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Speaker 1: Mm hmm, So.

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Speaker 2: Welcome back to Good Mom's Bad Choices. I'm Erica and

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Speaker 2: I'm Mila. Happy Wednesday, you guys. Happy Wednesday. People.

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Speaker 3: You've made it to another Wednesday where you get to

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Speaker 3: hear our beautiful bosses.

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Speaker 2: Oh wow, that's why they tune in. They're like, I

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Speaker 2: must hear Erica singing la. We're gonna lose his listeners. Like,

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Speaker 2: we didn't come here for this ship. You guys got

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Speaker 2: you guys got popping and think you could sing. Everybody

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Speaker 2: else does it.

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Speaker 3: I'm all doing well, podcasters are doing it.

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Speaker 2: I think we're the late to the singer. I was

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Speaker 2: just saying everybody, I was everybody on the intern. I

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Speaker 2: think they should be a rapper. Amber Rose is a rapper.

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Speaker 2: I'm like, fuck it, let me just spit my little game.

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Speaker 3: Surprise me. It's a song.

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Speaker 2: Surprise me. Wait, take me to Dominican Republic.

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Speaker 3: Spokey that song get stuck in my head?

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Speaker 1: What is it?

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Speaker 3: You don't even know the words? Don't malet me pull

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Speaker 3: it up?

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Speaker 2: Surprise me? Why me and z me? I mean all

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Speaker 2: of them sound the same, so we really could just

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Speaker 2: like do like a one album, do it real quick.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, I think I missed my calling there.

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Speaker 3: I think it's over for me.

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Speaker 2: I don't know, men be becoming like late in life

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Speaker 2: rappers all the time, so I don't know what you're

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Speaker 3: I would like to shoot a music video.

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Speaker 2: That's that's really what I want. I just want the

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Speaker 2: music videos.

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Speaker 3: I mean, I have shot a few music videos in.

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Speaker 2: My in my day, I have it, so we need

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Speaker 2: to make it up. All of our photo shoots are

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Speaker 3: So I just really one time I did a music

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Speaker 3: Jared and actually Sebastian, He and his friends. They dressed

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Speaker 3: me up as a mermaid.

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Speaker 2: Oh, oh my god, I remember this.

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Speaker 3: On the beach, but it was like a gothic mermaid.

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Speaker 3: And so they've like made a tail out of black

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Speaker 2: Oh and then I had like slicked my hair back

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Speaker 2: and I'd glitter and shit and I couldn't move and

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Speaker 3: Have to And then I recently saw something on Instagram

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Speaker 2: Oh they told me searched the internet for that.

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Speaker 3: I must have seen it.

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Speaker 1: What was it? Ian?

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Speaker 3: J yep?

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Speaker 2: Are you still eating? Ja? Look at that?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 2: I know we're not bondage mermaids, So damn, how are you?

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Speaker 2: I'm great?

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Speaker 3: I'm great.

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Speaker 2: I am you know, growing becoming more of a woman

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Speaker 3: I think you were. I think you're a woman.

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Speaker 2: I know, but I'm like getting real two feet in

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Speaker 2: the grown woman. You know. I was in denial for

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Speaker 2: I'm like, bitch, you're an adult. You're doing it. So

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Speaker 2: I'm just, you know, embracing all the growing pains, taking

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Speaker 2: responsibility for my procrastinations, and you know, just I'm excited

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Speaker 3: Also, we just announced our next reach in Saulita, Mexico.

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Speaker 2: Okay, Anyway, today we were joined by a wonderful guest.

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Speaker 2: We're so excited if you guys have joined us already

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Speaker 2: in April. This is we're highlighting all plant medicine, all

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Speaker 2: Afua Supernova.

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Speaker 3: Welcome, Hello, welcome, thank you for joining us.

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Speaker 1: Congratulations on the book.

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Speaker 3: Oh, thank you, putting off. Thank you. I'm so excited

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Speaker 3: to hear about the work that you do because I

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Speaker 1: That's the key. That's the key.

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Speaker 2: Like wow, that yeah, I guess I was going to say,

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Speaker 1: Well yeah, so hmm. Being born and raised vegan in

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Speaker 1: to fight just to beat a young began, you know.

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00:21:06,680 --> 00:21:09,720
Speaker 1: I had to fight because I was the strange one, right,

436
00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:12,040
Speaker 1: So it was a fight between what my mother's world

437
00:21:12,080 --> 00:21:14,359
Speaker 1: was and my father's well was. Hence me being a

438
00:21:14,359 --> 00:21:19,960
Speaker 1: wellness warrior, right, So I call that that affirmative because

439
00:21:20,200 --> 00:21:22,400
Speaker 1: I'm fighting for the better quality of my body, mind,

440
00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:26,000
Speaker 1: and my spirit while I navigate this life. Right, So

441
00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:27,919
Speaker 1: I do everything I can to have the best quality

442
00:21:27,920 --> 00:21:30,639
Speaker 1: of life from a warrior's perspective. Why, we also came

443
00:21:30,640 --> 00:21:33,919
Speaker 1: from the streets, so I understand that rights and passes

444
00:21:33,920 --> 00:21:35,639
Speaker 1: I had to go through as a young man, you know,

445
00:21:35,840 --> 00:21:38,879
Speaker 1: being in this country, as our people, especially the brothers,

446
00:21:39,240 --> 00:21:41,399
Speaker 1: we go through that street rights of passage. You know,

447
00:21:41,440 --> 00:21:43,760
Speaker 1: we go through that. You know that we navigate that

448
00:21:43,800 --> 00:21:47,240
Speaker 1: warrior space a lot of times to our dismay, you know,

449
00:21:47,280 --> 00:21:49,879
Speaker 1: but we navigate it. So concluding the story with the

450
00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:55,840
Speaker 1: sugar crack, I remember I was breaking out, skin was

451
00:21:55,880 --> 00:21:59,399
Speaker 1: looking bad. And I remember when I was on a

452
00:21:59,480 --> 00:22:02,520
Speaker 1: variety of greens, you know, the the micro nutrients I was.

453
00:22:02,640 --> 00:22:04,520
Speaker 1: My skin was always good. I was out of energy.

454
00:22:04,920 --> 00:22:07,679
Speaker 1: I was always a vibrant. And my mother when we

455
00:22:07,680 --> 00:22:10,520
Speaker 1: were when we were small, she three times a day minimum,

456
00:22:10,640 --> 00:22:12,560
Speaker 1: she's giving us some type of green juice, whether she's

457
00:22:12,640 --> 00:22:15,760
Speaker 1: juicing the cucumbers to celebrate, the spinas to kill or

458
00:22:15,920 --> 00:22:19,639
Speaker 1: you know, or she's doing the micael nutrients with the spirillina,

459
00:22:19,760 --> 00:22:22,040
Speaker 1: the corilla, you know they out fout for the dead

460
00:22:22,040 --> 00:22:23,800
Speaker 1: in the line. All of the green Michael nutrients the

461
00:22:23,840 --> 00:22:27,159
Speaker 1: chlorophyll family, right, So she'll she'll just given us that

462
00:22:27,320 --> 00:22:29,440
Speaker 1: because she's we're not getting sick, we're not getting sick

463
00:22:29,440 --> 00:22:32,600
Speaker 1: like everybody else. That she's not getting us anocolated. So

464
00:22:32,640 --> 00:22:35,760
Speaker 1: she was we were able to navigate successfully because she

465
00:22:36,280 --> 00:22:39,760
Speaker 1: was pro nutrient right. A lot of the parents that

466
00:22:39,800 --> 00:22:44,879
Speaker 1: were transitioning to become vegan vegetarians. If they didn't master nutrition,

467
00:22:45,960 --> 00:22:48,960
Speaker 1: not just eating food, but like really understand michael nutrients

468
00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:51,439
Speaker 1: and how much to give your child and right. If

469
00:22:51,440 --> 00:22:54,480
Speaker 1: they didn't understand what that was, then they will be

470
00:22:54,680 --> 00:22:57,240
Speaker 1: called out and they were. Their families in the eighties

471
00:22:57,640 --> 00:23:01,200
Speaker 1: were not supporting, especially black black folks, you know, doing

472
00:23:01,600 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 1: this type of natural lifestyle. It was really a rare,

473
00:23:04,160 --> 00:23:07,639
Speaker 1: so you had to She was pro nutrient right and

474
00:23:07,800 --> 00:23:09,439
Speaker 1: was making sure that we had everything we need so

475
00:23:09,520 --> 00:23:11,840
Speaker 1: we can navigate. So I remembered all of that when

476
00:23:11,840 --> 00:23:15,320
Speaker 1: it was my time to pretty much heal my own self. Okay,

477
00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:18,080
Speaker 1: so I did. I went through that process, and I

478
00:23:18,119 --> 00:23:19,840
Speaker 1: remember going to the Helpful Store one day. I took

479
00:23:19,840 --> 00:23:23,760
Speaker 1: a gallon of greens and uh, I'm gonna took a

480
00:23:23,760 --> 00:23:25,760
Speaker 1: gallon of water. Went to the health of store and

481
00:23:25,800 --> 00:23:28,160
Speaker 1: I got a quarter pounds of the of the weak

482
00:23:28,200 --> 00:23:30,800
Speaker 1: grass burre, leading of the alfalfa, the dana line, the corilla,

483
00:23:30,840 --> 00:23:34,280
Speaker 1: and I asked for a half a pound of the ginger.

484
00:23:34,400 --> 00:23:36,480
Speaker 1: Ginger's good for digestion but also works good with the

485
00:23:37,000 --> 00:23:40,080
Speaker 1: chlorophylic micronutrients. I took a taper spoon of each of

486
00:23:40,119 --> 00:23:42,560
Speaker 1: them and put it in a gallon, shook it up

487
00:23:42,560 --> 00:23:44,720
Speaker 1: and started sipping on that for seven days, and my

488
00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:48,919
Speaker 1: addiction to the sugar crack was going because see the

489
00:23:48,960 --> 00:23:51,119
Speaker 1: process white sugar. I call it the sugar crack because

490
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,720
Speaker 1: it's it cuts the oxygen flow through the body to

491
00:23:54,800 --> 00:23:56,520
Speaker 1: the brain. And this is why you get You get

492
00:23:56,520 --> 00:23:59,680
Speaker 1: the hype, and then you get to get the crash right,

493
00:23:59,800 --> 00:24:02,399
Speaker 1: and you need more to get back up right. And

494
00:24:02,480 --> 00:24:06,359
Speaker 1: so but that's creating that toxic environment in the bloodstream

495
00:24:06,440 --> 00:24:08,879
Speaker 1: and the lack of blood flow. So the chlorophyll and

496
00:24:08,920 --> 00:24:12,840
Speaker 1: its derivatives to micronutrients, the grains, it does the opposite

497
00:24:12,840 --> 00:24:14,520
Speaker 1: of what the sugar cracker is doing. It puts the

498
00:24:14,520 --> 00:24:18,280
Speaker 1: oxygen back into the bloodstream, so it causes the flow. Right.

499
00:24:18,520 --> 00:24:20,960
Speaker 1: So everything that the sugar was doing to stop the flow,

500
00:24:21,600 --> 00:24:25,240
Speaker 1: you know, I read, I re energized the flow by

501
00:24:25,240 --> 00:24:28,680
Speaker 1: having the grains. And once I was able to do

502
00:24:28,720 --> 00:24:31,159
Speaker 1: that for myself, and remember everything my mother taught me

503
00:24:31,200 --> 00:24:35,560
Speaker 1: about micronutrients and the greens and detoxing and especially using

504
00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:40,679
Speaker 1: the chlorophyll properties, I claimed it for myself, you know.

505
00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:43,080
Speaker 1: So this did become old Queen and Fuld's son is vegan,

506
00:24:43,119 --> 00:24:44,760
Speaker 1: you know, because I was raised. It became this is

507
00:24:44,800 --> 00:24:48,879
Speaker 1: my personal testimony for myself overcome my addiction to the foods,

508
00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:51,199
Speaker 1: but then not only overcoming the addiction by doing the

509
00:24:51,200 --> 00:24:54,720
Speaker 1: cleansing physically, understanding what was the root cause emotionally, why

510
00:24:54,840 --> 00:24:57,000
Speaker 1: was I even here in the first place eating all

511
00:24:57,040 --> 00:24:59,320
Speaker 1: of these sweets because I felt there was a bitterness happening.

512
00:25:00,200 --> 00:25:02,280
Speaker 1: I was able to be honest with that process of

513
00:25:02,359 --> 00:25:05,600
Speaker 1: why I was o ding on eating junk food. Right

514
00:25:06,040 --> 00:25:08,800
Speaker 1: then I was able to forgive myself with that and

515
00:25:08,880 --> 00:25:12,280
Speaker 1: heal that. And therefore, when I was physically cleansing with

516
00:25:12,359 --> 00:25:16,199
Speaker 1: the greens and then emotionally healing letting go together, that

517
00:25:16,240 --> 00:25:19,160
Speaker 1: created an environment for me to transform and transcend. It

518
00:25:19,200 --> 00:25:22,840
Speaker 1: wasn't just me detoxic and not checking that emotional space

519
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:26,199
Speaker 1: or checking emotional space but not doing the physical work right.

520
00:25:26,280 --> 00:25:30,200
Speaker 1: It's holistic meaning that everything comes online. Your whole being

521
00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:33,000
Speaker 1: has to come online. It's not about perfection, but you know,

522
00:25:33,200 --> 00:25:35,960
Speaker 1: every day you do something to engage your whole being

523
00:25:36,000 --> 00:25:38,080
Speaker 1: to come online, to be the best version of yourself,

524
00:25:38,119 --> 00:25:40,239
Speaker 1: even it's just for that moment, you know, and then

525
00:25:40,280 --> 00:25:43,000
Speaker 1: you observe yourself. So so this I'm just showing giving

526
00:25:43,040 --> 00:25:45,560
Speaker 1: you all, just the genesis of some of the things

527
00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 1: that I was dealing with, because it's so much, but

528
00:25:47,840 --> 00:25:51,840
Speaker 1: without overwhelming the listeners in y'all, just let y'all know

529
00:25:52,359 --> 00:25:55,040
Speaker 1: just these are the different dynamics I had to navigate

530
00:25:55,080 --> 00:25:57,680
Speaker 1: through and find my balance. And that's pretty much the

531
00:25:57,920 --> 00:26:02,440
Speaker 1: journey that I that I'm blessed to have taken forgiving

532
00:26:02,440 --> 00:26:06,119
Speaker 1: my father, wanting to connect with the homies in the street,

533
00:26:06,160 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 1: the geez, but in a more productive, healthy way, you know.

534
00:26:10,160 --> 00:26:13,159
Speaker 1: And so after I graduated high school, I became like

535
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:15,960
Speaker 1: this wellness evangelist. I would go to my mom's twenty

536
00:26:15,960 --> 00:26:18,479
Speaker 1: one day classes and talk about my own personal my

537
00:26:18,520 --> 00:26:21,760
Speaker 1: own personal transformation, you know. And I would walk around

538
00:26:22,000 --> 00:26:24,280
Speaker 1: New York with my gallon and everywhere I went to

539
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,159
Speaker 1: have my gallon, you know, and people asked me, Hey, no,

540
00:26:26,200 --> 00:26:27,720
Speaker 1: but what you're doing, what you're doing, I'll just tell

541
00:26:27,760 --> 00:26:29,640
Speaker 1: them what it was. I wasn't trying to convince them,

542
00:26:29,840 --> 00:26:32,320
Speaker 1: convert them. I was just sharing that I was addicted

543
00:26:32,359 --> 00:26:36,560
Speaker 1: to the sugar, and having concentrated chlorophyll greens, you know,

544
00:26:36,680 --> 00:26:40,119
Speaker 1: helped to give me ridly me of my addictions and

545
00:26:40,160 --> 00:26:44,040
Speaker 1: my you know, afflictions to that and hey, man give me,

546
00:26:44,080 --> 00:26:45,679
Speaker 1: give me a remedy, let me let me hear something you.

547
00:26:45,680 --> 00:26:47,800
Speaker 1: So I would just be sharing it as I would

548
00:26:47,840 --> 00:26:50,840
Speaker 1: go by as just passing testimonies and remedies and people

549
00:26:50,960 --> 00:26:53,359
Speaker 1: like man, I did I try it at work? So

550
00:26:53,400 --> 00:26:56,680
Speaker 1: I just would be doing it like that. Around that time,

551
00:26:56,720 --> 00:26:59,800
Speaker 1: I met our beloved sister Erica Badu. Right before baydus

552
00:27:00,040 --> 00:27:04,359
Speaker 1: b I Doism came out in ninety six, I was

553
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:07,560
Speaker 1: performing with my band at at this place called the

554
00:27:07,560 --> 00:27:10,199
Speaker 1: Brooklyn Boom the Book and Tea Party, I think it

555
00:27:10,240 --> 00:27:12,679
Speaker 1: was the Book and Tea Party, and she was in

556
00:27:12,720 --> 00:27:16,360
Speaker 1: the audience and we would have featured act that that night,

557
00:27:16,400 --> 00:27:21,520
Speaker 1: Me and my band at the time Altered Egos and yeah,

558
00:27:21,520 --> 00:27:23,960
Speaker 1: we we taught. Now we killed it, and you know,

559
00:27:24,119 --> 00:27:25,919
Speaker 1: her presence was I was like, who is this? I

560
00:27:25,960 --> 00:27:27,320
Speaker 1: saw her in the audience, you know, I didn't know

561
00:27:27,359 --> 00:27:29,960
Speaker 1: who she was, but she the same energy she has,

562
00:27:30,560 --> 00:27:32,280
Speaker 1: you know, as we know her, She had that same

563
00:27:32,359 --> 00:27:38,200
Speaker 1: type of spirit, that same queen energy spirit. Right, So anyway,

564
00:27:38,240 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 1: we connected after the show, she you know, she says

565
00:27:40,640 --> 00:27:43,400
Speaker 1: she loved the show and we bonded and then now

566
00:27:43,520 --> 00:27:47,119
Speaker 1: talking after the show, she we just talked about We

567
00:27:47,200 --> 00:27:49,479
Speaker 1: just talked about everything for like hours, just looking at

568
00:27:49,520 --> 00:27:51,760
Speaker 1: each other, talking about life. And then she talked about

569
00:27:51,800 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 1: how she uh. She talked so about healing and holistic wellness.

570
00:27:56,640 --> 00:27:59,720
Speaker 1: I talked about my journey as being raised vegan, and

571
00:27:59,520 --> 00:28:02,159
Speaker 1: she she just mentioned Queen of Four and she just

572
00:28:02,160 --> 00:28:04,919
Speaker 1: got a book called Hill Byself. I said, it's very interesting.

573
00:28:04,960 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 1: I said, that's that's my mother. Yeah, So we just started.

574
00:28:10,320 --> 00:28:12,239
Speaker 1: So we bonded on that, and so one thing led

575
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:15,359
Speaker 1: to another, and eventually I ended up having a savings

576
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:16,879
Speaker 1: like meet moms. I brought it to the house that

577
00:28:16,880 --> 00:28:19,160
Speaker 1: I meet my mother. My father Boba Herru who actually

578
00:28:19,200 --> 00:28:21,400
Speaker 1: made her her first uncle. She saw the uncle ring

579
00:28:21,640 --> 00:28:24,240
Speaker 1: that's who, that's who lives to what the auns initially,

580
00:28:25,119 --> 00:28:26,520
Speaker 1: so I let them meet the parents and you know,

581
00:28:26,720 --> 00:28:28,760
Speaker 1: and they we all it became a family. We took

582
00:28:28,760 --> 00:28:31,000
Speaker 1: it and she was in New York signed, but she

583
00:28:31,000 --> 00:28:33,080
Speaker 1: didn't really tell nobody she was signed, you know, working

584
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:36,040
Speaker 1: on music. But you know, she let us know, you know,

585
00:28:36,160 --> 00:28:37,520
Speaker 1: what she was doing. We didn't even know. I had

586
00:28:37,520 --> 00:28:39,080
Speaker 1: no idea how big it was going to becoming, what

587
00:28:39,120 --> 00:28:40,880
Speaker 1: she was doing. But I would go to the studio

588
00:28:40,920 --> 00:28:44,960
Speaker 1: with her and it was phenomenal being in the beginning

589
00:28:45,040 --> 00:28:47,800
Speaker 1: of that I doism experience. As a matter of fact,

590
00:28:47,800 --> 00:28:50,600
Speaker 1: a little Badu history for those that love Erica, a

591
00:28:50,600 --> 00:28:55,160
Speaker 1: little trivia that next like no, the next this is

592
00:28:56,040 --> 00:28:58,240
Speaker 1: that next lifetime song. I was supposed to be the

593
00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:00,560
Speaker 1: guy speaking in the middle in the beginning. You don't

594
00:29:00,560 --> 00:29:04,640
Speaker 1: ever you know, I really, but she had so she

595
00:29:04,800 --> 00:29:08,080
Speaker 1: had me in the booth in relationship. She had me

596
00:29:08,120 --> 00:29:10,880
Speaker 1: in the booth. But I kept laughing because she kept

597
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,680
Speaker 1: making these faces and because she first people don't know

598
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: she's a she's a comedian. She could do stand up, honestly,

599
00:29:16,880 --> 00:29:19,360
Speaker 1: like at the level she performs as a singer that

600
00:29:19,520 --> 00:29:22,680
Speaker 1: folks that know her closely, she has that level skill

601
00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:24,480
Speaker 1: that she can do stand up. So she's telling me

602
00:29:24,520 --> 00:29:27,320
Speaker 1: to be serious with her. She's looking at me with

603
00:29:27,400 --> 00:29:29,600
Speaker 1: those eyes and you know, telling me to tell her,

604
00:29:29,640 --> 00:29:31,200
Speaker 1: you know, trying to kick for me to kick it

605
00:29:31,240 --> 00:29:34,400
Speaker 1: to her, to convince her that I need her this lifetime.

606
00:29:34,560 --> 00:29:37,960
Speaker 1: I'm like, as I kept laughing, I would try to go, yeah,

607
00:29:37,960 --> 00:29:39,280
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, but you know I don't

608
00:29:39,280 --> 00:29:43,120
Speaker 1: want to get with you. Then let's start, don't say focused.

609
00:29:43,600 --> 00:29:46,000
Speaker 1: It just kept happening. You couldn't do it. I couldn't

610
00:29:46,000 --> 00:29:49,920
Speaker 1: do it, missed, So she pulled. She pulled either either

611
00:29:49,960 --> 00:29:53,120
Speaker 1: she pulled the producer, somebody in the camp. So the producer,

612
00:29:53,160 --> 00:29:56,000
Speaker 1: the writer, somebody was affiliated with the session. He came

613
00:29:56,040 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 1: in and he got serious and he did it, and

614
00:29:58,560 --> 00:30:00,200
Speaker 1: I missed my opportunity.

615
00:29:59,760 --> 00:30:02,440
Speaker 3: On next you know, her relationship put me in an

616
00:30:02,440 --> 00:30:03,160
Speaker 3: awkward position.

617
00:30:04,200 --> 00:30:06,160
Speaker 1: Well, you know, I'm just feeling you. I'm just trying to.

618
00:30:07,640 --> 00:30:09,840
Speaker 2: Opportunity supposed.

619
00:30:13,160 --> 00:30:15,920
Speaker 1: That's right, That's right. So all of that, So all

620
00:30:15,960 --> 00:30:19,400
Speaker 1: of that happened, right, and so so you know, now

621
00:30:19,440 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 1: with this newfound you know, excitement for wellness. My sister

622
00:30:25,360 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 1: took me on tour with her, but who took me

623
00:30:26,640 --> 00:30:28,960
Speaker 1: on tour? So so she was my first introduction into

624
00:30:29,000 --> 00:30:32,520
Speaker 1: the world as uh the medicine man known as the

625
00:30:32,560 --> 00:30:34,080
Speaker 1: hip hop medicine Man. As a matter of fact, I got

626
00:30:34,200 --> 00:30:37,640
Speaker 1: I got the aff the affirmative title hip hop medicine

627
00:30:37,640 --> 00:30:40,680
Speaker 1: Man because we were on tour and we did a

628
00:30:40,760 --> 00:30:42,560
Speaker 1: bunch of dates for Buster and Rhymes, and I would

629
00:30:42,560 --> 00:30:44,600
Speaker 1: see him in split and I would you know, with Erica,

630
00:30:44,640 --> 00:30:46,040
Speaker 1: I had to be on the road with my juicer

631
00:30:46,320 --> 00:30:50,120
Speaker 1: because I was, you know, I was the medicine for yes,

632
00:30:50,280 --> 00:30:52,800
Speaker 1: you know. Andre Dre with two thousand was on the

633
00:30:52,800 --> 00:30:54,560
Speaker 1: tour with us when he could be and uh at

634
00:30:54,560 --> 00:30:55,440
Speaker 1: that point she was.

