Speaker 1: We like to welcome everyone to another episode of the
Speaker 1: Cames the Chronicles podcast. It is raining in southern California. James.
Speaker 1: That motherfucker was lying on that song when you said
Speaker 1: it never rings in southern California because it's ringing cats
Speaker 1: and dogs like motherfucker and and and it's actually kind
Speaker 1: of chilly outside today, man, you know, But of course
Speaker 1: I got my boy in house. Yeah, Man, when we
Speaker 1: go discuss something to night like that. We've been talking
Speaker 1: earlier about parenting and how parenting um plays a role
Speaker 1: and who we ultimately become as people, you know, and
Speaker 1: I want to touchdown on something first. Man. I've always
Speaker 1: preached nothing but respect in my household, for your elders
Speaker 1: and just for people in general, even people your agge,
Speaker 1: you know, not talking crazy to people, being humble at
Speaker 1: all times, you know, and not every thinking that she's
Speaker 1: really better than nobody else. And I wanted to kind
Speaker 1: of touch when this one situation it's kind of old,
Speaker 1: but it feeds into what we were talking about to day.
Speaker 1: So I was paying attention to the t I cat
Speaker 1: online right right, And I guess his son that felt
Speaker 1: um that fell out with one of the employees at
Speaker 1: this restaurant that's really big in the soft called the
Speaker 1: waffle House. I'm pretty sure you're familiar with the waffle House. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I seen the video. Yeah, so um when I saw that,
Speaker 1: a couple of things came to mind. First of all,
Speaker 1: you know, when t I addressed a situation he was
Speaker 1: talking to his son rather than discipline him. He was
Speaker 1: almost like, why are you wasting your time talking to
Speaker 1: a short order cook? Right? And that really pissed me off, man,
Speaker 1: because you're sending the message now the way you're telling
Speaker 1: your son, who seems like he already arrogant as all
Speaker 1: get out and spoiled, that you above the working class man.
Speaker 1: And you know, Mr t I, those people that work
Speaker 1: at the waffle House places like that, to work at Walmark,
Speaker 1: that me work at Target and start shelves, and like,
Speaker 1: those are the ones off to find crickets. The man's
Speaker 1: first of all, right, average day people. Yeah, and they
Speaker 1: should be treated with respect. So t I, if we
Speaker 1: had to dunk you the fucking days there would be tis.
Speaker 1: Don't ask for that ship because I didn't really think
Speaker 1: that was cool. Well, you know, I watched him when
Speaker 1: he had his little thing with tiny their little show,
Speaker 1: and it seemed like he was raising his kids to
Speaker 1: understand value. But then when I seen the little incident
Speaker 1: in there with him, you know, I just slapped the
Speaker 1: ship out of my side because you out of line
Speaker 1: and to have wealth like like they like they do,
Speaker 1: and for him to grow up and not have to
Speaker 1: worry about anything or para shoes or Christmas and ship
Speaker 1: like that. The way he runner his mouth be take
Speaker 1: life for granted. He wants to be a you do.
Speaker 1: You're not cut from that club to be a street
Speaker 1: dude talking about shooting in air and shipped out. Come on, man,
Speaker 1: shut your son down as a father and tell your
Speaker 1: son I made these mistakes. I don't want you to
Speaker 1: make these mistakes. Don't tell him. Why would you argue
Speaker 1: argue with somebody beneath you? Come on, that's funked up.
Speaker 1: So yeah, you get a He get an f for
Speaker 1: that one. But you know, these kids grow up. I
Speaker 1: don't give a funk if you rich or not. Like
Speaker 1: you know, man, it depends on the parent. Man kids
Speaker 1: a certain kind of way. So you know, he get
Speaker 1: an fl on that one. He dropped the ball. He
Speaker 1: call you have a real man, and I'm might gonna
Speaker 1: stay stuck with him for too long. Man. But that's
Speaker 1: and I see that a lot because I had a
Speaker 1: partner of mine, and I'm gonna be real careful and
Speaker 1: kind of float around this because I don't want to
Speaker 1: putting nobody's business out there whatever. But I saw as
Speaker 1: he made his way kind of up in the industry,
Speaker 1: the attitude of his kids they changed. They kind of
Speaker 1: turned into little unbearable assholes. So it was to the
Speaker 1: point that where once they wound up leaving the league
Speaker 1: that we was in, I was actually kind of happy
Speaker 1: because I was like this, I'm not about to sit
Speaker 1: up here and called with your kids, man, right, you know,
Speaker 1: I'm not just gonna do it, because I don't do that.
Speaker 1: But my own kids, man, And I would like to
Speaker 1: say that my kids grew up with a little bit
Speaker 1: more than I did, not a little bit more, a
Speaker 1: lot more than I did, you know, just even when
Speaker 1: you go to such amenities as them having you know,
Speaker 1: fift against from TVs in the room, video game stereos um,
Speaker 1: stuff of that nature. You know, it was I remember
Speaker 1: it was a time man with me and my brother
Speaker 1: shared the bed at one point, right, we did you
Speaker 1: know that was just what it was. You know, you
Speaker 1: should you share be able with your brother and then
Speaker 1: enough like that. You know you've got three beds in
Speaker 1: the room. You might have to bunk up with somebody,
Speaker 1: you know. So, oh, I think man, and I would
Speaker 1: like to think that I've raised my kids to be respectable,
Speaker 1: you know, be respectable young men and women and not
Speaker 1: talk craisy to nobody else. But when we talked about
Speaker 1: this earlier, do you think it's a such thing it's
Speaker 1: giving the keys too much? Or do you think it's
Speaker 1: a such thing? Is when you give the them these rewards,
Speaker 1: do you need to kind of let them know that
Speaker 1: this is not average everything stuff you need to be
Speaker 1: prateful for, like like what you think, say, yeah, you gotta,
Speaker 1: you gotta definitely telling them why they get the things
Speaker 1: they do. Most of us wait a minute, no, go
Speaker 1: take that in there, pop up doing something when I'm finished. Okay,
Speaker 1: most of us, you know, we befriend our kids the
Speaker 1: wrong way. We give like like me that I'm gonna
Speaker 1: speak on me. I tried my best to give nine
Speaker 1: of everything that I didn't have, and I tried to
Speaker 1: treat him totally different from how my all the words
Speaker 1: with me, the same as I was with my two sons.
Speaker 1: Now my two sons has never been to jail, never
Speaker 1: saying in their parts. They both in the college, and
Speaker 1: they understand where I came from. Now giving line of
Speaker 1: the ship that I give him and trying to give
Speaker 1: him everything, I try my best to give him everything.
Speaker 1: He tends to be spoiled, well he is spoil And
Speaker 1: then you have to work your way out of that
Speaker 1: type of ship. What I mean, if I work your
Speaker 1: way out of it. I had to switch it up
Speaker 1: with it because when we go to the store, he
Speaker 1: sees something he wanted not even want to part about it. No,
Speaker 1: that's not what it's about. I give you two things
Speaker 1: because I know you need things. I'm not just buying
Speaker 1: this ship just so you can have it. Man, knowing
Speaker 1: half of the ship he got last Christmas, it's still
Speaker 1: in by still still he's not even tripping on him
Speaker 1: no more. No, he ain't even like you got a
Speaker 1: brand new bicycle. He ain't road He got uh a
Speaker 1: four wheeled truck in the garage. Then in the damn
Speaker 1: box he got a goddamn scooter with the uh the
Speaker 1: the gas scooters. He got this motherfucker's sitting in the
Speaker 1: corner in in his room. He got a hubbleboard, played
Speaker 1: the music everything. He don't touch it aboard. Yeah, man,
Speaker 1: I'm coming jealous, Mona to let me ride them now
Speaker 1: you just have surgery on your knees, going right back
Speaker 1: to the hospital. Yeah. But what what I'm saying is, yeah,
Speaker 1: we do give our kids too much. You know, our
Speaker 1: kids grow up getting too much now they expected and
Speaker 1: they become a daughter lessons where they think mommy and
Speaker 1: daddy is supposed to continue to give them the way
Speaker 1: they did when they was kids. That's because we stopped
Speaker 1: teaching them at a certain age because they think they
Speaker 1: knew everything, so we let ship be what it is,
Speaker 1: and now they all funked up. So yeah, it's parents
Speaker 1: faunt that we do too much and give too much
Speaker 1: without without a reason for real. And you know, let
Speaker 1: me ask you this, James, because we came to the
Speaker 1: you know, we were talking about discipline the other day
Speaker 1: and in my household, I haven't gave too many woomans.
