1 00:00:12,520 --> 00:00:13,640 Speaker 1: Hello everyone. 2 00:00:13,880 --> 00:00:16,200 Speaker 2: I'm Amy Romo and I'm TJ. Holmes. I just said 3 00:00:16,239 --> 00:00:17,840 Speaker 2: you start this one, and that's what you start with. 4 00:00:17,960 --> 00:00:20,080 Speaker 2: Just I thought you had a big laid out intro. 5 00:00:20,360 --> 00:00:21,919 Speaker 1: Just let me know who they're hearing. 6 00:00:22,040 --> 00:00:25,079 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm TJ. Holmes. Now I gotta keep going. 7 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:28,240 Speaker 1: No, I can continue. Now. We are two of your hosts, 8 00:00:28,280 --> 00:00:31,800 Speaker 1: and I do part two. Hopefully maybe you know us 9 00:00:31,840 --> 00:00:35,160 Speaker 1: from our other podcast, Amy and TJ. And maybe you're 10 00:00:35,159 --> 00:00:37,880 Speaker 1: listening to our daily podcast, The Morning Run. 11 00:00:38,560 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 2: Yes, we got a lot, but this one's been fun, 12 00:00:40,760 --> 00:00:42,559 Speaker 2: and this is this might be the one where we 13 00:00:42,600 --> 00:00:44,960 Speaker 2: have the most experience in talking about. This is the 14 00:00:44,960 --> 00:00:46,800 Speaker 2: one we're experts in. But I do part two. It's 15 00:00:46,800 --> 00:00:48,520 Speaker 2: been a fun podcast. We've been a part of helping 16 00:00:48,520 --> 00:00:50,559 Speaker 2: people find love if they didn't get it right the 17 00:00:50,600 --> 00:00:54,000 Speaker 2: first or second or even third time around. That's what 18 00:00:54,040 --> 00:00:55,400 Speaker 2: we're here for. We're gonna have a little fun in 19 00:00:55,440 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 2: this one. 20 00:00:55,920 --> 00:00:58,080 Speaker 1: Yes, that's right. We're gonna ask each other some questions 21 00:00:58,320 --> 00:01:01,240 Speaker 1: and hopefully you all can ask yourself these questions, maybe 22 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:04,200 Speaker 1: your significant other or the person you're dating. This is 23 00:01:04,280 --> 00:01:06,280 Speaker 1: just a fun kind of pop quiz where it gets 24 00:01:06,319 --> 00:01:09,160 Speaker 1: people thinking about what you like what you don't, so 25 00:01:09,520 --> 00:01:10,119 Speaker 1: I'll start. 26 00:01:10,160 --> 00:01:11,640 Speaker 2: Okay, and we have these in front of us, but 27 00:01:11,920 --> 00:01:14,319 Speaker 2: we purposely did not look through the questions ahead of time, 28 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:16,839 Speaker 2: so we actually don't know what's coming. So go right ahead. 29 00:01:16,920 --> 00:01:19,080 Speaker 1: These are for the producers of I Do Part two. 30 00:01:19,160 --> 00:01:21,959 Speaker 1: So let's just take a great blind stab at this. 31 00:01:22,520 --> 00:01:25,200 Speaker 1: If a woman is dating someone who only texts her 32 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:29,000 Speaker 1: late at night to hang out, but she's wanting a relationship, 33 00:01:29,040 --> 00:01:32,360 Speaker 1: what should she say or do to get her point 34 00:01:32,360 --> 00:01:34,119 Speaker 1: across without scaring the guy off. 35 00:01:35,280 --> 00:01:37,880 Speaker 2: Nothing. You do not need to I say this to 36 00:01:37,920 --> 00:01:41,240 Speaker 2: my female friends all the time. Do not cater to 37 00:01:41,319 --> 00:01:44,360 Speaker 2: someone who is showing you what he thinks about you 38 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:46,760 Speaker 2: in the time he wants to spend. It's not that difficult. 39 00:01:46,920 --> 00:01:48,600 Speaker 2: A guy is texting you late at night, you're not 40 00:01:48,640 --> 00:01:52,240 Speaker 2: getting what you want, be willing to walk scare him 41 00:01:52,240 --> 00:01:54,880 Speaker 2: off by You're the one that should be scared off. 42 00:01:55,280 --> 00:01:58,120 Speaker 2: You should be scared by his behavior. So I'm not 43 00:01:58,160 --> 00:02:00,120 Speaker 2: a big fan, certainly when it comes to adults. You've 44 00:02:00,160 --> 00:02:02,480 Speaker 2: heard me say this to female friends. You're a grown 45 00:02:02,560 --> 00:02:06,480 Speaker 2: ass woman. Grown you ain't got time. Your biological clock 46 00:02:06,560 --> 00:02:09,480 Speaker 2: is ticking according to you, so why are you wasting 47 00:02:09,600 --> 00:02:11,960 Speaker 2: time with someone who is clearly showing you what he 48 00:02:12,040 --> 00:02:13,760 Speaker 2: thinks about you and this relationship. 49 00:02:13,880 --> 00:02:16,320 Speaker 1: Yes, so this might be an extreme thing, but my 50 00:02:16,400 --> 00:02:19,600 Speaker 1: mom always told me this. She said, if a man 51 00:02:19,720 --> 00:02:22,160 Speaker 1: wants to be with you, he will walk across water 52 00:02:22,280 --> 00:02:24,480 Speaker 1: to be with you. If a man is only calling 53 00:02:24,520 --> 00:02:28,160 Speaker 1: you at eleven PM or at two am for yes, 54 00:02:28,240 --> 00:02:30,640 Speaker 1: a booty call, that's what he thinks of you, and 55 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:32,800 Speaker 1: that's what he wants from you, and you're not going 56 00:02:32,880 --> 00:02:35,399 Speaker 1: to change his mind. So I don't think. I think 57 00:02:35,440 --> 00:02:37,560 Speaker 1: sometimes us women think we can change a guy, or 58 00:02:37,600 --> 00:02:39,600 Speaker 1: we can get him to like us, or we can 59 00:02:39,639 --> 00:02:40,560 Speaker 1: play enough games. 60 00:02:40,600 --> 00:02:41,280 Speaker 2: How does that work out? 61 00:02:41,560 --> 00:02:45,240 Speaker 1: It doesn't work out because I just you, and you know, 62 00:02:45,600 --> 00:02:47,760 Speaker 1: deep down, you know when you're getting these late night 63 00:02:47,760 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: phone calls, you're not getting the attention that you deserve 64 00:02:51,160 --> 00:02:54,120 Speaker 1: in a relationship, in a real relationship with all of 65 00:02:54,120 --> 00:02:57,640 Speaker 1: the things you're hoping for, including a lifelong partner. That's 66 00:02:57,639 --> 00:03:00,760 Speaker 1: not what a lifelong partner does. And sometimes just about 67 00:03:00,800 --> 00:03:03,640 Speaker 1: being honest with yourself. I don't think you can change, manipulate, 68 00:03:03,880 --> 00:03:05,960 Speaker 1: or control that situation. You want to accept it. 69 00:03:06,000 --> 00:03:08,799 Speaker 2: You're an adult. Ask one time, say I noticed you've 70 00:03:08,800 --> 00:03:12,440 Speaker 2: been only text me late at night. You can ask why, 71 00:03:13,080 --> 00:03:14,880 Speaker 2: what are you expecting? How would you like to move? 72 00:03:15,120 --> 00:03:16,920 Speaker 2: You ask it one time, It's okay, but. 73 00:03:16,800 --> 00:03:18,800 Speaker 1: You already know the answer. You do if you have 74 00:03:18,880 --> 00:03:19,519 Speaker 1: to ask. 75 00:03:19,320 --> 00:03:21,720 Speaker 2: It, I agree with you. But if you want to 76 00:03:21,760 --> 00:03:24,160 Speaker 2: give it the shot that you want, at least ask 77 00:03:24,240 --> 00:03:28,200 Speaker 2: so you'll know and move, it's okay to move on. 78 00:03:28,480 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 2: I say this often times about guys. I'm not going 79 00:03:30,880 --> 00:03:36,400 Speaker 2: to say that. Okay. Actually, now you've heard me say 80 00:03:36,400 --> 00:03:39,200 Speaker 2: it before. Cats in here all right? Next up, rods. 81 00:03:39,240 --> 00:03:41,720 Speaker 2: When you're dating someone new, when should you have the 82 00:03:42,160 --> 00:03:46,320 Speaker 2: what are we? Conversation? When do guys know they want 83 00:03:46,360 --> 00:03:49,360 Speaker 2: to make someone their girlfriend? When do women know? So? 84 00:03:49,400 --> 00:03:50,840 Speaker 2: In the first part of that, when should you have 85 00:03:50,880 --> 00:03:52,520 Speaker 2: the what are we? Conversations? 86 00:03:54,000 --> 00:03:57,280 Speaker 1: Hmmm? I think once you know you've developed strong feelings 87 00:03:57,320 --> 00:04:00,000 Speaker 1: for someone and you want something more, I think that's 88 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:02,080 Speaker 1: when you say hey, And I think this is when 89 00:04:02,160 --> 00:04:05,000 Speaker 1: you be vulnerable. It's okay to be vulnerable because if 90 00:04:05,000 --> 00:04:06,800 Speaker 1: you're afraid to hear the answer, it's better to know 91 00:04:06,880 --> 00:04:09,080 Speaker 1: it now than six months from now or a year 92 00:04:09,120 --> 00:04:11,280 Speaker 1: from now. I'd rather know so when I've developed or 93 00:04:11,320 --> 00:04:14,119 Speaker 1: when you've developed strong feelings for somebody and you want 94 00:04:14,120 --> 00:04:16,120 Speaker 1: to take it to the next level. Instead of saying 95 00:04:16,120 --> 00:04:18,360 Speaker 1: what are we say, Hey, I don't know if you're 96 00:04:18,360 --> 00:04:20,359 Speaker 1: feeling the same way I do, but I would like 97 00:04:20,440 --> 00:04:22,360 Speaker 1: to be serious with you. I would like for us 98 00:04:22,400 --> 00:04:26,000 Speaker 1: to be exclusive and take that step. That's what I 99 00:04:26,040 --> 00:04:26,800 Speaker 1: would suggest. 100 00:04:26,960 --> 00:04:28,880 Speaker 2: Oh, anything short of first day, I mean not going 101 00:04:28,920 --> 00:04:30,839 Speaker 2: to first day. No, Hey, that's a lot. Where are 102 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:33,600 Speaker 2: we going now? Obviously you're not going to do that, 103 00:04:33,680 --> 00:04:37,520 Speaker 2: but anytime you feel comfortable doing so, anytime you are ready, 104 00:04:38,400 --> 00:04:41,279 Speaker 2: and if you don't know the moment you don't know, 105 00:04:41,440 --> 00:04:44,800 Speaker 2: ask would be my suggestion. If most of the time 106 00:04:44,839 --> 00:04:48,080 Speaker 2: we are not confused about what's happening and what's going on, 107 00:04:48,279 --> 00:04:50,120 Speaker 2: then you eventually have a question about I wonder if 108 00:04:50,120 --> 00:04:52,520 Speaker 2: they're dating anybody else. I wonder if they're seeing anybody else. 109 00:04:52,680 --> 00:04:55,160 Speaker 2: You have got to ask that question as soon as 110 00:04:55,200 --> 00:04:57,600 Speaker 2: you're unsure, is what I would wait. 111 00:04:57,440 --> 00:05:01,000 Speaker 1: We asked we have that conversation. Well, obviously we had 112 00:05:01,040 --> 00:05:03,800 Speaker 1: been friends for eight years, but once we decided to 113 00:05:04,360 --> 00:05:08,279 Speaker 1: start seeing each other as more than friends, I flat 114 00:05:08,279 --> 00:05:09,880 Speaker 1: out said to you right away, and by the way, 115 00:05:10,680 --> 00:05:13,800 Speaker 1: because of our relationship, because of our history, I'm not 116 00:05:14,120 --> 00:05:17,960 Speaker 1: going into this relationship with you just dating you casually, 117 00:05:18,040 --> 00:05:20,480 Speaker 1: So if you're not okay with that, then we should 118 00:05:20,520 --> 00:05:22,520 Speaker 1: probably just stay friends. And I think it's important if 119 00:05:22,560 --> 00:05:24,600 Speaker 1: you know, I think it's important to state it well. 120 00:05:24,640 --> 00:05:26,520 Speaker 2: I think it's so funny that you you're it's that 121 00:05:26,600 --> 00:05:29,640 Speaker 2: and it's that significant of a moment in a relationship 122 00:05:29,640 --> 00:05:31,440 Speaker 2: that I remember we were at blooms Bar. I remember 123 00:05:31,440 --> 00:05:34,640 Speaker 2: the table we were sitting in Midtown when the conversation happened. 124 00:05:34,720 --> 00:05:37,320 Speaker 1: I remember the setting. I remember this it because I 125 00:05:37,320 --> 00:05:39,479 Speaker 1: remember being a little nervous saying it, but knowing that 126 00:05:39,520 --> 00:05:41,400 Speaker 1: I needed to say it. I I just am a 127 00:05:41,640 --> 00:05:44,880 Speaker 1: firm believer. If you know how you feel, you should 128 00:05:44,920 --> 00:05:46,960 Speaker 1: say it, and if you know what you want, you 129 00:05:47,000 --> 00:05:50,719 Speaker 1: should say it. Okay, So around the same on the 130 00:05:50,720 --> 00:05:52,800 Speaker 1: same page with that, all right? When a relationship ends? 131 00:05:52,880 --> 00:05:54,560 Speaker 2: Okay, I'm sorry I missed the other two. When you 132 00:05:54,560 --> 00:05:56,800 Speaker 2: guys know they want to make someone their girlfriend? And 133 00:05:56,800 --> 00:06:00,600 Speaker 2: when do women know? When do god know? 134 00:06:01,200 --> 00:06:04,560 Speaker 1: There's no from Okay, you say, when do guys. 135 00:06:04,360 --> 00:06:07,880 Speaker 2: Know they want to make someone their girlfriend? That just varies, 136 00:06:08,320 --> 00:06:14,080 Speaker 2: and oftentimes a guy will not make someone his girlfriend 137 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:18,120 Speaker 2: until he's been forced to make that decision. 138 00:06:18,600 --> 00:06:20,240 Speaker 1: Right, that's not a good thing. 139 00:06:20,480 --> 00:06:23,120 Speaker 2: I don't think it's a good thing. You would like 140 00:06:23,200 --> 00:06:25,480 Speaker 2: for the guy to, you know, take that up on 141 00:06:25,560 --> 00:06:29,240 Speaker 2: him on his own, without being nudged or it being suggested. 