1 00:00:00,080 --> 00:00:12,239 Speaker 1: Mm from grandmothers who whispered in their baby girl in 2 00:00:13,440 --> 00:00:16,880 Speaker 1: two fathers on dimly lit street corners, instructing young soldiers 3 00:00:16,920 --> 00:00:20,959 Speaker 1: to always keep their eyes open. You be queen, you 4 00:00:21,040 --> 00:00:24,279 Speaker 1: were fired. You will pass through centuries on the hands 5 00:00:24,320 --> 00:00:28,720 Speaker 1: of your daughters. They called you wisdom. Proverbs on the 6 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:32,320 Speaker 1: backs of diamond eyed school children who growing into hymnals 7 00:00:32,360 --> 00:00:37,200 Speaker 1: recited by amethyst holding urban philosophers who recited neighborhood commandments 8 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,680 Speaker 1: out of the windows of restored Alchemedo chariots to keep 9 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:46,080 Speaker 1: the warmth of their blood. Be wise, be smart, being black, 10 00:00:46,120 --> 00:00:50,720 Speaker 1: Opal Brown courts, bloodstone and prayer. Be every form of 11 00:00:50,880 --> 00:00:57,080 Speaker 1: jim se King told, scribe, scribe, told son, son, told wife, 12 00:00:57,480 --> 00:01:00,080 Speaker 1: wife told her daughter, and daughter told the ants. This 13 00:01:00,280 --> 00:01:03,320 Speaker 1: is And the ancestors told me that you would come 14 00:01:04,040 --> 00:01:09,160 Speaker 1: to give wisdom thousands. They said you would come Droppings 15 00:01:09,240 --> 00:01:12,120 Speaker 1: Dropping the Gym. Hey, Welcome back to another episode of 16 00:01:12,160 --> 00:01:17,240 Speaker 1: The Dropping Gym's podcast. As always, I'm your host Stevie Brown. So, 17 00:01:17,400 --> 00:01:20,039 Speaker 1: first of all, guys, I am so sorry for leaving 18 00:01:20,080 --> 00:01:22,600 Speaker 1: you hanging the last couple of weeks. I took the 19 00:01:22,680 --> 00:01:25,280 Speaker 1: last show week off to celebrate my birthday. Shout out 20 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:27,680 Speaker 1: to my fellow gym and as and I enjoyed a 21 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:31,600 Speaker 1: quick trip to Palm Springs. Side note too, I love 22 00:01:31,720 --> 00:01:34,200 Speaker 1: getting to the desert every chance that I can get. 23 00:01:34,400 --> 00:01:37,000 Speaker 1: I feel really recharged by that dry heat and that 24 00:01:37,080 --> 00:01:41,800 Speaker 1: desert landscape. It's really like something about the harsh landscape 25 00:01:41,880 --> 00:01:45,640 Speaker 1: and the resilience of its natural inhabitants that really speaks 26 00:01:45,680 --> 00:01:48,520 Speaker 1: to me, and it makes me feel so centered and alive. 27 00:01:49,080 --> 00:01:51,520 Speaker 1: I really see myself in that, you know, when I 28 00:01:51,560 --> 00:01:55,760 Speaker 1: see power, beauty and pain and things, I see myself. 29 00:01:56,360 --> 00:02:00,400 Speaker 1: It's why I love looking at fire that sounds not right, 30 00:02:00,800 --> 00:02:04,040 Speaker 1: or rough waves, or you know, the spikes on a cactus. 31 00:02:04,480 --> 00:02:08,920 Speaker 1: I'm really drawn to and attracted to the survival in 32 00:02:08,960 --> 00:02:12,119 Speaker 1: it all. But now I'm back to real life, and 33 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: I decided to do this week a little bit differently. 34 00:02:15,080 --> 00:02:19,200 Speaker 1: One today turned out to be crazy. Um, the universe 35 00:02:19,400 --> 00:02:23,640 Speaker 1: was doing the most. A fire started in my kitchen 36 00:02:24,000 --> 00:02:26,840 Speaker 1: as I was getting ready to go record this podcast. 