1 00:00:01,920 --> 00:00:05,359 Speaker 1: Wind Down with Janet Kramer and I'm Heart Radio Podcast. 2 00:00:06,720 --> 00:00:10,000 Speaker 2: So Hi, honey, we're apart again. I have an empty 3 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:10,959 Speaker 2: space in the sofa. 4 00:00:13,360 --> 00:00:16,000 Speaker 1: Only a couple more days, a few more sleeps, and 5 00:00:16,040 --> 00:00:16,800 Speaker 1: then Mama's home. 6 00:00:17,360 --> 00:00:18,880 Speaker 2: I come through and get you on Friday. 7 00:00:19,000 --> 00:00:21,880 Speaker 1: I'm very excited to have you come up. You're so sweet. 8 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:25,000 Speaker 1: You're just driving up to essentially take me back home 9 00:00:25,320 --> 00:00:26,599 Speaker 1: when I wrap at six am. 10 00:00:26,880 --> 00:00:28,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm also driving up because it gives me four 11 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:35,320 Speaker 2: ils on my own and the car with no kids, 12 00:00:35,360 --> 00:00:39,280 Speaker 2: no clients, nothing, Just look forward to seeing my wife 13 00:00:39,360 --> 00:00:42,400 Speaker 2: and just me in the road. 14 00:00:42,400 --> 00:00:44,480 Speaker 1: You your thoughts in the road. It's like a good 15 00:00:44,560 --> 00:00:47,560 Speaker 1: car commercial, just me, my thoughts in the road. 16 00:00:48,000 --> 00:00:50,839 Speaker 2: Yeah. I've got three l's of filming before that, so 17 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:52,600 Speaker 2: I'm not sure how my back's gonna. 18 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:54,080 Speaker 1: Gonna see that. 19 00:00:55,520 --> 00:00:56,000 Speaker 2: There. 20 00:00:56,240 --> 00:00:59,880 Speaker 1: Yeah, ah, well, how's it been not having the wife 21 00:01:00,080 --> 00:01:02,640 Speaker 1: at home? Because this movie we did a little differently. 22 00:01:03,680 --> 00:01:06,560 Speaker 2: They're definitely we've not seen each other as much as 23 00:01:06,600 --> 00:01:11,840 Speaker 2: we would have. What do you miss most? Okay, what 24 00:01:11,880 --> 00:01:13,720 Speaker 2: do you miss most? And what do you not miss? 25 00:01:14,360 --> 00:01:16,000 Speaker 1: Well? I feel bad with my answer. 26 00:01:16,720 --> 00:01:18,959 Speaker 2: Don't feel bad with the answer, because I won't feel 27 00:01:18,959 --> 00:01:19,559 Speaker 2: bad some mine. 28 00:01:20,160 --> 00:01:24,520 Speaker 1: What what do I miss most about how we did 29 00:01:24,520 --> 00:01:24,920 Speaker 1: this way? 30 00:01:25,720 --> 00:01:28,800 Speaker 2: Yeah? What do you miss most about? As not being 31 00:01:28,880 --> 00:01:29,720 Speaker 2: together every day? 32 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:32,640 Speaker 1: Well like when you first said that, I was like, 33 00:01:32,680 --> 00:01:35,600 Speaker 1: I miss the kids, Like I miss not having Roman 34 00:01:36,200 --> 00:01:38,280 Speaker 1: in my kids here, Like I know my bigs can't 35 00:01:38,280 --> 00:01:43,800 Speaker 1: come because of school m uh, but I miss the 36 00:01:44,000 --> 00:01:48,240 Speaker 1: family unit like I miss uh. I think when I'm 37 00:01:48,280 --> 00:01:51,640 Speaker 1: here and I'm working and it's hard for me to 38 00:01:52,160 --> 00:01:55,440 Speaker 1: and then everyone's there, it becomes like this push where 39 00:01:55,480 --> 00:02:01,720 Speaker 1: I go. I feel like I am a better not 40 00:02:01,920 --> 00:02:05,520 Speaker 1: like a better actress, but like I feel I feel 41 00:02:05,680 --> 00:02:08,519 Speaker 1: more whole when I work when the family's around me, 42 00:02:09,400 --> 00:02:12,639 Speaker 1: because it almost feels like I'm doing it for the 43 00:02:12,720 --> 00:02:15,440 Speaker 1: family and we're all in this together, and so it 44 00:02:15,520 --> 00:02:19,320 Speaker 1: feels just more united, I guess, and not so isolating 45 00:02:19,600 --> 00:02:23,160 Speaker 1: with I'm having to sacrifice and work hard and them 46 00:02:23,200 --> 00:02:25,519 Speaker 1: away from my family. Does that make sense? 47 00:02:25,960 --> 00:02:28,240 Speaker 2: Yeah, I forget it, of course. Okay, what do you're 48 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:28,880 Speaker 2: not mess. 49 00:02:29,960 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 1: For example, like this week, I don't miss the because 50 00:02:36,960 --> 00:02:40,160 Speaker 1: I'm on the night shoots. So normally, when I've done 51 00:02:40,160 --> 00:02:41,519 Speaker 1: this before and I'm on night shoots and I have 52 00:02:41,600 --> 00:02:43,919 Speaker 1: the kids here, I would be getting back at six 53 00:02:43,960 --> 00:02:45,600 Speaker 1: in the morning and then setting an alarm for like 54 00:02:45,680 --> 00:02:48,080 Speaker 1: ten o'clock and only getting three hours of sleep. Now, granted, 55 00:02:48,080 --> 00:02:50,359 Speaker 1: I'm only getting like five hours of sleep, but I 56 00:02:50,440 --> 00:02:56,799 Speaker 1: feel like those extra two hours are important to you know, 57 00:02:57,120 --> 00:03:00,680 Speaker 1: to the work and stuff. But when I wrap at 58 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:02,480 Speaker 1: six in the morning, I'm not going back to the 59 00:03:02,520 --> 00:03:04,480 Speaker 1: hotel tell to sleep. Like, I'm hopping in your in 60 00:03:04,560 --> 00:03:07,240 Speaker 1: your truck and we're going home because I'm so excited 61 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:09,919 Speaker 1: to just be back with the family and together, and 62 00:03:10,080 --> 00:03:12,200 Speaker 1: they all know that. I'm like, all right, remember how 63 00:03:12,280 --> 00:03:14,040 Speaker 1: mommy says, you know, we don't sit on the couch 64 00:03:14,120 --> 00:03:15,960 Speaker 1: and watch movies all day, Well that is going out 65 00:03:16,000 --> 00:03:19,200 Speaker 1: the window on Saturday. Having said that, you know, there's 66 00:03:19,800 --> 00:03:21,519 Speaker 1: a softball I don't know if you saw that. I 67 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:24,120 Speaker 1: just added onto the calendar. Jolie's got her end of 68 00:03:24,160 --> 00:03:26,600 Speaker 1: the year softball pool party. The whole family is going. 69 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:28,680 Speaker 1: So I'm going to be like a zombie. But it's 70 00:03:28,680 --> 00:03:30,840 Speaker 1: gonna be so much fun because we'll be back and 71 00:03:30,960 --> 00:03:34,920 Speaker 1: it'll be it'll be good. But I don't miss that 72 00:03:35,120 --> 00:03:37,560 Speaker 1: anxiety of feeling like I'm a bad mom because I 73 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: need to sleep while they're here, or that I that 74 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:42,000 Speaker 1: that pressure. 