WEBVTT - Don't Size Me Up with Mia the Boss 0:00:03.040 --> 0:00:07.160 We're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion who 0:00:07.240 --> 0:00:11.640 talks back. What's up, y'all? Thank you for tuning in 0:00:11.680 --> 0:00:14.080 for a new episode that We Talk Back, a show 0:00:14.200 --> 0:00:17.079 dedicated to you, niggas and these holes. It's your co 0:00:17.200 --> 0:00:22.600 host aj Holiday. What's up, Tam, Hey, y'all and everybody 0:00:22.640 --> 0:00:25.720 in between you don't period? Yes, hey the rest of you. Ya, 0:00:25.840 --> 0:00:29.200 Thank y'all for tuning in again. It's me Tampa. We 0:00:29.320 --> 0:00:32.520 got my friend on the show, Me and the Ball. 0:00:32.680 --> 0:00:36.600 Take Me and the Boss, okay. Mia is an influencer. 0:00:36.720 --> 0:00:42.040 She is a super duper serial entrepreneur. She's a plus 0:00:42.080 --> 0:00:46.680 size model. As y'all can see, she's fucking beautiful, and 0:00:46.840 --> 0:00:49.840 she is the creator of one of your favorite blogs, 0:00:50.120 --> 0:00:54.040 Diary of a Fashionista fashion I don't have it anymore. No, 0:00:54.160 --> 0:00:57.320 it's just me at boss dot com now period, just 0:00:57.400 --> 0:00:59.560 me the box dot com. Yeah, I got rid of that, 0:00:59.560 --> 0:01:02.440 I go like a while ago. So all right, tell 0:01:02.520 --> 0:01:04.880 our listeners all about you? What you do? Why are 0:01:04.880 --> 0:01:09.360 you so sad? Yeah? So, I mean I started off 0:01:09.360 --> 0:01:11.720 blogging back in like two thousand and eight when I 0:01:11.800 --> 0:01:14.959 was in college. I studied journalism and mass communications, and 0:01:15.000 --> 0:01:16.280 I did not want to be like, you know, a 0:01:16.319 --> 0:01:19.440 typical like news reporter, hard news. Like my mom thought 0:01:19.440 --> 0:01:21.080 I was going to school to be a news anchor, 0:01:21.440 --> 0:01:23.520 Like I just killed all her dreams. But I just 0:01:23.560 --> 0:01:26.080 always wanted to work for like Harper's Bazaar. It was 0:01:26.080 --> 0:01:28.200 just really cool magazine back in the day called Swede. 0:01:28.280 --> 0:01:31.120 It was just always fashion and writing and then just 0:01:31.200 --> 0:01:34.200 being you know, a plus size girl, it was just nothing. 0:01:34.520 --> 0:01:36.760 You know, I didn't have any like anything I could 0:01:36.800 --> 0:01:38.360 kind of resonate too. So I was like, I'm about 0:01:38.360 --> 0:01:40.800 to just figure this out on my own, and I 0:01:40.840 --> 0:01:43.479 started a blog. It was like really high fashion at first, 0:01:43.959 --> 0:01:46.640 and then I remember this girl, she's really popular in 0:01:46.680 --> 0:01:48.520 Her name is Gabby Fresh. She interviewed me on her 0:01:48.520 --> 0:01:50.800 blog and I was like, you know what, I need 0:01:50.800 --> 0:01:53.080 to start talking about stuff that actually relates to me. 0:01:53.160 --> 0:01:54.640 So then that's where I decided. I was like, I'm 0:01:54.640 --> 0:01:57.320 going to be a plus sized blogger. And you know, 0:01:57.360 --> 0:02:00.360 this is before Instagram. This is like between that air 0:02:00.400 --> 0:02:02.600 of like my Space and Facebook. I just only had 0:02:02.640 --> 0:02:05.400 Facebook to kind of promote myself and then my blog 0:02:05.560 --> 0:02:07.800 just started taking off and taking off, and then when 0:02:07.840 --> 0:02:10.560 Instagram came about, I think that's like, you know, just 0:02:10.639 --> 0:02:12.760 when everything just kind of started falling into place, and 0:02:12.840 --> 0:02:15.400 I'm like, dang, you know, it's twenty twenty three, fifteen 0:02:15.480 --> 0:02:18.280 years later, and the Internet just allowed me to do 0:02:18.360 --> 0:02:22.440 so much cool stuff. Fifteen years. When's the last time 0:02:22.480 --> 0:02:27.320 he worked for somebody? So um twenty eighteen March twenty eighteen, 0:02:27.400 --> 0:02:28.960 that was like my last real job. I worked for 0:02:29.000 --> 0:02:30.519 Sprint and I just went to work one day and 0:02:30.560 --> 0:02:34.440 I was just like I'm this literally went to work. 0:02:34.480 --> 0:02:36.200 I just came back from Atlanta and I had like 0:02:36.200 --> 0:02:39.480 a great weekend. I hated my manager, Fuck you Freddy. 