WEBVTT - CHICO BEAN - Canned Ravioli Tales 0:00:00.120 --> 0:00:03.440 Hey guys, welcome to another episode of Eating While Broke. 0:00:03.840 --> 0:00:06.720 I'm your host coleeen Went and today we have very 0:00:06.760 --> 0:00:09.600 special special guests Chico Ben in the building. 0:00:09.720 --> 0:00:12.160 Yes, yes, yes, thank you, thank you for having me 0:00:12.320 --> 0:00:15.040 on your wonderful, wonderful podcast. 0:00:15.080 --> 0:00:17.280 This is a brilliant idea. I think this is dope. 0:00:17.520 --> 0:00:19.480 Thank you and thank you for opening up. 0:00:19.560 --> 0:00:21.800 I would like to say the eighty five South home 0:00:21.840 --> 0:00:25.360 to me and being so hospitable. I absolutely love everything 0:00:25.360 --> 0:00:28.440 about the eighty five South camp in totality. 0:00:28.680 --> 0:00:31.000 Thank you guys so much for showing me so much less. 0:00:31.040 --> 0:00:33.640 Oh man, We you know, try to pride ourselves on 0:00:33.720 --> 0:00:37.120 being a standard of you know, hospitality over here, to 0:00:37.159 --> 0:00:39.559 say the least, So I'm glad that you were received 0:00:39.560 --> 0:00:40.080 in that way. 0:00:40.240 --> 0:00:40.480 Yeah. 0:00:40.520 --> 0:00:44.680 I've been gossiping NonStop, but such amazing gossip behind your back. 0:00:44.680 --> 0:00:47.160 Like yo, these guys are incredible. The character, the integrity 0:00:47.159 --> 0:00:49.400 that every day, Oh my god, it's amazing. Good and 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:52.840 your dish. What are you gonna have us eating today? 0:00:53.760 --> 0:00:56.040 Beef ravioli by chef Boyard. 0:00:56.720 --> 0:01:00.280 Yes, this is a this is a real classic. It's money. 0:01:00.800 --> 0:01:03.800 I don't think we've ever had it on the show, surprisingly, 0:01:04.360 --> 0:01:07.720 which I've had everything you could imagine a hundred times over. 0:01:08.280 --> 0:01:10.560 But I like that you and I are gonna take 0:01:10.560 --> 0:01:13.800 one for teen today, right, We're gonna we're gonna take 0:01:13.840 --> 0:01:15.360 baby baby baby. 0:01:15.080 --> 0:01:15.600 Licks at it. 0:01:16.160 --> 0:01:16.520 Pause. 0:01:16.720 --> 0:01:20.920 But yeah, we we're gonna do what we could do 0:01:21.000 --> 0:01:23.679 to do to make sure that the content is what 0:01:23.800 --> 0:01:26.520 it needs to be for you know, for the podcast. 0:01:26.600 --> 0:01:28.680 We'll say that it's been a very long time since 0:01:28.720 --> 0:01:32.399 I've been able to eat anything remotely close to this, 0:01:32.600 --> 0:01:34.600 but there was a time in my life where this was, 0:01:35.000 --> 0:01:36.240 you know, five course for me. 0:01:49.840 --> 0:01:52.120 Okay, So I want to make sure the jogg your memory. 0:01:52.240 --> 0:01:54.600 So I want to see you make chef for I 0:01:54.720 --> 0:01:58.720 d okay, and uh, I want to take a swing 0:01:58.840 --> 0:01:59.480 a swing at it. 0:01:59.480 --> 0:02:03.600 Going okay, all right, so you just try not. 0:02:03.520 --> 0:02:05.680 To let any guests leave without taking a bite of 0:02:05.720 --> 0:02:06.160 their food. 0:02:06.240 --> 0:02:09.520 Okay, all right? So I mean, I mean, is this on? 0:02:09.800 --> 0:02:12.320 I think I turned the other one on? Maybe they 0:02:12.360 --> 0:02:15.280 both of which is heating sauce. 0:02:15.320 --> 0:02:19.000 By the way, I accidentally did try Chef Bard recently 0:02:19.280 --> 0:02:22.040 and I was like, who was I think it? 0:02:22.040 --> 0:02:23.200 Because I used to love it? 0:02:23.960 --> 0:02:27.600 Yeah, so did I. Oh boy, this is you got 0:02:27.600 --> 0:02:29.839 the memories memory. Oh boy. 0:02:29.880 --> 0:02:31.720 See that's the thing. You got to it come out 0:02:31.720 --> 0:02:38.320 and you got to you get that sound. That's what yeah, 0:02:39.280 --> 0:02:44.120 all right, all right, now, see I don't know if 0:02:44.120 --> 0:02:45.720 we got in need let me see what what what 0:02:45.760 --> 0:02:47.360 type of flavorings. 0:02:46.720 --> 0:02:47.200 We got over? 0:02:47.280 --> 0:02:48.440 So we add an extra flavor? 0:02:48.560 --> 0:02:50.400 Oh you got to, man, we got to. This is 0:02:50.440 --> 0:02:52.679 a hood delicacy, you know what I mean. 0:02:53.200 --> 0:02:55.280 Growing up? You know, I was what was called the 0:02:55.360 --> 0:02:56.160 latch key kid. 0:02:56.639 --> 0:02:58.480 So my mother, you know, would get up at three 0:02:58.520 --> 0:03:01.240 o'clock in the morning to go to work since I 0:03:01.360 --> 0:03:03.800 was since I can remember. So I've been kind of 0:03:03.880 --> 0:03:07.119 cooking for myself and this little Italian season and right here, 0:03:07.560 --> 0:03:10.400 give it a little bit of a little bit of 0:03:10.520 --> 0:03:13.400 you know, make it seem like it's corrobbas or something 0:03:13.400 --> 0:03:14.000 of that nature. 0:03:14.639 --> 0:03:16.560 No, did you come from two parent household? 0:03:16.680 --> 0:03:18.320 No? No, No, I did not come from a two 0:03:18.400 --> 0:03:19.120 parent household. 0:03:19.200 --> 0:03:21.320 My father was murdered when I was two years old, 0:03:21.639 --> 0:03:24.320 so it was just my mother, and uh, you know, 0:03:24.840 --> 0:03:26.919 because of that, she had to you know, it's a 0:03:26.960 --> 0:03:29.760 little different back in the day. You know, we're going 0:03:29.800 --> 0:03:33.600 black pepper right here, good in gather. We're going good 0:03:33.600 --> 0:03:37.600 and gathered black pepper. And then uh, no, salt. We 0:03:37.640 --> 0:03:40.440 try to stay away from the salt. As the garlic powder. 0:03:40.480 --> 0:03:42.360 We'll do a little bit of garlic powder on. 0:03:42.400 --> 0:03:43.920 There, just slightly. 0:03:44.560 --> 0:03:45.680 Do you cook at home. 0:03:45.560 --> 0:03:50.000 Now, yes, very much so private No, hell no, okay, 0:03:50.000 --> 0:03:52.120 that is an expense I refuse to know. 0:03:52.600 --> 0:03:54.560 So you're cooking, you're not eating out a lot? 0:03:55.200 --> 0:03:57.840 Well, yes, we do eat out a lot because we 0:03:57.920 --> 0:03:59.680 are out a lot with what we do for a living, 0:03:59.760 --> 0:04:03.040 you know, I mean, you know, traveling and you know, 0:04:03.160 --> 0:04:04.760 just being on the road all the time. It kind 0:04:04.800 --> 0:04:07.480 of restricts what it is that you can eat because 0:04:07.960 --> 0:04:10.560 our job don't start till eight pm, so by the 0:04:10.560 --> 0:04:12.920 time we finish working, it's it's really not. 0:04:12.960 --> 0:04:15.240 Much left open. So usually you have. 0:04:15.160 --> 0:04:17.560 To go get something during the day to have after 0:04:17.680 --> 0:04:19.839 when you finish. And you know what I mean, it's 0:04:19.880 --> 0:04:23.320 it's very very much cooking when you go home, not 0:04:23.400 --> 0:04:25.240 when you're on the road. It's very difficult to cook 0:04:25.279 --> 0:04:26.479 when you're on it. You have to kind of set 0:04:26.520 --> 0:04:27.880 yourself up to be able to cook. 0:04:27.760 --> 0:04:28.200 On the road. 0:04:28.600 --> 0:04:32.000 So if you weren't eat and you were at home currently. 0:04:33.400 --> 0:04:35.560 Water, yeah, just to stretch it out a little bit 0:04:35.560 --> 0:04:37.080 so it won't stick to the bottom of the pan. 0:04:37.720 --> 0:04:43.920 Yeah you real, let me see. Uh yeah, right there, 0:04:43.960 --> 0:04:44.560 we're right there. 0:04:44.760 --> 0:04:46.760 I wasn't even that good. I was just heating in 0:04:46.800 --> 0:04:47.440 the microwaves. 0:04:47.560 --> 0:04:49.240 Oh no, yeah, no, we got to do it on 0:04:49.279 --> 0:04:50.400 the stove. That's how you learn. 0:04:51.000 --> 0:04:52.800 You get that mixed up and they get all them 0:04:52.800 --> 0:04:55.520 flavors mixed in in there. You got to separate them too, 0:04:55.520 --> 0:04:58.200 because if you don't separate them, then you'll have one 0:04:58.240 --> 0:05:00.800 that's cooked on the top and then you into that bottom. 0:05:01.800 --> 0:05:04.320 In that bottom with Bucky neked, it ain't got no 0:05:04.400 --> 0:05:06.320 heat on it. So you gotta make sure you go 0:05:06.440 --> 0:05:09.480 in and split them apart because they come in you know, 0:05:09.560 --> 0:05:11.880 they be stuck together, so you gotta split them apart 0:05:11.960 --> 0:05:12.320 right there. 0:05:13.400 --> 0:05:14.599 Uh, there we go. 0:05:14.839 --> 0:05:17.159 This is how I know I know. I know you 0:05:17.279 --> 0:05:18.039 was broke. 0:05:17.920 --> 0:05:22.080 Because I didn't. That's the thing. You knew I was broke. 0:05:22.160 --> 0:05:22.520 I didn't. 0:05:22.720 --> 0:05:25.039 I thought this was a delicacy because it really had 0:05:25.200 --> 0:05:29.720 Chef boy I d on the can no listen. We 0:05:29.760 --> 0:05:30.440 had a lot of that. 0:05:30.600 --> 0:05:30.760 Well. 0:05:30.760 --> 0:05:32.839 I can't remember the first the first time I ever 0:05:32.920 --> 0:05:35.960 had Frosty Flakes with Tony on the box. 0:05:36.000 --> 0:05:39.960 I was in college. My Frosty flakes. 0:05:39.680 --> 0:05:43.760 Had a snowman on the box frosty flakes. That's what 0:05:43.920 --> 0:05:46.919 we grew up eating, the frosty flakes with the eye 0:05:47.000 --> 0:05:48.000 with the wire on them. 0:05:48.200 --> 0:05:49.839 All right, So we're gonna let that just do his 0:05:49.920 --> 0:05:50.599 thing right there. 0:05:50.680 --> 0:05:52.920 We're gonna sit this off to the side, and then 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:55.000 you know it's getting right when it started the bubble 0:05:55.880 --> 0:05:58.200 with the little bubble on it, then you're going you're 0:05:58.200 --> 0:05:58.920 cooking with grease. 0:05:59.200 --> 0:06:01.480 So take me back, take me back to this time. 0:06:01.960 --> 0:06:06.520 Woh Boy Washington, d C. Born and raised in Washington, DC. 0:06:07.920 --> 0:06:10.560 Grew up in the household with all my family members. 0:06:10.560 --> 0:06:14.000 At first, I say, the first eight nine years of 0:06:14.040 --> 0:06:14.400 my life. 0:06:14.440 --> 0:06:15.000 I lived in the. 0:06:14.920 --> 0:06:17.560 Household with my mother, my aunt Mary, who was like 0:06:17.600 --> 0:06:20.080 my grandmother. My grandmother passed before I was born too, 0:06:20.200 --> 0:06:23.839 so she was like the matriarch of the family. Four uncles, 0:06:23.880 --> 0:06:26.600 my uncle Ricky, my uncle Reggie, you know, I mean, 0:06:26.680 --> 0:06:29.520 my uncle Eric Harrold, who was you know, a cousin, 0:06:29.560 --> 0:06:31.680 but he was like an uncle. Sheel was like a 0:06:32.160 --> 0:06:34.160 who was a cousin but was like an aunt. They 0:06:34.160 --> 0:06:36.680 grew up with my mother, my mother of course, cousin 0:06:36.720 --> 0:06:38.880 Derk and it was just so many people in the household. 0:06:38.920 --> 0:06:41.880 So I got to get the influence from all of 0:06:41.920 --> 0:06:44.760 those different people, from you know, good. 0:06:44.520 --> 0:06:47.000 Bad, and in different Were you an only child, No, I. 0:06:46.880 --> 0:06:49.000 Have a little brother. I have a little brother who's 0:06:49.000 --> 0:06:51.640 three years younger than me. But so I grew up 0:06:51.640 --> 0:06:55.640 there and we moved into apartment, our first apartment my 0:06:55.640 --> 0:06:59.040 mother got and this is where I would say my 0:07:00.120 --> 0:07:05.440 culinary journey began. And it began with cam Ravioli because 0:07:05.720 --> 0:07:07.400 it's an easy thing to make, you know, it was 0:07:07.480 --> 0:07:09.240 very easy for my mother to show us how to 0:07:09.279 --> 0:07:10.960 make that. It's just you just put it on the stove, 0:07:11.000 --> 0:07:12.800 heat it up, you know what I mean, season it 0:07:12.800 --> 0:07:14.160 to where you want to season it. Two, it was 0:07:14.200 --> 0:07:16.080 a certain point where I was staying on the little 0:07:16.080 --> 0:07:19.200 stool and cook it. Because she was always at work, 0:07:19.240 --> 0:07:20.600 you know, she would have to get up at three 0:07:20.640 --> 0:07:23.600 o'clock in the morning and catch three busses to get 0:07:23.640 --> 0:07:25.080 to work, you know what I mean, and to go 0:07:25.200 --> 0:07:27.560 be a custodian. So by the time she got home, 0:07:27.600 --> 0:07:29.520 it was very red and she had the energy to 0:07:29.560 --> 0:07:31.440 do anything but go back to sleep so she can 0:07:31.520 --> 0:07:33.920 wake up in a couple more hours to go back 0:07:33.960 --> 0:07:34.360 to work. 0:07:34.600 --> 0:07:36.640 So for me. This was you know, me and my 0:07:36.680 --> 0:07:39.080 little brothers. This was our delicacy. 0:07:39.120 --> 0:07:41.440 There was no stepdad in the house or oh no. 0:07:41.200 --> 0:07:41.520 No, no no. 0:07:41.800 --> 0:07:44.280 There was you know, a couple of niggas that stepped in, 0:07:44.320 --> 0:07:46.200 but they weren't step das as they were just doing 0:07:46.240 --> 0:07:47.840 their thing, you know what I mean. And you know, 0:07:48.080 --> 0:07:53.080 that's pretty much the dynamic of how you know, my 0:07:53.120 --> 0:07:55.840 mother's relationships worked throughout my life. It was never very 0:07:55.920 --> 0:07:59.160 She was a very, very very stern woman to say 0:07:59.160 --> 0:08:01.640 the least. And I've learned from you know, God rest 0:08:01.680 --> 0:08:05.040 her soul. I've learned that it takes a very special 0:08:05.080 --> 0:08:07.560 type of man to deal with a woman who is 0:08:07.560 --> 0:08:10.400 is very self aware and stern and not gonna let 0:08:10.400 --> 0:08:12.720 you just play no games. You couldn't play no games 0:08:12.720 --> 0:08:14.720 with Wanda Bean. You had to be honest. You had 0:08:14.720 --> 0:08:16.840 to be forthcoming and forward. And if once she saw 0:08:16.880 --> 0:08:19.520 that you weren't who you said you were, you wouldn't 0:08:19.520 --> 0:08:21.560 want to be around her anyway. Oh I hit a bubble, 0:08:21.600 --> 0:08:24.560 I hit a bubble, bubble, Wow, you gotta know you're 0:08:24.600 --> 0:08:28.120 moving and around there we go. But I was fortunate 0:08:28.280 --> 0:08:30.280 enough to have male influence. I don't want to make 0:08:30.280 --> 0:08:32.240 it seem like I didn't have any male influence. 0:08:32.320 --> 0:08:33.880 My uncle's and you. 0:08:33.840 --> 0:08:35.240 Know, a lot of the guys I grew up with 0:08:35.320 --> 0:08:38.240 in my neighborhoods. You know, I was very active as 0:08:38.280 --> 0:08:40.600 a young man because my mother, you know, had a 0:08:40.640 --> 0:08:43.200 different sentiment. I say, she raised me and reverse, you know, 0:08:43.280 --> 0:08:46.280 with all the coddling and protection and you know, that's 0:08:46.320 --> 0:08:48.880 my baby. You think that a woman would give a 0:08:48.920 --> 0:08:52.000 young man whose father was a victim of gun violence 0:08:52.040 --> 0:08:53.960 and you know, try to protect me from all the 0:08:53.960 --> 0:08:56.680 things the streets of Washington, DC had to offer. That 0:08:56.840 --> 0:08:59.319 wasn't her sentiment. She was like, you know, get out 0:08:59.320 --> 0:09:00.920 there and do something. You the man of the house. 