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Speaker 1: When a teenager gets pregnant, it becomes a family affair.

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Speaker 1: T LC's new series Unexpected explores the ups and downs

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Speaker 1: of three pregnant teens who are all children of teen

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Speaker 1: mothers themselves. Parents and grandparents must step in to help

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Speaker 1: them through this huge life change. Don't miss the revealing

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Speaker 1: new series Unexpected Sunday, November twelve at ten nine Central

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Speaker 1: on t l C. Can't wait Watch the early premiere

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Speaker 1: now on TLC. Go download the free app. Now, come on, nephew,

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Speaker 1: let's get to the letter. Boggle up, hold on tight,

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Speaker 1: We got it for you here. It is the Strawberry Letter.

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Speaker 1: All right? Do I follow my fear or my heart?

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Speaker 1: Is the subject? Dear Steve, I met a gentleman about

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Speaker 1: three months ago, and we have been enjoying a platonic

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Speaker 1: friendship lately. It's become a parent that we are feeling

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Speaker 1: each other on a deeper level and have a strong

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Speaker 1: physical attraction to each other. The other day, during a

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Speaker 1: discussion about herbal supplements versus prescription drugs, he revealed that

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Speaker 1: he has no choice but to take prescription drugs because

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Speaker 1: he is HIV positive. My heart felt crushed. Do I

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Speaker 1: put the brakes on this growing relationship and try to

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Speaker 1: remain platonic friend, or do I follow my heart and

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Speaker 1: take all of the necessary precautions if we become intimate.

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Speaker 1: By the way, I have herpies but failed to tell

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Speaker 1: him about that because val Treks has ended my outbreaks.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, miss Coward. By the way, by the way,

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Speaker 1: I'm really stunned. I'm just stunned by those words, miss Coward.

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Speaker 1: And you know, the sentiment behind him just a little

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Speaker 1: too casual to me. I mean, you know here it is.

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Speaker 1: You found a gentleman, your words now, a gentleman who

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Speaker 1: was open and honest enough to share with you his

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Speaker 1: HIV status. I mean, that was clearly the time for

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Speaker 1: you to tell him you have the her pies of virus.

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Speaker 1: He opened the door for you. You called him a gentleman,

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Speaker 1: He opened the door, and it was at that point

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Speaker 1: that you know you should have come clean. You both

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Speaker 1: could have decided right then and there whether you wanted

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Speaker 1: to move forward. Um, you missed a real opportunity, uh,

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Speaker 1: a real chance for for a moment here, for an

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Speaker 1: honest moment with a man that you know, you say

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Speaker 1: you're feeling on a different, different, deeper level. Um, you know.

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Speaker 1: So your question, should you put the brakes on the relationship?

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Speaker 1: That's really on you, you know at this point, and

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Speaker 1: him when he finds out your situation too, you know,

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Speaker 1: why don't you just talk to him honestly and make

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Speaker 1: a decision based on everything laid on the table, you know,

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Speaker 1: based on all the information out there. Then if you

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Speaker 1: both decide to go forward, uh, you know, then go

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Speaker 1: educate yourselves on HIV and herpies and you know how

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Speaker 1: to deal with that in relationships. But not until you're

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Speaker 1: totally completely honest with him like he was with you. Steve, Oh, oh,

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Speaker 1: I need to have a moment to prayer for us.

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Speaker 1: My job as a stand up comedian immediately sees other

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Speaker 1: sides to this letter. It's not a laughing matter though

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Speaker 1: then to get focused here, it's a serious letter, very serious.

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Speaker 1: But at the end through this curveball, it was written,

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Speaker 1: yet I'm out a gentleman three months ago, which confirms

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Speaker 1: what I say with the ninety day rule. See it,

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Speaker 1: you met a gentleman three months ago, that's ninety days.

