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Speaker 1: Hey guys, welcome to another episode of Eating While Broke.

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Speaker 2: I'm your host coleeen Went and today we have very

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Speaker 2: special special guests Chico Ben in the building.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, yes, thank you, thank you for having me

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Speaker 3: on your wonderful, wonderful podcast.

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Speaker 4: This is a brilliant idea. I think this is dope.

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Speaker 1: Thank you and thank you for opening up.

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Speaker 2: I would like to say the eighty five South home

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Speaker 2: to me and being so hospitable. I absolutely love everything

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Speaker 2: about the eighty five South camp in totality.

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Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much for showing me so much less.

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Speaker 3: Oh man, We you know, try to pride ourselves on

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Speaker 3: being a standard of you know, hospitality over here, to

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Speaker 3: say the least, So I'm glad that you were received

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Speaker 3: in that way.

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Speaker 4: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: I've been gossiping NonStop, but such amazing gossip behind your back.

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Speaker 1: Like yo, these guys are incredible. The character, the integrity

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Speaker 1: that every day, Oh my god, it's amazing. Good and

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Speaker 1: your dish. What are you gonna have us eating today?

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Speaker 4: Beef ravioli by chef Boyard.

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Speaker 1: Yes, this is a this is a real classic. It's money.

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Speaker 2: I don't think we've ever had it on the show, surprisingly,

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Speaker 2: which I've had everything you could imagine a hundred times over.

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Speaker 2: But I like that you and I are gonna take

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Speaker 2: one for teen today, right, We're gonna we're gonna take

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Speaker 2: baby baby baby.

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Speaker 1: Licks at it.

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Speaker 4: Pause.

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Speaker 3: But yeah, we we're gonna do what we could do

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Speaker 3: to do to make sure that the content is what

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Speaker 3: it needs to be for you know, for the podcast.

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Speaker 3: We'll say that it's been a very long time since

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Speaker 3: I've been able to eat anything remotely close to this,

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Speaker 3: but there was a time in my life where this was,

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Speaker 3: you know, five course for me.

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Speaker 1: Okay, So I want to make sure the jogg your memory.

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Speaker 2: So I want to see you make chef for I

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Speaker 2: d okay, and uh, I want to take a swing

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Speaker 2: a swing at it.

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Speaker 4: Going okay, all right, so you just try not.

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Speaker 1: To let any guests leave without taking a bite of

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Speaker 1: their food.

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Speaker 4: Okay, all right? So I mean, I mean, is this on?

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Speaker 1: I think I turned the other one on? Maybe they

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Speaker 1: both of which is heating sauce.

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Speaker 2: By the way, I accidentally did try Chef Bard recently

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Speaker 2: and I was like, who was I think it?

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Speaker 1: Because I used to love it?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so did I. Oh boy, this is you got

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Speaker 4: the memories memory. Oh boy.

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Speaker 3: See that's the thing. You got to it come out

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Speaker 3: and you got to you get that sound. That's what yeah,

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Speaker 3: all right, all right, now, see I don't know if

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Speaker 3: we got in need let me see what what what

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Speaker 3: type of flavorings.

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Speaker 4: We got over?

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Speaker 1: So we add an extra flavor?

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Speaker 3: Oh you got to, man, we got to. This is

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Speaker 3: a hood delicacy, you know what I mean.

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Speaker 4: Growing up? You know, I was what was called the

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Speaker 4: latch key kid.

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Speaker 3: So my mother, you know, would get up at three

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Speaker 3: was since I can remember. So I've been kind of

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Speaker 3: cooking for myself and this little Italian season and right here,

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Speaker 3: you know, make it seem like it's corrobbas or something

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Speaker 3: of that nature.

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Speaker 1: No, did you come from two parent household?

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Speaker 4: No? No, No, I did not come from a two

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Speaker 3: My father was murdered when I was two years old,

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Speaker 3: so it was just my mother, and uh, you know,

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Speaker 3: because of that, she had to you know, it's a

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Speaker 3: little different back in the day. You know, we're going

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Speaker 3: black pepper right here, good in gather. We're going good

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Speaker 3: and gathered black pepper. And then uh, no, salt. We

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Speaker 3: try to stay away from the salt. As the garlic powder.

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Speaker 4: There, just slightly.

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Speaker 1: Do you cook at home.

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Speaker 3: Now, yes, very much so private No, hell no, okay,

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Speaker 3: that is an expense I refuse to know.

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Speaker 1: So you're cooking, you're not eating out a lot?

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Speaker 3: Well, yes, we do eat out a lot because we

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Speaker 4: Much left open. So usually you have.

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Speaker 3: To go get something during the day to have after

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Speaker 3: it's very very much cooking when you go home, not

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Speaker 3: when you're on the road. It's very difficult to cook

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Speaker 4: On the road.

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Speaker 1: So if you weren't eat and you were at home currently.

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Speaker 3: Water, yeah, just to stretch it out a little bit

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Speaker 3: so it won't stick to the bottom of the pan.

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Speaker 3: Yeah you real, let me see. Uh yeah, right there,

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Speaker 3: we're right there.

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Speaker 1: I wasn't even that good. I was just heating in

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Speaker 1: the microwaves.

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Speaker 4: Oh no, yeah, no, we got to do it on

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Speaker 4: the stove. That's how you learn.

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Speaker 3: You get that mixed up and they get all them

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Speaker 3: flavors mixed in in there. You got to separate them too,

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Speaker 3: because if you don't separate them, then you'll have one

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Speaker 3: that's cooked on the top and then you into that bottom.

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Speaker 3: In that bottom with Bucky neked, it ain't got no

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Speaker 3: heat on it. So you gotta make sure you go

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Speaker 3: in and split them apart because they come in you know,

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Speaker 3: they be stuck together, so you gotta split them apart

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Speaker 4: Uh, there we go.

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Speaker 1: This is how I know I know. I know you

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Speaker 1: was broke.

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Speaker 4: Because I didn't. That's the thing. You knew I was broke.

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Speaker 4: I didn't.

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Speaker 3: I thought this was a delicacy because it really had

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Speaker 3: Chef boy I d on the can no listen. We

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Speaker 3: had a lot of that.

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Speaker 4: Well.

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Speaker 3: I can't remember the first the first time I ever

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Speaker 3: had Frosty Flakes with Tony on the box.

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Speaker 4: I was in college. My Frosty flakes.

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Speaker 3: Had a snowman on the box frosty flakes. That's what

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Speaker 3: we grew up eating, the frosty flakes with the eye

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Speaker 3: with the wire on them.

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Speaker 4: All right, So we're gonna let that just do his

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Speaker 3: We're gonna sit this off to the side, and then

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Speaker 3: you know it's getting right when it started the bubble

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Speaker 1: So take me back, take me back to this time.

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Speaker 3: Woh Boy Washington, d C. Born and raised in Washington, DC.

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Speaker 3: Grew up in the household with all my family members.

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Speaker 3: At first, I say, the first eight nine years of

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Speaker 4: I lived in the.

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Speaker 3: Household with my mother, my aunt Mary, who was like

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Speaker 3: my grandmother. My grandmother passed before I was born too,

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Speaker 3: so she was like the matriarch of the family. Four uncles,

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Speaker 3: but he was like an uncle. Sheel was like a

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Speaker 3: grew up with my mother, my mother of course, cousin

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Speaker 3: Derk and it was just so many people in the household.

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Speaker 3: So I got to get the influence from all of

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Speaker 1: Bad, and in different Were you an only child, No, I.

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Speaker 3: Have a little brother. I have a little brother who's

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Speaker 3: three years younger than me. But so I grew up

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Speaker 3: culinary journey began. And it began with cam Ravioli because

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Speaker 3: very easy for my mother to show us how to

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Speaker 3: make that. It's just you just put it on the stove,

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Speaker 4: So for me. This was you know, me and my

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Speaker 1: There was no stepdad in the house or oh no.

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Speaker 4: No, no no.

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Speaker 3: There was you know, a couple of niggas that stepped in,

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Speaker 3: She was a very, very very stern woman to say

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Speaker 3: her soul. I've learned that it takes a very special

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Speaker 3: is very self aware and stern and not gonna let

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Speaker 3: you just play no games. You couldn't play no games

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Speaker 3: with Wanda Bean. You had to be honest. You had

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Speaker 3: I hit a bubble, bubble, Wow, you gotta know you're

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Speaker 4: My uncle's and you.

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Speaker 3: Know, a lot of the guys I grew up with

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Speaker 3: in my neighborhoods. You know, I was very active as

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Speaker 3: different sentiment. I say, she raised me and reverse, you know,

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Speaker 3: wasn't her sentiment. She was like, you know, get out

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Speaker 3: So I've always you I was the man of my

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Speaker 3: house early. I have responsibility my whole life. So at

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Speaker 3: Oh well, thank you so Ravioli cooking or just life?

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Speaker 3: Comedy enters the picture? My after I graduated.

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Speaker 3: So that's always been my perspective. So when he lost

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Speaker 3: I didn't even want to go to college before then.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. I've always been that way.

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Speaker 3: But but in that same vein, I was like, man,

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Speaker 3: So as even though I didn't have the ability to

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Speaker 3: Mom was like, man, you should do comedy. You should

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Speaker 3: We in here now, you know what I mean. And

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Speaker 4: Man. Should you should? You should keep going.

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Speaker 3: Then at that point I had already made a decision

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Speaker 3: And then one thing I always tell people about comedy,

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Speaker 3: doing comedy. And then that the next month, that next show,

443
00:19:03,960 --> 00:19:06,800
Speaker 3: I went back like I was Eddie Murphy and bombed,

444
00:19:07,760 --> 00:19:10,639
Speaker 3: and then you know, I got my come up ins

445
00:19:10,680 --> 00:19:12,359
Speaker 3: in that regard. This is going to take some work.

446
00:19:12,440 --> 00:19:14,200
Speaker 3: You know, You're not just gonna be able to get

447
00:19:14,240 --> 00:19:16,600
Speaker 3: up here and wing it. You're gonna have to actually

448
00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:19,040
Speaker 3: put your effort and time into this. And that's the

449
00:19:19,080 --> 00:19:21,280
Speaker 3: reason why I stayed in North Carolina because I knew

450
00:19:21,320 --> 00:19:23,000
Speaker 3: if I went home to d C, I knew too

451
00:19:23,000 --> 00:19:26,120
Speaker 3: many people and too many people knew me. So when

452
00:19:26,119 --> 00:19:28,439
Speaker 3: people know you for something, it's very difficult for you

453
00:19:28,520 --> 00:19:32,800
Speaker 3: to be able to.

454
00:19:31,000 --> 00:19:33,480
Speaker 4: Get out of that box that they know you for.

455
00:19:33,720 --> 00:19:35,320
Speaker 3: You know what I mean, because if they know you

456
00:19:35,400 --> 00:19:37,159
Speaker 3: for being a certain way, when I come and I

457
00:19:37,240 --> 00:19:40,879
Speaker 3: know what chasing a dream entails, you know I have

458
00:19:41,000 --> 00:19:43,440
Speaker 3: already had that perspective on what it took to make

459
00:19:43,480 --> 00:19:46,159
Speaker 3: it to do anything, because, like I said, I've always

460
00:19:46,160 --> 00:19:49,400
Speaker 3: had responsibility. So I knew if I went home and

461
00:19:49,480 --> 00:19:51,679
Speaker 3: you know, people that know me are saying, damn, bro,

462
00:19:51,800 --> 00:19:57,080
Speaker 3: you broken, And they say.

463
00:19:56,960 --> 00:19:58,520
Speaker 4: Is who don't know you is different?

464
00:19:58,600 --> 00:20:00,520
Speaker 3: Yeah, when it's somebody who you know is coming from

465
00:20:00,560 --> 00:20:03,399
Speaker 3: a place of maliciousness and they really are concerned, it

466
00:20:03,400 --> 00:20:05,240
Speaker 3: makes you feel a little different. So I stayed in

467
00:20:05,280 --> 00:20:07,560
Speaker 3: North Carolina where I didn't know anybody, and I said,

468
00:20:07,560 --> 00:20:09,560
Speaker 3: I'm gonna make it work here. And it's the best

469
00:20:09,600 --> 00:20:11,800
Speaker 3: decision I ever made. I think we might think you

470
00:20:11,880 --> 00:20:12,720
Speaker 3: might be in the game.

471
00:20:12,800 --> 00:20:16,520
Speaker 2: Hold up, so how long did you struggle for? I

472
00:20:16,560 --> 00:20:20,480
Speaker 2: love that you're getting into this. Wait, did the raviolis break?

473
00:20:20,600 --> 00:20:23,240
Speaker 4: That's what you want. You want that meat and the sauce.

474
00:20:23,800 --> 00:20:26,680
Speaker 3: You want certain ones to break open because you want

475
00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:28,360
Speaker 3: that meat and the sauce. So even if you don't

476
00:20:28,359 --> 00:20:30,840
Speaker 3: get a ravioli, that sauce still has the beef in it,

477
00:20:30,880 --> 00:20:32,960
Speaker 3: so it's like, you know, that's why I put the

478
00:20:32,960 --> 00:20:35,840
Speaker 3: water in it so it don't get sticky. But even

479
00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:37,800
Speaker 3: when they break up, you want that flavor to get up.

480
00:20:37,800 --> 00:20:38,120
Speaker 4: In there.

481
00:20:38,480 --> 00:20:40,040
Speaker 1: Yeah, I think we are legit.

482
00:20:40,240 --> 00:20:42,439
Speaker 4: Let me move it over to here. You gonna let

483
00:20:42,520 --> 00:20:45,440
Speaker 4: that just marinate a little bit. But what was your question?

484
00:20:46,160 --> 00:20:47,560
Speaker 1: Make sure you turn off that stove, man?

485
00:20:47,640 --> 00:20:50,399
Speaker 2: Oh yeah, I don't want to leave eighty five, not

486
00:20:50,440 --> 00:20:52,160
Speaker 2: the way I found it.

487
00:20:52,880 --> 00:20:53,320
Speaker 4: There we go.

488
00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:56,480
Speaker 1: So how long did you struggle for.

489
00:20:57,960 --> 00:21:01,440
Speaker 4: Man? Struggle? You mean financially?

490
00:21:01,600 --> 00:21:06,280
Speaker 3: Financially financially from two thousand and eight to about two

491
00:21:06,320 --> 00:21:08,359
Speaker 3: thousand and sixteen.

492
00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:11,359
Speaker 1: So eight eight years. And then during that struggle, how

493
00:21:11,400 --> 00:21:14,040
Speaker 1: bad was it on you mindset and emotionally?

494
00:21:16,119 --> 00:21:16,199
Speaker 4: Like?

495
00:21:16,280 --> 00:21:17,520
Speaker 1: How much questioning did you do?

496
00:21:18,400 --> 00:21:20,159
Speaker 3: I never questioned whether or not I was doing the

497
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:22,000
Speaker 3: right thing. I always questioned whether or not I was

498
00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:24,560
Speaker 3: doing it the right way. But how bad it got

499
00:21:24,880 --> 00:21:28,160
Speaker 3: for me? Boy, I wouldn't even check my mailbox because

500
00:21:28,160 --> 00:21:29,520
Speaker 3: I knew it wasn't nothing in it. I had so

501
00:21:29,600 --> 00:21:31,320
Speaker 3: much mail in my mailbox they thought I.

502
00:21:31,320 --> 00:21:35,160
Speaker 1: Moved because you thought it was just bills or something ought.

503
00:21:36,920 --> 00:21:39,680
Speaker 2: That's all I want to understand that, Because like, I

504
00:21:40,480 --> 00:21:42,240
Speaker 2: used to hang out with some guys that couldn't afford

505
00:21:42,320 --> 00:21:44,520
Speaker 2: their bills, and I'd be like, yo, you not opening

506
00:21:44,560 --> 00:21:46,639
Speaker 2: it and not dealing with it doesn't make it go away.

