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Speaker 1: Listen to every single day. Ye reakfast Club. God, damn it,

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Speaker 1: the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 2: What that ass up on the Breakfast Club?

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Speaker 3: Brady, I can't say breakfast club without the Reckless Club.

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Speaker 4: You're like this rare air.

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Speaker 1: She got platforms and partners all over the place because

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Speaker 1: your man is so high.

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Speaker 5: People want to be in listens with the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 1: I don't think white people know how popular you guys are.

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Speaker 5: DJ Envy, Charlemagne the guy. You guys really are like

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Speaker 5: the hip hop early morning late night talk.

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Speaker 1: Y'all know what you'all talking about. It's a moody. Is

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Speaker 1: it your time to get it off your chest?

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Speaker 6: Wait, whether you're mad or blessed something, to get up

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Speaker 6: and get something?

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Speaker 3: Call up now eight hundred five eighty five one O

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Speaker 3: five one. We want to hear from you on the

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Speaker 3: Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 1: Ray, What Updrey?

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Speaker 7: What up?

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Speaker 8: Man?

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Speaker 1: You don't know if your.

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Speaker 9: Chests brother, Oh, I got this little for them, she'd

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Speaker 9: be clocking me.

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Speaker 5: She my mother.

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Speaker 10: I always think I'm trying to cheat.

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Speaker 11: When I'm just going to the store, like well.

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Speaker 1: First of all, you can't, Curtis. The second of all,

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Speaker 1: did you cheat before?

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Speaker 7: Yeah? I cheated?

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Speaker 5: Before come on, I'll tell you what else to that

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Speaker 5: little girlfriend of yours is a big girlfriend to somebody

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Speaker 5: else whoa.

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Speaker 1: Oh no, you can't talk.

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Speaker 5: You can't talk about it like that though. You see

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Speaker 5: your little girlfriend? What you mean? That's that's what I

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Speaker 5: say to you when I'm trying to insult you. I

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Speaker 5: see what your little girlfriend. How you gonna say that

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Speaker 5: about yourself?

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Speaker 7: That's a fact, that's the fact.

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Speaker 5: You're right.

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Speaker 11: But still though, like she's just always copping me, coccoosing

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Speaker 11: me and cheating when I'm literally trying to be faithful,

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Speaker 11: Like she's gonna push me to go cheating.

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Speaker 1: You cheat it twice, so she gotta watch you. Obviously,

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Speaker 1: that's a fact.

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Speaker 12: But that's back in the day.

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Speaker 6: Though.

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Speaker 7: Bro, Oh my goodness, it's.

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Speaker 5: Not that hard, sir, not at all. You violated her trust.

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Speaker 11: And if not, and I've been trying to make that

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Speaker 11: trust up, but she just keep on keep on keeping

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Speaker 11: going with it, like you're gonna forgive me and be

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Speaker 11: with me, or you're gonna keep on accusing me, Like,

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Speaker 11: which what are we doing now?

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Speaker 1: If you keep talking like we did? Give it is

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Speaker 1: to heal you cheated twice? And then she asked you

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Speaker 1: a question. You're like, just get over it. That ain't

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Speaker 1: gonna work.

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Speaker 11: Yeah, I'll be I mean, I'll be trying to be

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Speaker 11: reasonable with her, Like I get while you excuse me,

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Speaker 11: get while you feel it how you feel.

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Speaker 9: But at the end of the day, you chose to

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Speaker 9: get back with me.

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Speaker 1: Trade was the last time you cheated?

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Speaker 12: Trade?

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Speaker 10: Like five months ago?

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Speaker 1: He said? Mad long ago?

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Speaker 5: Hey man, trade have a blood day trip?

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Speaker 1: John was mad long ago? How long?

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Speaker 5: Five months?

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Speaker 8: Like?

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Speaker 5: Knock it off?

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Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, Hello, who's this?

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Speaker 13: Hey, good morning. It's Tasha from Brooklyn.

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Speaker 1: Hey, Tasha from Brooklyn. Get it off your chest.

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Speaker 14: So I just want to say how upset I am

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Speaker 14: go back to work after twelve weeks.

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Speaker 12: And it sucks.

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Speaker 14: You know, it's not enough bonding time that we get

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Speaker 14: with our childress.

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Speaker 5: How long is it?

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Speaker 13: It's only twelve weeks.

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Speaker 14: It's literally three months and my daughter just turned three

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Speaker 14: pay you for twelve weeks. You can stay out longer,

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Speaker 14: but it will be without pay. So I'm not returning

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Speaker 14: to work until next year, so all of this time

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Speaker 14: will be without pay. Other countries, well, I'm going to

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Speaker 14: take so you have job security for up to a year.

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Speaker 14: If I work for the city, my position is safe

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Speaker 14: for up to a year. But after the twelve weeks,

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Speaker 14: I won't get paid. So I decided I'll just take

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Speaker 14: six months. It gives me a little bit more time

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Speaker 14: to bond with her and her to get to just

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Speaker 14: know her environment before I put her like with.

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Speaker 12: A baby, sit up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, I mean, yeah.

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Speaker 14: The funny thing about it is I have two older children,

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Speaker 13: I went back to week, I went back to work

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Speaker 14: Later, you know, just not even recognizing or realizing how

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Speaker 14: important it is to bond with your kid in these

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Speaker 14: you know, first couple of months. But I think we

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Speaker 14: could do better. It's so much, it's so much policies

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Speaker 14: that could be put into place, especially for black women,

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Speaker 14: and the maternal rate is so high, the death maternal.

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Speaker 13: Rate is so high.

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Speaker 14: Yes, I just wanted to throw that out here.

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Speaker 1: See, I see both sides because I understand you want

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Speaker 1: to bond with the kids, and that's that's very especially

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Speaker 1: the first year. It's very well needed. But also i'm

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Speaker 1: full year and not have somebody feel that position, you know,

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Speaker 1: So I see both sides, you know. Or maybe if

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Speaker 1: you're able to allow to work at home where that

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Speaker 1: way you can still spend time with your baby at

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Speaker 13: Yeah, I'm pretty sure it's some position where you can't

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Speaker 13: stay at home. My position, you can't do that.

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Speaker 14: I need to be in the office.

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Speaker 13: But it's it's not even actually called maternity lead.

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Speaker 14: It's called excellently like family medical administrative lead. So if

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Speaker 14: that's the case, I think like something could figure out.

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Speaker 12: You know.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well, enjoy that baby, love that baby. They

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Speaker 1: get big so damn fast.

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Speaker 13: Thank you so much.

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Speaker 1: Have a good one.

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Speaker 11: Guy.

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Speaker 1: What's the baby's name?

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Speaker 13: Her name is Shiloh. Shout out to my baby.

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Speaker 14: Shout out to Nila, Shout out to Anthony.

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Speaker 13: Those are my kids.

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Speaker 14: Shout out to my husband on Nil.

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Speaker 13: Shout out to you guys.

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Speaker 14: Y'all, so follow me and you my men's and them,

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Speaker 14: envy you my men's and them. I love y'all.

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Speaker 1: Let you get it off your chest eight hundred five

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Speaker 1: eighty five one five one. If you need to be

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Speaker 1: hit us up now it's the breakfast club.

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Speaker 3: The morning, the breakfast club. This is your time to

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Speaker 3: get it off your chest. Undred five five five one.

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Speaker 3: We want to hear from you on the breakfast club.

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Speaker 4: Hello. Who's his?

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Speaker 5: Hey Derek, Hey Derek?

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Speaker 1: What get her off your chest?

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Speaker 6: Hey? I got something on my chest?

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Speaker 5: Man.

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Speaker 6: I want to talk about the price of a good man.

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Speaker 5: Okay, So I don't know a.

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Speaker 6: Good man that doesn't have an empty wallet and a

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Speaker 6: broken fact. But now you get you get that, you

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Speaker 6: get you a bad man. They got a pocket full

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Speaker 6: of money and they take me.

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Speaker 1: That sounds like me, I'm not bad.

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Speaker 6: Well, hey, I'm just saying you be nod. But you

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Speaker 6: don't hear about good women anymore.

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Speaker 5: That's not true.

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Speaker 1: What's your definition of a good woman? You just told

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Speaker 1: us our definition of a good man. What's a good woman?

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Speaker 6: If a good woman is the old day, the old

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Speaker 6: school women, the ones that take care of the home,

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Speaker 6: take care of you know, women don't watch this is normal.

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Speaker 6: They don't play the house no more. They don't do

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Speaker 6: none of those things.

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Speaker 5: That's not true. I'm gonna tell you something, man, I

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Speaker 5: got a plethora of amazing sisters around me that do both.

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Speaker 5: They know how to navigate in the corporate world and

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Speaker 5: get their money, and they know how to be domesticated

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Speaker 5: at home, you know, and they always got to be

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Speaker 5: to hook them up with people. And I'll be like no,

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Speaker 5: because I don't know no brothers, men like a worthy

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Speaker 5: and I don't even like to get involved in my

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Speaker 5: friends relationships like that.

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Speaker 6: Well, what generation are they in.

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Speaker 5: Late thirties forty five that the generate new generation got dishwashers?

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Speaker 1: Do y'all really want women washing?

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Speaker 5: That's true too.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to walk by seeing anybody washing dishes.

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Speaker 5: Put them in a dishwashers, keep it pushing. That's true too.

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Speaker 6: Well, I'm just staying. I've been married for twenty five

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Speaker 6: years and I've been, you know, a good man, and

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Speaker 6: I tell you what, everyone in my body's hurting.

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Speaker 1: Damn Well, Derek, you need to get an ask in

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Speaker 1: the dishwashing time.

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Speaker 6: But at the same time, you say that's the thirty

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Speaker 6: year olds. Well, you don't know. You don't realize it

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Speaker 6: until your bout forty or fifty. That's when all of

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Speaker 6: that's when everything starts hurting and you start noticing that

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Speaker 6: your wallace.

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Speaker 5: Yeah that's just age though.

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Speaker 6: Broll and after twenty five years of marriage of every

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Speaker 6: bone in your body is hurting.

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Speaker 1: She's still doing her job.

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Speaker 6: But I'm bum boom your bones are hurting because you're

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Speaker 6: doing everything around the house, and you're doing all the work.

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Speaker 5: You have a particular age.

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Speaker 1: You missed the bone jokes the bone Joe.

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Speaker 9: Ah, man, I missed the phone joke.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, he was talking about the other bone, bro. But

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Speaker 1: does that bone still work? That's all that matters.

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Speaker 6: Oh man, that's the thing about it. It works better

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Speaker 6: than my movie.

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Speaker 1: But in my back where you better be appy because

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Speaker 1: there's a lot of brothers out there and there Fortyes,

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Speaker 1: that bones don't work, bro, but also.

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Speaker 6: Brothers know that everything stops. Wants to get married after

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Speaker 6: about fifteen years.

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Speaker 1: What's wrong? You just missed the negative this morning?

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Speaker 9: Brother, h No, I'm wise, wise and in a good movie.

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Speaker 1: All right, Well you have a good one, mister, good move.

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Speaker 6: And of my pipy and you know we know people.

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Speaker 5: Okay, okay, all astrological signs people, He's okay, I'm the

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Speaker 5: only afthroological sign that knows some people.

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Speaker 1: He said, a great day. All right, Hello, who's this?

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Speaker 14: Hey?

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Speaker 5: What's up?

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Speaker 4: Man?

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Speaker 6: This twan?

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Speaker 1: But yeah, some of them do be disrespectful. Angle front.

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Speaker 1: Have it going, brother, get it off your chest. Eight

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Speaker 1: hundred five e five one oh five one. If you

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Speaker 1: need the vent phone lines wide open. It's the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 1: Good morning, the Breakfast Club, parting everybody. It's DJ NV

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Speaker 1: Charlamagne the God. We are the Breakfast Club. You got

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Speaker 5: Yes, indeed, Mel Hill, welcome back. Hey.

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Speaker 4: You know I always love to sit with y'all enjoying

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Speaker 1: That's right, And the paperback is out right now it is.

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Speaker 15: Yeah, my baby is growed up a little bit. It's

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Speaker 10: So.

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Speaker 4: A year ago the hardcover of my memoir Uphill came out,

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Speaker 5: How was the response to putting out a memoir, because

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Speaker 5: you know, in memoirs you put out so much information,

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Speaker 5: you reveal things you probably never told anybody. Well, response,

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Speaker 4: The response was generally good. It was mostly positive.

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Speaker 15: There was somebody in my family who took issue with it,

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Speaker 15: We did have a conversation before, but I just didn't

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Speaker 5: Why and probably stuff that wasn't true.

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Speaker 15: Yeah, some of it was definitely I looked at very skeptically,

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Speaker 15: and it wasn't about me. It was it was about

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Speaker 5: Of My first book was the same thing, and family was, oh,

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Speaker 5: I can't write a book, but I can go to Facebook,

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Speaker 15: You know, And especially it's not like this person couldn't

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Speaker 1: So that really so they wanted side out there.

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Speaker 15: Oh, they just felt like they should have been you know,

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Speaker 15: that their role in my life should have been more

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Speaker 4: And so yeah, with they.

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Speaker 15: It was, well, I mean, I guess if you want

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Speaker 15: getting to But it was my father.

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Speaker 4: Who had an issue. Oh yeah, that was my father

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Speaker 15: With some of the things that were in the book,

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Speaker 15: It was a very difficult conversation to have, and so

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Speaker 15: those conversations have been somewhat ongoing, and I told him

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Speaker 4: Because I took a lot of issue with it.

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Speaker 5: Now do you think, what do you think a second

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Speaker 5: Jamel Hill book would be about?

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Speaker 15: Well, there will be another Jamael Hill book, and it

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Speaker 4: But the second book will be a children's book.

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Speaker 15: Oh yeah, So I'm writing a children's book and it

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Speaker 15: will cover some parts of Uphill, like just kind of

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Speaker 4: I've never written.

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Speaker 15: Before a children's audience before, so this will be quite

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Speaker 15: a challenge. It'll be the opposite almost from a memoir,

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Speaker 15: because you're pouring everything into this book, and you know,

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Speaker 15: Yet yeah, I mean it, it'll be a combination of

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Speaker 5: Gotcha. Yeah, we just had an off set up here

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Speaker 5: Interesting Mark on the one day one time and he

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Speaker 1: What Charlamage cares about. Fact, that's all.

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Speaker 5: Like a whole five.

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Speaker 5: A beautiful man. He was like, I'm like living, I'm blushing.

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Speaker 5: Date lady features, I promise you that's what you were saying.

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Speaker 5: He remembers every live I do. I do, but I don't.

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Speaker 4: And it would be nice.

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Speaker 15: If some of these artists understood that there's something larger

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Speaker 1: I will on't go anywhere. We got more with Jamil Hill.

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Speaker 1: It's the Breakfast logan morning, the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 4: Everybody's DJ n V.

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Speaker 1: Charlamagne, the guy we are the Breakfast Club was still

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Speaker 1: kicking it. Very insightful with Jamel Hill this morning, Charlamagne.

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Speaker 5: I do miss your sports takes, Jamail. I talked about

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Speaker 15: Let me tell you this, Charlote made I think you

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Speaker 15: deserve You should give me credit because it took a

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Speaker 15: forty nine ers just play. Just beat the breaks off, y'all,

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Speaker 15: because because I knew this was I would see him

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Speaker 4: And I told you.

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Speaker 1: If I had your number, I would have called you.

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Speaker 1: I would have put you in just for five minutes

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Speaker 1: to like, do you have something to say when the wash.

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Speaker 5: Them Californies feel like, are you happy to see that? Jamail?

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Speaker 15: It ain't about like what I was just like, yeah,

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Speaker 15: we are problem, but we are a problem for most

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Speaker 15: of them. We knew that, we knew that everybody, but

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Speaker 5: You know.

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Speaker 15: score because I missed most of the game because I

451
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Speaker 15: had to ask some other things to do, but I

452
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Speaker 15: knew we were gonna win.

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Speaker 4: I just didn't think it was gonna be like that

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Speaker 4: was I said, you.

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Speaker 15: Know what I'm gonna I'm gonna give Charlam made some

456
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Speaker 15: some privacy, you know, some talks and prayers, and then

457
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Speaker 15: when I see him in person, be like you boys.

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Speaker 5: No, that was the moral the first two weeks. I'm like, yeah,

459
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Speaker 5: we're going to the super Bowl. You know I say

460
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Speaker 5: that every year. Yeah, you know, you went the lost

461
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Speaker 5: of the Cars, so that's nothing right going to Super

462
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Speaker 5: Bowl against New England. Going to Super Bowl? What was weak?

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Speaker 1: I'm like his daddy texting them and said, Charlam mane,

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Speaker 1: were really going to the Super Bowl? Buy your tickets?

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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's just the belief is so hard.

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Speaker 5: That's been a different conversation. Yeah, this is depressing. Let's

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Speaker 5: go back to one one of the topics. Okay, THEO

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Speaker 5: Vaughn and Sexy Red all right talking, We talked about

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Speaker 5: it up a couple of times. What about that interview

470
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Speaker 5: is so upsetting, Like there's gonna need to beat up

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Speaker 5: on her Sexy Red.

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Speaker 15: Yeah, I mean, I don't think that anybody was rushing

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Speaker 15: to hear, you know, what her political texts were. But

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Speaker 15: the problem with is, like the misinformation. It wasn't that

475
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Speaker 15: she gave her political take. She's allowed to give her

476
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Speaker 15: political tape. She could have said I supported Trump and

477
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Speaker 15: listed off the reasons that actually made a little bit

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Speaker 15: more sense. Yeah, she could have said that, because it's

479
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Speaker 15: her right to have that opinion. But it's the misinformation

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Speaker 15: that is what I see is to be more dangerous

481
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Speaker 15: when you have that kind of platform, because like it

482
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Speaker 15: or not, people aren't going to listen to her. And

483
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Speaker 15: even though you know she's talked about they love Trump

484
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Speaker 15: in the hood. I was like, well, Poles don't really

485
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Speaker 15: show that, but that's okay, go ahead, go off, And

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Speaker 15: so I took the opportunity to your point, I saw

487
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Speaker 15: it as a teachable moment because, as you said, there

488
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Speaker 15: are some people who do say the same things. Let's

489
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Speaker 15: deal with what's being said. Even though Donald Trump's name

490
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Speaker 15: were on that stimulus tech, he did not the money

491
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Speaker 15: did not come from it me. It didn't come right

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Speaker 15: out of his bank account. It was passed by congress people.

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Speaker 15: And that's part of the general collective ignorance that we have.

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Speaker 15: A lot of us don't know how government works. There's

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Speaker 15: no shame in that because it is a complicated system.

496
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Speaker 15: But we have to understand how legislation has passed, how

497
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Speaker 15: policy are made, knowing the right person to be mad at,

498
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Speaker 15: because a lot of the things that people are mad at,

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Speaker 15: you know, inflation, other things.

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Speaker 4: I was like, the president doesn't have a whole lot.

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Speaker 15: To do with that, and we're in a huge age

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Speaker 15: of corporate greed like we've never seen before. And I

503
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Speaker 15: wish that we had a better handle on who to blame,

504
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Speaker 15: because then that would help us better strategize.

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Speaker 5: But you know what, I tell the Tellorhood, I'll just

506
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Speaker 5: be like Biden gave out Stemmys too.

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Speaker 4: But that was brilliant though. I was like, I mean,

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Speaker 4: no president in the history has ever done that. He's like, no, no, no, no.

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Speaker 4: The checks get held up because he was like, no, no,

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Speaker 4: I'm gonna need that.

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Speaker 16: Donald J.

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Speaker 5: Trump on it because he knew, he knew the lasting

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Speaker 5: impact that would have. But you're right, Biden Trump signed

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Speaker 5: signed it in twice. Yeah, signed it in once. Biden

515
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Speaker 5: gave out Stemmys two. It is. That's the hook. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: that's how you get the sexony reds as all.

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Speaker 4: It isn't.

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Speaker 15: And unfortunately the other part of it is that the

519
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Speaker 15: amount of media machinery behind the right wing there's no

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Speaker 15: democratic equivalent. I hope somebody in her camp or somebody

521
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Speaker 15: period pulled her aside and said, hey, here are the issues.

