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Speaker 1: We like to welcome everyone to another episode of the

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Speaker 1: Cames the Chronicles podcast. It is raining in southern California. James.

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Speaker 1: That motherfucker was lying on that song when you said

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Speaker 1: it never rings in southern California because it's ringing cats

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Speaker 1: and dogs like motherfucker and and and it's actually kind

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Speaker 1: of chilly outside today, man, you know, But of course

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Speaker 1: I got my boy in house. Yeah, Man, when we

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Speaker 1: go discuss something to night like that. We've been talking

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Speaker 1: earlier about parenting and how parenting um plays a role

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Speaker 1: and who we ultimately become as people, you know, and

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Speaker 1: I want to touchdown on something first. Man. I've always

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Speaker 1: preached nothing but respect in my household, for your elders

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Speaker 1: and just for people in general, even people your agge,

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Speaker 1: you know, not talking crazy to people, being humble at

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Speaker 1: all times, you know, and not every thinking that she's

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Speaker 1: really better than nobody else. And I wanted to kind

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Speaker 1: of touch when this one situation it's kind of old,

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Speaker 1: but it feeds into what we were talking about to day.

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Speaker 1: So I was paying attention to the t I cat

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Speaker 1: online right right, And I guess his son that felt

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Speaker 1: um that fell out with one of the employees at

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Speaker 1: this restaurant that's really big in the soft called the

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Speaker 1: waffle House. I'm pretty sure you're familiar with the waffle House. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I seen the video. Yeah, so um when I saw that,

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Speaker 1: a couple of things came to mind. First of all,

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Speaker 1: you know, when t I addressed a situation he was

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Speaker 1: talking to his son rather than discipline him. He was

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Speaker 1: almost like, why are you wasting your time talking to

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Speaker 1: a short order cook? Right? And that really pissed me off, man,

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Speaker 1: because you're sending the message now the way you're telling

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Speaker 1: your son, who seems like he already arrogant as all

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Speaker 1: get out and spoiled, that you above the working class man.

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Speaker 1: And you know, Mr t I, those people that work

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Speaker 1: at the waffle House places like that, to work at Walmark,

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Speaker 1: that me work at Target and start shelves, and like,

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Speaker 1: those are the ones off to find crickets. The man's

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Speaker 1: first of all, right, average day people. Yeah, and they

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Speaker 1: should be treated with respect. So t I, if we

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Speaker 1: had to dunk you the fucking days there would be tis.

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Speaker 1: Don't ask for that ship because I didn't really think

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Speaker 1: that was cool. Well, you know, I watched him when

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Speaker 1: he had his little thing with tiny their little show,

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Speaker 1: and it seemed like he was raising his kids to

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Speaker 1: understand value. But then when I seen the little incident

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Speaker 1: in there with him, you know, I just slapped the

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Speaker 1: ship out of my side because you out of line

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Speaker 1: and to have wealth like like they like they do,

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Speaker 1: and for him to grow up and not have to

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Speaker 1: worry about anything or para shoes or Christmas and ship

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Speaker 1: like that. The way he runner his mouth be take

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Speaker 1: life for granted. He wants to be a you do.

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Speaker 1: You're not cut from that club to be a street

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Speaker 1: dude talking about shooting in air and shipped out. Come on, man,

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Speaker 1: shut your son down as a father and tell your

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Speaker 1: son I made these mistakes. I don't want you to

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Speaker 1: make these mistakes. Don't tell him. Why would you argue

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Speaker 1: argue with somebody beneath you? Come on, that's funked up.

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Speaker 1: So yeah, you get a He get an f for

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Speaker 1: that one. But you know, these kids grow up. I

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Speaker 1: don't give a funk if you rich or not. Like

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Speaker 1: you know, man, it depends on the parent. Man kids

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Speaker 1: a certain kind of way. So you know, he get

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Speaker 1: an fl on that one. He dropped the ball. He

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Speaker 1: call you have a real man, and I'm might gonna

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Speaker 1: stay stuck with him for too long. Man. But that's

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Speaker 1: and I see that a lot because I had a

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Speaker 1: kind of float around this because I don't want to

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Speaker 1: putting nobody's business out there whatever. But I saw as

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Speaker 1: he made his way kind of up in the industry,

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Speaker 1: the attitude of his kids they changed. They kind of

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Speaker 1: turned into little unbearable assholes. So it was to the

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Speaker 1: point that where once they wound up leaving the league

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Speaker 1: that we was in, I was actually kind of happy

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Speaker 1: because I was like this, I'm not about to sit

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Speaker 1: up here and called with your kids, man, right, you know,

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Speaker 1: I'm not just gonna do it, because I don't do that.

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Speaker 1: But my own kids, man, And I would like to

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Speaker 1: say that my kids grew up with a little bit

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Speaker 1: more than I did, not a little bit more, a

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Speaker 1: stuff of that nature. You know, it was I remember

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Speaker 1: it was a time man with me and my brother

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Speaker 1: shared the bed at one point, right, we did you

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Speaker 1: know that was just what it was. You know, you

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Speaker 1: enough like that. You know you've got three beds in

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Speaker 1: like to think that I've raised my kids to be respectable,

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Speaker 1: talk craisy to nobody else. But when we talked about

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Speaker 1: this earlier, do you think it's a such thing it's

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Speaker 1: giving the keys too much? Or do you think it's

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Speaker 1: a such thing? Is when you give the them these rewards,

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Speaker 1: do you need to kind of let them know that

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Speaker 1: this is not average everything stuff you need to be

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Speaker 1: prateful for, like like what you think, say, yeah, you gotta,

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Speaker 1: you gotta definitely telling them why they get the things

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Speaker 1: they do. Most of us wait a minute, no, go

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Speaker 1: take that in there, pop up doing something when I'm finished. Okay,

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Speaker 1: most of us, you know, we befriend our kids the

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Speaker 1: wrong way. We give like like me that I'm gonna

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Speaker 1: speak on me. I tried my best to give nine

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Speaker 1: treat him totally different from how my all the words

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Speaker 1: with me, the same as I was with my two sons.

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Speaker 1: Now my two sons has never been to jail, never

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Speaker 1: saying in their parts. They both in the college, and

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Speaker 1: they understand where I came from. Now giving line of

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Speaker 1: the ship that I give him and trying to give

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Speaker 1: him everything, I try my best to give him everything.

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Speaker 1: He tends to be spoiled, well he is spoil And

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Speaker 1: then you have to work your way out of that

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Speaker 1: with it because when we go to the store, he

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Speaker 1: sees something he wanted not even want to part about it. No,

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Speaker 1: that's not what it's about. I give you two things

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Speaker 1: because I know you need things. I'm not just buying

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Speaker 1: this ship just so you can have it. Man, knowing

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Speaker 1: half of the ship he got last Christmas, it's still

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Speaker 1: in by still still he's not even tripping on him

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Speaker 1: no more. No, he ain't even like you got a

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Speaker 1: brand new bicycle. He ain't road He got uh a

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Speaker 1: the music everything. He don't touch it aboard. Yeah, man,

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Speaker 1: I'm coming jealous, Mona to let me ride them now

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Speaker 1: you just have surgery on your knees, going right back

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Speaker 1: to the hospital. Yeah. But what what I'm saying is, yeah,

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Speaker 1: we do give our kids too much. You know, our

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Speaker 1: daddy is supposed to continue to give them the way

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Speaker 1: they did when they was kids. That's because we stopped

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Speaker 1: and now they all funked up. So yeah, it's parents

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Speaker 1: faunt that we do too much and give too much

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Speaker 1: without without a reason for real. And you know, let

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Speaker 1: me ask you this, James, because we came to the

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Speaker 1: you know, we were talking about discipline the other day

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Speaker 1: and in my household, I haven't gave too many woomans.

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Speaker 1: I don't really believe in hitting him a kid, you know.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, don't get me wrong, I believe

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Speaker 1: in punishing the kid if you do something wrong, you

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Speaker 1: have to be able accountable for your actions. So I

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Speaker 1: was being on the accountability, but at the same time

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Speaker 1: I didn't think the accountability ment slapping the shot out

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Speaker 1: belts and all that. Ship man me and my personal opinion,

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Speaker 1: I think that that was back in our days. That

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Speaker 1: I got some fishers are us man, Well, it all

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Speaker 1: depends on what what what you consider a vicious ass whooping? Uh?

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Speaker 1: What I've learned you can discipline your kids without whooping

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Speaker 1: your kids in a vicious manner. You can discipline your

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Speaker 1: kids by taking the things they love. You know, sometimes

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Speaker 1: it works, sometimes they don't. I used to say, I'm

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Speaker 1: Lite will be on time. I like, Mom, but go

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Speaker 1: and the first thing he said, Papa, I'm sorry. Why

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Speaker 1: are you sorry for what I did? What did you do?

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So whooping has asked for

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Speaker 1: he don't repeat it. It might be two months down

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Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying. So you know, and that

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Speaker 1: that's a big problem. That that's a huge problem. Let's

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Speaker 1: give me that a little bit. People making turning their

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Speaker 1: you see fathers and son getting high, you feel you

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Speaker 1: see mommy and daughter at the nightclub twerking, you see

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Speaker 1: or whatever, not pop smoke, but pe me something. That

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Speaker 1: jail for that. You know you cannot. And and I'll

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Speaker 1: be damned if I get caught doing any crime with

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Speaker 1: because I'm out here on some stupid ship. Now, that

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Speaker 1: having that type of parents. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 1: I can't befriend my kids. I'm your father at all times.