142 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:32,640 Speaker 2: But sometimes you got to get the clarity and it's 143 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:35,840 Speaker 2: okay to ask. And sometimes the guy doesn't realize where 144 00:06:35,880 --> 00:06:38,000 Speaker 2: the woman is in the relationship. It's just the conversation 145 00:06:38,080 --> 00:06:41,200 Speaker 2: that has to take place. But that's not some magical 146 00:06:41,200 --> 00:06:46,040 Speaker 2: moment where a guy will turn that page. But sometimes 147 00:06:46,080 --> 00:06:48,840 Speaker 2: you have to make the guy because if he has 148 00:06:48,880 --> 00:06:51,520 Speaker 2: a right, he's dating this woman, that woman, that woman, 149 00:06:52,040 --> 00:06:56,200 Speaker 2: and one of the women he's dating is not complaining. 150 00:06:56,640 --> 00:06:59,400 Speaker 2: Everything seems to be fine. Text her eleven o'clock. She responds, 151 00:06:59,400 --> 00:07:01,559 Speaker 2: she lets me come. We don't have to go to lunch. 152 00:07:01,640 --> 00:07:03,800 Speaker 2: I get to see you this weekend after football. Why 153 00:07:03,800 --> 00:07:05,719 Speaker 2: would I let go? Why would I mess that up? 154 00:07:05,800 --> 00:07:08,440 Speaker 2: If she's not even complaining about it. So you have 155 00:07:08,520 --> 00:07:11,080 Speaker 2: to be clear with the guy. Sometimes, I would argue, 156 00:07:11,120 --> 00:07:13,760 Speaker 2: although there's plenty of guys out there who meet someone 157 00:07:13,800 --> 00:07:15,520 Speaker 2: in the looking for a relationship and they want to 158 00:07:15,520 --> 00:07:17,840 Speaker 2: be in an exclusive relationship. There are plenty of that 159 00:07:17,920 --> 00:07:20,400 Speaker 2: out there, but sometimes you got to force a guy's hands. 160 00:07:20,400 --> 00:07:22,000 Speaker 1: Well, what did you think when I said that to you? 161 00:07:22,080 --> 00:07:25,080 Speaker 2: By the way, I was relieved, but we were in 162 00:07:25,120 --> 00:07:28,800 Speaker 2: a different place in our lives. I was relieved, glad 163 00:07:28,800 --> 00:07:31,400 Speaker 2: to hear it. I'm like, okay, cool. That wasn't a 164 00:07:31,400 --> 00:07:32,120 Speaker 2: difficult conversa. 165 00:07:32,320 --> 00:07:34,240 Speaker 1: No, no, no, it was. It was just kind of like, 166 00:07:34,840 --> 00:07:37,360 Speaker 1: just to be sure, let's just say this out loud, 167 00:07:37,440 --> 00:07:39,200 Speaker 1: so we're both on the same page. 168 00:07:39,280 --> 00:07:41,960 Speaker 2: And that was huge for us. Yes, and got out 169 00:07:41,960 --> 00:07:42,880 Speaker 2: of the way, and here we are. 170 00:07:42,920 --> 00:07:45,680 Speaker 1: And in terms of when women know, I think the 171 00:07:45,800 --> 00:07:48,840 Speaker 1: moment I know that I don't want the guy I'm 172 00:07:48,880 --> 00:07:53,120 Speaker 1: seeing to see anyone else. That then I know, you know, 173 00:07:53,440 --> 00:07:55,960 Speaker 1: I think if I know and I don't want to 174 00:07:56,000 --> 00:07:59,400 Speaker 1: see any one else, I'm not still curious. I know 175 00:07:59,480 --> 00:08:01,600 Speaker 1: I want to be this person. It's just it's just 176 00:08:01,600 --> 00:08:05,040 Speaker 1: something that's I don't think it's intangible. I couldn't put 177 00:08:05,080 --> 00:08:07,000 Speaker 1: a timeline on it. I couldn't put a moment on it. 178 00:08:07,240 --> 00:08:10,240 Speaker 1: You just feel like I want to be around this person. 179 00:08:10,440 --> 00:08:13,520 Speaker 1: In fact, I never don't want to be around this person, 180 00:08:14,040 --> 00:08:16,040 Speaker 1: you know. Anyway, that would be the best way I 181 00:08:16,040 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 1: could describe. Okay, next question. When a relationship ends, should 182 00:08:29,600 --> 00:08:32,160 Speaker 1: you keep the things your ex gave you or get 183 00:08:32,280 --> 00:08:32,760 Speaker 1: rid of them? 184 00:08:33,080 --> 00:08:37,400 Speaker 2: That's that's personal choice. But if it's a wildly expensive item, 185 00:08:37,559 --> 00:08:41,960 Speaker 2: hold on to it. Otherwise I just steh, just just 186 00:08:42,000 --> 00:08:43,440 Speaker 2: skin it out of the house. I mean, just don't 187 00:08:43,440 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 2: want to look at it, don't want to say it's 188 00:08:44,800 --> 00:08:46,920 Speaker 2: just and some people don't mind it. It's not a 189 00:08:46,920 --> 00:08:49,000 Speaker 2: big deal and it doesn't matter if the relationship ended 190 00:08:49,040 --> 00:08:51,760 Speaker 2: well or not so well. It's just you just want 191 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:54,120 Speaker 2: to clear things out. 192 00:08:54,480 --> 00:08:57,400 Speaker 1: I'm a big believer that those items that have been 193 00:08:57,400 --> 00:08:59,840 Speaker 1: given to you by someone else who you're no longer with, 194 00:09:00,320 --> 00:09:03,600 Speaker 1: they carry memories and feelings and they end up weighing 195 00:09:03,640 --> 00:09:07,000 Speaker 1: you down. So I'm a big believer. I've actually gifted 196 00:09:07,000 --> 00:09:09,960 Speaker 1: it and said, hey, this is something that's of value, 197 00:09:10,400 --> 00:09:13,720 Speaker 1: and you know, would you like my daughters or like? So, yes, 198 00:09:13,840 --> 00:09:16,760 Speaker 1: I don't like hanging onto that stuff. I do not 199 00:09:16,880 --> 00:09:19,160 Speaker 1: like hanging onto it. But again it's a personal choice. 200 00:09:19,320 --> 00:09:22,280 Speaker 1: I don't think anyone should or shouldn't do it. I 201 00:09:22,360 --> 00:09:23,320 Speaker 1: just I get rid of it. 202 00:09:23,640 --> 00:09:26,320 Speaker 2: Here we are, the holidays are upon us. How long 203 00:09:26,320 --> 00:09:29,240 Speaker 2: should you be dating someone before inviting and inviting them 204 00:09:29,240 --> 00:09:30,800 Speaker 2: to the holidays with family. 205 00:09:32,040 --> 00:09:34,400 Speaker 1: I think it's I don't think there's a timeline again. 206 00:09:34,440 --> 00:09:36,480 Speaker 1: I think it's when you know that's the person who 207 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:40,480 Speaker 1: you are exclusively dating, and you are actually excited about 208 00:09:40,520 --> 00:09:42,720 Speaker 1: introducing your family to them. I mean, I think you 209 00:09:42,800 --> 00:09:46,280 Speaker 1: have to say, I think this person potentially could become 210 00:09:46,320 --> 00:09:49,080 Speaker 1: a part of our family. I wouldn't just bring anybody 211 00:09:49,440 --> 00:09:50,679 Speaker 1: to meet my family. 212 00:09:50,400 --> 00:09:52,599 Speaker 2: But anybody. What if is there a time range that 213 00:09:52,679 --> 00:09:54,920 Speaker 2: we've only been made dating two months, but we're exclusive. 