0:02:39.840 --> 0:02:44.160 Um you're saying people name, but I already is a 0:02:44.240 --> 0:02:51.280 huge fan of the show Fuck you Freddie. But no, Like, 0:02:51.280 --> 0:02:52.600 I just went to work one day and I was 0:02:52.639 --> 0:02:54.720 just like I had no plan, like at all. I 0:02:54.800 --> 0:02:56.359 knew it had like a certain amount of money rolling 0:02:56.360 --> 0:02:58.320 in for like the next two months, but I had 0:02:58.400 --> 0:03:01.280 quit Sprint and then I was like, hey, We're gonna 0:03:01.480 --> 0:03:04.639 be an influencer full time. I remember like May twenty eighteen. 0:03:04.720 --> 0:03:06.280 I was like the first time I paid like all 0:03:06.280 --> 0:03:09.680 my bills was just like influencer money, and I was crying. 0:03:09.800 --> 0:03:13.760 I was like, damn, I could do this like for real. Um, 0:03:13.800 --> 0:03:16.440 but yeah, it's just it's been a long road and 0:03:17.080 --> 0:03:19.880 I'm just like, dang, you know, I'm all the stuff 0:03:19.919 --> 0:03:21.720 I really wanted to do, like in some shape form 0:03:21.760 --> 0:03:23.919 or fashion. It came true, you know, like I didn't 0:03:23.960 --> 0:03:26.040 write for like a fashion magazine, but I still got 0:03:26.040 --> 0:03:28.560 to fulfillment doing things like my own way, telling my 0:03:28.600 --> 0:03:31.440 own story. We got fifty million questions for you, but 0:03:31.600 --> 0:03:34.760 I'm ready the first we gotta get into our stupid 0:03:34.880 --> 0:03:38.040 internet news. Yes, please have a slip of that simply. Yeah, 0:03:38.080 --> 0:03:40.440 I'm so excited to try. If I saw this like 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:45.760 on Twitter. Okay, let's let's se let's see. Hey, oh 0:03:45.800 --> 0:03:48.240 my god, it takes just like the regular like lemonade this, 0:03:49.200 --> 0:03:53.119 but it's gonna get you. It does in a real way. 0:03:53.600 --> 0:03:57.000 Did you give me a little a little buzz? All right? 0:03:57.080 --> 0:03:59.680 Stupid internet news? All right, So I gotta start with 0:04:00.120 --> 0:04:04.520 Jonathan made my husband in some properly please missus major? 0:04:05.080 --> 0:04:08.080 Miss okay, missus major. Do you want to do the 0:04:08.080 --> 0:04:10.680 story about now? Go ahead? You can go ahead, you know, 0:04:10.720 --> 0:04:13.840 because I did a public statement. He's in some trouble 0:04:13.920 --> 0:04:16.919 this weekend. This past weekend. Um, he was accused of 0:04:17.040 --> 0:04:19.960 assaulting his real girlfriend. I don't think he was there, 0:04:21.279 --> 0:04:29.680 According to DMZ law what is dmz D. According to 0:04:29.839 --> 0:04:33.040 t m Z Excuse Me, law enforcement says that the 0:04:33.080 --> 0:04:37.039 alleged victim accusing Jonathan Major's assault assault is his girlfriend. 0:04:37.400 --> 0:04:40.520 The couple was reportedly in a taxi when the argument started. 0:04:40.720 --> 0:04:43.800 They reportedly got into the altercation after his girlfriend called 0:04:43.839 --> 0:04:47.800 another woman texting the actors and who was the other 0:04:47.839 --> 0:04:53.840 woman that was you? Yes? Why you mean? I wonder 0:04:53.880 --> 0:04:57.320 who was? I think? Because listen, I imagine that this 0:04:57.360 --> 0:05:00.880 man has not gotten attention from black women. Did you 0:05:00.960 --> 0:05:07.719 see as Yeah, it's a glow up. It's a major clone, right, Listen. 