37 00:02:27,160 --> 00:02:30,400 Speaker 1: I was making like some Keto bread on parchment paper, 38 00:02:30,440 --> 00:02:33,760 Speaker 1: and the cart parchment paper cup fire and we had 39 00:02:33,800 --> 00:02:37,840 Speaker 1: a good fire extinguisher. It was a lot then. Um, 40 00:02:37,880 --> 00:02:40,040 Speaker 1: the little studio set up I have at my house 41 00:02:40,080 --> 00:02:43,800 Speaker 1: that the ranch. Uh. I went outside to record and 42 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:46,680 Speaker 1: my computer overheated. So guess where I am right now 43 00:02:46,720 --> 00:02:50,880 Speaker 1: doing the show. I have a makeshift mike and a 44 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:54,520 Speaker 1: laptop and I'm sitting in my bathroom. Um. And I 45 00:02:54,520 --> 00:02:57,320 Speaker 1: only tell you that because just no, I really try 46 00:02:57,360 --> 00:02:59,679 Speaker 1: to make this episode happen, so you guys would not 47 00:02:59,760 --> 00:03:04,040 Speaker 1: keep yelling at me and my d M s. And also, um, 48 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:06,960 Speaker 1: you know, you do what you gotta do wherever you can. Plus, 49 00:03:07,040 --> 00:03:08,840 Speaker 1: just so you know, in case audio is a little 50 00:03:08,840 --> 00:03:10,600 Speaker 1: bit off, I want you all to know why because 51 00:03:10,680 --> 00:03:13,560 Speaker 1: coming from FM radio, audio is super important to me. 52 00:03:13,600 --> 00:03:18,080 Speaker 1: So I'm in a bathroom today. Though back to the episode, 53 00:03:18,120 --> 00:03:21,040 Speaker 1: We're going to do an extra special Q and A episode, 54 00:03:21,440 --> 00:03:23,240 Speaker 1: So if you follow me on I G you saw 55 00:03:23,280 --> 00:03:26,280 Speaker 1: that on my stories I solicited y'all for some questions 56 00:03:26,400 --> 00:03:28,400 Speaker 1: and I ended up getting a ton of great and 57 00:03:28,440 --> 00:03:31,560 Speaker 1: insightful ones to go through. So if you shot me 58 00:03:31,600 --> 00:03:34,000 Speaker 1: a question and you don't hear it mentioned here today though, 59 00:03:34,120 --> 00:03:37,640 Speaker 1: just know that there were a lot um and I'm 60 00:03:37,640 --> 00:03:39,600 Speaker 1: probably gonna be able to unpack more of them in 61 00:03:39,720 --> 00:03:44,520 Speaker 1: future episodes. But because I love spontaneity and synchronicity, I 62 00:03:44,640 --> 00:03:47,280 Speaker 1: wanted to try to give this Q and A the 63 00:03:47,320 --> 00:03:51,440 Speaker 1: most authentic thoughts and reactions possible, So I picked out 64 00:03:51,440 --> 00:03:53,400 Speaker 1: of all the questions I got, I picked a bunch 65 00:03:53,800 --> 00:03:56,120 Speaker 1: and I actually put them all together in a bowl 66 00:03:56,160 --> 00:03:59,040 Speaker 1: folded up. So I'm gonna pick it out and read it, 67 00:03:59,680 --> 00:04:02,200 Speaker 1: and you'll hear it as I hear it. Okay, So 68 00:04:02,520 --> 00:04:04,960 Speaker 1: here we go special Q and A episode of The 69 00:04:05,040 --> 00:04:13,360 Speaker 1: Dropping Gym's podcast. Here's my bowl. First question, Oh, okay, 70 00:04:13,560 --> 00:04:18,080 Speaker 1: this question comes from Masterpiece and Progress, and the question 71 00:04:18,200 --> 00:04:23,200 Speaker 1: is how do I function an extremely toxic work environment 72 00:04:23,520 --> 00:04:28,719 Speaker 1: when leaving isn't an option right now? I love this question, um, 73 00:04:28,800 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 1: and it's so relatable because you know, in this day 74 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:34,400 Speaker 1: and age, everyone is talking about quit your job and 75 00:04:34,520 --> 00:04:38,400 Speaker 1: you know, find your happiness or follow your bliss, you know, 76 00:04:38,480 --> 00:04:41,440 Speaker 1: quit your job and find your passion and start a business. 77 00:04:41,920 --> 00:04:46,800 Speaker 1: And that is quite honestly not realistic for many many people. 