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Speaker 15: If you're gonna speak about these, and if you're gonna

523
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Speaker 15: take a pro tramp position, at least if you're gonna

524
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Speaker 15: take one, take one that is a little more informative

525
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Speaker 15: than the one that know your facts, know your facts.

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Speaker 5: And people just like to be entertained nowadays. Two, I

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Speaker 5: bet you said you're not redister voute.

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Speaker 4: I mean that would have been like a great follow

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Speaker 4: up to be like, oh, so.

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Speaker 5: Are you registered to vote?

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Speaker 4: Are do you planning to vote for him?

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Speaker 1: In the next election.

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Speaker 15: That would have been something to bring up with her,

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Speaker 15: but I guarantee that might be the last political question

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Speaker 15: she for quite some time.

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Speaker 5: One more question, You still think that get Helly's racist?

537
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Speaker 5: Would say that was the reason for it.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I know why you said that.

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Speaker 5: You thought she was racist, but not wanting com Vice

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Speaker 5: President Harry.

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Speaker 15: No, So it's not that because again, like in politics,

542
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Speaker 15: you're not gonna agree with who needs to be the leader.

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Speaker 15: It's not the general disagreement that I think people took

544
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Speaker 15: it that way. I'm not calling her a flat out racist,

545
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Speaker 15: but what I will say is that she's very comfortable

546
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Speaker 15: using racist dog whistles to further and advance her political position.

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Speaker 5: I feel like the biggest opposition Vice President Harris is

548
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Speaker 5: going to face is going to come from in her

549
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Speaker 5: own party. Yes, I agree. I think that there's people

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Speaker 5: in her party right now who don't want her to

551
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Speaker 5: be by president because you see that came out I

552
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Speaker 5: did in New.

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Speaker 15: York Times, and it's it's the hit pieces that are

554
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Speaker 15: done on her. It's just I don't I mean, I

555
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Speaker 15: get it, but I don't get it.

556
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Speaker 5: But I had to go google and see, well what

557
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Speaker 5: did she do? Like I was like it just came

558
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Speaker 5: out of nowhere long as I mean, and even some

559
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Speaker 5: of us.

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Speaker 4: Who are just like, well, what is she doing? Where's

561
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Speaker 4: she being?

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Speaker 15: Like she literally speaks every day guys like I don't

563
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Speaker 15: know what to tell y'all, Like you're like, where is she?

564
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Speaker 15: I'm like, uh, because I'm on the mailing list. I

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Speaker 15: get her schedule practically every day. Like she's always doing

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Speaker 15: a lot of things, Like I know right now she's

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Speaker 15: on the college tour, but no, like she's been subjected

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Speaker 15: to a lot of hit pieces and you could tell

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Speaker 15: their hip pieces because of some of the things they

570
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Speaker 15: say about her.

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Speaker 5: You can tell it from within, and they can.

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Speaker 15: Tell that from within. It's like, because I think in

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Speaker 15: that is this. This is the article that mentioned how

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Speaker 15: much time she spends on her hair.

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Speaker 5: On her hair, Like are you serious?

576
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Speaker 1: Like that's what we do?

577
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Speaker 4: Like on her air, like she's a black woman.

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Speaker 15: I bet she is going to spend some time on

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Speaker 15: her air because the moment she doesn't look presentable, guess

580
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Speaker 15: what the conversation is going to be about the vice president.

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Speaker 15: So it's like she's damned if she did does damned

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Speaker 15: if she doesn't. She's caught in a really type position,

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Speaker 15: and I feel like it is really it's really neutering

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Speaker 15: what I think makes her such a strong politician. And

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Speaker 15: like it or not, Joe Biden would not have gotten

586
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Speaker 15: elected without her, he would not have She was the strongest,

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Speaker 15: I think person for him to run with. I mean, look, listen,

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Speaker 15: do you feel like that there's another viable VP that

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Speaker 15: will get.

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Speaker 5: No, I don't think exactly. I don't think the Democrats

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Speaker 5: have no bitch period.

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Speaker 4: No, it's than it's then like when you look at

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Speaker 4: who could have run.

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Speaker 1: She just said bench bench, No bench, clearly bench.

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Speaker 5: I said, they don't have no bench. Oh my good

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Speaker 5: All right, ladies and gentlemen, hill a memoir the paperback

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Speaker 5: that right now.

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Speaker 1: I appreciate you for joining us. And it's the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 1: Good Morning's DJ V Charlamage. We all the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 1: Lauren the Roaster is our special guest co host.

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Speaker 5: Yeses me.

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Speaker 1: Now, if you're just joining us, we're talking about taking

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Speaker 1: your wife's class name. Now this story comes from where Lauren.

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Speaker 17: So, this story comes from the NFL star Ricky Williams,

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Speaker 17: former NFL star, he decided to legally change his last

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Speaker 17: name to his wife his wife's last name, and he

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Speaker 17: said that this is something that he had been thinking

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Speaker 17: about for some time now and it actually done, but

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Speaker 17: hadn't like mentioned it. And as to why, he said

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Speaker 17: he did it because he wanted to create more balance

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Speaker 17: in his marriage. His wife is a very established and

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Speaker 17: successful attorney, he says, but he often gets more attention

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Speaker 17: due to his NFL career, so he thought that this would,

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Speaker 17: you know, help to create the balance. It's something that

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Speaker 17: he considered after taking an astrology relationship class.

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Speaker 4: I guess so ye, I told you all signs better,

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Speaker 4: all right?

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Speaker 1: So the question is eight hundred five five five one.

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Speaker 1: Would you take your wife's last name? Now, charlamagine you

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Speaker 1: said you would hyphen the name.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I would hyphen it. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 5: I wouldn't change it completely. You know, I have four daughters,

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Speaker 5: and I want my daughters to keep our last name

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Speaker 5: because you know, I don't have any sons, so I

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Speaker 5: wanted to be hyphenated. That's how my wife's name is.

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Speaker 5: My wife's name is her last name and my last

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Speaker 5: name because her her father don't have no son. So yeah,

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Speaker 5: to keep the to keep the last name alive, I would.

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Speaker 5: I would do the hyphen it thing. But yeah, I

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Speaker 5: wouldn't change my name completely. Yeah no, I wouldn't. No,

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Speaker 5: I wouldn't. I wouldn't do that. My lineage and my

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Speaker 5: ancestors matter too. I wouldn't change my name completely.

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Speaker 1: Yeah no, I wouldn't change mine at all. I'm my

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Speaker 1: only child and my wife has two brothers, So yeah, no,

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Speaker 1: I wouldn't change mine. Lauren, would you want your husband

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Speaker 1: to change his name to your name?

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Speaker 4: No, I want to take his last name.

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Speaker 1: You want to take his last name?

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Speaker 2: I just I don't know.

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Speaker 17: I just feel like I'm just it's so weird because

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Speaker 17: I'm not traditional at all. But that is as I

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Speaker 17: don't know, just something you look forward to us like

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Speaker 17: a woman from what for me anyway? And not for

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Speaker 17: all woman for me?

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Speaker 4: But I thought it was interesting too.

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Speaker 17: He said that he didn't really care about the change either,

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Speaker 17: because the last name was Williams is not even his

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Speaker 17: real last name. The guy I guess that was married

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Speaker 17: to his grandmother that took care of the family, isn't

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Speaker 17: his real uh like, isn't like isn't his biological dad.

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Speaker 17: So that changes it too because the lineage is not

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Speaker 17: really even there. Because it's not as sad and I

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Speaker 17: won the.

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Speaker 5: Way it shifted for us to because remember it was

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Speaker 5: a time where, you know, especially if you study like

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Speaker 5: you know Islam or the fibers and teachers Islam, you know,

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Speaker 5: the last name was a slave name. So that's why

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Speaker 5: people would you know, change their name the ex Muhammad,

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Speaker 5: you know Farakahn. So I wonder where where we got

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Speaker 5: to the point where we was like, nah, we're gonna

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Speaker 5: represent all last names, even if they are you know.

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Speaker 1: From ours, because casey, I don't think it came from

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Speaker 1: from the black name or no.

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Speaker 5: Duh, clear clearly clearly that it was all slave owner names.

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Speaker 5: I'm just saying. I wonder when we started to claim

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Speaker 5: nose and say, nah, this is our last name. I

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Speaker 5: kind of feel like woke. It was when people got woke.

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Speaker 5: I think. I think when Dame dash would say a

669
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Speaker 5: hustle for your last name, not your first and you know,

670
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Speaker 5: like that matters that and that is our names, you

671
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Speaker 5: know at the end of the day. So so like

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Speaker 5: I said, I wouldn't I wouldn't change my last name,

673
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Speaker 5: but you never know what you're both names.

674
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Speaker 1: But I asked a couple of the men behind the scenes,

675
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Speaker 1: and I asked them if they would do it, and

676
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Speaker 1: they said no. But then I said, if it was

677
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Speaker 1: somebody that was financially secure or like an open wind

678
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Speaker 1: free or one of those, would they changed the name.

679
00:26:31,119 --> 00:26:32,360
Speaker 1: They all suggest I hate.

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Speaker 17: That for y'all because even if she wasn't financially secure,

681
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Speaker 17: if you lover, and that's what I'm just telling you.

682
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Speaker 17: They started, you know, they said, I hate man, So

683
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Speaker 17: don't get me started.

684
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Speaker 4: You do you do?

685
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Speaker 1: Hello? Who's this?

686
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Speaker 16: Good morning you?

687
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Speaker 1: How you doing?

688
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Speaker 16: I'm good. This is doctor Bryan Thomas.

689
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Speaker 1: Good morning, good morning. Would you change your last name

690
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Speaker 1: to your wife's last name?

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Speaker 10: Yeah?

692
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Speaker 18: I would.

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Speaker 16: I don't see a problem with that. I don't see

694
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Speaker 16: an issue with it because, I mean, to maintain your daughter,

695
00:26:55,640 --> 00:26:58,399
Speaker 16: then everybody wants the legacy. I don't have a problem

696
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Speaker 16: with that at all. I mean, I don't think it's

697
00:27:00,520 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 16: it's fair that, you know, it's an automatic thing that

698
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Speaker 16: the woman gets to take my last name. I mean,

699
00:27:05,000 --> 00:27:07,040
Speaker 16: which one was having it? You know, the other way around?

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Speaker 5: It should be okay, someone you you would change it completely?

701
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Speaker 16: Yeah, I mean, what's the big deal. Yeah, my last

702
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Speaker 16: name is Bryan, so m's Cardashi absolutely.

703
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Speaker 5: I'm a pick of Smith, Winfrey knows Carter, so I understand.

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Speaker 1: Brad, Hello, Hello, hey Brad.

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Speaker 12: Uh yeah, I was saying, you call us because there's only.

706
00:27:30,880 --> 00:27:34,119
Speaker 5: Like hey, no, why you sound like that?

707
00:27:35,840 --> 00:27:38,800
Speaker 1: Okay, all right, continue, So you change your last name

708
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Speaker 1: to your wife's last name.

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Speaker 12: I would be down.

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Speaker 9: Not that she'd ever asked that, but because her last

711
00:27:44,200 --> 00:27:47,160
Speaker 9: name is so unique that there's only like a handful

712
00:27:47,280 --> 00:27:48,040
Speaker 9: of people.

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Speaker 13: That have it in all of the US.

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Speaker 1: What's her last name?

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Speaker 12: I kind of want to say it.

716
00:27:53,760 --> 00:27:55,480
Speaker 10: It's not bad or anything like that.

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00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:56,920
Speaker 1: You know, what is it?

718
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Speaker 5: You don't want to put her out there? I understand.

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Speaker 1: Let's say, you're not going knock to tell us what

720
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Speaker 1: the unique name is.

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Speaker 10: Well, because of perspective, you know what I'm saying, like

722
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Speaker 10: the fact that most guys wouldn't have to worry about

723
00:28:08,920 --> 00:28:11,840
Speaker 10: that because a lot of people are common and is it?

724
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Speaker 12: But because it's not common, I don't want to put

725
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Speaker 12: her out there?

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Speaker 5: Got you? That was all right?

727
00:28:20,480 --> 00:28:22,040
Speaker 2: That had been so much better if he just said that.

728
00:28:22,240 --> 00:28:23,159
Speaker 1: Said the name quitting?

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Speaker 19: What up?

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Speaker 12: Man?

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Speaker 1: What's up? Would you take your wife's last name?

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Speaker 8: No?

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Speaker 10: Man?

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Speaker 12: That ain't no man? This duty right here last name.

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Speaker 6: That what she married.

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Speaker 16: He's got to be the man that relates top.

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Speaker 17: You're not the man if you're the name is not

738
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Speaker 17: if she doesn't make your last name, like, aren't you

739
00:28:38,760 --> 00:28:39,440
Speaker 17: still the man?

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Speaker 6: No, I'm not taking her.

741
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Speaker 12: And now she she got a bunch of money. I

742
00:28:43,200 --> 00:28:44,520
Speaker 12: think that shut up.

743
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Speaker 5: Man's so crazy, I can I say it's it's funny

744
00:28:48,160 --> 00:28:51,160
Speaker 5: to me, Lauren, when people say you're not a man

745
00:28:51,240 --> 00:28:53,440
Speaker 5: if you take the woman's last name. But the woman,

746
00:28:53,880 --> 00:28:55,880
Speaker 5: the woman got money, It's okay to take that makes

747
00:28:55,920 --> 00:28:56,520
Speaker 5: you a bird.

748
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Speaker 1: You're a bird.

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Speaker 17: But if I sat up here it's say anything about

750
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Speaker 17: a man with money, then what I would do? Because

751
00:29:02,280 --> 00:29:05,120
Speaker 17: the man got money? I am like, I have no morals.

752
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Speaker 5: I'm they call your birth by the way, for all

753
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Speaker 5: guys who say that. And if the girl got money,

754
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Speaker 5: I'll take her last name. You're a city girl, definitely

755
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Speaker 5: a city.

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Speaker 17: But y'all mad when we bumping city girls and the

757
00:29:16,360 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 17: sexy reds and see, I'm just I don't hate nobody.

758
00:29:19,000 --> 00:29:21,080
Speaker 17: I'm just calling out double standards all the time. Y'all

759
00:29:21,120 --> 00:29:21,520
Speaker 17: be mad at me.

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Speaker 5: You know what.

761
00:29:25,040 --> 00:29:26,880
Speaker 1: It says that your wife wants you to do that?

762
00:29:27,040 --> 00:29:28,280
Speaker 1: Right now? Take her last name.

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Speaker 12: I'm my wife, than I possibly getting married.

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Speaker 1: Okay, the narratives.

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Speaker 12: She wants me to take your last name. But I'm

766
00:29:36,040 --> 00:29:37,920
Speaker 12: pretty old school man, I'm not for that.

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Speaker 5: But I do get her.

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Speaker 16: I do get her point of view because.

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Speaker 12: Her father was a single father, so her last name

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Speaker 12: was Diane with her because he only had two girls.

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Speaker 12: So I do understand her point of view.

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Speaker 6: But I can't do that. Man.

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Speaker 5: Why doesn't she walk around? Why doesn't she just hyphenate

774
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:57,840
Speaker 5: her last name and then when y'all have kids. I

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00:29:58,480 --> 00:30:01,760
Speaker 5: ain't for that hyphen I'm not saying you. I'm not

776
00:30:01,880 --> 00:30:04,640
Speaker 5: saying you have to. I'm saying, why doesn't she hyphenate

777
00:30:05,200 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 5: you know, y'all last names? And then when y'all have kids,

778
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Speaker 5: the kids have the hyphenated last name.

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Speaker 12: She wants to hyphenated, but I don't see the purpose

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Speaker 12: of hyphenated. Who has It's like.

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Speaker 5: Walking around with That's not true.

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Speaker 4: People have two last names, especially if they people.

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Speaker 5: If you, if you, I know they have two last names.

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Speaker 12: But I mean we get married. I mean, like I said,

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Speaker 12: I'm old, my grandfather, my grandmother, y'all got kids yet?

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Speaker 5: Yeah, I hope you have all girls. I hope you

787
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Speaker 5: have all girls. That's not a bad thing, though. I

788
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Speaker 5: hope you have all girls. So when those girls get

789
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Speaker 5: married to another guy, you'll understand why it's important to

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Speaker 5: hyphenate the last name.

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Speaker 1: Nothing wrong with all girls.

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Speaker 4: What was that last name?

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Speaker 18: Though?

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Speaker 17: You might lose that last name because if they get

795
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Speaker 17: married and want to stay traditional and take their man's

796
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Speaker 17: last name, like the the household they're.

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Speaker 12: With their mom, that's something that's gonna have to be

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Speaker 12: decided when they get married.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, but you gotta change tradition. Now you're

800
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Speaker 5: in it, KP. What's wrong with people man changing this?

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Speaker 8: You now?

802
00:31:03,520 --> 00:31:04,720
Speaker 12: K Yeah?

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00:31:05,720 --> 00:31:07,160
Speaker 1: Would you take your wife's last name?

804
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:07,920
Speaker 4: Uh?

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Speaker 10: It depends on which name adds more value to the

806
00:31:11,280 --> 00:31:16,840
Speaker 10: family man, like traditionally demand a last name is gonna

807
00:31:16,840 --> 00:31:20,880
Speaker 10: be worked more than the wife's last name, whatever case is.

808
00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:24,640
Speaker 10: But you know, if like you born out of Oprah Whitfrey,

809
00:31:24,720 --> 00:31:27,440
Speaker 10: want me to take her last name? The Whitfery last

810
00:31:27,520 --> 00:31:29,640
Speaker 10: name means born in the fierce last name.

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Speaker 12: Legacy.

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Speaker 10: And then also you know, if like but if Ricky

813
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:42,920
Speaker 10: Williams lands name Terry whole bunch of weight, as far

814
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Speaker 10: as like if daddy living with emotional trauma and stuff

815
00:31:46,240 --> 00:31:48,560
Speaker 10: like that. He might not want to leave that niggage

816
00:31:48,640 --> 00:31:51,120
Speaker 10: to his kids. He might want to, you know, add

817
00:31:51,200 --> 00:31:55,320
Speaker 10: the value of the white's family name on. So me, personally,

818
00:31:56,240 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 10: my wife's got my lass name, but if hers would

819
00:31:59,320 --> 00:32:01,080
Speaker 10: have been once more, I would have been a.

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Speaker 17: Hop what's the traditional rule that said that the man's

821
00:32:04,600 --> 00:32:05,920
Speaker 17: last name carries more weight than.

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Speaker 2: The woman did?

823
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Speaker 10: The traditional rule for what I'm saying traditional whenever we

824
00:32:11,000 --> 00:32:13,240
Speaker 10: go back to old student marriages and stuff, you know,

825
00:32:13,680 --> 00:32:16,080
Speaker 10: the man brought something to the table and said.

826
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Speaker 12: Hey, I'm adding value to this.

827
00:32:18,640 --> 00:32:21,760
Speaker 10: I'm not saying there's a rule, but I'm saying, traditionally,

828
00:32:21,880 --> 00:32:27,880
Speaker 10: that's why the man's last name was taken. Because you're saying, hey,

829
00:32:28,040 --> 00:32:30,960
Speaker 10: I'm bringing your daughter over here and join her to

830
00:32:31,080 --> 00:32:36,200
Speaker 10: this family, and you know this family is adding value

831
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Speaker 10: to you.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, a brother, Well, what's the other story,

833
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Speaker 1: guys in the morting?

834
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Speaker 5: The story is you got to do what works for you.

835
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Speaker 5: You know what I mean. I already told y'all I

836
00:32:44,080 --> 00:32:47,120
Speaker 5: got I got three four beautiful daughters. So you know

837
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Speaker 5: I want them to you know, hyphenate their last names

838
00:32:51,880 --> 00:32:55,480
Speaker 5: when they choose to get married a long, long, long, long,

839
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Speaker 5: long long long time from now, because I want my name,

840
00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,560
Speaker 5: my last name, to continue to live on you and

841
00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:04,480
Speaker 5: I think most fathers who have daughters want that. My wife,

842
00:33:04,560 --> 00:33:06,880
Speaker 5: That's what my wife did, so I don't have a

843
00:33:06,920 --> 00:33:09,880
Speaker 5: problem with that. As far as changing my last name completely, No,

844
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:12,680
Speaker 5: I want to honor my family, just like you know

845
00:33:12,880 --> 00:33:15,200
Speaker 5: that person wants their family honor. All right.