0:05:07.720 --> 0:05:10.640 I love Jonathan Majors. I be posting him on my 0:05:10.640 --> 0:05:13.400 story like that's and people were actually sending me like 0:05:13.440 --> 0:05:17.599 this clip these uh articles like yes, like this is 0:05:17.640 --> 0:05:22.080 my real nigga, Like yes, I had a persement. He's 0:05:22.120 --> 0:05:24.640 that right, he is. But I just can't believe he's 0:05:24.680 --> 0:05:28.720 like white girls. Well, yes, I think him until recently, 0:05:29.120 --> 0:05:31.279 and now he's getting the attention of the women he 0:05:31.320 --> 0:05:34.640 probably really wanted in the first place. He guilty, He 0:05:34.839 --> 0:05:38.719 is not guilty. It's but he was the one that 0:05:38.760 --> 0:05:41.800 called the police. And he called the police. Yes, but 0:05:41.880 --> 0:05:44.159 why he walking out there saying the black man guilty? 0:05:44.200 --> 0:05:46.600 What happened? Why? But why he walking out of court 0:05:46.640 --> 0:05:48.680 with a hat, a shirt or a hat that said 0:05:48.760 --> 0:05:51.680 freedom or something on it, like freedom we all want 0:05:51.760 --> 0:05:53.920 for me. But he's maybe he's done with these white women. 0:05:54.000 --> 0:05:56.960 He about to come on home to the Motherland. That's 0:05:57.000 --> 0:06:03.080 what it is. Come on, we like you now, we 0:06:03.240 --> 0:06:14.640 like you now. Like black men, he gives real like slaves. Yeah, 0:06:14.640 --> 0:06:17.719 he's that kind of fun. I've never seen black men 0:06:17.960 --> 0:06:19.640 in a frenzy like this when it comes to this 0:06:19.720 --> 0:06:22.400 black man. For whatever reason, I saw black men condemning 0:06:22.480 --> 0:06:25.600 him already, Like, y'all remember the black guy who got 0:06:25.680 --> 0:06:28.599 murdered by his white girlfriend in Miami? Was that last 0:06:29.360 --> 0:06:31.839 he was my dream? Like yeah, And he had spent 0:06:31.880 --> 0:06:34.200 a lot of time disparage and black women on Twitter 0:06:34.520 --> 0:06:37.200 from high school. You know, black men were even like 0:06:37.360 --> 0:06:40.719 coming to you know, back, come to back for him. 0:06:40.760 --> 0:06:43.400 But Jonathan Majors is like, y'all really hate this nigga 0:06:43.440 --> 0:06:46.159 for what reason? Is he that fine? Just that a man? Fine? 0:06:46.200 --> 0:06:48.560 Unlessen we can move on. He is that fine. He's 0:06:49.040 --> 0:06:51.320 like his nose spread all the way across the space, 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:59.800 A Bell peppered, I love bell Peppers. We shall see what. 0:07:00.800 --> 0:07:02.680 All right, there's a clip that's out. I know y'all 0:07:02.680 --> 0:07:04.560 saw it. I know y'all saw it. That a guy 0:07:04.600 --> 0:07:06.960 went around. I don't know if he has a podcast, 0:07:07.000 --> 0:07:10.040 but he was outside with his video camera. But he 0:07:10.080 --> 0:07:14.880 went around asking people did they want to get a 0:07:15.000 --> 0:07:17.280 dinner with Soldier Boy or two hundred and fifty dollars 0:07:17.280 --> 0:07:21.480 with food stamps, and everybody, everybody that they posted, because 0:07:21.480 --> 0:07:23.880 I don't imagine everybody said two hundred fifty dollars in 0:07:23.920 --> 0:07:27.440 food stamps, but everybody that he posted was like, I mean, 0:07:27.600 --> 0:07:30.720 who was Soldier Boy? I get two fifty dollars? They 0:07:30.840 --> 0:07:34.960 playing big break, they playing him. I would definitely go 0:07:35.040 --> 0:07:37.720 to dinner with Soldier Boy. Yeah, Like, come on, he 0:07:37.840 --> 0:07:42.560 was a major like marketing guru in middle school. I 0:07:42.600 --> 0:07:44.360 don't know if people realize that it now, like he 0:07:44.400 --> 0:07:47.240 really got shit popping on YouTube for a lot of artists, 0:07:47.480 --> 0:07:49.559 and they disrespected him. I know, you look a little 0:07:49.600 --> 0:07:52.440 like crackheadish now, but Soldier Boy always been a ship 0:07:52.560 --> 0:07:54.520 as far as I'm concerned, I would definitely I would 0:07:54.520 --> 0:07:58.880 have went to dinner with him two five hundred bally 0:07:58.960 --> 0:08:02.160 specifus fuck, you gonna get a card in the eggs milk, right, 0:08:02.240 --> 0:08:06.320 you know, I get what I would have. I would 0:08:06.360 --> 0:08:07.680 have went to the dinner just so I could laugh. 