214 00:09:56,360 --> 00:09:58,200 Speaker 1: I don't think you can put a timeline on it. 215 00:09:58,440 --> 00:09:59,000 Speaker 1: How about you? 216 00:09:59,320 --> 00:10:04,120 Speaker 2: I think it depends on the family. I think it does. 217 00:10:04,160 --> 00:10:06,760 Speaker 2: I think you could read your family if these are 218 00:10:06,760 --> 00:10:09,200 Speaker 2: folks who would be open and welcoming and fun to 219 00:10:09,280 --> 00:10:11,880 Speaker 2: whoever comes in, and they don't care who it is. 220 00:10:11,920 --> 00:10:13,320 Speaker 2: I don't care how long are you going to be together, 221 00:10:13,559 --> 00:10:15,640 Speaker 2: Just good folks, and they'll welcome in other good folks. 222 00:10:16,880 --> 00:10:19,880 Speaker 2: The other part of it is your family might be 223 00:10:20,040 --> 00:10:22,120 Speaker 2: very You might not want to put your mate through 224 00:10:22,520 --> 00:10:25,000 Speaker 2: your family. I get any time you ain't ready for 225 00:10:25,080 --> 00:10:25,720 Speaker 2: these folks here. 226 00:10:26,360 --> 00:10:29,840 Speaker 1: That's absolutely I get that that's true. All right, we 227 00:10:30,000 --> 00:10:33,840 Speaker 1: just learned this term. I'm looking at it it's cuffing season. 228 00:10:34,360 --> 00:10:37,240 Speaker 1: I'm wondering if the listeners out there know what it is. 229 00:10:37,240 --> 00:10:40,440 Speaker 1: But we actually have a definition here. It's defined as 230 00:10:40,480 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 1: the time of year when single people actively search for 231 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,720 Speaker 1: short term romantic Oh, short term, I didn't know, short 232 00:10:45,760 --> 00:10:49,319 Speaker 1: term romantic partners to spend the colder months with, typically 233 00:10:49,400 --> 00:10:54,560 Speaker 1: from October through March, culminating with Valentine's Day. Cuff obviously 234 00:10:54,640 --> 00:10:59,640 Speaker 1: alluding to handcuffs attaching oneself to another individual. It's not sexual, 235 00:11:00,520 --> 00:11:01,439 Speaker 1: we're joined. 236 00:11:01,240 --> 00:11:03,880 Speaker 2: Right, that's romantic. Right, let's cuff ourselves to. 237 00:11:03,840 --> 00:11:05,880 Speaker 1: The I feel like it's like body warmth or something 238 00:11:05,920 --> 00:11:07,920 Speaker 1: like we need body heat for the colder months or something. 239 00:11:07,960 --> 00:11:11,120 Speaker 2: But anyway, we've heard, we're familiar with this segment of 240 00:11:11,880 --> 00:11:14,400 Speaker 2: the calendar, if you will. Holidays are coming up. People 241 00:11:14,440 --> 00:11:16,760 Speaker 2: want to be booed up. You got New Year's coming, 242 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:19,079 Speaker 2: people want to be booed up. Then you got Valentine's 243 00:11:19,120 --> 00:11:21,360 Speaker 2: Day coming, people want to be booed up. After that, 244 00:11:21,480 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 2: you've served your purpose. We can go our separate ways. 245 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:25,840 Speaker 1: It's not girl summer coming. 246 00:11:25,720 --> 00:11:28,640 Speaker 2: Up, right, But I didn't know it was called I 247 00:11:28,640 --> 00:11:29,360 Speaker 2: didn't know it had that. 248 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:32,360 Speaker 1: Cuffing season, all right, So The question is what things 249 00:11:32,480 --> 00:11:36,000 Speaker 1: should our single listeners be taking into consideration if they 250 00:11:36,000 --> 00:11:39,040 Speaker 1: are thinking about rekindling with their ex right. 251 00:11:38,880 --> 00:11:41,840 Speaker 2: Now, remember why they're your ex. Period. 252 00:11:42,000 --> 00:11:44,440 Speaker 1: That is exactly what I was going to say. Okay, 253 00:11:44,440 --> 00:11:44,960 Speaker 1: we're good with that. 254 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:48,040 Speaker 2: Remember why they are your ex, and that should guide you. 255 00:11:48,320 --> 00:11:52,400 Speaker 2: And I didn't know you are you are actively searching 256 00:11:52,440 --> 00:11:56,079 Speaker 2: for a short term partner. That's just a night out 257 00:11:56,120 --> 00:11:56,680 Speaker 2: at the club. 258 00:11:57,040 --> 00:12:01,760 Speaker 1: I mean it, yes, but it could be like revisited 259 00:12:02,280 --> 00:12:05,120 Speaker 1: arguments and the imagine all the baggage that comes with 260 00:12:05,640 --> 00:12:08,280 Speaker 1: looking or revisiting your ex again. There is a reason 261 00:12:08,320 --> 00:12:09,600 Speaker 1: you broke up, all right, I think we can move 262 00:12:09,640 --> 00:12:10,560 Speaker 1: on to the next question. 263 00:12:10,920 --> 00:12:13,560 Speaker 2: I when a relationship or a marriage ends and you 264 00:12:13,720 --> 00:12:16,360 Speaker 2: didn't have children together, should you maintain a connection with 265 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:21,760 Speaker 2: your ex's family. My answer starts with hell and it 266 00:12:21,880 --> 00:12:22,400 Speaker 2: ends with no. 267 00:12:24,760 --> 00:12:27,960 Speaker 1: I mean yes, I yes, that has been that has 268 00:12:28,000 --> 00:12:32,000 Speaker 1: been my experience. But I would say sometimes people develop 269 00:12:32,040 --> 00:12:35,600 Speaker 1: a really wonderful relationship with, you know, the sister that 270 00:12:35,640 --> 00:12:38,360 Speaker 1: they never had, or they found a mom figure. I 271 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:43,480 Speaker 1: would never have been in that camp, but I can 272 00:12:43,600 --> 00:12:45,600 Speaker 1: imagine there would be a situation in which that would 273 00:12:45,640 --> 00:12:49,040 Speaker 1: be Okay, it just feels a little bit strange. 274 00:12:50,040 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 2: Didn't you just give an answer about getting rid of 275 00:12:52,000 --> 00:12:54,520 Speaker 2: stuff that she X gave you? So get rid of 276 00:12:54,520 --> 00:12:56,480 Speaker 2: the sweato, but keep the system it also, I. 277 00:12:56,480 --> 00:12:58,400 Speaker 1: Will say this, it also would feel annoying to me. 278 00:12:58,480 --> 00:13:00,320 Speaker 1: I'm just gonna say this with my family. If an 279 00:13:00,400 --> 00:13:03,520 Speaker 1: X was constantly trying to keep relationships alive with my 280 00:13:03,640 --> 00:13:05,840 Speaker 1: family members, I would be curious as to why were 281 00:13:05,840 --> 00:13:08,280 Speaker 1: they trying to get back or stay in the It 282 00:13:08,320 --> 00:13:12,040 Speaker 1: would feel a little intrusive and a little invasive if 283 00:13:12,080 --> 00:13:14,679 Speaker 1: you were the person whose family your ex was trying 284 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:17,120 Speaker 1: to maintain or keep a relationship with. 285 00:13:17,200 --> 00:13:17,760 Speaker 2: That's a good point. 