846
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Speaker 1: Just the Breakfast Club, Good morning, the Breakfast Club.

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Speaker 10: More.

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Speaker 1: Everybody is the dj n V Charlamagne to God. We

849
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Speaker 1: are the Breakfast Club. We got a special guest in.

850
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Speaker 5: The building now, it's a special special Yes.

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00:33:28,720 --> 00:33:29,840
Speaker 1: Jada Pinkett Smith.

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Speaker 2: Welcome, Thank you, thank you.

853
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Speaker 1: How are you feeling this morning?

854
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Speaker 2: I'm feeling good.

855
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Speaker 5: You're glowing.

856
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Speaker 4: Thank you.

857
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Speaker 2: You know, life is good even in the chaos.

858
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Speaker 5: I mean, life is chaos.

859
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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what it is. You know what I'm saying.

860
00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:46,640
Speaker 2: So you just get in harmony with that.

861
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Speaker 5: That's interesting, you said. I could always be wondering, like, yo,

862
00:33:49,640 --> 00:33:53,000
Speaker 5: do are we ever going to find peace on this planet?

863
00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:56,000
Speaker 5: Or do we just exist within the chaos? The chaos

864
00:33:56,080 --> 00:33:56,520
Speaker 5: is normal?

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I think you know. Just in my ernie, I've

866
00:34:00,880 --> 00:34:04,080
Speaker 2: just been discovering that you kind of have to just

867
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Speaker 2: rise above it, right, because the world is going to

868
00:34:07,160 --> 00:34:09,319
Speaker 2: be what it's going to be, right. I actually think

869
00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:13,839
Speaker 2: that the world is a university, you know, to teach

870
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:17,719
Speaker 2: us how to transcend it. Yeah, and so yeah, you

871
00:34:17,920 --> 00:34:21,320
Speaker 2: just you got to make peace with what this world

872
00:34:21,440 --> 00:34:23,800
Speaker 2: is about. But I don't think that this place is

873
00:34:23,840 --> 00:34:27,320
Speaker 2: our sanctuary. I actually think you know, snding it and

874
00:34:27,600 --> 00:34:32,000
Speaker 2: going into more of the spiritual spiritual places, you know,

875
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:34,839
Speaker 2: and just kind of understanding living your life from there

876
00:34:35,000 --> 00:34:37,880
Speaker 2: within the world. I mean, that's what they say, you know,

877
00:34:38,000 --> 00:34:39,080
Speaker 2: be in it, but not of it.

878
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Speaker 1: You ever get tired of it? Though, because you've been

879
00:34:41,120 --> 00:34:44,279
Speaker 1: on this tour for a while, and you're very big

880
00:34:44,360 --> 00:34:47,680
Speaker 1: on energy and vibrations, and sometimes I'm sure the energy

881
00:34:47,719 --> 00:34:49,360
Speaker 1: and vibrations have been all over the place, but it

882
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:52,359
Speaker 1: seems like you've been on tour, yeah, for a long time.

883
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Speaker 1: You ever get tired of it? Like now, enough's enough?

884
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Speaker 7: Now.

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Speaker 2: I think that if I put myself in that frame

886
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Speaker 2: of mind and I just bring myself a level of discomfort,

887
00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:05,239
Speaker 2: that's not necessary, right, You just go it is what

888
00:35:05,360 --> 00:35:08,719
Speaker 2: it is. So how are you going to step up

889
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:11,920
Speaker 2: to the moment and that's it, you know, that's just

890
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Speaker 2: what it is. And so that's where I find my piece.

891
00:35:15,280 --> 00:35:17,439
Speaker 5: Since the release of this book, what is your Ego?

892
00:35:17,600 --> 00:35:18,040
Speaker 5: Been telling you?

893
00:35:18,600 --> 00:35:24,200
Speaker 2: My ego has been telling me to let go because

894
00:35:25,160 --> 00:35:28,839
Speaker 2: it takes a lot of courage to sin in your truth.

895
00:35:29,320 --> 00:35:30,839
Speaker 2: It takes a lot of courage. It takes a lot

896
00:35:30,880 --> 00:35:33,800
Speaker 2: of courage to be happy. When you're walking through the

897
00:35:33,880 --> 00:35:39,800
Speaker 2: world and you're dismantling ideas, you know, you kind of

898
00:35:39,920 --> 00:35:43,960
Speaker 2: have to and that dismantle you just kind of have

899
00:35:44,080 --> 00:35:46,480
Speaker 2: to let go of everything that you thought you were,

900
00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:52,040
Speaker 2: everything that you're trying to be, and just flow right,

901
00:35:52,280 --> 00:35:57,640
Speaker 2: just let whatever is presenting itself, just kind of be

902
00:35:58,080 --> 00:36:02,920
Speaker 2: what it is. But you definitely gotta let go. So

903
00:36:03,440 --> 00:36:06,800
Speaker 2: it's it's been a real test in regards to trust.

904
00:36:08,200 --> 00:36:12,000
Speaker 2: You know, I just can't trust the ego in that

905
00:36:12,160 --> 00:36:15,319
Speaker 2: way anymore. But you know, that's a process. So as

906
00:36:15,400 --> 00:36:17,960
Speaker 2: I'm dismassing, so you go from one ego state to

907
00:36:18,080 --> 00:36:22,960
Speaker 2: the next, right, so it just gets it just gets uh,

908
00:36:24,800 --> 00:36:27,800
Speaker 2: it just gets smaller, I guess, you know, but the

909
00:36:27,920 --> 00:36:30,279
Speaker 2: ego is always going to be that. So you know,

910
00:36:30,400 --> 00:36:32,640
Speaker 2: you just kind of learn how to make friends with

911
00:36:32,760 --> 00:36:34,800
Speaker 2: your ego and have it work for you in a

912
00:36:34,880 --> 00:36:36,680
Speaker 2: different way, for different purpose.

913
00:36:37,760 --> 00:36:37,920
Speaker 10: Right.

914
00:36:38,080 --> 00:36:39,759
Speaker 2: So that's what I'm working with right now.

915
00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:45,040
Speaker 1: Has this truth helped your relationship with friends, family, and

916
00:36:45,160 --> 00:36:48,200
Speaker 1: even your marriage? Has this truth and all the things

917
00:36:48,239 --> 00:36:50,240
Speaker 1: that came out or did it make things worse?

918
00:36:50,760 --> 00:36:50,920
Speaker 19: Oh?

919
00:36:51,080 --> 00:36:55,600
Speaker 2: No, See I didn't. I didn't step into this walk

920
00:36:55,920 --> 00:37:02,040
Speaker 2: into my situation with my friend is my family as specifically,

921
00:37:02,160 --> 00:37:09,239
Speaker 2: Will was tight right because I already knew how disruptive

922
00:37:09,520 --> 00:37:11,319
Speaker 2: it was gonna be. So I had to make sure

923
00:37:11,360 --> 00:37:15,560
Speaker 2: that my inner circle was tight, right, so that we

924
00:37:15,600 --> 00:37:17,520
Speaker 2: could walk this together hand in hand.

925
00:37:18,320 --> 00:37:18,440
Speaker 10: Right.

926
00:37:18,560 --> 00:37:21,600
Speaker 2: So it's actually, you know, specifically for Will and I,

927
00:37:21,680 --> 00:37:25,680
Speaker 2: it's definitely brought us closer. It's so funny how crisis

928
00:37:25,760 --> 00:37:26,080
Speaker 2: will do.

929
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:28,040
Speaker 4: That, you know what I mean?

930
00:37:29,040 --> 00:37:32,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what I'm saying. So that's the thing

931
00:37:32,360 --> 00:37:36,279
Speaker 2: about Will and Ize, just like we just learn more

932
00:37:36,280 --> 00:37:39,759
Speaker 2: and more as we go that this is what we

933
00:37:39,840 --> 00:37:43,200
Speaker 2: were built to do, you know, with each other, you know,

934
00:37:44,600 --> 00:37:48,279
Speaker 2: and to walk together. And you know, just like any

935
00:37:48,360 --> 00:37:53,000
Speaker 2: long term relationship, it goes through it's of course, you know,

936
00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:56,799
Speaker 2: and so you gotta take your time. I really had

937
00:37:56,840 --> 00:38:01,520
Speaker 2: to grow emotionally. I did, had I realize how emotionally

938
00:38:01,640 --> 00:38:05,360
Speaker 2: immature I was, you know what I'm saying. And so

939
00:38:06,520 --> 00:38:09,760
Speaker 2: that's the thing about long term relationships that are fantastic

940
00:38:09,840 --> 00:38:12,920
Speaker 2: if you can just hang in there, because it's going

941
00:38:13,000 --> 00:38:17,440
Speaker 2: to force you to step your game up if you

942
00:38:17,520 --> 00:38:21,440
Speaker 2: want to be happy, you know. And so Will's been

943
00:38:21,480 --> 00:38:24,279
Speaker 2: one of my greatest teachers on my journey, you know,

944
00:38:24,360 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 2: because I've been forced to have to deal with.

945
00:38:26,600 --> 00:38:29,680
Speaker 1: My stuff, you know what stuff because you said you're immature.

946
00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:33,720
Speaker 1: What immaturity do you see when you look at yourself?

947
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:37,560
Speaker 2: Well, I would say, you know, seven years ago, just

948
00:38:37,719 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 2: when you're just hanging onto these romantic ideas of what

949
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:46,040
Speaker 2: marriage should be, what your partner should be for you,

950
00:38:46,360 --> 00:38:49,359
Speaker 2: so that you don't have to be the thing for yourself,

951
00:38:50,440 --> 00:38:52,560
Speaker 2: like when you keep banging on somebody like, no, I

952
00:38:52,680 --> 00:38:55,799
Speaker 2: need you to show up this way because I need

953
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:59,960
Speaker 2: to feel a certain way about myself right that in itself.

954
00:39:00,000 --> 00:39:02,919
Speaker 2: If it's just like hold up, you want somebody else

955
00:39:02,960 --> 00:39:04,880
Speaker 2: to be something for you that you're not willing to.

956
00:39:04,880 --> 00:39:05,759
Speaker 4: Be for yourself.

957
00:39:06,239 --> 00:39:07,719
Speaker 2: First of all, how do you call that love?

958
00:39:09,560 --> 00:39:09,759
Speaker 8: You know?

959
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:14,279
Speaker 2: And I had to like step away to really realize that,

960
00:39:15,200 --> 00:39:18,840
Speaker 2: you know, And so me get myself in alignment and

961
00:39:19,000 --> 00:39:22,320
Speaker 2: just realizing like yo, Jada, you got a lot of

962
00:39:22,400 --> 00:39:24,279
Speaker 2: work to do, and then doing that work, and then

963
00:39:24,360 --> 00:39:28,239
Speaker 2: being able to present myself with more of myself, and

964
00:39:28,520 --> 00:39:31,000
Speaker 2: then being able to see Will as who he is

965
00:39:31,640 --> 00:39:34,000
Speaker 2: and just accept him and love him.

966
00:39:34,239 --> 00:39:38,160
Speaker 5: There, that's what I think is lost, you know in

967
00:39:38,560 --> 00:39:40,759
Speaker 5: the book if you haven't read the book, right, like,

968
00:39:40,920 --> 00:39:44,560
Speaker 5: you think all the combos about Tupac and Will distracted

969
00:39:44,600 --> 00:39:46,040
Speaker 5: from what this book really has to offer.

970
00:39:46,080 --> 00:39:48,360
Speaker 2: Because I do, yeah, and I knew that.

971
00:39:48,960 --> 00:39:49,319
Speaker 10: I knew.

972
00:39:49,360 --> 00:39:51,400
Speaker 2: I knew it was going to be a lot of distractions, right,

973
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:53,560
Speaker 2: and I was like, hopefully this book will have legs

974
00:39:53,960 --> 00:39:56,760
Speaker 2: so that once all of the you know, the chatter

975
00:39:57,080 --> 00:40:00,960
Speaker 2: dies down, we can get to the real components of

976
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:03,279
Speaker 2: the book. Now, people who've actually read the book are

977
00:40:03,360 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 2: on it, right, They see that. So it's a journey of.

978
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:11,719
Speaker 5: Here, it's a journey of somebody trying to find their worthiness,

979
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:13,680
Speaker 5: which is, you know, all of us have struggled with

980
00:40:13,760 --> 00:40:17,680
Speaker 5: that impost syndrome, not feeling worthy. If you read the book,

981
00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:20,239
Speaker 5: you see somebody really laying it out in detail, the

982
00:40:20,360 --> 00:40:21,480
Speaker 5: journey to get to that place of.

983
00:40:21,520 --> 00:40:24,640
Speaker 2: Worthiness, and it's a universal struggle. You know, we all

984
00:40:24,719 --> 00:40:28,120
Speaker 2: do it in different ways, right, it's a universal struggle.

985
00:40:28,680 --> 00:40:31,759
Speaker 2: And so yeah, that's I really wanted to lay that

986
00:40:32,040 --> 00:40:35,960
Speaker 2: out in the way that I did, especially once again

987
00:40:36,320 --> 00:40:41,040
Speaker 2: just dismantling these ideas of perfection, you know, because we

988
00:40:41,280 --> 00:40:46,759
Speaker 2: also have these societal romantic ideas of what somebody in

989
00:40:46,840 --> 00:40:50,759
Speaker 2: my position, what my life should look like, who I

990
00:40:50,840 --> 00:40:52,960
Speaker 2: should be within it, you know what I'm saying. And

991
00:40:53,080 --> 00:40:55,920
Speaker 2: it's like no, no, no, Like real life is real

992
00:40:56,000 --> 00:40:58,840
Speaker 2: life no matter what station you sit in at period.

993
00:40:59,560 --> 00:41:01,480
Speaker 5: You know, do you regret leading with a lot of

994
00:41:01,560 --> 00:41:05,000
Speaker 5: that stuff, leading with a lot of to talk about

995
00:41:05,040 --> 00:41:06,800
Speaker 5: will to talk about pop because you know, those just

996
00:41:06,880 --> 00:41:10,439
Speaker 5: became sound bites and headlines on the internet clips.

997
00:41:11,320 --> 00:41:12,000
Speaker 7: That you know.

998
00:41:12,200 --> 00:41:18,080
Speaker 2: It's so difficult because when you're dealing with media, that's

999
00:41:18,640 --> 00:41:22,680
Speaker 2: that's what that's what people want attach to people not interested,

1000
00:41:23,400 --> 00:41:25,960
Speaker 2: you know, that's not the clickbait. The journey part of it.

1001
00:41:26,120 --> 00:41:30,400
Speaker 2: The clickbait is you know, the Tupac, the will you know,

1002
00:41:30,600 --> 00:41:33,400
Speaker 2: so you got to kind of get past the clickbait

1003
00:41:33,440 --> 00:41:37,399
Speaker 2: where people get exhausted with that and that dies down

1004
00:41:38,000 --> 00:41:40,919
Speaker 2: and then people can get with the real But it's

1005
00:41:41,000 --> 00:41:44,160
Speaker 2: hard to avoid it. Honestly, it's hard to avoid.

1006
00:41:43,880 --> 00:41:45,839
Speaker 1: It, all right. We got more with Jada Pinkett Smith.

1007
00:41:45,880 --> 00:41:47,799
Speaker 1: When we come back, don't move. It's the Breakfast Club.

1008
00:41:47,840 --> 00:41:50,400
Speaker 1: Good morning. Yet we're back. It's the Breakfast Club dj

1009
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:52,520
Speaker 1: n V Charlamagne the God, and we're still kicking it

1010
00:41:52,560 --> 00:41:55,440
Speaker 1: with Jada Pinkett Smith, her book Worthy is out right now.

1011
00:41:55,920 --> 00:41:58,120
Speaker 1: We look at your life and we see the wedding,

1012
00:41:58,239 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 1: we see the trips, we see all of that. When

1013
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:02,759
Speaker 1: did you realize and say, I need to fix this

1014
00:42:02,920 --> 00:42:05,640
Speaker 1: because this isn't right with me? What was that moment?

1015
00:42:06,080 --> 00:42:09,400
Speaker 2: I would say that I got slammed up against a wall,

1016
00:42:09,760 --> 00:42:15,720
Speaker 2: probably when I was really confronted with some really heavy

1017
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:19,680
Speaker 2: suicidal thoughts, when I was looking for cliffs to drive over,

1018
00:42:20,360 --> 00:42:22,880
Speaker 2: you know, so that my suicide would look like an

1019
00:42:22,920 --> 00:42:26,239
Speaker 2: accident so my kids wouldn't think that I committed suicide.

1020
00:42:27,680 --> 00:42:31,640
Speaker 2: I did a plant medicine journey ayahuasca.

1021
00:42:31,800 --> 00:42:32,359
Speaker 5: I can't wait.

1022
00:42:33,280 --> 00:42:37,759
Speaker 2: Let me know when I got you and that that

1023
00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 2: was a real awakening for me, you know, when I

1024
00:42:41,040 --> 00:42:46,239
Speaker 2: really had to be confronted with my own shadow, my

1025
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:49,360
Speaker 2: own self hatred, and it was so strong and it

1026
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:52,239
Speaker 2: was so scary. I was like, whoa, I didn't need

1027
00:42:52,360 --> 00:42:54,160
Speaker 2: I thought it was I didn't even want to be

1028
00:42:54,280 --> 00:42:57,880
Speaker 2: with that, and I'm like asking somebody else to contend

1029
00:42:58,239 --> 00:43:02,480
Speaker 2: with that. That was the first moment that I realized, oh, Jada,

1030
00:43:02,600 --> 00:43:04,440
Speaker 2: you you got some stuff.

1031
00:43:04,239 --> 00:43:05,839
Speaker 1: To deal with. And what got you to that point?

1032
00:43:05,840 --> 00:43:08,000
Speaker 1: Because most people would look on the outside and be like,

1033
00:43:08,160 --> 00:43:11,640
Speaker 1: you know, she's rich, she's a movie star, she's dating

1034
00:43:12,040 --> 00:43:14,800
Speaker 1: another movie star, she has beautiful kids, your mom is

1035
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:17,279
Speaker 1: still there. Like it looks like to the outside, the

1036
00:43:17,440 --> 00:43:20,400
Speaker 1: life is perfect. So what in that perfect life on

1037
00:43:20,480 --> 00:43:22,759
Speaker 1: the outside made you feel imperfect or made you not

1038
00:43:23,600 --> 00:43:25,319
Speaker 1: feel like this is what I want.

1039
00:43:25,560 --> 00:43:29,640
Speaker 2: It was like dealing with the foundational wounds, right. I

1040
00:43:29,719 --> 00:43:32,520
Speaker 2: hadn't done, I hadn't doubled. And that's what we most

1041
00:43:32,600 --> 00:43:35,520
Speaker 2: of us don't even know what our foundational wounds are.

1042
00:43:35,600 --> 00:43:39,800
Speaker 2: We don't even know we're foundationally wounded. Right, And so

1043
00:43:39,960 --> 00:43:43,400
Speaker 2: it's started a childhood. You know, you got two parents

1044
00:43:43,440 --> 00:43:47,719
Speaker 2: who are addicts and you're not the priority, right, and

1045
00:43:47,880 --> 00:43:52,319
Speaker 2: then just the levels and just the trauma that gets

1046
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:57,320
Speaker 2: built upon what that environment it's like, right, And I

1047
00:43:57,520 --> 00:44:03,320
Speaker 2: thought that making it would heal it all. You know,

1048
00:44:03,560 --> 00:44:08,080
Speaker 2: success takes care of everything right, and then it was like, Okay,

1049
00:44:08,760 --> 00:44:11,279
Speaker 2: made it to Hollywood, that's not it. And then I

1050
00:44:11,440 --> 00:44:15,400
Speaker 2: met this fantastic guy and I was on this world

1051
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:17,880
Speaker 2: wind of romance with Will, and I was like, he's

1052
00:44:17,960 --> 00:44:21,320
Speaker 2: gonna fix it. You know what I'm saying. He's gonna

1053
00:44:21,360 --> 00:44:26,240
Speaker 2: He is the Knight and shining armor, He's the Savior Prince.

