WEBVTT - What's APPropriate 0:00:00.480 --> 0:00:04.640 Hell I Suck a Dating with Dengler and Dared Haven 0:00:05.080 --> 0:00:11.000 I heart radio podcast. Hello everyone, welcome back to an 0:00:11.000 --> 0:00:15.520 all new episode of Help I Suck at Dating Quarantine Style, 0:00:15.600 --> 0:00:18.479 still quarantine, self isolating. Obviously, I am still at my 0:00:18.520 --> 0:00:21.520 in law's house. That's going as well as possible because 0:00:21.520 --> 0:00:26.280 everybody's still alive. Dean is quarantine with kalin Uh and 0:00:26.320 --> 0:00:29.160 obviously joining us via Zoom with Pappy in his arms 0:00:29.280 --> 0:00:31.480 right now. Torrey and Easton are on the line as well. 0:00:31.520 --> 0:00:33.920 We have great episode coming up for you. We have 0:00:34.120 --> 0:00:37.880 some callers calling in who are actually dating during quarantined. 0:00:38.240 --> 0:00:42.120 They're they're setting up FaceTime Zoom meetings. They're really taking 0:00:42.120 --> 0:00:46.720 a proactive approach to the entire self isolating dating world, 0:00:46.880 --> 0:00:49.080 and I enjoy it. I'm excited to hear stories about them. 0:00:49.080 --> 0:00:50.960 We have a story about a new dating app coming up, 0:00:50.960 --> 0:00:54.000 which is a video dating app, which is obviously very 0:00:54.080 --> 0:00:56.480 right now because that's all anybody can do. But Dean, 0:00:56.720 --> 0:00:59.480 how are you doing? First of all, happy belated birthday buddy. 0:01:00.040 --> 0:01:01.800 Thanks man, I appreciate it. Hey, I have a question 0:01:01.840 --> 0:01:04.880 for you because you mentioned it at the beginning. You 0:01:04.920 --> 0:01:08.240 mentioned that your in laws, I know a lot of 0:01:08.240 --> 0:01:10.319 people don't like their in laws, but you don't seem 0:01:10.319 --> 0:01:11.560 to have any issue with you is do you think 0:01:11.600 --> 0:01:14.280 that you're an anomaly in that sense? Well, I just 0:01:14.280 --> 0:01:17.000 have incredible in laws. And I was obviously joking earlier 0:01:17.040 --> 0:01:18.880 saying that you know everything's going well because we're all 0:01:18.920 --> 0:01:22.759 still alive, which is all factual but also dramatic. Um, 0:01:22.800 --> 0:01:25.240 but no, I love my in laws. Ashley's parents are 0:01:25.240 --> 0:01:30.160 the sweetest, most incredible people. Jane Audrey. Jay is actually anesthegiologist. 0:01:30.200 --> 0:01:31.640 You guys probably know that he works at the hospital, 0:01:31.680 --> 0:01:35.400 so he's quarantined still in the basement. Um. And uh, 0:01:35.800 --> 0:01:38.920 his Ashley's mom, Audrey is just the sweetest, most welcoming 0:01:38.959 --> 0:01:42.640 person and and uh she's the mother, and she's the 0:01:42.640 --> 0:01:45.319 type of mom who will constantly ask if you needed anything. 0:01:45.800 --> 0:01:48.200 You know. I feel like, as far as Hollywood is concerned, 0:01:48.200 --> 0:01:49.880 you're supposed to like despise you in laws, but you 0:01:50.040 --> 0:01:52.000 like love them. That's great. I know, it's the complete 0:01:52.000 --> 0:01:54.880 opposite of monster in law I have. I have angel 0:01:54.960 --> 0:01:58.000 and laws. Um. I'm also quarantined at their house, so 0:01:58.040 --> 0:02:00.600 I can't really say anything bad about them, So you know, 0:02:00.680 --> 0:02:02.560 you can look into my eyes and find out if 0:02:02.600 --> 0:02:04.760 I'm telling you the truth. Unfortunately our listeners can't because 0:02:04.800 --> 0:02:07.600 they listen to audio. But in all honestly, i couldn't 0:02:07.640 --> 0:02:09.840 ask for better in laws, and I'm very glad that 0:02:09.840 --> 0:02:12.520 we're we're here. There's more room, like we've talked about. 