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Speaker 1: Katie is here. Good morning, Katie. How are you, Katie? Well,

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Speaker 1: how was that, Katie? Stay or go low group therapy

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Speaker 1: action here? Let's find out, because again, when things are

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Speaker 1: not going properly in your life, call him the local

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Speaker 1: radio show. I mean, that makes perfect sense to me.

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Speaker 1: So what's going on with your husband? Explain?

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Speaker 2: Please?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, So once we got married, he just out of

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Speaker 3: nowhere told me that he doesn't think it's appropriate for

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Speaker 3: me to go on bachelor at trips or even girls'

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Speaker 3: trips in general.

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Speaker 1: Okay, all right, so you married this man and then

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Speaker 1: I assume something came up like of this nature a

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Speaker 1: girl's trip, for example, and you're like, hey, I'm going

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Speaker 1: on a girls trip, and this dude says.

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Speaker 3: No, yeah, that's actually exactly what happened. And I was like,

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Speaker 3: I was actually shocked if I never heard this before

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Speaker 3: until after we got married. And then he just said, well,

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Speaker 3: I just don't think it's appropriate because you're a married

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Speaker 3: woman and there's too much temptation on those types of trips.

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Speaker 4: And then he just said he.

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Speaker 3: Doesn't understand like why I would even want to ever

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Speaker 1: Oh wow, So it was okay before, it's not Okay, now, yes.

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Speaker 3: Like I actually, before we got married, had gone on

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Speaker 3: bachelorette trips, girls tips.

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Speaker 5: And he never said a thing.

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Speaker 3: And then this first one came up, and I was

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Speaker 3: I'm just like so confused because he's never acted like

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Speaker 3: this was a problem before.

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Speaker 1: I mean, what does he do when you like go

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Speaker 1: to work or go to the store or I don't know,

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Speaker 1: leave your house alone. What does he do during those times?

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Speaker 1: How is that? I mean, I suppose you could be

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Speaker 1: doing exactly the same thing if you wanted to.

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Speaker 6: I mean, I.

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Speaker 3: Guess it's just yeah, he just said that those trips

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Speaker 3: to him, they are just like way too much temptation.

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Speaker 3: There's going to be I don't know, I don't understand.

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Speaker 7: Does he get along with your friends, like your girlfriends, Yeah.

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Speaker 3: He gets along great with them, and like before, he

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Speaker 3: actually think it was no big thing. So I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I think everyone needs a break from their spouse at

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Speaker 3: some point and spend time with their friends. Especially it's girlfriends,

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Speaker 3: Like it's not like with you know, a bunch of

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Speaker 3: like straight guys. Like it's just it's so bizarre.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that would be weird if the girl strip was

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Speaker 1: a bunch of straight single men. I would I would

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Speaker 1: probably ask ask some questions. Tell me again, what you're

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Speaker 1: going on on a girls trip with the you know

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Speaker 1: offensive line from the you know whatever, Like, tell me, yeah,

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Speaker 1: is there a history of infidelity? No, so you've never

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Speaker 1: cheated on him?

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Speaker 2: Never has he been cheated on? Sounds like it.

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Speaker 3: I think there was a girlfriend in the past who

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Speaker 3: yets like was there was infidelity question?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, because we got some text about that too, which,

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Speaker 1: by the way, it doesn't mean that it's okay for

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Speaker 1: him to be controlling. I'm just trying to figure out

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Speaker 1: where he's coming from. He did marry you, after all,

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Speaker 1: and he did allow you to do this ahead of time.

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Speaker 2: So I don't like it.

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Speaker 1: This is very controlling, and it feels like maybe he

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Speaker 1: thinks now that you're married that he he gets to

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Speaker 1: a certain more control over you, which I don't agree with.

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Speaker 2: I mean, you got to respect his wishes. Again. If

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Speaker 2: it's like, yeah, I'm going to.

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm going to secrets adult you know

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Speaker 1: swingers resort with with five random men that I met

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Speaker 2: I would ask a few questions about that.

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Speaker 1: But you know, as far as like you going on girls'

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Speaker 2: I'd be like, hell.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, it's giving loser mentality, Like oh what am I

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Speaker 7: gonna do?

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Speaker 2: Where you're gonna go? Don't leave me. I'm like, come on,

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Speaker 2: whatever whatever, be my underwear all weekend.

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Speaker 1: Yes, Like, if you've always been honest with him, You've

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Speaker 1: always been honest. You've always so this is what you're saying.

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Speaker 1: I mean, you've always been honest. You you you haven't

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Speaker 1: cheated on him. He knows the people that you're going with.

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Speaker 1: I assume that you're willing to communicate with him while

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Speaker 1: you're there. I guess I don't. I don't like this

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Speaker 1: at all. Eight five five one three five little group

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Speaker 1: therapy action. You guys got to get in on this.

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Speaker 1: But but Katie, we're gonna talk about you behind your back.

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Speaker 2: Now, Let's see what happens to you when it's his turn.

