1 00:00:01,200 --> 00:00:05,960 Speaker 1: Brooke, how much control do women have over their friends relationships. 2 00:00:06,559 --> 00:00:08,320 Speaker 2: I'm going to go with none, really. 3 00:00:08,480 --> 00:00:09,000 Speaker 3: I don't know. 4 00:00:09,720 --> 00:00:12,360 Speaker 4: There's a little bit of influence, but honestly, we usually 5 00:00:12,400 --> 00:00:15,680 Speaker 4: just grid our teeth through whatever terrible relationship they're in, 6 00:00:15,960 --> 00:00:18,200 Speaker 4: and then when they finally break up, they're like, oh, 7 00:00:18,239 --> 00:00:20,360 Speaker 4: that's so sad that we don't really mean it. 8 00:00:20,480 --> 00:00:20,680 Speaker 5: Yeah. 9 00:00:22,239 --> 00:00:25,120 Speaker 1: I was assuming that you have definitely gone to most 10 00:00:25,160 --> 00:00:27,400 Speaker 1: of your friend group at some point and said, in 11 00:00:27,440 --> 00:00:29,360 Speaker 1: your classic Brook tone. 12 00:00:29,160 --> 00:00:31,720 Speaker 2: Oh honey, no. 13 00:00:31,560 --> 00:00:34,479 Speaker 1: You need to dump that zero god because I'm one 14 00:00:35,280 --> 00:00:39,960 Speaker 1: satisfied with my relationship. Just hold on for a second, golf, 15 00:00:45,880 --> 00:00:47,560 Speaker 1: don't make yourself your own dinner. 16 00:00:47,960 --> 00:00:51,520 Speaker 4: Yeah, your fantasies of me are very strange. 17 00:00:51,960 --> 00:00:52,599 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not. 18 00:00:52,960 --> 00:00:54,280 Speaker 4: That's really far. 19 00:00:54,200 --> 00:00:56,720 Speaker 1: From too accurate, a little too close to home. I 20 00:00:57,280 --> 00:01:00,240 Speaker 1: thought you guys have a lot of pull because we 21 00:01:00,560 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 1: try do. 22 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:03,480 Speaker 4: We try to support each other unless now the one 23 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:05,600 Speaker 4: if you're like, if Alexis came to me and was like, 24 00:01:05,640 --> 00:01:07,080 Speaker 4: oh my god, I hate this guy, I'd be like, 25 00:01:07,160 --> 00:01:09,600 Speaker 4: I hate him. 26 00:01:09,680 --> 00:01:10,319 Speaker 6: That's the question. 27 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:12,280 Speaker 2: Do we want a solution or do we just want 28 00:01:12,280 --> 00:01:12,600 Speaker 2: to ran? 29 00:01:12,959 --> 00:01:15,040 Speaker 1: I can tell you as a man, it can feel 30 00:01:15,120 --> 00:01:17,920 Speaker 1: scary when you think that your girlfriend's social circle is 31 00:01:17,959 --> 00:01:21,360 Speaker 1: turning against you, when you can feel it kind of happening. 32 00:01:21,440 --> 00:01:23,720 Speaker 1: And that's what made one of our listeners email us 33 00:01:23,760 --> 00:01:27,440 Speaker 1: for help. His name is Jonah, and he agreed to 34 00:01:27,480 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 1: be a part of am I the Jerk Today. 35 00:01:29,720 --> 00:01:30,360 Speaker 6: We have done this. 36 00:01:30,840 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 1: It's been a while, so let's welcome Jonah to the show. Jonah, 37 00:01:34,040 --> 00:01:34,640 Speaker 1: how's it going? 38 00:01:35,080 --> 00:01:36,320 Speaker 7: Hey, I'm doing all right. 39 00:01:36,360 --> 00:01:38,440 Speaker 2: How are you guys doing good? I'm in the middle. 40 00:01:38,440 --> 00:01:39,560 Speaker 2: I don't know if I want to be nice to 41 00:01:39,600 --> 00:01:42,959 Speaker 2: you yet. He sounds like a nice guy so far. 42 00:01:43,600 --> 00:01:43,840 Speaker 5: You do? 43 00:01:43,959 --> 00:01:47,800 Speaker 1: Actually, now, is your girlfriend buddies with Brooke? Because if so, 44 00:01:48,040 --> 00:01:48,960 Speaker 1: you're starting. 45 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:49,560 Speaker 2: In a hole already. 46 00:01:49,640 --> 00:01:50,600 Speaker 7: But god, I hope not. 47 00:01:52,200 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 2: Tell us what's going on with you and your relationship? 48 00:01:54,880 --> 00:01:56,720 Speaker 7: Well, my girlfriend and I we've been together about a 49 00:01:56,760 --> 00:01:57,160 Speaker 7: year now. 50 00:01:57,320 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 4: Okay, that's always a tricky time, you know, like you 51 00:02:00,240 --> 00:02:02,640 Speaker 4: do you go like you know, yeah, you're getting It's 52 00:02:02,640 --> 00:02:04,400 Speaker 4: a transition point in a relationship. 