Speaker 1: I don't really believe in hitting him a kid, you know.
Speaker 1: I mean, you know, don't get me wrong, I believe
Speaker 1: in punishing the kid if you do something wrong, you
Speaker 1: have to be able accountable for your actions. So I
Speaker 1: was being on the accountability, but at the same time
Speaker 1: I didn't think the accountability ment slapping the shot out
Speaker 1: of somebody, or getting switches and off the tree and
Speaker 1: belts and all that. Ship man me and my personal opinion,
Speaker 1: I think that that was back in our days. That
Speaker 1: was time of the norm. And so I chose because
Speaker 1: I got some fishers are us man, Well, it all
Speaker 1: depends on what what what you consider a vicious ass whooping? Uh?
Speaker 1: What I've learned you can discipline your kids without whooping
Speaker 1: your kids in a vicious manner. You can discipline your
Speaker 1: kids by taking the things they love. You know, sometimes
Speaker 1: it works, sometimes they don't. I used to say, I'm
Speaker 1: not putting my my kid on no damn time out.
Speaker 1: Lite will be on time. I like, Mom, but go
Speaker 1: in your room getting your bid turned TV off, don't
Speaker 1: touch it. But then he get up and coming the room,
Speaker 1: and the first thing he said, Papa, I'm sorry. Why
Speaker 1: are you sorry for what I did? What did you do?
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So whooping has asked for
Speaker 1: conversation and taking ship from him. He gets it and
Speaker 1: he don't repeat it. It might be two months down
Speaker 1: the line of five days down the line before he
Speaker 1: repeat what he done. But it all depends on the
Speaker 1: parents broke. It all depends on how you parent your kids.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So you know, and that
Speaker 1: barries in all different households because you got most parents
Speaker 1: that befriend their kids before they parent their kids. And
Speaker 1: that's a big problem. That that's a huge problem. Let's
Speaker 1: give me that a little bit. People making turning their
Speaker 1: kids and the friends. I look treatment kids like they're
Speaker 1: the homeboy, they're the home girl. You know, the day
Speaker 1: you see fathers and son getting high, you feel you
Speaker 1: see mommy and daughter at the nightclub twerking, you see
Speaker 1: mommy on the walking in the market with tights on,
Speaker 1: titties out, the whole nine. They're not teaching their their
Speaker 1: daughters how to be ladies. So once we start taking
Speaker 1: away from that, we're not teaching our sons. You got
Speaker 1: father's out here committing crimes, robberies, murders, doing all kinds
Speaker 1: of ships with their sons. So those cats out there
Speaker 1: writing with their sons, well, the the boy pop smoke
Speaker 1: or whatever, not pop smoke, but pe me something. That
Speaker 1: boy murdered pnb Rock pnb Rock. Yeah, him and his
Speaker 1: son and and baby, and and the boy mama in
Speaker 1: jail for that. You know you cannot. And and I'll
Speaker 1: be damned if I get caught doing any crime with
Speaker 1: one of my kids or you know, in my kid life,
Speaker 1: because I'm out here on some stupid ship. Now, that
Speaker 1: boy might spend the rest of his life in prison
Speaker 1: with his father, and this is what he got for
Speaker 1: having that type of parents. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I can't befriend my kids. I'm your father at all times.
Speaker 1: I can't sit back and play dominoes and smoke weed
Speaker 1: with you. I can't do that. Now you're you're older,
Speaker 1: twenty some years old, thirty years old. I can sit
Speaker 1: down and have a drink with you, But you're not
Speaker 1: gonna sit under my table at my table and drink
Speaker 1: and be sloppy drunk. You know what I'm saying. So
Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with it. They adults, they've grown, they
Speaker 1: don't live with you. Is something different. But if you're
Speaker 1: sitting in the house all days smoking marijuana, then you're
Speaker 1: doing something wrong, Pops, because at the end of the day,
Speaker 1: that little cat that's your son that you befriended. He's
Speaker 1: gonna start, He's gonna see something. He's gonna now he
Speaker 1: ready to fight you because he ain't scared his father,
Speaker 1: you know, hommie. So yeah, man, You know, it all
Speaker 1: depends on the parent and how we're parent and you
Speaker 1: don't have to be in the same household to be
Speaker 1: a parent. You just got to learn how to be
Speaker 1: co parents and be on the same page with what's
Speaker 1: best for your kids. And you definitely, James, you definitely
Speaker 1: had to set boundaries and you have to set lines
Speaker 1: where you know what I'm Pops and we can show
Speaker 1: here and there. You know, I love joking around my boys,
Speaker 1: but they know it's a certain level to take that.
Speaker 1: You feel what I'm saying. At the end of the day,
Speaker 1: I'm still Pops, so it ain't no disrespect. Will be celebrating.
Speaker 1: At the same time, I see a lot of parents
Speaker 1: they demand always respect for their children, but yet they're
Speaker 1: not giving their children respect. Because you do have to
Speaker 1: give your children respect to you know, because I've heard
Speaker 1: you know, I think we've all been in the grocery
Speaker 1: store and we to hear the parents calling their kids
Speaker 1: all kind of motherfucker's and niggers and this and that,
Speaker 1: you know, and just like and it's like, you know what,
Speaker 1: how do you think this kid is gonna grow the
Speaker 1: field from you at a certain point? And you called
Speaker 1: the mother's name right now? I grew up on that. Uh.
Speaker 1: I was very, very disrespectful to my mom's. Her birthday
Speaker 1: was yesterday, Happy birthday, Happy birthday, right. Uh. My mom
Speaker 1: was every bit every hole the way, the way she
Speaker 1: was and how she talked. It wasn't until I got
Speaker 1: older and Pops was talking that discipline here fucked me up.
Speaker 1: I don't know. I car regards down home boy, and
Speaker 1: you ain't. We ain't playing that ship. He couldn't touch
Speaker 1: me after that. But that was just how my parents was.
Speaker 1: And you know, me being a game member, being in
Speaker 1: the streets, she couldn't tell me ship. It wasn't until
Speaker 1: going to prison, sitting down listening to the Motorcats. You
Speaker 1: only get one mama, And I came home with a
Speaker 1: with a with a different respect from my mother. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. Even when ship was rocky, I
Speaker 1: didn't I didn't go back to those old ways, calling
Speaker 1: her bitches and all that. Ship very disrespectful. I didn't
Speaker 1: know how to love a woman until I started loving
Speaker 1: my mama, you know what I'm saying, and then having
Speaker 1: those conversations. It was to me it was never We
Speaker 1: never had a conversation about what type of man I
Speaker 1: should be, all how to be a man, until to
Speaker 1: me it was damning too late. We didn't have enough
Speaker 1: time for it. So this the this the killer part.
Speaker 1: My mom she raised five kids by goddamn self. Hmm.
Speaker 1: And when we got older, we complained about ship. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm saying now, if you look at it,
Speaker 1: when your kids get older like mine did, they comp
Speaker 1: aimed about ship. I didn't understand parenting until I started
Speaker 1: having kids and my kids started acting like me. They
Speaker 1: called me, I'm a motherfucking name. But when they started,
Speaker 1: you wasn't there for me. You did this for me.