635
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:58,160
Speaker 4: Predict with seven. So I was thinking all the juices.

636
00:30:58,240 --> 00:31:00,000
Speaker 4: I mean, we went all around the world, but anyway

637
00:31:00,040 --> 00:31:02,000
Speaker 4: west around. Every time I would see him, I'll run

638
00:31:02,080 --> 00:31:02,960
Speaker 4: and give him a green droops.

639
00:31:03,240 --> 00:31:05,280
Speaker 5: He said, oh, I got to drink it now, nobody's all.

640
00:31:05,360 --> 00:31:05,720
Speaker 5: He said.

641
00:31:05,840 --> 00:31:07,800
Speaker 4: You know, you're a medicine man. You know, your hip

642
00:31:07,800 --> 00:31:10,200
Speaker 4: hop's medicine man. When he said it, it stuck. I said, yeah,

643
00:31:10,360 --> 00:31:12,720
Speaker 4: that's pretty much. I'm a hip hop artist. I love

644
00:31:13,120 --> 00:31:16,200
Speaker 4: this work, you know. And yeah, so you know, she

645
00:31:16,240 --> 00:31:17,880
Speaker 4: took me around the world and I met all types

646
00:31:17,880 --> 00:31:20,320
Speaker 4: of people and just I would just share the wellness ministry,

647
00:31:20,680 --> 00:31:24,040
Speaker 4: you know, and between me traveling, I started this thing

648
00:31:24,120 --> 00:31:27,080
Speaker 4: called the hip hop Meditation cycle in the nineties, and

649
00:31:27,360 --> 00:31:28,640
Speaker 4: that was more for the artists.

650
00:31:28,680 --> 00:31:31,840
Speaker 5: I saw see a point about that I meditate, you know.

651
00:31:32,040 --> 00:31:34,600
Speaker 4: So I bought back those principles when I was ten,

652
00:31:34,760 --> 00:31:37,160
Speaker 4: you know, because a lot of artists I knew were

653
00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,920
Speaker 4: dealing with anxiety and stress, you know, even though they

654
00:31:39,920 --> 00:31:41,760
Speaker 4: have love, blessings, and things happening to them they didn't

655
00:31:41,760 --> 00:31:43,000
Speaker 4: even know how to send to themselves. So I said,

656
00:31:43,040 --> 00:31:44,800
Speaker 4: you know, this'd be a good way to all the

657
00:31:45,240 --> 00:31:48,000
Speaker 4: hip hop artists I appreciated and all its and stuff.

658
00:31:48,120 --> 00:31:50,720
Speaker 4: Let's bring Miguel. Let's just meditate, you know, and have

659
00:31:50,840 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 4: them tap into those techniques. And so these are the

660
00:31:53,440 --> 00:31:55,040
Speaker 4: things that I started just doing in the genesis of

661
00:31:55,160 --> 00:32:00,160
Speaker 4: me back in the day, just really making this holdist well,

662
00:32:00,160 --> 00:32:03,320
Speaker 4: which is part of my calling in a street light.

663
00:32:03,480 --> 00:32:06,160
Speaker 4: At once I was able to you know, transcend that,

664
00:32:06,480 --> 00:32:08,000
Speaker 4: you know, I was still connected, just not in a

665
00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:10,920
Speaker 4: negative way. At the same time, around in the ninety

666
00:32:11,040 --> 00:32:14,520
Speaker 4: started organization called the Unified Thehood Hilberhood at that time.

667
00:32:15,600 --> 00:32:18,240
Speaker 4: At that point, you know, in the in the mid

668
00:32:18,320 --> 00:32:20,560
Speaker 4: to late nineties in New York, whether the West Coast.

669
00:32:20,400 --> 00:32:23,200
Speaker 5: Loved it or not, crips and bloods, that was what

670
00:32:23,320 --> 00:32:23,720
Speaker 5: it was.

671
00:32:24,240 --> 00:32:25,760
Speaker 4: That was what even a lot of the gangs that

672
00:32:25,760 --> 00:32:28,160
Speaker 4: were affiliated before got absorbed into a lot of that.

673
00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:32,320
Speaker 5: So it became really really ground zero crazy, you know.

674
00:32:32,680 --> 00:32:35,840
Speaker 4: And so in the midst of that, you know, all

675
00:32:35,880 --> 00:32:37,800
Speaker 4: the tools again I learned from my moms and the

676
00:32:37,800 --> 00:32:40,720
Speaker 4: peoples and the elders I just use those same principles

677
00:32:40,720 --> 00:32:43,560
Speaker 4: of unity and meet gay mediation and really just tried

678
00:32:43,600 --> 00:32:46,680
Speaker 4: to work on, you know a lot of the problems

679
00:32:46,680 --> 00:32:48,960
Speaker 4: that Phillips would have a you know, the conflict and

680
00:32:49,520 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 4: create conferent resolution, you know. So that became a passion

681
00:32:52,120 --> 00:32:53,520
Speaker 4: of mine, you know, just helping to stop a lot

682
00:32:53,560 --> 00:32:57,120
Speaker 4: of the gang violence in my city and in neighboring cities.

683
00:32:57,360 --> 00:33:00,840
Speaker 4: And so the passion between you know, uh, fealing you know,

684
00:33:01,000 --> 00:33:03,680
Speaker 4: dealing the hood with the wellness and unifying the hood.

685
00:33:03,760 --> 00:33:06,640
Speaker 4: That became pretty much what I've been known as in

686
00:33:06,680 --> 00:33:09,360
Speaker 4: the many works I've done from those Mormon sins, you know.

687
00:33:10,440 --> 00:33:13,360
Speaker 5: And that all brings me more stuff.

688
00:33:13,400 --> 00:33:17,160
Speaker 4: But that brings me to the current project embody work

689
00:33:17,240 --> 00:33:20,000
Speaker 4: called The Wellness Warrior, which is the book that me

690
00:33:20,000 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 4: and my mother just put out called Man Heal Thyself

691
00:33:22,840 --> 00:33:27,280
Speaker 4: Welvis War's Journey the Self Mastery, And so it's it's

692
00:33:27,320 --> 00:33:30,320
Speaker 4: a book inspiring you know, men to be excited about

693
00:33:30,320 --> 00:33:33,720
Speaker 4: their self care, you know, and to be excited about

694
00:33:34,040 --> 00:33:36,640
Speaker 4: you know, owning their healing space. And the more they

695
00:33:36,680 --> 00:33:40,480
Speaker 4: do that, they can unlock their true power, their masculinity

696
00:33:40,840 --> 00:33:44,920
Speaker 4: and their Godhead, you know. Not what was told about

697
00:33:44,960 --> 00:33:48,520
Speaker 4: how we are supposed to be masculine based upon our trauma.

698
00:33:48,720 --> 00:33:51,560
Speaker 4: You know, our trauma coaches have become what we use

699
00:33:51,600 --> 00:33:56,240
Speaker 4: as our masculine signal. And in some levels it may

700
00:33:56,280 --> 00:34:00,080
Speaker 4: have it may work as an interface, but ultimately it

701
00:34:00,080 --> 00:34:02,600
Speaker 4: it leads us with in a situation, heart attacks, hype

702
00:34:02,600 --> 00:34:05,520
Speaker 4: of tension, diabetes is not neglect.

703
00:34:05,560 --> 00:34:05,880
Speaker 5: Looklect.

704
00:34:05,920 --> 00:34:08,600
Speaker 4: A lot of men are dealing with a lot oftglect

705
00:34:08,760 --> 00:34:12,160
Speaker 4: of self. So you when you're neglecting yourself, you leave

706
00:34:12,160 --> 00:34:14,640
Speaker 4: yourself open for attack internally externally, you know.

707
00:34:15,040 --> 00:34:15,399
Speaker 1: And so.

708
00:34:16,880 --> 00:34:19,600
Speaker 4: The call to action is for the for the warriors

709
00:34:19,640 --> 00:34:22,480
Speaker 4: to become, you know, beacons of their own wellness. You

710
00:34:22,520 --> 00:34:25,640
Speaker 4: know how women have y'all example, like this show, y'all

711
00:34:25,680 --> 00:34:29,360
Speaker 4: create spaces for for conversations and growth and development and

712
00:34:29,960 --> 00:34:33,319
Speaker 4: for engaging. Right, but the men that love your show

713
00:34:33,360 --> 00:34:35,479
Speaker 4: and men that come and support the sisters and sister

714
00:34:35,520 --> 00:34:37,960
Speaker 4: just like you all, you'll create the space. But we

715
00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:40,440
Speaker 4: must do the work that in the space that's created.

716
00:34:41,040 --> 00:34:43,919
Speaker 4: You know, we must own our work, you know. And

717
00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:47,080
Speaker 4: and the more we could be inspired by the women

718
00:34:47,120 --> 00:34:51,319
Speaker 4: who are taking action. Because women, no matter where you are,

719
00:34:51,360 --> 00:34:54,400
Speaker 4: you'll find ways of fellowship like the like they have

720
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:58,879
Speaker 4: a day coming up in the next retreat. Thanks right, right,

721
00:34:59,040 --> 00:35:01,160
Speaker 4: So example for that, like you said, sisters, come out,

722
00:35:01,160 --> 00:35:02,600
Speaker 4: we have this retreat going on. We're going to be

723
00:35:02,640 --> 00:35:04,200
Speaker 4: in this part of the world. We rocking and rolland

724
00:35:04,280 --> 00:35:06,600
Speaker 4: we're going to do this healing. So you know, this

725
00:35:06,680 --> 00:35:08,759
Speaker 4: is the standard of what y'all do these days. Y'all

726
00:35:08,760 --> 00:35:11,120
Speaker 4: do that online, your fellowship, you'll do the work. And

727
00:35:11,160 --> 00:35:14,719
Speaker 4: so even when women are going through different traumatic experiences

728
00:35:14,760 --> 00:35:18,440
Speaker 4: and transitions, because you'll have those sister's circles, you know,

729
00:35:18,640 --> 00:35:21,480
Speaker 4: it helps you'll navigate, It gives you twos to you know,

730
00:35:21,560 --> 00:35:24,600
Speaker 4: really get back into your power quicker, you know. And

731
00:35:24,640 --> 00:35:28,480
Speaker 4: so inspired by a mother's work, particure, women, inspired by y'all,

732
00:35:28,560 --> 00:35:31,279
Speaker 4: inspired by many different sisters that I admire doing the

733
00:35:31,320 --> 00:35:34,799
Speaker 4: wellness work. You know, I felt it was an imperative

734
00:35:34,960 --> 00:35:38,520
Speaker 4: that we set up a paradigm shift for men that's

735
00:35:38,560 --> 00:35:42,160
Speaker 4: beyond the algorithm that allows brothers to go deeper in conversation, right,

736
00:35:42,160 --> 00:35:44,959
Speaker 4: and for brothers no matter where they may be at

737
00:35:45,719 --> 00:35:49,080
Speaker 4: and their social economical structure, you know where that may be,

738
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:52,320
Speaker 4: even from the point of being heterosexual or the rainbow

739
00:35:52,360 --> 00:35:55,560
Speaker 4: community brothers. Right, this men coming together here. You know,

740
00:35:55,600 --> 00:35:57,399
Speaker 4: that's the call action for men to come in heal

741
00:35:57,480 --> 00:36:01,040
Speaker 4: because truly, if when we're men come together and to

742
00:36:01,120 --> 00:36:04,120
Speaker 4: address the journey of trauma and own that space and

743
00:36:04,480 --> 00:36:08,400
Speaker 4: do the daily work to let that go is transformative

744
00:36:08,760 --> 00:36:10,839
Speaker 4: not only for yourself, but then you wouitnize and other

745
00:36:10,960 --> 00:36:12,320
Speaker 4: men going through that transformation.

746
00:36:12,480 --> 00:36:12,640
Speaker 1: Right.

747
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:14,839
Speaker 4: And so that that's the space that we set up

748
00:36:14,840 --> 00:36:17,319
Speaker 4: with Manhill byself as a non judgment zone. It's not

749
00:36:17,360 --> 00:36:22,000
Speaker 4: about being alone perfect right, right, But it's about laying

750
00:36:22,040 --> 00:36:24,960
Speaker 4: out the tools to encourage men to own their space.

751
00:36:25,040 --> 00:36:27,719
Speaker 4: So men are responsible for one of the first in

752
00:36:27,760 --> 00:36:30,840
Speaker 4: the first chapter is called the family man of unity

753
00:36:30,840 --> 00:36:31,280
Speaker 4: and wealth.

754
00:36:32,360 --> 00:36:35,680
Speaker 5: And so that affirmation of the family man of unity,

755
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:36,360
Speaker 5: be wealthful.

756
00:36:36,120 --> 00:36:38,600
Speaker 4: All starts with you and you and your tribe, right

757
00:36:38,640 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 4: and so and where do you have have?

758
00:36:40,760 --> 00:36:40,880
Speaker 1: Not?

759
00:36:41,120 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 4: That's going to come from understanding what that journey was

760
00:36:43,760 --> 00:36:46,680
Speaker 4: for you and your family, right. But in you you

761
00:36:46,760 --> 00:36:49,680
Speaker 4: have the tools to unlock that if you're willing to

762
00:36:49,680 --> 00:36:51,759
Speaker 4: do that work, right, you have to unlock and them block.

763
00:36:52,360 --> 00:36:55,239
Speaker 4: But if something happens to that little five year old,

764
00:36:55,320 --> 00:36:56,800
Speaker 4: that ten year old, that fifteen year old that he

765
00:36:56,800 --> 00:36:58,960
Speaker 4: doesn't really talk about. See, most of our women don't

766
00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:01,640
Speaker 4: even know us, for they know, y'all know our straw man.

767
00:37:01,680 --> 00:37:08,480
Speaker 5: You know I represented representative and y'all, y'all selects.

768
00:37:08,560 --> 00:37:12,120
Speaker 4: Y'all collectively celebrate aspects of our straw man and our

769
00:37:12,160 --> 00:37:14,880
Speaker 4: presentation so much that even if we're not trying to

770
00:37:14,880 --> 00:37:16,719
Speaker 4: be that, we lock into it just to get y'all,

771
00:37:17,160 --> 00:37:19,520
Speaker 4: just to get your's attention, to getting into your spaces.

772
00:37:19,719 --> 00:37:22,279
Speaker 4: So a lot of times it's the trauma, it's the

773
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:26,000
Speaker 4: trauma coats of ourselves that our women have come to

774
00:37:26,760 --> 00:37:30,160
Speaker 4: acquire from us. Even though you'll want, you'll want, Yeah,

775
00:37:30,239 --> 00:37:33,520
Speaker 4: you're celebrate, you want to you want the other side

776
00:37:33,520 --> 00:37:37,200
Speaker 4: of that. So so so you know, helping men navigate

777
00:37:37,239 --> 00:37:41,600
Speaker 4: that without the without the red pill blaming of the woman. See,

778
00:37:41,640 --> 00:37:46,040
Speaker 4: I definitely support the red pill manner spears coming into themselves.

779
00:37:46,360 --> 00:37:49,640
Speaker 4: I'm against using the energy to women blame. I call

780
00:37:49,680 --> 00:37:50,720
Speaker 4: it beta complaining.

781
00:37:50,840 --> 00:37:51,680
Speaker 5: That's what I call it.

782
00:37:52,000 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 4: Because all of that argument in the comments and chatty

783
00:37:56,120 --> 00:37:58,360
Speaker 4: patty talking about women and what they're not doing. I

784
00:37:58,360 --> 00:38:00,719
Speaker 4: would I would have just used that same intensity and

785
00:38:00,760 --> 00:38:04,040
Speaker 4: focus to encourage men to hold themselves account and when

786
00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:07,239
Speaker 4: I correct and be the better version of themselves to

787
00:38:07,360 --> 00:38:10,840
Speaker 4: attract better as they are doing the healing work, you know,

788
00:38:10,960 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 4: saying attract more better options because you're you're the better option,

789
00:38:14,719 --> 00:38:17,120
Speaker 4: but using it. But if we if we use the

790
00:38:17,280 --> 00:38:21,480
Speaker 4: energy to bash the woman, not calling a woman out

791
00:38:21,600 --> 00:38:25,480
Speaker 4: for you know, an dispression or unbalanced activity, you could

792
00:38:25,480 --> 00:38:30,160
Speaker 4: do that right, But to bash into fame and disrespect,

793
00:38:30,480 --> 00:38:33,080
Speaker 4: it's just a waste of your vital masculine force. So

794
00:38:33,080 --> 00:38:35,440
Speaker 4: that's my point with when the hell work of man

795
00:38:35,480 --> 00:38:39,040
Speaker 4: heal thyself, let's don't waste the vital force. That's let's

796
00:38:39,080 --> 00:38:42,480
Speaker 4: just take the energy inward and really go where the

797
00:38:42,520 --> 00:38:46,000
Speaker 4: trauma may be ten, fifteen, twenty years ago. And then

798
00:38:46,000 --> 00:38:49,000
Speaker 4: if you can free him up and release that young

799
00:38:49,040 --> 00:38:51,360
Speaker 4: man from that place of what you've been holding on to,

800
00:38:51,880 --> 00:38:53,719
Speaker 4: you may be able to even hear your woman in

801
00:38:53,719 --> 00:38:55,720
Speaker 4: a different place. You may even be able to attract

802
00:38:56,080 --> 00:38:58,920
Speaker 4: in a different capacity because you have unblocked yourself.

803
00:38:59,000 --> 00:39:01,680
Speaker 5: Right, So you know, not without over over talking that.

804
00:39:01,760 --> 00:39:04,640
Speaker 4: This is the principles that we work with in the

805
00:39:04,680 --> 00:39:07,960
Speaker 4: Rights of Passage that we do twice a year. It's

806
00:39:08,080 --> 00:39:10,680
Speaker 4: online training, and then in the book we use the

807
00:39:10,719 --> 00:39:13,759
Speaker 4: affirmations to encourage men to take on the work.

808
00:39:14,040 --> 00:39:16,799
Speaker 5: The first assignment is called the forgiveness letter.

809
00:39:16,840 --> 00:39:18,160
Speaker 4: We have brothers when they come together and write a

810
00:39:18,280 --> 00:39:20,520
Speaker 4: giveness letter to find a time and trauma in their

811
00:39:20,560 --> 00:39:23,800
Speaker 4: life where they were mad at themselves for not being

812
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:28,080
Speaker 4: strong enough to withstanding certain type of experiences and really

813
00:39:28,080 --> 00:39:28,600
Speaker 4: face him.

814
00:39:28,640 --> 00:39:31,800
Speaker 5: So throughout the training there are different men have to

815
00:39:31,840 --> 00:39:34,320
Speaker 5: face themselves in different ways that with certain questions and

816
00:39:34,400 --> 00:39:35,759
Speaker 5: certain excignments.

817
00:39:35,239 --> 00:39:39,040
Speaker 4: They've never really worked to this question.

818
00:39:39,560 --> 00:39:42,520
Speaker 5: I mean, I'm sorry, I'm okay against this, and you've been.

819
00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:43,799
Speaker 3: Dropping a lot of jobs. I was going to say

820
00:39:44,120 --> 00:39:46,680
Speaker 3: all things. Thinking about your mom's book and there's a

821
00:39:46,800 --> 00:39:49,960
Speaker 3: there's an assignment in there. Yes, take a woman and

822
00:39:50,040 --> 00:39:54,799
Speaker 3: talking about like writing out like all the people that

823
00:39:55,719 --> 00:39:57,120
Speaker 3: it like writing all the people that you use they

824
00:39:57,160 --> 00:39:58,719
Speaker 3: slept when you stuck with all the men that you've

825
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:00,839
Speaker 3: slept with, both people that you' allowed to enter your body.

826
00:40:00,840 --> 00:40:03,200
Speaker 2: And I was like, oh my god, what a terrifying assignment.

827
00:40:03,560 --> 00:40:06,760
Speaker 2: You know powerful, but it's it's terrifying. And if someone

828
00:40:06,760 --> 00:40:07,880
Speaker 2: didn't like but if.

829
00:40:07,719 --> 00:40:09,719
Speaker 3: Somebody to do it, but you never do it, and

830
00:40:09,760 --> 00:40:11,759
Speaker 3: even even the thought of doing it is like all.

831
00:40:11,800 --> 00:40:12,160
Speaker 2: Right, is this.

832
00:40:13,960 --> 00:40:14,200
Speaker 1: Okay?

833
00:40:14,400 --> 00:40:16,400
Speaker 4: Keep going, So what was what was Queen's points she

834
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:19,520
Speaker 4: was saying to do that? For what what was woomill

835
00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:23,319
Speaker 4: she saying? So basically she's saying, right, identify those men

836
00:40:23,719 --> 00:40:27,319
Speaker 4: and then like forgive, forgive yourself, Like what was the

837
00:40:27,360 --> 00:40:28,160
Speaker 4: next step that she.

838
00:40:28,200 --> 00:40:29,879
Speaker 5: Was I mean, I didn't dive all the way.

839
00:40:29,960 --> 00:40:34,960
Speaker 3: Okay, I read that, and I was like, ship, But

840
00:40:35,160 --> 00:40:37,920
Speaker 3: what I was also going to ask you to was,

841
00:40:38,320 --> 00:40:41,239
Speaker 3: you know, we were talking about circles and women's circles,

842
00:40:41,360 --> 00:40:44,880
Speaker 3: and and because you've been in both spaces defiely, like

843
00:40:45,160 --> 00:40:47,480
Speaker 3: you know, watching circles that your mom is created and

844
00:40:47,520 --> 00:40:50,279
Speaker 3: now creating your own, people always ask us.

845
00:40:50,200 --> 00:40:51,839
Speaker 2: Like, what are you going to do like a co

846
00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:52,480
Speaker 2: ed retreat?

847
00:40:52,520 --> 00:40:55,520
Speaker 3: And I was like, I don't know how to. I

848
00:40:55,520 --> 00:40:57,640
Speaker 3: don't I don't like, I don't got to leave the men,

849
00:40:57,800 --> 00:41:01,080
Speaker 3: like you know, I'm just curious, like what are the

850
00:41:01,120 --> 00:41:03,919
Speaker 3: differences in these type of circles between men and women?

851
00:41:04,400 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 3: Like what like because I'm assuming I'm imagining that they

852
00:41:09,200 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 3: are there's probably similarities, but then there's probably a lot

853
00:41:12,520 --> 00:41:15,280
Speaker 3: of differences because men and women need different things access

854
00:41:15,320 --> 00:41:16,240
Speaker 3: these parts of themselves.

855
00:41:16,239 --> 00:41:19,919
Speaker 4: So the main difference is men opening up like but

856
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:22,000
Speaker 4: because and this is think about it is these are

857
00:41:22,000 --> 00:41:27,640
Speaker 4: not these are men from different social economics backgrounds. So

858
00:41:27,680 --> 00:41:29,800
Speaker 4: they're not like, oh, those are just the guys of

859
00:41:29,920 --> 00:41:32,680
Speaker 4: a conscious guy. No, it's it's it's all the types

860
00:41:32,680 --> 00:41:36,000
Speaker 4: of men you know, typically complexion wise, like it's well,

861
00:41:36,080 --> 00:41:42,040
Speaker 4: you know what there and and so I don't like no, no,

862
00:41:42,080 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 4: but I'm giving you I'm only giving you a caveat

863
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:48,879
Speaker 4: to that because sometimes and now, when we talk about

864
00:41:48,880 --> 00:41:51,120
Speaker 4: any type of consciousness, like some people who are not

865
00:41:51,160 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 4: necessarily aware of themselves, they'll limit them they grouping or

866
00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:57,640
Speaker 4: you don't want to them right, right, and and and

867
00:41:57,680 --> 00:42:00,680
Speaker 4: so what they do they automatically divorce themselves on opportunity.