286 00:13:17,840 --> 00:13:19,319 Speaker 1: It feels a little wird, all right. Do you think 287 00:13:19,400 --> 00:13:23,040 Speaker 1: a relationship can last if people have opposing political views? 288 00:13:23,600 --> 00:13:27,160 Speaker 2: Obviously, James Carville and his wife, we're doing just fine, exactly, 289 00:13:28,160 --> 00:13:30,280 Speaker 2: of course you can. I guess it makes some of 290 00:13:30,280 --> 00:13:32,640 Speaker 2: those family dinners a little more difficult. But we talk 291 00:13:32,679 --> 00:13:35,720 Speaker 2: about having the same sense of humor, liking to do 292 00:13:35,760 --> 00:13:39,679 Speaker 2: the same things, having the same backgrounds, parenting the same way. 293 00:13:39,720 --> 00:13:42,200 Speaker 2: You got to have so many things that it helps 294 00:13:42,280 --> 00:13:45,560 Speaker 2: to have similar ways of thinking in a larger a 295 00:13:45,559 --> 00:13:47,800 Speaker 2: lot of major areas, you could be a saver and 296 00:13:47,840 --> 00:13:49,800 Speaker 2: I'm a spender. You know that makes a difference, So 297 00:13:49,800 --> 00:13:51,960 Speaker 2: why wouldn't political views also make a difference. I think 298 00:13:51,960 --> 00:13:53,559 Speaker 2: it can have a huge impact. But of course you 299 00:13:53,600 --> 00:13:54,520 Speaker 2: can overcome You. 300 00:13:54,440 --> 00:13:56,600 Speaker 1: Can overcome it if you respect one another. And I 301 00:13:56,640 --> 00:13:59,680 Speaker 1: think maybe that's the big distinguishing factor. If you don't 302 00:13:59,679 --> 00:14:02,760 Speaker 1: respect someone, any type of difference is not going to 303 00:14:02,840 --> 00:14:04,959 Speaker 1: end well. So I think if you have a foundation 304 00:14:05,000 --> 00:14:08,000 Speaker 1: of respect, you can actually maybe even look at your 305 00:14:08,559 --> 00:14:12,679 Speaker 1: partners opposing views and take them in and maybe just 306 00:14:12,760 --> 00:14:14,520 Speaker 1: keep an open mind about a lot of things. I 307 00:14:14,559 --> 00:14:16,760 Speaker 1: know that in terms of even family members who have 308 00:14:16,760 --> 00:14:20,560 Speaker 1: opposing political views, it constantly keeps you thinking and rethinking. 309 00:14:20,640 --> 00:14:23,320 Speaker 1: You know what. It's so easy to point fingers at 310 00:14:23,320 --> 00:14:26,520 Speaker 1: the other side, but it's an opportunity maybe to allow 311 00:14:26,640 --> 00:14:29,720 Speaker 1: other opinions to exist. Again, the respect has to be 312 00:14:29,760 --> 00:14:30,160 Speaker 1: there though. 313 00:14:30,240 --> 00:14:34,160 Speaker 2: All right, this next question here, I guess I'm supposed 314 00:14:34,200 --> 00:14:36,800 Speaker 2: to answer this, or maybe it can go both ways. 315 00:14:36,840 --> 00:14:40,640 Speaker 2: Here do men get self conscious about their bodies like 316 00:14:40,760 --> 00:14:43,280 Speaker 2: women do before having sex with someone new? 317 00:14:43,400 --> 00:14:45,120 Speaker 1: I believe that's something only you can answer. 318 00:14:45,200 --> 00:14:48,760 Speaker 2: Okay, Yeah, it says because we do. Okay, but it assumed. 319 00:14:49,000 --> 00:14:51,200 Speaker 2: Why is it just an assumption that women do and 320 00:14:51,240 --> 00:14:52,320 Speaker 2: not the assumption that men do. 321 00:14:52,480 --> 00:14:57,320 Speaker 1: I think. I mean, obviously there are outliers, and generalizations 322 00:14:57,400 --> 00:15:00,040 Speaker 1: aren't always good because there's going to be some and 323 00:15:00,080 --> 00:15:01,960 Speaker 1: who doesn't fit the bill. But I think it's fair 324 00:15:01,960 --> 00:15:08,400 Speaker 1: to say as a woman, who, yes, people get divorced 325 00:15:08,480 --> 00:15:09,840 Speaker 1: or they break up and they go to the gym, 326 00:15:10,640 --> 00:15:13,240 Speaker 1: you know you you know I you definitely start thinking, 327 00:15:13,600 --> 00:15:17,480 Speaker 1: WHOA now my body is not you know, this is 328 00:15:17,480 --> 00:15:19,520 Speaker 1: going to be something seen by someone who I don't 329 00:15:19,520 --> 00:15:21,040 Speaker 1: know that well, who I'm going to want to impress. 330 00:15:21,040 --> 00:15:24,640 Speaker 1: And yeah, we definitely get self conscious. I do. I did. 331 00:15:25,040 --> 00:15:29,840 Speaker 1: We had the conversation, Yeah, we did that. Yeah, because 332 00:15:29,840 --> 00:15:33,040 Speaker 1: as friends, it was a weird thing to think about it, right. 333 00:15:33,080 --> 00:15:35,680 Speaker 1: I was like we were talking about because we were friends 334 00:15:35,720 --> 00:15:37,920 Speaker 1: and we were discussing our relationship but we had not 335 00:15:38,040 --> 00:15:41,240 Speaker 1: been physical, and we talked about you know, how that 336 00:15:41,320 --> 00:15:43,360 Speaker 1: was going to feel. And I definitely felt insecure. 337 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:49,120 Speaker 2: Okay. I remember now a ridiculous story along these lines 338 00:15:49,440 --> 00:15:51,880 Speaker 2: that as much as self conscious as we were, as 339 00:15:51,920 --> 00:15:54,240 Speaker 2: comfortable and as we were with each other, and you 340 00:15:54,280 --> 00:15:58,000 Speaker 2: talk about self conscious about bodies before our relationship turned 341 00:15:58,000 --> 00:15:59,920 Speaker 2: into what it is, and we got anywhere close to this. 342 00:16:00,920 --> 00:16:04,560 Speaker 2: There was a time we had to run to the 343 00:16:04,600 --> 00:16:07,920 Speaker 2: studio in Times Square and then we had to shower 344 00:16:08,000 --> 00:16:09,880 Speaker 2: there right to get ready for the day. There was 345 00:16:09,920 --> 00:16:11,240 Speaker 2: something we did in the morning, so we had to 346 00:16:11,280 --> 00:16:15,360 Speaker 2: shower there. There was only one bar soap, and I 347 00:16:15,560 --> 00:16:18,440 Speaker 2: was so disgusted at the idea of sharing a bar 348 00:16:18,560 --> 00:16:19,240 Speaker 2: of soap with. 349 00:16:19,200 --> 00:16:21,280 Speaker 1: You, I mean with friends and colleagues. That is kind 350 00:16:21,280 --> 00:16:21,680 Speaker 1: of gross. 351 00:16:21,800 --> 00:16:25,600 Speaker 2: But to this question about self, to think that I 352 00:16:25,840 --> 00:16:29,320 Speaker 2: was that ill, like I was that like I didn't 353 00:16:29,560 --> 00:16:31,440 Speaker 2: we were at that point, and then we got to 354 00:16:31,480 --> 00:16:34,040 Speaker 2: a point where we are talking about I mean the 355 00:16:34,040 --> 00:16:36,800 Speaker 2: things we do now we were, We've done really gross. 