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Tap in and grab your tickets now at 17 00:00:42,640 --> 00:00:45,440 Speaker 2: Black Effect dot Com Flash Podcast Festival. 18 00:00:45,680 --> 00:00:48,800 Speaker 3: Welcome to Can't Beleeve Reckless, the production of iHeartRadio and 19 00:00:48,840 --> 00:01:02,520 Speaker 3: The Black Effects, And just like that, we're back with 20 00:01:02,640 --> 00:01:05,520 Speaker 3: yet another carefully reckless episode with your girl Jess hilarious. 21 00:01:05,560 --> 00:01:07,520 Speaker 1: What I'll be doing. I'll be fixing mess y'all. 22 00:01:07,680 --> 00:01:13,080 Speaker 3: We don't have any goddamn voice notes, y'all I SENDI 23 00:01:13,120 --> 00:01:14,959 Speaker 3: me no goddamn voice notes, but y'all a sending me 24 00:01:14,959 --> 00:01:17,640 Speaker 3: these long as paragraphs. Yes, I am going to keep 25 00:01:17,680 --> 00:01:20,880 Speaker 3: complaining about it. You know why cause y'all don't care. Man, 26 00:01:21,240 --> 00:01:24,880 Speaker 3: y'all y'all can't fucking spell, and y'all be talking about 27 00:01:24,920 --> 00:01:25,600 Speaker 3: a bitch can't read. 28 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:29,640 Speaker 1: Y'all can't spell the five. So that's why I be 29 00:01:29,680 --> 00:01:30,199 Speaker 1: mad shit. 30 00:01:31,120 --> 00:01:33,560 Speaker 3: But anyway, we're gonna jump straight into it. I'm not 31 00:01:33,760 --> 00:01:35,759 Speaker 3: in the studio today, so I don't have Taylor here 32 00:01:35,800 --> 00:01:38,640 Speaker 3: to read with me or to help fix y'all mess. 33 00:01:38,800 --> 00:01:40,319 Speaker 3: But we just go and jump into it, and it's 34 00:01:40,319 --> 00:01:42,039 Speaker 3: gonna be me. Okay, here we go. 35 00:01:42,720 --> 00:01:43,280 Speaker 1: Hey, Jess. 36 00:01:43,480 --> 00:01:46,520 Speaker 3: So I have a friend that is going through relationship problems. 37 00:01:46,800 --> 00:01:49,760 Speaker 3: She always confides in me because she knows I'm going 38 00:01:49,760 --> 00:01:52,880 Speaker 3: to be honest with her and actually listen, you know, 39 00:01:52,960 --> 00:01:55,920 Speaker 3: like a good friend is supposed to. Lately, things have 40 00:01:56,000 --> 00:01:58,960 Speaker 3: been getting worse for her. Don't really want to say 41 00:01:59,000 --> 00:02:01,840 Speaker 3: too much, but it has. I have given her all 42 00:02:01,880 --> 00:02:04,800 Speaker 3: the advice I can, but she just runs back. It's 43 00:02:04,840 --> 00:02:09,240 Speaker 3: starting to get a little annoying because she would also 44 00:02:09,360 --> 00:02:11,959 Speaker 3: get me involved. Like Jess, last week, we slashed this 45 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:15,120 Speaker 3: nigga tires, laughed my ass off, and by the next 46 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 3: night they was laid back up like nothing ever happened. 47 00:02:19,440 --> 00:02:22,480 Speaker 3: And then that following night she wanted to jump him 48 00:02:22,840 --> 00:02:25,920 Speaker 3: in his sleep, which wasn't a good idea laughing my 49 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 3: ass off and bitch, ain't none of this shit funny. 50 00:02:29,320 --> 00:02:32,560 Speaker 3: Continuing My point is, I'm just tired of telling her 51 00:02:32,560 --> 00:02:35,200 Speaker 3: the same thing and she goes right back to him. 52 00:02:35,320 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 3: So last night she called me to vent her usual 53 00:02:38,160 --> 00:02:41,560 Speaker 3: and I told her before she even spoke, if we're 54 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:44,160 Speaker 3: gonna talk about the nigga, you might as well hang up, 55 00:02:44,520 --> 00:02:47,840 Speaker 3: because I honestly don't want to hear it. She straight 56 00:02:47,880 --> 00:02:51,000 Speaker 3: ignored me and started to proceed with her conversation. I 57 00:02:51,080 --> 00:02:54,040 Speaker 3: got so irritated and said, your dumbass gonna go straight back, 58 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:56,680 Speaker 3: so why does it matter? Yes, that was harsh, but 59 00:02:56,720 --> 00:02:58,400 Speaker 3: I'm fed up with it, Jess, and I don't take 60 00:02:58,400 --> 00:03:01,600 Speaker 3: your back either. We talk every morning on our way 61 00:03:01,639 --> 00:03:04,320 Speaker 3: to work or at least text, but girl shanet reach out, 62 00:03:04,880 --> 00:03:05,720 Speaker 3: not one time. 63 00:03:06,440 --> 00:03:06,920 Speaker 1: I get it. 64 00:03:07,000 --> 00:03:09,600 Speaker 3: She's probably upset and need some time because maybe she 65 00:03:09,720 --> 00:03:12,040 Speaker 3: wasn't expecting that out of me. I just want my 66 00:03:12,040 --> 00:03:14,400 Speaker 3: friend to wake up and realize she's worth so much 67 00:03:14,440 --> 00:03:15,960 Speaker 3: more than this nigga. 68 00:03:16,520 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 1: Okay, so that's how it ended. 69 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:21,200 Speaker 3: So I'm guessing you just want advice on advice that 70 00:03:21,240 --> 00:03:25,640 Speaker 3: you can give to your friend to help her move on. Listen, 71 00:03:26,240 --> 00:03:28,160 Speaker 3: it ain't gonna happen. She not gonna get tired and 72 00:03:28,160 --> 00:03:30,360 Speaker 3: says she gets tired. You can get tired for somebody 73 00:03:31,560 --> 00:03:34,760 Speaker 3: as much as you want. The inevitable thing about it 74 00:03:34,800 --> 00:03:36,440 Speaker 3: is your friend not gonna be ready to let this 75 00:03:36,480 --> 00:03:38,200 Speaker 3: man go until she's ready to let him go. No, 76 00:03:38,280 --> 00:03:40,120 Speaker 3: I don't know who y'all are and everything, because I 77 00:03:41,000 --> 00:03:43,720 Speaker 3: take it depending I give y'all advice depending on y'all age. 78 00:03:43,960 --> 00:03:46,360 Speaker 3: Now this shit sound young. It sounds like y'all are 79 00:03:46,480 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 3: very young, and I totally get it. Let me say, 80 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:51,720 Speaker 3: because I remember I was