75 00:03:42,200 --> 00:03:43,200 Speaker 2: H No, I get that. 76 00:03:43,720 --> 00:03:47,760 Speaker 1: What do you miss about it? And what is yours? Well? 77 00:03:47,760 --> 00:03:51,200 Speaker 2: Do I miss? What I mess most is just just 78 00:03:51,280 --> 00:03:52,680 Speaker 2: at the end of the night and the kids are 79 00:03:52,720 --> 00:03:55,280 Speaker 2: in bed, having that came, just sitting down and having 80 00:03:55,320 --> 00:03:58,880 Speaker 2: that conversation with you that cad, well, just just talking 81 00:03:58,920 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 2: about your day, because even know we can zoom and 82 00:04:02,080 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 2: we can FaceTime or whatever, we don't really get time 83 00:04:06,920 --> 00:04:07,720 Speaker 2: to catch up with them. 84 00:04:08,280 --> 00:04:11,720 Speaker 1: No, it's well, especially right now and nights it's like 85 00:04:12,160 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 1: you're going to bed and five hours later I'm texting 86 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:18,520 Speaker 1: you saying good night or six you know. Yeah, it's 87 00:04:18,560 --> 00:04:21,760 Speaker 1: almost like the London switch right a little bit. Yeah, 88 00:04:21,800 --> 00:04:23,360 Speaker 1: because then you're waking up and I'm not up for 89 00:04:23,400 --> 00:04:25,640 Speaker 1: another couple hours. Yeah. 90 00:04:25,680 --> 00:04:28,120 Speaker 2: Yeah, So I just missed. I just missed you have 91 00:04:28,320 --> 00:04:30,840 Speaker 2: and just like being around thee with bound stuff off 92 00:04:30,880 --> 00:04:32,600 Speaker 2: you and talk to you like my best mates. I 93 00:04:32,720 --> 00:04:35,040 Speaker 2: just need I like you being there. Okay, what do 94 00:04:35,080 --> 00:04:39,400 Speaker 2: I not mess? I don't miss three four times a 95 00:04:39,520 --> 00:04:44,640 Speaker 2: night being told to turn over because I'm snoring and 96 00:04:48,120 --> 00:04:52,000 Speaker 2: being able to be able to fat and bed. 97 00:04:52,480 --> 00:04:55,160 Speaker 1: I're going to say that, finish your sentence. 98 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,120 Speaker 2: Let my stomach just to free rain or whatever it 99 00:04:58,160 --> 00:04:58,520 Speaker 2: wants to. 100 00:04:58,520 --> 00:05:05,480 Speaker 1: Do with that saying, by the way, same, Okay, two 101 00:05:05,480 --> 00:05:06,040 Speaker 1: and a half years. 102 00:05:06,080 --> 00:05:07,400 Speaker 2: Have I held you far yet, babe? 103 00:05:07,480 --> 00:05:08,200 Speaker 1: So I know. 104 00:05:10,040 --> 00:05:12,600 Speaker 2: But it was good when the kids were there and 105 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:15,159 Speaker 2: we came up to see you, and that was great. 106 00:05:15,160 --> 00:05:15,760 Speaker 1: We had a lot of that. 107 00:05:17,080 --> 00:05:21,040 Speaker 2: What highlighted the end of the time over there for 108 00:05:21,120 --> 00:05:22,080 Speaker 2: three days, four days. 109 00:05:22,720 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 1: You guys got up there on Friday, but I didn't 110 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:26,120 Speaker 1: see you until Saturday because I was on a night 111 00:05:26,160 --> 00:05:28,880 Speaker 1: shoot that Friday, so I didn't get back until Saturday. 112 00:05:28,920 --> 00:05:31,520 Speaker 1: So we had Saturday, Sunday, Monday, and then you guys 113 00:05:31,600 --> 00:05:34,440 Speaker 1: left on Tuesday. So y'all had four nights. But I 114 00:05:34,520 --> 00:05:36,160 Speaker 1: saw you for three days, okay. 115 00:05:36,240 --> 00:05:38,880 Speaker 2: So we rushed out of the Lbnb, went to the park, 116 00:05:38,920 --> 00:05:42,120 Speaker 2: which was nice, and then yeah, I'm going and get 117 00:05:42,120 --> 00:05:44,640 Speaker 2: your starbucks because we were leaving. We were leaving to 118 00:05:44,720 --> 00:05:47,719 Speaker 2: go on the road. You were leaving to go on set. Okay, 119 00:05:47,920 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 2: things are, things are calmed down. Then I arrived back, 120 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:53,640 Speaker 2: go get your starbucks. You're in the hotel room at 121 00:05:53,680 --> 00:05:57,239 Speaker 2: this point with the three kids. I think, right, okay, 122 00:05:57,520 --> 00:06:01,000 Speaker 2: fifteen minutes until we leave, we'll go back. Just i'llchell 123 00:06:01,080 --> 00:06:04,640 Speaker 2: out of my waif for or ten minutes, we might 124 00:06:04,720 --> 00:06:07,880 Speaker 2: have a little ulla in in the bathroom or something 125 00:06:07,920 --> 00:06:08,280 Speaker 2: before it. 126 00:06:08,600 --> 00:06:10,400 Speaker 1: Now all the kids are there. 127 00:06:11,080 --> 00:06:13,599 Speaker 2: And I come back from Starbucks, come up to the room. 128 00:06:14,200 --> 00:06:18,200 Speaker 2: Roman is soaking wet because he's been in the show 129 00:06:18,240 --> 00:06:18,640 Speaker 2: well with you. 130 00:06:19,080 --> 00:06:21,080 Speaker 1: Well, he did like one of your little mister Deed 131 00:06:21,160 --> 00:06:24,360 Speaker 1: moves where like if I'm like washing my face. And 132 00:06:24,440 --> 00:06:27,080 Speaker 1: then just like in a real peaceful moment, all of 133 00:06:27,120 --> 00:06:28,640 Speaker 1: a sudden, I look down and I see this little 134 00:06:28,720 --> 00:06:32,000 Speaker 1: face like I'm like a Roman like he came in 135 00:06:32,120 --> 00:06:34,680 Speaker 1: there because it's like just those curtain showers and so 136 00:06:34,760 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 1: I was just really and then I saw him and 137 00:06:36,720 --> 00:06:38,400 Speaker 1: I'm like, all right, you're already and buddy. So then 138 00:06:38,400 --> 00:06:40,440 Speaker 1: we just had some fun and then go ahead. 139 00:06:41,480 --> 00:06:45,840 Speaker 2: And then the funniest part of the week is he 140 00:06:46,000 --> 00:06:47,080 Speaker 2: shut all over the floor. 141 00:06:47,440 --> 00:06:51,240 Speaker 1: Well, what happened was is he had he was soaking wet, 142 00:06:51,320 --> 00:06:53,120 Speaker 1: so as I'm in you, I don't want him to 143 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:55,640 Speaker 1: slip all over this vinyl flooring. So I when we 144 00:06:55,680 --> 00:06:58,600 Speaker 1: were in the shower, I took off his clothes. Well, 145 00:06:58,640 --> 00:07:01,800 Speaker 1: first I took a picture adorable and then then I 146 00:07:02,160 --> 00:07:04,080 Speaker 1: and then I took off his clothes and then I 147 00:07:04,160 --> 00:07:06,960 Speaker 1: got back in the shower, so and I drop up 148 00:07:07,000 --> 00:07:08,240 Speaker 1: the floor floor a little bit, and so I was 149 00:07:08,279 --> 00:07:09,720 Speaker 1: just like, hey, get his mom is going to finish 150 00:07:09,800 --> 00:07:12,600 Speaker 1: showering and uh because we're just like in this one 151 00:07:12,680 --> 00:07:15,200 Speaker 1: room thing. And then I come out and I'm like, 152 00:07:15,320 --> 00:07:18,360 Speaker 1: what is the brown stuff on the floor? And he 153 00:07:18,440 --> 00:07:20,920 Speaker 1: had like literally stepped in his he pooped because he 154 00:07:20,920 --> 00:07:22,320 Speaker 1: didn't have diaper on. But I'm like, oh my gosh, 155 00:07:22,360 --> 00:07:24,760 Speaker 1: this is like a dog. Like the second I don't 156 00:07:24,760 --> 00:07:26,720 Speaker 1: have his diaper on. He just pooped and but he 157 00:07:26,760 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: stepped in it and