Speaker 1: Hey there, everybody, and welcome to I Do Part too.
Speaker 1: And in this episode, we're about to do a catch
Speaker 1: up with one of our absolute favorite new friends. But
Speaker 1: from the moment we met her, she kept telling us
Speaker 1: she's having the hardest time finding a date. Can't find
Speaker 1: a date, and you know, the last place, the latest
Speaker 1: place she decided to look at the VIP suite next
Speaker 1: to Travis Kelsey's mom and again see the Chiefs game.
Speaker 1: And with that, welcome to I Do Part two. Folks.
Speaker 1: This is the podcast for folks who didn't get it
Speaker 1: right the first time around, might be even the second,
Speaker 1: maybe even the third. This is the place to be
Speaker 1: alongside one of the other hosts, Amy Roboxing weird to
Speaker 1: introduce you that way.
Speaker 2: Yes right, I'm one of your co hosts podcast. Yes,
Speaker 2: so many of us feel your pain. We've been divorced,
Speaker 2: we've had our hearts broken, we've searched for love to
Speaker 2: no avail, and so we want you to know you're
Speaker 2: not alone, and we're all here to help in the
Speaker 2: conversation and in actually trying to set some people up.
Speaker 1: Is it going better for you now? You just described
Speaker 1: a struggle in your life and it sounds like this
Speaker 1: is the podcast for you if you need some help.
Speaker 3: I think it pretty good.
Speaker 2: Let me set the record straight in case anyone doesn't know,
Speaker 2: I have happily found my forever person.
Speaker 1: Good for you.
Speaker 2: Just to be sitting right next to me, no good,
Speaker 2: save baby.
Speaker 1: On this show we have Jenny Garth, Janna Kramer, the
Speaker 1: other two hosts. We have here folks like Kelly Bensimone
Speaker 1: who's been one of the mentors helping some of the
Speaker 1: people find days. So I hope you've enjoyed this journey.
Speaker 1: We've enjoyed. I absolutely have. When this first came to us,
Speaker 1: I didn't know what to think the idea of doing it,
Speaker 1: But now that we've been doing it, this has been
Speaker 1: some of the most fun I've had at our heart.
Speaker 2: You know, it's been a lot of fun because it's
Speaker 2: so relatable. So many people are in between relationships, looking
Speaker 2: for love or are basically looking their wounds. They're frustrated,
Speaker 2: they're sad, they're heartbroken, and it's just something that I
Speaker 2: think is universal. Who hasn't experienced that? So it feels
Speaker 2: good to be able to have honest, real conversations about
Speaker 2: the challenges, the highs and the lows. Of I feel
Speaker 2: like figuring out what we're all here to do, which
Speaker 2: is to love and to find that partner and to
Speaker 2: have that relationship we're all looking for.
Speaker 1: And those conversations have been great that we've had on
Speaker 1: the podcast. The conversations have been even better that we've
Speaker 1: had in private with some of the folks. And the
Speaker 1: folks that we've met is the reason really why this
Speaker 1: has been such a joy. And I said, two of
Speaker 1: our absolute favorite new friends. One of them Kathy Schwarts,
Speaker 1: a lot of people are familiar with from The Golden Bachelor,
Speaker 1: was a contestant there and you can't It's almost weird.
Speaker 1: You can't say her name without saying the name Susan
Speaker 1: Knowles is like peanut butter and Jelliot. Yeah, it's bacon eggs.
Speaker 1: You can't have Kathin, not Susan. But Susan Knowles is
Speaker 1: the other who is been looking for love. She's on
Speaker 1: the Golden Bachelor. But I mentioned at the top we
Speaker 1: saw her looking for love where just recently in one
Speaker 1: of the most exclusive rooms in all of sports.
Speaker 4: Yeah, so Susan was with basically, I mean, probably one
Speaker 4: of the most famous football players to date, probably mostly because.
Speaker 2: Of who he's dating. But of course we're talking about
Speaker 2: Travis Kelce's mother and Susan had a front row seat
Speaker 2: in the vip bucks watching it all and maybe maybe
Speaker 2: I don't know, mingling with a few people.
Speaker 1: But yeah, Susan is here back with us now. We
Speaker 1: wish we were in the room with you as wmuch
Speaker 1: what we prefer. But Susan is always all. He's a pleasure,
Speaker 1: always good to see you. We miss you. But for everybody,
Speaker 1: just give them a quick update. We're gonna get it
Speaker 1: into your dating life here in a second. But give
Speaker 1: us a word. If I had to ask, if we
Speaker 1: asked you right now, Susan, how's dating going, your one
Speaker 1: word answer would be slow?
Speaker 3: Okay, slow, but not I did have a date. I
Speaker 3: did have a date, had one.
Speaker 2: All right, that's hey. One is better than not. Right.
Speaker 3: We went to play top golf. We had a great time.
Speaker 2: Okay you top golf, you said, yes, all right, you
Speaker 2: a golfer?
Speaker 3: Ah am a golfer. I got one hell of a drive.
Speaker 1: Oh wow. Yeah, we can see that smiling face of yours.
Speaker 1: Always good to see you.
Speaker 3: Of course, thank you for having me, but I'll say.
Speaker 1: Thank you really, it's been a treat getting to know
Speaker 1: you over the past year or so. But you, of
Speaker 1: course were you do your own podcast as well, so
Speaker 1: you're familiar with this Bachelor Happy Hour, the Golden Hour
Speaker 1: with you.
Speaker 3: Kathy, the Golden because we are golden.
Speaker 1: I mean yes, you know you had your golden butt
Speaker 1: in a golden seat because you got a golden ticket.