0:09:01.240 --> 0:09:03.560 So I've always you I was the man of my 0:09:03.600 --> 0:09:06.959 house early. I have responsibility my whole life. So at 0:09:06.960 --> 0:09:09.840 the time when I was young, I didn't recognize how, 0:09:10.080 --> 0:09:13.080 you know, blessed I was to have that responsibility. But 0:09:13.120 --> 0:09:15.520 in hindsight, I do now, because now I realize that 0:09:15.559 --> 0:09:18.240 it as an adult, a lot of the gentlemen who 0:09:18.280 --> 0:09:19.920 I grew up with and I was around, who were 0:09:19.920 --> 0:09:23.040 my peers and you know, older than me, still han't 0:09:23.200 --> 0:09:27.760 learned to, you know, take responsibility in the way that 0:09:27.840 --> 0:09:30.160 I did. When I was nine ten years old. So 0:09:30.320 --> 0:09:32.600 as a man, it is you know, it's really prepared 0:09:32.640 --> 0:09:35.600 me for you know, life in ways where I'm able 0:09:35.640 --> 0:09:38.800 to do things instinctively that most people look at as 0:09:39.240 --> 0:09:41.720 heroic effort, but for me, it's just what I'm you know, 0:09:41.960 --> 0:09:42.520 used to doing. 0:09:43.040 --> 0:09:46.559 Okay, But you were saying that she coddled you later 0:09:46.640 --> 0:09:47.120 on though. 0:09:47.040 --> 0:09:48.000 Oh yes, a grown man. 0:09:48.200 --> 0:09:50.480 As a grown yes, yes, when I became once I 0:09:50.559 --> 0:09:52.600 became a man and got out here and started to 0:09:53.200 --> 0:09:55.080 you know, live my life, and she saw that the 0:09:55.160 --> 0:09:57.839 lessons and things that she taught me were actually being 0:09:57.880 --> 0:10:00.840 applied without her presence. That's when she opened up. Like 0:10:00.880 --> 0:10:02.640 I didn't see my mother. I saw my mother cry. 0:10:03.000 --> 0:10:04.920 I saw a fight before I saw a cry, Just 0:10:04.960 --> 0:10:06.720 to put that in perspective, you know what I mean. 0:10:06.760 --> 0:10:09.040 But by the time I became a grown man and 0:10:09.080 --> 0:10:11.199 got out here, she would cry about everything. Was scared 0:10:11.200 --> 0:10:14.840 of shit out me, every little thing. But hey, hey, 0:10:14.880 --> 0:10:18.440 what's all this sensitivity you got going? But yeah, so 0:10:18.520 --> 0:10:20.480 I would say that, you know, by the time I 0:10:20.520 --> 0:10:25.360 became a grown man, that open you know, loving, you know, 0:10:25.480 --> 0:10:26.200 that's my baby. 0:10:26.280 --> 0:10:28.040 That's what she gave me, you know, that's what she 0:10:28.080 --> 0:10:28.800 gave me for sure. 0:10:29.200 --> 0:10:32.160 Yeah, I think dang, I should take notes. I'm gonna 0:10:32.160 --> 0:10:32.839 take notes from me. 0:10:33.240 --> 0:10:37.319 Oh well, thank you so Ravioli cooking or just life? 0:10:38.400 --> 0:10:38.720 Wow? 0:10:39.480 --> 0:10:39.960 I mean. 0:10:41.320 --> 0:10:45.680 So, now take me to get closer and closer to 0:10:45.880 --> 0:10:48.040 I'm trying to get to the road to where you're 0:10:48.080 --> 0:10:53.800 at today. So at what point does what's your does 0:10:53.880 --> 0:10:55.160 comedy enter the picture? 0:10:55.800 --> 0:11:01.400 Comedy enters the picture? My after I graduated. 0:11:01.200 --> 0:11:06.280 From college, after college, not even high school. No, No, 0:11:07.440 --> 0:11:09.480 I love how everyone here is like a college graduate. 0:11:10.400 --> 0:11:13.200 Well no, no, not at all. That was definitely not 0:11:13.360 --> 0:11:17.800 my perspective in high school. High school. You know, I 0:11:17.840 --> 0:11:20.080 had a very different vantage point than what I wanted to. 0:11:20.080 --> 0:11:20.720 Do with myself. 0:11:20.920 --> 0:11:22.160 What did you want to do in high school? 0:11:22.440 --> 0:11:23.760 Be in the streets? Oh? 0:11:23.800 --> 0:11:25.640 You wanted to be in the streets, as in like 0:11:25.760 --> 0:11:28.240 a dope man. Yes, yes, that was a goal. 0:11:28.360 --> 0:11:32.800 That was my Yes, without question, that was That's all 0:11:32.800 --> 0:11:34.679 I wanted to do. All I wanted to do was 0:11:34.760 --> 0:11:36.920 be active and be the man in my neighborhood, in 0:11:36.960 --> 0:11:39.920 my section, and be known in that capacity because that's 0:11:39.960 --> 0:11:43.760 what my environment bred and that's what was normalized where 0:11:43.760 --> 0:11:47.200 I come from, you know, and my uncle Reggie God 0:11:47.240 --> 0:11:49.400 rest his soul, was murdered in two thousand and two, 0:11:49.559 --> 0:11:51.400 and I said, my father was killed when I was 0:11:51.440 --> 0:11:53.120 two years old, and I don't remember. I have no 0:11:53.200 --> 0:11:56.200 recollection of my father, But my uncle Reggie was like 0:11:56.240 --> 0:11:58.720 my father. He was probably the closest thing that I 0:11:58.760 --> 0:12:01.720 had to a father figure in the consistency of his 0:12:01.800 --> 0:12:04.720 presence and in the things that he showed me how 0:12:04.720 --> 0:12:07.560 to do as a man. A lot of my characteristics 0:12:07.559 --> 0:12:09.680 and who I am as a man came from watching 0:12:09.800 --> 0:12:14.120 and mimicking and just being around him. So when he 0:12:15.280 --> 0:12:18.600 was killed, it scared me because I knew that my 0:12:18.760 --> 0:12:21.800 goals and aspirations wanted to be in the streets. But 0:12:22.120 --> 0:12:24.199 I thought he was invincible. It's certain people you think 0:12:24.240 --> 0:12:25.960 it couldn't happen to, and I thought he was one 0:12:26.000 --> 0:12:26.600 of those people. 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:28.559 So when it happened to him, I knew that. 0:12:28.640 --> 0:12:31.240 You know, I've never been as much as I've always 0:12:31.280 --> 0:12:35.040 been good at getting money and being responsible for myself. 0:12:35.080 --> 0:12:37.720 I knew I wasn't a gorilla, you know, and he was, 0:12:37.920 --> 0:12:40.440 and he lost his life in the streets. So I've 0:12:40.440 --> 0:12:42.560 never had a problem with a problem. But I'm also 0:12:42.760 --> 0:12:46.400 not aggressive, you know, just I'm not that person. You're 0:12:46.400 --> 0:12:47.880 not going to do anything to me, But I don't 0:12:47.880 --> 0:12:49.040 want to do anything to you either. 0:12:49.200 --> 0:12:49.440 Yeah. 0:12:49.480 --> 0:12:51.880 So that's always been my perspective. So when he lost 0:12:51.920 --> 0:12:54.559 his life, that's what put me on a trajectory into where. 0:12:54.360 --> 0:12:54.839 I am now. 0:12:54.880 --> 0:12:56.679 I didn't even want to go to college before then. 0:12:56.720 --> 0:12:58.600 I didn't know nothing about college. They didn't talk to 0:12:58.640 --> 0:13:01.240 us about college in DC public schools. They were just 0:13:01.280 --> 0:13:04.319 trying to get us to graduate before you know, something 0:13:04.360 --> 0:13:06.000 happened to you, or get you out of there before 0:13:06.040 --> 0:13:08.480 they realized you in the twelfth grade and only reading on. 0:13:08.440 --> 0:13:09.120 The fourth grade. 0:13:09.240 --> 0:13:10.080 Yeah, exactly right. 0:13:10.240 --> 0:13:12.840 But you know, once I went to college, I went 0:13:12.840 --> 0:13:15.679 to Winster Salem State University in Winston Salem, North Carolina, 0:13:16.480 --> 0:13:20.720 where I still live and reside to this day. I went, 0:13:20.920 --> 0:13:23.760 you know, matriculated through school, and you know, I joined 0:13:23.800 --> 0:13:26.800 the fraternity and did all the things. I was immersed 0:13:26.840 --> 0:13:30.400 in the college experience, and you know, I would host 0:13:30.480 --> 0:13:33.040 all of the step shows and you know, the stroll 0:13:33.120 --> 0:13:34.480 offs and all of the banquets. 0:13:34.520 --> 0:13:37.160 You are hosting them, hosting them. Okay, so you're definitely 0:13:37.160 --> 0:13:38.640 had sparks of outgoing. 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:40.040 Yeah. I've always been that way. 0:13:40.080 --> 0:13:41.920 Now, that's one thing I will say has always been 0:13:41.960 --> 0:13:45.520 present in my life. I've always been public speaking. I 0:13:45.640 --> 0:13:48.920 did my first public speaking at four years old on 0:13:49.040 --> 0:13:51.480 Frederick Douglass in a competition. I was too young to 0:13:51.520 --> 0:13:54.880 win and one okay, But so I've never I've never 0:13:54.960 --> 0:13:57.959 been afraid to speak in front of people. 0:13:58.000 --> 0:13:59.440 I've never had stage fright. 0:13:59.520 --> 0:14:03.120 I've always been the person whenever they wanted somebody to 0:14:03.200 --> 0:14:06.320 speak at a certain level and communicate at a certain level, 0:14:06.360 --> 0:14:08.600 I was always wanted they would come and get Even 0:14:08.679 --> 0:14:11.240 throughout my entire school and all that, I've always been 0:14:11.280 --> 0:14:13.760 that person. My communication is, you know, my gift from God. 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:15.760 I know that now, but at that point I didn't, 0:14:15.800 --> 0:14:18.280 but people were able to see that within me. So 0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:24.320 when I graduated, I went home and you know, my mother. 0:14:25.000 --> 0:14:26.880 I had never been to my father's grave site. So 0:14:26.920 --> 0:14:28.440 I went to see my mom and told her I 0:14:28.440 --> 0:14:30.280 was going to see my dad for the first time. 0:14:30.840 --> 0:14:32.400 And I went to the gravesite. And when I went 0:14:32.400 --> 0:14:34.800 to the grave site, they took me to a older 0:14:34.960 --> 0:14:39.160 part of the grave site and you know, pointed to 0:14:39.200 --> 0:14:41.960 the grass and was like he in this area somewhere, 0:14:42.520 --> 0:14:44.240 and I was like, oh, you know, I hope I 0:14:44.280 --> 0:14:46.400 put these flowers on the right nigga. 0:14:46.960 --> 0:14:48.480 That was my first initial thought. 0:14:48.640 --> 0:14:52.360 But but in that same vein, I was like, man, 0:14:52.520 --> 0:14:55.520 whatever he had done in his life didn't garner him 0:14:55.560 --> 0:14:57.160 enough to have a market to let the world know 0:14:57.240 --> 0:14:59.960 that he existed. Nor did anybody around him have the capacity, 0:15:00.120 --> 0:15:02.400 the or the ability to do so for him either. 0:15:02.560 --> 0:15:04.160 So at that point I was like, Okay, I don't 0:15:04.200 --> 0:15:07.120 know what I'm about to do, but I gotta do something. 0:15:07.360 --> 0:15:09.320 You know, I can't be a patch of grass. I 0:15:09.360 --> 0:15:12.080 gotta be more than that. I have to, you know, 0:15:12.720 --> 0:15:14.840 leave more of a legacy than he was able to 0:15:14.880 --> 0:15:17.120 leave before God took him away from here. So I 0:15:17.160 --> 0:15:19.440 went home and it gave me a sheet of paper 0:15:19.760 --> 0:15:22.560 at the gravesite, and I gave it to my mother, 0:15:22.600 --> 0:15:25.080 and my mother looked at it and immediately started crying, 0:15:25.080 --> 0:15:26.320 I mean balling crying. 0:15:27.000 --> 0:15:29.280 She was like, he didn't down on his day. They 0:15:29.280 --> 0:15:30.960 got the day that he died, wrong on his day. 0:15:31.000 --> 0:15:32.600 And I'm just looking like in mind you, I told 0:15:32.640 --> 0:15:34.160 you I saw my mother fight before I saw the 0:15:34.200 --> 0:15:37.400 crist So this is like spooky to me. I'm kind 0:15:37.400 --> 0:15:39.920 of standing there in all like no world is going on. 0:15:40.400 --> 0:15:43.200 But then at that moment, I also recognizing that in 0:15:43.280 --> 0:15:47.080 that moment that whatever was inside of that man impacted 0:15:47.080 --> 0:15:50.120 this woman, who I know is a soldier, soldier to 0:15:50.160 --> 0:15:53.600 where she's still reacting as though this just happened yesterday. 0:15:53.760 --> 0:15:54.080 Wow. 0:15:54.200 --> 0:15:57.560 So as even though I didn't have the ability to 0:15:57.600 --> 0:16:00.000 be able to physically see this man or not this man, 0:16:00.440 --> 0:16:03.280 I know this woman and I know how this woman 0:16:03.320 --> 0:16:06.120 has displayed my entire life to me how strong she is. 0:16:06.160 --> 0:16:09.280 But the sight of this man's death date being wrong 0:16:09.680 --> 0:16:11.840 took her out of her body and just made her 0:16:11.840 --> 0:16:14.160 lose it. So that means that whatever's inside of me 0:16:14.960 --> 0:16:17.360 is what made her feel the way that she feels 0:16:17.400 --> 0:16:20.400 about this moment right now. So I got something. I 0:16:20.400 --> 0:16:22.080 don't know what it is, but I'm about to start 0:16:22.120 --> 0:16:25.160 figuring it out. And my homeboy, Jerome God bless him, 0:16:25.200 --> 0:16:27.040 Mom was like, man, you should do comedy. You should 0:16:27.040 --> 0:16:29.680 do comedy. I'm like, man, I like comedy. I'm a 0:16:29.720 --> 0:16:32.560 fan of comedy, but I ain't never thought about doing 0:16:32.560 --> 0:16:34.400 no comedy. And he was like, all right, man, we look, 0:16:34.520 --> 0:16:36.000 you need to do comedy, I'm telling you. So it 0:16:36.040 --> 0:16:38.480 was an open mic night at the Greensboro Comedy's On, 0:16:38.520 --> 0:16:41.240 which is my own club every first and second Thursday 0:16:41.280 --> 0:16:41.760 of the month. 0:16:42.200 --> 0:16:43.800 I went on the first Thursday and. 0:16:43.760 --> 0:16:46.040 Watched everybody bomb and I was like, well, I can 0:16:46.040 --> 0:16:49.480 at least do this bad and I went back the 0:16:49.560 --> 0:16:52.560 next week. I did my four minutes on stage. That's 0:16:52.560 --> 0:16:54.160 how much time they gave you at the open mic. 0:16:54.200 --> 0:16:56.200 I did my four minutes. When I got off stage, 0:16:56.200 --> 0:16:58.040 my feet hit the floor and I was like, this 0:16:57.680 --> 0:16:59.240 is it, this is what I'm supposed to be doing. 0:16:59.240 --> 0:17:00.200 And from that moment. 0:17:01.520 --> 0:17:02.360 Time, yes, I did. 0:17:02.800 --> 0:17:05.400 I did great, amazing My first time, this was right 0:17:05.440 --> 0:17:08.240 around the time when Obama was running for president. It 0:17:08.280 --> 0:17:10.720 was always so My first joke that I ever told 0:17:10.760 --> 0:17:13.000 on stage was about what I wanted the inauguration to 0:17:13.000 --> 0:17:17.760 look like should a black man win the presidency. Well, 0:17:17.800 --> 0:17:21.840 it was basically like, I just don't want to have 0:17:21.960 --> 0:17:24.720 a black president and it not be a black experience. 