Speaker 1: Welcome to Can't Flee Reckless, the production of iHeart Radio
Speaker 1: and the Black Effects, And just like that, we're back
Speaker 1: on the air. Welcome back to yet another carefully reckless
Speaker 1: episode with your girl. Just hilarious. And I think now
Speaker 1: we can say, doctor Jess, i'd be fixing people's mess
Speaker 1: and maybe updating me on the situations. And I haven't
Speaker 1: gotten a lot of people. I haven't even gotten a
Speaker 1: handful of people. And you only got five fingers. I'm
Speaker 1: sorry and shut out to people who have less. You
Speaker 1: only got five fingers. You're supposed to have five fingers
Speaker 1: on one hand, and I haven't even been able to
Speaker 1: count on one hand yet. Well, I'm only been there,
Speaker 1: I've only been here. What the point is. I haven't
Speaker 1: had more than five people that' said I couldn't help them,
Speaker 1: And that's what I love, you know, So we're gonna
Speaker 1: jump right in now. Somebody wrote this, y'all know, I
Speaker 1: hate it. I'm gonna tell y'all every episode. I hate
Speaker 1: when y'all right versus sending in voice notes because then
Speaker 1: y'all don't know how a failed job. But y'all, y'all
Speaker 1: stories be so good. So I'll be trying to help
Speaker 1: y'all piece it together. Anyway, here we go. Hey, Jess,
Speaker 1: I love your show. So happy they're not deleting your
Speaker 1: podcast like they used to do us when we first started. Damn,
Speaker 1: now it's time to fix my mess. I've known Mark
Speaker 1: for sixteen year. Damn, bitch, youre just gonna say his name? Okay,
Speaker 1: all right, you've known Mark for sixteen years. I've always
Speaker 1: loved this man. However, when we met sixteen years ago,
Speaker 1: I didn't think skinny dudes like thick girls like me,
Speaker 1: so I initiated a no strings attached relationship. Mm hmm,
Speaker 1: So you real quick, I'm going I'm gonna comment on that.
Speaker 1: You said, I didn't think skinny dudes like thick girls
Speaker 1: like me, so I initiated. I initiated a no strings
Speaker 1: attached relationship. How you gonna thank for another man? First
Speaker 1: of all, you're gonna thank for another person, And you
Speaker 1: let the fact that you thought so much into what
Speaker 1: this man preference is, who didn't even tell you what
Speaker 1: his preference was, That you initiated a no strings attached
Speaker 1: relationship and you knew that's not what you wanted. Don't
Speaker 1: we bend over back with some stupidly foremen and don't
Speaker 1: even have to half the time because that nigga ain't
Speaker 1: never tell her that all right. Over the years, life
Speaker 1: took us different ways, but I love this man, so
Speaker 1: every holiday, every birthday, every year, I would text or
Speaker 1: call him. Four kids later, on my end with a
Speaker 1: failed relationship, Mark came back into my life. Twenty twenty one.
Speaker 1: I did my normal Thanksgiving text and I was shocked.
Speaker 1: I received a phone call and we spoke for about
Speaker 1: two or three hours. I was excited, but I didn't
Speaker 1: expect anything of it. A month later, he calls and
Speaker 1: asks if I could do his taxes. I'm sorry, that's
Speaker 1: funny as shit, girl. You first, can you do my taxes?
Speaker 2: Girl?
Speaker 1: Please? And now you notice that was his way back
Speaker 1: in if you really don't do taxes, if you ain't
Speaker 1: no damn accountant, and you don't work at Terble tax
Speaker 1: or for Turble text or nothing like that, that he
Speaker 1: only hit you. That was a segue into talking to you.
Speaker 1: He just wanted a reason to hit you, girl. I
Speaker 1: ain't axting nobody to do my damn Texas. Fuck that.
Speaker 1: I agreed, and next thing I know, he keeps coming
Speaker 1: around every week every off daylight clockwork. I got to
Speaker 1: know a little bit more about him and loved everything
Speaker 1: about him. He made me feel safe and bought out
Speaker 1: my feminine energy that my ex took away from me. No,
Speaker 1: that you allowed your ex to take away from you.