Speaker 1: You're dead just initially. You just have to explain this
Speaker 1: to us. How is it you ended up in there
Speaker 1: sitting next to Travis Kelsey's mom for the playoff game.
Speaker 3: So Donna and I met last year. We did a
Speaker 3: job for a company and we were hired again this
Speaker 3: year and that was part of it. So we did
Speaker 3: filming all day and Donna and I go way back.
Speaker 3: So of course I had to wear my other kelsey,
Speaker 3: her other Kelsey son Eagles jersey, because I was yes, yes,
Speaker 3: and everybody in my phone was blowing up. My friend's wait,
Speaker 3: are you going to meet Taylor Swift? That's all they
Speaker 3: cared about, seriously, and from what I understood, because Donna
Speaker 3: stayed for most of the game and then she went
Speaker 3: her to their box and Taylor's family is there and everything.
Speaker 3: And I said to one of the producers. So everybody
Speaker 3: wants to know if I'm going to meet Taylor Swift.
Speaker 3: Obviously not, and she goes. You know, she said she
Speaker 3: wanted her picture with you. She is that, So Taylor,
Speaker 3: if you're out there listening, I would love to do that.
Speaker 3: I know the game was not the place to do it,
Speaker 3: as you all know, it's difficult for her to get in,
Speaker 3: you know what I mean with all the security and such.
Speaker 3: But yeah, that was like a little thrill.
Speaker 2: Yeah you were close, you were very close. How many
Speaker 2: how many boxes or sweets down? Was she from me?
Speaker 2: I think maybe next time? Maybe next not. Donna is
Speaker 2: also divorced, she is single. Is she ready to mingle?
Speaker 2: Did you all talk about dating?
Speaker 3: Yes? You know me, Amy, come on, of course I
Speaker 3: talked to her and honestly, no, she's like, really, I
Speaker 3: am good. She's doing just fine. She's enjoying her life
Speaker 3: as she's good. And yeah, no, I don't think she's
Speaker 3: where I am.
Speaker 1: Really in there and during the game, sitting next to
Speaker 1: Travis Kelce's mom, you all still just become women talking
Speaker 1: about I guess girls women.
Speaker 3: And it wasn't our first meet, you know, we know
Speaker 3: each other. We spent time before. So, yeah, I quizzer,
Speaker 3: what's in her life? You know?
Speaker 2: So she's uninterested in finding someone at this point in
Speaker 2: her life. She is happy with her single status and
Speaker 2: that's how she wants to keep it.
Speaker 3: Yes, yes, that's what I gather.
Speaker 1: But but that doesn't register for you. Do you do
Speaker 1: you listen to someone?
Speaker 3: I want to find my person. I want somebody to
Speaker 3: miss me and get like butterflies when I see him
Speaker 3: come in the room. You know what I mean? Good sex,
Speaker 3: good loving, good caring, have fun, play golf.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I do get that, and I love hearing you
Speaker 2: say that, because I think I could be wrong. But
Speaker 2: a lot of women, and I'm not saying that Donna Kelcey,
Speaker 2: She's I'm sure there are plenty of women who have
Speaker 2: zero desire to start again and to deal with relationships
Speaker 2: because as great as they all are, sometimes or even initially,
Speaker 2: they're messy and they're hard, and they're difficult and they
Speaker 2: require work. So I get it. At a certain point, you
Speaker 2: might just be like, I'm done. I got my girlfriends,
Speaker 2: I got my kids.
Speaker 3: I'm good. I might have said this before, isn't it
Speaker 3: don't they say? When you stop looking, that's when you
Speaker 3: find somebody. Well, I've tried that too.
Speaker 2: Ah didn't work.
Speaker 3: Maybe not long enough. I don't know. My eyes are
Speaker 3: always open.
Speaker 2: I think a lot of women might be afraid to
Speaker 2: say they want it. I think a lot of women
Speaker 2: might be unwilling to be vulnerable to say they desire
Speaker 2: what you're saying I desire because they're afraid it's not
Speaker 2: out there. They're afraid of rejection, they're afraid they're age old.
Speaker 2: That yes, that the older guys are the guys who
Speaker 2: they'd be interested want people women twenty thirty years younger
Speaker 2: than them, and so they're afreed to admit.
Speaker 3: Yeah, that's Cathy's whole thing. They don't want me, and
Speaker 3: she's healthier and better eight than most people at ten
Speaker 3: years twenty years younger. But it's true, And I ask you, djay,
Speaker 3: men prefer younger because of the number I think, I
Speaker 3: don't know. I mean we could look good. I think
Speaker 3: I look good for sixty seven years old. I mean
Speaker 3: I can stand next to any fifty seven year old.
Speaker 3: Oh my god.
Speaker 1: We get so caught up in that because I know
Speaker 1: plenty of men that don't, under any circumstance want to
Speaker 1: date someone in their twenties or maybe they're early.
Speaker 3: Thirty, not that young.
Speaker 1: Okay, yeah, but yeah, I get to your point. I
Speaker 1: get what you're saying. But it is a matter of
Speaker 1: you have to get to know people. And attraction is
Speaker 1: not just by what I see across the room. It's
Speaker 1: what I actually inside about the person. When else I
Speaker 1: get close to that person, who might be more beautiful
Speaker 1: up close and from across the room. Once you actually
Speaker 1: get to talk to somebody.
Speaker 3: Yeah's inside. And that's the problem I think with all
Speaker 3: the dating sitees. Not that I'm against them, but I
Speaker 3: went off prior to going on the show, even I
Speaker 3: just gave up for a while. But you're looking at
Speaker 3: a picture and you're reading a very short bio. That's
Speaker 3: a tough game, you know what I mean. If you're
Speaker 3: introduced and somebody that you might not even be attracted to,
Speaker 3: but you're getting to know, all of a sudden you
Speaker 3: find that they're so attractive, not physically because of exactly
Speaker 3: what you said.