0:02:12.639 --> 0:02:15.639 So it's it's it's really nice. Um your parents in 0:02:15.720 --> 0:02:19.000 the quarantine started, No, No, I mean I haven't seen 0:02:19.040 --> 0:02:23.480 them since New Year's so it's uh, it's just obviously 0:02:23.520 --> 0:02:26.440 for everybody's own safety because even when this thing lifts, 0:02:26.800 --> 0:02:29.440 you know, we're gonna stay stay. You know, even if 0:02:29.480 --> 0:02:31.320 I do travel to Rhode Island at some point May 0:02:31.400 --> 0:02:34.440 or June, you know, I'm gonna abide by social distancing 0:02:34.440 --> 0:02:36.679 and make sure I don't care within six ft of them. 0:02:36.720 --> 0:02:39.000 It's crazy though, like, have you guys, so have you 0:02:39.080 --> 0:02:42.240 had any like interactions with people but six ft away? 0:02:42.280 --> 0:02:46.239 Have you had any hangouts but you've been staying away? 0:02:46.800 --> 0:02:52.200 Just zoom stuff because physical stuff, no nothing, just just 0:02:52.320 --> 0:02:54.880 all zooms. Because the reason I bring this up is 0:02:54.919 --> 0:02:59.160 because yesterday one of Ashley's friends came over outside and 0:02:59.320 --> 0:03:01.520 we actually she stayed like ten ft away. I made 0:03:01.520 --> 0:03:03.960 sure that we were at a good distance away, and 0:03:04.000 --> 0:03:05.520 it was good seeing It was good to have like 0:03:05.520 --> 0:03:08.480 a social interaction with somebody and just sit down and 0:03:08.480 --> 0:03:11.000 talk for a while. But it was also difficult because 0:03:11.040 --> 0:03:13.920 in my head, I couldn't I couldn't focus on the conversation. 0:03:14.000 --> 0:03:16.640 All I could think about was if she had COVID 0:03:16.760 --> 0:03:18.720 nineteen And even if she's ten ft away, am I 0:03:18.720 --> 0:03:22.560 still catching it? And I'm curious when that's going to subside? 0:03:22.600 --> 0:03:25.519 And it obviously factors into the dating realm because there's 0:03:25.520 --> 0:03:27.640 only only so many zoom dates you can go on 0:03:27.760 --> 0:03:30.000 before you actually have to meet someone in person and 0:03:30.040 --> 0:03:31.720 have social interaction with them to see if you have 0:03:31.800 --> 0:03:35.040 chemistry in person, physical chemistry showing and so forth, and 0:03:35.080 --> 0:03:37.560 so I don't know, it's interesting. You know, I got 0:03:37.560 --> 0:03:39.040 a flat tire the other day and I had to 0:03:39.080 --> 0:03:41.800 have my friend come pick me up, So I guess 0:03:41.920 --> 0:03:44.960 I kind of you know, I hadn't a choice but 0:03:45.080 --> 0:03:47.280 to get a little close to thin six ft because 0:03:47.280 --> 0:03:49.240 I had to sit in his car with him. Did 0:03:49.280 --> 0:03:55.480 you feel weird at all? No? But all right? Cool? 0:03:56.000 --> 0:03:57.720 That was it as my first ye interaction other than 0:03:57.760 --> 0:03:59.120 Kalin in a lot of times, so that was that 0:03:59.160 --> 0:04:02.560 was pretty nice? Is it is it like a good friend. Yeah, 0:04:02.600 --> 0:04:04.480 we're we're good friends. But I mean, the thing was, 0:04:04.800 --> 0:04:07.119 I was like, Okay, well I could get a tow 0:04:07.120 --> 0:04:10.120 truck and then get an uber, but then I'm getting 0:04:10.320 --> 0:04:12.320 in the car of someone that I don't know rather 0:04:12.360 --> 0:04:14.200 than getting in the car of my friend who I 0:04:14.280 --> 0:04:17.360 know really well, and you'd possibly be interacting with two 0:04:17.400 --> 0:04:21.560 people instead of just one, doubling yours. So I figured 0:04:21.600 --> 0:04:23.520 it was my best option. And you know what, it 0:04:23.600 --> 0:04:27.120 was a welcome change of scenery, even though obviously we 0:04:27.120 --> 0:04:29.000 had a break soles for distancing. It was nice to 0:04:29.000 --> 0:04:31.360 see him. I didn't hug him, I didn't even give 0:04:31.440 --> 0:04:34.640 him a high five or anything like that, but but yeah, 0:04:34.760 --> 0:04:36.960 it was nice. Was that weird? That was why I 0:04:36.960 --> 0:04:38.880 was asking how close of a friend it is? Because 0:04:38.920 --> 0:04:41.560 it was it weird to just be like okay, bye, 0:04:42.080 --> 0:04:44.680 or it's like hard to start a conversation with someone 0:04:44.680 --> 0:04:47.160 without being like, hey, what's up, and like staying hi 0:04:47.240 --> 0:04:49.120 and like shaking their hand. You're like a high five 0:04:49.200 --> 0:04:51.200 or something, you know what I mean? Yeah, no, I 0:04:51.240 --> 0:04:53.960 totally agree. I don't know. It's could be an interesting world. 