1 00:00:03,520 --> 00:00:09,800 Speaker 1: Welcome to Before Breakfast, a production of iHeartRadio. Good Morning, 2 00:00:11,240 --> 00:00:17,280 Speaker 1: This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast. Today's 3 00:00:17,320 --> 00:00:21,239 Speaker 1: tip is that you don't need to let uncertainty hold 4 00:00:21,320 --> 00:00:24,800 Speaker 1: up your life. Even if you are unsure what your 5 00:00:24,840 --> 00:00:29,760 Speaker 1: future holds, you can still make plans. You might need 6 00:00:29,800 --> 00:00:34,280 Speaker 1: to hold them loosely, but if you are respectful and transparent, 7 00:00:35,440 --> 00:00:40,080 Speaker 1: that can be okay. So there are lots of reasons 8 00:00:40,080 --> 00:00:42,920 Speaker 1: that people become hesitant to make plans for the future. 9 00:00:44,080 --> 00:00:46,159 Speaker 1: Maybe they're looking for a new job and don't know 10 00:00:46,200 --> 00:00:49,400 Speaker 1: when an interview opportunity might come up, or what their 11 00:00:49,440 --> 00:00:53,519 Speaker 1: daily rhythms would be at a new organization. Maybe they're 12 00:00:53,560 --> 00:00:56,960 Speaker 1: supporting a relative who is ill and can't predict when 13 00:00:56,960 --> 00:01:00,080 Speaker 1: they'll need to provide care or be a second set 14 00:01:00,120 --> 00:01:03,880 Speaker 1: of ears at a medical appointment. I know people who 15 00:01:03,880 --> 00:01:06,319 Speaker 1: are trying to start a family who've put long term 16 00:01:06,360 --> 00:01:10,200 Speaker 1: plans on hold for a long time because, well, is 17 00:01:10,240 --> 00:01:12,080 Speaker 1: that when there will be a newborn in the house. 18 00:01:13,160 --> 00:01:15,680 Speaker 1: Is that when the adoption agency will come through and 19 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:21,400 Speaker 1: will need to drop everything. It is all understandable, and 20 00:01:21,520 --> 00:01:26,039 Speaker 1: yet life keeps going and we only have so much time. 21 00:01:27,400 --> 00:01:29,880 Speaker 1: It would be so much easier to decide to take 22 00:01:29,880 --> 00:01:33,160 Speaker 1: that long wished for a trip to California if you 23 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:36,119 Speaker 1: knew you would find the perfect job in three months. 24 00:01:36,880 --> 00:01:40,000 Speaker 1: But when you don't know that, the trip planning gets 25 00:01:40,000 --> 00:01:45,319 Speaker 1: put off. Who knows when it happens. So here's something 26 00:01:45,360 --> 00:01:50,240 Speaker 1: to remember. Even if you can't carve your plans in stone, 27 00:01:50,320 --> 00:01:54,640 Speaker 1: you can still plan. You can make plans to spend 28 00:01:54,680 --> 00:01:56,840 Speaker 1: a weekend with your best friend who lives a few 29 00:01:56,840 --> 00:01:59,720 Speaker 1: hours away, but let her know that if your mother 30 00:01:59,760 --> 00:02:02,880 Speaker 1: takes a turn for the worse, you may need to reschedule. 31 00:02:04,200 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: You can make plans to have lunch with a friend 32 00:02:05,960 --> 00:02:09,520 Speaker 1: next month, presuming that you haven't started a new job 33 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:13,119 Speaker 1: with a short and inflexible lunch break, but you let 34 00:02:13,120 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 1: your friend know that you are looking and that she 35 00:02:16,200 --> 00:02:19,840 Speaker 1: can hold the plans lightly too. You can look for 36 00:02:19,880 --> 00:02:23,079 Speaker 1: a new job or apply to graduate school, even if 37 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:26,800 Speaker 1: you are looking to start a family. If it happens, 38 00:02:27,760 --> 00:02:32,440 Speaker 1: you'll figure it out. Anywhere that deserves you will be 39 00:02:32,520 --> 00:02:37,320 Speaker 1: excited for you. Now. Perhaps some folks listening to this 40 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 1: are wondering what the big deal is. They make plans 41 00:02:40,400 --> 00:02:43,919 Speaker 1: and cancel them all the time. But I'm guessing perhaps 42 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:46,200 Speaker 1: a few more. Folks listening to this fall in the 43 00:02:46,240 --> 00:02:51,760 Speaker 1: category of what Gretchen Ruben calls upholders. These are folks 44 00:02:51,760 --> 00:02:56,520 Speaker 1: who aim to meet all inner and outer expectations. I 45 00:02:56,639 --> 00:02:59,959 Speaker 1: fall in this category, and I never want to cancel anything. 46 00:03:01,200 --> 00:03:04,600 Speaker 1: I am so loath to cancel things that I generally 47 00:03:04,639 --> 00:03:07,679 Speaker 1: won't agree to things if I think there is even 48 00:03:07,720 --> 00:03:12,280 Speaker 1: a small chance that I might need to cancel. But 49 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:14,639 Speaker 1: the funny part of that is that when other people 50 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:17,680 Speaker 1: cancel things and have a legitimate reason to do so, 51 00:03:18,520 --> 00:03:21,760 Speaker 1: I'm not put out by it. When someone tells me 52 00:03:21,800 --> 00:03:23,800 Speaker 1: I'd love to talk with you that day, but just 53 00:03:23,840 --> 00:03:26,360 Speaker 1: a heads up that I am interviewing for jobs and 54 00:03:26,440 --> 00:03:31,720 Speaker 1: might need to reschedule, I would totally understand. So if 55 00:03:31,760 --> 00:03:35,280 Speaker 1: you are facing uncertainty in your life, don't think you 56 00:03:35,360 --> 00:03:40,080 Speaker 1: have to forego all future planning. I mean, maybe by 57 00:03:40,280 --> 00:03:46,360 Speaker 1: the refundable plane tickets, but you can buy them. Quite possibly, 58 00:03:46,400 --> 00:03:49,120 Speaker 1: you will get to take your trip even if life 59 00:03:49,360 --> 00:03:54,720 Speaker 1: is uncertain, and you will probably be glad that you did. 60 00:03:55,440 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 1: In the meantime, This is Laura. Thanks for listening, and 61 00:04:01,120 --> 00:04:11,040 Speaker 1: here's to making the most of our time. Thanks for 62 00:04:11,120 --> 00:04:15,880 Speaker 1: listening to before Breakfast. If you've got questions, ideas, or feedback. 63 00:04:16,200 --> 00:04:25,520 Speaker 1: You can reach me at Laura at Laura vandercam dot com. 64 00:04:25,640 --> 00:04:29,680 Speaker 1: Before Breakfast is a production of iHeartMedia. For more podcasts 65 00:04:29,720 --> 00:04:34,320 Speaker 1: from iHeartMedia, please visit the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or 66 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:36,200 Speaker 1: wherever you listen to your favorite shows.