1054
00:44:26,840 --> 00:44:29,080
Speaker 2: He's gonna fix it. So it went from one false

1055
00:44:29,160 --> 00:44:31,120
Speaker 2: belief to the next. And I talk about trying to

1056
00:44:31,239 --> 00:44:38,680
Speaker 2: check all the boxes. It's like, checked all boxes, what's left, right,

1057
00:44:39,160 --> 00:44:42,879
Speaker 2: and then having to realize, oh man, oh yeah, you're

1058
00:44:42,920 --> 00:44:46,520
Speaker 2: not dealing with your stuff. That's what's left. So it

1059
00:44:46,680 --> 00:44:48,640
Speaker 2: just goes to show that we can have all of

1060
00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:52,160
Speaker 2: these exterior things, you know, but that's not the thing

1061
00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:54,080
Speaker 2: that's gonna heal the soul.

1062
00:44:54,560 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 7: You know.

1063
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:56,520
Speaker 5: It's interesting because you know when we used to watch

1064
00:44:56,560 --> 00:44:58,880
Speaker 5: her at table talk, people would be like, who is it,

1065
00:44:59,360 --> 00:45:03,879
Speaker 5: Jada Pinket take off the drug dealer, Jada drug dealer energy.

1066
00:45:04,600 --> 00:45:06,719
Speaker 5: You know, I never, I never When I when I

1067
00:45:06,800 --> 00:45:08,520
Speaker 5: read that in the book, I was like, Jay the

1068
00:45:08,560 --> 00:45:10,319
Speaker 5: Pinkett Smith was in the streets like that. But when

1069
00:45:10,360 --> 00:45:12,920
Speaker 5: you walked in, I'm like, oh, I see it, I

1070
00:45:13,040 --> 00:45:13,719
Speaker 5: see a little king.

1071
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:18,880
Speaker 2: I'm sorry, just trying to be comfortable.

1072
00:45:25,040 --> 00:45:25,640
Speaker 4: Sorry about that.

1073
00:45:25,840 --> 00:45:27,279
Speaker 5: But when people used to watch The Red Table Talk,

1074
00:45:27,320 --> 00:45:30,200
Speaker 5: they be like, why who Why is Jada Pinkett Smith

1075
00:45:30,400 --> 00:45:33,000
Speaker 5: an expert and anything? But in the book you refer

1076
00:45:33,120 --> 00:45:36,319
Speaker 5: to yourself as you said, you're a pseudo pseudo guru. Yeah,

1077
00:45:36,520 --> 00:45:39,279
Speaker 5: you said. It's in the Feeling the Range chapter that

1078
00:45:39,320 --> 00:45:41,239
Speaker 5: you seem to often set yourself up to fall off

1079
00:45:41,280 --> 00:45:43,759
Speaker 5: the edge of high and mighty them. You admit at

1080
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:47,160
Speaker 5: the time you didn't know, like why talk to yourself

1081
00:45:47,239 --> 00:45:47,400
Speaker 5: like that?

1082
00:45:47,640 --> 00:45:52,160
Speaker 2: Well, because it's the truth, you know. And I think

1083
00:45:52,280 --> 00:45:55,360
Speaker 2: that when we're really on that game of healing, like

1084
00:45:56,719 --> 00:45:59,320
Speaker 2: the person that you got to be the most honest

1085
00:45:59,360 --> 00:46:04,480
Speaker 2: with is yourself. And a lot of times that could

1086
00:46:04,520 --> 00:46:07,000
Speaker 2: be that could be the most difficult when you really

1087
00:46:07,040 --> 00:46:12,200
Speaker 2: got to look at yourself and realize, you know, you

1088
00:46:12,360 --> 00:46:14,839
Speaker 2: thought you were something and now you realize that you ain't,

1089
00:46:15,120 --> 00:46:17,719
Speaker 2: you know, And so yeah, you just got to learn

1090
00:46:17,760 --> 00:46:20,680
Speaker 2: how to be deeply honest with yourself. And as I

1091
00:46:20,760 --> 00:46:23,840
Speaker 2: talk to myself that way, I can also hug myself

1092
00:46:24,680 --> 00:46:25,360
Speaker 2: in saying that.

1093
00:46:25,719 --> 00:46:28,040
Speaker 1: You know, now you talk about love so much, and

1094
00:46:28,080 --> 00:46:31,320
Speaker 1: you talk about how you felt at one time you

1095
00:46:31,440 --> 00:46:34,920
Speaker 1: are against marriage, right? Is that because you've seen your

1096
00:46:35,000 --> 00:46:38,919
Speaker 1: parents in their relationship? What changed your mind?

1097
00:46:39,239 --> 00:46:39,479
Speaker 18: Yeah?

1098
00:46:39,640 --> 00:46:43,080
Speaker 2: I think that was really Like I got to see

1099
00:46:43,200 --> 00:46:46,839
Speaker 2: my grandparents who both said to grandparents had a really

1100
00:46:47,040 --> 00:46:51,640
Speaker 2: long lasting marriage. But I wasn't quite sure that it

1101
00:46:51,840 --> 00:46:55,520
Speaker 2: was the pinnacle of happiness. And so you know, when

1102
00:46:55,520 --> 00:46:57,600
Speaker 2: you're young, you're a free spirit, and I'm just like, no,

1103
00:46:57,719 --> 00:47:00,360
Speaker 2: I can do this different because I I want to

1104
00:47:00,400 --> 00:47:02,840
Speaker 2: be happy. I'm not quite sure that's what happy is?

1105
00:47:03,040 --> 00:47:03,080
Speaker 18: Like.

1106
00:47:03,440 --> 00:47:06,240
Speaker 2: How can I be in a relationship and be happy?

1107
00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:09,239
Speaker 2: You know, I was all about the devotion of it,

1108
00:47:09,320 --> 00:47:12,400
Speaker 2: but I wasn't quite sure that marriage was the thing, right.

1109
00:47:13,520 --> 00:47:17,560
Speaker 2: It wasn't until maybe three years ago.

1110
00:47:18,880 --> 00:47:21,279
Speaker 1: Three years ago. You've been married all this time?

1111
00:47:22,160 --> 00:47:29,520
Speaker 5: Years ago, said you wasn't years ago?

1112
00:47:29,800 --> 00:47:33,040
Speaker 2: No, no, no, no, not that I wasn't happy, not

1113
00:47:33,160 --> 00:47:36,120
Speaker 2: that I wasn't happy, But I got to see the

1114
00:47:36,600 --> 00:47:40,879
Speaker 2: power of marriage three years ago. I got to see

1115
00:47:40,920 --> 00:47:46,440
Speaker 2: the power not even well yeah, and no, right, I

1116
00:47:46,560 --> 00:47:50,239
Speaker 2: got to see how marriage is a it is a

1117
00:47:50,560 --> 00:47:57,800
Speaker 2: holy path for real, right, just in regards to learning

1118
00:47:57,880 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 2: about love, because it takes a long time to break

1119
00:48:02,480 --> 00:48:07,480
Speaker 2: down all the different false beliefs that we have about love, right,

1120
00:48:07,640 --> 00:48:12,560
Speaker 2: and and the thing about a holy matrimony. And it's

1121
00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:14,320
Speaker 2: not to say that you're not gonna go through some

1122
00:48:14,520 --> 00:48:19,080
Speaker 2: unholy stuff, right, But when two people are committed and

1123
00:48:19,320 --> 00:48:24,640
Speaker 2: just refuse to quit, what you can learn about yourself,

1124
00:48:25,520 --> 00:48:30,840
Speaker 2: about your partner, and about love in general. You can't

1125
00:48:31,000 --> 00:48:33,959
Speaker 2: really learn by going from one relationship to the next

1126
00:48:34,160 --> 00:48:38,520
Speaker 2: looking for the honeymoon stage over and over again, right,

1127
00:48:38,880 --> 00:48:43,840
Speaker 2: specifically if you're interested in learning about unconditional love, you know.

1128
00:48:44,600 --> 00:48:48,440
Speaker 2: And so I was like, oh, snap, this is what

1129
00:48:48,600 --> 00:48:49,240
Speaker 2: it's about.

1130
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:53,640
Speaker 1: You know, years ago, Like what was that moment three

1131
00:48:53,680 --> 00:48:54,080
Speaker 1: years ago?

1132
00:48:54,840 --> 00:49:00,239
Speaker 2: I would probably say, when we'll going through through the

1133
00:49:00,320 --> 00:49:08,239
Speaker 2: process of emancipation. And then once he finished emancipation and

1134
00:49:09,520 --> 00:49:13,719
Speaker 2: the stuff that started coming up for him, right, and

1135
00:49:13,880 --> 00:49:17,399
Speaker 2: that's when he was like, hey, can we get back

1136
00:49:17,480 --> 00:49:22,320
Speaker 2: into some therapy together, and the stuff that was coming

1137
00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:26,080
Speaker 2: up for him and the kind of conversations we were

1138
00:49:26,160 --> 00:49:30,680
Speaker 2: starting to have. I was like, Okay, here we are.

1139
00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:32,319
Speaker 1: You know what I mean.

1140
00:49:32,560 --> 00:49:37,240
Speaker 2: I'm like, And everybody starts their journeys in different ways

1141
00:49:37,320 --> 00:49:40,640
Speaker 2: at different times, you know what I'm saying. But that's

1142
00:49:40,680 --> 00:49:43,759
Speaker 2: when I knew I was like, okay, and then we

1143
00:49:43,840 --> 00:49:46,600
Speaker 2: went to the oscars and that whole thing happened, and

1144
00:49:46,760 --> 00:49:50,000
Speaker 2: it wasn't I didn't even think twice about it when

1145
00:49:50,040 --> 00:49:52,680
Speaker 2: I saw what was happening, and I was like, I'm

1146
00:49:52,719 --> 00:49:57,080
Speaker 2: not leaving this man's side. I'm not leaving this man's side.

1147
00:49:57,400 --> 00:49:59,560
Speaker 1: I will keep a lock. We got more with Jada Pinketsmith.

1148
00:49:59,600 --> 00:50:01,759
Speaker 1: Her book Worthy is out right now, so don't move.

1149
00:50:01,800 --> 00:50:04,160
Speaker 1: It's to Breakfast Club. Good morning, Good morning everybody. It's

1150
00:50:04,239 --> 00:50:07,480
Speaker 1: dej nv Charlamage the guy. We are to Breakfast Club.

1151
00:50:07,520 --> 00:50:09,840
Speaker 1: We're still kicking it with Jada Pinkett Smith, Charlomagne.

1152
00:50:10,320 --> 00:50:13,040
Speaker 5: You think, up until the point of three years ago,

1153
00:50:13,040 --> 00:50:15,279
Speaker 5: do you think y'all had had just more of a

1154
00:50:15,320 --> 00:50:15,879
Speaker 5: trauma bond.

1155
00:50:16,760 --> 00:50:19,680
Speaker 2: I would say yes and no. I would say we

1156
00:50:19,840 --> 00:50:23,560
Speaker 2: had a trauma bond, and then underneath of it there

1157
00:50:23,719 --> 00:50:29,280
Speaker 2: was this real deep friendship, this spiritual bond too, because

1158
00:50:29,320 --> 00:50:32,400
Speaker 2: you can start breaking through your trauma and start talking

1159
00:50:32,440 --> 00:50:34,560
Speaker 2: through your trauma. And if it's just a trauma bond,

1160
00:50:34,960 --> 00:50:38,040
Speaker 2: once you start to heal and you start going your

1161
00:50:38,120 --> 00:50:43,359
Speaker 2: separate ways, it's done. If it's just a trauma bond, right,

1162
00:50:44,160 --> 00:50:50,120
Speaker 2: But when you can feel that that spiritual bind once

1163
00:50:50,160 --> 00:50:53,080
Speaker 2: you're doing the healing, and that spiritual bind is just

1164
00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:57,239
Speaker 2: yoking you tighter, then you know it's something else, you know,

1165
00:50:57,360 --> 00:50:59,440
Speaker 2: and you really have to have the discernment to know

1166
00:51:00,520 --> 00:51:03,560
Speaker 2: the difference, you know what I'm saying, because sometimes you

1167
00:51:03,640 --> 00:51:06,440
Speaker 2: do just have a trauma bomb with somebody and sometimes

1168
00:51:06,760 --> 00:51:09,239
Speaker 2: you just got to get away, you know what I'm saying.

1169
00:51:10,040 --> 00:51:12,560
Speaker 2: And so you you you gotta really like sit with

1170
00:51:12,640 --> 00:51:16,040
Speaker 2: yourself and have the discernment to know the difference.

1171
00:51:16,160 --> 00:51:17,840
Speaker 5: Now that's real, because sometimes you heal so much you

1172
00:51:17,920 --> 00:51:21,240
Speaker 5: be like, man, you look around like, oh, like nobody exactly.

1173
00:51:22,400 --> 00:51:26,000
Speaker 2: That's real talking, yeah, straight out, because that's what we do.

1174
00:51:27,000 --> 00:51:27,200
Speaker 5: You know.

1175
00:51:27,440 --> 00:51:29,719
Speaker 2: It's like that. And that's part of it too, you know,

1176
00:51:29,880 --> 00:51:31,440
Speaker 2: And that's part of why we have to have the

1177
00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:34,719
Speaker 2: courage because innately, you know, once you start healing, a

1178
00:51:34,840 --> 00:51:36,520
Speaker 2: whole lot is gonna change.

1179
00:51:37,520 --> 00:51:41,720
Speaker 1: You know, with the Oscar situation, did that save your marriage?

1180
00:51:41,760 --> 00:51:44,200
Speaker 1: And the reason I asked that is, you know, I've

1181
00:51:44,239 --> 00:51:47,080
Speaker 1: been married twenty two years, Charlamae's been married a long time.

1182
00:51:47,200 --> 00:51:49,600
Speaker 1: But your wife will always be mad at you, right,

1183
00:51:50,239 --> 00:51:52,080
Speaker 1: but you can't be mad at him. I could be

1184
00:51:52,160 --> 00:51:56,399
Speaker 1: mad at him him down. Yeah, So did that save

1185
00:51:57,200 --> 00:51:57,760
Speaker 1: your marriage?

1186
00:51:58,520 --> 00:52:02,680
Speaker 2: I would say what it definitely did is that it

1187
00:52:03,040 --> 00:52:06,960
Speaker 2: accelerated what I think was already in the process. It

1188
00:52:07,120 --> 00:52:10,480
Speaker 2: was in that moment that I knew. I was like,

1189
00:52:11,160 --> 00:52:15,400
Speaker 2: oh no, no, no, Na, we gonna do this together.

1190
00:52:15,960 --> 00:52:19,800
Speaker 2: I'm gonna be by your side, and I know that

1191
00:52:19,920 --> 00:52:24,400
Speaker 2: I'll never I'll never leave your side, right Because it's

1192
00:52:24,440 --> 00:52:27,200
Speaker 2: funny because an emotional crisis, I didn't blink.

1193
00:52:27,960 --> 00:52:28,920
Speaker 4: I didn't blink.

1194
00:52:29,200 --> 00:52:31,120
Speaker 2: And that's when I knew deep down inside.

1195
00:52:31,160 --> 00:52:41,360
Speaker 20: I'm like, you know what I'm saying. It's like, and

1196
00:52:41,520 --> 00:52:44,480
Speaker 20: you there's no getting away from him. You've been trying,

1197
00:52:44,920 --> 00:52:46,640
Speaker 20: you know, really you don't want to go nowhere?

1198
00:52:47,280 --> 00:52:50,960
Speaker 2: Stop it. And so was that incident that I knew

1199
00:52:51,080 --> 00:52:55,800
Speaker 2: right away, Yo, we in it, and so that was it.

1200
00:52:56,239 --> 00:52:59,400
Speaker 2: But I think that was the trajectory anyway. It just

1201
00:52:59,719 --> 00:53:01,560
Speaker 2: in an instant solidified it.

1202
00:53:02,160 --> 00:53:02,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, gotcha.

1203
00:53:03,080 --> 00:53:04,520
Speaker 5: You know if y'all have you know, if y'all have

1204
00:53:04,560 --> 00:53:06,399
Speaker 5: been separated all of these years, if you read the book,

1205
00:53:06,400 --> 00:53:09,800
Speaker 5: you realize that, right and will never said anything about it.

1206
00:53:09,880 --> 00:53:12,280
Speaker 5: Why did you feel now with the time to reveal

1207
00:53:13,120 --> 00:53:15,600
Speaker 5: that information. Was it just to sell books?

1208
00:53:15,640 --> 00:53:18,759
Speaker 2: Like some people think, Oh no, it's part of the process,

1209
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:22,920
Speaker 2: you know. It was part of like part of my

1210
00:53:24,360 --> 00:53:29,960
Speaker 2: self worth journey, like I had to really, I was

1211
00:53:30,080 --> 00:53:31,920
Speaker 2: leaning on will in a lot of ways. And I

1212
00:53:32,040 --> 00:53:38,000
Speaker 2: think for women specifically, how a lot of times our

1213
00:53:38,120 --> 00:53:45,279
Speaker 2: relationships are used to identify us, you know what I mean.

1214
00:53:46,200 --> 00:53:51,960
Speaker 2: And so I thought that was a really important process

1215
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:56,279
Speaker 2: and so much a really important thing to talk about

1216
00:53:56,360 --> 00:54:01,960
Speaker 2: because so much of my journey happened in that time

1217
00:54:02,280 --> 00:54:05,879
Speaker 2: when it was just me, you know, And I think

1218
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:11,319
Speaker 2: that and I also wanted people to realize that sometimes

1219
00:54:11,480 --> 00:54:15,480
Speaker 2: marriages go through breaks like that, you know. And for

1220
00:54:15,600 --> 00:54:18,120
Speaker 2: people out there who are thinking about, yo, should I

1221
00:54:18,760 --> 00:54:22,400
Speaker 2: just get separated, should I, you know, get a divorce,

1222
00:54:22,480 --> 00:54:24,800
Speaker 2: I'm like, man, just take time for you. Have the

1223
00:54:24,880 --> 00:54:27,440
Speaker 2: courage if you got the courage to sign divorce papers

1224
00:54:27,600 --> 00:54:31,120
Speaker 2: or you know, go to lawyers and get just have

1225
00:54:31,320 --> 00:54:33,759
Speaker 2: the courage to figure out how to just take time

1226
00:54:33,880 --> 00:54:39,640
Speaker 2: for you and then see what's showing up for you, right,

1227
00:54:39,760 --> 00:54:44,880
Speaker 2: because sometimes divorce is the answer, sometimes legal separation is

1228
00:54:44,960 --> 00:54:49,120
Speaker 2: the answer. But first and foremost, just take a year,

1229
00:54:50,080 --> 00:54:52,760
Speaker 2: take a year, see what shows up, you know, before

1230
00:54:52,960 --> 00:54:56,560
Speaker 2: you start going into like all these other processes, because

1231
00:54:56,600 --> 00:55:00,360
Speaker 2: sometimes we can act so quickly out of any and

1232
00:55:00,480 --> 00:55:02,440
Speaker 2: frustration and we just want to get away, and we

1233
00:55:02,560 --> 00:55:06,080
Speaker 2: think that's the answer, you know, And in some cases

1234
00:55:06,120 --> 00:55:07,960
Speaker 2: it is, but in some cases it's not.

1235
00:55:08,280 --> 00:55:10,680
Speaker 1: How did you feel when you talk about the truth, right,

1236
00:55:10,719 --> 00:55:13,880
Speaker 1: and you say a big reason of this book is

1237
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:16,000
Speaker 1: you can help other people, other marriage, other couples that

1238
00:55:16,080 --> 00:55:17,840
Speaker 1: are dealing with it and don't know how to express

1239
00:55:17,840 --> 00:55:20,759
Speaker 1: it because they've never seen it right. And the press

1240
00:55:20,920 --> 00:55:23,839
Speaker 1: and the public says, you know, Jada is embarrassing well,

1241
00:55:24,600 --> 00:55:26,800
Speaker 1: and you just said you were doing it because you

1242
00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:28,279
Speaker 1: wanted to live in your truth. So what do you

1243
00:55:28,320 --> 00:55:29,840
Speaker 1: say to those people that thought that it was just

1244
00:55:30,280 --> 00:55:34,799
Speaker 1: embarrassing embarrassing well and dehumanizing him and it and take

1245
00:55:34,840 --> 00:55:36,080
Speaker 1: it as his masculine I.