then started like stepping all over 158 00:07:28,840 --> 00:07:31,880 Speaker 1: the room. So then you come home and I'm drenched, 159 00:07:32,640 --> 00:07:36,320 Speaker 1: you know, trying to dry off. Roman's walking around poop 160 00:07:36,400 --> 00:07:39,480 Speaker 1: feet and I'm like, Hoti help. 161 00:07:40,160 --> 00:07:43,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, it's so funny. He's got has to do that though, 162 00:07:43,080 --> 00:07:45,280 Speaker 2: wasn't he remember the last time me cook? He's diaper 163 00:07:45,320 --> 00:07:49,800 Speaker 2: off and then thirty seconds he pooped Neil shoe, Yeah. 164 00:07:50,120 --> 00:07:53,760 Speaker 1: Super great, it's fun perfectly not anywhere else. Just he 165 00:07:54,120 --> 00:07:55,600 Speaker 1: found my shoe and he pooped in it. 166 00:07:56,160 --> 00:07:58,120 Speaker 2: Yeah. I'm looking forward to having your back. 167 00:07:58,480 --> 00:08:00,840 Speaker 1: Thanks. What are you looking forward to most? 168 00:08:04,360 --> 00:08:08,760 Speaker 2: Just everything? I also haven't a new respect for like 169 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 2: single mums. 170 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:19,200 Speaker 1: This is good, especially really glad this happened. 171 00:08:19,680 --> 00:08:23,400 Speaker 2: Although although although I've had an Annie for some of 172 00:08:23,440 --> 00:08:26,000 Speaker 2: the time when I've been here, the volume of what 173 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:29,200 Speaker 2: kin much I've had to get through is is ridiculous. 174 00:08:29,320 --> 00:08:35,360 Speaker 2: But it's given any of this new found Okay, yeah, 175 00:08:35,600 --> 00:08:41,120 Speaker 2: maybe I need to do more sometimes, but I can 176 00:08:41,200 --> 00:08:44,400 Speaker 2: see you know, you know, you see these these articles 177 00:08:44,640 --> 00:08:47,240 Speaker 2: of single mums that I've just gone crazy at their kids. 178 00:08:49,559 --> 00:08:53,520 Speaker 2: I can totally, totally and utterly associate with that. 179 00:08:54,920 --> 00:08:57,360 Speaker 1: But also you can say the wife that goes crazy 180 00:08:57,480 --> 00:08:59,319 Speaker 1: and then when things are left or there's a ring 181 00:08:59,400 --> 00:09:01,040 Speaker 1: on the table, it's really not about the ring on 182 00:09:01,120 --> 00:09:03,079 Speaker 1: the table, It's about all the things that the mom 183 00:09:03,160 --> 00:09:09,199 Speaker 1: had been doing. Right. Yeah, yeah, yeah, Wow, this is 184 00:09:09,240 --> 00:09:12,080 Speaker 1: a really awesome revelation. Maybe this is my favorite. 185 00:09:12,120 --> 00:09:15,320 Speaker 2: Really a revelation, is it? It's not really a revelation. 186 00:09:15,880 --> 00:09:16,920 Speaker 1: I think you realize how. 187 00:09:16,880 --> 00:09:21,160 Speaker 2: Much we do. Yeah, you do a lot, a lot. 188 00:09:21,640 --> 00:09:24,079 Speaker 1: Anyway, it's my favorite podcast we've ever recorded. 189 00:09:24,360 --> 00:09:26,560 Speaker 2: Well, we'll get a new we'll get a slightly new 190 00:09:26,640 --> 00:09:28,760 Speaker 2: setup this week. We don't mean we have we have 191 00:09:29,080 --> 00:09:33,880 Speaker 2: four pillars. We have a couple's top couples topics easy 192 00:09:33,960 --> 00:09:38,880 Speaker 2: for me to say. We have navigating friends and families, 193 00:09:38,880 --> 00:09:43,120 Speaker 2: a married couple who does what a weird division of chores, 194 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:48,880 Speaker 2: and then faith values in building us shared identity couples topics. 195 00:09:50,960 --> 00:09:52,880 Speaker 2: You have something you want to achieve or do by 196 00:09:52,920 --> 00:09:54,439 Speaker 2: the end of the year as a couple. 197 00:09:55,400 --> 00:09:58,439 Speaker 1: Yes, I would like to actually have a vacation that 198 00:09:58,640 --> 00:10:16,880 Speaker 1: doesn't get interrupted. That would be nice. I have something 199 00:10:16,920 --> 00:10:20,319 Speaker 1: planned for you for our one year wedding anniversary that 200 00:10:20,400 --> 00:10:22,160 Speaker 1: you have no idea about. I have planned it, and 201 00:10:22,160 --> 00:10:27,080 Speaker 1: I have booked it, and my fear is that something 202 00:10:27,160 --> 00:10:32,439 Speaker 1: will go all book something and it'll be that weekend. 203 00:10:33,000 --> 00:10:37,160 Speaker 1: But I'm about to send a letter out or an 204 00:10:37,200 --> 00:10:40,640 Speaker 1: email out to my agents and be like, no matter 205 00:10:40,720 --> 00:10:42,240 Speaker 1: what comes up, like they're going to have to move 206 00:10:42,280 --> 00:10:47,000 Speaker 1: around these three dates because I think Taylor, my makeup 207 00:10:47,080 --> 00:10:48,719 Speaker 1: artist on this movie, was asking me. She was like, 208 00:10:48,800 --> 00:10:50,280 Speaker 1: how often do you and your husband to date nights? 209 00:10:50,320 --> 00:10:51,360 Speaker 1: And I said, you know what, we used to do 210 00:10:51,600 --> 00:10:54,920 Speaker 1: really good, I said, but lately we've gotten into a 211 00:10:56,559 --> 00:11:00,240 Speaker 1: I don't want to say a bad pattern, but I 212 00:11:00,280 --> 00:11:02,000 Speaker 1: don't feel like we prioritize it the way that we 213 00:11:02,040 --> 00:11:04,560 Speaker 1: should because we're so I get it we're so busy, 214 00:11:05,160 --> 00:11:07,400 Speaker 1: and so I said, one of my favorite Oh am, 215 00:11:07,440 --> 00:11:08,000 Speaker 1: I upsetting it. 216 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:13,839 Speaker 2: No, No, I think those everything's relative, isn't it, And 217 00:11:13,920 --> 00:11:18,520 Speaker 2: those reasons for you've done three movies in three months, 218 00:11:19,200 --> 00:11:24,400 Speaker 2: which is a lot logistical. I know patons that change, okay, 219 00:11:24,440 --> 00:11:25,120 Speaker 2: but continue. 220 00:11:25,320 --> 00:11:28,000 Speaker 1: But I was saying to her, like, one of my 221 00:11:28,080 --> 00:11:32,360 Speaker 1: favorite things that we do is a at home date night, 222 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:34,400 Speaker 1: I said, but and I love that. You know, we 223 00:11:34,600 --> 00:11:36,160 Speaker 1: we eat in the dining room, we change it up, 224 00:11:36,200 --> 00:11:38,200 Speaker 1: you put a candle there, we play games, we don't 225 00:11:38,320 --> 00:11:40,559 Speaker 1: just do watch a movie. So it is it is 226 00:11:40,679 --> 00:11:42,600 Speaker 1: one of my favorite date nights. But I also think 227 00:11:42,640 --> 00:11:47,080 Speaker 1: in a way it's kind of an eat I don't 228 00:11:47,080 --> 00:11:48,599 Speaker 1: want to say an easy wayut because I really like, 229 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:51,800 Speaker 1: I love you make it so sweet and it's so thoughtful. 