0:17:24.840 --> 0:17:26.919 We already got Black History Month and we don't get 0:17:26.960 --> 0:17:29.719 to do nothing if we got a black president. I 0:17:29.840 --> 0:17:33.960 want a black inauguration. I'm talking about Frankie Beverly before 0:17:33.960 --> 0:17:36.640 I let go to be played instead of the national anthem, 0:17:37.040 --> 0:17:41.240 I want the best fried chicken chefs around the country 0:17:41.840 --> 0:17:45.240 to be I'm talking about fried chicken on the stage 0:17:45.800 --> 0:17:49.359 and making fun of whatever it is, the stereotypes that 0:17:49.440 --> 0:17:51.919 white people thought that we was never going to be 0:17:51.920 --> 0:17:53.760 able to get to this position. I want all of 0:17:53.800 --> 0:17:56.200 those things to be put right in front of their face. 0:17:56.240 --> 0:17:58.000 We in here now, you know what I mean. And 0:17:58.000 --> 0:18:00.560 that was pretty much the basis of the joke. And 0:18:00.640 --> 0:18:03.840 I got on stage and the guy who was the 0:18:03.920 --> 0:18:06.679 leader of the open mic at that time, who was like, 0:18:06.720 --> 0:18:09.600 the big name name is Chris Wilds, who's a mentor 0:18:09.640 --> 0:18:11.440 of mine, pull me into the side. I was like, 0:18:11.440 --> 0:18:13.679 it's your first time. He was like, man, that was 0:18:13.720 --> 0:18:15.600 amazing for your first time. Man, that's great. 0:18:15.640 --> 0:18:17.560 Man. Should you should? You should keep going. 0:18:17.920 --> 0:18:19.960 Then at that point I had already made a decision 0:18:19.960 --> 0:18:21.920 that devil what I was gonna do. But just getting 0:18:21.960 --> 0:18:24.560 that level of confirmation from somebody who was a professional. 0:18:24.840 --> 0:18:27.680 And then one thing I always tell people about comedy, 0:18:27.720 --> 0:18:30.439 You always can tell who's funny from the wait staff. 0:18:30.640 --> 0:18:32.440 If you ever go to a comedy club, don't ask 0:18:32.440 --> 0:18:37.280 the owners. Don't ask the people, Ask the waitresses, the 0:18:37.280 --> 0:18:39.320 people who work at the club, because they are there 0:18:39.400 --> 0:18:42.720 every weekend watching these shows and they get a different 0:18:42.760 --> 0:18:45.560 perspective on what comedy is because they watched so much 0:18:45.600 --> 0:18:48.399 of it. So after Chris told me I was funny, 0:18:48.560 --> 0:18:51.520 Waitress Ghetto, who was my homie, came up to me 0:18:51.560 --> 0:18:54.520 and was like, you funny as fuck. You need to 0:18:54.560 --> 0:18:57.040 come back all the time. And so that was my 0:18:57.119 --> 0:19:00.200 introduction to comedy. So from that moment on, I been 0:19:00.200 --> 0:19:03.920 doing comedy. And then that the next month, that next show, 0:19:03.960 --> 0:19:06.800 I went back like I was Eddie Murphy and bombed, 0:19:07.760 --> 0:19:10.639 and then you know, I got my come up ins 0:19:10.680 --> 0:19:12.359 in that regard. This is going to take some work. 0:19:12.440 --> 0:19:14.200 You know, You're not just gonna be able to get 0:19:14.240 --> 0:19:16.600 up here and wing it. You're gonna have to actually 0:19:16.600 --> 0:19:19.040 put your effort and time into this. And that's the 0:19:19.080 --> 0:19:21.280 reason why I stayed in North Carolina because I knew 0:19:21.320 --> 0:19:23.000 if I went home to d C, I knew too 0:19:23.000 --> 0:19:26.120 many people and too many people knew me. So when 0:19:26.119 --> 0:19:28.439 people know you for something, it's very difficult for you 0:19:28.520 --> 0:19:32.800 to be able to. 0:19:31.000 --> 0:19:33.480 Get out of that box that they know you for. 0:19:33.720 --> 0:19:35.320 You know what I mean, because if they know you 0:19:35.400 --> 0:19:37.159 for being a certain way, when I come and I 0:19:37.240 --> 0:19:40.879 know what chasing a dream entails, you know I have 0:19:41.000 --> 0:19:43.440 already had that perspective on what it took to make 0:19:43.480 --> 0:19:46.159 it to do anything, because, like I said, I've always 0:19:46.160 --> 0:19:49.400 had responsibility. So I knew if I went home and 0:19:49.480 --> 0:19:51.679 you know, people that know me are saying, damn, bro, 0:19:51.800 --> 0:19:57.080 you broken, And they say. 0:19:56.960 --> 0:19:58.520 Is who don't know you is different? 0:19:58.600 --> 0:20:00.520 Yeah, when it's somebody who you know is coming from 0:20:00.560 --> 0:20:03.399 a place of maliciousness and they really are concerned, it 0:20:03.400 --> 0:20:05.240 makes you feel a little different. So I stayed in 0:20:05.280 --> 0:20:07.560 North Carolina where I didn't know anybody, and I said, 0:20:07.560 --> 0:20:09.560 I'm gonna make it work here. And it's the best 0:20:09.600 --> 0:20:11.800 decision I ever made. I think we might think you 0:20:11.880 --> 0:20:12.720 might be in the game. 0:20:12.800 --> 0:20:16.520 Hold up, so how long did you struggle for? I 0:20:16.560 --> 0:20:20.480 love that you're getting into this. Wait, did the raviolis break? 0:20:20.600 --> 0:20:23.240 That's what you want. You want that meat and the sauce. 0:20:23.800 --> 0:20:26.680 You want certain ones to break open because you want 0:20:26.680 --> 0:20:28.360 that meat and the sauce. So even if you don't 0:20:28.359 --> 0:20:30.840 get a ravioli, that sauce still has the beef in it, 0:20:30.880 --> 0:20:32.960 so it's like, you know, that's why I put the 0:20:32.960 --> 0:20:35.840 water in it so it don't get sticky. But even 0:20:35.840 --> 0:20:37.800 when they break up, you want that flavor to get up. 0:20:37.800 --> 0:20:38.120 In there. 0:20:38.480 --> 0:20:40.040 Yeah, I think we are legit. 0:20:40.240 --> 0:20:42.439 Let me move it over to here. You gonna let 0:20:42.520 --> 0:20:45.440 that just marinate a little bit. But what was your question? 0:20:46.160 --> 0:20:47.560 Make sure you turn off that stove, man? 0:20:47.640 --> 0:20:50.399 Oh yeah, I don't want to leave eighty five, not 0:20:50.440 --> 0:20:52.160 the way I found it. 0:20:52.880 --> 0:20:53.320 There we go. 0:20:54.800 --> 0:20:56.480 So how long did you struggle for. 0:20:57.960 --> 0:21:01.440 Man? Struggle? You mean financially? 0:21:01.600 --> 0:21:06.280 Financially financially from two thousand and eight to about two 0:21:06.320 --> 0:21:08.359 thousand and sixteen. 0:21:08.160 --> 0:21:11.359 So eight eight years. And then during that struggle, how 0:21:11.400 --> 0:21:14.040 bad was it on you mindset and emotionally? 0:21:16.119 --> 0:21:16.199 Like? 0:21:16.280 --> 0:21:17.520 How much questioning did you do? 0:21:18.400 --> 0:21:20.159 I never questioned whether or not I was doing the 0:21:20.200 --> 0:21:22.000 right thing. I always questioned whether or not I was 0:21:22.040 --> 0:21:24.560 doing it the right way. But how bad it got 0:21:24.880 --> 0:21:28.160 for me? Boy, I wouldn't even check my mailbox because 0:21:28.160 --> 0:21:29.520 I knew it wasn't nothing in it. I had so 0:21:29.600 --> 0:21:31.320 much mail in my mailbox they thought I. 0:21:31.320 --> 0:21:35.160 Moved because you thought it was just bills or something ought. 0:21:36.920 --> 0:21:39.680 That's all I want to understand that, Because like, I 0:21:40.480 --> 0:21:42.240 used to hang out with some guys that couldn't afford 0:21:42.320 --> 0:21:44.520 their bills, and I'd be like, yo, you not opening 0:21:44.560 --> 0:21:46.639 it and not dealing with it doesn't make it go away. 0:21:46.920 --> 0:21:49.240 Yeah, but it makes me not have to look at 0:21:49.359 --> 0:21:52.600 what I'm not having at the moment. You'll get it 0:21:52.600 --> 0:21:54.240 when I get it. When I get it, I get 0:21:54.280 --> 0:21:55.920 back with all of y'all. You know what I'm saying, 0:21:56.000 --> 0:21:59.520 But you know the reality of it was I knew that, 0:22:00.280 --> 0:22:06.439 you know my responsibility the way that I've been taught 0:22:06.440 --> 0:22:09.160 and raised. The reason why I didn't want to look 0:22:09.200 --> 0:22:10.800 at it or didn't want to put myself in that 0:22:10.840 --> 0:22:13.840 position is because I know how to get money. I 0:22:13.920 --> 0:22:18.800 know how to go and do something that's gonna garner 0:22:18.840 --> 0:22:22.280 me some type of financial game. But I don't want 0:22:22.320 --> 0:22:25.480 to look at something that I know I don't have 0:22:26.119 --> 0:22:29.200 and force myself into thinking that this is the only 0:22:29.240 --> 0:22:30.880 way I'm gonna be it, because, like you said, it's 0:22:30.920 --> 0:22:31.720 not gonna go away. 0:22:31.840 --> 0:22:32.359 Yeah, it's not. 0:22:32.440 --> 0:22:35.960 Whether I pay it today or in ten years, I'm 0:22:36.000 --> 0:22:38.840 still gonna have to deal with this. So I rather 0:22:38.960 --> 0:22:42.919 continue my journey and find my way and deal with 0:22:42.960 --> 0:22:44.720 it when I can deal with it the right way. 0:22:44.760 --> 0:22:47.439 And that was the best decision because even once I 0:22:47.480 --> 0:22:49.960 got on TV, I got on TV in twenty thirteen, 0:22:50.320 --> 0:22:52.760 so I didn't start making money to where I was 0:22:52.800 --> 0:22:53.399 able to get. 0:22:53.240 --> 0:22:55.280 Ahead of what was your first move on TV? It 0:22:57.080 --> 0:22:58.440 was in twenty thirteen. 0:22:58.680 --> 0:22:59.840 That's when we get on TV and. 0:23:00.280 --> 0:23:01.240 You start two thous eight. 0:23:02.880 --> 0:23:04.960 Okay, So it took me from two thousand and eight 0:23:05.040 --> 0:23:05.960 to twenty. 0:23:05.640 --> 0:23:10.200 Thirteen, and you still wasn't like financially, No, no, damn. 0:23:10.080 --> 0:23:12.359 And that and when I say twenty sixteen, I just 0:23:12.400 --> 0:23:16.920 took the struggle away. I wasn't struggling once twenty sixteen came. 0:23:17.040 --> 0:23:22.560 But I still stayed in my college apartment from twenty 0:23:22.680 --> 0:23:27.520 thirteen to two thousand and seventeen, So I was stacking 0:23:27.560 --> 0:23:30.040 money up because I was still paying the same amount 0:23:30.080 --> 0:23:32.800 of rent that I was paying when I was broke. Smart, 0:23:33.000 --> 0:23:35.520 so I was able to get ahead of the bills 0:23:35.520 --> 0:23:39.439 that I owed in that space. But then once twenty 0:23:39.480 --> 0:23:42.600 seventeen came, I was able to start to get all 0:23:42.640 --> 0:23:45.399 of the debt that I owed diminished. 0:23:57.119 --> 0:23:58.840 Did your mind play any tricks on you? 0:23:58.880 --> 0:24:01.920 Because at this point you getting what I would say 0:24:01.960 --> 0:24:05.600 is like the accolades, but maybe the financials aren't matching it. 0:24:05.640 --> 0:24:07.760 Did your mind mess with you a little bit on 0:24:07.800 --> 0:24:09.399 that or your ego? No? 0:24:09.200 --> 0:24:12.560 No, that's that's where I'm blessed because in those times 0:24:12.640 --> 0:24:16.040 where I was talking about growing up and having those responsibilities, 0:24:16.560 --> 0:24:18.679 those are the times where my ego messed with me 0:24:18.800 --> 0:24:20.720 when I was missing the bike rides and missing the 0:24:20.720 --> 0:24:22.960 football games because I had to walk to the safeway 0:24:23.000 --> 0:24:24.280 and get the groceries for the house. 0:24:24.840 --> 0:24:27.040 And so I learned how to deal with that very 0:24:27.080 --> 0:24:27.760 early in life. 0:24:27.800 --> 0:24:29.560 So by the time I got to a grown man 0:24:29.640 --> 0:24:31.679 and I was following those things, then I don't care 0:24:31.720 --> 0:24:32.879 what anybody thinks about me. 0:24:33.440 --> 0:24:34.320 That's you know, I'm. 0:24:34.359 --> 0:24:37.400 Very, very very selective with whose opinions I let matter 0:24:37.480 --> 0:24:39.440 in my life. So if you're not one of those people, 0:24:39.480 --> 0:24:41.159 you can think whatever you want to think about me. 0:24:41.240 --> 0:24:41.840 That's your right. 0:24:42.160 --> 0:24:43.879 You have the right to your opinion, just like I 0:24:43.920 --> 0:24:45.639 have the right not to give a fuck about it. 0:24:45.680 --> 0:24:47.280 So we even so, by. 0:24:47.160 --> 0:24:50.200 The time I got to chasing this dream, those things 0:24:50.200 --> 0:24:51.359 didn't bother me at all. 0:24:51.720 --> 0:24:54.560 What bothered me was feeling like. 0:24:56.160 --> 0:24:58.520 If I would have made a different move here, I 0:24:58.640 --> 0:25:01.520 might have not had to deal with this at this moment. 0:25:01.720 --> 0:25:05.000 But you know, that was just the most difficult process. 0:25:05.040 --> 0:25:07.080 Outside of that, I didn't have any problems with, you know, 0:25:07.200 --> 0:25:08.520 perspective of others. 0:25:08.800 --> 0:25:12.520 And during this your mom's still present. Yes, okay, for sure. 0:25:12.600 --> 0:25:15.760 So can you just take me to how you ended 0:25:15.840 --> 0:25:17.080 up getting on walling out? 0:25:18.400 --> 0:25:22.560 Yeah, that's a very unique story too, young lady who 0:25:22.640 --> 0:25:25.680 I'm sure you might be familiar with Dolly Bishops. 0:25:25.720 --> 0:25:28.240 I love Dolly. Yeah, that's that is that is my 0:25:28.359 --> 0:25:29.920 baby and my baby. 0:25:31.200 --> 0:25:32.160 We went to school together. 0:25:32.359 --> 0:25:33.040 Oh I didn't know that. 0:25:33.119 --> 0:25:35.440 Yeah, we went to Winston Seld State together. So at 0:25:35.520 --> 0:25:37.880 this time and we came up together, like I. 0:25:37.760 --> 0:25:39.440 Did not know that. I know, you guys are cool. 0:25:39.920 --> 0:25:40.480 She mentioned. 0:25:40.760 --> 0:25:44.000 Dolly is like there's nothing that she couldn't ask me for. 0:25:44.080 --> 0:25:46.080 There's nothing I wouldn't do for to this day, like 0:25:46.119 --> 0:25:48.040 if she was to call me and ask me for anything, 0:25:49.080 --> 0:25:51.080 you know, there's no situation she can be and why 0:25:51.080 --> 0:25:52.600 I wouldn't stand by her side. 0:25:52.920 --> 0:25:54.880 I feel about her. 0:25:55.119 --> 0:25:58.640 But she was working with Nick Cannon at the time 0:25:58.680 --> 0:26:02.640 as his assistant both eaton while I broke at that time. 0:26:02.560 --> 0:26:04.600 For you know, yeah, she was you know. 0:26:07.760 --> 0:26:08.320 Nine ten. 0:26:08.680 --> 0:26:12.280 Yeah, so Nick was having a show called The Fresh 0:26:12.280 --> 0:26:15.840 Faces of Comedy in New York. So Dolly, being an 0:26:15.880 --> 0:26:18.840 advocate for you know us knowing us doing comedy in 0:26:18.920 --> 0:26:21.879 North Carolina, said that she wanted us to come up 0:26:21.920 --> 0:26:24.600 to do one of the shows. Myself and a gentleman 0:26:24.680 --> 0:26:27.760 named Beatott, who was a person that I started with 0:26:27.880 --> 0:26:29.800 in North Carolina w also as a graduate of Wants 0:26:29.800 --> 0:26:32.720 to sell them State University. And that went up the 0:26:32.720 --> 0:26:35.480 first week, and I went up the second week to 0:26:35.520 --> 0:26:37.000 do it. And when I went up the second week, 0:26:37.040 --> 0:26:39.919 when I walked into the comedy club, the owner of 0:26:39.920 --> 0:26:41.679 the club was like, all right, man, we don't know 0:26:41.680 --> 0:26:43.600 who you are, so you can't say the N words. 