Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's
Speaker 1: tip is that you don't need to let uncertainty hold
Speaker 1: up your life. Even if you are unsure what your
Speaker 1: future holds, you can still make plans. You might need
Speaker 1: to hold them loosely, but if you are respectful and transparent,
Speaker 1: that can be okay. So there are lots of reasons
Speaker 1: that people become hesitant to make plans for the future.
Speaker 1: Maybe they're looking for a new job and don't know
Speaker 1: when an interview opportunity might come up, or what their
Speaker 1: daily rhythms would be at a new organization. Maybe they're
Speaker 1: supporting a relative who is ill and can't predict when
Speaker 1: they'll need to provide care or be a second set
Speaker 1: of ears at a medical appointment. I know people who
Speaker 1: are trying to start a family who've put long term
Speaker 1: plans on hold for a long time because, well, is
Speaker 1: that when there will be a newborn in the house.
Speaker 1: Is that when the adoption agency will come through and
Speaker 1: will need to drop everything. It is all understandable, and
Speaker 1: yet life keeps going and we only have so much time.
Speaker 1: It would be so much easier to decide to take
Speaker 1: that long wished for a trip to California if you
Speaker 1: knew you would find the perfect job in three months.
Speaker 1: But when you don't know that, the trip planning gets
Speaker 1: put off. Who knows when it happens. So here's something
Speaker 1: to remember. Even if you can't carve your plans in stone,
Speaker 1: you can still plan. You can make plans to spend
Speaker 1: a weekend with your best friend who lives a few
Speaker 1: hours away, but let her know that if your mother
Speaker 1: takes a turn for the worse, you may need to reschedule.
Speaker 1: You can make plans to have lunch with a friend
Speaker 1: next month, presuming that you haven't started a new job
Speaker 1: with a short and inflexible lunch break, but you let
Speaker 1: your friend know that you are looking and that she
Speaker 1: can hold the plans lightly too. You can look for
Speaker 1: a new job or apply to graduate school, even if
Speaker 1: you are looking to start a family. If it happens,
Speaker 1: you'll figure it out. Anywhere that deserves you will be
Speaker 1: excited for you. Now. Perhaps some folks listening to this
Speaker 1: are wondering what the big deal is. They make plans
Speaker 1: and cancel them all the time. But I'm guessing perhaps
Speaker 1: a few more. Folks listening to this fall in the
Speaker 1: category of what Gretchen Ruben calls upholders. These are folks
Speaker 1: who aim to meet all inner and outer expectations. I
Speaker 1: fall in this category, and I never want to cancel anything.
Speaker 1: I am so loath to cancel things that I generally
Speaker 1: won't agree to things if I think there is even
Speaker 1: a small chance that I might need to cancel. But
Speaker 1: the funny part of that is that when other people
Speaker 1: cancel things and have a legitimate reason to do so,
Speaker 1: I'm not put out by it. When someone tells me
Speaker 1: I'd love to talk with you that day, but just
Speaker 1: a heads up that I am interviewing for jobs and
Speaker 1: might need to reschedule, I would totally understand. So if
Speaker 1: you are facing uncertainty in your life, don't think you
Speaker 1: have to forego all future planning. I mean, maybe by
Speaker 1: the refundable plane tickets, but you can buy them. Quite possibly,
Speaker 1: you will get to take your trip even if life
Speaker 1: is uncertain, and you will probably be glad that you did.
Speaker 1: In the meantime, This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and
Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our time. Thanks for
Speaker 1: listening to before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback.
Speaker 1: You can reach me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com.
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