Speaker 1: Hell I Suck a Dating with Dengler and Dared Haven
Speaker 1: I heart radio podcast. Hello everyone, welcome back to an
Speaker 1: all new episode of Help I Suck at Dating Quarantine Style,
Speaker 1: still quarantine, self isolating. Obviously, I am still at my
Speaker 1: in law's house. That's going as well as possible because
Speaker 1: everybody's still alive. Dean is quarantine with kalin Uh and
Speaker 1: obviously joining us via Zoom with Pappy in his arms
Speaker 1: right now. Torrey and Easton are on the line as well.
Speaker 1: We have great episode coming up for you. We have
Speaker 1: some callers calling in who are actually dating during quarantined.
Speaker 1: They're they're setting up FaceTime Zoom meetings. They're really taking
Speaker 1: a proactive approach to the entire self isolating dating world,
Speaker 1: and I enjoy it. I'm excited to hear stories about them.
Speaker 1: We have a story about a new dating app coming up,
Speaker 1: which is a video dating app, which is obviously very
Speaker 1: right now because that's all anybody can do. But Dean,
Speaker 1: how are you doing? First of all, happy belated birthday buddy.
Speaker 1: Thanks man, I appreciate it. Hey, I have a question
Speaker 1: for you because you mentioned it at the beginning. You
Speaker 1: mentioned that your in laws, I know a lot of
Speaker 1: people don't like their in laws, but you don't seem
Speaker 1: to have any issue with you is do you think
Speaker 1: that you're an anomaly in that sense? Well, I just
Speaker 1: have incredible in laws. And I was obviously joking earlier
Speaker 1: saying that you know everything's going well because we're all
Speaker 1: still alive, which is all factual but also dramatic. Um,
Speaker 1: but no, I love my in laws. Ashley's parents are
Speaker 1: the sweetest, most incredible people. Jane Audrey. Jay is actually anesthegiologist.
Speaker 1: You guys probably know that he works at the hospital,
Speaker 1: so he's quarantined still in the basement. Um. And uh,
Speaker 1: his Ashley's mom, Audrey is just the sweetest, most welcoming
Speaker 1: person and and uh she's the mother, and she's the
Speaker 1: type of mom who will constantly ask if you needed anything.
Speaker 1: You know. I feel like, as far as Hollywood is concerned,
Speaker 1: you're supposed to like despise you in laws, but you
Speaker 1: like love them. That's great. I know, it's the complete
Speaker 1: opposite of monster in law I have. I have angel
Speaker 1: and laws. Um. I'm also quarantined at their house, so
Speaker 1: I can't really say anything bad about them, So you know,
Speaker 1: you can look into my eyes and find out if
Speaker 1: I'm telling you the truth. Unfortunately our listeners can't because
Speaker 1: they listen to audio. But in all honestly, i couldn't
Speaker 1: ask for better in laws, and I'm very glad that
Speaker 1: we're we're here. There's more room, like we've talked about.
Speaker 1: So it's it's it's really nice. Um your parents in
Speaker 1: the quarantine started, No, No, I mean I haven't seen
Speaker 1: them since New Year's so it's uh, it's just obviously
Speaker 1: for everybody's own safety because even when this thing lifts,
Speaker 1: you know, we're gonna stay stay. You know, even if
Speaker 1: I do travel to Rhode Island at some point May
Speaker 1: or June, you know, I'm gonna abide by social distancing
Speaker 1: and make sure I don't care within six ft of them.
Speaker 1: It's crazy though, like, have you guys, so have you
Speaker 1: had any like interactions with people but six ft away?
Speaker 1: Have you had any hangouts but you've been staying away?
Speaker 1: Just zoom stuff because physical stuff, no nothing, just just
Speaker 1: all zooms. Because the reason I bring this up is
Speaker 1: because yesterday one of Ashley's friends came over outside and
Speaker 1: we actually she stayed like ten ft away. I made
Speaker 1: sure that we were at a good distance away, and
Speaker 1: it was good seeing It was good to have like
Speaker 1: a social interaction with somebody and just sit down and
Speaker 1: talk for a while. But it was also difficult because
Speaker 1: in my head, I couldn't I couldn't focus on the conversation.
Speaker 1: All I could think about was if she had COVID
Speaker 1: nineteen And even if she's ten ft away, am I
Speaker 1: still catching it? And I'm curious when that's going to subside?
Speaker 1: And it obviously factors into the dating realm because there's
Speaker 1: only only so many zoom dates you can go on
Speaker 1: before you actually have to meet someone in person and
Speaker 1: have social interaction with them to see if you have
Speaker 1: chemistry in person, physical chemistry showing and so forth, and
Speaker 1: so I don't know, it's interesting. You know, I got
Speaker 1: a flat tire the other day and I had to
Speaker 1: have my friend come pick me up, So I guess
Speaker 1: I kind of you know, I hadn't a choice but
Speaker 1: to get a little close to thin six ft because
Speaker 1: I had to sit in his car with him. Did
Speaker 1: you feel weird at all? No? But all right? Cool?
Speaker 1: That was it as my first ye interaction other than
Speaker 1: Kalin in a lot of times, so that was that
Speaker 1: was pretty nice? Is it is it like a good friend. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we're we're good friends. But I mean, the thing was,
Speaker 1: I was like, Okay, well I could get a tow
Speaker 1: truck and then get an uber, but then I'm getting
Speaker 1: in the car of someone that I don't know rather
Speaker 1: than getting in the car of my friend who I
Speaker 1: know really well, and you'd possibly be interacting with two
Speaker 1: people instead of just one, doubling yours. So I figured
Speaker 1: it was my best option. And you know what, it
Speaker 1: was a welcome change of scenery, even though obviously we
Speaker 1: had a break soles for distancing. It was nice to
Speaker 1: see him. I didn't hug him, I didn't even give
Speaker 1: him a high five or anything like that, but but yeah,
Speaker 1: it was nice. Was that weird? That was why I
Speaker 1: was asking how close of a friend it is? Because
Speaker 1: it was it weird to just be like okay, bye,
Speaker 1: or it's like hard to start a conversation with someone
Speaker 1: without being like, hey, what's up, and like staying hi
Speaker 1: and like shaking their hand. You're like a high five
Speaker 1: or something, you know what I mean? Yeah, no, I
Speaker 1: totally agree. I don't know. It's could be an interesting world.
Speaker 1: But anyway, your birthday last Friday, Happy belated birthday, buddy,
Speaker 1: How old are you twenty twenty two? Twenty? I'm in
Speaker 1: my twenties twenty something. Wait, are you actually twenty nine?
Speaker 1: My exact age is thirty one. Just basically put me
Speaker 1: on anything Toby Wire is getting, you know, all right,
Speaker 1: that's fair enough. How was your birthday? Did you? Did
Speaker 1: you and Kyleen do anything special? Or yeah? Kayleen? Kaylen
Speaker 1: knocked out of the park. She made he it was
Speaker 1: as special of a birthdays I could have possibly had
Speaker 1: given obviously every that's going on. I woke up in
Speaker 1: the morning and she had this full custom menu prepared
Speaker 1: and let me order my breakfast. Gave me breakfast in bed.
Speaker 1: What did you order? Um? What? I got yogurt and
Speaker 1: sent fancy and some coffee that she got me in
Speaker 1: a new mug that she bought for me. What's the bug?
Speaker 1: It's just like it looks like a camera lens, but
Speaker 1: you can just put a coffee in it. Oh that's cute,
Speaker 1: that's very you. Yeah, it's I've seen it around and
Speaker 1: I've always kind of wanted one, so it's nice to
Speaker 1: finally have one. Um what did she do? She uh,
Speaker 1: got my favorite lunch delivered and she like catered like this,
Speaker 1: uh this this delivery picnic thing, and they were you know,
Speaker 1: they were sure to standardize and keep their distance when
Speaker 1: they came. Because I came into the apartment and set
Speaker 1: it up basically, which I was kind of I was
Speaker 1: kind of confused about. I was like, are you sure
Speaker 1: we should be doing this? And she goes like she
Speaker 1: likesured me that it was like safe and that they
Speaker 1: were following all the precautions. Um. And then I opened
Speaker 1: my presence. You got me pretty sweet presents. She got
Speaker 1: me like a go pro that I've always wanted, an
Speaker 1: air pod case. What else did she get me? An
Speaker 1: air pod case, a lot of group back from my camera. Yeah, like,
Speaker 1: you know, like a little case for my AirPods so
Speaker 1: I can hang out. Very nice. I just thought she
Speaker 1: got you the case for air pods and didn't get
Speaker 1: your air pods. Yeah, she's like halfway there, lose her
Speaker 1: Oh sorry language Christmas? Um? What else did she get me?
Speaker 1: A couple other random things? And then she set up
Speaker 1: a little for in our other room and uh, put
Speaker 1: up some pixie lights and got a projector and projected
Speaker 1: my favorite movie on the wall. And what movie? Interstellar? Oh?
Speaker 1: That's right. We talked about this. Yeah, certainly not a romance,
Speaker 1: but a great movie regardless, still a love story even
Speaker 1: though it might not be a romance. Uh, that is true.
Speaker 1: It's a story about a yeah, father and daughter in
Speaker 1: the relationship. But yeah, I hear a movie all time,
Speaker 1: so it's nice. It was a good as far as
Speaker 1: we could have what we could have done and couldn't
Speaker 1: have done for my birthday. I'm glad that. Uh, you know,
Speaker 1: she definitely wants to great lengths to make it as
Speaker 1: special as possible, so I'm super appreciative. That is really cute.
Speaker 1: Good job, Kalen. And how are you guys doing together
Speaker 1: during this quarantine? Do you think, because I remember you
Speaker 1: asked me a question only about a week or two
Speaker 1: into the quarantine, whether uh, my relationship with Ashley because
Speaker 1: of the quarantine have gotten worse so far, stayed the same,
Speaker 1: or gotten better. So I'm gonna ask you now that
Speaker 1: we're almost six weeks into this thing, since being quarantined
Speaker 1: with Kalen, do you think that your relationship has gotten worse,
Speaker 1: stay the same, or gotten better. Um, I would say
Speaker 1: it's either stayed the same or gotten better. But yeah,
Speaker 1: I guess. I mean, we're just starting to lose our minds.
Speaker 1: Like even the past couple of days, she looks at
Speaker 1: me like She'll like stopped mid sentence and look at me,
Speaker 1: and she's like, I just need to travel somewhere. I'm
Speaker 1: losing my mind. And I'm like, okay, yeah, I know,
Speaker 1: so am I I just need to go to a
Speaker 1: coffee bean okay something. Yeah. So, like I think our
Speaker 1: sanity is slipping away, but our relationship is doing perfectly fine,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. Oh that's really good. Uh.