Speaker 1: Can't nobody take your feminine energy. And I made a mistake.
Speaker 1: You didn't allow him to take it. You gave it
Speaker 1: to me. He couldn't have took that shit from you.
Speaker 1: That's a mind thing. You gotta change that mindset, change
Speaker 1: up that narrative. Not that I need a man to
Speaker 1: get that out of me. Exactly. I'm glad you said that.
Speaker 1: Let me just read mama business. So after hanging for
Speaker 1: six months, he moved in. Oh all right, Yes, I
Speaker 1: opened my home to him, cause to live as high
Speaker 1: as hell, Okay, convenience and affordable. Now we have been
Speaker 1: living together for six months. So I asked him about
Speaker 1: us becoming official. Oh, y'all ain't even official a year
Speaker 1: where you just said y'all moved together because both of
Speaker 1: y'all were struggling. Basically, he said no because he just
Speaker 1: came out of a relationship and that he isn't ready
Speaker 1: to make us official. That hurt but I felt we
Speaker 1: just continue to be us because we are indeed doing
Speaker 1: everything a couple would do. We got a house together,
Speaker 1: planning businesses together, and planning to go on trips. Y'all
Speaker 1: planning to do all that together. But he's still hurt
Speaker 1: from his last relationship. Girl, these jokes right themselves, ain't
Speaker 1: no way all right. So he wants to treat you
Speaker 1: like a girlfriend, winding down you like a girlfriend, move
Speaker 1: in like a boyfriend, or a slash fiance husband or
Speaker 1: you know, full time father and all that. Y'all want
Speaker 1: a playhouse, but he don't want to give you the
Speaker 1: satisfaction of a title or making it official. Oh God,
Speaker 1: let me just finish. He helps with my kids and
Speaker 1: I love it. Just recently we spent Valentine's Jea together,
Speaker 1: had a blast five hour massages, a photo shoot, and
Speaker 1: an expensive dinner. I popped up, question if he thinks
Speaker 1: we can make us official. He said no, because he
Speaker 1: not ready, And I'm like, what's the difference in what
Speaker 1: we're doing now that we can't make us official? Now?
Speaker 1: I'm lost and confused and scared, not sure if I
Speaker 1: should walk away or stick with him, because other than
Speaker 1: that one thing, there is no red flags. That's the
Speaker 1: only red flag you need.
Speaker 2: Bo.
Speaker 1: He's committed to me in a way. I don't see
Speaker 1: him cheating. It's just me, work and the children. I'm
Speaker 1: not sure what to do. After listening to a few
Speaker 1: podcast I figured I should just consider us as dating.
Speaker 1: Neither one of us want to lose this friendship we
Speaker 1: have developed. A friend of mine told me to just
Speaker 1: allow things to go the way it's going. But I'm
Speaker 1: an overthinker and this makes me feel like I must
Speaker 1: not be good enough for him. Just please help me
Speaker 1: with this mess. I want you to stop it right
Speaker 1: now because you said something that I did not like. Girl.
Speaker 1: I want you to stop. I will pop your fingers
Speaker 1: like a little girl like I because you should never
Speaker 1: ever say but I'm an overthinker. No, you're not. Now
Speaker 1: there are such people as overthinkers, and yeah, but you're
Speaker 1: not overthinking in the situation. And I hate that we
Speaker 1: constantly try to tiptoe around As women, we try to
Speaker 1: tiptoe around what we feel because we're not used to
Speaker 1: getting it, so it seems unusual for us, or we
Speaker 1: may be seen as doing too much because we really
Speaker 1: over like a person when it's not over liking. I
Speaker 1: just really fuck with you, my nigga. I really like
Speaker 1: you like you, know what I'm saying. Now. If you
Speaker 1: don't like me the same, that's on you. I can't
Speaker 1: control that. That's only for you to know whether you
Speaker 1: like me back the same. That's only for you to show,
Speaker 1: and I'm gonna see it. I'm gonna feel it if
Speaker 1: you do. You feel when somebody fuck with you, You feel
Speaker 1: when somebody love you, and you feel when somebody don't.