Speaker 1: This is the same shing I said to my parents
Speaker 1: and kids, history repeats herself and these kids doing the
Speaker 1: same ship. You know what I'm saying. You know you
Speaker 1: can do so much, and thank you doing all the
Speaker 1: right ship for my daughter. You think you're doing right
Speaker 1: by your child. You know I raised her for eight
Speaker 1: years when her mama was gone and I allowed her
Speaker 1: to go back to her mother and the next thing
Speaker 1: you know, she's seven eight months pregnant. This when I
Speaker 1: find out. So I think that was a big mistake
Speaker 1: on my part there. I shouldn't have I should have
Speaker 1: raised her and it would have been totally different. But
Speaker 1: you know, you can't go back and say if I
Speaker 1: would have should have of that? If I if I
Speaker 1: know that I would have did it this way, because
Speaker 1: it's too late. It's already is there. So bro, it's
Speaker 1: a it's a lot. But you know, our kids are selfish,
Speaker 1: And then I gotta look back on how I was.
Speaker 1: I was selfish as a motherfucker. I wanted things that
Speaker 1: I couldn't get them, so I had tentional tantrums. I
Speaker 1: I acted out a way that a kid should never
Speaker 1: act with his mother, knowing that my mom was taking
Speaker 1: care of five clothes, food. We never wanted for ship,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Way back then, we went
Speaker 1: from a two bedroom apartment to a house and living
Speaker 1: a way we did. I don't know, we thought we
Speaker 1: should expect more because we didn't, you know, like the Jeffersons,
Speaker 1: we moved on up. We wanted Yeah, so you know,
Speaker 1: it wasn't nothing she could of it did different, And
Speaker 1: sometimes you get frustrated dealing with your kids. So she
Speaker 1: that probably was her way of, you know, the way
Speaker 1: she had died with me, because I was one of
Speaker 1: the worstest, the toughest ones she had to deal with,
Speaker 1: and you know, frustrating anger, you know, blaming me for
Speaker 1: the reasons why, like pops don't want to be there.
Speaker 1: If it wasn't for you, I mean, your daddy would
Speaker 1: be fine, type of said. So, yeah, man, some things
Speaker 1: we say shit to our kids that we shouldn't say.
Speaker 1: We try to chastise and discipline a little rough sometimes
Speaker 1: and we shouldn't, you know what I'm saying. Uh, my
Speaker 1: mom thought her tough love to her boys was whiling
Speaker 1: her fists that are built you at some point you're
Speaker 1: gonna be a man. But that that made me resent women.
Speaker 1: Another motherfucking women ain't gonna hit me. You hit me,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna try my best to hit your heart. And
Speaker 1: the motherfucker she had never hit another man. So it
Speaker 1: might work for something, it might not work for others.
Speaker 1: It didn't work for me, you know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: It made me resent her more and that's why I
Speaker 1: last out with you know, to be words, fuck you, hoole, uh,
Speaker 1: kiss my ass, all of those words. But at the
Speaker 1: end of the day, you know, kids grow up to
Speaker 1: be grown men, grown women, and then you start realizing
Speaker 1: this ship that you've done, because your kids are our
Speaker 1: image of you, the way you were when you were younger.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying now, the way your parents
Speaker 1: it's totally different from how our fathers was back then.
Speaker 1: I t to too left. Well, I never used the
Speaker 1: stitching chord on my kids. Oh no, I think, see
Speaker 1: my problem, and that's my thing. James. You know, you
Speaker 1: gotta remember I was raised by a man. It was
Speaker 1: from Mississippi. He was he was a little bit older
Speaker 1: than my mom. Not a little bit older. He was
Speaker 1: about quably, like fifteen years older than my MoMA, right,
Speaker 1: So that was how he was raised. They got asked
Speaker 1: woman's you know extinction chord switches when they braided the
Speaker 1: switches up when they come in there and make you
Speaker 1: get button naked, and he was getting them, you see
Speaker 1: what I mean. I remember one time he had like
Speaker 1: a little basin in the backyard, in the back porch,
Speaker 1: and he had these sticks and they're like keeping them
Speaker 1: wet like and had the things tied up, and just
Speaker 1: the thought of me possibly get my assport with that
Speaker 1: gave me a bunch of act, right, because when you
Speaker 1: felt that thing hit you, ain't nothing more like switches.
Speaker 1: This braiding together, ain't nothing like fishing rids, and ain't
Speaker 1: nothing like just a good old fashioned ass swooping. James.
Speaker 1: That should be borderline and legal dog, because I would
Speaker 1: have up on my body. I still got marks from right.
Speaker 1: My popes used to me out and Timmy had to
Speaker 1: take a bath together. We was little. I mean when
Speaker 1: we got out to tell we had to line up
Speaker 1: in one line together, and he had this razor. You
Speaker 1: remember how they used to sharpen the straight razors, those
Speaker 1: those belts for sure. Man, We used to try to
Speaker 1: fight to get in the middle because you really didn't
Speaker 1: feel everything in the middle, and and on your far left.
Speaker 1: The way he had us. The one on the end
Speaker 1: to the right got it more and he tricked us
Speaker 1: and he would just he would move to the side
Speaker 1: and he would whack that man. That was the worst
Speaker 1: his ass whooping besides the stitching cord you would ever want.
Speaker 1: So I'm a proven fact to saying, whooping your kids
Speaker 1: with objects that should remain plugged up are play somewhere.
Speaker 1: It don't work, Yeah, it don't work. It don't work
Speaker 1: because what you do change. I'm gonna tell you something
Speaker 1: like you said. And this is what I always tell
Speaker 1: my homeboys right when they got young kids. Always tell
Speaker 1: them that little boy ain't nothing but a chrome man
Speaker 1: inside of a look ky his body, and he's going
Speaker 1: to remember everything. So everything that you do to him,
Speaker 1: he's gonna get it back to you and then something offens, right,
Speaker 1: so you have to treat them with respect. Now, don't
Speaker 1: get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with discipline. It's like
Speaker 1: with my middle son. He didn't give a damn about
Speaker 1: no ass whoop. Even if you did, you know, because
Speaker 1: I'll pop them a little bit into but you know
Speaker 1: what I'm hearing there, But he didn't care about that
Speaker 1: and didn't hurt him. My wife would be trying to
Speaker 1: whoop his ass and she would get so fresh friate
Speaker 1: because he's sitting there looking at it like that, don't hurt, that,
Speaker 1: don't hurt. I don't care. And he was just right
Speaker 1: even if he went in the room and cryed. Later on,
Speaker 1: he wouldn't gonna let her. No, you're not gonna break me.
Speaker 1: And that's how it was. But what I figured out
Speaker 1: with him, he liked to be outside all the time.
Speaker 1: He liked to go pride to school and go play.
Speaker 1: If you took that ship from for a couple of days,
Speaker 1: you got all kind of act right, right right, That's
Speaker 1: what I was saying earlier. You know, you don't have
Speaker 1: to beat your child to get him to understand. Like
Speaker 1: having landing in my life today. It's so different because
Speaker 1: as a father, I was in the streets. I was
Speaker 1: doing all kind of ship when my first time was born.
Speaker 1: I was I was twenty years old and went to
Speaker 1: prison and him come to visit me in prison, like
Speaker 1: damn my son. He running around and goddamn visiting room,
Speaker 1: talking about that's my daddy, my daddy. And it was
Speaker 1: so crazy that I whooped myself one time and he
Speaker 1: called his teacher a bit and I went to the
Speaker 1: school and whipped his ads. He got act right and
Speaker 1: never got a whoopman after that, never in his like
Speaker 1: my son thirty seven, my oldest boy is thirty seven,
Speaker 1: never got a whooping after that. Everything after that was
Speaker 1: conversation come on, get in the car, let's roll and
Speaker 1: we talked. You know what I'm saying with Lionel, when
Speaker 1: Leno mess up me and line, we sit down and
Speaker 1: we talked. I don't let him get up until he
Speaker 1: tell me what he understands. M h and and man
Speaker 1: to do to so damn smart and understand so much
Speaker 1: norm that I'm raising a young man. And I know
Speaker 1: I'm raising a young man. I don't need no credit
Speaker 1: for it, my sister, and you're doing to get note, man,
Speaker 1: I love this like makeup for me with my two boys,
Speaker 1: my daughter. So you can only be what type of
Speaker 1: parents you're gonna be. You can't if you if I
Speaker 1: went through trying to make up this and do this
Speaker 1: and do that, I'm gonna make a whole bunch of mistakes.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna make a whole bunch of mistakes like I
Speaker 1: did with my with my daughter. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: When you know what, though, bro, one thing I'm gonna
Speaker 1: say right is that it's quite possible change because I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you I've seen all different scenarios I've seen.