Speaker 2: Yeah, isn't it about the conversation section and how much
Speaker 2: you can laugh with one another, how much you can
Speaker 2: relate to one another vess because looks bade and once
Speaker 2: you get a little bit older, you realize that in
Speaker 2: a very dramatic way, like, hey, oh gosh, you know,
Speaker 2: so this ain't hanging around and if you don't have
Speaker 2: something deeper or better, it's not going to last. So
Speaker 2: do you find I don't know how many sporting events
Speaker 2: you go to, but is that a good place to
Speaker 2: date or at least to look around for potential dates?
Speaker 3: Maybe not throwing the playoffs? I mean.
Speaker 2: They're kind of focused on the fields.
Speaker 3: Yeah, a lot, a lot. And the freezing cold weather too.
Speaker 3: That didn't help. But no, there was. There's quite a
Speaker 3: lot of men, but most of them married. You know.
Speaker 3: I don't walk around with like a sign on my
Speaker 3: head saying I am available. As a matter of fact,
Speaker 3: I've been told more than a few times I'm clueless.
Speaker 3: Like people say, didn't you see that guy looking at you?
Speaker 3: And go oho? No, Like I'm on a mission. I'm
Speaker 3: going to where I'm going, you know, I don't slow
Speaker 3: it down a bit. Maybe that's what I need to do.
Speaker 3: And I have, as you know, a large personality, so
Speaker 3: someone would have to enjoy that part of me, you know.
Speaker 1: So I'm curious about that. You said you don't notice
Speaker 1: the sign sometimes? Are you doing something different or doing
Speaker 1: something to address that, because that's a that's a big deal.
Speaker 3: Well, could you tell me what to do to address that?
Speaker 3: Slow down and look every person in the eye, because
Speaker 3: I could look in.
Speaker 1: The awareness and an engagement. And I guess it's a
Speaker 1: matter of just being making sure you stay in the
Speaker 1: moment and where you are versus maybe like you say,
Speaker 1: your head is down and your phone.
Speaker 3: No, my head is never downj Yeah, my head is never.
Speaker 2: But maybe it could be swiveling. I mean, the thing is,
Speaker 2: when you're in your twenties and thirties, think about it,
Speaker 2: and you know you've got a little bit of I
Speaker 2: don't want to say power, but you know you can
Speaker 2: maybe turn heads right, or you can get some eye contact.
Speaker 2: You can have that that knowing glance with someone. That
Speaker 2: is the first step in flirting, or at least saying
Speaker 2: I'm available without saying I'm available. Yes, maybe when you
Speaker 2: get older, you don't feel like people are looking at
Speaker 2: you as much. You do in a sense just kind
Speaker 2: of rush across the room. You don't take your time
Speaker 2: and say, hey, not only notice me, but I'm noticing you.
Speaker 2: Maybe we don't think we could or should, and we
Speaker 2: did when we were younger.
Speaker 3: Didn't we think? Well, I got a lot of attention
Speaker 3: most of my life, and then I had children, and
Speaker 3: now my daughter grew up and she got attention with yah.
Speaker 3: But I get the nice old people in wah Wah
Speaker 3: and around and say, ma'am, do you know you're beautiful
Speaker 3: at all? Thank you? I'll take them. I can get.
Speaker 1: Wow. Did we mention we're talking to a Philadelphia Gale?
Speaker 1: People didn't get that. You know, we were talking you
Speaker 1: started off the top here. We didn't expect that news.
Speaker 1: Or you were talking about this date you went on recently.
Speaker 1: Do tell as much as you can. Who is this guy?
Speaker 1: How'd you meet? And will there be another date?
Speaker 3: Yes, they'll probably be another date. He was quiet, quite
Speaker 3: the polar opposite of me, and he didn't know who
Speaker 3: I was, and I asked him not to google.
Speaker 2: He googled immediately He probably probably don't.
Speaker 3: I really don't think he did, and he was surprised
Speaker 3: when we sat and we talked for a couple hours
Speaker 3: before we played top golf, and he was really easy
Speaker 3: to talk to and I shared some things about me
Speaker 3: my life and said at the end how grateful I
Speaker 3: was for my life. You know, I've had a great
Speaker 3: life not long before, a golden bachelor, like, I'm in
Speaker 3: a good place. And I asked him the same, and
Speaker 3: his wasn't as happy as mine, you know, and I
Speaker 3: felt bad. But now everybody has their stuff, so right away,
Speaker 3: is that a red flag? He's never been married and
Speaker 3: never had children.
Speaker 2: How old is he?
Speaker 3: Fifty six?
Speaker 2: Oh, he's a younger guy, of.
Speaker 3: Course he is. I don't care about the number. I
Speaker 3: don't care if he was seventy six. But he had
Speaker 3: He's nice looking, he was tall enough. He was pleasant
Speaker 3: and quiet, and we talked about my personality. I said,
Speaker 3: I'm a lot. He goes you are, he said, but
Speaker 3: I like it. It was nice.
Speaker 2: Well, maybe he's a really good listener and he appreciates
Speaker 2: someone like you who can spice up his life, you know.
Speaker 2: I mean I think that. Look, if you have shared interest,
Speaker 2: if you have shared goals and all of that, that's important.
Speaker 2: But it's kind of nice to have different personalities. I'm
Speaker 2: an extrovert. You're an introvert, right and you don't realize that,
Speaker 2: but listen, I'm an introvert.
Speaker 1: Look everybody, he is really like it.
