WEBVTT - How to Score with Golden Susan Noles

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<v Speaker 1>Hey there, everybody, and welcome to I Do Part too.

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<v Speaker 1>And in this episode, we're about to do a catch

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<v Speaker 1>up with one of our absolute favorite new friends. But

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<v Speaker 1>from the moment we met her, she kept telling us

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<v Speaker 1>she's having the hardest time finding a date. Can't find

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<v Speaker 1>a date, and you know, the last place, the latest

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<v Speaker 1>place she decided to look at the VIP suite next

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<v Speaker 1>to Travis Kelsey's mom and again see the Chiefs game.

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<v Speaker 1>And with that, welcome to I Do Part two. Folks.

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<v Speaker 1>This is the podcast for folks who didn't get it

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<v Speaker 1>right the first time around, might be even the second,

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<v Speaker 1>maybe even the third. This is the place to be

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<v Speaker 1>alongside one of the other hosts, Amy Roboxing weird to

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<v Speaker 1>introduce you that way.

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<v Speaker 2>Yes right, I'm one of your co hosts podcast. Yes,

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<v Speaker 2>so many of us feel your pain. We've been divorced,

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<v Speaker 2>we've had our hearts broken, we've searched for love to

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<v Speaker 2>no avail, and so we want you to know you're

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<v Speaker 2>not alone, and we're all here to help in the

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<v Speaker 2>conversation and in actually trying to set some people up.

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<v Speaker 1>Is it going better for you now? You just described

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<v Speaker 1>a struggle in your life and it sounds like this

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<v Speaker 1>is the podcast for you if you need some help.

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<v Speaker 3>I think it pretty good.

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<v Speaker 2>Let me set the record straight in case anyone doesn't know,

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<v Speaker 2>I have happily found my forever person.

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<v Speaker 1>Good for you.

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<v Speaker 2>Just to be sitting right next to me, no good,

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<v Speaker 2>save baby.

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<v Speaker 1>On this show we have Jenny Garth, Janna Kramer, the

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<v Speaker 1>other two hosts. We have here folks like Kelly Bensimone

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<v Speaker 1>who's been one of the mentors helping some of the

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<v Speaker 1>people find days. So I hope you've enjoyed this journey.

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<v Speaker 1>We've enjoyed. I absolutely have. When this first came to us,

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<v Speaker 1>I didn't know what to think the idea of doing it,

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<v Speaker 1>But now that we've been doing it, this has been

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<v Speaker 1>some of the most fun I've had at our heart.

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<v Speaker 2>You know, it's been a lot of fun because it's

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<v Speaker 2>so relatable. So many people are in between relationships, looking

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<v Speaker 2>for love or are basically looking their wounds. They're frustrated,

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<v Speaker 2>they're sad, they're heartbroken, and it's just something that I

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<v Speaker 2>think is universal. Who hasn't experienced that? So it feels

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<v Speaker 2>good to be able to have honest, real conversations about

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<v Speaker 2>the challenges, the highs and the lows. Of I feel

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<v Speaker 2>like figuring out what we're all here to do, which

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<v Speaker 2>is to love and to find that partner and to

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<v Speaker 2>have that relationship we're all looking for.

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<v Speaker 1>And those conversations have been great that we've had on

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<v Speaker 1>the podcast. The conversations have been even better that we've

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<v Speaker 1>had in private with some of the folks. And the

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<v Speaker 1>folks that we've met is the reason really why this

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<v Speaker 1>has been such a joy. And I said, two of

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<v Speaker 1>our absolute favorite new friends. One of them Kathy Schwarts,

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<v Speaker 1>a lot of people are familiar with from The Golden Bachelor,

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<v Speaker 1>was a contestant there and you can't It's almost weird.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't say her name without saying the name Susan

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<v Speaker 1>Knowles is like peanut butter and Jelliot. Yeah, it's bacon eggs.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't have Kathin, not Susan. But Susan Knowles is

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<v Speaker 1>the other who is been looking for love. She's on

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<v Speaker 1>the Golden Bachelor. But I mentioned at the top we

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<v Speaker 1>saw her looking for love where just recently in one

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<v Speaker 1>of the most exclusive rooms in all of sports.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah, so Susan was with basically, I mean, probably one

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<v Speaker 4>of the most famous football players to date, probably mostly because.

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<v Speaker 2>Of who he's dating. But of course we're talking about

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<v Speaker 2>Travis Kelce's mother and Susan had a front row seat

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<v Speaker 2>in the vip bucks watching it all and maybe maybe

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<v Speaker 2>I don't know, mingling with a few people.

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<v Speaker 1>But yeah, Susan is here back with us now. We

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<v Speaker 1>wish we were in the room with you as wmuch

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<v Speaker 1>what we prefer. But Susan is always all. He's a pleasure,

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<v Speaker 1>always good to see you. We miss you. But for everybody,

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<v Speaker 1>just give them a quick update. We're gonna get it

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<v Speaker 1>into your dating life here in a second. But give

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<v Speaker 1>us a word. If I had to ask, if we

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<v Speaker 1>asked you right now, Susan, how's dating going, your one

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<v Speaker 1>word answer would be slow?

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<v Speaker 3>Okay, slow, but not I did have a date. I

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<v Speaker 3>did have a date, had one.

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<v Speaker 2>All right, that's hey. One is better than not. Right.

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<v Speaker 3>We went to play top golf. We had a great time.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay you top golf, you said, yes, all right, you

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<v Speaker 2>a golfer?

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<v Speaker 3>Ah am a golfer. I got one hell of a drive.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh wow. Yeah, we can see that smiling face of yours.

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<v Speaker 1>Always good to see you.

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<v Speaker 3>Of course, thank you for having me, but I'll say.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank you really, it's been a treat getting to know

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<v Speaker 1>you over the past year or so. But you, of

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<v Speaker 1>course were you do your own podcast as well, so

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<v Speaker 1>you're familiar with this Bachelor Happy Hour, the Golden Hour

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<v Speaker 1>with you.

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<v Speaker 3>Kathy, the Golden because we are golden.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean yes, you know you had your golden butt

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<v Speaker 1>in a golden seat because you got a golden ticket.

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<v Speaker 1>You're dead just initially. You just have to explain this

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<v Speaker 1>to us. How is it you ended up in there

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<v Speaker 1>sitting next to Travis Kelsey's mom for the playoff game.

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<v Speaker 3>So Donna and I met last year. We did a

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<v Speaker 3>job for a company and we were hired again this

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<v Speaker 3>year and that was part of it. So we did

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<v Speaker 3>filming all day and Donna and I go way back.

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<v Speaker 3>So of course I had to wear my other kelsey,

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<v Speaker 3>her other Kelsey son Eagles jersey, because I was yes, yes,

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<v Speaker 3>and everybody in my phone was blowing up. My friend's wait,

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<v Speaker 3>are you going to meet Taylor Swift? That's all they

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<v Speaker 3>cared about, seriously, and from what I understood, because Donna

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<v Speaker 3>stayed for most of the game and then she went

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<v Speaker 3>her to their box and Taylor's family is there and everything.

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<v Speaker 3>And I said to one of the producers. So everybody

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<v Speaker 3>wants to know if I'm going to meet Taylor Swift.

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<v Speaker 3>Obviously not, and she goes. You know, she said she

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<v Speaker 3>wanted her picture with you. She is that, So Taylor,

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<v Speaker 3>if you're out there listening, I would love to do that.

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<v Speaker 3>I know the game was not the place to do it,

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<v Speaker 3>as you all know, it's difficult for her to get in,

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<v Speaker 3>you know what I mean with all the security and such.

