would got beat
Speaker 3: up in the elevator by s launch.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 3: Something happened there and we probably will never find out
Speaker 3: exactly what happened, but it.
Speaker 1: Is what it is. More of the story is, don't
Speaker 1: glorify anybody. Do what works for you. Do what works
Speaker 1: for you. Because Kirk and.
Speaker 3: Rashid, I'm gona say this that I'm gonna get out
Speaker 3: of here. Kirk and Rashida, right, they have they have
Speaker 3: businesses together, man, that's our that was our manager. That
Speaker 3: was they got kids, kids, kids, kids and mold kids
Speaker 3: together like like they've built that all of their success
Speaker 3: with each other.
Speaker 1: You get what I'm saying. So sometimes it ain't.
Speaker 3: Just easy to walk away, and I get it. I
Speaker 3: fucking get a look at yandyem in DC.
Speaker 1: No mine, don't. Don't even look at them.
Speaker 3: All Right, we've come to yet the end of another
Speaker 3: Catholic Records episode with your girl, Jacelarios. So what I'll
Speaker 3: be doing, I'll be fixing mess and I'll check in
Speaker 3: with y'all next week.
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