Speaker 1: I've seen people that were horrible parents and kids turned
Speaker 1: out to be a one adults, they just turned out
Speaker 1: to be great kids. Right. I've seen parents that go
Speaker 1: above and beyond for their kids and do the most,
Speaker 1: and they turned out to be the worst. I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell you a story, and again, I don't want to
Speaker 1: put people's personal business out there. Some gonna league names
Speaker 1: out right. But I know a family, and I've known
Speaker 1: this family since I've came to California, that was I
Speaker 1: would say, I came out here in I've known them
Speaker 1: since then. Great family, man, I'm talking about an awesome father,
Speaker 1: awesome mama. Professional people. So they're your brother was one
Speaker 1: of my best friends. So you figured you've got four
Speaker 1: kids in the household, right, I've known all these kids,
Speaker 1: they adults, and I've known them since they was little kids,
Speaker 1: you know, since I was a teenager and they were babies,
Speaker 1: you know, walking around two and three years old, six
Speaker 1: years old, seven years old. Right. I just recently found
Speaker 1: out that two of those kids were adopted, and I
Speaker 1: never knew that. I never knew that. And when I
Speaker 1: tell you right now, they're going through some stuff with
Speaker 1: one of the daughters is so disrespectful to them. She
Speaker 1: feels like um an a monster towards them because they
Speaker 1: both went out of trying to find their real pearance.
Speaker 1: Right and and one thing she told me, she said
Speaker 1: she always promised them that when they got older and
Speaker 1: got ready to go try to find their parents, we'll
Speaker 1: let you know. We give you all the information we
Speaker 1: gotta well help you go find your parents. But I
Speaker 1: never knew that these kids were adopted. It was to
Speaker 1: the point, I swear the sister and the brother looked
Speaker 1: at like my homeboy and his little sister. I always
Speaker 1: thought that's his little sister. And so two of them
Speaker 1: wounded up just turning on the parents. Right and and
Speaker 1: father is suffering from Alex Hummer's right now. Right, So
Speaker 1: I said, you know, y'all wait to this great man
Speaker 1: started going through the worst thing in his life. He
Speaker 1: don't remember when he was last time I want to
Speaker 1: go see him. He was looking at me like he
Speaker 1: want to woo my ass. We're just two months before.
Speaker 1: He was laughing and joking, but you could tell his
Speaker 1: memory wasn't all there, and it would be coming back
Speaker 1: and forth. But they pretty much, you know, they told
Speaker 1: the mom. You know, they called the mom's out of name.
Speaker 1: You know that bitch didn't do nothing for us, and
Speaker 1: it's kind of like it wasn't my place, but I
Speaker 1: wanted both of the asks. I was like, y'are a
Speaker 1: little ungrateful motherfucker's and the Howard are the man? They
Speaker 1: have to be in their thirties right now, ce Cee,
Speaker 1: just like I was saying, you could be so so
Speaker 1: selfish now you wouldn't have made it to thirty. And
Speaker 1: these kids don't understand this. You're the home just say,
Speaker 1: if they wouldn't have got you, you would have been
Speaker 1: treated all different kind of ways. You don't know what
Speaker 1: type of person you would be at this point. They
Speaker 1: don't sit back and think about that now that they
Speaker 1: already know that these they would foster kids. Yeah, they
Speaker 1: knew that they were adopted. They legally adopted their last name.
Speaker 1: They all shared the same last name. And it was
Speaker 1: such a shock to me, always like hun and they
Speaker 1: said yeah, and you know what, they wouldn't obligate to
Speaker 1: tell me. Remember when I was talking to moms about it,
Speaker 1: because that's what I call the moms, and she was saying, well,
Speaker 1: you know, norm, I always thought that that was their news.
Speaker 1: To pray. We didn't go around advertising that the people
Speaker 1: not that we was ashamed of it, but we felt
Speaker 1: like that's y'all news to break if y'all want to
Speaker 1: break it. So they gave them every bit of respect.
Speaker 1: You know, had all their documents and who their parents was.
Speaker 1: So what happens he was, they go to meet they
Speaker 1: buy a lost of parents and the one man tells
Speaker 1: the boy, your daddy is the man that raised you.
Speaker 1: You know, I'm I'm gonna be honest with you. He said,
Speaker 1: I gave you a four adoption. I was fifteen years
Speaker 1: old and had a baby with a little girl I've
Speaker 1: met at a party, and I don't know this little girl.
Speaker 1: For Adam, the best thing for her and for me
Speaker 1: as fifteen year old kids was to put you guys
Speaker 1: up for adoption. You went to a wonderful home. When
Speaker 1: he kind of schooled him and said, you know, you
Speaker 1: can come and talk to me any time. You can
Speaker 1: talk to you know, you can meet your brothers and sisters,
Speaker 1: but you have to know that that man is your father.
Speaker 1: That's why I never interfere, you know, because I knew
Speaker 1: you went to a good home. It wasn't that I
Speaker 1: just gave you away. But I was a baby myself.
Speaker 1: I was I gonna take care of you. Gotta give
Speaker 1: you the worst life possible. I gave you the worst life, father,
Speaker 1: so he told him. Then another girl she went to
Speaker 1: go try to find her mama, and the mama said, well,
Speaker 1: I don't want to meet you because I gave she
Speaker 1: was on drugs and everything. And she asked me. She
Speaker 1: didn't talk to the mom. She talked to her auntie.
Speaker 1: She found Auntie and she said, look, your mom has
Speaker 1: a bunch of problems. She is not well. There's no
Speaker 1: way she could be somebody's mind right now, you see
Speaker 1: what I mean, and especially going through something like this man.
Speaker 1: And that goes to the thing because when I tell you, James,
Speaker 1: that they gave these kids everything that you could imagine.
Speaker 1: All of them are colleagues, graduates, and they paid for it.
Speaker 1: All of them are professionals. They're doing great in life,
Speaker 1: great people outside of this little bullshit they pull them
Speaker 1: right now. So I can't even make that statement that
Speaker 1: that bitch never done nothing for him. Why would he
Speaker 1: even say that. Well, that's what I'm saying, James, because
Speaker 1: people people have a tendency. I noticed now if some
Speaker 1: people have a tendency to blame whatever little thing they
Speaker 1: got going on in their life, on their parents or
Speaker 1: whoever they can. It's never they fault but me looking
Speaker 1: to see that's some bullshit, And I'll tell either one
Speaker 1: of them, because these people have been over backage for
Speaker 1: you guys, y'alls on summer trips everything. You know. Folks,
Speaker 1: I'm talking about sameings, going to Puerto Rico, going to England,
Speaker 1: going to all these different far off locations and just
Speaker 1: like I was thinking, like, damn, you don't had a
Speaker 1: pretty good life and shames. Will I tell you? These
Speaker 1: kids were raised in the Orange County, the Orange County
Speaker 1: I'm talking about nice part of Orange County, lived in
Speaker 1: a nice house, had good experiences growing up, like they
Speaker 1: every Friday might football games they have. They're hanging because
Speaker 1: they ain't nothing going on out there, ain't know hood
Speaker 1: stuff going on out that they having fun. All of
Speaker 1: them had cars when they turned sixteen. Just all the
Speaker 1: amenities that you could hope change. They grew up so
Speaker 1: they grew up so opposite with me, especially you and
Speaker 1: especially me, even me, They grew up way different than
Speaker 1: what we came up. And you would have thought there
Speaker 1: had been some gratitude. But that's another example of somebody
Speaker 1: giving someone they y'all and getting shipped back in their
Speaker 1: face for it. They don't understand the value of life.
Speaker 1: They don't respect the life that they live in now,
Speaker 1: the post to the life that they should think of
Speaker 1: if they might have had with certain individuals, their real parents.
