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Speaker 1: First date to follow up powered by the Advocates Injury

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Speaker 1: Attorneys online at Advocateslaw dot com. John is on the

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Speaker 1: phone today for a first date follow up and he's

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Speaker 1: getting ghosted by a woman named Kirsten. So in a

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Speaker 1: second we're gonna call her and see if she'll tell

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Speaker 1: us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him a

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Speaker 1: second date. But first, John, how long has it been

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Speaker 1: since you talked to Kirston.

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Speaker 2: It's been a couple of weeks, like one week.

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Speaker 3: I guess it's just like more than that. But yes,

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Speaker 3: she's one week.

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Speaker 2: Okay, yeah, uh, maybe it's I don't think so well.

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Speaker 1: I mean usually kind of you usually kind of get

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Speaker 1: a feeling.

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Speaker 3: Have you been trying to hit her up and she's

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Speaker 3: just not responding.

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Speaker 2: I've been hit her up and yeah, we had a

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Speaker 2: great date and then you know, she replied right away afterwards,

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Speaker 2: and then yeah, it's been ghosting.

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Speaker 3: So and I know you guys do this, but I'm

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Speaker 3: gonna get her getting taller and find out what happened. Okay,

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Speaker 3: well tell us about the day. Sure, Uh so that

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Speaker 3: matters to each old friends.

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Speaker 2: And I liked her immediately, like she's focused since she's ambitious,

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Speaker 2: like she's like a working girl.

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Speaker 3: A working woman that you look like a working girl.

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Speaker 2: Actually, actually we watched that. I don't know if we Well, anyway,

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Speaker 2: we didn't end up watching that Working Girl the Sigourney

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Speaker 2: Weaver movie. Yeah, yeah, we both like old movies. Anyway, Sorry,

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Speaker 2: I'm rambling here.

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Speaker 4: Uh.

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Speaker 2: I like her style, She's like, I mean yeah, She's like,

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Speaker 2: oh yeah, you're right, I hear it now, working.

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Speaker 5: Girl, it's a working girl style.

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Speaker 3: I mean like, oa, I hear myself. I didn't follow

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Speaker 3: her that. I don't think it's bad.

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Speaker 5: Oh man.

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Speaker 6: So but instead of going out, we kind of did

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Speaker 6: like a cozy movie night, which for a first date

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Speaker 6: feels very kind of you know, it's not a first

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Speaker 6: date thing exactly. It felt intimate because we both like

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Speaker 6: classic films, like, you know, something might be entire classic

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Speaker 6: or like from the eighties, and we did watch Work

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Speaker 6: and Girl.

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Speaker 3: She suggested it. Actually okay, so uh uh huh.

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Speaker 2: But we did a whole thing of it as if

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Speaker 2: we were already dating, like blankets, you know, like damn

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Speaker 2: lighting and all that stuff. And we shared a giant

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Speaker 2: It was fun. I have a great time. We shared

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Speaker 2: a giant bowl of popcorn, and we were like quoting

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Speaker 2: lines from the movie like I have a mind for body.

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Speaker 2: Excuse me, I have a mind for business and a

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Speaker 2: body for sin. All right, Yeah, it felt yeah, it

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Speaker 2: felt like it's it was sweet. It was like intimate,

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Speaker 2: but there was like one maybe awkward thing which I

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Speaker 2: that she hasn't responded to me. But basically, at one

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Speaker 2: point we both rechared the palkcorn at the same time,

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Speaker 2: and I kind of panic and I held on maybe

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Speaker 3: I was like, are we holding hands or pull away?

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Speaker 2: And then I tried to play it off like I

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I don't know if.

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Speaker 2: I don't know if that was where she laughed though,

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Speaker 2: so I thought it was in the moment, I thought

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Speaker 2: it was like charming and not weird. But but and

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Speaker 2: this is the big butt for me. I know her

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Speaker 2: phone was buzzing the whole night. She didn't have that

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Speaker 2: ammus she had on buzzed. Anytime someone texts, the bung

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Speaker 2: goes on and the name shows up.

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Speaker 3: And it's Kenneth, Kenneth, it's the first date. So I

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Speaker 3: ignored it, but you know it happened.

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Speaker 2: Did have the whole night After the date, she says

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Speaker 2: that she had a great time, you know, I replied back,

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Speaker 2: so much. But I have a theory, and may I

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Speaker 2: hope you guys can feel this is right. I think

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Speaker 2: she's ghosting me because there's another guy in the picture.

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Speaker 2: His name is Kenneth, and that's who she was texting

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Speaker 2: with the whole night. Okay, so you think that's what

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Speaker 2: I think is happening. Yeah, all right, because she has

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Speaker 2: not responded to me. Now, I scept for that one

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Speaker 1: Okay, John is on the phone and John is getting

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Speaker 1: ghosted by Kirston. So in a second, we're gonna call

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Speaker 1: her and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting

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Speaker 1: him and maybe get him a second date. But first, John,

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Speaker 1: why don't you break down your date again for us

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Speaker 1: real quick.

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Speaker 2: Sure, I met Kirsten's your mutual friends. I feel like

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Speaker 2: we hit it off immediately. Our first date was like

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Speaker 2: a cozy movie night in which was really fun. But

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Speaker 2: the whole night she's basically texting with a guy named

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Speaker 2: a person named Kenneth on the phone.

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Speaker 3: I don't know what that is.

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Speaker 2: She's basically been in communicado since then. She hasn't responded

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Speaker 2: to me. Okay, not I do.

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Speaker 3: Is that a good summary? I think it was pretty

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Speaker 3: good dude, while you were there. Yeah, that's something, all right?