507
00:21:46,920 --> 00:21:49,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, but it makes me not have to look at

508
00:21:49,359 --> 00:21:52,600
Speaker 3: what I'm not having at the moment. You'll get it

509
00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:54,240
Speaker 3: when I get it. When I get it, I get

510
00:21:54,280 --> 00:21:55,920
Speaker 3: back with all of y'all. You know what I'm saying,

511
00:21:56,000 --> 00:21:59,520
Speaker 3: But you know the reality of it was I knew that,

512
00:22:00,280 --> 00:22:06,439
Speaker 3: you know my responsibility the way that I've been taught

513
00:22:06,440 --> 00:22:09,160
Speaker 3: and raised. The reason why I didn't want to look

514
00:22:09,200 --> 00:22:10,800
Speaker 3: at it or didn't want to put myself in that

515
00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:13,840
Speaker 3: position is because I know how to get money. I

516
00:22:13,920 --> 00:22:18,800
Speaker 3: know how to go and do something that's gonna garner

517
00:22:18,840 --> 00:22:22,280
Speaker 3: me some type of financial game. But I don't want

518
00:22:22,320 --> 00:22:25,480
Speaker 3: to look at something that I know I don't have

519
00:22:26,119 --> 00:22:29,200
Speaker 3: and force myself into thinking that this is the only

520
00:22:29,240 --> 00:22:30,880
Speaker 3: way I'm gonna be it, because, like you said, it's

521
00:22:30,920 --> 00:22:31,720
Speaker 3: not gonna go away.

522
00:22:31,840 --> 00:22:32,359
Speaker 1: Yeah, it's not.

523
00:22:32,440 --> 00:22:35,960
Speaker 3: Whether I pay it today or in ten years, I'm

524
00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:38,840
Speaker 3: still gonna have to deal with this. So I rather

525
00:22:38,960 --> 00:22:42,919
Speaker 3: continue my journey and find my way and deal with

526
00:22:42,960 --> 00:22:44,720
Speaker 3: it when I can deal with it the right way.

527
00:22:44,760 --> 00:22:47,439
Speaker 3: And that was the best decision because even once I

528
00:22:47,480 --> 00:22:49,960
Speaker 3: got on TV, I got on TV in twenty thirteen,

529
00:22:50,320 --> 00:22:52,760
Speaker 3: so I didn't start making money to where I was

530
00:22:52,800 --> 00:22:53,399
Speaker 3: able to get.

531
00:22:53,240 --> 00:22:55,280
Speaker 2: Ahead of what was your first move on TV? It

532
00:22:57,080 --> 00:22:58,440
Speaker 2: was in twenty thirteen.

533
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Speaker 4: That's when we get on TV and.

534
00:23:00,280 --> 00:23:01,240
Speaker 1: You start two thous eight.

535
00:23:02,880 --> 00:23:04,960
Speaker 4: Okay, So it took me from two thousand and eight

536
00:23:05,040 --> 00:23:05,960
Speaker 4: to twenty.

537
00:23:05,640 --> 00:23:10,200
Speaker 2: Thirteen, and you still wasn't like financially, No, no, damn.

538
00:23:10,080 --> 00:23:12,359
Speaker 3: And that and when I say twenty sixteen, I just

539
00:23:12,400 --> 00:23:16,920
Speaker 3: took the struggle away. I wasn't struggling once twenty sixteen came.

540
00:23:17,040 --> 00:23:22,560
Speaker 3: But I still stayed in my college apartment from twenty

541
00:23:22,680 --> 00:23:27,520
Speaker 3: thirteen to two thousand and seventeen, So I was stacking

542
00:23:27,560 --> 00:23:30,040
Speaker 3: money up because I was still paying the same amount

543
00:23:30,080 --> 00:23:32,800
Speaker 3: of rent that I was paying when I was broke. Smart,

544
00:23:33,000 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 3: so I was able to get ahead of the bills

545
00:23:35,520 --> 00:23:39,439
Speaker 3: that I owed in that space. But then once twenty

546
00:23:39,480 --> 00:23:42,600
Speaker 3: seventeen came, I was able to start to get all

547
00:23:42,640 --> 00:23:45,399
Speaker 3: of the debt that I owed diminished.

548
00:23:57,119 --> 00:23:58,840
Speaker 1: Did your mind play any tricks on you?

549
00:23:58,880 --> 00:24:01,920
Speaker 2: Because at this point you getting what I would say

550
00:24:01,960 --> 00:24:05,600
Speaker 2: is like the accolades, but maybe the financials aren't matching it.

551
00:24:05,640 --> 00:24:07,760
Speaker 2: Did your mind mess with you a little bit on

552
00:24:07,800 --> 00:24:09,399
Speaker 2: that or your ego? No?

553
00:24:09,200 --> 00:24:12,560
Speaker 3: No, that's that's where I'm blessed because in those times

554
00:24:12,640 --> 00:24:16,040
Speaker 3: where I was talking about growing up and having those responsibilities,

555
00:24:16,560 --> 00:24:18,679
Speaker 3: those are the times where my ego messed with me

556
00:24:18,800 --> 00:24:20,720
Speaker 3: when I was missing the bike rides and missing the

557
00:24:20,720 --> 00:24:22,960
Speaker 3: football games because I had to walk to the safeway

558
00:24:23,000 --> 00:24:24,280
Speaker 3: and get the groceries for the house.

559
00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:27,040
Speaker 4: And so I learned how to deal with that very

560
00:24:27,080 --> 00:24:27,760
Speaker 4: early in life.

561
00:24:27,800 --> 00:24:29,560
Speaker 3: So by the time I got to a grown man

562
00:24:29,640 --> 00:24:31,679
Speaker 3: and I was following those things, then I don't care

563
00:24:31,720 --> 00:24:32,879
Speaker 3: what anybody thinks about me.

564
00:24:33,440 --> 00:24:34,320
Speaker 4: That's you know, I'm.

565
00:24:34,359 --> 00:24:37,400
Speaker 3: Very, very very selective with whose opinions I let matter

566
00:24:37,480 --> 00:24:39,440
Speaker 3: in my life. So if you're not one of those people,

567
00:24:39,480 --> 00:24:41,159
Speaker 3: you can think whatever you want to think about me.

568
00:24:41,240 --> 00:24:41,840
Speaker 4: That's your right.

569
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:43,879
Speaker 3: You have the right to your opinion, just like I

570
00:24:43,920 --> 00:24:45,639
Speaker 3: have the right not to give a fuck about it.

571
00:24:45,680 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 4: So we even so, by.

572
00:24:47,160 --> 00:24:50,200
Speaker 3: The time I got to chasing this dream, those things

573
00:24:50,200 --> 00:24:51,359
Speaker 3: didn't bother me at all.

574
00:24:51,720 --> 00:24:54,560
Speaker 4: What bothered me was feeling like.

575
00:24:56,160 --> 00:24:58,520
Speaker 3: If I would have made a different move here, I

576
00:24:58,640 --> 00:25:01,520
Speaker 3: might have not had to deal with this at this moment.

577
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:05,000
Speaker 4: But you know, that was just the most difficult process.

578
00:25:05,040 --> 00:25:07,080
Speaker 3: Outside of that, I didn't have any problems with, you know,

579
00:25:07,200 --> 00:25:08,520
Speaker 3: perspective of others.

580
00:25:08,800 --> 00:25:12,520
Speaker 1: And during this your mom's still present. Yes, okay, for sure.

581
00:25:12,600 --> 00:25:15,760
Speaker 2: So can you just take me to how you ended

582
00:25:15,840 --> 00:25:17,080
Speaker 2: up getting on walling out?

583
00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:22,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's a very unique story too, young lady who

584
00:25:22,640 --> 00:25:25,680
Speaker 3: I'm sure you might be familiar with Dolly Bishops.

585
00:25:25,720 --> 00:25:28,240
Speaker 1: I love Dolly. Yeah, that's that is that is my

586
00:25:28,359 --> 00:25:29,920
Speaker 1: baby and my baby.

587
00:25:31,200 --> 00:25:32,160
Speaker 4: We went to school together.

588
00:25:32,359 --> 00:25:33,040
Speaker 1: Oh I didn't know that.

589
00:25:33,119 --> 00:25:35,440
Speaker 3: Yeah, we went to Winston Seld State together. So at

590
00:25:35,520 --> 00:25:37,880
Speaker 3: this time and we came up together, like I.

591
00:25:37,760 --> 00:25:39,440
Speaker 1: Did not know that. I know, you guys are cool.

592
00:25:39,920 --> 00:25:40,480
Speaker 1: She mentioned.

593
00:25:40,760 --> 00:25:44,000
Speaker 4: Dolly is like there's nothing that she couldn't ask me for.

594
00:25:44,080 --> 00:25:46,080
Speaker 3: There's nothing I wouldn't do for to this day, like

595
00:25:46,119 --> 00:25:48,040
Speaker 3: if she was to call me and ask me for anything,

596
00:25:49,080 --> 00:25:51,080
Speaker 3: you know, there's no situation she can be and why

597
00:25:51,080 --> 00:25:52,600
Speaker 3: I wouldn't stand by her side.

598
00:25:52,920 --> 00:25:54,880
Speaker 1: I feel about her.

599
00:25:55,119 --> 00:25:58,640
Speaker 3: But she was working with Nick Cannon at the time

600
00:25:58,680 --> 00:26:02,640
Speaker 3: as his assistant both eaton while I broke at that time.

601
00:26:02,560 --> 00:26:04,600
Speaker 4: For you know, yeah, she was you know.

602
00:26:07,760 --> 00:26:08,320
Speaker 1: Nine ten.

603
00:26:08,680 --> 00:26:12,280
Speaker 3: Yeah, so Nick was having a show called The Fresh

604
00:26:12,280 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 3: Faces of Comedy in New York. So Dolly, being an

605
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:18,840
Speaker 3: advocate for you know us knowing us doing comedy in

606
00:26:18,920 --> 00:26:21,879
Speaker 3: North Carolina, said that she wanted us to come up

607
00:26:21,920 --> 00:26:24,600
Speaker 3: to do one of the shows. Myself and a gentleman

608
00:26:24,680 --> 00:26:27,760
Speaker 3: named Beatott, who was a person that I started with

609
00:26:27,880 --> 00:26:29,800
Speaker 3: in North Carolina w also as a graduate of Wants

610
00:26:29,800 --> 00:26:32,720
Speaker 3: to sell them State University. And that went up the

611
00:26:32,720 --> 00:26:35,480
Speaker 3: first week, and I went up the second week to

612
00:26:35,520 --> 00:26:37,000
Speaker 3: do it. And when I went up the second week,

613
00:26:37,040 --> 00:26:39,919
Speaker 3: when I walked into the comedy club, the owner of

614
00:26:39,920 --> 00:26:41,679
Speaker 3: the club was like, all right, man, we don't know

615
00:26:41,680 --> 00:26:43,600
Speaker 3: who you are, so you can't say the N words.

616
00:26:43,600 --> 00:26:45,359
Speaker 3: You can't talk about this, you can't talk about that.

617
00:26:45,480 --> 00:26:47,280
Speaker 3: You're gonna see if you're funny now at this point,

618
00:26:47,280 --> 00:26:51,000
Speaker 3: that's what I planned on talking to. So I went outside.

619
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:54,199
Speaker 3: And I don't really write jokes. That's not my process.

620
00:26:54,240 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 3: I write down the idea, but my creative processes I

621
00:26:56,800 --> 00:27:00,080
Speaker 3: walk around and talk to myself. That's how I get it,

622
00:27:00,280 --> 00:27:00,480
Speaker 3: you know.

623
00:27:01,680 --> 00:27:03,280
Speaker 1: So do you still record all your sets?

624
00:27:03,600 --> 00:27:04,199
Speaker 4: No?

625
00:27:04,200 --> 00:27:04,880
Speaker 1: No, have you ever?

626
00:27:05,600 --> 00:27:09,080
Speaker 3: Sometimes? But I have a very very keen memory. That's

627
00:27:09,080 --> 00:27:12,160
Speaker 3: one of my gifts. I'm able to remember things, especially

628
00:27:12,200 --> 00:27:13,280
Speaker 3: things that come out of my mind.

629
00:27:13,359 --> 00:27:13,960
Speaker 4: Once I get it.

630
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:16,360
Speaker 3: Out and I hear it, it's there, you know, I'm

631
00:27:16,359 --> 00:27:19,320
Speaker 3: able to retain it. So I was outside making up

632
00:27:19,359 --> 00:27:22,800
Speaker 3: my set. And as I was out there talking to

633
00:27:22,840 --> 00:27:25,119
Speaker 3: myself walking around in the circle, Nick came up and

634
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:27,439
Speaker 3: I'm sure now I know he just thought I was

635
00:27:27,480 --> 00:27:29,760
Speaker 3: just some crazy nigga outside talking to himself in New York.

636
00:27:30,280 --> 00:27:33,280
Speaker 3: But I went on stage and did my ten minutes

637
00:27:33,480 --> 00:27:35,360
Speaker 3: and killed because my set was.

638
00:27:35,320 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 4: About what just happened.

639
00:27:36,920 --> 00:27:39,600
Speaker 1: Okay, Oh brilliant, yeah, brilliant.

640
00:27:39,600 --> 00:27:41,359
Speaker 4: It was literally about what just happened.

641
00:27:41,400 --> 00:27:43,600
Speaker 3: So and it was about my day that I had

642
00:27:43,600 --> 00:27:46,080
Speaker 3: that day leading up until me being on stage. And

643
00:27:46,119 --> 00:27:49,160
Speaker 3: when I got off stage, Nick was like, man, hey.

644
00:27:48,960 --> 00:27:49,560
Speaker 4: Bro let me.

645
00:27:49,600 --> 00:27:51,680
Speaker 3: I'll let you real quick. And he was like, man,

646
00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:54,959
Speaker 3: was you just outside making all that up? Because I

647
00:27:55,000 --> 00:27:57,840
Speaker 3: said something about him walking in seeing me talking to

648
00:27:57,880 --> 00:28:00,560
Speaker 3: myself on stage, He said, was you just making that

649
00:28:00,640 --> 00:28:03,000
Speaker 3: up outside? I'm like yeah, he said, Man, I'm around

650
00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:04,399
Speaker 3: some of the best in the game. They can't do

651
00:28:04,440 --> 00:28:07,520
Speaker 3: what you just did. Keep working so fast forward the

652
00:28:07,560 --> 00:28:12,919
Speaker 3: next day, Dall invites me out to six Flags with them,

653
00:28:13,000 --> 00:28:16,640
Speaker 3: and at this point, I'm just a fly on the wall.

654
00:28:16,720 --> 00:28:18,760
Speaker 3: On the wall, I mean, I'm nobody at this point

655
00:28:18,800 --> 00:28:21,359
Speaker 3: in regards to you know where I sit now. And

656
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:25,480
Speaker 3: you know, I was out hanging with Dolly with Nick

657
00:28:25,600 --> 00:28:27,840
Speaker 3: and everything, and we went up to ride a roller

658
00:28:27,880 --> 00:28:30,840
Speaker 3: coaster and this is as close as I'd ever been.

659
00:28:30,680 --> 00:28:32,320
Speaker 4: To fame, you know that type.

660
00:28:32,359 --> 00:28:32,639
Speaker 2: Wow.

661
00:28:32,960 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 3: Okay, So I'm watching Nick walk up to ride the

662
00:28:37,359 --> 00:28:40,600
Speaker 3: roller coaster and people are going crazy, ah, trying to

663
00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:43,920
Speaker 3: take pictures, and the lady on the microphone that you

664
00:28:44,040 --> 00:28:46,480
Speaker 3: use to say take off, and she's like, don't hang

665
00:28:46,480 --> 00:28:49,240
Speaker 3: over the rails, and it's just trying to calm people down.

666
00:28:49,280 --> 00:28:54,400
Speaker 3: And I'm looking like, Okay, if I make an impact

667
00:28:54,920 --> 00:28:57,960
Speaker 3: in this game the way I feel like I'm going

668
00:28:58,000 --> 00:29:00,160
Speaker 3: to and want to, this is what my life life

669
00:29:00,200 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 3: will be.

670
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:02,800
Speaker 4: Can you deal with this? Can you deal with.