Speaker 1: So just because you say I'm an adult, don't mean
Speaker 1: I'm an adult. You still have an adolescent mind. You
Speaker 1: still think on an adolescent level. Like like myself, I
Speaker 1: didn't understand really parenting and what a man was until
Speaker 1: I got in my fifties. M hm, really understanding responsibility
Speaker 1: and what it really takes to take care of child.
Speaker 1: I swear to God right now today I would never
Speaker 1: downplay speak bad about a woman that's taking care of
Speaker 1: kids on our own. That ship is hard work. We
Speaker 1: gotta be the hardest thing possible, especially a woman taking
Speaker 1: care of a little boy, taking care of kids, cooking,
Speaker 1: cleaning constantly, washington, taking them to school, school work, just
Speaker 1: general conversation on the day. We know what's writing, what's wrong.
Speaker 1: This ship is a twenty four hour job. And that
Speaker 1: was one of my grads. You ain't did ship. What
Speaker 1: are you doing? I'm I'm doing what I wanna do
Speaker 1: you ain't washing my ass? And this isn't antimo. So
Speaker 1: this is where we get that bullshit miskings. True, we
Speaker 1: get it funked up. Being a parent, especially a single mom,
Speaker 1: is hard work, bro, and I'm living that right now today.
Speaker 1: It's hard work raising the child for Biden and bad.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, it's not And can't nobody
Speaker 1: tell me it's easy being a parent. And it's not
Speaker 1: like you're getting a lot of help. Bro. No, I
Speaker 1: don't get none. I don't, I don't. This is what
Speaker 1: I don't do. Can't nobody say you're going here, You're
Speaker 1: going there? I washed nne No, you're going our party?
Speaker 1: And then you do on this. I got line on
Speaker 1: all my my party and activities and everything else. I
Speaker 1: cut loose. Now this is what my daughter and all
Speaker 1: these other young women need to think when you start
Speaker 1: having kids. Those party days is over. Now. That's all
Speaker 1: right to go out and unwinding in bad. But you
Speaker 1: are a parent. You are a parent, You're a mother,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So you should be wanting
Speaker 1: to be with your kids. You you didn't have kids
Speaker 1: to give them to your grandparents, to your paminem. No, No,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So it's it's crazy though,
Speaker 1: because as kids we don't think. Then we get older
Speaker 1: and we think worse. Sir m you know a lot
Speaker 1: of ship I can't blame my mother for and that's
Speaker 1: why I'm at peace with where with her. Uh let's say,
Speaker 1: my pops, this dude probably didn't want five kids. This
Speaker 1: dude probably didn't think he thought that you can have
Speaker 1: more if he didn't have these kids. But see this
Speaker 1: is my problect. Motherfucker. If you don't want to know kids, well, Robbie,
Speaker 1: even if he is with your woman, put on the
Speaker 1: motherfucker strap up. Don't have kids. Well, that's what I
Speaker 1: was gonna say. James, you know the thing is shorter.
Speaker 1: Don't ask to come here. It's not like somebody you know,
Speaker 1: beating down the walls and your balls telling you, hey man,
Speaker 1: let me out of here. Let me hear you feel
Speaker 1: what I mean. So when y'all here, there's your responsibility
Speaker 1: to take care of, but your frustration, you take your
Speaker 1: frustration out on children and your children. I don't give
Speaker 1: a funk what you do in life. Your children shouldn't
Speaker 1: have to pay for it. You know what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: your kids was an act to be here. M hm.
Speaker 1: You know. So you know a kid like t I Sun,
Speaker 1: it ain't his fault. He's a kid. He's see differently
Speaker 1: here different and he reacts different from a normal ass
Speaker 1: kid with with everything he wants and it is. It
Speaker 1: is gonna take his father or mother to say, listen, no, motherfucker,
Speaker 1: I don't care what you do, how you doing, whoo
Speaker 1: whoo whoo, set your ass down. I'm not gonna lose
Speaker 1: you to the streets. That makes him a regular ass
Speaker 1: motherfucking kid. And these kids ain't understanding. They don't even
Speaker 1: have a sense of death. You know what that's like,
Speaker 1: having a sense of death, knowing that I could possibly
Speaker 1: just my last time laying in my motherfucking bed or
Speaker 1: walking out of this front door if when I go outside,
Speaker 1: you know what the problem he is broke because and
Speaker 1: you know, for the people out there, however, these rappers
Speaker 1: raised their kids, that's their business, that's their household. We're
Speaker 1: speaking on it though, because they're making the public so
Speaker 1: we're give them public responses to their behasior. So apparently
Speaker 1: this kid has been arrested already, you know, and I'm
Speaker 1: not talking about for him out there, just um him
Speaker 1: committing egregious crimes out there. No for stuff like you know,
Speaker 1: they get pulled over and you don't have the seat
Speaker 1: built on, and he resisting kind of the authority right
Speaker 1: and everything with him, it looks as if he has
Speaker 1: an issue with authority. And that's because when you got
Speaker 1: a day that's telling you all the time, especially when
Speaker 1: he's telling you ship, like, um, why are you ordering
Speaker 1: with a short or the cook? Right? It makes it
Speaker 1: like you don't have to you're above everybody else. You
Speaker 1: if they're not in your pay grade or were not
Speaker 1: in the range of money that we're making, you don't
Speaker 1: have to give them respect. That includes police officers, cooks,
Speaker 1: or whoever the hell else in the world. So he's
Speaker 1: been to jail a few times and he thinks it's
Speaker 1: a real game. We'll ship this is when and t
Speaker 1: I it's gonna sit down and think, bro when his
Speaker 1: son not, when he go to jail, not, he ain't
Speaker 1: gotta get two years, five years, ten years, to say,
Speaker 1: get a six months deal ninety days. It's gonna be
Speaker 1: the hardest motherfucking time in that little boy life. He
Speaker 1: ain't bodybuilt. He ain't mind shaped. The only thing is
Speaker 1: possible is but fuck, he ain't ready for that, and
Speaker 1: and and and going in there with them grown ass men,
Speaker 1: Them grown ass men in jail, in prison will eat
Speaker 1: his little ass alive. And Daddy can't go up in
Speaker 1: that motherfucker. Daddy can't go spend a million dollars and
Speaker 1: say put my son here. He can't do that. Yeah,
Speaker 1: and you know Tipping Tipp has done some time before.
Speaker 1: You know, he haven't been in an hour before. But
Speaker 1: you are not your father. Even even that, you can
Speaker 1: act like your daddy old motherfucking day. And I'm getting
Speaker 1: kind of pissed off because as a father man, you
Speaker 1: gotta think you didn't like jail. If you did, you
Speaker 1: would have never built out that motherfucker. You just stay
Speaker 1: and then did what you had to do so for
Speaker 1: your child to go to jail. And phraise God that
Speaker 1: now one of my sons ever seen or being handcuffed
Speaker 1: in their motherfucking life, or they would have really had
Speaker 1: a goddamn problem with me I at home. See like,
Speaker 1: look at that, James. All both of your sons a
Speaker 1: college graduates, they have been to school. I ain't seen
Speaker 1: them no graduates, I say that, but yeah, well you
Speaker 1: know you got one of them with the college and
Speaker 1: you got you know, but your kids are good young
Speaker 1: men though, Oh yeah, they're good young men. They're handling
Speaker 1: their business. But look at your background, James compared, he is,
Speaker 1: this kid has everything, and you would wonder why the
Speaker 1: fund are you off? There costs and all this confusion
Speaker 1: when your wife is easy? If you right, motherfucker right.
Speaker 1: This is what I'm telling you. Just because I'm a
Speaker 1: game member, I know what it's like in the streets.
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna sit here to debate whether my boys
Speaker 1: would have been able to handle or deal with this
Speaker 1: ship the way I did. So I refused for you
Speaker 1: Catt to put rings in your ears and looking different
Speaker 1: kind of you're not gonna look that life. You're not
Speaker 1: going to play that part. We're not doing that. So
Speaker 1: Mommy's would have had a motherfucking problem with with marm James.