Speaker 1: You feel when somebody is only fucking with you when
Speaker 1: it's convenient for them. Listen, As women, we feel everything,
Speaker 1: whether we want to or not. We feel it. We're
Speaker 1: forced to feel shit sometimes and it we're forced to
Speaker 1: just sweep it under the rugs sometimes, and then we're
Speaker 1: forced to just keep on going and act like nothing
Speaker 1: it never fucking happened. You are not an overthinker. You
Speaker 1: like a man. You want something out of a man,
Speaker 1: and y'all been dealing with each other, fought too fucking long,
Speaker 1: in my opinion, for him to still be talking about No,
Speaker 1: it's still I just got out of something and it
Speaker 1: will get the fuck out of my house. How about that?
Speaker 1: You can still be a friend from a distance. You
Speaker 1: ain't got to live with me. Get the fuck out
Speaker 1: of my house. I'm gonna say it like this, Well
Speaker 1: maybe you'll say it nicer, because that is your friend
Speaker 1: at the end of the day. Please remove yourself from
Speaker 1: my home. We cannot fuck like that, you know, unless
Speaker 1: you want to keep on fucking him or you know,
Speaker 1: having sex or whatever you want to do with this man. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you know, because we have sexual needs as well. But
Speaker 1: he wouldn't have access to me like that. He wouldn't,
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. And then he didn't already been around your
Speaker 1: kids and all of that. I can only imagine what
Speaker 1: your kids think. This is my mom's boyfriend, right Because
Speaker 1: you said you don't see him cheating, you ain't need
Speaker 1: no relationship. So if you go cheat, that ain't cheating.
Speaker 1: And I think that's what he wants to be able
Speaker 1: to use. That's why he will not. He will not
Speaker 1: tie you down, you know. That's why he won't lock
Speaker 1: you down. You won't just give it an official you
Speaker 1: know what, Let's go ahead and make this happen. He
Speaker 1: still got something that he don't want to miss. He
Speaker 1: thinking he gonna miss something out there. I'm telling you
Speaker 1: I've seen this a lot, and you ain't the first
Speaker 1: person with this story. You brought him around your fucking
Speaker 1: kids already. I don't know how old your babies are,
Speaker 1: God bless them. You know what I'm saying. But I
Speaker 1: really feel like he too fucking close for comfort to
Speaker 1: not be your man. You understand, he's too built into
Speaker 1: your life. How the fuck you live with you? Is
Speaker 1: he paying bills? Is he going half on shit? You
Speaker 1: understand what I'm saying. Ain't none of this shit free?
Speaker 2: Man?
Speaker 1: If you ain't paying me with your love and some money,
Speaker 1: you better be giving me some fucking money. I don't
Speaker 1: give a fuck. Friends don't stay with friends for free
Speaker 1: all the time, especially if that what if my ass
Speaker 1: is struggling, If you're the friend that's struggling and I'm
Speaker 1: still trying to help you and I got my own kids, Nah,
Speaker 1: you want have to bounce, baby, so I do. Really,
Speaker 1: I advise you to don't walk, baby, run, put on
Speaker 1: them fucking skates, and roll a fuck on out. Because
Speaker 1: I don't agree with mister man over there, and that's
Speaker 1: just that. I don't want you to keep me updated,
Speaker 1: keep me updated, bab, because that just pissed me off.
Speaker 1: If you love me, you'll listen to this commercial and
Speaker 1: then we'll be right back and moving on. Oh we
Speaker 1: got an audio, very good. Here we go, yess.
Speaker 3: I'm trying to send like fifty eleven voice messages and
Speaker 3: I don't know if I'm just coming off too nervous,
Speaker 3: but I got to kick it to you, like I
Speaker 3: feel like how I know you, And that might sound crazy,
Speaker 3: but just let me go off of what I'm makes
Speaker 3: me feel comfortable.
Speaker 2: AnyWho.
Speaker 3: My name is, Like I said, I've been living a
Speaker 3: board to move for twenty six years now.
Speaker 2: I moved in.
Speaker 3: Conkysville and I was probably one of fifty to sixty
Speaker 3: black kids out there. And I met someone from Philly.