78 00:04:47,120 --> 00:04:48,520 Speaker 1: I sit in that, and I honor that, and I 79 00:04:48,560 --> 00:04:51,080 Speaker 1: just want to say that I'm sorry, um, that you're 80 00:04:51,120 --> 00:04:55,279 Speaker 1: experiencing some difficulty at work, especially considering we typically spend 81 00:04:55,320 --> 00:04:57,960 Speaker 1: more of our lives at work than we do at home, 82 00:04:58,080 --> 00:05:00,280 Speaker 1: or than we do around people that care about us 83 00:05:00,440 --> 00:05:03,800 Speaker 1: or doing things that you know, set our souls on fire, 84 00:05:04,000 --> 00:05:06,600 Speaker 1: so that can be a lot. I had an experience, 85 00:05:07,000 --> 00:05:10,640 Speaker 1: uh this is probably close to ten years ago at 86 00:05:10,960 --> 00:05:13,840 Speaker 1: one of the first radio gigs that I had, and 87 00:05:13,960 --> 00:05:17,520 Speaker 1: life got really hard. You know. It started out as 88 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:22,839 Speaker 1: being this incredible gig and opportunity, and just by the 89 00:05:22,960 --> 00:05:25,680 Speaker 1: nature of where I worked in the way, you know, 90 00:05:25,920 --> 00:05:29,400 Speaker 1: some some of the work politics went down in that building, 91 00:05:30,360 --> 00:05:33,640 Speaker 1: and you know, the building switched ownership many many times. 92 00:05:33,839 --> 00:05:36,920 Speaker 1: It went from being like my dream job to a nightmare. 93 00:05:37,080 --> 00:05:39,880 Speaker 1: And I remember there was a couple of months before 94 00:05:39,880 --> 00:05:43,560 Speaker 1: I decided to quit that I would like cry in 95 00:05:43,640 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 1: my car every morning. Every morning, I would get to 96 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:50,000 Speaker 1: the parking lot and I would cry in my car 97 00:05:50,760 --> 00:05:55,400 Speaker 1: about facing this day around a lot of toxic energy, 98 00:05:55,960 --> 00:05:58,480 Speaker 1: and I would cry for a few minutes. I would 99 00:05:58,480 --> 00:06:00,200 Speaker 1: wipe my face and I would go in the build thing. 100 00:06:00,240 --> 00:06:02,400 Speaker 1: I would do the best that I could, but it 101 00:06:02,480 --> 00:06:05,640 Speaker 1: was extremely hard. So what I what I would share 102 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:10,320 Speaker 1: with you is look at the larger context. This moment, 103 00:06:10,560 --> 00:06:15,039 Speaker 1: I'm sure is highly uncomfortable, and I'm sure you're sacrificing 104 00:06:15,080 --> 00:06:17,880 Speaker 1: in many different ways and more than likely having to 105 00:06:17,960 --> 00:06:21,840 Speaker 1: minimize yourself in many different ways. But it's really important 106 00:06:21,839 --> 00:06:25,920 Speaker 1: that women we're in a difficult space, that we take 107 00:06:26,000 --> 00:06:29,200 Speaker 1: time to zoom out. You know. It's like, imagine this 108 00:06:29,320 --> 00:06:32,120 Speaker 1: right now. Imagine you had a polaroid in your hand, 109 00:06:32,200 --> 00:06:35,520 Speaker 1: like a printed out picture, and you held it right 110 00:06:35,600 --> 00:06:39,600 Speaker 1: up against your eye. You're probably seeing, you know, whatever 111 00:06:39,760 --> 00:06:43,120 Speaker 1: color pixelation. You know, you're just seeing like blue or 112 00:06:43,160 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 1: black or white. And then as you slowly move that 113 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:50,400 Speaker 1: photograph farther and farther away from that eye, and maybe 114 00:06:50,400 --> 00:06:53,520 Speaker 1: now you're holding it at arm's length away from you, 115 00:06:53,520 --> 00:06:57,200 Speaker 1: you can see the grander picture. You can see everything 116 00:06:57,600 --> 00:07:00,839 Speaker 1: that that picture entails. And it's like that, when we 117 00:07:00,880 --> 00:07:03,600 Speaker 1: are faced with discomfort that we don't really have control 118 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:07,159 Speaker 1: over in our lives, you can just control what you 119 00:07:07,200 --> 00:07:10,920 Speaker 1: can control and to not attend times that just means 120 00:07:10,960 