868
00:42:00,840 --> 00:42:03,279
Speaker 4: And this is not because is we're not when I'm

869
00:42:03,280 --> 00:42:06,000
Speaker 4: calling all men to the comments into the healing space,

870
00:42:06,000 --> 00:42:10,600
Speaker 4: it's not, it's not it's not the man's who meditating,

871
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:15,719
Speaker 4: it's all men wherever men at my My calling is

872
00:42:15,800 --> 00:42:20,480
Speaker 4: man is man's responsibility. Women set up the circle, but

873
00:42:20,600 --> 00:42:23,440
Speaker 4: we have to be the workers in the circle that

874
00:42:23,520 --> 00:42:25,200
Speaker 4: is set up. In the circle that I'm talking about

875
00:42:25,239 --> 00:42:27,640
Speaker 4: with women's set up is the example that y'all take

876
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:31,520
Speaker 4: by like creating spaces for y'all to do y'all's work, right,

877
00:42:31,600 --> 00:42:34,680
Speaker 4: So that that's that's that's what I'm inspired by. So

878
00:42:34,719 --> 00:42:36,640
Speaker 4: I was just give you that just just for that part,

879
00:42:36,719 --> 00:42:39,040
Speaker 4: just for the milicism who are tapping in with us.

880
00:42:39,200 --> 00:42:46,120
Speaker 4: But the the the university with all these men are childhood.

881
00:42:47,000 --> 00:42:49,399
Speaker 4: It all comes back to that little boy. That's that's

882
00:42:49,400 --> 00:42:52,279
Speaker 4: who we're talking to. The whole twelve weeks is a

883
00:42:52,280 --> 00:42:54,800
Speaker 4: little boy that is now a man that has responsibilities

884
00:42:54,800 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 4: as children, has a wife, went through divorce, several divorces.

885
00:42:58,680 --> 00:43:00,719
Speaker 4: Not mad at what still man the women, you know that,

886
00:43:00,800 --> 00:43:03,160
Speaker 4: So there's different, you know. So that but we start

887
00:43:03,200 --> 00:43:06,680
Speaker 4: going through the healing work Stark going to the meditation assignments,

888
00:43:07,040 --> 00:43:08,719
Speaker 4: start going through you know, the others have to take

889
00:43:08,719 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 4: their spiritual baths and then the spiritual bash you put

890
00:43:11,440 --> 00:43:13,719
Speaker 4: your herbs in, you know, so that they're also on

891
00:43:14,160 --> 00:43:17,840
Speaker 4: a daily herbal regimen. The herbs you know, every seven days.

892
00:43:17,960 --> 00:43:20,000
Speaker 4: You know, we moved that. The whole concept is we're

893
00:43:20,000 --> 00:43:24,359
Speaker 4: going through the body of man. So twelve states of man, right,

894
00:43:24,440 --> 00:43:28,880
Speaker 4: So you have the crown, you have mid section, you

895
00:43:28,880 --> 00:43:31,120
Speaker 4: have your base, you have your foundation, and so they

896
00:43:31,120 --> 00:43:34,080
Speaker 4: are herbs that work with each of the levels. Of

897
00:43:34,080 --> 00:43:39,560
Speaker 4: their body. Yeah, because we're brothers taking herbs for every

898
00:43:39,760 --> 00:43:41,719
Speaker 4: area of their body. So you know, you have like

899
00:43:41,800 --> 00:43:43,359
Speaker 4: let's say, you know then you know the Marcker root

900
00:43:43,480 --> 00:43:46,080
Speaker 4: is good for the reproductive right, uh, the hours good

901
00:43:46,080 --> 00:43:48,480
Speaker 4: for the skin. So at every seven days we're at

902
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:50,799
Speaker 4: a different area of the body. So it's set up

903
00:43:50,880 --> 00:43:53,919
Speaker 4: body minded spirit right. So it's the body of man

904
00:43:53,920 --> 00:43:55,040
Speaker 4: reclaiming your body.

905
00:43:55,239 --> 00:43:55,399
Speaker 1: Right.

906
00:43:55,440 --> 00:43:57,319
Speaker 5: So you so every seven days you have to do

907
00:43:58,080 --> 00:43:59,960
Speaker 5: some type of spiritual bath with your earth.

908
00:44:00,160 --> 00:44:02,839
Speaker 4: You have to make going your crew, reclaim your your

909
00:44:03,000 --> 00:44:05,960
Speaker 4: your healing your My mother calls the kitchen healing laboratory

910
00:44:05,960 --> 00:44:08,000
Speaker 4: in your kitchen and you know, get brothers got to

911
00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:09,560
Speaker 4: work them pots. So we teach brothers to get back

912
00:44:09,560 --> 00:44:12,280
Speaker 4: into the cold and everything themselves, make his salads, make.

913
00:44:12,120 --> 00:44:14,759
Speaker 5: It make your earth right, yeah really, but yet really

914
00:44:14,800 --> 00:44:16,000
Speaker 5: get into your nourishing yourself.

915
00:44:16,080 --> 00:44:16,239
Speaker 1: Right.

916
00:44:16,920 --> 00:44:18,719
Speaker 4: Then he has writing assignments. He has you know, he

917
00:44:18,719 --> 00:44:20,840
Speaker 4: has to do some writing assignments and begin to unlock

918
00:44:20,880 --> 00:44:23,280
Speaker 4: and the block like I was talking about, the forgiveness

919
00:44:23,320 --> 00:44:28,160
Speaker 4: letter was one portal, right, and so then he has

920
00:44:28,200 --> 00:44:32,680
Speaker 4: to create an affirmation, you know, situation for himself based

921
00:44:32,760 --> 00:44:34,439
Speaker 4: upon the state that he's dealing with at that time.

922
00:44:34,520 --> 00:44:34,640
Speaker 1: Right.

923
00:44:34,680 --> 00:44:37,440
Speaker 5: So basically, you know, we laid out instructionally every seven.

924
00:44:37,280 --> 00:44:41,360
Speaker 4: Days he's tasked with some assignments that he must complete

925
00:44:41,360 --> 00:44:44,240
Speaker 4: for himself. He may not be perfect in completing everything,

926
00:44:44,280 --> 00:44:47,040
Speaker 4: but the whole point is to creating a wellness environment.

927
00:44:47,040 --> 00:44:50,279
Speaker 4: And then that's a paradigm different than what he has

928
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:52,120
Speaker 4: been in from from the trauma, right.

929
00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:54,600
Speaker 5: And the ultimate goal is that he comes out with

930
00:44:54,840 --> 00:44:57,080
Speaker 5: a better awareness of himself.

931
00:44:57,760 --> 00:44:57,960
Speaker 1: Right.

932
00:44:57,960 --> 00:44:59,759
Speaker 4: And so when the man has the better willness of

933
00:44:59,800 --> 00:45:04,640
Speaker 4: him self, he's not as judging and dominant with everybody

934
00:45:04,640 --> 00:45:07,880
Speaker 4: else because he's kind of it's himself correcting. And so

935
00:45:07,960 --> 00:45:10,839
Speaker 4: the whole excitement in the in the brother's healing is

936
00:45:10,880 --> 00:45:15,520
Speaker 4: to excite him with the responsibility of himself. It's all

937
00:45:15,560 --> 00:45:19,440
Speaker 4: about him restoring himself. It's not about the plannings, not blaming,

938
00:45:19,880 --> 00:45:22,759
Speaker 4: finding the root, addressing the group, doing the spiritual work,

939
00:45:22,800 --> 00:45:25,680
Speaker 4: the emotional work, the physical work. You know, we also

940
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:28,840
Speaker 4: have our you know, our our quote movement, medicine, exercise

941
00:45:29,280 --> 00:45:30,920
Speaker 4: regimens throughout the weeks.

942
00:45:31,239 --> 00:45:32,040
Speaker 5: But all of these.

943
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:34,160
Speaker 4: Different things body mind spirits to stimulate him to be

944
00:45:34,239 --> 00:45:36,759
Speaker 4: the greater version of prevent himself that he has been

945
00:45:37,239 --> 00:45:39,920
Speaker 4: and when he goes to the twelve states of consciousness

946
00:45:39,960 --> 00:45:42,839
Speaker 4: plus states of man, now he we call it him

947
00:45:42,880 --> 00:45:45,200
Speaker 4: the supreme man of optimum wellness. Now he has all

948
00:45:45,239 --> 00:45:48,120
Speaker 4: the tools he needs as he continues to deploy in

949
00:45:48,160 --> 00:45:51,480
Speaker 4: his daily life to grab what he needs to reassess. Right,

950
00:45:51,480 --> 00:45:53,560
Speaker 4: Because you're not gonna be perfect maybe next day of

951
00:45:53,600 --> 00:45:56,600
Speaker 4: the makeday that right, but you have enough information and

952
00:45:56,680 --> 00:45:59,600
Speaker 4: tools around you. You have the herbs awareness, the herbs

953
00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:03,520
Speaker 4: where it's the detoxing awareness of your social emotional healing. Right,

954
00:46:03,600 --> 00:46:05,359
Speaker 4: So all of these things you have around you now

955
00:46:05,360 --> 00:46:07,799
Speaker 4: that because you've accessed this, if you need to bring

956
00:46:07,840 --> 00:46:11,200
Speaker 4: them online again for yourself in a community, and then

957
00:46:11,239 --> 00:46:13,600
Speaker 4: you have me to hold your accountable to, you know,

958
00:46:13,880 --> 00:46:15,480
Speaker 4: like like how your sisters do. You have each other

959
00:46:15,520 --> 00:46:17,319
Speaker 4: to hold each other accountable. So if we're in the

960
00:46:17,320 --> 00:46:20,920
Speaker 4: beginning stages of making this a standard, that's my personal

961
00:46:21,440 --> 00:46:25,239
Speaker 4: dream come true is that you know, we create more

962
00:46:25,280 --> 00:46:29,279
Speaker 4: safe space for men to want to come together and

963
00:46:29,520 --> 00:46:33,560
Speaker 4: do their personal work and hole and and together means

964
00:46:33,640 --> 00:46:36,440
Speaker 4: you know, we have what they call the accountability circles

965
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:38,280
Speaker 4: of other men doing similar work.

966
00:46:38,360 --> 00:46:42,000
Speaker 5: Without judgment, just encouragement and meeting men where they are.

967
00:46:42,040 --> 00:46:46,640
Speaker 4: So to your just concluding to your points just about

968
00:46:46,800 --> 00:46:50,239
Speaker 4: the difference, there's a lot more similarities of us than

969
00:46:50,280 --> 00:46:52,880
Speaker 4: we think there are differences, because I think trauma is

970
00:46:52,920 --> 00:46:55,920
Speaker 4: what brings us all together. Good at that you know

971
00:46:55,960 --> 00:46:56,760
Speaker 4: it's it's it's.

972
00:46:56,640 --> 00:46:57,080
Speaker 1: People, don't.

973
00:46:57,920 --> 00:47:01,239
Speaker 3: I'm so glad you're talked saying this because just want

974
00:47:01,239 --> 00:47:04,680
Speaker 3: your opinion. Do you think anyone escapes trauma?

975
00:47:04,800 --> 00:47:06,800
Speaker 4: No, not one of us. You can't be a human

976
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:13,240
Speaker 4: being on this planet because because because because the planet

977
00:47:14,000 --> 00:47:16,640
Speaker 4: with us in it, in it and experiencing it, is

978
00:47:16,640 --> 00:47:17,720
Speaker 4: in a traumatic.

979
00:47:17,280 --> 00:47:20,319
Speaker 2: State without experience the world.

980
00:47:21,040 --> 00:47:24,160
Speaker 4: But but it's how we transmute the principle of of

981
00:47:24,200 --> 00:47:26,279
Speaker 4: the trauma or I pulled the rights of passage right so,

982
00:47:26,360 --> 00:47:28,040
Speaker 4: like I said, I said earlier, thalked about my father

983
00:47:28,600 --> 00:47:30,160
Speaker 4: and my energy in the streets. I said, that was

984
00:47:30,200 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 4: the rights of passage. I started to look at it

985
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:35,480
Speaker 4: different right then, when the pain, I was looking at

986
00:47:35,520 --> 00:47:36,280
Speaker 4: it from one level.

987
00:47:36,400 --> 00:47:37,200
Speaker 1: You know, my father, the.

988
00:47:37,239 --> 00:47:38,959
Speaker 5: Traghead, and I had to bang and bang in the street.

989
00:47:39,000 --> 00:47:41,040
Speaker 5: You don't know, you know, the typical hip hop rap.

990
00:47:41,719 --> 00:47:44,879
Speaker 4: You know, uh bars, you know, you don't you don't,

991
00:47:44,920 --> 00:47:46,799
Speaker 4: you don't know what I've been through you don't know.

992
00:47:47,520 --> 00:47:51,760
Speaker 5: No, they don't know you. You ain't You wasn't upstate

993
00:47:51,800 --> 00:47:53,080
Speaker 5: with me? No, I wasn't upstate with you?

994
00:47:53,200 --> 00:47:56,080
Speaker 4: Right, but no, But but that's real, that's what so

995
00:47:56,239 --> 00:47:58,440
Speaker 4: But that all the old that's real feelings with brothers

996
00:47:58,480 --> 00:48:01,279
Speaker 4: is feeling like I was upstate alone?

997
00:48:01,360 --> 00:48:02,880
Speaker 5: How that makes you feel? To be locked up in

998
00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:04,480
Speaker 5: up Cita wore like you.

999
00:48:04,600 --> 00:48:07,839
Speaker 4: Wasn't there when I had to eat you know, quarter

1000
00:48:07,840 --> 00:48:09,760
Speaker 4: of waters and in cirrub sandwiches.

1001
00:48:09,920 --> 00:48:12,640
Speaker 5: Brother, Well, look yeah, how did that? How was that

1002
00:48:12,719 --> 00:48:14,719
Speaker 5: environment for you? So? So, so those are some of

1003
00:48:14,719 --> 00:48:17,279
Speaker 5: those brothers that are in the circle with us.

1004
00:48:17,600 --> 00:48:20,120
Speaker 4: You'd have said, gone through that trauma on that memory,

1005
00:48:20,560 --> 00:48:22,880
Speaker 4: you know, and trying to figure out how do I

1006
00:48:22,960 --> 00:48:25,880
Speaker 4: transcend that? And so yes, my sister, that that is

1007
00:48:25,920 --> 00:48:28,400
Speaker 4: a universal with with us. And this is why I

1008
00:48:28,400 --> 00:48:30,760
Speaker 4: think the more men can own themselves in their space

1009
00:48:31,160 --> 00:48:35,479
Speaker 4: beyond their their economics and the materials because we become

1010
00:48:35,520 --> 00:48:39,920
Speaker 4: some material flexed and our women support material flex that

1011
00:48:40,000 --> 00:48:42,880
Speaker 4: we abandoned the other sides of us. And what happens

1012
00:48:42,960 --> 00:48:49,280
Speaker 4: is in that abandonment, right, we show up only collecting property.

1013
00:48:49,400 --> 00:48:51,120
Speaker 4: So if I date you or you my woman.

1014
00:48:51,360 --> 00:48:52,200
Speaker 5: Just be on my property.

1015
00:48:52,480 --> 00:48:55,160
Speaker 4: You're like the things I'll You're no different than my

1016
00:48:55,239 --> 00:48:58,160
Speaker 4: Gucci belt or the Burking bag I got you, or

1017
00:48:58,200 --> 00:48:59,320
Speaker 4: the house that I bought.

1018
00:48:59,239 --> 00:48:59,560
Speaker 5: Or the car.

1019
00:48:59,840 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 4: You you're my thing the kids we had on my

1020
00:49:03,800 --> 00:49:07,799
Speaker 4: things say because because everything has been pro material. But

1021
00:49:07,880 --> 00:49:12,160
Speaker 4: when when it's pro holistic, I recognize the body mind, spirit,

1022
00:49:12,239 --> 00:49:14,400
Speaker 4: you know, when the physical connection we have as an

1023
00:49:14,440 --> 00:49:17,480
Speaker 4: example of the spiritual opportunity we have to unlock if

1024
00:49:17,480 --> 00:49:18,160
Speaker 4: we choose to do so.

1025
00:49:18,560 --> 00:49:22,960
Speaker 5: Which is also our mental and soldiery emotional connection. Right, So,

1026
00:49:23,000 --> 00:49:26,000
Speaker 5: once wegin to diversify the portfolio of each other, we

1027
00:49:26,080 --> 00:49:29,000
Speaker 5: start to realize there's so much more wealth into how

1028
00:49:29,040 --> 00:49:31,680
Speaker 5: we can see ourselves and others. But until we understand

1029
00:49:31,719 --> 00:49:34,799
Speaker 5: that unlocked that portfolio and we only support it with

1030
00:49:35,160 --> 00:49:39,160
Speaker 5: one representation, we're limited. And so most men have so

1031
00:49:39,280 --> 00:49:40,160
Speaker 5: much more to offer.

1032
00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:43,000
Speaker 4: And that's what I also recognize this in these trainings

1033
00:49:43,080 --> 00:49:47,200
Speaker 4: is that but they're only held to the standard of being.

1034
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:49,960
Speaker 5: The provider, which is an attribute of God to provisions.

1035
00:49:50,239 --> 00:49:50,799
Speaker 5: But it's but.

1036
00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:55,080
Speaker 4: You're only celebrated for that of how much you can

1037
00:49:55,120 --> 00:49:58,359
Speaker 4: bring in which you can supply. And then then you think, well,

1038
00:49:58,400 --> 00:50:00,279
Speaker 4: then man, maybe I can. Maybe I don't that I

1039
00:50:00,280 --> 00:50:01,080
Speaker 4: can't show.

1040
00:50:01,680 --> 00:50:06,800
Speaker 1: Since this holistic wellness is about body, mind, spirit, accountability

1041
00:50:07,560 --> 00:50:09,960
Speaker 1: for yourself, being the accountant of yourself, you know, taking

1042
00:50:09,960 --> 00:50:13,000
Speaker 1: an account of yourself so you can be able to

1043
00:50:13,840 --> 00:50:16,919
Speaker 1: unlock and unblock, right. And I look at at it

1044
00:50:16,960 --> 00:50:22,719
Speaker 1: as building a portfolio of yourselves, right. And so basically,

1045
00:50:22,760 --> 00:50:25,600
Speaker 1: everything that I'm doing to nourish myself, you know, with

1046
00:50:25,719 --> 00:50:28,920
Speaker 1: minerals and daily nourishment is a reflection of my consciouness.

1047
00:50:28,960 --> 00:50:31,040
Speaker 1: What I'm doing in the social emotional space and how

1048
00:50:31,080 --> 00:50:34,360
Speaker 1: I'm thinking. It's a reflection of that, and my thinking

1049
00:50:35,120 --> 00:50:37,680
Speaker 1: and my eating is reflection of how I'm moving my body,

1050
00:50:37,880 --> 00:50:40,640
Speaker 1: you know, and how I'm actually engaging my joints. Right,

1051
00:50:41,200 --> 00:50:43,600
Speaker 1: all of this is threading together. And so the more

1052
00:50:43,640 --> 00:50:46,560
Speaker 1: you can journey into the being accountable of yourself and

1053
00:50:46,800 --> 00:50:49,960
Speaker 1: saying I'm not going to pass to the auspicious title

1054
00:50:50,000 --> 00:50:52,440
Speaker 1: of accountability to you, like I'm not going to blame you,

1055
00:50:53,080 --> 00:50:56,520
Speaker 1: I'm going to hold me accountable because I have this

1056
00:50:56,680 --> 00:51:00,279
Speaker 1: great portfolio of opportunity that I can unlock them block,

1057
00:51:00,440 --> 00:51:03,040
Speaker 1: you know. And that's that's the spirit of what holistic

1058
00:51:03,120 --> 00:51:07,840
Speaker 1: wellness is about. Is being the master accounting man, old woman.

1059
00:51:07,920 --> 00:51:10,360
Speaker 1: You know what I called the wellness warrior. A wellness

1060
00:51:10,360 --> 00:51:13,000
Speaker 1: warrior is one that is fighting for the better quality

1061
00:51:13,040 --> 00:51:14,880
Speaker 1: of your life, body, mind, and spirit.

1062
00:51:15,600 --> 00:51:18,680
Speaker 2: I know this month is called, you know, plant Medicine April,

1063
00:51:18,760 --> 00:51:20,719
Speaker 2: and I think a lot of times when we think

1064
00:51:20,760 --> 00:51:23,839
Speaker 2: of plant medicine, we think like psychedelics, or we think

1065
00:51:23,960 --> 00:51:27,440
Speaker 2: like cannabis. But like even you you're talking about like

1066
00:51:27,480 --> 00:51:30,200
Speaker 2: you know, first you started realizing like the food you're consuming,

1067
00:51:30,239 --> 00:51:32,000
Speaker 2: the sugar you were consuming, and then how.

1068
00:51:32,160 --> 00:51:34,280
Speaker 1: Have you suen the chlorophill the plant medicine to detox

1069
00:51:34,320 --> 00:51:35,640
Speaker 1: from the addictions of the sugar.

1070
00:51:35,800 --> 00:51:38,160
Speaker 2: Well, I think people disregard like the foods we put

1071
00:51:38,200 --> 00:51:40,799
Speaker 2: into our bodies are could be medicine or they could

1072
00:51:40,800 --> 00:51:42,880
Speaker 2: be the opposite, right, and so they like, you know,

1073
00:51:43,080 --> 00:51:46,479
Speaker 2: they'll go on spiritual journeys with psychedelics and they'll smoke weed,

1074
00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:49,640
Speaker 2: but they're not really tapping into all of these let

1075
00:51:49,280 --> 00:51:52,719
Speaker 2: me exactly. And also you said something that was like

1076
00:51:54,200 --> 00:51:56,360
Speaker 2: that I noticed, and you were saying, you know, you

1077
00:51:56,440 --> 00:51:59,880
Speaker 2: realize you're eating sugar because you were feeling bitter and

1078
00:52:01,160 --> 00:52:04,480
Speaker 2: that you had to forgive yourself. And I think that

1079
00:52:04,880 --> 00:52:09,680
Speaker 2: is a really big like element that people underestimate and forget.

1080
00:52:09,760 --> 00:52:12,080
Speaker 2: And you know, you talked about having to forgive your

1081
00:52:12,080 --> 00:52:15,520
Speaker 2: father too, and a lot of times it's like people forget,

1082
00:52:15,560 --> 00:52:19,319
Speaker 2: like people don't realize that like not forgiving yourself with

1083
00:52:19,480 --> 00:52:22,600
Speaker 2: for things is what prevents you from forgiving the people

1084
00:52:22,600 --> 00:52:25,399
Speaker 2: outside of yourself because you're you know, like it's hard

1085
00:52:25,440 --> 00:52:27,520
Speaker 2: to offer up something that you don't offer to yourself, right,

1086
00:52:27,800 --> 00:52:30,560
Speaker 2: And so I think for men, like you know, just

1087
00:52:30,600 --> 00:52:32,920
Speaker 2: talking about being able to be vulnerable or have like

1088
00:52:32,960 --> 00:52:35,880
Speaker 2: these circles that women have, women have like historically been

1089
00:52:35,920 --> 00:52:38,120
Speaker 2: able to be vulnerable with one another. You know, we'll

1090
00:52:38,160 --> 00:52:40,839
Speaker 2: gather and talk and cry, We'll gather and talk about

1091
00:52:40,880 --> 00:52:43,399
Speaker 2: the breakup. We'll gather and you know, like support each other.