0:26:43.600 --> 0:26:45.359 You can't talk about this, you can't talk about that. 0:26:45.480 --> 0:26:47.280 You're gonna see if you're funny now at this point, 0:26:47.280 --> 0:26:51.000 that's what I planned on talking to. So I went outside. 0:26:51.960 --> 0:26:54.199 And I don't really write jokes. That's not my process. 0:26:54.240 --> 0:26:56.680 I write down the idea, but my creative processes I 0:26:56.800 --> 0:27:00.080 walk around and talk to myself. That's how I get it, 0:27:00.280 --> 0:27:00.480 you know. 0:27:01.680 --> 0:27:03.280 So do you still record all your sets? 0:27:03.600 --> 0:27:04.199 No? 0:27:04.200 --> 0:27:04.880 No, have you ever? 0:27:05.600 --> 0:27:09.080 Sometimes? But I have a very very keen memory. That's 0:27:09.080 --> 0:27:12.160 one of my gifts. I'm able to remember things, especially 0:27:12.200 --> 0:27:13.280 things that come out of my mind. 0:27:13.359 --> 0:27:13.960 Once I get it. 0:27:13.960 --> 0:27:16.360 Out and I hear it, it's there, you know, I'm 0:27:16.359 --> 0:27:19.320 able to retain it. So I was outside making up 0:27:19.359 --> 0:27:22.800 my set. And as I was out there talking to 0:27:22.840 --> 0:27:25.119 myself walking around in the circle, Nick came up and 0:27:25.200 --> 0:27:27.439 I'm sure now I know he just thought I was 0:27:27.480 --> 0:27:29.760 just some crazy nigga outside talking to himself in New York. 0:27:30.280 --> 0:27:33.280 But I went on stage and did my ten minutes 0:27:33.480 --> 0:27:35.360 and killed because my set was. 0:27:35.320 --> 0:27:36.600 About what just happened. 0:27:36.920 --> 0:27:39.600 Okay, Oh brilliant, yeah, brilliant. 0:27:39.600 --> 0:27:41.359 It was literally about what just happened. 0:27:41.400 --> 0:27:43.600 So and it was about my day that I had 0:27:43.600 --> 0:27:46.080 that day leading up until me being on stage. And 0:27:46.119 --> 0:27:49.160 when I got off stage, Nick was like, man, hey. 0:27:48.960 --> 0:27:49.560 Bro let me. 0:27:49.600 --> 0:27:51.680 I'll let you real quick. And he was like, man, 0:27:52.280 --> 0:27:54.959 was you just outside making all that up? Because I 0:27:55.000 --> 0:27:57.840 said something about him walking in seeing me talking to 0:27:57.880 --> 0:28:00.560 myself on stage, He said, was you just making that 0:28:00.640 --> 0:28:03.000 up outside? I'm like yeah, he said, Man, I'm around 0:28:03.000 --> 0:28:04.399 some of the best in the game. They can't do 0:28:04.440 --> 0:28:07.520 what you just did. Keep working so fast forward the 0:28:07.560 --> 0:28:12.919 next day, Dall invites me out to six Flags with them, 0:28:13.000 --> 0:28:16.640 and at this point, I'm just a fly on the wall. 0:28:16.720 --> 0:28:18.760 On the wall, I mean, I'm nobody at this point 0:28:18.800 --> 0:28:21.359 in regards to you know where I sit now. And 0:28:22.240 --> 0:28:25.480 you know, I was out hanging with Dolly with Nick 0:28:25.600 --> 0:28:27.840 and everything, and we went up to ride a roller 0:28:27.880 --> 0:28:30.840 coaster and this is as close as I'd ever been. 0:28:30.680 --> 0:28:32.320 To fame, you know that type. 0:28:32.359 --> 0:28:32.639 Wow. 0:28:32.960 --> 0:28:37.280 Okay, So I'm watching Nick walk up to ride the 0:28:37.359 --> 0:28:40.600 roller coaster and people are going crazy, ah, trying to 0:28:40.640 --> 0:28:43.920 take pictures, and the lady on the microphone that you 0:28:44.040 --> 0:28:46.480 use to say take off, and she's like, don't hang 0:28:46.480 --> 0:28:49.240 over the rails, and it's just trying to calm people down. 0:28:49.280 --> 0:28:54.400 And I'm looking like, Okay, if I make an impact 0:28:54.920 --> 0:28:57.960 in this game the way I feel like I'm going 0:28:58.000 --> 0:29:00.160 to and want to, this is what my life life 0:29:00.200 --> 0:29:00.440 will be. 0:29:00.560 --> 0:29:02.800 Can you deal with this? Can you deal with. 0:29:02.880 --> 0:29:06.040 Not being able to ride a roller coaster without people 0:29:06.720 --> 0:29:09.000 wanting to make noise and running up on you all 0:29:09.040 --> 0:29:09.400 the time? 0:29:09.440 --> 0:29:10.960 And I said, and I looked and I thought about it, 0:29:11.000 --> 0:29:14.240 and I was like, yeah, I can do it. I 0:29:14.280 --> 0:29:15.479 can do it. I can do it. 0:29:15.600 --> 0:29:18.200 Well, Nick has it easier compared to because I remember 0:29:18.280 --> 0:29:21.080 I did an event with Nick and Mariah once and 0:29:22.240 --> 0:29:24.080 never was phased by some of the stuff that Nick 0:29:24.160 --> 0:29:26.720 went through. I feel like he is truly a trooper 0:29:26.720 --> 0:29:29.480 when it comes to that stuff. But seeing what Mariah 0:29:29.560 --> 0:29:33.360 went through. I said that that I hate to say it, 0:29:33.440 --> 0:29:36.880 but that life sucks because Mariah was like almost like 0:29:36.880 --> 0:29:38.440 an animal like people. 0:29:38.200 --> 0:29:41.360 Just she needed so much protection. 0:29:41.960 --> 0:29:43.920 And I was like, yo, I actually feel bad, Like 0:29:44.000 --> 0:29:46.160 can you imagine never going to a grocery store. 0:29:46.320 --> 0:29:48.280 Yeah, that's a different that's another level, you know. 0:29:48.320 --> 0:29:49.520 But Nick's level is cool. 0:29:49.600 --> 0:29:52.240 No, I mean, you know, it depends on the environment. 0:29:52.360 --> 0:29:55.680 You know, there are certain people who no matter what 0:29:55.880 --> 0:29:58.480 environment they go to, is going to be that. There's 0:29:58.520 --> 0:30:01.360 some people who you go to certain environments where it 0:30:01.360 --> 0:30:04.680 won't be that, but if you go to certain places, 0:30:04.680 --> 0:30:08.080 it's going to be pandemonium. So you know, that was 0:30:08.080 --> 0:30:11.720 my introduction to you know, Nick Cannon. Fast forward two 0:30:11.800 --> 0:30:16.080 years later, almost I see a tweet that he's bringing 0:30:16.120 --> 0:30:18.800 back wilding Out. So I immediately called doll like, dollars 0:30:18.840 --> 0:30:20.800 is real. She's like, yes, it's real. He has already 0:30:20.840 --> 0:30:23.040 been talking about. So I'm like, man, whatever I got 0:30:23.080 --> 0:30:25.080 to do, Man, let me know, because I had just 0:30:25.160 --> 0:30:27.440 found out that I was getting laid off from my job. Now, 0:30:27.480 --> 0:30:29.000 my job that I was working at the time, I 0:30:29.040 --> 0:30:32.320 was a qualified professional. I worked with people with substance 0:30:32.360 --> 0:30:36.680 abuse issues, autism. 0:30:35.880 --> 0:30:36.520 All of the difference. 0:30:36.520 --> 0:30:37.600 I didn't know job. 0:30:37.800 --> 0:30:40.400 Yeah when I before I became comedian full time. 0:30:40.480 --> 0:30:43.400 Yes, And what was your college degree in? 0:30:43.880 --> 0:30:47.120 It was in communications radio television with a minor in sociology. 0:30:47.600 --> 0:30:50.080 Oh yeah, So the sociology is what I was using 0:30:50.080 --> 0:30:52.280 to pay the bills up until I was able to 0:30:52.400 --> 0:30:57.520 make comedy and entertainment my main source of income. But 0:30:57.760 --> 0:30:59.960 I found out I was getting laid off. So Nick 0:31:00.160 --> 0:31:03.080 ended up doing an audition in North Carolina because he 0:31:03.120 --> 0:31:07.360 had a radio show that was naturally syndicated at the time, 0:31:07.480 --> 0:31:09.720 so it was one of his affiliates in North Carolina. 0:31:09.800 --> 0:31:11.880 So he just did a thing where he did an audition. 0:31:11.960 --> 0:31:14.040 So me and my guy beat out went up and 0:31:14.080 --> 0:31:16.680 did the audition, and he tells this story, which is interesting. 0:31:16.720 --> 0:31:18.280 I didn't even get this perspective. He said. 0:31:18.280 --> 0:31:21.959 When he went in, you know, it was cool and 0:31:22.480 --> 0:31:25.280 wasn't nobody really laughing. But from his vantage point, he said, 0:31:25.280 --> 0:31:27.440 when I walked into the room, he said, I wasn't 0:31:27.480 --> 0:31:31.600 in there for ten fifteen seconds before the room erupted 0:31:31.640 --> 0:31:32.080 and laughter. 0:31:32.680 --> 0:31:35.000 So that was my first audition. 0:31:35.160 --> 0:31:37.760 And then Nick was like, you know, man, this was 0:31:37.800 --> 0:31:39.840 just something I was doing, just to do, like as 0:31:39.880 --> 0:31:42.080 a mock thing, but you just you got to come 0:31:42.080 --> 0:31:44.800 to the real audition. So he invited me up to 0:31:44.840 --> 0:31:46.840 New York to come to the real audition. Now at 0:31:46.840 --> 0:31:48.880 this point, I'm like, how nay, hell, am I gonna 0:31:48.880 --> 0:31:50.640 get to New York because I'm broke, you know what 0:31:50.640 --> 0:31:53.240 I mean. So I took some clothes. I've always been very. 0:31:53.280 --> 0:31:55.320 I was gonna say yours. We got to point it 0:31:55.320 --> 0:31:59.160 out at the end. But your accessories, your stall and everything. 0:31:59.160 --> 0:31:59.920 That's crazy. 0:32:00.040 --> 0:32:02.560 And that's always been something that I've taken prior and 0:32:02.600 --> 0:32:05.440 that's that's my only vice. That's always been my vice 0:32:05.480 --> 0:32:07.680 because I started buying my own clothes when I was 0:32:07.760 --> 0:32:09.760 thirteen years old and I've been doing it ever since. 0:32:09.760 --> 0:32:12.240 So it's embedded in me. So I always have nice 0:32:12.240 --> 0:32:15.120 clothing and jewelry. Oh yeah, it was not The jewelry 0:32:15.160 --> 0:32:18.360 wasn't always nice, but the clothing was always decent. But uh, 0:32:19.280 --> 0:32:22.240 I took some clothes to play those closet and traded 0:32:22.280 --> 0:32:23.760 in the clothes to get the plane ticket to go. 0:32:23.720 --> 0:32:24.200 To New York. 0:32:24.240 --> 0:32:24.640 Oh wow. 0:32:24.680 --> 0:32:27.120 And when I got to New York, I did the 0:32:27.200 --> 0:32:30.160 second audition, and I made a joke about the fact 0:32:30.200 --> 0:32:32.000 that I had to do good enough to come and 0:32:32.080 --> 0:32:34.360 have to do good again, and then I you know, 0:32:34.480 --> 0:32:36.520 killed the audition then. And then at the end it 0:32:36.640 --> 0:32:38.040 was like, hey, remember that joke you made at the 0:32:38.040 --> 0:32:40.800 beginning of your audition about having to come do good again? Yeah, 0:32:40.800 --> 0:32:42.160 we were gonna need you to fly back up to 0:32:42.200 --> 0:32:43.000 New York next week. 0:32:43.040 --> 0:32:46.120 And I'm like, oh God, did you just well at 0:32:46.120 --> 0:32:47.560 that point, wasn't Dolly staying in New York? 0:32:47.560 --> 0:32:48.200 Couldn't you have? 0:32:48.720 --> 0:32:48.800 Like? 0:32:49.360 --> 0:32:51.360 Yeah, I mean I could I stay. I did stay 0:32:51.400 --> 0:32:51.520 with you? 0:32:51.560 --> 0:32:54.120 Oh did you pull that movie man to New York? 0:32:54.240 --> 0:32:54.800 You know what I mean? 0:32:55.560 --> 0:32:58.240 So I remember going to my rental office and the 0:32:58.320 --> 0:33:00.920 lady at the rental office, who you know, is a 0:33:00.960 --> 0:33:05.680 lovely lady, still friends to this day, and she tells 0:33:05.720 --> 0:33:07.360 me how proud she is of me all the time 0:33:07.360 --> 0:33:08.560 and always jokes about this. 0:33:09.120 --> 0:33:10.440 You know. She the reason I made it. 0:33:10.480 --> 0:33:13.400 But I went to her and told her, like, I 0:33:13.440 --> 0:33:18.080 have an opportunity that can change my life, and I'm 0:33:18.080 --> 0:33:20.600 gonna have to be laid on my rent to make 0:33:20.640 --> 0:33:23.240 this opportunity happen. But I promise you, just you know, 0:33:23.320 --> 0:33:26.640 give me, give me a couple more days, please, if 0:33:26.680 --> 0:33:29.320 I can just get it to you. You know, I'll 0:33:29.360 --> 0:33:31.440 be forever in your gratitude. She was like, baby, whatever 0:33:31.480 --> 0:33:33.080 you got going on, I can see in your eyes, 0:33:33.120 --> 0:33:34.479 go go do whatever you need to do. 0:33:34.880 --> 0:33:37.440 I'll make it work. And I went back up to 0:33:37.480 --> 0:33:37.840 New York. 0:33:37.880 --> 0:33:41.720 We did the group audition, and then after the group audition, 0:33:42.440 --> 0:33:45.160 I had, you know, waited a couple of weeks audition 0:33:45.360 --> 0:33:47.480 where they had all of the people that are considering 0:33:47.520 --> 0:33:50.480 for the show at the time. And I did the 0:33:50.480 --> 0:33:53.880 group audition, and when I came back home, probably about 0:33:53.920 --> 0:33:56.240 a week and a half. Two weeks later, I got 0:33:56.240 --> 0:34:00.000 a call from now Evans, who's one of the producers 0:34:00.120 --> 0:34:03.040 on the show, and he said, yeah, man, unfortunately we're 0:34:03.080 --> 0:34:04.200 not going to be able to bring you in. 0:34:04.200 --> 0:34:08.239 The workshop for the show. I was like, damn. He's like, yeah, 0:34:08.239 --> 0:34:09.600 but welcome to the cast. A while orn out. 0:34:09.680 --> 0:34:11.680 You made it, so some people have to come in 0:34:11.680 --> 0:34:15.200 and work. He was like, you made the cast and 0:34:15.239 --> 0:34:16.000 that was a tough one. 0:34:16.080 --> 0:34:17.880 Yeah. So I got. 0:34:17.760 --> 0:34:20.799 Officially laid off January eleven, if I believe it was, 0:34:20.800 --> 0:34:23.160 which was a Friday. That Monday, I flew out to 0:34:23.200 --> 0:34:25.080 shoot Wilder Out. I haven't worked since then. 0:34:25.440 --> 0:34:30.680 Wow, what an incredible incredible, incredible story. Do you and 0:34:30.760 --> 0:34:32.880 Dall ever look back and joke about. 0:34:32.760 --> 0:34:33.400 All the time? 0:34:33.920 --> 0:34:37.200 All the time, man, all the time, like because we 0:34:37.280 --> 0:34:40.360 came up together, Like we really literally came up together, 0:34:40.440 --> 0:34:44.480 like our whole experience, our whole growth process. Like to 0:34:44.560 --> 0:34:47.160 say I'm proud of her is an understatement, you know, 0:34:47.640 --> 0:34:52.400 because you know, we were having these conversations about what 0:34:52.440 --> 0:34:55.480 we were going to do and going through those you know, 0:34:55.520 --> 0:34:58.359 we were each other's therapists for years when it came 0:34:58.440 --> 0:35:00.439 to trying to go through all of the the ups 0:35:00.480 --> 0:35:03.440 and downs of entertainment, you know, from both sides of 0:35:03.480 --> 0:35:05.120 the game, from her being on the other side of 0:35:05.120 --> 0:35:07.000 the camera and me being on this side of the camera. 0:35:07.080 --> 0:35:11.760 So you know, just seeing the growth that we both 0:35:11.800 --> 0:35:15.440 have been able to experience, coming from where we come 0:35:15.480 --> 0:35:19.400 from and really coming from starting together in the process 0:35:19.440 --> 0:35:21.520 of making the name for ourselves. 