0:08:07.760 --> 0:08:09.680 I just think he's like a character, Like, I know, 0:08:09.760 --> 0:08:12.680 he's gonna smell like cigarettes in there, right, ain't gonna 0:08:12.680 --> 0:08:14.559 be telling us about how he shot up some ships. 0:08:14.600 --> 0:08:16.640 I was like, he was the first person to do this. 0:08:18.160 --> 0:08:21.120 Was like, okay, I'm here for it's a lot. I 0:08:21.200 --> 0:08:23.160 think majority of people would have went to dinner with 0:08:23.240 --> 0:08:25.560 soldier boys. Yeah it was two hundred fifty dollars of 0:08:25.600 --> 0:08:30.760 food Sam. Yeah. They was definitely playing, Like, yeah, stop 0:08:30.840 --> 0:08:33.839 playing with soldier I got a funny story. So this 0:08:33.920 --> 0:08:37.360 guy used to date uh maybe I don't know. Maybe 0:08:37.440 --> 0:08:40.679 five years after we met, he admitted to me that 0:08:40.800 --> 0:08:44.760 he actually hacked my Facebook page and he was like, yeah, 0:08:44.800 --> 0:08:47.000 you was in that message and soldier boy And I'm 0:08:47.080 --> 0:08:50.160 like what, I'm driving from Chicago back to Saint Louis, Like, 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:52.880 what the fuck are you talking about? I'm going years 0:08:53.040 --> 0:08:55.240 back and my Facebook messages at this time, I'm not 0:08:55.320 --> 0:08:58.200 even on Facebook, but I still have it. While I'm driving. 0:08:58.440 --> 0:09:02.319 I'm in two thousand. I don't know ten at this 0:09:02.480 --> 0:09:05.680 point in messages, and I see a message to Soldier 0:09:05.720 --> 0:09:07.960 Boy that said, Soldier boy, I love you so much. 0:09:09.559 --> 0:09:16.280 Pitcher was my niece. My niece massage Facebook, but a 0:09:16.440 --> 0:09:19.080 nigga that hacked my Facebook. But he was like, yeah 0:09:19.120 --> 0:09:20.800 you was. He was. I ain't trying to power that 0:09:20.840 --> 0:09:26.880 pussy for Soldier boy, Like why first of all, why 0:09:26.920 --> 0:09:28.400 did you hack my shit? I don't even want to 0:09:28.400 --> 0:09:31.719 see my Facebook messages from that time, and he had 0:09:31.760 --> 0:09:34.640 to have hacked my shit like when he just met me. 0:09:35.080 --> 0:09:39.440 Have y'all ever been in like a celebrity's dms Kanye. 0:09:39.600 --> 0:09:42.520 I'm always telling him to call me like nigga called 0:09:42.520 --> 0:09:44.760 me so we can talk about how I give you 0:09:44.840 --> 0:09:46.480 some advice. But he used to write me back, used 0:09:46.480 --> 0:09:49.400 to message message with but ROSSI really write me back 0:09:49.440 --> 0:09:54.920 though I was so in love with him like I was. 0:09:55.679 --> 0:09:57.480 That's where my name came from, me and the Boss 0:09:58.440 --> 0:10:01.160 because I wanted to talk about and I can't remember 0:10:01.200 --> 0:10:03.040 why I was messaging. I think he was in town 0:10:04.640 --> 0:10:08.120 I loved. I wanted to be a uh like like 0:10:08.240 --> 0:10:10.360 the black Bottle girl because I just wanted that that 0:10:10.520 --> 0:10:13.520 varsity jacket he was like, start posting, put it in 0:10:13.559 --> 0:10:14.839 the work. I was like, Nigga sent me in the 0:10:14.920 --> 0:10:20.840 Champagne right period. I just wanted the jacket. I didn't 0:10:20.880 --> 0:10:23.640 want to post this ship. But Rick Ross, if you're listening, 0:10:24.920 --> 0:10:27.839 this was I was. Yeah. I was definitely very very 0:10:27.920 --> 0:10:31.160 young when that happened. When I jumped in there just 0:10:31.400 --> 0:10:37.720 on some bullshit. I wasn't even serious. Ye I'm like, Nigga, 0:10:37.760 --> 0:10:45.520 my birthday coming up? What's up? Yeah, same birthday. A 0:10:45.600 --> 0:10:48.560 lot of need he needs some he needs some real guidance, 0:10:48.559 --> 0:10:50.600 and he needs some real friends. So I just want 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:54.440 to be Kanye's friend. Ye want to be your friend. 0:10:55.520 --> 0:10:58.480 So I just saw this come up. Aaron Hernandez's brother. 