1092
00:52:43,680 --> 00:52:47,400
Speaker 2: That's like within our nature because by society standards, like

1093
00:52:47,440 --> 00:52:50,120
Speaker 2: that's feminine. But if a guy is feeling you know,

1094
00:52:50,160 --> 00:52:53,759
Speaker 2: a man is feeling like heartbroken or hurt or like

1095
00:52:54,200 --> 00:52:56,439
Speaker 2: trauma is coming up, they may not like go talk

1096
00:52:56,440 --> 00:52:58,360
Speaker 2: to their homeboy. There are not a lot of environments

1097
00:52:58,400 --> 00:53:00,440
Speaker 2: where they feel that they can do that. And so

1098
00:53:00,520 --> 00:53:02,080
Speaker 2: like a lot of men are not holding like they're

1099
00:53:02,080 --> 00:53:04,600
Speaker 2: not holding each other accountable they're not talking about feelings

1100
00:53:04,600 --> 00:53:08,080
Speaker 2: because that seems you know, like feminine or whatever the fuck,

1101
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:10,239
Speaker 2: you know, like, and so I was just telling, you know,

1102
00:53:11,120 --> 00:53:13,239
Speaker 2: even right now for Eric and I, like even in

1103
00:53:13,280 --> 00:53:17,360
Speaker 2: our lives, as I see the men around me, friends, whatever,

1104
00:53:19,520 --> 00:53:24,880
Speaker 2: trying to develop, and especially because I see us leveling

1105
00:53:24,960 --> 00:53:27,400
Speaker 2: up in the healing world, leveling up in ourselves, like

1106
00:53:27,719 --> 00:53:30,760
Speaker 2: being more self aware, wanting to be better in ways,

1107
00:53:30,840 --> 00:53:33,600
Speaker 2: wanting to dig into our trauma. It's like it's really

1108
00:53:33,719 --> 00:53:36,160
Speaker 2: shining a light on a lot of the men that

1109
00:53:36,640 --> 00:53:39,080
Speaker 2: have refused to do that or they have been blocked

1110
00:53:39,120 --> 00:53:43,080
Speaker 2: from doing it. Like I see how when a man

1111
00:53:43,520 --> 00:53:48,280
Speaker 2: doesn't focus on his like entire wholeness and his entire wellness,

1112
00:53:48,320 --> 00:53:51,360
Speaker 2: how it really does pollute the people around you, you know,

1113
00:53:51,480 --> 00:53:55,239
Speaker 2: like your relationships and your marriages and all, like your friendships,

1114
00:53:55,239 --> 00:53:58,680
Speaker 2: because not like just eating well and working out and

1115
00:53:58,719 --> 00:54:00,680
Speaker 2: not really going to the root of the problem and

1116
00:54:00,680 --> 00:54:03,120
Speaker 2: the trauma and like not talking about it is really

1117
00:54:03,120 --> 00:54:05,959
Speaker 2: what starts to bleed out, you know, like not being

1118
00:54:06,000 --> 00:54:08,680
Speaker 2: able to find like a not having anyone you feel

1119
00:54:08,680 --> 00:54:10,520
Speaker 2: like you can be vulnerable with, and be not being

1120
00:54:10,520 --> 00:54:12,560
Speaker 2: able to feel like you could be vulnerable with yourself

1121
00:54:12,760 --> 00:54:15,840
Speaker 2: right is such is such a detriment to the entire

1122
00:54:15,920 --> 00:54:19,040
Speaker 2: community because if women are leveling up, then it's going

1123
00:54:19,120 --> 00:54:21,040
Speaker 2: to be hard to find men to level up with

1124
00:54:21,120 --> 00:54:26,000
Speaker 2: us to create these like these family environments and so

1125
00:54:26,040 --> 00:54:28,399
Speaker 2: we can create children who know that it's okay to cry,

1126
00:54:28,400 --> 00:54:30,320
Speaker 2: and it's okay to grow, it's okay to heal yourself,

1127
00:54:30,400 --> 00:54:32,480
Speaker 2: it's okay to have trauma, and we can work through it.

1128
00:54:33,239 --> 00:54:39,000
Speaker 2: But like it's it's imperative that men a tap into

1129
00:54:39,040 --> 00:54:41,880
Speaker 2: themselves enough to follow back the trauma and say like, damn,

1130
00:54:42,000 --> 00:54:44,720
Speaker 2: I forgive myself, you know, And I think that's something

1131
00:54:44,719 --> 00:54:47,680
Speaker 2: for men and women. Even for me. I'm constantly like damn,

1132
00:54:47,719 --> 00:54:50,520
Speaker 2: Like what is like where is the pool at? And

1133
00:54:50,560 --> 00:54:52,480
Speaker 2: it's like sometimes it's just the simple thing is like

1134
00:54:52,520 --> 00:54:55,440
Speaker 2: have you forgiven yourself from like procrastinating four hundred times?

1135
00:54:55,640 --> 00:54:57,680
Speaker 2: Have you forgiven yourself for doing these things? And like,

1136
00:54:58,200 --> 00:55:03,320
Speaker 2: men I don't really have the space and the outlet

1137
00:55:03,680 --> 00:55:05,759
Speaker 2: to do that because they are not really talking to

1138
00:55:05,840 --> 00:55:08,200
Speaker 2: anyone about it. They're holding it in and it's hurting

1139
00:55:08,239 --> 00:55:10,600
Speaker 2: them and in turn, it's hurting their families and it's

1140
00:55:10,640 --> 00:55:13,240
Speaker 2: hurting their loved ones. And like you said something earlier

1141
00:55:13,239 --> 00:55:16,560
Speaker 2: about like you know, like we'll quickly tell a boy

1142
00:55:16,719 --> 00:55:18,680
Speaker 2: at three years old, like, man, but you don't have

1143
00:55:18,719 --> 00:55:20,560
Speaker 2: no reason to cry, like stop acting like a girl,

1144
00:55:20,960 --> 00:55:23,200
Speaker 2: and that inflicts trauma on little boys and put that

1145
00:55:23,239 --> 00:55:25,799
Speaker 2: motherfucking doll down. You ain't you ain't no girl, like

1146
00:55:25,880 --> 00:55:28,839
Speaker 2: it's a child. And so it's just like we have

1147
00:55:28,920 --> 00:55:32,480
Speaker 2: to be more aware like as parents, as moms that

1148
00:55:32,640 --> 00:55:36,120
Speaker 2: like how we like the safe spaces we create for

1149
00:55:36,160 --> 00:55:39,520
Speaker 2: our boys to express themselves and to be vulnerable and

1150
00:55:39,560 --> 00:55:41,759
Speaker 2: to cry and to use their words and encourage it,

1151
00:55:41,800 --> 00:55:44,320
Speaker 2: because what happens is men grow up with that trauma

1152
00:55:44,360 --> 00:55:47,319
Speaker 2: and not being able to express themselves. And that shit

1153
00:55:48,120 --> 00:55:53,399
Speaker 2: is like talking is medicine. Sharing is medicine, Like Erica

1154
00:55:53,400 --> 00:55:56,840
Speaker 2: and I like are like we can we can definitely

1155
00:55:56,880 --> 00:56:00,560
Speaker 2: like testify about this, like how much healing, Like our

1156
00:56:00,719 --> 00:56:04,200
Speaker 2: entity has grown so much because we've been able to

1157
00:56:04,239 --> 00:56:06,279
Speaker 2: feel safe with one another, with our guests and be

1158
00:56:06,360 --> 00:56:09,520
Speaker 2: honest about real shit like I've hurt, Like I've hurt people,

1159
00:56:09,560 --> 00:56:12,680
Speaker 2: I've been hurting. I've been hurt. But like the just

1160
00:56:12,800 --> 00:56:17,200
Speaker 2: the the safe space to be able to feel vulnerable

1161
00:56:17,880 --> 00:56:22,600
Speaker 2: is really medicine. And like we underestimate the power of speaking,

1162
00:56:22,920 --> 00:56:25,120
Speaker 2: and how we can create safe spaces for men, and

1163
00:56:25,120 --> 00:56:27,560
Speaker 2: how men can create safe spaces for each other. Thank you,

1164
00:56:27,960 --> 00:56:29,920
Speaker 2: But like, I don't feel like that's a that's not

1165
00:56:30,000 --> 00:56:33,200
Speaker 2: a norm amongst black men, that's not a normal amongst

1166
00:56:33,200 --> 00:56:35,279
Speaker 2: most men. And and sometimes like because you don't have

1167
00:56:35,360 --> 00:56:38,120
Speaker 2: friends that you can share with, honestly, you're not being

1168
00:56:38,200 --> 00:56:41,279
Speaker 2: real about your emotions. You're numbed out, and then you're

1169
00:56:41,320 --> 00:56:44,680
Speaker 2: not you're not like gathering friends to be able to

1170
00:56:44,719 --> 00:56:47,080
Speaker 2: do that. And the thing about like your story that

1171
00:56:47,120 --> 00:56:49,239
Speaker 2: stood out to me is like, you know, you went

1172
00:56:49,280 --> 00:56:51,160
Speaker 2: on this journey, you went down south, you started eating,

1173
00:56:51,200 --> 00:56:53,319
Speaker 2: you started you know, there's knowledge that you had, but

1174
00:56:53,360 --> 00:56:55,719
Speaker 2: you had to relearn it for yourself, to apply it,

1175
00:56:55,719 --> 00:56:57,880
Speaker 2: for yourself to be able to offer it. But only

1176
00:56:57,920 --> 00:57:00,880
Speaker 2: when you did that were you able to tracked the

1177
00:57:01,000 --> 00:57:05,040
Speaker 2: people in your life that made profound changes. You know,

1178
00:57:05,160 --> 00:57:07,719
Speaker 2: you like just doing your things, spitting in a bar,

1179
00:57:07,880 --> 00:57:11,000
Speaker 2: and then here comes this, you know, amazing sacred woman

1180
00:57:11,040 --> 00:57:13,160
Speaker 2: who's going to offer you something and then you and

1181
00:57:13,280 --> 00:57:16,880
Speaker 2: through that relationship, you know, that vibration pulled this relationship

1182
00:57:16,880 --> 00:57:19,320
Speaker 2: where she had already really known of you in ways

1183
00:57:19,320 --> 00:57:21,680
Speaker 2: because she has was drawn to your mother. And then

1184
00:57:21,720 --> 00:57:25,080
Speaker 2: you go on this like epic journey, you know where

1185
00:57:25,080 --> 00:57:28,320
Speaker 2: you're like the medicine man and I'm sure like and

1186
00:57:28,400 --> 00:57:30,720
Speaker 2: now you've cultivated this book and this program and all

1187
00:57:30,720 --> 00:57:35,200
Speaker 2: these things. But it's in the honesty, it's in the

1188
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:39,240
Speaker 2: vulnerability that we can find friends, you can find circles

1189
00:57:39,360 --> 00:57:41,600
Speaker 2: where we can do that and then find ourselves and

1190
00:57:41,640 --> 00:57:45,280
Speaker 2: then continue to draw in our people so that we

1191
00:57:45,320 --> 00:57:47,520
Speaker 2: can do it as a community. Like as soon as

1192
00:57:47,560 --> 00:57:50,680
Speaker 2: you make that commitment of self awareness, you will find

1193
00:57:50,720 --> 00:57:54,080
Speaker 2: the people and the entities and the you know that

1194
00:57:54,200 --> 00:58:00,120
Speaker 2: creates spaces and project and multiply this higher vibration. It

1195
00:58:00,200 --> 00:58:04,240
Speaker 2: is it's so much a community, like it's an individual job.

1196
00:58:04,400 --> 00:58:08,520
Speaker 2: But when you do the individual work, that men can

1197
00:58:08,600 --> 00:58:12,920
Speaker 2: go tenfold out into the world and cultivate these like

1198
00:58:12,960 --> 00:58:15,720
Speaker 2: these communities and these families, and like that's why it

1199
00:58:15,800 --> 00:58:18,320
Speaker 2: is like it is imperative that men start doing their

1200
00:58:18,320 --> 00:58:21,680
Speaker 2: healings so that as women, when we go find these mates,

1201
00:58:21,720 --> 00:58:23,880
Speaker 2: that we find like men that are ready and that

1202
00:58:23,960 --> 00:58:26,560
Speaker 2: are not required that we do the work for them.

1203
00:58:26,880 --> 00:58:29,280
Speaker 2: Are that not requiring that they're pulling so much for us,

1204
00:58:29,320 --> 00:58:32,240
Speaker 2: but that you can find two people committed to the

1205
00:58:32,320 --> 00:58:35,920
Speaker 2: healing and the evolution of themselves individually and come together

1206
00:58:36,440 --> 00:58:39,800
Speaker 2: to create you know, like family structures and communities that

1207
00:58:39,880 --> 00:58:40,200
Speaker 2: do that.

1208
00:58:40,280 --> 00:58:42,800
Speaker 1: You know, like this this is why love. It's just

1209
00:58:43,440 --> 00:58:46,200
Speaker 1: it's we're in a state of emergency. We're emerging, and

1210
00:58:46,240 --> 00:58:53,480
Speaker 1: we're seeing emerging in the sea. We're emerging in seeing emergency.

1211
00:58:54,160 --> 00:58:56,680
Speaker 1: It's a call to action. See, I'm not here to

1212
00:58:57,440 --> 00:59:00,840
Speaker 1: play around with the men I know then are hurting.

1213
00:59:01,400 --> 00:59:03,120
Speaker 1: They have been hurting for a long time. I've been

1214
00:59:03,120 --> 00:59:05,720
Speaker 1: one of those men. And a lot of our men

1215
00:59:05,800 --> 00:59:09,520
Speaker 1: have been not self expressed. And so if they have

1216
00:59:09,680 --> 00:59:12,000
Speaker 1: not been able to show up in their union, in

1217
00:59:12,040 --> 00:59:17,280
Speaker 1: their relationships as their full masculine express sells, only one

1218
00:59:17,320 --> 00:59:20,240
Speaker 1: aspect of their masculinity may have been exalted, you know,

1219
00:59:20,280 --> 00:59:22,880
Speaker 1: their ability to provide, which is an attribute of God,

1220
00:59:22,920 --> 00:59:26,520
Speaker 1: you know, provisions and to protect. But then there's so

1221
00:59:26,600 --> 00:59:28,840
Speaker 1: much more that he can contribute. And to your point

1222
00:59:28,840 --> 00:59:32,560
Speaker 1: about really making him excited about you know, having creating

1223
00:59:32,560 --> 00:59:35,480
Speaker 1: a space where he's excited to unlock and unblock himself.

1224
00:59:35,840 --> 00:59:38,640
Speaker 1: That's that's that's the point of doing the rights of

1225
00:59:38,680 --> 00:59:41,640
Speaker 1: the online rights of passage. We've been blessed to have.

1226
00:59:42,440 --> 00:59:44,720
Speaker 1: This is spring. So we're about to get into our

1227
00:59:44,760 --> 00:59:47,840
Speaker 1: what we call our seven formation. We have men all

1228
00:59:47,840 --> 00:59:52,120
Speaker 1: around the world, from throughout the United States, Canada, Europe, Africa,

1229
00:59:52,400 --> 00:59:57,840
Speaker 1: the Caribbean that partake, you know, and from different cultures,

1230
00:59:57,880 --> 01:00:00,360
Speaker 1: different walks of life that come together and and go

1231
01:00:00,520 --> 01:00:05,320
Speaker 1: through the death the different challenges to challenge himself to

1232
01:00:05,360 --> 01:00:07,680
Speaker 1: be a greater version of himself so he can meet himself.

1233
01:00:08,320 --> 01:00:11,000
Speaker 1: The key that I that I informed brothers on is

1234
01:00:11,040 --> 01:00:14,000
Speaker 1: once you our rights of passage is very important for

1235
01:00:14,080 --> 01:00:17,160
Speaker 1: all of our Aboriginal native brothers and sisters around the world.

1236
01:00:17,200 --> 01:00:20,920
Speaker 1: You know. Colonialization has cut off that flow from elder

1237
01:00:20,960 --> 01:00:22,600
Speaker 1: to youth, you know, and so a lot of the

1238
01:00:22,640 --> 01:00:24,760
Speaker 1: things that would have been addressed of a young man

1239
01:00:25,120 --> 01:00:28,120
Speaker 1: feeling not self expressed at three, four, five, six years old,

1240
01:00:28,560 --> 01:00:32,080
Speaker 1: traditionally in our tribal families around the world, we would

1241
01:00:32,080 --> 01:00:34,480
Speaker 1: have had that already squared away. By the time he

1242
01:00:34,560 --> 01:00:37,800
Speaker 1: was seventeen eighteen, he was already in action and activity,

1243
01:00:38,160 --> 01:00:41,520
Speaker 1: social emotional intelligence, physical you know, strength, He was already

1244
01:00:41,520 --> 01:00:43,960
Speaker 1: building these things. So by the time he actually had

1245
01:00:44,000 --> 01:00:47,320
Speaker 1: a mate, he was able to be a holistic man. Right,

1246
01:00:47,440 --> 01:00:51,600
Speaker 1: So that has been disrupted. But our women, our sisters,

1247
01:00:51,640 --> 01:00:57,760
Speaker 1: have been holding that that sphere. And all we have

1248
01:00:57,800 --> 01:01:00,480
Speaker 1: to do as men is be inspired by what we

1249
01:01:00,520 --> 01:01:03,400
Speaker 1: see how women doing. And I think y'all do it

1250
01:01:03,800 --> 01:01:07,160
Speaker 1: well and glorious, and all we have to do is

1251
01:01:07,200 --> 01:01:09,400
Speaker 1: put our man on that. It's like, oh, okay, that's

1252
01:01:09,440 --> 01:01:13,480
Speaker 1: what they do it. Let's bring those tenants into man language.

1253
01:01:13,560 --> 01:01:13,680
Speaker 3: Right.

1254
01:01:13,720 --> 01:01:15,600
Speaker 1: It maybe look a little different because we have how

1255
01:01:15,600 --> 01:01:19,480
Speaker 1: we show up, right, But I find the more brothers

1256
01:01:19,480 --> 01:01:23,320
Speaker 1: are sharing stuff express they are, they are now testifying,

1257
01:01:23,320 --> 01:01:26,200
Speaker 1: their healing is now showing up. And once I once

1258
01:01:26,240 --> 01:01:30,160
Speaker 1: the brothers get to that place of fully being actualized

1259
01:01:30,160 --> 01:01:33,440
Speaker 1: and doing his daily ritualistic work for himself, ritualistic for

1260
01:01:33,480 --> 01:01:36,800
Speaker 1: the people talking about listening, I'm talking about, you know,

1261
01:01:36,880 --> 01:01:40,520
Speaker 1: doing his body, mind, spirit, social, emotional healing work, his

1262
01:01:40,560 --> 01:01:44,360
Speaker 1: physical fitness, his meditation, his his nourishing himself every single

1263
01:01:44,440 --> 01:01:47,600
Speaker 1: day without fail, because this is his life. We want

1264
01:01:47,600 --> 01:01:49,960
Speaker 1: his life to be filled with this, beyond the twelve

1265
01:01:50,000 --> 01:01:52,840
Speaker 1: week training that we provide, even beyond.

1266
01:01:52,560 --> 01:01:54,440
Speaker 3: The life side. Not just a moment.

1267
01:01:54,560 --> 01:01:57,880
Speaker 1: It's not a moment. And what happens when you go

1268
01:01:57,920 --> 01:02:02,040
Speaker 1: through this, brother man, oh woman, you you awaken your power.

1269
01:02:03,040 --> 01:02:05,479
Speaker 1: It's like now your brothers, when you beat the level one,

1270
01:02:05,920 --> 01:02:07,160
Speaker 1: now you get level two, you.

1271
01:02:07,160 --> 01:02:09,960
Speaker 3: Become addicted to it. You do, you become addicted to

1272
01:02:10,480 --> 01:02:14,480
Speaker 3: like the feeling of progress, the feeling of unlocking yourself.

1273
01:02:14,520 --> 01:02:17,880
Speaker 3: I was I was thinking about just going back to

1274
01:02:18,360 --> 01:02:21,120
Speaker 3: you know, people asking us about the men's work, the

1275
01:02:21,200 --> 01:02:24,280
Speaker 3: men's retreats, and I really do feel like it's not

1276
01:02:24,400 --> 01:02:27,600
Speaker 3: something we can do right, Like this is a men's issue,

1277
01:02:27,840 --> 01:02:31,120
Speaker 3: Like men have to have to heal them, like women

1278
01:02:31,160 --> 01:02:32,080
Speaker 3: cannot heal the men.

1279
01:02:32,200 --> 01:02:33,680
Speaker 1: All the women can tried.

1280
01:02:34,280 --> 01:02:37,480
Speaker 3: And if you're listening this right now says you can't.

1281
01:02:37,200 --> 01:02:40,840
Speaker 1: Heal him with what you can. Let's let let's let's

1282
01:02:40,840 --> 01:02:43,640
Speaker 1: focus on what women can do exactly, because y'all can

1283
01:02:43,880 --> 01:02:45,600
Speaker 1: arrange the way for the man.

1284
01:02:45,680 --> 01:02:47,960
Speaker 3: Well, you can support him, you can show him how

1285
01:02:48,040 --> 01:02:50,240
Speaker 3: you like what you are doing. You can be you

1286
01:02:50,240 --> 01:02:53,400
Speaker 3: can you can be a beacon of light for his

1287
01:02:54,200 --> 01:02:56,760
Speaker 3: inevitable healing. But you ultimately like he has to do

1288
01:02:56,800 --> 01:02:59,240
Speaker 3: the work absolutely. And I have a question about this

1289
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Speaker 3: because I've been thinking lot about like just what's been

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Speaker 3: happening and on social media and the things I'm seeing

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01:03:04,520 --> 01:03:07,640
Speaker 3: about and even in our community about this like demasculation

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01:03:07,840 --> 01:03:11,400
Speaker 3: of black men, right, and them saying that, like black

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01:03:11,400 --> 01:03:16,400
Speaker 3: men are becoming demasculated by all of by women, by feminism,

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01:03:16,800 --> 01:03:21,240
Speaker 3: by society, media, by by just you know, even men

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01:03:21,320 --> 01:03:24,800
Speaker 3: tapping into their femininity in ways which you know can

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Speaker 3: be can be argued. What that looks like?

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Speaker 1: What to you?

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Speaker 3: Well, do you believe that and be? What is a

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01:03:32,160 --> 01:03:33,200
Speaker 3: divine masculine to you?

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01:03:33,840 --> 01:03:36,760
Speaker 1: A divine masculine is a self expressed man that is

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01:03:36,800 --> 01:03:42,280
Speaker 1: a host to the deity identification as God. I have

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01:03:42,320 --> 01:03:45,000
Speaker 1: the same like divine feminine would be a host of

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01:03:45,000 --> 01:03:49,920
Speaker 1: a god is head. To be a host of this presence,

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01:03:50,000 --> 01:03:53,840
Speaker 1: this expression, this cosmic force, you have to be a worker.

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01:03:54,560 --> 01:03:58,280
Speaker 1: You have to be willing to be an example of

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01:03:58,320 --> 01:04:02,680
Speaker 1: that in your action. That's why it's an attribute, right,

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01:04:03,880 --> 01:04:06,120
Speaker 1: It's a part of this of the whole. Right, So

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01:04:06,360 --> 01:04:08,800
Speaker 1: of divine masculine would be a man. That is what

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01:04:08,840 --> 01:04:11,320
Speaker 1: we're talking about as well as worries is creating a

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01:04:11,400 --> 01:04:17,960
Speaker 1: daily living for himself that begins to excite, unlock, un

1311
01:04:18,000 --> 01:04:21,439
Speaker 1: block him to be more self expressive. What he says

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01:04:21,520 --> 01:04:24,840
Speaker 1: he is as a man, the body of man. When

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01:04:24,840 --> 01:04:27,640
Speaker 1: I look at all men, black men, white men, Asian man,

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01:04:27,720 --> 01:04:31,800
Speaker 1: Latin men. You know, all men, the body of man

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01:04:32,040 --> 01:04:37,920
Speaker 1: is wounded. Okay, so the perception of man is wounded.

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01:04:40,200 --> 01:04:42,120
Speaker 1: Masculinity has been wounded.

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Speaker 2: Man.