0:35:21.520 --> 0:35:22.920 Man, it's a blessing, you know. 0:35:23.000 --> 0:35:25.640 I mean, I can't even really put in the words 0:35:25.719 --> 0:35:28.000 how proud I am of her. And I know from 0:35:28.000 --> 0:35:30.040 all of the things that she's done and all of 0:35:30.040 --> 0:35:34.960 the love and you know, just opportunities that she's garnered 0:35:35.000 --> 0:35:36.759 me just from believing the meat the way that she 0:35:36.880 --> 0:35:39.759 has throughout the years. There's no doubt in my mind 0:35:39.760 --> 0:35:40.839 that she's my biggest fan. 0:35:41.239 --> 0:35:43.960 Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think it says a lot too. 0:35:44.000 --> 0:35:46.080 Whenever I hear someone say they're friends with Dolly, I'm like, yo, 0:35:46.120 --> 0:35:49.720 you must have some level of integrity, some great level 0:35:49.719 --> 0:35:51.920 of integrity. Yeah at all, because I feel like with 0:35:52.040 --> 0:35:54.960 Doll there's just so much integrity. 0:35:54.320 --> 0:35:56.440 And most people don't know who she really is. I 0:35:56.480 --> 0:35:59.279 know her for real, like for real, I feel like 0:35:59.320 --> 0:36:01.440 I know Doug most. 0:36:01.440 --> 0:36:03.560 I know her. 0:36:03.600 --> 0:36:04.320 She's authentic. 0:36:04.520 --> 0:36:07.080 She is a very authentic, but there's a side of 0:36:07.080 --> 0:36:09.759 her that most people would be shocked if they saw. 0:36:09.840 --> 0:36:10.799 I just leave it at down. 0:36:11.160 --> 0:36:13.520 I believe that I recently had a conversation with her 0:36:13.560 --> 0:36:16.760 that actually did shock me, and I kind of felt 0:36:16.800 --> 0:36:20.920 bad afterwards, like you know, like that was shocked, Like 0:36:20.960 --> 0:36:24.640 I saw a more vulnerable side of her than she 0:36:24.640 --> 0:36:27.160 She shows so much strength that I was actually taken back, 0:36:27.200 --> 0:36:28.600 and I was like, damn, that's why we got to 0:36:28.640 --> 0:36:30.879 be nice to the people that think we think are 0:36:31.280 --> 0:36:33.520 so strong, like even like your mom, you. 0:36:33.480 --> 0:36:35.880 Know, like if you if you knew Dog's background, man, 0:36:35.880 --> 0:36:38.640 And that's the thing. I know her whole family like everybody, 0:36:38.719 --> 0:36:39.080 like you. 0:36:39.040 --> 0:36:41.040 Know, oh you know them when I show up. 0:36:40.960 --> 0:36:43.320 I show up. You know, I'm family, you know what 0:36:43.360 --> 0:36:44.600 I mean? Like this is it? 0:36:44.760 --> 0:36:47.400 It's different with us, like that's my partner, you know 0:36:47.400 --> 0:36:50.560 what I mean, like point blank period that there's nothing 0:36:50.560 --> 0:36:52.359 that I wouldn't share with There's nothing we wouldn't share 0:36:52.360 --> 0:36:54.600 with each other. We never lied to each other about anything, 0:36:55.040 --> 0:36:58.120 no matter what it is. So you know when I 0:36:58.160 --> 0:37:00.759 go and you know, show up to see where she 0:37:00.840 --> 0:37:03.359 comes from and vice versa, Like people would never know 0:37:04.120 --> 0:37:06.880 our backgrounds when you meet us and have conversations with us, 0:37:06.880 --> 0:37:08.479 you would never know that we come from the type 0:37:08.480 --> 0:37:09.839 of environments that we come from. 0:37:09.880 --> 0:37:11.000 But it'll really. 0:37:10.840 --> 0:37:14.640 Shock you, like people, people, people would be ten times 0:37:14.680 --> 0:37:17.360 more enaminate shocked with her as a person if they 0:37:17.440 --> 0:37:19.239 knew where she came from. 0:37:19.480 --> 0:37:22.399 Yeah, yeah, I'm a little familiar, but not all the way. 0:37:22.440 --> 0:37:26.040 But I know she came from a lot. But we're 0:37:26.080 --> 0:37:28.520 gonna go ahead and try to Yeah, we're gonna have 0:37:28.560 --> 0:37:30.120 to test your seasoning skills. 0:37:30.120 --> 0:37:34.080 I'm gonna put one in here, and I'm gonna put 0:37:34.080 --> 0:37:36.280 one in here because I don't think they got any 0:37:36.520 --> 0:37:41.560 type of antaskit or anything for us here what you 0:37:41.600 --> 0:37:42.840 say and acids? 0:37:44.320 --> 0:37:44.839 You know what I mean. 0:37:45.080 --> 0:37:46.960 I'm gonna try and avoid as much of the beef 0:37:47.000 --> 0:37:48.400 because I am allergic. 0:37:48.760 --> 0:37:49.319 I mean too. 0:37:49.640 --> 0:37:51.040 I'm just I'm gonna get the tip. 0:37:51.400 --> 0:37:54.160 Yeah, I'm not gonna get the tip or nothing, but 0:37:55.239 --> 0:37:57.239 I'm gonna get a little bit of this noodle here and. 0:37:57.480 --> 0:38:01.200 I got the noodle sire shit h. 0:38:03.880 --> 0:38:05.000 Y y that's the same. 0:38:05.960 --> 0:38:08.120 Yeah, still even with the season. 0:38:08.400 --> 0:38:11.360 Yeah, still still chef id It's crazy. 0:38:11.440 --> 0:38:13.239 I used to like when I would go to the 0:38:13.280 --> 0:38:15.720 grocery store with my parents, I used to like pray. 0:38:16.080 --> 0:38:18.440 I would never really ask because you know, my parents 0:38:18.440 --> 0:38:21.000 would tell you can ask, but they always see the answer. No, 0:38:21.680 --> 0:38:23.920 it just gets annoying after a while. But I used 0:38:23.920 --> 0:38:26.000 to always pray. They would put like shepherd d in 0:38:26.000 --> 0:38:29.080 the basket. I used to think this was like filet. 0:38:29.600 --> 0:38:31.080 Oh yeah it was back in the day. 0:38:31.120 --> 0:38:33.560 But now but now I'm like, yo, what was I think? 0:38:33.640 --> 0:38:33.799 Oh? 0:38:33.920 --> 0:38:36.919 Yeah, that used to leave a film in your mouth. 0:38:39.800 --> 0:38:41.840 What are some things that you learned about the industry 0:38:41.920 --> 0:38:43.920 after coming that were tough lessons? 0:38:46.440 --> 0:38:46.720 Man? 0:38:46.960 --> 0:38:57.000 Tough lessons. Uh, integrity is far and few between. But 0:38:58.680 --> 0:38:59.879 people pretending to happen. 0:39:00.000 --> 0:39:07.840 Integrity is everywhere you go. So when you meet somebody who. 0:39:09.239 --> 0:39:11.640 Is able to where everybody wears masks, you know just 0:39:11.640 --> 0:39:14.200 in general everybody does in some way, shape or form. 0:39:14.239 --> 0:39:16.960 But it's very difficult. 0:39:16.480 --> 0:39:19.520 To deal with the things that come with this industry 0:39:19.560 --> 0:39:21.680 when people got on two and three and four masks 0:39:21.719 --> 0:39:24.000 and you think that you know somebody somebody then they 0:39:24.040 --> 0:39:25.879 take a mask off and you realize they're not who 0:39:25.880 --> 0:39:27.120 they are, and they'd be like, well, I was just 0:39:27.160 --> 0:39:29.400 wearing that one just to be in this environment, and 0:39:29.520 --> 0:39:32.600 you see them take another one off, and its integrity 0:39:32.680 --> 0:39:35.480 is very, very fond few between real integrity. 0:39:36.280 --> 0:39:39.240 Another hard lesson that I've learned is. 0:39:42.360 --> 0:39:46.560 Every opportunity doesn't come with a check attached to it. 0:39:48.280 --> 0:39:51.920 Some opportunity is just opportunity, and you have to be 0:39:51.960 --> 0:39:56.400 able to accept opportunity without being given any compensation for 0:39:56.520 --> 0:39:59.200 it to really gain what is really there for you 0:39:59.280 --> 0:40:01.759 to be compensated for it in the long run. So 0:40:02.360 --> 0:40:06.080 there have been and it's not after coming into the industry, 0:40:06.120 --> 0:40:08.719 but prior to coming to the industry, there were a 0:40:08.719 --> 0:40:12.360 lot of opportunities that I turned down because I needed 0:40:12.400 --> 0:40:14.319 money so bad and there was no money there that 0:40:14.400 --> 0:40:18.240 would have taught me certain lessons that I learned after 0:40:18.320 --> 0:40:21.120 getting money that would have saved me some money. 0:40:21.360 --> 0:40:22.160 If that makes sense. 0:40:22.360 --> 0:40:24.160 No, it makes sense. It makes a lot of sense. 0:40:24.480 --> 0:40:26.600 What I've learned even just being here the last couple 0:40:26.640 --> 0:40:29.520 of weeks, is that everyone that has been on this 0:40:29.640 --> 0:40:34.239 set like they are every corner, they're looking for a 0:40:34.360 --> 0:40:39.200 window of opportunity and they are maximizing on it. And 0:40:39.280 --> 0:40:42.160 a lot of the opportunities I've heard sitting here this 0:40:42.440 --> 0:40:45.640 last week, a lot of them were not tied to 0:40:45.680 --> 0:40:48.720 a check. Yeah, but it definitely was a pivotal moment 0:40:48.920 --> 0:40:52.279 that led to that check wasn't right around the corner either. 0:40:53.280 --> 0:40:55.400 That's why I'm always curious about, like what the mindset 0:40:55.440 --> 0:40:57.440 is when you're going through that. I know me personally, 0:40:57.560 --> 0:40:59.480 I'm always back my FOD, like, am I doing the 0:40:59.560 --> 0:41:01.839 right thing? Is this is gonna be my last run? 0:41:02.040 --> 0:41:05.000 Is this almost up? What's my next game plan? What's 0:41:05.000 --> 0:41:08.359 my next move? But you know, it's great when you 0:41:08.680 --> 0:41:10.880 love what you do. I love hearing people's stories like 0:41:10.920 --> 0:41:12.960 I love this stuff, Like I literally like I could 0:41:12.960 --> 0:41:14.399 do this all day for the rest of my life. 0:41:14.480 --> 0:41:17.000 What made you start to do this? Why this of all. 0:41:16.880 --> 0:41:20.880 Things, because I I love me and broke guye, but 0:41:21.640 --> 0:41:24.440 a lot of my friends a lot. 0:41:24.320 --> 0:41:26.279 Of time out now I love me and broke and 0:41:26.280 --> 0:41:28.240 I'm just saying past me, past sends me. 0:41:29.400 --> 0:41:32.120 You say that, let me say it right now. 0:41:32.160 --> 0:41:33.919 I'm past tense, past tense. 0:41:33.920 --> 0:41:34.600 I'm gonna say this. 0:41:34.680 --> 0:41:36.880 I'm telling you this a nigga eating some ravioli right 0:41:36.880 --> 0:41:38.560 now that just drop the bowl like nigga. 0:41:38.600 --> 0:41:39.359 I knew she was. 0:41:39.360 --> 0:41:42.879 Mine, so I used to love me a broke guye 0:41:43.040 --> 0:41:47.080 and I started. But I also noticed that I had 0:41:47.120 --> 0:41:49.239 these like two different worlds I was in. I was 0:41:49.239 --> 0:41:53.160 constantly in the world of by accident or whatever, like 0:41:53.200 --> 0:41:55.560 I had Nick Cannon as a business partner for ten 0:41:55.600 --> 0:41:58.680 plus years, or always be in these environments where somebody 0:41:58.719 --> 0:42:01.960 in my life was extreme levels of success and being 0:42:02.000 --> 0:42:05.480 around them their thought process more aligned with mine. But 0:42:05.520 --> 0:42:09.280 growing up where I'm from, I'm more comfortable over here 0:42:09.719 --> 0:42:13.960 in Brokeland. And one of my homies used to when 0:42:13.960 --> 0:42:16.239 I went through a breakup, because you know, some guys 0:42:16.280 --> 0:42:17.960 are more insecure than others. They'd be like, man, you 0:42:17.960 --> 0:42:20.000 can't hang out with this rich guy and I'm over 0:42:20.080 --> 0:42:22.040 here and we don't like you doing that. So journal 0:42:22.080 --> 0:42:23.239 one of my breakups, I was like, you know what, 0:42:23.239 --> 0:42:25.759 fuck that, I'm gonna hang out with whoever. Fuck I 0:42:25.800 --> 0:42:29.319 want my real friends, which were successful people. But you know, 0:42:29.360 --> 0:42:31.520 I was constantly in between both worlds. So I started 0:42:31.520 --> 0:42:34.279 spending more time with my successful friends and they would 0:42:34.320 --> 0:42:37.600 tell me these amazing stories on like who they were 0:42:37.719 --> 0:42:41.399 to get to where they're at. And at the time, 0:42:41.440 --> 0:42:43.080 I was going through a breakup and one of my homies, 0:42:43.120 --> 0:42:45.640 day storm Power, shout out to him. He always told 0:42:45.640 --> 0:42:47.239 these stories about like how he's an ascory, he went 0:42:47.280 --> 0:42:49.040 to jail, he did this, he did that, he did 0:42:49.040 --> 0:42:51.319 this intern da da da, and then like someone else 0:42:51.480 --> 0:42:53.520 that was successful, chiming, and they tell their story and 0:42:53.520 --> 0:42:55.600 I'd be like, man, these stories are so fascinating. I 0:42:55.640 --> 0:42:59.960 could listen to them forever. And I love mentorship. And 0:43:00.160 --> 0:43:02.600 so the stars aligned and I was thinking about the 0:43:02.640 --> 0:43:07.319 process and the pandemic hit true story. Dolly plays a 0:43:08.080 --> 0:43:11.880 ironically weird role in my story. But Dolly and I, 0:43:11.920 --> 0:43:14.560 you know, we work with Nick together, and we both 0:43:14.640 --> 0:43:17.880 checked out. I'll say a couple of years within, you know, 0:43:17.920 --> 0:43:21.200 going growing up in the industry and seeing men go broke, 0:43:21.280 --> 0:43:24.719 seeing men had their kids sleep on floors, living closets. 0:43:24.760 --> 0:43:27.719 You exposed to so much craziness in LA and being 0:43:27.760 --> 0:43:30.560 in the industry, you'd be like, man, is this going 0:43:30.640 --> 0:43:32.040 to be my life? Especially as a young person, you 0:43:32.160 --> 0:43:34.480 be like, man, this dude's broken. He's ten years older me. 0:43:34.520 --> 0:43:35.920 He got his wife and his kids sleeping in the 0:43:35.920 --> 0:43:38.920 car and he still was he doing it for the groupies, 0:43:38.960 --> 0:43:41.239 you know. So I was trying to get traumatized by 0:43:41.280 --> 0:43:44.040 like some of the brokeness I saw, and I was like, man, 0:43:44.080 --> 0:43:45.800 I was telling Nick, like, Nick, I should make it 0:43:45.840 --> 0:43:47.719 when I'm twenty four, I should be a billionaire, and 0:43:47.760 --> 0:43:50.000 He's like, don't worry about that. Like a lot of 0:43:50.080 --> 0:43:53.520 stuff is fake. But anyways, hanging out with my friends, 0:43:53.520 --> 0:43:57.120 I started to realize like different mindsets and now I'm 0:43:57.120 --> 0:43:59.240 at the point where I'm like, you know what, maybe 0:43:59.239 --> 0:44:02.200 I just belong here and this is who I'm comfortable with. 0:44:02.360 --> 0:44:05.319 Like I'm comfortable with my broke friends, but now I'm like, 0:44:06.000 --> 0:44:08.120 I'm also comfortable with my rich friends because they're the 0:44:08.200 --> 0:44:13.680 mindset currently is more aligned than these over here. But anyways, 0:44:13.719 --> 0:44:18.200 long story short, the pandemic happens my current business tanks. 0:44:18.239 --> 0:44:22.640 It was a corporate events company, and uh, I'm like, yo, 0:44:22.680 --> 0:44:24.360 I want to do this, So I pitched my friends. 0:44:24.600 --> 0:44:26.640 Of course, all the celebrity friends like you gotta do it. 0:44:26.640 --> 0:44:27.399 You won't have a choice. 0:44:27.400 --> 0:44:30.000 They're like, girl, you ain't never done nothing in front 0:44:30.000 --> 0:44:33.760 of the camera, and you don't have no production values whatever. 