0:10:58.960 --> 0:11:01.880 I don't know if y'all remember that, the former NFL 0:11:02.080 --> 0:11:06.280 player who actually committed suicide in prison after being convicted 0:11:06.360 --> 0:11:11.400 of multiple murders. His brother apparently throw a brick through 0:11:11.760 --> 0:11:15.800 ESPN's headquarters and with a note attached it says to 0:11:15.880 --> 0:11:20.440 all media outlets, It's about time, y'all, It's about time 0:11:20.520 --> 0:11:23.360 you all realize. He spelled it r E A l 0:11:23.520 --> 0:11:30.520 E y E s that theft realize YEA. He liked 0:11:30.640 --> 0:11:32.559 third Eye in the middle of the forehead, like y'all 0:11:32.600 --> 0:11:36.240 niggas need to realize the effect media has on all 0:11:36.360 --> 0:11:39.920 family members. Since you're a worldwide leader, maybe you could 0:11:40.040 --> 0:11:43.440 lead how media and messages are delivered brick by brick, 0:11:43.960 --> 0:11:48.000 Clean it up, yours truly, Dennis ja Hernandez. So, of 0:11:48.080 --> 0:11:53.920 course he's been arrested. Well, he admitted to being at ESPN, 0:11:54.000 --> 0:11:56.880 but didn't wish to speak about the incident. Dennis was 0:11:56.960 --> 0:12:01.000 advised to stay off ESPN's campus or he could get 0:12:01.080 --> 0:12:03.600 arrest Oh. Actually, so he wasn't arrested yet. You could 0:12:03.600 --> 0:12:06.880 get arrested or charge of trust passet. They feel bad 0:12:06.920 --> 0:12:09.439 for him. I'm kind of that's kind of sad that 0:12:09.559 --> 0:12:13.439 whole situation is all think he committed suicide. It's just 0:12:13.600 --> 0:12:18.679 rather that whole story just when it came out, you know, 0:12:18.720 --> 0:12:20.880 because that, you know what, that brings up a conversation 0:12:20.960 --> 0:12:24.400 about CTE and things like that. Because there was a 0:12:24.480 --> 0:12:28.520 guy in Charlotte just recently last year who he was 0:12:28.600 --> 0:12:30.880 an x NFL player. I don't know his name, I 0:12:30.960 --> 0:12:34.439 can't think of it, but a newly x NFL player 0:12:34.480 --> 0:12:38.160 who has some mental illness all of a sudden, and 0:12:38.280 --> 0:12:41.480 he killed his doctor. His doctor's wife and their two 0:12:41.559 --> 0:12:44.800 grandkids and the housekeeper. Yeah. Oh and people working on 0:12:44.840 --> 0:12:47.520 the air condition outside. Wait, I saw this in the news. 0:12:47.920 --> 0:12:52.200 Oh my goodness. I didn't know that was in Charlotte though. Yeah. Yeah, 0:12:52.240 --> 0:12:55.040 like four meal, like right outside of Charlotte. And it 0:12:55.160 --> 0:12:57.680 just brings up a conversation about CT and what there 0:12:57.800 --> 0:12:59.920 was boys putting their body through to get that money. Man, 0:13:01.280 --> 0:13:03.679 Because do you think an Hernandez would have been the 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:07.160 way he was had he not been in I think 0:13:07.200 --> 0:13:10.080 did you watched that documentary? He was a killer? Yes? 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:14.000 And was he a killer before he got into n 0:13:14.720 --> 0:13:17.319 And when you add money to ego and stuff like that, 0:13:17.440 --> 0:13:21.679 people get kind of wild. I feel like oftentimes celebrities 0:13:22.000 --> 0:13:24.520 people and in sports and stuff like that, they kind 0:13:24.520 --> 0:13:27.040 of go under the radar. They are not exempt from 0:13:27.040 --> 0:13:31.120 being serial killers and sociopaths and psychopaths. They're not exempt, 0:13:31.240 --> 0:13:33.440 but nobody's looking at them, you know what I'm saying. 