53 00:02:04,440 --> 00:02:09,600 Speaker 6: It's like ten years, like yeah. 54 00:02:08,080 --> 00:02:10,440 Speaker 7: Yeah, exactly, we're starting to set long term habits and stuff. 55 00:02:11,840 --> 00:02:14,359 Speaker 7: Early on, when we first started seeing each other, we'd 56 00:02:14,360 --> 00:02:16,520 Speaker 7: spend the night with each other, maybe like once a week, 57 00:02:16,680 --> 00:02:19,000 Speaker 7: sometimes at my place, sometimes at her place. 58 00:02:19,919 --> 00:02:21,639 Speaker 2: That seems pretty healthy, that's normal. 59 00:02:21,840 --> 00:02:24,639 Speaker 7: Yeah, right, But these last few months now, as we've 60 00:02:24,639 --> 00:02:27,600 Speaker 7: been getting closer, she's been staying over at my apartment 61 00:02:27,639 --> 00:02:30,119 Speaker 7: a lot more like I'm talking four or five nights 62 00:02:30,120 --> 00:02:30,440 Speaker 7: a week. 63 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:33,560 Speaker 1: Oh, like in your room or out on the couch 64 00:02:34,960 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 1: my room? 65 00:02:36,600 --> 00:02:37,240 Speaker 2: Did she do that? 66 00:02:37,320 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 4: Like slowly move in, move you know when first it's 67 00:02:40,200 --> 00:02:43,000 Speaker 4: a toothbrush, then it's maybe, honey, can I have a drawer? 68 00:02:44,000 --> 00:02:46,799 Speaker 2: There's a whole new dresser in here somehow. Wait a minute, 69 00:02:46,880 --> 00:02:47,880 Speaker 2: everything's real rage. 70 00:02:48,440 --> 00:02:51,080 Speaker 7: Wait, maybe you guys have met. 71 00:02:51,480 --> 00:02:53,680 Speaker 1: Okay, so she's spending more more time over at your 72 00:02:53,720 --> 00:02:55,120 Speaker 1: place now exactly. 73 00:02:55,200 --> 00:02:57,080 Speaker 7: Yeah, and it's totally fine, don't get me wrong. I 74 00:02:57,120 --> 00:02:59,160 Speaker 7: love it. And she has a roommate at her place, 75 00:02:59,200 --> 00:03:01,720 Speaker 7: so being a let's just be alone and stuff. So 76 00:03:01,760 --> 00:03:02,200 Speaker 7: that's great. 77 00:03:02,919 --> 00:03:03,919 Speaker 6: You're a better situation. 78 00:03:04,040 --> 00:03:04,280 Speaker 2: Yeah. 79 00:03:04,280 --> 00:03:06,040 Speaker 4: So that, I mean, that explains why she's always at 80 00:03:06,040 --> 00:03:07,360 Speaker 4: your place and you're not at hers. 81 00:03:07,960 --> 00:03:08,840 Speaker 2: So what's the issue. 82 00:03:09,080 --> 00:03:09,240 Speaker 4: Uh? 83 00:03:09,280 --> 00:03:12,720 Speaker 7: The issue is that every since she's been staying over 84 00:03:12,880 --> 00:03:15,760 Speaker 7: my place more, I've noticed that my utility bills have 85 00:03:15,840 --> 00:03:17,000 Speaker 7: all gone way up. 86 00:03:17,720 --> 00:03:23,080 Speaker 6: Oh like the water and electricity, and yes, thank you 87 00:03:23,160 --> 00:03:28,280 Speaker 6: for telling everyone what utilities are garbage. 88 00:03:33,840 --> 00:03:34,320 Speaker 4: Cover them. 89 00:03:34,600 --> 00:03:37,240 Speaker 2: That's pretty good. Okay, do you think it's her fault? 90 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:37,680 Speaker 3: Oh? 91 00:03:37,760 --> 00:03:40,040 Speaker 7: Yeah, for sure. I mean in the best way possible 92 00:03:40,680 --> 00:03:43,080 Speaker 7: that she really liked her hot showers and she loves 93 00:03:43,120 --> 00:03:47,040 Speaker 7: to cook. I got gas stove, and she's always cold, 94 00:03:47,080 --> 00:03:49,200 Speaker 7: so the heater is on anytime she's over in my place. 95 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:51,440 Speaker 4: Well, it makes sense that, I mean, you have two 96 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:52,720 Speaker 4: people living there instead of one. 97 00:03:52,800 --> 00:03:54,360 Speaker 3: This is like when my friends come with live with 98 00:03:54,360 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 3: me for two months. 99 00:03:55,160 --> 00:03:55,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, you know. 100 00:03:57,680 --> 00:03:59,360 Speaker 6: Hey, I almost loomed into a place that was so 101 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:01,680 Speaker 6: strict days you can't have that many guests because we 102 00:04:01,680 --> 00:04:03,920 Speaker 6: don't want you to take the utilities away from other people. 