0:44:34.080 --> 0:44:35.680 And I was out the game for ten years. I 0:44:35.719 --> 0:44:38.440 was like, Dolly, you have more celebrity relationships than me 0:44:38.520 --> 0:44:40.440 at this point, so you got to be my partner. 0:44:40.480 --> 0:44:42.279 You don't have a choice. You're gonna be my partner 0:44:42.320 --> 0:44:45.239 because I need your roller decks whatever. And fast forward 0:44:45.320 --> 0:44:48.279 she becomes the president of Black Effect. Fast forward, they 0:44:48.280 --> 0:44:51.440 need a cooking show. Fast forward my baby that I 0:44:51.440 --> 0:44:53.799 had been working on during the pandemic. She calls me. 0:44:53.880 --> 0:44:56.680 She's like, you're gonna murder me and I'm like why. 0:44:56.840 --> 0:45:00.000 She's like, I had this call with Icmiheart and everybody, 0:45:00.280 --> 0:45:02.239 and they need a cooking show. So I pissed your 0:45:02.280 --> 0:45:05.799 show and I was like, okay, why would I kill you? 0:45:05.800 --> 0:45:06.000 You know? 0:45:06.080 --> 0:45:09.120 And she's like, Charlottage wants it like now, and I 0:45:09.160 --> 0:45:12.640 was like, why would I kill you? Like girl, we 0:45:12.719 --> 0:45:15.160 broke the table. Sitting here in my garage, my neighbors 0:45:15.200 --> 0:45:17.000 are driving by, like what are you doing this time? 0:45:17.080 --> 0:45:20.000 You know? And so I was like, I really didn't 0:45:20.040 --> 0:45:22.920 have a functioning plan outside of building this concept. But 0:45:23.000 --> 0:45:26.000 luckily I was already working on it. So when sear 0:45:26.040 --> 0:45:27.680 I wanted to show, all I had to do was pressent. 0:45:27.840 --> 0:45:29.520 Everything was pretty much done at that point. 0:45:29.640 --> 0:45:30.680 I'm gonna give you how I did it. 0:45:30.760 --> 0:45:32.359 I just thought of you just said you love your 0:45:32.440 --> 0:45:35.279 broke man and passed. You need to get some of 0:45:35.320 --> 0:45:36.640 them niggas to come on here and make some of 0:45:36.640 --> 0:45:38.719 the meals that had you sleeping in the house with them. 0:45:39.000 --> 0:45:40.479 They we need to know. 0:45:41.040 --> 0:45:43.360 What we never gone back to. 0:45:44.560 --> 0:45:46.239 You don't have to go back, but I'm I mean, 0:45:46.280 --> 0:45:48.719 I know what really kept you over there, because broke 0:45:48.800 --> 0:45:50.000 niggas fuck different. 0:45:50.200 --> 0:45:56.959 They they broke niggas are going. Boy, that the good. 0:45:57.120 --> 0:45:57.680 The motherfucker. 0:45:57.680 --> 0:46:00.719 After I finished getting myself in this least right here, 0:46:02.200 --> 0:46:02.680 right on. 0:46:02.640 --> 0:46:04.600 To this least, they have sex for a different reason. 0:46:04.640 --> 0:46:08.719 You god damn right, boy, You. 0:46:10.400 --> 0:46:13.920 Legs and I get tired the way of broke nigga. 0:46:14.000 --> 0:46:16.279 Legs don't get tired when he needs somewhere to sleep 0:46:16.320 --> 0:46:19.960 at night, but that nigga will fuck his way out 0:46:20.000 --> 0:46:21.800 of a jam gun, I'm telling. 0:46:21.600 --> 0:46:22.720 You my homies. 0:46:22.880 --> 0:46:24.560 My homies used to clown me all the time to 0:46:24.640 --> 0:46:25.879 be like, I don't get it. 0:46:25.920 --> 0:46:27.000 But then I'll tell you this. 0:46:27.440 --> 0:46:29.600 A lot of my successful homies would be like, oh, 0:46:29.719 --> 0:46:31.000 never date a girl like you. 0:46:31.000 --> 0:46:33.040 No, Well whatever, I used to be that nigga, and 0:46:33.120 --> 0:46:35.360 I know I can fuck my way out of a 0:46:35.440 --> 0:46:40.080 jam gun if I mean, I'm gonna have somewhere to stay. 0:46:40.360 --> 0:46:42.200 Thank God he didn't put me in that position. 0:46:42.280 --> 0:46:45.520 But should I have been the young nigga that I 0:46:45.560 --> 0:46:47.720 was at a certain point trying to make this happen? 0:46:48.200 --> 0:46:49.040 Whoa boy? 0:46:49.360 --> 0:46:51.960 I'd have been in love in three states wherever I 0:46:52.080 --> 0:46:52.960 was getting booked at. 0:46:53.200 --> 0:46:54.160 My wife is there? 0:46:54.640 --> 0:46:56.640 Your whole area, man, is what it is. 0:46:56.680 --> 0:46:58.920 But you know, luckily, you know, God didn't see that 0:46:59.200 --> 0:47:14.719 as my trajectory. And the thing that I say now 0:47:14.840 --> 0:47:17.080 to anybody that may be watching that may be broke, 0:47:18.400 --> 0:47:20.719 coming from somebody who was and came through that, the 0:47:20.800 --> 0:47:25.399 thing that keeps me humble, if you will. I hate 0:47:25.400 --> 0:47:28.600 that word because it's so overused now, but the thing 0:47:28.600 --> 0:47:32.040 that makes me recognize what blessings are and how you 0:47:32.080 --> 0:47:36.279 know progression work? The word to me The life that 0:47:36.320 --> 0:47:39.960 we live is all about perception. How you perceive things. 0:47:40.120 --> 0:47:43.680 You know, I'm looking at you now, You'll never see 0:47:43.719 --> 0:47:45.279 what I see when I look at you. I'll never 0:47:45.280 --> 0:47:46.880 see what you see when you look at me. We 0:47:46.960 --> 0:47:49.040 only have two eyes that we get in this lifetime. 0:47:49.080 --> 0:47:52.200 So how you see things will shape your life. And 0:47:52.320 --> 0:47:55.279 for me, what keeps me in pocket is knowing that 0:47:55.320 --> 0:47:58.400 today the problems that I have, the issues that I 0:47:58.440 --> 0:48:00.920 have at this point in my life life would have 0:48:00.960 --> 0:48:04.759 been the solution to every one of my problems now, 0:48:04.840 --> 0:48:07.120 would have solved every problem I had when I wasn't 0:48:07.200 --> 0:48:11.279 checking my mailbox. The things that I might oh, man, 0:48:11.280 --> 0:48:12.600 I goes for me. 0:48:12.800 --> 0:48:13.880 I have to. I have to. 0:48:14.040 --> 0:48:16.520 The things that are problems are issues that may aggravate 0:48:16.560 --> 0:48:18.640 me in my life now. For example, or I just 0:48:18.719 --> 0:48:22.040 had to pay six thousand dollars for flights for my 0:48:22.120 --> 0:48:26.640 team ten years ago, six thousand dollars. I might have 0:48:26.719 --> 0:48:28.800 did something to you for six thousand dollars ten thousand, 0:48:28.840 --> 0:48:31.680 ten years ago. You know what I mean, I might 0:48:31.719 --> 0:48:34.120 have I might have did something to you for six g's. 0:48:34.480 --> 0:48:35.840 So it puts it in perspective. 0:48:35.920 --> 0:48:39.560 The things that God puts into your life is just 0:48:39.600 --> 0:48:41.719 a moment if you can work through it. Because, like 0:48:41.800 --> 0:48:44.600 I said, me having to worry about the things that 0:48:44.640 --> 0:48:47.520 I'm having to worry about now, I have to recognize 0:48:47.560 --> 0:48:49.359 that I'm blessed to be able to deal with things. 0:48:49.360 --> 0:48:52.719 Because money isn't anything but a cushion. It doesn't stop problems. 0:48:53.080 --> 0:48:55.919 Instead of when you got money, now when you fall down, 0:48:55.960 --> 0:48:58.240 you don't fall down and break your leg and strap 0:48:58.320 --> 0:49:01.080 your knee and your face scratched up. Now you just boom, 0:49:01.239 --> 0:49:03.320 you bounce back up. But that don't stop you from falling. 0:49:03.600 --> 0:49:05.080 They don't stop you from having to go through the 0:49:05.080 --> 0:49:07.200 problems in life. But it's all perspective, you know what 0:49:07.200 --> 0:49:10.239 I mean. If your perspective, if you still in the 0:49:10.280 --> 0:49:13.360 perspective that you were in, no matter how much money 0:49:13.360 --> 0:49:15.600 you got, you'll always be broke. But if you have 0:49:15.680 --> 0:49:18.920 a grandiose perspective, no matter how much money you don't have, 0:49:19.080 --> 0:49:19.520 you're rich. 0:49:19.600 --> 0:49:21.040 It's just you ain't got the money yet. 0:49:21.239 --> 0:49:22.839 Yeah. I like that. 0:49:23.200 --> 0:49:26.799 I've been learning recently too, and I've been saying this 0:49:26.880 --> 0:49:30.239 to myself a lot more. Is life doesn't happen to you, 0:49:30.280 --> 0:49:32.920 it happens for you. So like even with negatives, I'll 0:49:32.920 --> 0:49:35.960 be like yo. But now I live by the Serenity prayer, 0:49:36.000 --> 0:49:38.359 which I don't memorize any prayers, but that's the only 0:49:38.400 --> 0:49:39.879 prayer I say one hundred times a day. 0:49:39.920 --> 0:49:40.480 So what is that? 0:49:40.719 --> 0:49:43.799 It's God gramm me the serenity to accept the things 0:49:43.840 --> 0:49:46.759 I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, 0:49:46.880 --> 0:49:50.000 and the wisdom to recognize the difference. I say that, 0:49:50.080 --> 0:49:52.279 I promise, I promise you. It'll be two in the 0:49:52.320 --> 0:49:54.960 morning I wake up. I promise you. I'm saying that prayer. 0:49:55.000 --> 0:49:56.600 It'll be three in the morning. It could be walking 0:49:56.600 --> 0:49:58.680 the dog, it could be talking. It doesn't matter if 0:49:58.719 --> 0:50:00.520 I'm facing of a challenge or not. I'm having a 0:50:00.560 --> 0:50:02.839 good time. That's the only prayer I say to myself 0:50:02.880 --> 0:50:03.719 at least hundred times. 0:50:03.960 --> 0:50:04.160 Yeah. 0:50:04.160 --> 0:50:06.000 I'm working on a book right now called The bright 0:50:06.040 --> 0:50:10.040 Side of Bullshit, and it's basically that perspective, you know, 0:50:10.200 --> 0:50:13.120 always being able to find a silver lining no matter 0:50:13.160 --> 0:50:15.319 what the situation is. You know, my mother passed away 0:50:15.320 --> 0:50:17.399 in twenty twenty one from COVID. I lost my mom, 0:50:17.440 --> 0:50:20.160 which was the most devastating hit that I could have 0:50:20.160 --> 0:50:22.160 took in life. At that point, you know, I thought 0:50:22.200 --> 0:50:24.399 that I was immune to death because I had dealt 0:50:24.400 --> 0:50:26.640 with so much of it, but nothing prepared me for 0:50:26.680 --> 0:50:30.360 my mother. But in finding the bright side of bullshit, 0:50:30.440 --> 0:50:33.040 I realized that although it was tough for me to 0:50:33.160 --> 0:50:35.480 have to rub her back while she passed away and 0:50:35.520 --> 0:50:39.120 watch her leave here, what it did to me isn't 0:50:39.400 --> 0:50:41.319 anywhere in comparison to what it would have did to 0:50:41.360 --> 0:50:42.920 her had she had to do it for me. And 0:50:42.960 --> 0:50:45.040 there was a time in my life when that could 0:50:45.040 --> 0:50:48.239 have really been a realistic possibility for my mother from 0:50:48.239 --> 0:50:49.759 the way I was living and the things that I 0:50:49.800 --> 0:50:52.759 was into. So as tough as it is for me 0:50:53.040 --> 0:50:55.640 to have to say goodbye to my mother, that's the 0:50:55.640 --> 0:50:57.799 way the circle of life goes, and her dream came 0:50:57.840 --> 0:51:00.200 true because she left here before children did and where 0:51:00.200 --> 0:51:03.400 it's supposed to go. So being able to find the 0:51:03.440 --> 0:51:06.600 bright side of bullshit is something that you know, I'm 0:51:06.760 --> 0:51:08.960 very stoic in my mentality and a lot of things, 0:51:09.080 --> 0:51:11.359 you know, I mean, you know, I'm more faty. As 0:51:11.400 --> 0:51:13.760 one of my favorite sayings, it's just love your fate, 0:51:13.920 --> 0:51:17.839 because you know, I truly believe that God is real. 0:51:17.880 --> 0:51:19.799 I believe in the High Power. I'm not religious at all, 0:51:19.840 --> 0:51:21.960 but I'm very spiritual, and I believe that whatever your 0:51:22.040 --> 0:51:24.400 journey is has already been planned out for you. You just 0:51:24.440 --> 0:51:26.400 got to walk it. So there's nothing that you can 0:51:26.440 --> 0:51:28.080 do to change it. The only thing that you can 0:51:28.120 --> 0:51:30.040 do is have a perspective that is strong enough for 0:51:30.080 --> 0:51:32.560 you to understand that you can't change it and embrace 0:51:32.640 --> 0:51:34.920 whatever comes with it. And because one day it's going 0:51:34.960 --> 0:51:37.440 to be your last day on this planet with everybody. 0:51:37.040 --> 0:51:37.560 That you love. 0:51:37.640 --> 0:51:40.000 So if that's the case, what do you want to 0:51:40.040 --> 0:51:41.799 be remembered by? Do you want to be remembered by 0:51:41.800 --> 0:51:43.520 all the things that you complained about, all the things 0:51:43.600 --> 0:51:44.959 you help people not complain about. 0:51:46.080 --> 0:51:47.520 Damn you crying? 0:51:49.840 --> 0:51:50.600 Did I make a cry? 0:51:50.719 --> 0:51:51.719 Look at Joe? 0:51:52.000 --> 0:51:55.200 Come have some to make you smile? 0:51:55.960 --> 0:51:59.440 You got seasoning on it now, I mean it got 0:51:59.480 --> 0:52:02.239 season on it, But no, you know this is this 0:52:02.320 --> 0:52:04.120 is you know. I have to have these types of 0:52:04.120 --> 0:52:06.719 perspectives because you know, people look at your life and 0:52:06.719 --> 0:52:10.799 then they have this vantaged point that everything is grandiose 0:52:10.800 --> 0:52:13.120 once you get some money. Now, I don't want to 0:52:13.120 --> 0:52:15.239 make it seem like getting some money is a bad thing, 0:52:15.239 --> 0:52:16.160 because it's a blessing. 0:52:16.760 --> 0:52:18.560 We all know, all of us. You know, I'm looking 0:52:18.600 --> 0:52:19.200 over at Joe. 0:52:19.239 --> 0:52:21.920 We don't all came in like who we need a 0:52:22.000 --> 0:52:24.880 little five hundred, you know what I mean? But you know, 0:52:25.040 --> 0:52:27.440 so it's a blessing to not have to have those problems. 0:52:27.440 --> 0:52:30.480 But there's no such thing as not having problems, you 0:52:30.520 --> 0:52:33.000 know what I mean. Problems are going to come, you 0:52:33.040 --> 0:52:36.120 know what I mean, Like your problems are your problems. 0:52:36.320 --> 0:52:39.000 But when your problems turn into issues, that's when you 0:52:39.080 --> 0:52:42.560 got a problem. And I mean like you can stop 0:52:42.640 --> 0:52:46.080 yourself from getting to the extreme. 0:52:45.680 --> 0:52:46.560 You know what I mean. Like I. 0:52:48.320 --> 0:52:51.080 Watch a lot of affirmations on the daily and one 0:52:51.120 --> 0:52:54.680 of the things that to do named doctor Joe Esponanza 0:52:54.760 --> 0:52:57.640 that I listen to a lot, and he says, how 0:52:57.640 --> 0:53:00.360 many possibilities. 0:52:59.760 --> 0:53:03.160 Are in the unknown? Are they in the unknown? How many? 0:53:03.320 --> 0:53:04.000 It's infinite? 0:53:04.080 --> 0:53:06.160 Yeah, So why do we immediately go to the most 0:53:06.160 --> 0:53:08.520 fucked up one and let that drive us? 0:53:08.719 --> 0:53:09.279 You know what I mean? 0:53:09.440 --> 0:53:12.399 You have the ability to control your mind. Like that's 0:53:12.400 --> 0:53:15.040 something that I truly believe in. Like, the most consistent 0:53:15.040 --> 0:53:16.680 thing that will happen to you in your life is 0:53:16.680 --> 0:53:17.080 your brain. 