Speaker 2: In social settings. He actually, you know, you would know
Speaker 2: because he loves talking to you and Kathy, but he's
Speaker 2: not He's discerning in who he speaks to, and he
Speaker 2: listens a lot.
Speaker 1: Very happy sitting in the corner of the room, just
Speaker 1: watching it all happen.
Speaker 3: Watch an Amy walk across the room and getting the butterflies.
Speaker 2: And you know me, I'm like talk talk talk talk,
Speaker 2: talk talk, So I do think that that works to
Speaker 2: have to have you can't have a talk talk talkers.
Speaker 1: Besides, the golf, was there a meal involved drinks and bold.
Speaker 3: We sat and had a couple of drinks enemy a
Speaker 3: little bite, and then we were at Top Golf, so
Speaker 3: we ate there and then of course I forgot my glove.
Speaker 3: I ran downstairs to get the glove. Yeah, and we
Speaker 3: played for a while. It was good. I was doing
Speaker 3: pretty well, like I promised him. It's not that good
Speaker 3: when I get out on the course. But he was
Speaker 3: a little intimidated. But I think he can play real well.
Speaker 3: And that's a plan for the spring that maybe we'll
Speaker 3: play some golf.
Speaker 2: So how did you all meet? How did you end
Speaker 2: up on this date? Were you set up? Were you did.
Speaker 3: You actually on Facebook? Oh?
Speaker 2: Okay, how did that go?
Speaker 3: He said? There was Facebook dating. I think it is.
Speaker 3: I went on for about ten minutes. He messaged me
Speaker 3: and we chatted for I don't know, two or three
Speaker 3: messages and that girl and I said, would you like
Speaker 3: to exchange digits? It might be a lot easier because
Speaker 3: I don't get on that. So that's what we did.
Speaker 3: Is he vocal in Philadelphia?
Speaker 1: Oh that's great, that's great.
Speaker 2: Do you do you? This is so interesting because I
Speaker 2: don't know if it depends on what age range you're in,
Speaker 2: but do you still play games and don't and wait
Speaker 2: to text back?
Speaker 3: Oh? No, I was never good at that.
Speaker 2: Great, I love suck at that.
Speaker 3: Actually, everything I read that what we shouldn't do? I
Speaker 3: do all that, shouldn't you know? I'll text first, I'll
Speaker 3: ask them out. I don't care. Let's just do this,
Speaker 3: you know what.
Speaker 2: That's what's so nice about getting older is that you
Speaker 2: you have the confidence to just be yourself and if
Speaker 2: they don't like you or they want you to be
Speaker 2: playing games, they're not for you anyway, and you just
Speaker 2: learn sooner, which is better. So how often do you
Speaker 2: guys chatter? Talk?
Speaker 3: A couple of times a week and it's only it's new,
Speaker 3: really new like, it's been two weeks and then I
Speaker 3: was traveling.
Speaker 5: So yeah, you know what, how do when we're young,
Speaker 5: younger and there are twenties or whatever, we start dating people,
Speaker 5: you have a thought of is this person's you think
Speaker 5: about marriage or kids?
Speaker 1: Right, You're seeing your relationship kind of play out a
Speaker 1: certain way when that is not on the table, when
Speaker 1: you're not trying to build a family. I guess, how
Speaker 1: do you lead? I guess it.
Speaker 3: Easier to look at somebody like, am I going to
Speaker 3: enjoy your company?
Speaker 1: Damn? That's a good point.
Speaker 3: You know. I got to be able to have fun
Speaker 3: with you, or be bored with you, be silent with you.
Speaker 3: Do you like to travel? Where have you been? Do
Speaker 3: you want to go back? Like? Things like that, And
Speaker 3: that's where sometimes the intimidation thing happens. Because I've been everywhere.
Speaker 3: I made it a point to go everywhere. I love it.
Speaker 3: I love to travel. I've been in Italy six times.
Speaker 3: And when I ask, you're half Italian, have you been
Speaker 3: to Italy? No, you need to go.
Speaker 2: You can get him to go, You can encourage each
Speaker 2: other to do things. But it is interesting.
Speaker 1: The intimidation. One thing I didn't think about. Yeah, right, Yeah,
Speaker 1: what does that say? I mean you're meeting grown men
Speaker 1: who've had sometimes relationships and families and careers, but they
Speaker 1: are intimidated by just your life.
Speaker 3: Experience, just by my present, like a lot of men
Speaker 3: through my life. Because I would ask my girlfriend's husbands
Speaker 3: and all that I'm good friends with, what is wrong
Speaker 3: with me? Why? Susan, you're very intimidating? Why as soon
Speaker 3: as you speak to me? I know you guys know
Speaker 3: I'm warm, I'm easy to talk to, I'm fun.
Speaker 2: Isn't it about control? Doesn't in a certain of some men?
Speaker 2: And you know they like to be in charge, and
Speaker 2: I think they know if they dated you, they wouldn't be.
Speaker 3: Maybe, I mean, I got to be in charge a
Speaker 3: little bit certain.
Speaker 1: I'm running through my mind here. How we talk about
Speaker 1: her warmth? There is nothing but warmth that came, But
Speaker 1: we are also not looking at her in that way.
Speaker 1: I don't know. It probably is intimidating. I mean you
Speaker 1: to say, I mean you ropes we talk about this,
Speaker 1: you can be intimidating women who are who are independent,
Speaker 1: who are that confident, who are that strong, who are
Speaker 1: that who frankly sometimes isn't a damsel in distress.
Speaker 3: You're exactly right, neither one of you two.
Speaker 1: If I if this place is on fire, I would
Speaker 1: just say, all right soon, I'll see you outside. You
Speaker 1: don't need saving.
Speaker 3: Oh no, no, no, see that you just blew it.