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Speaker 1: The body of man needs to be healed. It's just

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01:04:49,760 --> 01:04:54,400
Speaker 1: not a group of men. All men and those sexual

1320
01:04:54,480 --> 01:05:00,160
Speaker 1: or rainbow men. All men need their moment in moment

1321
01:05:00,280 --> 01:05:04,320
Speaker 1: with their healing. And healing is a lifelong journey. It's

1322
01:05:04,360 --> 01:05:13,160
Speaker 1: a glorious, hard, hidden, heavy, ugly and beautiful lifelong Jourmany

1323
01:05:13,240 --> 01:05:17,600
Speaker 1: you're never healed up, but you're in healing, and they

1324
01:05:18,400 --> 01:05:20,959
Speaker 1: cut your wisdom, says So I said that to say,

1325
01:05:22,200 --> 01:05:25,320
Speaker 1: when we know that men are hurting, period. This is

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01:05:25,320 --> 01:05:29,320
Speaker 1: why we have you know, these beta male leaders with

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01:05:29,400 --> 01:05:32,120
Speaker 1: their hands on the nuke any point, because they have

1328
01:05:32,160 --> 01:05:34,600
Speaker 1: not built the social motion intelligence of how to deal

1329
01:05:34,600 --> 01:05:38,000
Speaker 1: with each other as men, you know, right as a god,

1330
01:05:38,040 --> 01:05:40,280
Speaker 1: as a man, God had of this country and so

1331
01:05:40,360 --> 01:05:43,080
Speaker 1: are you. And we have the responsibilities with these citizens.

1332
01:05:43,480 --> 01:05:45,560
Speaker 1: How best can we fellowship with each other? So we

1333
01:05:45,600 --> 01:05:48,960
Speaker 1: don't go to a place where we have everybody exposed

1334
01:05:48,960 --> 01:05:52,320
Speaker 1: in ourselves exposed, right, So we see the cracks of

1335
01:05:52,960 --> 01:05:57,480
Speaker 1: manhood globally at all levels of society. You know, men

1336
01:05:57,520 --> 01:06:00,280
Speaker 1: are taught to aspire to be this man when you

1337
01:06:00,320 --> 01:06:03,120
Speaker 1: when you meet those men, they're hurting too. I said,

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Speaker 1: with the billionaires and the millionaires, they have some of

1339
01:06:05,480 --> 01:06:07,760
Speaker 1: the same with social emotional issues too. And you were

1340
01:06:07,840 --> 01:06:10,040
Speaker 1: like man. All my life, I was trying to get

1341
01:06:10,080 --> 01:06:12,400
Speaker 1: things to be a master man like you. But you

1342
01:06:12,520 --> 01:06:16,360
Speaker 1: hurting too. So that's what we have we have in common, unfortunately,

1343
01:06:16,800 --> 01:06:20,120
Speaker 1: is the body of man has been wounded. So to me,

1344
01:06:21,120 --> 01:06:26,080
Speaker 1: it's an opportunity for man to be rebranded. It's not

1345
01:06:26,160 --> 01:06:31,240
Speaker 1: about them seeing us this way and that way. Men

1346
01:06:31,320 --> 01:06:34,240
Speaker 1: need just to get together and fellowship and do this

1347
01:06:34,360 --> 01:06:40,560
Speaker 1: work because the perception transforms when we transform. Right when

1348
01:06:40,600 --> 01:06:43,840
Speaker 1: they said, oh, the divine masculine and feminine, you know, listen,

1349
01:06:43,880 --> 01:06:47,240
Speaker 1: I mean you're the best of your mother and the

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01:06:47,280 --> 01:06:52,640
Speaker 1: best of your father at the moment of conception. So

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01:06:52,840 --> 01:06:58,000
Speaker 1: the mask, the divine masculine host the best of his

1352
01:06:58,160 --> 01:07:03,480
Speaker 1: mother and himself. Bind feminine hosts the best of the

1353
01:07:03,520 --> 01:07:07,200
Speaker 1: Holy Father in herself. If me and you come together,

1354
01:07:08,120 --> 01:07:12,800
Speaker 1: that mother that you are, that father you host the

1355
01:07:12,800 --> 01:07:14,680
Speaker 1: man that I am and the woman that I host.

1356
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Speaker 1: They have an interaction called union entity the entity, So

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Speaker 1: are we ready to do the work to facilitate this

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01:07:29,560 --> 01:07:35,200
Speaker 1: glorious entity that is the father in you and the

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Speaker 1: mother in me. We're talking about a masking them. And

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Speaker 1: are you ready for the father in you to meet

1361
01:07:39,960 --> 01:07:44,080
Speaker 1: the mother in me? Is the father in you, sister

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Speaker 1: compatible to handle the social emotional flex of the mother

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Speaker 1: principle in me? Right? Because the man that I am

1364
01:07:55,200 --> 01:07:59,400
Speaker 1: brought me to you? What is the father that you

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Speaker 1: host it? Now? You see I'm going with this and

1366
01:08:03,120 --> 01:08:05,120
Speaker 1: s he's in tune with the mother that I'm hosting.

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Speaker 1: Why Because we are the best of our fathers and

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01:08:08,680 --> 01:08:12,920
Speaker 1: mothers at the moment of conception, wherever they were at

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01:08:13,200 --> 01:08:19,280
Speaker 1: the best of that, the best of that. We all

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01:08:19,479 --> 01:08:25,600
Speaker 1: came on the That's why we calm down. We have

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Speaker 1: to go.

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Speaker 4: Side.

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Speaker 1: That's why I meditated. We love meditating, meditating because we

1374
01:08:33,080 --> 01:08:36,360
Speaker 1: came in on the meditation. We came in on the thrust,

1375
01:08:36,439 --> 01:08:39,160
Speaker 1: the breathing, the pump, the eye, the oh, the sound,

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Speaker 1: the tone.

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Speaker 2: And it's glorious to me.

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01:08:45,000 --> 01:08:47,599
Speaker 1: I love it. I love it so much that I

1379
01:08:47,680 --> 01:08:51,240
Speaker 1: understand that it needs to be cultivated and poured into

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Speaker 1: a nurtured Our ancient ancestors in the now valley. The

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01:08:54,720 --> 01:09:02,600
Speaker 1: cometic ancestors, they had a hieroglyph called mirror, and the

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01:09:02,640 --> 01:09:05,439
Speaker 1: Greeks took it on as the concept of love, the heart,

1383
01:09:05,600 --> 01:09:09,560
Speaker 1: the agape, the heart now and ken it and the

1384
01:09:09,640 --> 01:09:13,920
Speaker 1: hieroglyphs on the wall. The hieroglyph was actually a plow.

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01:09:14,200 --> 01:09:17,519
Speaker 1: It wasn't a heart. It indicated you had to work

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01:09:20,000 --> 01:09:22,439
Speaker 1: because they were farmers, right, so they how they showed

1387
01:09:22,479 --> 01:09:26,320
Speaker 1: love is well, we're cultivating. We're cultivating. So my connection

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01:09:26,479 --> 01:09:29,920
Speaker 1: to you is that we this is our symbol to

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01:09:30,040 --> 01:09:32,120
Speaker 1: remind us that we have to cultivate.

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Speaker 2: It's not going to just exist.

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Speaker 6: We are the divine masculine, the divine feminine are gardeners

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Speaker 6: we have we are not tending to our garden. We

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Speaker 6: inherit each other with all of the beautiful flowers and

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01:09:49,320 --> 01:09:51,840
Speaker 6: the roses, but we don't tend.

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Speaker 1: To the garden. And that's why I said, if we

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Speaker 1: were going to go deeper into the divine masculine, divine feminine,

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Speaker 1: you become that divine feminine. You're hosting your father in you?

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01:10:06,320 --> 01:10:10,720
Speaker 1: Is your father ready to date court? The mother in

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Speaker 1: the man that you attract.

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Speaker 2: Does that have to do with like healing the relationships

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01:10:18,680 --> 01:10:20,639
Speaker 2: you have with those people and finding.

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01:10:20,920 --> 01:10:26,640
Speaker 1: Absolutely it's all about the Holy Mother and Father. So

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01:10:26,760 --> 01:10:29,400
Speaker 1: the more the father allows me the healing of my

1404
01:10:29,479 --> 01:10:33,320
Speaker 1: father allows me to grow Father. The healing of my

1405
01:10:33,439 --> 01:10:39,200
Speaker 1: mother affects my matter, my matters, Mother matters, Father, Father.

1406
01:10:40,439 --> 01:10:46,200
Speaker 1: I check my family matters in the matter form. And

1407
01:10:46,280 --> 01:10:48,760
Speaker 1: so if I check that and I'm accountable, then I

1408
01:10:48,800 --> 01:10:54,000
Speaker 1: can grow Father. We never escape the principle of the

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01:10:54,000 --> 01:10:58,759
Speaker 1: divine masking and feminine. It's always present.

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01:11:01,840 --> 01:11:04,920
Speaker 3: It's and and and it's dear.

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01:11:05,160 --> 01:11:07,880
Speaker 1: And let me tell you something, sister. They see, these

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01:11:07,920 --> 01:11:10,760
Speaker 1: are the type of conversations that we just go to

1413
01:11:10,840 --> 01:11:12,640
Speaker 1: the beach of our minds with and we just be

1414
01:11:12,680 --> 01:11:16,040
Speaker 1: putting our feet in the water because there's a depths

1415
01:11:16,760 --> 01:11:20,800
Speaker 1: that we haven't yet to fully explore with each other

1416
01:11:20,800 --> 01:11:23,599
Speaker 1: and ourselves. There's a there's a beautiful depths. And so

1417
01:11:23,640 --> 01:11:26,519
Speaker 1: the man held myself the energy with that with the

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01:11:26,560 --> 01:11:31,160
Speaker 1: brothers says, brothers, unlock your depths with jay Z said,

1419
01:11:31,160 --> 01:11:33,920
Speaker 1: allow me to reintroduce myself. My name is Hohole. Right,

1420
01:11:33,960 --> 01:11:37,320
Speaker 1: look at your right, you see how you went into that.

1421
01:11:37,479 --> 01:11:40,000
Speaker 1: If men, if men retroduce themselves, exactly how you be

1422
01:11:40,040 --> 01:11:43,800
Speaker 1: like this? With the spirit right because they because they're

1423
01:11:43,840 --> 01:11:49,880
Speaker 1: doing they really are excited about doing their work for themselves.

1424
01:11:50,200 --> 01:11:53,879
Speaker 1: And the excitement that a man feels to express himself,

1425
01:11:54,320 --> 01:11:58,000
Speaker 1: the divine feminine is already in divine alignment with him.

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01:11:58,360 --> 01:11:59,920
Speaker 2: This is what we're here to do.

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01:12:01,240 --> 01:12:04,400
Speaker 1: It's cosmic. It transcends the ego of how we think

1428
01:12:04,439 --> 01:12:06,720
Speaker 1: we're supposed to talk and show up with each other less.

1429
01:12:06,760 --> 01:12:11,479
Speaker 1: I'm trying to say, this life is so glorious, brothers

1430
01:12:11,479 --> 01:12:15,800
Speaker 1: and sisters, And my prayer is that all of us

1431
01:12:16,200 --> 01:12:20,280
Speaker 1: experience the unlocking as we go and unblocking. And yes

1432
01:12:20,320 --> 01:12:23,320
Speaker 1: we'll be hurt, Yes we'll have pain, but we'll heal.

1433
01:12:23,560 --> 01:12:26,360
Speaker 1: See these tattoos are reminding me at one time this hurt.

1434
01:12:26,960 --> 01:12:29,879
Speaker 1: It don't hurt no more, but I can look and remember.

1435
01:12:30,120 --> 01:12:32,840
Speaker 1: I remember how that felt. I remember how it felt.

1436
01:12:33,040 --> 01:12:36,280
Speaker 1: But I'm not wearing the pain no more. Now it's odd.

1437
01:12:36,400 --> 01:12:39,200
Speaker 1: Now it's reminding of the symbology of why I did it.

1438
01:12:39,439 --> 01:12:42,519
Speaker 1: You see how it transcended it. The pain was the

1439
01:12:42,840 --> 01:12:46,559
Speaker 1: pain was just temporarily. I don't have to walk my

1440
01:12:46,760 --> 01:12:50,320
Speaker 1: life with the pain. I can let the pain come

1441
01:12:51,240 --> 01:12:54,320
Speaker 1: teach me, let me know what it needs to do.

1442
01:12:54,840 --> 01:12:56,240
Speaker 1: And it can leave me.

1443
01:12:56,800 --> 01:12:59,160
Speaker 3: The pain is like a reminder of your humanness that

1444
01:12:59,240 --> 01:13:02,120
Speaker 3: you feel, you can feel that you're not numb.

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01:13:02,080 --> 01:13:04,519
Speaker 1: Right, And so I'm saying we don't need to make

1446
01:13:04,560 --> 01:13:08,120
Speaker 1: it a block. It's like I used the tattoo example.

1447
01:13:08,160 --> 01:13:11,240
Speaker 1: It came, it got the ink, it hurt, and then

1448
01:13:11,280 --> 01:13:13,720
Speaker 1: it healed right. So so so I'm saying we can

1449
01:13:13,840 --> 01:13:16,200
Speaker 1: use it as a way to move through, not as

1450
01:13:16,200 --> 01:13:17,880
Speaker 1: a way to block us for moving that. That's that

1451
01:13:18,000 --> 01:13:18,680
Speaker 1: was my point of saying.

1452
01:13:18,880 --> 01:13:21,599
Speaker 3: There's also a level though. What I have found was men,

1453
01:13:22,120 --> 01:13:23,840
Speaker 3: a few men actually met in my life, is that

1454
01:13:24,080 --> 01:13:32,280
Speaker 3: like this, the the resistance and acknowledging pain, the resistance

1455
01:13:32,320 --> 01:13:38,040
Speaker 3: and acknowledging trauma, the resistance in the word healing, well.

1456
01:13:37,880 --> 01:13:39,160
Speaker 1: I already got I already got it for you be

1457
01:13:39,200 --> 01:13:42,360
Speaker 1: love it. The thing with when you see men go

1458
01:13:42,400 --> 01:13:49,439
Speaker 1: through that, it's appearing not to be strong. No man

1459
01:13:49,479 --> 01:13:52,560
Speaker 1: wants to appear before a woman with lack of strength.

1460
01:13:52,400 --> 01:13:55,200
Speaker 3: But it almost feels like they really feel this way.

1461
01:13:55,280 --> 01:13:58,920
Speaker 1: No no, no, no, no no no no no. I'm trying

1462
01:13:58,920 --> 01:14:01,680
Speaker 1: to say it's it's it's it's a universal. Before he

1463
01:14:01,720 --> 01:14:03,599
Speaker 1: even got to you, he's doing that to his mother.

1464
01:14:03,840 --> 01:14:05,760
Speaker 1: He's doing that to his women in his life, the

1465
01:14:05,760 --> 01:14:09,200
Speaker 1: co worker. It's not even wanting to appear to be

1466
01:14:09,800 --> 01:14:14,000
Speaker 1: one week or not knowing. So if my woman come

1467
01:14:14,040 --> 01:14:16,360
Speaker 1: to tell me about yo, I got this this wellness

1468
01:14:16,360 --> 01:14:18,760
Speaker 1: cleanic is DETX and these herbs, this and that that

1469
01:14:20,640 --> 01:14:23,439
Speaker 1: to appear that I'm not weak and I don't and

1470
01:14:23,479 --> 01:14:25,240
Speaker 1: I might of know. Oh yeah I hear that. Yeah, okay,

1471
01:14:25,320 --> 01:14:29,040
Speaker 1: I heard about that. So I downplay it because instead

1472
01:14:29,080 --> 01:14:31,400
Speaker 1: of being open, maybe teach teach me and let me

1473
01:14:31,479 --> 01:14:34,920
Speaker 1: learn that. Well, maybe my teaching was changing. A woman

1474
01:14:35,000 --> 01:14:39,040
Speaker 1: can't teach me something to learn, but I'm giving you,

1475
01:14:39,040 --> 01:14:43,000
Speaker 1: I'm giving you all the backstage with the men, right,

1476
01:14:43,160 --> 01:14:45,960
Speaker 1: is that maybe he was taught that a woman can't

1477
01:14:46,000 --> 01:14:49,080
Speaker 1: teach him something and if she does, it's gonna make

1478
01:14:49,120 --> 01:14:50,600
Speaker 1: him look like he don't know what he's doing and

1479
01:14:50,760 --> 01:14:53,200
Speaker 1: talking about, and therefore she's not going to respect him

1480
01:14:53,200 --> 01:14:54,760
Speaker 1: and think he's straight. So these are the These are

1481
01:14:54,800 --> 01:14:59,200
Speaker 1: the These are the undeveloped, unfortunate things that are in

1482
01:14:59,240 --> 01:15:02,320
Speaker 1: the consciousness of our men. So when when we front,

1483
01:15:02,360 --> 01:15:05,600
Speaker 1: that's fronting. That's just a front. Right. It takes a

1484
01:15:06,479 --> 01:15:10,000
Speaker 1: fully alpha man is not fronting because then alpha. Let

1485
01:15:10,040 --> 01:15:12,040
Speaker 1: me let's break down the alpha thing, beau. Anybody gets

1486
01:15:12,040 --> 01:15:15,920
Speaker 1: caught up in that. An alpha in principle, it means

1487
01:15:16,000 --> 01:15:21,439
Speaker 1: leader leadership, beta and principle means follow. Alpha female is

1488
01:15:21,520 --> 01:15:24,160
Speaker 1: a woman that you know creates her own pathway. She

1489
01:15:24,280 --> 01:15:27,960
Speaker 1: leadsing her own pathway. Alpha man creates the pathway and

1490
01:15:28,040 --> 01:15:30,800
Speaker 1: others look at him as an example and they follow suit. Right,

1491
01:15:33,200 --> 01:15:37,080
Speaker 1: The most alpha thing a man could do for himself

1492
01:15:38,120 --> 01:15:41,519
Speaker 1: is being his transparency. The goddess of how you view

1493
01:15:41,600 --> 01:15:41,840
Speaker 1: me or.

1494
01:15:41,840 --> 01:15:45,240
Speaker 2: Not right part is the alpha male. To be vulnerable,

1495
01:15:45,280 --> 01:15:47,240
Speaker 2: to be sit with your feelings, offer them.

1496
01:15:47,680 --> 01:15:50,479
Speaker 1: But that but that takes like I said earlier about

1497
01:15:50,520 --> 01:15:54,679
Speaker 1: the cultivation, about the you know, the hieroglyph about the plow.

1498
01:15:55,200 --> 01:15:58,280
Speaker 1: It takes cultivation to y'all said earlier, you know, getting

1499
01:15:58,280 --> 01:16:00,800
Speaker 1: brothers to a place where they're excited about their daily

1500
01:16:00,840 --> 01:16:03,920
Speaker 1: cultivation unlocks that and it changes the attitude. Like you said,

1501
01:16:03,920 --> 01:16:06,719
Speaker 1: how those brothers show up when we talk about healing again.

1502
01:16:06,920 --> 01:16:10,160
Speaker 1: He doesn't want to appear to be weaker, right, but

1503
01:16:10,280 --> 01:16:12,439
Speaker 1: he knows he was when you get with him, start

1504
01:16:12,520 --> 01:16:15,240
Speaker 1: talking to him. He want the healing they all brothers

1505
01:16:15,320 --> 01:16:17,439
Speaker 1: all wanted. But it's like the how do It's like

1506
01:16:17,479 --> 01:16:20,040
Speaker 1: the path do I take to get it? And how

1507
01:16:20,040 --> 01:16:22,599
Speaker 1: do I see myself? And how would my woman? How

1508
01:16:22,600 --> 01:16:23,600
Speaker 1: would my women see me?

1509
01:16:24,080 --> 01:16:25,719
Speaker 3: You know well, it's almost like they need another word,

1510
01:16:25,840 --> 01:16:27,880
Speaker 3: like the word he okay gets triggering for them that.

1511
01:16:27,880 --> 01:16:29,800
Speaker 2: It's something they haven't done, is or like.

1512
01:16:29,960 --> 01:16:32,280
Speaker 3: I think about my dad and you know my dad.

1513
01:16:32,520 --> 01:16:36,400
Speaker 3: Uh grew up in the South. His mom was thirteen

1514
01:16:36,439 --> 01:16:40,240
Speaker 3: when she had him, and she gave him for adoption

1515
01:16:40,360 --> 01:16:42,840
Speaker 3: to hit her aunt and they all live in the

1516
01:16:42,840 --> 01:16:47,200
Speaker 3: same house together. But he grew up thinking that his

1517
01:16:47,280 --> 01:16:50,280
Speaker 3: mom was his sister, and so he grew up thinking

1518
01:16:50,280 --> 01:16:52,400
Speaker 3: this until he was about twelve or thirteen years old,

1519
01:16:53,080 --> 01:16:55,599
Speaker 3: calling his mom's sister, his mom telling him what to

1520
01:16:55,640 --> 01:16:57,840
Speaker 3: do and him being like, you're my sister, Like please

1521
01:16:57,840 --> 01:17:01,519
Speaker 3: shut up and realize that's your mama. And his school

1522
01:17:01,520 --> 01:17:04,600
Speaker 3: teacher told him, you know that's your mom, right, like

1523
01:17:04,720 --> 01:17:07,680
Speaker 3: just casually one day at school. My dad to this

1524
01:17:07,760 --> 01:17:10,559
Speaker 3: day said it did not affect him. There's no trauma there.

1525
01:17:11,080 --> 01:17:13,400
Speaker 3: He said, I thought about it, and I said okay,

1526
01:17:14,240 --> 01:17:16,920
Speaker 3: and in my mind and then like my dad, and

1527
01:17:16,960 --> 01:17:18,960
Speaker 3: it's like, why do you want this to be traumatic

1528
01:17:19,080 --> 01:17:21,479
Speaker 3: for me like you're saying that this is supposed to

1529
01:17:21,479 --> 01:17:23,800
Speaker 3: have affected me in some way and it didn't. And

1530
01:17:23,840 --> 01:17:26,000
Speaker 3: I'm just but I've seen how he has showed up

1531
01:17:26,160 --> 01:17:29,720
Speaker 3: with women in his life, not letting himself be not

1532
01:17:29,840 --> 01:17:33,120
Speaker 3: letting himself love them fully. Because I listen, I'm not

1533
01:17:33,160 --> 01:17:34,760
Speaker 3: a therapist, but to me, it's like it goes back

1534
01:17:34,840 --> 01:17:37,160
Speaker 3: to the root of that the first lie, like your

1535
01:17:37,160 --> 01:17:40,280
Speaker 3: mother lied to you, you know, and and having a

1536
01:17:40,320 --> 01:17:44,479
Speaker 3: distrust and you know, I've encountered this with different men,

1537
01:17:44,600 --> 01:17:47,679
Speaker 3: like having things happen in their childhood that they say

1538
01:17:48,080 --> 01:17:52,679
Speaker 3: this absolutely did not affect me. This is what they're saying,

1539
01:17:53,080 --> 01:17:56,080
Speaker 3: it did not affect me, or saying I had a

1540
01:17:56,080 --> 01:17:59,520
Speaker 3: really great childhood childhood.

1541
01:17:59,560 --> 01:18:03,800
Speaker 1: So there's you say, so so numb. That's what it is.

1542
01:18:03,840 --> 01:18:07,400
Speaker 2: The numb tricks you into believing that you honestly don't

1543
01:18:07,400 --> 01:18:09,320
Speaker 2: feel any way about it. I've done it a million

1544
01:18:09,360 --> 01:18:12,600
Speaker 2: times myself. I have sat and like, I don't think so,

1545
01:18:12,840 --> 01:18:14,800
Speaker 2: like you're not going to make me feel trauma. But

1546
01:18:14,840 --> 01:18:17,960
Speaker 2: the truth is is, like my body, my programming is

1547
01:18:18,000 --> 01:18:19,920
Speaker 2: so deeply seated, like you just wake up one day

1548
01:18:20,040 --> 01:18:21,960
Speaker 2: like this is traumatizing. It's not going to make me

1549
01:18:22,120 --> 01:18:26,360
Speaker 2: suddenly feel feel the pain. It's just that you've conditioned

1550
01:18:26,360 --> 01:18:29,559
Speaker 2: yourself for so long to believe it doesn't hurt. You

1551
01:18:29,600 --> 01:18:33,240
Speaker 2: can't even register or associate with those feelings because you've

1552
01:18:33,360 --> 01:18:35,600
Speaker 2: removed yourself from the entire situation.