1246
00:55:36,120 --> 00:55:37,719
Speaker 5: Want to quote Anna in the Barrow of the View,

1247
00:55:37,840 --> 00:55:40,400
Speaker 5: She said, you are emasculating and embarrassing.

1248
00:55:41,360 --> 00:55:44,000
Speaker 2: Oh well, I think if she took time to read

1249
00:55:44,040 --> 00:55:48,279
Speaker 2: the book. You know, I think that if you want

1250
00:55:48,320 --> 00:55:51,799
Speaker 2: to just read headlines, I could see how that could

1251
00:55:52,520 --> 00:55:55,320
Speaker 2: be confusing. But the book is right here, and you

1252
00:55:55,440 --> 00:55:58,040
Speaker 2: have two books you can read, actually read my book

1253
00:55:58,120 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 2: and Will's book, which is so great that a lot

1254
00:56:00,640 --> 00:56:04,279
Speaker 2: of people are doing that, you know. But people have

1255
00:56:04,360 --> 00:56:07,279
Speaker 2: the right to their opinions. And I always know that

1256
00:56:07,520 --> 00:56:12,600
Speaker 2: anybody who's saying that hasn't really done that homework. But

1257
00:56:13,760 --> 00:56:17,400
Speaker 2: you gotta expect it too because of what the headlines are.

1258
00:56:17,600 --> 00:56:22,160
Speaker 2: You know what clickbait is. So Will knows what it is.

1259
00:56:23,239 --> 00:56:25,640
Speaker 2: I know what it is, my kids know what it is.

1260
00:56:25,800 --> 00:56:29,480
Speaker 2: And more importantly, Gray Supreme does too, right, and so

1261
00:56:29,680 --> 00:56:34,759
Speaker 2: that's really that's really all I'm concerned with it. At

1262
00:56:34,800 --> 00:56:35,440
Speaker 2: the end of the day.

1263
00:56:35,640 --> 00:56:36,359
Speaker 5: Well, Will was up here.

1264
00:56:36,360 --> 00:56:40,240
Speaker 1: He talked about being insecure, a little bit about Tupac.

1265
00:56:41,120 --> 00:56:43,719
Speaker 1: Did y'all ever have that conversation? Because as a man,

1266
00:56:43,840 --> 00:56:46,880
Speaker 1: when you're a little insecure, I almost feel like you

1267
00:56:47,000 --> 00:56:48,640
Speaker 1: play both sides. You want to be yourself, but you

1268
00:56:48,719 --> 00:56:50,520
Speaker 1: want to show that you're better than the person that's

1269
00:56:50,520 --> 00:56:53,920
Speaker 1: making him insecure. You're tougher than, or smarter than, or

1270
00:56:54,239 --> 00:56:57,560
Speaker 1: more romantic than, or a poet then a better rapper than.

1271
00:56:58,000 --> 00:56:59,480
Speaker 1: Did y'all ever have that conversation?

1272
00:57:01,200 --> 00:57:03,919
Speaker 2: I wouldn't say that we had conversations in that way.

1273
00:57:04,239 --> 00:57:06,960
Speaker 2: It was just like, you know, we came up in

1274
00:57:07,040 --> 00:57:11,920
Speaker 2: the era where it was so unusual for a man

1275
00:57:12,000 --> 00:57:15,080
Speaker 2: and a woman to be friends, right, I mean, really

1276
00:57:15,120 --> 00:57:17,880
Speaker 2: think about it, like that's that's more of an open

1277
00:57:18,040 --> 00:57:22,200
Speaker 2: idea now, right, But just think in our era that

1278
00:57:22,400 --> 00:57:23,360
Speaker 2: was just like friends.

1279
00:57:23,480 --> 00:57:25,200
Speaker 1: They had dat like what what what?

1280
00:57:25,920 --> 00:57:26,080
Speaker 20: Right?

1281
00:57:26,200 --> 00:57:31,200
Speaker 2: And so I think for him it was just like

1282
00:57:31,360 --> 00:57:36,240
Speaker 2: getting your mind around around that, you know, and that

1283
00:57:36,640 --> 00:57:39,880
Speaker 2: the kind of friendship that we had because we had

1284
00:57:40,000 --> 00:57:45,800
Speaker 2: such a you know, tight friendship that you know, was

1285
00:57:46,000 --> 00:57:49,000
Speaker 2: very impactful on my life, you know. So I think

1286
00:57:49,040 --> 00:57:54,680
Speaker 2: it was just getting the understanding around that Tupac and

1287
00:57:54,800 --> 00:57:58,120
Speaker 2: I could be friends, you know, and that that that

1288
00:57:58,560 --> 00:58:00,480
Speaker 2: he was a part of my life and that way,

1289
00:58:01,240 --> 00:58:05,000
Speaker 2: and so just we had a lot of conversations around

1290
00:58:05,360 --> 00:58:06,520
Speaker 2: just those ideas.

1291
00:58:06,560 --> 00:58:07,280
Speaker 1: How do you get over that?

1292
00:58:08,040 --> 00:58:11,680
Speaker 2: I think he just realized that. And I really can't

1293
00:58:11,680 --> 00:58:13,440
Speaker 2: speak for will you shuld probably ask him when he

1294
00:58:13,520 --> 00:58:16,480
Speaker 2: comes back, But I think he just realized that that's

1295
00:58:16,560 --> 00:58:19,160
Speaker 2: what it was, you know what I mean, it was like,

1296
00:58:19,280 --> 00:58:22,120
Speaker 2: that's what it was. It's like, you know, that was

1297
00:58:22,200 --> 00:58:25,840
Speaker 2: that beautiful friendship. And I think once he really and

1298
00:58:25,960 --> 00:58:30,520
Speaker 2: started as he got older, started having his own friendships

1299
00:58:30,680 --> 00:58:32,800
Speaker 2: with women, like, oh, that that is possible.

1300
00:58:32,880 --> 00:58:33,480
Speaker 5: How are you with that?

1301
00:58:34,040 --> 00:58:37,600
Speaker 2: I'm listen, I always told will you need some female friends?

1302
00:58:37,880 --> 00:58:38,720
Speaker 1: Did you yes?

1303
00:58:39,280 --> 00:58:42,680
Speaker 2: Because I think I think I think men and women.

1304
00:58:43,320 --> 00:58:47,200
Speaker 2: I think men do need female friends because and women

1305
00:58:47,320 --> 00:58:50,520
Speaker 2: need male friends. And I actually think men once they.

1306
00:58:50,560 --> 00:58:54,360
Speaker 5: Have daughters, I got full, I got four, and you

1307
00:58:54,480 --> 00:58:58,120
Speaker 5: got four daughters and majority female.

1308
00:59:00,240 --> 00:59:02,520
Speaker 2: But I see, I would now let me ask you

1309
00:59:02,560 --> 00:59:06,760
Speaker 2: a question. Would you say that having daughters helped you understand?

1310
00:59:07,040 --> 00:59:07,520
Speaker 5: Absolutely?

1311
00:59:07,640 --> 00:59:09,720
Speaker 2: And see? I think that's what happened to will I

1312
00:59:09,760 --> 00:59:13,520
Speaker 2: think once Willow came, you know, and then he started

1313
00:59:13,560 --> 00:59:18,240
Speaker 2: to realize a different relationship with the feminine, right, and

1314
00:59:18,360 --> 00:59:21,440
Speaker 2: then he realized, oh, wow, you know you can have

1315
00:59:21,640 --> 00:59:26,160
Speaker 2: relationships with women that are non sexual or however, y'all

1316
00:59:26,360 --> 00:59:29,440
Speaker 2: have to, you know, manage that in your own minds.

1317
00:59:29,680 --> 00:59:29,840
Speaker 8: Right.

1318
00:59:30,640 --> 00:59:33,000
Speaker 2: I think once Willow came, she was his teacher on

1319
00:59:33,120 --> 00:59:35,040
Speaker 2: that for sure, and so he was able to have

1320
00:59:35,160 --> 00:59:35,720
Speaker 2: female friends.

1321
00:59:35,840 --> 00:59:37,400
Speaker 1: I will keep a lock. We got more with Jada

1322
00:59:37,400 --> 00:59:39,720
Speaker 1: Pinkett Smith. Her book Worthy is out right now, so

1323
00:59:39,800 --> 00:59:41,880
Speaker 1: don't move. It's the Breakfast Club. Good morning, We're back.

1324
00:59:41,920 --> 00:59:44,720
Speaker 1: It's the Breakfast Club. DJ and V Charlamagne the God,

1325
00:59:44,760 --> 00:59:46,919
Speaker 1: and we're still kicking With Jada Pinkett Smith. Her book

1326
00:59:46,960 --> 00:59:50,080
Speaker 1: Worthy is out right now, Charlamagne.

1327
00:59:49,880 --> 00:59:52,800
Speaker 5: In the No Soccer Mom chapter, right, you shoot down

1328
00:59:52,880 --> 00:59:56,400
Speaker 5: every rumor there's ever been about y'all that y'all are swingers,

1329
00:59:56,520 --> 00:59:58,880
Speaker 5: that y'all were both gay and playing each other's bids,

1330
00:59:58,960 --> 01:00:02,120
Speaker 5: that y'all was sleeping with whomever you choose. How does

1331
01:00:02,160 --> 01:00:04,160
Speaker 5: it feel in twenty twenty three to still have those

1332
01:00:04,200 --> 01:00:07,200
Speaker 5: same rumors out about people you love, like Will and doing.

1333
01:00:07,440 --> 01:00:09,400
Speaker 1: I know that just came out too recently.

1334
01:00:09,640 --> 01:00:15,640
Speaker 2: Yeah, you know, and let me just say this, it's ridiculous, right,

1335
01:00:17,640 --> 01:00:21,120
Speaker 2: and it's nonsense. And this is a person that tried

1336
01:00:21,400 --> 01:00:24,200
Speaker 2: a shake down, a money shakedown that didn't work. We're

1337
01:00:24,240 --> 01:00:29,080
Speaker 2: gonna take legal action because it's one thing to have

1338
01:00:29,240 --> 01:00:36,800
Speaker 2: your opinion about somebody versus just making up salacious, malicious stories.

1339
01:00:37,480 --> 01:00:41,120
Speaker 2: So that's actionable. So we're gonna roll with that, you

1340
01:00:41,240 --> 01:00:44,600
Speaker 2: know what I mean, it's not true. We gonna take

1341
01:00:44,640 --> 01:00:45,080
Speaker 2: care of it.

1342
01:00:45,840 --> 01:00:48,960
Speaker 5: And that's that there was a money shakedown probably.

1343
01:00:48,760 --> 01:00:55,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, money before. Well, it's it's based around this person's

1344
01:00:55,840 --> 01:01:00,680
Speaker 2: idea that they in some way were doing business around

1345
01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:05,240
Speaker 2: Will's book and that they spent money or what have you,

1346
01:01:05,480 --> 01:01:07,720
Speaker 2: and that they needed to be compensated. So he already

1347
01:01:07,840 --> 01:01:12,400
Speaker 2: tried to do this money shakedown. Will was willing to

1348
01:01:12,480 --> 01:01:14,440
Speaker 2: give him a certain amount or what have you, and

1349
01:01:14,560 --> 01:01:18,280
Speaker 2: he didn't take it. So this whole situation is based

1350
01:01:18,320 --> 01:01:22,240
Speaker 2: on that give aunt wife though just well because of

1351
01:01:22,320 --> 01:01:24,080
Speaker 2: some business that they had. And I don't know the

1352
01:01:24,160 --> 01:01:26,800
Speaker 2: complete details about it, but that's about to come out,

1353
01:01:26,920 --> 01:01:29,200
Speaker 2: because like I told you, about to take legal action.

1354
01:01:29,720 --> 01:01:30,120
Speaker 5: You should.

1355
01:01:30,360 --> 01:01:32,360
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, we are for sure.

1356
01:01:32,480 --> 01:01:34,080
Speaker 1: I was asking, how's Will dealing with it? You know,

1357
01:01:34,160 --> 01:01:34,840
Speaker 1: with all.

1358
01:01:36,600 --> 01:01:37,320
Speaker 5: Released a statement.

1359
01:01:38,760 --> 01:01:42,440
Speaker 2: Will, Here's the one good thing about Will. Will's always

1360
01:01:42,440 --> 01:01:45,600
Speaker 2: gonna find the funny. I figured that kid's always gonna

1361
01:01:45,640 --> 01:01:47,680
Speaker 2: find the funny, you know what I'm saying.

1362
01:01:48,200 --> 01:01:54,240
Speaker 5: And so the murder, murder, kill kill, Yeah, you have to.

1363
01:01:54,560 --> 01:01:59,320
Speaker 2: You have to because it's absolutely ridiculous, you know what

1364
01:01:59,400 --> 01:02:02,840
Speaker 2: I'm saying. So all you have is you just gotta

1365
01:02:02,920 --> 01:02:06,720
Speaker 2: laugh about it, you know. And it's unfortunate because.

1366
01:02:06,560 --> 01:02:07,760
Speaker 5: Did he ask you, like, do I look like I

1367
01:02:07,840 --> 01:02:08,480
Speaker 5: give off bottom?

1368
01:02:08,520 --> 01:02:11,240
Speaker 2: And he was like, do you believe it?

1369
01:02:12,320 --> 01:02:12,520
Speaker 10: You know?

1370
01:02:12,720 --> 01:02:13,920
Speaker 4: But we just laughed about it.

1371
01:02:14,120 --> 01:02:16,840
Speaker 1: I gotta asked about Tyreese that there was a rumor

1372
01:02:16,880 --> 01:02:18,080
Speaker 1: that Tyree called you.

1373
01:02:20,800 --> 01:02:22,200
Speaker 5: He said he called you on the phone. He was

1374
01:02:22,240 --> 01:02:24,560
Speaker 5: he was, he was on med, he was out of it. Yeah,

1375
01:02:24,600 --> 01:02:26,880
Speaker 5: and he told you I ain't no killer, Jada, I

1376
01:02:26,920 --> 01:02:29,320
Speaker 5: ain't no killer, but don't push me. Oh was like

1377
01:02:29,320 --> 01:02:31,400
Speaker 5: the sweetest joy and that's getting you don't know why

1378
01:02:31,440 --> 01:02:31,960
Speaker 5: he is.

1379
01:02:33,440 --> 01:02:38,240
Speaker 2: So Tyese did call me for sure, and he was

1380
01:02:38,440 --> 01:02:42,520
Speaker 2: he was definitely in a in a state. And I

1381
01:02:42,680 --> 01:02:47,800
Speaker 2: was really concerned, you know, And I'm just called.

1382
01:02:47,680 --> 01:02:50,960
Speaker 5: Tupac though he said he said him and Charlie Max

1383
01:02:50,960 --> 01:02:51,960
Speaker 5: said he quoted Tupac.

1384
01:02:52,160 --> 01:02:53,000
Speaker 2: He called Tupac.

1385
01:02:53,080 --> 01:02:55,240
Speaker 5: No, he said, he called you and quoted Tupac.

1386
01:02:55,360 --> 01:02:55,720
Speaker 10: He may have.

1387
01:02:55,880 --> 01:03:00,200
Speaker 2: Let me tell you something. I was so worried at

1388
01:03:00,240 --> 01:03:06,080
Speaker 2: that time when he made that call about his his state,

1389
01:03:06,520 --> 01:03:11,760
Speaker 2: because it was really deeply concerning that I don't I

1390
01:03:12,120 --> 01:03:15,840
Speaker 2: couldn't even tell you exactly what happened because I'm trying

1391
01:03:15,880 --> 01:03:18,920
Speaker 2: to think about who I can get there, Who can

1392
01:03:18,960 --> 01:03:26,360
Speaker 2: I get in the house, how can I get him help? Yeah,

1393
01:03:26,880 --> 01:03:29,880
Speaker 2: And so that I was, I was in I was,

1394
01:03:30,120 --> 01:03:33,280
Speaker 2: I was a little panicked, you know, to just make

1395
01:03:33,360 --> 01:03:36,600
Speaker 2: sure that he was okay and that nothing was going

1396
01:03:36,680 --> 01:03:39,200
Speaker 2: to happen. He wasn't gonna hurt himself or anybody else.

1397
01:03:40,440 --> 01:03:44,440
Speaker 2: So that I couldn't even I don't even remember.

1398
01:03:44,120 --> 01:03:44,520
Speaker 5: What he said.

1399
01:03:44,680 --> 01:03:45,720
Speaker 7: What he said.

1400
01:03:46,200 --> 01:03:47,920
Speaker 5: I want to talk about the book and a debate

1401
01:03:48,080 --> 01:03:49,960
Speaker 5: I had at dinner a couple of weeks ago with

1402
01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:52,560
Speaker 5: some friends, because in the book, you say that you

1403
01:03:52,680 --> 01:03:56,640
Speaker 5: and Will decided to separate in every way except legally. Yeah,

1404
01:03:56,840 --> 01:04:00,840
Speaker 5: and y'all would have complete transparency, no secrets about what

1405
01:04:01,000 --> 01:04:03,440
Speaker 5: y'all were doing, at whom y'all were doing it with, right,

1406
01:04:03,520 --> 01:04:05,680
Speaker 5: And the debate we were having was or early in

1407
01:04:05,720 --> 01:04:07,040
Speaker 5: the books, she said that they've never been in an

1408
01:04:07,040 --> 01:04:09,360
Speaker 5: open relationship. But isn't that an open relationship.

1409
01:04:09,560 --> 01:04:13,000
Speaker 2: Well, here's the difference between that. That's when you're you're

1410
01:04:13,280 --> 01:04:18,040
Speaker 2: in an open relationship and you are still intimate with

1411
01:04:18,160 --> 01:04:21,720
Speaker 2: each other. Right, at that point, we went our separate ways.

1412
01:04:22,120 --> 01:04:27,960
Speaker 2: So it's as if we are divorced, separated and just

1413
01:04:28,080 --> 01:04:31,400
Speaker 2: trying to figure out how we're going to go about it.

1414
01:04:31,720 --> 01:04:34,400
Speaker 2: But at that particular point in time, we were no

1415
01:04:34,600 --> 01:04:41,600
Speaker 2: longer relating in that way, right, because for us, it

1416
01:04:41,760 --> 01:04:44,200
Speaker 2: was over, it was done. So if you're in an

1417
01:04:44,320 --> 01:04:48,960
Speaker 2: open relationship, that means that you are still in a

1418
01:04:49,040 --> 01:04:53,760
Speaker 2: relationship with one another romantically and you are okay with

1419
01:04:53,960 --> 01:04:56,440
Speaker 2: being with other people romantically.

1420
01:04:56,360 --> 01:04:57,320
Speaker 5: Like y'all were separated.

1421
01:04:57,440 --> 01:05:01,880
Speaker 2: We weren't separated, like you're done, done, done, done done.

1422
01:05:02,480 --> 01:05:05,280
Speaker 5: Why did you choose not to say August's name in

1423
01:05:05,320 --> 01:05:05,640
Speaker 5: the book?

1424
01:05:07,560 --> 01:05:11,640
Speaker 2: Really? Just too? I felt like he's been through enough,

1425
01:05:12,280 --> 01:05:14,400
Speaker 2: you know what I mean? And I just wanted to

1426
01:05:14,840 --> 01:05:17,440
Speaker 2: be respectful in that manner, I really did.

1427
01:05:18,120 --> 01:05:20,200
Speaker 5: Do you feel like that's something that you need to

1428
01:05:20,240 --> 01:05:21,680
Speaker 5: heal like that situation?

1429
01:05:23,120 --> 01:05:27,000
Speaker 2: I'm hoping at some point, you know, I'm definitely hoping

1430
01:05:27,040 --> 01:05:28,120
Speaker 2: at some point for sure.

1431
01:05:29,120 --> 01:05:29,320
Speaker 10: Yeah.

1432
01:05:29,840 --> 01:05:31,240
Speaker 5: I wanted to ask you too, if you pick a

1433
01:05:31,320 --> 01:05:34,480
Speaker 5: crew to run with in real life, would you choose

1434
01:05:34,520 --> 01:05:36,120
Speaker 5: between the cast or Set it Off or the cast

1435
01:05:36,160 --> 01:05:38,240
Speaker 5: of girls set it Off?

