WEBVTT - Don't let uncertainty hold up your life

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<v Speaker 1>Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning,

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<v Speaker 1>This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's

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<v Speaker 1>tip is that you don't need to let uncertainty hold

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<v Speaker 1>up your life. Even if you are unsure what your

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<v Speaker 1>future holds, you can still make plans. You might need

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<v Speaker 1>to hold them loosely, but if you are respectful and transparent,

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<v Speaker 1>that can be okay. So there are lots of reasons

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<v Speaker 1>that people become hesitant to make plans for the future.

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<v Speaker 1>Maybe they're looking for a new job and don't know

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<v Speaker 1>when an interview opportunity might come up, or what their

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<v Speaker 1>daily rhythms would be at a new organization. Maybe they're

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<v Speaker 1>supporting a relative who is ill and can't predict when

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<v Speaker 1>they'll need to provide care or be a second set

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<v Speaker 1>of ears at a medical appointment. I know people who

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<v Speaker 1>are trying to start a family who've put long term

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<v Speaker 1>plans on hold for a long time because, well, is

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<v Speaker 1>that when there will be a newborn in the house.

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<v Speaker 1>Is that when the adoption agency will come through and

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<v Speaker 1>will need to drop everything. It is all understandable, and

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<v Speaker 1>yet life keeps going and we only have so much time.

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<v Speaker 1>It would be so much easier to decide to take

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<v Speaker 1>that long wished for a trip to California if you

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<v Speaker 1>knew you would find the perfect job in three months.

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<v Speaker 1>But when you don't know that, the trip planning gets

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<v Speaker 1>put off. Who knows when it happens. So here's something

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<v Speaker 1>to remember. Even if you can't carve your plans in stone,

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<v Speaker 1>you can still plan. You can make plans to spend

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<v Speaker 1>a weekend with your best friend who lives a few

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<v Speaker 1>hours away, but let her know that if your mother

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<v Speaker 1>takes a turn for the worse, you may need to reschedule.

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<v Speaker 1>You can make plans to have lunch with a friend

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<v Speaker 1>next month, presuming that you haven't started a new job

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<v Speaker 1>with a short and inflexible lunch break, but you let

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<v Speaker 1>your friend know that you are looking and that she

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<v Speaker 1>can hold the plans lightly too. You can look for

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<v Speaker 1>a new job or apply to graduate school, even if

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<v Speaker 1>you are looking to start a family. If it happens,

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<v Speaker 1>you'll figure it out. Anywhere that deserves you will be

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<v Speaker 1>excited for you. Now. Perhaps some folks listening to this

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<v Speaker 1>are wondering what the big deal is. They make plans

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<v Speaker 1>and cancel them all the time. But I'm guessing perhaps

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<v Speaker 1>a few more. Folks listening to this fall in the

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<v Speaker 1>category of what Gretchen Ruben calls upholders. These are folks

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<v Speaker 1>who aim to meet all inner and outer expectations. I

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<v Speaker 1>fall in this category, and I never want to cancel anything.

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<v Speaker 1>I am so loath to cancel things that I generally

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<v Speaker 1>won't agree to things if I think there is even

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<v Speaker 1>a small chance that I might need to cancel. But

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<v Speaker 1>the funny part of that is that when other people

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<v Speaker 1>cancel things and have a legitimate reason to do so,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm not put out by it. When someone tells me

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<v Speaker 1>I'd love to talk with you that day, but just

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<v Speaker 1>a heads up that I am interviewing for jobs and

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<v Speaker 1>might need to reschedule, I would totally understand. So if

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<v Speaker 1>you are facing uncertainty in your life, don't think you

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<v Speaker 1>have to forego all future planning. I mean, maybe by

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<v Speaker 1>the refundable plane tickets, but you can buy them. Quite possibly,

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<v Speaker 1>you will get to take your trip even if life

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<v Speaker 1>is uncertain, and you will probably be glad that you did.

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<v Speaker 1>In the meantime, This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and

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<v Speaker 1>here's to making the most of our time. Thanks for

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<v Speaker 1>listening to before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback.

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<v Speaker 1>You can reach me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com.

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