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<v Speaker 3>But yeah, that was like a little thrill.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah you were close, you were very close. How many

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<v Speaker 2>how many boxes or sweets down? Was she from me?

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<v Speaker 2>I think maybe next time? Maybe next not. Donna is

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<v Speaker 2>also divorced, she is single. Is she ready to mingle?

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<v Speaker 2>Did you all talk about dating?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes? You know me, Amy, come on, of course I

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<v Speaker 3>talked to her and honestly, no, she's like, really, I

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<v Speaker 3>am good. She's doing just fine. She's enjoying her life

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<v Speaker 3>as she's good. And yeah, no, I don't think she's

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<v Speaker 3>where I am.

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<v Speaker 1>Really in there and during the game, sitting next to

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<v Speaker 1>Travis Kelce's mom, you all still just become women talking

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<v Speaker 1>about I guess girls women.

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<v Speaker 3>And it wasn't our first meet, you know, we know

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<v Speaker 3>each other. We spent time before. So, yeah, I quizzer,

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<v Speaker 3>what's in her life? You know?

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<v Speaker 2>So she's uninterested in finding someone at this point in

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<v Speaker 2>her life. She is happy with her single status and

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<v Speaker 2>that's how she wants to keep it.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, yes, that's what I gather.

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<v Speaker 1>But but that doesn't register for you. Do you do

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<v Speaker 1>you listen to someone?

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<v Speaker 3>I want to find my person. I want somebody to

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<v Speaker 3>miss me and get like butterflies when I see him

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<v Speaker 3>come in the room. You know what I mean? Good sex,

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<v Speaker 3>good loving, good caring, have fun, play golf.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I do get that, and I love hearing you

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<v Speaker 2>say that, because I think I could be wrong. But

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of women, and I'm not saying that Donna Kelcey,

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<v Speaker 2>She's I'm sure there are plenty of women who have

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<v Speaker 2>zero desire to start again and to deal with relationships

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<v Speaker 2>because as great as they all are, sometimes or even initially,

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<v Speaker 2>they're messy and they're hard, and they're difficult and they

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<v Speaker 2>require work. So I get it. At a certain point, you

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<v Speaker 2>might just be like, I'm done. I got my girlfriends,

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<v Speaker 2>I got my kids.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm good. I might have said this before, isn't it

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<v Speaker 3>don't they say? When you stop looking, that's when you

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<v Speaker 3>find somebody. Well, I've tried that too.

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<v Speaker 2>Ah didn't work.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe not long enough. I don't know. My eyes are

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<v Speaker 3>always open.

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<v Speaker 2>I think a lot of women might be afraid to

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<v Speaker 2>say they want it. I think a lot of women

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<v Speaker 2>might be unwilling to be vulnerable to say they desire

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<v Speaker 2>what you're saying I desire because they're afraid it's not

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<v Speaker 2>out there. They're afraid of rejection, they're afraid they're age old.

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<v Speaker 2>That yes, that the older guys are the guys who

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<v Speaker 2>they'd be interested want people women twenty thirty years younger

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<v Speaker 2>than them, and so they're afreed to admit.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, that's Cathy's whole thing. They don't want me, and

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<v Speaker 3>she's healthier and better eight than most people at ten

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<v Speaker 3>years twenty years younger. But it's true, And I ask you, djay,

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<v Speaker 3>men prefer younger because of the number I think, I

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<v Speaker 3>don't know. I mean we could look good. I think

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<v Speaker 3>I look good for sixty seven years old. I mean

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<v Speaker 3>I can stand next to any fifty seven year old.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh my god.

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<v Speaker 1>We get so caught up in that because I know

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<v Speaker 1>plenty of men that don't, under any circumstance want to

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<v Speaker 1>date someone in their twenties or maybe they're early.

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<v Speaker 3>Thirty, not that young.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, yeah, but yeah, I get to your point. I

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<v Speaker 1>get what you're saying. But it is a matter of

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<v Speaker 1>you have to get to know people. And attraction is

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<v Speaker 1>not just by what I see across the room. It's

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<v Speaker 1>what I actually inside about the person. When else I

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<v Speaker 1>get close to that person, who might be more beautiful

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<v Speaker 1>up close and from across the room. Once you actually

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<v Speaker 1>get to talk to somebody.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah's inside. And that's the problem I think with all

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<v Speaker 3>the dating sitees. Not that I'm against them, but I

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<v Speaker 3>went off prior to going on the show, even I

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<v Speaker 3>just gave up for a while. But you're looking at

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<v Speaker 3>a picture and you're reading a very short bio. That's

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<v Speaker 3>a tough game, you know what I mean. If you're

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<v Speaker 3>introduced and somebody that you might not even be attracted to,

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<v Speaker 3>but you're getting to know, all of a sudden you

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<v Speaker 3>find that they're so attractive, not physically because of exactly

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<v Speaker 3>what you said.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, isn't it about the conversation section and how much

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<v Speaker 2>you can laugh with one another, how much you can

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<v Speaker 2>relate to one another vess because looks bade and once

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<v Speaker 2>you get a little bit older, you realize that in

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<v Speaker 2>a very dramatic way, like, hey, oh gosh, you know,

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<v Speaker 2>so this ain't hanging around and if you don't have

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<v Speaker 2>something deeper or better, it's not going to last. So

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<v Speaker 2>do you find I don't know how many sporting events

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<v Speaker 2>you go to, but is that a good place to

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<v Speaker 2>date or at least to look around for potential dates?

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe not throwing the playoffs? I mean.

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<v Speaker 2>They're kind of focused on the fields.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, a lot, a lot. And the freezing cold weather too.

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<v Speaker 3>That didn't help. But no, there was. There's quite a

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<v Speaker 3>lot of men, but most of them married. You know.

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<v Speaker 3>I don't walk around with like a sign on my

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<v Speaker 3>head saying I am available. As a matter of fact,

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<v Speaker 3>I've been told more than a few times I'm clueless.

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<v Speaker 3>Like people say, didn't you see that guy looking at you?

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<v Speaker 3>And go oho? No, Like I'm on a mission. I'm

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<v Speaker 3>going to where I'm going, you know, I don't slow

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<v Speaker 3>it down a bit. Maybe that's what I need to do.

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<v Speaker 3>And I have, as you know, a large personality, so

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<v Speaker 3>someone would have to enjoy that part of me, you know.

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<v Speaker 1>So I'm curious about that. You said you don't notice

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<v Speaker 1>the sign sometimes? Are you doing something different or doing

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<v Speaker 1>something to address that, because that's a that's a big deal.

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<v Speaker 3>Well, could you tell me what to do to address that?

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<v Speaker 3>Slow down and look every person in the eye, because

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<v Speaker 3>I could look in.

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<v Speaker 1>The awareness and an engagement. And I guess it's a

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<v Speaker 1>matter of just being making sure you stay in the

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<v Speaker 1>moment and where you are versus maybe like you say,

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<v Speaker 1>your head is down and your phone.

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<v Speaker 3>No, my head is never downj Yeah, my head is never.

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<v Speaker 2>But maybe it could be swiveling. I mean, the thing is,

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<v Speaker 2>when you're in your twenties and thirties, think about it,

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<v Speaker 2>and you know you've got a little bit of I

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<v Speaker 2>don't want to say power, but you know you can

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<v Speaker 2>maybe turn heads right, or you can get some eye contact.