Speaker 1: The thing is, it's like one of the nice things
Speaker 1: about being in the van is I'm not distracted or
Speaker 1: tempted by things like my Xbox and stuff. And so
Speaker 1: now that I have access to an Xbox, basically any
Speaker 1: time of the day I play. I play like five
Speaker 1: hours of video games to day, and I look back
Speaker 1: on the day and I'm like, wow, I just place
Speaker 1: it five hours. But I'm going to do the exact
Speaker 1: same thing tomorrow and play five more hours of video games,
Speaker 1: you know what I mean. So I think like that
Speaker 1: in and of itself is uh, at least for me,
Speaker 1: it's like it's making me makes you feel like a
Speaker 1: piece of Yeah, that's that's, for lack of a better
Speaker 1: word way to put it, Yeah, that's absolutely. The reason
Speaker 1: I know that is because I feel the exact same way.
Speaker 1: There are times where I feel like I'm just not
Speaker 1: getting anything accomplished. That's why I look forward to this
Speaker 1: podcast because it's it's structure. You know, It's like, Okay,
Speaker 1: from Monday, you know, on Monday, from whatever time, record
Speaker 1: for two hours. You know, I feel like I'm I'm not.
Speaker 1: I don't want to say working, because there are people
Speaker 1: who are essential workers right now, who are doing incredible
Speaker 1: things that are far more difficult than anything I could
Speaker 1: possibly imagine. But it is nice for us to come
Speaker 1: to this podcast and just be like, Okay, you know
Speaker 1: this is you know what we have to do on Monday,
Speaker 1: and it creates some sort of structure and something to
Speaker 1: look forward to, which I think everybody needs right now.
Speaker 1: I just give myself it's like one task to complete
Speaker 1: every single day, whether it's like I'm helping build some
Speaker 1: benches in our kitchen, we're doing some stuff in her bedroom,
Speaker 1: like we're making the bedside tables float, or like whether
Speaker 1: it's my physical therapy, I just want to make sure
Speaker 1: I have like an hour of that every single day.
Speaker 1: So as long as you do like one of those
Speaker 1: things every single day, I can look back and get Okay,
Speaker 1: well I got something done today, you know what I mean,
Speaker 1: what was your achievement yesterday? Um, I got halfway through
Speaker 1: building the benches and we finally made it to Home
Speaker 1: Deeper in order to buy a bunch of stuff, which
Speaker 1: was a trick because they're obviously practicing social distancing and
Speaker 1: they're one of those places that's open obviously because they're
Speaker 1: or central and uh they there's just like lines that
Speaker 1: like go out the door and wrap around the building,
Speaker 1: and so it's like you show up and you're like, okay,
Speaker 1: well I have to wait that line for twenty minutes
Speaker 1: before I can give me go inside, and that's spent
Speaker 1: an hour inside. It's just the whole whole process. So
Speaker 1: even just go getting up and going to Home Depot
Speaker 1: was an achievement in and of itself for us. Yeah,
Speaker 1: we haven't left the house too much over here. We
Speaker 1: sometimes we'll pick up just to support local restaurants and
Speaker 1: local businesses and just to you know, do something different.
Speaker 1: It's kind of like every you know, we cook for
Speaker 1: like three or four days straight and then we'll get
Speaker 1: take out, and it's something that we look forward to, like, oh,
Speaker 1: let's get take out tonight. Where are we going to
Speaker 1: get food from? It's very exciting within the Ikenetti household.
Speaker 1: And and I Connettie Haven household. I guess now because
Speaker 1: Ashley is technically Haven, which is really weird. Um. But
Speaker 1: we went to this place the other night. I won't
Speaker 1: say the place, but they were doing a great job
Speaker 1: of social distancing. They had curbside pickups, so the line
Speaker 1: was outside and every single one of their workers was
Speaker 1: wearing gloves and masks, which made me feel far more comfortable.
Speaker 1: And so they came up to take our order. And
Speaker 1: then this kid was walking out to our car with
Speaker 1: the bag, and I went to go open the trunk,
Speaker 1: and for some reason, of course what timing, the trunk
Speaker 1: was not popping. And so I'm hitting this button like
Speaker 1: thirty seven thousand times as far as I can, I'm
Speaker 1: holding it, I'm pressing it numerous times. It would not pop.
Speaker 1: And so I knew that if the trunk wasn't opening,
Speaker 1: this kid was gonna have to open up the back seat,
Speaker 1: which would bring him closer to us and put it
Speaker 1: in there and I was with Ashley and my sister
Speaker 1: and Laura Lauren who's in the back seat. So whatever.
Speaker 1: So he's wearing gloves and a mass so he opens
Speaker 1: the door and puts the food in there in the
Speaker 1: back seat, and then apparently it was somebody that Lauren,
Speaker 1: my sister in law, knew, and so she she was like, oh, hey,
Speaker 1: what's going on. She's like, oh my god, Hey, it's
Speaker 1: good to see you. So he starts talking to us.
Speaker 1: Mind you, he's about three ft from us because he
Speaker 1: had to put in the back seat. He takes his
Speaker 1: mask off and starts talking to us, and immediately Ashley
Speaker 1: just looks at me because she knows I'm going to
Speaker 1: freak out, and like the conversation, it was like one
Speaker 1: of those moments where you just don't know what to
Speaker 1: say because obviously that's not how mass work. You have
Speaker 1: to keep the mask on in order to not spread
Speaker 1: the virus, and most likely he has nothing. But it
Speaker 1: was just more of like, oh my god, please just
Speaker 1: put your mask on. And I was get out of there.
Speaker 1: I know, I was, I yeah, just run him over,
Speaker 1: but officer, he took his mask off. Um, it was
Speaker 1: like one of those like comedy sketches that you just
Speaker 1: can't write somebody you knew yet you haven't seen like
Speaker 1: twelve years, and we're going through this pandemic and we're
Speaker 1: taking all these precautions. And then he took his mask
Speaker 1: off and started talking to us, and it was like,
Speaker 1: good God. And then we drove off get a phone
Speaker 1: call from the restaurant and they informed us that he
Speaker 1: brought out the wrong bag. Poor kids. So we had
Speaker 1: to turn around and do this process all over again.
Speaker 1: But he kept the mask on this time, which is
Speaker 1: I was very grateful for. That's pretty funny. Hey, I
Speaker 1: want to get your opinion on something. Shoot, um, So
Speaker 1: I've been thinking about changing my last name, uh to
Speaker 1: what I like unclear? I want to change it to
Speaker 1: So my mother's made a name is Bell. I want
Speaker 1: to change it to Bell. That's actually really adorable. Is
Speaker 1: it really Tory middle name? Yes, it's like family buddy.
Speaker 1: So okay, So I've been thinking about changing it to
Speaker 1: Bell to honor my mother. But I texted my brother.
Speaker 1: I was like, hey, Brad, I'm thinking about changing my
Speaker 1: last name to Bell. What do you think about it?
Speaker 1: And he goes, I think it would be really weird.
Speaker 1: And I was like, Okay, that's not what That's not
Speaker 1: the reaction I was expecting to get. And so I
Speaker 1: talked to Klin about it, and Calin thinks it's a
Speaker 1: cool idea. And then I texted my my aunts who
Speaker 1: are my mother's sisters, and they were are like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, it'd be so great of you to do that.
Speaker 1: We think it'd be fantastic blah blah blah um. And
Speaker 1: then come to find out my brother's fiancee and she
Speaker 1: said that when she gets married to my brother, she
Speaker 1: would prefer to take the last name Belle then to
Speaker 1: take Ungler. And so I feel like there's a lot
Speaker 1: of momentum behind the name bell. But I also don't know,
Speaker 1: uh legal processes and like how that's going to affect
Speaker 1: me in long term. But I just want to get
Speaker 1: your guys opinion on if it's something that, uh, what
Speaker 1: do you think you would think? Weirdly up, Well, a
Speaker 1: couple of thoughts. One, I think you'd do it because
Speaker 1: it will make you and Tori like family. So that's
Speaker 1: obviously a positive, obviously big plus, big plus that might
Speaker 1: be reasoning on its own. Yeah, don't tell Klin you
Speaker 1: had that bonus. Yeah. Uh. And then two, I can't
Speaker 1: imagine it's that difficult to change your name. I mean,
Speaker 1: millions of people do it all the time when they
Speaker 1: get married, and so I don't know if Ashley actually
Speaker 1: has legally changed name, which is kind of crazy. Um.
Speaker 1: But plus, I think Dean Michael Bell sounds pretty cool. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's pretty awesome. Dean Michael Bell. That's like a movie star.
Speaker 1: But then Dean Bell sounds bad. I'd have to start
Speaker 1: going by my middle name, Dean Michael Bell, not just
Speaker 1: Dean Bell, you know, totally. I love people who go
Speaker 1: by three names or even like, make your name longer.
Speaker 1: The longer than the name, the more badass you sound
Speaker 1: like Leonardo DiCaprio. Don't shorten that thing that's not even
Speaker 1: a real name. I've heard that too. I think really
Speaker 1: the question for you, Dean, it comes down to how
Speaker 1: attached are you to the last name. Angler If you
Speaker 1: would rather honor your mom by changing your last name
Speaker 1: to Bell, then I say totally do it, don't you know,
Speaker 1: Because like, if you'd rather have Bell as your last
Speaker 1: name to honor your mom, then I don't see anything
Speaker 1: stopping you unless you are uh like emotionally attached to Angler.
Speaker 1: Well that's the thing too, is I was texting my
Speaker 1: brother about it and I was like, yeah, like, I'm
Speaker 1: not super proud of the name Angler, Like what do
Speaker 1: we have to be proud of about the name? And
Speaker 1: he said, yeah, I agree, but also we can be
Speaker 1: examples as to what makes the good unlip moving forward.
Speaker 1: And I was like, yeah, that's cool too. But well,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna I'll keep you guys posted one way or
Speaker 1: the other if I decided to take action on that
Speaker 1: or not. But we have a great episode for you
Speaker 1: guys today. We are going to call some people who
Speaker 1: are dating during this quarantine, going on first dates during
Speaker 1: this quarantine, which is gonna be spicy. We have a
Speaker 1: Vivid from the local video dating app, and then we
Speaker 1: are going to have, for the first time ever in
Speaker 1: the history of Help I Suck a Dating UH, my
Speaker 1: girlfriend Jelan Miller keys on the podcast Your Your Girlfriend
Speaker 1: or Your Wife along with Ashley. Idea, the men will
Speaker 1: not be present for this part of the episode, so
Speaker 1: it'll just be the two women UH answering and and
Speaker 1: discussing amongst themselves. I already have Ashley prepped with questions,
Speaker 1: so We're good to go. No worries, Dean, don't worry
Speaker 1: about it at all. Just leave the rooms the door
Speaker 1: and don't even give it a second thought. Um. Great.