0:04:53.960 --> 0:04:57.599 But anyway, your birthday last Friday, Happy belated birthday, buddy, 0:04:57.600 --> 0:05:04.479 How old are you twenty twenty two? Twenty? I'm in 0:05:04.560 --> 0:05:07.400 my twenties twenty something. Wait, are you actually twenty nine? 0:05:07.880 --> 0:05:11.279 My exact age is thirty one. Just basically put me 0:05:11.320 --> 0:05:13.720 on anything Toby Wire is getting, you know, all right, 0:05:13.760 --> 0:05:16.280 that's fair enough. How was your birthday? Did you? Did 0:05:16.360 --> 0:05:20.239 you and Kyleen do anything special? Or yeah? Kayleen? Kaylen 0:05:20.279 --> 0:05:22.000 knocked out of the park. She made he it was 0:05:22.000 --> 0:05:24.400 as special of a birthdays I could have possibly had 0:05:24.400 --> 0:05:27.159 given obviously every that's going on. I woke up in 0:05:27.160 --> 0:05:30.719 the morning and she had this full custom menu prepared 0:05:31.160 --> 0:05:35.239 and let me order my breakfast. Gave me breakfast in bed. 0:05:35.800 --> 0:05:39.000 What did you order? Um? What? I got yogurt and 0:05:39.920 --> 0:05:44.880 sent fancy and some coffee that she got me in 0:05:44.880 --> 0:05:47.400 a new mug that she bought for me. What's the bug? 0:05:48.560 --> 0:05:50.560 It's just like it looks like a camera lens, but 0:05:50.600 --> 0:05:52.839 you can just put a coffee in it. Oh that's cute, 0:05:52.839 --> 0:05:55.840 that's very you. Yeah, it's I've seen it around and 0:05:55.880 --> 0:05:57.320 I've always kind of wanted one, so it's nice to 0:05:57.320 --> 0:06:02.800 finally have one. Um what did she do? She uh, 0:06:03.680 --> 0:06:07.960 got my favorite lunch delivered and she like catered like this, 0:06:08.200 --> 0:06:11.560 uh this this delivery picnic thing, and they were you know, 0:06:11.600 --> 0:06:15.280 they were sure to standardize and keep their distance when 0:06:15.279 --> 0:06:16.760 they came. Because I came into the apartment and set 0:06:16.800 --> 0:06:18.560 it up basically, which I was kind of I was 0:06:18.600 --> 0:06:19.880 kind of confused about. I was like, are you sure 0:06:19.920 --> 0:06:21.520 we should be doing this? And she goes like she 0:06:21.600 --> 0:06:23.520 likesured me that it was like safe and that they 0:06:23.560 --> 0:06:28.479 were following all the precautions. Um. And then I opened 0:06:28.480 --> 0:06:32.039 my presence. You got me pretty sweet presents. She got 0:06:32.080 --> 0:06:35.440 me like a go pro that I've always wanted, an 0:06:35.480 --> 0:06:38.680 air pod case. What else did she get me? An 0:06:38.680 --> 0:06:42.880 air pod case, a lot of group back from my camera. Yeah, like, 0:06:43.080 --> 0:06:45.000 you know, like a little case for my AirPods so 0:06:45.040 --> 0:06:47.480 I can hang out. Very nice. I just thought she 0:06:47.560 --> 0:06:49.240 got you the case for air pods and didn't get 0:06:49.240 --> 0:06:52.200 your air pods. Yeah, she's like halfway there, lose her 0:06:52.240 --> 0:06:57.040 Oh sorry language Christmas? Um? What else did she get me? 0:06:58.360 --> 0:07:01.200 A couple other random things? And then she set up 0:07:01.200 --> 0:07:05.760 a little for in our other room and uh, put 0:07:05.839 --> 0:07:09.200 up some pixie lights and got a projector and projected 0:07:09.240 --> 0:07:13.440 my favorite movie on the wall. And what movie? Interstellar? Oh? 0:07:13.480 --> 0:07:16.920 That's right. We talked about this. Yeah, certainly not a romance, 0:07:17.000 --> 0:07:20.400 but a great movie regardless, still a love story even 0:07:20.440 --> 0:07:23.040 though it might not be a romance. Uh, that is true. 0:07:23.080 --> 0:07:25.600 It's a story about a yeah, father and daughter in 0:07:25.680 --> 0:07:28.040 the relationship. But yeah, I