103 00:04:03,960 --> 00:04:07,640 Speaker 2: What's expensive. It kind of comes with the terrorist though, 104 00:04:07,760 --> 00:04:08,920 Speaker 2: right Jona, Yeah, I. 105 00:04:08,880 --> 00:04:11,520 Speaker 7: Mean a little bit. Sure, it gets pretty crisy, and 106 00:04:11,560 --> 00:04:14,600 Speaker 7: I guess my budget didn't have that factored in. I 107 00:04:14,600 --> 00:04:16,040 Speaker 7: didn't really know it was going to be an issue 108 00:04:16,080 --> 00:04:19,120 Speaker 7: until it was. Okay, I was trying to think of 109 00:04:19,279 --> 00:04:23,120 Speaker 7: solutions that were fair, so I asked her maybe she 110 00:04:23,200 --> 00:04:25,919 Speaker 7: could just drop me four dollars for every night that 111 00:04:25,960 --> 00:04:27,960 Speaker 7: she stays over, just to kind of off that off. 112 00:04:27,960 --> 00:04:28,919 Speaker 7: Those all those costs. 113 00:04:29,120 --> 00:04:31,719 Speaker 2: Four dollars per night she's over at your place. 114 00:04:32,520 --> 00:04:34,760 Speaker 7: Yeah, huh. I didn't think it was a big deal. 115 00:04:34,800 --> 00:04:35,480 Speaker 7: It seemed fair. 116 00:04:35,600 --> 00:04:39,400 Speaker 2: Did you bring that up to her? Yeah? Yeah, weird 117 00:04:39,400 --> 00:04:41,720 Speaker 2: way to do it, it is. Yeah, what was her 118 00:04:41,760 --> 00:04:43,200 Speaker 2: reaction when you said that? 119 00:04:43,800 --> 00:04:45,800 Speaker 7: I mean, you know, she took a minute to think 120 00:04:45,839 --> 00:04:48,280 Speaker 7: about it, but she ended up agreeing. She was like, yeah, 121 00:04:48,320 --> 00:04:50,159 Speaker 7: I guess this makes sense, and it's okay. It's not 122 00:04:50,200 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 7: a big deal. It's only four bucks here in there. 123 00:04:52,360 --> 00:04:54,360 Speaker 4: But I mean, but it adds up like twenty bucks 124 00:04:54,440 --> 00:04:56,200 Speaker 4: a week. That's twenty bucks a month. 125 00:04:56,680 --> 00:04:58,680 Speaker 7: I mean it does. She's going to be basically living 126 00:04:58,720 --> 00:05:00,280 Speaker 7: on my place, and I think it's fair. 127 00:05:00,839 --> 00:05:02,520 Speaker 2: But she said, she said she agreed to it. 128 00:05:02,960 --> 00:05:05,120 Speaker 7: She did. Yeah, she agreed to it, and everything was great. 129 00:05:05,839 --> 00:05:09,520 Speaker 7: The problem, like I would tell her sometimes before we 130 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:11,760 Speaker 7: go to bed, hey, don't forget that four buck venmo. 131 00:05:12,040 --> 00:05:17,240 Speaker 4: And it just feels like such a nickel and dime 132 00:05:17,320 --> 00:05:18,200 Speaker 4: type of situation. 133 00:05:18,560 --> 00:05:20,360 Speaker 6: In his defense, what if there's a week she only 134 00:05:20,360 --> 00:05:22,160 Speaker 6: comes twice, then she is not gonna have to. 135 00:05:22,120 --> 00:05:24,160 Speaker 4: Do the You're gonna tell her right before bet? 136 00:05:24,680 --> 00:05:30,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, good night hunting. I mean, I. 137 00:05:30,320 --> 00:05:34,279 Speaker 4: Can't think of more unsexy. 138 00:05:34,279 --> 00:05:36,560 Speaker 7: Sure, but it's not just before that either. I should 139 00:05:36,560 --> 00:05:38,920 Speaker 7: also mentioned that. And this is where the real problem 140 00:05:38,960 --> 00:05:41,800 Speaker 7: comes in. One morning, I left for work and she 141 00:05:41,880 --> 00:05:43,760 Speaker 7: hadn't sent the four bucks yet, so I just left 142 00:05:43,800 --> 00:05:45,440 Speaker 7: her a cute little note saying, hey, baby, I'll see 143 00:05:45,440 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 7: you later. Don't forget the four dollars. 144 00:05:47,040 --> 00:05:54,719 Speaker 2: Right, It's like she's dating a bill collector money. 