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Speaker 1: I can't sit back and play dominoes and smoke weed

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Speaker 1: with you. I can't do that. Now you're you're older,

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Speaker 1: twenty some years old, thirty years old. I can sit

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Speaker 1: there's nothing wrong with it. They adults, they've grown, they

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Speaker 1: doing something wrong, Pops, because at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: to be great kids. Right. I've seen parents that go

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00:25:31,440 --> 00:25:33,920
Speaker 1: above and beyond for their kids and do the most,

428
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,160
Speaker 1: and they turned out to be the worst. I'm gonna

429
00:25:37,160 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 1: tell you a story, and again, I don't want to

430
00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:41,520
Speaker 1: put people's personal business out there. Some gonna league names

431
00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:44,720
Speaker 1: out right. But I know a family, and I've known

432
00:25:44,800 --> 00:25:47,800
Speaker 1: this family since I've came to California, that was I

433
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:50,920
Speaker 1: would say, I came out here in I've known them

434
00:25:50,960 --> 00:25:55,119
Speaker 1: since then. Great family, man, I'm talking about an awesome father,

435
00:25:55,680 --> 00:26:00,920
Speaker 1: awesome mama. Professional people. So they're your brother was one

436
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:03,120
Speaker 1: of my best friends. So you figured you've got four

437
00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:05,680
Speaker 1: kids in the household, right, I've known all these kids,

438
00:26:05,720 --> 00:26:07,960
Speaker 1: they adults, and I've known them since they was little kids,

439
00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:10,560
Speaker 1: you know, since I was a teenager and they were babies,

440
00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:12,760
Speaker 1: you know, walking around two and three years old, six

441
00:26:12,840 --> 00:26:17,400
Speaker 1: years old, seven years old. Right. I just recently found

442
00:26:17,400 --> 00:26:21,600
Speaker 1: out that two of those kids were adopted, and I

443
00:26:21,720 --> 00:26:24,960
Speaker 1: never knew that. I never knew that. And when I

444
00:26:25,040 --> 00:26:27,680
Speaker 1: tell you right now, they're going through some stuff with

445
00:26:27,800 --> 00:26:31,800
Speaker 1: one of the daughters is so disrespectful to them. She

446
00:26:31,960 --> 00:26:34,560
Speaker 1: feels like um an a monster towards them because they

447
00:26:34,600 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 1: both went out of trying to find their real pearance.

448
00:26:36,880 --> 00:26:40,200
Speaker 1: Right and and one thing she told me, she said

449
00:26:40,280 --> 00:26:43,080
Speaker 1: she always promised them that when they got older and

450
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:46,600
Speaker 1: got ready to go try to find their parents, we'll

451
00:26:46,680 --> 00:26:48,440
Speaker 1: let you know. We give you all the information we

452
00:26:48,560 --> 00:26:50,639
Speaker 1: gotta well help you go find your parents. But I

453
00:26:50,800 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 1: never knew that these kids were adopted. It was to

454
00:26:52,760 --> 00:26:55,840
Speaker 1: the point, I swear the sister and the brother looked

455
00:26:55,880 --> 00:26:58,800
Speaker 1: at like my homeboy and his little sister. I always

456
00:26:58,800 --> 00:27:01,960
Speaker 1: thought that's his little sister. And so two of them

457
00:27:01,960 --> 00:27:04,960
Speaker 1: wounded up just turning on the parents. Right and and

458
00:27:05,440 --> 00:27:08,639
Speaker 1: father is suffering from Alex Hummer's right now. Right, So

459
00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:10,760
Speaker 1: I said, you know, y'all wait to this great man

460
00:27:10,920 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 1: started going through the worst thing in his life. He

461
00:27:13,040 --> 00:27:14,920
Speaker 1: don't remember when he was last time I want to

462
00:27:14,920 --> 00:27:16,119
Speaker 1: go see him. He was looking at me like he

463
00:27:16,160 --> 00:27:20,000
Speaker 1: want to woo my ass. We're just two months before.

464
00:27:20,960 --> 00:27:22,960
Speaker 1: He was laughing and joking, but you could tell his

465
00:27:23,080 --> 00:27:25,080
Speaker 1: memory wasn't all there, and it would be coming back

466
00:27:25,119 --> 00:27:28,160
Speaker 1: and forth. But they pretty much, you know, they told

467
00:27:28,200 --> 00:27:30,280
Speaker 1: the mom. You know, they called the mom's out of name.

468
00:27:30,359 --> 00:27:32,040
Speaker 1: You know that bitch didn't do nothing for us, and

469
00:27:32,080 --> 00:27:35,639
Speaker 1: it's kind of like it wasn't my place, but I

470
00:27:35,720 --> 00:27:37,600
Speaker 1: wanted both of the asks. I was like, y'are a

471
00:27:37,680 --> 00:27:41,400
Speaker 1: little ungrateful motherfucker's and the Howard are the man? They

472
00:27:41,480 --> 00:27:45,760
Speaker 1: have to be in their thirties right now, ce Cee,

473
00:27:46,920 --> 00:27:52,440
Speaker 1: just like I was saying, you could be so so

474
00:27:52,520 --> 00:27:56,720
Speaker 1: selfish now you wouldn't have made it to thirty. And

475
00:27:56,840 --> 00:28:00,960
Speaker 1: these kids don't understand this. You're the home just say,

476
00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:02,960
Speaker 1: if they wouldn't have got you, you would have been

477
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:05,720
Speaker 1: treated all different kind of ways. You don't know what

478
00:28:05,800 --> 00:28:08,880
Speaker 1: type of person you would be at this point. They

479
00:28:08,880 --> 00:28:13,720
Speaker 1: don't sit back and think about that now that they

480
00:28:13,760 --> 00:28:17,760
Speaker 1: already know that these they would foster kids. Yeah, they

481
00:28:17,840 --> 00:28:20,520
Speaker 1: knew that they were adopted. They legally adopted their last name.

482
00:28:20,960 --> 00:28:23,600
Speaker 1: They all shared the same last name. And it was

483
00:28:23,640 --> 00:28:26,120
Speaker 1: such a shock to me, always like hun and they

484
00:28:26,119 --> 00:28:29,359
Speaker 1: said yeah, and you know what, they wouldn't obligate to

485
00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:31,439
Speaker 1: tell me. Remember when I was talking to moms about it,

486
00:28:31,440 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 1: because that's what I call the moms, and she was saying, well,

487
00:28:33,600 --> 00:28:37,680
Speaker 1: you know, norm, I always thought that that was their news.

488
00:28:37,760 --> 00:28:40,360
Speaker 1: To pray. We didn't go around advertising that the people

489
00:28:40,360 --> 00:28:42,040
Speaker 1: not that we was ashamed of it, but we felt

490
00:28:42,080 --> 00:28:44,720
Speaker 1: like that's y'all news to break if y'all want to

491
00:28:44,720 --> 00:28:46,920
Speaker 1: break it. So they gave them every bit of respect.

492
00:28:46,960 --> 00:28:49,400
Speaker 1: You know, had all their documents and who their parents was.

493
00:28:49,520 --> 00:28:51,880
Speaker 1: So what happens he was, they go to meet they

494
00:28:51,920 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 1: buy a lost of parents and the one man tells

495
00:28:54,680 --> 00:29:00,800
Speaker 1: the boy, your daddy is the man that raised you.

496
00:29:00,800 --> 00:29:02,720
Speaker 1: You know, I'm I'm gonna be honest with you. He said,

497
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:06,080
Speaker 1: I gave you a four adoption. I was fifteen years

498
00:29:06,080 --> 00:29:08,400
Speaker 1: old and had a baby with a little girl I've

499
00:29:08,440 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 1: met at a party, and I don't know this little girl.

500
00:29:10,640 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 1: For Adam, the best thing for her and for me

501
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: as fifteen year old kids was to put you guys

502
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:18,520
Speaker 1: up for adoption. You went to a wonderful home. When

503
00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:20,520
Speaker 1: he kind of schooled him and said, you know, you

504
00:29:20,560 --> 00:29:22,960
Speaker 1: can come and talk to me any time. You can

505
00:29:22,960 --> 00:29:25,160
Speaker 1: talk to you know, you can meet your brothers and sisters,

506
00:29:25,160 --> 00:29:27,440
Speaker 1: but you have to know that that man is your father.

507
00:29:28,280 --> 00:29:30,840
Speaker 1: That's why I never interfere, you know, because I knew

508
00:29:30,840 --> 00:29:33,040
Speaker 1: you went to a good home. It wasn't that I

509
00:29:33,080 --> 00:29:35,000
Speaker 1: just gave you away. But I was a baby myself.

510
00:29:35,040 --> 00:29:36,440
Speaker 1: I was I gonna take care of you. Gotta give

511
00:29:36,440 --> 00:29:40,320
Speaker 1: you the worst life possible. I gave you the worst life, father,

512
00:29:40,480 --> 00:29:42,520
Speaker 1: so he told him. Then another girl she went to

513
00:29:42,560 --> 00:29:45,520
Speaker 1: go try to find her mama, and the mama said, well,

514
00:29:46,160 --> 00:29:50,160
Speaker 1: I don't want to meet you because I gave she

515
00:29:50,280 --> 00:29:53,240
Speaker 1: was on drugs and everything. And she asked me. She

516
00:29:53,280 --> 00:29:55,440
Speaker 1: didn't talk to the mom. She talked to her auntie.

517
00:29:55,440 --> 00:29:58,640
Speaker 1: She found Auntie and she said, look, your mom has

518
00:29:58,680 --> 00:30:02,680
Speaker 1: a bunch of problems. She is not well. There's no

519
00:30:02,760 --> 00:30:05,240
Speaker 1: way she could be somebody's mind right now, you see

520
00:30:05,240 --> 00:30:08,120
Speaker 1: what I mean, and especially going through something like this man.

521
00:30:08,520 --> 00:30:11,880
Speaker 1: And that goes to the thing because when I tell you, James,

522
00:30:11,880 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 1: that they gave these kids everything that you could imagine.

523
00:30:15,680 --> 00:30:19,320
Speaker 1: All of them are colleagues, graduates, and they paid for it.