hear a movie all time, 0:07:28.080 --> 0:07:29.520 so it's nice. It was a good as far as 0:07:29.600 --> 0:07:32.680 we could have what we could have done and couldn't 0:07:32.720 --> 0:07:35.240 have done for my birthday. I'm glad that. Uh, you know, 0:07:35.280 --> 0:07:37.320 she definitely wants to great lengths to make it as 0:07:37.440 --> 0:07:40.800 special as possible, so I'm super appreciative. That is really cute. 0:07:40.840 --> 0:07:43.960 Good job, Kalen. And how are you guys doing together 0:07:44.040 --> 0:07:46.080 during this quarantine? Do you think, because I remember you 0:07:46.120 --> 0:07:48.600 asked me a question only about a week or two 0:07:48.600 --> 0:07:53.000 into the quarantine, whether uh, my relationship with Ashley because 0:07:53.000 --> 0:07:55.560 of the quarantine have gotten worse so far, stayed the same, 0:07:55.680 --> 0:07:57.920 or gotten better. So I'm gonna ask you now that 0:07:57.920 --> 0:08:00.880 we're almost six weeks into this thing, since being quarantined 0:08:00.920 --> 0:08:04.200 with Kalen, do you think that your relationship has gotten worse, 0:08:04.840 --> 0:08:08.200 stay the same, or gotten better. Um, I would say 0:08:08.240 --> 0:08:13.320 it's either stayed the same or gotten better. But yeah, 0:08:13.520 --> 0:08:16.080 I guess. I mean, we're just starting to lose our minds. 0:08:16.120 --> 0:08:17.800 Like even the past couple of days, she looks at 0:08:17.840 --> 0:08:20.080 me like She'll like stopped mid sentence and look at me, 0:08:20.160 --> 0:08:23.480 and she's like, I just need to travel somewhere. I'm 0:08:23.520 --> 0:08:25.640 losing my mind. And I'm like, okay, yeah, I know, 0:08:25.840 --> 0:08:27.280 so am I I just need to go to a 0:08:27.320 --> 0:08:31.280 coffee bean okay something. Yeah. So, like I think our 0:08:31.320 --> 0:08:34.680 sanity is slipping away, but our relationship is doing perfectly fine, 0:08:34.720 --> 0:08:38.359 you know what I mean. Oh that's really good. Uh. 0:08:38.520 --> 0:08:41.920 The thing is, it's like one of the nice things 0:08:41.960 --> 0:08:44.480 about being in the van is I'm not distracted or 0:08:44.559 --> 0:08:47.520 tempted by things like my Xbox and stuff. And so 0:08:47.559 --> 0:08:49.920 now that I have access to an Xbox, basically any 0:08:49.920 --> 0:08:52.280 time of the day I play. I play like five 0:08:52.280 --> 0:08:53.880 hours of video games to day, and I look back 0:08:53.920 --> 0:08:55.200 on the day and I'm like, wow, I just place 0:08:55.280 --> 0:08:57.760 it five hours. But I'm going to do the exact 0:08:57.800 --> 0:08:59.880 same thing tomorrow and play five more hours of video games, 0:08:59.880 --> 0:09:01.400 you know what I mean. So I think like that 0:09:01.520 --> 0:09:04.720 in and of itself is uh, at least for me, 0:09:04.800 --> 0:09:07.920 it's like it's making me makes you feel like a 0:09:07.960 --> 0:09:10.439 piece of Yeah, that's that's, for lack of a better 0:09:10.480 --> 0:09:12.280 word way to put it, Yeah, that's absolutely. The reason 0:09:12.360 --> 0:09:14.560 I know that is because I feel the exact same way. 0:09:14.600 --> 0:09:16.360 There are times where I feel like I'm just not 0:09:16.360 --> 0:09:18.679 getting anything accomplished. That's why I look forward to this 0:09:18.760 --> 0:09:21.360 podcast because it's it's structure. You know, It's like, Okay, 0:09:21.360 --> 0:09:25.240 from Monday, you know, on Monday, from whatever time, record 0:09:25.320 --> 0:09:28.600 for two hours. You know, I feel like I'm I'm not. 0:09:28.760 --> 0:09:31.040 I don't want to say working, because there are people 0:09:31.040 --> 0:09:34.040 who are essential workers right now, who are doing incredible 0:09:34.080 --> 0:09:36.600 things that are far more difficult than anything I could 0:09:36.600 --> 0:09:39.240 possibly imagine. But it is nice for us to come 0:09:39.280 --> 0:09:41.080 to this podcast and just be like, Okay, you know 0:09:41.160 --> 0:09:43.600 this is you know what we have to do