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Speaker 3: Are you ready for us to call her? I don't know. Okay,

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Speaker 3: here we go.

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Speaker 4: Hello, Hi, Ma, I speak to Kirsten.

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Speaker 1: Please, Hey Kirsten, how are you. This is a radio show.

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Speaker 1: It's called The Jebel Show.

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Speaker 5: Hi, Kirsten, Nina.

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Speaker 1: Hi, I'm Victoria and my name is Gebla. Have you

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Speaker 1: heard of.

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Speaker 4: The show before?

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Speaker 7: I have?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 3: Sweet?

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Speaker 1: Okay, Well we're calling you today because we got an

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Speaker 1: email about you.

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Speaker 5: Okay.

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Speaker 1: We do a segment on the show that's called the

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Speaker 1: First Date follow Up. That's where if you go out

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Speaker 1: on a date with some buddy and you end up

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Speaker 1: ghosting them, that person can email us to get you

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Speaker 1: on the phone and ask why you're ghosting them.

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Speaker 8: Okay, okay, have any idea who would have emailed us?

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Speaker 5: Is it col.

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Speaker 8: No? No, No, that's not it. You want to try again,

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Speaker 8: Is it Kenneth? No, it's not Kenneth. You want to

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Speaker 8: take a shot at number three.

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Speaker 5: Okay, then it's gotta be John.

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Speaker 1: Yes, John emailed us. Apparently you're you're doing quite a

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Speaker 1: bit of ghosting. But John is the one. Where are

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Speaker 1: you meeting that? Would you mind telling us why you're

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Speaker 1: ghosting John?

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Speaker 5: I I didn't think I was ghosting John at all.

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Speaker 3: No.

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Speaker 5: I mean I texted him.

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Speaker 7: After a movie night and I left town for work,

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Speaker 7: and I told him about this, like, I travel a

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Speaker 5: I had, like.

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Speaker 7: You know, I deal with a lot of high pressure

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Speaker 7: investments and super long days and so I.

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Speaker 5: Wasn't like ghosting him. And I told him like I

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Speaker 5: had to leave for work and so. But honestly, he

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Speaker 5: started texting me a lot.

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Speaker 2: So, yeah, I'm here.

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Speaker 1: So that's John. He's actually on the phone and wants

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Speaker 1: to talk to you.

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Speaker 7: Oh crap, Okay, yeah, Hi, how are you John?

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Speaker 2: Hey?

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Speaker 3: Okay?

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Speaker 5: Wow?

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Speaker 2: So so yeah, I felt like you did ghost man.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you know it, texted you once and then

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Speaker 2: you sort of stopped. I know you said for work,

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Speaker 2: but you know.

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Speaker 5: No, I did not go to you.

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Speaker 7: I told you that I was traveling for work.

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Speaker 5: I texted you right after a date.

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Speaker 3: No, you never texted me.

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Speaker 7: Yes, I did. I texted you that I was going out.

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Speaker 7: I texted you that I was going out of town

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Speaker 7: for work, and I told you that my days were

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Speaker 7: And I hope you understood that. I mean, we just

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Speaker 7: had one date and then I said, hey, I'm leaning

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Speaker 5: Town, and then you were like texting me like three

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Speaker 5: texts a day, kind of like that.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I did not sex you a few times

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Speaker 2: a day. But also, you did not text me that

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Speaker 7: You didn't tell me that you have been texting me

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Speaker 7: three times today, and I did text you that I.

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Speaker 5: Was going out for work. This is I can't believe

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Speaker 5: you're just lying about this. This is really strange.

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Speaker 2: I just no, this doesn't make any sense. I would

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Speaker 2: not text three times to day. I text you once.

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Speaker 7: You know, I can send you back so you can

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Speaker 7: read them. Do you want to send you those texts?

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Speaker 3: Sure? Yeah, because I want to know.

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Speaker 1: Here we go, Yes, John, you're sure you haven't been

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Speaker 1: texting her three times a day?

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Speaker 3: Yes, I'm sure. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: Sorry, I just sent him the screenshots.

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Speaker 9: By the way, Okay, you just sent it because I

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Speaker 3: I don't have it it is Oh my gosh, I

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Speaker 5: You just texted me back, and well, finally you respond

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Speaker 5: to Hi, What dude.

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Speaker 3: I did? I don't know who that is? Does not

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Speaker 3: mean I don't know who that is. That's not me.

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Speaker 5: Okay, how do you spell John?

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Speaker 3: How do I spell John? J Owen?

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Speaker 5: Oh god? Okay, I've been testing a different John. That's

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Speaker 5: a guy that I actually wanted.

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Speaker 2: To go.

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Speaker 1: And you just said him a screenshot.

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Speaker 5: My god, what girl?

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Speaker 3: Oh my god? How many people are your coasting.

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Speaker 5: I'm not trying to coast you. I'm not trying to

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Speaker 5: call you, trying to cause the other John. I'm not

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Speaker 5: trying to cost you.

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Speaker 3: I just told you.

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Speaker 5: I just went out of town.

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Speaker 3: Gods, oh my god. I thought I was losing my mind.

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Speaker 3: So I'm the better John.

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Speaker 5: I guess yes?

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Speaker 3: All right?

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Speaker 1: Sweet Well, then Erson, would you like to go on

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Speaker 1: the second date with the right John? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 5: Oh my goodness. Yes, we can go on in the

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Speaker 5: second base.

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Speaker 1: To make sure everybody's labeled in your phone first, and

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Speaker 1: then you know, watch your back.

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Speaker 5: Yes, the better John without an age?

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Speaker 3: OK, thank you?

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Speaker 5: Juble's first day follow up