145 00:05:55,760 --> 00:05:58,520 Speaker 7: Well, this is the thing. That morning, when I left 146 00:05:58,520 --> 00:06:00,000 Speaker 7: her the note and I went to work, I guess 147 00:06:00,080 --> 00:06:03,640 Speaker 7: her friends came over while I was at work. They 148 00:06:03,720 --> 00:06:06,600 Speaker 7: saw the note and they started saying it was a bill. 149 00:06:07,160 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 7: And now they're all in my girlfriend's ears, saying that 150 00:06:09,240 --> 00:06:12,479 Speaker 7: I'm super cheap and that, like, is she really sure 151 00:06:12,520 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 7: that I'm the guy that she wants to marry if 152 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:17,040 Speaker 7: I'm charging her four dollars to stay at my place? 153 00:06:17,160 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 2: And like, here's the problem. 154 00:06:18,720 --> 00:06:22,520 Speaker 7: Okay, here's I don't think it's that serious, so living 155 00:06:22,560 --> 00:06:22,800 Speaker 7: with me. 156 00:06:22,839 --> 00:06:25,560 Speaker 1: You know, her friends are now saying that you're a 157 00:06:25,640 --> 00:06:27,960 Speaker 1: cheap guy. What is your girlfriend's opinion? 158 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:30,479 Speaker 7: Starting to side with them a little bit, you guys 159 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:32,400 Speaker 7: were saying early, you know how you can just feel it. 160 00:06:33,000 --> 00:06:33,840 Speaker 7: I can feel it. 161 00:06:34,160 --> 00:06:36,839 Speaker 4: I have a feeling that it was the nagging even, 162 00:06:37,040 --> 00:06:39,000 Speaker 4: you know, like maybe she said okay and then she 163 00:06:39,000 --> 00:06:40,680 Speaker 4: didn't realize really what she. 164 00:06:40,600 --> 00:06:41,520 Speaker 2: Was signing up for. 165 00:06:41,839 --> 00:06:44,520 Speaker 1: I think what makes it sound kind of cheap is 166 00:06:44,560 --> 00:06:47,719 Speaker 1: the fact that you're billing her just four dollars per time. 167 00:06:48,120 --> 00:06:51,040 Speaker 1: Maybe if you get a flat monthly rate like check 168 00:06:51,160 --> 00:06:54,080 Speaker 1: up flat sixty dollars a month, I think the. 169 00:06:54,040 --> 00:06:55,600 Speaker 4: Whole thing sounds cheap, right. 170 00:06:56,120 --> 00:06:57,599 Speaker 2: That's a personality thing too. 171 00:06:57,680 --> 00:07:00,360 Speaker 1: So your girlfriend was okay with paying the four dollars 172 00:07:00,360 --> 00:07:01,479 Speaker 1: a month at first, or. 173 00:07:02,120 --> 00:07:02,760 Speaker 2: Don't you dare? 174 00:07:03,200 --> 00:07:06,560 Speaker 1: Yes, four dollars a month would have been very reasonable, 175 00:07:06,600 --> 00:07:09,279 Speaker 1: four dollars per night she stays over. But ever since 176 00:07:09,320 --> 00:07:13,000 Speaker 1: her friend's gotten her ear, now she's more upset with you. 177 00:07:13,640 --> 00:07:16,320 Speaker 4: Yeah, ever since her friend saw your bill on the table, 178 00:07:16,520 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 4: I said, she woke up to your note. 179 00:07:18,120 --> 00:07:21,040 Speaker 1: So are you worried that maybe the relationship is starting 180 00:07:21,080 --> 00:07:21,760 Speaker 1: to turn? 181 00:07:22,440 --> 00:07:24,840 Speaker 7: Well, there's that aspect of it, But I'm also like 182 00:07:24,880 --> 00:07:28,040 Speaker 7: it's double sided because if things don't turn, if we 183 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:30,640 Speaker 7: keep going and everything's great, yeah, but if we get 184 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:32,920 Speaker 7: married one day and we buy a house and then 185 00:07:33,320 --> 00:07:37,080 Speaker 7: what she doesn't want to have to contribute anything? 186 00:07:37,680 --> 00:07:38,720 Speaker 2: Does she still live? 187 00:07:39,080 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 1: Does she still live in the apartment, is only staying 188 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:44,800 Speaker 1: at the house every few nights, but she paid four dollars. 