doing this type shit when 81 00:03:51,760 --> 00:03:54,960 Speaker 3: I first met Rome. That's the that's my baby ball, 82 00:03:55,040 --> 00:03:57,320 Speaker 3: but the first baby ball I had, I was doing 83 00:03:57,360 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 3: this type of shit with my cousin London, running around 84 00:04:00,240 --> 00:04:02,680 Speaker 3: slashing her own tires, and well, roll ain't get a 85 00:04:02,720 --> 00:04:06,000 Speaker 3: call until later on. So when he did get a 86 00:04:06,040 --> 00:04:09,240 Speaker 3: call when he you know, wasn't traveling on his feet 87 00:04:09,880 --> 00:04:12,600 Speaker 3: after a few years. Yes, I bust his windows flat 88 00:04:12,680 --> 00:04:15,920 Speaker 3: and hiss tires. I did all that, But I did 89 00:04:15,960 --> 00:04:18,560 Speaker 3: all that shit in my early twenties, you know what 90 00:04:18,640 --> 00:04:21,120 Speaker 3: I mean. Like I did a few things while I 91 00:04:21,200 --> 00:04:23,200 Speaker 3: was pregnant too, but I was nineteen. So you gotta 92 00:04:23,240 --> 00:04:25,320 Speaker 3: be young, like y'all got to be young and shit. 93 00:04:25,839 --> 00:04:29,280 Speaker 3: And that's just the downside of it, right, because you 94 00:04:29,360 --> 00:04:32,280 Speaker 3: want your friend, you want your friend to notice she 95 00:04:32,440 --> 00:04:37,359 Speaker 3: that girl for sure, but if she not ready to 96 00:04:37,360 --> 00:04:39,919 Speaker 3: give up on dude, and she's just not ready now, 97 00:04:41,400 --> 00:04:43,280 Speaker 3: I think you should talk to her, like show her 98 00:04:43,320 --> 00:04:45,599 Speaker 3: her worth. You can't like come at her and say 99 00:04:45,640 --> 00:04:48,720 Speaker 3: shit like your dumb ass gonna go right back, you know. 100 00:04:48,800 --> 00:04:50,760 Speaker 1: And that's why she not talking to you. I get 101 00:04:50,800 --> 00:04:51,200 Speaker 1: it now. 102 00:04:51,800 --> 00:04:54,479 Speaker 3: Lately, I've been on my shit where I've been, you know, 103 00:04:54,560 --> 00:04:56,799 Speaker 3: making the women take accountability and everything. 104 00:04:56,920 --> 00:04:58,360 Speaker 1: So you right on brand. 105 00:04:59,080 --> 00:05:01,960 Speaker 3: But listen, you can't help her go do this shit 106 00:05:02,560 --> 00:05:05,960 Speaker 3: and then try to tell her lead a nigga alone. 107 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:08,599 Speaker 3: You was right there slashing the right tie and while 108 00:05:08,640 --> 00:05:12,040 Speaker 3: she was slashing the other tie on the other side. 109 00:05:12,240 --> 00:05:14,599 Speaker 3: You was right there over there jumping a nigga in 110 00:05:14,680 --> 00:05:17,839 Speaker 3: his sleep with her. You know, you know you down, 111 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:21,440 Speaker 3: you there, you down the ride through whatever, through thick 112 00:05:21,440 --> 00:05:24,200 Speaker 3: and thin. That's your homegirl. Yes, but you can't be 113 00:05:24,320 --> 00:05:28,240 Speaker 3: the person that is indulging into the crime, because that's 114 00:05:28,279 --> 00:05:30,359 Speaker 3: what all it is. You just admitted a bunch of 115 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:32,680 Speaker 3: crimes that you've committed with your friend to me, So 116 00:05:32,760 --> 00:05:34,320 Speaker 3: you can't be down to do all that shit and 117 00:05:34,320 --> 00:05:35,799 Speaker 3: then you be the same you want turn her around 118 00:05:35,800 --> 00:05:38,520 Speaker 3: trying to give her a fucking intervention or for intervention. 119 00:05:39,080 --> 00:05:41,320 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. The leader's nigga alone. 120 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:43,719 Speaker 3: But I think what you should should do is instead 121 00:05:43,760 --> 00:05:45,960 Speaker 3: of coming at her, you got to meet her where 122 00:05:45,960 --> 00:05:47,839 Speaker 3: she at. You get what I'm saying, Like, you really 123 00:05:47,880 --> 00:05:51,760 Speaker 3: have to be honest and just level with her, you know, 124 00:05:52,480 --> 00:05:54,520 Speaker 3: speak life into her. Yeah, y'all are young, but you 125 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:56,559 Speaker 3: can do that, you know, help her see her worth. 126 00:05:57,000 --> 00:05:58,919 Speaker 3: Not by coming at her for fucking with the nigga, 127 00:05:58,960 --> 00:06:03,560 Speaker 3: you know what I mean, but more so just complimenting her, 128 00:06:03,800 --> 00:06:06,080 Speaker 3: letting her know, girl, you are worth more than this shit. 129 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:10,120 Speaker 3: Like you can get any nigga you want, friend, like 130 00:06:10,680 --> 00:06:12,919 Speaker 3: take her out, let her show her a good girl's 131 00:06:13,040 --> 00:06:16,080 Speaker 3: night out or whatever. You know, look, send a ass 132 00:06:16,080 --> 00:06:18,760 Speaker 3: hold on the blind date, you know, do a twenty 133 00:06:18,839 --> 00:06:20,560 Speaker 3: v one whatever. You know, the shit that y'all kids 134 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:22,920 Speaker 3: be doing, I'm just automatically assume that y'all youngest shit, 135 00:06:22,960 --> 00:06:27,240 Speaker 3: because all of this behavior is youngest shit. It's very childish. Now, 136 00:06:27,320 --> 00:06:29,360 Speaker 3: there are some adults that do shit like this too, 137 00:06:29,720 --> 00:06:33,640 Speaker 3: but very seldom. It's very seldom that you would see 138 00:06:33,640 --> 00:06:37,400 Speaker 3: this come from a mature woman, like a person who 139 00:06:37,440 --> 00:06:39,719 Speaker 3: knows her worth already, you know what I mean, a 140 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:43,839 Speaker 3: female who knows her worth, but like, yeah, meet her 141 00:06:43,880 --> 00:06:47,360 Speaker 3: where she is and give her the best advice by 142 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:48,600 Speaker 3: showing her who she is. 143 00:06:49,440 --> 00:06:51,600 Speaker 1: You know what I mean? You know that that's saying that, oh, 144 00:06:51,640 --> 00:06:53,680 Speaker 1: my friend is exactly who she thinks she is. 145 00:06:53,760 --> 00:06:56,400 Speaker 3: Oh, you know what I'm saying, Hype her up like that, 146 00:06:56,520 --> 00:07:00,680 Speaker 3: show bitch, and she needs to always remember that if 147 00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:03,040 Speaker 3: you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and then 148 00:07:03,040 --> 00:07:06,200 Speaker 3: we'll be right back show her ways like that. 149 00:07:06,400 --> 00:07:10,560 Speaker 1: Okay, that was pretty easy because I remember actually. 