Speaker 3: You just that's a big no. Right now, you run
Speaker 3: and take honey. Let me get you out first.
Speaker 1: And then you're still.
Speaker 2: He actually actually to defend what he just said about himself.
Speaker 2: He would and would we have had moments where there
Speaker 2: have been We had one in particular where there was
Speaker 2: a dangerous thing. He immediately thought of me first versus protesting.
Speaker 2: Does a man should He did, and he passed the
Speaker 2: test without a realizing So you did, being.
Speaker 1: Self deprecating in the point, even something as simple as
Speaker 1: you putting your luggage in the bin in the in
Speaker 1: the airplane. She I used to try to run and
Speaker 1: go help her do it, and she always I got it,
Speaker 1: I got it, I got it. That's and that's fine.
Speaker 3: I let you do it now, though yeah I would too.
Speaker 3: Mine's always heavy, right, But.
Speaker 1: If it's intimidating to a guy. You all are those
Speaker 1: two people who, yes, you want to send the flowers,
Speaker 1: save me from the building, help me with my bag.
Speaker 1: But trust me, I can buy my own flowers, I
Speaker 1: can carry my own bag.
Speaker 3: Yes we can. But we love it when you do
Speaker 3: it exactly.
Speaker 1: But you all are so outward, you too, at least
Speaker 1: are in your strength.
Speaker 3: So are you suggesting that I lower it a little bit,
Speaker 3: be a little bit more soft spoken, and let somebody
Speaker 3: else take the lead?
Speaker 2: You?
Speaker 1: You don't want a guy who if he can't deal,
Speaker 1: if he can't handle you. This real you you don't
Speaker 1: want them anyway. Might last for a little while, but
Speaker 1: at some point you'll ye, no.
Speaker 3: Yeah, you have to.
Speaker 2: And there are plenty of men out there who appreciate
Speaker 2: of strong women and who need one whom who had
Speaker 2: moms who were strong women, you know, and so they
Speaker 2: are actually seeking that out, whether they realize it or not.
Speaker 2: And they're not. They're not everywhere. And I remember there
Speaker 2: were always a lot of men out there who I
Speaker 2: just knew immediately, like there's no way they would be
Speaker 2: not going to work.
Speaker 1: I asked myself that every day, are you considering Susan
Speaker 1: doing anything different, switching anything up?
Speaker 3: Stop looking again? I mean I wanted to try to
Speaker 3: go back on it. I joined like that match dot
Speaker 3: com for not even a month. It was a week
Speaker 3: and I already deleted everything. The profile was like, I can't,
Speaker 3: I just can't do this. I am happy. I do
Speaker 3: want to find my person to get old with. I do,
Speaker 3: but I can't. I don't know. I don't want to
Speaker 3: say lower myself. That's the terrible phreeze. But sit online
Speaker 3: and search through the these pictures in these profiles and
Speaker 3: be judgmental. It's like, this is not healthy. I'm all
Speaker 3: over the place. Why can't I meet somebody walking to
Speaker 3: the airport or in the store at the grocery store,
Speaker 3: squeeze in the fresh fruit.
Speaker 2: To that point? Do you I'm curious because I struggle.
Speaker 2: I would struggle with this if I weren't in a relationship,
Speaker 2: but might push myself in this direction. Do you go
Speaker 2: to restaurants by yourself?
Speaker 3: Do you have yeah?
Speaker 2: Establishments alone?
Speaker 3: And I won't pick up my phone. It's like a job.
Speaker 3: Do not get on the phone. Do you know how
Speaker 3: weird it is sitting there by yourself and there's all
Speaker 3: these forty somethings and they're coupled, and some people will
Speaker 3: chat once in a while, few words, or I'll try
Speaker 3: to make fun with the bartender just to have a conversation,
Speaker 3: and then I start feeling weird. Yeah, and as long
Speaker 3: as there are food in a glass the wine, I'm good.
Speaker 3: When you're sitting there waiting, it's like, okay, what do
Speaker 3: I do now?
Speaker 1: You know I do this. I enjoy what you just described.
Speaker 1: Leave the phone down and just take it all in
Speaker 1: around you and enjoy a meal with peace. I don't
Speaker 1: mind it at all. Obviously I'm not there trying to date,
Speaker 1: but it's I know what.
Speaker 3: You don't mind it either. I'm not. I'm perfectly comfortable,
Speaker 3: but you're hoping that somebody looks at you right Well,
Speaker 3: you don't because you have your person. But when you're alone,
Speaker 3: you're like, and I'm looking around thinking they're way too young.
Speaker 3: They're all with people. Just enjoy your meal, Susan.
Speaker 2: Susan, would you vacation alone or have you vacationed alone?
Speaker 2: I have.
Speaker 3: I When I was living in Philadelphia in the city,
Speaker 3: it was New Year's Day and I was with my
Speaker 3: most favorite gaze and I was always with them every holiday,
Speaker 3: and I was the other one, the third one, you know,
Speaker 3: And I woke up New Year's Day and said, you
Speaker 3: know know what, guys, I'm going to take myself to
Speaker 3: Italy for fifteen days. I'm going to give six months
Speaker 3: to planet and I'm going. And it was like huge
Speaker 3: for me. And I did when I landed, Oh my gosh,
Speaker 3: this most handsome man with my name. When I'm going,
Speaker 3: oh my god, I mean he could have been my son,
Speaker 3: of course, and he takes me in the little water
Speaker 3: taxi I was in Venice and drops me off and
Speaker 3: I get up to this little tiny room and I thought, oh,
Speaker 3: what did I do? What do I do now? Yeah,
Speaker 3: And that's when it began my journey. It was fabulous,
Speaker 3: but there was so so many times, so many moments
Speaker 3: that I wished I was sharing it with somebody. I'm
Speaker 3: like a hopeless romantic. I love romance, you know.