189 00:07:45,560 --> 00:07:47,680 Speaker 2: I'm sure she contributes into other ways. 190 00:07:47,880 --> 00:07:52,000 Speaker 4: She pays her own rent right now, buying food, taking 191 00:07:52,080 --> 00:07:55,720 Speaker 4: you like, splitting bills out to dinner. You know, like 192 00:07:56,200 --> 00:07:59,120 Speaker 4: you stayed at her place and she didn't charge you. 193 00:07:59,240 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 2: Yeah, she's not very financially savvy. Clearly someone needs to be. 194 00:08:02,920 --> 00:08:05,600 Speaker 1: You're wondering, though, Jonah, if you're the jerk in this 195 00:08:05,680 --> 00:08:09,720 Speaker 1: situation for charging your girlfriend four dollars per night that 196 00:08:09,760 --> 00:08:11,120 Speaker 1: she stays over, or. 197 00:08:11,480 --> 00:08:13,400 Speaker 7: When you say it like that, it sounds like I'm 198 00:08:13,400 --> 00:08:14,240 Speaker 7: definitely a jerk. 199 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:17,520 Speaker 2: I'm glad you're self aware enough to hear that. How 200 00:08:17,560 --> 00:08:18,640 Speaker 2: do you want me to say it? 201 00:08:18,760 --> 00:08:21,920 Speaker 7: Maybe we say, am I a jerk for expecting my 202 00:08:22,000 --> 00:08:23,880 Speaker 7: girl to pitch in on the utilities? 203 00:08:23,960 --> 00:08:26,640 Speaker 2: Okay? Okay when she is causing them to go up? 204 00:08:27,320 --> 00:08:31,240 Speaker 6: More specific, charge my girlfriend four dollars every single time 205 00:08:31,320 --> 00:08:31,800 Speaker 6: she steps it? 206 00:08:31,920 --> 00:08:32,040 Speaker 4: Now? 207 00:08:32,120 --> 00:08:34,199 Speaker 7: Maybe what you say, I'm open to changing the amount? 208 00:08:34,440 --> 00:08:39,000 Speaker 2: Okay? Okay? So generous texting to seven eight, five, nine 209 00:08:39,000 --> 00:08:39,280 Speaker 2: to two. 210 00:08:39,520 --> 00:08:41,880 Speaker 1: If you think Jonah is the jerk or not in 211 00:08:41,920 --> 00:08:44,360 Speaker 1: this scenario, We're gonna come back. We'll read some of 212 00:08:44,400 --> 00:08:47,199 Speaker 1: your texts and take some palls even when we continue. 213 00:08:46,840 --> 00:08:47,520 Speaker 2: Am I the Jerk? 214 00:08:47,720 --> 00:08:51,080 Speaker 1: Right after this text into seven eighty five to nine 215 00:08:51,120 --> 00:08:55,240 Speaker 1: to two says only four bucks a night. Bro in 216 00:08:55,360 --> 00:08:59,040 Speaker 1: this economy lays that up to seven girls gotta pay 217 00:08:59,120 --> 00:08:59,800 Speaker 1: her way. 218 00:09:00,280 --> 00:09:01,640 Speaker 2: That's from jose B. 219 00:09:02,200 --> 00:09:06,520 Speaker 1: No, there's so many jose bs out there. 220 00:09:06,760 --> 00:09:09,680 Speaker 2: I'm sure it's one of the other ones. It isn't 221 00:09:09,679 --> 00:09:14,280 Speaker 2: a Green Bubbles. Just like jose stop texting in. But 222 00:09:14,679 --> 00:09:15,560 Speaker 2: if you're just joining us. 223 00:09:15,600 --> 00:09:17,320 Speaker 1: We're in the middle of a segment called am I 224 00:09:17,400 --> 00:09:19,920 Speaker 1: the Jerk where one of our listeners, Jonah, shared his 225 00:09:20,000 --> 00:09:24,160 Speaker 1: relationship issue because his girlfriend frequently spends the night over 226 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:28,160 Speaker 1: at his place, and he noticed his utility bill go way. 227 00:09:27,840 --> 00:09:29,080 Speaker 2: Up whenever she did. 228 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:31,320 Speaker 1: So, to be fair, he asked his girlfriend if she 229 00:09:31,360 --> 00:09:34,640 Speaker 1: could pay just four dollars per night that she stays 230 00:09:34,679 --> 00:09:36,000 Speaker 1: over to even it out. 231 00:09:36,160 --> 00:09:36,360 Speaker 2: Yeah. 232 00:09:36,480 --> 00:09:38,800 Speaker 1: Now, the start, she was cool with it, happy to 233 00:09:38,840 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 1: pay the money, but then she talked to her girlfriends 234 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:45,080 Speaker 1: after they found a bill sitting. 235 00:09:45,559 --> 00:09:47,679 Speaker 4: I think you're leave out all the nagging that he 236 00:09:47,760 --> 00:09:48,800 Speaker 4: did every day as well. 237 00:09:48,920 --> 00:09:53,040 Speaker 1: Jeffrey like reminding you know, it's called reminding, Yes, and 238 00:09:53,160 --> 00:09:56,120 Speaker 1: now his girlfriend is pissed about it. So we got 239 00:09:56,160 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 1: a lot of texts coming into seven eighty five nine 240 00:09:58,280 --> 00:09:59,400 Speaker 1: two A few others. 241 00:09:59,400 --> 00:10:02,400 Speaker 2: One says total cheap. Oh writings on the wall. 242 00:10:02,480 --> 00:10:04,840 Speaker 1: I'd get out of that relationship so fast you wouldn't 243 00:10:04,840 --> 00:10:06,480 Speaker 1: even see the cloud of dust behind me. 244 00:10:07,640 --> 00:10:10,120 Speaker 2: Wow, that's a little harsh about that, buddy. 