0:13:33.480 --> 0:13:35.880 So they actually have the means to get away with 0:13:36.000 --> 0:13:38.200 a lot of the ship. They could be serial killers, 0:13:38.240 --> 0:13:40.760 but nobody looking at them. Right. I remember it was 0:13:40.800 --> 0:13:44.800 like a decapitated body found in Hollywood Hills, like Middle 0:13:44.840 --> 0:13:49.360 Eastern person, Who the fuck did it. Nobody ever got 0:13:49.480 --> 0:13:52.880 arrested for it, but they just when you got a 0:13:52.920 --> 0:13:54.600 bunch of money, you're sitting around and thinking like, damn, 0:13:54.640 --> 0:14:01.760 what have I not done? Right? But that's crazy? Yeah? 0:14:04.280 --> 0:14:11.680 Is that how we're end in stupid internet news with murder? Murder? Yeah, 0:14:11.920 --> 0:14:13.880 we're gonna take a break on that note. It'll be 0:14:14.040 --> 0:14:21.560 right back. Okay, guys, we're back and we're not talking 0:14:21.600 --> 0:14:25.280 about that crazy. I want to talk to you Mia. Yeah, 0:14:25.400 --> 0:14:31.000 what's all right? So let's talk about relationships and being 0:14:31.080 --> 0:14:34.920 full figure? All right, let's talk all right? So first 0:14:35.040 --> 0:14:37.160 let me ask you, do you like the word full 0:14:37.200 --> 0:14:39.760 figure or do you prefer something? I feel like there's 0:14:39.800 --> 0:14:43.880 just so many words that people have just added. I mean, 0:14:43.960 --> 0:14:45.640 plus eze is coool. I know, I don't. Some people 0:14:45.640 --> 0:14:47.240 don't like that. Some people don't like the word fat. 0:14:47.400 --> 0:14:49.360 I thought that's what full figure. It's just too much. 0:14:49.400 --> 0:14:52.000 It's too much talking, like, there's too many words plus size. 0:14:53.000 --> 0:14:55.560 So what you would be? Okay? If I said fat? 0:14:56.080 --> 0:15:02.000 I feel like that's offensive. If I'm fighting, if see 0:15:02.040 --> 0:15:04.000 it's it's like it's like one of those things it 0:15:04.120 --> 0:15:06.280 has like a it can have like a positive and 0:15:06.360 --> 0:15:08.920 a negative, like connotation. But plus size is just like 0:15:09.040 --> 0:15:11.360 you know, the word society has deemed you know, like 0:15:12.000 --> 0:15:14.600 so we go with that one plus size versus full figure. 0:15:14.640 --> 0:15:17.320 You know, people start saying voluptuous and all that other stuff. 0:15:17.440 --> 0:15:19.720 Just stop. It's just too much. You're doing too much, 0:15:20.000 --> 0:15:23.000 too much. So do you feel like have you ever 0:15:23.120 --> 0:15:27.040 felt like being plus size has hindered you from like 0:15:27.680 --> 0:15:31.320 having successful relationships, are finding a partner forever? I mean 0:15:31.400 --> 0:15:33.760 in some aspects. I mean, for the record, I get 0:15:33.840 --> 0:15:38.200 niggas period period. But for the record, we all consider 0:15:38.280 --> 0:15:44.720 plus size based on the BMI and all child women. 0:15:45.280 --> 0:15:50.280 But um I always that's so when it comes to 0:15:50.400 --> 0:15:51.920 like that, like I know, like people always say like 0:15:51.960 --> 0:15:53.920 plus size day. I remember, like they tried to kill 0:15:54.000 --> 0:15:56.160 me on Twitter and they told me I had pretty 0:15:56.160 --> 0:15:59.400 plus sized privilege. I'm like, y'all just adding labels stuff. Yeah, 0:15:59.440 --> 0:16:01.280 that's a whole the topic. But I I mean I 0:16:01.360 --> 0:16:03.560 feel like, yes, being a plus sized woman, there are 0:16:03.680 --> 0:16:06.680 things you know that you I had to learn, Like, 0:16:06.800 --> 0:16:09.320 I mean, I'm thirty four now, I'm not everybody's type, 0:16:09.360 --> 0:16:11.960 just like everybody isn't my type. But I just feel 0:16:11.960 --> 0:16:13.880 like it all kind of goes by, like you know, 0:16:13.960 --> 0:16:15.520 how you present stuff. I remember I had like this 0:16:15.640 --> 0:16:17.040 guy tell me I was like trying to talk to 0:16:17.080 --> 0:16:18.680 his frin. He was like, oh, he don't like big girls, 0:16:18.720 --> 0:16:21.200 and I was like fuck you. Then, like I mean, okay, 0:16:21.280 --> 0:16:23.400 whoop do you do? Like it wasn't gonna hurt my feelings. 