230 00:11:52,760 --> 00:11:56,960 Speaker 1: But when we went out finally for our like our 231 00:11:57,040 --> 00:12:01,080 Speaker 1: first date of the year, essentially in March, uh, I mean, 232 00:12:01,120 --> 00:12:02,439 Speaker 1: I know that's a little bit of a stretch, but 233 00:12:03,280 --> 00:12:06,040 Speaker 1: we we didn't just go to dinner and go home. 234 00:12:06,480 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 1: We were in downtown Franklin and we're like, let's go 235 00:12:08,640 --> 00:12:11,439 Speaker 1: for a walk. Let's go just walk down the street, 236 00:12:11,480 --> 00:12:15,559 Speaker 1: and we did something that was an that wasn't just 237 00:12:15,720 --> 00:12:17,839 Speaker 1: the mundane like We're going to go out to get 238 00:12:18,120 --> 00:12:19,520 Speaker 1: dressed up and go out to dinner and then go 239 00:12:19,640 --> 00:12:21,520 Speaker 1: back home and then let's call it a date like 240 00:12:21,600 --> 00:12:24,240 Speaker 1: we Actually I feel like that night was the first 241 00:12:24,280 --> 00:12:28,439 Speaker 1: time we actually dated each other this year, and I 242 00:12:28,480 --> 00:12:30,040 Speaker 1: feel like I would like to do more of that 243 00:12:30,840 --> 00:12:35,400 Speaker 1: because I felt better and more, I felt more connected 244 00:12:35,440 --> 00:12:38,920 Speaker 1: to you. Okay, that night, Does that make sense? 245 00:12:39,440 --> 00:12:41,160 Speaker 2: Yes, So always do that by the end of the year. 246 00:12:41,480 --> 00:12:45,640 Speaker 1: Okay, I guess I'm doing like more like small pieces. 247 00:12:46,200 --> 00:12:49,120 Speaker 2: But I'm joking. I'm joking. No, I know what you mean. 248 00:12:49,480 --> 00:12:51,920 Speaker 1: But also I'm really excited because I want to go 249 00:12:52,760 --> 00:12:55,199 Speaker 1: somewhere new with you, and I know you've been to 250 00:12:55,280 --> 00:12:57,920 Speaker 1: this place before, but we're going to Paris in October 251 00:12:58,120 --> 00:13:01,199 Speaker 1: for the One Tree Hill Convention. I I don't like 252 00:13:01,280 --> 00:13:03,599 Speaker 1: how everything that we do together is normally tacked on 253 00:13:03,720 --> 00:13:08,480 Speaker 1: to work, but we are going to take two prior 254 00:13:08,600 --> 00:13:12,520 Speaker 1: days and explore and I've never been to Paris. I'm 255 00:13:12,679 --> 00:13:17,520 Speaker 1: so excited, and so that is something I'm really looking 256 00:13:17,559 --> 00:13:20,120 Speaker 1: forward to by the end of the year, is just 257 00:13:20,400 --> 00:13:23,280 Speaker 1: having an adventure with you. Because Italy will hands down, 258 00:13:23,760 --> 00:13:26,400 Speaker 1: it was just hands down the most incredible time with you, 259 00:13:27,880 --> 00:13:31,280 Speaker 1: and so I look forward to just stealing away time, 260 00:13:33,400 --> 00:13:33,800 Speaker 1: how about you? 261 00:13:34,600 --> 00:13:37,600 Speaker 2: Yeah, so mine would be And it gets me thinking. 262 00:13:37,720 --> 00:13:39,800 Speaker 2: You know that little park we were out in Kentucky 263 00:13:40,280 --> 00:13:42,800 Speaker 2: a few days ago, which one we went to? 264 00:13:42,880 --> 00:13:43,080 Speaker 1: Ten? 265 00:13:44,440 --> 00:13:46,920 Speaker 2: Yeah, the one that's the one that the kids can 266 00:13:47,640 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 2: have the little cat Oh yeah, I. 267 00:13:48,960 --> 00:13:50,720 Speaker 1: Love it was so cute. If you're in Kentucky, there's 268 00:13:50,720 --> 00:13:54,280 Speaker 1: a really cute place called the Children's Are Our Breedom. Yeah, 269 00:13:54,760 --> 00:13:55,280 Speaker 1: super cute. 270 00:13:55,840 --> 00:13:59,800 Speaker 2: So we'll setting there and those the low low cabin 271 00:14:00,040 --> 00:14:03,600 Speaker 2: and there's a little stone fire, there's all the wood chips, 272 00:14:03,720 --> 00:14:07,000 Speaker 2: and I'm sitting there and I'm thinking, if this had 273 00:14:07,040 --> 00:14:10,000 Speaker 2: a lake and it was just a cabin with a 274 00:14:10,080 --> 00:14:13,319 Speaker 2: fire pit, I would love to be with you for 275 00:14:13,600 --> 00:14:17,840 Speaker 2: just two or three days, just the two of us, nature, 276 00:14:18,440 --> 00:14:24,800 Speaker 2: the cabin buyers water. So I will need to I 277 00:14:24,960 --> 00:14:25,840 Speaker 2: need to get that arranged. 278 00:14:26,880 --> 00:14:27,640 Speaker 1: That sounds great. 279 00:14:28,040 --> 00:14:32,680 Speaker 2: But like a remote cabin, yeah, not loads of not 280 00:14:32,840 --> 00:14:34,840 Speaker 2: loads of cabins around it, Like a remote one in 281 00:14:34,960 --> 00:14:38,400 Speaker 2: the in the woods that's got that's got access to 282 00:14:38,520 --> 00:14:41,000 Speaker 2: water and we can just sit there and switch off 283 00:14:41,080 --> 00:14:44,800 Speaker 2: for three days. Hopefully there's no phone. We'll need phone 284 00:14:44,840 --> 00:14:45,640 Speaker 2: signal for the kids. 285 00:14:45,880 --> 00:14:49,040 Speaker 1: Yeah. I think it's an important thing though to ask, 286 00:14:49,120 --> 00:14:52,600 Speaker 1: because so I've been doing this thing. I haven't actually 287 00:14:52,640 --> 00:14:55,960 Speaker 1: even told you. So I've been doing this thing on 288 00:14:56,080 --> 00:15:00,520 Speaker 1: my notes, and it's I've never ever done this in 289 00:15:00,600 --> 00:15:03,640 Speaker 1: any other year. But for some reason, at the end 290 00:15:03,720 --> 00:15:06,080 Speaker 1: of the year, you kind of go, what, like what 291 00:15:06,240 --> 00:15:08,600 Speaker 1: actually happened in each month and how did I feel 292 00:15:08,760 --> 00:15:11,880 Speaker 1: and what was like It couldn't have all been bad, 293 00:15:11,960 --> 00:15:13,760 Speaker 1: it couldn't have all been great like there had like 294 00:15:13,880 --> 00:15:16,800 Speaker 1: what was the what was the journey in the year? 295 00:15:16,960 --> 00:15:19,360 Speaker 1: And so I started I have a thing on my 296 00:15:19,440 --> 00:15:23,560 Speaker 1: notes that says the year and each month it's like January. 297 00:15:23,720 --> 00:15:26,280 Speaker 1: January was an overall good month. Some highs were shooting 298 00:15:26,280 --> 00:15:29,400 Speaker 1: a movie with great people, but I put the highs 299 00:15:29,400 --> 00:15:33,440 Speaker 1: in the low and what happened? I'm doing this, No, 300 00:15:33,520 --> 00:15:37,040 Speaker 1: I'm doing this like on my phone and so, but 301 00:15:37,240 --> 00:15:42,200 Speaker 1: what has been the common theme was January. The low 302 00:15:42,280 --> 00:15:46,920 Speaker 1: was disconnection from Alan, you know, because we've just been busy. 303 00:15:47,040 --> 00:15:50,960 Speaker 1: February was a stressful month with Roman being sick and 304 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:54,520 Speaker 1: then but I always end with like a high and 305 00:15:55,560 --> 00:15:59,080 Speaker 1: it's just interesting because you know, now with April, I 306 00:15:59,120 --> 00:16:01,320 Speaker 1: said only negative be not as much connection time with 307 00:16:01,400 --> 00:16:03,760 Speaker 1: my husband, and so I'm starting to notice a little 308 00:16:03,800 --> 00:16:05,240 Speaker 1: bit of a trend. And that's where I'm like, I 309 00:16:06,160 --> 00:16:09,880 Speaker 1: want to not let that go because then I think 310 00:16:09,960 --> 00:16:14,080 Speaker 1: that's where our frustrations could you know, pile up, because 311 00:16:14,080 --> 00:16:15,320 Speaker 1: and then it won't be about the ring on the 312 00:16:15,400 --> 00:16:17,960 Speaker 1: table that I'm freaking out about. It's because I don't 313 00:16:17,960 --> 00:16:20,560 Speaker 1: feel connected to you, and I know and it's not 314 00:16:20,720 --> 00:16:24,400 Speaker 1: anyone's fault other than life and kids and all the 315 00:16:24,440 --> 00:16:26,480 Speaker 1: million moving pieces and your work and my work and 316 00:16:26,560 --> 00:16:29,520 Speaker 1: being in different cities and countries, and so I think 317 00:16:30,320 --> 00:16:33,840 Speaker 1: to be able whoever's listening to go, hey, what is 318 00:16:33,920 --> 00:16:36,320 Speaker 1: one thing that we can do this year that would 319 00:16:36,360 --> 00:16:39,120 Speaker 1: be a really good connection time? And for you that 320 00:16:39,200 --> 00:16:40,840 Speaker 1: looks like a cabin and for me it looks so 321 00:16:40,960 --> 00:16:43,240 Speaker 1: like that's yours. That's something that you want to do, 322 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:46,920 Speaker 1: and I am, you know, the the honeymoon and not 323 00:16:46,960 --> 00:16:50,120 Speaker 1: the honeymoon, but the anniversary and the Paris because I 324 00:16:50,280 --> 00:16:52,080 Speaker 1: love having fun with you, like you're my best friend. 325 00:16:52,120 --> 00:16:54,280 Speaker 1: I love to just have fun, and that's how I 326 00:16:54,440 --> 00:16:56,920 Speaker 1: feel like we connect really well. And then it can 327 00:16:57,000 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 1: be even during the day, like let's make sure, we 328 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:01,920 Speaker 1: love to be outside and play tennis. Let's do that 329 00:17:02,000 --> 00:17:05,119 Speaker 1: at least once a month or something where it's talking 330 00:17:05,200 --> 00:17:06,760 Speaker 1: to your husband and saying, this is what I really 331 00:17:06,800 --> 00:17:08,920 Speaker 1: want to do, this is what is important for me, 332 00:17:09,280 --> 00:17:10,800 Speaker 1: for us to be able to connect so that you're 333 00:17:10,840 --> 00:17:13,240 Speaker 1: not at the end of the year going man, we 334 00:17:13,320 --> 00:17:16,520 Speaker 1: didn't really prioritize us and we are the glue that 335 00:17:16,680 --> 00:17:17,560 Speaker 1: holds everything together. 336 00:17:18,480 --> 00:17:26,960 Speaker 2: Absolutely so o bib okay these habits. Then in next next. 337 00:17:27,080 --> 00:17:31,119 Speaker 1: Section, I was thinking about when it comes to who 338 00:17:31,240 --> 00:17:35,800 Speaker 1: does what. And it's interesting because the topic that you 339 00:17:35,920 --> 00:17:39,600 Speaker 1: brought up about you have more empathy maybe for or 340 00:17:39,720 --> 00:17:43,400 Speaker 1: you just more like appreciation. I'll say that for kind 341 00:17:43,480 --> 00:17:46,480 Speaker 1: of all the things that moms do and you, I'll 342 00:17:46,520 --> 00:17:48,840 Speaker 1: say this, you do a lot. You do more than 343 00:17:49,440 --> 00:17:52,600 Speaker 1: any husband I ever had, Like you do you do 344 00:17:52,920 --> 00:18:00,479 Speaker 1: so much so and I appreciate that. But I'm curious 345 00:18:00,840 --> 00:18:03,200 Speaker 1: because when I look at these questions, so it's the 346 00:18:03,280 --> 00:18:06,480 Speaker 1: weird division of chores, and it's who does the dishes, 347 00:18:06,520 --> 00:18:08,560 Speaker 1: who cooks, who cleans up the dog poop, who wipes 348 00:18:08,600 --> 00:18:13,280 Speaker 1: down the counters, who's changing diapers, cleaning bathrooms? And I 349 00:18:13,440 --> 00:18:16,240 Speaker 1: feel like for me, I go to a this is 350 00:18:16,280 --> 00:18:18,000 Speaker 1: a there's a there's a man's job, and there's a 351 00:18:18,040 --> 00:18:22,520 Speaker 1: woman's job. And sometimes when the woman feels like she's 352 00:18:22,600 --> 00:18:25,639 Speaker 1: doing some of the men's job, that's where maybe the 353 00:18:26,080 --> 00:18:30,520 Speaker 1: frustration comes in. Is that true? Maybe to be said, 354 00:18:31,000 --> 00:18:35,960 Speaker 1: I love it. Well. Have you ever cleaned your outside bathroom? 355 00:18:36,760 --> 00:18:36,960 Speaker 2: Yeah? 356 00:18:37,800 --> 00:18:39,439 Speaker 1: Lies? Oh? 357 00:18:39,560 --> 00:18:39,800 Speaker 2: Lies? 358 00:18:39,840 --> 00:18:42,600 Speaker 1: I have when last year. 359 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:45,800 Speaker 2: When we moved in, I cleaned it three weeks ago 360 00:18:45,840 --> 00:18:47,920 Speaker 2: because I knew people were going to start using the pool. 361 00:18:48,119 --> 00:18:50,120 Speaker 2: And the people start using the pool, then they start 362 00:18:50,160 --> 00:18:53,959 Speaker 2: to use the outside bathroom. Yes, it was cleaned. 363 00:18:56,480 --> 00:18:59,600 Speaker 1: But I think when it comes to like dog poop stuff, 364 00:18:59,600 --> 00:19:00,640 Speaker 1: I don't want toick up the dog pup. 365 00:19:00,840 --> 00:19:02,639 Speaker 2: You don't. You never pack up? 366 00:19:02,800 --> 00:19:04,800 Speaker 1: I know because I'm like, if that's the one thing 367 00:19:04,880 --> 00:19:07,040 Speaker 1: I don't do, pick up the damn dog pup, I do. 368 00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:12,200 Speaker 1: I understand that, I know because I do ninety percent 369 00:19:12,240 --> 00:19:19,639 Speaker 1: of the other things. Okay, you agree? 370 00:19:21,200 --> 00:19:23,480 Speaker 2: When did I say I agree that you're doing and 371 00:19:23,600 --> 00:19:26,920 Speaker 2: you and you pick up the poop? Okay, So there's 372 00:19:27,600 --> 00:19:30,720 Speaker 2: six things on the list here, right, Who does the dishies, 373 00:19:30,920 --> 00:19:32,400 Speaker 2: the dishwashing the dishes? 374 00:19:33,480 --> 00:19:35,840 Speaker 1: No, we both do. We're very much the people. I 375 00:19:35,960 --> 00:19:39,000 Speaker 1: cannot have dishes in the sink. It gives me hives. 376 00:19:39,720 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 2: Who cooks you seventy percent? 377 00:19:42,240 --> 00:19:44,359 Speaker 1: Me? Yeah, it's a good seventy thirty split. 378 00:19:44,760 --> 00:19:44,960 Speaker 2: Yeah. 379 00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:47,159 Speaker 1: In the thirties, I got the three dishes that I 380 00:19:47,240 --> 00:19:47,760 Speaker 1: always think. 381 00:19:48,200 --> 00:19:51,960 Speaker 2: Who cleans up the dogs? Yea naturl and heat and 382 00:19:52,040 --> 00:19:55,480 Speaker 2: wind sometimes picks it away because it's so tiny, but 383 00:19:56,000 --> 00:20:00,280 Speaker 2: predominantly me. Right. Who wipes down the counters? I wipe 384 00:20:00,320 --> 00:20:02,520 Speaker 2: down the counters? Users wipe them again? 385 00:20:03,480 --> 00:20:06,320 Speaker 1: Oh my god, you don't properly wipe the counters. 386 00:20:06,560 --> 00:20:09,080 Speaker 2: When I'm cleaning up, I wipe. I wipe the counters. 