245 00:10:10,720 --> 00:10:12,920 Speaker 7: I'm not sure he's talking about me or my girlfriend 246 00:10:13,000 --> 00:10:13,480 Speaker 7: being cheap. 247 00:10:13,640 --> 00:10:18,120 Speaker 2: No good point. 248 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:21,040 Speaker 1: Another text says, I'm married with three kids and this 249 00:10:21,160 --> 00:10:24,359 Speaker 1: is a great idea. I'm gonna start charging my teenager 250 00:10:24,440 --> 00:10:27,080 Speaker 1: two dollars a day for cleaning and utilities. If they 251 00:10:27,120 --> 00:10:28,959 Speaker 1: don't pay by the end of the month, evicted. 252 00:10:32,920 --> 00:10:35,000 Speaker 4: They're probably getting grip changing them. 253 00:10:35,480 --> 00:10:39,040 Speaker 2: They're probably joking, but maybe not. Jonah. What's your reaction 254 00:10:39,160 --> 00:10:40,520 Speaker 2: to the feedback that we're getting. 255 00:10:40,880 --> 00:10:43,160 Speaker 7: I mean, for the person that has kids, I think 256 00:10:43,160 --> 00:10:45,679 Speaker 7: that's a great life lesson. Kids should know that things 257 00:10:45,360 --> 00:10:46,920 Speaker 7: are funny. 258 00:10:47,120 --> 00:10:49,200 Speaker 4: Let's not turn this into a parenting thing. We're barely 259 00:10:49,280 --> 00:10:51,720 Speaker 4: into a year long relationship for you. Let's stick with that. 260 00:10:51,840 --> 00:10:54,480 Speaker 1: Yeah, we're trying to figure out is Jonah the jerk 261 00:10:54,720 --> 00:10:57,720 Speaker 1: for charging his girlfriend a little bit extra for using 262 00:10:57,720 --> 00:10:59,760 Speaker 1: the utilities? And causing them to go up. And we 263 00:10:59,840 --> 00:11:01,920 Speaker 1: got some callers who are on the phone right now 264 00:11:01,960 --> 00:11:04,480 Speaker 1: wanting to weigh in and give their two cents. Let's 265 00:11:04,520 --> 00:11:08,720 Speaker 1: go to Olivia first. Olivia, talk to Jonah here. Do 266 00:11:08,760 --> 00:11:09,600 Speaker 1: you think he's the jerk? 267 00:11:09,960 --> 00:11:10,160 Speaker 3: Yeah? 268 00:11:10,200 --> 00:11:11,760 Speaker 7: I definitely agree with her friends. 269 00:11:11,800 --> 00:11:13,400 Speaker 3: He's being like a total jerk about this. 270 00:11:13,600 --> 00:11:16,040 Speaker 2: Oh really yeah? Why do you think that? 271 00:11:16,080 --> 00:11:20,800 Speaker 4: There goes your hello, Olivia, Jonah. If he's doing this now, 272 00:11:20,840 --> 00:11:22,480 Speaker 4: it's just like a slippery slope. 273 00:11:22,559 --> 00:11:24,760 Speaker 7: Yeah, what's he going to start charging you for next? 274 00:11:24,760 --> 00:11:27,360 Speaker 7: Like toilet paperwel Oh? 275 00:11:27,480 --> 00:11:30,800 Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean she brings up a good point, Jonah. 276 00:11:31,520 --> 00:11:34,360 Speaker 7: Does she? Because I agree it is a slippery slope. 277 00:11:34,360 --> 00:11:36,360 Speaker 7: If she gets to come over and use all my 278 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:39,680 Speaker 7: gas and you know, all the electricity and everything, and 279 00:11:39,840 --> 00:11:42,280 Speaker 7: I'm just expected to pay for it, I think that's 280 00:11:42,280 --> 00:11:43,240 Speaker 7: the slippery slope too. 281 00:11:43,320 --> 00:11:44,120 Speaker 5: Yeah. But here's the thing. 282 00:11:44,200 --> 00:11:47,280 Speaker 4: You act like your girlfriend doesn't contribute at all in 283 00:11:47,320 --> 00:11:48,280 Speaker 4: your relationship. 284 00:11:48,679 --> 00:11:50,679 Speaker 7: She doesn't aside from the four dollars that. 285 00:11:50,640 --> 00:11:53,920 Speaker 4: I asked for, she doesn't do anything for you. 286 00:11:54,480 --> 00:11:56,280 Speaker 7: Well, I don't know what you mean by anything for me. 287 00:11:56,400 --> 00:12:02,920 Speaker 7: I'm talking about. 288 00:12:00,000 --> 00:12:03,520 Speaker 2: Does she cook for you? Does she drives? Does she 289 00:12:04,160 --> 00:12:05,480 Speaker 2: read you bedtime stories? 