1436
01:05:39,080 --> 01:05:43,800
Speaker 2: Oh that's a hard one, Damn Charlamagne, that's a hard one.

1437
01:05:43,880 --> 01:05:47,959
Speaker 1: Set it Off. They was rioters, they were, for sure.

1438
01:05:49,000 --> 01:05:51,200
Speaker 2: But you know both crews they got, you know, they

1439
01:05:51,280 --> 01:05:55,680
Speaker 2: got something real special. Yeah, I'm gonna plead the fifth

1440
01:05:55,760 --> 01:05:55,880
Speaker 2: on that.

1441
01:05:58,080 --> 01:06:00,280
Speaker 5: I only got two more questions, like, when you having

1442
01:06:00,320 --> 01:06:03,200
Speaker 5: these conversations, now, how do you know in your words

1443
01:06:03,720 --> 01:06:07,760
Speaker 5: that this isn't the pseudo guru using rationale and borrowed

1444
01:06:07,800 --> 01:06:10,920
Speaker 5: wisdom to tell you what you want to hear?

1445
01:06:13,720 --> 01:06:17,400
Speaker 2: Because it sits so beautifully in my heart. Now, what

1446
01:06:17,520 --> 01:06:22,040
Speaker 2: I will say about that is that's why you gotta

1447
01:06:22,200 --> 01:06:27,800
Speaker 2: always stay open because as we continue to grow and learn,

1448
01:06:28,440 --> 01:06:31,760
Speaker 2: you know, It's Bruce Lee said, it best be like water.

1449
01:06:32,840 --> 01:06:35,000
Speaker 2: You know what I mean, because that's where I'm sitting

1450
01:06:35,120 --> 01:06:37,920
Speaker 2: right now. Who knows when I come back, if you

1451
01:06:38,040 --> 01:06:40,640
Speaker 2: know what it'll be then because we just got to

1452
01:06:40,680 --> 01:06:44,000
Speaker 2: stay open. We gotta stay fluid. But for now, it's

1453
01:06:44,120 --> 01:06:49,280
Speaker 2: what speaks to me deeply, you know, And that's all

1454
01:06:49,320 --> 01:06:51,120
Speaker 2: we got, you know, for the moment.

1455
01:06:52,360 --> 01:06:55,160
Speaker 5: My last question, and it's a quote, and the quote

1456
01:06:55,240 --> 01:06:57,600
Speaker 5: is other people's opinion to you, whether it's good or bad,

1457
01:06:57,640 --> 01:06:59,919
Speaker 5: should not be ground and what you base your self worth,

1458
01:07:00,000 --> 01:07:02,680
Speaker 5: if your value is inherent within you, what matters the

1459
01:07:02,760 --> 01:07:05,920
Speaker 5: most is whether you know you are worthy. So do

1460
01:07:06,000 --> 01:07:06,680
Speaker 5: you know you're worthy?

1461
01:07:06,960 --> 01:07:10,960
Speaker 2: Absolutely? And you know what it really comes from. And

1462
01:07:11,040 --> 01:07:13,720
Speaker 2: I wanted to say this in regards to the question

1463
01:07:13,880 --> 01:07:19,280
Speaker 2: you asked about self worth really dealing with self judgment,

1464
01:07:20,080 --> 01:07:24,560
Speaker 2: Like once we can cure our self judgment in a

1465
01:07:24,640 --> 01:07:30,760
Speaker 2: certain manner, right, people's opinion about you can only affect

1466
01:07:30,880 --> 01:07:34,720
Speaker 2: you if you believe it, you know what I mean.

1467
01:07:34,920 --> 01:07:37,439
Speaker 2: Once you really know who you are. Once you really

1468
01:07:37,520 --> 01:07:41,040
Speaker 2: know your self worth, anything that anybody else has to

1469
01:07:41,120 --> 01:07:46,000
Speaker 2: say about you really can't affect you, you know. And

1470
01:07:46,160 --> 01:07:49,720
Speaker 2: so you know, I know how much work it's taken

1471
01:07:49,800 --> 01:07:52,520
Speaker 2: from me to get to know myself. I can't expect

1472
01:07:52,560 --> 01:07:55,840
Speaker 2: anybody else to know me like that, you know what

1473
01:07:55,920 --> 01:07:59,960
Speaker 2: I mean? So I have to be willing and accept

1474
01:08:00,360 --> 01:08:01,960
Speaker 2: whatever opinions come my way.

1475
01:08:02,320 --> 01:08:06,840
Speaker 5: I get it absolutely. Yeah, all right, Jada Picks Smith.

1476
01:08:06,920 --> 01:08:09,400
Speaker 5: Lady and gentlemen, that's right. Thank you, appreciate for joining

1477
01:08:09,480 --> 01:08:09,840
Speaker 5: us so much.

1478
01:08:11,560 --> 01:08:11,840
Speaker 8: Thank you.

1479
01:08:12,000 --> 01:08:14,120
Speaker 1: This was beautiful. The book worthy is out right now

1480
01:08:14,240 --> 01:08:15,920
Speaker 1: make sure you get it and thank you, thank you.

1481
01:08:16,080 --> 01:08:19,599
Speaker 1: Don't be a stranger, No, I won't. It's the breakfast club.

1482
01:08:19,880 --> 01:08:20,880
Speaker 1: It's Jada Picky Smith.

1483
01:08:25,000 --> 01:08:35,960
Speaker 7: Get you are, I'm a fat and all that shit

1484
01:08:36,040 --> 01:08:37,320
Speaker 7: around your They want this.

1485
01:08:37,439 --> 01:08:42,439
Speaker 4: Man to wait for the top to make a judgment

1486
01:08:42,600 --> 01:08:44,080
Speaker 4: of who was going to be on the Donkey of

1487
01:08:44,160 --> 01:08:47,439
Speaker 4: the day. They chose you. It's a breakfast club, bitch

1488
01:08:47,479 --> 01:08:49,080
Speaker 4: you who's donkey of the day today?

1489
01:08:49,600 --> 01:08:49,840
Speaker 1: Wow?

1490
01:08:50,120 --> 01:08:53,240
Speaker 5: Donk here today? Because anyone out there who is reporting

1491
01:08:53,960 --> 01:08:58,040
Speaker 5: stolen property in bribes to the I R S. What okay,

1492
01:08:58,600 --> 01:09:00,600
Speaker 5: uncle Shla, what the hell? Are you talking about on

1493
01:09:00,680 --> 01:09:03,200
Speaker 5: this Monday morning. Listen to me, man. I usually tell

1494
01:09:03,320 --> 01:09:05,519
Speaker 5: y'all do whatever the IRS tells you to do. But

1495
01:09:05,640 --> 01:09:08,320
Speaker 5: this one, this one sounds like all the alphabet boys

1496
01:09:08,360 --> 01:09:10,280
Speaker 5: ill inspire and to make sure you end up under

1497
01:09:10,320 --> 01:09:12,679
Speaker 5: the jail. Okay, this sounds like a coordinating plan between

1498
01:09:12,720 --> 01:09:15,040
Speaker 5: the IRS and the FBI. Because if you stole the

1499
01:09:15,120 --> 01:09:18,360
Speaker 5: car in twenty twenty one, took a bribe in twenty

1500
01:09:18,880 --> 01:09:20,920
Speaker 5: twenty two, the IRS wants you to report it on

1501
01:09:21,040 --> 01:09:25,360
Speaker 5: your taxes. Okay, see what a stolen call? Yes see.

1502
01:09:25,479 --> 01:09:28,840
Speaker 5: These provisions went viral Monday, I think it was last Monday,

1503
01:09:28,840 --> 01:09:31,000
Speaker 5: after the tweet went out and it said tax season

1504
01:09:31,120 --> 01:09:33,760
Speaker 5: is around the corner. Remember to report your income from

1505
01:09:33,800 --> 01:09:37,920
Speaker 5: illegal activities and stolen property to the IRS. Let's go

1506
01:09:37,960 --> 01:09:39,880
Speaker 5: to Fox five News for the report, police.

1507
01:09:40,120 --> 01:09:43,280
Speaker 18: The IRS or just people to report just about everything

1508
01:09:43,439 --> 01:09:48,679
Speaker 18: that IRS says. If you seal report it's failed market value.

1509
01:09:48,760 --> 01:09:51,240
Speaker 18: And if you receive a bribe or get extra cash

1510
01:09:51,280 --> 01:09:54,439
Speaker 18: from illegal activities, make sure to include that in your

1511
01:09:54,479 --> 01:09:58,840
Speaker 18: income as well. For those worry the IRS won't pass

1512
01:09:58,880 --> 01:10:02,000
Speaker 18: the information to launch enforcement. That's because federal taxa okay,

1513
01:10:02,400 --> 01:10:06,640
Speaker 18: prevents federal employees from sharing tax return information.

1514
01:10:07,520 --> 01:10:09,400
Speaker 5: Okay, don't get scar now, miss Pat.

1515
01:10:09,720 --> 01:10:13,240
Speaker 4: What are you talking about? The loss they mind?

1516
01:10:13,280 --> 01:10:17,280
Speaker 8: Black folks don't even want to report cash apping square exactly.

1517
01:10:17,560 --> 01:10:19,439
Speaker 4: You're gonna ask me to report a stolen call.

1518
01:10:19,600 --> 01:10:21,760
Speaker 5: Ain't gonna tell you it's not bride. Ain't gonna tell you.

1519
01:10:21,760 --> 01:10:23,599
Speaker 5: They're not gonna turn it over to law enforcement. Don't

1520
01:10:23,600 --> 01:10:24,120
Speaker 5: you fall for that?

1521
01:10:24,479 --> 01:10:27,519
Speaker 8: You're going to jail. Ain't nobody stupid do that? Nobody

1522
01:10:28,439 --> 01:10:29,759
Speaker 8: nobody with our skint calling.

1523
01:10:31,120 --> 01:10:34,400
Speaker 5: I'm don't fall for that. All the alphabets right next

1524
01:10:34,439 --> 01:10:36,720
Speaker 5: to each other for a reason, Okay, FBI I R

1525
01:10:36,880 --> 01:10:38,960
Speaker 5: S C I A D E A F B I G.

1526
01:10:39,120 --> 01:10:41,120
Speaker 5: They all part of the same family. I don't care

1527
01:10:41,160 --> 01:10:43,679
Speaker 5: what anyone says. Don't you trust it. If you steal property,

1528
01:10:43,840 --> 01:10:46,599
Speaker 5: you must report this fair market value in your income

1529
01:10:47,200 --> 01:10:49,160
Speaker 5: in the year you steal it, unless you return it

1530
01:10:49,240 --> 01:10:51,080
Speaker 5: to his rightful owner in the same year. Well, what

1531
01:10:51,160 --> 01:10:52,880
Speaker 5: if you're dealing drugs like Ms Pat used to do?

1532
01:10:53,400 --> 01:10:58,200
Speaker 8: Okay, you won't stop bringing my history over there and

1533
01:10:58,240 --> 01:11:02,200
Speaker 8: there king jail Okay, like you had an old script club.

1534
01:11:04,760 --> 01:11:07,840
Speaker 5: You also got to report bribes and kickbacks. You hear

1535
01:11:07,920 --> 01:11:10,320
Speaker 5: that all you DJs and program directors out there taking

1536
01:11:10,360 --> 01:11:12,479
Speaker 5: money to play records, you have to report your bribes

1537
01:11:12,520 --> 01:11:15,639
Speaker 5: and kickbacks. Okay, Who in their right mind is about

1538
01:11:15,680 --> 01:11:17,160
Speaker 5: to fall for this. This is not even something you

1539
01:11:17,200 --> 01:11:20,000
Speaker 5: should entertain with a lawyer. President, Okay. The whole point

1540
01:11:20,000 --> 01:11:22,160
Speaker 5: of committing these crimes is a to get some money

1541
01:11:22,200 --> 01:11:24,479
Speaker 5: and be yeah, to get some tax free money. All right.

1542
01:11:24,520 --> 01:11:27,600
Speaker 5: I've literally been reading Ray Kwan's memory from staircase to

1543
01:11:27,640 --> 01:11:30,720
Speaker 5: stage all week wa hear what I said? My visit

1544
01:11:30,800 --> 01:11:33,800
Speaker 5: line okay, and I've been reading it all week. No,

1545
01:11:33,920 --> 01:11:35,080
Speaker 5: it's in my visit line.

1546
01:11:35,080 --> 01:11:37,040
Speaker 4: Wh won't you take them off? You're trying to keep

1547
01:11:37,120 --> 01:11:40,280
Speaker 4: them straight, ain't you? That ain't necessary? Ray Cat, I

1548
01:11:40,439 --> 01:11:42,320
Speaker 4: see you take your visit line.

1549
01:11:42,160 --> 01:11:42,559
Speaker 18: Up the top.

1550
01:11:42,600 --> 01:11:45,080
Speaker 5: I gotta wear them at work. Y'all know I should

1551
01:11:45,080 --> 01:11:47,640
Speaker 5: have just said book, but I've reading. But I've been

1552
01:11:47,640 --> 01:11:50,639
Speaker 5: reading the book all weekend. Okay. And he talks about

1553
01:11:50,760 --> 01:11:52,519
Speaker 5: one of the perks of drug dealings that you got

1554
01:11:52,600 --> 01:11:54,920
Speaker 5: tax free money. And I don't remember the exact quote,

1555
01:11:54,920 --> 01:11:56,439
Speaker 5: but he basically says, why would he get a job,

1556
01:11:56,520 --> 01:11:58,599
Speaker 5: work all those hours only to get the government half

1557
01:11:58,640 --> 01:12:01,000
Speaker 5: when that's the legal activities and make all that tax

1558
01:12:01,000 --> 01:12:02,600
Speaker 5: free money. So yeah, I know we live in this

1559
01:12:02,720 --> 01:12:05,240
Speaker 5: era where people act all liberated and they want to

1560
01:12:05,240 --> 01:12:07,200
Speaker 5: act like they are accepting of all things. But I'm

1561
01:12:07,240 --> 01:12:09,599
Speaker 5: telling you right now, this is the equivalent of your

1562
01:12:09,680 --> 01:12:12,680
Speaker 5: significant other telling you. Just tell me you cheating. I

1563
01:12:12,800 --> 01:12:14,960
Speaker 5: won't get mad. Just go ahead and met your dirt.

1564
01:12:15,040 --> 01:12:16,439
Speaker 5: Tell me what you did, and it's all good. You

1565
01:12:16,479 --> 01:12:17,240
Speaker 5: ever did that? Somebody?

1566
01:12:18,000 --> 01:12:20,360
Speaker 4: Not what I did? I did. I ain't. I ain't

1567
01:12:20,360 --> 01:12:21,760
Speaker 4: paid on text some adult dealing money.

1568
01:12:21,800 --> 01:12:23,320
Speaker 8: But I went to the skating ring and brought me

1569
01:12:23,400 --> 01:12:26,960
Speaker 8: some joinanism Levi's different color fleet lines. It wasn't the

1570
01:12:27,000 --> 01:12:29,400
Speaker 8: government problem. Hey, the government ain't. He never helped me

1571
01:12:29,479 --> 01:12:31,400
Speaker 8: bagged up a rock, so why would I give them

1572
01:12:31,400 --> 01:12:33,599
Speaker 8: a percentage of it? They didn't stand on that corner.

1573
01:12:33,760 --> 01:12:35,960
Speaker 8: They didn't help me put that dumping my kids draws.

1574
01:12:36,120 --> 01:12:37,719
Speaker 8: They didn't help me pull it out of my draws.

1575
01:12:37,840 --> 01:12:39,960
Speaker 8: You didn't participate in the business.

1576
01:12:40,240 --> 01:12:42,280
Speaker 1: Should I help you? He meant?

1577
01:12:42,439 --> 01:12:42,720
Speaker 5: Did you.

1578
01:12:45,320 --> 01:12:45,880
Speaker 1: What you meant?

1579
01:12:47,640 --> 01:12:48,559
Speaker 5: You go what you mean?

1580
01:12:48,760 --> 01:12:49,639
Speaker 4: If there's a line that's.

1581
01:12:49,560 --> 01:12:55,120
Speaker 5: Confused, all I'm saying is, don't fall of that. Okay,

1582
01:12:55,560 --> 01:12:58,040
Speaker 5: all right? You think the same government that that does

1583
01:12:58,160 --> 01:13:00,640
Speaker 5: nothing but lie to you, is gonna be truthful with

1584
01:13:00,720 --> 01:13:02,720
Speaker 5: you now, Okay, I'm gonna trust the same government that

1585
01:13:02,760 --> 01:13:04,560
Speaker 5: has proven time and time again that they are not

1586
01:13:04,680 --> 01:13:07,160
Speaker 5: to be trusted. Okay. I think they saw how people,

1587
01:13:07,560 --> 01:13:10,360
Speaker 5: how stupid people was with their PPP loans, and they said,

1588
01:13:10,640 --> 01:13:12,479
Speaker 5: what else can we do to get more of them

1589
01:13:12,520 --> 01:13:13,479
Speaker 5: to lock themselves up?

1590
01:13:13,800 --> 01:13:15,160
Speaker 4: No, let me say this to y'all.

1591
01:13:15,200 --> 01:13:18,280
Speaker 8: If it don't require your solid security number, don't report it.

1592
01:13:19,800 --> 01:13:20,519
Speaker 1: That's what I say.

1593
01:13:20,600 --> 01:13:24,400
Speaker 4: Then the pp loan requires your security. My friend going

1594
01:13:24,479 --> 01:13:24,960
Speaker 4: to jail for that.

1595
01:13:25,000 --> 01:13:27,320
Speaker 8: PPP low I wanted my friend I went to a

1596
01:13:27,439 --> 01:13:29,840
Speaker 8: one point five million dollars and they're looking at me

1597
01:13:29,960 --> 01:13:32,080
Speaker 8: like they're crazy. I know they broke, but I ain't

1598
01:13:32,120 --> 01:13:33,920
Speaker 8: saying nothing. I'm gonna keep my mouth shut.

1599
01:13:34,040 --> 01:13:36,360
Speaker 5: So do you do you think people should uh you know,

1600
01:13:36,600 --> 01:13:38,040
Speaker 5: follow their crimes on their taxes?

1601
01:13:38,680 --> 01:13:41,600
Speaker 4: Who the hell the I campone file here crime on

1602
01:13:41,680 --> 01:13:45,600
Speaker 4: his taxes. If the whites don't do it, then the

1603
01:13:45,720 --> 01:13:46,479
Speaker 4: blacks don't think.

1604
01:13:46,680 --> 01:13:48,479
Speaker 5: I don't think O component that pore taxing. That's how

1605
01:13:48,479 --> 01:13:54,000
Speaker 5: they listen. The only way this would work is if

1606
01:13:54,040 --> 01:13:57,440
Speaker 5: everyone who actually did this was a granted immunity from prosecution,

1607
01:13:58,040 --> 01:14:04,479
Speaker 5: prostitution prosecution. O. Man, if there's no legal protection for that,

1608
01:14:05,040 --> 01:14:07,839
Speaker 5: there's no legal protection that shields them from criminal prosecution

1609
01:14:08,000 --> 01:14:10,160
Speaker 5: for the offenses they report on their taxes. What's the

1610
01:14:10,240 --> 01:14:12,120
Speaker 5: point If you think this government is about to give

1611
01:14:12,120 --> 01:14:14,000
Speaker 5: a tax return for committing crimes. If you think this

1612
01:14:14,120 --> 01:14:16,879
Speaker 5: government is just gonna accept those crimes like legal employment,

1613
01:14:17,080 --> 01:14:18,840
Speaker 5: then go ahead and do your thing, because I need

1614
01:14:18,960 --> 01:14:20,880
Speaker 5: content for donkey today. Anyway, Hey, I.

1615
01:14:20,960 --> 01:14:22,960
Speaker 8: Remember back in the day, they were asking everybody to

1616
01:14:23,080 --> 01:14:25,080
Speaker 8: turn in their guns to go see Janet Jackson.