387 00:20:09,160 --> 00:20:11,879 Speaker 2: They might not be to your satisfaction, but but you 388 00:20:12,600 --> 00:20:16,440 Speaker 2: you like to wipe the counters. Yes, yeah, because you 389 00:20:16,520 --> 00:20:20,320 Speaker 2: miss who's changing who's changing diapers? That's one million percent 390 00:20:20,400 --> 00:20:25,760 Speaker 2: of fifty fifty splat. Okay, you disagree, No, I think 391 00:20:25,800 --> 00:20:26,879 Speaker 2: we're good. Look, we're good for that. 392 00:20:27,080 --> 00:20:27,280 Speaker 1: Yeah. 393 00:20:27,920 --> 00:20:33,119 Speaker 2: Cleaning bathrooms. So we've touched on the outside bathroom. The 394 00:20:33,240 --> 00:20:37,639 Speaker 2: cleaners kind of clean the bathrooms. But you like to 395 00:20:37,720 --> 00:20:39,240 Speaker 2: have a little You like to have a little trash 396 00:20:39,280 --> 00:20:43,120 Speaker 2: can that overflows, and now don't they you sure do. Yeah, 397 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:46,760 Speaker 2: But at the cleaning bathrooms, I think of the stuff 398 00:20:46,800 --> 00:20:47,800 Speaker 2: to pick up. We pick up? 399 00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:51,000 Speaker 1: Yeah again, I just it just goes back to I 400 00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:53,240 Speaker 1: think women and men see things differently. So if you 401 00:20:53,280 --> 00:20:56,800 Speaker 1: can divide what would be important to you what the 402 00:20:56,880 --> 00:20:59,120 Speaker 1: other would the people need help with? Like I cannot, 403 00:20:59,359 --> 00:21:02,760 Speaker 1: for example, if that rug is still there when I 404 00:21:02,840 --> 00:21:06,240 Speaker 1: get home, I can't physically lift that rug. Please don't 405 00:21:06,280 --> 00:21:07,919 Speaker 1: make me call the neighbors something. 406 00:21:07,960 --> 00:21:08,760 Speaker 2: The rug is gone. 407 00:21:09,160 --> 00:21:10,800 Speaker 1: You got it gone, Okay, But it's been there for 408 00:21:11,000 --> 00:21:13,000 Speaker 1: months and it's had a big old stain on it, 409 00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:15,359 Speaker 1: and I can't keep looking at it. And I'm just like, 410 00:21:15,520 --> 00:21:17,119 Speaker 1: I will move the table and I will end up 411 00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:20,399 Speaker 1: hurting my back. Please, I'm begging you. I look at 412 00:21:20,440 --> 00:21:23,240 Speaker 1: it every time I walk through the dining room. It's awful. 413 00:21:24,000 --> 00:21:26,399 Speaker 2: The rug is going to and discuss what the new 414 00:21:26,480 --> 00:21:27,000 Speaker 2: one looks like. 415 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:28,879 Speaker 1: I think we're just going to leave it right now, 416 00:21:29,280 --> 00:21:30,920 Speaker 1: because then it's more work for me. 417 00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:33,840 Speaker 2: I need to take away the lightning on them things 418 00:21:34,640 --> 00:21:37,800 Speaker 2: still there. I thought we're going to replace the rug. 419 00:21:38,440 --> 00:21:41,680 Speaker 1: I just would like to keep it clean for a minute, right, Okay. 420 00:21:54,720 --> 00:21:56,800 Speaker 1: Another thing for you couples out there, Let's do a 421 00:21:56,840 --> 00:22:02,920 Speaker 1: good old division and I do the laundry, and I 422 00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:05,640 Speaker 1: get frustrated when you put the laundry in when I'm 423 00:22:05,680 --> 00:22:07,640 Speaker 1: not ready to do the laundry, because there's a time 424 00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:10,639 Speaker 1: when I'm ready to do the laundry. But when you 425 00:22:10,800 --> 00:22:12,960 Speaker 1: need something washed, you throw it in because it's on 426 00:22:13,040 --> 00:22:15,879 Speaker 1: your timing and when you need it. And then I 427 00:22:16,200 --> 00:22:18,639 Speaker 1: then have to be the one to do the transferring 428 00:22:18,680 --> 00:22:20,920 Speaker 1: and then folding when I'm not ready to do that, 429 00:22:21,160 --> 00:22:22,800 Speaker 1: and then I get frustrated because I'm like, don't add 430 00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:24,240 Speaker 1: this to my plate. I don't want to fold the 431 00:22:24,280 --> 00:22:27,399 Speaker 1: laundry right now. And do you know people actually pay 432 00:22:27,480 --> 00:22:29,159 Speaker 1: for someone to come in and do their laundry. I 433 00:22:29,200 --> 00:22:33,320 Speaker 1: would never do that, no judgment, but I actually like 434 00:22:33,400 --> 00:22:35,640 Speaker 1: folding laundry. I just don't like putting it away, which 435 00:22:36,000 --> 00:22:38,480 Speaker 1: you have been now putting away. So that's been nice. 436 00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:41,399 Speaker 2: Yeah, when you come back, there'll be no laundry in 437 00:22:41,440 --> 00:22:44,480 Speaker 2: the laundry room, thank you. The rug will be gone, 438 00:22:46,359 --> 00:22:48,320 Speaker 2: things that you asked me to do that the house 439 00:22:48,359 --> 00:22:53,520 Speaker 2: will not be spotless because I'm busy, very busy, and 440 00:22:53,600 --> 00:22:55,840 Speaker 2: probably will be easy through midnight late. 441 00:22:56,119 --> 00:22:58,160 Speaker 1: It's good to have these conversations though. 442 00:22:58,160 --> 00:23:00,200 Speaker 2: But yeah, listen, I know how you like that host 443 00:23:00,240 --> 00:23:04,200 Speaker 2: when you get back. So as a respectful husband, I'll 444 00:23:04,320 --> 00:23:05,320 Speaker 2: time and get it's close to. 445 00:23:07,119 --> 00:23:08,720 Speaker 1: I just don't want to say any rings on the table. 446 00:23:08,880 --> 00:23:13,119 Speaker 1: That's my only relationship headlines Alex Cooper reveals what couples 447 00:23:13,200 --> 00:23:15,880 Speaker 1: need to do before getting married, shares husband Matt Caplan's 448 00:23:15,920 --> 00:23:21,600 Speaker 1: best marriage advice. So Alex Cooper, she's obviously a hit podcaster, 449 00:23:22,040 --> 00:23:24,240 Speaker 1: call her daddy. She follows me on Instagram and I'm like, 450 00:23:24,320 --> 00:23:27,280 Speaker 1: oh my god, Alex. I don't know if she actually 451 00:23:27,320 --> 00:23:29,639 Speaker 1: does or for her people did, but I just love her. 452 00:23:29,720 --> 00:23:32,720 Speaker 1: I think she's great. She in the host and her 453 00:23:32,760 --> 00:23:35,960 Speaker 1: friend Lauren discussed a marriage as not only a test 454 00:23:36,000 --> 00:23:40,560 Speaker 1: of love, but compatibility as well. So she had said 455 00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:44,240 Speaker 1: she called a bit of wisdom her husband often relies on. 456 00:23:44,480 --> 00:23:47,080 Speaker 1: There's so much more to marriage than love, if anything, 457 00:23:47,240 --> 00:23:50,040 Speaker 1: that's the easiest part. Cooper encouraged listeners to consider a 458 00:23:50,119 --> 00:23:53,159 Speaker 1: number of aspects before thinking about engagement or marriage, morals, 459 00:23:53,200 --> 00:23:55,720 Speaker 1: careers and family, as well as money, potential, in laws, 460 00:23:55,840 --> 00:24:03,800 Speaker 1: and overall hopes for the future. So, I mean, I 461 00:24:04,160 --> 00:24:08,439 Speaker 1: agree with her on having those types of conversations before 462 00:24:10,240 --> 00:24:16,960 Speaker 1: obviously getting married. I regret not having some of those 463 00:24:17,040 --> 00:24:24,720 Speaker 1: conversations for sure before I got married prior so obviously 464 00:24:25,359 --> 00:24:30,520 Speaker 1: moral check was wildly off on my last one as 465 00:24:30,560 --> 00:24:32,800 Speaker 1: long as as well as some other things on there. 