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 1: you can control how you feel and what your reactions are. 121 00:07:14,960 --> 00:07:18,000 Speaker 1: So I would really strongly suggest, like in this question, 122 00:07:18,040 --> 00:07:21,960 Speaker 1: you said that right now, leaving isn't an option, So 123 00:07:22,240 --> 00:07:25,480 Speaker 1: make a plan, you know, have something to look forward to. 124 00:07:25,640 --> 00:07:28,080 Speaker 1: You don't like where you are right now, but what 125 00:07:28,120 --> 00:07:30,600 Speaker 1: are you working towards? You know, in moments like this, 126 00:07:30,720 --> 00:07:33,800 Speaker 1: like whenever I'm under a lot of stress. I really 127 00:07:34,120 --> 00:07:38,320 Speaker 1: force myself to dig into me and find what is 128 00:07:38,360 --> 00:07:42,120 Speaker 1: it that's triggering me and how can I bring less 129 00:07:42,160 --> 00:07:46,280 Speaker 1: suffering to myself. Again, I can't control anything happening in 130 00:07:46,320 --> 00:07:49,000 Speaker 1: the world. I can't control anybody's bad day or what 131 00:07:49,040 --> 00:07:51,800 Speaker 1: they're trying to project onto me because of it. But 132 00:07:51,880 --> 00:07:55,000 Speaker 1: I can't always control how I feel about myself and 133 00:07:55,040 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 1: my understanding of what my destiny is. So without knowing 134 00:07:59,880 --> 00:08:02,560 Speaker 1: to too many other details, I would just really recommend 135 00:08:02,600 --> 00:08:06,520 Speaker 1: that next time you have a free afternoon, really prepare 136 00:08:06,560 --> 00:08:10,280 Speaker 1: for war. You know, build your armor, get get specific 137 00:08:10,400 --> 00:08:14,240 Speaker 1: things together to grow your spirit so that you're protected 138 00:08:14,320 --> 00:08:17,200 Speaker 1: when you go into that toxic space. Recently, what I did, 139 00:08:17,320 --> 00:08:19,840 Speaker 1: I'm kind of like in a weird space myself with 140 00:08:19,880 --> 00:08:22,640 Speaker 1: a couple of things in my life, and I just 141 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:27,800 Speaker 1: took that afternoon and I found all brand new affirmations 142 00:08:27,880 --> 00:08:30,800 Speaker 1: that really speak to me at this moment in my life, 143 00:08:31,560 --> 00:08:33,800 Speaker 1: and I wrote them out and I take them up 144 00:08:33,840 --> 00:08:36,320 Speaker 1: exactly where I needed to see them. You know, I 145 00:08:36,400 --> 00:08:40,840 Speaker 1: practiced like a lot of self compassion. Um. I started 146 00:08:40,880 --> 00:08:44,600 Speaker 1: like doing some journaling, I started, you know, doing some 147 00:08:44,679 --> 00:08:47,720 Speaker 1: breathing techniques. I make sure that I meditate every day, 148 00:08:48,040 --> 00:08:52,520 Speaker 1: you know, so if your work environment is toxic, the 149 00:08:52,559 --> 00:08:54,480 Speaker 1: best thing that you can do for yourself in this 150 00:08:54,559 --> 00:09:00,600 Speaker 1: moment is really define, excuse me, refine whatever your spiritual 151 00:09:00,600 --> 00:09:04,800 Speaker 1: practice is. So make sure that you are carving out 152 00:09:04,920 --> 00:09:07,959 Speaker 1: twenty to forty minutes a day wherever you can fit 153 00:09:08,000 --> 00:09:10,920 Speaker 1: it in. Wake up earlier if you need to carve 154 00:09:10,960 --> 00:09:16,080 Speaker 1: out that time, and fill yourself with love and give 155 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:19,080 Speaker 1: yourself all the compassion that you are not getting at work, 156 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:23,320 Speaker 1: so that you can start your day already full and 157 00:09:23,360 --> 00:09:26,800 Speaker 1: you're not operating out of a deficit. So again, if 158 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:29,880 Speaker 1: nothing else, you know, you mentioned that again, leaving isn't 159 00:09:29,960 --> 00:09:33,480 Speaker 1: an option right