290 00:12:05,920 --> 00:12:07,720 Speaker 7: Yeah, all of those things are true. But I also 291 00:12:07,760 --> 00:12:09,800 Speaker 7: do all of those things. The only thing that's different 292 00:12:09,840 --> 00:12:12,880 Speaker 7: between us is, Hey, any of the bills, okay. 293 00:12:12,960 --> 00:12:16,120 Speaker 1: Alexis, What would you do if you're the friend who 294 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:20,000 Speaker 1: walked in and saw the bill on the table, say 295 00:12:20,160 --> 00:12:22,040 Speaker 1: you owe your boyfriend four dollars? 296 00:12:22,040 --> 00:12:23,000 Speaker 2: How would you react? 297 00:12:23,080 --> 00:12:25,240 Speaker 3: Okay? I mean there's a red a green flag. 298 00:12:25,280 --> 00:12:27,480 Speaker 4: I think the green flag is he will have money 299 00:12:27,480 --> 00:12:28,000 Speaker 4: in the future. 300 00:12:28,600 --> 00:12:29,839 Speaker 3: It's good at saving it. 301 00:12:29,720 --> 00:12:30,560 Speaker 4: It maybe your money. 302 00:12:30,600 --> 00:12:33,719 Speaker 2: That flag is your money. Yeah, maybe it'll rip off 303 00:12:33,760 --> 00:12:36,679 Speaker 2: someone else. And then so what is your stance? 304 00:12:36,720 --> 00:12:39,200 Speaker 1: You would support your girlfriend in paying or you would 305 00:12:39,240 --> 00:12:41,000 Speaker 1: tell her no, get out of there. 306 00:12:41,880 --> 00:12:44,319 Speaker 4: I mean I would tell her to you know, could 307 00:12:44,360 --> 00:12:46,760 Speaker 4: she like negotiate, like buy dinner or something instead? 308 00:12:47,000 --> 00:12:51,200 Speaker 2: That's what you take an opinion. She would wait to. 309 00:12:51,160 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 4: See what her girlfriend felt and then back any finger 310 00:12:54,720 --> 00:12:56,199 Speaker 4: girlfriend said good friend. 311 00:12:56,240 --> 00:12:58,880 Speaker 2: Alexis was the wrong person. 312 00:12:59,160 --> 00:13:01,920 Speaker 4: Jonah, why don't you stay over at her house more often? 313 00:13:02,559 --> 00:13:04,560 Speaker 7: We have a roommate and she doesn't want she wants 314 00:13:04,600 --> 00:13:06,720 Speaker 7: to be there very often because she's always asking him 315 00:13:06,720 --> 00:13:09,680 Speaker 7: come to my player. I love having her over. I 316 00:13:09,679 --> 00:13:12,400 Speaker 7: don't want you to think that I dislike this or something. 317 00:13:12,400 --> 00:13:14,319 Speaker 7: I love it. It's just a matter of finance. It's 318 00:13:14,320 --> 00:13:15,600 Speaker 7: harked me to afford all the time. 319 00:13:15,720 --> 00:13:18,200 Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe have your girlfriend and her roommate over and 320 00:13:18,240 --> 00:13:20,240 Speaker 1: you can charge the roommate as part of the fete. 321 00:13:20,679 --> 00:13:24,000 Speaker 2: Girlfriend, then it seems that we have they Hey. 322 00:13:23,880 --> 00:13:25,679 Speaker 6: So i' just got fifty percent off their bills. 323 00:13:25,760 --> 00:13:27,719 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's called compromise. 324 00:13:28,040 --> 00:13:29,440 Speaker 1: We have more people that want to talk to you 325 00:13:29,440 --> 00:13:31,640 Speaker 1: here though, Jonah, let's speak to Sarah. 326 00:13:31,720 --> 00:13:34,200 Speaker 2: Do you think that Jonah is the jerk in the situation. 327 00:13:34,720 --> 00:13:37,200 Speaker 5: Well, it's crazy that you're talking about this because this 328 00:13:37,400 --> 00:13:40,920 Speaker 5: actually happened to me with my husband, like back when 329 00:13:40,960 --> 00:13:41,680 Speaker 5: we were dating. 330 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:46,360 Speaker 4: Really, wait, you charged him or he charged you for utilities. 331 00:13:46,720 --> 00:13:50,280 Speaker 3: So he was charging me little fees for all kinds 332 00:13:50,320 --> 00:13:53,120 Speaker 3: of things. It was utilities. Are you know if we 333 00:13:53,160 --> 00:13:55,280 Speaker 3: took a long road trip to the gas, like, it 334 00:13:55,320 --> 00:13:58,520 Speaker 3: was a little fee for everything. And at first I 335 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:02,240 Speaker 3: was kicked off, was like, dude, what are you doing 336 00:14:02,360 --> 00:14:02,719 Speaker 3: with this? 337 00:14:04,480 --> 00:14:06,640 Speaker 5: So I came up with what I think is a 338 00:14:06,760 --> 00:14:10,200 Speaker 5: very creative way that we kind of ended the whole 339 00:14:10,600 --> 00:14:11,640 Speaker 5: kit for cat deal. 340 00:14:11,880 --> 00:14:14,400 Speaker 2: Okay, really, what did you come up with? 341 00:14:14,880 --> 00:14:19,520 Speaker 5: So I started charging my then boyfriend now husband an 342 00:14:19,760 --> 00:14:27,360 Speaker 5: intimacy fee. 343 00:14:27,520 --> 00:14:29,960 Speaker 4: I'm guessing it was more than four dollars. I mean 344 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:33,400 Speaker 4: it was really disapprove a point right right services render? 