0:16:23.440 --> 0:16:24.800 But I think, like maybe when I was like in 0:16:24.880 --> 0:16:27.440 middle school, high school with a little bit different, but 0:16:27.680 --> 0:16:29.600 I mean just now just kind of coming to know 0:16:29.800 --> 0:16:33.520 like what I like, I can see the the issues 0:16:33.600 --> 0:16:36.880 people have and just because I feel like maybe I 0:16:36.920 --> 0:16:39.000 mean I'm not in a successful relationship, but I mean 0:16:39.040 --> 0:16:41.040 I've been able to like navigate dating. You just have 0:16:41.160 --> 0:16:43.640 to date who likes you. So I think that's the 0:16:43.680 --> 0:16:45.480 thing that people have to also understand too, is like 0:16:45.520 --> 0:16:47.240 you can't get mad if like a guy that you're 0:16:47.280 --> 0:16:49.560 going after a girl you're going after if they don't 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:51.440 like you based off your physical appearance. I mean, because 0:16:51.480 --> 0:16:53.360 because I can be like, you know, I don't like skinny, 0:16:53.400 --> 0:16:57.960 light skin dudes. I like dark skinned guys, so soobody 0:16:58.000 --> 0:17:07.520 could easily that's fine. That is a very nice guy. 0:17:07.680 --> 0:17:11.800 I mean, I have my own his hair is really nice. 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:15.159 So it's like I think, like I see that, like, 0:17:15.320 --> 0:17:17.399 you know, the struggles and even like for myself sometimes 0:17:17.440 --> 0:17:20.200 I'd just be like, Okay, what if I look different, 0:17:20.240 --> 0:17:21.520 maybe like you would like me. I'll be like, why 0:17:21.560 --> 0:17:24.000 would you want to change the way you look to fit? 0:17:24.200 --> 0:17:26.520 You know? Or you know, like I've had guys like 0:17:26.560 --> 0:17:29.080 say stuff because I mean I had my weight has 0:17:29.080 --> 0:17:30.960 like fluctuated and things like that, and now like I've 0:17:30.960 --> 0:17:32.440 really been in the gym. I remember this dude was 0:17:32.440 --> 0:17:34.639 like in my snapchat dms, like somebody used to fuck with, 0:17:34.800 --> 0:17:36.560 like for real, and he's like, oh, I see you, 0:17:36.680 --> 0:17:38.520 you're losing weight. And then he'll make like little comments 0:17:38.520 --> 0:17:40.119 like oh, when you're gonna get your body done? I'm like, 0:17:40.200 --> 0:17:42.560 you're not the niket for me. Like, and even if 0:17:42.600 --> 0:17:44.359 I decided to do that, Like what would ever in 0:17:44.400 --> 0:17:46.320 your life make you think you can't even touch the 0:17:46.400 --> 0:17:51.560 new body? The current body? Like right, yeah, so so 0:17:51.760 --> 0:17:56.439 do you feel like um body positivity sometimes promotes an 0:17:56.560 --> 0:17:59.680 unhealthy lifestyle because there's a conversation about no. Absolutely, I 0:17:59.720 --> 0:18:03.359 think the whole body positivity movement has been totally gentrified 0:18:03.440 --> 0:18:06.000 and it's just it's just a shit show now, Like 0:18:06.080 --> 0:18:08.760 I remember, like it when that whole movement came about. 0:18:08.800 --> 0:18:11.360 It was supposed to be you know, like to empower 0:18:11.560 --> 0:18:14.320 like you know, women who go beyond like the regular size, 0:18:14.359 --> 0:18:16.320 plus size women just you know, to love themselves, to 0:18:16.440 --> 0:18:19.240 embrace themselves. Now, I always see the argument people say 0:18:19.440 --> 0:18:22.120 when it comes like, oh, it's promoting unhealthiness. But it's 0:18:22.119 --> 0:18:25.120 just like, okay, like nobody says anything to people who 0:18:25.680 --> 0:18:27.879 you know, who are intorexic or whatever the case may be. 0:18:27.960 --> 0:18:30.200 I just I don't know what society's thing is about 0:18:30.200 --> 0:18:32.119 always picking on fat people. I just don't get it. 0:18:32.160 --> 0:18:34.720 I'm like, if they're happy, you know whatever. Now me, 0:18:34.880 --> 0:18:36.800 on the other hand, I mean, yeah, there is I 0:18:36.880 --> 0:18:39.480 feel like there's a point when all right, you know 0:18:39.560 --> 0:18:41.800 you're pre diabetic, things like that. But it's just like 0:18:42.320 --> 0:18:44.760 I don't think it promotes an unhealthy lifestyle. I think 0:18:44.760 --> 0:18:46.480 it's just a community for people to feel like some 0:18:46.600 --> 0:18:48.879 type of togetherness so they can just feel, you know, 0:18:49.080 --> 0:18:51.440 like feel some type of love, some type of sense 0:18:51.480 --> 0:18:54.119 