now. That's fine, But what can you 160 00:09:33,679 --> 00:09:37,440 Speaker 1: do in your life and in your free time to 161 00:09:37,559 --> 00:09:41,880 Speaker 1: make sure that your spirit and heart is full, that 162 00:09:41,960 --> 00:09:46,640 Speaker 1: you are getting the adequate amount of love and celebration 163 00:09:46,840 --> 00:09:50,880 Speaker 1: that you deserve and need so that anytime you're at 164 00:09:50,920 --> 00:09:53,880 Speaker 1: work and you're not feeling it, you have a reserve 165 00:09:54,040 --> 00:09:57,560 Speaker 1: to pull from. So I hope that answers your questions. 166 00:09:57,679 --> 00:09:59,880 Speaker 1: I know, um I didn't have too many details on 167 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:03,439 Speaker 1: at but the answer is kind of the same. Even 168 00:10:03,480 --> 00:10:06,959 Speaker 1: if you're just facing challenges in life in general. You've 169 00:10:06,960 --> 00:10:09,040 Speaker 1: got to get prepared to go to war, and you've 170 00:10:09,080 --> 00:10:13,160 Speaker 1: got to love on yourself and give yourself the compassion 171 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:15,840 Speaker 1: that you're not getting other places, and give yourself the 172 00:10:15,880 --> 00:10:18,440 Speaker 1: rewarding that you're not. Also think of the bigger plan. 173 00:10:18,559 --> 00:10:20,800 Speaker 1: You can't leave right now, but at some point you can, 174 00:10:21,080 --> 00:10:24,400 Speaker 1: so start plotting and planning, you know, start visualizing what 175 00:10:24,520 --> 00:10:29,080 Speaker 1: your life will be like at an environment that feels better. Okay, 176 00:10:29,280 --> 00:10:37,200 Speaker 1: next question, Oh, okay, this one comes from frucous ye list. 177 00:10:37,960 --> 00:10:40,800 Speaker 1: I think I'm saying that right. Uh. The question is 178 00:10:41,800 --> 00:10:46,480 Speaker 1: how do you balance spirituality and materialism? Can I have 179 00:10:46,720 --> 00:10:51,240 Speaker 1: nice things and be a humble servant? That's a great 180 00:10:51,320 --> 00:10:54,800 Speaker 1: question to uh. You know, I think a lot of 181 00:10:54,840 --> 00:10:58,880 Speaker 1: it depends on what your motivation is. You know a 182 00:10:59,000 --> 00:11:03,080 Speaker 1: lot of people use materialism and they use like celebration 183 00:11:03,160 --> 00:11:07,680 Speaker 1: of things to really give themselves a false sense of 184 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:12,360 Speaker 1: self love and also to try to control the perception 185 00:11:12,400 --> 00:11:15,200 Speaker 1: that other people have of you, or to get other 186 00:11:15,320 --> 00:11:18,720 Speaker 1: people to see value in you through things. So if 187 00:11:18,720 --> 00:11:21,640 Speaker 1: that's your motivation, no, you can't have both. You can't 188 00:11:21,640 --> 00:11:25,000 Speaker 1: have the spirituality and the materialism because they're in direct 189 00:11:25,600 --> 00:11:29,400 Speaker 1: contrast with one another. UM. You know, I like nice things. 190 00:11:31,559 --> 00:11:34,200 Speaker 1: I love you know, nice things. I like having nice 191 00:11:34,200 --> 00:11:36,880 Speaker 1: sheets on my bed. I like using you know, good 192 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:41,560 Speaker 1: hair products. I like, um, you know all the trappings 193 00:11:41,559 --> 00:11:44,800 Speaker 1: that come with that. Um. But I think for me, 194 00:11:45,520 --> 00:11:48,880 Speaker 1: it's definitely not a must for me to have to 195 00:11:48,960 --> 00:11:53,040 Speaker 1: feel good about myself. You could drop me in you know, 196 00:11:53,120 --> 00:11:57,240 Speaker 1: often the desert with secondhand, third hand, fitth hand clothes, 197 00:11:57,679 --> 00:11:59,880 Speaker 1: and I'm still going to feel good about who i 198 00:12:00,040 --> 00:12:02,400 Speaker 1: am because that's just the point that I've worked towards 199 00:12:02,400 --> 00:12:05,200 Speaker 1: in