150 00:07:10,480 --> 00:07:13,920 Speaker 3: Going through shit like that, Like I remember doing that 151 00:07:14,200 --> 00:07:15,000 Speaker 3: with my cousin. 152 00:07:15,120 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 1: Like we used to be the treacherous twins. 153 00:07:19,040 --> 00:07:22,120 Speaker 3: All right, I'm talking about popping up on niggas at 154 00:07:22,160 --> 00:07:26,200 Speaker 3: these jobs. Come outside, come outside all that, right, rod shit, 155 00:07:26,960 --> 00:07:27,760 Speaker 3: this shit ain't cool. 156 00:07:28,080 --> 00:07:29,240 Speaker 1: It's a bunch of toxicity. 157 00:07:29,320 --> 00:07:32,000 Speaker 3: She got to get that shit together before she gets older, 158 00:07:32,520 --> 00:07:35,640 Speaker 3: you know what I mean? Because a lot of women, 159 00:07:36,120 --> 00:07:40,120 Speaker 3: and it starts very young, think that's what love is like, 160 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:43,240 Speaker 3: if y'all ain't fighting, or if y'all ain't arguing, if 161 00:07:43,280 --> 00:07:45,400 Speaker 3: you know, like a lot of that's that's a lot 162 00:07:45,440 --> 00:07:48,320 Speaker 3: of women's love language. Like they think that that's cool. 163 00:07:48,800 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 3: It's toxic, and that's probably all that they've seen, you know, 164 00:07:55,080 --> 00:07:59,000 Speaker 3: whether that's growing up or whether that's just how they've 165 00:07:59,040 --> 00:08:00,240 Speaker 3: seen relationship. 166 00:08:00,760 --> 00:08:05,440 Speaker 1: You know. However, whatever that may be. Hell, no, love. 167 00:08:05,240 --> 00:08:07,080 Speaker 3: Don't supposed to go like that. You ain't supposed to 168 00:08:07,120 --> 00:08:09,680 Speaker 3: be busting on nig upside his head in his sleep. 169 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:12,560 Speaker 3: That ain't cool or cute, goofy asses. 170 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:14,960 Speaker 1: Please don't do that. I don't like that. 171 00:08:16,400 --> 00:08:20,520 Speaker 3: But I want to talk about this story that somebody 172 00:08:20,520 --> 00:08:23,320 Speaker 3: had called up to the breakfast club and asked me 173 00:08:23,360 --> 00:08:26,560 Speaker 3: to fix their mess about. So it was this woman 174 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:29,520 Speaker 3: she had called up and she was saying that she's gay, 175 00:08:29,920 --> 00:08:34,160 Speaker 3: and she deals with two women right now. Neither one 176 00:08:34,160 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 3: of the girls know about each other. I'm gonna say girls, 177 00:08:36,040 --> 00:08:37,560 Speaker 3: because they were young. She did tell me that she 178 00:08:37,679 --> 00:08:39,959 Speaker 3: was twenty years old. She didn't tell me how old 179 00:08:40,000 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 3: the two girls were that she was talking to. But 180 00:08:42,240 --> 00:08:44,520 Speaker 3: she has two girls on a roster, right and they 181 00:08:44,559 --> 00:08:49,120 Speaker 3: don't know about each other. And now one of the 182 00:08:49,120 --> 00:08:51,040 Speaker 3: girls she likes more than the other, so she wants 183 00:08:51,480 --> 00:08:53,920 Speaker 3: the girl. She likes one of them more than the other, 184 00:08:54,000 --> 00:08:56,320 Speaker 3: but she doesn't want to make that one her girlfriend 185 00:08:56,360 --> 00:08:58,800 Speaker 3: because she's not ready to be committed. She's only twenty. 186 00:08:58,920 --> 00:09:01,240 Speaker 3: She's testing the water, dating to see what she likes 187 00:09:01,280 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 3: and everything like that. However, she is, you know, lesbian. 188 00:09:04,960 --> 00:09:07,640 Speaker 3: But she had heard out, I mean, she had heard 189 00:09:07,960 --> 00:09:09,679 Speaker 3: from out in the streets that one of the girls 190 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:11,840 Speaker 3: that she deal with, right, the main one that she 191 00:09:12,000 --> 00:09:14,600 Speaker 3: likes more than the other one, was out at like 192 00:09:14,640 --> 00:09:17,320 Speaker 3: a bar or a club or restaurant or something, and 193 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:22,760 Speaker 3: she was, you know, there with another girl, and it 194 00:09:22,800 --> 00:09:27,160 Speaker 3: had gotten back to her that they were very touchy philly. 195 00:09:27,240 --> 00:09:29,319 Speaker 3: They was all up on each other and things like that. 196 00:09:29,360 --> 00:09:31,880 Speaker 3: And somebody that knew that this girl was talking to her, 197 00:09:32,760 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 3: they told her. They took a picture and sent the 198 00:09:34,640 --> 00:09:37,559 Speaker 3: picture to her and was like, damn, you know your 199 00:09:37,600 --> 00:09:40,120 Speaker 3: girl out here. You know this is your girl. So 200 00:09:40,280 --> 00:09:42,880 Speaker 3: she was calling up to tell me, I mean to 201 00:09:42,960 --> 00:09:46,360 Speaker 3: ask me what she should do about it. Do I 202 00:09:46,400 --> 00:09:49,520 Speaker 3: think that she should confront the girl about, you know, 203 00:09:50,120 --> 00:09:54,840 Speaker 3: being out in public with somebody, like she's not dating 204 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:58,800 Speaker 3: her too, or she just not say anything. And my 205 00:09:58,880 --> 00:10:02,280 Speaker 3: advice to that was, let's