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<v Speaker 2>You can have that that knowing glance with someone. That

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<v Speaker 2>is the first step in flirting, or at least saying

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<v Speaker 2>I'm available without saying I'm available. Yes, maybe when you

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<v Speaker 2>get older, you don't feel like people are looking at

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<v Speaker 2>you as much. You do in a sense just kind

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<v Speaker 2>of rush across the room. You don't take your time

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<v Speaker 2>and say, hey, not only notice me, but I'm noticing you.

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<v Speaker 2>Maybe we don't think we could or should, and we

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<v Speaker 2>did when we were younger.

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<v Speaker 3>Didn't we think? Well, I got a lot of attention

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<v Speaker 3>most of my life, and then I had children, and

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<v Speaker 3>now my daughter grew up and she got attention with yah.

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<v Speaker 3>But I get the nice old people in wah Wah

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<v Speaker 3>and around and say, ma'am, do you know you're beautiful

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<v Speaker 3>at all? Thank you? I'll take them. I can get.

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<v Speaker 1>Wow. Did we mention we're talking to a Philadelphia Gale?

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<v Speaker 1>People didn't get that. You know, we were talking you

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<v Speaker 1>started off the top here. We didn't expect that news.

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<v Speaker 1>Or you were talking about this date you went on recently.

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<v Speaker 1>Do tell as much as you can. Who is this guy?

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<v Speaker 1>How'd you meet? And will there be another date?

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<v Speaker 3>Yes, they'll probably be another date. He was quiet, quite

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<v Speaker 3>the polar opposite of me, and he didn't know who

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<v Speaker 3>I was, and I asked him not to google.

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<v Speaker 2>He googled immediately He probably probably don't.

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<v Speaker 3>I really don't think he did, and he was surprised

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<v Speaker 3>when we sat and we talked for a couple hours

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<v Speaker 3>before we played top golf, and he was really easy

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<v Speaker 3>to talk to and I shared some things about me

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<v Speaker 3>my life and said at the end how grateful I

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<v Speaker 3>was for my life. You know, I've had a great

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<v Speaker 3>life not long before, a golden bachelor, like, I'm in

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<v Speaker 3>a good place. And I asked him the same, and

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<v Speaker 3>his wasn't as happy as mine, you know, and I

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<v Speaker 3>felt bad. But now everybody has their stuff, so right away,

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<v Speaker 3>is that a red flag? He's never been married and

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<v Speaker 3>never had children.

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<v Speaker 2>How old is he?

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<v Speaker 3>Fifty six?

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, he's a younger guy, of.

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<v Speaker 3>Course he is. I don't care about the number. I

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<v Speaker 3>don't care if he was seventy six. But he had

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<v Speaker 3>He's nice looking, he was tall enough. He was pleasant

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<v Speaker 3>and quiet, and we talked about my personality. I said,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm a lot. He goes you are, he said, but

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<v Speaker 3>I like it. It was nice.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, maybe he's a really good listener and he appreciates

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<v Speaker 2>someone like you who can spice up his life, you know.

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<v Speaker 2>I mean I think that. Look, if you have shared interest,

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<v Speaker 2>if you have shared goals and all of that, that's important.

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<v Speaker 2>But it's kind of nice to have different personalities. I'm

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<v Speaker 2>an extrovert. You're an introvert, right and you don't realize that,

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<v Speaker 2>but listen, I'm an introvert.

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<v Speaker 1>Look everybody, he is really like it.

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<v Speaker 2>In social settings. He actually, you know, you would know

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<v Speaker 2>because he loves talking to you and Kathy, but he's

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<v Speaker 2>not He's discerning in who he speaks to, and he

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<v Speaker 2>listens a lot.

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<v Speaker 1>Very happy sitting in the corner of the room, just

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<v Speaker 1>watching it all happen.

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<v Speaker 3>Watch an Amy walk across the room and getting the butterflies.

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<v Speaker 2>And you know me, I'm like talk talk talk talk,

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<v Speaker 2>talk talk, So I do think that that works to

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<v Speaker 2>have to have you can't have a talk talk talkers.

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<v Speaker 1>Besides, the golf, was there a meal involved drinks and bold.

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<v Speaker 3>We sat and had a couple of drinks enemy a

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<v Speaker 3>little bite, and then we were at Top Golf, so

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<v Speaker 3>we ate there and then of course I forgot my glove.

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<v Speaker 3>I ran downstairs to get the glove. Yeah, and we

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<v Speaker 3>played for a while. It was good. I was doing

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<v Speaker 3>pretty well, like I promised him. It's not that good

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<v Speaker 3>when I get out on the course. But he was

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<v Speaker 3>a little intimidated. But I think he can play real well.

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<v Speaker 3>And that's a plan for the spring that maybe we'll

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<v Speaker 3>play some golf.

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<v Speaker 2>So how did you all meet? How did you end

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<v Speaker 2>up on this date? Were you set up? Were you did.

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<v Speaker 3>You actually on Facebook? Oh?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, how did that go?

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<v Speaker 3>He said? There was Facebook dating. I think it is.

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<v Speaker 3>I went on for about ten minutes. He messaged me

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<v Speaker 3>and we chatted for I don't know, two or three

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<v Speaker 3>messages and that girl and I said, would you like

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<v Speaker 3>to exchange digits? It might be a lot easier because

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<v Speaker 3>I don't get on that. So that's what we did.

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<v Speaker 3>Is he vocal in Philadelphia?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh that's great, that's great.

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<v Speaker 2>Do you do you? This is so interesting because I

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<v Speaker 2>don't know if it depends on what age range you're in,

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<v Speaker 2>but do you still play games and don't and wait

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<v Speaker 2>to text back?

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<v Speaker 3>Oh? No, I was never good at that.

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<v Speaker 2>Great, I love suck at that.

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<v Speaker 3>Actually, everything I read that what we shouldn't do? I

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<v Speaker 3>do all that, shouldn't you know? I'll text first, I'll

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<v Speaker 3>ask them out. I don't care. Let's just do this,

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<v Speaker 3>you know what.

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<v Speaker 2>That's what's so nice about getting older is that you

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<v Speaker 2>you have the confidence to just be yourself and if

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<v Speaker 2>they don't like you or they want you to be

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<v Speaker 2>playing games, they're not for you anyway, and you just

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<v Speaker 2>learn sooner, which is better. So how often do you

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<v Speaker 2>guys chatter? Talk?

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<v Speaker 3>A couple of times a week and it's only it's new,

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<v Speaker 3>really new like, it's been two weeks and then I

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<v Speaker 3>was traveling.

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<v Speaker 5>So yeah, you know what, how do when we're young,

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<v Speaker 5>younger and there are twenties or whatever, we start dating people,

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<v Speaker 5>you have a thought of is this person's you think

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<v Speaker 5>about marriage or kids?

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<v Speaker 1>Right, You're seeing your relationship kind of play out a

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<v Speaker 1>certain way when that is not on the table, when

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<v Speaker 1>you're not trying to build a family. I guess, how

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<v Speaker 1>do you lead? I guess it.

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<v Speaker 3>Easier to look at somebody like, am I going to

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<v Speaker 3>enjoy your company?

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<v Speaker 1>Damn? That's a good point.

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<v Speaker 3>You know. I got to be able to have fun

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<v Speaker 3>with you, or be bored with you, be silent with you.

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<v Speaker 3>Do you like to travel? Where have you been? Do

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<v Speaker 3>you want to go back? Like? Things like that, And

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<v Speaker 3>that's where sometimes the intimidation thing happens. Because I've been everywhere.

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<v Speaker 3>I made it a point to go everywhere. I love it.