my life right now, So I think, UM, you 200 00:12:05,240 --> 00:12:08,480 Speaker 1: can absolutely have bolth it's just really important to gut 201 00:12:08,559 --> 00:12:13,040 Speaker 1: check with yourself of why are you desiring these items 202 00:12:13,120 --> 00:12:16,319 Speaker 1: and also are you being gluttonous with it? Like for me, 203 00:12:16,400 --> 00:12:18,319 Speaker 1: I know when I'm out of alignment and I'm out 204 00:12:18,360 --> 00:12:22,160 Speaker 1: of balance, I can feel it because I'm buying frivolous 205 00:12:22,160 --> 00:12:25,560 Speaker 1: things I don't need, Like I'm on Amazon every time 206 00:12:25,600 --> 00:12:28,400 Speaker 1: I think of something, buying whatever it is and then 207 00:12:28,440 --> 00:12:31,160 Speaker 1: I don't even end up using it. Or I get 208 00:12:31,160 --> 00:12:33,640 Speaker 1: really stressed out in traffic and I'm cussing people out 209 00:12:33,679 --> 00:12:37,439 Speaker 1: more often than I normally do. Um, or I'm getting 210 00:12:37,480 --> 00:12:40,920 Speaker 1: irritated at the smallest things while I'm in traffic. You know, those, 211 00:12:40,920 --> 00:12:43,839 Speaker 1: to me are what I've recognized to be my triggers 212 00:12:43,880 --> 00:12:45,960 Speaker 1: of when I am not in balanced and when I 213 00:12:46,000 --> 00:12:48,280 Speaker 1: am not in alignment. So when I start to notice 214 00:12:48,320 --> 00:12:50,480 Speaker 1: those patterns, when I start to notice that I'm like 215 00:12:50,559 --> 00:12:54,679 Speaker 1: aimlessly scrolling on guilt for no reason or you know 216 00:12:54,840 --> 00:12:57,840 Speaker 1: whatever whatever these shopping apps and websites are. If I'm 217 00:12:57,880 --> 00:13:01,360 Speaker 1: doing that really for for no reason, not because I 218 00:13:01,440 --> 00:13:04,320 Speaker 1: need anything or really even want anything, um, then I 219 00:13:04,320 --> 00:13:06,520 Speaker 1: know I'm just out of balance, and and I work 220 00:13:06,600 --> 00:13:10,200 Speaker 1: to just really fill in my spiritual practice a lot 221 00:13:10,280 --> 00:13:13,320 Speaker 1: more UM and check in with myself about what I'm feeling. 222 00:13:13,480 --> 00:13:15,360 Speaker 1: So I say that to say, you know, I do 223 00:13:15,520 --> 00:13:18,120 Speaker 1: think sometimes in this culture where we're at right now, 224 00:13:18,160 --> 00:13:22,480 Speaker 1: people go really over the top with things. None of 225 00:13:22,480 --> 00:13:26,600 Speaker 1: this stuff really matters, you know, So don'cle broke trying 226 00:13:26,600 --> 00:13:28,760 Speaker 1: to keep up with the joneses, or don't give your 227 00:13:28,840 --> 00:13:31,600 Speaker 1: last to wear something that now you put it on 228 00:13:31,640 --> 00:13:33,480 Speaker 1: Instagram and you're not gonna wear it again. You know, 229 00:13:33,640 --> 00:13:36,000 Speaker 1: I don't. I don't do that for myself. I think 230 00:13:36,000 --> 00:13:39,880 Speaker 1: that there is so much beauty in humility. I think 231 00:13:39,880 --> 00:13:42,560 Speaker 1: there's so much beauty in not flossing all the things 232 00:13:42,559 --> 00:13:45,120 Speaker 1: that you have, you know, having nice things that you enjoy, 233 00:13:45,200 --> 00:13:48,560 Speaker 1: but not posting all of them. Um. So I hope 234 00:13:48,600 --> 00:13:51,040 Speaker 1: that helps. But I do think I don't think that 235 00:13:51,120 --> 00:13:54,040 Speaker 1: you are not in alignment with God because you like 236 00:13:54,200 --> 00:13:56,920 Speaker 1: the finer things. I just think it is important to 237 00:13:57,000 --> 00:14:00,000 Speaker 1: go check on what your motivation is for getting them. 238 00:14:00,120 --> 00:14:03,280 Speaker 1: Do you really need it? Is there something more impactful 239 00:14:03,400 --> 00:14:06,680 Speaker 1: you could be doing with that money? Um, because a 240 00:14:06,720 --> 00:14:08,320 Speaker 1: lot of a lot of this to a lot of 241 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:11,959 