524
00:30:20,440 --> 00:30:23,120
Speaker 1: All of them are professionals. They're doing great in life,

525
00:30:23,440 --> 00:30:26,000
Speaker 1: great people outside of this little bullshit they pull them

526
00:30:26,040 --> 00:30:28,360
Speaker 1: right now. So I can't even make that statement that

527
00:30:28,360 --> 00:30:30,760
Speaker 1: that bitch never done nothing for him. Why would he

528
00:30:30,760 --> 00:30:33,720
Speaker 1: even say that. Well, that's what I'm saying, James, because

529
00:30:33,800 --> 00:30:37,720
Speaker 1: people people have a tendency. I noticed now if some

530
00:30:37,760 --> 00:30:41,200
Speaker 1: people have a tendency to blame whatever little thing they

531
00:30:41,280 --> 00:30:44,000
Speaker 1: got going on in their life, on their parents or

532
00:30:44,040 --> 00:30:47,560
Speaker 1: whoever they can. It's never they fault but me looking

533
00:30:47,560 --> 00:30:49,760
Speaker 1: to see that's some bullshit, And I'll tell either one

534
00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:52,520
Speaker 1: of them, because these people have been over backage for

535
00:30:52,520 --> 00:30:55,400
Speaker 1: you guys, y'alls on summer trips everything. You know. Folks,

536
00:30:55,440 --> 00:30:59,360
Speaker 1: I'm talking about sameings, going to Puerto Rico, going to England,

537
00:30:59,400 --> 00:31:02,880
Speaker 1: going to all these different far off locations and just

538
00:31:02,960 --> 00:31:05,000
Speaker 1: like I was thinking, like, damn, you don't had a

539
00:31:05,040 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 1: pretty good life and shames. Will I tell you? These

540
00:31:08,000 --> 00:31:10,680
Speaker 1: kids were raised in the Orange County, the Orange County

541
00:31:10,680 --> 00:31:12,960
Speaker 1: I'm talking about nice part of Orange County, lived in

542
00:31:13,000 --> 00:31:15,960
Speaker 1: a nice house, had good experiences growing up, like they

543
00:31:16,120 --> 00:31:19,440
Speaker 1: every Friday might football games they have. They're hanging because

544
00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:21,320
Speaker 1: they ain't nothing going on out there, ain't know hood

545
00:31:21,360 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 1: stuff going on out that they having fun. All of

546
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:27,800
Speaker 1: them had cars when they turned sixteen. Just all the

547
00:31:27,800 --> 00:31:30,560
Speaker 1: amenities that you could hope change. They grew up so

548
00:31:31,160 --> 00:31:34,760
Speaker 1: they grew up so opposite with me, especially you and

549
00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:38,240
Speaker 1: especially me, even me, They grew up way different than

550
00:31:38,680 --> 00:31:40,560
Speaker 1: what we came up. And you would have thought there

551
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:44,440
Speaker 1: had been some gratitude. But that's another example of somebody

552
00:31:44,480 --> 00:31:47,160
Speaker 1: giving someone they y'all and getting shipped back in their

553
00:31:47,160 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 1: face for it. They don't understand the value of life.

554
00:31:54,800 --> 00:31:57,440
Speaker 1: They don't respect the life that they live in now,

555
00:31:57,560 --> 00:31:59,760
Speaker 1: the post to the life that they should think of

556
00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:04,480
Speaker 1: if they might have had with certain individuals, their real parents.

557
00:32:05,920 --> 00:32:09,840
Speaker 1: So just because you say I'm an adult, don't mean

558
00:32:09,880 --> 00:32:13,760
Speaker 1: I'm an adult. You still have an adolescent mind. You

559
00:32:13,840 --> 00:32:19,760
Speaker 1: still think on an adolescent level. Like like myself, I

560
00:32:19,760 --> 00:32:25,840
Speaker 1: didn't understand really parenting and what a man was until

561
00:32:25,880 --> 00:32:32,400
Speaker 1: I got in my fifties. M hm, really understanding responsibility

562
00:32:33,120 --> 00:32:35,760
Speaker 1: and what it really takes to take care of child.

563
00:32:36,760 --> 00:32:39,360
Speaker 1: I swear to God right now today I would never

564
00:32:39,440 --> 00:32:43,360
Speaker 1: downplay speak bad about a woman that's taking care of

565
00:32:43,440 --> 00:32:46,280
Speaker 1: kids on our own. That ship is hard work. We

566
00:32:46,560 --> 00:32:48,920
Speaker 1: gotta be the hardest thing possible, especially a woman taking

567
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:53,440
Speaker 1: care of a little boy, taking care of kids, cooking,

568
00:32:54,720 --> 00:33:05,360
Speaker 1: cleaning constantly, washington, taking them to school, school work, just

569
00:33:05,560 --> 00:33:08,760
Speaker 1: general conversation on the day. We know what's writing, what's wrong.

570
00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:12,400
Speaker 1: This ship is a twenty four hour job. And that

571
00:33:12,560 --> 00:33:15,120
Speaker 1: was one of my grads. You ain't did ship. What

572
00:33:15,160 --> 00:33:17,520
Speaker 1: are you doing? I'm I'm doing what I wanna do

573
00:33:17,640 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 1: you ain't washing my ass? And this isn't antimo. So

574
00:33:21,680 --> 00:33:24,880
Speaker 1: this is where we get that bullshit miskings. True, we

575
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:29,920
Speaker 1: get it funked up. Being a parent, especially a single mom,

576
00:33:30,120 --> 00:33:34,200
Speaker 1: is hard work, bro, and I'm living that right now today.

577
00:33:34,240 --> 00:33:38,800
Speaker 1: It's hard work raising the child for Biden and bad.

578
00:33:39,440 --> 00:33:43,680
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, it's not And can't nobody

579
00:33:43,760 --> 00:33:46,280
Speaker 1: tell me it's easy being a parent. And it's not

580
00:33:46,320 --> 00:33:48,560
Speaker 1: like you're getting a lot of help. Bro. No, I

581
00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:50,760
Speaker 1: don't get none. I don't, I don't. This is what

582
00:33:50,880 --> 00:33:56,320
Speaker 1: I don't do. Can't nobody say you're going here, You're

583
00:33:56,360 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 1: going there? I washed nne No, you're going our party?

584
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:01,080
Speaker 1: And then you do on this. I got line on

585
00:34:02,080 --> 00:34:05,800
Speaker 1: all my my party and activities and everything else. I

586
00:34:05,960 --> 00:34:10,279
Speaker 1: cut loose. Now this is what my daughter and all

587
00:34:10,320 --> 00:34:13,280
Speaker 1: these other young women need to think when you start

588
00:34:13,360 --> 00:34:17,239
Speaker 1: having kids. Those party days is over. Now. That's all

589
00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:20,480
Speaker 1: right to go out and unwinding in bad. But you

590
00:34:20,520 --> 00:34:24,640
Speaker 1: are a parent. You are a parent, You're a mother,

591
00:34:25,560 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So you should be wanting

592
00:34:28,160 --> 00:34:30,680
Speaker 1: to be with your kids. You you didn't have kids

593
00:34:30,680 --> 00:34:34,600
Speaker 1: to give them to your grandparents, to your paminem. No, No,

594
00:34:35,440 --> 00:34:40,640
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So it's it's crazy though,

595
00:34:40,840 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 1: because as kids we don't think. Then we get older

596
00:34:46,400 --> 00:34:51,160
Speaker 1: and we think worse. Sir m you know a lot

597
00:34:51,160 --> 00:34:56,600
Speaker 1: of ship I can't blame my mother for and that's

598
00:34:56,600 --> 00:35:02,279
Speaker 1: why I'm at peace with where with her. Uh let's say,

599
00:35:02,440 --> 00:35:06,839
Speaker 1: my pops, this dude probably didn't want five kids. This

600
00:35:06,960 --> 00:35:09,120
Speaker 1: dude probably didn't think he thought that you can have

601
00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:13,160
Speaker 1: more if he didn't have these kids. But see this

602
00:35:13,239 --> 00:35:16,560
Speaker 1: is my problect. Motherfucker. If you don't want to know kids, well, Robbie,

603
00:35:16,600 --> 00:35:18,719
Speaker 1: even if he is with your woman, put on the

604
00:35:18,840 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 1: motherfucker strap up. Don't have kids. Well, that's what I

605
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:24,360
Speaker 1: was gonna say. James, you know the thing is shorter.

606
00:35:24,480 --> 00:35:27,440
Speaker 1: Don't ask to come here. It's not like somebody you know,

607
00:35:28,239 --> 00:35:30,879
Speaker 1: beating down the walls and your balls telling you, hey man,

608
00:35:30,960 --> 00:35:33,160
Speaker 1: let me out of here. Let me hear you feel

609
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:36,040
Speaker 1: what I mean. So when y'all here, there's your responsibility

610
00:35:36,040 --> 00:35:39,480
Speaker 1: to take care of, but your frustration, you take your

611
00:35:39,480 --> 00:35:43,920
Speaker 1: frustration out on children and your children. I don't give

612
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:47,720
Speaker 1: a funk what you do in life. Your children shouldn't

613
00:35:47,760 --> 00:35:51,080
Speaker 1: have to pay for it. You know what I'm saying,

614
00:35:52,160 --> 00:35:55,600
Speaker 1: your kids was an act to be here. M hm.

615
00:35:56,400 --> 00:36:01,120
Speaker 1: You know. So you know a kid like t I Sun,

616
00:36:02,000 --> 00:36:06,240
Speaker 1: it ain't his fault. He's a kid. He's see differently

617
00:36:06,440 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 1: here different and he reacts different from a normal ass

618
00:36:09,880 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 1: kid with with everything he wants and it is. It

619
00:36:14,719 --> 00:36:21,080
Speaker 1: is gonna take his father or mother to say, listen, no, motherfucker,

620
00:36:21,360 --> 00:36:23,560
Speaker 1: I don't care what you do, how you doing, whoo

621
00:36:23,560 --> 00:36:27,839
Speaker 1: whoo whoo, set your ass down. I'm not gonna lose

622
00:36:27,880 --> 00:36:31,440
Speaker 1: you to the streets. That makes him a regular ass

623
00:36:31,480 --> 00:36:37,279
Speaker 1: motherfucking kid. And these kids ain't understanding. They don't even

624
00:36:37,280 --> 00:36:40,719
Speaker 1: have a sense of death. You know what that's like,

625
00:36:40,840 --> 00:36:44,120
Speaker 1: having a sense of death, knowing that I could possibly

626
00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:47,520
Speaker 1: just my last time laying in my motherfucking bed or

627
00:36:47,600 --> 00:36:52,239
Speaker 1: walking out of this front door if when I go outside,

628
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:57,200
Speaker 1: you know what the problem he is broke because and

629
00:36:57,480 --> 00:37:00,600
Speaker 1: you know, for the people out there, however, these rappers

630
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:03,879
Speaker 1: raised their kids, that's their business, that's their household. We're

631
00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:06,000
Speaker 1: speaking on it though, because they're making the public so

632
00:37:06,040 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 1: we're give them public responses to their behasior. So apparently

633
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:13,200
Speaker 1: this kid has been arrested already, you know, and I'm

634
00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:16,120
Speaker 1: not talking about for him out there, just um him

635
00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:19,880
Speaker 1: committing egregious crimes out there. No for stuff like you know,