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Speaker 1: Folks then comes up to conversations about herbal supplements and

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Speaker 1: she finds out that he has no choice to bend

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Speaker 1: to take prescription jobs. And thank god he was honest

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Speaker 1: as a man. And because he's HIV positive, had she

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Speaker 1: have known this information. Do you follow what I'm saying?

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Speaker 1: It always leads back to slowing down and taking your time.

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Speaker 1: It works out much better. Uh. First of all, I

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Speaker 1: really honored his brother for being honest, being a man

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Speaker 1: about it. That is the way it should be dealt with.

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Speaker 1: From all my understanding, that's the best way. Ah. But

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Speaker 1: let's talk about you though. Yeah, Shirley hit it dead

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Speaker 1: on the head. That was a great opportunity right here

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Speaker 1: for you to be honest, but you didn't do it.

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Speaker 1: You took the little road you just said over there

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Speaker 1: like you say, the feeling is mutual. Y'all start in

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Speaker 1: I don't, I don't know. It's it's on you. Um,

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Speaker 1: you know it's it's not a death sentence anymore. You

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Speaker 1: know they have medications that people are living long, healthy lives.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you know, long, I guess that's the word

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Speaker 1: Long lives with this. I have friends who have it

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Speaker 1: and are doing really really great, and you don't know

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Speaker 1: it unless they tell you. But the line, by the way,

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Speaker 1: have herpes though, you you you do know that, right.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying so hard, I'm tippatouring around this Letta, y'all

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Speaker 1: have to excuse me. I can't say what I really

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Speaker 1: talk to God and see if I can say what

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Speaker 1: know what the answer to that prayer was when we

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Speaker 1: come back. When a teenager gets pregnant, it becomes a

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Speaker 1: to help them through this huge life change. Don't miss

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Speaker 1: the revealing new series Unexpected Sunday, November twelve at ten

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Speaker 1: nine Central on t LC. Can't wait Watch the early

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Speaker 1: Part two of your response to two Days Strawberry a Letta.

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Speaker 1: All right, I've tried to find a way to deal

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Speaker 1: It's a very very serious subject. We all understand that

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Speaker 1: nothing funny about herpes or hi V, nothing funny at all.

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Speaker 1: But this is a unique situation. This woman's falling for

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Speaker 1: this guy. After three months they've been talking about strong

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Speaker 1: herbal supplements and prescription drudge, he revealed that he's not

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Speaker 1: had no choice to take prescription Judge, cause he's HIV possitible.

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Speaker 1: or do I follow my heart and take all the

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Speaker 1: voul tracks has ended my outbreaks. Well, thank you, miss Cowards. Well,

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Speaker 1: miss Coward, you're right, but you seem like a a person.

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Speaker 1: You road in. You got a problem, you know, both

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Speaker 1: of you. This could be a blessing for both of

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Speaker 1: them in all honest, you know, God works in mysterious way.

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Speaker 1: You have to pray about it and find out. This

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Speaker 1: the woman for him. Both of you all have a

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Speaker 1: situation that you have to deal with. Is not life ending.

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Speaker 1: It's a problem though, and it can be dealt with,

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Speaker 1: and you might gonna have a great relationship with this

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Speaker 1: great man. It's just these HIV doesn't make him not

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Speaker 1: be a great man. You've known this man for some

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Speaker 1: time now. He's turned out to be a great guy.

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Speaker 1: You obviously have turned out to be a great woman.

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Speaker 1: You're just scared to tell him because you don't know

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Speaker 1: when to say it. Now, I create a couple of

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Speaker 1: ways you could have said it to him. You know

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Speaker 1: you you can find love on with some common ground.

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Speaker 1: Both of you could probably use a little love right now.

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Speaker 1: So go on in and see what it's about. But

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Speaker 1: you gotta be honest with him. You know you had

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Speaker 1: a moment right now, you had to do it. Let

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Speaker 1: it go, all right, Steve, We gotta go, you know that.

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Speaker 1: Letter at My Girls Shirley. Thank you to everyone who

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Speaker 1: joined me at the Strawberry Letter live after show on

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