466 00:24:32,840 --> 00:24:36,280 Speaker 1: But I feel like we because we had been through 467 00:24:38,320 --> 00:24:45,480 Speaker 1: relationships that had some difficulty that we definitely talked through. 468 00:24:45,359 --> 00:24:48,639 Speaker 2: A lot of it. Yeah, I think we knew we 469 00:24:48,760 --> 00:24:52,840 Speaker 2: didn't want, Yeah, which was important. We knew what we 470 00:24:53,000 --> 00:24:57,560 Speaker 2: wanted that we knew we wanted to be in the 471 00:24:57,680 --> 00:24:59,399 Speaker 2: life in this phase of our life when you we 472 00:24:59,480 --> 00:25:02,760 Speaker 2: certainly we didn't want involved in our day to day 473 00:25:04,200 --> 00:25:08,280 Speaker 2: Now it was always perfect, No, it's not, but I 474 00:25:08,359 --> 00:25:13,680 Speaker 2: think we had conversations that made listen. I think when 475 00:25:13,720 --> 00:25:15,920 Speaker 2: we were into marriage, Before we were into marriage, we 476 00:25:16,000 --> 00:25:19,440 Speaker 2: were also you were also pregnant as well. It was 477 00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:22,520 Speaker 2: a little bit different than than maybe as for maybe 478 00:25:22,600 --> 00:25:27,800 Speaker 2: as for some people. But there's as a shoe touched 479 00:25:27,840 --> 00:25:31,440 Speaker 2: on the face faith values in building a shared identity piece. 480 00:25:32,200 --> 00:25:35,200 Speaker 1: No, I was curious if there was anything we you 481 00:25:35,280 --> 00:25:37,040 Speaker 1: don't think we matched up on that we had to 482 00:25:37,119 --> 00:25:37,480 Speaker 1: work through. 483 00:25:42,040 --> 00:25:42,920 Speaker 2: No, I don't think so. 484 00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:46,120 Speaker 1: Yeah, because when I think about money, we're very much both. 485 00:25:47,400 --> 00:25:50,040 Speaker 1: We're both frugal in a way where we don't spend 486 00:25:50,080 --> 00:25:52,880 Speaker 1: a lot of money, We don't. I think our only 487 00:25:53,000 --> 00:25:54,360 Speaker 1: piece has been the faith aspect. 488 00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:56,880 Speaker 2: Yeah, you would. I know for a fact, you would 489 00:25:56,960 --> 00:26:00,720 Speaker 2: rather I was more in touch with. 490 00:26:02,280 --> 00:26:05,159 Speaker 1: It's not that I rather you more in touch. I 491 00:26:05,400 --> 00:26:09,040 Speaker 1: just maybe the comfortability with it where it's because I 492 00:26:09,119 --> 00:26:14,040 Speaker 1: can sense your uncomfortableness at times with it and it 493 00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,280 Speaker 1: used to bother me. But now it's like, I'm just 494 00:26:16,520 --> 00:26:21,160 Speaker 1: gonna still do all these things because it's my it's 495 00:26:21,200 --> 00:26:23,359 Speaker 1: my it's you know, that's my faith, and that's my 496 00:26:23,480 --> 00:26:26,920 Speaker 1: kid's faith and in the praying and you know, but 497 00:26:27,119 --> 00:26:29,480 Speaker 1: I wish we could bring it more into our marriage. Yeah, 498 00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:31,880 Speaker 1: I do for sure? 499 00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:35,240 Speaker 2: What part what would you What would you rather I do? 500 00:26:36,000 --> 00:26:37,639 Speaker 2: What would you like to see me do that I 501 00:26:37,760 --> 00:26:38,840 Speaker 2: don't do right now? 502 00:26:39,520 --> 00:26:42,480 Speaker 1: To me to have like when I think of and 503 00:26:42,640 --> 00:26:45,160 Speaker 1: please don't take this the wrong way in any sense, 504 00:26:46,400 --> 00:26:49,320 Speaker 1: but a man that is sturdy in his faith, I 505 00:26:49,400 --> 00:26:52,560 Speaker 1: think is like the and I never had that as 506 00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:55,760 Speaker 1: like my father wasn't like that. My mom now has 507 00:26:55,840 --> 00:27:00,600 Speaker 1: a faith aspect or you know, but I but I 508 00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:03,320 Speaker 1: think kind of even when I'm saying this right now, 509 00:27:03,960 --> 00:27:07,199 Speaker 1: I'm glad that one of us has that for the family. 510 00:27:07,920 --> 00:27:11,960 Speaker 1: So where I have always pictured it being a man 511 00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:15,520 Speaker 1: having that the rock of the faith of the family, 512 00:27:15,640 --> 00:27:21,359 Speaker 1: and that's who you know, the family looks up to 513 00:27:21,480 --> 00:27:24,480 Speaker 1: in the faith. I kind of go, no, it's okay, 514 00:27:24,800 --> 00:27:28,280 Speaker 1: it's okay that it's me in that role. And then 515 00:27:28,320 --> 00:27:30,920 Speaker 1: it's okay, that's not both of us. I'll still but 516 00:27:31,080 --> 00:27:33,880 Speaker 1: it would be I think nice to I guess bring 517 00:27:33,960 --> 00:27:38,480 Speaker 1: it in when we are maybe having like I've never 518 00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:41,720 Speaker 1: been able to really pray with a couple, like with 519 00:27:41,920 --> 00:27:46,760 Speaker 1: with a partner, and I think that makes you uncomfortable 520 00:27:47,800 --> 00:27:49,480 Speaker 1: if we were to ever do that. So I never have. 521 00:27:49,760 --> 00:27:54,840 Speaker 1: I mean I quietly do it. But it's like and 522 00:27:55,160 --> 00:27:58,720 Speaker 1: I think, I'm as long as you believe in you know, 523 00:27:58,800 --> 00:28:02,359 Speaker 1: and you come, you are willing, like you like coming 524 00:28:02,400 --> 00:28:06,720 Speaker 1: to church, and I do, like I've just had to 525 00:28:06,880 --> 00:28:08,480 Speaker 1: kind of change and go, no, no, it's okay that 526 00:28:08,640 --> 00:28:12,920 Speaker 1: I'm what my vision is, Okay, that I am the 527 00:28:13,040 --> 00:28:18,359 Speaker 1: one the center of the faith, and that it can then. 528 00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:21,600 Speaker 2: Branch out, Okay, can I can? 529 00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:23,200 Speaker 1: I I'm also so new to it, so it's really 530 00:28:23,240 --> 00:28:24,520 Speaker 1: hard because I'm like, I don't. 531 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:28,840 Speaker 2: Yeah you are, which is which is fine, but I can. 532 00:28:29,000 --> 00:28:31,440 Speaker 2: I'd also like to say something, and not in defense 533 00:28:31,520 --> 00:28:33,680 Speaker 2: of me, because I know I know that I'm not 534 00:28:35,240 --> 00:28:37,080 Speaker 2: I'm not the one that's going to instigate a prayer 535 00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:39,440 Speaker 2: or I'm not the one that's going to Maybe the 536 00:28:39,480 --> 00:28:41,360 Speaker 2: odd time i'll say, if do you want to go 537 00:28:41,400 --> 00:28:44,160 Speaker 2: to church? If we're not planned on going. I think 538 00:28:44,240 --> 00:28:47,200 Speaker 2: maybe once or twice i've said that because I actually 539 00:28:47,320 --> 00:28:48,000 Speaker 2: like going to church. 