Speaker 2: I just I got even emotional thinking about it because
Speaker 2: I feel the same way like I can be alone.
Speaker 2: But when you experience something beautiful, you want to share
Speaker 2: it or fun or funny, you want to share it
Speaker 2: with some muss. Yes, that's my.
Speaker 3: Issue, that's what was missing. I mean, I have the
Speaker 3: time of my life and it empowered me in so
Speaker 3: many ways. It wasn't too long after that, Eat, Pray, Love,
Speaker 3: and I thought where should I get next?
Speaker 2: Oh my goodness, I know. I think it's one of
Speaker 2: those dreams that sounds amazing and is but so scary
Speaker 2: to actually put into practice. I traveled a lot alone
Speaker 2: for work, and and I did have moments where I
Speaker 2: was like, Okay, this is I was alone in this
Speaker 2: mansion that I had been put up in and no
Speaker 2: one else ended up staying there on like in the
Speaker 2: Seychelles with the Indian Ocean pounding wats below me, and
Speaker 2: I just thought, You're like, why am I by my
Speaker 2: cellar place alone for three weeks?
Speaker 1: Nobody's going to believe this. I would have gone, wow,
Speaker 1: I should have called me.
Speaker 3: I wouldn't joined you.
Speaker 2: But actually the truth is I was married at the time,
Speaker 2: and those that those weeks gave me clarity, like of
Speaker 2: what I knew I wanted to do, which was a
Speaker 2: end my marriage.
Speaker 3: Well, you're in touch with yourself and you have time.
Speaker 3: What am I doing? Am I happy? Where do I
Speaker 3: want to be? Yeah?
Speaker 2: No, there's a lot of aha moments. It can come
Speaker 2: in those moments of solitude. But I know you're looking
Speaker 2: for that person. So you said, I mean, obviously you
Speaker 2: went onto Facebook, and that has borne some fruit. We'll
Speaker 2: see what happens. Do you have a strategy, a plan
Speaker 2: of attack for this new year for twenty twenty five
Speaker 2: to find love?
Speaker 3: No, No, it's more about I have some good news
Speaker 3: I'm going to share. So I was opening an email
Speaker 3: and I never even heard of IOATP the International Organization
Speaker 3: of Top Professionals, And I will be announced shortly that
Speaker 3: I've been nominated for the Officiate of the Year of
Speaker 3: twenty twenty five. WHOA so exciting. So there's a big
Speaker 3: photo shoot in New York under the Nastac Building. My
Speaker 3: picture will be up there and they'll do a photo
Speaker 3: shoot and it's a huge It's all over the world,
Speaker 3: like watching the videos from last year. This year, it'll
Speaker 3: be in December in Las Vegas, and the people like
Speaker 3: every walk of life and it's dripping and downs and
Speaker 3: gorgeous and I'm like, oh my god, this is me.
Speaker 3: So I'm tickled.
Speaker 2: Yeah, tell us how you earned the honor? How you
Speaker 2: earned the award.
Speaker 3: I don't know who nominated me, but they said that
Speaker 3: they have watched and what I've shared with the public
Speaker 3: and what I do and my talk. You know, I'm
Speaker 3: all about empowering women that are over the age of
Speaker 3: fifty or sixty, that we still have a light. There's
Speaker 3: so many possibilities. I mean, look at me. Who'd have thought.
Speaker 1: You are forever optimistic even if something didn't go your
Speaker 1: way or this isn't happening the way you want. And
Speaker 1: we've talked about that from personal and professional aspects of
Speaker 1: your life. You are eternally optimistic and upbeat and just
Speaker 1: everything you say and your energy. Folks can't see you
Speaker 1: right now, but from the moment you just you're bursting, right,
Speaker 1: You're just that smile. Yeah, yeah, you're always so we
Speaker 1: have I'm not kidding you. We don't make a lot
Speaker 1: of new friends on purpose these.
Speaker 3: Days, right right, You know a lot of people, but
Speaker 3: friends are Yes, You're one of.
Speaker 1: Our favorite favorite new people. It really is a treat
Speaker 1: to gotten to know as much as we have over
Speaker 1: the past year plus.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and people that are gloomy and doomy, like I've
Speaker 3: separated myself from people that I've known since grade school
Speaker 3: that we're still friends, but I choose not to because
Speaker 3: I tried. I tried to con instant look at the
Speaker 3: brighter side. I'm so such a believer in positive attracts.
Speaker 3: Positive and what you put out there, you're going to
Speaker 3: get right back at you. So if you feel a
Speaker 3: little negativity, be aware of it, stop and rephrase it
Speaker 3: and change the thought. I mean, it really works.
Speaker 2: It totally does. I am such a believer in positive energy,
Speaker 2: and it's so easy to start complaining and we all
Speaker 2: do it. But I'd like say, oh, do you hear
Speaker 2: what you just did or said yeah, it's in your
Speaker 2: head right, and just say how can I find a positive?
Speaker 2: And what I just said like stop a race? You
Speaker 2: can always find the positive, and yes, if you can
Speaker 2: find someone else who has that same goal, because we're
Speaker 2: not all always going to be positive.
Speaker 3: No, I have moments, trust me.
Speaker 2: Yeah, clearly we all do. But if you know that
Speaker 2: that is important, and you recognize how important that is
Speaker 2: to your overall happiness and your mental well being, that's
Speaker 2: key to find.
Speaker 3: It gets you threw the dawn parts, the sad parts.
