1 00:00:01,760 --> 00:00:06,240 Speaker 1: This is from Terry on Steve HARVFM. Terry says, my 2 00:00:06,320 --> 00:00:09,320 Speaker 1: biological father left my mom when I was an infant, 3 00:00:09,400 --> 00:00:13,120 Speaker 1: but she got together with my stepdad not long after and. 4 00:00:13,039 --> 00:00:15,400 Speaker 2: He's been my real dad my whole life. 5 00:00:15,720 --> 00:00:19,160 Speaker 1: My biological father has passed away now, but before he died, 6 00:00:19,520 --> 00:00:21,639 Speaker 1: I found his Facebook and saw that he had a 7 00:00:21,680 --> 00:00:25,239 Speaker 1: family and three kids. I thought about reaching out, but 8 00:00:25,400 --> 00:00:28,520 Speaker 1: I have no idea how that might impact my mother 9 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:32,000 Speaker 1: or what it could open up. Do I leave things 10 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:35,480 Speaker 1: as they are or take the risk of introducing myself 11 00:00:35,520 --> 00:00:38,920 Speaker 1: and potentially changing both of our lives. 12 00:00:39,320 --> 00:00:43,000 Speaker 3: Well, man, that's really up to you. How important is 13 00:00:43,000 --> 00:00:45,839 Speaker 3: that to you. I haven't been in that situation. I 14 00:00:45,840 --> 00:00:48,400 Speaker 3: have no experience at it, but it's totally up to you. 15 00:00:49,360 --> 00:00:53,479 Speaker 3: If you would like to meet your siblings, thenk gone 16 00:00:53,479 --> 00:00:57,440 Speaker 3: over there and do it. I mean he died, yeah, 17 00:00:58,040 --> 00:01:00,880 Speaker 3: so maybe people need to know what happening. You know, 18 00:01:01,200 --> 00:01:03,440 Speaker 3: they won't be as mad because you ain't trying to 19 00:01:03,640 --> 00:01:05,800 Speaker 3: get over there and take their daddy time and all 20 00:01:05,920 --> 00:01:08,479 Speaker 3: like that. You just say, I found y'all on Facebook. Man, 21 00:01:08,520 --> 00:01:12,000 Speaker 3: he was my father. I just wanted to say, hey, man, 22 00:01:12,040 --> 00:01:15,920 Speaker 3: it's nice to meet y'all glad to know I have 23 00:01:16,319 --> 00:01:19,959 Speaker 3: still have some connection to him, and and that's a 24 00:01:20,000 --> 00:01:22,160 Speaker 3: cool way to do it. And then and then if 25 00:01:22,200 --> 00:01:25,000 Speaker 3: they don't like that, then they buttholes and gone back 26 00:01:25,000 --> 00:01:25,679 Speaker 3: to your life. 27 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:25,920 Speaker 2: Man. 28 00:01:27,160 --> 00:01:28,600 Speaker 4: But his mama don't like it though. 29 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:35,240 Speaker 2: What is painful for her money? 30 00:01:35,319 --> 00:01:37,399 Speaker 3: Yeah, but you know, you can't have these babies by 31 00:01:37,440 --> 00:01:40,920 Speaker 3: these men. And then the boy, the boy wanted never 32 00:01:41,000 --> 00:01:43,560 Speaker 3: met his real father, and then he died. He was 33 00:01:43,680 --> 00:01:46,000 Speaker 3: raised by a man who was his dad. He loves him. 34 00:01:46,040 --> 00:01:49,200 Speaker 3: He just doesn't take away anything. But you can't tell 35 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:51,440 Speaker 3: a grown man how to feel once they grow up. 36 00:01:53,200 --> 00:01:55,120 Speaker 3: I'm his biological father. 37 00:01:55,240 --> 00:01:57,480 Speaker 2: So you know, because he left his mom when he 38 00:01:57,560 --> 00:01:58,080 Speaker 2: was a baby. 39 00:01:58,240 --> 00:02:02,000 Speaker 1: Yeah, all right, moving on, we have time for another one. 40 00:02:02,040 --> 00:02:06,160 Speaker 1: This is Bailey on Steve HARBFM. Bailey says, I'm supposed 41 00:02:06,200 --> 00:02:08,520 Speaker 1: to get married in a few months, but I'm having 42 00:02:08,600 --> 00:02:12,640 Speaker 1: some serious doubts about my partner. He's a great person 43 00:02:12,680 --> 00:02:15,960 Speaker 1: in a lot of ways, but he is highly dysfunctional. 44 00:02:16,240 --> 00:02:21,079 Speaker 1: He struggles with follow through, managing responsibilities and handling stress. 