Speaker 3: Her name is David and she was seventeen. She's three
Speaker 3: years older than me, and me and her Insley became
Speaker 3: like sisters. And during that time I met her younger
Speaker 3: cut and who is three years younger than me.
Speaker 2: Her name is Brice.
Speaker 3: Me and Day are close, like, that's my bitch, my
Speaker 3: sister right now, her contact has a heart with a key.
Speaker 2: That's my bitch.
Speaker 3: I am in love with my friend, like as a
Speaker 3: friendship love. I would die for this woman. Her kids
Speaker 3: are my nieces and nephew. I love this woman, okay,
Speaker 3: So there was always like.
Speaker 2: A little cousin to me. I know the entire family.
Speaker 3: I call their family how they call and present their family.
Speaker 2: Grandma is grandma? You know, an't such and such? You
Speaker 2: know such and such anywhom. So we're very close.
Speaker 3: So for the past maybe eight years consecutively, every day
Speaker 3: we have a group chat, and I named the group chat.
Speaker 2: These holes are loyal.
Speaker 3: Those are my bitches, Like we'll go to war, lay
Speaker 3: down my life for these bitches, all right. So you know,
Speaker 3: life gets serious, and it was just tough that we will,
Speaker 3: you know, see each other at sad events, funerals, things
Speaker 3: of that nature. But we will always come around for
Speaker 3: you know, good events as well.
Speaker 2: You know baby Shad was graduations, such and such. We
Speaker 2: always saw.
Speaker 3: Each other, but we as a three never really got
Speaker 3: to be you know, together and go out.
Speaker 2: So we planned recently two weeks.
Speaker 3: Ago to go out and we was gonna have some
Speaker 3: drinks and white marsh.
Speaker 2: We up at the avenue. We spent two sixty three.
Speaker 3: I'll never forget two sixty three or some fucking women
Speaker 3: shots lemon drops.
Speaker 2: I'm a dark looking drinker.
Speaker 3: Thank God I didn't drink it that day, but I'm
Speaker 3: still fucked up.
Speaker 2: I took twenty one shots. I'll never forget.
Speaker 1: God damn bitch.
Speaker 2: In the midst of all of us were sitting there crying.
Speaker 2: We're talking about how much we love each.
Speaker 3: Other's telling me, you know, I'm so happy you've been
Speaker 3: involved in our.
Speaker 2: Family for so many years. You know, I love you
Speaker 2: like a cousin.
Speaker 3: Like we're really like embracing sisterhood, loving each other. Everybody's
Speaker 3: complimenting our relationship, and we're.
Speaker 2: Just having a wonderful fucking time. So and they backtracked
Speaker 2: for a second.
Speaker 3: I have also a cousin named Bri. Both of our cousins,
Speaker 3: me and Dad. Both of our cousins gorgeous. Both birds
Speaker 3: are fucking gorgeous. They're both the same age. They never
Speaker 3: were in the same friends. I never questioned it. I
Speaker 3: just assumed, you know, they have different friends. So maybe
Speaker 3: about four years ago, because a party, a nineties party,
Speaker 3: so Bri says to me, I don't know why your
Speaker 3: cousin Bri doesn't like me. I didn't think anything of it,
Speaker 3: but when I sold it up, I mentioned something to my.
Speaker 2: Breath about it, and my break is the sweetest person.
Speaker 2: She she don't.
Speaker 3: Usually, you know, get wild, but if need be necessary,
Speaker 3: she would, And she said she knows why I do
Speaker 3: not like her.
Speaker 2: She never cursed, never called out her name. She said.
Speaker 3: I stepped to her when we were in high school
Speaker 3: asked her if she slept with my boyfriend.
Speaker 2: She said no, and I left it alone and that
Speaker 2: was it.
Speaker 3: Okay, So I'm just about to be everywhere and I'm
Speaker 3: so sorry.
Speaker 2: You probably be like, you know what, fuck it shit
Speaker 2: ain't I ain't fucking miss Mitchell.
Speaker 3: Nah you.
Speaker 2: Okay?
Speaker 3: So Cousin last year, me and Bria go out bar hopping,
Speaker 3: and in the midst of us bar hopping, I'm so drunk,
Speaker 3: and I.