1617
01:14:25,160 --> 01:14:29,320
Speaker 4: Y'all remember that in Alma. Why Janet Jackson.

1618
01:14:30,960 --> 01:14:32,559
Speaker 8: I don't know what was going on in around them,

1619
01:14:32,640 --> 01:14:35,439
Speaker 8: but they asked everybody turning their guns for free concert ticket.

1620
01:14:35,720 --> 01:14:38,560
Speaker 4: Then two weeks later, everybody gets shot because.

1621
01:14:39,479 --> 01:14:39,960
Speaker 5: Had no guns.

1622
01:14:40,120 --> 01:14:42,920
Speaker 1: Oh my god, damn you do you remember that?

1623
01:14:43,960 --> 01:14:45,519
Speaker 4: You look it up there in Alowna.

1624
01:14:45,520 --> 01:14:48,160
Speaker 8: They were asking you for Janet Jackson ticket, you turning

1625
01:14:48,200 --> 01:14:50,760
Speaker 8: your pistol, and everybody got shot the next week.

1626
01:14:51,080 --> 01:14:51,600
Speaker 4: Don't do it.

1627
01:14:52,600 --> 01:14:55,439
Speaker 5: Please give everybody who will be reporting their stolen property

1628
01:14:55,479 --> 01:14:57,600
Speaker 5: and bribe to the I r S the biggest he

1629
01:14:57,720 --> 01:15:02,200
Speaker 5: off because I don't care what mys past stage. Some

1630
01:15:02,280 --> 01:15:02,960
Speaker 5: people are gonna do that.

1631
01:15:03,040 --> 01:15:14,680
Speaker 4: That sounds like me in the bed. What Charlamagne my

1632
01:15:14,760 --> 01:15:15,880
Speaker 4: legs when them crimes?

1633
01:15:15,920 --> 01:15:19,760
Speaker 8: Get the comings?

1634
01:15:23,080 --> 01:15:25,400
Speaker 4: Your hand on the back of my behind, just holding me.

1635
01:15:27,320 --> 01:15:28,680
Speaker 5: The Breakfast Club.

1636
01:15:32,320 --> 01:15:35,360
Speaker 1: J n V. CHARLAMAGNEA god, we are the breakfast Club.

1637
01:15:35,479 --> 01:15:37,920
Speaker 1: Now if you're just joining us, we're talking about Jada

1638
01:15:37,960 --> 01:15:40,479
Speaker 1: Pinkett Smith. She was on the show earlier. By the way,

1639
01:15:40,520 --> 01:15:42,920
Speaker 1: we have our guest co host Easy Baby with us

1640
01:15:43,000 --> 01:15:46,760
Speaker 1: this morning as well, and we were talking about in relationships,

1641
01:15:47,080 --> 01:15:50,200
Speaker 1: marriages or whatever it may be, your significant other, having

1642
01:15:50,280 --> 01:15:52,519
Speaker 1: a friend of the opposite sex. Now, this is what

1643
01:15:52,680 --> 01:15:54,560
Speaker 1: Jada pink Smith said when we was up here. He

1644
01:15:54,680 --> 01:15:59,360
Speaker 1: talked about being insecure a little bit about Tupac. Did

1645
01:15:59,479 --> 01:16:02,160
Speaker 1: y'all ever have that conversation, because as a man, when

1646
01:16:02,160 --> 01:16:05,000
Speaker 1: you're a little insecure, I almost feel like you play

1647
01:16:05,080 --> 01:16:06,640
Speaker 1: both sides. You want to be yourself, but you want

1648
01:16:06,680 --> 01:16:08,519
Speaker 1: to show that you're better than the person that's making

1649
01:16:08,560 --> 01:16:10,920
Speaker 1: him insecure. Did y'all ever have that conversation?

1650
01:16:11,360 --> 01:16:14,080
Speaker 2: I wouldn't say that we had conversations in that way.

1651
01:16:14,400 --> 01:16:17,120
Speaker 2: It was just like, you know, we came up in

1652
01:16:17,200 --> 01:16:21,720
Speaker 2: the era where it was so unusual for a man

1653
01:16:21,840 --> 01:16:24,360
Speaker 2: and a woman to be friends in our.

1654
01:16:24,360 --> 01:16:26,880
Speaker 1: Era, that was just like friends, they had to be dating.

1655
01:16:26,960 --> 01:16:31,720
Speaker 2: Yeah, like what what right? And so I think for

1656
01:16:32,320 --> 01:16:36,800
Speaker 2: him it was just like getting your mind around around that,

1657
01:16:37,560 --> 01:16:40,600
Speaker 2: you know, and that the kind of friendship that we

1658
01:16:40,720 --> 01:16:45,880
Speaker 2: had because we had such a you know, tight friendship

1659
01:16:46,680 --> 01:16:49,679
Speaker 2: that you know, was very impactful on my life.

1660
01:16:50,000 --> 01:16:52,080
Speaker 1: All right, let's discuss what are your thoughts that start

1661
01:16:52,080 --> 01:16:52,840
Speaker 1: with you? Baby?

1662
01:16:53,360 --> 01:16:56,000
Speaker 15: I don't know, I feel like relationships with the opposite

1663
01:16:56,479 --> 01:16:59,120
Speaker 15: sex are necessary, Like how can you just be in

1664
01:16:59,200 --> 01:17:01,200
Speaker 15: this world and just be around people that have the

1665
01:17:01,280 --> 01:17:05,440
Speaker 15: same private parts you have? You're gonna you may streamline

1666
01:17:05,479 --> 01:17:08,959
Speaker 15: your thinking, you can't really get opposed you know, feelings

1667
01:17:09,040 --> 01:17:10,880
Speaker 15: or thoughts. So I think it's necessary. But I think

1668
01:17:11,120 --> 01:17:13,080
Speaker 15: you also have to have respect for your partner. Like

1669
01:17:13,400 --> 01:17:15,360
Speaker 15: I went and marry somebody that didn't trust me in

1670
01:17:15,400 --> 01:17:17,920
Speaker 15: a room without them. So you gotta trust that I'm

1671
01:17:17,920 --> 01:17:20,240
Speaker 15: gonna put you first, and I'm gonna honor the vows

1672
01:17:20,280 --> 01:17:22,120
Speaker 15: that I'm made to you, and that you know, I'm

1673
01:17:22,160 --> 01:17:25,160
Speaker 15: not gonna put nobody in our circle that could threaten

1674
01:17:25,280 --> 01:17:25,800
Speaker 15: what we got.

1675
01:17:25,960 --> 01:17:29,759
Speaker 1: So yeah, and in my relationship with me and my wife,

1676
01:17:30,240 --> 01:17:32,559
Speaker 1: we don't really trust too many people. So for us,

1677
01:17:32,600 --> 01:17:36,439
Speaker 1: it has to be mutual friends, right, meaning you know,

1678
01:17:36,720 --> 01:17:39,280
Speaker 1: we meet them together, like not like Charlotmae said earlier,

1679
01:17:39,320 --> 01:17:40,920
Speaker 1: like I can't just meet you at the grocery store.

1680
01:17:41,000 --> 01:17:42,479
Speaker 1: Now we're friends, and it's not going to be like that.

1681
01:17:42,560 --> 01:17:44,600
Speaker 1: It has to be some type of establishment and my

1682
01:17:44,680 --> 01:17:47,479
Speaker 1: wife has to approve, and with her, I have to approve.

1683
01:17:48,360 --> 01:17:50,519
Speaker 1: Outside of that. Now we're not taking no new friends,

1684
01:17:50,680 --> 01:17:53,320
Speaker 1: and it has to be our friends, like you know,

1685
01:17:53,360 --> 01:17:55,160
Speaker 1: I mean, I should be able to call that person

1686
01:17:55,240 --> 01:17:56,560
Speaker 1: like you should be able to call that person. It

1687
01:17:56,600 --> 01:17:59,000
Speaker 1: should be a cohesive type of situation.

1688
01:17:59,640 --> 01:18:02,560
Speaker 5: Charlotte y, I never even think about it until this

1689
01:18:02,640 --> 01:18:07,599
Speaker 5: discussion comes up. I got mad homegirls. Yeah, my homegirls

1690
01:18:07,640 --> 01:18:10,439
Speaker 5: and my wife's friends too. In fact, they probably like

1691
01:18:10,520 --> 01:18:12,680
Speaker 5: her more than they like me. Everybody does, like so

1692
01:18:13,680 --> 01:18:16,599
Speaker 5: I don't even like this discussion is like very it's

1693
01:18:16,640 --> 01:18:18,720
Speaker 5: silly to me, it's immature. You know a lot of

1694
01:18:18,720 --> 01:18:21,400
Speaker 5: people feel that way because sometimes they got insecurities and

1695
01:18:21,479 --> 01:18:22,960
Speaker 5: they immature, or it's new.

1696
01:18:22,840 --> 01:18:25,840
Speaker 1: Friends and sometimes people are not around for the right reason.

1697
01:18:25,960 --> 01:18:28,240
Speaker 1: And we know this, and I know especially and I

1698
01:18:28,320 --> 01:18:30,880
Speaker 1: hate to say this. A lot of felas sometimes will

1699
01:18:30,920 --> 01:18:32,960
Speaker 1: try to befriend your girl, not because they want to

1700
01:18:33,400 --> 01:18:35,719
Speaker 1: be a friend your girl's friend, they want to smash.

1701
01:18:35,800 --> 01:18:37,960
Speaker 5: Well, I'm never trying to befriend nobody. I'm never trying

1702
01:18:38,000 --> 01:18:40,759
Speaker 5: to befriend a man's girl. Like that's not happening.

1703
01:18:40,840 --> 01:18:41,680
Speaker 1: Like people do that.

1704
01:18:41,760 --> 01:18:45,479
Speaker 5: There's reasons why. You know, either your friends or your

1705
01:18:45,520 --> 01:18:47,920
Speaker 5: friends or even these new people who may come into

1706
01:18:47,920 --> 01:18:50,280
Speaker 5: your life. Y'all might work together, you know what I mean,

1707
01:18:50,360 --> 01:18:53,320
Speaker 5: y'all might be doing projects together. Like anytime I'm going

1708
01:18:53,400 --> 01:18:56,599
Speaker 5: to be spending time with anyone, my wife is gonna

1709
01:18:56,600 --> 01:18:58,000
Speaker 5: know who that person is, you know what I mean,

1710
01:18:58,040 --> 01:18:59,760
Speaker 5: whether it's a man or a woman. Hey we're doing

1711
01:18:59,840 --> 01:19:02,640
Speaker 5: some and such with this individual, or hey we're all

1712
01:19:02,720 --> 01:19:05,760
Speaker 5: going out to dinner. We're all going my wife is

1713
01:19:05,760 --> 01:19:07,800
Speaker 5: gonna be to everybody like there's no woman in my

1714
01:19:07,920 --> 01:19:10,240
Speaker 5: life that's my friend that ain't out.

1715
01:19:10,439 --> 01:19:12,959
Speaker 15: Wifeer and a lot of people are taking like teenage

1716
01:19:13,080 --> 01:19:17,000
Speaker 15: drama into big age relationships, like you know, you had

1717
01:19:17,040 --> 01:19:19,040
Speaker 15: to worry about this stuff in high school. People break

1718
01:19:19,120 --> 01:19:20,920
Speaker 15: up and get together with a new person next week.

1719
01:19:20,960 --> 01:19:22,439
Speaker 15: It's really not the same when you're forty.

1720
01:19:22,560 --> 01:19:25,240
Speaker 5: If you can't have a platonic relationship with somebody from

1721
01:19:25,240 --> 01:19:27,080
Speaker 5: the opposite sex. Something wrong with you, bro.

1722
01:19:27,360 --> 01:19:29,280
Speaker 1: Let's go to the phone lines. We have dupre on

1723
01:19:29,360 --> 01:19:30,320
Speaker 1: the line, Duprix.

1724
01:19:30,560 --> 01:19:32,400
Speaker 12: Man, what's the djella man?

1725
01:19:32,520 --> 01:19:35,000
Speaker 5: And I guess busy baby, what's up? Dupree?

1726
01:19:35,080 --> 01:19:35,880
Speaker 1: Talk to us? Dupree.

1727
01:19:36,720 --> 01:19:38,840
Speaker 9: So I was looking for what they will talk about.

1728
01:19:38,880 --> 01:19:41,080
Speaker 9: I definitely got female friends. I don't really hang out

1729
01:19:41,080 --> 01:19:44,120
Speaker 9: with dudes. And my baby mama, who's now my fiance,

1730
01:19:44,439 --> 01:19:46,519
Speaker 9: she don't really be liking it to be jealous and.

1731
01:19:46,520 --> 01:19:47,040
Speaker 12: Stuff like that.

1732
01:19:47,439 --> 01:19:49,280
Speaker 9: And they just had a party and I'm like, and

1733
01:19:49,320 --> 01:19:51,639
Speaker 9: I'm trying to go to the party. No, you ain't

1734
01:19:51,680 --> 01:19:54,280
Speaker 9: going to be turking and stuff. And I'm like, gonna

1735
01:19:54,320 --> 01:19:54,560
Speaker 9: meet it.

1736
01:19:55,120 --> 01:19:57,599
Speaker 1: Yeah, but why would you bring your baby mama there?

1737
01:19:58,000 --> 01:19:58,840
Speaker 1: Why would you bring with you?

1738
01:20:00,080 --> 01:20:01,840
Speaker 9: So when they hit me with the invite, I'm like, uh,

1739
01:20:02,200 --> 01:20:03,800
Speaker 9: we just got to get it. I'm like, man, I

1740
01:20:03,920 --> 01:20:05,280
Speaker 9: know she gonna want to come, and it was like

1741
01:20:05,400 --> 01:20:07,840
Speaker 9: that's wool. She could come, but she still was social

1742
01:20:07,920 --> 01:20:10,600
Speaker 9: type of way. So I'm like, man, whatever I end up,

1743
01:20:11,240 --> 01:20:13,439
Speaker 9: I want to sweep. I wake up in the morning

1744
01:20:13,439 --> 01:20:16,120
Speaker 9: and looked on social media. They definitely was working so

1745
01:20:16,320 --> 01:20:18,920
Speaker 9: it was just like after the dude though, that's like

1746
01:20:18,960 --> 01:20:20,599
Speaker 9: get around. That's how I to the homegirls.

1747
01:20:20,680 --> 01:20:20,840
Speaker 2: Man.

1748
01:20:21,680 --> 01:20:24,680
Speaker 15: But if you had included her in that friendship from

1749
01:20:24,720 --> 01:20:26,960
Speaker 15: the beginning, it wouldn't have been days working, it would

1750
01:20:26,960 --> 01:20:27,920
Speaker 15: have been weed working.

1751
01:20:28,080 --> 01:20:28,760
Speaker 4: It would have been a whole.

1752
01:20:28,880 --> 01:20:32,360
Speaker 9: But I probably them made her friends though to it

1753
01:20:32,560 --> 01:20:35,360
Speaker 9: like I can understand, like them may your friends that

1754
01:20:35,400 --> 01:20:37,000
Speaker 9: you ain't gonna really want to be around them girls

1755
01:20:37,000 --> 01:20:37,479
Speaker 9: because you don't know.

1756
01:20:37,720 --> 01:20:38,160
Speaker 5: But you.

1757
01:20:39,880 --> 01:20:41,639
Speaker 4: Supposed to be the bridge between that though.

1758
01:20:41,680 --> 01:20:43,479
Speaker 15: You supposed to be the bridge between your friends and

1759
01:20:43,560 --> 01:20:45,880
Speaker 15: your girlfriend, and that that should have already been better

1760
01:20:45,920 --> 01:20:46,360
Speaker 15: than it is.

1761
01:20:46,720 --> 01:20:48,679
Speaker 9: I would say for the most part, she was cool

1762
01:20:48,680 --> 01:20:49,839
Speaker 9: with something like cordial.

1763
01:20:50,680 --> 01:20:50,800
Speaker 10: You know.

1764
01:20:50,920 --> 01:20:52,719
Speaker 9: That's when you not wanted to come around.

1765
01:20:52,760 --> 01:20:54,080
Speaker 13: You could have came around even.

1766
01:20:53,920 --> 01:20:55,120
Speaker 9: When you cooler.

1767
01:20:55,320 --> 01:20:57,240
Speaker 1: You was like I got the invitation. He was like, damn,

1768
01:20:57,240 --> 01:20:58,519
Speaker 1: you know my wife gon you know you know I

1769
01:20:58,640 --> 01:21:00,479
Speaker 1: have to bring her. You didn't say, you didn't make

1770
01:21:00,520 --> 01:21:02,200
Speaker 1: it seem like she was invited.

1771
01:21:01,920 --> 01:21:07,880
Speaker 9: You her friends be kicking it. I ain't chilling with this, you.

1772
01:21:07,920 --> 01:21:08,320
Speaker 5: Know what I mean?

1773
01:21:08,439 --> 01:21:10,360
Speaker 9: You go with your friends. These are my friends.

1774
01:21:10,439 --> 01:21:11,200
Speaker 10: This is who I grew up with.

1775
01:21:11,240 --> 01:21:12,639
Speaker 9: I've beening them to seventh grades.

1776
01:21:12,640 --> 01:21:13,120
Speaker 16: You know what I mean.

1777
01:21:13,200 --> 01:21:15,639
Speaker 9: We're thirty years old now, so it's like at any

1778
01:21:15,720 --> 01:21:18,000
Speaker 9: point in time you like, oh yeah, I've been I've

1779
01:21:18,040 --> 01:21:19,920
Speaker 9: been new there with your homegrols, I'm gonna.

1780
01:21:19,720 --> 01:21:21,320
Speaker 12: Hang with your I don't have plenty of girls.

1781
01:21:21,640 --> 01:21:23,240
Speaker 9: I'm picking up with tall, you know what I mean.

1782
01:21:23,320 --> 01:21:25,760
Speaker 9: But that's on you to choose felt some type of way.

1783
01:21:25,800 --> 01:21:29,360
Speaker 9: You're never going to come up nay.

1784
01:21:30,680 --> 01:21:32,800
Speaker 5: Like BZ said, you gotta beat the bridge, bro like

1785
01:21:32,880 --> 01:21:35,320
Speaker 5: you and if those are really your friends, they gonna

1786
01:21:35,320 --> 01:21:38,160
Speaker 5: absolutely not only want to meet your fiance, they're gonna

1787
01:21:38,160 --> 01:21:40,160
Speaker 5: want to accept her and embrace her as a friend too.

1788
01:21:40,840 --> 01:21:41,080
Speaker 1: Hello.

1789
01:21:41,160 --> 01:21:41,479
Speaker 4: Who's this?

1790
01:21:43,200 --> 01:21:44,200
Speaker 1: Hey, Yanny? Good morning?

1791
01:21:44,320 --> 01:21:49,120
Speaker 13: Talk to us like the egg, like the pianist, not

1792
01:21:49,280 --> 01:21:49,919
Speaker 13: the peeness.

1793
01:21:50,800 --> 01:21:52,040
Speaker 1: What all right ahead?

1794
01:21:53,479 --> 01:21:53,839
Speaker 14: Yanni?

1795
01:21:55,080 --> 01:21:59,200
Speaker 1: Okay, okay, So my.

1796
01:21:59,280 --> 01:22:01,840
Speaker 19: Take on as a like, I'm a girl that have

1797
01:22:02,360 --> 01:22:06,360
Speaker 19: really don't have many female friends because just acts funny sometimes.

1798
01:22:07,160 --> 01:22:08,800
Speaker 19: But I believe like you guys are saying, if you

1799
01:22:08,920 --> 01:22:11,160
Speaker 19: have a friend that you've had for a long time,

1800
01:22:11,240 --> 01:22:13,920
Speaker 19: then everyone should be friends and everyone should be comfortable

1801
01:22:13,960 --> 01:22:16,360
Speaker 19: with it. For a girl, it's easier to have dudes

1802
01:22:16,400 --> 01:22:19,360
Speaker 19: as friends because they're gonna think, I know how you

1803
01:22:19,479 --> 01:22:21,800
Speaker 19: get down. They're gonna think one day maybe it might happen,

1804
01:22:21,880 --> 01:22:23,599
Speaker 19: but they're gonna still continue to be loyal.