671
00:29:02,880 --> 00:29:06,040
Speaker 3: Not being able to ride a roller coaster without people

672
00:29:06,720 --> 00:29:09,000
Speaker 3: wanting to make noise and running up on you all

673
00:29:09,040 --> 00:29:09,400
Speaker 3: the time?

674
00:29:09,440 --> 00:29:10,960
Speaker 4: And I said, and I looked and I thought about it,

675
00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:14,240
Speaker 4: and I was like, yeah, I can do it. I

676
00:29:14,280 --> 00:29:15,479
Speaker 4: can do it. I can do it.

677
00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:18,200
Speaker 2: Well, Nick has it easier compared to because I remember

678
00:29:18,280 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 2: I did an event with Nick and Mariah once and

679
00:29:22,240 --> 00:29:24,080
Speaker 2: never was phased by some of the stuff that Nick

680
00:29:24,160 --> 00:29:26,720
Speaker 2: went through. I feel like he is truly a trooper

681
00:29:26,720 --> 00:29:29,480
Speaker 2: when it comes to that stuff. But seeing what Mariah

682
00:29:29,560 --> 00:29:33,360
Speaker 2: went through. I said that that I hate to say it,

683
00:29:33,440 --> 00:29:36,880
Speaker 2: but that life sucks because Mariah was like almost like

684
00:29:36,880 --> 00:29:38,440
Speaker 2: an animal like people.

685
00:29:38,200 --> 00:29:41,360
Speaker 1: Just she needed so much protection.

686
00:29:41,960 --> 00:29:43,920
Speaker 2: And I was like, yo, I actually feel bad, Like

687
00:29:44,000 --> 00:29:46,160
Speaker 2: can you imagine never going to a grocery store.

688
00:29:46,320 --> 00:29:48,280
Speaker 4: Yeah, that's a different that's another level, you know.

689
00:29:48,320 --> 00:29:49,520
Speaker 1: But Nick's level is cool.

690
00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:52,240
Speaker 3: No, I mean, you know, it depends on the environment.

691
00:29:52,360 --> 00:29:55,680
Speaker 3: You know, there are certain people who no matter what

692
00:29:55,880 --> 00:29:58,480
Speaker 3: environment they go to, is going to be that. There's

693
00:29:58,520 --> 00:30:01,360
Speaker 3: some people who you go to certain environments where it

694
00:30:01,360 --> 00:30:04,680
Speaker 3: won't be that, but if you go to certain places,

695
00:30:04,680 --> 00:30:08,080
Speaker 3: it's going to be pandemonium. So you know, that was

696
00:30:08,080 --> 00:30:11,720
Speaker 3: my introduction to you know, Nick Cannon. Fast forward two

697
00:30:11,800 --> 00:30:16,080
Speaker 3: years later, almost I see a tweet that he's bringing

698
00:30:16,120 --> 00:30:18,800
Speaker 3: back wilding Out. So I immediately called doll like, dollars

699
00:30:18,840 --> 00:30:20,800
Speaker 3: is real. She's like, yes, it's real. He has already

700
00:30:20,840 --> 00:30:23,040
Speaker 3: been talking about. So I'm like, man, whatever I got

701
00:30:23,080 --> 00:30:25,080
Speaker 3: to do, Man, let me know, because I had just

702
00:30:25,160 --> 00:30:27,440
Speaker 3: found out that I was getting laid off from my job. Now,

703
00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:29,000
Speaker 3: my job that I was working at the time, I

704
00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:32,320
Speaker 3: was a qualified professional. I worked with people with substance

705
00:30:32,360 --> 00:30:36,680
Speaker 3: abuse issues, autism.

706
00:30:35,880 --> 00:30:36,520
Speaker 4: All of the difference.

707
00:30:36,520 --> 00:30:37,600
Speaker 1: I didn't know job.

708
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:40,400
Speaker 4: Yeah when I before I became comedian full time.

709
00:30:40,480 --> 00:30:43,400
Speaker 1: Yes, And what was your college degree in?

710
00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:47,120
Speaker 3: It was in communications radio television with a minor in sociology.

711
00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:50,080
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, So the sociology is what I was using

712
00:30:50,080 --> 00:30:52,280
Speaker 3: to pay the bills up until I was able to

713
00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:57,520
Speaker 3: make comedy and entertainment my main source of income. But

714
00:30:57,760 --> 00:30:59,960
Speaker 3: I found out I was getting laid off. So Nick

715
00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:03,080
Speaker 3: ended up doing an audition in North Carolina because he

716
00:31:03,120 --> 00:31:07,360
Speaker 3: had a radio show that was naturally syndicated at the time,

717
00:31:07,480 --> 00:31:09,720
Speaker 3: so it was one of his affiliates in North Carolina.

718
00:31:09,800 --> 00:31:11,880
Speaker 3: So he just did a thing where he did an audition.

719
00:31:11,960 --> 00:31:14,040
Speaker 3: So me and my guy beat out went up and

720
00:31:14,080 --> 00:31:16,680
Speaker 3: did the audition, and he tells this story, which is interesting.

721
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:18,280
Speaker 4: I didn't even get this perspective. He said.

722
00:31:18,280 --> 00:31:21,959
Speaker 3: When he went in, you know, it was cool and

723
00:31:22,480 --> 00:31:25,280
Speaker 3: wasn't nobody really laughing. But from his vantage point, he said,

724
00:31:25,280 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 3: when I walked into the room, he said, I wasn't

725
00:31:27,480 --> 00:31:31,600
Speaker 3: in there for ten fifteen seconds before the room erupted

726
00:31:31,640 --> 00:31:32,080
Speaker 3: and laughter.

727
00:31:32,680 --> 00:31:35,000
Speaker 4: So that was my first audition.

728
00:31:35,160 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 3: And then Nick was like, you know, man, this was

729
00:31:37,800 --> 00:31:39,840
Speaker 3: just something I was doing, just to do, like as

730
00:31:39,880 --> 00:31:42,080
Speaker 3: a mock thing, but you just you got to come

731
00:31:42,080 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 3: to the real audition. So he invited me up to

732
00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:46,840
Speaker 3: New York to come to the real audition. Now at

733
00:31:46,840 --> 00:31:48,880
Speaker 3: this point, I'm like, how nay, hell, am I gonna

734
00:31:48,880 --> 00:31:50,640
Speaker 3: get to New York because I'm broke, you know what

735
00:31:50,640 --> 00:31:53,240
Speaker 3: I mean. So I took some clothes. I've always been very.

736
00:31:53,280 --> 00:31:55,320
Speaker 2: I was gonna say yours. We got to point it

737
00:31:55,320 --> 00:31:59,160
Speaker 2: out at the end. But your accessories, your stall and everything.

738
00:31:59,160 --> 00:31:59,920
Speaker 4: That's crazy.

739
00:32:00,040 --> 00:32:02,560
Speaker 3: And that's always been something that I've taken prior and

740
00:32:02,600 --> 00:32:05,440
Speaker 3: that's that's my only vice. That's always been my vice

741
00:32:05,480 --> 00:32:07,680
Speaker 3: because I started buying my own clothes when I was

742
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:09,760
Speaker 3: thirteen years old and I've been doing it ever since.

743
00:32:09,760 --> 00:32:12,240
Speaker 3: So it's embedded in me. So I always have nice

744
00:32:12,240 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 3: clothing and jewelry. Oh yeah, it was not The jewelry

745
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:18,360
Speaker 3: wasn't always nice, but the clothing was always decent. But uh,

746
00:32:19,280 --> 00:32:22,240
Speaker 3: I took some clothes to play those closet and traded

747
00:32:22,280 --> 00:32:23,760
Speaker 3: in the clothes to get the plane ticket to go.

748
00:32:23,720 --> 00:32:24,200
Speaker 4: To New York.

749
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 1: Oh wow.

750
00:32:24,680 --> 00:32:27,120
Speaker 3: And when I got to New York, I did the

751
00:32:27,200 --> 00:32:30,160
Speaker 3: second audition, and I made a joke about the fact

752
00:32:30,200 --> 00:32:32,000
Speaker 3: that I had to do good enough to come and

753
00:32:32,080 --> 00:32:34,360
Speaker 3: have to do good again, and then I you know,

754
00:32:34,480 --> 00:32:36,520
Speaker 3: killed the audition then. And then at the end it

755
00:32:36,640 --> 00:32:38,040
Speaker 3: was like, hey, remember that joke you made at the

756
00:32:38,040 --> 00:32:40,800
Speaker 3: beginning of your audition about having to come do good again? Yeah,

757
00:32:40,800 --> 00:32:42,160
Speaker 3: we were gonna need you to fly back up to

758
00:32:42,200 --> 00:32:43,000
Speaker 3: New York next week.

759
00:32:43,040 --> 00:32:46,120
Speaker 2: And I'm like, oh God, did you just well at

760
00:32:46,120 --> 00:32:47,560
Speaker 2: that point, wasn't Dolly staying in New York?

761
00:32:47,560 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 1: Couldn't you have?

762
00:32:48,720 --> 00:32:48,800
Speaker 3: Like?

763
00:32:49,360 --> 00:32:51,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean I could I stay. I did stay

764
00:32:51,400 --> 00:32:51,520
Speaker 4: with you?

765
00:32:51,560 --> 00:32:54,120
Speaker 1: Oh did you pull that movie man to New York?

766
00:32:54,240 --> 00:32:54,800
Speaker 4: You know what I mean?

767
00:32:55,560 --> 00:32:58,240
Speaker 3: So I remember going to my rental office and the

768
00:32:58,320 --> 00:33:00,920
Speaker 3: lady at the rental office, who you know, is a

769
00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:05,680
Speaker 3: lovely lady, still friends to this day, and she tells

770
00:33:05,720 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 3: me how proud she is of me all the time

771
00:33:07,360 --> 00:33:08,560
Speaker 3: and always jokes about this.

772
00:33:09,120 --> 00:33:10,440
Speaker 4: You know. She the reason I made it.

773
00:33:10,480 --> 00:33:13,400
Speaker 3: But I went to her and told her, like, I

774
00:33:13,440 --> 00:33:18,080
Speaker 3: have an opportunity that can change my life, and I'm

775
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:20,600
Speaker 3: gonna have to be laid on my rent to make

776
00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:23,240
Speaker 3: this opportunity happen. But I promise you, just you know,

777
00:33:23,320 --> 00:33:26,640
Speaker 3: give me, give me a couple more days, please, if

778
00:33:26,680 --> 00:33:29,320
Speaker 3: I can just get it to you. You know, I'll

779
00:33:29,360 --> 00:33:31,440
Speaker 3: be forever in your gratitude. She was like, baby, whatever

780
00:33:31,480 --> 00:33:33,080
Speaker 3: you got going on, I can see in your eyes,

781
00:33:33,120 --> 00:33:34,479
Speaker 3: go go do whatever you need to do.

782
00:33:34,880 --> 00:33:37,440
Speaker 4: I'll make it work. And I went back up to

783
00:33:37,480 --> 00:33:37,840
Speaker 4: New York.

784
00:33:37,880 --> 00:33:41,720
Speaker 3: We did the group audition, and then after the group audition,

785
00:33:42,440 --> 00:33:45,160
Speaker 3: I had, you know, waited a couple of weeks audition

786
00:33:45,360 --> 00:33:47,480
Speaker 3: where they had all of the people that are considering

787
00:33:47,520 --> 00:33:50,480
Speaker 3: for the show at the time. And I did the

788
00:33:50,480 --> 00:33:53,880
Speaker 3: group audition, and when I came back home, probably about

789
00:33:53,920 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 3: a week and a half. Two weeks later, I got

790
00:33:56,240 --> 00:34:00,000
Speaker 3: a call from now Evans, who's one of the producers

791
00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:03,040
Speaker 3: on the show, and he said, yeah, man, unfortunately we're

792
00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:04,200
Speaker 3: not going to be able to bring you in.

793
00:34:04,200 --> 00:34:08,239
Speaker 4: The workshop for the show. I was like, damn. He's like, yeah,

794
00:34:08,239 --> 00:34:09,600
Speaker 4: but welcome to the cast. A while orn out.

795
00:34:09,680 --> 00:34:11,680
Speaker 3: You made it, so some people have to come in

796
00:34:11,680 --> 00:34:15,200
Speaker 3: and work. He was like, you made the cast and

797
00:34:15,239 --> 00:34:16,000
Speaker 3: that was a tough one.

798
00:34:16,080 --> 00:34:17,880
Speaker 4: Yeah. So I got.

799
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,799
Speaker 3: Officially laid off January eleven, if I believe it was,

800
00:34:20,800 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 3: which was a Friday. That Monday, I flew out to

801
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:25,080
Speaker 3: shoot Wilder Out. I haven't worked since then.

802
00:34:25,440 --> 00:34:30,680
Speaker 2: Wow, what an incredible incredible, incredible story. Do you and

803
00:34:30,760 --> 00:34:32,880
Speaker 2: Dall ever look back and joke about.

804
00:34:32,760 --> 00:34:33,400
Speaker 4: All the time?

805
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:37,200
Speaker 3: All the time, man, all the time, like because we

806
00:34:37,280 --> 00:34:40,360
Speaker 3: came up together, Like we really literally came up together,

807
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:44,480
Speaker 3: like our whole experience, our whole growth process. Like to

808
00:34:44,560 --> 00:34:47,160
Speaker 3: say I'm proud of her is an understatement, you know,

809
00:34:47,640 --> 00:34:52,400
Speaker 3: because you know, we were having these conversations about what

810
00:34:52,440 --> 00:34:55,480
Speaker 3: we were going to do and going through those you know,

811
00:34:55,520 --> 00:34:58,359
Speaker 3: we were each other's therapists for years when it came

812
00:34:58,440 --> 00:35:00,439
Speaker 3: to trying to go through all of the the ups

813
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 3: and downs of entertainment, you know, from both sides of

814
00:35:03,480 --> 00:35:05,120
Speaker 3: the game, from her being on the other side of

815
00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:07,000
Speaker 3: the camera and me being on this side of the camera.

816
00:35:07,080 --> 00:35:11,760
Speaker 3: So you know, just seeing the growth that we both

817
00:35:11,800 --> 00:35:15,440
Speaker 3: have been able to experience, coming from where we come

818
00:35:15,480 --> 00:35:19,400
Speaker 3: from and really coming from starting together in the process

819
00:35:19,440 --> 00:35:21,520
Speaker 3: of making the name for ourselves.

820
00:35:21,520 --> 00:35:22,920
Speaker 4: Man, it's a blessing, you know.

821
00:35:23,000 --> 00:35:25,640
Speaker 3: I mean, I can't even really put in the words

822
00:35:25,719 --> 00:35:28,000
Speaker 3: how proud I am of her. And I know from

823
00:35:28,000 --> 00:35:30,040
Speaker 3: all of the things that she's done and all of

824
00:35:30,040 --> 00:35:34,960
Speaker 3: the love and you know, just opportunities that she's garnered

825
00:35:35,000 --> 00:35:36,759
Speaker 3: me just from believing the meat the way that she

826
00:35:36,880 --> 00:35:39,759
Speaker 3: has throughout the years. There's no doubt in my mind

827
00:35:39,760 --> 00:35:40,839
Speaker 3: that she's my biggest fan.

828
00:35:41,239 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think it says a lot too.

829
00:35:44,000 --> 00:35:46,080
Speaker 2: Whenever I hear someone say they're friends with Dolly, I'm like, yo,

830
00:35:46,120 --> 00:35:49,720
Speaker 2: you must have some level of integrity, some great level

831
00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:51,920
Speaker 2: of integrity. Yeah at all, because I feel like with

832
00:35:52,040 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 2: Doll there's just so much integrity.

833
00:35:54,320 --> 00:35:56,440
Speaker 4: And most people don't know who she really is. I

834
00:35:56,480 --> 00:35:59,279
Speaker 4: know her for real, like for real, I feel like

835
00:35:59,320 --> 00:36:01,440
Speaker 4: I know Doug most.

836
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,560
Speaker 1: I know her.

837
00:36:03,600 --> 00:36:04,320
Speaker 4: She's authentic.