1553
01:18:35,760 --> 01:18:38,519
Speaker 1: Now that's that's a woman saying that, going through it

1554
01:18:38,560 --> 01:18:41,920
Speaker 1: as a woman. Right. Well, look and even you saying

1555
01:18:41,920 --> 01:18:46,000
Speaker 1: that because you have you attract sis's accountability, y'all? Can

1556
01:18:46,320 --> 01:18:49,639
Speaker 1: you can easily unlock into that and change that perception?

1557
01:18:49,960 --> 01:18:52,360
Speaker 1: Now try being a man where every way you look

1558
01:18:52,720 --> 01:18:58,960
Speaker 1: is the man has locked into that limited expression. This

1559
01:18:59,000 --> 01:19:01,599
Speaker 1: is why the so of healing are important with the brothers,

1560
01:19:01,600 --> 01:19:03,800
Speaker 1: because it doesn't matter how hard they come. I'm telling

1561
01:19:03,800 --> 01:19:06,120
Speaker 1: you like I'm talking to say. You know, we attract

1562
01:19:06,160 --> 01:19:08,040
Speaker 1: all types of brothers. I mean brothers who were in

1563
01:19:08,120 --> 01:19:10,320
Speaker 1: and out of the system, you know, the jail brothers,

1564
01:19:10,320 --> 01:19:13,080
Speaker 1: former gang bangers, brothers that served in all levels of

1565
01:19:13,080 --> 01:19:16,200
Speaker 1: the military. Combat I mean, I'm I'm I'm a combat

1566
01:19:16,240 --> 01:19:21,599
Speaker 1: veteran myself. I serve in Afghanistan. Right, So we tracked

1567
01:19:21,600 --> 01:19:25,200
Speaker 1: all types of men and once were able to circle

1568
01:19:25,400 --> 01:19:30,439
Speaker 1: up and look at different types of men and hear

1569
01:19:30,479 --> 01:19:35,840
Speaker 1: their story nobody's fronting no more. And see men, real

1570
01:19:35,880 --> 01:19:37,720
Speaker 1: men when they get together, they don't front no more

1571
01:19:37,720 --> 01:19:40,120
Speaker 1: because they don't have to because I'm sorry to don

1572
01:19:40,200 --> 01:19:43,360
Speaker 1: the cutry wisdom. So that in that revealing, in that

1573
01:19:43,520 --> 01:19:47,320
Speaker 1: ciphering up, we're able to I take them to we

1574
01:19:47,320 --> 01:19:50,320
Speaker 1: take them through meditations where they have to face what

1575
01:19:50,520 --> 01:19:54,120
Speaker 1: you said, the numbness, which unlocks the fronting that they

1576
01:19:54,120 --> 01:19:56,160
Speaker 1: were doing what you were talking about, how they, oh,

1577
01:19:56,200 --> 01:19:57,880
Speaker 1: I don't have nothing. My childhood was good. I don't

1578
01:19:57,920 --> 01:20:00,320
Speaker 1: that never happened to me. When he goes when he

1579
01:20:00,439 --> 01:20:03,760
Speaker 1: takes space to we talked about the breathing again, just

1580
01:20:03,760 --> 01:20:07,840
Speaker 1: the breathing and centering himself right, and he's able to

1581
01:20:07,880 --> 01:20:11,880
Speaker 1: remove someone judging him doing this. There are other men

1582
01:20:11,920 --> 01:20:13,720
Speaker 1: doing the same thing. Then breathing. We all in our

1583
01:20:13,760 --> 01:20:16,840
Speaker 1: meditation and we'll say, hey, everybody, we go to the

1584
01:20:16,920 --> 01:20:18,920
Speaker 1: number they about, let's go back to five. How'd you

1585
01:20:18,920 --> 01:20:23,320
Speaker 1: feel at five? Trauma is it you have for men?

1586
01:20:23,360 --> 01:20:25,479
Speaker 1: When you say trauma is different than women, you have

1587
01:20:25,560 --> 01:20:29,519
Speaker 1: to unpack that. So how I would say, like if

1588
01:20:29,600 --> 01:20:32,439
Speaker 1: y'all say a trauma to y'all, y'all kind of go

1589
01:20:32,520 --> 01:20:34,720
Speaker 1: into a space where y'all know how to communicate where men,

1590
01:20:34,760 --> 01:20:40,200
Speaker 1: I would say, what was your first disappointment with the woman? No? No, no, no, no, no, no, no, don't.

1591
01:20:40,240 --> 01:20:43,920
Speaker 1: But I still it's a gateway. The words matters a word.

1592
01:20:43,960 --> 01:20:45,800
Speaker 1: So I'm just telling y'all that, no, the words matter

1593
01:20:45,840 --> 01:20:48,599
Speaker 1: in youth crisis. I was just saying that I still

1594
01:20:48,680 --> 01:20:50,960
Speaker 1: use trauma, but then I what I and how I

1595
01:20:51,080 --> 01:20:55,400
Speaker 1: unlock it with the questions With men, you have to specific.

1596
01:20:55,600 --> 01:20:59,800
Speaker 1: But men are very left brain right because we have to.

1597
01:20:59,840 --> 01:21:01,439
Speaker 1: We want to show up now because we have to.

1598
01:21:01,520 --> 01:21:03,400
Speaker 1: We can't be right brain, which is our intuitive side,

1599
01:21:03,439 --> 01:21:05,559
Speaker 1: our God's side, our mother's side, helping to balance our

1600
01:21:05,600 --> 01:21:08,680
Speaker 1: masculine side right of our brain. We want to show

1601
01:21:08,760 --> 01:21:11,320
Speaker 1: up to be the knowerst to know it all. I

1602
01:21:11,360 --> 01:21:13,200
Speaker 1: want to be the know it all is to impress

1603
01:21:13,400 --> 01:21:17,280
Speaker 1: upon you. So I'm pro that. So when you, even

1604
01:21:17,320 --> 01:21:20,120
Speaker 1: when you're talking with men and doing the social emotional

1605
01:21:20,120 --> 01:21:24,720
Speaker 1: healing work, you're the questions, is what gets him to

1606
01:21:24,800 --> 01:21:29,760
Speaker 1: open up the heart space? Hell? And you say, man,

1607
01:21:29,800 --> 01:21:33,600
Speaker 1: he'll thyself right now? I have to. I have to

1608
01:21:33,800 --> 01:21:37,320
Speaker 1: take him to a place of or are you hurting

1609
01:21:37,479 --> 01:21:41,320
Speaker 1: right now? Keep it real? Yeah, you know I'm gonna

1610
01:21:41,360 --> 01:21:43,120
Speaker 1: keep it on, honey, I got it right. So he'll

1611
01:21:43,200 --> 01:21:44,840
Speaker 1: he'll he'll he'll talk about all this stuff he got,

1612
01:21:44,840 --> 01:21:46,960
Speaker 1: all his bragg and stuff, and then talk about and

1613
01:21:47,040 --> 01:21:49,960
Speaker 1: he'll start doing the internal check and saying, way, it

1614
01:21:50,000 --> 01:21:52,599
Speaker 1: ain't really he's been lack of self expressed. He ain't

1615
01:21:52,600 --> 01:21:54,160
Speaker 1: really been opened up with his woman. He's been really

1616
01:21:54,240 --> 01:21:56,040
Speaker 1: just mad and angry. Right, So you start to get that.

1617
01:21:57,000 --> 01:21:59,840
Speaker 1: Once you start to get those questions going, then you

1618
01:22:00,000 --> 01:22:02,120
Speaker 1: ten brothers on their meditation for them to really begin

1619
01:22:02,200 --> 01:22:05,160
Speaker 1: to do that inventory work and face that shadow side

1620
01:22:05,160 --> 01:22:07,639
Speaker 1: of themselves that they've been fronting with for twenty years,

1621
01:22:07,680 --> 01:22:10,960
Speaker 1: fifteen years, thirty years in relationships committed with their women,

1622
01:22:11,000 --> 01:22:12,800
Speaker 1: and they women don't even know them because they have

1623
01:22:12,840 --> 01:22:15,200
Speaker 1: never really expressed that side of themselves. Even if their

1624
01:22:15,240 --> 01:22:17,680
Speaker 1: women is expressed the side. Matter of fact, they're attracted

1625
01:22:17,720 --> 01:22:20,519
Speaker 1: to you because you express something that they aspired to be,

1626
01:22:20,640 --> 01:22:22,479
Speaker 1: but they have not found the way to unlock. Right.

1627
01:22:23,200 --> 01:22:25,559
Speaker 1: So I'm saying, sis, this we're in the like they say,

1628
01:22:25,600 --> 01:22:29,600
Speaker 1: the cuspos or the beginnings of this. It's beyond just

1629
01:22:29,680 --> 01:22:33,160
Speaker 1: the hashtag algorithm or mean, we're really in the beginnings

1630
01:22:33,200 --> 01:22:39,360
Speaker 1: of men wanting to create a space for themselves to

1631
01:22:39,479 --> 01:22:41,519
Speaker 1: go through their rights of passage to be a better

1632
01:22:41,560 --> 01:22:45,599
Speaker 1: version themselves. And I'm here to support the brothers and

1633
01:22:45,640 --> 01:22:48,240
Speaker 1: you know, with the training, with the book and why

1634
01:22:48,280 --> 01:22:51,320
Speaker 1: I can as a brother in support because I'm still

1635
01:22:51,360 --> 01:22:53,800
Speaker 1: in my healing journey with them as well, you know,

1636
01:22:54,040 --> 01:22:56,120
Speaker 1: and let and to share my journey with them, to

1637
01:22:56,200 --> 01:22:58,720
Speaker 1: let them know that regardless of where you may be

1638
01:22:58,800 --> 01:23:01,400
Speaker 1: at wherever in your journey, you know, we have the

1639
01:23:01,680 --> 01:23:04,840
Speaker 1: tools that we can tap into that can allow us

1640
01:23:04,840 --> 01:23:09,240
Speaker 1: to be in the beginnings of what a divine masculine

1641
01:23:09,240 --> 01:23:11,599
Speaker 1: experience can be for yourself. And if you can see

1642
01:23:11,640 --> 01:23:14,680
Speaker 1: that for yourself, the potential for your experience it with

1643
01:23:14,720 --> 01:23:16,080
Speaker 1: others is limitless.

1644
01:23:17,560 --> 01:23:21,360
Speaker 2: Honestly, I want to just like for anybody listening, the

1645
01:23:22,200 --> 01:23:28,080
Speaker 2: like just being real, Like just being honest is so powerful,

1646
01:23:28,160 --> 01:23:31,000
Speaker 2: Like you don't have to hide. Like everybody's a little

1647
01:23:31,040 --> 01:23:35,120
Speaker 2: bit fucked up. Everybody's gone through some ship, everybody's made

1648
01:23:35,120 --> 01:23:42,559
Speaker 2: a fucked up decision multiple times. Everybody, there's nobody so

1649
01:23:42,880 --> 01:23:45,439
Speaker 2: like feeling like you have to show up a certain way,

1650
01:23:45,600 --> 01:23:49,599
Speaker 2: Like it's such, it's such, it's such a fake perception,

1651
01:23:49,760 --> 01:23:50,879
Speaker 2: it's so such.

1652
01:23:50,640 --> 01:23:54,320
Speaker 3: A limited view of your expression while you're here, like

1653
01:23:54,439 --> 01:23:57,439
Speaker 3: right here, right now, Like you have this body, the spirit,

1654
01:23:57,520 --> 01:24:02,000
Speaker 3: the soul, this time to fully live in your full expression, Like,

1655
01:24:02,200 --> 01:24:03,000
Speaker 3: don't limit it.

1656
01:24:02,920 --> 01:24:05,479
Speaker 2: Don't hide, like there's nothing to hide from. No one's

1657
01:24:05,479 --> 01:24:08,479
Speaker 2: more powerful than you, No one's more powerful than what

1658
01:24:08,560 --> 01:24:11,360
Speaker 2: you think about you, Like honestly, like coming on here

1659
01:24:11,479 --> 01:24:15,719
Speaker 2: every week for fucking five years plus crying and shit,

1660
01:24:15,800 --> 01:24:17,439
Speaker 2: that's something I didn't think that I would have, like

1661
01:24:17,600 --> 01:24:19,200
Speaker 2: I would be that type of person, but like, who

1662
01:24:19,280 --> 01:24:21,920
Speaker 2: gives a fuck. I haven't always said things that were right.

1663
01:24:21,960 --> 01:24:25,840
Speaker 2: I haven't always made great decisions, but like it's been

1664
01:24:25,880 --> 01:24:28,280
Speaker 2: so powerful and I'm not saying do it to millions

1665
01:24:28,280 --> 01:24:30,919
Speaker 2: of people on the internet. This is a bit extreme,

1666
01:24:31,439 --> 01:24:36,640
Speaker 2: but like just releasing it and forgiving yourself and saying, like,

1667
01:24:36,680 --> 01:24:39,120
Speaker 2: who gives a fuck If somebody finds out this is

1668
01:24:39,200 --> 01:24:41,000
Speaker 2: what happened and this is like and as long as

1669
01:24:41,040 --> 01:24:44,320
Speaker 2: you're like willing and wanting to grow and evolve and

1670
01:24:44,320 --> 01:24:46,559
Speaker 2: say I'm gonna be better than I was yesterday, then

1671
01:24:46,600 --> 01:24:50,120
Speaker 2: you're doing enough. And like, like the thing about evolution,

1672
01:24:50,280 --> 01:24:52,920
Speaker 2: I feel like it is practice and it is reprogramming

1673
01:24:53,080 --> 01:24:56,599
Speaker 2: because we have learned all of us like the worst

1674
01:24:56,640 --> 01:25:00,240
Speaker 2: ways to deal with our emotional like just all all

1675
01:25:00,280 --> 01:25:02,439
Speaker 2: of the shit that like the world brings to us

1676
01:25:02,439 --> 01:25:07,240
Speaker 2: because it's heavy, but like the power to just say

1677
01:25:07,280 --> 01:25:12,000
Speaker 2: it and be like ten toes down and just always evolving.

1678
01:25:12,520 --> 01:25:15,160
Speaker 2: It's like it requires that you forgive yourself acquires. It

1679
01:25:15,200 --> 01:25:18,080
Speaker 2: requires that you take off the mask you know. It

1680
01:25:18,120 --> 01:25:21,519
Speaker 2: requires that you just like be willing to exist in

1681
01:25:21,560 --> 01:25:25,799
Speaker 2: your flawlessness, because we are all flawed. But we don't

1682
01:25:25,880 --> 01:25:28,559
Speaker 2: heal if we hide from it, and we can't heal

1683
01:25:28,560 --> 01:25:31,200
Speaker 2: each other, we can't connect on the most human level,

1684
01:25:31,200 --> 01:25:34,080
Speaker 2: which we all are human if we can't just be like, hey,

1685
01:25:34,200 --> 01:25:36,400
Speaker 2: what's up. I'm sad and I need to cry. Can

1686
01:25:36,439 --> 01:25:39,200
Speaker 2: you hold my hand? Like I'm feeling anxious. I don't

1687
01:25:39,200 --> 01:25:41,160
Speaker 2: know why, Like I feel angry, like it has nothing

1688
01:25:41,160 --> 01:25:43,120
Speaker 2: to do with anyone outside of me. But like let's

1689
01:25:43,160 --> 01:25:44,320
Speaker 2: talk about that.

1690
01:25:44,080 --> 01:25:47,120
Speaker 1: So that to your point, beloved, there's two things that

1691
01:25:47,200 --> 01:25:50,920
Speaker 1: need that I that need to happen ultimately in the

1692
01:25:50,920 --> 01:25:55,120
Speaker 1: transformance of the responsibility of self. The more men become

1693
01:25:56,240 --> 01:25:59,440
Speaker 1: excited about their self care and start caring for themselves

1694
01:25:59,439 --> 01:26:03,400
Speaker 1: and real fellowshipping on that for themselves and each other.

1695
01:26:04,800 --> 01:26:10,479
Speaker 1: Then our women need to as man rebrands himself, then

1696
01:26:10,640 --> 01:26:16,479
Speaker 1: y'all need to let the branding of man go mm hmm, yes,

1697
01:26:16,560 --> 01:26:21,240
Speaker 1: because because oh well, see, most most times, most times,

1698
01:26:21,240 --> 01:26:26,040
Speaker 1: most times, men hold on to these arc types to

1699
01:26:26,200 --> 01:26:29,080
Speaker 1: make up impression upon the women that they are attracted to.

1700
01:26:29,960 --> 01:26:32,519
Speaker 1: And you know, you have some brothers that have shedded

1701
01:26:32,520 --> 01:26:34,639
Speaker 1: that years ago, like certain type of things that they

1702
01:26:34,640 --> 01:26:36,320
Speaker 1: went through in the streets and certain type of things

1703
01:26:36,360 --> 01:26:38,439
Speaker 1: they had to go through, and they'll get a woman

1704
01:26:38,560 --> 01:26:42,960
Speaker 1: that instinctively is still attracted to that arc type and

1705
01:26:43,120 --> 01:26:45,040
Speaker 1: that's that was normal to him at one point. He's

1706
01:26:45,080 --> 01:26:48,080
Speaker 1: kind of left it alone. But he's digging her and

1707
01:26:48,120 --> 01:26:51,040
Speaker 1: she's really into this arch type and she recognizes in him.

1708
01:26:51,320 --> 01:26:54,360
Speaker 1: And it's probably not as big as it was when

1709
01:26:54,400 --> 01:26:57,720
Speaker 1: he was in his you know, uh, deployment of life.

1710
01:26:58,120 --> 01:27:01,320
Speaker 1: But but she she likes that, and he recognized she

1711
01:27:01,479 --> 01:27:03,840
Speaker 1: likes it, and then he feeds it, right, and then look,

1712
01:27:03,920 --> 01:27:07,360
Speaker 1: and then he feeds her that and so then he

1713
01:27:07,439 --> 01:27:11,920
Speaker 1: becomes it for her, but not really where he has become.

1714
01:27:12,520 --> 01:27:16,160
Speaker 1: So I would challenge my beloved sisters around the world

1715
01:27:16,200 --> 01:27:19,800
Speaker 1: who are doing your self care, yourself work, really it's

1716
01:27:19,840 --> 01:27:23,080
Speaker 1: a reflection like if you're taking yourself through your sisterhood

1717
01:27:23,160 --> 01:27:26,680
Speaker 1: rituals and doing your healing and you're rebranding yourself and

1718
01:27:26,720 --> 01:27:31,400
Speaker 1: you're tapping into really the divine feminine, then you cannot

1719
01:27:32,040 --> 01:27:37,400
Speaker 1: you cannot hold men who are now growing into understanding

1720
01:27:37,720 --> 01:27:43,080
Speaker 1: the responsibility of being expressed balanced, divine masculine to old

1721
01:27:43,320 --> 01:27:46,479
Speaker 1: archetypes that you were that you nipples got hard for

1722
01:27:47,200 --> 01:27:50,920
Speaker 1: and your click likes because you like that vision of

1723
01:27:51,000 --> 01:27:55,240
Speaker 1: him that no longer serves him or you that has

1724
01:27:55,360 --> 01:27:58,479
Speaker 1: been outdated. It's been an outdated version of how we

1725
01:27:58,520 --> 01:28:01,000
Speaker 1: think we should be showing up. And so this is

1726
01:28:01,000 --> 01:28:05,080
Speaker 1: why I say all men on the planet has been wounded.

1727
01:28:05,240 --> 01:28:10,360
Speaker 1: Manhood has been wounded because we have not updated the

1728
01:28:10,439 --> 01:28:14,120
Speaker 1: branding we have. There's a standard we've been following all men,

1729
01:28:14,160 --> 01:28:19,200
Speaker 1: all ethnicities or traditions, and he has been outdated for himself,

1730
01:28:19,640 --> 01:28:22,439
Speaker 1: for his family society so much. I mean, like, like

1731
01:28:23,040 --> 01:28:25,639
Speaker 1: we've been saying earlier, how people say all the men

1732
01:28:25,680 --> 01:28:27,639
Speaker 1: are being attacked toil or the men not being expressed

1733
01:28:27,680 --> 01:28:30,599
Speaker 1: the men are doing the man is wounded. And then

1734
01:28:30,720 --> 01:28:33,920
Speaker 1: so I'm saying I'm excited to hold space for men

1735
01:28:34,400 --> 01:28:36,840
Speaker 1: to begin the rebranding process. And it may have been

1736
01:28:36,920 --> 01:28:39,639
Speaker 1: fully expressed two or three generations from that. But I'm

1737
01:28:39,680 --> 01:28:42,840
Speaker 1: excited to support our brothers because our men need support it.

1738
01:28:43,040 --> 01:28:46,799
Speaker 1: I'm here to support brothers wherever they are without being perfect.

1739
01:28:46,920 --> 01:28:49,799
Speaker 1: Come as you are for yourself. But I would challenge

1740
01:28:49,840 --> 01:28:53,799
Speaker 1: my beloved sisters, as you continue to do your journey

1741
01:28:53,840 --> 01:28:57,000
Speaker 1: and know who you are and shedding the old you

1742
01:28:57,040 --> 01:28:59,960
Speaker 1: don't know to serve you. Don't shed your old, don't

1743
01:29:00,080 --> 01:29:02,479
Speaker 1: shad old you that don't serve you, but hold me

1744
01:29:02,520 --> 01:29:04,639
Speaker 1: to the old need to serve you. It makes sense.

1745
01:29:05,760 --> 01:29:08,639
Speaker 3: I totally agree with that, and I think that even

1746
01:29:08,720 --> 01:29:10,960
Speaker 3: hearing that too, I have to, like question, I have

1747
01:29:11,000 --> 01:29:13,519
Speaker 3: to fight something within me, which is like the woman

1748
01:29:13,560 --> 01:29:16,360
Speaker 3: that wants to say, well, then do that shit for me,

1749
01:29:16,920 --> 01:29:21,240
Speaker 3: you know. Okay, but with that, I'm saying fighting myself.

1750
01:29:21,240 --> 01:29:24,560
Speaker 3: But then I said, okay, don't do that, and it's like, no,

1751
01:29:24,680 --> 01:29:26,800
Speaker 3: this is the gift that this is how we can't

1752
01:29:26,880 --> 01:29:27,639
Speaker 3: keep doing that.

1753
01:29:27,800 --> 01:29:29,519
Speaker 1: Yeah, we can't keep doing that.

1754
01:29:29,720 --> 01:29:32,040
Speaker 3: So it's like, hey, this is what the man is

1755
01:29:32,040 --> 01:29:34,479
Speaker 3: telling you what we need in order to heal, so

1756
01:29:34,520 --> 01:29:36,880
Speaker 3: that we can all come together. The compliment you know

1757
01:29:36,960 --> 01:29:39,559
Speaker 3: what I mean, and so I feel like there is like.

1758
01:29:39,560 --> 01:29:41,280
Speaker 1: And you see the way I said it, It wasn't

1759
01:29:41,280 --> 01:29:45,320
Speaker 1: a way to downplay. No, I'm and I'm saying the

1760
01:29:45,360 --> 01:29:47,960
Speaker 1: best way because I'm seeing you. It's like like as

1761
01:29:48,120 --> 01:29:48,960
Speaker 1: now imagine mine.

1762
01:29:49,120 --> 01:29:50,720
Speaker 3: Well, I'm thinking about the programming in me.

1763
01:29:50,800 --> 01:29:53,400
Speaker 2: I'm watching it happen in motion, and that is the

1764
01:29:53,439 --> 01:29:57,160
Speaker 2: programming of defend, defend, or like are like, wait, but

1765
01:29:57,200 --> 01:30:00,600
Speaker 2: you didn't do this for me, for me, you but

1766
01:30:00,720 --> 01:30:04,640
Speaker 2: it's like yo, okay, okay, time out.

1767
01:30:04,680 --> 01:30:06,599
Speaker 1: Let's stop stop that, stop that so you see that?

1768
01:30:06,920 --> 01:30:12,599
Speaker 1: See that? Right? So sisters, what's the process with that?

1769
01:30:12,720 --> 01:30:15,599
Speaker 1: So no, let's just stop there that like that. That's

1770
01:30:15,640 --> 01:30:17,479
Speaker 1: a lot of our sisters, right who feel that way.