Speaker 1: Just remember that Caitlin doesn't like actually that much, so
Speaker 1: make sure she doesn't prod her too much, otherwise it
Speaker 1: might separate their relationship altogether. I'm fine with that as
Speaker 1: long as we get a good episode. Anyway. That's about
Speaker 1: the end of the episode. If I was listening to this,
Speaker 1: I would say, just listen to the first couple of segments,
Speaker 1: ignore the last part with the with the Caitlin and Ashley.
Speaker 1: But who am I to decide what you listen to?
Speaker 1: Come and I'll be sure to stick through this break
Speaker 1: and we'll get right to everything. Welcome back to help
Speaker 1: I suck at dating. We have our first caller on
Speaker 1: the line. Her name is D She's from Costa Mesa.
Speaker 1: You're twenty nine years old. Hi, D, How are you great.
Speaker 1: I'm so happy to be here. We're happy to have
Speaker 1: you on here. Thank you so much for taking the time.
Speaker 1: How are you doing during this quarantine? Honestly, I'm doing
Speaker 1: pretty well. Um. Not a whole lot has changed for me,
Speaker 1: other than you know, the whole not being able to
Speaker 1: hang out with humans. It's big part of it though, Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: huge part, you know, But social distancing seems to work
Speaker 1: for the most part. Um, So, do we heard that
Speaker 1: you're still dating right now during the self isolating isolation.
Speaker 1: You're using Bumble and Hinge and you actually just met
Speaker 1: up with someone that you were talking to on one
Speaker 1: of these dating apps. So tell us about that experience. Yeah.
Speaker 1: So initially, like, I was pretty stoked to be on
Speaker 1: Bumble and Hinge during this time because I feel like
Speaker 1: it eliminates a lot of like physical expectations and it
Speaker 1: just forces you to connect emotionally, which is something we
Speaker 1: kind of bypass nowadays in the dating world. But we
Speaker 1: met up on one of the hiking trails near my house,
Speaker 1: and um, yeah, it was a little weird because he
Speaker 1: didn't respect the six feet. I already don't like this guy. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you respect the six feet, you know. Social distancing, um
Speaker 1: aspect of it was it rare to the gates, Like
Speaker 1: he basically met up with you and was came in
Speaker 1: for a hug or something. Yeah, he came in for
Speaker 1: a hug and I was like, whoa, you know, I
Speaker 1: don't know I was fine. That was the rest of
Speaker 1: the day. Was it awkward? Did you guys just immediately
Speaker 1: part ways or did you carry on? No? I carry
Speaker 1: it on. I was like, you know, he's probably nervous.
Speaker 1: This is like a really weird, you know time. We
Speaker 1: probably wasn't aware. It's okay, give three strikes. That was
Speaker 1: strike number one. I think that that, Yeah, I should
Speaker 1: have been two strikes. The second strike was when he
Speaker 1: um got so close to that I could feel his
Speaker 1: shoulder on mine, and I was like, I'm going to
Speaker 1: shove you off this cliff hold. So he got he
Speaker 1: tried to hug you as soon as he saw you,
Speaker 1: so he broke the six foot barrier. Then, but then
Speaker 1: you guys started separating six ft apart and walking, and
Speaker 1: then he broke the barrier again. Yes, he just really
Speaker 1: wanted to be near me. I guess. I mean, I
Speaker 1: guess that's I don't really, but is it weird that
Speaker 1: I only see that as a deal breaker. I'm like,
Speaker 1: that's cute. He like wants to like jump in for
Speaker 1: a hug, Like what didn't any girl kind of want
Speaker 1: to feel that way? Breaker? Because in my mind, I
Speaker 1: was like, okay, if you can't respect like the barrier.
Speaker 1: Then what are you going to be like after this? Like,
Speaker 1: are you going to be super clean and got a
Speaker 1: balid the cleanest? I didn't think about that to all
Speaker 1: these dark places. If he's willing to break the rules
Speaker 1: of social distancing, he might be willing to break the
Speaker 1: rules of monogamy or of chivalry. You know what I mean.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying it. It doesn't end there in my opinion.
Speaker 1: That's why I totally agree you. So, how did the
Speaker 1: rest of the day go? Then? Are you going to
Speaker 1: give him a second chance or what do you think? Um? No, oh,
Speaker 1: I think that's the right decision. Wait, no, hold on,
Speaker 1: I want to hear Tori's defense of this guy. Packed up.
Speaker 1: You guys, he we haven't seen human interaction for like
Speaker 1: almost two months now, you still are so eager to
Speaker 1: see that person that Like when I see somebody, I
Speaker 1: still going for the hug and then I had to
Speaker 1: catch myself. But if I hug somebody and somebody's like
Speaker 1: that to strike one, I'd be like, screw you. Like
Speaker 1: I'm Italian, I'm a hugger. You're racing twenty five years
Speaker 1: of my life. Let me ask you, this does does
Speaker 1: your want to hug someone outweigh you possibly getting COVID nineteen.
Speaker 1: Thank you, Sorry, Now, I don't want to downplay how
Speaker 1: important this whole time is and staying home is and
Speaker 1: staying six ft apart is. At the same time, I
Speaker 1: don't think it should be a ride off because it's
Speaker 1: been twenty five years. However old this guy is, maybe
Speaker 1: he's like thirty eight, forty, we don't know. That's forty
Speaker 1: years of his life of going in to be nice
Speaker 1: and kind with a hug. You can't eat raise forty years.
Speaker 1: I'm projecting that he's forty years old. Okay, so thirty years.
Speaker 1: You're asking him to delete thirty years of his life
Speaker 1: of how he's introduced himself to women, but people. That's
Speaker 1: that's also called a relationship, you know, because like say
Speaker 1: you've been single for thirty eight years of your life
Speaker 1: and then you meet someone that you want to be
Speaker 1: in a relationship with, you're going to have to erase
Speaker 1: a lot of your thirty eight years of life with
Speaker 1: how you interact with different people and flirt and kiss
Speaker 1: and do all these things. So if he's willing, if
Speaker 1: he can't contain himself from physical touch on a first date, Like,
Speaker 1: what's to say? Do you jump into a relationship with
Speaker 1: this guy and he sees someone else that he's attracted
Speaker 1: to and he just can't resist the urge. It seems
Speaker 1: like a guy who just can't hold his wad, you know,
Speaker 1: exactly Stage five Clinger all the ways. Well, I was
Speaker 1: going through my mind, do you have I have a question?
Speaker 1: So you met this guy on hinge? How did the
Speaker 1: conversation begin in regards to like going on a hike together.
Speaker 1: Was it just one of those things We're like, Okay,
Speaker 1: we talked enough, let's see, let's just get outside and
Speaker 1: do something together. How does that? How did that whole work?
Speaker 1: So we were chatting and then we swapped numbers and
Speaker 1: then we had a video day actually where we watched
Speaker 1: the movie together and we just chatted so cute. We
Speaker 1: had like a um I don't remember because it was
Speaker 1: just like playing in the background. Care It was like, Wow,
Speaker 1: the conversation was that good. It was amazing, It was epic,
Speaker 1: It was very stimulating, and um, he let's go on
Speaker 1: in an adventure and absolutely I love being outdoors. Um,
Speaker 1: but I remember telling him, I was like, we need
Speaker 1: to respect the six feet barrier. Because I have to
Speaker 1: go into work. You have to go into work, and
Speaker 1: I just don't want to risk it. And he's like, absolute, dang,
Speaker 1: that's crazy that it was going so well too up
Speaker 1: until up until that. Huh up until then? Yeah, like
Speaker 1: three hours of us colliding and me having like a
Speaker 1: mini panic attack. Oh that sounds like an awful date.
Speaker 1: Let me ask you, is this gonna make you pause
Speaker 1: from going on another six foot social distance date in
Speaker 1: real life with somebody else? No, I'm pretty optimistic. I
Speaker 1: like your attitude. Get back on that horse. Hell yeah,
Speaker 1: I say, I say keep it going. I say, keep
Speaker 1: it going. This guy's great. I don't know, what do
Speaker 1: you guys think? See him again? Never again, just to
Speaker 1: lete his number already did already on a dean Oh man,
Speaker 1: d I I like your just down. So do you
Speaker 1: wonder why I'm still single? So you how long have
Speaker 1: you been on dating apps? Um? About a year? Yeah?
Speaker 1: And what's your what's your experience with them? What's your
Speaker 1: favorite app? Um? I love Bumble because I get to
Speaker 1: initiate conversation and um, honestly, I really enjoy dating apps
Speaker 1: because I'm meeting new people, and I enjoy meeting new people,
Speaker 1: UM and I like that we're becoming more and more
Speaker 1: creative um as like a generation Like for me, um,
Speaker 1: you know, I get to go out to museums or
Speaker 1: on hikes or do a really interesting bar um. And
Speaker 1: it's almost getting to the point though, where it's hard
Speaker 1: to commit to one person because there's so many fun options.
Speaker 1: So that's kind of like the downside of being on
Speaker 1: a dating app. You're just constantly aware of what's out there.
Speaker 1: You feel like you have like ten ongoing conversations too,
Speaker 1: and you kind of like started like blend together maybe
Speaker 1: a little bit. Yeah, it gets pretty exhausting, um, and
Speaker 1: then I feel really guilty. Well, don't You're not doing
Speaker 1: anything wrong. Yeah, that's true. So I'm sure we're gonna
Speaker 1: find it. You're gonna find a guy at some point
Speaker 1: that's gonna make you delete the apps. You know, he's
Speaker 1: gonna keep his six feet distance while government mandate, and
Speaker 1: I think it's all go to workout. It's kind of
Speaker 1: like have you guys seen that just came out on Netflix?
Speaker 1: Too Hot to Handle? Yes, I really want to watch that.
Speaker 1: It's it's pretty, it's like very trashy, but it's entertaining
Speaker 1: at least. But that's kind of what this reminds me of,
Speaker 1: where it's like you're just you know, you're spending time
Speaker 1: getting to know someone, but you can't have any physical
Speaker 1: touch with them. So you get to go deeper than
Speaker 1: that connection than the physical and get to know them
Speaker 1: on an emotional level, which is cool. It's like a
Speaker 1: cool way to, uh, to experiment with getting to know someone.