Speaker 3: You know, it's got to get better. I was once
Speaker 3: asked this question and some people look at me like, well,
Speaker 3: you love yourself? I said, no, it's true. How does
Speaker 3: this feel, this new celebrity because you were on TV
Speaker 3: and now you're a star d I said, you know,
Speaker 3: I was a star the day I was born. It's
Speaker 3: just time the rest of the world knows it. I mean,
Speaker 3: doing hair behind the chair for forty years, you're a star.
Speaker 3: I perform every day in the salon when I worked
Speaker 3: in the salon, and I listened to people and helped
Speaker 3: make people feel good about themselves. So it's a natural
Speaker 3: thing for me.
Speaker 2: I love that, you know, TJ. I don't know where
Speaker 2: you got it from, but you said to me, and
Speaker 2: you actually just said this, Susan, that you're looking for
Speaker 2: someone to grow old with. And TJ's like you read
Speaker 2: somewhere that someone said you should be looking for someone
Speaker 2: to stay young with. And I feel like that's what
Speaker 2: you're looking for.
Speaker 3: Oh I like that. Thank you. Oh that was like
Speaker 3: a goosebump movement.
Speaker 1: But it makes sense. For it's hard to find folks
Speaker 1: like you anywhere who look at life that way that
Speaker 1: I am just trying to be a kid for as
Speaker 1: long as I can, and that's what we all should
Speaker 1: be trying to do. So that is going to be
Speaker 1: a challenge for you out because most people just aren't
Speaker 1: built like that.
Speaker 3: I'll never grow up though, I mean.
Speaker 2: I know, right proudly displaying or showing or talking about
Speaker 2: your Peter Pan syndrome. I we're all responsible adults, but
Speaker 2: I have always try to be in touch with my
Speaker 2: inner child. I tried. I try to slide across the floor.
Speaker 3: That's fun.
Speaker 2: Yes, back up the music and dance right.
Speaker 1: Oh my god, wait a minute, we forgot Wait a minute,
Speaker 1: we forgot to ask Jesus crime. I mean, who the
Speaker 1: hell is this Jack guy?
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, Jack, Jack, God bless Jack.
Speaker 1: What's with you and Jack?
Speaker 3: The world thought Susan Jack, Susan and Jack. Jack likes
Speaker 3: to cook like I do. Jack was on Jean's bachelorette Yes, yes,
Speaker 3: and we did meet, and he's he'd be a great friend.
Speaker 1: Then why does everybody else think be great?
Speaker 3: Because we're both loud, and we're both Italian, and we
Speaker 3: both like to cook, and we're both funny at times.
Speaker 1: So yeah, that all sounds good to me.
Speaker 3: Two of the same as maybe not so good.
Speaker 2: Oh okay, I hear you. That makes sense, that makes sense,
Speaker 2: but actually too, like thinking about that pool of men
Speaker 2: who all put themselves out there in these seasons, I mean,
Speaker 2: have you had the opportunity to, like, you know, in
Speaker 2: the other out of the other reality seasons they have,
Speaker 2: like the people who didn't get picked all go to
Speaker 2: an island together and like, you know whatever, in paradise whatever,
Speaker 2: they have difference, it's coming.
Speaker 3: So they said rumor has it, so you can't. This
Speaker 3: is not rumor has it. They're thinking about some gold
Speaker 3: and paradise. And the first thing I said, of course,
Speaker 3: was we're not going to Mexico with bugs to no
Speaker 3: air condition. It's not going to work at our age.
Speaker 2: It's so funny. I thought you were to say. The
Speaker 2: first thing I said was count me in or sign
Speaker 2: me up.
Speaker 3: Well, they know, Alba absolutely. I'm hoping it's like on
Speaker 3: a cruise ship or something.
Speaker 2: Wait, you wanted to be on a cruise ship?
Speaker 3: I mean better than bugs in no air Yeah.
Speaker 2: That's actually not a bad idea. That's like mixing one
Speaker 2: of our favorite shows below Deck with Oh I Love Violence,
Speaker 2: and then he or The Bachelor, and then he just
Speaker 2: put them together and it's all the people who still
Speaker 2: are looking for love who didn't get chosen, and put
Speaker 2: them all together and stir in a little bit of
Speaker 2: alcohol which always makes it extra fun.
Speaker 3: And maybe some new meat too. Here's the issue. Women
Speaker 3: are not shy, so those men that did not get chosen,
Speaker 3: and they're all lovely men. I've interviewed quite a few
Speaker 3: of them, had them on our podcast and got to
Speaker 3: know them, and they're great guys. Most of them are taken.
Speaker 3: Their DMS blew up and I remember them saying it
Speaker 3: to us, don't wear ladies when you get off here.
Speaker 3: You're going to get so many people asking you out.
Speaker 2: And we didn't, but the men did.
Speaker 3: Men my age aren't really on Instagram and social media.
Speaker 3: You're lucky if you get a Facebook, you know what
Speaker 3: I mean. And they're not doing that, but women do.
Speaker 3: We're all on social media, so they've reached out. I
Speaker 3: know some one of them told me they had like
Speaker 3: five hundred messages like people asking them out. And quite
Speaker 3: a few of them are in relationships. You know, Mark
Speaker 3: is with somebody, and Jonathan is with somebody, Jordan's with somebody,
Speaker 3: who's left who's maybe we need some new meat on
Speaker 3: this golden thing. If there is one sound bad?
Speaker 1: Have you gone through that list of guys because they've
Speaker 1: been vetted? I mean have you? I mean you almost
Speaker 1: just put their names on the list and start checking
Speaker 1: them off. Okay, he's taking he's taking he's ugly, he's
Speaker 1: or whatever. But have you done that?