on Monday, 0:09:43.600 --> 0:09:45.280 and it creates some sort of structure and something to 0:09:45.320 --> 0:09:47.679 look forward to, which I think everybody needs right now. 0:09:48.080 --> 0:09:50.360 I just give myself it's like one task to complete 0:09:50.400 --> 0:09:52.920 every single day, whether it's like I'm helping build some 0:09:52.960 --> 0:09:56.840 benches in our kitchen, we're doing some stuff in her bedroom, 0:09:56.880 --> 0:10:00.520 like we're making the bedside tables float, or like whether 0:10:00.520 --> 0:10:02.240 it's my physical therapy, I just want to make sure 0:10:02.280 --> 0:10:03.920 I have like an hour of that every single day. 0:10:04.200 --> 0:10:05.560 So as long as you do like one of those 0:10:05.600 --> 0:10:07.600 things every single day, I can look back and get Okay, 0:10:07.600 --> 0:10:09.240 well I got something done today, you know what I mean, 0:10:09.320 --> 0:10:14.160 what was your achievement yesterday? Um, I got halfway through 0:10:14.160 --> 0:10:16.319 building the benches and we finally made it to Home 0:10:16.320 --> 0:10:18.080 Deeper in order to buy a bunch of stuff, which 0:10:18.080 --> 0:10:23.200 was a trick because they're obviously practicing social distancing and 0:10:23.520 --> 0:10:26.000 they're one of those places that's open obviously because they're 0:10:26.040 --> 0:10:30.120 or central and uh they there's just like lines that 0:10:30.240 --> 0:10:32.400 like go out the door and wrap around the building, 0:10:33.280 --> 0:10:34.800 and so it's like you show up and you're like, okay, 0:10:34.840 --> 0:10:36.400 well I have to wait that line for twenty minutes 0:10:36.440 --> 0:10:37.959 before I can give me go inside, and that's spent 0:10:38.000 --> 0:10:40.599 an hour inside. It's just the whole whole process. So 0:10:40.640 --> 0:10:42.280 even just go getting up and going to Home Depot 0:10:42.400 --> 0:10:45.240 was an achievement in and of itself for us. Yeah, 0:10:45.280 --> 0:10:47.480 we haven't left the house too much over here. We 0:10:47.600 --> 0:10:50.440 sometimes we'll pick up just to support local restaurants and 0:10:50.640 --> 0:10:53.640 local businesses and just to you know, do something different. 0:10:53.840 --> 0:10:55.640 It's kind of like every you know, we cook for 0:10:55.640 --> 0:10:57.240 like three or four days straight and then we'll get 0:10:57.320 --> 0:10:59.400 take out, and it's something that we look forward to, like, oh, 0:11:00.040 --> 0:11:01.520 let's get take out tonight. Where are we going to 0:11:01.559 --> 0:11:04.560 get food from? It's very exciting within the Ikenetti household. 0:11:04.920 --> 0:11:07.480 And and I Connettie Haven household. I guess now because 0:11:07.520 --> 0:11:10.800 Ashley is technically Haven, which is really weird. Um. But 0:11:11.000 --> 0:11:12.760 we went to this place the other night. I won't 0:11:12.800 --> 0:11:14.600 say the place, but they were doing a great job 0:11:14.600 --> 0:11:17.320 of social distancing. They had curbside pickups, so the line 0:11:17.360 --> 0:11:19.800 was outside and every single one of their workers was 0:11:19.840 --> 0:11:22.920 wearing gloves and masks, which made me feel far more comfortable. 0:11:23.559 --> 0:11:26.680 And so they came up to take our order. And 0:11:26.720 --> 0:11:28.840 then this kid was walking out to our car with 0:11:28.880 --> 0:11:30.520 the bag, and I went to go open the trunk, 0:11:30.559 --> 0:11:33.080 and for some reason, of course what timing, the trunk 0:11:33.320 --> 0:11:35.319 was not popping. And so I'm hitting this button like 0:11:35.400 --> 0:11:37.199 thirty seven thousand times as far as I can, I'm 0:11:37.240 --> 0:11:39.960 holding it, I'm pressing it numerous times. It would not pop. 0:11:40.440 --> 0:11:42.320 And so I knew that if the trunk wasn't opening, 0:11:42.320 --> 0:11:43.719 this kid was gonna have to open up the back seat, 0:11:43.720 --> 0:11:46.840 which would bring him closer to us and put it 0:11:46.880 --> 0:11:50.240 in there and I was with Ashley and my sister 0:11:50.280 --> 0:11:53.000 and Laura Lauren who's in the back seat. So whatever. 