Speaker 2: I mean, I wouldn't okay, I'm so drunk. I look
Speaker 2: at birth. Damn, you look just like it's her aunt.
Speaker 2: And I said, damn, you don't even look like which
Speaker 2: is her mother. As I'm looking at you, you were
Speaker 2: just like I said, you know, i'd be funny.
Speaker 3: It would be so funny if it's a family secret
Speaker 3: that is actually your mother, and that it was not.
Speaker 3: I didn't notice that she had got uncomfortable as I
Speaker 3: said it.
Speaker 2: I did not. I was oblivious. I was drunk as hell. Wow.
Speaker 3: He caused me the next day and said, why did
Speaker 3: you say that?
Speaker 2: Although you didn't know.
Speaker 3: Always speculated that it's really her mother because she always
Speaker 3: asked about her birth father and she never got any
Speaker 3: answers from me. So now I'm feeling like shit, this
Speaker 3: is something that I never knew. She doesn't know who
Speaker 3: her biological father is. She senses that her aunt is
Speaker 3: actually her mother. Like, these are things I never knew.
Speaker 3: If I had known that, I would have never said
Speaker 3: that out of my mouth.
Speaker 2: And even he told me and she said, yeah, I've never.
Speaker 3: Seen pictures of them pregnant and there was never a
Speaker 3: baby shower of for so I speculate the same that
Speaker 3: she could.
Speaker 2: Be mother anyho. So after that happened, there was a shift.
Speaker 3: Did treat me a lot different. She was a little snappy.
Speaker 3: She would say little jabs here and there, but I
Speaker 3: know the bitch has a smart ass mouth, so I
Speaker 3: would let shit slide. And also I knew because I
Speaker 3: impacted her away where she cried so bad, so I
Speaker 3: let little shit slide here and there. Okay, Now fast
Speaker 3: forward to two weeks ago, so we're all out drinking.
Speaker 3: After we're leeve, we're leaving, we're heading out, and she.
Speaker 2: Said, you know what, it's just so crazy how that
Speaker 2: bitch doesn't like me.
Speaker 3: And I said, we're bitch. She said, your cousin. I said,
Speaker 3: we're cousin, she said, and then that's when the fumes started,
Speaker 3: because why are you bringing out my cousin. It was
Speaker 3: no need for her to bring up my cousin. Nobody
Speaker 3: said anything about anyone and my family, So where did
Speaker 3: this come from? And now she's drunk and shit, So
Speaker 3: I'm okay, let's talk about this. I said, why are
Speaker 3: you bringing out my family? She was like, I just
Speaker 3: want you to know that. I was just, you know,
Speaker 3: I was fing her in word. I don't say the
Speaker 3: N word. I was in word back then and I'm
Speaker 3: still fing him now.
Speaker 2: And that's when I lost it.
Speaker 1: Chest I mushed this bitch.
Speaker 3: I took my shit off. I said, let's fight. We
Speaker 3: in the middle of White Marsh. I'm trying to fight
Speaker 3: this bitch. Wrong story short. I was embarrassed by my
Speaker 3: actions because I could have waited, so we was away
Speaker 3: from fucking White Marsh and we was actually somewhere else,
Speaker 3: and I could have beat the shit out this bitch,
Speaker 3: but my brain is sacred to me. Ten years ago,
Speaker 3: she was in a coma. Like I don't know what happened.
Speaker 3: She was in a coma for six months. Out of
Speaker 3: the six months, I was at the hospital every night
Speaker 3: with her for five and a half months, and I
Speaker 3: had to go home because my girlfriend.
Speaker 2: Was missing me. But anyway, during that time I was suicidal.
Speaker 3: Saved my life just so when that situation happened with
Speaker 3: the other I was ready for war, and to this day.
Speaker 2: I'm still ready for war because I.
Speaker 3: Feel like I could never forgive for bringing up my cousin.
Speaker 2: Unless I liked the bitch.
Speaker 1: Yeah, so, as it was all.
