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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is a Strawberry Letter,

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Speaker 1: all right. Subject My boyfriend's naked coworkers, Dear Stephen Shirley.

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Speaker 1: Marinade on that for a minute, My boyfriend's naked coworkers,

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Speaker 1: Dear Stephen Shirley. The problems with my boyfriend all began

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Speaker 1: when he started a new job. We have been together

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Speaker 1: two years and we were doing just fine. And then

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Speaker 1: he started guarding his phone like a hawk and turning

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Speaker 1: it over when he put it down. My intuition kicked

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Speaker 1: in and I checked it one day when he fell asleep.

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Speaker 1: One of his female co workers sent him pictures of

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Speaker 1: her vacation, personal selfies and body painting picks where she's

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Speaker 1: completely naked. Another female he works with send him Texas

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Speaker 1: text messages telling him she really likes him and is

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Speaker 1: trying to fight it, but she decided to be honest.

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Speaker 1: There was also picks of another coworker topless with a

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Speaker 1: thong on he's stupid because he has coworker and then

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Speaker 1: their names saved on his phone. All of them are

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Speaker 1: in relationships and they told him they'd leave their men

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Speaker 1: for him. He responds to them nicely, but doesn't lead

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Speaker 1: them on. He told them he's very much in love

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Speaker 1: with me, and each one said they respect that, but

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Speaker 1: it's made me very insecure and not I don't trust

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Speaker 1: my boyfriend. I've talked with him about other women coming

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Speaker 1: on to him, and he always tells me he's not

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Speaker 1: a cheater and no other girl compares to me. So

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Speaker 1: then why are his coworkers numbers still in his phone?

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Speaker 1: And why does he still respond to their messages? It's

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Speaker 1: a lot of sent messages, but every once in a

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Speaker 1: while a topless pick will pop up from one of them.

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Speaker 1: Should I tell him that I went through his phone

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Speaker 1: and demand that he stopped talking to his co workers

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Speaker 1: through text? What if I was allowing a male coworker

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Speaker 1: to text me like that, A man certainly would have

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Speaker 1: checked me and the guy. What am I supposed to

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Speaker 1: do in this situation? You're exactly right. If the situation

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Speaker 1: were reversed, he would have checked you and the guy.

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Speaker 1: You're exactly right. If he knew who the guy was

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Speaker 1: and all that, he would have checked you. He wouldn't

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Speaker 1: have liked it, and you have every right not to

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Speaker 1: like it in all of that. But I just say this, No,

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Speaker 1: don't tell him that you went through his phone. Please

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Speaker 1: don't do that yet. Just let that be our little secret. Okay, Well, me, you, Steve,

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Speaker 1: and millions of others who listened in the morning to

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Speaker 1: the Steve Harvey Morning Show. Okay, it's gonna be a

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Speaker 1: lot of us. I mean, you don't want to break

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Speaker 1: the trust that you've built over the past two years

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Speaker 1: of him trusting you. And please don't start or getting

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Speaker 1: or feeling insecure. You don't have any reason to you

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Speaker 1: right now. I don't think you do, because that's when

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Speaker 1: the real problems will start happening. I think, just be

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Speaker 1: cool right now. But keep your eyes, keep your ears open.

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Speaker 1: So far, he hasn't given you a reason not to

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Speaker 1: believe him. If he did, you would have said that

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Speaker 1: in the letter. I think the women are thirsty that

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Speaker 1: are coming on to him, and he's handling them a

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Speaker 1: little gingerly because they are his coworkers, and I guess

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Speaker 1: he doesn't want anything to go down in his job.

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Speaker 1: I just say, you know, get yourself looking your most

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Speaker 1: beautiful one day. Try this, and then go up to

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Speaker 1: his job meet him for lunch, you know, and see

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Speaker 1: how he interacts with them with you there, you know, like,

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Speaker 1: Trust your into it. See well, I don't know, Shirley.

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Speaker 1: You're telling her to trust her intuition. That's what the

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Speaker 1: Been together two years now, he got on his phone

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Speaker 1: like a halt. Then she said, one of his female

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Speaker 1: co workers send him some pictures of her vacation personal selfish.

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Speaker 1: She gets she naked with some body paint on. Then

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Speaker 1: Trying to fight it, but she decided to be honest.

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Speaker 1: There prets of another coworker topplers with a throng on.

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Speaker 1: Does does he work out a strip club? Quess working?