838
00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:07,080
Speaker 3: She is a very authentic, but there's a side of

839
00:36:07,080 --> 00:36:09,759
Speaker 3: her that most people would be shocked if they saw.

840
00:36:09,840 --> 00:36:10,799
Speaker 4: I just leave it at down.

841
00:36:11,160 --> 00:36:13,520
Speaker 2: I believe that I recently had a conversation with her

842
00:36:13,560 --> 00:36:16,760
Speaker 2: that actually did shock me, and I kind of felt

843
00:36:16,800 --> 00:36:20,920
Speaker 2: bad afterwards, like you know, like that was shocked, Like

844
00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:24,640
Speaker 2: I saw a more vulnerable side of her than she

845
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:27,160
Speaker 2: She shows so much strength that I was actually taken back,

846
00:36:27,200 --> 00:36:28,600
Speaker 2: and I was like, damn, that's why we got to

847
00:36:28,640 --> 00:36:30,879
Speaker 2: be nice to the people that think we think are

848
00:36:31,280 --> 00:36:33,520
Speaker 2: so strong, like even like your mom, you.

849
00:36:33,480 --> 00:36:35,880
Speaker 3: Know, like if you if you knew Dog's background, man,

850
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:38,640
Speaker 3: And that's the thing. I know her whole family like everybody,

851
00:36:38,719 --> 00:36:39,080
Speaker 3: like you.

852
00:36:39,040 --> 00:36:41,040
Speaker 1: Know, oh you know them when I show up.

853
00:36:40,960 --> 00:36:43,320
Speaker 4: I show up. You know, I'm family, you know what

854
00:36:43,360 --> 00:36:44,600
Speaker 4: I mean? Like this is it?

855
00:36:44,760 --> 00:36:47,400
Speaker 3: It's different with us, like that's my partner, you know

856
00:36:47,400 --> 00:36:50,560
Speaker 3: what I mean, like point blank period that there's nothing

857
00:36:50,560 --> 00:36:52,359
Speaker 3: that I wouldn't share with There's nothing we wouldn't share

858
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 3: with each other. We never lied to each other about anything,

859
00:36:55,040 --> 00:36:58,120
Speaker 3: no matter what it is. So you know when I

860
00:36:58,160 --> 00:37:00,759
Speaker 3: go and you know, show up to see where she

861
00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:03,359
Speaker 3: comes from and vice versa, Like people would never know

862
00:37:04,120 --> 00:37:06,880
Speaker 3: our backgrounds when you meet us and have conversations with us,

863
00:37:06,880 --> 00:37:08,479
Speaker 3: you would never know that we come from the type

864
00:37:08,480 --> 00:37:09,839
Speaker 3: of environments that we come from.

865
00:37:09,880 --> 00:37:11,000
Speaker 4: But it'll really.

866
00:37:10,840 --> 00:37:14,640
Speaker 3: Shock you, like people, people, people would be ten times

867
00:37:14,680 --> 00:37:17,360
Speaker 3: more enaminate shocked with her as a person if they

868
00:37:17,440 --> 00:37:19,239
Speaker 3: knew where she came from.

869
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:22,399
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, I'm a little familiar, but not all the way.

870
00:37:22,440 --> 00:37:26,040
Speaker 2: But I know she came from a lot. But we're

871
00:37:26,080 --> 00:37:28,520
Speaker 2: gonna go ahead and try to Yeah, we're gonna have

872
00:37:28,560 --> 00:37:30,120
Speaker 2: to test your seasoning skills.

873
00:37:30,120 --> 00:37:34,080
Speaker 3: I'm gonna put one in here, and I'm gonna put

874
00:37:34,080 --> 00:37:36,280
Speaker 3: one in here because I don't think they got any

875
00:37:36,520 --> 00:37:41,560
Speaker 3: type of antaskit or anything for us here what you

876
00:37:41,600 --> 00:37:42,840
Speaker 3: say and acids?

877
00:37:44,320 --> 00:37:44,839
Speaker 4: You know what I mean.

878
00:37:45,080 --> 00:37:46,960
Speaker 2: I'm gonna try and avoid as much of the beef

879
00:37:47,000 --> 00:37:48,400
Speaker 2: because I am allergic.

880
00:37:48,760 --> 00:37:49,319
Speaker 4: I mean too.

881
00:37:49,640 --> 00:37:51,040
Speaker 1: I'm just I'm gonna get the tip.

882
00:37:51,400 --> 00:37:54,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm not gonna get the tip or nothing, but

883
00:37:55,239 --> 00:37:57,239
Speaker 3: I'm gonna get a little bit of this noodle here and.

884
00:37:57,480 --> 00:38:01,200
Speaker 1: I got the noodle sire shit h.

885
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:05,000
Speaker 4: Y y that's the same.

886
00:38:05,960 --> 00:38:08,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, still even with the season.

887
00:38:08,400 --> 00:38:11,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, still still chef id It's crazy.

888
00:38:11,440 --> 00:38:13,239
Speaker 2: I used to like when I would go to the

889
00:38:13,280 --> 00:38:15,720
Speaker 2: grocery store with my parents, I used to like pray.

890
00:38:16,080 --> 00:38:18,440
Speaker 2: I would never really ask because you know, my parents

891
00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,000
Speaker 2: would tell you can ask, but they always see the answer. No,

892
00:38:21,680 --> 00:38:23,920
Speaker 2: it just gets annoying after a while. But I used

893
00:38:23,920 --> 00:38:26,000
Speaker 2: to always pray. They would put like shepherd d in

894
00:38:26,000 --> 00:38:29,080
Speaker 2: the basket. I used to think this was like filet.

895
00:38:29,600 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 4: Oh yeah it was back in the day.

896
00:38:31,120 --> 00:38:33,560
Speaker 1: But now but now I'm like, yo, what was I think?

897
00:38:33,640 --> 00:38:33,799
Speaker 2: Oh?

898
00:38:33,920 --> 00:38:36,919
Speaker 4: Yeah, that used to leave a film in your mouth.

899
00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:41,840
Speaker 2: What are some things that you learned about the industry

900
00:38:41,920 --> 00:38:43,920
Speaker 2: after coming that were tough lessons?

901
00:38:46,440 --> 00:38:46,720
Speaker 4: Man?

902
00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:57,000
Speaker 3: Tough lessons. Uh, integrity is far and few between. But

903
00:38:58,680 --> 00:38:59,879
Speaker 3: people pretending to happen.

904
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:07,840
Speaker 4: Integrity is everywhere you go. So when you meet somebody who.

905
00:39:09,239 --> 00:39:11,640
Speaker 3: Is able to where everybody wears masks, you know just

906
00:39:11,640 --> 00:39:14,200
Speaker 3: in general everybody does in some way, shape or form.

907
00:39:14,239 --> 00:39:16,960
Speaker 4: But it's very difficult.

908
00:39:16,480 --> 00:39:19,520
Speaker 3: To deal with the things that come with this industry

909
00:39:19,560 --> 00:39:21,680
Speaker 3: when people got on two and three and four masks

910
00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:24,000
Speaker 3: and you think that you know somebody somebody then they

911
00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:25,879
Speaker 3: take a mask off and you realize they're not who

912
00:39:25,880 --> 00:39:27,120
Speaker 3: they are, and they'd be like, well, I was just

913
00:39:27,160 --> 00:39:29,400
Speaker 3: wearing that one just to be in this environment, and

914
00:39:29,520 --> 00:39:32,600
Speaker 3: you see them take another one off, and its integrity

915
00:39:32,680 --> 00:39:35,480
Speaker 3: is very, very fond few between real integrity.

916
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:39,240
Speaker 4: Another hard lesson that I've learned is.

917
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:46,560
Speaker 3: Every opportunity doesn't come with a check attached to it.

918
00:39:48,280 --> 00:39:51,920
Speaker 3: Some opportunity is just opportunity, and you have to be

919
00:39:51,960 --> 00:39:56,400
Speaker 3: able to accept opportunity without being given any compensation for

920
00:39:56,520 --> 00:39:59,200
Speaker 3: it to really gain what is really there for you

921
00:39:59,280 --> 00:40:01,759
Speaker 3: to be compensated for it in the long run. So

922
00:40:02,360 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 3: there have been and it's not after coming into the industry,

923
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:08,719
Speaker 3: but prior to coming to the industry, there were a

924
00:40:08,719 --> 00:40:12,360
Speaker 3: lot of opportunities that I turned down because I needed

925
00:40:12,400 --> 00:40:14,319
Speaker 3: money so bad and there was no money there that

926
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:18,240
Speaker 3: would have taught me certain lessons that I learned after

927
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:21,120
Speaker 3: getting money that would have saved me some money.

928
00:40:21,360 --> 00:40:22,160
Speaker 4: If that makes sense.

929
00:40:22,360 --> 00:40:24,160
Speaker 1: No, it makes sense. It makes a lot of sense.

930
00:40:24,480 --> 00:40:26,600
Speaker 2: What I've learned even just being here the last couple

931
00:40:26,640 --> 00:40:29,520
Speaker 2: of weeks, is that everyone that has been on this

932
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:34,239
Speaker 2: set like they are every corner, they're looking for a

933
00:40:34,360 --> 00:40:39,200
Speaker 2: window of opportunity and they are maximizing on it. And

934
00:40:39,280 --> 00:40:42,160
Speaker 2: a lot of the opportunities I've heard sitting here this

935
00:40:42,440 --> 00:40:45,640
Speaker 2: last week, a lot of them were not tied to

936
00:40:45,680 --> 00:40:48,720
Speaker 2: a check. Yeah, but it definitely was a pivotal moment

937
00:40:48,920 --> 00:40:52,279
Speaker 2: that led to that check wasn't right around the corner either.

938
00:40:53,280 --> 00:40:55,400
Speaker 2: That's why I'm always curious about, like what the mindset

939
00:40:55,440 --> 00:40:57,440
Speaker 2: is when you're going through that. I know me personally,

940
00:40:57,560 --> 00:40:59,480
Speaker 2: I'm always back my FOD, like, am I doing the

941
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:01,839
Speaker 2: right thing? Is this is gonna be my last run?

942
00:41:02,040 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 2: Is this almost up? What's my next game plan? What's

943
00:41:05,000 --> 00:41:08,359
Speaker 2: my next move? But you know, it's great when you

944
00:41:08,680 --> 00:41:10,880
Speaker 2: love what you do. I love hearing people's stories like

945
00:41:10,920 --> 00:41:12,960
Speaker 2: I love this stuff, Like I literally like I could

946
00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:14,399
Speaker 2: do this all day for the rest of my life.

947
00:41:14,480 --> 00:41:17,000
Speaker 4: What made you start to do this? Why this of all.

948
00:41:16,880 --> 00:41:20,880
Speaker 1: Things, because I I love me and broke guye, but

949
00:41:21,640 --> 00:41:24,440
Speaker 1: a lot of my friends a lot.

950
00:41:24,320 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 2: Of time out now I love me and broke and

951
00:41:26,280 --> 00:41:28,240
Speaker 2: I'm just saying past me, past sends me.

952
00:41:29,400 --> 00:41:32,120
Speaker 1: You say that, let me say it right now.

953
00:41:32,160 --> 00:41:33,919
Speaker 4: I'm past tense, past tense.

954
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:34,600
Speaker 1: I'm gonna say this.

955
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:36,880
Speaker 3: I'm telling you this a nigga eating some ravioli right

956
00:41:36,880 --> 00:41:38,560
Speaker 3: now that just drop the bowl like nigga.

957
00:41:38,600 --> 00:41:39,359
Speaker 4: I knew she was.

958
00:41:39,360 --> 00:41:42,879
Speaker 2: Mine, so I used to love me a broke guye

959
00:41:43,040 --> 00:41:47,080
Speaker 2: and I started. But I also noticed that I had

960
00:41:47,120 --> 00:41:49,239
Speaker 2: these like two different worlds I was in. I was

961
00:41:49,239 --> 00:41:53,160
Speaker 2: constantly in the world of by accident or whatever, like

962
00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:55,560
Speaker 2: I had Nick Cannon as a business partner for ten

963
00:41:55,600 --> 00:41:58,680
Speaker 2: plus years, or always be in these environments where somebody

964
00:41:58,719 --> 00:42:01,960
Speaker 2: in my life was extreme levels of success and being

965
00:42:02,000 --> 00:42:05,480
Speaker 2: around them their thought process more aligned with mine. But

966
00:42:05,520 --> 00:42:09,280
Speaker 2: growing up where I'm from, I'm more comfortable over here

967
00:42:09,719 --> 00:42:13,960
Speaker 2: in Brokeland. And one of my homies used to when

968
00:42:13,960 --> 00:42:16,239
Speaker 2: I went through a breakup, because you know, some guys

969
00:42:16,280 --> 00:42:17,960
Speaker 2: are more insecure than others. They'd be like, man, you

970
00:42:17,960 --> 00:42:20,000
Speaker 2: can't hang out with this rich guy and I'm over

971
00:42:20,080 --> 00:42:22,040
Speaker 2: here and we don't like you doing that. So journal

972
00:42:22,080 --> 00:42:23,239
Speaker 2: one of my breakups, I was like, you know what,

973
00:42:23,239 --> 00:42:25,759
Speaker 2: fuck that, I'm gonna hang out with whoever. Fuck I

974
00:42:25,800 --> 00:42:29,319
Speaker 2: want my real friends, which were successful people. But you know,

975
00:42:29,360 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 2: I was constantly in between both worlds. So I started

976
00:42:31,520 --> 00:42:34,279
Speaker 2: spending more time with my successful friends and they would

977
00:42:34,320 --> 00:42:37,600
Speaker 2: tell me these amazing stories on like who they were

978
00:42:37,719 --> 00:42:41,399
Speaker 2: to get to where they're at. And at the time,

979
00:42:41,440 --> 00:42:43,080
Speaker 2: I was going through a breakup and one of my homies,

980
00:42:43,120 --> 00:42:45,640
Speaker 2: day storm Power, shout out to him. He always told

981
00:42:45,640 --> 00:42:47,239
Speaker 2: these stories about like how he's an ascory, he went

982
00:42:47,280 --> 00:42:49,040
Speaker 2: to jail, he did this, he did that, he did

983
00:42:49,040 --> 00:42:51,319
Speaker 2: this intern da da da, and then like someone else

984
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:53,520
Speaker 2: that was successful, chiming, and they tell their story and

985
00:42:53,520 --> 00:42:55,600
Speaker 2: I'd be like, man, these stories are so fascinating. I

986
00:42:55,640 --> 00:42:59,960
Speaker 2: could listen to them forever. And I love mentorship. And

987
00:43:00,160 --> 00:43:02,600
Speaker 2: so the stars aligned and I was thinking about the

988
00:43:02,640 --> 00:43:07,319
Speaker 2: process and the pandemic hit true story. Dolly plays a

989
00:43:08,080 --> 00:43:11,880
Speaker 2: ironically weird role in my story. But Dolly and I,

990
00:43:11,920 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 2: you know, we work with Nick together, and we both

991
00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:17,880
Speaker 2: checked out. I'll say a couple of years within, you know,

992
00:43:17,920 --> 00:43:21,200
Speaker 2: going growing up in the industry and seeing men go broke,

993
00:43:21,280 --> 00:43:24,719
Speaker 2: seeing men had their kids sleep on floors, living closets.

994
00:43:24,760 --> 00:43:27,719
Speaker 2: You exposed to so much craziness in LA and being

995
00:43:27,760 --> 00:43:30,560
Speaker 2: in the industry, you'd be like, man, is this going

996
00:43:30,640 --> 00:43:32,040
Speaker 2: to be my life? Especially as a young person, you

997
00:43:32,160 --> 00:43:34,480
Speaker 2: be like, man, this dude's broken. He's ten years older me.