of like belonging. Because like, yeah, because growing up, I 0:18:54.160 --> 0:18:57.000 mean I didn't have like any type of positive plus 0:18:57.040 --> 0:18:59.439 sized role models. I mean, like Monique, no shade to her, 0:18:59.520 --> 0:19:01.440 but that wasn't somebody, you know, who I looked up to, 0:19:01.640 --> 0:19:04.159 like Monique and Nicky Parker. I just always felt like 0:19:04.200 --> 0:19:06.399 there was every time it was like a plus sized 0:19:06.440 --> 0:19:09.080 person in the media, they were always funny, yea, the 0:19:09.160 --> 0:19:11.680 Big Mama and yeah, and I was just like, you know, 0:19:11.880 --> 0:19:14.800 I'm cute, I'm glamorous, I like fashion. There was never 0:19:14.920 --> 0:19:17.160 anything like that. So I'm just like, Wow, fast forward 0:19:17.200 --> 0:19:21.240 to today, you have so much representation. So but just 0:19:21.400 --> 0:19:23.080 kind of back in what I said about it just 0:19:23.160 --> 0:19:26.200 being gentrified. Like when you go to Instagram you type 0:19:26.240 --> 0:19:29.520 in like hashtag body positivity, You'll see all these Caucasian 0:19:29.560 --> 0:19:33.160 women who might be like a size twelve, and they're 0:19:33.320 --> 0:19:35.640 hunched over so they can make their roles look pronounced, 0:19:35.640 --> 0:19:38.119 and they're like, oh, I embraced my body. I'm like, girl, No, 0:19:38.680 --> 0:19:41.080 you don't, like you can go on Zara and find 0:19:41.160 --> 0:19:43.600 something aware, you know, Like, So, I just feel like 0:19:44.320 --> 0:19:47.480 I've personally just kind of like in my influencer journey, 0:19:47.600 --> 0:19:51.320 I've kind of I learned the plus sized community is 0:19:51.440 --> 0:19:54.400 very weird, and I just I developed my own lane 0:19:54.440 --> 0:19:55.639 once I kind of figured out, like, you know, I 0:19:55.680 --> 0:19:57.359 found my niche of what I wanted to do. I 0:19:57.520 --> 0:19:59.399 was just like, I don't really need all these labels 0:19:59.440 --> 0:20:01.280 to define I am, like, you know what I'm doing. 0:20:01.400 --> 0:20:03.960 You know it works for me, right. We all know 0:20:04.119 --> 0:20:06.879 men men love plus size women. I talk about this before. 0:20:08.160 --> 0:20:10.639 I've talked about this before. How one of my exes 0:20:10.720 --> 0:20:14.359 he would always cheat with, Like I used to have 0:20:14.480 --> 0:20:16.040 a whole problem, Like if I would have saw you, 0:20:16.320 --> 0:20:22.320 like out in public somewhere, I'm like, I know, like 0:20:22.560 --> 0:20:24.440 he likes this. You know what I'm saying, Like he, 0:20:25.440 --> 0:20:27.359 But that's so crazy because like that's one but they 0:20:27.400 --> 0:20:29.200 don't they think like they want to get they would 0:20:29.240 --> 0:20:31.159 get shamed better friends. It's like that's the thing. No, 0:20:31.280 --> 0:20:33.720 but some people have like a BBW fetish And I'm 0:20:33.760 --> 0:20:36.680 just like, I think men who have had big moms 0:20:36.800 --> 0:20:38.760 that's what they attracted to. I don't know, but I 0:20:38.760 --> 0:20:41.680 don't like guys like I love big girls. I like 0:20:41.840 --> 0:20:43.600 chubby girls. I'm like, I'm sorry, baby, I'm not that 0:20:43.720 --> 0:20:46.719 one for you, right this one this is different over here. 0:20:47.040 --> 0:20:49.200 I don't want to be fetish sized or anything like 0:20:49.320 --> 0:20:51.840 that because, like you, you always know those guys who 0:20:52.000 --> 0:20:54.960 who have those vibes, and I'm just like, that's never 0:20:55.400 --> 0:20:56.800 going to be the guy for me, Like, I just 0:20:57.800 --> 0:20:59.159 that's just not what I like. I'm like, I go 0:20:59.240 --> 0:21:02.440 where I'm celebrated it like, but I mean, isn't that 0:21:02.600 --> 0:21:05.000 celebrating you know? If he said I like chubby girls, 0:21:05.040 --> 0:21:08.640 I like big girls. But it's like those are those 0:21:08.720 --> 0:21:11.800 guys are always real creepy, like every single time. Like 0:21:12.400 --> 0:21:14.760