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<v Speaker 3>I love to travel. I've been in Italy six times.

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<v Speaker 3>And when I ask, you're half Italian, have you been

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<v Speaker 3>to Italy? No, you need to go.

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<v Speaker 2>You can get him to go, You can encourage each

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<v Speaker 2>other to do things. But it is interesting.

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<v Speaker 1>The intimidation. One thing I didn't think about. Yeah, right, Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>what does that say? I mean you're meeting grown men

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<v Speaker 1>who've had sometimes relationships and families and careers, but they

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<v Speaker 1>are intimidated by just your life.

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<v Speaker 3>Experience, just by my present, like a lot of men

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<v Speaker 3>through my life. Because I would ask my girlfriend's husbands

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<v Speaker 3>and all that I'm good friends with, what is wrong

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<v Speaker 3>with me? Why? Susan, you're very intimidating? Why as soon

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<v Speaker 3>as you speak to me? I know you guys know

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<v Speaker 3>I'm warm, I'm easy to talk to, I'm fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Isn't it about control? Doesn't in a certain of some men?

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<v Speaker 2>And you know they like to be in charge, and

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<v Speaker 2>I think they know if they dated you, they wouldn't be.

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<v Speaker 3>Maybe, I mean, I got to be in charge a

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<v Speaker 3>little bit certain.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm running through my mind here. How we talk about

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<v Speaker 1>her warmth? There is nothing but warmth that came, But

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<v Speaker 1>we are also not looking at her in that way.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't know. It probably is intimidating. I mean you

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<v Speaker 1>to say, I mean you ropes we talk about this,

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<v Speaker 1>you can be intimidating women who are who are independent,

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<v Speaker 1>who are that confident, who are that strong, who are

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<v Speaker 1>that who frankly sometimes isn't a damsel in distress.

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<v Speaker 3>You're exactly right, neither one of you two.

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<v Speaker 1>If I if this place is on fire, I would

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<v Speaker 1>just say, all right soon, I'll see you outside. You

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<v Speaker 1>don't need saving.

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<v Speaker 3>Oh no, no, no, see that you just blew it.

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<v Speaker 3>You just that's a big no. Right now, you run

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<v Speaker 3>and take honey. Let me get you out first.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you're still.

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<v Speaker 2>He actually actually to defend what he just said about himself.

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<v Speaker 2>He would and would we have had moments where there

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<v Speaker 2>have been We had one in particular where there was

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<v Speaker 2>a dangerous thing. He immediately thought of me first versus protesting.

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<v Speaker 2>Does a man should He did, and he passed the

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<v Speaker 2>test without a realizing So you did, being.

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<v Speaker 1>Self deprecating in the point, even something as simple as

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<v Speaker 1>you putting your luggage in the bin in the in

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<v Speaker 1>the airplane. She I used to try to run and

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<v Speaker 1>go help her do it, and she always I got it,

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<v Speaker 1>I got it, I got it. That's and that's fine.

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<v Speaker 3>I let you do it now, though yeah I would too.

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<v Speaker 3>Mine's always heavy, right, But.

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<v Speaker 1>If it's intimidating to a guy. You all are those

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<v Speaker 1>two people who, yes, you want to send the flowers,

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<v Speaker 1>save me from the building, help me with my bag.

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<v Speaker 1>But trust me, I can buy my own flowers, I

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<v Speaker 1>can carry my own bag.

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<v Speaker 3>Yes we can. But we love it when you do

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<v Speaker 3>it exactly.

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<v Speaker 1>But you all are so outward, you too, at least

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<v Speaker 1>are in your strength.

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<v Speaker 3>So are you suggesting that I lower it a little bit,

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<v Speaker 3>be a little bit more soft spoken, and let somebody

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<v Speaker 3>else take the lead?

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<v Speaker 2>You?

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<v Speaker 1>You don't want a guy who if he can't deal,

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<v Speaker 1>if he can't handle you. This real you you don't

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<v Speaker 1>want them anyway. Might last for a little while, but

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<v Speaker 1>at some point you'll ye, no.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah, you have to.

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<v Speaker 2>And there are plenty of men out there who appreciate

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<v Speaker 2>of strong women and who need one whom who had

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<v Speaker 2>moms who were strong women, you know, and so they

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<v Speaker 2>are actually seeking that out, whether they realize it or not.

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<v Speaker 2>And they're not. They're not everywhere. And I remember there

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<v Speaker 2>were always a lot of men out there who I

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<v Speaker 2>just knew immediately, like there's no way they would be

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<v Speaker 2>not going to work.

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<v Speaker 1>I asked myself that every day, are you considering Susan

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<v Speaker 1>doing anything different, switching anything up?

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<v Speaker 3>Stop looking again? I mean I wanted to try to

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<v Speaker 3>go back on it. I joined like that match dot

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<v Speaker 3>com for not even a month. It was a week

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<v Speaker 3>and I already deleted everything. The profile was like, I can't,

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<v Speaker 3>I just can't do this. I am happy. I do

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<v Speaker 3>want to find my person to get old with. I do,

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<v Speaker 3>but I can't. I don't know. I don't want to

0:22:54.200 --> 0:22:59.040
<v Speaker 3>say lower myself. That's the terrible phreeze. But sit online

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<v Speaker 3>and search through the these pictures in these profiles and

0:23:01.960 --> 0:23:05.880
<v Speaker 3>be judgmental. It's like, this is not healthy. I'm all

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<v Speaker 3>over the place. Why can't I meet somebody walking to

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<v Speaker 3>the airport or in the store at the grocery store,

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<v Speaker 3>squeeze in the fresh fruit.

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<v Speaker 2>To that point? Do you I'm curious because I struggle.

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<v Speaker 2>I would struggle with this if I weren't in a relationship,

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<v Speaker 2>but might push myself in this direction. Do you go

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<v Speaker 2>to restaurants by yourself?

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<v Speaker 3>Do you have yeah?

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<v Speaker 2>Establishments alone?

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<v Speaker 3>And I won't pick up my phone. It's like a job.

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<v Speaker 3>Do not get on the phone. Do you know how

0:23:40.200 --> 0:23:44.680
<v Speaker 3>weird it is sitting there by yourself and there's all

0:23:44.760 --> 0:23:49.840
<v Speaker 3>these forty somethings and they're coupled, and some people will

0:23:49.920 --> 0:23:52.120
<v Speaker 3>chat once in a while, few words, or I'll try

0:23:52.160 --> 0:23:54.800
<v Speaker 3>to make fun with the bartender just to have a conversation,

0:23:54.920 --> 0:23:58.840
<v Speaker 3>and then I start feeling weird. Yeah, and as long

0:23:58.840 --> 0:24:00.920
<v Speaker 3>as there are food in a glass the wine, I'm good.

0:24:01.320 --> 0:24:04.159
<v Speaker 3>When you're sitting there waiting, it's like, okay, what do

0:24:04.200 --> 0:24:04.880
<v Speaker 3>I do now?

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<v Speaker 1>You know I do this. I enjoy what you just described.

0:24:10.240 --> 0:24:12.439
<v Speaker 1>Leave the phone down and just take it all in

0:24:12.560 --> 0:24:16.280
<v Speaker 1>around you and enjoy a meal with peace. I don't

0:24:16.320 --> 0:24:18.400
<v Speaker 1>mind it at all. Obviously I'm not there trying to date,

0:24:18.440 --> 0:24:19.800
<v Speaker 1>but it's I know what.