Speaker 2: Yeah, yes, yeah, obvious obvious abilities because they've said, hey,
Speaker 2: I'm looking for love as well, I'm older, I want
Speaker 2: I want this.
Speaker 3: But they were looking for Joan with the long blonde
Speaker 3: hair and a nice, thin, perfect body, and I'm not
Speaker 3: Joanah is quiet, Jone is soft spoken. If I were
Speaker 3: the Golden Bachelorette, it would be one hell of a show.
Speaker 3: We all fall.
Speaker 1: I would love to see the guys. They bring your weight.
Speaker 3: But I think they did a great job choosing men.
Speaker 3: She had some very very nice men, Susan.
Speaker 1: Her roles ceremony. Some of the gods would probably kill
Speaker 1: the rolls back. I can't take them, oh God.
Speaker 3: But you know, there's that other side of me, that romantic,
Speaker 3: soft loving side of me. But for the most part,
Speaker 3: I like to have fun.
Speaker 2: I like to smile, and you need you need people
Speaker 2: to know that because you want to have somebody who's
Speaker 2: willing to have fun too, or it's no fun, no fun.
Speaker 2: Have you told us what you're do you have an
Speaker 2: ideal man in your mind or like a way to
Speaker 2: describe who would be your perfect.
Speaker 3: Guy, Somebody that's kind to everyone, especially the person waiting
Speaker 3: on you at a table that I judge people when
Speaker 3: they don't treat people with respect. That's the biggest thing. Physically,
Speaker 3: I'd like them to be taller than me, that's for sure,
Speaker 3: even though I'm starting to shrink now, so it's not
Speaker 3: such a bad thing. But I like a tall man.
Speaker 3: I like a man that's confident and can laugh. Yeah,
Speaker 3: I'm not asking for all that much.
Speaker 1: Confidence. Apology is yeah tough.
Speaker 3: I'm sure you know one hundred of them, right.
Speaker 1: I mean, but folks, if you're listening, this is serious.
Speaker 1: If you if there's someone you know that you think
Speaker 1: it's perfect for Susan, we absolutely want you to reach
Speaker 1: out to us. We are not kidding here. You can
Speaker 1: call us, email us, follow us on the social media,
Speaker 1: all the sites we have. All the information is going
Speaker 1: to be in the show notes as well. Rate and
Speaker 1: review the podcast. But if you think you know someone
Speaker 1: who is kind, who is what was confident?
Speaker 2: And how tall are you? Susan?
Speaker 3: Five six six foot is perfect? Five long?
Speaker 2: Say at least five to eight? Probably six? Nos, Oh
Speaker 2: we want a six foot because you have.
Speaker 3: Heels on what else?
Speaker 2: Okay, six feet, I get it.
Speaker 1: Okay, So he's your six feet, I mean, what the heels?
Speaker 1: How tall are you with the heels?
Speaker 3: I guess five to nine.
Speaker 1: Okay, So if you know somebody who's five to nine
Speaker 1: and a half and a buff, reach out.
Speaker 3: You know what, if he's the right person, I don't
Speaker 3: care how tot he is, I'm way past that.
Speaker 2: Well, Susan, we are hoping that twenty twenty five is
Speaker 2: your year, and and so many others who are listening
Speaker 2: to us. But it's a it's a pleasure, and hey,
Speaker 2: when you do come to New York, please please, please please.
Speaker 3: I'm coming tomorrow. Actually, Sarah b living abundantly. Okay, that
Speaker 3: that show? No, I'm doing. I'm going to co host.
Speaker 3: I'm going to co host and we're doing four shows.
Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm okay. So you're spend in the night.
Speaker 3: No, Unfortunately, I have to fly to Florida and do
Speaker 3: a wedding the very next day, and then we're going
Speaker 3: to Carmel. Are you coming to Carmel Cal?
Speaker 2: Did we get invited to Carmel?
Speaker 1: Yeah?
Speaker 3: We did. Yeah, I believe that you did.
Speaker 2: I didn't get the invite.
Speaker 3: Amy, because you weren't there when I met his daughter,
Speaker 3: which oh my god, I fell in love with her.
Speaker 3: I had her cracking up. She probably thinks I'm I
Speaker 3: sat right next door Amy, and I'm like, Okay, I
Speaker 3: know I don't dance like you, but I like this song.
Speaker 3: What do you think we have fun? But that's the
Speaker 3: night I think you guys were invited.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry it was me. That was my bad.
Speaker 2: Okay, introvert always ask me because as the extrovert.
Speaker 3: I will, I should have texted you. I will.
Speaker 1: Yeah.
Speaker 3: So we're gonna get the playing right near Pebble Beach there. Yeah. Wait,
Speaker 3: you have to see this guy, the one that was
Speaker 3: the last one to go on Jones season. He has
Speaker 3: gone crazy. He went out and bought new clubs. He's
Speaker 3: taken golf lessons. He had a whole new alphit new
Speaker 3: shoes I have to wear? Do you think you're going?
Speaker 3: It's cold? He wants to look good, he wants to
Speaker 3: play well.
Speaker 2: He's waiting for all those d ms to come into
Speaker 2: his Instagram feed.
Speaker 3: So I had a photo shoot for goingn's sake. I
Speaker 3: got you are so and he's so funny and sweet.
Speaker 3: He's a nice guy. I don't know. I think maybe
Speaker 3: he's wanting to be the next Bachelor or something.
Speaker 2: We shall see Susan. Susan, thank you so much for
Speaker 2: spending some time with us. We want to let anyone
Speaker 2: know that I do. Part two is an iHeart Radio podcast.
Speaker 2: We're falling in Love DJ and I would say staying
Speaker 2: in love is the main objective. Thanks for listening, everybody,