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Speaker 1: Thank you nephew. Subject I had the hood he made

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Speaker 1: for him. Dear Stephen Shirley, I'm in a long distance

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Speaker 1: relationship with a man that's a local R and B

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Speaker 1: singer in this city. He does weddings and he sounds

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Speaker 1: so much like Lutha Vandros that he gets steady work

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Speaker 1: and he travels to sing at weddings. He's thirty and

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Speaker 1: I'm thirty one, and it's so hard trying to make

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Speaker 1: a long distance relationship work. I asked if he would

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Speaker 1: consider moving closer to me because I can't relate. I

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Speaker 1: can't relocate and keep my current job. It's been three years,

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Speaker 1: so I've been pressing the issue, and he said I

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Speaker 1: was getting on his nerves. He had become distant and

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Speaker 1: started telling me he's so tired, too tired to FaceTime

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Speaker 1: at night. As a peace offering, I had one of

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Speaker 1: my good friends make him a one of a kind

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Speaker 1: hoodie with his nickname on it, and I apologized for

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Speaker 1: being a brat. He took a picture in the hoodie

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Speaker 1: and sent it to me, and he was all smiles.

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Speaker 1: I assumed things were back on track, and I was

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Speaker 1: so happy. A few days later, I was scrolling through

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Speaker 1: social media and I saw a video of the band

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Speaker 1: that my man sings with. There was a female singing

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Speaker 1: lead on the video, and she had on the hoodie

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Speaker 1: that I had made for my boyfriend. I took screenshots

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Speaker 1: to be sure, and I sent the pictures to him,

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Speaker 1: and then I called him. After he paused for a

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Speaker 1: very long time. He said that he must have laid

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Speaker 1: the hoodie down during a sound check and she took it.

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Speaker 1: It's not even hoodie sees and yet, so why would

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Speaker 1: he even have the hoodie at the studio during a rehearsal.

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Speaker 1: He had no logical explanation, so I made up my

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Speaker 1: own story about how she got in my mind. He

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Speaker 1: slept with her and she wore the hoodie home. I

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Speaker 1: must be right, because the video is gone deleted. I

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Speaker 1: can't even tell who this female is. How could he

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Speaker 1: be so careless? Am I foolish to think that he's

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Speaker 1: being unfaithful to me?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: I mean, after you told what you told us about

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Speaker 1: the hoodie and all that you sent him, and the

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Speaker 1: lady having it on and all that, I think you

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Speaker 1: are being foolish about this whole thing. I mean, if

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Speaker 1: he cared, he never would have given her the hoodie

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Speaker 1: in the first place. And he didn't really give it

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Speaker 1: to us, he said she took it. We all know

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Speaker 1: long distance relationships are hard enough, and it sounds like

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Speaker 1: you're more into the fact that he's a singer, you know,

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Speaker 1: and he sounds like Luther and all of that. We

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Speaker 1: know Luther's voice does things to people. We already know that,

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Speaker 1: And I don't know if he didn't sound like Luthor,

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Speaker 1: would you even care so much? You know that he

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Speaker 1: was your man supposedly and all that. Your boyfriend doesn't

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Speaker 1: seem to care that much, because when you asked him

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Speaker 1: about moving closer to you, he didn't respond. He started

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Speaker 1: tripping and said you were getting on his nerves. Honestly,

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Speaker 1: I think you're in this relationship by yourself. From what

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Speaker 1: you've said, he does nothing to.

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Speaker 2: Keep it alive.

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Speaker 1: You initiate, initiate all the moves and everything. Meanwhile, he's

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Speaker 1: living his best life somewhere else without you. I think,

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Speaker 1: if he really sounds like Luther, I'm sure women are

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Speaker 1: after him all the time so he can have his pick.

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Speaker 1: And after three whole years, this relationship is not going anywhere.

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Speaker 1: So I suggest to you that you think about dating

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Speaker 1: someone you're in your own town, someone you know that

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Speaker 1: you live in the same city with. And because this

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Speaker 1: man right here that sounds like Luther, he's not trying

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Speaker 1: to be with you like that.

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Speaker 2: He's not.

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Speaker 1: Steve.