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<v Speaker 3>You don't mind it either. I'm not. I'm perfectly comfortable,

0:24:23.800 --> 0:24:28.000
<v Speaker 3>but you're hoping that somebody looks at you right Well,

0:24:28.040 --> 0:24:31.240
<v Speaker 3>you don't because you have your person. But when you're alone,

0:24:31.280 --> 0:24:35.879
<v Speaker 3>you're like, and I'm looking around thinking they're way too young.

0:24:36.000 --> 0:24:38.879
<v Speaker 3>They're all with people. Just enjoy your meal, Susan.

0:24:39.800 --> 0:24:42.439
<v Speaker 2>Susan, would you vacation alone or have you vacationed alone?

0:24:42.920 --> 0:24:43.480
<v Speaker 2>I have.

0:24:43.680 --> 0:24:46.960
<v Speaker 3>I When I was living in Philadelphia in the city,

0:24:47.480 --> 0:24:50.199
<v Speaker 3>it was New Year's Day and I was with my

0:24:50.560 --> 0:24:54.960
<v Speaker 3>most favorite gaze and I was always with them every holiday,

0:24:54.960 --> 0:24:57.560
<v Speaker 3>and I was the other one, the third one, you know,

0:24:58.280 --> 0:24:59.919
<v Speaker 3>And I woke up New Year's Day and said, you

0:24:59.920 --> 0:25:01.840
<v Speaker 3>know know what, guys, I'm going to take myself to

0:25:01.920 --> 0:25:05.399
<v Speaker 3>Italy for fifteen days. I'm going to give six months

0:25:05.440 --> 0:25:08.640
<v Speaker 3>to planet and I'm going. And it was like huge

0:25:08.800 --> 0:25:12.399
<v Speaker 3>for me. And I did when I landed, Oh my gosh,

0:25:12.800 --> 0:25:16.080
<v Speaker 3>this most handsome man with my name. When I'm going,

0:25:16.200 --> 0:25:18.359
<v Speaker 3>oh my god, I mean he could have been my son,

0:25:18.440 --> 0:25:21.160
<v Speaker 3>of course, and he takes me in the little water

0:25:21.280 --> 0:25:23.840
<v Speaker 3>taxi I was in Venice and drops me off and

0:25:23.880 --> 0:25:26.879
<v Speaker 3>I get up to this little tiny room and I thought, oh,

0:25:27.080 --> 0:25:30.440
<v Speaker 3>what did I do? What do I do now? Yeah,

0:25:30.480 --> 0:25:34.040
<v Speaker 3>And that's when it began my journey. It was fabulous,

0:25:34.640 --> 0:25:38.760
<v Speaker 3>but there was so so many times, so many moments

0:25:38.840 --> 0:25:42.160
<v Speaker 3>that I wished I was sharing it with somebody. I'm

0:25:42.240 --> 0:25:46.320
<v Speaker 3>like a hopeless romantic. I love romance, you know.

0:25:46.840 --> 0:25:49.760
<v Speaker 2>I just I got even emotional thinking about it because

0:25:49.880 --> 0:25:52.159
<v Speaker 2>I feel the same way like I can be alone.

0:25:52.760 --> 0:25:56.000
<v Speaker 2>But when you experience something beautiful, you want to share

0:25:56.040 --> 0:25:59.119
<v Speaker 2>it or fun or funny, you want to share it

0:25:59.119 --> 0:26:01.400
<v Speaker 2>with some muss. Yes, that's my.

0:26:01.520 --> 0:26:04.000
<v Speaker 3>Issue, that's what was missing. I mean, I have the

0:26:04.040 --> 0:26:07.119
<v Speaker 3>time of my life and it empowered me in so

0:26:07.240 --> 0:26:10.320
<v Speaker 3>many ways. It wasn't too long after that, Eat, Pray, Love,

0:26:10.359 --> 0:26:11.920
<v Speaker 3>and I thought where should I get next?

0:26:15.080 --> 0:26:16.760
<v Speaker 2>Oh my goodness, I know. I think it's one of

0:26:16.840 --> 0:26:22.120
<v Speaker 2>those dreams that sounds amazing and is but so scary

0:26:22.119 --> 0:26:25.280
<v Speaker 2>to actually put into practice. I traveled a lot alone

0:26:25.520 --> 0:26:29.480
<v Speaker 2>for work, and and I did have moments where I

0:26:29.480 --> 0:26:31.600
<v Speaker 2>was like, Okay, this is I was alone in this

0:26:32.119 --> 0:26:34.439
<v Speaker 2>mansion that I had been put up in and no

0:26:34.440 --> 0:26:37.960
<v Speaker 2>one else ended up staying there on like in the

0:26:38.040 --> 0:26:41.240
<v Speaker 2>Seychelles with the Indian Ocean pounding wats below me, and

0:26:41.280 --> 0:26:43.480
<v Speaker 2>I just thought, You're like, why am I by my

0:26:43.680 --> 0:26:46.960
<v Speaker 2>cellar place alone for three weeks?

0:26:47.560 --> 0:26:51.840
<v Speaker 1>Nobody's going to believe this. I would have gone, wow,

0:26:53.119 --> 0:26:53.879
<v Speaker 1>I should have called me.

0:26:54.119 --> 0:26:55.359
<v Speaker 3>I wouldn't joined you.

0:26:56.240 --> 0:26:58.200
<v Speaker 2>But actually the truth is I was married at the time,

0:26:58.240 --> 0:27:01.600
<v Speaker 2>and those that those weeks gave me clarity, like of

0:27:01.640 --> 0:27:03.240
<v Speaker 2>what I knew I wanted to do, which was a

0:27:03.760 --> 0:27:04.600
<v Speaker 2>end my marriage.

0:27:04.760 --> 0:27:08.160
<v Speaker 3>Well, you're in touch with yourself and you have time.

0:27:08.680 --> 0:27:11.159
<v Speaker 3>What am I doing? Am I happy? Where do I

0:27:11.200 --> 0:27:13.200
<v Speaker 3>want to be? Yeah?

0:27:13.359 --> 0:27:16.359
<v Speaker 2>No, there's a lot of aha moments. It can come

0:27:16.560 --> 0:27:20.119
<v Speaker 2>in those moments of solitude. But I know you're looking

0:27:20.160 --> 0:27:23.560
<v Speaker 2>for that person. So you said, I mean, obviously you

0:27:23.640 --> 0:27:28.240
<v Speaker 2>went onto Facebook, and that has borne some fruit. We'll

0:27:28.280 --> 0:27:32.040
<v Speaker 2>see what happens. Do you have a strategy, a plan

0:27:32.080 --> 0:27:34.320
<v Speaker 2>of attack for this new year for twenty twenty five

0:27:34.359 --> 0:27:35.000
<v Speaker 2>to find love?

0:27:36.160 --> 0:27:40.480
<v Speaker 3>No, No, it's more about I have some good news

0:27:40.480 --> 0:27:43.960
<v Speaker 3>I'm going to share. So I was opening an email

0:27:44.000 --> 0:27:50.280
<v Speaker 3>and I never even heard of IOATP the International Organization

0:27:50.480 --> 0:27:54.000
<v Speaker 3>of Top Professionals, And I will be announced shortly that

0:27:54.400 --> 0:27:56.840
<v Speaker 3>I've been nominated for the Officiate of the Year of

0:27:56.840 --> 0:28:04.080
<v Speaker 3>twenty twenty five. WHOA so exciting. So there's a big

0:28:04.119 --> 0:28:07.040
<v Speaker 3>photo shoot in New York under the Nastac Building. My

0:28:07.520 --> 0:28:09.280
<v Speaker 3>picture will be up there and they'll do a photo

0:28:09.280 --> 0:28:12.679
<v Speaker 3>shoot and it's a huge It's all over the world,

0:28:12.920 --> 0:28:15.680
<v Speaker 3>like watching the videos from last year. This year, it'll

0:28:15.720 --> 0:28:20.439
<v Speaker 3>be in December in Las Vegas, and the people like

0:28:20.960 --> 0:28:25.520
<v Speaker 3>every walk of life and it's dripping and downs and

0:28:25.680 --> 0:28:28.960
<v Speaker 3>gorgeous and I'm like, oh my god, this is me.