636
00:37:19,920 --> 00:37:21,879
Speaker 1: they get pulled over and you don't have the seat

637
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 1: built on, and he resisting kind of the authority right

638
00:37:25,719 --> 00:37:28,560
Speaker 1: and everything with him, it looks as if he has

639
00:37:28,600 --> 00:37:31,359
Speaker 1: an issue with authority. And that's because when you got

640
00:37:31,360 --> 00:37:33,799
Speaker 1: a day that's telling you all the time, especially when

641
00:37:33,800 --> 00:37:36,799
Speaker 1: he's telling you ship, like, um, why are you ordering

642
00:37:36,880 --> 00:37:40,359
Speaker 1: with a short or the cook? Right? It makes it

643
00:37:40,440 --> 00:37:43,480
Speaker 1: like you don't have to you're above everybody else. You

644
00:37:43,680 --> 00:37:45,520
Speaker 1: if they're not in your pay grade or were not

645
00:37:45,600 --> 00:37:47,759
Speaker 1: in the range of money that we're making, you don't

646
00:37:47,800 --> 00:37:50,920
Speaker 1: have to give them respect. That includes police officers, cooks,

647
00:37:51,000 --> 00:37:53,200
Speaker 1: or whoever the hell else in the world. So he's

648
00:37:53,200 --> 00:37:55,359
Speaker 1: been to jail a few times and he thinks it's

649
00:37:55,400 --> 00:38:00,560
Speaker 1: a real game. We'll ship this is when and t

650
00:38:00,800 --> 00:38:05,600
Speaker 1: I it's gonna sit down and think, bro when his

651
00:38:05,719 --> 00:38:10,960
Speaker 1: son not, when he go to jail, not, he ain't

652
00:38:10,960 --> 00:38:13,640
Speaker 1: gotta get two years, five years, ten years, to say,

653
00:38:13,760 --> 00:38:17,759
Speaker 1: get a six months deal ninety days. It's gonna be

654
00:38:17,760 --> 00:38:22,560
Speaker 1: the hardest motherfucking time in that little boy life. He

655
00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:27,360
Speaker 1: ain't bodybuilt. He ain't mind shaped. The only thing is

656
00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:31,640
Speaker 1: possible is but fuck, he ain't ready for that, and

657
00:38:31,640 --> 00:38:34,200
Speaker 1: and and and going in there with them grown ass men,

658
00:38:34,680 --> 00:38:37,600
Speaker 1: Them grown ass men in jail, in prison will eat

659
00:38:37,680 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 1: his little ass alive. And Daddy can't go up in

660
00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:43,640
Speaker 1: that motherfucker. Daddy can't go spend a million dollars and

661
00:38:43,680 --> 00:38:47,399
Speaker 1: say put my son here. He can't do that. Yeah,

662
00:38:47,440 --> 00:38:49,960
Speaker 1: and you know Tipping Tipp has done some time before.

663
00:38:50,080 --> 00:38:51,920
Speaker 1: You know, he haven't been in an hour before. But

664
00:38:53,560 --> 00:38:58,239
Speaker 1: you are not your father. Even even that, you can

665
00:38:58,360 --> 00:39:01,560
Speaker 1: act like your daddy old motherfucking day. And I'm getting

666
00:39:01,600 --> 00:39:04,520
Speaker 1: kind of pissed off because as a father man, you

667
00:39:04,560 --> 00:39:09,520
Speaker 1: gotta think you didn't like jail. If you did, you

668
00:39:09,520 --> 00:39:12,359
Speaker 1: would have never built out that motherfucker. You just stay

669
00:39:12,440 --> 00:39:15,840
Speaker 1: and then did what you had to do so for

670
00:39:16,000 --> 00:39:18,719
Speaker 1: your child to go to jail. And phraise God that

671
00:39:19,080 --> 00:39:22,200
Speaker 1: now one of my sons ever seen or being handcuffed

672
00:39:22,200 --> 00:39:25,279
Speaker 1: in their motherfucking life, or they would have really had

673
00:39:25,320 --> 00:39:30,440
Speaker 1: a goddamn problem with me I at home. See like,

674
00:39:30,520 --> 00:39:33,360
Speaker 1: look at that, James. All both of your sons a

675
00:39:33,440 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 1: college graduates, they have been to school. I ain't seen

676
00:39:36,200 --> 00:39:39,520
Speaker 1: them no graduates, I say that, but yeah, well you

677
00:39:39,520 --> 00:39:41,520
Speaker 1: know you got one of them with the college and

678
00:39:41,560 --> 00:39:43,480
Speaker 1: you got you know, but your kids are good young

679
00:39:43,560 --> 00:39:47,080
Speaker 1: men though, Oh yeah, they're good young men. They're handling

680
00:39:47,120 --> 00:39:51,440
Speaker 1: their business. But look at your background, James compared, he is,

681
00:39:51,640 --> 00:39:54,680
Speaker 1: this kid has everything, and you would wonder why the

682
00:39:54,719 --> 00:39:57,160
Speaker 1: fund are you off? There costs and all this confusion

683
00:39:57,160 --> 00:40:01,640
Speaker 1: when your wife is easy? If you right, motherfucker right.

684
00:40:01,719 --> 00:40:04,799
Speaker 1: This is what I'm telling you. Just because I'm a

685
00:40:04,880 --> 00:40:07,280
Speaker 1: game member, I know what it's like in the streets.

686
00:40:08,160 --> 00:40:10,800
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna sit here to debate whether my boys

687
00:40:11,160 --> 00:40:13,160
Speaker 1: would have been able to handle or deal with this

688
00:40:13,239 --> 00:40:17,239
Speaker 1: ship the way I did. So I refused for you

689
00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:20,520
Speaker 1: Catt to put rings in your ears and looking different

690
00:40:20,600 --> 00:40:22,680
Speaker 1: kind of you're not gonna look that life. You're not

691
00:40:22,719 --> 00:40:26,440
Speaker 1: going to play that part. We're not doing that. So

692
00:40:27,000 --> 00:40:31,160
Speaker 1: Mommy's would have had a motherfucking problem with with marm James.

693
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:34,880
Speaker 1: If my boys is looking like their street niggers, we

694
00:40:34,960 --> 00:40:37,799
Speaker 1: ain't having that. You when they came to see my

695
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 1: mama and came to Compton or stay and spent the

696
00:40:41,120 --> 00:40:44,640
Speaker 1: night or whatever. If niggas one don't know block hanging

697
00:40:44,719 --> 00:40:47,880
Speaker 1: drinking beer. The niggas weren't hanging on in the street,

698
00:40:49,680 --> 00:40:52,120
Speaker 1: I wouldn't I wouldn't have it. So this is what

699
00:40:52,280 --> 00:40:54,600
Speaker 1: I said, This is what he needs to be with

700
00:40:54,680 --> 00:40:58,640
Speaker 1: his son. Son, you ain't ready for this type of ship. Son.

701
00:40:58,840 --> 00:41:01,800
Speaker 1: I don't want to see you living this type of life.

702
00:41:02,280 --> 00:41:05,280
Speaker 1: The worstest thing can come out of that it is death.

703
00:41:06,320 --> 00:41:08,759
Speaker 1: You know, you run up on the wrong motherfucker, little boy.

704
00:41:09,160 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 1: The way people are today, they're gonna take your life.

705
00:41:12,320 --> 00:41:15,560
Speaker 1: They don't give a funk who your daddy. And you know, James,

706
00:41:15,600 --> 00:41:19,320
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna tell you this, when if, at what

707
00:41:19,640 --> 00:41:22,120
Speaker 1: point does a parents say, you know what, I'm gonna

708
00:41:22,160 --> 00:41:25,120
Speaker 1: exercise some tough love. I'm cutting you off just to

709
00:41:25,160 --> 00:41:30,160
Speaker 1: show you how real it is. Well, first of all,

710
00:41:30,200 --> 00:41:34,279
Speaker 1: it takes you to see what you have created in

711
00:41:34,320 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 1: your child, the way you raised and just saying you're

712
00:41:38,080 --> 00:41:43,319
Speaker 1: giving them everything. But if if you're giving them so much,

713
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:46,040
Speaker 1: you have to sit back and say, Okay, man, I

714
00:41:46,080 --> 00:41:48,839
Speaker 1: know I'm sucking up, I know I'm wrong. My son

715
00:41:49,000 --> 00:41:51,000
Speaker 1: is wild and my daughter is wild and just what

716
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: I'm fit to do. So once you see it, that's

717
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:56,920
Speaker 1: when you need to nift the ship in the bud.

718
00:41:57,040 --> 00:41:59,480
Speaker 1: You don't let it go, keep going and going because

719
00:41:59,520 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 1: you said back drinking and you would eat. Don't give

720
00:42:02,600 --> 00:42:06,840
Speaker 1: a fuck you can you can never not give a

721
00:42:06,880 --> 00:42:09,759
Speaker 1: funk about what your kids is doing. Now. You want

722
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 1: to be an adult and you're out there living your

723
00:42:14,000 --> 00:42:18,080
Speaker 1: life so big. I'm telling you, I'm living this ship

724
00:42:18,200 --> 00:42:23,439
Speaker 1: right now. You know, my daughter has her own room here,

725
00:42:24,200 --> 00:42:26,000
Speaker 1: she has her son here where she can be with

726
00:42:26,080 --> 00:42:29,440
Speaker 1: her son and her daughter. She chose to be in

727
00:42:29,480 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 1: the hood, and as a grown woman, I'm not going

728
00:42:33,719 --> 00:42:37,279
Speaker 1: to the hood looking for you to bring you here. Now.

729
00:42:37,400 --> 00:42:39,720
Speaker 1: This is my tough love. Gonna do what you do.

730
00:42:39,800 --> 00:42:43,520
Speaker 1: But when you go back or if you go back

731
00:42:43,520 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 1: to prison, don't talk to me about ship. Hold on,

732
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:54,120
Speaker 1: hold on, don't let me say this. So here's the difference.

733
00:42:56,400 --> 00:42:58,600
Speaker 1: Whatever you're doing out there, you're doing it. But if

734
00:42:58,640 --> 00:43:03,080
Speaker 1: you come and say, Daddy, m I know I messed up.