356 00:16:37,720 --> 00:16:41,840 Speaker 2: I've seen you vomit for miles during a marathon. I 357 00:16:41,880 --> 00:16:43,160 Speaker 2: have seen stuff in the bathroom. 358 00:16:43,200 --> 00:16:46,480 Speaker 1: I never once see its ward for you, all kinds 359 00:16:46,480 --> 00:16:49,160 Speaker 1: of nasty, nasty, nasty stuff. 360 00:16:50,400 --> 00:16:54,800 Speaker 2: So yet self conscious. I think it's natural for anybody, 361 00:16:54,840 --> 00:16:57,080 Speaker 2: and for men. I don't know why that would be. 362 00:16:57,240 --> 00:17:02,560 Speaker 2: We would be an exception that oftentimes I can't remember 363 00:17:02,560 --> 00:17:04,199 Speaker 2: which comedian and he referred to it this way. It's 364 00:17:04,240 --> 00:17:05,879 Speaker 2: always you, always nervous when you're going to see the 365 00:17:05,880 --> 00:17:10,400 Speaker 2: other person's cash and prizes for the first time. It's 366 00:17:10,440 --> 00:17:13,840 Speaker 2: not this is kind of a big deal. So yes, 367 00:17:14,080 --> 00:17:16,879 Speaker 2: men get self conscious about it about their bodies, of 368 00:17:16,880 --> 00:17:17,439 Speaker 2: course they do. 369 00:17:17,600 --> 00:17:20,840 Speaker 1: Okay, next question, do you know what each other's love 370 00:17:21,080 --> 00:17:24,400 Speaker 1: language is? We've had this conversation plenty. 371 00:17:23,920 --> 00:17:25,920 Speaker 2: And I never can remember what they are, but they 372 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:30,280 Speaker 2: are words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, 373 00:17:30,320 --> 00:17:32,720 Speaker 2: physical touch. There were I think we had two each. 374 00:17:33,040 --> 00:17:35,520 Speaker 1: Yeah right, yeah, mine. 375 00:17:35,400 --> 00:17:38,560 Speaker 2: Okay, mine is definitely what was it? I think it's 376 00:17:38,720 --> 00:17:41,760 Speaker 2: quality time and words of affirmation. 377 00:17:41,920 --> 00:17:44,160 Speaker 1: Yes, that's what I would have guessed for you. And 378 00:17:44,840 --> 00:17:48,080 Speaker 1: I even said, this is so interesting because my relationship 379 00:17:48,080 --> 00:17:50,960 Speaker 1: with you, my love language, what I want and need 380 00:17:51,000 --> 00:17:53,200 Speaker 1: is different than what I used to think of myself. 381 00:17:53,520 --> 00:17:59,840 Speaker 1: So mine is quality time and physical touch because normally 382 00:17:59,880 --> 00:18:01,680 Speaker 1: I it's an acts of service. But that's a given 383 00:18:01,680 --> 00:18:04,119 Speaker 1: with us, like in terms of modes of operation, we 384 00:18:04,240 --> 00:18:08,880 Speaker 1: both kind of operate like that. You absolutely, without even thinking, 385 00:18:09,320 --> 00:18:11,280 Speaker 1: are on the acts of service and I am too. 386 00:18:11,320 --> 00:18:14,119 Speaker 1: So I don't have to ask that of you or 387 00:18:14,160 --> 00:18:15,920 Speaker 1: want that from you, because it's just a given. 388 00:18:16,680 --> 00:18:19,040 Speaker 2: And you say physical Touchdow, and you say this all 389 00:18:19,040 --> 00:18:21,800 Speaker 2: the time. It doesn't matter how heated of a disagreement 390 00:18:21,840 --> 00:18:23,359 Speaker 2: we could be having if I just reach over and 391 00:18:23,359 --> 00:18:26,760 Speaker 2: put my hand on your leg or grab your hand. 392 00:18:26,920 --> 00:18:30,960 Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, immediate like relaxation, like okay, we're gonna 393 00:18:30,960 --> 00:18:31,600 Speaker 1: be okay. 394 00:18:31,520 --> 00:18:33,040 Speaker 2: And it's the last thing I want. 395 00:18:33,880 --> 00:18:35,960 Speaker 1: But when you do it, it makes such a big 396 00:18:36,000 --> 00:18:36,800 Speaker 1: difference off me. 397 00:18:36,920 --> 00:18:51,480 Speaker 2: Get away from me. You mean this is an interesting 398 00:18:51,520 --> 00:18:55,399 Speaker 2: one for me. If someone still follows their X on 399 00:18:55,440 --> 00:18:58,879 Speaker 2: social media? What does that mean? Do men and women 400 00:18:59,080 --> 00:19:00,520 Speaker 2: view this differently? 401 00:19:02,119 --> 00:19:05,280 Speaker 1: Uh? That wouldn't bother me. That's like, it's funny. I 402 00:19:05,280 --> 00:19:07,760 Speaker 1: know people get really upset about who follows whom on 403 00:19:07,800 --> 00:19:10,120 Speaker 1: social media. I have no Oh you don't follow anybody? 404 00:19:10,119 --> 00:19:12,560 Speaker 2: Wait, good point, but this is an issue. 405 00:19:12,800 --> 00:19:16,920 Speaker 1: But if you did, I don't know. I feel like 406 00:19:16,960 --> 00:19:20,440 Speaker 1: if you're worried about that, you have bigger issues to. 407 00:19:20,359 --> 00:19:23,080 Speaker 2: Your point about earlier. If you're trying to rid your 408 00:19:23,119 --> 00:19:25,720 Speaker 2: life with this person, why do you want to see 409 00:19:25,800 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 2: updates about your ex? That's true, call text. Oh you 410 00:19:29,600 --> 00:19:30,920 Speaker 2: don't want to call the text, but you want to 411 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:33,000 Speaker 2: follow on social media doing something more publicly. 412 00:19:33,680 --> 00:19:36,439 Speaker 1: Okay, now that you say it like that, I get that, 413 00:19:36,600 --> 00:19:40,800 Speaker 1: But I just think that that's just maybe a symptom 414 00:19:40,880 --> 00:19:42,280 Speaker 1: of a larger issue. 415 00:19:42,359 --> 00:19:44,600 Speaker 2: Which would be what, what's the larger issue. 416 00:19:44,320 --> 00:19:48,679 Speaker 1: That they still are hung up on their X? Maybe yeah, I. 417 00:19:48,640 --> 00:19:51,200 Speaker 2: Think it's it's feels sometimes like a lack of respect 418 00:19:51,280 --> 00:19:54,679 Speaker 2: and you feel as the partner you don't want to 419 00:19:54,720 --> 00:19:58,280 Speaker 2: have to ask, ask your mate, ask your spouse. Will 420 00:19:58,320 --> 00:20:00,800 Speaker 2: you please stop following your ex? You shouldn't be put 421 00:20:00,840 --> 00:20:01,359 Speaker 2: in that position. 