Speaker 1: I think, yeah, And I think it's healthy too. I
Speaker 1: think it takes us back to like our actual human roots,
Speaker 1: you know, d Was that the worst date you've ever
Speaker 1: been on? This? This this recent one where the guy
Speaker 1: just would not abide by social distancing. No, I went
Speaker 1: on a worst date where someone asked me something really
Speaker 1: messed up and I got up and left. Can you repeat? Like,
Speaker 1: you don't have to repeat the question you're gonna want to.
Speaker 1: But obviously that very much piqued my interest. I want
Speaker 1: to know. It's so bad that I want to know
Speaker 1: what I need to know? Yeah, I can tell you, guys,
Speaker 1: he set up the date first, Like, how did you
Speaker 1: do this guy ask you out on the day? And
Speaker 1: then where'd you guys go? Um? Yeah, he asked me
Speaker 1: out and we went on a picnic on the beach,
Speaker 1: and um, I was like, hey, so let's give each other,
Speaker 1: you know, like those three questions to ask each other.
Speaker 1: And one of his questions was does my private parts
Speaker 1: smell what? Dick? And we were eating fish? Yeah, oh god,
Speaker 1: that's just from I couldn't even like I thought I
Speaker 1: was dreaming. I was like, this has to be a nightmare.
Speaker 1: And I was like I'm gonna go now. So I
Speaker 1: just got up and left. Good for you. Did you
Speaker 1: try to apologize at all? Was like no, I'm so sorry.
Speaker 1: Oh yeah. Then he followed me to my car and
Speaker 1: then he wouldn't let me get into my car. So
Speaker 1: then I started to get a little nervous. He's like, well,
Speaker 1: at least let me get a kiss. I you know,
Speaker 1: I bought you a drink, and I was like, get
Speaker 1: the Was this a public beach? Yeah, okay, so there
Speaker 1: are people around, because if there's nobody around, I would
Speaker 1: be really nervous for you. Yeah, there are people around,
Speaker 1: Like a couple of people are giving me the eye
Speaker 1: like are you okay? And I was just like I
Speaker 1: have a rape whistle or I did, and I was like,
Speaker 1: I'm going to blow my rape whistle if you don't
Speaker 1: get away from me. What does a rape whistle sound like?
Speaker 1: Does it sound like a regular whistle that, No, it
Speaker 1: sounds like someone's getting raped. Really, it's it's like this high.
Speaker 1: That's not I don't mean to laugh at that, but
Speaker 1: I don't know what so it sounds like someone screaming. Yeah,
Speaker 1: that's terrible. Wow. Even just saying that makes me, it
Speaker 1: makes my stom return. Yeah. Interesting to take a little
Speaker 1: bit of a turn. But this is a good thing
Speaker 1: to have in our back pocket. Yeah, I'm also this
Speaker 1: is a good example to to showcase for everybody, especially
Speaker 1: as a woman, if you're going on a date with
Speaker 1: a guy, you don't know who you're going on the
Speaker 1: date with, so go to a public place, especially the
Speaker 1: first couple of times. And I never let them pick
Speaker 1: me up at my house. I'm like you there, do
Speaker 1: you thank you for thank you for coming on sharing
Speaker 1: your your your dating stories with us. We appreciate it.
Speaker 1: I feel like you need to be more of a
Speaker 1: common occurrence on this podcast because you seem to have
Speaker 1: some pretty interesting stories with us. Um, yeah, we gotta
Speaker 1: we gotta get you off and get onto our guest.
Speaker 1: But best of luck with everything and hopefully that the
Speaker 1: next guy that you meet on Handbill practice safe social
Speaker 1: distancing with you. Thank you, thank you, Good luck than care.
Speaker 1: Welcome back to the podcast, ladies and gentlemen. We have
Speaker 1: another guest caller on the line right now who would
Speaker 1: like to remain anonymous, So we're just going to call
Speaker 1: her Lacey, and that is not her real name. So lazy,
Speaker 1: how are you? I am doing good? Oh that's great.
Speaker 1: So because you're anonymous, I feel like we can ask
Speaker 1: you juicy your questions. Uh, so lazy, you're dating during
Speaker 1: this social distancing time? How's that going for you? I
Speaker 1: feel like a game shows it's going, you know it's going. Um.
Speaker 1: So for a little background, a few years back, my
Speaker 1: friends made me a Bumble account. Um. It was an
Speaker 1: unsuccessful launch, to say the least. I was not in
Speaker 1: the time or place, um in my life, um to
Speaker 1: embark on that journey. Um, but it sounds like some
Speaker 1: really good friends though they just put you out there.
Speaker 1: Quality friends. Um. It was completely unwarranted and I had
Speaker 1: no idea that they created an account. But you know, um,
Speaker 1: in the days to find out that I had several
Speaker 1: hundred matches and my picture was all over the Internet.
Speaker 1: I was like, I need to take the reins on this.
Speaker 1: And like I said, you'd several matches in just a
Speaker 1: few days. That's being humble. Um. But yeah, so you know,
Speaker 1: quarantine hit. I was born at home a few years
Speaker 1: to you know, deal with the trauma of the original um,
Speaker 1: the original incident, and uh, you know, quarantine gave me
Speaker 1: a change of heart. So I so I reactivated that
Speaker 1: by a bad boy and found myself back in navigating
Speaker 1: the quarantine dating jungle. Okay, and can you we can
Speaker 1: get some updates? Updates? Yeah? So um day one right
Speaker 1: out the gates, Uh, found myself a few suitors. Um
Speaker 1: one standout, I will say, um one standout for sure. Um.
Speaker 1: I hate to admit this, but the reason why he
Speaker 1: stood out was because he had a picture of his
Speaker 1: grandma on the app. And it just like seemed like
Speaker 1: he was such a gem, Like what a wholesome guy
Speaker 1: who puts their grandma on their dating app? Normally people
Speaker 1: put like exotic animals or other women from high school.
Speaker 1: And I was like, man, this guy's calling it. He's
Speaker 1: had his eighty seven year old grandma on There're gonna
Speaker 1: say like that was his ex girlfriend or something. Like that.
Speaker 1: That was my That was my intro. That was my
Speaker 1: that was my joke to lead into like, whoa, you're
Speaker 1: clearly like older women. I don't know if I'm your type. Um,
Speaker 1: that's what got the ball rolling. But you know, um no,
Speaker 1: it turned out to be his eighties six year old grandmother.
Speaker 1: Just to ask the boys didn't know what like when
Speaker 1: you guys put a photo like that, do you know
Speaker 1: girls are gonna be like this is cute and do
Speaker 1: that or didn't think They're probably just looking at themselves,
Speaker 1: probably going to the brownie points like oh, this guy's
Speaker 1: a family guy. Also with a picture like that, they're
Speaker 1: probably thinking like, oh, there's no way in hell that
Speaker 1: anyone would misinterpret this picture with my grandma that I
Speaker 1: was dating. Total browning points. Any picture with grandma dogs, uh,
Speaker 1: anything that like we think women might find cute. Profile,
Speaker 1: it's absolute strategic peacocking. Tory, Absolutely strategic peacocking. I'm curious,
Speaker 1: you know what your profile looks like now that Um
Speaker 1: well there was Actually I didn't change that many pictures,
Speaker 1: which is embarrassing. So I only changed a few, so
Speaker 1: only updated about I think there was an original five
Speaker 1: um and then made original file and then yeah, I
Speaker 1: just used about three out of those five and updated
Speaker 1: two to be more. When was the profile first made
Speaker 1: by your friends? Said? Okay, so that's not that long ago.
Speaker 1: It was like twelve or something, when you were like,
Speaker 1: is a long time ago? Three years? A lot can happen,
Speaker 1: A lot can happen. You could have been a blonde
Speaker 1: then and then now she's a brunette, so much different. Crazy,
Speaker 1: I guess my point. It's not like she's nineteen in
Speaker 1: one picture and then another picture you no, how old
Speaker 1: are you? I'm okay, okay, you look as young as
Speaker 1: you did when you were in high school. I feel
Speaker 1: like for the most part, yeah, yeah, I feel like
Speaker 1: you should update your your profile to say lazy. That's
Speaker 1: such a you know, I feel like so so overall,
Speaker 1: so far during the quarantine, have you had any successful
Speaker 1: interactions with anyone? Um? So back to Grandma? Okay, uh sooner?
Speaker 1: Um so yeah, So, you know, we took things off
Speaker 1: the app. Things were progressing quite quickly, quite positively. I
Speaker 1: was excited about it. Um later we FaceTime it was
Speaker 1: it was poor connection, which now thinking back, I'm like, wait,
Speaker 1: that's weird. You're at your house doing nothing. You have
Speaker 1: WiFi but whatever didn't didn't second guess it. It was like, oh, bummer,
Speaker 1: couldn't FaceTime poor connection? Were judging people by their WiFi
Speaker 1: connection connection? Absolutely, he has poor WiFi. I cannot date him. No,
Speaker 1: I will explain as the story continues. So then I
Speaker 1: was like, I was like, oh, it's okay, Like, maybe
Speaker 1: let's try another day. No big deal. Um, I just
Speaker 1: want to see you like you just seem like a good,
Speaker 1: wholesome dude, like I'm excited. And he was like, yeah,
Speaker 1: I really want to see you too. Lets zoom tomorrow.
Speaker 1: So I was like, okay, cool, I'm into it. Let's zoom. Um.
Speaker 1: So he insisted on zooming. We zoom. Also be mindful
Speaker 1: like I'm in quarantine hair and a bun, like hair
Speaker 1: in a bun. I'm an outdoor girl, not really here
Speaker 1: to get glammed up for a zoom date, knowing that
Speaker 1: it could potentially lead to nothing. Don't waste my time
Speaker 1: on that. So um he insisted zoom next day, we
Speaker 1: zoom um. He was like glowing, super cute, great guy,
Speaker 1: good vibes. I was feeling it. I was like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, this is exciting. Um. So and that Zoom
Speaker 1: And then a couple of days later, I decided I'm
Speaker 1: gonna just like sporadic FaceTime and just hit him with
Speaker 1: it and say, hey, what's up, how's it going, like
Speaker 1: check in, like I respect it. Yeah, I was just
Speaker 1: respect it, you know. And in real life that would
Speaker 1: have been like knocking on his door, which is kind
Speaker 1: of scary, but you know, FaceTime, it's it's moderate. Um
Speaker 1: and uh yeah, boy oh boy, was that interesting. Um?