0:11:53.120 --> 0:11:55.000 So he's wearing gloves and a mass so he opens 0:11:55.040 --> 0:11:57.360 the door and puts the food in there in the 0:11:57.400 --> 0:12:00.880 back seat, and then apparently it was somebody that Lauren, 0:12:00.960 --> 0:12:04.600 my sister in law, knew, and so she she was like, oh, hey, 0:12:04.640 --> 0:12:06.920 what's going on. She's like, oh my god, Hey, it's 0:12:06.960 --> 0:12:09.480 good to see you. So he starts talking to us. 0:12:09.520 --> 0:12:11.360 Mind you, he's about three ft from us because he 0:12:11.360 --> 0:12:13.760 had to put in the back seat. He takes his 0:12:13.960 --> 0:12:18.319 mask off and starts talking to us, and immediately Ashley 0:12:18.400 --> 0:12:19.920 just looks at me because she knows I'm going to 0:12:20.000 --> 0:12:22.360 freak out, and like the conversation, it was like one 0:12:22.360 --> 0:12:23.800 of those moments where you just don't know what to 0:12:23.840 --> 0:12:26.640 say because obviously that's not how mass work. You have 0:12:26.640 --> 0:12:28.560 to keep the mask on in order to not spread 0:12:28.559 --> 0:12:30.760 the virus, and most likely he has nothing. But it 0:12:30.840 --> 0:12:33.640 was just more of like, oh my god, please just 0:12:33.679 --> 0:12:37.240 put your mask on. And I was get out of there. 0:12:37.520 --> 0:12:39.600 I know, I was, I yeah, just run him over, 0:12:40.160 --> 0:12:44.280 but officer, he took his mask off. Um, it was 0:12:44.320 --> 0:12:46.960 like one of those like comedy sketches that you just 0:12:47.000 --> 0:12:49.600 can't write somebody you knew yet you haven't seen like 0:12:49.640 --> 0:12:52.319 twelve years, and we're going through this pandemic and we're 0:12:52.320 --> 0:12:54.640 taking all these precautions. And then he took his mask 0:12:54.679 --> 0:12:56.160 off and started talking to us, and it was like, 0:12:56.160 --> 0:12:58.600 good God. And then we drove off get a phone 0:12:58.600 --> 0:13:01.040 call from the restaurant and they informed us that he 0:13:01.080 --> 0:13:03.720 brought out the wrong bag. Poor kids. So we had 0:13:03.760 --> 0:13:06.240 to turn around and do this process all over again. 0:13:06.280 --> 0:13:08.440 But he kept the mask on this time, which is 0:13:08.480 --> 0:13:11.559 I was very grateful for. That's pretty funny. Hey, I 0:13:11.600 --> 0:13:15.679 want to get your opinion on something. Shoot, um, So 0:13:15.920 --> 0:13:19.400 I've been thinking about changing my last name, uh to 0:13:19.960 --> 0:13:23.120 what I like unclear? I want to change it to 0:13:23.320 --> 0:13:25.160 So my mother's made a name is Bell. I want 0:13:25.160 --> 0:13:29.680 to change it to Bell. That's actually really adorable. Is 0:13:29.679 --> 0:13:36.040 it really Tory middle name? Yes, it's like family buddy. 0:13:36.559 --> 0:13:38.719 So okay, So I've been thinking about changing it to 0:13:38.800 --> 0:13:42.040 Bell to honor my mother. But I texted my brother. 0:13:42.400 --> 0:13:44.719 I was like, hey, Brad, I'm thinking about changing my 0:13:44.800 --> 0:13:46.600 last name to Bell. What do you think about it? 0:13:46.800 --> 0:13:48.480 And he goes, I think it would be really weird. 0:13:48.920 --> 0:13:50.520 And I was like, Okay, that's not what That's not 0:13:50.559 --> 0:13:52.600 the reaction I was expecting to get. And so I 0:13:52.600 --> 0:13:54.520 talked to Klin about it, and Calin thinks it's a 0:13:54.520 --> 0:13:57.800 cool idea. And then I texted my my aunts who 0:13:57.840 --> 0:14:00.439 are my mother's sisters, and they were are like, oh 0:14:00.480 --> 0:14:02.560 my gosh, it'd be so great of you to do that. 0:14:02.840 --> 0:14:06.320 We think it'd be fantastic blah blah blah um. And 0:14:06.320 --> 0:14:11.160 then come to find out my brother's fiancee and she 0:14:11.240 --> 0:14:13.360 said that when she gets married to my brother, she 