0:28:31.480 --> 0:28:32.480
<v Speaker 3>So I'm tickled.

0:28:32.600 --> 0:28:35.199
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, tell us how you earned the honor? How you

0:28:35.280 --> 0:28:36.359
<v Speaker 2>earned the award.

0:28:36.520 --> 0:28:39.480
<v Speaker 3>I don't know who nominated me, but they said that

0:28:39.560 --> 0:28:42.840
<v Speaker 3>they have watched and what I've shared with the public

0:28:43.000 --> 0:28:45.920
<v Speaker 3>and what I do and my talk. You know, I'm

0:28:45.960 --> 0:28:49.480
<v Speaker 3>all about empowering women that are over the age of

0:28:49.520 --> 0:28:52.480
<v Speaker 3>fifty or sixty, that we still have a light. There's

0:28:52.560 --> 0:29:05.360
<v Speaker 3>so many possibilities. I mean, look at me. Who'd have thought.

0:29:06.760 --> 0:29:11.080
<v Speaker 1>You are forever optimistic even if something didn't go your

0:29:11.080 --> 0:29:13.400
<v Speaker 1>way or this isn't happening the way you want. And

0:29:13.440 --> 0:29:16.840
<v Speaker 1>we've talked about that from personal and professional aspects of

0:29:16.880 --> 0:29:20.640
<v Speaker 1>your life. You are eternally optimistic and upbeat and just

0:29:21.160 --> 0:29:23.480
<v Speaker 1>everything you say and your energy. Folks can't see you

0:29:23.840 --> 0:29:27.640
<v Speaker 1>right now, but from the moment you just you're bursting, right,

0:29:27.680 --> 0:29:31.160
<v Speaker 1>You're just that smile. Yeah, yeah, you're always so we

0:29:31.280 --> 0:29:33.400
<v Speaker 1>have I'm not kidding you. We don't make a lot

0:29:33.440 --> 0:29:35.360
<v Speaker 1>of new friends on purpose these.

0:29:35.280 --> 0:29:38.880
<v Speaker 3>Days, right right, You know a lot of people, but

0:29:39.080 --> 0:29:40.920
<v Speaker 3>friends are Yes, You're one of.

0:29:40.840 --> 0:29:44.640
<v Speaker 1>Our favorite favorite new people. It really is a treat

0:29:44.680 --> 0:29:46.640
<v Speaker 1>to gotten to know as much as we have over

0:29:46.680 --> 0:29:47.680
<v Speaker 1>the past year plus.

0:29:47.840 --> 0:29:50.960
<v Speaker 3>Yeah, and people that are gloomy and doomy, like I've

0:29:51.120 --> 0:29:54.720
<v Speaker 3>separated myself from people that I've known since grade school

0:29:54.720 --> 0:29:57.840
<v Speaker 3>that we're still friends, but I choose not to because

0:29:58.120 --> 0:30:00.840
<v Speaker 3>I tried. I tried to con instant look at the

0:30:00.880 --> 0:30:06.080
<v Speaker 3>brighter side. I'm so such a believer in positive attracts.

0:30:06.120 --> 0:30:08.160
<v Speaker 3>Positive and what you put out there, you're going to

0:30:08.200 --> 0:30:10.760
<v Speaker 3>get right back at you. So if you feel a

0:30:10.760 --> 0:30:16.120
<v Speaker 3>little negativity, be aware of it, stop and rephrase it

0:30:16.520 --> 0:30:19.760
<v Speaker 3>and change the thought. I mean, it really works.

0:30:20.200 --> 0:30:24.320
<v Speaker 2>It totally does. I am such a believer in positive energy,

0:30:24.400 --> 0:30:27.680
<v Speaker 2>and it's so easy to start complaining and we all

0:30:27.720 --> 0:30:30.160
<v Speaker 2>do it. But I'd like say, oh, do you hear

0:30:30.200 --> 0:30:32.400
<v Speaker 2>what you just did or said yeah, it's in your

0:30:32.400 --> 0:30:35.560
<v Speaker 2>head right, and just say how can I find a positive?

0:30:35.560 --> 0:30:38.000
<v Speaker 2>And what I just said like stop a race? You

0:30:38.000 --> 0:30:40.479
<v Speaker 2>can always find the positive, and yes, if you can

0:30:40.520 --> 0:30:44.840
<v Speaker 2>find someone else who has that same goal, because we're

0:30:44.840 --> 0:30:46.640
<v Speaker 2>not all always going to be positive.

0:30:47.040 --> 0:30:48.440
<v Speaker 3>No, I have moments, trust me.

0:30:49.160 --> 0:30:51.560
<v Speaker 2>Yeah, clearly we all do. But if you know that

0:30:51.560 --> 0:30:54.959
<v Speaker 2>that is important, and you recognize how important that is

0:30:54.960 --> 0:30:58.160
<v Speaker 2>to your overall happiness and your mental well being, that's

0:30:58.360 --> 0:30:59.520
<v Speaker 2>key to find.

0:30:59.280 --> 0:31:02.560
<v Speaker 3>It gets you threw the dawn parts, the sad parts.

0:31:02.600 --> 0:31:05.120
<v Speaker 3>You know, it's got to get better. I was once

0:31:05.280 --> 0:31:09.840
<v Speaker 3>asked this question and some people look at me like, well,

0:31:09.880 --> 0:31:12.600
<v Speaker 3>you love yourself? I said, no, it's true. How does

0:31:12.640 --> 0:31:15.640
<v Speaker 3>this feel, this new celebrity because you were on TV

0:31:15.880 --> 0:31:18.280
<v Speaker 3>and now you're a star d I said, you know,

0:31:19.200 --> 0:31:22.960
<v Speaker 3>I was a star the day I was born. It's

0:31:23.200 --> 0:31:26.000
<v Speaker 3>just time the rest of the world knows it. I mean,

0:31:26.080 --> 0:31:29.560
<v Speaker 3>doing hair behind the chair for forty years, you're a star.

0:31:29.880 --> 0:31:33.320
<v Speaker 3>I perform every day in the salon when I worked

0:31:33.320 --> 0:31:35.920
<v Speaker 3>in the salon, and I listened to people and helped

0:31:36.040 --> 0:31:40.520
<v Speaker 3>make people feel good about themselves. So it's a natural

0:31:40.560 --> 0:31:41.160
<v Speaker 3>thing for me.

0:31:41.640 --> 0:31:43.560
<v Speaker 2>I love that, you know, TJ. I don't know where

0:31:43.600 --> 0:31:45.240
<v Speaker 2>you got it from, but you said to me, and

0:31:45.280 --> 0:31:47.440
<v Speaker 2>you actually just said this, Susan, that you're looking for

0:31:47.480 --> 0:31:50.840
<v Speaker 2>someone to grow old with. And TJ's like you read

0:31:50.840 --> 0:31:53.920
<v Speaker 2>somewhere that someone said you should be looking for someone

0:31:54.000 --> 0:31:57.440
<v Speaker 2>to stay young with. And I feel like that's what

0:31:57.480 --> 0:31:58.240
<v Speaker 2>you're looking for.