Speaker 1: the stuff that we even consider to be finer things 242 00:14:12,160 --> 00:14:16,400 Speaker 1: or deem as you know, the goal. Um, it's just 243 00:14:16,559 --> 00:14:20,960 Speaker 1: capitalism that made us think we want that anyway. It's 244 00:14:21,000 --> 00:14:26,360 Speaker 1: just well at photography, this uh faue rarity, you know, 245 00:14:26,480 --> 00:14:29,000 Speaker 1: then making it seem like something is really rare, when 246 00:14:29,160 --> 00:14:31,320 Speaker 1: in actuality they could produce as much of it as 247 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:34,160 Speaker 1: they want, you know, see, is it? Is it brainwashing? 248 00:14:34,560 --> 00:14:37,040 Speaker 1: Is it I'm out of balance? Or is it hey 249 00:14:37,080 --> 00:14:38,960 Speaker 1: I really like this and I deserve it. If it's 250 00:14:39,000 --> 00:14:46,200 Speaker 1: the latter, then do it get it live? Okay. Next question, Okay, 251 00:14:46,280 --> 00:14:50,480 Speaker 1: this question is from Love is Loving Me. How did 252 00:14:50,520 --> 00:14:56,880 Speaker 1: you attract your husband and marriage? Did you use crystals? Interesting, 253 00:14:57,840 --> 00:15:02,800 Speaker 1: No girl, No, UM, I'm sure that's the question. Actually 254 00:15:02,840 --> 00:15:06,680 Speaker 1: a lot of people have, especially as they start moving 255 00:15:06,720 --> 00:15:09,240 Speaker 1: around the spaces and we talk to people so much 256 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:12,680 Speaker 1: about you know, vision boarding and and you know, speaking 257 00:15:12,720 --> 00:15:15,920 Speaker 1: things that they already exist and manifesting and all of 258 00:15:15,960 --> 00:15:20,920 Speaker 1: that stuff. In my situation, no, UM, I don't necessarily 259 00:15:20,920 --> 00:15:27,240 Speaker 1: firsthand know anybody that has done that. UM. I don't 260 00:15:27,240 --> 00:15:30,800 Speaker 1: even think even now, with my understanding of a lot 261 00:15:30,840 --> 00:15:33,480 Speaker 1: of the stuff in the metaphysics world, I don't think 262 00:15:33,480 --> 00:15:35,960 Speaker 1: I would ever do that because my my go to 263 00:15:36,240 --> 00:15:41,040 Speaker 1: is always just work on me, fix me, and everything 264 00:15:41,080 --> 00:15:44,920 Speaker 1: that I deserve and need will come my way. You know, 265 00:15:45,000 --> 00:15:48,000 Speaker 1: I think I've done a lot of self work on myself, 266 00:15:48,200 --> 00:15:54,320 Speaker 1: and I'm constantly growing and learning and changing and evolving, surrendering, expressing, 267 00:15:54,440 --> 00:15:57,360 Speaker 1: kindness and compassion. So for me, I know love is 268 00:15:57,400 --> 00:16:00,080 Speaker 1: always head of my way. Like I I truly oh 269 00:16:00,160 --> 00:16:02,440 Speaker 1: and believe that I don't have to work hard for 270 00:16:02,560 --> 00:16:05,680 Speaker 1: love because I'm filling myself with all the love that 271 00:16:05,720 --> 00:16:09,360 Speaker 1: I need and deserve, and I'm doing good to other people, 272 00:16:09,840 --> 00:16:12,720 Speaker 1: and so love will always find me and be attracted 273 00:16:12,760 --> 00:16:16,480 Speaker 1: to me. Um, and whatever package it comes. But so 274 00:16:16,680 --> 00:16:20,080 Speaker 1: specifically for my husband in my marriage. I'll just give 275 00:16:20,120 --> 00:16:23,000 Speaker 1: you guys this quick little backstory for those that aren't 276 00:16:23,040 --> 00:16:28,720 Speaker 1: too familiar with my story. UM, so this month actually 277 00:16:28,800 --> 00:16:34,080 Speaker 1: will be our I think seventh year married. Yeah, our 278 00:16:34,160 --> 00:16:38,359 Speaker 1: seventh year wedding anniversary. And my husband and I initially 279 00:16:38,440 --> 00:16:41,880 Speaker 1: met because I was doing radio in l A. I 280 00:16:41,960 --> 00:16:45,120 Speaker 1: quit that job and I ended up taking a job 281 00:16:45,240 --> 00:16:48,360 Speaker 1: in Houston at a radio station in Houston, and