735
00:43:03,120 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 1: I need your help. I got her, come on this

736
00:43:06,800 --> 00:43:10,359
Speaker 1: stuff right there, that's fair. You know. Let me ask

737
00:43:10,400 --> 00:43:12,000
Speaker 1: you this, James. I know a lot of people have

738
00:43:12,120 --> 00:43:14,040
Speaker 1: known when she's came home and to how long she's

739
00:43:14,080 --> 00:43:21,120
Speaker 1: been up. She got out in February March of this year.

740
00:43:21,920 --> 00:43:27,200
Speaker 1: Mm hmm. And this only November and she's already on

741
00:43:27,239 --> 00:43:29,799
Speaker 1: the run. It's been three months, two months since we

742
00:43:29,920 --> 00:43:35,239
Speaker 1: saw not gonna stop pop off talking. No, you're not

743
00:43:35,400 --> 00:43:41,319
Speaker 1: using her phone. No, go in your room and mine

744
00:43:41,320 --> 00:43:43,960
Speaker 1: and look at TV. You want me to check up

745
00:43:44,040 --> 00:43:51,480
Speaker 1: my house? Shoot, get your ass on. Thank you? So

746
00:43:53,080 --> 00:43:57,040
Speaker 1: you know if you choose to live like that. And

747
00:43:57,080 --> 00:44:01,719
Speaker 1: then here we go again. When I talked to her mother,

748
00:44:02,520 --> 00:44:07,440
Speaker 1: her mother said, Mocha is wild and out. Mike, what

749
00:44:07,600 --> 00:44:13,120
Speaker 1: the fuck is Mocha Thailand? Don't you ever call her? No?

750
00:44:13,239 --> 00:44:17,440
Speaker 1: Motherfucking Mocha talking to me. You're talking to me about

751
00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 1: our daughter, So don't call her by her street name

752
00:44:20,760 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 1: talking to me. So she goes to tell me, oh,

753
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:27,799
Speaker 1: we just out of here kicking it. Husband, How the

754
00:44:27,840 --> 00:44:32,799
Speaker 1: fucking you hustle with your child doing what? See? This

755
00:44:32,880 --> 00:44:36,520
Speaker 1: is what I'm talking about. She informed the friendship with

756
00:44:36,560 --> 00:44:41,680
Speaker 1: her daughter instead of me and her mother, which I

757
00:44:41,760 --> 00:44:46,240
Speaker 1: knew this from the beginning. Uh. I have never seen

758
00:44:46,320 --> 00:44:51,520
Speaker 1: pam Comb Thailand hair. I've never seen her dressing. When

759
00:44:51,560 --> 00:44:54,399
Speaker 1: she dresses, she just threw her clothes on. I took

760
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:57,319
Speaker 1: that ship off of her. I ironed her clothes and

761
00:44:57,400 --> 00:45:00,680
Speaker 1: I combed her hair, you know what I'm saying. I

762
00:45:00,760 --> 00:45:03,360
Speaker 1: used to give her a little bangs and the two ponytails.

763
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:09,520
Speaker 1: I used to do all that. Ship. So some people

764
00:45:09,520 --> 00:45:12,919
Speaker 1: are not not meant to be parents. Yeah, my daughter

765
00:45:12,960 --> 00:45:14,560
Speaker 1: used to crown when not being there because I used

766
00:45:14,560 --> 00:45:18,720
Speaker 1: to suck them ponytails up. No, I used to like Lionel,

767
00:45:18,760 --> 00:45:20,960
Speaker 1: I praised just had some time when when I got

768
00:45:20,960 --> 00:45:23,560
Speaker 1: to take it down and watch it, I played him

769
00:45:23,600 --> 00:45:27,120
Speaker 1: up all day. But some some people are not meant

770
00:45:27,160 --> 00:45:30,799
Speaker 1: to be parents. Bro, you know what I'm saying. But

771
00:45:31,040 --> 00:45:34,040
Speaker 1: they have these child and these kids, and they really

772
00:45:34,080 --> 00:45:40,640
Speaker 1: don't give a funk. They're not paying attention the kid. Huh,

773
00:45:41,400 --> 00:45:43,480
Speaker 1: They're They're really not, man, you know what I think

774
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:47,239
Speaker 1: things like I'm gonna tell you a story, man, I

775
00:45:47,280 --> 00:45:50,520
Speaker 1: remember my daughter. She bugged the hell out of me

776
00:45:50,560 --> 00:45:52,920
Speaker 1: and my my wife for a dog, just like really

777
00:45:52,920 --> 00:45:56,040
Speaker 1: bugged this about. Oh this dog is so cute, so cute.

778
00:45:56,640 --> 00:45:59,560
Speaker 1: So I kept telling them dog is a lot of responsibility,

779
00:46:00,600 --> 00:46:03,160
Speaker 1: always a lot of responsibility, especially when you get them young.

780
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:06,080
Speaker 1: They get the crying all the time. They need attension,

781
00:46:06,520 --> 00:46:08,279
Speaker 1: you know, especially when you're trying to break them from

782
00:46:08,360 --> 00:46:10,279
Speaker 1: using the bathroom. They will wake you up at night

783
00:46:10,320 --> 00:46:12,000
Speaker 1: when they got to go use the bathroom. It's a

784
00:46:12,080 --> 00:46:16,040
Speaker 1: lot of stuff to it. It's almost like having the child,

785
00:46:16,120 --> 00:46:18,759
Speaker 1: it is, especially when they're a puppy. Right. So it

786
00:46:18,920 --> 00:46:21,880
Speaker 1: was a good experience for her because she lasted all

787
00:46:21,960 --> 00:46:24,319
Speaker 1: the three weeks, and when I tell you about the

788
00:46:24,400 --> 00:46:27,440
Speaker 1: third day, the public was laying by my feet all

789
00:46:27,480 --> 00:46:29,200
Speaker 1: the time on myself. And then I'm just trying to

790
00:46:29,280 --> 00:46:30,880
Speaker 1: get a tax to this dog, you know, because I

791
00:46:30,960 --> 00:46:33,520
Speaker 1: like dogs. I like the dog, right. But I was

792
00:46:33,600 --> 00:46:35,520
Speaker 1: showing her something. I says, you have to take care

793
00:46:35,520 --> 00:46:37,439
Speaker 1: of this dog. But Dad, I'm so tired. I gotta

794
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:39,640
Speaker 1: go to school. You wanted to take care of the

795
00:46:39,760 --> 00:46:42,160
Speaker 1: same thing if you have a baby. But you know,

796
00:46:42,239 --> 00:46:44,800
Speaker 1: I don't want to compare a puppy to a baby.

797
00:46:44,920 --> 00:46:47,080
Speaker 1: But man, that's how it is. So these kids go

798
00:46:47,160 --> 00:46:50,759
Speaker 1: out and have these kids, right, and that's what happens. Oh,

799
00:46:51,040 --> 00:46:53,719
Speaker 1: can't you help me. It's so hard because you know,

800
00:46:53,760 --> 00:46:56,799
Speaker 1: you gotta using the baby's with the little girl and

801
00:46:56,800 --> 00:46:59,000
Speaker 1: the boy running off doing whatever he want to do

802
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:00,920
Speaker 1: it whatever. Only time he come through is when he

803
00:47:00,960 --> 00:47:02,920
Speaker 1: want to take some pictures or whatever like that. But

804
00:47:02,960 --> 00:47:04,880
Speaker 1: you see it all the time. Same thing with the dog.

805
00:47:05,320 --> 00:47:07,520
Speaker 1: So I wind up taking care of the puppy, right,

806
00:47:08,840 --> 00:47:11,360
Speaker 1: And so my thing was this, I didn't I actually

807
00:47:11,360 --> 00:47:13,439
Speaker 1: wanted to keep the dog, the puppy, because I grew

808
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:15,279
Speaker 1: liking to him. You know, he got a custom to me,

809
00:47:15,440 --> 00:47:18,160
Speaker 1: was following me around the house all the time. I said, Okay,

810
00:47:18,480 --> 00:47:21,520
Speaker 1: this dog see me? Is his outfit? And I told

811
00:47:21,600 --> 00:47:25,120
Speaker 1: my wife, I said, it's not fair. Our lifestyle don't

812
00:47:25,120 --> 00:47:27,080
Speaker 1: permit for us to have a dog. That's why I

813
00:47:27,120 --> 00:47:29,160
Speaker 1: don't have a dog's I got too much stuff going on.

814
00:47:29,280 --> 00:47:31,319
Speaker 1: I can't give it the time that they property need. Right.

815
00:47:32,160 --> 00:47:35,640
Speaker 1: So we wound up really finding a nice family for

816
00:47:35,680 --> 00:47:38,080
Speaker 1: the dog. We just wasn't gonna give him away to anybody,

817
00:47:38,120 --> 00:47:40,400
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. We wanted to see so

818
00:47:40,400 --> 00:47:42,840
Speaker 1: so so. So we met a family. They had five

819
00:47:42,920 --> 00:47:45,680
Speaker 1: little boys, and I said, this is gonna work. As

820
00:47:45,680 --> 00:47:47,640
Speaker 1: it was a husky. And you know, huskies are real

821
00:47:48,080 --> 00:47:51,000
Speaker 1: huskies staying this ship, you know what I mean, They're smart.