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Speaker 4: Right, he's invited on the Bachelor party, like he's just

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Speaker 4: gonna not go like you know what I mean?

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Speaker 2: Or like the guy's weekend.

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Speaker 1: Excellent question. Pauline. When he wants to go on a

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Speaker 1: guy's trip, does he go? And my other question is

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Speaker 1: does he have friends? Because the other thing I've found

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Speaker 1: is men, and well I can only speak for men.

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Speaker 1: Men who don't have friends tend to have a bigger

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Speaker 1: problem with this kind of stuff. It's like because they

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Speaker 1: don't have any anywhere to go themselves, right, or they

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Speaker 1: don't take trips like this, or you're the only person

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Speaker 2: Well, that's sad.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean he has friends, but most of them

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Speaker 3: are already married, So I actually don't think any of

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Speaker 3: to like go on back to their trips and stuff

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Speaker 1: Okay, because I've heard about this before where it's like

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Speaker 1: I basically want you to sit at home with me

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Speaker 1: And it's like, well, that's not my problem, all right, Katie, Well,

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Speaker 1: thank you so much. We're going to take some phone

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Speaker 1: calls on they saying good luck to you.

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Speaker 2: Okay, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Someone just texted me this is single behavior, and that's

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Speaker 1: why you're single.

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Speaker 2: Fred.

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Speaker 1: It's not controlling, it's respecting your marriage, respecting you. She's

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Speaker 1: going on the girl's trip. Why are you married to

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Speaker 2: That's so weird.

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Speaker 4: So I can't go to the beach in Tampa or

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Speaker 4: whatever whatever beach is out there, because.

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Speaker 2: I'm married, I'm not allowed to get on. I'm planning

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Speaker 2: to go with my friends.

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Speaker 1: Go hang out with your female friends, or again, I

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Speaker 1: guess if it were single men and women, and then

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Speaker 5: I mean even and you should be able to trust

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Speaker 1: I guess it would depend on the circumstances. But ninety

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Speaker 1: I would be okay with it now if she cheated

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Speaker 1: they got to work through that, obviously, but I could

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Speaker 1: understand some reservations. Still doesn't mean he gets to control her.

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Speaker 1: He either forgives her or he doesn't. But at the

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Speaker 2: No I agree.

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Speaker 7: It sounds like he did something on a trip, you know,

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Speaker 7: like he seen something, right, He's either seen something or

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Speaker 7: he's done something, and he's just like, no, you can't

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Speaker 7: do it, because I know what happens on these trips.

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Speaker 2: Also, like, have you been on a girl's trip?

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Speaker 7: It's like drunk, eating food and like dancing with each other.

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Speaker 1: Like I was gonna say, girls, good luck trying to

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Speaker 2: No, trust me, I've tried it. It almost never.

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Speaker 1: I have a very low batting average approaching a group

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Speaker 1: It doesn't happen very often. Hey Mandy, Mandy, Hi, what

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Speaker 6: It's a double edged sword. But because I don't know

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Speaker 6: through a similar situation that started like that, and it

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Speaker 6: is full out control red flags a waven. I could

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Speaker 6: insecure man. The person that said, you know, like it's

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Speaker 6: a you know, being respectful in a marriage. No, a

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Speaker 6: marriage has to be built on trust. And if you

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Speaker 6: with known friends. What if this was a business trip,

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Speaker 6: what if it was anything. It started that way with me,

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Speaker 6: I couldn't go on the girls trip, you know, and

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Speaker 6: much could happen, you know, basically, you're he's saying, you know,

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Speaker 6: I don't trust you no further than I can see you,

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Speaker 6: and that is crazy. It got to the point I

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Speaker 2: I don't like that, but they can't.

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Speaker 6: But it started with the you know, can't go on

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Speaker 6: and it just got worse and worse and worse.

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Speaker 2: Either he wants you all to himself kind of thing.

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Speaker 6: You know, exactly. Yeah, it's just it's a control and

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Speaker 6: I'm coming back to you, and you know, ask for

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Speaker 6: forgiveness later, because it's it's ridiculous, you know. Do you

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Speaker 2: What kind of life is the future.

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Speaker 6: Going to have and I wish I would have seen

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Speaker 6: therapy now, like it's just over.

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Speaker 2: So you're not in that relationship anymore.

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Speaker 6: Now get some hell something.

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Speaker 2: Are you out of that relationship? Mindy in the process.

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Speaker 6: This is a very long we got kids involved, all

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Speaker 6: that good luck out there, but you're in the right

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Speaker 1: I mean again, I feel like even if they're like said,

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Speaker 1: it comes down to trust or no trust, and even

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Speaker 1: if trust was betrayed, then it's okay. Then am I

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Speaker 1: forgiving you and moving on? Or am I not? And

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Speaker 1: even if it's like a miyby, I'll let you go

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Speaker 1: have a great day. By the way, thanks for calling.

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Speaker 1: Listened to herself on me.

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Speaker 2: Even if it's.