345 00:14:33,640 --> 00:14:36,360 Speaker 1: You prostituted yourself to your own boyfriend. 346 00:14:37,200 --> 00:14:38,760 Speaker 3: I mean you put it like that. 347 00:14:38,880 --> 00:14:45,800 Speaker 2: But how long did that last? How long was he paying? 348 00:14:46,320 --> 00:14:46,920 Speaker 7: Like a week? 349 00:14:48,240 --> 00:14:51,200 Speaker 4: And then you're saying he dropped all fees after that, 350 00:14:51,320 --> 00:14:51,760 Speaker 4: and then I. 351 00:14:51,720 --> 00:14:54,760 Speaker 3: Didn't hear anything else about another and. 352 00:14:54,720 --> 00:14:58,520 Speaker 1: They haven't been intimate in eight years. 353 00:14:59,560 --> 00:15:01,640 Speaker 2: Houses Now is that helpful for you? Jonah? You want 354 00:15:01,640 --> 00:15:03,040 Speaker 2: to pass that along to your girlfriend? 355 00:15:03,440 --> 00:15:08,320 Speaker 7: Not at all. No, I'm my girlfriend does get an 356 00:15:08,360 --> 00:15:10,800 Speaker 7: intimacy bill from the intimacy company, but I'll get a 357 00:15:10,800 --> 00:15:12,040 Speaker 7: gas bill from the gas company. 358 00:15:13,160 --> 00:15:15,560 Speaker 1: Well, you should call that intimacy company and see what 359 00:15:15,600 --> 00:15:16,080 Speaker 1: they're doing. 360 00:15:16,200 --> 00:15:18,480 Speaker 2: I love your logic. It's just so pure, man. 361 00:15:18,680 --> 00:15:21,840 Speaker 1: So we're running short on time here. We've been tallying 362 00:15:21,920 --> 00:15:23,840 Speaker 1: up the text board at seven eighty five nine. You 363 00:15:24,400 --> 00:15:28,480 Speaker 1: what our listeners are saying? According to them, Jonah, you 364 00:15:28,760 --> 00:15:31,880 Speaker 1: are the jerk in this situation. 365 00:15:32,000 --> 00:15:33,760 Speaker 2: You should not be charging your girlfriend. 366 00:15:35,080 --> 00:15:37,840 Speaker 4: Did you hear him? I think you got to give 367 00:15:37,880 --> 00:15:38,520 Speaker 4: it up, my man, I. 368 00:15:38,520 --> 00:15:40,080 Speaker 2: Will say it's actually closer than I thought. 369 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:43,160 Speaker 1: Sixty seven percent said you're the jerk, So there's a 370 00:15:43,160 --> 00:15:45,120 Speaker 1: lot of people who are still on your side. 371 00:15:45,560 --> 00:15:47,480 Speaker 7: It was close to half. We'll go with half. 372 00:15:47,760 --> 00:15:50,160 Speaker 2: That's not happen. If you're that good at math, you 373 00:15:50,240 --> 00:15:52,920 Speaker 2: know that's not half. I mean you, you just got 374 00:15:52,920 --> 00:15:53,160 Speaker 2: to wait. 375 00:15:53,240 --> 00:15:56,680 Speaker 4: What's more important your four dollars or the love of 376 00:15:56,720 --> 00:15:59,400 Speaker 4: your life. Maybe a good time to mention you're gonna 377 00:15:59,440 --> 00:16:01,400 Speaker 4: have to buy her friends dinner to make up to them. 378 00:16:01,160 --> 00:16:01,440 Speaker 5: Just like. 379 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:04,800 Speaker 7: There's something to look forward to you. 380 00:16:05,080 --> 00:16:08,120 Speaker 1: Okay, thank Yeah, And I forgot to remind you, Jonah, 381 00:16:08,120 --> 00:16:10,320 Speaker 1: we are charging and am I the Jerk fee, So 382 00:16:10,360 --> 00:16:11,440 Speaker 1: we're gonna send you that bill. 383 00:16:11,440 --> 00:16:13,640 Speaker 2: We'll send you a reminder to venmo 's. Okay, are 384 00:16:13,680 --> 00:16:14,520 Speaker 2: we charging protexts? 385 00:16:14,520 --> 00:16:15,320 Speaker 4: Because that would be great? 386 00:16:15,360 --> 00:16:21,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, seven dollars per text. Okay, yeah, Okay, he's gone. Anyway, 387 00:16:21,320 --> 00:16:23,560 Speaker 1: that's am I the Jerk. It's Brook and Jeffrey in 388 00:16:23,560 --> 00:16:23,920 Speaker 1: the morning. 389 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:26,000 Speaker 7: Brook and Jeffrey in the Morning.