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Speaker 1: Everybody naked down? At y'all? What? What is this? Is

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Speaker 1: Everybody just showing themselves. So now then you said this

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Speaker 1: and he's got you say he's stupid because he got

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Speaker 1: coworker and their name saved in his phone. Okay, now

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Speaker 1: what's stupid about that? Why is he stupid for having

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Speaker 1: you got to know who these people is? Co worker Tanya? Yes,

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Speaker 1: I don't see why that why that's stupid? Okay? Mad no? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: blaming it on his stupidity. So now instead of confronting

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Speaker 1: him about it, they've all told him they lead amen

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Speaker 1: for him. He responds to them nicely and he don't

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Speaker 1: lead them on. He told him he's very much in

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Speaker 1: love with me, and each one said they respect that.

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Speaker 1: But now he goes a problem. It's made her very insecure,

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Speaker 1: and now I don't trust my boyfriend. This is what

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Speaker 1: the letter is. Surely this is the problem we have.

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Speaker 1: She now don't trust her boyfriend. Well, I got the

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Speaker 1: only solution when we come back, all right, all right,

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Speaker 1: we'll have part two of Steve's response coming up at

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Speaker 1: twenty three minutes after the hour My Strawberry Letter for

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Speaker 1: today's subject my boyfriend's naked coworkers. Will get back into

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Speaker 1: it when we come back right after this. You're listening,

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Speaker 1: all right, Steve, Come on, let's recap today's Strawberry Letters,

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Speaker 1: subject my boy friends naked coworkers. This man got this job.

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Speaker 1: I don't know where he working, but everybody's sending him

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Speaker 1: naked pictures down at the job. Everybody three women down

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Speaker 1: Now Now she knows co workers because she because she

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Speaker 1: he didn't put their name in the phone with co

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Speaker 1: worker next to it. One lady went on vacation, took

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Speaker 1: pictures with her with body paint on, butt naked. Another

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Speaker 1: lady sent a picture of him topless with a throng

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Speaker 1: on other lady told him you know she in a relationship,

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Speaker 1: but she just had to be honest and can't fight

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Speaker 1: it no more. You must be married to one hell

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Speaker 1: but now here's the problem. You then messed around a

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Speaker 1: tell the man, but here's the problem we got. No,

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Speaker 1: with you, and they respect that. But now it's made

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Speaker 1: to your boyfriend's attention. So you said you've talked to

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Speaker 1: always say he's not a cheater, and no other woman

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Speaker 1: because based on the texas that he uses when he

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Speaker 1: and all that you clear, but you still have this distrust.

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Speaker 1: Now you want to know why he still got the

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Speaker 1: co worker's phone numbers in the phone and why he

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Speaker 1: you're mad because she's still getting texas And he responded,

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Speaker 1: he don't know you see in the texas, so he

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Speaker 1: don't know to tell him to stop texting. See, you

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Speaker 1: ain't want him to act the way you want him

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Speaker 1: posted to do? She posted to just just go to

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Speaker 1: She already don't trust him. Dog, listen to me. When

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Speaker 1: a man is doing something like this, it ain't no.

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Speaker 1: I can't trust you for going in my phone. He

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Speaker 1: what though? What does she catch them doing? Get neked

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Speaker 1: ass pictures? But that's them, that's the thirsty chicks at

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Speaker 1: But surely he keep comparing them. No, see, these pictures

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Speaker 1: the real tip on me. Were we doing wrong? And

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Speaker 1: do is deflect, Yeah, the bust. No, we defect deflect

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Speaker 1: the bust by making it on you. What you're doing

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Speaker 1: for now. It might be something else, you know, Just

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Speaker 1: wait a minute, don't necessarily tell him right now. Shirley

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Speaker 1: is saying, get more intail. Yeah, she's just it's too patient.

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Speaker 1: That's all she has or you know, is that right there? Okay,

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Speaker 1: let me ask you and call it. How much more

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Speaker 1: y'all need? Oh? I would have said, I'm just asking

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Speaker 1: husband then went through you don't went through your husband phone?

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Speaker 1: You found naked pictures or some women? How many more

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Speaker 1: intail y'all need for the house get set on fire? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: I'm not waiting. But that's what Shirley, that's what you

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Speaker 1: were saying though, in this particular situation, to get more intail, right, Yeah,

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Speaker 1: more to just to see what he's doing. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: because that's what they're doing. You need to picture of

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Speaker 1: him and the woman together. Nick, I don't need that.

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Speaker 1: I just want to see what else is going on. Well,

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Speaker 1: all that all right, listen. Thank you Steve for your

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Speaker 1: up right after this. You're listening to the Stave Harvey

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Speaker 1: Morning Show.