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Speaker 1: An insecurity that's like maybe a healthy insecurity, then you

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Speaker 2: This is this is what's going on with me and I.

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Speaker 1: You know, can we communicate or can we can we

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Speaker 1: work out a way that like I want you to

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Speaker 1: as opposed to just saying I can I own you

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Speaker 1: no you can't go, you can't go hang out with

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Speaker 4: Right, Telling someone you can't do something in a relationship

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Speaker 4: or marriage is just like that's crazy to me. That's

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Speaker 4: not marriage, that's not I don't think so. And like

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Speaker 4: what also bothers me too with some of these messages.

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Speaker 4: It's like about what's a respect thing? I get it right,

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Speaker 4: respecting your partner. But I always told happy my husband,

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Speaker 4: I said, when we get married, like, I don't want

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Speaker 4: to lose myself, and you can't lose yourself either, like

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Speaker 4: still do what you do and I always be respectful, right, right,

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Speaker 4: one hundred percent.

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Speaker 2: But I'm saying like, don't lose yourself is what I'm saying.

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Speaker 7: You know what I mean?

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Speaker 6: Right?

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Speaker 4: Respect number one. But like just because I want to

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Speaker 4: go on a trip with my girls to whatever, you

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Speaker 4: know what I mean, Like, that doesn't mean I don't

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Speaker 4: respect you. You would still respect them while you're on

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Speaker 4: the trip, exactly by not doing the trip. I'll respect

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Speaker 4: you here, I'll respect you ever, respect you always.

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Speaker 2: But I'm going on the damn trip to Cabo. I'm

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Speaker 2: going to the Bartenda. Hi Taylor, good morning, Hey, good morning,

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Speaker 2: say or go what do you think I think she

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Speaker 8: Well, first of all, it depends on one thing, like

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Speaker 8: I need to know personally who pays for the majority

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Speaker 8: of the vacation. And also that's what parties are a

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Speaker 8: different thing. Those are completely fine. But if he's paying

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Speaker 8: for all vacations and all of a sudden she has

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Speaker 8: this money to go on a girl's trip and not,

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Speaker 8: you know, involve him in a trip on her behalf,

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Speaker 8: that's that's a little bit messed up.

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Speaker 1: I mean, I think there are variables here that we

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Speaker 1: don't know. Yeah, I guess if she's always going on

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Speaker 1: might be another issue. But this sounds this doesn't sound

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Speaker 1: like being inconsiderate. This sounds like a trust problem. This

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Speaker 1: sounds like a control thing.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, it would be definitely has some sort of trust.

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Speaker 1: Problems if she's constantly going away and making him stay

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Speaker 1: with the kids or whatever. I mean, at some point

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Speaker 1: you might become resentful like why am I never invited?

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Speaker 1: But why would you be invited on a girl's trip?

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Speaker 1: And why would he have a problem with it within itself?

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Speaker 1: But thank you, Taylor, have a good day, many appreciate it.

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Speaker 1: Let's see Grace, Hey, Grace, how you doing, Grace, good morning?

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Speaker 2: What do you think? Stare go and just a recap here.

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Speaker 1: This woman is upset because her husband they got married,

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Speaker 1: and now he's like, I don't want you going on girls' trips.

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Speaker 1: I don't want you going off on your own. He

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Speaker 1: was fine with it before, but bachelor, that's red parties,

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Speaker 1: girl trips. Now he doesn't want it to go. It

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Speaker 1: sounds controlling, Yeah, I.

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Speaker 5: Mean it's a little bit controlling, but at the end

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Speaker 5: of the day, like I think some people have different

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Speaker 5: opinions about marriage and they're like, oh, well, like why

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Speaker 5: do you need to go on a trip by yourself

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Speaker 5: if we're married, Like I want to do everything together.

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Speaker 5: But I think she can just tell him, like, look,

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Speaker 5: it's your opportunity to like, you know, be on the couch,

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Speaker 5: have some beer, watch a sport of your choice, like

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Speaker 5: far in the house without me all like just be

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Speaker 5: yourself and enjoy the time and everything's going to be fine.

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Speaker 5: And like we want time apart because the time together

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Speaker 6: So let me go with my friend.

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Speaker 1: And if you have a fundamental belief about this, then

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Speaker 1: I think that's something you got to work out before

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Speaker 1: if you've got some serious issue with trips that don't

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Speaker 1: include you, then don't allow it before marriage. And then

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Speaker 1: do that now, Like not, that's not how this works, right.

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Speaker 5: It seems like it was kind of whiplash because before

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Speaker 2: Change of well, we're married, now I own you or something.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't. I don't like it. Great, thank you,

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Speaker 1: have a good day. Who's paying? A lot of people

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Speaker 1: are consumed on the text with who's paying?

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Speaker 2: Worry about that? Man, I don't know that matter.

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Speaker 1: I mean again, if it's constantly like I'm out of

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Speaker 1: town every weekend, you gotta take care of my obligations

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Speaker 1: and pay for it too, that's a whole different topic.

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Speaker 2: Yeah. I don't think that's what this is though,