540 00:28:48,240 --> 00:28:49,800 Speaker 1: Yeah, we have an awesome pastor, he's great. 541 00:28:49,840 --> 00:28:52,400 Speaker 2: Yeah, the messaging is always really good. There's a lot 542 00:28:52,440 --> 00:28:56,880 Speaker 2: of singing is on at the beginning, but but the 543 00:28:56,920 --> 00:29:01,320 Speaker 2: messages that always excellent, always excellent, actually enjoy and every 544 00:29:01,360 --> 00:29:03,360 Speaker 2: time I go, I'm like glad, I'm glad that I went. 545 00:29:04,040 --> 00:29:06,440 Speaker 2: But I want to be really clear and like, so 546 00:29:06,520 --> 00:29:09,720 Speaker 2: you're talking about you've always wanted a man who's study 547 00:29:09,800 --> 00:29:12,520 Speaker 2: and stable in these faith, So. 548 00:29:12,640 --> 00:29:15,520 Speaker 1: This is but you're so sturdy in your morals and 549 00:29:15,600 --> 00:29:16,800 Speaker 1: you're that this. 550 00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:18,560 Speaker 2: Is this is what I wanted to touch on, because 551 00:29:18,600 --> 00:29:20,680 Speaker 2: you can have men who are study and stable in 552 00:29:20,760 --> 00:29:23,520 Speaker 2: the faith. It's very unstable in the morals and. 553 00:29:23,600 --> 00:29:28,640 Speaker 1: Values one million gazillion percent, and that is where like 554 00:29:28,840 --> 00:29:32,520 Speaker 1: you are. And that's I like, and I was going 555 00:29:32,560 --> 00:29:35,320 Speaker 1: to say that too, because you are so morally sturdy 556 00:29:35,400 --> 00:29:37,160 Speaker 1: and the rock of like, this is what is right, 557 00:29:37,280 --> 00:29:38,800 Speaker 1: this is what is wrong. I will never do this 558 00:29:38,880 --> 00:29:40,480 Speaker 1: to your mom. I will never you know, this is 559 00:29:41,000 --> 00:29:43,280 Speaker 1: this is our wife, you know. So I yes, like 560 00:29:43,480 --> 00:29:44,680 Speaker 1: one million percent. 561 00:29:46,040 --> 00:29:51,000 Speaker 2: So that's that's almost like, Okay, I understand that's not 562 00:29:51,520 --> 00:29:55,480 Speaker 2: where I am as a godly person. I'm not. I'm 563 00:29:55,520 --> 00:30:00,080 Speaker 2: not there yet. I'm not that rock of Christianity you 564 00:30:00,200 --> 00:30:02,640 Speaker 2: want me to be at this point that I want 565 00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:02,960 Speaker 2: you to be. 566 00:30:03,040 --> 00:30:04,120 Speaker 1: I just the comfortable. 567 00:30:05,440 --> 00:30:07,640 Speaker 2: Yeah, so I get that, but you can. I guess 568 00:30:07,720 --> 00:30:09,520 Speaker 2: my point is you can. You can get men who 569 00:30:09,560 --> 00:30:11,600 Speaker 2: are fronted by the study and their faith but are 570 00:30:11,640 --> 00:30:15,960 Speaker 2: absolutely yeah, we know what. Yeah, he'll study in the faith, 571 00:30:16,040 --> 00:30:20,080 Speaker 2: but the morals are lower than a still yep. So 572 00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,360 Speaker 2: therefore I might not be the when it comes to 573 00:30:24,480 --> 00:30:27,720 Speaker 2: the the study in my faith, but you can always 574 00:30:27,760 --> 00:30:29,960 Speaker 2: rely on me when it comes to my morals and values. 575 00:30:30,040 --> 00:30:32,000 Speaker 1: And yeah, and I hope you know that I'm not. 576 00:30:32,480 --> 00:30:37,120 Speaker 1: I'm I love that it's it. I'm okay that it's 577 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:40,600 Speaker 1: not that way because of how morally compassed you are 578 00:30:41,320 --> 00:30:46,880 Speaker 1: and how it doesn't as long as you're open and 579 00:30:46,960 --> 00:30:49,120 Speaker 1: willing to go to church and do you know and 580 00:30:49,240 --> 00:30:52,360 Speaker 1: not like and you know, even with I think it's 581 00:30:52,400 --> 00:30:55,280 Speaker 1: different because now that we have a son together, it's 582 00:30:55,400 --> 00:30:57,600 Speaker 1: I do want Roman to pray, and I hope and 583 00:30:57,640 --> 00:30:59,400 Speaker 1: I guess I've never really asked you if that's okay. 584 00:31:00,160 --> 00:31:02,320 Speaker 1: And I know at dinner, you know you will say prayer, 585 00:31:02,680 --> 00:31:04,480 Speaker 1: prayer hands, but I've never actually said, like, is that 586 00:31:04,560 --> 00:31:07,800 Speaker 1: okay that we're doing this with Roman too. 587 00:31:08,680 --> 00:31:11,120 Speaker 2: I don't mind praying at dinner. I think it's actually 588 00:31:11,160 --> 00:31:13,880 Speaker 2: a positive thing. Okay, if you are to bring my 589 00:31:13,960 --> 00:31:16,400 Speaker 2: mom and dad into the scenario, I'm pretty sure we 590 00:31:16,560 --> 00:31:19,160 Speaker 2: prayed at dinner when I was when I was young. 591 00:31:19,440 --> 00:31:21,360 Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm sorry, I haven't even asked that before. 592 00:31:21,720 --> 00:31:24,000 Speaker 2: Yeah, if you bring my mom and dad in a scenario, 593 00:31:24,160 --> 00:31:26,560 Speaker 2: they would be very comfortable at praying at the table. 594 00:31:26,560 --> 00:31:28,440 Speaker 1: I would imagine, well, your dad does. He does the 595 00:31:28,520 --> 00:31:29,360 Speaker 1: cutest little prayer. 596 00:31:29,880 --> 00:31:32,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, so I just get out of the habit and 597 00:31:32,960 --> 00:31:36,920 Speaker 2: it's yeah, it's not it's not something that I am. 598 00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:42,920 Speaker 2: I'm completely and utterly, one hundred percent not uncomfortable. I 599 00:31:42,960 --> 00:31:44,840 Speaker 2: think when the kids pray at the table, when Romans 600 00:31:44,840 --> 00:31:47,480 Speaker 2: get his little prayer hands, it's cute and I put 601 00:31:47,560 --> 00:31:50,480 Speaker 2: my head down and I pray because that's the end 602 00:31:50,480 --> 00:31:53,160 Speaker 2: of the day. I'm still a Christian. Yeah, I still 603 00:31:53,200 --> 00:31:59,520 Speaker 2: believe in God. Yeah, but yeah study in my faith. 604 00:32:00,000 --> 00:32:04,360 Speaker 2: Maybe not. So You'll also plenty of men that will 605 00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:05,080 Speaker 2: pray with. 606 00:32:05,160 --> 00:32:09,400 Speaker 1: You and then don't we know, but that will come 607 00:32:09,480 --> 00:32:14,800 Speaker 1: with us and then do what they do. Okay, well, listen, 608 00:32:14,920 --> 00:32:19,800 Speaker 1: we have got so many more topics and discussions and 609 00:32:20,080 --> 00:32:25,120 Speaker 1: headline relationship stuff and quotes from therapists, so stay tuned 610 00:32:25,120 --> 00:32:26,480 Speaker 1: for next week because we're going to talk about the 611 00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:28,600 Speaker 1: number one thing you should never say to your partner 612 00:32:28,840 --> 00:32:31,560 Speaker 1: in a fight and our best tip that we learned 613 00:32:31,600 --> 00:32:33,880 Speaker 1: from our couples therapist of want not to do in 614 00:32:33,920 --> 00:32:36,640 Speaker 1: a fight that we are terrible at, but we're going 615 00:32:36,720 --> 00:32:39,720 Speaker 1: to continue to be better at. So stay tuned for 616 00:32:39,920 --> 00:32:41,360 Speaker 1: that one. See you soon, baby,