Speaker 1: I officially discovered that zoom has like a beauty filter.
Speaker 1: Oh no, oh yeah, did you have a filter on
Speaker 1: or did he just get dolled up for the first day?
Speaker 1: And then you call it like does he were makeup? No? He,
Speaker 1: I mean things were chiseled and glowing where it hadn't
Speaker 1: been normally. Um, but yeah, my Prince Charming um was
Speaker 1: using it. So I was like devastated. I feel like
Speaker 1: it wouldn't be that big. I mean, like, I do
Speaker 1: understand the difference of when we're all using like a
Speaker 1: subtle filter on Instagram to take a video, like there
Speaker 1: is quite a difference, Prince, But I feel like it
Speaker 1: wouldn't change you that much. So why was that a
Speaker 1: do breaker? No? Um, normally I would not be faced um,
Speaker 1: but like I said, like, I'm kind of an outdoorsy chick.
Speaker 1: I don't necessarily care too much about how I look.
Speaker 1: I don't really care how other people think I look. Um.
Speaker 1: But it was really interesting because like I think, maybe
Speaker 1: I'm just on edge from quarantine and just like really
Speaker 1: nervous about getting back into the war zone of online dating.
Speaker 1: And it was just really like I was really on
Speaker 1: edge and he um and yeah, like knowing that the
Speaker 1: pool has dating people have expanded now to like all
Speaker 1: these random people getting on dating apps, I was just
Speaker 1: like afraid. And I was like, oh my god, I'm
Speaker 1: literally stuck in a modern day catfish, and butting how
Speaker 1: different did he look? Like? Did he have a different jaw,
Speaker 1: different nose, different jaw, different eyebrows, different, Like it was
Speaker 1: night and day like this. Then like I remember opening
Speaker 1: like the FaceTime in his like zoom open, and I'm
Speaker 1: like whoa, and like I kind of like blinked and
Speaker 1: like pushed my head back, like who is this? And
Speaker 1: then I was like, oh, hey, I will send you guys.
Speaker 1: My sister she uses this for her work meetings. They
Speaker 1: have one where they can make you have longer eyelashes
Speaker 1: with eyeliner and it looks real like she sent a
Speaker 1: picture and I was like, oh, yeah, I don't know
Speaker 1: what's great today. She's like, I'm literally using it's called
Speaker 1: like a snap filter or something, and you could download
Speaker 1: it on your phone and put it up on your
Speaker 1: zoom or wherever you're kind of face timing with people
Speaker 1: through your laptop up, so it looks like you're fully
Speaker 1: made up, but you're not. But I feel like that's
Speaker 1: different than an like a filter that literally can change
Speaker 1: your facial features. And I think to Lacey's defense too
Speaker 1: uh not to say that you're shallow or anything like that,
Speaker 1: but anyone that goes to that to change their appearance
Speaker 1: for a first FaceTime date, I think there's some underlying
Speaker 1: thank you, thank you. I completely I was completely caught
Speaker 1: off guard. I was like, what are you hiding? Why
Speaker 1: can't like And the thing is is that his pictures
Speaker 1: on his app were like a happy medium of both
Speaker 1: of those people. Okay, wait on the app you saw,
Speaker 1: does he have pictures up that he looks like two
Speaker 1: different people? No, he looks like this. He looks consistently
Speaker 1: like one person that is more aligned with the Zoom
Speaker 1: person than the FaceTime person. Well, are you gonna line
Speaker 1: up any more dates with FaceTime or Zoom dates with
Speaker 1: this guy? I mean honestly, because he was such a
Speaker 1: wholesome person. I'm so intrigued, But I'm also I'm on edge.
Speaker 1: I'm on edge. You should be on edge. We're all
Speaker 1: on edge. But you know what, You've seen one person
Speaker 1: you like the you like the Zoom guy, you didn't
Speaker 1: like the FaceTime guys. So third times a charm. That's
Speaker 1: going to be the definitive answer for you right there.
Speaker 1: They're real in life person guy. Well, well, I'm not saying,
Speaker 1: well if you see him, you could see him in person,
Speaker 1: but you have to do like the whole six feet thing,
Speaker 1: which we had a caller it who just called in
Speaker 1: and this dude just would not abide by the social distancing,
Speaker 1: like they agreed to go on this date, stay six
Speaker 1: ft apart, and he was just not keeping his personal space.
Speaker 1: He went in for a hug. Wow, that's I love it.
Speaker 1: I don't think I don't. You're insane. Story. There is
Speaker 1: a lady in front of Trader Joe's yesterday that had
Speaker 1: a sign that said free hugs, and I was like, Wow,
Speaker 1: that is awesome. It's very sweet but also quite terrifying.
Speaker 1: So have you been have you been doing a lot
Speaker 1: of face time dates? Know? That was that was the
Speaker 1: first and I don't want to say it's the last,
Speaker 1: because you know, never say never. Don't give up. Hey, Lacy,
Speaker 1: the guest on our podcast today is the creator of
Speaker 1: an app called Loco that allows you to have video
Speaker 1: conferencing first dates with whomever you're interested in. I suggest
Speaker 1: maybe give Loco a try. Loco All right, yeah, check
Speaker 1: it out. I'm penciling that in. Yeah, that was worth
Speaker 1: Make sure it's in pen make that make sure it's
Speaker 1: you know, permanent. Thank you for sharing your story with us.
Speaker 1: We wish you better of luck moving forward during the
Speaker 1: Quarantine Daily Chronicles. Um, if anything interesting happens, please alert
Speaker 1: Tory and we can have you on next week. For
Speaker 1: the following weeks as well, just slide into my d
Speaker 1: M s. We always want updates on all these absolutely
Speaker 1: absolutely all right, thank you, take care of time you guys.
Speaker 1: Than by welcome back to the podcast. We have very
Speaker 1: special guests who is currently on the line with us. Uh.
Speaker 1: He is the creator of the new dating app called Loco.
Speaker 1: His name is Vivic, Jane Vivic. Thank you so much
Speaker 1: for joining us. Hey, thanks for having me. Guys appreciate it. No,
Speaker 1: of course, Vivic. So first of all, how are you
Speaker 1: doing during this quarantine? You? Uh, you have a couple
Speaker 1: of kids. Uh so are you quarantine at home? How
Speaker 1: are they treating you? Hopefully? Good? Yeah? Man, yeah, man,
Speaker 1: I mean everything is good. I think the best way
Speaker 1: to put is, I'm keeping my sanity. We've got. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I've got two kids and I'm trying to play teacher
Speaker 1: and keep them busy and do all my work and everything.
Speaker 1: But it's good. I mean there is a positive side
Speaker 1: of this where you get to, you know, you have
Speaker 1: all this family time and quality time. So it's it's
Speaker 1: all all all, it's pretty good. And so, Vic, you're
Speaker 1: an entrepreneur and you actually just partner up with comedian
Speaker 1: Norm McDonald on a new dating app called Loco. Can
Speaker 1: you tell us a little a bit about that? Yeah? Sure,
Speaker 1: So it's, um, it's fully video based. As far as
Speaker 1: we know, we're the only fully video based dating app
Speaker 1: on the market. Thinks zoom but for online dating. So
Speaker 1: the I mean, the idea behind it was to look
Speaker 1: at what the dating apps out there now are and
Speaker 1: the pitfalls of them. Um, I think all of us
Speaker 1: have heard stories about, uh, you know how dating culture
Speaker 1: now is a kind of moved to the direction that's
Speaker 1: not always favorable for everybody. We kind of poked it
Speaker 1: all the all the holes and try to come up
Speaker 1: with something that solves them. And you know, videos seem
Speaker 1: to be the best fit for all those things, you know,
Speaker 1: like the cat fishing, the fake profiles, the you know,
Speaker 1: making real connections with people and all these kinds of things.
Speaker 1: That's kind of why I went down this whole video side.
Speaker 1: So all the profiles are video, there's no static photos,
Speaker 1: and the only method to communicate is through video chat.
Speaker 1: So we've taken we've taken out this this texting so
Speaker 1: you can get get a sense of the real personality
Speaker 1: is behind the person and and you know, build the
Speaker 1: story in your head that's more authentic as opposed to,
Speaker 1: you know what, what you believe through static photos and
Speaker 1: texting and and all the other things. You're a man
Speaker 1: ahead of your time, because who would have known that
Speaker 1: during the months of March and April all the dating
Speaker 1: would be occurring via video zoom face timing. And now
Speaker 1: we have an app that just does video. Now you
Speaker 1: guys do it's like an eight second hello, which is
Speaker 1: mandatory for every profile. I tried signing up, but I'm married,
Speaker 1: and so if my wife or anybody saw me on
Speaker 1: a dating app, I think that would just be bad
Speaker 1: news and I would have to explain myself out of
Speaker 1: that situation, which I'm very I'm not good at explaining
Speaker 1: once I'm back into a corner. Um. So, but it's like,
Speaker 1: so you sign up and then you have to create
Speaker 1: a profile, just like any other one. And in the profile,
Speaker 1: there's an eight second video like of you saying hello
Speaker 1: and introducing yourself, and then I see that there's like
Speaker 1: a voluntarial uh, a voluntari al. I don't know if
Speaker 1: I'm saying that properly. I'm lost. But you have to
Speaker 1: like also do a thirty second um about me where
Speaker 1: you just talk about yourself a little bit um. And
Speaker 1: so I like the aspect of like putting yourself on
Speaker 1: video really because then like you get to, like you said,
Speaker 1: you get to see the personality, the person's characteristics, their inflection,
Speaker 1: what they're like. Yeah, absolutely, I mean I think I
Speaker 1: think you can. There's only so much you can get
Speaker 1: from static photos. And you know, I think I think
Speaker 1: that's that's one of the biggest problem lies when you
Speaker 1: go in that first date and you know a hundred
Speaker 1: it seems like they're you know, massive sales because you
Speaker 1: build the story in your head of who you think
Speaker 1: they are as opposed to who they actually are. But
Speaker 1: like you said, you get hear the sound of their voice, there,
Speaker 1: their smile, the swagger, which is um you know, just
Speaker 1: as important as the you know, the outright looks of
Speaker 1: a person and uh, and that that initial attraction. So
Speaker 1: this way, you know, when you do get it out
Speaker 1: on the first date, whenever all this quarantine breaks and
Speaker 1: you see them face to face, you know there's a
Speaker 1: better chance that there's there's gonna be a connection. And actually,
Speaker 1: on that week before we set everything up, we talked
Speaker 1: to a behavioral scientists and they said it takes eight
Speaker 1: minutes of actually looking at a person and conversing with
Speaker 1: them to figure out what you actually have a connection
Speaker 1: with them. So this, you know, you get that initial
Speaker 1: eight minutes and um um through a video chat. So
Speaker 1: by the time you get out there and meet there's
Speaker 1: a better chance you're gonna have an enjoyable first date,
Speaker 1: regardless of whether it leads to a long term relationship
Speaker 1: or not. I have a question. So a lot of
Speaker 1: the dating apps that are out there, uh, it's pretty
Speaker 1: the barrier to entry is pretty small, right, So what
Speaker 1: is it like for your app because it's solely video based?