Speaker 1: If my boys is looking like their street niggers, we
Speaker 1: ain't having that. You when they came to see my
Speaker 1: mama and came to Compton or stay and spent the
Speaker 1: night or whatever. If niggas one don't know block hanging
Speaker 1: drinking beer. The niggas weren't hanging on in the street,
Speaker 1: I wouldn't I wouldn't have it. So this is what
Speaker 1: I said, This is what he needs to be with
Speaker 1: his son. Son, you ain't ready for this type of ship. Son.
Speaker 1: I don't want to see you living this type of life.
Speaker 1: The worstest thing can come out of that it is death.
Speaker 1: You know, you run up on the wrong motherfucker, little boy.
Speaker 1: The way people are today, they're gonna take your life.
Speaker 1: They don't give a funk who your daddy. And you know, James,
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna tell you this, when if, at what
Speaker 1: point does a parents say, you know what, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: exercise some tough love. I'm cutting you off just to
Speaker 1: show you how real it is. Well, first of all,
Speaker 1: it takes you to see what you have created in
Speaker 1: your child, the way you raised and just saying you're
Speaker 1: giving them everything. But if if you're giving them so much,
Speaker 1: you have to sit back and say, Okay, man, I
Speaker 1: know I'm sucking up, I know I'm wrong. My son
Speaker 1: is wild and my daughter is wild and just what
Speaker 1: I'm fit to do. So once you see it, that's
Speaker 1: when you need to nift the ship in the bud.
Speaker 1: You don't let it go, keep going and going because
Speaker 1: you said back drinking and you would eat. Don't give
Speaker 1: a fuck you can you can never not give a
Speaker 1: funk about what your kids is doing. Now. You want
Speaker 1: to be an adult and you're out there living your
Speaker 1: life so big. I'm telling you, I'm living this ship
Speaker 1: right now. You know, my daughter has her own room here,
Speaker 1: she has her son here where she can be with
Speaker 1: her son and her daughter. She chose to be in
Speaker 1: the hood, and as a grown woman, I'm not going
Speaker 1: to the hood looking for you to bring you here. Now.
Speaker 1: This is my tough love. Gonna do what you do.
Speaker 1: But when you go back or if you go back
Speaker 1: to prison, don't talk to me about ship. Hold on,
Speaker 1: hold on, don't let me say this. So here's the difference.
Speaker 1: Whatever you're doing out there, you're doing it. But if
Speaker 1: you come and say, Daddy, m I know I messed up.
Speaker 1: I need your help. I got her, come on this
Speaker 1: stuff right there, that's fair. You know. Let me ask
Speaker 1: you this, James. I know a lot of people have
Speaker 1: known when she's came home and to how long she's
Speaker 1: been up. She got out in February March of this year.
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. And this only November and she's already on
Speaker 1: the run. It's been three months, two months since we
Speaker 1: saw not gonna stop pop off talking. No, you're not
Speaker 1: using her phone. No, go in your room and mine
Speaker 1: and look at TV. You want me to check up
Speaker 1: my house? Shoot, get your ass on. Thank you? So
Speaker 1: you know if you choose to live like that. And
Speaker 1: then here we go again. When I talked to her mother,
Speaker 1: her mother said, Mocha is wild and out. Mike, what
Speaker 1: the fuck is Mocha Thailand? Don't you ever call her? No?
Speaker 1: Motherfucking Mocha talking to me. You're talking to me about
Speaker 1: our daughter, So don't call her by her street name
Speaker 1: talking to me. So she goes to tell me, oh,
Speaker 1: we just out of here kicking it. Husband, How the
Speaker 1: fucking you hustle with your child doing what? See? This
Speaker 1: is what I'm talking about. She informed the friendship with
Speaker 1: her daughter instead of me and her mother, which I
Speaker 1: knew this from the beginning. Uh. I have never seen
Speaker 1: pam Comb Thailand hair. I've never seen her dressing. When
Speaker 1: she dresses, she just threw her clothes on. I took
Speaker 1: that ship off of her. I ironed her clothes and
Speaker 1: I combed her hair, you know what I'm saying. I
Speaker 1: used to give her a little bangs and the two ponytails.
Speaker 1: I used to do all that. Ship. So some people
Speaker 1: are not not meant to be parents. Yeah, my daughter
Speaker 1: used to crown when not being there because I used
Speaker 1: to suck them ponytails up. No, I used to like Lionel,
Speaker 1: I praised just had some time when when I got
Speaker 1: to take it down and watch it, I played him
Speaker 1: up all day. But some some people are not meant
Speaker 1: to be parents. Bro, you know what I'm saying. But
Speaker 1: they have these child and these kids, and they really
Speaker 1: don't give a funk. They're not paying attention the kid. Huh,
Speaker 1: They're They're really not, man, you know what I think
Speaker 1: things like I'm gonna tell you a story, man, I
Speaker 1: remember my daughter. She bugged the hell out of me
Speaker 1: and my my wife for a dog, just like really
Speaker 1: bugged this about. Oh this dog is so cute, so cute.
Speaker 1: So I kept telling them dog is a lot of responsibility,
Speaker 1: always a lot of responsibility, especially when you get them young.
Speaker 1: They get the crying all the time. They need attension,
Speaker 1: you know, especially when you're trying to break them from
Speaker 1: using the bathroom. They will wake you up at night
Speaker 1: when they got to go use the bathroom. It's a
Speaker 1: lot of stuff to it. It's almost like having the child,
Speaker 1: it is, especially when they're a puppy. Right. So it
Speaker 1: was a good experience for her because she lasted all
Speaker 1: the three weeks, and when I tell you about the
Speaker 1: third day, the public was laying by my feet all
Speaker 1: the time on myself. And then I'm just trying to
Speaker 1: get a tax to this dog, you know, because I
Speaker 1: like dogs. I like the dog, right. But I was
Speaker 1: showing her something. I says, you have to take care
Speaker 1: of this dog. But Dad, I'm so tired. I gotta
Speaker 1: go to school. You wanted to take care of the
Speaker 1: same thing if you have a baby. But you know,
Speaker 1: I don't want to compare a puppy to a baby.
Speaker 1: But man, that's how it is. So these kids go
Speaker 1: out and have these kids, right, and that's what happens. Oh,
Speaker 1: can't you help me. It's so hard because you know,
Speaker 1: you gotta using the baby's with the little girl and
Speaker 1: the boy running off doing whatever he want to do
Speaker 1: it whatever. Only time he come through is when he
Speaker 1: want to take some pictures or whatever like that. But
Speaker 1: you see it all the time. Same thing with the dog.
Speaker 1: So I wind up taking care of the puppy, right,
Speaker 1: And so my thing was this, I didn't I actually
Speaker 1: wanted to keep the dog, the puppy, because I grew
Speaker 1: liking to him. You know, he got a custom to me,
Speaker 1: was following me around the house all the time. I said, Okay,
Speaker 1: this dog see me? Is his outfit? And I told
Speaker 1: my wife, I said, it's not fair. Our lifestyle don't
Speaker 1: permit for us to have a dog. That's why I
Speaker 1: don't have a dog's I got too much stuff going on.
Speaker 1: I can't give it the time that they property need. Right.
Speaker 1: So we wound up really finding a nice family for
Speaker 1: the dog. We just wasn't gonna give him away to anybody,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. We wanted to see so
Speaker 1: so so. So we met a family. They had five
Speaker 1: little boys, and I said, this is gonna work. As
Speaker 1: it was a husky. And you know, huskies are real
Speaker 1: huskies staying this ship, you know what I mean, They're smart.
