Speaker 1: You found your way here to waking up with Ryan.
Speaker 1: I'm so glad that you pushed play. This is the
Speaker 1: place you and I come to wake up together. So
Speaker 1: let's take a deep breath and begin Good morning, my love.
Speaker 1: What if the person who has hurt you the most
Speaker 1: actually signed up to play that role in your life.
Speaker 1: I know that can be a really tough thing to
Speaker 1: try to grasp. And I'm certainly not talking about the
Speaker 1: people who have hurt you through some kind of abuse
Speaker 1: or trauma. I'm more referring to the relational conflicts in
Speaker 1: your life, the things that kind of push your buttons,
Speaker 1: the people who ooh have made things really difficult for
Speaker 1: you and been really confrontational for you. What if they
Speaker 1: actually signed up to play that role in your life.
Speaker 1: And I want to explore this idea by telling you
Speaker 1: a little story. So I'd like for you to imagine
Speaker 1: that before you came into this body, imagine that you
Speaker 1: were a soul and that you were up in the skies,
Speaker 1: up in the heavens, and you were ready to take
Speaker 1: on a body and to take on a life. And
Speaker 1: so before you can do so, you have to go
Speaker 1: visit this amphitheater where there's all these souls sitting in
Speaker 1: an audience, and the head angel brings you up onto
Speaker 1: the stage in front of all of these souls and
Speaker 1: says to the audience, who here loves this soul? You
Speaker 1: and a bunch of hands raise in the audience, and
Speaker 1: the head angel says, okay, pointing at the souls in
Speaker 1: the audience. You are going to be his or her
Speaker 1: or their first grade teacher, and you're going to be
Speaker 1: their mom, and you're going to be their best friend
Speaker 1: from kindergarten to eighth grade. And you're going to be
Speaker 1: their nanny, and you're going to be their husband or
Speaker 1: wife or partner or business partner. And all these assignments
Speaker 1: get put out into the souls in the audience, and
Speaker 1: then this head angel says, now, let's get serious. Who
Speaker 1: here loves this soul? You the absolute most with all
Speaker 1: of your heart? And soul, who here loves them the
Speaker 1: absolute most? And three souls in the audience raise their hands,
Speaker 1: and the head angel looks at them and says, you three,
Speaker 1: you are going to be this soul's enemies. You're going
Speaker 1: to be the people who make this soul's life the
Speaker 1: most difficult because it is you who is going to
Speaker 1: cause them most to grow in this lifetime, and then
Speaker 1: you get born into this body completely forgetting that all
Speaker 1: these relationships are assignments intended for the healing of both people,
Speaker 1: and that even the people that take on the role
Speaker 1: or the assignment as your most difficult people to deal
Speaker 1: with in this life, even they have chosen to take
Speaker 1: on an assignment that, even though it shows up in
Speaker 1: your life, is something that can be so painful and
Speaker 1: so difficult. It's their interaction in your life that is
Speaker 1: causing friction, and it's that friction that is causing us
Speaker 1: to grow and expand spiritually and ultimately to help us
Speaker 1: remember who we really are. They are the people who
Speaker 1: most push your buttons. And the thing that most of
Speaker 1: us do until we really take our awakening process really seriously,
Speaker 1: is when someone pushes our buttons, we kind of get
Speaker 1: really focused on, like, why are you pushing my button?
Speaker 1: And I wish you wouldn't push my button. Then I
Speaker 1: go over there and then the button get pushed and
Speaker 1: I look at them, why are you pushing this button?
Speaker 1: I wish you wouldn't push this button. And then we
Speaker 1: go over there and the button gets pushed and we
Speaker 1: say again, why are you pushing my button? I wish
Speaker 1: you wouldn't push my button. I want you to change
Speaker 1: so that you won't keep pushing this button. But your
Speaker 1: process of waking up to who you really are, your
Speaker 1: spiritual journey, your healing process, comes from when your button
Speaker 1: getting gets pushed. Instead of going out there and focusing
Speaker 1: on them, going right here to the button and saying, oh,
Speaker 1: I have a button. If this button didn't exist for me,
Speaker 1: it couldn't get pushed. And so what is it that
Speaker 1: I need to do? What is it that I need
Speaker 1: to bring up inside of me? What is it that
Speaker 1: I need to heal and explore inside of me? So
Speaker 1: that when the things happen that historically push this button,
Speaker 1: it's not that it may hurt less, But if I
Speaker 1: can focus on the button getting pushed, then I can
Speaker 1: focus on the purpose of it getting pushed in the
Speaker 1: first place, which is for the dynamics of my continued
Speaker 1: healing and growth. So I'd like for us to just
Speaker 1: do a short practice this morning, and if you can,
Speaker 1: closing your eyes, if you're somewhere that you can, and
Speaker 1: just bringing to mind the people in your life, whether
Speaker 1: it's people who are in your life today or historically,
Speaker 1: who have most pushed your buttons, ruffled your feathers, made
Speaker 1: things difficult for you, brought up a lot of stuff
Speaker 1: for you. The people that you've maybe historically perceived as
Speaker 1: your enemies or your bullies, or yeah, the people who've
Speaker 1: really hurt you. Just notice who comes to mind. Let's
Speaker 1: take a couple deep breaths here, and I want to
Speaker 1: recognize that what we're about to do next may feel
Speaker 1: like a bit of a stretch. But what I'd like
Speaker 1: for us to do for this short practice is actually
Speaker 1: bring our hands together in the front of our heart
Speaker 1: and just bow your head in gratitude. Dare I say,
Speaker 1: in gratitude and reverence for those who have challenged you
Speaker 1: most to grow, For the people who have disappointed you,
Speaker 1: hurt you, let you down, even betrayed your confidence, or
Speaker 1: the people you feel betrayed by that left you behind
Speaker 1: on the journey, Just bowing to them in this recognition
Speaker 1: that perhaps some bigger part of them, some soulful, bigger
Speaker 1: part of them, has taken this role intentionally to actually
Speaker 1: support you in your healing, whether it or I should say,
Speaker 1: even though it doesn't look like it can relax our
Speaker 1: hands to our lap and take a deep breath and
Speaker 1: let it go. When you're ready, you can open your eyes.
Speaker 1: I want to make sure that I share with you
Speaker 1: that a practice like this or an acknowledgment like this
Speaker 1: one doesn't mean that you're well coming these people back
Speaker 1: into your life. As my teacher Mariyan Williamson says, I
Speaker 1: forgive you, but give me my keys back. Right, forgiveness
Speaker 1: and letting go is more about what you're doing for
Speaker 1: your own self to free yourself from that consistent button
Speaker 1: getting pushed, less about saying anything about what they have
Speaker 1: or haven't done. Right, And so this is not about
Speaker 1: turning ourselves into a doormat. It's actually about turning ourselves
Speaker 1: into somebody who's developed the capacity to rise above, to
Speaker 1: let go, to move on, and to recognize the bigger
Speaker 1: picture of what's going on here in this life. Thank
Speaker 1: you for going on this journey with me today. I
Speaker 1: know it can ruffle feathers and be a tough one,
Speaker 1: and even that is here for us to explore. Loving
Speaker 1: you from right here always. Hi, I hope you're feeling
Speaker 1: even just a little bit more prepared to take on
Speaker 1: the day. But before you go, i'd love to hear
Speaker 1: from you, and you can send me a voice note
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Speaker 1: Loving you from here,