998
00:43:34,520 --> 00:43:35,920
Speaker 2: He got his wife and his kids sleeping in the

999
00:43:35,920 --> 00:43:38,920
Speaker 2: car and he still was he doing it for the groupies,

1000
00:43:38,960 --> 00:43:41,239
Speaker 2: you know. So I was trying to get traumatized by

1001
00:43:41,280 --> 00:43:44,040
Speaker 2: like some of the brokeness I saw, and I was like, man,

1002
00:43:44,080 --> 00:43:45,800
Speaker 2: I was telling Nick, like, Nick, I should make it

1003
00:43:45,840 --> 00:43:47,719
Speaker 2: when I'm twenty four, I should be a billionaire, and

1004
00:43:47,760 --> 00:43:50,000
Speaker 2: He's like, don't worry about that. Like a lot of

1005
00:43:50,080 --> 00:43:53,520
Speaker 2: stuff is fake. But anyways, hanging out with my friends,

1006
00:43:53,520 --> 00:43:57,120
Speaker 2: I started to realize like different mindsets and now I'm

1007
00:43:57,120 --> 00:43:59,240
Speaker 2: at the point where I'm like, you know what, maybe

1008
00:43:59,239 --> 00:44:02,200
Speaker 2: I just belong here and this is who I'm comfortable with.

1009
00:44:02,360 --> 00:44:05,319
Speaker 2: Like I'm comfortable with my broke friends, but now I'm like,

1010
00:44:06,000 --> 00:44:08,120
Speaker 2: I'm also comfortable with my rich friends because they're the

1011
00:44:08,200 --> 00:44:13,680
Speaker 2: mindset currently is more aligned than these over here. But anyways,

1012
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:18,200
Speaker 2: long story short, the pandemic happens my current business tanks.

1013
00:44:18,239 --> 00:44:22,640
Speaker 2: It was a corporate events company, and uh, I'm like, yo,

1014
00:44:22,680 --> 00:44:24,360
Speaker 2: I want to do this, So I pitched my friends.

1015
00:44:24,600 --> 00:44:26,640
Speaker 2: Of course, all the celebrity friends like you gotta do it.

1016
00:44:26,640 --> 00:44:27,399
Speaker 1: You won't have a choice.

1017
00:44:27,400 --> 00:44:30,000
Speaker 2: They're like, girl, you ain't never done nothing in front

1018
00:44:30,000 --> 00:44:33,760
Speaker 2: of the camera, and you don't have no production values whatever.

1019
00:44:34,080 --> 00:44:35,680
Speaker 2: And I was out the game for ten years. I

1020
00:44:35,719 --> 00:44:38,440
Speaker 2: was like, Dolly, you have more celebrity relationships than me

1021
00:44:38,520 --> 00:44:40,440
Speaker 2: at this point, so you got to be my partner.

1022
00:44:40,480 --> 00:44:42,279
Speaker 2: You don't have a choice. You're gonna be my partner

1023
00:44:42,320 --> 00:44:45,239
Speaker 2: because I need your roller decks whatever. And fast forward

1024
00:44:45,320 --> 00:44:48,279
Speaker 2: she becomes the president of Black Effect. Fast forward, they

1025
00:44:48,280 --> 00:44:51,440
Speaker 2: need a cooking show. Fast forward my baby that I

1026
00:44:51,440 --> 00:44:53,799
Speaker 2: had been working on during the pandemic. She calls me.

1027
00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:56,680
Speaker 2: She's like, you're gonna murder me and I'm like why.

1028
00:44:56,840 --> 00:45:00,000
Speaker 2: She's like, I had this call with Icmiheart and everybody,

1029
00:45:00,280 --> 00:45:02,239
Speaker 2: and they need a cooking show. So I pissed your

1030
00:45:02,280 --> 00:45:05,799
Speaker 2: show and I was like, okay, why would I kill you?

1031
00:45:05,800 --> 00:45:06,000
Speaker 1: You know?

1032
00:45:06,080 --> 00:45:09,120
Speaker 2: And she's like, Charlottage wants it like now, and I

1033
00:45:09,160 --> 00:45:12,640
Speaker 2: was like, why would I kill you? Like girl, we

1034
00:45:12,719 --> 00:45:15,160
Speaker 2: broke the table. Sitting here in my garage, my neighbors

1035
00:45:15,200 --> 00:45:17,000
Speaker 2: are driving by, like what are you doing this time?

1036
00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:20,000
Speaker 2: You know? And so I was like, I really didn't

1037
00:45:20,040 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 2: have a functioning plan outside of building this concept. But

1038
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:26,000
Speaker 2: luckily I was already working on it. So when sear

1039
00:45:26,040 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 2: I wanted to show, all I had to do was pressent.

1040
00:45:27,840 --> 00:45:29,520
Speaker 2: Everything was pretty much done at that point.

1041
00:45:29,640 --> 00:45:30,680
Speaker 4: I'm gonna give you how I did it.

1042
00:45:30,760 --> 00:45:32,359
Speaker 3: I just thought of you just said you love your

1043
00:45:32,440 --> 00:45:35,279
Speaker 3: broke man and passed. You need to get some of

1044
00:45:35,320 --> 00:45:36,640
Speaker 3: them niggas to come on here and make some of

1045
00:45:36,640 --> 00:45:38,719
Speaker 3: the meals that had you sleeping in the house with them.

1046
00:45:39,000 --> 00:45:40,479
Speaker 4: They we need to know.

1047
00:45:41,040 --> 00:45:43,360
Speaker 1: What we never gone back to.

1048
00:45:44,560 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 3: You don't have to go back, but I'm I mean,

1049
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:48,719
Speaker 3: I know what really kept you over there, because broke

1050
00:45:48,800 --> 00:45:50,000
Speaker 3: niggas fuck different.

1051
00:45:50,200 --> 00:45:56,959
Speaker 4: They they broke niggas are going. Boy, that the good.

1052
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:57,680
Speaker 1: The motherfucker.

1053
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:00,719
Speaker 3: After I finished getting myself in this least right here,

1054
00:46:02,200 --> 00:46:02,680
Speaker 3: right on.

1055
00:46:02,640 --> 00:46:04,600
Speaker 1: To this least, they have sex for a different reason.

1056
00:46:04,640 --> 00:46:08,719
Speaker 4: You god damn right, boy, You.

1057
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,920
Speaker 3: Legs and I get tired the way of broke nigga.

1058
00:46:14,000 --> 00:46:16,279
Speaker 3: Legs don't get tired when he needs somewhere to sleep

1059
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:19,960
Speaker 3: at night, but that nigga will fuck his way out

1060
00:46:20,000 --> 00:46:21,800
Speaker 3: of a jam gun, I'm telling.

1061
00:46:21,600 --> 00:46:22,720
Speaker 1: You my homies.

1062
00:46:22,880 --> 00:46:24,560
Speaker 2: My homies used to clown me all the time to

1063
00:46:24,640 --> 00:46:25,879
Speaker 2: be like, I don't get it.

1064
00:46:25,920 --> 00:46:27,000
Speaker 1: But then I'll tell you this.

1065
00:46:27,440 --> 00:46:29,600
Speaker 2: A lot of my successful homies would be like, oh,

1066
00:46:29,719 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 2: never date a girl like you.

1067
00:46:31,000 --> 00:46:33,040
Speaker 3: No, Well whatever, I used to be that nigga, and

1068
00:46:33,120 --> 00:46:35,360
Speaker 3: I know I can fuck my way out of a

1069
00:46:35,440 --> 00:46:40,080
Speaker 3: jam gun if I mean, I'm gonna have somewhere to stay.

1070
00:46:40,360 --> 00:46:42,200
Speaker 4: Thank God he didn't put me in that position.

1071
00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:45,520
Speaker 3: But should I have been the young nigga that I

1072
00:46:45,560 --> 00:46:47,720
Speaker 3: was at a certain point trying to make this happen?

1073
00:46:48,200 --> 00:46:49,040
Speaker 4: Whoa boy?

1074
00:46:49,360 --> 00:46:51,960
Speaker 3: I'd have been in love in three states wherever I

1075
00:46:52,080 --> 00:46:52,960
Speaker 3: was getting booked at.

1076
00:46:53,200 --> 00:46:54,160
Speaker 4: My wife is there?

1077
00:46:54,640 --> 00:46:56,640
Speaker 1: Your whole area, man, is what it is.

1078
00:46:56,680 --> 00:46:58,920
Speaker 3: But you know, luckily, you know, God didn't see that

1079
00:46:59,200 --> 00:47:14,719
Speaker 3: as my trajectory. And the thing that I say now

1080
00:47:14,840 --> 00:47:17,080
Speaker 3: to anybody that may be watching that may be broke,

1081
00:47:18,400 --> 00:47:20,719
Speaker 3: coming from somebody who was and came through that, the

1082
00:47:20,800 --> 00:47:25,399
Speaker 3: thing that keeps me humble, if you will. I hate

1083
00:47:25,400 --> 00:47:28,600
Speaker 3: that word because it's so overused now, but the thing

1084
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:32,040
Speaker 3: that makes me recognize what blessings are and how you

1085
00:47:32,080 --> 00:47:36,279
Speaker 3: know progression work? The word to me The life that

1086
00:47:36,320 --> 00:47:39,960
Speaker 3: we live is all about perception. How you perceive things.

1087
00:47:40,120 --> 00:47:43,680
Speaker 3: You know, I'm looking at you now, You'll never see

1088
00:47:43,719 --> 00:47:45,279
Speaker 3: what I see when I look at you. I'll never

1089
00:47:45,280 --> 00:47:46,880
Speaker 3: see what you see when you look at me. We

1090
00:47:46,960 --> 00:47:49,040
Speaker 3: only have two eyes that we get in this lifetime.

1091
00:47:49,080 --> 00:47:52,200
Speaker 3: So how you see things will shape your life. And

1092
00:47:52,320 --> 00:47:55,279
Speaker 3: for me, what keeps me in pocket is knowing that

1093
00:47:55,320 --> 00:47:58,400
Speaker 3: today the problems that I have, the issues that I

1094
00:47:58,440 --> 00:48:00,920
Speaker 3: have at this point in my life life would have

1095
00:48:00,960 --> 00:48:04,759
Speaker 3: been the solution to every one of my problems now,

1096
00:48:04,840 --> 00:48:07,120
Speaker 3: would have solved every problem I had when I wasn't

1097
00:48:07,200 --> 00:48:11,279
Speaker 3: checking my mailbox. The things that I might oh, man,

1098
00:48:11,280 --> 00:48:12,600
Speaker 3: I goes for me.

1099
00:48:12,800 --> 00:48:13,880
Speaker 4: I have to. I have to.

1100
00:48:14,040 --> 00:48:16,520
Speaker 3: The things that are problems are issues that may aggravate

1101
00:48:16,560 --> 00:48:18,640
Speaker 3: me in my life now. For example, or I just

1102
00:48:18,719 --> 00:48:22,040
Speaker 3: had to pay six thousand dollars for flights for my

1103
00:48:22,120 --> 00:48:26,640
Speaker 3: team ten years ago, six thousand dollars. I might have

1104
00:48:26,719 --> 00:48:28,800
Speaker 3: did something to you for six thousand dollars ten thousand,

1105
00:48:28,840 --> 00:48:31,680
Speaker 3: ten years ago. You know what I mean, I might

1106
00:48:31,719 --> 00:48:34,120
Speaker 3: have I might have did something to you for six g's.

1107
00:48:34,480 --> 00:48:35,840
Speaker 4: So it puts it in perspective.

1108
00:48:35,920 --> 00:48:39,560
Speaker 3: The things that God puts into your life is just

1109
00:48:39,600 --> 00:48:41,719
Speaker 3: a moment if you can work through it. Because, like

1110
00:48:41,800 --> 00:48:44,600
Speaker 3: I said, me having to worry about the things that

1111
00:48:44,640 --> 00:48:47,520
Speaker 3: I'm having to worry about now, I have to recognize

1112
00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:49,359
Speaker 3: that I'm blessed to be able to deal with things.

1113
00:48:49,360 --> 00:48:52,719
Speaker 3: Because money isn't anything but a cushion. It doesn't stop problems.

1114
00:48:53,080 --> 00:48:55,919
Speaker 3: Instead of when you got money, now when you fall down,

1115
00:48:55,960 --> 00:48:58,240
Speaker 3: you don't fall down and break your leg and strap

1116
00:48:58,320 --> 00:49:01,080
Speaker 3: your knee and your face scratched up. Now you just boom,

1117
00:49:01,239 --> 00:49:03,320
Speaker 3: you bounce back up. But that don't stop you from falling.

1118
00:49:03,600 --> 00:49:05,080
Speaker 3: They don't stop you from having to go through the

1119
00:49:05,080 --> 00:49:07,200
Speaker 3: problems in life. But it's all perspective, you know what

1120
00:49:07,200 --> 00:49:10,239
Speaker 3: I mean. If your perspective, if you still in the

1121
00:49:10,280 --> 00:49:13,360
Speaker 3: perspective that you were in, no matter how much money

1122
00:49:13,360 --> 00:49:15,600
Speaker 3: you got, you'll always be broke. But if you have

1123
00:49:15,680 --> 00:49:18,920
Speaker 3: a grandiose perspective, no matter how much money you don't have,

1124
00:49:19,080 --> 00:49:19,520
Speaker 3: you're rich.

1125
00:49:19,600 --> 00:49:21,040
Speaker 4: It's just you ain't got the money yet.

1126
00:49:21,239 --> 00:49:22,839
Speaker 1: Yeah. I like that.

1127
00:49:23,200 --> 00:49:26,799
Speaker 2: I've been learning recently too, and I've been saying this

1128
00:49:26,880 --> 00:49:30,239
Speaker 2: to myself a lot more. Is life doesn't happen to you,

1129
00:49:30,280 --> 00:49:32,920
Speaker 2: it happens for you. So like even with negatives, I'll

1130
00:49:32,920 --> 00:49:35,960
Speaker 2: be like yo. But now I live by the Serenity prayer,

1131
00:49:36,000 --> 00:49:38,359
Speaker 2: which I don't memorize any prayers, but that's the only

1132
00:49:38,400 --> 00:49:39,879
Speaker 2: prayer I say one hundred times a day.

1133
00:49:39,920 --> 00:49:40,480
Speaker 4: So what is that?

1134
00:49:40,719 --> 00:49:43,799
Speaker 2: It's God gramm me the serenity to accept the things

1135
00:49:43,840 --> 00:49:46,759
Speaker 2: I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can,

1136
00:49:46,880 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 2: and the wisdom to recognize the difference. I say that,

1137
00:49:50,080 --> 00:49:52,279
Speaker 2: I promise, I promise you. It'll be two in the

1138
00:49:52,320 --> 00:49:54,960
Speaker 2: morning I wake up. I promise you. I'm saying that prayer.

1139
00:49:55,000 --> 00:49:56,600
Speaker 2: It'll be three in the morning. It could be walking

1140
00:49:56,600 --> 00:49:58,680
Speaker 2: the dog, it could be talking. It doesn't matter if

1141
00:49:58,719 --> 00:50:00,520
Speaker 2: I'm facing of a challenge or not. I'm having a

1142
00:50:00,560 --> 00:50:02,839
Speaker 2: good time. That's the only prayer I say to myself

1143
00:50:02,880 --> 00:50:03,719
Speaker 2: at least hundred times.

1144
00:50:03,960 --> 00:50:04,160
Speaker 4: Yeah.