Speaker 1: The dog had already figured out how to get out
Speaker 1: the little cage ahead of me. And you know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying, I look up, he looking at me. I'm like, hey,
Speaker 1: what are you just in your cage? So I go
Speaker 1: put them back in the cage and get out again
Speaker 1: twenty minutes later. So we took them to a family
Speaker 1: man and five kids. Man, and they used to send
Speaker 1: these pictures you know, as a dog got bigger and
Speaker 1: stuff defense. You know, they faded off anything. But that's
Speaker 1: a classic example right there, what happens. That's how granddad
Speaker 1: winds up raising the kids because they really people literally
Speaker 1: are throwing kids away because they have other family members,
Speaker 1: because ain't nobody to let their grandkids go back. I
Speaker 1: don't care, I don't care how funked up, how mad
Speaker 1: you el is. I know I'm not gonna looking a
Speaker 1: brand kid of mine. He's get raised any kind of way, right,
Speaker 1: you know, I'm gonna go and give him to her
Speaker 1: if I see the parents. Ain't that that my kids
Speaker 1: ain't fit to do the They're gonna get an earful
Speaker 1: from me. But that kid would be in this house
Speaker 1: right right, You feel what I mean? And now we
Speaker 1: just had to do whatever I had to do in
Speaker 1: order to take you know, help them, help They had
Speaker 1: the best life possible, right, Everybody don't think like that.
Speaker 1: Everybody don't feel the ain't way, and that's why we
Speaker 1: have and we're talking about this situation now. You know
Speaker 1: your methods are doing. Ship is totally different. When I
Speaker 1: got a dog and my girl didn't wanted the dog,
Speaker 1: I got the dog, loved the dog, buying the dog,
Speaker 1: bids and all this ship. When she stopped taking care
Speaker 1: of it, I put that dog in my truck. I
Speaker 1: hit about ten blocks tin conors and I let the
Speaker 1: dog out. I jumped out and let him out, let
Speaker 1: her out, and jumped in the truck. And all you
Speaker 1: heard with me burning, rubbing the truck, and I'm looking
Speaker 1: back and I'm seeing her trying to catch the truck.
Speaker 1: When I hit the corner, I ain't see it no more.
Speaker 1: I'm gone. I hit another corner. I ain't at the
Speaker 1: one butty no more. But I let her know I
Speaker 1: had to take it away because I next for the dog.
Speaker 1: How a dog with a pet bull. Her name was Sentiment. Yeah,
Speaker 1: she was about one two years old. Somebody picked the
Speaker 1: dog up. Dog. She was healthy as fun, she had
Speaker 1: pretty your pretty cold, you know. She was a pretty
Speaker 1: as dog. And but I'm not taking care of but
Speaker 1: I'm I'm on the motorcycle, said I'm not at home,
Speaker 1: I go on trips. So if you don't want to
Speaker 1: take care of the dog, and then if I'm not there,
Speaker 1: you put her outside. So yeah, responsibility is the motherfucker.
Speaker 1: But you know it's you know, life is life, life
Speaker 1: is it's bullshit, But you just gotta know how to
Speaker 1: live life and how to respect what's yours. That's from
Speaker 1: your kids, to your mom's, your grandparents, your aunt, cheese
Speaker 1: and all that. My uncle's and cheese, I still call
Speaker 1: him uncle. I still call him ANCHI. That's respect right there.
Speaker 1: These kids don't do that. They called These kids call
Speaker 1: you by your name, huh, either by your name or
Speaker 1: O G. Yeah, so you know the respect is standing out.
Speaker 1: Every year it gets worse and worse. And that's the
Speaker 1: timeframe we're on. Every year. Ship changes. M hmm, it changes,
Speaker 1: it changes made. But you know what, though broke. It's
Speaker 1: just what you see exchanged. Because we got parents out
Speaker 1: here being the kids homeboys or the home girl versus
Speaker 1: being a parent. Ain't no guidelines being said, ain't no
Speaker 1: basic principles like respect and honor. Because I was always talking, James.
Speaker 1: When you go in the room and it's grown folks
Speaker 1: talking you don't just interrupt the conversation and coming in
Speaker 1: and start talking. Who was the old praig? What was
Speaker 1: the old thing when grown folks talking at the funk up? Exactly,
Speaker 1: you're grown folks talking. Shut the funk up. I wasn't
Speaker 1: allowed to have nob the socialize with my people, with
Speaker 1: with my parents and their friends when they're out there
Speaker 1: having conversations. Now you see, you you live to be
Speaker 1: having the conversation. You see the kids jump right in
Speaker 1: the middle of it. Yeah, and and and be in
Speaker 1: the conversation. Oh yeah, for sure. And the parents so
Speaker 1: scared to say something of the kids like they gon
Speaker 1: hurt their feelings. Something's the craziest you've ever seen. And
Speaker 1: it's like you're the father, you're the daddy, you're the mama.
Speaker 1: They do what you say. It ain't the vice versa.
Speaker 1: You set the rules and the foundation, right. I know,
Speaker 1: over here where I'm at, I set the rules for
Speaker 1: the house. Me and my wife set the rules. We
Speaker 1: set the foundation up in here. It ain't the other
Speaker 1: way around, man. I didn't change people disrespect their parents
Speaker 1: when their parents get to a certain age and they
Speaker 1: can't take care of itself. I just change people put
Speaker 1: their parents in a combination home, and their parents gave
Speaker 1: him the best, gave him everything. But this is what
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do, so they they throw them off.
Speaker 1: M hm. You know what I'm saying. We don't respect
Speaker 1: our elders, We don't respect life. So I got bigger
Speaker 1: and better things to do than take care of you. Man.
Speaker 1: I didn't care if if I had to change my
Speaker 1: mom's I didn't care if I had to go and
Speaker 1: clean up back through three times a day. This is
Speaker 1: what we we are. We are here for to take
Speaker 1: care of parents when they get older. You know what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. People don't think like that today. Well you
Speaker 1: know what man, I just said this um you know,
Speaker 1: knee surgery a couple of weeks ago, and one thing
Speaker 1: I we will say. My kids have been a one though, daughter,
Speaker 1: my son a one. Daddy. You need anything that that
Speaker 1: you need anything? Daddy? Are you hungry? Daddy? I'm gonna
Speaker 1: get some socks and put on your feet, you know,
Speaker 1: because you can't move to one leg right. And you know,
Speaker 1: between them and my wife, man, they a one that
Speaker 1: gives me hope. That one. I am an old, real
Speaker 1: old dude and can't take care of myself, and I'm
Speaker 1: around here driven on myself that they ain't gonna dog
Speaker 1: me out well is a proven in fact what they're
Speaker 1: doing now. But but you gotta look at no him
Speaker 1: as a father. You deserve that because you're you're a
Speaker 1: good father. You raised your kids. Your kids didn't have
Speaker 1: to see daddy with with multiple women. Your kids never
Speaker 1: grew up happening to to beg nor getting their ass
Speaker 1: whoop and all this other ship. You and your wife
Speaker 1: are still together and they see that. So whether you
Speaker 1: know it or not, you're still something in your daughter.
Speaker 1: Because your daughter ain't gonna walk and she shouldn't want
Speaker 1: a man if he ain't on the same pedal stove
Speaker 1: that she put her father on. Oh man, let me
Speaker 1: tell you dog the other day. You know, sometimes I
Speaker 1: got a tendency because when you want to think all
Speaker 1: you're doing is rehabbing all day, you know you gotta
Speaker 1: do them exercise all day, and you can fucking need
Speaker 1: it if you don't. Right, and you're taking all this
Speaker 1: damn medicine and ship man, so by the in between,
Speaker 1: next you're laying on the sofa with your leg propped
Speaker 1: that way in the air, with the ice thing with
Speaker 1: ice machine on, and you wind up dozing off, so
Speaker 1: I wake up the other day. Man, not get the
Speaker 1: smell and the nicest meals ever, No, I'm like, Man,
Speaker 1: she somebody in there getting down and I'm hungry my stomach. Brother, Man,
Speaker 1: when I tell you my daughter came in there and here, Daddy,
Speaker 1: I cooked for you a boss play macaroni and cheese,
Speaker 1: meet loads mashed potatoes, you know, green beans, and just
Speaker 1: like daddy, you want some more? Daddy? You could? She
Speaker 1: come up there, rubbed my feet for me. Man, almost
Speaker 1: brought tears to mind. Let's it's my little girl. She's
Speaker 1: taking really taking care of her daddy. And that's the
Speaker 1: way it's supposed to be. Man. Family is supposed to
Speaker 1: take care of each other, just like that little girl
Speaker 1: taking care of me. It's my job to take care
Speaker 1: of her and make sure she are right and straight.