Speaker 1: What does the user have to do in order to
Speaker 1: get like approved and then get their profile up? Is
Speaker 1: it a different process you need to typically see? Oh yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: great questions. So, I mean obviously with video there's, um,
Speaker 1: there's some things that can can make the user experience
Speaker 1: less less than enjoyable. So what we've got there's a
Speaker 1: human moderating every video that comes in before they go live,
Speaker 1: and then it's also built an artificial intells to screen
Speaker 1: out nudity into any sort of adult content. So so
Speaker 1: what that's that's really the barrier to entry. And you know,
Speaker 1: this is what we've learned, is there's you know, it's
Speaker 1: easy to put up a status photo. It takes some
Speaker 1: effort to put yourself out there and put a video on.
Speaker 1: So you know, we we do have we get some
Speaker 1: people who just taking pictures of the ceiling and whatnot
Speaker 1: that we have to we those no one else sees them,
Speaker 1: but that it goes to show you if you're willing
Speaker 1: to put a quality profile and you're probably more serious
Speaker 1: about the whole process and a better chance of being
Speaker 1: a better quality date down the road. Can you upload
Speaker 1: like a Snapchat video with a filter on it? Yeah? Yeah,
Speaker 1: absolutely so. Yeah, we've got lots of TikTok videos and
Speaker 1: Snapchat filters and and all that kind of stuff. I mean,
Speaker 1: our rules are pretty loose. At the end of the day,
Speaker 1: we've got to clearly see your face, um, and after
Speaker 1: that it's pretty pretty fair game. So yeah, absolutely, we've
Speaker 1: got lots of custom content that comes through what happens
Speaker 1: when two people match. Because I was reading up on
Speaker 1: this and you guys kind of put like a time
Speaker 1: limit on on how long you can actually meet up
Speaker 1: with someone. Yeah, so so it's, um, it's how it
Speaker 1: technically works and how we've ironed it out so work
Speaker 1: during these quarantine times a little bit different. So how
Speaker 1: it works in normal times as yet, you have twenty
Speaker 1: four hours and then that's twenty to set up a
Speaker 1: video date, um, and then if you want to extend
Speaker 1: it you can do that through a paywall. Um. Right now,
Speaker 1: we just opened it up, so I mean they stay
Speaker 1: as long as um, as long as you've matched. Uh.
Speaker 1: And then there's also a cap on the video chat,
Speaker 1: so it's the chat itself has capped a fifteen minuts
Speaker 1: and that's again there's a paywall to extend it. But
Speaker 1: the hope is that once you've unbuild the person through video,
Speaker 1: you're more comfortable with them. Um. And and the idea
Speaker 1: is to push people to meet in real life. So
Speaker 1: obviously during this time, we've eliminated the cap and you
Speaker 1: cannot be a video chat for as long as you want. Um.
Speaker 1: But yeah, the idea, I mean it goes back to
Speaker 1: that whole eight minutes of having, you know, figuring out
Speaker 1: what you have a meaningful connection with someone. So we figured,
Speaker 1: if we give you a fifteen minutes on video chat,
Speaker 1: you're not gonna be afraid to meet in person because
Speaker 1: now you know who who you're gonna see at the
Speaker 1: other end when you when you meet face to face,
Speaker 1: and uh, you're you're more likely to do that. And
Speaker 1: if it's you know, you know, you can exchange numbers
Speaker 1: by then and your cat chat text whatever you like
Speaker 1: outside of the APT So do you guys, unlocal have
Speaker 1: any type of messaging or is it all done through video?
Speaker 1: Now it's all done through It's all done through video.
Speaker 1: We have plans to add video just text messaging down
Speaker 1: the road. But the idea was we're doing something that's
Speaker 1: gonna take some getting used to, you know, like I
Speaker 1: go back to and plenty of first Fish first came
Speaker 1: on on the scene, people were so afraid to put
Speaker 1: up a static photo that you know, most of them
Speaker 1: would have no photos or the back of their head
Speaker 1: or something. So we think, you know, we're just kind
Speaker 1: of in that stage. We're getting people comfortable video, and
Speaker 1: this whole quarantine has made people a lot more comfortable
Speaker 1: in a hurry, So we don't we don't want to
Speaker 1: give people the option to go back to the roots
Speaker 1: that can comfortable with. We want to try something new.
Speaker 1: We think this is a better alternative, and the only
Speaker 1: way they're gonna try it is if you can't don't
Speaker 1: have that crutch to go text and and throw up
Speaker 1: a static photo. Yeah. I like that your app drives
Speaker 1: people to meet in real life because I feel like
Speaker 1: a lot of dating apps, unfortunately, you can connect with
Speaker 1: people on the app, but then a real date never
Speaker 1: get set up. Um, so I I really liked that
Speaker 1: about this app, and then can you tell the story
Speaker 1: about how you created the app? Because I read it
Speaker 1: and it's really cute. Sure, So I've mean, I've been
Speaker 1: the single parent for a long time now. So my
Speaker 1: my babies were four and one when when I first
Speaker 1: became still there and they're now eleven and eight, almost
Speaker 1: twelve and nine. So uh, you know, when I had,
Speaker 1: you know, being an entrepreneur, So I'm busy with that
Speaker 1: and obviously haven't young kids pretty busy, So dating has been,
Speaker 1: uh unfortunately the second priority for a long time now.
Speaker 1: So we're watching a movie. We have our regular movie
Speaker 1: nights with my little kiddos, and my youngest daughter goes
Speaker 1: to me. She goes, day Daddy, Like, who takes care
Speaker 1: of you? Like you take care of me and my
Speaker 1: sister all the time. You should get a girlfriend. So
Speaker 1: whatever my friends tell me, you know, tell me to
Speaker 1: go dat and all those kind of stuff all the
Speaker 1: time and kind of in when you're out the other ones,
Speaker 1: your friends. But man, with your kids, you take stock
Speaker 1: of your life. When they started saying stuff like that,
Speaker 1: they're not supposed to know that kind of stuff. So
Speaker 1: so I I uh. After some soul searching, I decided
Speaker 1: to go out and try some of these apps that
Speaker 1: are out there, and then I thought about just writing
Speaker 1: a book about my horror stories that came from that
Speaker 1: probably would have made more money than this app ever will.
Speaker 1: But um, if it just didn't work for me, especially
Speaker 1: I and and don't get me wrong, those other apps
Speaker 1: work for a lot of people, but there's a place
Speaker 1: for them. But I think for you know, someone at
Speaker 1: my stage in life and how busy I am, I
Speaker 1: needed something that you kind of we read out those
Speaker 1: bad first dates that they would muld be like a
Speaker 1: part time job for me. Yeah, that's that's in it
Speaker 1: in a nutshell. Love it and vivic. For the listeners
Speaker 1: out there that are interested in giving Loco a shot,
Speaker 1: they can download it on their iPhones. I'm assuming androids too. Yeah,
Speaker 1: you bet you at Google Play or or the Apple
Speaker 1: app Store. It's it's to be able for everyone. That's awesome.
Speaker 1: And they just type loco right, just local into the
Speaker 1: search bar and you bet you l o kay oh
Speaker 1: dating and it will come up. If you're listening to
Speaker 1: this and you want to give Loco a try. I
Speaker 1: think it's cool. I think the fact that you can
Speaker 1: talk to people to be a video rather than just
Speaker 1: the messages because messages are so impersonal. So uh, if
Speaker 1: you want to give this video dating Apple, try check
Speaker 1: out Loco in the app store and Vivic. Thank you
Speaker 1: so much for joining us. We appreciate it and and
Speaker 1: best of luck with everything. Thank you, all right, thanks man,
Speaker 1: appreciate it. Guys, All right, take care, take care. Hey guys,
Speaker 1: it's Ashley on Jared's Mike, and it's Kaylin and Jean's Mike,
Speaker 1: and we are going to go through some questions that
Speaker 1: you guys have sent into the guys. So this is
Speaker 1: from Katie. She said, is being in quarantine with your
Speaker 1: partner helping or hurting your relationship? And my answer is
Speaker 1: I think it's neutral. I don't think it's really doing much. Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can agree with that. I think I don't know.
Speaker 1: In some ways we're like getting closer together, but in
Speaker 1: other other ways we're living together NonStop and we're never apart,
Speaker 1: so we're kind of driving each other crazy. Um, but
Speaker 1: it's not bad. Like we we've got our separate rooms
Speaker 1: and we've figured out okay, Like no, I'm sick of you.
Speaker 1: So let's like be separate for a couple of hours. Okay,
Speaker 1: so I need to know because you guys look so
Speaker 1: lovely dove on Instagram. That's just one part of your relationship, right, So,
Speaker 1: like you guys are in love, you devy and happy
Speaker 1: all the time, because you make me scared that like
Speaker 1: I should be like that, and I that's yeah, that's
Speaker 1: unfortunate that I'm making it look like that. But it's like,
Speaker 1: I don't know. I guess I don't post this stuff
Speaker 1: when we're like arguing it taking at each other. But
Speaker 1: I see other couples and I'm like trapped, like they're
Speaker 1: so in love. And and then we definitely have our
Speaker 1: times where like for three hours, he'll be in the
Speaker 1: living room and I'll be in the second bedroom, just
Speaker 1: like working and doing our separate things. Okay, good, that
Speaker 1: makes me feel better because people said the same thing
Speaker 1: about me and Jared. They're like, oh my god, the
Speaker 1: most fun quarantine ever. You guys are just recreating chick
Speaker 1: flicks and your love is so intense, and I just
Speaker 1: want to find this one day. I'm like, you should
Speaker 1: totally want to find it one day, just letting you
Speaker 1: know that, Like we fight over the edit of these videos.
Speaker 1: It's like they're fun when we're doing them, and then
Speaker 1: we'll like a goat on the computer and I'll be like, Jared,
Speaker 1: I don't really like the fact that you use And
Speaker 1: then he'll be like, and you can just see that
Speaker 1: he gets like he really doesn't like criticisms, criticism, like
Speaker 1: he can't take it. Well. I'd be like if somebody
Speaker 1: said to me, I don't like that a fact, can
Speaker 1: you edit it out to see what it looks like?