just strip the age away 206 00:10:02,360 --> 00:10:05,400 Speaker 3: from it, right, Okay, you just told me that you 207 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:08,440 Speaker 3: had two girls that you're talking to and you like 208 00:10:08,520 --> 00:10:10,400 Speaker 3: one more than the other. However, you don't want to 209 00:10:10,440 --> 00:10:13,560 Speaker 3: commit because that's something that that's just not something that 210 00:10:13,600 --> 00:10:15,199 Speaker 3: you see yourself doing right now. 211 00:10:15,200 --> 00:10:16,600 Speaker 1: That's not something that you're ready for. 212 00:10:17,559 --> 00:10:19,840 Speaker 3: But in the same breath you're telling me, are you 213 00:10:19,960 --> 00:10:25,360 Speaker 3: asking me rather advice on pulling up on your main girl, 214 00:10:25,640 --> 00:10:28,959 Speaker 3: you know, the one one of your girls, confronting her 215 00:10:29,120 --> 00:10:31,679 Speaker 3: about her being out with somebody else? 216 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:34,000 Speaker 1: You got two of them. They don't even know about 217 00:10:34,000 --> 00:10:35,280 Speaker 1: each other, you know what I mean. 218 00:10:35,960 --> 00:10:38,319 Speaker 3: That's the pot calling the kettle black and the black 219 00:10:38,360 --> 00:10:43,120 Speaker 3: calling the well. You can't contradict yourself like that, Lady, shady, lady, 220 00:10:44,000 --> 00:10:47,480 Speaker 3: that's crazy. She was like, I mean, I just I 221 00:10:47,520 --> 00:10:50,520 Speaker 3: don't know, Jazz. I feel like I like her a lot, 222 00:10:50,559 --> 00:10:53,520 Speaker 3: and I do want her more than I want the 223 00:10:53,559 --> 00:10:55,280 Speaker 3: other one. I like both of them, but I just 224 00:10:55,360 --> 00:10:57,480 Speaker 3: I love her like I love her more than I 225 00:10:57,679 --> 00:10:59,520 Speaker 3: you know, I don't even love the other one. I 226 00:10:59,600 --> 00:11:01,560 Speaker 3: just like her, but I love this one. Yeah, but 227 00:11:01,600 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 3: you still don't. You don't love her enough to give 228 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:04,920 Speaker 3: her a commitment. So how can you pull her up 229 00:11:04,960 --> 00:11:07,520 Speaker 3: about something that she's doing outside of you when you've 230 00:11:07,559 --> 00:11:10,240 Speaker 3: got somebody outside of her too. And the reason why 231 00:11:10,240 --> 00:11:12,160 Speaker 3: I say I'm a stripped age away from it, because 232 00:11:13,040 --> 00:11:17,840 Speaker 3: that's also what happens when you're older too. Like that 233 00:11:17,960 --> 00:11:20,160 Speaker 3: has no age, that has no age. 234 00:11:20,000 --> 00:11:22,560 Speaker 1: On it, you know what I mean? Like men play 235 00:11:22,600 --> 00:11:23,240 Speaker 1: games like that. 236 00:11:23,320 --> 00:11:26,840 Speaker 3: Women play games like that in their forties, in their fifties, 237 00:11:26,960 --> 00:11:30,320 Speaker 3: god damn thirties, twenties, it don't matter. Like I dated 238 00:11:30,960 --> 00:11:34,320 Speaker 3: a lot of different age groups, okay, And trust me, 239 00:11:34,720 --> 00:11:36,640 Speaker 3: just because you're older does not mean you are mature 240 00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:38,560 Speaker 3: and you got it all together because a lot of 241 00:11:38,559 --> 00:11:40,320 Speaker 3: older people still want to be young, and so they 242 00:11:40,360 --> 00:11:42,440 Speaker 3: still live in those days and he lives and they 243 00:11:42,480 --> 00:11:45,559 Speaker 3: live in those times. They get stuck. It's like pre dementia, 244 00:11:45,600 --> 00:11:49,120 Speaker 3: like nigga, No, like you, you getting stuck back there? 245 00:11:50,160 --> 00:11:52,640 Speaker 3: Grow the fuck up. I call them people, the stragglers, 246 00:11:53,080 --> 00:11:55,640 Speaker 3: them older guys and older women who don't want to 247 00:11:55,679 --> 00:11:59,959 Speaker 3: be their fucking age and act accordingly to their age. 248 00:12:00,520 --> 00:12:03,720 Speaker 3: That's just what I want to say about that. And then, look, 249 00:12:04,120 --> 00:12:06,560 Speaker 3: I know y'all probably get mad at this. I don't care. 250 00:12:07,840 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 3: I said, you are twenty years old. You have a 251 00:12:10,280 --> 00:12:15,320 Speaker 3: lot more life to live. You're gonna meet the lady 252 00:12:15,360 --> 00:12:16,959 Speaker 3: of your life, and it may even be the man. 253 00:12:17,040 --> 00:12:18,360 Speaker 3: A man might steal your heart. 254 00:12:18,559 --> 00:12:19,800 Speaker 1: You don't know. You don't know. 255 00:12:19,840 --> 00:12:23,440 Speaker 3: You're only twenty years old. You may be just curious 256 00:12:23,520 --> 00:12:26,800 Speaker 3: right now. This gay lifestyle may be a phase for 257 00:12:26,880 --> 00:12:31,199 Speaker 3: you. You may end up with a man with kids. I 258 00:12:31,200 --> 00:12:33,120 Speaker 3: don't know if she was a stut or not, but 259 00:12:33,720 --> 00:12:35,520 Speaker 3: when I said the man party sounded like she got 260 00:12:35,520 --> 00:12:37,920 Speaker 3: a little bit more feminine, you know, so she might 261 00:12:38,200 --> 00:12:41,720 Speaker 3: end up liking Dick later. Who knows, we're going back 262 00:12:41,760 --> 00:12:43,400 Speaker 3: to it out of next or what our history was, 263 00:12:44,000 --> 00:12:44,600 Speaker 3: you know what I mean? 264 00:12:46,080 --> 00:12:46,720 Speaker 1: Just too much. 265 00:12:46,920 --> 00:12:51,320 Speaker 3: But don't contradict yourselves, ladies. You know, and listen, mind 266 00:12:51,360 --> 00:12:54,120 Speaker 3: you if you want to be the only one. You 267 00:12:54,200 --> 00:12:57,120 Speaker 3: gotta treat people like you want to be fucking treated. 