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, This is my job. I
Speaker 1: don't expect no damn rewards. I've never said around here
Speaker 1: asking you know I hear something is Man, my family
Speaker 1: don't appreciate me. What you mean? Your family is gonna
Speaker 1: preach you what expected for it war for you doing
Speaker 1: your damn job. I don't. I don't need no problems. Dog,
Speaker 1: That's what I'm supposed to do. I just knew. I
Speaker 1: just tried to give my kids the childhood I wish
Speaker 1: I would have, and I give it. You gotta give
Speaker 1: a shout to my mamacause my mama did a hell
Speaker 1: of a job. He want dad, He did a hell
Speaker 1: of a child. But my father and no bad dude.
Speaker 1: I had my daddy in my life, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean. So, but my mama did a real good
Speaker 1: job as far as extended in stilling certain values in me.
Speaker 1: And one thing I love about my mama is my
Speaker 1: aunt Tie uses to talk about my biological daddy like
Speaker 1: a dog. My mama didn't allow that. She because I
Speaker 1: got kind of caught up in them things to where
Speaker 1: I was attacking my daddy too, And she put me
Speaker 1: in check about that. She said, listen, your dad loved you.
Speaker 1: Your dad loves you. Whatever girl went on between me
Speaker 1: and him, and that's our business. And I don't never
Speaker 1: want to hear you disrespect them again. And that's what
Speaker 1: to do because she realized, she told me, she said,
Speaker 1: I want you when your and your daddy to be
Speaker 1: in each other's life. It was never no stuff. My
Speaker 1: mom didn't play that of me going to things and
Speaker 1: she would check out and she would check my uncle's aunties.
Speaker 1: Whoever else had something bad to say about my father,
Speaker 1: she said, you're not gonna do that, because he was
Speaker 1: he loved his son. Yeah, he wasn't perfect, you know,
Speaker 1: about a long shot. He had his issues, like everybody
Speaker 1: got issues. I didn't come to find out my father
Speaker 1: grew up. You know, it was nineteen to them, and
Speaker 1: all of them wounded up in foster homes at a
Speaker 1: certain point, so it was a lot of stuff he
Speaker 1: had to figure out as a man. Like my dad
Speaker 1: broke it down to me one day, I had you
Speaker 1: when I was tween two years old, and I didn't
Speaker 1: have a real idea of what the father was holps
Speaker 1: to look like, because he know he had this old
Speaker 1: man in his life. My grandfather was a rolling stone.
Speaker 1: He had nineteen kids in Ohio, had another teen in Tennessee,
Speaker 1: had another five in Mississippi somewhere. So during his younger
Speaker 1: years he was rolling around. He eventually came back home
Speaker 1: and put his family back together. But if you think
Speaker 1: about the situation that my father went through like that,
Speaker 1: it had to mess what is he here a little
Speaker 1: bit and when he broke it down to me, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna tell you, man, I love my father. Me and
Speaker 1: him got the best relationship in the world. Now I
Speaker 1: love my old man. I don't have time because what
Speaker 1: I figured out, James. Either I can sit up here
Speaker 1: and be bitter about some ship that happened a few
Speaker 1: times that he may not have came and picked me
Speaker 1: up or whatever. Or I could really make the most
Speaker 1: out of the time that we got right now and
Speaker 1: not living the past to be worried about move on
Speaker 1: from it the past, and and and enjoyed the life
Speaker 1: in the time that you have now. So that's the
Speaker 1: important part. Most of us don't get it. I don't
Speaker 1: think I would have been able to do that. But
Speaker 1: you know, I can't do nothing but forgive let it go.
Speaker 1: You can't do something. But before we get up, Barty
Speaker 1: the James, I want to tell the people something. We
Speaker 1: have Gangster Chronicles merchandise on sale, y'all. Make sure y'all
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Speaker 1: shirts with big James face on there. And I'm just
Speaker 1: messing with you. We ain't got no stuff like that. Okay, no,
Speaker 1: but we do have merchs and we got some new
Speaker 1: designs out there, gonna send them to you. Bray actually
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Speaker 1: our own stream of that coming in the next month.
Speaker 1: Is so y'all you wanna look out with that all
Speaker 1: kinds of exclusive stuff with the Gangster Chronicles. My boy
Speaker 1: Big James has his own show coming. You're already for
Speaker 1: the drum Rogue James. They don't tell you what the
Speaker 1: name we thought of it together. No, no, no, we
Speaker 1: have life, the Life and Times of Mob James and
Speaker 1: his transformation at the James McDonald. It's gonna be a
Speaker 1: powerful and the cold think about that man. You know
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't think that it's possible to
Speaker 1: change your life are. They think that they're stuck in
Speaker 1: the life that they are. And today I'm here to
Speaker 1: tell you we don't have to be stuck nor stagnated
Speaker 1: as that person. Everybody got move for change in life,
Speaker 1: regardless of what we've done. You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: And I want to say I'm glad that I had
Speaker 1: a chance to change and see different. I really did.
Speaker 1: And man, on that note, man, I wish everybody out there, well,
Speaker 1: yeah for sure, big dog have more details on Shames
Speaker 1: show as it comes. That don't mean he not on
Speaker 1: gainst the chronicles no more. So don't start doing no
Speaker 1: missy stuff. That don't mean he there. But y'all gotta
Speaker 1: remember this. He was a business and when you got
Speaker 1: three people on the show, that money gets tricks all
Speaker 1: kind of way. So we had to go out and
Speaker 1: do other things. So what my boy had nice sent me.
Speaker 1: What's the monel? Man, I'm gonna come over there and
Speaker 1: take your here. Man, you know I'm ball here. I
Speaker 1: need him here, man, Can I have some of your braids?
Speaker 1: Can I have? Can I have one of your braids? Now?
Speaker 1: How come I need? I need two of them? So
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get my sisters when I come out there,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna take me some of them braids. All right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're gonna do that. Losing two stays now, I've seen
Speaker 1: him right now, heady back in there and they start
Speaker 1: bothering them yet No, he just lost the two top ones. Yeah,
Speaker 1: like Candy. No, he's good. We we we try to
Speaker 1: do different. He looked like he getting bigged up. Need
Speaker 1: to put football field. Yeah, yes, he's starting to get big.
Speaker 1: He probably athletic as all get out to him. Man,
Speaker 1: he's flipping and he's doing everything else. She scared me.
Speaker 1: Momm you want to play football? You do? Okay, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna tell my friend to sign you up
Speaker 1: because James isn't beating. She was, how old is he not? Dog?
Speaker 1: He'd be six next year. Yeah, yeah, you can play
Speaker 1: on the tinies, dog. But y'all know what football and football?
Speaker 1: He needs something. I was gonna put him in karate
Speaker 1: because with karate dad discipline, that would be good for him. Bro. Yeah,
Speaker 1: where I'm at, witty, but I think karate will give
Speaker 1: him that. You know that discipline get need outside of home? Yeah,
Speaker 1: for sure. End of the show him how to work
Speaker 1: with other people and giving patience because James, I'm gonna
Speaker 1: tell you something. I took jiu jitsu for four years.
Speaker 1: I don't tell a lot of people that, Uh, martial
Speaker 1: arts gives you a confidence to know that you can
Speaker 1: Russian motherfucker, So you gotta tenden see to less stuff
Speaker 1: slide and just kind of laugh at it, and you
Speaker 1: just really just waiting for them to make that one
Speaker 1: move and you already got them figured out kind of,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So I've never like once
Speaker 1: I took once I started studying jiu jitsu. Man, it
Speaker 1: took me to a thing. I used to fight a
Speaker 1: lot before that, but then after that I didn't because
Speaker 1: it was kind of like I'll be looking at people
Speaker 1: like to you, it doesn't matter if there was a
Speaker 1: big dude to us, small dude like you know, you
Speaker 1: don't even know, you ain't got enough. But man, we're
Speaker 1: gonna get up out of here. Man, we appreciate you
Speaker 1: guys for tuning me in the night again. Hit those
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Speaker 1: and we out of here on the chime fish alright,
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