422 00:20:01,440 --> 00:20:04,040 Speaker 1: I agree. If you are getting married for the second time, 423 00:20:04,160 --> 00:20:06,560 Speaker 1: this is funny. Should you have a gift registry or 424 00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:08,639 Speaker 1: a honeymoon fund? I think it depends on where you 425 00:20:08,640 --> 00:20:10,600 Speaker 1: are in your life. I mean, you could have had 426 00:20:10,640 --> 00:20:13,280 Speaker 1: a very early marriage and it could have been quick, 427 00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:15,280 Speaker 1: and you are still getting back up on your feet. 428 00:20:15,359 --> 00:20:18,159 Speaker 1: You get remarried and now you're starting a family and 429 00:20:18,200 --> 00:20:20,240 Speaker 1: you need more things. So I don't think anyone could 430 00:20:20,320 --> 00:20:23,439 Speaker 1: say it just absolutely depends on where you are in 431 00:20:23,480 --> 00:20:26,440 Speaker 1: your life, your financial situation, and I think it's okay 432 00:20:26,880 --> 00:20:29,000 Speaker 1: if you have a gift registry on your second marriage, 433 00:20:29,000 --> 00:20:30,640 Speaker 1: for sure, Well do. 434 00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:34,240 Speaker 2: You what's the best way. I'm trying to think of 435 00:20:34,280 --> 00:20:37,560 Speaker 2: scenarios here, Right, you got married young at twenty two, 436 00:20:37,600 --> 00:20:39,760 Speaker 2: didn't have a big wedding, Then you get divorced and 437 00:20:39,760 --> 00:20:41,359 Speaker 2: you get married again at thirty four, and this is 438 00:20:41,400 --> 00:20:44,320 Speaker 2: the It makes perfect sense. But I've heard We've heard 439 00:20:44,359 --> 00:20:48,520 Speaker 2: somebody talking about this recently. They were asking for money 440 00:20:48,560 --> 00:20:49,920 Speaker 2: for something, Yeah, what was a gift for? 441 00:20:50,080 --> 00:20:52,800 Speaker 1: So they're actually I guess this is a new trend. 442 00:20:52,840 --> 00:20:55,359 Speaker 1: And I feel like, you know, an old fogie at 443 00:20:55,400 --> 00:20:57,159 Speaker 1: this point, because I guess the new trend is on 444 00:20:57,240 --> 00:21:00,240 Speaker 1: a registry to actually have just a cash to pose 445 00:21:00,280 --> 00:21:02,840 Speaker 1: it basically where you could say this is our honeymoon 446 00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:04,920 Speaker 1: fund or this is our let's buy a house fund. 447 00:21:04,920 --> 00:21:10,040 Speaker 1: But now new newly weds are asking for instead of 448 00:21:10,480 --> 00:21:15,160 Speaker 1: the pottery barn, you know, dish set, they're actually asking 449 00:21:15,240 --> 00:21:19,560 Speaker 1: just for donations, which I guess is more practical. But 450 00:21:19,960 --> 00:21:22,360 Speaker 1: growing up or coming up, that would have been considered 451 00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:25,360 Speaker 1: uncouth or rude or you know, not what you do. 452 00:21:25,480 --> 00:21:27,080 Speaker 2: But if you're a wedding guest, does that make things 453 00:21:27,119 --> 00:21:29,520 Speaker 2: easier for you just to get some it? 454 00:21:29,760 --> 00:21:32,359 Speaker 1: Yes on one hand, but also it's you're kind of 455 00:21:32,480 --> 00:21:34,800 Speaker 1: on the hook for exactly what you gave, like you 456 00:21:34,840 --> 00:21:36,440 Speaker 1: know what I mean, Like if you've got a gift 457 00:21:36,480 --> 00:21:38,359 Speaker 1: on sale or you got some cool deal, you feel 458 00:21:38,359 --> 00:21:39,800 Speaker 1: like you got them something and they don't really know 459 00:21:39,800 --> 00:21:43,159 Speaker 1: how much you spent. Now it's just like, yeah, you 460 00:21:43,240 --> 00:21:45,719 Speaker 1: only gave fifty bucks or like things like well, like 461 00:21:45,800 --> 00:21:48,320 Speaker 1: I would just be I wouldn't know what the right 462 00:21:48,400 --> 00:21:50,320 Speaker 1: dollar amount was. Then you have to spend all this 463 00:21:50,440 --> 00:21:54,040 Speaker 1: time kind of figuring out how much is enough and 464 00:21:54,080 --> 00:21:58,000 Speaker 1: not too little and not too much. But you know, 465 00:21:58,280 --> 00:22:00,480 Speaker 1: I guess that makes a lot of sense to put 466 00:22:00,480 --> 00:22:04,560 Speaker 1: money towards a house versus getting you know, another crystal 467 00:22:05,000 --> 00:22:08,439 Speaker 1: base that you don't need. No. 468 00:22:08,600 --> 00:22:11,320 Speaker 2: I I think if you're getting married, this is the 469 00:22:11,760 --> 00:22:13,320 Speaker 2: I guess one of the few times in your life 470 00:22:13,359 --> 00:22:15,640 Speaker 2: you can ask other adults to give you stuff. Go 471 00:22:15,720 --> 00:22:17,679 Speaker 2: for it. Yeah I didn't get married a second and 472 00:22:17,720 --> 00:22:19,040 Speaker 2: third time and getting nothing out of it. 473 00:22:19,119 --> 00:22:22,679 Speaker 1: Well, I can guarantee you if, if, what, there's a 474 00:22:22,720 --> 00:22:26,000 Speaker 1: third marriage. I don't think at this age and at 475 00:22:26,000 --> 00:22:27,960 Speaker 1: this plays in my life it would be at all 476 00:22:28,040 --> 00:22:31,520 Speaker 1: okay for there to be a gift registries. So no worries. 477 00:22:31,600 --> 00:22:34,560 Speaker 1: If you get an invite to a future wedding of mine, 478 00:22:34,840 --> 00:22:36,240 Speaker 1: I will not have a gift registry. 479 00:22:36,320 --> 00:22:40,399 Speaker 2: But what if your husband wants one? Your new husband whoever, 480 00:22:40,560 --> 00:22:43,520 Speaker 2: is going to be No, really, what if your husband wants, 481 00:22:43,560 --> 00:22:44,480 Speaker 2: are you embarrassed? 482 00:22:44,720 --> 00:22:46,600 Speaker 1: Yes? Really? Yes, embarrassed? 483 00:22:46,640 --> 00:22:51,800 Speaker 2: Oh poor guy? Really? 484 00:22:52,080 --> 00:22:54,639 Speaker 1: Yes? No? What are your thoughts on that I. 485 00:22:54,600 --> 00:22:56,320 Speaker 2: Want to get? Yes, I just said go for it. 486 00:22:56,680 --> 00:22:58,600 Speaker 2: I'm getting married. When when to error in your life 487 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:00,119 Speaker 2: do you get to say, hey, give me stuff to 488 00:23:00,200 --> 00:23:04,119 Speaker 2: another adult people who are capable and willing to actually 489 00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:06,160 Speaker 2: buy and almost feel pressured to do so, go forward, 490 00:23:06,240 --> 00:23:08,680 Speaker 2: ask for anything you want everything. You got to see 491 00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:10,520 Speaker 2: my registry. 492 00:23:11,280 --> 00:23:13,080 Speaker 1: Wow, all right, that's good to know. 493 00:23:13,280 --> 00:23:15,159 Speaker 2: You didn't know. And the producers wanted to ask us, 494 00:23:15,280 --> 00:23:16,960 Speaker 2: ask each other if we learned any I guess you 495 00:23:17,000 --> 00:23:18,600 Speaker 2: just learned something about me. You didn't know I wanted 496 00:23:18,600 --> 00:23:21,680 Speaker 2: the gift registry. But I'm looking through and going back 497 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:23,840 Speaker 2: over our answer. I know you well, and I could 498 00:23:23,840 --> 00:23:25,199 Speaker 2: have answered most of this for you. 499 00:23:25,440 --> 00:23:29,000 Speaker 1: Yes, I think so. Yes, we know each other that well. 500 00:23:29,080 --> 00:23:31,320 Speaker 1: That's what eight years of friendship will do for you 501 00:23:31,800 --> 00:23:33,080 Speaker 1: going into a relationship. 