1145
00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:06,000
Speaker 3: I'm working on a book right now called The bright

1146
00:50:06,040 --> 00:50:10,040
Speaker 3: Side of Bullshit, and it's basically that perspective, you know,

1147
00:50:10,200 --> 00:50:13,120
Speaker 3: always being able to find a silver lining no matter

1148
00:50:13,160 --> 00:50:15,319
Speaker 3: what the situation is. You know, my mother passed away

1149
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:17,399
Speaker 3: in twenty twenty one from COVID. I lost my mom,

1150
00:50:17,440 --> 00:50:20,160
Speaker 3: which was the most devastating hit that I could have

1151
00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:22,160
Speaker 3: took in life. At that point, you know, I thought

1152
00:50:22,200 --> 00:50:24,399
Speaker 3: that I was immune to death because I had dealt

1153
00:50:24,400 --> 00:50:26,640
Speaker 3: with so much of it, but nothing prepared me for

1154
00:50:26,680 --> 00:50:30,360
Speaker 3: my mother. But in finding the bright side of bullshit,

1155
00:50:30,440 --> 00:50:33,040
Speaker 3: I realized that although it was tough for me to

1156
00:50:33,160 --> 00:50:35,480
Speaker 3: have to rub her back while she passed away and

1157
00:50:35,520 --> 00:50:39,120
Speaker 3: watch her leave here, what it did to me isn't

1158
00:50:39,400 --> 00:50:41,319
Speaker 3: anywhere in comparison to what it would have did to

1159
00:50:41,360 --> 00:50:42,920
Speaker 3: her had she had to do it for me. And

1160
00:50:42,960 --> 00:50:45,040
Speaker 3: there was a time in my life when that could

1161
00:50:45,040 --> 00:50:48,239
Speaker 3: have really been a realistic possibility for my mother from

1162
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:49,759
Speaker 3: the way I was living and the things that I

1163
00:50:49,800 --> 00:50:52,759
Speaker 3: was into. So as tough as it is for me

1164
00:50:53,040 --> 00:50:55,640
Speaker 3: to have to say goodbye to my mother, that's the

1165
00:50:55,640 --> 00:50:57,799
Speaker 3: way the circle of life goes, and her dream came

1166
00:50:57,840 --> 00:51:00,200
Speaker 3: true because she left here before children did and where

1167
00:51:00,200 --> 00:51:03,400
Speaker 3: it's supposed to go. So being able to find the

1168
00:51:03,440 --> 00:51:06,600
Speaker 3: bright side of bullshit is something that you know, I'm

1169
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:08,960
Speaker 3: very stoic in my mentality and a lot of things,

1170
00:51:09,080 --> 00:51:11,359
Speaker 3: you know, I mean, you know, I'm more faty. As

1171
00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:13,760
Speaker 3: one of my favorite sayings, it's just love your fate,

1172
00:51:13,920 --> 00:51:17,839
Speaker 3: because you know, I truly believe that God is real.

1173
00:51:17,880 --> 00:51:19,799
Speaker 3: I believe in the High Power. I'm not religious at all,

1174
00:51:19,840 --> 00:51:21,960
Speaker 3: but I'm very spiritual, and I believe that whatever your

1175
00:51:22,040 --> 00:51:24,400
Speaker 3: journey is has already been planned out for you. You just

1176
00:51:24,440 --> 00:51:26,400
Speaker 3: got to walk it. So there's nothing that you can

1177
00:51:26,440 --> 00:51:28,080
Speaker 3: do to change it. The only thing that you can

1178
00:51:28,120 --> 00:51:30,040
Speaker 3: do is have a perspective that is strong enough for

1179
00:51:30,080 --> 00:51:32,560
Speaker 3: you to understand that you can't change it and embrace

1180
00:51:32,640 --> 00:51:34,920
Speaker 3: whatever comes with it. And because one day it's going

1181
00:51:34,960 --> 00:51:37,440
Speaker 3: to be your last day on this planet with everybody.

1182
00:51:37,040 --> 00:51:37,560
Speaker 4: That you love.

1183
00:51:37,640 --> 00:51:40,000
Speaker 3: So if that's the case, what do you want to

1184
00:51:40,040 --> 00:51:41,799
Speaker 3: be remembered by? Do you want to be remembered by

1185
00:51:41,800 --> 00:51:43,520
Speaker 3: all the things that you complained about, all the things

1186
00:51:43,600 --> 00:51:44,959
Speaker 3: you help people not complain about.

1187
00:51:46,080 --> 00:51:47,520
Speaker 1: Damn you crying?

1188
00:51:49,840 --> 00:51:50,600
Speaker 4: Did I make a cry?

1189
00:51:50,719 --> 00:51:51,719
Speaker 1: Look at Joe?

1190
00:51:52,000 --> 00:51:55,200
Speaker 4: Come have some to make you smile?

1191
00:51:55,960 --> 00:51:59,440
Speaker 3: You got seasoning on it now, I mean it got

1192
00:51:59,480 --> 00:52:02,239
Speaker 3: season on it, But no, you know this is this

1193
00:52:02,320 --> 00:52:04,120
Speaker 3: is you know. I have to have these types of

1194
00:52:04,120 --> 00:52:06,719
Speaker 3: perspectives because you know, people look at your life and

1195
00:52:06,719 --> 00:52:10,799
Speaker 3: then they have this vantaged point that everything is grandiose

1196
00:52:10,800 --> 00:52:13,120
Speaker 3: once you get some money. Now, I don't want to

1197
00:52:13,120 --> 00:52:15,239
Speaker 3: make it seem like getting some money is a bad thing,

1198
00:52:15,239 --> 00:52:16,160
Speaker 3: because it's a blessing.

1199
00:52:16,760 --> 00:52:18,560
Speaker 4: We all know, all of us. You know, I'm looking

1200
00:52:18,600 --> 00:52:19,200
Speaker 4: over at Joe.

1201
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:21,920
Speaker 3: We don't all came in like who we need a

1202
00:52:22,000 --> 00:52:24,880
Speaker 3: little five hundred, you know what I mean? But you know,

1203
00:52:25,040 --> 00:52:27,440
Speaker 3: so it's a blessing to not have to have those problems.

1204
00:52:27,440 --> 00:52:30,480
Speaker 3: But there's no such thing as not having problems, you

1205
00:52:30,520 --> 00:52:33,000
Speaker 3: know what I mean. Problems are going to come, you

1206
00:52:33,040 --> 00:52:36,120
Speaker 3: know what I mean, Like your problems are your problems.

1207
00:52:36,320 --> 00:52:39,000
Speaker 3: But when your problems turn into issues, that's when you

1208
00:52:39,080 --> 00:52:42,560
Speaker 3: got a problem. And I mean like you can stop

1209
00:52:42,640 --> 00:52:46,080
Speaker 3: yourself from getting to the extreme.

1210
00:52:45,680 --> 00:52:46,560
Speaker 4: You know what I mean. Like I.

1211
00:52:48,320 --> 00:52:51,080
Speaker 3: Watch a lot of affirmations on the daily and one

1212
00:52:51,120 --> 00:52:54,680
Speaker 3: of the things that to do named doctor Joe Esponanza

1213
00:52:54,760 --> 00:52:57,640
Speaker 3: that I listen to a lot, and he says, how

1214
00:52:57,640 --> 00:53:00,360
Speaker 3: many possibilities.

1215
00:52:59,760 --> 00:53:03,160
Speaker 4: Are in the unknown? Are they in the unknown? How many?

1216
00:53:03,320 --> 00:53:04,000
Speaker 4: It's infinite?

1217
00:53:04,080 --> 00:53:06,160
Speaker 3: Yeah, So why do we immediately go to the most

1218
00:53:06,160 --> 00:53:08,520
Speaker 3: fucked up one and let that drive us?

1219
00:53:08,719 --> 00:53:09,279
Speaker 4: You know what I mean?

1220
00:53:09,440 --> 00:53:12,399
Speaker 3: You have the ability to control your mind. Like that's

1221
00:53:12,400 --> 00:53:15,040
Speaker 3: something that I truly believe in. Like, the most consistent

1222
00:53:15,040 --> 00:53:16,680
Speaker 3: thing that will happen to you in your life is

1223
00:53:16,680 --> 00:53:17,080
Speaker 3: your brain.

1224
00:53:17,120 --> 00:53:18,200
Speaker 4: On talking side, your brain.

1225
00:53:18,239 --> 00:53:20,640
Speaker 3: While we're having this conversation right now, our brains is

1226
00:53:20,680 --> 00:53:22,920
Speaker 3: talking inside our brain. So that's what you got to navigate.

1227
00:53:22,920 --> 00:53:25,279
Speaker 3: When the lights turn off and it's just you and

1228
00:53:25,320 --> 00:53:28,719
Speaker 3: that mind of yours, that's your life. Yeah, so learn

1229
00:53:28,760 --> 00:53:31,560
Speaker 3: how to navigate and manage that. And you know, the

1230
00:53:31,600 --> 00:53:33,560
Speaker 3: better you're able to do that, the better you'll be

1231
00:53:33,600 --> 00:53:35,719
Speaker 3: able to deal with all of the external things that

1232
00:53:35,800 --> 00:53:37,280
Speaker 3: come that you can't control.

1233
00:53:37,440 --> 00:53:37,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

1234
00:53:38,040 --> 00:53:40,239
Speaker 2: I did shout out to Sholin, but I did this

1235
00:53:40,360 --> 00:53:42,560
Speaker 2: landmark thing, and one of the things that I learned

1236
00:53:42,600 --> 00:53:44,880
Speaker 2: I walked away with is like, it's really the story

1237
00:53:44,880 --> 00:53:48,920
Speaker 2: we tell ourselves that matter. Like everything outside, like like

1238
00:53:48,960 --> 00:53:51,480
Speaker 2: you said, with perspective is just like, well, what is

1239
00:53:51,520 --> 00:53:55,640
Speaker 2: the story I'm telling myself in here? What is this

1240
00:53:55,800 --> 00:53:58,040
Speaker 2: invisible story I'm telling myself that may or may not

1241
00:53:58,120 --> 00:54:01,200
Speaker 2: be true. But controlling the mind it's very very, very

1242
00:54:01,440 --> 00:54:04,560
Speaker 2: very difficult. That's why I hints I'm in the serenity

1243
00:54:04,560 --> 00:54:05,760
Speaker 2: prayer stage of my life.

1244
00:54:05,760 --> 00:54:07,879
Speaker 3: But there's no such thing as a bad thought. There's

1245
00:54:08,320 --> 00:54:12,600
Speaker 3: only such thing as bad actions and speaking negativity. I

1246
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:15,799
Speaker 3: think all types of wild shit all day. I mean,

1247
00:54:15,880 --> 00:54:18,000
Speaker 3: you think about some of the shit that popping your

1248
00:54:18,040 --> 00:54:22,080
Speaker 3: mind throughout there, like, man, fucked up ass thought, I

1249
00:54:22,120 --> 00:54:24,120
Speaker 3: got let me tell you what. But it's not until

1250
00:54:24,160 --> 00:54:27,759
Speaker 3: you let it drive your actions and your mentality that

1251
00:54:27,840 --> 00:54:30,600
Speaker 3: it becomes negative. There's no such thing as a negative thought.

1252
00:54:30,640 --> 00:54:34,040
Speaker 3: There's negative action, and if you speak negativity, then you

1253
00:54:34,080 --> 00:54:36,880
Speaker 3: know that's action. Speaking is an action. So until you

1254
00:54:36,920 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 3: speak some negative shit, it's no such thing as a

1255
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:40,080
Speaker 3: negative thought in my mind.

1256
00:54:40,560 --> 00:54:43,799
Speaker 2: Well, when I first became Christian, I'm raised Jewish, but

1257
00:54:43,840 --> 00:54:47,080
Speaker 2: I became Christian at like thirty, I will say, you know,

1258
00:54:47,120 --> 00:54:50,400
Speaker 2: when you're born again, you're like religiously like oh snap,

1259
00:54:50,480 --> 00:54:51,760
Speaker 2: you know, trying to control everything.

1260
00:54:51,760 --> 00:54:53,839
Speaker 1: I was like, yo, my brain is really messed up.

1261
00:54:54,160 --> 00:54:57,759
Speaker 3: Yeah, my thoughts are terrible. I respect the religion. The religion, boy,

1262
00:54:58,160 --> 00:55:01,719
Speaker 3: you are a gangster man. That is a gangster perspective

1263
00:55:01,760 --> 00:55:03,839
Speaker 3: to have. You know what I mean, No matter which

1264
00:55:03,840 --> 00:55:06,719
Speaker 3: one you choose, I respect, I respect. I saw a

1265
00:55:06,880 --> 00:55:11,080
Speaker 3: post on Instagram that said what is the most normalized addiction?

1266
00:55:11,560 --> 00:55:16,080
Speaker 3: And I said, it's religion Because when you think about it,

1267
00:55:16,840 --> 00:55:20,640
Speaker 3: religion has normalized behavior in the name of a higher

1268
00:55:20,680 --> 00:55:24,400
Speaker 3: power that nobody has ever talked to. But the books

1269
00:55:24,440 --> 00:55:27,360
Speaker 3: that are written, the texts that are written, are interpreted

1270
00:55:27,360 --> 00:55:30,960
Speaker 3: by the same people that we look at and walking

1271
00:55:31,000 --> 00:55:34,400
Speaker 3: around every single day, So you think about human error

1272
00:55:34,440 --> 00:55:37,600
Speaker 3: and just power how that works, you know what I mean?

1273
00:55:37,719 --> 00:55:41,879
Speaker 3: Like a lot of that those texts have been tampered with,

1274
00:55:42,080 --> 00:55:45,839
Speaker 3: if you will, so people utilizing that as a way

1275
00:55:45,880 --> 00:55:48,279
Speaker 3: to judge other people for where you're going to go.

1276
00:55:48,320 --> 00:55:51,359
Speaker 3: I never understood how somebody can be like you going

1277
00:55:51,440 --> 00:55:54,640
Speaker 3: to hell? Like when the last time you went? How

1278
00:55:54,680 --> 00:55:55,000
Speaker 3: you know?

1279
00:55:55,400 --> 00:55:56,839
Speaker 4: How you know when somebody's going?

1280
00:55:56,920 --> 00:56:00,320
Speaker 3: So I think it's you know, and I just spective,

1281
00:56:00,360 --> 00:56:03,280
Speaker 3: Like I said, I'm not religious, but I respect all religions.

1282
00:56:03,320 --> 00:56:05,920
Speaker 3: I've read the Torah, I've read the Bible, I've read.

1283
00:56:05,719 --> 00:56:07,480
Speaker 1: The Koran, You've read all of them.

1284
00:56:07,600 --> 00:56:08,719
Speaker 4: I'm not in.

1285
00:56:08,680 --> 00:56:10,680
Speaker 3: Totality, but I've read them, you know what I mean.

1286
00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:14,840
Speaker 3: And one of the things that is consistent is God.

1287
00:56:15,200 --> 00:56:17,840
Speaker 3: There's one God and everybody is trying to get to

1288
00:56:17,880 --> 00:56:20,880
Speaker 3: that one place. So for me, I always look at

1289
00:56:20,920 --> 00:56:23,799
Speaker 3: it as religion as the temp agency. God is the

1290
00:56:23,800 --> 00:56:26,360
Speaker 3: Fortune five hundred company, and people try to get you

1291
00:56:26,440 --> 00:56:28,680
Speaker 3: to convert, and you know.

1292
00:56:29,360 --> 00:56:30,560
Speaker 4: Feel the way that they feel.

1293
00:56:30,600 --> 00:56:32,560
Speaker 3: But my thing is, if I'm such a viable candidate,

1294
00:56:32,600 --> 00:56:35,440
Speaker 3: why can't I walk my application directly to the Fortune

1295
00:56:35,480 --> 00:56:39,200
Speaker 3: five hundred company. What's the difference between a pastor and me?

1296
00:56:39,440 --> 00:56:42,080
Speaker 3: Because God said in all of the text that we

1297
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:43,919
Speaker 3: are creating in his image, So I should be able

1298
00:56:43,960 --> 00:56:46,880
Speaker 3: to have the same type of direct contact with this person,

1299
00:56:47,400 --> 00:56:49,879
Speaker 3: entity or thing that we can't see as the man

1300
00:56:49,920 --> 00:56:53,680
Speaker 3: who you trust to lead you into eternity is. So

1301
00:56:53,840 --> 00:56:56,520
Speaker 3: you know that's my personal perspective. But you know I

1302
00:56:57,200 --> 00:57:00,319
Speaker 3: respect all religions enough to know that. You know, it's

1303
00:57:00,400 --> 00:57:03,640
Speaker 3: tough when you switch. So salute to you because that

1304
00:57:03,760 --> 00:57:05,040
Speaker 3: was a gangst the move you made.

1305
00:57:05,320 --> 00:57:06,920
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm telling you all the Jews in my family

1306
00:57:07,000 --> 00:57:10,400
Speaker 2: was best. Oh yeah, and it was weird because they

1307
00:57:10,440 --> 00:57:13,840
Speaker 2: were like, yo, Dad, you married a Jamaican. We go

1308
00:57:14,120 --> 00:57:15,400
Speaker 2: you eating pork over there?