45 00:02:21,360 --> 00:02:23,160 Speaker 1: And I feel like I'm carrying a lot of the 46 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:26,120 Speaker 1: load for the both of us. I love him, but 47 00:02:26,600 --> 00:02:29,280 Speaker 1: and don't want to walk away, but I'm scared. At 48 00:02:29,280 --> 00:02:31,880 Speaker 1: what point do I decide to move forward anyway or 49 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:34,840 Speaker 1: call things off before it's too late? 50 00:02:35,360 --> 00:02:37,400 Speaker 4: What the best advice I got about marriage? 51 00:02:37,400 --> 00:02:39,560 Speaker 3: The only thing to change was with marriage is the 52 00:02:39,600 --> 00:02:43,880 Speaker 3: appearance of your left hand, third finger. If you're dealing 53 00:02:43,880 --> 00:02:46,480 Speaker 3: with these problems now, they only going to magnify, y'all. 54 00:02:46,520 --> 00:02:49,680 Speaker 4: Don't even marry you, right right? He don't have the stress? 55 00:02:49,720 --> 00:02:55,600 Speaker 3: Well, you don't like responsibility. 56 00:02:55,919 --> 00:02:57,200 Speaker 4: Please don't marry. 57 00:02:56,919 --> 00:02:58,920 Speaker 2: This mate, Do not You'll be miserable. 58 00:02:59,080 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 4: Yeah, girl, you because it ain't even started. 59 00:03:02,360 --> 00:03:07,320 Speaker 3: Chet exactly right, right? Yeah, so it's just all the 60 00:03:07,360 --> 00:03:11,360 Speaker 3: time you got to deal with what's happening with your spouse. 61 00:03:11,720 --> 00:03:15,639 Speaker 1: Yeah, so should she she says, At what point does 62 00:03:15,680 --> 00:03:20,000 Speaker 1: she decide to uh huh, it's too late? 63 00:03:20,080 --> 00:03:22,119 Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, today, break it off. 64 00:03:23,240 --> 00:03:29,800 Speaker 3: This little boy he don't like responsibility, he can't handle stress. Yeah, 65 00:03:29,880 --> 00:03:32,000 Speaker 3: you're gonna need a shoulder the crown. He's gonna be 66 00:03:32,200 --> 00:03:33,360 Speaker 3: there crying on yours. 67 00:03:35,280 --> 00:03:35,760 Speaker 2: She says. 68 00:03:35,800 --> 00:03:40,040 Speaker 1: He's highly dysfunctional. High, that's good. 69 00:03:40,160 --> 00:03:42,400 Speaker 4: Why would you marry a highly dysfunctional man? 70 00:03:42,560 --> 00:03:46,960 Speaker 2: Right right? What is it with these red flags we 71 00:03:47,160 --> 00:03:48,040 Speaker 2: just collect? 72 00:03:48,920 --> 00:03:49,119 Speaker 1: Yeah? 73 00:03:49,800 --> 00:03:51,840 Speaker 2: Ignore them. What is that about. 74 00:03:52,080 --> 00:03:55,040 Speaker 3: Stop collecting red flags, stop putting them in the back 75 00:03:55,080 --> 00:03:55,680 Speaker 3: of your truck. 76 00:03:56,120 --> 00:03:59,440 Speaker 1: Yeah, well she sees it, and like she sees the 77 00:03:59,480 --> 00:04:01,920 Speaker 1: red flag than like a lot of women. Yeah, we 78 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:05,480 Speaker 1: choose to ignore them. Oh, he'll be better once we're married, 79 00:04:05,800 --> 00:04:08,640 Speaker 1: and you know he'll change I can change him. 80 00:04:09,240 --> 00:04:09,760 Speaker 2: All of that. 81 00:04:10,600 --> 00:04:13,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, you know goes into goes into this. So I'm 82 00:04:13,920 --> 00:04:16,159 Speaker 1: with you, Steve. She needs to stop this right now, 83 00:04:16,320 --> 00:04:18,440 Speaker 1: haul it off. Don't marry this guy. 84 00:04:18,800 --> 00:04:21,480 Speaker 4: Oh man, you had it for life of doom. 85 00:04:21,560 --> 00:04:22,080 Speaker 2: Yeah. 86 00:04:22,320 --> 00:04:24,200 Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not gonna get better. 87 00:04:25,080 --> 00:04:28,480 Speaker 3: No, No, people show you who they are. 88 00:04:28,640 --> 00:04:33,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, believe him. That's right. Yeah. All right, Well, thank 89 00:04:33,960 --> 00:04:36,000 Speaker 2: you for writing in. Hopefully that helped. 90 00:04:36,520 --> 00:04:40,240 Speaker 1: Yeah, we'll have more of The Steve Harvey Morning Show 91 00:04:40,279 --> 00:04:41,800 Speaker 1: coming up at twenty minutes after. 92 00:04:42,160 --> 00:04:46,000 Speaker 2: Right after this, you're listening to the Steve Harvey Morning Show.