1771
01:30:17,520 --> 01:30:19,800
Speaker 1: And you know, even on the healing journey, they'd be

1772
01:30:19,800 --> 01:30:23,799
Speaker 1: like they pop off right, like I think it's positive.

1773
01:30:24,400 --> 01:30:26,639
Speaker 3: Eventually you know thyself and you know that you don't

1774
01:30:26,680 --> 01:30:29,760
Speaker 3: have to defend that. Oh you do that, so it

1775
01:30:29,760 --> 01:30:33,799
Speaker 3: doesn't hit the same, right, there's nothing to defend. Okay, right, okay,

1776
01:30:34,200 --> 01:30:37,360
Speaker 3: love it, you know. And then you say and even that,

1777
01:30:37,479 --> 01:30:39,479
Speaker 3: even despite of what you just said, I'm still gonna

1778
01:30:39,640 --> 01:30:42,600
Speaker 3: let you do your rebranding. I'm still gonna not let you,

1779
01:30:42,640 --> 01:30:45,000
Speaker 3: but I'm going to like do it. I'm not going

1780
01:30:45,080 --> 01:30:47,880
Speaker 3: to judge you for it, right, So I think that

1781
01:30:47,880 --> 01:30:51,760
Speaker 3: that's I'm really you know, excited for that. That I'm

1782
01:30:51,840 --> 01:30:54,240
Speaker 3: a woman on the sideline cheering men on, like Okay,

1783
01:30:54,280 --> 01:30:56,000
Speaker 3: you want to do it, or we're here, we're doing this,

1784
01:30:56,160 --> 01:30:57,439
Speaker 3: let's go for it, you.

1785
01:30:57,479 --> 01:30:57,920
Speaker 4: Know what I mean?

1786
01:30:57,960 --> 01:31:00,400
Speaker 3: And like, I think more we need both of those

1787
01:31:00,400 --> 01:31:03,080
Speaker 3: on both sides. But I think especially if the men

1788
01:31:03,120 --> 01:31:05,559
Speaker 3: are going to really, if we really want them to

1789
01:31:05,520 --> 01:31:07,680
Speaker 3: be heal, we have to do that.

1790
01:31:07,960 --> 01:31:10,120
Speaker 1: Yes, absolutely, and that and that's and that's what I

1791
01:31:10,160 --> 01:31:13,040
Speaker 1: would say to the humblest ways. It's like, it's it's

1792
01:31:13,080 --> 01:31:17,160
Speaker 1: really a it's a call to the compliment. You know,

1793
01:31:17,240 --> 01:31:19,559
Speaker 1: a woman goes, I'm doing this, that that that dad,

1794
01:31:20,280 --> 01:31:24,400
Speaker 1: and I'm I'm really loving who she's becoming, right, So

1795
01:31:24,439 --> 01:31:27,680
Speaker 1: it's only natural that you will attract a compliment in

1796
01:31:27,760 --> 01:31:30,280
Speaker 1: life to that, to that gesture. That's all iously what

1797
01:31:30,280 --> 01:31:33,479
Speaker 1: I'm saying. And so the more the sisters are excited

1798
01:31:33,520 --> 01:31:36,240
Speaker 1: to support men, however, they are going to show up

1799
01:31:36,320 --> 01:31:40,000
Speaker 1: as sacred compliments, right. That's that's who we really are

1800
01:31:40,040 --> 01:31:41,559
Speaker 1: for each other anyway. You know what I'm saying like,

1801
01:31:41,560 --> 01:31:45,000
Speaker 1: that's why I said earlier that whatever our issues are

1802
01:31:45,040 --> 01:31:48,280
Speaker 1: with our parents, you know, on that inhill exhale, that's

1803
01:31:48,320 --> 01:31:51,599
Speaker 1: how we got here. I mean, you know, and whenever

1804
01:31:51,640 --> 01:31:55,000
Speaker 1: you feeling anxiety overwhelmed, sister or brother and you're feeling

1805
01:31:55,040 --> 01:32:00,639
Speaker 1: like you can't be self expressed, take that, take that

1806
01:32:01,240 --> 01:32:02,519
Speaker 1: because that's that's us.

1807
01:32:02,600 --> 01:32:04,320
Speaker 6: That, that's that's all of us.

1808
01:32:04,320 --> 01:32:06,720
Speaker 1: Well, that's one thing we all regtless of you from Haim,

1809
01:32:06,720 --> 01:32:09,240
Speaker 1: from there, you're manny, I'm a woman. We all came

1810
01:32:09,320 --> 01:32:10,240
Speaker 1: doing that breath.

1811
01:32:10,439 --> 01:32:12,759
Speaker 2: We did, we all came through.

1812
01:32:16,160 --> 01:32:19,719
Speaker 1: And we're even talking in this beautiful podcast now with breath.

1813
01:32:20,439 --> 01:32:23,320
Speaker 1: It's our this, this is our sacred bond with each other.

1814
01:32:23,920 --> 01:32:26,640
Speaker 1: But how we use our breath, how we you know,

1815
01:32:26,640 --> 01:32:29,400
Speaker 1: how we decide to use the flow of in each

1816
01:32:29,439 --> 01:32:32,519
Speaker 1: other is what we we we have the responsibility to hold,

1817
01:32:32,680 --> 01:32:35,519
Speaker 1: you know. And and I would say this, let me

1818
01:32:35,600 --> 01:32:37,880
Speaker 1: say this because I have to say this. I would

1819
01:32:37,880 --> 01:32:41,240
Speaker 1: to salute all the women who have been holding warriors

1820
01:32:41,240 --> 01:32:44,439
Speaker 1: space for men. I've seen it in their relationships and

1821
01:32:44,479 --> 01:32:48,400
Speaker 1: fighting for the best quality relationship, trusting in their men,

1822
01:32:48,800 --> 01:32:50,720
Speaker 1: helping to invest in him in any way she can

1823
01:32:50,800 --> 01:32:53,200
Speaker 1: to really see him win. And so even if he

1824
01:32:53,360 --> 01:32:55,280
Speaker 1: was not strong enough to express it and say it.

1825
01:32:55,320 --> 01:32:57,320
Speaker 1: And sisters, if you'll have had brothers had not done

1826
01:32:57,320 --> 01:32:59,800
Speaker 1: that for my brothers, I'm gonna say to you all

1827
01:32:59,840 --> 01:33:05,240
Speaker 1: and to all my sisters watching, you are appreciated. Tupac boys, right,

1828
01:33:05,479 --> 01:33:09,600
Speaker 1: Tupac boys, you appreciated. You are appreciated. You appreciate it

1829
01:33:09,640 --> 01:33:13,479
Speaker 1: because if that brother didn't get it, if he didn't

1830
01:33:13,520 --> 01:33:16,800
Speaker 1: if he didn't understand the blessing he got when you

1831
01:33:17,080 --> 01:33:20,680
Speaker 1: invested in him, that became a ritual to the to

1832
01:33:20,760 --> 01:33:23,640
Speaker 1: the body of man spiritually, you know. And so I

1833
01:33:23,720 --> 01:33:26,680
Speaker 1: saw collect right, because right, And so I would just

1834
01:33:26,760 --> 01:33:30,880
Speaker 1: say to the sisters, don't give up on your superpower

1835
01:33:31,000 --> 01:33:36,479
Speaker 1: called nurturing. It's such a glorious, beautiful gift. Don't just

1836
01:33:36,600 --> 01:33:43,919
Speaker 1: because unfortunately my undeveloped lack of discipline, you know, created

1837
01:33:44,000 --> 01:33:48,120
Speaker 1: an adverse outcome with us. Don't give up your superpower

1838
01:33:49,120 --> 01:33:52,880
Speaker 1: because of some bitter things that I was undeveloped to facilitate.

1839
01:33:53,160 --> 01:33:54,960
Speaker 1: And this is why I go right back to man

1840
01:33:55,080 --> 01:33:57,360
Speaker 1: Hill myself, because we have to teach our brothers to

1841
01:33:57,400 --> 01:34:00,320
Speaker 1: be better facilitators to the women they want to deal

1842
01:34:00,320 --> 01:34:02,639
Speaker 1: with a lot of billas be calling in these powerful,

1843
01:34:02,720 --> 01:34:07,280
Speaker 1: dynamic women and can't hold the facility. So we have

1844
01:34:07,360 --> 01:34:10,679
Speaker 1: to teach our men the importance of creating sacred space

1845
01:34:10,760 --> 01:34:13,400
Speaker 1: and why that's important. If you're gonna call into the

1846
01:34:13,479 --> 01:34:16,200
Speaker 1: divine feminine, you have to be ready to host her

1847
01:34:17,320 --> 01:34:20,000
Speaker 1: in all levels of your life. And if you're not

1848
01:34:20,080 --> 01:34:22,720
Speaker 1: ready to host the gods, let the god is be

1849
01:34:22,760 --> 01:34:26,720
Speaker 1: outside until you're ready to host her. Let let her,

1850
01:34:26,800 --> 01:34:28,799
Speaker 1: let her go and let her glow and just admire

1851
01:34:28,880 --> 01:34:33,120
Speaker 1: her afar. She is so or inspiring And.

1852
01:34:34,439 --> 01:34:36,920
Speaker 3: You don't want, No, I don't want, I don't want

1853
01:34:36,920 --> 01:34:38,120
Speaker 3: someone else can no but.

1854
01:34:39,120 --> 01:34:45,160
Speaker 1: Listen, but but but but whatever I'm saying, I'm saying,

1855
01:34:45,200 --> 01:34:48,599
Speaker 1: but yeah, not even no, no, see now that I'm

1856
01:34:48,600 --> 01:34:53,920
Speaker 1: glad you said that's this masculine or feminine cuffing is

1857
01:34:54,000 --> 01:34:56,760
Speaker 1: not it's not what we need now. I'm not going

1858
01:34:56,840 --> 01:34:59,960
Speaker 1: to say our journey, but right, it's not what's needed

1859
01:35:00,040 --> 01:35:02,439
Speaker 1: from us now. We need to a woman needs to

1860
01:35:02,600 --> 01:35:07,160
Speaker 1: be free, expressed and her autonomy instead of as a man,

1861
01:35:07,320 --> 01:35:10,880
Speaker 1: and then together they figure out what that dancing cadences,

1862
01:35:13,520 --> 01:35:17,640
Speaker 1: right right, right, but yeah, maybe maybe step three. But

1863
01:35:18,040 --> 01:35:22,840
Speaker 1: then but now, now, you're talking about courtship. Courtship. We

1864
01:35:22,960 --> 01:35:29,040
Speaker 1: forgot the the the divine attribute of courtship. Courtship says

1865
01:35:29,760 --> 01:35:33,880
Speaker 1: I'm interested, you're interested. Let's slow it all the way

1866
01:35:33,920 --> 01:35:38,479
Speaker 1: down and let's build on our interests. What happens with

1867
01:35:39,200 --> 01:35:41,559
Speaker 1: dynamic souls that are attracted to each other is that

1868
01:35:42,240 --> 01:35:46,800
Speaker 1: they start out in the concepts of courtship. The attractions,

1869
01:35:46,800 --> 01:35:50,639
Speaker 1: the hormones or pheromones, start to accelerate, the abandon courtship

1870
01:35:50,680 --> 01:35:57,759
Speaker 1: principles and get into title. Title is a heavy crown

1871
01:35:58,000 --> 01:36:01,240
Speaker 1: for a man and a woman, a king or queen.

1872
01:36:01,240 --> 01:36:08,200
Speaker 1: Where's a heavy crown? If you can't sustain court courtship

1873
01:36:08,280 --> 01:36:09,880
Speaker 1: a king and queen in court, you see how I'm

1874
01:36:09,880 --> 01:36:13,360
Speaker 1: going with this courtship. You would not be able to

1875
01:36:13,400 --> 01:36:16,719
Speaker 1: survive as an exalted queen or king in union together,

1876
01:36:19,720 --> 01:36:22,760
Speaker 1: I would tell y'all, pause titles, don't abandon them, but

1877
01:36:22,880 --> 01:36:27,360
Speaker 1: pause the titling of each other. Create queen of four

1878
01:36:27,400 --> 01:36:32,120
Speaker 1: talks about this and sake a woman seasons of development.

1879
01:36:32,560 --> 01:36:34,559
Speaker 1: My mother would tell me, I listened a few times,

1880
01:36:34,560 --> 01:36:36,040
Speaker 1: she told me, until I got my until I had

1881
01:36:36,040 --> 01:36:38,320
Speaker 1: to listen like I didn't listen to. She says, you

1882
01:36:38,560 --> 01:36:41,559
Speaker 1: try to her you love her all that didn't meet

1883
01:36:41,600 --> 01:36:45,160
Speaker 1: her in every season, and when you complete eight season

1884
01:36:45,200 --> 01:36:48,120
Speaker 1: with her right every four months, you're gonna meet her

1885
01:36:48,160 --> 01:36:51,479
Speaker 1: in spring. Let's say we dated in spring. That said,

1886
01:36:51,520 --> 01:36:54,719
Speaker 1: you know, this is the courtship, and now some as coming.

1887
01:36:54,720 --> 01:36:57,000
Speaker 1: It's another type of her coming through, just like a name.

1888
01:36:57,200 --> 01:37:00,000
Speaker 1: Some of these coming right and now and now when

1889
01:37:00,120 --> 01:37:04,120
Speaker 1: to fall. Look, I may have dated you successfully in

1890
01:37:04,160 --> 01:37:06,280
Speaker 1: the spring and summer, and I don't even know who

1891
01:37:06,280 --> 01:37:07,880
Speaker 1: the hell you are by the time the fall with

1892
01:37:07,960 --> 01:37:13,160
Speaker 1: the car right right right, So this is why, this

1893
01:37:13,200 --> 01:37:17,320
Speaker 1: is why she's especially when I was younger, enjoyed courtship,

1894
01:37:17,520 --> 01:37:20,599
Speaker 1: long courtships. I know your generations don't have the patience

1895
01:37:20,680 --> 01:37:22,080
Speaker 1: for it. But she would tell me, she said, but

1896
01:37:22,120 --> 01:37:24,720
Speaker 1: it's important that you developed to that if you don't

1897
01:37:24,720 --> 01:37:27,920
Speaker 1: have the patience for it, because you would save yourself

1898
01:37:27,920 --> 01:37:31,160
Speaker 1: a lot of trauma, tears, pain, wasted time and energy.

1899
01:37:31,320 --> 01:37:34,280
Speaker 1: But she she was right. There was women that I

1900
01:37:34,439 --> 01:37:37,320
Speaker 1: that I've met in the fall, and we rocked in

1901
01:37:37,360 --> 01:37:40,920
Speaker 1: the fall, dope winter came, we was even more walked up.

1902
01:37:41,160 --> 01:37:45,320
Speaker 1: Spring came. I didn't even know who this woman was, right,

1903
01:37:45,520 --> 01:37:48,200
Speaker 1: It was a whole different, right, But but by that time,

1904
01:37:49,080 --> 01:37:51,600
Speaker 1: by that time me and her already committed to titling.

1905
01:37:52,640 --> 01:37:56,640
Speaker 1: So then now we moved into the ego of the relationships,

1906
01:37:57,400 --> 01:38:01,479
Speaker 1: and we abandoned the cultivation. So now so now the

1907
01:38:01,520 --> 01:38:05,920
Speaker 1: woman I'm that I'm entitled, are entitled? Meant the title

1908
01:38:06,000 --> 01:38:07,840
Speaker 1: now comes the ego of that's my queen or that's

1909
01:38:07,880 --> 01:38:10,240
Speaker 1: my king, right, And now we get so caught up

1910
01:38:10,240 --> 01:38:13,240
Speaker 1: in that we abandoned. We talked about earlier the entity

1911
01:38:13,400 --> 01:38:16,280
Speaker 1: called the union, you know, and the union thrives in courtship.

1912
01:38:16,400 --> 01:38:19,760
Speaker 1: It thrives in taking time to appreciate the nuances of

1913
01:38:19,920 --> 01:38:23,320
Speaker 1: someone's tone, their voice, you know, asking certain questions to

1914
01:38:23,360 --> 01:38:26,920
Speaker 1: engage their consciousness. You know, a man learning how to

1915
01:38:26,960 --> 01:38:28,640
Speaker 1: hold space for his women when she's going through some

1916
01:38:28,680 --> 01:38:31,960
Speaker 1: emotional you know, up and down and whether hormones or

1917
01:38:32,000 --> 01:38:34,320
Speaker 1: just through life. Right, these things that you can work

1918
01:38:34,320 --> 01:38:37,679
Speaker 1: out in courtship. But when we don't have the cadence

1919
01:38:37,800 --> 01:38:43,600
Speaker 1: or the or the the want, need or or temperament

1920
01:38:43,640 --> 01:38:47,040
Speaker 1: to really just like nature does it, y'all. See it's this,

1921
01:38:47,160 --> 01:38:49,680
Speaker 1: It's like, right, you know what happens in harberination. All

1922
01:38:49,680 --> 01:38:52,439
Speaker 1: the animals they create their little foods in the falls

1923
01:38:52,439 --> 01:38:54,200
Speaker 1: and dig down. By the time of what that comes,

1924
01:38:54,280 --> 01:38:56,479
Speaker 1: they're hanging out for three or four months into the spring, right,

1925
01:38:56,560 --> 01:38:59,559
Speaker 1: so they're moving into accordance to nature. We are no

1926
01:38:59,640 --> 01:39:02,760
Speaker 1: longer in cords to nature. And now that's why we're

1927
01:39:02,760 --> 01:39:04,479
Speaker 1: out of our nature. Our women are out of her

1928
01:39:04,560 --> 01:39:08,240
Speaker 1: nature because she's abandoning who she knows her superpowers to

1929
01:39:08,280 --> 01:39:11,240
Speaker 1: be because something he did. Right, So she's mad. She

1930
01:39:11,280 --> 01:39:13,400
Speaker 1: don't even want to be her no more. She's she

1931
01:39:13,520 --> 01:39:16,680
Speaker 1: sees abandoning her power because of his thing. And then

1932
01:39:16,720 --> 01:39:19,559
Speaker 1: he feels powerless because he is he's not self, he's

1933
01:39:19,560 --> 01:39:22,439
Speaker 1: not showing up to her in his full expressed self.

1934
01:39:22,479 --> 01:39:24,520
Speaker 1: So I think if we can work those things out

1935
01:39:24,720 --> 01:39:27,880
Speaker 1: and be patient with each other, you know, and and

1936
01:39:27,880 --> 01:39:30,599
Speaker 1: and hold space for like like you said earlier, nobody's perfect,

1937
01:39:30,640 --> 01:39:32,479
Speaker 1: like we're all we're all human, we're all in our

1938
01:39:33,080 --> 01:39:36,720
Speaker 1: different levels of feelings and men event eventually opening up

1939
01:39:36,720 --> 01:39:39,040
Speaker 1: in himself that you know. I think, this woman, I'm

1940
01:39:39,040 --> 01:39:41,040
Speaker 1: gonna you know, what is beyond her. I'm gonna trust

1941
01:39:41,040 --> 01:39:43,519
Speaker 1: that spirit is lending me to share. That's what I'm

1942
01:39:43,520 --> 01:39:45,880
Speaker 1: trying to get. Mento, you're transcending just the ego of

1943
01:39:45,960 --> 01:39:47,800
Speaker 1: talking to the woman you just spirit told you to

1944
01:39:47,840 --> 01:39:49,960
Speaker 1: share and do the ministry in that moment with your heart,

1945
01:39:50,200 --> 01:39:54,599
Speaker 1: you just let it be known that authentic sharing and

1946
01:39:54,600 --> 01:39:57,360
Speaker 1: downloading that clarity that's gonna have a long and lasting

1947
01:39:57,360 --> 01:40:00,240
Speaker 1: impact for you and her. Then you just answer around

1948
01:40:00,280 --> 01:40:02,000
Speaker 1: what is she gonna think about me if I really

1949
01:40:02,160 --> 01:40:05,240
Speaker 1: let her know that I'm intuitive too, Because I don't

1950
01:40:05,240 --> 01:40:06,519
Speaker 1: want to tell that because then she may think I'm

1951
01:40:06,520 --> 01:40:10,320
Speaker 1: either crazy or that's that's that's feminine. But I say

1952
01:40:10,320 --> 01:40:12,800
Speaker 1: this to yo, I got you too, Goddesses here, Well,

1953
01:40:12,840 --> 01:40:15,120
Speaker 1: then into what I'm gonna be like Peter from Family Guy,

1954
01:40:15,160 --> 01:40:17,000
Speaker 1: what grinds my giars? Let me hear what I can't

1955
01:40:17,040 --> 01:40:22,120
Speaker 1: stand now? I apologize with my my my. I'm gonna

1956
01:40:22,120 --> 01:40:25,800
Speaker 1: do a little cursing, little language, not for people that

1957
01:40:25,840 --> 01:40:28,679
Speaker 1: they want to. You know. I don't like that we

1958
01:40:28,680 --> 01:40:37,519
Speaker 1: weaponize women in a weak way. That's the most anti

1959
01:40:37,680 --> 01:40:41,080
Speaker 1: masculine thing we could do. Let me say this. I'm

1960
01:40:41,080 --> 01:40:44,200
Speaker 1: gonna be a little hot pipe with this one. I

1961
01:40:44,240 --> 01:40:47,360
Speaker 1: don't like when we identify someone to be weak, we

1962
01:40:47,400 --> 01:40:52,920
Speaker 1: say you acting pussy. First of all, that's why we're

1963
01:40:53,040 --> 01:40:58,880
Speaker 1: here because of pussy. So why would I associate weakness

1964
01:40:59,320 --> 01:41:01,880
Speaker 1: what it takes me mother, all the muscles and her

1965
01:41:01,960 --> 01:41:06,519
Speaker 1: being to work together to birth me as a whole

1966
01:41:06,560 --> 01:41:09,040
Speaker 1: being on the planet. And I'm gonna have the nerve

1967
01:41:09,920 --> 01:41:15,679
Speaker 1: to associate weakness with pussy. And that's all you niggas

1968
01:41:15,760 --> 01:41:18,360
Speaker 1: is trying to get back up into its pussy, but

1969
01:41:18,600 --> 01:41:24,439
Speaker 1: you associated with weakness. We gotta do better, brothers. We

1970
01:41:24,560 --> 01:41:27,800
Speaker 1: have to stop. And this is why we don't want

1971
01:41:27,800 --> 01:41:32,160
Speaker 1: to the feminine side of us. We think it's weak

1972
01:41:33,200 --> 01:41:38,439
Speaker 1: because collectively we have demonized the feminine principle and that

1973
01:41:38,479 --> 01:41:42,519
Speaker 1: goes back into the religious colonialization. We're taking women from God.

1974
01:41:43,240 --> 01:41:46,720
Speaker 1: When man became only the exalted God, and women is

1975
01:41:46,760 --> 01:41:49,880
Speaker 1: not no way to be seen. Then she's lesser than God,

1976
01:41:50,280 --> 01:41:55,559
Speaker 1: she's godless. So when I say rebranding man, we have

1977
01:41:55,600 --> 01:41:59,280
Speaker 1: a lot of again I read, I do not appreciate

1978
01:41:59,320 --> 01:42:04,120
Speaker 1: and condone weaponizing weakness affiliated with women because you have

1979
01:42:04,160 --> 01:42:06,000
Speaker 1: weak men and you have weak women. Okay, we're gonna

1980
01:42:06,000 --> 01:42:09,800
Speaker 1: say it, let's make it holistic, but I really don't

1981
01:42:09,880 --> 01:42:11,920
Speaker 1: like that because you know, as a hip hop as

1982
01:42:11,920 --> 01:42:14,200
Speaker 1: an MC, you know, and from the from the culture,

1983
01:42:14,400 --> 01:42:17,120
Speaker 1: I don't like that we we use that we use

1984
01:42:17,240 --> 01:42:20,360
Speaker 1: pussy as a way to disrespect someone when that is

1985
01:42:20,400 --> 01:42:24,639
Speaker 1: the portal gateway of our whole existence, and that's all

1986
01:42:24,680 --> 01:42:27,439
Speaker 1: we trying to that's the gate where we're all trying

1987
01:42:27,439 --> 01:42:29,400
Speaker 1: to be back into on one way or the other

1988
01:42:29,760 --> 01:42:32,559
Speaker 1: right or facilitate another soul to come through. So we

1989
01:42:32,640 --> 01:42:35,439
Speaker 1: really have to collectively, women have to say enough is that?