1309
00:57:15,440 --> 00:57:17,320
Speaker 1: Like what are we even arguing about? Since when does

1310
00:57:17,440 --> 00:57:20,320
Speaker 1: Judaism even matter? Until I make a switch?

1311
00:57:20,560 --> 00:57:24,760
Speaker 3: Because you mean, Jesus as you stopped playing with us

1312
00:57:24,760 --> 00:57:28,200
Speaker 3: over here, it's a different game, man, you know what

1313
00:57:28,200 --> 00:57:28,480
Speaker 3: I mean?

1314
00:57:28,480 --> 00:57:31,240
Speaker 4: But I respect. Has that been beneficial to you to switch?

1315
00:57:31,920 --> 00:57:32,360
Speaker 1: Uh?

1316
00:57:32,480 --> 00:57:32,680
Speaker 4: Yeah?

1317
00:57:32,760 --> 00:57:34,320
Speaker 1: No, I mean I got to see a lot of

1318
00:57:34,320 --> 00:57:36,880
Speaker 1: the hypocrisies in both.

1319
00:57:37,440 --> 00:57:40,400
Speaker 2: But I think I used to think that everyone was

1320
00:57:40,440 --> 00:57:43,200
Speaker 2: born with a moral compass. More recently, I'm realizing that

1321
00:57:43,320 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 2: not everyone is born with a moral compass.

1322
00:57:45,280 --> 00:57:46,600
Speaker 1: But I thought we were all born with.

1323
00:57:46,520 --> 00:57:47,240
Speaker 4: A moral compass.

1324
00:57:47,800 --> 00:57:49,600
Speaker 1: You know, I mean, meet a couple broke niggas, you

1325
00:57:49,640 --> 00:57:50,800
Speaker 1: realize that not everyone happening.

1326
00:57:51,160 --> 00:57:54,440
Speaker 3: These broke niggas have ruined You got you in here

1327
00:57:54,440 --> 00:58:00,320
Speaker 3: eating ravioli and canned salmon and shit, you stuck broke guys.

1328
00:58:00,360 --> 00:58:03,080
Speaker 4: Listen, take this as a as a lessons.

1329
00:58:03,320 --> 00:58:05,080
Speaker 3: As much as she don't want to fuck with broke

1330
00:58:05,160 --> 00:58:08,280
Speaker 3: dudes no more, she still got broke dude taste buds.

1331
00:58:08,320 --> 00:58:10,240
Speaker 4: Because if you funk right now.

1332
00:58:10,200 --> 00:58:12,040
Speaker 3: You'll never be able to get that taste out.

1333
00:58:11,920 --> 00:58:12,280
Speaker 4: Of her mouth.

1334
00:58:12,360 --> 00:58:15,720
Speaker 3: That's literally gonna leave it at that.

1335
00:58:17,960 --> 00:58:20,520
Speaker 1: Man, I hope they edited this all this.

1336
00:58:20,880 --> 00:58:23,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, they're gonna edit it out. But it's okay. It's love.

1337
00:58:23,480 --> 00:58:23,600
Speaker 4: You know.

1338
00:58:23,640 --> 00:58:25,520
Speaker 3: I don't want none of them that's watching this be like, yeah,

1339
00:58:25,520 --> 00:58:27,480
Speaker 3: I knew I had a shot back at her. All

1340
00:58:27,560 --> 00:58:29,600
Speaker 3: I gotta do is make that grilled cheese with the

1341
00:58:29,640 --> 00:58:31,400
Speaker 3: bacon on top of be right.

1342
00:58:31,240 --> 00:58:33,560
Speaker 1: Back over to the now. I'm one of those women.

1343
00:58:33,600 --> 00:58:35,200
Speaker 2: I'm like the little clips you see online where the

1344
00:58:35,200 --> 00:58:37,280
Speaker 2: woman's like if a dude isn't making that much I'm like, yo,

1345
00:58:37,280 --> 00:58:39,640
Speaker 2: if you ain't even matching what I got and more,

1346
00:58:40,400 --> 00:58:41,160
Speaker 2: we're not doing it.

1347
00:58:41,280 --> 00:58:43,160
Speaker 1: I mean all the way down to assets.

1348
00:58:43,200 --> 00:58:46,720
Speaker 3: Really yep, No, I mean I mean, ain't nothing wrong

1349
00:58:46,760 --> 00:58:48,880
Speaker 3: with it now? Just at least you have served your

1350
00:58:48,960 --> 00:58:50,040
Speaker 3: duty to the community.

1351
00:58:50,080 --> 00:58:50,280
Speaker 4: Man.

1352
00:58:50,720 --> 00:58:53,439
Speaker 3: You got me here cooking ravioli. You have done your

1353
00:58:53,520 --> 00:58:56,880
Speaker 3: due diligence, You have done your bif you have given

1354
00:58:57,000 --> 00:58:58,720
Speaker 3: I hope that one of them. I hope at least,

1355
00:58:58,720 --> 00:59:01,360
Speaker 3: what do you have one success story? They got to

1356
00:59:01,360 --> 00:59:03,480
Speaker 3: be one of all of the broke niggas that you

1357
00:59:03,560 --> 00:59:05,480
Speaker 3: dealt with. They got to be one that made it,

1358
00:59:06,200 --> 00:59:09,040
Speaker 3: that made it, that made it, that made it to

1359
00:59:09,040 --> 00:59:09,760
Speaker 3: be successful.

1360
00:59:09,800 --> 00:59:10,640
Speaker 4: Isn't that you? None?

1361
00:59:11,360 --> 00:59:13,360
Speaker 1: Let me tell you it's so sad because.

1362
00:59:14,560 --> 00:59:15,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, none.

1363
00:59:15,160 --> 00:59:20,400
Speaker 3: I'm sorry, damn your track record is hard sad.

1364
00:59:20,280 --> 00:59:25,320
Speaker 2: Because I've mentored so many people in my life. But yeah,

1365
00:59:25,920 --> 00:59:26,280
Speaker 2: I don't know.

1366
00:59:27,200 --> 00:59:30,320
Speaker 3: It's a nigga with a job at UPS supervisor right now, Like, hey,

1367
00:59:30,360 --> 00:59:32,080
Speaker 3: I digress, you got me fucked up.

1368
00:59:32,120 --> 00:59:32,320
Speaker 2: Man.

1369
00:59:33,000 --> 00:59:35,760
Speaker 3: I make seventy six thousand dollars a year now. Now,

1370
00:59:35,760 --> 00:59:38,160
Speaker 3: I was making your money when I was fucking with you.

1371
00:59:38,440 --> 00:59:41,040
Speaker 3: So hey, man, if you send a letter into eating

1372
00:59:41,040 --> 00:59:46,120
Speaker 3: my broke fellas, not anonymous letter. Send an anonymous letter

1373
00:59:46,160 --> 00:59:49,760
Speaker 3: in and uh, let.

1374
00:59:48,480 --> 00:59:51,280
Speaker 2: It know that you're it's so hard to date me

1375
00:59:51,360 --> 00:59:52,880
Speaker 2: at this point it is impossible.

1376
00:59:52,960 --> 00:59:54,040
Speaker 4: What makes it hard to date you?

1377
00:59:54,080 --> 00:59:54,840
Speaker 1: That's because I do.

1378
00:59:55,520 --> 00:59:59,120
Speaker 2: I do full reference. Now I need numbers to exits,

1379
00:59:59,160 --> 01:00:01,320
Speaker 2: the same way you go to job, you have your references.

1380
01:00:01,320 --> 01:00:03,400
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be like, look, give me the number, steel Excess.

1381
01:00:03,480 --> 01:00:06,160
Speaker 2: Let's have a conversation because I give up my number. Smikes,

1382
01:00:06,240 --> 01:00:09,720
Speaker 2: they gonna say, Yo, my only regret was sucking up.

1383
01:00:13,080 --> 01:00:14,000
Speaker 1: My only regret.

1384
01:00:14,880 --> 01:00:18,360
Speaker 3: My only regret is not making sure that she didn't

1385
01:00:18,400 --> 01:00:21,000
Speaker 3: get to go around some niggas that made her realize

1386
01:00:21,040 --> 01:00:24,760
Speaker 3: she had regrets that I should have kept her in

1387
01:00:24,800 --> 01:00:28,200
Speaker 3: the house eating ravioli and grilled cheese, and she'd have

1388
01:00:28,280 --> 01:00:29,560
Speaker 3: never knew it was nothing.

1389
01:00:29,280 --> 01:00:33,320
Speaker 4: Better of them.

1390
01:00:33,720 --> 01:00:34,920
Speaker 2: If you talk to some of them, be like, I

1391
01:00:35,000 --> 01:00:36,640
Speaker 2: know I should try to get you pregnant, because you

1392
01:00:36,640 --> 01:00:38,480
Speaker 2: know that's every guy's go to trap.

1393
01:00:38,680 --> 01:00:41,200
Speaker 1: Trap. Really yeah, I don't trust none of y'all.

1394
01:00:41,200 --> 01:00:44,000
Speaker 3: Man, that's crazy. I don't know where you trying to

1395
01:00:44,040 --> 01:00:47,240
Speaker 3: trap you. Where you was dating you? You must have

1396
01:00:47,280 --> 01:00:49,720
Speaker 3: been dating and death jam Vendetta that was great.

1397
01:00:50,120 --> 01:00:54,200
Speaker 1: God, it's interesting to me.

1398
01:00:54,280 --> 01:00:56,560
Speaker 3: It's very interesting to me to hear that, because I

1399
01:00:56,600 --> 01:00:57,160
Speaker 3: know it's true.

1400
01:00:57,280 --> 01:00:58,360
Speaker 1: They try to trap you.

1401
01:01:00,320 --> 01:01:04,120
Speaker 2: They need roofs, they need credits, they need You got

1402
01:01:04,120 --> 01:01:06,160
Speaker 2: to think if you come up on somebody, you you know,

1403
01:01:06,200 --> 01:01:07,600
Speaker 2: and you broke.

1404
01:01:07,760 --> 01:01:10,560
Speaker 4: But that's but that's ignorance. And in mind you.

1405
01:01:10,680 --> 01:01:13,360
Speaker 3: I speak from the perspective of I always say it's

1406
01:01:13,360 --> 01:01:13,760
Speaker 3: our fault.

1407
01:01:13,760 --> 01:01:15,560
Speaker 4: Don't get me wrong. I'm not blaming the woman. It's

1408
01:01:15,600 --> 01:01:16,600
Speaker 4: always the man's fault.

1409
01:01:16,600 --> 01:01:18,840
Speaker 1: I'm want to because they be perpetrating.

1410
01:01:19,040 --> 01:01:23,200
Speaker 3: But the reality is it's your fault. Though it's your fault,

1411
01:01:23,520 --> 01:01:25,200
Speaker 3: it's your fault as a woman. And I'm gonna tell you,

1412
01:01:25,280 --> 01:01:28,160
Speaker 3: I don't know how how real we can get on

1413
01:01:28,200 --> 01:01:30,360
Speaker 3: eating while broke. But these are the conversations you should

1414
01:01:30,360 --> 01:01:31,960
Speaker 3: have been having with them, niggas. Uh.

1415
01:01:37,760 --> 01:01:38,560
Speaker 4: Here's the thing.

1416
01:01:38,400 --> 01:01:40,000
Speaker 3: That I that I say, why I say it's your

1417
01:01:40,040 --> 01:01:43,440
Speaker 3: fault is in this Please? This is this is you know,

1418
01:01:43,680 --> 01:01:46,400
Speaker 3: this is you know, adult content, So you know what

1419
01:01:46,440 --> 01:01:49,320
Speaker 3: I mean. This is the reality. You are a woman,

1420
01:01:49,840 --> 01:01:53,880
Speaker 3: which means you have the prize, which is I agree

1421
01:01:53,920 --> 01:01:57,240
Speaker 3: with all this. The pussy pussy is valuable. It's one

1422
01:01:57,240 --> 01:02:00,240
Speaker 3: of the three things. They can be sold any where

1423
01:02:00,640 --> 01:02:06,240
Speaker 3: on earth. Guns, gold, and vagina will sell anywhere air

1424
01:02:06,360 --> 01:02:10,080
Speaker 3: is being breathed. There has never been a man anywhere

1425
01:02:10,600 --> 01:02:13,040
Speaker 3: that's been down to his last dollar and said, you

1426
01:02:13,120 --> 01:02:16,560
Speaker 3: know what about to start selling some dick that's never happened.

1427
01:02:18,120 --> 01:02:19,200
Speaker 4: That's never happened.

1428
01:02:19,960 --> 01:02:23,000
Speaker 3: So with that being said, if you have the asset

1429
01:02:23,080 --> 01:02:27,520
Speaker 3: that is valuable, you are in control of what you

1430
01:02:27,680 --> 01:02:29,960
Speaker 3: allow to be the key that opens the lot.

1431
01:02:30,200 --> 01:02:30,720
Speaker 1: I agree with you.

1432
01:02:30,920 --> 01:02:33,920
Speaker 3: So therefore, if you continue to allow yourself to be

1433
01:02:34,040 --> 01:02:38,480
Speaker 3: tricked by baller costumes, then that is what the heck

1434
01:02:39,160 --> 01:02:40,160
Speaker 3: baller costumes.

1435
01:02:40,200 --> 01:02:42,520
Speaker 4: You don't know what a baller costume is. They wear

1436
01:02:42,560 --> 01:02:43,400
Speaker 4: them all year round.

1437
01:02:45,040 --> 01:02:48,600
Speaker 3: You see this, all of this, all of this, it

1438
01:02:48,680 --> 01:02:52,560
Speaker 3: came from hard work. But I can give this the

1439
01:02:52,640 --> 01:02:56,040
Speaker 3: same watch, the same ring, the same bracelet to somebody

1440
01:02:56,080 --> 01:02:58,800
Speaker 3: who has nothing, and they'll be able to get you

1441
01:02:59,120 --> 01:03:02,200
Speaker 3: because they have this. And you assume that, because they're

1442
01:03:02,240 --> 01:03:05,640
Speaker 3: wearing this, that they are all of the things that

1443
01:03:05,720 --> 01:03:09,520
Speaker 3: comes with the shininess. And that's your fault because you

1444
01:03:09,680 --> 01:03:11,480
Speaker 3: don't ask the right questions.

1445
01:03:11,480 --> 01:03:12,280
Speaker 4: What you say you do.

1446
01:03:12,400 --> 01:03:16,480
Speaker 3: Now, I commend you, because that's what you're supposed to do,

1447
01:03:16,840 --> 01:03:19,240
Speaker 3: and I say the same thing the men. We gotta

1448
01:03:19,320 --> 01:03:21,840
Speaker 3: do better because y'all got a whole list that you

1449
01:03:21,920 --> 01:03:24,640
Speaker 3: just said, you checking references every man out here.

1450
01:03:24,680 --> 01:03:27,600
Speaker 4: You know what's on our list, pussy, that's it.

1451
01:03:27,880 --> 01:03:30,640
Speaker 3: We ain't updated our list since the beginning of the time.

1452
01:03:30,800 --> 01:03:32,400
Speaker 3: That's all we have on our list.

1453
01:03:32,800 --> 01:03:33,120
Speaker 4: That's it.

1454
01:03:33,640 --> 01:03:36,520
Speaker 3: So therefore we got to ask better questions too. I

1455
01:03:36,600 --> 01:03:38,160
Speaker 3: say that the men all the time. You got to

1456
01:03:38,200 --> 01:03:40,280
Speaker 3: treat your dick like you treat your Social Security number.

1457
01:03:41,240 --> 01:03:42,920
Speaker 3: If a woman walks up and asks you for your

1458
01:03:42,920 --> 01:03:44,640
Speaker 3: social you're gonna be like, what type of question is

1459
01:03:44,680 --> 01:03:45,080
Speaker 3: that man?

1460
01:03:45,240 --> 01:03:45,720
Speaker 4: Fuck out it?

1461
01:03:45,800 --> 01:03:49,480
Speaker 3: She walk up and ask you for some dick? You

1462
01:03:49,800 --> 01:03:50,320
Speaker 3: you serious?