0:53:17.120 --> 0:53:18.200 On talking side, your brain. 0:53:18.239 --> 0:53:20.640 While we're having this conversation right now, our brains is 0:53:20.680 --> 0:53:22.920 talking inside our brain. So that's what you got to navigate. 0:53:22.920 --> 0:53:25.279 When the lights turn off and it's just you and 0:53:25.320 --> 0:53:28.719 that mind of yours, that's your life. Yeah, so learn 0:53:28.760 --> 0:53:31.560 how to navigate and manage that. And you know, the 0:53:31.600 --> 0:53:33.560 better you're able to do that, the better you'll be 0:53:33.600 --> 0:53:35.719 able to deal with all of the external things that 0:53:35.800 --> 0:53:37.280 come that you can't control. 0:53:37.440 --> 0:53:37.960 Yeah. 0:53:38.040 --> 0:53:40.239 I did shout out to Sholin, but I did this 0:53:40.360 --> 0:53:42.560 landmark thing, and one of the things that I learned 0:53:42.600 --> 0:53:44.880 I walked away with is like, it's really the story 0:53:44.880 --> 0:53:48.920 we tell ourselves that matter. Like everything outside, like like 0:53:48.960 --> 0:53:51.480 you said, with perspective is just like, well, what is 0:53:51.520 --> 0:53:55.640 the story I'm telling myself in here? What is this 0:53:55.800 --> 0:53:58.040 invisible story I'm telling myself that may or may not 0:53:58.120 --> 0:54:01.200 be true. But controlling the mind it's very very, very 0:54:01.440 --> 0:54:04.560 very difficult. That's why I hints I'm in the serenity 0:54:04.560 --> 0:54:05.760 prayer stage of my life. 0:54:05.760 --> 0:54:07.879 But there's no such thing as a bad thought. There's 0:54:08.320 --> 0:54:12.600 only such thing as bad actions and speaking negativity. I 0:54:12.640 --> 0:54:15.799 think all types of wild shit all day. I mean, 0:54:15.880 --> 0:54:18.000 you think about some of the shit that popping your 0:54:18.040 --> 0:54:22.080 mind throughout there, like, man, fucked up ass thought, I 0:54:22.120 --> 0:54:24.120 got let me tell you what. But it's not until 0:54:24.160 --> 0:54:27.759 you let it drive your actions and your mentality that 0:54:27.840 --> 0:54:30.600 it becomes negative. There's no such thing as a negative thought. 0:54:30.640 --> 0:54:34.040 There's negative action, and if you speak negativity, then you 0:54:34.080 --> 0:54:36.880 know that's action. Speaking is an action. So until you 0:54:36.920 --> 0:54:39.000 speak some negative shit, it's no such thing as a 0:54:39.040 --> 0:54:40.080 negative thought in my mind. 0:54:40.560 --> 0:54:43.799 Well, when I first became Christian, I'm raised Jewish, but 0:54:43.840 --> 0:54:47.080 I became Christian at like thirty, I will say, you know, 0:54:47.120 --> 0:54:50.400 when you're born again, you're like religiously like oh snap, 0:54:50.480 --> 0:54:51.760 you know, trying to control everything. 0:54:51.760 --> 0:54:53.839 I was like, yo, my brain is really messed up. 0:54:54.160 --> 0:54:57.759 Yeah, my thoughts are terrible. I respect the religion. The religion, boy, 0:54:58.160 --> 0:55:01.719 you are a gangster man. That is a gangster perspective 0:55:01.760 --> 0:55:03.839 to have. You know what I mean, No matter which 0:55:03.840 --> 0:55:06.719 one you choose, I respect, I respect. I saw a 0:55:06.880 --> 0:55:11.080 post on Instagram that said what is the most normalized addiction? 0:55:11.560 --> 0:55:16.080 And I said, it's religion Because when you think about it, 0:55:16.840 --> 0:55:20.640 religion has normalized behavior in the name of a higher 0:55:20.680 --> 0:55:24.400 power that nobody has ever talked to. But the books 0:55:24.440 --> 0:55:27.360 that are written, the texts that are written, are interpreted 0:55:27.360 --> 0:55:30.960 by the same people that we look at and walking 0:55:31.000 --> 0:55:34.400 around every single day, So you think about human error 0:55:34.440 --> 0:55:37.600 and just power how that works, you know what I mean? 0:55:37.719 --> 0:55:41.879 Like a lot of that those texts have been tampered with, 0:55:42.080 --> 0:55:45.839 if you will, so people utilizing that as a way 0:55:45.880 --> 0:55:48.279 to judge other people for where you're going to go. 0:55:48.320 --> 0:55:51.359 I never understood how somebody can be like you going 0:55:51.440 --> 0:55:54.640 to hell? Like when the last time you went? How 0:55:54.680 --> 0:55:55.000 you know? 0:55:55.400 --> 0:55:56.839 How you know when somebody's going? 0:55:56.920 --> 0:56:00.320 So I think it's you know, and I just spective, 0:56:00.360 --> 0:56:03.280 Like I said, I'm not religious, but I respect all religions. 0:56:03.320 --> 0:56:05.920 I've read the Torah, I've read the Bible, I've read. 0:56:05.719 --> 0:56:07.480 The Koran, You've read all of them. 0:56:07.600 --> 0:56:08.719 I'm not in. 0:56:08.680 --> 0:56:10.680 Totality, but I've read them, you know what I mean. 0:56:11.120 --> 0:56:14.840 And one of the things that is consistent is God. 0:56:15.200 --> 0:56:17.840 There's one God and everybody is trying to get to 0:56:17.880 --> 0:56:20.880 that one place. So for me, I always look at 0:56:20.920 --> 0:56:23.799 it as religion as the temp agency. God is the 0:56:23.800 --> 0:56:26.360 Fortune five hundred company, and people try to get you 0:56:26.440 --> 0:56:28.680 to convert, and you know. 0:56:29.360 --> 0:56:30.560 Feel the way that they feel. 0:56:30.600 --> 0:56:32.560 But my thing is, if I'm such a viable candidate, 0:56:32.600 --> 0:56:35.440 why can't I walk my application directly to the Fortune 0:56:35.480 --> 0:56:39.200 five hundred company. What's the difference between a pastor and me? 0:56:39.440 --> 0:56:42.080 Because God said in all of the text that we 0:56:42.120 --> 0:56:43.919 are creating in his image, So I should be able 0:56:43.960 --> 0:56:46.880 to have the same type of direct contact with this person, 0:56:47.400 --> 0:56:49.879 entity or thing that we can't see as the man 0:56:49.920 --> 0:56:53.680 who you trust to lead you into eternity is. So 0:56:53.840 --> 0:56:56.520 you know that's my personal perspective. But you know I 0:56:57.200 --> 0:57:00.319 respect all religions enough to know that. You know, it's 0:57:00.400 --> 0:57:03.640 tough when you switch. So salute to you because that 0:57:03.760 --> 0:57:05.040 was a gangst the move you made. 0:57:05.320 --> 0:57:06.920 Yeah, I'm telling you all the Jews in my family 0:57:07.000 --> 0:57:10.400 was best. Oh yeah, and it was weird because they 0:57:10.440 --> 0:57:13.840 were like, yo, Dad, you married a Jamaican. We go 0:57:14.120 --> 0:57:15.400 you eating pork over there? 0:57:15.440 --> 0:57:17.320 Like what are we even arguing about? Since when does 0:57:17.440 --> 0:57:20.320 Judaism even matter? Until I make a switch? 0:57:20.560 --> 0:57:24.760 Because you mean, Jesus as you stopped playing with us 0:57:24.760 --> 0:57:28.200 over here, it's a different game, man, you know what 0:57:28.200 --> 0:57:28.480 I mean? 0:57:28.480 --> 0:57:31.240 But I respect. Has that been beneficial to you to switch? 0:57:31.920 --> 0:57:32.360 Uh? 0:57:32.480 --> 0:57:32.680 Yeah? 0:57:32.760 --> 0:57:34.320 No, I mean I got to see a lot of 0:57:34.320 --> 0:57:36.880 the hypocrisies in both. 0:57:37.440 --> 0:57:40.400 But I think I used to think that everyone was 0:57:40.440 --> 0:57:43.200 born with a moral compass. More recently, I'm realizing that 0:57:43.320 --> 0:57:45.280 not everyone is born with a moral compass. 0:57:45.280 --> 0:57:46.600 But I thought we were all born with. 0:57:46.520 --> 0:57:47.240 A moral compass. 0:57:47.800 --> 0:57:49.600 You know, I mean, meet a couple broke niggas, you 0:57:49.640 --> 0:57:50.800 realize that not everyone happening. 0:57:51.160 --> 0:57:54.440 These broke niggas have ruined You got you in here 0:57:54.440 --> 0:58:00.320 eating ravioli and canned salmon and shit, you stuck broke guys. 0:58:00.360 --> 0:58:03.080 Listen, take this as a as a lessons. 0:58:03.320 --> 0:58:05.080 As much as she don't want to fuck with broke 0:58:05.160 --> 0:58:08.280 dudes no more, she still got broke dude taste buds. 0:58:08.320 --> 0:58:10.240 Because if you funk right now. 0:58:10.200 --> 0:58:12.040 You'll never be able to get that taste out. 0:58:11.920 --> 0:58:12.280 Of her mouth. 0:58:12.360 --> 0:58:15.720 That's literally gonna leave it at that. 0:58:17.960 --> 0:58:20.520 Man, I hope they edited this all this. 0:58:20.880 --> 0:58:23.400 Yeah, they're gonna edit it out. But it's okay. It's love. 0:58:23.480 --> 0:58:23.600 You know. 0:58:23.640 --> 0:58:25.520 I don't want none of them that's watching this be like, yeah, 0:58:25.520 --> 0:58:27.480 I knew I had a shot back at her. All 0:58:27.560 --> 0:58:29.600 I gotta do is make that grilled cheese with the 0:58:29.640 --> 0:58:31.400 bacon on top of be right. 0:58:31.240 --> 0:58:33.560 Back over to the now. I'm one of those women. 0:58:33.600 --> 0:58:35.200 I'm like the little clips you see online where the 0:58:35.200 --> 0:58:37.280 woman's like if a dude isn't making that much I'm like, yo, 0:58:37.280 --> 0:58:39.640 if you ain't even matching what I got and more, 0:58:40.400 --> 0:58:41.160 we're not doing it. 0:58:41.280 --> 0:58:43.160 I mean all the way down to assets. 0:58:43.200 --> 0:58:46.720 Really yep, No, I mean I mean, ain't nothing wrong 0:58:46.760 --> 0:58:48.880 with it now? Just at least you have served your 0:58:48.960 --> 0:58:50.040 duty to the community. 0:58:50.080 --> 0:58:50.280 Man. 0:58:50.720 --> 0:58:53.439 You got me here cooking ravioli. You have done your 0:58:53.520 --> 0:58:56.880 due diligence, You have done your bif you have given 0:58:57.000 --> 0:58:58.720 I hope that one of them. I hope at least, 0:58:58.720 --> 0:59:01.360 what do you have one success story? They got to 0:59:01.360 --> 0:59:03.480 be one of all of the broke niggas that you 0:59:03.560 --> 0:59:05.480 dealt with. They got to be one that made it, 0:59:06.200 --> 0:59:09.040 that made it, that made it, that made it to 0:59:09.040 --> 0:59:09.760 be successful. 0:59:09.800 --> 0:59:10.640 Isn't that you? None? 0:59:11.360 --> 0:59:13.360 Let me tell you it's so sad because. 0:59:14.560 --> 0:59:15.120 Yeah, none. 0:59:15.160 --> 0:59:20.400 I'm sorry, damn your track record is hard sad. 0:59:20.280 --> 0:59:25.320 Because I've mentored so many people in my life. But yeah, 0:59:25.920 --> 0:59:26.280 I don't know. 0:59:27.200 --> 0:59:30.320 It's a nigga with a job at UPS supervisor right now, Like, hey, 0:59:30.360 --> 0:59:32.080 I digress, you got me fucked up. 0:59:32.120 --> 0:59:32.320 Man. 0:59:33.000 --> 0:59:35.760 I make seventy six thousand dollars a year now. Now, 0:59:35.760 --> 0:59:38.160 I was making your money when I was fucking with you. 0:59:38.440 --> 0:59:41.040 So hey, man, if you send a letter into eating 0:59:41.040 --> 0:59:46.120 my broke fellas, not anonymous letter. Send an anonymous letter 0:59:46.160 --> 0:59:49.760 in and uh, let. 0:59:48.480 --> 0:59:51.280 It know that you're it's so hard to date me 0:59:51.360 --> 0:59:52.880 at this point it is impossible. 0:59:52.960 --> 0:59:54.040 What makes it hard to date you? 0:59:54.080 --> 0:59:54.840 That's because I do. 0:59:55.520 --> 0:59:59.120 I do full reference. Now I need numbers to exits, 0:59:59.160 --> 1:00:01.320 the same way you go to job, you have your references. 1:00:01.320 --> 1:00:03.400 I'm gonna be like, look, give me the number, steel Excess. 1:00:03.480 --> 1:00:06.160 Let's have a conversation because I give up my number. Smikes, 1:00:06.240 --> 1:00:09.720 they gonna say, Yo, my only regret was sucking up. 1:00:13.080 --> 1:00:14.000 My only regret. 1:00:14.880 --> 1:00:18.360 My only regret is not making sure that she didn't 1:00:18.400 --> 1:00:21.000 get to go around some niggas that made her realize 1:00:21.040 --> 1:00:24.760 she had regrets that I should have kept her in 1:00:24.800 --> 1:00:28.200 the house eating ravioli and grilled cheese, and she'd have 1:00:28.280 --> 1:00:29.560 never knew it was nothing. 1:00:29.280 --> 1:00:33.320 Better of them. 1:00:33.720 --> 1:00:34.920 If you talk to some of them, be like, I 1:00:35.000 --> 1:00:36.640 know I should try to get you pregnant, because you 1:00:36.640 --> 1:00:38.480 know that's every guy's go to trap. 1:00:38.680 --> 1:00:41.200 Trap. Really yeah, I don't trust none of y'all. 1:00:41.200 --> 1:00:44.000 Man, that's crazy. I don't know where you trying to 1:00:44.040 --> 1:00:47.240 trap you. Where you was dating you? You must have 1:00:47.280 --> 1:00:49.720 been dating and death jam Vendetta that was great. 1:00:50.120 --> 1:00:54.200 God, it's interesting to me. 1:00:54.280 --> 1:00:56.560 It's very interesting to me to hear that, because I 1:00:56.600 --> 1:00:57.160 know it's true. 1:00:57.280 --> 1:00:58.360 They try to trap you. 1:01:00.320 --> 1:01:04.120 They need roofs, they need credits, they need You got 1:01:04.120 --> 1:01:06.160 to think if you come up on somebody, you you know, 1:01:06.200 --> 1:01:07.600 and you broke. 1:01:07.760 --> 1:01:10.560 But that's but that's ignorance. And in mind you. 1:01:10.680 --> 1:01:13.360 I speak from the perspective of I always say it's 1:01:13.360 --> 1:01:13.760 our fault. 1:01:13.760 --> 1:01:15.560 Don't get me wrong. I'm not blaming the woman. It's 1:01:15.600 --> 1:01:16.600 always the man's fault. 1:01:16.600 --> 1:01:18.840 I'm want to because they be perpetrating. 1:01:19.040 --> 1:01:23.200 But the reality is it's your fault. Though it's your fault, 1:01:23.520 --> 1:01:25.200 it's your fault as a woman. And I'm gonna tell you, 1:01:25.280 --> 1:01:28.160 I don't know how how real we can get on 1:01:28.200 --> 1:01:30.360 eating while broke. But these are the conversations you should 1:01:30.360 --> 1:01:31.960 have been having with them, niggas. Uh. 1:01:37.760 --> 1:01:38.560 Here's the thing. 1:01:38.400 --> 1:01:40.000 That I that I say, why I say it's your 1:01:40.040 --> 1:01:43.440 fault is in this Please? This is this is you know, 1:01:43.680 --> 1:01:46.400 this is you know, adult content, So you know what 1:01:46.440 --> 1:01:49.320 I mean. This is the reality. You are a woman, 1:01:49.840 --> 1:01:53.880 which means you have the prize, which is I agree 1:01:53.920 --> 1:01:57.240 with all this. The pussy pussy is valuable. It's one 1:01:57.240 --> 1:02:00.240 of the three things. They can be sold any where 1:02:00.640 --> 1:02:06.240 on earth. Guns, gold, and vagina will sell anywhere air 1:02:06.360 --> 1:02:10.080 is being breathed. There has never been a man anywhere 1:02:10.600 --> 1:02:13.040 that's been down to his last dollar and said, you 1:02:13.120 --> 1:02:16.560 know what about to start selling some dick that's never happened. 1:02:18.120 --> 1:02:19.200 That's never happened. 