268 00:12:57,679 --> 00:13:01,040 Speaker 3: I just saw something online where somebody had challenged that. 269 00:13:01,679 --> 00:13:03,559 Speaker 3: I don't know if it was doctor Cheyenne Brian, I 270 00:13:03,600 --> 00:13:05,800 Speaker 3: don't know. No, no, no, it wasn't doctor Brian. It 271 00:13:05,800 --> 00:13:07,520 Speaker 3: wasn't doctor Brian about to throw something on this lady. 272 00:13:07,520 --> 00:13:10,000 Speaker 3: And she didn't even say it. It was something else, somebody else, 273 00:13:10,040 --> 00:13:13,000 Speaker 3: but somebody disagree with that. Treat people like you want 274 00:13:13,040 --> 00:13:15,840 Speaker 3: to be treated, you know, do unto people like you 275 00:13:15,880 --> 00:13:17,480 Speaker 3: want to be done unto? You know what I'm saying, 276 00:13:17,520 --> 00:13:20,520 Speaker 3: like I and I'm a firm believer in that. How 277 00:13:20,559 --> 00:13:23,760 Speaker 3: the fuck I'm a cheat on you? Or I I'm 278 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:25,440 Speaker 3: being honest with you, like all right, I don't want 279 00:13:25,440 --> 00:13:27,520 Speaker 3: to commitment, so you're not the only person I talk 280 00:13:27,559 --> 00:13:30,640 Speaker 3: to you. And mind you, she didn't even tell either 281 00:13:30,640 --> 00:13:32,360 Speaker 3: one of her girls that they're not the only ones, 282 00:13:32,559 --> 00:13:35,040 Speaker 3: like so they just thinking they're exclusively talking to this girl, 283 00:13:35,120 --> 00:13:36,600 Speaker 3: like we're exclusively dating. 284 00:13:36,640 --> 00:13:39,679 Speaker 1: But no, you got two girls. How are you. 285 00:13:39,559 --> 00:13:41,480 Speaker 3: Going to lead like that but then get mad when 286 00:13:41,559 --> 00:13:44,800 Speaker 3: somebody else pulling you on you? Cause she was out 287 00:13:44,840 --> 00:13:48,400 Speaker 3: in public doing it, right, I guess that's that's what hurts. 288 00:13:48,840 --> 00:13:51,560 Speaker 3: But it still doesn't change the fact. 289 00:13:51,360 --> 00:13:51,880 Speaker 1: Of the matter. 290 00:13:53,120 --> 00:13:55,520 Speaker 3: Is you you like this girl, you say, you say 291 00:13:55,520 --> 00:13:57,040 Speaker 3: you love her, but you don't love her enough to 292 00:13:57,120 --> 00:14:01,079 Speaker 3: be her girlfriend, to commit to her. That's some bullshit. 293 00:14:01,559 --> 00:14:04,480 Speaker 3: I don't really like that myself. So that's the advice 294 00:14:04,520 --> 00:14:05,680 Speaker 3: that I gave her, y'all. 295 00:14:06,320 --> 00:14:07,080 Speaker 1: Hold up, Hold up. 296 00:14:07,080 --> 00:14:09,040 Speaker 3: I know this shit getting good, but listen to just 297 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:11,120 Speaker 3: a couple seconds of a commercial. If you love me, 298 00:14:11,200 --> 00:14:11,720 Speaker 3: you'll listen. 299 00:14:12,679 --> 00:14:12,959 Speaker 1: Listen. 300 00:14:13,160 --> 00:14:16,640 Speaker 3: I just want to clear something up also, right, So 301 00:14:16,720 --> 00:14:19,160 Speaker 3: I did Club Shasha a couple weeks ago, right, And 302 00:14:19,200 --> 00:14:24,320 Speaker 3: now this is the thing, of course, blugs grab, you know, 303 00:14:24,480 --> 00:14:29,120 Speaker 3: just video clips and not even any context around the 304 00:14:29,200 --> 00:14:35,080 Speaker 3: small clip that looks like it's meant to be one way, 305 00:14:35,160 --> 00:14:39,600 Speaker 3: you know, but it's interpreted so differently and so negatively, 306 00:14:39,840 --> 00:14:43,080 Speaker 3: because that's what blogs like to do for clickbait. Right, 307 00:14:43,120 --> 00:14:46,440 Speaker 3: So they're never going to grab the context around the 308 00:14:46,480 --> 00:14:49,200 Speaker 3: subject that they were talking about, you know, I mean 309 00:14:49,200 --> 00:14:52,440 Speaker 3: that they posted about, right, and they should do. 310 00:14:52,520 --> 00:14:55,760 Speaker 1: So I hate that. I used to love making the blogs. 311 00:14:55,760 --> 00:14:58,040 Speaker 3: I hate when I be I get butterflies in my 312 00:14:58,080 --> 00:15:00,000 Speaker 3: stomach when somebody called me like yoh, you ain't say 313 00:15:00,400 --> 00:15:03,560 Speaker 3: they posted on Shape Room or on Spiritual Word, or 314 00:15:03,600 --> 00:15:07,400 Speaker 3: on Hollywood Unlocked or on the Neighborhood Talk or I'm like, no, 315 00:15:07,640 --> 00:15:10,200 Speaker 3: Nigad didn't, Oh my god didn't on site shout out 316 00:15:10,200 --> 00:15:13,880 Speaker 3: to Rashida Ali. Listen on site, they be getting the 317 00:15:13,920 --> 00:15:17,000 Speaker 3: shit man, and I'd be like, no, please don't post 318 00:15:17,000 --> 00:15:19,800 Speaker 3: me on the motherfucking blogs. Should be crazy. That shit 319 00:15:19,880 --> 00:15:22,200 Speaker 3: is exhausting, especially when somebody to pick what you said 320 00:15:22,240 --> 00:15:25,520 Speaker 3: the wrong way because the blogs grab a few seconds. 321 00:15:25,800 --> 00:15:26,400 Speaker 1: So listen. 322 00:15:27,080 --> 00:15:29,320 Speaker 3: I sat down with Shannon Sharp and he was asking 323 00:15:29,360 --> 00:15:32,960 Speaker 3: me about marriage. The topic was marriage, right, and I said, 324 00:15:33,000 --> 00:15:37,920 Speaker 3: no marriage is perfect. I forget exactly how we got 325 00:15:37,960 --> 00:15:43,720 Speaker 3: on Kirk and Rashida right is we were speaking about 326 00:15:44,560 --> 00:15:50,240 Speaker 3: marriage and how no marriage is perfect, and a lot 327 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:52,880 Speaker 3: of people in the public I they like for their 328 00:15:52,920 --> 00:15:55,840 Speaker 3: marriage to seem perfect, you know what I mean, when 329 00:15:56,040 --> 00:15:58,160 Speaker 3: in all reality, you don't have to do that. 330 00:15:59,000 --> 00:16:01,440 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, you don't have to do that. 331 00:16:02,320 --> 00:16:02,840 Speaker 1: It's okay. 332 00:16:02,880 --> 00:16:06,360 Speaker 3: I think I think the people win staying more relatable 333 00:16:06,360 --> 00:16:11,160 Speaker 3: because don't nobody want to see a facade, you know 334 00:16:11,160 --> 00:16:13,560 Speaker 3: what I mean, Because that's just not reality. 