1990
01:42:35,560 --> 01:42:37,680
Speaker 1: Enough is enough? Men we have to we have to

1991
01:42:37,720 --> 01:42:41,880
Speaker 1: support the leaving that alone and find another way to

1992
01:42:41,920 --> 01:42:47,280
Speaker 1: talk about what's weak because the pussy is nowhere weak, okay,

1993
01:42:48,240 --> 01:42:50,479
Speaker 1: and associating that and and so that's that's when you're

1994
01:42:50,479 --> 01:42:52,439
Speaker 1: gonna get a lot of the oh you're acting feminine, right,

1995
01:42:52,439 --> 01:42:55,559
Speaker 1: you're gonna So there's a lot of negative things that

1996
01:42:55,600 --> 01:42:57,960
Speaker 1: we look upon our women. And so when men start

1997
01:42:58,040 --> 01:43:02,559
Speaker 1: to see women in more a positive light, right, not

1998
01:43:02,720 --> 01:43:06,000
Speaker 1: saying that women don't have those attributes, right, they do,

1999
01:43:06,160 --> 01:43:08,160
Speaker 1: just like men. We have those weak attributes, but we

2000
01:43:08,160 --> 01:43:11,400
Speaker 1: start to see our women as opposite of weakness and

2001
01:43:11,479 --> 01:43:16,120
Speaker 1: strength and power. We won't associate a disrespecting of the

2002
01:43:16,200 --> 01:43:20,479
Speaker 1: man by calling him that. Listen, super and over you pussy.

2003
01:43:20,760 --> 01:43:25,320
Speaker 3: Absolutely, I'm pussy.

2004
01:43:23,160 --> 01:43:30,080
Speaker 1: I'm the greatest pussy any motherfucking existence. Why are you

2005
01:43:30,160 --> 01:43:33,519
Speaker 1: talking about what I'm hard. I'm the hard pussy. I'm

2006
01:43:33,560 --> 01:43:37,360
Speaker 1: the juiciest pussy. I'm the fullest pussy our birth life.

2007
01:43:37,400 --> 01:43:40,280
Speaker 1: My name is super Nova. I'm the brightest pussy in

2008
01:43:40,360 --> 01:43:44,040
Speaker 1: the cosmos our birth. You niggas here my birth the

2009
01:43:44,120 --> 01:43:47,759
Speaker 1: big bang. Ain't no star better than the super nova

2010
01:43:47,880 --> 01:43:54,000
Speaker 1: I star bursts. I'm pussy. I create, I love be

2011
01:43:54,720 --> 01:44:00,439
Speaker 1: juicy pussy. And you cannot enter this pussy. You see

2012
01:44:00,439 --> 01:44:03,960
Speaker 1: how it worked out. You just gotta take the energy back, right.

2013
01:44:04,040 --> 01:44:04,280
Speaker 3: Wow?

2014
01:44:04,640 --> 01:44:05,519
Speaker 2: You know that? Wow?

2015
01:44:05,760 --> 01:44:08,800
Speaker 1: So look, look and I'm the pussy that's I'm and

2016
01:44:08,920 --> 01:44:12,439
Speaker 1: I'm I'm a walking dick. I'm erected. Look at me

2017
01:44:12,479 --> 01:44:15,520
Speaker 1: like a bald head. I'm walking around here. I'm always erected.

2018
01:44:15,680 --> 01:44:20,160
Speaker 1: I'm the mighty dick. I'm the mighty erection. I'm the

2019
01:44:20,200 --> 01:44:27,240
Speaker 1: greatest thick and pussy show that ever existed, the greatest

2020
01:44:27,280 --> 01:44:30,559
Speaker 1: dick in the greatest pussy that I'm gonna lip. I'm

2021
01:44:30,600 --> 01:44:36,360
Speaker 1: the great god dick, like the great Goddess play the

2022
01:44:36,520 --> 01:44:39,479
Speaker 1: goddess click in the god dick come together and they

2023
01:44:39,600 --> 01:44:40,160
Speaker 1: made me.

2024
01:44:41,880 --> 01:44:50,639
Speaker 2: Ex hell ah, wow, thank you, I mean honestly, well,

2025
01:44:50,680 --> 01:44:54,000
Speaker 2: I'm so happy to have met you in person.

2026
01:44:54,080 --> 01:44:57,320
Speaker 3: Wow, this has been so this has been such a journey.

2027
01:44:57,479 --> 01:44:59,439
Speaker 3: I feel like I've went on a d whole journey.

2028
01:45:00,000 --> 01:45:02,200
Speaker 2: It's amazing. And you know what we didn't even acknowledge, Like,

2029
01:45:02,360 --> 01:45:03,120
Speaker 2: are you you're married?

2030
01:45:03,200 --> 01:45:04,519
Speaker 1: Right? I was married.

2031
01:45:04,720 --> 01:45:06,800
Speaker 2: I was married. Yeah, I'm divorced now okay, but you're

2032
01:45:06,840 --> 01:45:09,360
Speaker 2: you're partnered. Yes, Yes, your partner and you're partner to

2033
01:45:09,479 --> 01:45:14,760
Speaker 2: them like an amazing human. Yes, Layla Delia, Lelia Adelia.

2034
01:45:15,400 --> 01:45:18,439
Speaker 2: So that makes sense that you would have such a

2035
01:45:18,479 --> 01:45:21,360
Speaker 2: sacred partnership because it's light.

2036
01:45:22,640 --> 01:45:27,800
Speaker 3: Say, well, we pulled a card at the top of

2037
01:45:27,840 --> 01:45:29,760
Speaker 3: the show, but before we get to the card, after

2038
01:45:29,800 --> 01:45:31,480
Speaker 3: all that, I mean, that was a fucking affirmation.

2039
01:45:31,600 --> 01:45:36,840
Speaker 1: I don't I do I do I do have? I

2040
01:45:36,880 --> 01:45:39,439
Speaker 1: do have. Uh. So there's something we say in the

2041
01:45:39,439 --> 01:45:43,240
Speaker 1: manhild I Solf training to the brothers. Arranged for me,

2042
01:45:43,360 --> 01:45:47,839
Speaker 1: the way arranged for me, the way. May I renew myself.

2043
01:45:47,880 --> 01:45:50,559
Speaker 1: May I become strong, May I renew myself.

2044
01:45:50,680 --> 01:45:51,839
Speaker 2: May I become strong?

2045
01:45:52,120 --> 01:45:54,920
Speaker 1: Arranged for me, the way arranged for me, the way.

2046
01:45:55,120 --> 01:45:56,280
Speaker 1: May I renew myself.

2047
01:45:56,320 --> 01:45:59,200
Speaker 2: May I become strong, May I renew myself, May I

2048
01:45:59,240 --> 01:45:59,960
Speaker 2: become strong?

2049
01:46:00,400 --> 01:46:02,839
Speaker 1: And So that's what we are calling on for ourselves,

2050
01:46:02,960 --> 01:46:05,800
Speaker 1: is that as we work on ourselves daily, that the

2051
01:46:05,960 --> 01:46:08,719
Speaker 1: way will be made for us. And as we continue

2052
01:46:08,760 --> 01:46:11,240
Speaker 1: to gather and to build and to cultivate, will become

2053
01:46:11,240 --> 01:46:14,000
Speaker 1: strong world igourney, it will become renewed.

2054
01:46:14,760 --> 01:46:15,200
Speaker 3: I love that?

2055
01:46:17,200 --> 01:46:19,559
Speaker 2: Is it terot time? I think it is tterot tyme.

2056
01:46:20,439 --> 01:46:23,919
Speaker 3: So you pulled Queen Queen of Sorts.

2057
01:46:25,040 --> 01:46:28,640
Speaker 2: The Queen of Sorts combines the mental clarity and intellectual

2058
01:46:28,720 --> 01:46:32,200
Speaker 2: power of the Suit of Sorts with the maturity and

2059
01:46:32,360 --> 01:46:35,960
Speaker 2: receptiveness of the Queen. You have the gift of being

2060
01:46:36,000 --> 01:46:39,120
Speaker 2: able to use your intellect and unbiased judgment while also

2061
01:46:39,200 --> 01:46:43,000
Speaker 2: remaining flexible and open to receive input from the source

2062
01:46:43,080 --> 01:46:45,840
Speaker 2: from other sources. As you lead from the head and

2063
01:46:45,880 --> 01:46:48,680
Speaker 2: not the heart, you are better able to discern situations

2064
01:46:48,720 --> 01:46:52,920
Speaker 2: without the influence of emotion or sentimentality. You may believe

2065
01:46:52,960 --> 01:46:55,680
Speaker 2: that empathy or compassion towards others will distract you from

2066
01:46:55,680 --> 01:47:00,160
Speaker 2: the task at hand. Instead, you prefer to know the how, what, why, where,

2067
01:47:00,240 --> 01:47:02,960
Speaker 2: when and who of everything to help you make sense

2068
01:47:03,000 --> 01:47:06,519
Speaker 2: of your environment and better understand others. It is not

2069
01:47:06,640 --> 01:47:08,880
Speaker 2: that you cannot care about others, but you connect with

2070
01:47:08,920 --> 01:47:12,360
Speaker 2: other people through an intellectual understanding rather than an emotional one.

2071
01:47:12,880 --> 01:47:15,240
Speaker 2: The Queen the Swords notes that you are a truth seeker.

2072
01:47:15,680 --> 01:47:18,200
Speaker 2: You're open to hearing the thoughts and opinions of others,

2073
01:47:18,200 --> 01:47:21,200
Speaker 2: but ultimately you filter that information to decipher what is

2074
01:47:21,200 --> 01:47:23,960
Speaker 2: true and what is not. When interacting with others, you

2075
01:47:23,960 --> 01:47:27,760
Speaker 2: will not tolerate mistruths or excessive fluff. You prefer to

2076
01:47:27,760 --> 01:47:29,960
Speaker 2: get to the heart of the matter without engaging in

2077
01:47:30,000 --> 01:47:33,280
Speaker 2: too much chit chat. It suggests that you have an

2078
01:47:33,280 --> 01:47:36,360
Speaker 2: innate ability to tell like it is. You're a quick

2079
01:47:36,400 --> 01:47:39,679
Speaker 2: thinker and highly perceptive, piercing through the noise and confusion

2080
01:47:39,680 --> 01:47:41,960
Speaker 2: to get straight to the point. There is no beating

2081
01:47:41,960 --> 01:47:45,920
Speaker 2: around the bush. You're upfront and honest in your views,

2082
01:47:45,920 --> 01:47:48,439
Speaker 2: and you expect the same from others. For this reason,

2083
01:47:48,479 --> 01:47:50,680
Speaker 2: many people respect your opinion and come to you for

2084
01:47:50,760 --> 01:47:53,720
Speaker 2: advice when they need clarity.

2085
01:47:54,280 --> 01:47:57,560
Speaker 1: Oh God, that's the Queen a sword the Queen, And

2086
01:47:57,640 --> 01:48:00,839
Speaker 1: it's interesting again for those that are sensitive to curses

2087
01:48:00,880 --> 01:48:04,360
Speaker 1: and animation. I restore my balance to you all, but

2088
01:48:06,160 --> 01:48:08,880
Speaker 1: that is auspicious. Like you said earlier, that when you

2089
01:48:08,920 --> 01:48:11,040
Speaker 1: pull the cards it relates, you know, Like I was

2090
01:48:11,040 --> 01:48:14,479
Speaker 1: saying weaponizing the negative attributes of women, you know, and

2091
01:48:14,520 --> 01:48:18,519
Speaker 1: the Queen of Swords, So you know, the more that

2092
01:48:19,160 --> 01:48:21,879
Speaker 1: as men we heal and we own our space, brothers,

2093
01:48:22,840 --> 01:48:26,360
Speaker 1: that our true divine, masculine, our authorship, our manhood is

2094
01:48:26,400 --> 01:48:29,080
Speaker 1: exalted when we can support our women to be self

2095
01:48:29,120 --> 01:48:32,200
Speaker 1: expressed to you know, and we don't have to weaponize

2096
01:48:32,200 --> 01:48:35,479
Speaker 1: their negative attributes as their whole seals. You know, those

2097
01:48:35,479 --> 01:48:37,760
Speaker 1: are art types that come through them, but that's not

2098
01:48:37,800 --> 01:48:40,639
Speaker 1: who they are, just like our negative attributes or archetypes

2099
01:48:40,880 --> 01:48:43,120
Speaker 1: that we have upheld but not really our true selves.

2100
01:48:43,680 --> 01:48:48,320
Speaker 1: And my prayers that more men continue their journey of

2101
01:48:48,360 --> 01:48:51,000
Speaker 1: healing and unlocking and caring that you can begin to

2102
01:48:51,360 --> 01:48:54,920
Speaker 1: as you rebrand yourself, you can see the women in

2103
01:48:55,040 --> 01:48:57,760
Speaker 1: a in a different light that that that can be

2104
01:48:57,800 --> 01:49:00,240
Speaker 1: revealed to you as a reflection of the word that

2105
01:49:00,240 --> 01:49:04,920
Speaker 1: you're doing for yourself. So that's what that card represents

2106
01:49:04,960 --> 01:49:06,600
Speaker 1: to me as you're reading, and that I wanted to

2107
01:49:06,640 --> 01:49:09,320
Speaker 1: really bring that home. We have to change the the

2108
01:49:09,360 --> 01:49:13,840
Speaker 1: you know the spirit of looking at women women period

2109
01:49:13,840 --> 01:49:17,000
Speaker 1: as being weak. The fact that I'm a protector does

2110
01:49:17,080 --> 01:49:20,519
Speaker 1: not make her weak though, see like the lion king, right,

2111
01:49:20,560 --> 01:49:24,919
Speaker 1: he's a protector of his being a lion with his family.

2112
01:49:25,040 --> 01:49:28,680
Speaker 1: But the woman is fierce and ancient chemist. The one

2113
01:49:28,760 --> 01:49:30,880
Speaker 1: of the attributes of the archetypes of the deity is

2114
01:49:30,920 --> 01:49:33,439
Speaker 1: called sec Met is the daughter of Ra. She has

2115
01:49:33,479 --> 01:49:37,960
Speaker 1: the head of the lion lioness sec Men. She's known

2116
01:49:38,040 --> 01:49:43,800
Speaker 1: to be ferocious and very disciplined, oriented into martial arts

2117
01:49:43,840 --> 01:49:47,040
Speaker 1: and into protection. So the you know, the lioness of

2118
01:49:47,080 --> 01:49:52,240
Speaker 1: a woman. That's a powerful attribute, right. She doesn't need

2119
01:49:52,280 --> 01:49:55,880
Speaker 1: to be on go right because her man is there,

2120
01:49:55,920 --> 01:49:59,120
Speaker 1: a lion is there, but she's she's lock and loaded

2121
01:49:59,160 --> 01:50:01,160
Speaker 1: and ready to ride a di She needs to write,

2122
01:50:01,680 --> 01:50:05,559
Speaker 1: that's the the the environment, not that I am the

2123
01:50:05,680 --> 01:50:09,639
Speaker 1: all the almighty powerful, and my woman is weaker, lesser

2124
01:50:09,680 --> 01:50:13,360
Speaker 1: than me. And therefore when I want to weaponize weakness,

2125
01:50:13,439 --> 01:50:17,280
Speaker 1: I use her portal door gateway of life that I

2126
01:50:17,360 --> 01:50:20,479
Speaker 1: came through, and I lash it out on others to say,

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Speaker 1: don't be that, but you are that. We are all

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Speaker 1: and Pussy's at the same time, it's called mom, Dad,

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Speaker 1: the great mother, the great father, you see, and I

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Speaker 1: just took it through that one. And so the more

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Speaker 1: we become exploded, you know, learn who we are on

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Speaker 1: this journey and and give ourselves space to go through

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Speaker 1: the shadow, go through that place where we're not on point,

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Speaker 1: and also give our space to rise above you know,

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Speaker 1: our adversities. You know, we will begin to be so

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Speaker 1: more self expressed and so much confident, and that confidence

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Speaker 1: can inspire others to unlock. I look at us being

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Speaker 1: you know, heroes and sheroes, and of our lives and

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Speaker 1: our stories. You know, that's why we a lot of

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Speaker 1: us are joined to the Marl Marvel films. It's seeing

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Speaker 1: us in a different way because we're all showing up

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Speaker 1: as as in our own lives, as different ones with

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Speaker 1: superpowers and different gifts. You know that we have to

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Speaker 1: Some of us are scared of our gifts. Some of

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01:51:27,720 --> 01:51:29,840
Speaker 1: us are very confident, right, some of us are. Uh,

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01:51:31,200 --> 01:51:33,639
Speaker 1: started out good and then you know we got triggered.

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Speaker 1: Like the villain was somebody that had good things. Think

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Speaker 1: about the Joker story. They telling the Joker story. He

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01:51:38,439 --> 01:51:40,120
Speaker 1: was he was you know, he loved his mom. He

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01:51:40,200 --> 01:51:42,160
Speaker 1: was an introvert, he didn't mess with people. He was

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Speaker 1: kind of a quiet guy. He became a clown to

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Speaker 1: entertain people. Trauma life was happening. People were being mean,

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Speaker 1: to him, you know, and so all and that changed him,

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Speaker 1: That changed him into a whole nother being. Right, So

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Speaker 1: we can identify with that character, whether before or after. Right,

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Speaker 1: But we all have you know, we all had those

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Speaker 1: attributes of a superman or a wonder woman. Right, And

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01:52:03,800 --> 01:52:06,400
Speaker 1: how gloriou is it when a wonder woman can own

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Speaker 1: her space as an Amazon guide is a superman can

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Speaker 1: own his spaces as a superman. And then they on

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Speaker 1: their journey they can find a way to fellowship and

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01:52:15,280 --> 01:52:17,320
Speaker 1: work together to support others.

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Speaker 2: That go, yeah, that's beautiful, and then change the world,

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Speaker 2: change over the world for the better.

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Speaker 3: Come on, let's go, well, where can the where can

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01:52:28,520 --> 01:52:30,960
Speaker 3: the world and our tribe find you? Can you tell

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01:52:31,040 --> 01:52:33,080
Speaker 3: us where they can find and then where can they

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Speaker 3: share you? Also with their husbands and men listening.

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Speaker 1: Brothers wherever you are, you know we have we hold

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Speaker 1: space for our brothers eighteen and older. We're working on

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Speaker 1: having a right of passions for the young men soon.

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Speaker 1: But eighteen and older sisters, if you have you know,

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01:52:49,080 --> 01:52:52,479
Speaker 1: beautiful husbands and miniature dating and courting sisters, get the

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Speaker 1: brothers out to inboxes and out the comments and send

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01:52:54,760 --> 01:52:56,599
Speaker 1: them to send them to our training. You know, we're

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Speaker 1: on Instagram at Bandheld Ourself program. You can you can

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Speaker 1: go on to the page and you can hear the

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Speaker 1: testimonials from brothers who have went to the rights of

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Speaker 1: passage and how they share their daily rituals, the meditations

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Speaker 1: they do, the affirmations they do to be the best

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Speaker 1: version of themselves. The book is available on Amazon. It's

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Speaker 1: called Manhial Thyself, The Weldness Warria Journey to Self Mastery

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Speaker 1: by Myself and co authored by my mother, Queen of Four,

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Speaker 1: myself and my cousin Hallelujah Walcott. We've partnered with the

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Speaker 1: Queen of Food Wellness Institute that hosts the Sacred Woman

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01:53:25,280 --> 01:53:27,639
Speaker 1: Gathering that you all beautifully would be part of soon

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Speaker 1: and we we do we handle hold down the mail aspect.

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Speaker 1: So brothers, you can go to Queen fod dot com.

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Speaker 1: Now go to Queenford dot com, u q U E

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Speaker 1: E n A f u A Queen Ford dot com

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Speaker 1: and you can go to schools and the portals that

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Speaker 1: has the Man Held Thyself program. You can you can

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Speaker 1: sign up and join us for twelve weeks in twelve

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Speaker 1: weeks of miraculous support on yourself. Here journey and we

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01:53:51,800 --> 01:53:53,519
Speaker 1: do it twice a year for the spring and for

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Speaker 1: the in the fall, and we hear the support and

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Speaker 1: I'm really honored to uh to be a guest and

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Speaker 1: to share the conversation with my sisters. I mean, we

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Speaker 1: had a couple of technical difficulties throughout we were navigating,

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Speaker 1: but I just love talking to my sisters. Like I

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Speaker 1: was just I forgot you the campus to come on.

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Speaker 1: I was just the conversations that we're having. I wish

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Speaker 1: that we were able to let y'all into some of

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01:54:12,200 --> 01:54:14,840
Speaker 1: the other i'll call the pocket downloads that we were having.

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Speaker 1: But I'm just so thank you' all have for having

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Speaker 1: me so honored to be here with my sisters, and

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01:54:19,560 --> 01:54:22,160
Speaker 1: I love the work that y'are doing and much much

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01:54:22,560 --> 01:54:25,920
Speaker 1: continued breakthroughs and abundance to anything that y'all doing.

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Speaker 3: Thank you or we definitely have to have you back on.

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Speaker 3: And I was also thinking, what a beautiful experience to

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Speaker 3: share with a partner in doing the Sacred Woman program

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Speaker 3: as well as yours at a lot of at the

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Speaker 3: same time to then come together.

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Speaker 1: A lot of the sisters who have partners have done that,

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Speaker 1: you know, they have they have health there you know,

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Speaker 1: and that's what you know, Like I said, you know

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Speaker 1: in the positive, Like you know, when we look at

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Speaker 1: our women from from the attribute of being outfice being

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Speaker 1: leaders of their self care, right, I call you well

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Speaker 1: most well we used too, because you're you know women,

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Speaker 1: your fight for your children, your your fight to hold

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Speaker 1: down several hustles. You'll do what you gotta do to

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Speaker 1: get through, you know, so yellow warriors, right, and so

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01:55:08,720 --> 01:55:10,320
Speaker 1: there will be There have been many women that have

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Speaker 1: when they sign up for second Women to do their

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Speaker 1: rights and passage, you know, to strengthen themselves. Maybe you

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Speaker 1: gotta sign up, they just go ahead, bring their husband

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Speaker 1: and their husband. All the husbands come in all like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm listening. My name is Jonathan.

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Speaker 4: I know.

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Speaker 1: They got that heaviness but once but it's no judgment.

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Speaker 1: But we it's like we're like we're like, uh, you know,

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Speaker 1: we're like the care bears to the brothers because because

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Speaker 1: we all because because we're all here for each other,

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Speaker 1: we all carry, we all care, we all men, were

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Speaker 1: all hard and tough, but we all here because we

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01:55:35,280 --> 01:55:36,800
Speaker 1: know we've been hurting and we know we need we

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Speaker 1: need more for ourselves and our lives. You know, and

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Speaker 1: so it's a beautiful thing when when the couples go

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Speaker 1: through it, because she's going, you know, Queen of Four

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Speaker 1: has the sisters on a really disciplined regimen daily, but

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Speaker 1: brothers are on a s too, So the sisters that

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Speaker 1: says she'll be up at four o'clock in the morning

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Speaker 1: doing her spiritual all to work. Her husband will be

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01:55:54,640 --> 01:55:57,600
Speaker 1: running his spiritual bath, doing his affirmation and prayers. So

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Speaker 1: it's it's we have a lot of great testimonials from

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Speaker 1: couples who who are doing their self here work together,

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Speaker 1: and my prayer is that becomes a standard, you know,

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Speaker 1: in our world. One day we have more and more

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Speaker 1: couples are excited about their rituals, about doing, about doing,

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Speaker 1: supporting their partners on the individual journey of healing, but

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Speaker 1: also supporting each other as they go through their whites

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Speaker 1: and bashes together.

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Speaker 3: Yes, yes, that's beautiful. Well you guys, I hope you

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Speaker 3: guys enjoyed this episode as much as we did. And again,

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