Speaker 3: Said and done, contacts me the following day and with
Speaker 3: a lengthy text state and that she was embarrassed by
Speaker 3: my actions. That is not a threat to me that
Speaker 3: I could have easily whipped as any other time. That
Speaker 3: she is a state official. If someone would have recorded
Speaker 3: that and posted the online, she could have lost her job.
Speaker 3: I get that, I get it, and one day I
Speaker 3: will apologize to that bitch for that part right there.
Speaker 2: But are you checking your you know what? Okay? So
Speaker 2: just my question is what should I do now? What
Speaker 2: you savage, because I loved I love this, I love.
Speaker 3: You death and I'm actually hurt and the fact that
Speaker 3: I don't speak to her anymore.
Speaker 2: So would you, Savage? Like, what should I do? I'm everywhere,
Speaker 2: just I'm sorry.
Speaker 1: You know what, girl, It's fine, It's okay, man, hold up,
Speaker 1: hold up. I know the ship getting good. But listen
Speaker 1: to just a couple of seconds of a commercial. If
Speaker 1: you love me, you'll listen. Listen. I see this. You're
Speaker 1: a very passionate person about your friendsy and family and
Speaker 1: people that you do love. And you're a very loyal
Speaker 1: person too, you know what I'm saying. Sometimes we can
Speaker 1: be loyal to a fault, though, you get what I mean,
Speaker 1: because we're so loyal that we expect other people to
Speaker 1: be as loyal to us as we are to them.
Speaker 1: And I'm afraid that your friend she ain't like you.
Speaker 1: She cut from a different cloth. Obviously. Let me tell
Speaker 1: you something. What you did, you were not wrong for.
Speaker 1: Maybe you could have handled it another way, but you
Speaker 1: reacted not inhumanely. You reacted naturally. When somebody is coming
Speaker 1: at your family and you close with your family, whether
Speaker 1: that's a friend or not. Nigga, it's my family, and
Speaker 1: then liquor was involved. Nothing happened that day that I
Speaker 1: didn't expect to happen, or that don't need to be expected.
Speaker 1: She lied about fucking the nigga, Well, she lied to
Speaker 1: your cousin back in high school priorce so she wouldn't
Speaker 1: get ass beat back then, and then end up getting
Speaker 1: ass beat. Now, Yeah, that's what happened. When you lie
Speaker 1: and you be sneaky and you fuck somebody, you fuck
Speaker 1: on somebody's man, and when they come to you woman
Speaker 1: a woman, as cliche as that sounds, but when it
Speaker 1: comes to you and you lie about it, and then
Speaker 1: later on you want to get drunk and admit it.
Speaker 1: And I'm talking about brag about it. Bit you getting dragged,
Speaker 1: and you should not be dragged as the person who
Speaker 1: dragged her ass by your fucking friend, by nobody. You
Speaker 1: did well within your right what you thought was right
Speaker 1: for your people's you know what I'm saying now, Like
Speaker 1: I said, it could have been handled another way, and
Speaker 1: I think it would have been handled diff if y'all
Speaker 1: wasn't drunk. Now, I don't even think Shorty would have
Speaker 1: came out and said that shit if she wasn't drunk,
Speaker 1: nobody just voluntarily wants an ass whooman and listen. If
Speaker 1: you know you god damn small and I can fold
Speaker 1: you up with one hand. Bitch, you better learn how
Speaker 1: to talk to me. You better learn how to learn
Speaker 1: how to not talk shit, or go get us some
Speaker 1: self defense classes because your mouth can't like, your mouth
Speaker 1: gotta match your hands, you feel me. If you're a
Speaker 1: bitch with the hands, you gotta be a bitch with
Speaker 1: your mouth. You can't be the rock with your mouth,
Speaker 1: but Kevin Hart with the hands, like what the fuck?