0:14:13.440 --> 0:14:15.600 would prefer to take the last name Belle then to 0:14:15.679 --> 0:14:18.920 take Ungler. And so I feel like there's a lot 0:14:18.960 --> 0:14:24.080 of momentum behind the name bell. But I also don't know, 0:14:24.520 --> 0:14:27.680 uh legal processes and like how that's going to affect 0:14:27.680 --> 0:14:29.200 me in long term. But I just want to get 0:14:29.200 --> 0:14:31.840 your guys opinion on if it's something that, uh, what 0:14:31.920 --> 0:14:35.160 do you think you would think? Weirdly up, Well, a 0:14:35.160 --> 0:14:36.760 couple of thoughts. One, I think you'd do it because 0:14:36.760 --> 0:14:39.040 it will make you and Tori like family. So that's 0:14:39.080 --> 0:14:43.200 obviously a positive, obviously big plus, big plus that might 0:14:43.240 --> 0:14:46.200 be reasoning on its own. Yeah, don't tell Klin you 0:14:46.240 --> 0:14:49.760 had that bonus. Yeah. Uh. And then two, I can't 0:14:49.760 --> 0:14:52.520 imagine it's that difficult to change your name. I mean, 0:14:52.840 --> 0:14:55.360 millions of people do it all the time when they 0:14:55.360 --> 0:14:59.160 get married, and so I don't know if Ashley actually 0:14:59.200 --> 0:15:02.920 has legally changed name, which is kind of crazy. Um. 0:15:03.000 --> 0:15:10.320 But plus, I think Dean Michael Bell sounds pretty cool. Yeah, 0:15:10.320 --> 0:15:13.720 that's pretty awesome. Dean Michael Bell. That's like a movie star. 0:15:14.320 --> 0:15:16.320 But then Dean Bell sounds bad. I'd have to start 0:15:16.360 --> 0:15:18.560 going by my middle name, Dean Michael Bell, not just 0:15:18.640 --> 0:15:21.040 Dean Bell, you know, totally. I love people who go 0:15:21.080 --> 0:15:23.800 by three names or even like, make your name longer. 0:15:24.000 --> 0:15:26.480 The longer than the name, the more badass you sound 0:15:26.520 --> 0:15:31.240 like Leonardo DiCaprio. Don't shorten that thing that's not even 0:15:31.240 --> 0:15:34.760 a real name. I've heard that too. I think really 0:15:34.760 --> 0:15:36.600 the question for you, Dean, it comes down to how 0:15:36.640 --> 0:15:38.760 attached are you to the last name. Angler If you 0:15:38.840 --> 0:15:42.240 would rather honor your mom by changing your last name 0:15:42.280 --> 0:15:45.200 to Bell, then I say totally do it, don't you know, 0:15:45.240 --> 0:15:48.040 Because like, if you'd rather have Bell as your last 0:15:48.080 --> 0:15:50.880 name to honor your mom, then I don't see anything 0:15:50.960 --> 0:15:54.520 stopping you unless you are uh like emotionally attached to Angler. 0:15:55.160 --> 0:15:57.080 Well that's the thing too, is I was texting my 0:15:57.120 --> 0:15:58.680 brother about it and I was like, yeah, like, I'm 0:15:58.680 --> 0:16:00.160 not super proud of the name Angler, Like what do 0:16:00.160 --> 0:16:01.960 we have to be proud of about the name? And 0:16:02.000 --> 0:16:04.720 he said, yeah, I agree, but also we can be 0:16:04.760 --> 0:16:07.720 examples as to what makes the good unlip moving forward. 0:16:07.720 --> 0:16:10.600 And I was like, yeah, that's cool too. But well, 0:16:10.600 --> 0:16:12.400 I'm gonna I'll keep you guys posted one way or 0:16:12.440 --> 0:16:15.120 the other if I decided to take action on that 0:16:15.240 --> 0:16:16.640 or not. But we have a great episode for you 0:16:16.640 --> 0:16:20.040 guys today. We are going to call some people who 0:16:20.080 --> 0:16:23.080 are dating during this quarantine, going on first dates during 0:16:23.080 --> 0:16:25.840 this quarantine, which is gonna be spicy. We have a 0:16:25.920 --> 0:16:29.880 Vivid from the local video dating app, and then we 0:16:30.040 --> 0:16:33.640 are going to have, for the first time ever in 0:16:33.680 --> 0:16:36.920 the history of Help I Suck a Dating UH, my 0:16:37.040 --> 0:16:40.400 girlfriend Jelan Miller keys on the podcast Your Your Girlfriend 0:16:40.480 --> 0:16:45.480 or Your Wife along with Ashley. Idea, the men will 0:16:45.480 --> 0:16:47.520 not be present for this part of the episode, so 0:16:47.560 --> 0:16:51.200 it'll just be the two women UH answering and and 0:16:51.520 --> 0:16:55.360 discussing amongst themselves. I already have Ashley prepped with questions, 0:16:55.480 --> 0:16:57.640 so We're good to go. No worries, Dean, don't worry 0:16:57.640 --> 0:17:00.600 about it at all. Just leave the rooms the door 0:17:00.760 --> 0:17:04.120 and don't even give it a second thought. Um. Great. 