0:31:58.440 --> 0:32:01.280
<v Speaker 3>Oh I like that. Thank you. Oh that was like

0:32:01.320 --> 0:32:02.440
<v Speaker 3>a goosebump movement.

0:32:02.960 --> 0:32:06.240
<v Speaker 1>But it makes sense. For it's hard to find folks

0:32:06.360 --> 0:32:09.360
<v Speaker 1>like you anywhere who look at life that way that

0:32:09.480 --> 0:32:11.320
<v Speaker 1>I am just trying to be a kid for as

0:32:11.440 --> 0:32:13.360
<v Speaker 1>long as I can, and that's what we all should

0:32:13.400 --> 0:32:15.480
<v Speaker 1>be trying to do. So that is going to be

0:32:15.520 --> 0:32:18.320
<v Speaker 1>a challenge for you out because most people just aren't

0:32:18.320 --> 0:32:18.840
<v Speaker 1>built like that.

0:32:19.320 --> 0:32:21.520
<v Speaker 3>I'll never grow up though, I mean.

0:32:22.720 --> 0:32:25.880
<v Speaker 2>I know, right proudly displaying or showing or talking about

0:32:25.920 --> 0:32:29.440
<v Speaker 2>your Peter Pan syndrome. I we're all responsible adults, but

0:32:29.600 --> 0:32:31.880
<v Speaker 2>I have always try to be in touch with my

0:32:31.960 --> 0:32:35.480
<v Speaker 2>inner child. I tried. I try to slide across the floor.

0:32:35.640 --> 0:32:36.440
<v Speaker 3>That's fun.

0:32:36.600 --> 0:32:39.000
<v Speaker 2>Yes, back up the music and dance right.

0:32:40.800 --> 0:32:43.000
<v Speaker 1>Oh my god, wait a minute, we forgot Wait a minute,

0:32:43.040 --> 0:32:44.880
<v Speaker 1>we forgot to ask Jesus crime. I mean, who the

0:32:44.880 --> 0:32:45.880
<v Speaker 1>hell is this Jack guy?

0:32:46.080 --> 0:32:48.920
<v Speaker 3>Oh yeah, Jack, Jack, God bless Jack.

0:32:49.120 --> 0:32:50.240
<v Speaker 1>What's with you and Jack?

0:32:50.760 --> 0:32:55.160
<v Speaker 3>The world thought Susan Jack, Susan and Jack. Jack likes

0:32:55.200 --> 0:33:01.360
<v Speaker 3>to cook like I do. Jack was on Jean's bachelorette Yes, yes,

0:33:01.720 --> 0:33:06.120
<v Speaker 3>and we did meet, and he's he'd be a great friend.

0:33:06.800 --> 0:33:08.880
<v Speaker 1>Then why does everybody else think be great?

0:33:09.080 --> 0:33:11.920
<v Speaker 3>Because we're both loud, and we're both Italian, and we

0:33:12.000 --> 0:33:14.640
<v Speaker 3>both like to cook, and we're both funny at times.

0:33:14.680 --> 0:33:16.840
<v Speaker 1>So yeah, that all sounds good to me.

0:33:17.440 --> 0:33:19.480
<v Speaker 3>Two of the same as maybe not so good.

0:33:19.960 --> 0:33:22.760
<v Speaker 2>Oh okay, I hear you. That makes sense, that makes sense,

0:33:22.800 --> 0:33:26.080
<v Speaker 2>but actually too, like thinking about that pool of men

0:33:26.520 --> 0:33:29.760
<v Speaker 2>who all put themselves out there in these seasons, I mean,

0:33:29.800 --> 0:33:32.480
<v Speaker 2>have you had the opportunity to, like, you know, in

0:33:32.560 --> 0:33:35.600
<v Speaker 2>the other out of the other reality seasons they have,

0:33:35.720 --> 0:33:37.440
<v Speaker 2>like the people who didn't get picked all go to

0:33:37.560 --> 0:33:41.240
<v Speaker 2>an island together and like, you know whatever, in paradise whatever,

0:33:41.240 --> 0:33:43.760
<v Speaker 2>they have difference, it's coming.

0:33:44.240 --> 0:33:46.960
<v Speaker 3>So they said rumor has it, so you can't. This

0:33:47.120 --> 0:33:52.719
<v Speaker 3>is not rumor has it. They're thinking about some gold

0:33:52.840 --> 0:33:55.480
<v Speaker 3>and paradise. And the first thing I said, of course,

0:33:55.640 --> 0:33:57.720
<v Speaker 3>was we're not going to Mexico with bugs to no

0:33:57.840 --> 0:33:59.800
<v Speaker 3>air condition. It's not going to work at our age.

0:34:01.240 --> 0:34:02.600
<v Speaker 2>It's so funny. I thought you were to say. The

0:34:02.640 --> 0:34:05.000
<v Speaker 2>first thing I said was count me in or sign

0:34:05.040 --> 0:34:05.320
<v Speaker 2>me up.

0:34:05.640 --> 0:34:08.520
<v Speaker 3>Well, they know, Alba absolutely. I'm hoping it's like on

0:34:08.560 --> 0:34:09.840
<v Speaker 3>a cruise ship or something.

0:34:11.360 --> 0:34:13.000
<v Speaker 2>Wait, you wanted to be on a cruise ship?

0:34:13.480 --> 0:34:15.960
<v Speaker 3>I mean better than bugs in no air Yeah.

0:34:16.080 --> 0:34:19.279
<v Speaker 2>That's actually not a bad idea. That's like mixing one

0:34:19.280 --> 0:34:23.600
<v Speaker 2>of our favorite shows below Deck with Oh I Love Violence,

0:34:23.719 --> 0:34:25.080
<v Speaker 2>and then he or The Bachelor, and then he just

0:34:25.080 --> 0:34:28.120
<v Speaker 2>put them together and it's all the people who still

0:34:28.160 --> 0:34:31.120
<v Speaker 2>are looking for love who didn't get chosen, and put

0:34:31.200 --> 0:34:33.560
<v Speaker 2>them all together and stir in a little bit of

0:34:33.600 --> 0:34:35.719
<v Speaker 2>alcohol which always makes it extra fun.

0:34:35.640 --> 0:34:40.120
<v Speaker 3>And maybe some new meat too. Here's the issue. Women

0:34:41.080 --> 0:34:45.680
<v Speaker 3>are not shy, so those men that did not get chosen,

0:34:45.840 --> 0:34:48.719
<v Speaker 3>and they're all lovely men. I've interviewed quite a few

0:34:48.760 --> 0:34:51.080
<v Speaker 3>of them, had them on our podcast and got to

0:34:51.160 --> 0:34:55.000
<v Speaker 3>know them, and they're great guys. Most of them are taken.

0:34:55.840 --> 0:34:59.000
<v Speaker 3>Their DMS blew up and I remember them saying it

0:34:59.000 --> 0:35:02.000
<v Speaker 3>to us, don't wear ladies when you get off here.

0:35:02.080 --> 0:35:04.480
<v Speaker 3>You're going to get so many people asking you out.

0:35:04.520 --> 0:35:06.480
<v Speaker 2>And we didn't, but the men did.

0:35:06.880 --> 0:35:10.800
<v Speaker 3>Men my age aren't really on Instagram and social media.