822
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:53,279
Speaker 1: The dog had already figured out how to get out

823
00:47:53,280 --> 00:47:55,080
Speaker 1: the little cage ahead of me. And you know what

824
00:47:55,080 --> 00:47:57,440
Speaker 1: I'm saying, I look up, he looking at me. I'm like, hey,

825
00:47:57,520 --> 00:47:59,680
Speaker 1: what are you just in your cage? So I go

826
00:47:59,800 --> 00:48:01,439
Speaker 1: put them back in the cage and get out again

827
00:48:01,480 --> 00:48:03,640
Speaker 1: twenty minutes later. So we took them to a family

828
00:48:03,680 --> 00:48:07,279
Speaker 1: man and five kids. Man, and they used to send

829
00:48:07,280 --> 00:48:09,440
Speaker 1: these pictures you know, as a dog got bigger and

830
00:48:09,440 --> 00:48:12,399
Speaker 1: stuff defense. You know, they faded off anything. But that's

831
00:48:12,440 --> 00:48:16,759
Speaker 1: a classic example right there, what happens. That's how granddad

832
00:48:16,880 --> 00:48:21,160
Speaker 1: winds up raising the kids because they really people literally

833
00:48:21,680 --> 00:48:24,720
Speaker 1: are throwing kids away because they have other family members,

834
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:27,360
Speaker 1: because ain't nobody to let their grandkids go back. I

835
00:48:27,400 --> 00:48:30,120
Speaker 1: don't care, I don't care how funked up, how mad

836
00:48:30,200 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 1: you el is. I know I'm not gonna looking a

837
00:48:32,239 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 1: brand kid of mine. He's get raised any kind of way, right,

838
00:48:36,080 --> 00:48:37,839
Speaker 1: you know, I'm gonna go and give him to her

839
00:48:38,200 --> 00:48:40,800
Speaker 1: if I see the parents. Ain't that that my kids

840
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:44,120
Speaker 1: ain't fit to do the They're gonna get an earful

841
00:48:44,239 --> 00:48:46,480
Speaker 1: from me. But that kid would be in this house

842
00:48:47,120 --> 00:48:49,239
Speaker 1: right right, You feel what I mean? And now we

843
00:48:49,360 --> 00:48:50,960
Speaker 1: just had to do whatever I had to do in

844
00:48:51,040 --> 00:48:53,120
Speaker 1: order to take you know, help them, help They had

845
00:48:53,120 --> 00:48:57,879
Speaker 1: the best life possible, right, Everybody don't think like that.

846
00:48:57,920 --> 00:49:01,719
Speaker 1: Everybody don't feel the ain't way, and that's why we

847
00:49:01,840 --> 00:49:05,759
Speaker 1: have and we're talking about this situation now. You know

848
00:49:07,040 --> 00:49:09,920
Speaker 1: your methods are doing. Ship is totally different. When I

849
00:49:09,960 --> 00:49:13,400
Speaker 1: got a dog and my girl didn't wanted the dog,

850
00:49:13,440 --> 00:49:17,040
Speaker 1: I got the dog, loved the dog, buying the dog,

851
00:49:17,239 --> 00:49:20,600
Speaker 1: bids and all this ship. When she stopped taking care

852
00:49:20,640 --> 00:49:24,440
Speaker 1: of it, I put that dog in my truck. I

853
00:49:24,600 --> 00:49:28,840
Speaker 1: hit about ten blocks tin conors and I let the

854
00:49:28,920 --> 00:49:38,719
Speaker 1: dog out. I jumped out and let him out, let

855
00:49:38,760 --> 00:49:41,640
Speaker 1: her out, and jumped in the truck. And all you

856
00:49:41,680 --> 00:49:44,480
Speaker 1: heard with me burning, rubbing the truck, and I'm looking

857
00:49:44,480 --> 00:49:46,840
Speaker 1: back and I'm seeing her trying to catch the truck.

858
00:49:47,600 --> 00:49:49,520
Speaker 1: When I hit the corner, I ain't see it no more.

859
00:49:50,000 --> 00:49:52,960
Speaker 1: I'm gone. I hit another corner. I ain't at the

860
00:49:53,000 --> 00:49:57,960
Speaker 1: one butty no more. But I let her know I

861
00:49:58,000 --> 00:50:00,919
Speaker 1: had to take it away because I next for the dog.

862
00:50:03,600 --> 00:50:09,439
Speaker 1: How a dog with a pet bull. Her name was Sentiment. Yeah,

863
00:50:09,560 --> 00:50:12,840
Speaker 1: she was about one two years old. Somebody picked the

864
00:50:12,920 --> 00:50:16,640
Speaker 1: dog up. Dog. She was healthy as fun, she had

865
00:50:16,719 --> 00:50:19,560
Speaker 1: pretty your pretty cold, you know. She was a pretty

866
00:50:19,560 --> 00:50:23,920
Speaker 1: as dog. And but I'm not taking care of but

867
00:50:24,440 --> 00:50:27,040
Speaker 1: I'm I'm on the motorcycle, said I'm not at home,

868
00:50:28,000 --> 00:50:31,080
Speaker 1: I go on trips. So if you don't want to

869
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:33,799
Speaker 1: take care of the dog, and then if I'm not there,

870
00:50:34,040 --> 00:50:38,279
Speaker 1: you put her outside. So yeah, responsibility is the motherfucker.

871
00:50:38,719 --> 00:50:44,880
Speaker 1: But you know it's you know, life is life, life

872
00:50:44,960 --> 00:50:49,000
Speaker 1: is it's bullshit, But you just gotta know how to

873
00:50:49,000 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 1: live life and how to respect what's yours. That's from

874
00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:57,880
Speaker 1: your kids, to your mom's, your grandparents, your aunt, cheese

875
00:50:57,920 --> 00:51:01,239
Speaker 1: and all that. My uncle's and cheese, I still call

876
00:51:01,360 --> 00:51:05,359
Speaker 1: him uncle. I still call him ANCHI. That's respect right there.

877
00:51:07,400 --> 00:51:11,040
Speaker 1: These kids don't do that. They called These kids call

878
00:51:11,160 --> 00:51:16,120
Speaker 1: you by your name, huh, either by your name or

879
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:22,279
Speaker 1: O G. Yeah, so you know the respect is standing out.

880
00:51:23,320 --> 00:51:27,400
Speaker 1: Every year it gets worse and worse. And that's the

881
00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:32,840
Speaker 1: timeframe we're on. Every year. Ship changes. M hmm, it changes,

882
00:51:33,160 --> 00:51:36,239
Speaker 1: it changes made. But you know what, though broke. It's

883
00:51:36,280 --> 00:51:38,759
Speaker 1: just what you see exchanged. Because we got parents out

884
00:51:38,800 --> 00:51:42,200
Speaker 1: here being the kids homeboys or the home girl versus

885
00:51:42,280 --> 00:51:45,120
Speaker 1: being a parent. Ain't no guidelines being said, ain't no

886
00:51:45,239 --> 00:51:50,080
Speaker 1: basic principles like respect and honor. Because I was always talking, James.

887
00:51:50,200 --> 00:51:52,040
Speaker 1: When you go in the room and it's grown folks

888
00:51:52,040 --> 00:51:54,960
Speaker 1: talking you don't just interrupt the conversation and coming in

889
00:51:55,000 --> 00:51:57,920
Speaker 1: and start talking. Who was the old praig? What was

890
00:51:57,960 --> 00:52:01,799
Speaker 1: the old thing when grown folks talking at the funk up? Exactly,

891
00:52:02,480 --> 00:52:04,640
Speaker 1: you're grown folks talking. Shut the funk up. I wasn't

892
00:52:04,680 --> 00:52:08,960
Speaker 1: allowed to have nob the socialize with my people, with

893
00:52:08,960 --> 00:52:11,000
Speaker 1: with my parents and their friends when they're out there

894
00:52:11,040 --> 00:52:13,920
Speaker 1: having conversations. Now you see, you you live to be

895
00:52:14,000 --> 00:52:15,880
Speaker 1: having the conversation. You see the kids jump right in

896
00:52:15,920 --> 00:52:19,880
Speaker 1: the middle of it. Yeah, and and and be in

897
00:52:19,880 --> 00:52:22,960
Speaker 1: the conversation. Oh yeah, for sure. And the parents so

898
00:52:23,320 --> 00:52:25,439
Speaker 1: scared to say something of the kids like they gon

899
00:52:25,480 --> 00:52:28,359
Speaker 1: hurt their feelings. Something's the craziest you've ever seen. And

900
00:52:28,400 --> 00:52:30,640
Speaker 1: it's like you're the father, you're the daddy, you're the mama.

901
00:52:30,880 --> 00:52:33,040
Speaker 1: They do what you say. It ain't the vice versa.

902
00:52:33,520 --> 00:52:37,480
Speaker 1: You set the rules and the foundation, right. I know,

903
00:52:37,520 --> 00:52:39,200
Speaker 1: over here where I'm at, I set the rules for

904
00:52:39,239 --> 00:52:40,920
Speaker 1: the house. Me and my wife set the rules. We

905
00:52:41,040 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 1: set the foundation up in here. It ain't the other

906
00:52:42,719 --> 00:52:50,320
Speaker 1: way around, man. I didn't change people disrespect their parents

907
00:52:50,440 --> 00:52:52,680
Speaker 1: when their parents get to a certain age and they

908
00:52:52,719 --> 00:52:56,600
Speaker 1: can't take care of itself. I just change people put

909
00:52:56,640 --> 00:53:02,160
Speaker 1: their parents in a combination home, and their parents gave

910
00:53:02,239 --> 00:53:05,480
Speaker 1: him the best, gave him everything. But this is what

911
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:10,120
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna do, so they they throw them off.

912
00:53:10,719 --> 00:53:14,600
Speaker 1: M hm. You know what I'm saying. We don't respect

913
00:53:16,320 --> 00:53:21,280
Speaker 1: our elders, We don't respect life. So I got bigger

914
00:53:21,280 --> 00:53:25,439
Speaker 1: and better things to do than take care of you. Man.

915
00:53:25,560 --> 00:53:30,879
Speaker 1: I didn't care if if I had to change my

916
00:53:30,960 --> 00:53:33,239
Speaker 1: mom's I didn't care if I had to go and

917
00:53:33,320 --> 00:53:36,880
Speaker 1: clean up back through three times a day. This is

918
00:53:36,920 --> 00:53:40,000
Speaker 1: what we we are. We are here for to take

919
00:53:40,040 --> 00:53:43,080
Speaker 1: care of parents when they get older. You know what

920
00:53:43,080 --> 00:53:47,680
Speaker 1: I'm saying. People don't think like that today. Well you

921
00:53:47,719 --> 00:53:50,040
Speaker 1: know what man, I just said this um you know,

922
00:53:50,120 --> 00:53:52,319
Speaker 1: knee surgery a couple of weeks ago, and one thing

923
00:53:52,320 --> 00:53:57,239
Speaker 1: I we will say. My kids have been a one though, daughter,

924
00:53:57,440 --> 00:54:00,040
Speaker 1: my son a one. Daddy. You need anything that that

925
00:54:00,120 --> 00:54:02,840
Speaker 1: you need anything? Daddy? Are you hungry? Daddy? I'm gonna

926
00:54:02,920 --> 00:54:04,440
Speaker 1: get some socks and put on your feet, you know,

927
00:54:04,480 --> 00:54:07,960
Speaker 1: because you can't move to one leg right. And you know,

928
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:11,239
Speaker 1: between them and my wife, man, they a one that

929
00:54:11,360 --> 00:54:13,759
Speaker 1: gives me hope. That one. I am an old, real

930
00:54:13,880 --> 00:54:15,680
Speaker 1: old dude and can't take care of myself, and I'm

931
00:54:15,719 --> 00:54:18,480
Speaker 1: around here driven on myself that they ain't gonna dog

932
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:20,959
Speaker 1: me out well is a proven in fact what they're

933
00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:24,600
Speaker 1: doing now. But but you gotta look at no him

934
00:54:24,760 --> 00:54:28,759
Speaker 1: as a father. You deserve that because you're you're a

935
00:54:28,760 --> 00:54:32,840
Speaker 1: good father. You raised your kids. Your kids didn't have

936
00:54:32,880 --> 00:54:37,919
Speaker 1: to see daddy with with multiple women. Your kids never

937
00:54:38,000 --> 00:54:42,080
Speaker 1: grew up happening to to beg nor getting their ass

938
00:54:42,080 --> 00:54:46,239
Speaker 1: whoop and all this other ship. You and your wife

939
00:54:46,280 --> 00:54:50,359
Speaker 1: are still together and they see that. So whether you

940
00:54:50,400 --> 00:54:52,719
Speaker 1: know it or not, you're still something in your daughter.