Speaker 1: What are we doing here? What are we doing? It
Speaker 1: has to match up. If you know you can't fight,
Speaker 1: shut the fuck up. It is what it is. Unless
Speaker 1: you got a hitter with you, you cannot run your
Speaker 1: mouth and just say anything you want to say. And
Speaker 1: then when somebody put their fucking hands on you, you
Speaker 1: go cry woof. And then you got people calling me
Speaker 1: that's close to me. I honestly feel like because this
Speaker 1: hurts you so badly, because I can hear it in
Speaker 1: your voice, like this is your friend that is kind
Speaker 1: of not turning on you for this other bitch, but
Speaker 1: like kind of came at she was like, you're coming
Speaker 1: in defense of this bitch when I'm clearly telling you
Speaker 1: what happened. And yeah, don't you ever apol. She don't
Speaker 1: need no fucking apology. That bitch don't need no apology.
Speaker 1: She knew she had that fucking job, she knew she
Speaker 1: was a state official when she told you, she fucked
Speaker 1: that bitch's nigga, and she's still fucking up to this day, fucking.
Speaker 1: I'm sorry not to call your cousin the bitch, but
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, she told you that she
Speaker 1: got what the fuck she asks for. It is what
Speaker 1: it is, because I know she didn't expect for you
Speaker 1: to start talking shit about your cousin where like the
Speaker 1: fuck girl. And then that's not a big flex cause
Speaker 1: the who the fuck one day nigga from high school?
Speaker 1: Maybe that shit don't mean to and I'm still fucking them, okay.
Speaker 1: And I'm pretty sure your cousin is is somewhere with
Speaker 1: somebody else that's treating her right and not fucking another
Speaker 1: bitch behind her back. I mean, if he is, then okay,
Speaker 1: But I'm just saying your cousin John Dodge the big
Speaker 1: bullet because she ain't with that niggays and she ain't
Speaker 1: with that, nigga no more so it is what it is.
Speaker 1: I really feel like you should reach out, reach back
Speaker 1: out to your friend. I think I should go somewhere
Speaker 1: quiet and come and talk about it and express your hurt.
Speaker 1: Don't make it about you want how to be your
Speaker 1: friend again or you want us to get back to it.
Speaker 1: I want us to get back though how he was
Speaker 1: and all that. No, express your hurt, but express it
Speaker 1: in a way so she can hear you. You know
Speaker 1: what I'm saying, and she can understand and she can listen.
Speaker 1: And it depends on her response. If she gets defensive,
Speaker 1: you're not being a friend. You're not being a friend.
Speaker 1: She shouldn't make it about herself, you know. If she
Speaker 1: try to flip it, make it about yeah, but you,
Speaker 1: but you, that's not a friend. You and your friend
Speaker 1: has grown apart, and that happens too. I understand you
Speaker 1: love these girls, man, but like some people grow apart,
Speaker 1: some things are not important to others that are important
Speaker 1: to you, you know, And I always have a thing
Speaker 1: you know where I say, if you grow past your friends,
Speaker 1: it is time to go your separate way. I'm not
Speaker 1: saying you can't fuck with them the more. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: you can love people from a distance. You just have
Speaker 1: to evolve. And if your friends ain't grown with you
Speaker 1: and evolving, not everybody don't evolve the same. But if
Speaker 1: they're not evolving or even following a path or you know,
Speaker 1: trying to better themselves, the goal is to always be better,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying in some type of way,
Speaker 1: just personally for yourself as an individual. If they're not
Speaker 1: doing that, man, you got to leave some people sometimes.
Speaker 1: And to me, that friend was being very patty to
Speaker 1: call you and get on your case about beating that
Speaker 1: bitch up. So I want you to get back with me,
Speaker 1: and I need this update. I need this fucking update,
Speaker 1: all right. And I know I know you left so
Speaker 1: abruptly with your message, like because you had to. Like
Speaker 1: you a blunt baby, I'm about to go do the
Speaker 1: same thing sometimes. That's that is our best therapy. That
Speaker 1: motherfucking gun jam all right. Just make sure you ain't
Speaker 1: smoking it out of a backwood, baby, because all heard
Speaker 1: that fucks your skin up, all right. And we got
Speaker 1: some great melonin will needed to be touched and tampered
Speaker 1: with and all fucked up, and just like that we
Speaker 1: come to the end of yet another carefully reckless episode
Speaker 1: with Doctor Jess and I'll be fixing your mess each
Speaker 1: and every Wednesday, and then my deepest paying voice, Pea
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