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Speaker 2: The subject of a letter is I had the hood

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Speaker 2: he made for him. Lord, you didn't really make the hoodie.

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Speaker 2: You had something put on the hoodie. You had some

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Speaker 2: iron on patches, You have some glitter or something put

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Speaker 2: on it. You find a little stensel and you push.

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Speaker 2: You made a hoodie for him. But let me tell

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Speaker 2: you why she made her. She in a long distant

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Speaker 2: relationship with a man that's a local here we go,

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Speaker 2: local R and B singer in his He ain't stay wide.

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Speaker 2: He ain't national local. Now, if I knew what city

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Speaker 2: you was in, we could get even smaller than low.

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Speaker 1: Don't say it.

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Speaker 2: Don't say or I can name some like if you're

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Speaker 2: from we Talker, Alabama, you need to stop saying. Don't

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Speaker 2: don't say he's a local arm Be singer because we

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Speaker 2: talk I ain't that big, you know, local. If he

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Speaker 2: a local arn Be singer in Tuscal Looser, that's outside

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Speaker 2: of Alabama. He ain't doing that good local. If you

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Speaker 2: a local ar Be singer in Decatur, Georgia, you ain't

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Speaker 2: even You ain't even in Atlanta, Doll. You ain't doing

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Speaker 2: that good? All right, so he does. He does weddings. Now,

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Speaker 2: then here go another thing. How many damn winds is

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Speaker 2: in we Talker Alabama? Really? How many winds is in

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Speaker 2: Tuscal Looser? With just black so sad and he gets

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Speaker 2: steady work and he travels to saying that winds he's

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Speaker 2: just driving across town trying to happen. You just saddy

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Speaker 2: local way driving to that day, traveling he can get

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Speaker 2: a bus pass and get over there. He's thirty. Hold up,

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Speaker 2: here was the car party to kid me? And he

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Speaker 2: sounds so much like Luthor Van Droz that he gets

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Speaker 2: steady work. No he don't stop, bi, he don't. I'm

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Speaker 2: just gonna go and tell you right, No he don't.

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Speaker 2: You know how damn famous he be if he sounded

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Speaker 2: just like Luther Van Let me ask you a questions.

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Speaker 2: Is he from Brunsville?

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Speaker 1: Sure you were gonna go? There is his name, Danny,

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Speaker 1: don't see. Hang on, We'll have part two of Steve's

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Speaker 1: response coming up at twenty three minutes after the hour.

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Speaker 1: Today's strawberry letter, subject I had the hoodie made for him.

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Speaker 1: We'll get back into it right after this. You're listening

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Speaker 1: Steve Hardy Morning Show. All right, Come on, Steve, let's

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Speaker 1: recap today's strawberry letter. The subject is I had the

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Speaker 1: hoodie made for him.

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Speaker 2: Well, we get to the hood in a minute. But

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Speaker 2: this woman in this long distant relationship with a local

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Speaker 2: arm beast. Local keyword local. Local means that means right

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Speaker 2: around in here. Local, that means from hill, cross town

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Speaker 2: and back. Local. He ain't state wide, he ain't national.

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Speaker 2: He local and he do wins and he sounds so

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Speaker 2: much like Luther that he gets steady work. No he don't. No,

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Speaker 2: I'm just gonna go on and till no, no, he

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Speaker 2: do you know who is bigger than Luther Vandros Michael Jackson.

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Speaker 2: You know how many Michael Jackson impersonators is out of

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Speaker 2: work right now? So you're trying to make me believe

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Speaker 2: that this man that sounds just like Luther, which he don't.

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Speaker 2: He just he just he just he's just stay booked.

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Speaker 2: He he's thirty thirty one. It's hard trying to make

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Speaker 2: a long dis relationship work. I've asked that he would

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Speaker 2: consider moving closer to me because I can't relocate and

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Speaker 2: keep my current job. He's been three years, so I've

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Speaker 2: been pressing the issue. He said I was getting on

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Speaker 2: his nerves. That's the key line in this whole letter.