1463
01:03:50,560 --> 01:03:53,320
Speaker 4: You're real? Give me, give me twenty minutes, let me

1464
01:03:53,480 --> 01:03:54,000
Speaker 4: you know what I mean.

1465
01:03:54,280 --> 01:03:57,120
Speaker 3: And we don't even we don't even ask the type

1466
01:03:57,160 --> 01:04:00,000
Speaker 3: of questions that we should ask as men that would

1467
01:04:00,280 --> 01:04:01,720
Speaker 3: place value in who we are.

1468
01:04:01,880 --> 01:04:04,040
Speaker 2: I'm curious, So what kind of questions now that we're here.

1469
01:04:04,120 --> 01:04:05,760
Speaker 2: I know we're going over guys, but that's.

1470
01:04:05,640 --> 01:04:06,360
Speaker 4: All good, you know.

1471
01:04:06,400 --> 01:04:08,120
Speaker 3: I mean, you want to know what type of questions

1472
01:04:08,120 --> 01:04:10,520
Speaker 3: that a man should ask? What is your gind of

1473
01:04:10,600 --> 01:04:11,320
Speaker 3: collegist name?

1474
01:04:12,840 --> 01:04:15,160
Speaker 1: Okay, that's a good one. Okay.

1475
01:04:15,320 --> 01:04:17,000
Speaker 3: If she can't answer that like it's on the back

1476
01:04:17,040 --> 01:04:19,800
Speaker 3: of her driver's license, then that means she probably don't

1477
01:04:19,800 --> 01:04:23,280
Speaker 3: have no health insurance. So you mean to tell me, ma'am,

1478
01:04:23,280 --> 01:04:25,400
Speaker 3: I'm supposed to be working hard for some vagina you

1479
01:04:25,400 --> 01:04:26,520
Speaker 3: ain't even had inspected.

1480
01:04:26,880 --> 01:04:29,920
Speaker 1: Wow, Okay, that's.

1481
01:04:29,760 --> 01:04:32,120
Speaker 4: What's the last book that you read from cover to cover?

1482
01:04:32,440 --> 01:04:34,400
Speaker 1: Okay, that's a good one. That's a better one than

1483
01:04:34,400 --> 01:04:35,120
Speaker 1: the Gin of Colleges.

1484
01:04:35,200 --> 01:04:37,200
Speaker 3: But I mean no, it's not because most women can't

1485
01:04:37,240 --> 01:04:38,960
Speaker 3: name their gno collegest because they don't have one.

1486
01:04:39,120 --> 01:04:42,000
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, and then what's the next question?

1487
01:04:42,160 --> 01:04:43,160
Speaker 4: Oh, there's plenty of them.

1488
01:04:43,200 --> 01:04:44,680
Speaker 3: Let me think of a good one that a man

1489
01:04:44,720 --> 01:04:48,880
Speaker 3: should ask a woman. I don't want to get too

1490
01:04:49,000 --> 01:04:50,880
Speaker 3: in depth on the cooking while brother.

1491
01:04:50,840 --> 01:04:51,360
Speaker 1: How does that?

1492
01:04:51,520 --> 01:04:54,040
Speaker 2: How does that impact a man? Because usually it's men

1493
01:04:54,120 --> 01:04:55,840
Speaker 2: don't get really played like that?

1494
01:04:56,200 --> 01:04:57,520
Speaker 4: What you mean played like?

1495
01:04:57,600 --> 01:05:01,840
Speaker 2: Because you're like, why would a man benefit from that

1496
01:05:01,960 --> 01:05:04,200
Speaker 2: if all he seeks is viagina?

1497
01:05:05,160 --> 01:05:07,800
Speaker 3: Well, that's a man that's asking those questions, not a

1498
01:05:07,800 --> 01:05:10,760
Speaker 3: man who only seeks vagina. Because a man who only

1499
01:05:10,760 --> 01:05:13,160
Speaker 3: seeks vagina is not even asking you nothing he just

1500
01:05:13,200 --> 01:05:14,400
Speaker 3: acting like he want to hear what.

1501
01:05:14,360 --> 01:05:17,080
Speaker 1: You're saying and then so he could clone and be

1502
01:05:17,160 --> 01:05:18,160
Speaker 1: whatever you want him to be.

1503
01:05:21,720 --> 01:05:24,120
Speaker 3: So a man that's asking certain questions in mind, you

1504
01:05:24,160 --> 01:05:26,360
Speaker 3: I have a daughter who I'm raising, so I have

1505
01:05:26,440 --> 01:05:29,720
Speaker 3: to give her the cheeks. Like I hear women complain

1506
01:05:29,800 --> 01:05:33,760
Speaker 3: all the time about broke niggas and shit that niggas do,

1507
01:05:33,880 --> 01:05:36,480
Speaker 3: and I'd be like, well, what questions are you asking

1508
01:05:36,520 --> 01:05:38,640
Speaker 3: these niggas? Because it's very easy to find out if

1509
01:05:38,640 --> 01:05:40,280
Speaker 3: a man is a liar. You just got to be

1510
01:05:40,360 --> 01:05:42,520
Speaker 3: out of your comfort zone to be able to find

1511
01:05:42,520 --> 01:05:45,040
Speaker 3: out quicker than you have found out already.

1512
01:05:45,280 --> 01:05:47,160
Speaker 4: Stop asking the niggas. So what are your goals in

1513
01:05:47,240 --> 01:05:49,920
Speaker 4: five years? And what are your plans for the future?

1514
01:05:50,000 --> 01:05:52,080
Speaker 4: And what is what is? What is all that funk?

1515
01:05:52,160 --> 01:05:54,120
Speaker 4: All that man? How many times a week do you

1516
01:05:54,160 --> 01:05:55,120
Speaker 4: beat your dick? Sir?

1517
01:05:57,920 --> 01:06:00,680
Speaker 3: You see how the whole room stop. Now if you

1518
01:06:00,760 --> 01:06:02,440
Speaker 3: ask a man that and he like, well, what you

1519
01:06:02,520 --> 01:06:04,680
Speaker 3: mean why you ask me that? But that's a nigga

1520
01:06:04,680 --> 01:06:07,000
Speaker 3: who's thinking about what he's going to tell you. A

1521
01:06:07,040 --> 01:06:09,640
Speaker 3: man who's being forthcoming and truthful will say, wells it

1522
01:06:09,680 --> 01:06:15,960
Speaker 3: as much as I can. Now, you know, you're dealing

1523
01:06:15,960 --> 01:06:18,360
Speaker 3: with somebody who at least has the capacity to be

1524
01:06:18,400 --> 01:06:21,240
Speaker 3: able to have a direct conversation without filtering whatever it

1525
01:06:21,280 --> 01:06:24,040
Speaker 3: is he's going to say to you. Also another question,

1526
01:06:24,080 --> 01:06:25,160
Speaker 3: what's your relationship like.

1527
01:06:25,120 --> 01:06:26,320
Speaker 4: With your mother? Yeah?

1528
01:06:27,240 --> 01:06:29,000
Speaker 1: I mean, we could you go on that all day.

1529
01:06:29,000 --> 01:06:31,240
Speaker 1: But there's some yeah, you.

1530
01:06:31,280 --> 01:06:31,680
Speaker 4: Know what I mean.

1531
01:06:31,720 --> 01:06:34,000
Speaker 3: And another one you can ask, man, if I had

1532
01:06:34,120 --> 01:06:36,040
Speaker 3: if we were in a relationship with each other and

1533
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Speaker 3: I had a contract that said you owe me every

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Speaker 3: dime you make from the moment you cheat on me

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Speaker 3: to the rest of your life, would you sign it?

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Speaker 4: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: Right there, that should be the question always said as

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Speaker 2: before they get buried.

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Speaker 4: And if a.

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Speaker 3: Niggas say yeah, I mean I never do that, ask

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Speaker 3: you to get up and leave.

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01:06:51,960 --> 01:06:54,280
Speaker 4: Oh get up, get up and leave.

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01:06:54,560 --> 01:06:56,240
Speaker 3: Take it from me that if a niggas say he

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01:06:56,280 --> 01:06:59,320
Speaker 3: has signed that contract, that nigga is a serial killer,

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Speaker 3: get up and least.

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Speaker 1: That's crazy.

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01:07:01,920 --> 01:07:05,480
Speaker 4: No man in his right mind whatever agree to them terms.

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Speaker 2: This is why I fall for the BS because I

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01:07:07,360 --> 01:07:10,160
Speaker 2: would have if he would have said what if, I

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01:07:10,160 --> 01:07:10,600
Speaker 2: would have.

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01:07:10,520 --> 01:07:12,120
Speaker 4: Been like, Oh, that's how you end.

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01:07:12,960 --> 01:07:18,680
Speaker 3: That's how sardines sitting the Indian style that is crazy apartment.

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01:07:18,880 --> 01:07:23,120
Speaker 1: That's that was a perfect example.

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Speaker 2: I can't believe I would have for the sign answer

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01:07:29,280 --> 01:07:32,480
Speaker 2: the question correctly. There you okay, thank you for the lesson.

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Speaker 2: Where can everybody keep up with Chico?

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01:07:35,240 --> 01:07:39,880
Speaker 3: Keep up with me on Instagram at Chico Bean, Facebook

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01:07:39,880 --> 01:07:42,480
Speaker 3: at Chico Bean. Followed the eighty five South show and

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01:07:42,520 --> 01:07:45,280
Speaker 3: all of the things that our company and and our

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01:07:45,320 --> 01:07:48,160
Speaker 3: team is in telling we have a conglomerate with a

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01:07:48,200 --> 01:07:50,800
Speaker 3: building over here. Check us out on the Black Effect

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01:07:50,880 --> 01:07:55,360
Speaker 3: podcast Network. Salut to Charlamagne, Salute to Dolly. You know,

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01:07:55,640 --> 01:07:58,000
Speaker 3: just you know, keeping out. Were on tour right now.

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Speaker 3: We the ones we're going right after that toward ends.

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01:08:00,640 --> 01:08:03,720
Speaker 3: We starting the eighty five South back up, so you know,

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Speaker 3: we got a lot of beautiful things. We got comment

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Speaker 3: What about the book, Oh that's coming. I'm working on

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01:08:08,720 --> 01:08:11,800
Speaker 3: it now. So hopefully I'm thinking either by the end

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Speaker 3: of the year or the top of next year, which

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01:08:13,520 --> 01:08:15,240
Speaker 3: be able to do it in Charlemagne already said he

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01:08:15,320 --> 01:08:16,600
Speaker 3: was going to look out for me and put me

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Speaker 3: in place with some people that you.

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Speaker 1: Know can yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah yeah yeah.

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Speaker 3: So I've already done the due diligence, if you will,

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01:08:23,720 --> 01:08:26,400
Speaker 3: So I'm looking forward to, you know, getting that out

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01:08:26,439 --> 01:08:28,240
Speaker 3: to the people so they can you know, have this

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01:08:28,360 --> 01:08:31,400
Speaker 3: type of dialogue that we're having amongst each other teachers.

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Speaker 1: And then my last question, what's the last book you

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01:08:33,640 --> 01:08:34,800
Speaker 1: read from cover to back?

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Speaker 3: What's the last book I read from cover to back?

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Speaker 3: The last book I read? I just reread a book

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01:08:39,200 --> 01:08:42,639
Speaker 3: that changed my life, Conversations with God by Neil Donald Walsh.

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01:08:42,680 --> 01:08:44,760
Speaker 3: I just went through a situation that was very, very

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01:08:44,880 --> 01:08:49,439
Speaker 3: very trying on me personally, and I had to whenever

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01:08:49,640 --> 01:08:51,920
Speaker 3: I get to those points where I feel myself about

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01:08:51,920 --> 01:08:54,360
Speaker 3: to revert to a mentality that I feel like I

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01:08:54,400 --> 01:08:57,200
Speaker 3: have surpassed, I always go back and read that book

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01:08:57,240 --> 01:08:58,519
Speaker 3: because that book saved my life.

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Speaker 2: I've heard people mention that book. I actually have it

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Speaker 2: on a list of reading.

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Speaker 4: Conversations with God by Neil Donald Walsh.

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Speaker 1: That is, that's crazy, because that book is on my list.

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01:09:08,120 --> 01:09:10,400
Speaker 3: That book saved my life. If it wasn't for that book,

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01:09:10,439 --> 01:09:12,760
Speaker 3: my old uncle J. God bless you Uncle J. If

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01:09:12,760 --> 01:09:15,800
Speaker 3: you see this, when my uncle got murdered, my uncle

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01:09:15,840 --> 01:09:18,120
Speaker 3: that I told you about, I was that probably would

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01:09:18,120 --> 01:09:19,200
Speaker 3: say that was the darkest.

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Speaker 4: Week of my life. Like that week after he was murdered.

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Speaker 3: I was, you know, it was very dark time for me,

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Speaker 3: you know what I mean, And a lot of the

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01:09:26,360 --> 01:09:28,479
Speaker 3: actions and things that I did during that time I'm

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01:09:28,520 --> 01:09:32,800
Speaker 3: still rectifying now. And I was sitting outside and you know,

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01:09:33,360 --> 01:09:35,679
Speaker 3: and the worst way that you can probably be out

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01:09:35,760 --> 01:09:38,360
Speaker 3: in public, if you you know, when I think back

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01:09:38,400 --> 01:09:40,800
Speaker 3: on it, and he came outside, he saw me. This

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01:09:40,880 --> 01:09:42,519
Speaker 3: is somebody I have a high level of respect for,

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01:09:42,600 --> 01:09:45,479
Speaker 3: one of my big homies. And he took what I

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01:09:45,520 --> 01:09:48,800
Speaker 3: had from me away from me. When the house came

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01:09:48,800 --> 01:09:50,040
Speaker 3: back out with the book and told me to go

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Speaker 3: in the house and start reading. And under those circumstances,

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01:09:54,040 --> 01:09:55,599
Speaker 3: normally i'd have been like, man, the fuck out of here,

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01:09:55,600 --> 01:09:57,680
Speaker 3: and I'm out here, but something told me to go

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01:09:57,720 --> 01:09:58,599
Speaker 3: in the house and start reading.

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01:09:58,600 --> 01:09:59,960
Speaker 4: And when I did, it save my life.

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Speaker 1: So I'm gonna check it out, please, I will. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I definitely.

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Speaker 2: I had it on my list, so it's crazy that

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01:10:05,960 --> 01:10:08,400
Speaker 2: you brought it up, So yeah, I'll check it out.

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Speaker 3: Another good one is The Way of the Superior Man.

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Speaker 3: You should read that.

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Speaker 1: I heard about that, but yeah, you should read the

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Speaker 1: women should read it.

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01:10:14,280 --> 01:10:15,559
Speaker 4: Yes, women should read.

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01:10:15,600 --> 01:10:17,400
Speaker 3: That's the thing I think men should read the books

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01:10:17,400 --> 01:10:19,519
Speaker 3: that women read, and women should read the books that

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01:10:19,560 --> 01:10:22,840
Speaker 3: men read. In regards to not necessarily that men or

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01:10:22,880 --> 01:10:28,040
Speaker 3: women read, but that are catered towards men, women should

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01:10:28,040 --> 01:10:30,599
Speaker 3: read those books, and the books that are catered towards women.

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01:10:30,760 --> 01:10:33,400
Speaker 3: Men should read those books because it gives you insight

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01:10:34,160 --> 01:10:37,320
Speaker 3: into the perspective that you probably wouldn't get in the

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01:10:37,360 --> 01:10:39,160
Speaker 3: general dialogue with the opposite sex.

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Speaker 2: Okay, you dropping gems. Thank you so much for your time.

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Speaker 2: I really appreciate it, no problem. Thanks for opening up

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Speaker 2: the eighty five South home this last episode.

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Speaker 3: Everyone, Well, no I took that one bike out that Ravioli.

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01:10:53,040 --> 01:10:57,280
Speaker 3: Now my dudo gonna sound like a Russian nigga flugok

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Speaker 3: a dish, and thanks for taking it for se look

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Speaker 3: from Bro