0:17:04.320 --> 0:17:07.240 Just remember that Caitlin doesn't like actually that much, so 0:17:07.320 --> 0:17:09.480 make sure she doesn't prod her too much, otherwise it 0:17:09.560 --> 0:17:12.280 might separate their relationship altogether. I'm fine with that as 0:17:12.280 --> 0:17:16.720 long as we get a good episode. Anyway. That's about 0:17:16.720 --> 0:17:20.320 the end of the episode. If I was listening to this, 0:17:20.520 --> 0:17:23.000 I would say, just listen to the first couple of segments, 0:17:23.440 --> 0:17:26.000 ignore the last part with the with the Caitlin and Ashley. 0:17:26.080 --> 0:17:28.439 But who am I to decide what you listen to? 0:17:29.200 --> 0:17:30.879 Come and I'll be sure to stick through this break 0:17:30.960 --> 0:17:44.040 and we'll get right to everything. Welcome back to help 0:17:44.080 --> 0:17:46.040 I suck at dating. We have our first caller on 0:17:46.080 --> 0:17:49.200 the line. Her name is D She's from Costa Mesa. 0:17:49.760 --> 0:17:54.000 You're twenty nine years old. Hi, D, How are you great. 0:17:54.680 --> 0:17:57.439 I'm so happy to be here. We're happy to have 0:17:57.600 --> 0:17:59.680 you on here. Thank you so much for taking the time. 0:18:00.040 --> 0:18:03.480 How are you doing during this quarantine? Honestly, I'm doing 0:18:03.520 --> 0:18:06.679 pretty well. Um. Not a whole lot has changed for me, 0:18:06.720 --> 0:18:09.280 other than you know, the whole not being able to 0:18:09.280 --> 0:18:13.640 hang out with humans. It's big part of it though, Yeah, yeah, 0:18:13.880 --> 0:18:17.240 huge part, you know, But social distancing seems to work 0:18:17.280 --> 0:18:20.359 for the most part. Um, So, do we heard that 0:18:20.400 --> 0:18:24.000 you're still dating right now during the self isolating isolation. 0:18:24.320 --> 0:18:27.960 You're using Bumble and Hinge and you actually just met 0:18:28.119 --> 0:18:32.160 up with someone that you were talking to on one 0:18:32.200 --> 0:18:36.320 of these dating apps. So tell us about that experience. Yeah. 0:18:37.560 --> 0:18:41.639 So initially, like, I was pretty stoked to be on 0:18:42.600 --> 0:18:46.159 Bumble and Hinge during this time because I feel like 0:18:46.200 --> 0:18:50.359 it eliminates a lot of like physical expectations and it 0:18:50.480 --> 0:18:54.879 just forces you to connect emotionally, which is something we 0:18:55.040 --> 0:18:58.760 kind of bypass nowadays in the dating world. But we 0:18:58.920 --> 0:19:03.800 met up on one of the hiking trails near my house, 0:19:04.880 --> 0:19:08.840 and um, yeah, it was a little weird because he 0:19:08.920 --> 0:19:14.520 didn't respect the six feet. I already don't like this guy. Yeah, 0:19:15.240 --> 0:19:19.960 you respect the six feet, you know. Social distancing, um 0:19:20.160 --> 0:19:22.399 aspect of it was it rare to the gates, Like 0:19:22.440 --> 0:19:24.560 he basically met up with you and was came in 0:19:24.600 --> 0:19:26.720 for a hug or something. Yeah, he came in for 0:19:26.760 --> 0:19:29.159 a hug and I was like, whoa, you know, I 0:19:29.200 --> 0:19:34.080 don't know I was fine. That was the rest of 0:19:34.080 --> 0:19:36.360 the day. Was it awkward? Did you guys just immediately 0:19:36.400 --> 0:19:38.800 part ways or did you carry on? No? I carry 0:19:38.840 --> 0:19:41.040 it on. I was like, you know, he's probably nervous. 0:19:41.240 --> 0:19:44.119 This is like a really weird, you know time. We 0:19:44.200 --> 0:19:48.560 probably wasn't aware. It's okay, give three strikes. That was 0:19:48.680 --> 0:19:54.520