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Speaker 2: He told you you getting on his damn nerves. Why

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Speaker 2: would he move close to somebody that's on this last

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Speaker 2: nerve far away? You on my last nerve in this

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Speaker 2: long distance relationship? Why would I move closer to your

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Speaker 2: nerve wrecking ass? He had become distant and he started

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Speaker 2: telling me he's too tired to FaceTime at night. Okay,

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Speaker 2: now you're on his nerve. Now he ain't even wanna

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Speaker 2: look at me. You gonna see this here, of this

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Speaker 2: writingess all on the wall, you on his last Now

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Speaker 2: he don't even wanna look at you as a peace offerer.

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Speaker 2: I had one of my good friends make him a

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Speaker 2: one of a kind hoodie. Now let's go over to B.

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Speaker 2: What is a one of a kind hood That would

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Speaker 2: be a hoodie? Ain't nobody else who got it, But

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Speaker 2: it's also a hoodie that has another title of I

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Speaker 2: tell you that is not only is it a hoodie

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Speaker 2: that he the that you the only one got it.

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Speaker 2: If it's got his name on it in glitter, if

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Speaker 2: you didn't have some little lights put on it where

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Speaker 2: its blink while he walking, that's another one of a

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Speaker 2: kind hoodie. If it has his name and the name

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Speaker 2: of his R and B group on it, that would

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Speaker 2: make it a one of a kind hoodie. If it

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Speaker 2: has a lot of colors on it that you've never

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Speaker 2: seen as a combination before, that would be a one

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Speaker 2: of a kind hoodie. Now one of the kind of

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Speaker 2: hoodies go two week ways. It's either because no one

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Speaker 2: else has it or don't nobody else own it. So

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Speaker 2: I don't know what you made, but it fit into

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Speaker 2: that tele and his nickname is on it, well, what

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Speaker 2: would his nickname be as a local r B single?

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Speaker 2: Found that nobody else? Let's see, did you put little

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Speaker 2: Luther on? Now? How about Van d? How about the

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Speaker 2: Dronks you know, like in Luther Vandro and the Drunks.

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Speaker 2: You know, maybe that's his nickname. How about how about

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Speaker 2: how about s a al on the back of that

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Speaker 2: sound like? I don't know what it is? Okay? Anyway,

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Speaker 2: he took a picture with the hoodie and sent it

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Speaker 2: to me and it was all smiles. I assume things

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Speaker 2: was back on track, and I was so happy. Hold up,

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Speaker 2: the man told you you getting on his last damn nerd.

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Speaker 2: He quit facing time because he don't even want to

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Speaker 2: see you. You bought his ass this hoodie he's sent you,

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Speaker 2: and you figure everything was fine? Now? How much was

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Speaker 2: this damn But that had to be a hell of

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Speaker 2: a hoodie? You thinking fix your relationship. I've never seen

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Speaker 2: a hoodie fixing relationship. But you thought it was all good.

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Speaker 2: A few days later, I was closing through social media

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Speaker 2: and I saw a video of the band that my

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Speaker 2: man sings in the dross, Little Lutheril. That's the name

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Speaker 2: of the group, Little Luthanil. Yeah, anyway, you saw a

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Speaker 2: video and and that was a female singing lead on

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Speaker 2: the video. Now there ain't been no girl in the

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Speaker 2: group since, but now all of a sudden there's a

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Speaker 2: girl in Now if she's singing leave in the video?

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Speaker 2: How much like Luther do he really sound? If they

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Speaker 2: done already replace his ass with this girl? It's just

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Speaker 2: so much unbelievable. Message this here, and you took screenshots

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Speaker 2: because the girl had the hoodie on. And then he

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Speaker 2: paused for a long time, and he said that he

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Speaker 2: must have laid the hoodie down doing the sound check,

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Speaker 2: and she put the hoodie on. Why would he even

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Speaker 2: have a hoodie on at the studio in rehearsal? What anyway?

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Speaker 2: How could he be so careless and my foolish to

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Speaker 2: think he's being faithful to me? Faithful? Ain't he told

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Speaker 2: you he don't like facetiming, you know more, hitting on

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Speaker 2: his last damn nerves? Dude, it sound like he faithful? Lady,

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Speaker 2: Bye you and this nothing and today now send me

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Speaker 2: a picture of the hoodie because I want the nickname.

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Speaker 2: Thought that.

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Speaker 1: Junior in Sports Talk.

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