1:02:19.960 --> 1:02:23.000 So with that being said, if you have the asset 1:02:23.080 --> 1:02:27.520 that is valuable, you are in control of what you 1:02:27.680 --> 1:02:29.960 allow to be the key that opens the lot. 1:02:30.200 --> 1:02:30.720 I agree with you. 1:02:30.920 --> 1:02:33.920 So therefore, if you continue to allow yourself to be 1:02:34.040 --> 1:02:38.480 tricked by baller costumes, then that is what the heck 1:02:39.160 --> 1:02:40.160 baller costumes. 1:02:40.200 --> 1:02:42.520 You don't know what a baller costume is. They wear 1:02:42.560 --> 1:02:43.400 them all year round. 1:02:45.040 --> 1:02:48.600 You see this, all of this, all of this, it 1:02:48.680 --> 1:02:52.560 came from hard work. But I can give this the 1:02:52.640 --> 1:02:56.040 same watch, the same ring, the same bracelet to somebody 1:02:56.080 --> 1:02:58.800 who has nothing, and they'll be able to get you 1:02:59.120 --> 1:03:02.200 because they have this. And you assume that, because they're 1:03:02.240 --> 1:03:05.640 wearing this, that they are all of the things that 1:03:05.720 --> 1:03:09.520 comes with the shininess. And that's your fault because you 1:03:09.680 --> 1:03:11.480 don't ask the right questions. 1:03:11.480 --> 1:03:12.280 What you say you do. 1:03:12.400 --> 1:03:16.480 Now, I commend you, because that's what you're supposed to do, 1:03:16.840 --> 1:03:19.240 and I say the same thing the men. We gotta 1:03:19.320 --> 1:03:21.840 do better because y'all got a whole list that you 1:03:21.920 --> 1:03:24.640 just said, you checking references every man out here. 1:03:24.680 --> 1:03:27.600 You know what's on our list, pussy, that's it. 1:03:27.880 --> 1:03:30.640 We ain't updated our list since the beginning of the time. 1:03:30.800 --> 1:03:32.400 That's all we have on our list. 1:03:32.800 --> 1:03:33.120 That's it. 1:03:33.640 --> 1:03:36.520 So therefore we got to ask better questions too. I 1:03:36.600 --> 1:03:38.160 say that the men all the time. You got to 1:03:38.200 --> 1:03:40.280 treat your dick like you treat your Social Security number. 1:03:41.240 --> 1:03:42.920 If a woman walks up and asks you for your 1:03:42.920 --> 1:03:44.640 social you're gonna be like, what type of question is 1:03:44.680 --> 1:03:45.080 that man? 1:03:45.240 --> 1:03:45.720 Fuck out it? 1:03:45.800 --> 1:03:49.480 She walk up and ask you for some dick? You 1:03:49.800 --> 1:03:50.320 you serious? 1:03:50.560 --> 1:03:53.320 You're real? Give me, give me twenty minutes, let me 1:03:53.480 --> 1:03:54.000 you know what I mean. 1:03:54.280 --> 1:03:57.120 And we don't even we don't even ask the type 1:03:57.160 --> 1:04:00.000 of questions that we should ask as men that would 1:04:00.280 --> 1:04:01.720 place value in who we are. 1:04:01.880 --> 1:04:04.040 I'm curious, So what kind of questions now that we're here. 1:04:04.120 --> 1:04:05.760 I know we're going over guys, but that's. 1:04:05.640 --> 1:04:06.360 All good, you know. 1:04:06.400 --> 1:04:08.120 I mean, you want to know what type of questions 1:04:08.120 --> 1:04:10.520 that a man should ask? What is your gind of 1:04:10.600 --> 1:04:11.320 collegist name? 1:04:12.840 --> 1:04:15.160 Okay, that's a good one. Okay. 1:04:15.320 --> 1:04:17.000 If she can't answer that like it's on the back 1:04:17.040 --> 1:04:19.800 of her driver's license, then that means she probably don't 1:04:19.800 --> 1:04:23.280 have no health insurance. So you mean to tell me, ma'am, 1:04:23.280 --> 1:04:25.400 I'm supposed to be working hard for some vagina you 1:04:25.400 --> 1:04:26.520 ain't even had inspected. 1:04:26.880 --> 1:04:29.920 Wow, Okay, that's. 1:04:29.760 --> 1:04:32.120 What's the last book that you read from cover to cover? 1:04:32.440 --> 1:04:34.400 Okay, that's a good one. That's a better one than 1:04:34.400 --> 1:04:35.120 the Gin of Colleges. 1:04:35.200 --> 1:04:37.200 But I mean no, it's not because most women can't 1:04:37.240 --> 1:04:38.960 name their gno collegest because they don't have one. 1:04:39.120 --> 1:04:42.000 Okay, all right, and then what's the next question? 1:04:42.160 --> 1:04:43.160 Oh, there's plenty of them. 1:04:43.200 --> 1:04:44.680 Let me think of a good one that a man 1:04:44.720 --> 1:04:48.880 should ask a woman. I don't want to get too 1:04:49.000 --> 1:04:50.880 in depth on the cooking while brother. 1:04:50.840 --> 1:04:51.360 How does that? 1:04:51.520 --> 1:04:54.040 How does that impact a man? Because usually it's men 1:04:54.120 --> 1:04:55.840 don't get really played like that? 1:04:56.200 --> 1:04:57.520 What you mean played like? 1:04:57.600 --> 1:05:01.840 Because you're like, why would a man benefit from that 1:05:01.960 --> 1:05:04.200 if all he seeks is viagina? 1:05:05.160 --> 1:05:07.800 Well, that's a man that's asking those questions, not a 1:05:07.800 --> 1:05:10.760 man who only seeks vagina. Because a man who only 1:05:10.760 --> 1:05:13.160 seeks vagina is not even asking you nothing he just 1:05:13.200 --> 1:05:14.400 acting like he want to hear what. 1:05:14.360 --> 1:05:17.080 You're saying and then so he could clone and be 1:05:17.160 --> 1:05:18.160 whatever you want him to be. 1:05:21.720 --> 1:05:24.120 So a man that's asking certain questions in mind, you 1:05:24.160 --> 1:05:26.360 I have a daughter who I'm raising, so I have 1:05:26.440 --> 1:05:29.720 to give her the cheeks. Like I hear women complain 1:05:29.800 --> 1:05:33.760 all the time about broke niggas and shit that niggas do, 1:05:33.880 --> 1:05:36.480 and I'd be like, well, what questions are you asking 1:05:36.520 --> 1:05:38.640 these niggas? Because it's very easy to find out if 1:05:38.640 --> 1:05:40.280 a man is a liar. You just got to be 1:05:40.360 --> 1:05:42.520 out of your comfort zone to be able to find 1:05:42.520 --> 1:05:45.040 out quicker than you have found out already. 1:05:45.280 --> 1:05:47.160 Stop asking the niggas. So what are your goals in 1:05:47.240 --> 1:05:49.920 five years? And what are your plans for the future? 1:05:50.000 --> 1:05:52.080 And what is what is? What is all that funk? 1:05:52.160 --> 1:05:54.120 All that man? How many times a week do you 1:05:54.160 --> 1:05:55.120 beat your dick? Sir? 1:05:57.920 --> 1:06:00.680 You see how the whole room stop. Now if you 1:06:00.760 --> 1:06:02.440 ask a man that and he like, well, what you 1:06:02.520 --> 1:06:04.680 mean why you ask me that? But that's a nigga 1:06:04.680 --> 1:06:07.000 who's thinking about what he's going to tell you. A 1:06:07.040 --> 1:06:09.640 man who's being forthcoming and truthful will say, wells it 1:06:09.680 --> 1:06:15.960 as much as I can. Now, you know, you're dealing 1:06:15.960 --> 1:06:18.360 with somebody who at least has the capacity to be 1:06:18.400 --> 1:06:21.240 able to have a direct conversation without filtering whatever it 1:06:21.280 --> 1:06:24.040 is he's going to say to you. Also another question, 1:06:24.080 --> 1:06:25.160 what's your relationship like. 1:06:25.120 --> 1:06:26.320 With your mother? Yeah? 1:06:27.240 --> 1:06:29.000 I mean, we could you go on that all day. 1:06:29.000 --> 1:06:31.240 But there's some yeah, you. 1:06:31.280 --> 1:06:31.680 Know what I mean. 1:06:31.720 --> 1:06:34.000 And another one you can ask, man, if I had 1:06:34.120 --> 1:06:36.040 if we were in a relationship with each other and 1:06:36.080 --> 1:06:38.360 I had a contract that said you owe me every 1:06:38.400 --> 1:06:40.240 dime you make from the moment you cheat on me 1:06:40.320 --> 1:06:41.920 to the rest of your life, would you sign it? 1:06:44.440 --> 1:06:44.640 Yeah? 1:06:44.720 --> 1:06:46.400 Right there, that should be the question always said as 1:06:46.440 --> 1:06:47.240 before they get buried. 1:06:47.320 --> 1:06:47.640 And if a. 1:06:47.680 --> 1:06:50.320 Niggas say yeah, I mean I never do that, ask 1:06:50.360 --> 1:06:51.320 you to get up and leave. 1:06:51.960 --> 1:06:54.280 Oh get up, get up and leave. 1:06:54.560 --> 1:06:56.240 Take it from me that if a niggas say he 1:06:56.280 --> 1:06:59.320 has signed that contract, that nigga is a serial killer, 1:06:59.680 --> 1:07:00.760 get up and least. 1:07:00.840 --> 1:07:01.880 That's crazy. 1:07:01.920 --> 1:07:05.480 No man in his right mind whatever agree to them terms. 1:07:05.520 --> 1:07:07.360 This is why I fall for the BS because I 1:07:07.360 --> 1:07:10.160 would have if he would have said what if, I 1:07:10.160 --> 1:07:10.600 would have. 1:07:10.520 --> 1:07:12.120 Been like, Oh, that's how you end. 1:07:12.960 --> 1:07:18.680 That's how sardines sitting the Indian style that is crazy apartment. 1:07:18.880 --> 1:07:23.120 That's that was a perfect example. 1:07:23.880 --> 1:07:29.240 I can't believe I would have for the sign answer 1:07:29.280 --> 1:07:32.480 the question correctly. There you okay, thank you for the lesson. 1:07:32.640 --> 1:07:34.240 Where can everybody keep up with Chico? 1:07:35.240 --> 1:07:39.880 Keep up with me on Instagram at Chico Bean, Facebook 1:07:39.880 --> 1:07:42.480 at Chico Bean. Followed the eighty five South show and 1:07:42.520 --> 1:07:45.280 all of the things that our company and and our 1:07:45.320 --> 1:07:48.160 team is in telling we have a conglomerate with a 1:07:48.200 --> 1:07:50.800 building over here. Check us out on the Black Effect 1:07:50.880 --> 1:07:55.360 podcast Network. Salut to Charlamagne, Salute to Dolly. You know, 1:07:55.640 --> 1:07:58.000 just you know, keeping out. Were on tour right now. 1:07:58.080 --> 1:08:00.640 We the ones we're going right after that toward ends. 1:08:00.640 --> 1:08:03.720 We starting the eighty five South back up, so you know, 1:08:03.760 --> 1:08:05.960 we got a lot of beautiful things. We got comment 1:08:06.080 --> 1:08:08.680 What about the book, Oh that's coming. I'm working on 1:08:08.720 --> 1:08:11.800 it now. So hopefully I'm thinking either by the end 1:08:11.840 --> 1:08:13.400 of the year or the top of next year, which 1:08:13.520 --> 1:08:15.240 be able to do it in Charlemagne already said he 1:08:15.320 --> 1:08:16.600 was going to look out for me and put me 1:08:16.640 --> 1:08:18.240 in place with some people that you. 1:08:18.160 --> 1:08:20.760 Know can yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah. 1:08:20.800 --> 1:08:23.639 So I've already done the due diligence, if you will, 1:08:23.720 --> 1:08:26.400 So I'm looking forward to, you know, getting that out 1:08:26.439 --> 1:08:28.240 to the people so they can you know, have this 1:08:28.360 --> 1:08:31.400 type of dialogue that we're having amongst each other teachers. 1:08:31.680 --> 1:08:33.600 And then my last question, what's the last book you 1:08:33.640 --> 1:08:34.800 read from cover to back? 1:08:35.160 --> 1:08:37.080 What's the last book I read from cover to back? 1:08:37.120 --> 1:08:39.200 The last book I read? I just reread a book 1:08:39.200 --> 1:08:42.639 that changed my life, Conversations with God by Neil Donald Walsh. 1:08:42.680 --> 1:08:44.760 I just went through a situation that was very, very 1:08:44.880 --> 1:08:49.439 very trying on me personally, and I had to whenever 1:08:49.640 --> 1:08:51.920 I get to those points where I feel myself about 1:08:51.920 --> 1:08:54.360 to revert to a mentality that I feel like I 1:08:54.400 --> 1:08:57.200 have surpassed, I always go back and read that book 1:08:57.240 --> 1:08:58.519 because that book saved my life. 1:08:58.800 --> 1:09:01.080 I've heard people mention that book. I actually have it 1:09:01.120 --> 1:09:02.599 on a list of reading. 1:09:03.560 --> 1:09:05.639 Conversations with God by Neil Donald Walsh. 1:09:05.760 --> 1:09:08.080 That is, that's crazy, because that book is on my list. 1:09:08.120 --> 1:09:10.400 That book saved my life. If it wasn't for that book, 1:09:10.439 --> 1:09:12.760 my old uncle J. God bless you Uncle J. If 1:09:12.760 --> 1:09:15.800 you see this, when my uncle got murdered, my uncle 1:09:15.840 --> 1:09:18.120 that I told you about, I was that probably would 1:09:18.120 --> 1:09:19.200 say that was the darkest. 1:09:18.880 --> 1:09:21.439 Week of my life. Like that week after he was murdered. 1:09:21.600 --> 1:09:24.680 I was, you know, it was very dark time for me, 1:09:24.880 --> 1:09:26.320 you know what I mean, And a lot of the 1:09:26.360 --> 1:09:28.479 actions and things that I did during that time I'm 1:09:28.520 --> 1:09:32.800 still rectifying now. And I was sitting outside and you know, 1:09:33.360 --> 1:09:35.679 and the worst way that you can probably be out 1:09:35.760 --> 1:09:38.360 in public, if you you know, when I think back 1:09:38.400 --> 1:09:40.800 on it, and he came outside, he saw me. This 1:09:40.880 --> 1:09:42.519 is somebody I have a high level of respect for, 1:09:42.600 --> 1:09:45.479 one of my big homies. And he took what I 1:09:45.520 --> 1:09:48.800 had from me away from me. When the house came 1:09:48.800 --> 1:09:50.040 back out with the book and told me to go 1:09:50.040 --> 1:09:54.040 in the house and start reading. And under those circumstances, 1:09:54.040 --> 1:09:55.599 normally i'd have been like, man, the fuck out of here, 1:09:55.600 --> 1:09:57.680 and I'm out here, but something told me to go 1:09:57.720 --> 1:09:58.599 in the house and start reading. 1:09:58.600 --> 1:09:59.960 And when I did, it save my life. 1:10:00.600 --> 1:10:03.080 So I'm gonna check it out, please, I will. Yeah, 1:10:03.360 --> 1:10:03.839 I definitely. 1:10:03.840 --> 1:10:05.920 I had it on my list, so it's crazy that 1:10:05.960 --> 1:10:08.400 you brought it up, So yeah, I'll check it out. 1:10:08.439 --> 1:10:10.439 Another good one is The Way of the Superior Man. 1:10:10.800 --> 1:10:11.479 You should read that. 1:10:11.520 --> 1:10:13.240 I heard about that, but yeah, you should read the 1:10:13.280 --> 1:10:14.200 women should read it. 1:10:14.280 --> 1:10:15.559 Yes, women should read. 1:10:15.600 --> 1:10:17.400 That's the thing I think men should read the books 1:10:17.400 --> 1:10:19.519 that women read, and women should read the books that 1:10:19.560 --> 1:10:22.840 men read. In regards to not necessarily that men or 1:10:22.880 --> 1:10:28.040 women read, but that are catered towards men, women should 1:10:28.040 --> 1:10:30.599 read those books, and the books that are catered towards women. 1:10:30.760 --> 1:10:33.400 Men should read those books because it gives you insight 1:10:34.160 --> 1:10:37.320 into the perspective that you probably wouldn't get in the 1:10:37.360 --> 1:10:39.160 general dialogue with the opposite sex. 1:10:40.600 --> 1:10:44.120 Okay, you dropping gems. Thank you so much for your time. 1:10:44.160 --> 1:10:46.519 I really appreciate it, no problem. Thanks for opening up 1:10:46.560 --> 1:10:48.960 the eighty five South home this last episode. 1:10:49.000 --> 1:10:52.960 Everyone, Well, no I took that one bike out that Ravioli. 1:10:53.040 --> 1:10:57.280 Now my dudo gonna sound like a Russian nigga flugok 1:10:57.280 --> 1:11:01.639 a dish, and thanks for taking it for se look 1:11:01.720 --> 1:11:05.559 from Bro