335 00:16:13,640 --> 00:16:14,720 Speaker 1: That's not real. 336 00:16:15,200 --> 00:16:17,680 Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. That's why I ain't gonna lie. 337 00:16:17,680 --> 00:16:20,840 Speaker 3: I love and respect, love and hip hop, Atlanta. The 338 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:24,960 Speaker 3: marriages on there that have lasted through the test of 339 00:16:25,160 --> 00:16:29,600 Speaker 3: time now look in no way, shape or form what 340 00:16:29,800 --> 00:16:33,520 Speaker 3: I want my husband to cheat on me and make 341 00:16:33,560 --> 00:16:34,080 Speaker 3: a baby. 342 00:16:34,240 --> 00:16:34,960 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. 343 00:16:35,160 --> 00:16:38,880 Speaker 3: In no way, shape or form would I be Okay, 344 00:16:38,960 --> 00:16:40,560 Speaker 3: I don't even think I would be able to get 345 00:16:40,640 --> 00:16:45,200 Speaker 3: past Chris having a baby on me. I would not 346 00:16:45,320 --> 00:16:48,000 Speaker 3: be able to just fathom even what the fuck that 347 00:16:48,120 --> 00:16:51,840 Speaker 3: looks like, you know what I mean. No, But and 348 00:16:52,240 --> 00:16:55,360 Speaker 3: I didn't say Kirk and Rashida have the perfect marriage, 349 00:16:55,400 --> 00:16:57,760 Speaker 3: which Hollywood unlock quote it wrong. 350 00:16:57,880 --> 00:16:58,880 Speaker 1: I did not say that. 351 00:16:59,480 --> 00:17:02,040 Speaker 3: I said they put it in their caption that many 352 00:17:02,080 --> 00:17:04,520 Speaker 3: headlines that I said, that's the perfect marriage. 353 00:17:04,520 --> 00:17:04,720 Speaker 4: To me. 354 00:17:05,119 --> 00:17:08,760 Speaker 3: No, I said, that's the perfect example of a marriage 355 00:17:09,400 --> 00:17:13,240 Speaker 3: that has stood and went. They went through everything and 356 00:17:13,280 --> 00:17:16,840 Speaker 3: they still are standing till this day. That's the perfect 357 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:20,840 Speaker 3: example of how strong a marriage can be when they 358 00:17:20,880 --> 00:17:23,879 Speaker 3: have to endure shit coming from here. 359 00:17:23,960 --> 00:17:25,840 Speaker 1: There. They're they're, they're they're like. 360 00:17:25,840 --> 00:17:31,040 Speaker 3: Yo, even before Kirk had a baby, you know what 361 00:17:31,080 --> 00:17:33,800 Speaker 3: I'm saying, which was not something that like he purposely did. 362 00:17:33,840 --> 00:17:36,320 Speaker 1: I'm not making excuses for this man, No I'm not. 363 00:17:37,160 --> 00:17:38,200 Speaker 1: I'm just saying. 364 00:17:39,760 --> 00:17:44,520 Speaker 3: It's marriages that made it through worse than that. And 365 00:17:44,600 --> 00:17:46,520 Speaker 3: I know you say it don't get no worse than 366 00:17:46,520 --> 00:17:50,439 Speaker 3: having another baby. Oh yes, the fuck it does. I 367 00:17:50,480 --> 00:17:55,080 Speaker 3: know women who've husbands have come out to them, okay, 368 00:17:56,400 --> 00:17:59,159 Speaker 3: but they were saying that they were battling something. And 369 00:17:59,240 --> 00:18:03,399 Speaker 3: I know why who have stayed and helped you know 370 00:18:03,920 --> 00:18:07,320 Speaker 3: them through their healing process. It was a couple of 371 00:18:07,359 --> 00:18:09,960 Speaker 3: seasons ago a woman had wrote me, right, and she said, 372 00:18:11,880 --> 00:18:15,000 Speaker 3: I've been married for umpteen years. I don't even know, 373 00:18:15,040 --> 00:18:17,480 Speaker 3: you know, the umpteen is just, you know, it's a 374 00:18:17,520 --> 00:18:21,439 Speaker 3: lot of years, a lot of years. And she was like, 375 00:18:22,280 --> 00:18:24,359 Speaker 3: I was wondering why my husband don't look at me 376 00:18:24,400 --> 00:18:29,679 Speaker 3: the same? Why why they you know, why he you know, 377 00:18:29,920 --> 00:18:32,280 Speaker 3: I don't feel like he's attracted to me. Doesn't compliment 378 00:18:32,359 --> 00:18:34,720 Speaker 3: me much anymore. He doesn't take me out. When he 379 00:18:34,800 --> 00:18:37,640 Speaker 3: kisses me, it's no tongue. He just pecks me. Now, 380 00:18:37,840 --> 00:18:42,440 Speaker 3: it's like I'm growing to be unattractive in my husband's eyes. Right, 381 00:18:42,760 --> 00:18:44,359 Speaker 3: And she said, so, I just went through his phone, 382 00:18:44,440 --> 00:18:47,760 Speaker 3: didn't find anything. I went through his email, and I 383 00:18:47,920 --> 00:18:53,399 Speaker 3: found out that he was seeing men, you know. But 384 00:18:53,640 --> 00:18:55,560 Speaker 3: she said she dug a little deeper, and she also 385 00:18:55,640 --> 00:19:00,320 Speaker 3: found out that he was seeing a therapist for this, right, 386 00:19:00,359 --> 00:19:02,080 Speaker 3: and he didn't know how to come to his wife, 387 00:19:02,200 --> 00:19:04,720 Speaker 3: so she approached him. And she was a very calm woman, 388 00:19:04,760 --> 00:19:06,200 Speaker 3: by the way, because she didn't say she went off. 389 00:19:06,240 --> 00:19:09,160 Speaker 3: She didn't say she Janey Jackson, this nigga, remember, oh, 390 00:19:09,160 --> 00:19:11,520 Speaker 3: you're doing depending how you marry a woman. Didn't turn 391 00:19:11,560 --> 00:19:13,399 Speaker 3: a run to be gay, like. She ain't say she 392 00:19:13,440 --> 00:19:16,320 Speaker 3: did that, you know, she said that the fact that 393 00:19:16,400 --> 00:19:18,080 Speaker 3: she she. 394 00:19:18,080 --> 00:19:18,920 Speaker 1: Was going to do it, though. 395 00:19:19,000 --> 00:19:20,840 Speaker 3: Believe that because I remember her telling me like, oh, 396 00:19:20,880 --> 00:19:22,680 Speaker 3: I was about to go off until I dug a 397 00:19:22,680 --> 00:19:25,800 Speaker 3: little deeper and I saw that he was actually seeking 398 00:19:25,840 --> 00:19:28,080 Speaker 3: some type of counsel for this, like he was actually 399 00:19:28,119 --> 00:19:29,280 Speaker 3: going to therapy for this. 400 00:19:29,840 --> 00:19:34,119 Speaker 1: And she ended up staying with her husband. Long story short, like, 401 00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:35,720 Speaker 1: she ended up staying with. 402 00:19:35,760 --> 00:19:39,359 Speaker 3: This man, like you know, it bothered her, And as 403 00:19:39,440 --> 00:19:42,679 Speaker 3: much as it bothered her, she didn't want to give 404 00:19:42,760 --> 00:19:45,040 Speaker 3: up on her husband. She was with him for umpteen years. 