Speaker 1: Otherwise I I think I'd be like, Okay, yeah, I
Speaker 1: worked at I like it's going to take a minute,
Speaker 1: just hold on. But then he just makes it seem
Speaker 1: like you offended his soul. Yes, so we're kind of
Speaker 1: like our arguments are about furnituring now and like it's
Speaker 1: ben a ficture and and you know we've got different ideas.
Speaker 1: And yeah, I'm jumping in. I'm so sorry jumping on
Speaker 1: the girl chat. But Kelan, I need to know your
Speaker 1: latest post about you almost buying these benches but Dean
Speaker 1: said I can make them cheaper and now you've been
Speaker 1: to home depot three times that was on his story.
Speaker 1: I need to know the details and how are you
Speaker 1: not losing it on him or are you? I mean,
Speaker 1: we've both just been lazy, so I'm partially to Blaine,
Speaker 1: but they were like twelve benches and he's like, oh
Speaker 1: my gosh, I'll make these. And so today I think
Speaker 1: we're finally, hopefully gonna finish them. When I say we,
Speaker 1: he will finish them. Um, but we're like losing our
Speaker 1: mind because we have no furniture. We have a bed
Speaker 1: and a cow and that's literally it. So we're like
Speaker 1: eating on the floor every every single meal. Um, So
Speaker 1: it'll be nice to have these benches built. But I'm
Speaker 1: so sorry to ask you to follow up. I feel
Speaker 1: like everybody dates the guy that thinks he can be
Speaker 1: the home guy, the guy that fixed anything, that can
Speaker 1: make anything. And it's really annoying because you're like, just
Speaker 1: let me buy my freaking benches and let's just call
Speaker 1: it a day. So it's not a stress stressor in
Speaker 1: our relationship. So like, how are you keeping calm? How
Speaker 1: are you being patient? I would be probably irritated. I'd
Speaker 1: be like, screw it, where's my credit card, I'm buying it?
Speaker 1: But like you're being very patient with this. How we's
Speaker 1: gotten to that point? It's if we had all of
Speaker 1: our furniture and it was like just lying on him
Speaker 1: in his building, then I would be like screw it, um.
Speaker 1: But the fact that we have nothing, I'm like, just
Speaker 1: take your time, because relating on the floor, it's like,
Speaker 1: doesn't make a difference. So I have this thing that
Speaker 1: when like I start a project, I need to finish
Speaker 1: it now. Like so like home decorating, if I just
Speaker 1: moved into a new place, like it's got to be
Speaker 1: done within a month, and like even a month makes
Speaker 1: me really stressed out because I'm like, I feel like
Speaker 1: I can't consider my home my home if it's not
Speaker 1: all put together. So Jared he'll be like, oh, I
Speaker 1: can do that, like I'll make it, or like I'll
Speaker 1: bolt that to the wall or you know, I'll hang
Speaker 1: that stuff up and and then like it will be
Speaker 1: a couple of days, and I don't want to be naggy,
Speaker 1: and I'll remind him and then he'll be like, I'm
Speaker 1: gonna get to it soon. I'm like, okay, but see,
Speaker 1: like I could have just hired a task garb it
Speaker 1: for a hundred dollars and it would have been done,
Speaker 1: and then like my peace of mind is worth that amount,
Speaker 1: and then it's also worth the amount because I know
Speaker 1: you're gonna get annoyed when I get extra naggy, So
Speaker 1: it's just can you freaking do it now or let
Speaker 1: me hire someone m H. And I realized, like during
Speaker 1: this quarantine that I'm the type of person to be like,
Speaker 1: are you gonna do this? Are you gonna do this?
Speaker 1: Are you gonna do it? Not Arena? And I'm like
Speaker 1: trying to refrain. So I think this is where I'm
Speaker 1: practicing my patients and just being like, Okay, it'll get done, Like,
Speaker 1: don't nag him, It's okay, you gotta live together, maybe
Speaker 1: like three more months. I have been told that I've
Speaker 1: been doing the same thing. And I always thought I
Speaker 1: was going to be that cool girl who never nagged.
Speaker 1: But maybe it's not us. Maybe it's because they never
Speaker 1: do it when they're asked. He said the other day. Um,
Speaker 1: I was like, he's like, you're being really naggy, and
Speaker 1: I was like, isn't that what wives are for? And
Speaker 1: then um, I don't know, and then he and I
Speaker 1: was like, and maybe I'm being naggy because you never
Speaker 1: do it, and he's like, well, he isn't being stubborn.
Speaker 1: What husbands are for? I'm like, all right, let's get
Speaker 1: to another question. Um this girl. This is from Isabelle.
Speaker 1: She said, So, I was supposed to go to New
Speaker 1: York City for spring break or my friend lived, and
Speaker 1: she's gonna set me up on a blind date with
Speaker 1: one of her friends. Clearly, Corona hit did not go anywhere.
Speaker 1: I really wanted to meet this guy because honestly, I
Speaker 1: was getting tired of all the guys I know in Miami.
Speaker 1: She never told me the name of the guy, so
Speaker 1: it was a full surprise. But yesterday I made her
Speaker 1: tell me the name just so I can go and
Speaker 1: see him. Um into my surprise. He's so hot. What
Speaker 1: should I do? Slide into his d ms? I mean, yeah,
Speaker 1: why not? You don't have to email us, isabel Sorry, Isabella,
Speaker 1: you just go slide to his dams and tell your friend, Hey,
Speaker 1: can you let him know that I slid into his dams? Yeah?
Speaker 1: And then they'll be zooming every night. Yeah, exactly. Do
Speaker 1: you find I know it's been a while for both
Speaker 1: of us, but do you find it awkward that somebody
Speaker 1: would have their first conversation via like a computer screen? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I mean, prior to Dean and like the Bachelor, I
Speaker 1: was on those stupid apps until like, I would do
Speaker 1: the app thing and would you like be on like
Speaker 1: would you have a first date via FaceTime or zoom? No,
Speaker 1: that's super strange. It makes me feel really awkward. My
Speaker 1: ex he lived in Japan and we met for the
Speaker 1: first time. I've our first date was in Japan, so like,
Speaker 1: I flew there to meet him, So you didn't meet
Speaker 1: him via face to face online? Yeah, FaceTime and then
Speaker 1: look at that you did it, so you're fine at it.
Speaker 1: I think I would be horrible because I need like
Speaker 1: body language and I need to see like a glimmer
Speaker 1: in the eye. I need an environment around me to
Speaker 1: talk about I don't know. I feel like I'd be
Speaker 1: so awkward meeting for somebody on the for the first
Speaker 1: time via screen. It's so strange. This girl is okay.
Speaker 1: This girl's Catherine, she said. I'm twenty seven years old
Speaker 1: and almost twenty eight, and I have been out of
Speaker 1: the dating world for quite some time. During this quarantine time,
Speaker 1: I have had a lot of time to to think,
Speaker 1: and I finally decided to give dating appsle more try.
Speaker 1: I'm usually against them and I have never used them before. Um,
Speaker 1: with that being said, I have no clue what apps
Speaker 1: to use. If you could give me some advice on
Speaker 1: what apps to use, that would be great, and how
Speaker 1: to start the conversation that would also be great. I'm
Speaker 1: typically very shy. Well, Jared and I do have a
Speaker 1: sponsorship with plenty of Fish, so I think it's a great,
Speaker 1: great dating site. I also I also think that my
Speaker 1: sister in law and my sister in law and brother
Speaker 1: in law met on the site, so we have a
Speaker 1: very close relationship to plenty of Fish and uh they have.
Speaker 1: I really like the way that they have this the
Speaker 1: profile set up. You can add so much information about yourself,
Speaker 1: and I think it's probably because it started out as
Speaker 1: a website and then turned over into an app that
Speaker 1: they took all the information that you added to the
Speaker 1: website into the app. Caitlin, what it was your favorite
Speaker 1: dating app when you used to use them? I was
Speaker 1: trying to think of the name. It's like, it's not Tinder, Bumble,
Speaker 1: any of those. The League. I was never on the League,
Speaker 1: but I liked the idea of the League because they
Speaker 1: were like all people with jobs. Yeah, they were like
Speaker 1: people who really had their together. Oh nice, Well that's
Speaker 1: a good one. Um. It was like the one where
Speaker 1: you really are detailed and there's like, I don't know,
Speaker 1: like five or six different things that you can start
Speaker 1: a conversation about because it's like so detailed, I have
Speaker 1: no idea that is it? My god, what is it called?
Speaker 1: Or name some of those dating what apps? Hinge Bagels?
Speaker 1: Oh Hinge? We're both talking about Hinge? Yes, I loved
Speaker 1: Hinge because they had those weird questions and then you
Speaker 1: put your answer and then we're just they were the
Speaker 1: best conversation starters. Yeah, Like that's the easiest way because
Speaker 1: otherwise it's like, oh, you're attractive, Like how do you
Speaker 1: start a conversation? So I think that it started off
Speaker 1: with humor. Never, in my advice opinion, start with hey,
Speaker 1: what's up? Hey, how you doing? Hey? What are you doing? No,
Speaker 1: those are so boring because when people are sitting there
Speaker 1: about to answer what are they doing right now? What
Speaker 1: are they up to? They're up to going through their
Speaker 1: online dating app. That's what they're doing, so terrible. What
Speaker 1: do you think is the best way to start a
Speaker 1: conversation on there? I'm trying to like really dig deep
Speaker 1: and think what I did. I only went on one
Speaker 1: hinge date and it was we had like a date
Speaker 1: after that, but it was just terrible. Um, he found
Speaker 1: out I was a Christian and started like throwing the
Speaker 1: Bible at me and I was like, I'm not into this.
Speaker 1: Um oh my gosh, he started throwing it. I mean
Speaker 1: as in like he was trying to like say, deny this, deny,
Speaker 1: like this doesn't make sense. It doesn't make sense. We
Speaker 1: would be like in a conversation and then he would
Speaker 1: just be like, oh well, Matthew says like but um,
Speaker 1: I don't know. It was just like in very inappropriate
Speaker 1: times and like just super weird, super out of place.