941
00:54:53,200 --> 00:54:56,479
Speaker 1: Because your daughter ain't gonna walk and she shouldn't want

942
00:54:56,680 --> 00:55:01,000
Speaker 1: a man if he ain't on the same pedal stove

943
00:55:01,280 --> 00:55:04,319
Speaker 1: that she put her father on. Oh man, let me

944
00:55:04,360 --> 00:55:08,480
Speaker 1: tell you dog the other day. You know, sometimes I

945
00:55:08,480 --> 00:55:10,480
Speaker 1: got a tendency because when you want to think all

946
00:55:10,520 --> 00:55:13,600
Speaker 1: you're doing is rehabbing all day, you know you gotta

947
00:55:13,600 --> 00:55:15,560
Speaker 1: do them exercise all day, and you can fucking need

948
00:55:15,560 --> 00:55:18,120
Speaker 1: it if you don't. Right, and you're taking all this

949
00:55:18,239 --> 00:55:21,320
Speaker 1: damn medicine and ship man, so by the in between,

950
00:55:21,440 --> 00:55:24,440
Speaker 1: next you're laying on the sofa with your leg propped

951
00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:26,440
Speaker 1: that way in the air, with the ice thing with

952
00:55:26,600 --> 00:55:29,600
Speaker 1: ice machine on, and you wind up dozing off, so

953
00:55:29,640 --> 00:55:31,440
Speaker 1: I wake up the other day. Man, not get the

954
00:55:31,440 --> 00:55:34,920
Speaker 1: smell and the nicest meals ever, No, I'm like, Man,

955
00:55:34,960 --> 00:55:39,000
Speaker 1: she somebody in there getting down and I'm hungry my stomach. Brother, Man,

956
00:55:39,040 --> 00:55:41,319
Speaker 1: when I tell you my daughter came in there and here, Daddy,

957
00:55:41,400 --> 00:55:44,440
Speaker 1: I cooked for you a boss play macaroni and cheese,

958
00:55:45,160 --> 00:55:48,960
Speaker 1: meet loads mashed potatoes, you know, green beans, and just

959
00:55:49,120 --> 00:55:51,520
Speaker 1: like daddy, you want some more? Daddy? You could? She

960
00:55:51,640 --> 00:55:54,040
Speaker 1: come up there, rubbed my feet for me. Man, almost

961
00:55:54,080 --> 00:55:56,239
Speaker 1: brought tears to mind. Let's it's my little girl. She's

962
00:55:56,239 --> 00:55:59,600
Speaker 1: taking really taking care of her daddy. And that's the

963
00:55:59,600 --> 00:56:01,880
Speaker 1: way it's supposed to be. Man. Family is supposed to

964
00:56:01,960 --> 00:56:03,680
Speaker 1: take care of each other, just like that little girl

965
00:56:03,760 --> 00:56:07,040
Speaker 1: taking care of me. It's my job to take care

966
00:56:07,080 --> 00:56:09,720
Speaker 1: of her and make sure she are right and straight.

967
00:56:10,200 --> 00:56:11,440
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, This is my job. I

968
00:56:11,440 --> 00:56:14,560
Speaker 1: don't expect no damn rewards. I've never said around here

969
00:56:14,800 --> 00:56:17,680
Speaker 1: asking you know I hear something is Man, my family

970
00:56:17,719 --> 00:56:19,719
Speaker 1: don't appreciate me. What you mean? Your family is gonna

971
00:56:19,760 --> 00:56:21,919
Speaker 1: preach you what expected for it war for you doing

972
00:56:21,920 --> 00:56:26,799
Speaker 1: your damn job. I don't. I don't need no problems. Dog,

973
00:56:27,080 --> 00:56:29,960
Speaker 1: That's what I'm supposed to do. I just knew. I

974
00:56:30,080 --> 00:56:32,680
Speaker 1: just tried to give my kids the childhood I wish

975
00:56:32,719 --> 00:56:34,239
Speaker 1: I would have, and I give it. You gotta give

976
00:56:34,239 --> 00:56:36,279
Speaker 1: a shout to my mamacause my mama did a hell

977
00:56:36,320 --> 00:56:38,719
Speaker 1: of a job. He want dad, He did a hell

978
00:56:38,760 --> 00:56:40,600
Speaker 1: of a child. But my father and no bad dude.

979
00:56:40,600 --> 00:56:42,279
Speaker 1: I had my daddy in my life, you know what

980
00:56:42,320 --> 00:56:46,120
Speaker 1: I mean. So, but my mama did a real good

981
00:56:46,200 --> 00:56:50,319
Speaker 1: job as far as extended in stilling certain values in me.

982
00:56:50,880 --> 00:56:53,160
Speaker 1: And one thing I love about my mama is my

983
00:56:53,239 --> 00:56:55,880
Speaker 1: aunt Tie uses to talk about my biological daddy like

984
00:56:55,920 --> 00:57:00,840
Speaker 1: a dog. My mama didn't allow that. She because I

985
00:57:00,880 --> 00:57:02,719
Speaker 1: got kind of caught up in them things to where

986
00:57:02,719 --> 00:57:05,160
Speaker 1: I was attacking my daddy too, And she put me

987
00:57:05,160 --> 00:57:08,400
Speaker 1: in check about that. She said, listen, your dad loved you.

988
00:57:08,400 --> 00:57:11,080
Speaker 1: Your dad loves you. Whatever girl went on between me

989
00:57:11,120 --> 00:57:12,680
Speaker 1: and him, and that's our business. And I don't never

990
00:57:12,719 --> 00:57:16,480
Speaker 1: want to hear you disrespect them again. And that's what

991
00:57:17,640 --> 00:57:19,880
Speaker 1: to do because she realized, she told me, she said,

992
00:57:19,920 --> 00:57:22,040
Speaker 1: I want you when your and your daddy to be

993
00:57:22,080 --> 00:57:25,160
Speaker 1: in each other's life. It was never no stuff. My

994
00:57:25,200 --> 00:57:27,200
Speaker 1: mom didn't play that of me going to things and

995
00:57:27,240 --> 00:57:30,360
Speaker 1: she would check out and she would check my uncle's aunties.

996
00:57:30,480 --> 00:57:33,040
Speaker 1: Whoever else had something bad to say about my father,

997
00:57:33,400 --> 00:57:36,280
Speaker 1: she said, you're not gonna do that, because he was

998
00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:39,880
Speaker 1: he loved his son. Yeah, he wasn't perfect, you know,

999
00:57:39,920 --> 00:57:42,320
Speaker 1: about a long shot. He had his issues, like everybody

1000
00:57:42,320 --> 00:57:45,160
Speaker 1: got issues. I didn't come to find out my father

1001
00:57:45,240 --> 00:57:47,680
Speaker 1: grew up. You know, it was nineteen to them, and

1002
00:57:47,680 --> 00:57:49,440
Speaker 1: all of them wounded up in foster homes at a

1003
00:57:49,440 --> 00:57:51,520
Speaker 1: certain point, so it was a lot of stuff he

1004
00:57:51,560 --> 00:57:53,480
Speaker 1: had to figure out as a man. Like my dad

1005
00:57:53,520 --> 00:57:55,600
Speaker 1: broke it down to me one day, I had you

1006
00:57:55,640 --> 00:57:57,800
Speaker 1: when I was tween two years old, and I didn't

1007
00:57:57,840 --> 00:58:00,240
Speaker 1: have a real idea of what the father was holps

1008
00:58:00,320 --> 00:58:03,760
Speaker 1: to look like, because he know he had this old

1009
00:58:03,760 --> 00:58:06,600
Speaker 1: man in his life. My grandfather was a rolling stone.

1010
00:58:06,640 --> 00:58:10,400
Speaker 1: He had nineteen kids in Ohio, had another teen in Tennessee,

1011
00:58:10,760 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 1: had another five in Mississippi somewhere. So during his younger

1012
00:58:14,120 --> 00:58:17,040
Speaker 1: years he was rolling around. He eventually came back home

1013
00:58:17,720 --> 00:58:21,280
Speaker 1: and put his family back together. But if you think

1014
00:58:21,280 --> 00:58:23,959
Speaker 1: about the situation that my father went through like that,

1015
00:58:24,320 --> 00:58:25,880
Speaker 1: it had to mess what is he here a little

1016
00:58:25,920 --> 00:58:27,600
Speaker 1: bit and when he broke it down to me, I'm

1017
00:58:27,600 --> 00:58:29,240
Speaker 1: gonna tell you, man, I love my father. Me and

1018
00:58:29,320 --> 00:58:31,440
Speaker 1: him got the best relationship in the world. Now I

1019
00:58:31,560 --> 00:58:34,200
Speaker 1: love my old man. I don't have time because what

1020
00:58:34,320 --> 00:58:36,400
Speaker 1: I figured out, James. Either I can sit up here

1021
00:58:36,440 --> 00:58:39,479
Speaker 1: and be bitter about some ship that happened a few

1022
00:58:39,480 --> 00:58:41,160
Speaker 1: times that he may not have came and picked me

1023
00:58:41,240 --> 00:58:46,480
Speaker 1: up or whatever. Or I could really make the most

1024
00:58:46,480 --> 00:58:48,400
Speaker 1: out of the time that we got right now and

1025
00:58:48,520 --> 00:58:52,920
Speaker 1: not living the past to be worried about move on

1026
00:58:53,080 --> 00:58:57,000
Speaker 1: from it the past, and and and enjoyed the life

1027
00:58:57,520 --> 00:59:00,440
Speaker 1: in the time that you have now. So that's the

1028
00:59:00,480 --> 00:59:03,760
Speaker 1: important part. Most of us don't get it. I don't

1029
00:59:03,800 --> 00:59:06,760
Speaker 1: think I would have been able to do that. But

1030
00:59:09,360 --> 00:59:13,320
Speaker 1: you know, I can't do nothing but forgive let it go.