502 00:23:33,080 --> 00:23:35,040 Speaker 2: I know what that is head. I know you not 503 00:23:35,080 --> 00:23:37,040 Speaker 2: because of the past two years of our relationship, but 504 00:23:37,040 --> 00:23:39,439 Speaker 2: because of the past the eight years before that of 505 00:23:39,440 --> 00:23:41,480 Speaker 2: our friendship. Really, I know so much about you because 506 00:23:41,480 --> 00:23:43,560 Speaker 2: obviously we're still learning about each other every day. But 507 00:23:44,040 --> 00:23:45,399 Speaker 2: I did I've learned. 508 00:23:45,119 --> 00:23:47,440 Speaker 1: So much about you in those eight years. 509 00:23:47,520 --> 00:23:49,440 Speaker 2: Yeah, so prior to us getting in a relationship. 510 00:23:49,480 --> 00:23:52,199 Speaker 1: Yeah, I think other than the gift registry answer, I 511 00:23:52,240 --> 00:23:54,400 Speaker 1: would have been able to say what you thought about 512 00:23:54,440 --> 00:23:56,919 Speaker 1: all of this as well. So, but you know, for 513 00:23:57,000 --> 00:24:00,359 Speaker 1: those people who don't have ten years behind them in 514 00:24:00,480 --> 00:24:03,680 Speaker 1: a relationship, this is a good These questions are interesting 515 00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:06,480 Speaker 1: and important to ask the person who you're seeing to 516 00:24:06,520 --> 00:24:08,680 Speaker 1: see what they think and where they land. I think 517 00:24:08,720 --> 00:24:10,160 Speaker 1: the love language one is huge. 518 00:24:10,280 --> 00:24:11,640 Speaker 2: I was gonna ask how much stock did you put 519 00:24:11,640 --> 00:24:13,320 Speaker 2: in that? Because people talk about it so much. 520 00:24:13,760 --> 00:24:15,800 Speaker 1: I put a lot of stock in it. Yes, because 521 00:24:16,280 --> 00:24:19,240 Speaker 1: communication we always talk about this. That is the thing 522 00:24:19,280 --> 00:24:22,879 Speaker 1: that ends up undoing so many relationships. And if you 523 00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:27,280 Speaker 1: know how that person receives love best, then you can 524 00:24:27,400 --> 00:24:29,080 Speaker 1: give it, you know. I think we can all choose 525 00:24:29,119 --> 00:24:31,720 Speaker 1: how we show love, and knowing how the other person 526 00:24:31,760 --> 00:24:35,320 Speaker 1: prefers to receive it is huge. I just know. Yeah, 527 00:24:35,640 --> 00:24:37,280 Speaker 1: like today, when you just came over and gave me 528 00:24:37,280 --> 00:24:40,560 Speaker 1: a kiss on the forehead, it was everything and maybe 529 00:24:40,600 --> 00:24:42,399 Speaker 1: you didn't want to do it, but it was a 530 00:24:42,440 --> 00:24:44,920 Speaker 1: way to show me love that I really received. 531 00:24:45,640 --> 00:24:49,200 Speaker 2: You know, that's growing on me that idea. Really, I 532 00:24:50,000 --> 00:24:52,119 Speaker 2: can make things so much easier on myself if I 533 00:24:52,240 --> 00:24:57,000 Speaker 2: just give you a touch. I'm serious. I get in 534 00:24:57,800 --> 00:25:03,240 Speaker 2: so much of my own problems, but I stubbornly don't 535 00:25:03,240 --> 00:25:05,880 Speaker 2: do it because I am not that physical touch guy. 536 00:25:05,960 --> 00:25:08,600 Speaker 2: When there's an issue or I'm not feeling somebody, I 537 00:25:08,640 --> 00:25:10,560 Speaker 2: do not want to distance. I don't want to hug 538 00:25:10,600 --> 00:25:14,200 Speaker 2: it out. I just don't. So I'm learning that about you, 539 00:25:14,240 --> 00:25:15,439 Speaker 2: and I'm trying to get better about it. 540 00:25:15,760 --> 00:25:17,920 Speaker 1: You have gotten better about it, and I appreciate it. 541 00:25:17,960 --> 00:25:20,240 Speaker 2: Thank you. All right, folks, if you're wanting some dating advice, 542 00:25:20,280 --> 00:25:22,040 Speaker 2: you're ready to find love again, we want to hear 543 00:25:22,080 --> 00:25:25,119 Speaker 2: from you. Call us. Leave a voicemail with your questions. Bro, 544 00:25:25,200 --> 00:25:27,040 Speaker 2: I'm gonna let you take this next part because you're 545 00:25:27,119 --> 00:25:30,120 Speaker 2: so good at giving the phone number and the email 546 00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:30,440 Speaker 2: and the. 547 00:25:30,359 --> 00:25:32,280 Speaker 1: Whole Thing's my strong point. Well, you know what happened 548 00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:34,720 Speaker 1: this time around. I learned and I put my reading 549 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:37,520 Speaker 1: glasses on, so I should do so much better. Folks. 550 00:25:37,560 --> 00:25:39,480 Speaker 2: She's about to nail you're the last one, all right, folks, 551 00:25:39,480 --> 00:25:41,560 Speaker 2: She's about to nail it. Stick. Get your pens up 552 00:25:41,640 --> 00:25:43,480 Speaker 2: in your paper, right is down? 553 00:25:43,680 --> 00:25:46,600 Speaker 1: Call us at one eight four four four I Do 554 00:25:46,800 --> 00:25:50,000 Speaker 1: Pod or eight four four four four three six seven 555 00:25:50,119 --> 00:25:52,680 Speaker 1: sixty three. You can also email us at I Do 556 00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:56,399 Speaker 1: Pod at iHeartRadio dot com, follow us on Instagram, and 557 00:25:56,480 --> 00:26:00,560 Speaker 1: TikTok at I Do Part two pod. I Do Part two, 558 00:26:00,640 --> 00:26:05,959 Speaker 1: an iHeartRadio podcast where falling in love is the main objective. 559 00:26:06,000 --> 00:26:09,000 Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, that folks, that is some broadcasting prowess right there. 560 00:26:09,040 --> 00:26:11,600 Speaker 2: She's been doing this for a long time. But folks, 561 00:26:11,640 --> 00:26:14,280 Speaker 2: we appreciate you all way. This has been so much fun. 562 00:26:14,359 --> 00:26:16,639 Speaker 2: I'm really enjoying I Do Part two, And thanks to 563 00:26:16,720 --> 00:26:21,040 Speaker 2: Amy Sugarman at iHeart and Heather Mundy, our producer who 564 00:26:21,080 --> 00:26:23,680 Speaker 2: is really putting this together for us and leading the way, 565 00:26:23,720 --> 00:26:27,040 Speaker 2: and also our fellow hosts co hosts Jenny Garth and 566 00:26:27,160 --> 00:26:29,960 Speaker 2: Jenna Kramer, who we absolutely adore. So this has really 567 00:26:30,000 --> 00:26:31,159 Speaker 2: been fun. Yeah, we got to do it. 568 00:26:31,240 --> 00:26:32,760 Speaker 1: Yeah, we hope to hear from you. We hope we 569 00:26:32,760 --> 00:26:34,400 Speaker 1: can do our part to help you find love.