Speaker 1: Like I don't remember specific details, but I remember being
Speaker 1: like why, Like I get that you're a Christian and
Speaker 1: I am too, and that's awesome, but you don't need
Speaker 1: to like try and keep me around this way. I
Speaker 1: have a follow up question for Kalin, just because I
Speaker 1: feel like a lot of girls can relate to this. Um,
Speaker 1: do you feel like, looking back at his profile you
Speaker 1: saw any red flags of that or was that something
Speaker 1: you had completely learned by being face to face, or
Speaker 1: like what should we be looking out for? I think
Speaker 1: he looked like a great guy from the start, and
Speaker 1: like the first date was okay, but there were no
Speaker 1: sparks and I was like, but like I'm bored and
Speaker 1: I lived in Charlotte and I don't know anyone, and
Speaker 1: so I went on another date. Um, but yeah, like
Speaker 1: no real red flags, but obviously look for like the
Speaker 1: douchy photos and like the you know, like the shirt
Speaker 1: list picks, and I don't know, I think there's like
Speaker 1: easy to spot red flags. Yeah, I agree, how many
Speaker 1: shirt list picks is too many? More than one? I
Speaker 1: think when one even like, yeah, more than one? Probably? Um,
Speaker 1: you want to hear my worst online dating app date?
Speaker 1: I think it may have been ry Were you ever
Speaker 1: on Riya? Riya? I went on one Ria date as well.
Speaker 1: Yeah was that okay? How was it? Um? The second
Speaker 1: date he started talking about like kids in marriage and
Speaker 1: it's just that okay? So I went on a ray
Speaker 1: A date. The guy was an actor. He like plays
Speaker 1: the quarterback and like D list movies, a couple of
Speaker 1: dealst movies, Like he's playing the quarterback. This is like
Speaker 1: a trend of his. And we met down the street
Speaker 1: from my apartment and he was very insistent, was really
Speaker 1: annoying because I was like, all just in bed Friday
Speaker 1: night was like chilling, We're gonna watch TV shows. And
Speaker 1: then I was swiping on Riya and then I match
Speaker 1: with him and I and he starts talking to me
Speaker 1: immediately and he's like, what are you doing right now?
Speaker 1: What are you doing tonight? And I was like, oh,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm in for the night, like just
Speaker 1: kind of relaxing. And he was like, no, meet me
Speaker 1: here in an hour, like let's just do this. Let's
Speaker 1: just meet and I'm like, oh my god, this guy
Speaker 1: is freaking annoying already because he's trying to take me
Speaker 1: out of my comfort zone. And then and I was like,
Speaker 1: and I just love a night in and now he's
Speaker 1: probably too much of an extrovert for me. And but
Speaker 1: the guy ended up calling me like we're messaging and
Speaker 1: then he calls me. He's like, I'm going to meet
Speaker 1: you here, come on, let's do it. And I was
Speaker 1: peer pressured into it and I was like, okay, fine,
Speaker 1: well I can walk there and I'll just throw on
Speaker 1: really quick makeup. We get there and he was really
Speaker 1: hot and I we had a really nice hour long
Speaker 1: conversation until the second hour of the day. He randomly
Speaker 1: he goes, so like, when was the last time you kissed?
Speaker 1: I think you did you say kiss to gay? And
Speaker 1: I was like, I was like, I don't know, like
Speaker 1: two months ago. And then he was like, what was
Speaker 1: the last time you um oral? Because I was ish,
Speaker 1: um yeah, And I think I was just so embarrassed.
Speaker 1: I think it was I was so like taken aback
Speaker 1: and didn't know how to answer the question that I
Speaker 1: had literally told him and I'm so embarrassed to say that.
Speaker 1: And every time I retell the story, I'm usually not
Speaker 1: honest about that part, but obviously we're honest right here
Speaker 1: about it. And then he goes, what was the last
Speaker 1: time you were laid? He goes were you were laid?
Speaker 1: And I go, okay, um, I'm gonna go now. Was
Speaker 1: just making me feel really uncomfortable, like I don't know
Speaker 1: how you're asking me this like two hours to knowing me.
Speaker 1: And then I walked home. What you walked home? Yeah?
Speaker 1: I know, right, Well, we were literally like an eighth
Speaker 1: of a mile from my place at this point because
Speaker 1: we're like walking towards We weren't walking towards my place
Speaker 1: with intention, but like we're just taking a walk and
Speaker 1: we happen to get closer. Yeah, isn't it crazy? It's
Speaker 1: my boggling to me? Can I ask for one more?
Speaker 1: You guys? I love this Okay. I never get girl
Speaker 1: talk on this podcast. And I also feel like that
Speaker 1: last story Ash is like so relatable. It's probably so
Speaker 1: many girls right now. Um. I have a lot of
Speaker 1: friends who are like online dating for uh like un
Speaker 1: hinge right now and bumble, And I guess because you
Speaker 1: can't really meet in person, a lot of people are
Speaker 1: asking for like send me pictures of your body, like
Speaker 1: how tall are you? Like all that stuff. So they're
Speaker 1: kind of almost going like too far with it because
Speaker 1: they can't meet up in person. It's kind of a
Speaker 1: weird right now. That's kind of like I'm too hot
Speaker 1: to handle. Who's been about to say that you've been
Speaker 1: watching kin you finished it in two days? Okay, So yeah,
Speaker 1: I'm gonna right now. Um, we have people on my
Speaker 1: podcast and I don't get it. Um, so I need
Speaker 1: to finish watching with the next day or so. But
Speaker 1: I was going to finish watching either way, of course.
Speaker 1: But the thing is about that show. I'm so mind boggled.
Speaker 1: Once again by how the people are so sexually charged.
Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, I started wondering, Am I the weird one?
Speaker 1: Do you people want sex this bad? I'm like peering
Speaker 1: over at Gina. I'm like, is this this isn't how
Speaker 1: you think? They must have found some very special people,
Speaker 1: because it's bizarre how they are like twenty four hours
Speaker 1: in and thinking about relieving themselves and the fact that
Speaker 1: there's like a hundred thousand on the line and they're
Speaker 1: still like, no, it's possibly not worth it. Yeah, what
Speaker 1: like I have to I have to have sex at
Speaker 1: the wall? I'm like, what is going on? It's been
Speaker 1: two days? Yeah, so tor that goes back to like
Speaker 1: the sex thing on the apps or whatnot. It's just like,
Speaker 1: you guys just calm down, just relax. Have you guys
Speaker 1: try to get creative? Yeah? Have you guys ever sexted before?
Speaker 1: I don't know if you want to talk about it
Speaker 1: or not. But then kind of curious on how much
Speaker 1: that's going on right now? Have I sent to lingerie
Speaker 1: pick well, I mean not including my husband. I sent
Speaker 1: in my lifetime three guys laingerie pictures, but like they
Speaker 1: were very tasteful, like boudoir you know, yeah, like twice
Speaker 1: in my life. Yeah, yeah, twice. Do you ever regret
Speaker 1: it or did you guys like feel like okay about that,
Speaker 1: like it was kind of empowering or do you kind
Speaker 1: of look back in like cringe, cringe for sure, cringe
Speaker 1: for sure. Um there's one of them. I forgot until
Speaker 1: this conversation. One of them. I thought like, oh, you
Speaker 1: were seeking at tension in the moment I was really young,
Speaker 1: and then the well what I mean really young and
Speaker 1: Ashley I years I think I was twenty three, um,
Speaker 1: which is like Caitlin's ah now getting right? Yeah okay,
Speaker 1: and then um, and then one of them I look
Speaker 1: back on pretty proudly. I was like, damn, I was
Speaker 1: good and he reacted exactly the way I wanted him to.
Speaker 1: Jared likes them too, I like, need to spice it
Speaker 1: up more. But like we were together all the time,
Speaker 1: so I can't be like I just took this and
Speaker 1: I sent it to your phone the flight upstairs. That
Speaker 1: would be hilarious and like come down to the bedroom
Speaker 1: in my parents house. I'm wearing this the other day.
Speaker 1: I mean, like Jared, I don't know, I just feel
Speaker 1: like we probably shouldn't do anything dirty, you know, in
Speaker 1: the parents house. We've been here for like six weeks, right,
Speaker 1: so I just don't I don't know, I just don't
Speaker 1: think it's very We both feel a little uncomfortable. But
Speaker 1: the other day I were lingerate in bed just so
Speaker 1: he could look at me and like, remember what it
Speaker 1: looks like. He's like very he's like very sexy. Your
Speaker 1: dad's in like literally the next room. So but I
Speaker 1: appreciate it, all right, that's my steel. I've been heaven
Speaker 1: with this conversation. So true. I'm like so many like
Speaker 1: my sister and brother in law are living with my
Speaker 1: parents were now we're in their house, and I'm like,
Speaker 1: I know it's kind of way to think about, like
Speaker 1: miss siblings, but you know, you're just kind of like,
Speaker 1: how are all the couples like handling being with the
Speaker 1: parents right now? Where do you find time? What do
Speaker 1: you think that your sister and brother in law are doing?
Speaker 1: Do you think that they're doing doing? No, I think
Speaker 1: for sure, in the shower or something that's even more
Speaker 1: obvious than when the parents go to bed, But we're
Speaker 1: not like paying attention to it, like, oh they're bout downstairs,
Speaker 1: Oh they're both downstairs in the shower. Okay, if Jared
Speaker 1: and I were like both in my childhood bedroom and
Speaker 1: then we were both in the bathroom, and there would
Speaker 1: be pretty weird Kalen to wrap up, is it far
Speaker 1: more romantic and sexy at your house? No? No, not
Speaker 1: even Oh wait that tent. I think I'm going to
Speaker 1: recreate the tent too. But now they're sitting here in
Speaker 1: front of me, and it's not a little protector lights
Speaker 1: a tent. It's like movies and watch TV all day long,
Speaker 1: but just in a different setup, and like goes you're
Speaker 1: set up. It was nice, nice, Yeah, it's super cozy.
Speaker 1: It makes it feel like a date versus like just
Speaker 1: watching TV in the same room as usual. And we
Speaker 1: felt like kids, Like you're like laying the fort and
Speaker 1: I was like, this is so fun. I feel like
Speaker 1: a little kid, just like building forts so cute. Did
Speaker 1: you use like a stick in the middle because how
Speaker 1: is it standing? So well? It was the most fressurting thing.
Speaker 1: We don't have furniture. You build forts with furniture, and
Speaker 1: so I had a creative and use like tripods are
Speaker 1: you know I was going to say the vacuum m Yeah,
Speaker 1: it's so frustrating. All right, well this is all because
Speaker 1: I feel very at ease with Kayalen. For some reason.
Speaker 1: I feel like I will never i'm around her. I'm like, no,
Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know. You're very easy to
Speaker 1: talk to to already you feel the same. I mean,
Speaker 1: I just need you, guys to come back. This is
Speaker 1: so fun. Alright, thie guys, that was fun. Follow help
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