1031
00:59:14,960 --> 00:59:17,840
Speaker 1: You can't do something. But before we get up, Barty

1032
00:59:17,880 --> 00:59:20,520
Speaker 1: the James, I want to tell the people something. We

1033
00:59:20,720 --> 00:59:25,720
Speaker 1: have Gangster Chronicles merchandise on sale, y'all. Make sure y'all

1034
00:59:25,800 --> 00:59:27,960
Speaker 1: hit that link below. We got some big James T

1035
00:59:28,080 --> 00:59:29,960
Speaker 1: shirts with big James face on there. And I'm just

1036
00:59:30,000 --> 00:59:34,280
Speaker 1: messing with you. We ain't got no stuff like that. Okay, no,

1037
00:59:34,440 --> 00:59:37,320
Speaker 1: but we do have merchs and we got some new

1038
00:59:37,360 --> 00:59:39,080
Speaker 1: designs out there, gonna send them to you. Bray actually

1039
00:59:39,160 --> 00:59:41,960
Speaker 1: ordered by some stuff already so we can start winning them. Okay,

1040
00:59:42,120 --> 00:59:43,960
Speaker 1: So when we get back in the studio, we gonna

1041
00:59:43,960 --> 00:59:45,760
Speaker 1: start that's what we're gonna start doing our things. But

1042
00:59:45,840 --> 00:59:49,720
Speaker 1: y'all make sure y'all support that. And we also have

1043
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:53,439
Speaker 1: our own stream of that coming in the next month.

1044
00:59:53,480 --> 00:59:55,040
Speaker 1: Is so y'all you wanna look out with that all

1045
00:59:55,120 --> 00:59:58,160
Speaker 1: kinds of exclusive stuff with the Gangster Chronicles. My boy

1046
00:59:58,200 --> 01:00:03,640
Speaker 1: Big James has his own show coming. You're already for

1047
01:00:03,680 --> 01:00:05,200
Speaker 1: the drum Rogue James. They don't tell you what the

1048
01:00:05,240 --> 01:00:09,440
Speaker 1: name we thought of it together. No, no, no, we

1049
01:00:09,560 --> 01:00:13,560
Speaker 1: have life, the Life and Times of Mob James and

1050
01:00:13,640 --> 01:00:17,360
Speaker 1: his transformation at the James McDonald. It's gonna be a

1051
01:00:17,480 --> 01:00:20,520
Speaker 1: powerful and the cold think about that man. You know

1052
01:00:20,520 --> 01:00:23,640
Speaker 1: a lot of people don't think that it's possible to

1053
01:00:23,800 --> 01:00:27,880
Speaker 1: change your life are. They think that they're stuck in

1054
01:00:27,920 --> 01:00:30,520
Speaker 1: the life that they are. And today I'm here to

1055
01:00:30,560 --> 01:00:33,760
Speaker 1: tell you we don't have to be stuck nor stagnated

1056
01:00:34,560 --> 01:00:38,720
Speaker 1: as that person. Everybody got move for change in life,

1057
01:00:39,280 --> 01:00:42,120
Speaker 1: regardless of what we've done. You know what I'm saying.

1058
01:00:42,720 --> 01:00:48,080
Speaker 1: And I want to say I'm glad that I had

1059
01:00:48,120 --> 01:00:52,000
Speaker 1: a chance to change and see different. I really did.

1060
01:00:52,600 --> 01:00:57,840
Speaker 1: And man, on that note, man, I wish everybody out there, well,

1061
01:00:58,760 --> 01:01:02,120
Speaker 1: yeah for sure, big dog have more details on Shames

1062
01:01:02,120 --> 01:01:04,600
Speaker 1: show as it comes. That don't mean he not on

1063
01:01:04,680 --> 01:01:07,640
Speaker 1: gainst the chronicles no more. So don't start doing no

1064
01:01:07,760 --> 01:01:09,880
Speaker 1: missy stuff. That don't mean he there. But y'all gotta

1065
01:01:09,920 --> 01:01:12,120
Speaker 1: remember this. He was a business and when you got

1066
01:01:12,120 --> 01:01:15,000
Speaker 1: three people on the show, that money gets tricks all

1067
01:01:15,080 --> 01:01:16,760
Speaker 1: kind of way. So we had to go out and

1068
01:01:16,760 --> 01:01:21,160
Speaker 1: do other things. So what my boy had nice sent me.

1069
01:01:21,440 --> 01:01:24,680
Speaker 1: What's the monel? Man, I'm gonna come over there and

1070
01:01:24,760 --> 01:01:26,400
Speaker 1: take your here. Man, you know I'm ball here. I

1071
01:01:26,480 --> 01:01:29,000
Speaker 1: need him here, man, Can I have some of your braids?

1072
01:01:30,480 --> 01:01:33,160
Speaker 1: Can I have? Can I have one of your braids? Now?

1073
01:01:34,200 --> 01:01:36,400
Speaker 1: How come I need? I need two of them? So

1074
01:01:36,400 --> 01:01:38,200
Speaker 1: I'm gonna get my sisters when I come out there,

1075
01:01:38,600 --> 01:01:42,560
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna take me some of them braids. All right, Yeah,

1076
01:01:42,600 --> 01:01:46,480
Speaker 1: we're gonna do that. Losing two stays now, I've seen

1077
01:01:46,560 --> 01:01:49,320
Speaker 1: him right now, heady back in there and they start

1078
01:01:49,320 --> 01:01:53,680
Speaker 1: bothering them yet No, he just lost the two top ones. Yeah,

1079
01:01:54,640 --> 01:01:57,720
Speaker 1: like Candy. No, he's good. We we we try to

1080
01:01:57,760 --> 01:02:00,200
Speaker 1: do different. He looked like he getting bigged up. Need

1081
01:02:00,240 --> 01:02:04,520
Speaker 1: to put football field. Yeah, yes, he's starting to get big.

1082
01:02:04,560 --> 01:02:06,880
Speaker 1: He probably athletic as all get out to him. Man,

1083
01:02:06,920 --> 01:02:09,680
Speaker 1: he's flipping and he's doing everything else. She scared me.

1084
01:02:10,240 --> 01:02:15,000
Speaker 1: Momm you want to play football? You do? Okay, I'm

1085
01:02:15,000 --> 01:02:16,800
Speaker 1: gonna I'm gonna tell my friend to sign you up

1086
01:02:16,840 --> 01:02:20,080
Speaker 1: because James isn't beating. She was, how old is he not? Dog?

1087
01:02:20,160 --> 01:02:23,280
Speaker 1: He'd be six next year. Yeah, yeah, you can play

1088
01:02:23,280 --> 01:02:26,840
Speaker 1: on the tinies, dog. But y'all know what football and football?

1089
01:02:27,080 --> 01:02:29,040
Speaker 1: He needs something. I was gonna put him in karate

1090
01:02:29,200 --> 01:02:35,840
Speaker 1: because with karate dad discipline, that would be good for him. Bro. Yeah,

1091
01:02:36,400 --> 01:02:39,560
Speaker 1: where I'm at, witty, but I think karate will give

1092
01:02:39,680 --> 01:02:45,720
Speaker 1: him that. You know that discipline get need outside of home? Yeah,

1093
01:02:45,800 --> 01:02:48,080
Speaker 1: for sure. End of the show him how to work

1094
01:02:48,120 --> 01:02:51,120
Speaker 1: with other people and giving patience because James, I'm gonna

1095
01:02:51,120 --> 01:02:54,480
Speaker 1: tell you something. I took jiu jitsu for four years.

1096
01:02:54,480 --> 01:02:57,680
Speaker 1: I don't tell a lot of people that, Uh, martial

1097
01:02:57,760 --> 01:03:00,000
Speaker 1: arts gives you a confidence to know that you can

1098
01:03:00,040 --> 01:03:03,840
Speaker 1: Russian motherfucker, So you gotta tenden see to less stuff

1099
01:03:03,880 --> 01:03:06,000
Speaker 1: slide and just kind of laugh at it, and you

1100
01:03:06,160 --> 01:03:08,080
Speaker 1: just really just waiting for them to make that one

1101
01:03:08,160 --> 01:03:11,080
Speaker 1: move and you already got them figured out kind of,

1102
01:03:11,200 --> 01:03:13,960
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So I've never like once

1103
01:03:14,000 --> 01:03:16,960
Speaker 1: I took once I started studying jiu jitsu. Man, it

1104
01:03:17,040 --> 01:03:18,480
Speaker 1: took me to a thing. I used to fight a

1105
01:03:18,480 --> 01:03:20,400
Speaker 1: lot before that, but then after that I didn't because

1106
01:03:20,400 --> 01:03:21,919
Speaker 1: it was kind of like I'll be looking at people

1107
01:03:21,920 --> 01:03:24,440
Speaker 1: like to you, it doesn't matter if there was a

1108
01:03:24,440 --> 01:03:27,120
Speaker 1: big dude to us, small dude like you know, you

1109
01:03:27,200 --> 01:03:30,120
Speaker 1: don't even know, you ain't got enough. But man, we're

1110
01:03:30,120 --> 01:03:32,200
Speaker 1: gonna get up out of here. Man, we appreciate you

1111
01:03:32,240 --> 01:03:35,600
Speaker 1: guys for tuning me in the night again. Hit those

1112
01:03:35,720 --> 01:03:38,360
Speaker 1: links and the thing and support the merchandise, all right,

1113
01:03:38,360 --> 01:03:42,160
Speaker 1: and we out of here on the chime fish alright,

1114
01:03:42,920 --> 01:03:43,480
Speaker 1: alright for shore