405 00:19:45,080 --> 00:19:47,600 Speaker 3: And what I say, I'm teen, I think I don't 406 00:19:47,680 --> 00:19:50,760 Speaker 3: I think it was definitely more than ten years. She 407 00:19:50,800 --> 00:19:53,359 Speaker 3: had kids with him, you know what I'm saying, Like 408 00:19:53,400 --> 00:19:55,840 Speaker 3: they had businesses together and all that type of shit 409 00:19:55,960 --> 00:19:58,920 Speaker 3: real estate, Like they had companies that they had built 410 00:19:58,920 --> 00:20:02,840 Speaker 3: from ground up together. She had known this man since teenagers, 411 00:20:02,880 --> 00:20:05,280 Speaker 3: you know what I mean, since they were teenagers, and 412 00:20:06,480 --> 00:20:09,840 Speaker 3: he did tell her when when confronting him, he don't 413 00:20:09,880 --> 00:20:13,040 Speaker 3: know why he had these feelings. He's been having them 414 00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:16,280 Speaker 3: since a teenager. But he's done a better job when 415 00:20:16,280 --> 00:20:22,360 Speaker 3: he was younger of burying them and not acting on 416 00:20:22,520 --> 00:20:24,600 Speaker 3: his feelings, you know what I mean. 417 00:20:24,800 --> 00:20:26,560 Speaker 1: Like he but. 418 00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:30,840 Speaker 3: As the older that he got his curiosity like grew, 419 00:20:31,520 --> 00:20:34,120 Speaker 3: you know, and he was already married. They married young, 420 00:20:34,359 --> 00:20:38,320 Speaker 3: you know, and he had been just talking to them, 421 00:20:38,359 --> 00:20:40,080 Speaker 3: and he did tell his wife he's never slept with 422 00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:42,760 Speaker 3: a man, but that's why, you know, he had those 423 00:20:42,880 --> 00:20:44,840 Speaker 3: urges like he wanted to so that's why he went 424 00:20:44,880 --> 00:20:50,560 Speaker 3: to therapy, and his therapist then referred him to a 425 00:20:50,560 --> 00:20:55,000 Speaker 3: psychologist or something, a psyche psychiatrist or a psychologist, which 426 00:20:55,040 --> 00:20:58,080 Speaker 3: are two different things, by the way, But and I 427 00:20:58,080 --> 00:21:02,040 Speaker 3: don't know the differ, like the critical difference, I don't 428 00:21:02,080 --> 00:21:04,080 Speaker 3: know the concrete difference. But I do know that there 429 00:21:04,119 --> 00:21:07,320 Speaker 3: is a difference between a psychiatrist and a psychologist, and 430 00:21:07,440 --> 00:21:10,679 Speaker 3: he got all the help that he needed. And she 431 00:21:10,720 --> 00:21:13,200 Speaker 3: hasn't updated me or anything, but she was just saying 432 00:21:14,320 --> 00:21:16,200 Speaker 3: that he wanted to be better, he didn't want to 433 00:21:16,240 --> 00:21:18,119 Speaker 3: have these feelings, and that he was willing to go 434 00:21:18,160 --> 00:21:21,800 Speaker 3: through any type of you know, willing to go to 435 00:21:21,880 --> 00:21:25,199 Speaker 3: any extreme to get this out of his system or whatever. 436 00:21:25,440 --> 00:21:26,879 Speaker 3: And she said she was going to stick by her 437 00:21:26,880 --> 00:21:29,679 Speaker 3: man and stag wiham you know what I'm saying, and 438 00:21:30,880 --> 00:21:33,840 Speaker 3: just being vulnerable enough to expose that to me, in 439 00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:36,320 Speaker 3: which she said, anonymous, you know what I mean. She 440 00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:38,399 Speaker 3: said she didn't have many friends to talk to about it. 441 00:21:38,400 --> 00:21:40,119 Speaker 3: She didn't want to talk to a lot of people 442 00:21:40,119 --> 00:21:43,240 Speaker 3: about it because she didn't want to be judged because 443 00:21:43,280 --> 00:21:45,320 Speaker 3: it's a real, very it was a very real thing, 444 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:47,600 Speaker 3: and the first thing you would do when you think 445 00:21:47,640 --> 00:21:49,720 Speaker 3: about that type shit, you know, when a man is 446 00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:52,439 Speaker 3: battling something like that, you are straight to oh, but 447 00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:54,560 Speaker 3: you better leave him, because yeah, once you gay, you 448 00:21:54,600 --> 00:21:57,640 Speaker 3: always gay, and all that type shit. But he expressed 449 00:21:57,640 --> 00:21:59,600 Speaker 3: to her that he didn't want to have those feelings, 450 00:21:59,640 --> 00:22:02,280 Speaker 3: you know, I mean, like it was different for them. 451 00:22:02,800 --> 00:22:09,800 Speaker 3: So that also, I would say, is a marriage a 452 00:22:09,840 --> 00:22:14,280 Speaker 3: perfect example of a marriage that can stand the test 453 00:22:14,359 --> 00:22:17,199 Speaker 3: of time, that can go through anything. I did not 454 00:22:17,280 --> 00:22:18,720 Speaker 3: say that is a marriage that I would want to 455 00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:22,439 Speaker 3: be in. I didn't say that that is a marriage 456 00:22:22,440 --> 00:22:26,879 Speaker 3: I glorify. But I did say that's the perfect example. 457 00:22:26,920 --> 00:22:28,560 Speaker 3: I'm gonna say it for the people in the back, 458 00:22:28,720 --> 00:22:37,280 Speaker 3: open your motherucking ears. That is a perfect example of 459 00:22:37,600 --> 00:22:42,679 Speaker 3: two people that can get through anything. Okay, Now, no, 460 00:22:43,000 --> 00:22:45,679 Speaker 3: Kirk didn't have to have a baby or Rashida to 461 00:22:45,720 --> 00:22:47,200 Speaker 3: prove how strong their marriage is. 462 00:22:48,040 --> 00:22:50,359 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. No, he didn't. 463 00:22:51,320 --> 00:22:54,440 Speaker 3: But he didn't do that on purpose either. Shit happens. 464 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:56,960 Speaker 3: It is what it is, you know what I'm saying. 465 00:22:57,080 --> 00:23:00,560 Speaker 3: And then another thing I made clear when I was 466 00:23:00,600 --> 00:23:04,639 Speaker 3: sitting down with Shannon Sharp is they married very early. 