0:35:10.920 --> 0:35:13.480
<v Speaker 3>You're lucky if you get a Facebook, you know what

0:35:13.480 --> 0:35:18.120
<v Speaker 3>I mean. And they're not doing that, but women do.

0:35:18.520 --> 0:35:21.880
<v Speaker 3>We're all on social media, so they've reached out. I

0:35:21.960 --> 0:35:23.880
<v Speaker 3>know some one of them told me they had like

0:35:24.040 --> 0:35:29.279
<v Speaker 3>five hundred messages like people asking them out. And quite

0:35:29.320 --> 0:35:31.919
<v Speaker 3>a few of them are in relationships. You know, Mark

0:35:32.080 --> 0:35:36.240
<v Speaker 3>is with somebody, and Jonathan is with somebody, Jordan's with somebody,

0:35:36.440 --> 0:35:39.680
<v Speaker 3>who's left who's maybe we need some new meat on

0:35:39.719 --> 0:35:43.080
<v Speaker 3>this golden thing. If there is one sound bad?

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<v Speaker 1>Have you gone through that list of guys because they've

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<v Speaker 1>been vetted? I mean have you? I mean you almost

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<v Speaker 1>just put their names on the list and start checking

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<v Speaker 1>them off. Okay, he's taking he's taking he's ugly, he's

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<v Speaker 1>or whatever. But have you done that?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, yes, yeah, obvious obvious abilities because they've said, hey,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm looking for love as well, I'm older, I want

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<v Speaker 2>I want this.

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<v Speaker 3>But they were looking for Joan with the long blonde

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<v Speaker 3>hair and a nice, thin, perfect body, and I'm not

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<v Speaker 3>Joanah is quiet, Jone is soft spoken. If I were

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<v Speaker 3>the Golden Bachelorette, it would be one hell of a show.

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<v Speaker 3>We all fall.

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<v Speaker 1>I would love to see the guys. They bring your weight.

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<v Speaker 3>But I think they did a great job choosing men.

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<v Speaker 3>She had some very very nice men, Susan.

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<v Speaker 1>Her roles ceremony. Some of the gods would probably kill

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<v Speaker 1>the rolls back. I can't take them, oh God.

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<v Speaker 3>But you know, there's that other side of me, that romantic,

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<v Speaker 3>soft loving side of me. But for the most part,

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<v Speaker 3>I like to have fun.

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<v Speaker 2>I like to smile, and you need you need people

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<v Speaker 2>to know that because you want to have somebody who's

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<v Speaker 2>willing to have fun too, or it's no fun, no fun.

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<v Speaker 2>Have you told us what you're do you have an

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<v Speaker 2>ideal man in your mind or like a way to

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<v Speaker 2>describe who would be your perfect.

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<v Speaker 3>Guy, Somebody that's kind to everyone, especially the person waiting

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<v Speaker 3>on you at a table that I judge people when

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<v Speaker 3>they don't treat people with respect. That's the biggest thing. Physically,

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<v Speaker 3>I'd like them to be taller than me, that's for sure,

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<v Speaker 3>even though I'm starting to shrink now, so it's not

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<v Speaker 3>such a bad thing. But I like a tall man.

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<v Speaker 3>I like a man that's confident and can laugh. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm not asking for all that much.

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<v Speaker 1>Confidence. Apology is yeah tough.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm sure you know one hundred of them, right.

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<v Speaker 1>I mean, but folks, if you're listening, this is serious.

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<v Speaker 1>If you if there's someone you know that you think

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<v Speaker 1>it's perfect for Susan, we absolutely want you to reach

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<v Speaker 1>out to us. We are not kidding here. You can

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<v Speaker 1>call us, email us, follow us on the social media,

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<v Speaker 1>all the sites we have. All the information is going

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<v Speaker 1>to be in the show notes as well. Rate and

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<v Speaker 1>review the podcast. But if you think you know someone

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<v Speaker 1>who is kind, who is what was confident?

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<v Speaker 2>And how tall are you? Susan?

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<v Speaker 3>Five six six foot is perfect? Five long?

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<v Speaker 2>Say at least five to eight? Probably six? Nos, Oh

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<v Speaker 2>we want a six foot because you have.

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<v Speaker 3>Heels on what else?

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, six feet, I get it.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So he's your six feet, I mean, what the heels?

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<v Speaker 1>How tall are you with the heels?

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<v Speaker 3>I guess five to nine.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay, So if you know somebody who's five to nine

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<v Speaker 1>and a half and a buff, reach out.

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<v Speaker 3>You know what, if he's the right person, I don't

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<v Speaker 3>care how tot he is, I'm way past that.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, Susan, we are hoping that twenty twenty five is

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<v Speaker 2>your year, and and so many others who are listening

0:38:59.000 --> 0:39:01.960
<v Speaker 2>to us. But it's a it's a pleasure, and hey,

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<v Speaker 2>when you do come to New York, please please, please please.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm coming tomorrow. Actually, Sarah b living abundantly. Okay, that

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<v Speaker 3>that show? No, I'm doing. I'm going to co host.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm going to co host and we're doing four shows.

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, I'm okay. So you're spend in the night.

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<v Speaker 3>No, Unfortunately, I have to fly to Florida and do

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<v Speaker 3>a wedding the very next day, and then we're going

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<v Speaker 3>to Carmel. Are you coming to Carmel Cal?

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<v Speaker 2>Did we get invited to Carmel?

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah?

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<v Speaker 3>We did. Yeah, I believe that you did.

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<v Speaker 2>I didn't get the invite.

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<v Speaker 3>Amy, because you weren't there when I met his daughter,

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<v Speaker 3>which oh my god, I fell in love with her.

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<v Speaker 3>I had her cracking up. She probably thinks I'm I

0:39:45.360 --> 0:39:48.480
<v Speaker 3>sat right next door Amy, and I'm like, Okay, I

0:39:48.520 --> 0:39:50.640
<v Speaker 3>know I don't dance like you, but I like this song.

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<v Speaker 3>What do you think we have fun? But that's the

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<v Speaker 3>night I think you guys were invited.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sorry it was me. That was my bad.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay, introvert always ask me because as the extrovert.

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<v Speaker 3>I will, I should have texted you. I will.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>So we're gonna get the playing right near Pebble Beach there. Yeah. Wait,

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<v Speaker 3>you have to see this guy, the one that was

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<v Speaker 3>the last one to go on Jones season. He has

0:40:21.760 --> 0:40:24.799
<v Speaker 3>gone crazy. He went out and bought new clubs. He's

0:40:24.880 --> 0:40:28.839
<v Speaker 3>taken golf lessons. He had a whole new alphit new

0:40:28.920 --> 0:40:30.719
<v Speaker 3>shoes I have to wear? Do you think you're going?

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<v Speaker 3>It's cold? He wants to look good, he wants to

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<v Speaker 3>play well.

0:40:37.440 --> 0:40:39.480
<v Speaker 2>He's waiting for all those d ms to come into

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<v Speaker 2>his Instagram feed.

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<v Speaker 3>So I had a photo shoot for goingn's sake. I

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<v Speaker 3>got you are so and he's so funny and sweet.

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<v Speaker 3>He's a nice guy. I don't know. I think maybe

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<v Speaker 3>he's wanting to be the next Bachelor or something.

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<v Speaker 2>We shall see Susan. Susan, thank you so much for

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<v Speaker 2>spending some time with us. We want to let anyone

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<v Speaker 2>know that I do. Part two is an iHeart Radio podcast.

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<v Speaker 2>We're falling in Love DJ and I would say staying

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<v Speaker 2>in love is the main objective. Thanks for listening, everybody,