1805
01:22:24,320 --> 01:22:25,759
Speaker 9: I think when the dude has.

1806
01:22:25,640 --> 01:22:27,920
Speaker 19: A female friend, they be it's more like if he

1807
01:22:28,120 --> 01:22:30,200
Speaker 19: if he even if you get to know him.

1808
01:22:30,680 --> 01:22:32,200
Speaker 9: Because I don't know.

1809
01:22:32,360 --> 01:22:32,920
Speaker 13: I'm a female.

1810
01:22:32,960 --> 01:22:34,920
Speaker 19: I don't know how females get down. So I wouldn't

1811
01:22:34,960 --> 01:22:38,040
Speaker 19: be really comfortable with bad, but on my part, I would.

1812
01:22:38,160 --> 01:22:40,719
Speaker 19: I wouldn't have a bottle with having my dude friends

1813
01:22:40,760 --> 01:22:41,800
Speaker 19: and knowing my dude.

1814
01:22:41,880 --> 01:22:44,479
Speaker 15: You know, so you are right with it because you

1815
01:22:44,560 --> 01:22:46,719
Speaker 15: feel like you can control whether or not it goes

1816
01:22:46,840 --> 01:22:49,760
Speaker 15: down because you know you've given them access or you're

1817
01:22:49,800 --> 01:22:52,120
Speaker 15: denying access. But when it comes to your man, you

1818
01:22:52,200 --> 01:22:54,599
Speaker 15: feel like he can't control himself. He just if they

1819
01:22:54,720 --> 01:22:56,160
Speaker 15: open it up, he just diving in.

1820
01:22:56,840 --> 01:23:00,439
Speaker 19: Well I'm not saying totally, but you know, I mean personally,

1821
01:23:00,479 --> 01:23:03,519
Speaker 19: I just feel like guys got that little extra okay

1822
01:23:03,680 --> 01:23:06,120
Speaker 19: maybe or you know, let it get a little too closed.

1823
01:23:06,479 --> 01:23:08,560
Speaker 19: You know what's friend's ears and like, nah, we're not

1824
01:23:08,680 --> 01:23:09,000
Speaker 19: doing that.

1825
01:23:09,320 --> 01:23:13,000
Speaker 1: So no, okay, thank you. Janni eight hundred and five

1826
01:23:13,080 --> 01:23:15,040
Speaker 1: eighty five one oh five one. If you're just joining us,

1827
01:23:15,080 --> 01:23:18,280
Speaker 1: we're talking about Jada Pinkinsmith. Something she said during our

1828
01:23:18,400 --> 01:23:22,360
Speaker 1: interview about men having women friends and women having men friends.

1829
01:23:22,360 --> 01:23:24,120
Speaker 1: We'll discuss when we come back as the Breakfast Club.

1830
01:23:24,160 --> 01:23:28,120
Speaker 1: Good morning warning everybody, as cenj Envy Charlamagne to God,

1831
01:23:28,240 --> 01:23:30,519
Speaker 1: be all the Breakfast Club now if you're just joining us.

1832
01:23:30,840 --> 01:23:34,519
Speaker 1: Jada Pinckersmith was here last hour. We was talking about

1833
01:23:34,800 --> 01:23:37,280
Speaker 1: men having women friends and women having men friends. And

1834
01:23:37,360 --> 01:23:39,720
Speaker 1: this is how a conversation started. When we was up here,

1835
01:23:39,760 --> 01:23:43,639
Speaker 1: he talked about being insecure, a little bit about Tupac.

1836
01:23:44,479 --> 01:23:47,080
Speaker 1: Did y'all ever have that conversation? Because as a man,

1837
01:23:47,200 --> 01:23:49,880
Speaker 1: when you're a little insecure, I almost feel like you

1838
01:23:50,000 --> 01:23:51,640
Speaker 1: play both sides. You want to be yourself, but you

1839
01:23:51,720 --> 01:23:53,519
Speaker 1: want to show that you're better than the person that's

1840
01:23:53,520 --> 01:23:56,120
Speaker 1: making him insecured. Did y'all ever have that conversation?

1841
01:23:56,560 --> 01:23:59,280
Speaker 2: I wouldn't say that we had conversations in that way.

1842
01:23:59,560 --> 01:24:02,320
Speaker 2: It was just like, you know, we came up in

1843
01:24:02,400 --> 01:24:06,920
Speaker 2: the era where it was so unusual for a man

1844
01:24:07,040 --> 01:24:10,080
Speaker 2: and a woman to be friends. In our era, that

1845
01:24:10,280 --> 01:24:11,280
Speaker 2: was just like friends.

1846
01:24:11,360 --> 01:24:12,080
Speaker 1: They had to be dating.

1847
01:24:12,160 --> 01:24:12,880
Speaker 4: Yeah, like what what?

1848
01:24:13,040 --> 01:24:13,080
Speaker 5: What?

1849
01:24:13,800 --> 01:24:13,960
Speaker 20: Right?

1850
01:24:14,080 --> 01:24:19,080
Speaker 2: And so I think for him it was just like

1851
01:24:19,240 --> 01:24:23,840
Speaker 2: getting your mind around around that, you know, and that

1852
01:24:24,240 --> 01:24:27,439
Speaker 2: the kind of friendship that we had because we had

1853
01:24:27,600 --> 01:24:33,360
Speaker 2: such a you know, tight friendship that you know, was

1854
01:24:33,560 --> 01:24:34,960
Speaker 2: very impactful on my life.

1855
01:24:35,560 --> 01:24:37,760
Speaker 1: So we're asking eight hundred and five eighty five one

1856
01:24:37,800 --> 01:24:40,960
Speaker 1: oh five one, what are your thoughts now? Busy Baby

1857
01:24:41,080 --> 01:24:43,400
Speaker 1: is our guest co host today. She feels like men

1858
01:24:43,439 --> 01:24:45,559
Speaker 1: should have women friends and women should have men friends.

1859
01:24:45,760 --> 01:24:46,479
Speaker 4: Yeah, you have to.

1860
01:24:46,880 --> 01:24:49,160
Speaker 15: No, you can't be a well rounded individual just walking

1861
01:24:49,200 --> 01:24:51,000
Speaker 15: around with a whole bunch of I don't want to

1862
01:24:51,000 --> 01:24:52,519
Speaker 15: be in a room full of nothing but vagina.

1863
01:24:52,960 --> 01:24:53,120
Speaker 5: You know.

1864
01:24:53,240 --> 01:24:56,519
Speaker 15: I feel like I grew up with the all brothers.

1865
01:24:56,840 --> 01:24:59,200
Speaker 15: You know, they teach me things about myself and about

1866
01:24:59,320 --> 01:25:01,759
Speaker 15: men that I need to know. So as I get older,

1867
01:25:02,120 --> 01:25:04,160
Speaker 15: I don't know. I got male best friends, and my

1868
01:25:04,320 --> 01:25:06,280
Speaker 15: husband's cool with that, and I'm okay with him having

1869
01:25:06,320 --> 01:25:08,320
Speaker 15: girlfriends respect absolutely.

1870
01:25:08,479 --> 01:25:10,680
Speaker 1: Like the caller said earlier that the thing he was

1871
01:25:10,720 --> 01:25:12,200
Speaker 1: saying that, you know, he didn't know if he wanted

1872
01:25:12,240 --> 01:25:15,160
Speaker 1: to bring his fiance around his other friends. I'm the different.

1873
01:25:15,240 --> 01:25:17,479
Speaker 1: I'm totally different. When I go out, Baby, you want

1874
01:25:17,479 --> 01:25:18,880
Speaker 1: to come because I'm going to have just as much

1875
01:25:18,920 --> 01:25:21,000
Speaker 1: friend with the homies than with my wife as well.

1876
01:25:21,160 --> 01:25:23,879
Speaker 1: Like anybody ever seen me out or I've been out anywhere,

1877
01:25:23,920 --> 01:25:25,559
Speaker 1: I bring my wife with me. I have a great

1878
01:25:25,600 --> 01:25:27,439
Speaker 1: time with my wife. I drink, my wife drink.

1879
01:25:27,479 --> 01:25:28,120
Speaker 5: It don't matter.

1880
01:25:28,240 --> 01:25:30,120
Speaker 1: We have a good time. If we go to a

1881
01:25:30,200 --> 01:25:32,200
Speaker 1: strip club, we both tipp it. If we go to

1882
01:25:32,680 --> 01:25:34,880
Speaker 1: I don't know, casina, we both gambling. Like we have

1883
01:25:35,080 --> 01:25:36,000
Speaker 1: that much fun.

1884
01:25:36,160 --> 01:25:39,360
Speaker 15: But it's a little questionable when somebody sends an invite

1885
01:25:39,479 --> 01:25:42,320
Speaker 15: to DJ Envy as opposed to you and your wife,

1886
01:25:42,439 --> 01:25:44,599
Speaker 15: Like the invite should be coming to both of you anyway,

1887
01:25:44,800 --> 01:25:45,679
Speaker 15: one hundred percent.

1888
01:25:46,080 --> 01:25:47,720
Speaker 5: And that's what I told the dude last time, Like

1889
01:25:47,760 --> 01:25:50,120
Speaker 5: when he said he didn't want to bring his fiance

1890
01:25:50,400 --> 01:25:54,320
Speaker 5: around his friends, Your friends should not only want to

1891
01:25:54,400 --> 01:25:57,000
Speaker 5: meet your fiance, they should be embracing your fiance and

1892
01:25:57,080 --> 01:25:59,519
Speaker 5: bringing her into the circle of friends with over the arms. Correct.

1893
01:26:00,160 --> 01:26:02,240
Speaker 1: Well, let's go to the phone lines. Hello, who's this.

1894
01:26:03,320 --> 01:26:04,000
Speaker 21: This is Lydia.

1895
01:26:04,560 --> 01:26:05,799
Speaker 1: Hey, Lydia, good morning.

1896
01:26:05,880 --> 01:26:06,439
Speaker 19: Good morning.

1897
01:26:06,960 --> 01:26:08,120
Speaker 21: I listen to y'all every day.

1898
01:26:08,200 --> 01:26:10,840
Speaker 1: Oh my god, what's your thoughts?

1899
01:26:11,560 --> 01:26:15,160
Speaker 22: So my thoughts is I believe it's okay for you

1900
01:26:15,280 --> 01:26:19,320
Speaker 22: to us to have girl guy or girlfriends as long

1901
01:26:19,400 --> 01:26:22,280
Speaker 22: as they are respectful of the relationship flash.

1902
01:26:22,040 --> 01:26:25,160
Speaker 21: Marriage because we are married. So and then I work

1903
01:26:25,240 --> 01:26:27,920
Speaker 21: in the night life part time, so I'm a bartender

1904
01:26:28,040 --> 01:26:30,280
Speaker 21: waitress and I have a bunch of guy friends that

1905
01:26:30,360 --> 01:26:33,880
Speaker 21: I work with for years. And when my husband and

1906
01:26:33,920 --> 01:26:36,439
Speaker 21: I first started dating, he was very like accepting of

1907
01:26:36,520 --> 01:26:40,840
Speaker 21: everything and everybody because everybody was like cool and respectful.

1908
01:26:41,600 --> 01:26:45,160
Speaker 21: And once I got married, like everybody was like, nah,

1909
01:26:45,240 --> 01:26:47,640
Speaker 21: she's married, leave her alone, leave her alone, like they

1910
01:26:47,680 --> 01:26:51,400
Speaker 21: were very perspective of me. So yeah, and then his

1911
01:26:51,600 --> 01:26:54,439
Speaker 21: girls grow homegirls that he's had, there's only ever been

1912
01:26:54,479 --> 01:26:56,080
Speaker 21: one person that I have to be like, she's not

1913
01:26:56,200 --> 01:26:59,720
Speaker 21: your friends, because a girl just knows when somewhere trying

1914
01:26:59,760 --> 01:27:01,080
Speaker 21: to do so.

1915
01:27:01,800 --> 01:27:04,000
Speaker 1: But I will say that that might change it a

1916
01:27:04,040 --> 01:27:05,880
Speaker 1: little bit too right. And the reason I say that

1917
01:27:06,000 --> 01:27:09,000
Speaker 1: might change if you're if you're working and guys are

1918
01:27:09,080 --> 01:27:11,280
Speaker 1: hollering at you all day long, I think that can

1919
01:27:11,320 --> 01:27:12,839
Speaker 1: make any guy feel a little insecure.

1920
01:27:13,120 --> 01:27:14,280
Speaker 7: Why I just.

1921
01:27:15,800 --> 01:27:19,400
Speaker 21: Anything like because they don't touch me, they don't do anything, Like,

1922
01:27:19,800 --> 01:27:21,400
Speaker 21: they can look and they can say what they want

1923
01:27:21,479 --> 01:27:24,240
Speaker 21: to say. And he's not bothered by it because he

1924
01:27:24,400 --> 01:27:26,200
Speaker 21: knows at the end of the night, I'm coming home.

1925
01:27:26,280 --> 01:27:31,280
Speaker 5: That's right. So what you're what you're calling being bothered

1926
01:27:31,320 --> 01:27:34,519
Speaker 5: and is actually just called being insecure. Yes, I said,

1927
01:27:34,520 --> 01:27:35,840
Speaker 5: but why so you don't trust your woman?

1928
01:27:35,920 --> 01:27:38,600
Speaker 1: No, it's not a matter about trusting. It's just a

1929
01:27:38,680 --> 01:27:41,200
Speaker 1: certain job. So when you bartend, the most bartender is

1930
01:27:41,200 --> 01:27:43,840
Speaker 1: I would say a majority of them. They when they

1931
01:27:44,320 --> 01:27:46,479
Speaker 1: serve drinks, they flirt a little, right, We've all had

1932
01:27:46,520 --> 01:27:47,720
Speaker 1: a bartend that flirt, yes or no?

1933
01:27:48,360 --> 01:27:53,200
Speaker 15: No, I think your kind. I think you're just kind.

1934
01:27:53,320 --> 01:27:54,320
Speaker 15: You're nice to everybody.

1935
01:27:54,600 --> 01:27:55,280
Speaker 1: That's your ego.

1936
01:27:55,439 --> 01:27:57,880
Speaker 5: You think you think everybody flirting with you, that's your ego?

1937
01:27:58,080 --> 01:28:02,520
Speaker 1: Right, light skin, right, Red the bartend has flirt sometimes.

1938
01:28:02,520 --> 01:28:05,240
Speaker 2: All the time, Red l skin too.

1939
01:28:05,400 --> 01:28:07,360
Speaker 1: Man, do you flirt at all with with people that

1940
01:28:07,640 --> 01:28:08,680
Speaker 1: that brodricks?

1941
01:28:09,120 --> 01:28:09,639
Speaker 8: No? I don't.

1942
01:28:10,000 --> 01:28:12,000
Speaker 5: Can I tell you guys something, I'm just nice.

1943
01:28:12,120 --> 01:28:14,720
Speaker 21: I'm just nice and then they're like, just nice and

1944
01:28:14,800 --> 01:28:17,080
Speaker 21: then they mistake it for flirting. But I'm like, no, y'a,

1945
01:28:17,080 --> 01:28:18,120
Speaker 21: I'm not flirting, and then I have.

1946
01:28:18,200 --> 01:28:21,040
Speaker 5: To be mean too, Like I want all guys out

1947
01:28:21,080 --> 01:28:23,160
Speaker 5: there to know that's your ego talking. If you think

1948
01:28:23,240 --> 01:28:26,680
Speaker 5: that every girl being kind to you is flirting. And

1949
01:28:26,760 --> 01:28:28,920
Speaker 5: if you think every girl being just nice to you

1950
01:28:29,080 --> 01:28:32,400
Speaker 5: means that they want you, that's all ego bro brod

1951
01:28:32,680 --> 01:28:35,960
Speaker 5: and and and and you helen insecure if you think that,

1952
01:28:37,080 --> 01:28:39,240
Speaker 5: you're hell insecure and you don't trust your woman, if

1953
01:28:39,320 --> 01:28:42,360
Speaker 5: you think guys hollering at her, if God's hollering at her,

1954
01:28:42,439 --> 01:28:46,120
Speaker 5: bothers you, Bartend is definitely flirt all the time. I

1955
01:28:46,160 --> 01:28:47,000
Speaker 5: would say all the time.

1956
01:28:47,040 --> 01:28:47,519
Speaker 9: But they flirt.

1957
01:28:48,439 --> 01:28:51,200
Speaker 15: But everybody flirts, like the lady at Walmart begging your

1958
01:28:51,200 --> 01:28:52,080
Speaker 15: groceries is flirting.

1959
01:28:58,120 --> 01:29:00,400
Speaker 5: All she said was high, have a nice days.

1960
01:29:06,040 --> 01:29:06,280
Speaker 1: Listen.

1961
01:29:06,400 --> 01:29:08,240
Speaker 15: Anywhere you go, you're gonna find what you're looking for.

1962
01:29:08,439 --> 01:29:09,600
Speaker 15: So if you go to the boy looking for some

1963
01:29:09,720 --> 01:29:10,840
Speaker 15: of the flirt, that's what she's doing.

1964
01:29:11,000 --> 01:29:14,559
Speaker 1: Keisha, good morning, good morning, good morning. Talk to Keishi.

1965
01:29:14,600 --> 01:29:16,720
Speaker 1: What's your thoughts me personally?

1966
01:29:17,280 --> 01:29:20,160
Speaker 13: Like I said, like Jada said, my immature self wanted

1967
01:29:20,240 --> 01:29:23,000
Speaker 13: to be friends with my man's friends all the time

1968
01:29:23,040 --> 01:29:25,920
Speaker 13: when I was younger. Me now I don't even care

1969
01:29:26,080 --> 01:29:28,519
Speaker 13: that's your man, like those are your friends. I don't

1970
01:29:28,520 --> 01:29:30,519
Speaker 13: want to be friends with the girlfriends. I don't want

1971
01:29:30,520 --> 01:29:31,679
Speaker 13: to be friends with their wife.

1972
01:29:32,320 --> 01:29:33,080
Speaker 5: Just let me do me.

1973
01:29:33,280 --> 01:29:35,080
Speaker 13: You go have fun with their friends, and I'm good.

1974
01:29:35,600 --> 01:29:38,519
Speaker 5: Yeah. If it happens organically, oh yeah, that's great.

1975
01:29:39,160 --> 01:29:41,960
Speaker 13: I don't really care anymore. I'm just you know, I've

1976
01:29:42,000 --> 01:29:45,760
Speaker 13: gotten older, I'm more mature like at this point. If

1977
01:29:45,800 --> 01:29:49,360
Speaker 13: it's beneficial to you, fine, If it's not beneficial to youth,

1978
01:29:49,439 --> 01:29:52,000
Speaker 13: cut it out. For me, it's not beneficial, so I

1979
01:29:52,040 --> 01:29:53,080
Speaker 13: don't want any parts of it.

1980
01:29:53,600 --> 01:29:56,280
Speaker 1: Jaka kisha. All right, what's the more of the story, guys.

1981
01:29:56,960 --> 01:29:59,799
Speaker 4: More of the story is friends.

1982
01:30:01,439 --> 01:30:03,679
Speaker 2: How many of us have the let's be friends?

1983
01:30:07,720 --> 01:30:09,519
Speaker 5: I think. I think the moral of the story is

1984
01:30:09,640 --> 01:30:15,559
Speaker 5: friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity. That's

1985
01:30:15,560 --> 01:30:16,000
Speaker 5: what I think.

1986
01:30:16,200 --> 01:30:17,800
Speaker 4: And it doesn't matter what private part you have.

1987
01:30:18,479 --> 01:30:22,880
Speaker 1: Yes, all right. The breakfast club, come morning, the breakfast

1988
01:30:22,960 --> 01:30:28,960
Speaker 1: club holding everybody EJ D. Charlamagne the god we are

1989
01:30:29,040 --> 01:30:30,960
Speaker 1: the breakfast club who was on a positive note?

1990
01:30:31,240 --> 01:30:34,360
Speaker 5: Positive note is this man? You are responsible for your life.

1991
01:30:34,600 --> 01:30:37,519
Speaker 5: You can't keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction.

1992
01:30:37,720 --> 01:30:40,360
Speaker 1: Breakfast club, you don't finish or y'all done.