467 00:23:04,720 --> 00:23:07,280 Speaker 3: So did my parents. And YO, when you married straight 468 00:23:07,280 --> 00:23:11,040 Speaker 3: out of high school, when you get married like right, 469 00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:14,840 Speaker 3: you know, in college and shit like when you're twenty one, 470 00:23:14,960 --> 00:23:17,880 Speaker 3: early twenties and you've been knowing this this motherfucker since 471 00:23:17,920 --> 00:23:18,080 Speaker 3: you know. 472 00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:18,840 Speaker 1: You get married to. 473 00:23:18,800 --> 00:23:22,000 Speaker 3: Your middle school sweetheart, you high school sweetheart, your college sweetheart, 474 00:23:22,080 --> 00:23:25,360 Speaker 3: whatever you got to think about it, y'all right out 475 00:23:25,359 --> 00:23:27,800 Speaker 3: of fucking school, y'all are still growing up. 476 00:23:28,080 --> 00:23:30,600 Speaker 1: So y'all growing up together. You grew up with this person. 477 00:23:31,280 --> 00:23:34,359 Speaker 3: You never got to live out your bachelorette days. You 478 00:23:34,440 --> 00:23:37,040 Speaker 3: never got to live out your bachelor life, you know 479 00:23:37,119 --> 00:23:38,960 Speaker 3: what I'm saying. Like you didn't get to go and 480 00:23:39,240 --> 00:23:42,080 Speaker 3: smash all these holes and you know, go through the 481 00:23:42,200 --> 00:23:43,919 Speaker 3: roster or women like you don't get to do You 482 00:23:43,920 --> 00:23:46,240 Speaker 3: didn't get to do that like my dad. My dad 483 00:23:46,240 --> 00:23:48,760 Speaker 3: married my mom right out of high school before you 484 00:23:48,800 --> 00:23:51,639 Speaker 3: went to the Marines, you know what I mean. So 485 00:23:52,600 --> 00:23:55,359 Speaker 3: paid that plays a big part in the infidelity when 486 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:59,800 Speaker 3: you are with one person from a teenager on up. 487 00:23:59,880 --> 00:24:01,880 Speaker 1: You know what I mean. So shit happens, man, And look, 488 00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:05,520 Speaker 1: life be lifing, and life don't have no manual, no 489 00:24:05,680 --> 00:24:06,120 Speaker 1: rule book. 490 00:24:06,240 --> 00:24:10,000 Speaker 3: You know, whatever aligns with you, whatever is compatible with you, 491 00:24:10,000 --> 00:24:12,120 Speaker 3: you go with that. Sh It ain't as traditional as 492 00:24:12,119 --> 00:24:14,720 Speaker 3: it used to be, you know what I'm saying. And look, 493 00:24:15,840 --> 00:24:18,800 Speaker 3: y'all still woul't disagree with me. But how many couples 494 00:24:18,840 --> 00:24:20,960 Speaker 3: have we made our couple's goals and then later on 495 00:24:21,040 --> 00:24:22,680 Speaker 3: we found out that couples were struggling. 496 00:24:22,760 --> 00:24:23,800 Speaker 1: That couple was struggling. 497 00:24:23,880 --> 00:24:26,359 Speaker 3: Look at Will and Jada had no idea about the 498 00:24:26,480 --> 00:24:30,360 Speaker 3: entanglemental august Alsinas did. We We didn't know anything about that. 499 00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:35,040 Speaker 3: Look at the jay Z and Beyonce. That was everybody. 500 00:24:35,359 --> 00:24:37,040 Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying, And it still may be 501 00:24:38,000 --> 00:24:42,760 Speaker 3: some people's goals, but look like we would have never 502 00:24:42,800 --> 00:24:45,800 Speaker 3: known jay Z cheated of Shane dropped leimonade. But that's 503 00:24:45,880 --> 00:24:51,440 Speaker 3: regular shit. That's also a perfect example. Okay, cool, We 504 00:24:51,480 --> 00:24:56,560 Speaker 3: don't hear nothing else about them, but you know, apparently 505 00:24:57,720 --> 00:25:01,960 Speaker 3: he cheated, you know, allegendly he Cheatedlady would got beat 506 00:25:02,000 --> 00:25:04,040 Speaker 3: up in the elevator by s launch. 507 00:25:04,280 --> 00:25:04,840 Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. 508 00:25:04,840 --> 00:25:08,600 Speaker 3: Something happened there and we probably will never find out 509 00:25:09,040 --> 00:25:11,840 Speaker 3: exactly what happened, but it. 510 00:25:11,680 --> 00:25:14,840 Speaker 1: Is what it is. More of the story is, don't 511 00:25:14,880 --> 00:25:17,639 Speaker 1: glorify anybody. Do what works for you. Do what works 512 00:25:17,640 --> 00:25:18,320 Speaker 1: for you. Because Kirk and. 513 00:25:18,320 --> 00:25:19,719 Speaker 3: Rashid, I'm gona say this that I'm gonna get out 514 00:25:19,720 --> 00:25:23,679 Speaker 3: of here. Kirk and Rashida, right, they have they have 515 00:25:23,760 --> 00:25:26,760 Speaker 3: businesses together, man, that's our that was our manager. That 516 00:25:26,920 --> 00:25:30,399 Speaker 3: was they got kids, kids, kids, kids and mold kids 517 00:25:30,440 --> 00:25:36,200 Speaker 3: together like like they've built that all of their success 518 00:25:36,400 --> 00:25:37,200 Speaker 3: with each other. 519 00:25:37,480 --> 00:25:39,840 Speaker 1: You get what I'm saying. So sometimes it ain't. 520 00:25:39,640 --> 00:25:41,480 Speaker 3: Just easy to walk away, and I get it. I 521 00:25:41,680 --> 00:25:43,320 Speaker 3: fucking get a look at yandyem in DC. 522 00:25:45,040 --> 00:25:46,600 Speaker 1: No mine, don't. Don't even look at them. 523 00:25:46,680 --> 00:25:48,879 Speaker 3: All Right, we've come to yet the end of another 524 00:25:48,880 --> 00:25:51,080 Speaker 3: Catholic Records episode with your girl, Jacelarios. So what I'll 525 00:25:51,119 --> 00:25:52,919 Speaker 3: be doing, I'll be fixing mess and I'll check in 526 00:25:52,960 --> 00:25:53,920 Speaker 3: with y'all next week. 527 00:25:54,119 --> 00:26:16,159 Speaker 4: Peace Takes. 528 00:26:40,040 --> 00:27:08,520 Speaker 3: And Can't Fully Reckless is a production of iHeartRadio and 529 00:27:08,600 --> 00:27:12,119 Speaker 3: The Black Effect. For more podcasts from iHeartRadio, visit the 530 00:27:12,119 --> 00:27:15,959 Speaker 3: iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you listen to your 531 00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:16,639 Speaker 3: favorite shows.