I 282 00:16:48,440 --> 00:16:51,480 Speaker 1: moved across the country by myself and I lived there 283 00:16:51,680 --> 00:16:54,440 Speaker 1: for a little under a year, so maybe like ten 284 00:16:54,480 --> 00:16:58,640 Speaker 1: eleven months. And at that time, he was living in Houston, 285 00:16:58,960 --> 00:17:02,400 Speaker 1: and he used to listen to the radio and he 286 00:17:02,400 --> 00:17:05,879 Speaker 1: heard my voice. And this is his telling. I'm not 287 00:17:05,920 --> 00:17:08,879 Speaker 1: trying to sound, you know, super extra, but he said 288 00:17:08,960 --> 00:17:11,720 Speaker 1: he heard my voice. He loved my voice. That spoke 289 00:17:11,760 --> 00:17:13,800 Speaker 1: to him. So he googled me and he looked me 290 00:17:13,920 --> 00:17:17,240 Speaker 1: up and then he actually started following me on Twitter. Um, 291 00:17:17,280 --> 00:17:19,040 Speaker 1: I don't think we had Instagram then, I'm not sure, 292 00:17:19,440 --> 00:17:21,280 Speaker 1: but he started following me on Twitter and he started 293 00:17:21,280 --> 00:17:25,960 Speaker 1: interacting with me. And at that time, I I believe 294 00:17:25,960 --> 00:17:28,760 Speaker 1: I was having a birthday party and he showed about 295 00:17:28,760 --> 00:17:31,320 Speaker 1: my birthday party to meet me in person, and believe 296 00:17:31,359 --> 00:17:34,520 Speaker 1: it or not, his first words to me were, Hey, 297 00:17:34,960 --> 00:17:40,200 Speaker 1: I follow you on Twitter. So that's kind of how 298 00:17:40,200 --> 00:17:44,040 Speaker 1: we met, UM, and our relationship happened really really fast. 299 00:17:44,560 --> 00:17:46,480 Speaker 1: I gotta be fully honest with you guys and tell 300 00:17:46,520 --> 00:17:51,919 Speaker 1: you I never wanted to or cared about getting married. UM. 301 00:17:51,960 --> 00:17:54,399 Speaker 1: Not not to say that I never thought that I would. 302 00:17:54,560 --> 00:17:57,240 Speaker 1: It just definitely was not a goal of mine. It 303 00:17:57,720 --> 00:17:59,640 Speaker 1: truly wasn't even a thought of mine. I didn't even 304 00:17:59,720 --> 00:18:03,200 Speaker 1: visit lies being married. And I don't know if that's because, 305 00:18:03,760 --> 00:18:06,240 Speaker 1: you know, a lot of people closest in my life 306 00:18:06,240 --> 00:18:09,119 Speaker 1: and my family were unmarried women, or if it's just 307 00:18:09,200 --> 00:18:12,280 Speaker 1: because you know, I think we were. I think I 308 00:18:12,359 --> 00:18:15,280 Speaker 1: was twenty five at the time. It just wasn't of 309 00:18:15,359 --> 00:18:18,600 Speaker 1: importance to me at all. I was one fully focused 310 00:18:18,600 --> 00:18:21,239 Speaker 1: on my career. But life hit me fast, you know, 311 00:18:21,320 --> 00:18:24,080 Speaker 1: and he he knew really fast, which is what kind 312 00:18:24,080 --> 00:18:28,080 Speaker 1: of led me to search myself about what were the 313 00:18:28,119 --> 00:18:31,960 Speaker 1: walls that I was putting up around love. At the time. 314 00:18:32,000 --> 00:18:36,560 Speaker 1: I didn't want a relationship, UM. I was really super 315 00:18:36,800 --> 00:18:42,160 Speaker 1: enjoying the single life and I had just actually um 316 00:18:42,160 --> 00:18:45,080 Speaker 1: taken two jobs in New York, so I wasn't. At 317 00:18:45,119 --> 00:18:47,040 Speaker 1: the time that I met him. I was actually in 318 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:51,000 Speaker 1: the process of moving from Houston to New York City, 319 00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:54,359 Speaker 1: UH to work at Serious x M and also MTV. 320 00:18:55,000 --> 00:18:58,600 Speaker 1: So when we met, I think we met you know, 321 00:18:58,800 --> 00:19:02,200 Speaker 1: he actually he was really shy around me at first. 322 00:19:02,600 --> 00:19:06,600 Speaker 1: Then he eventually asked for my number and we went 323 00:19:06,640 --> 00:19:10,320 Speaker 1: on a date, and then we just really clicked and connected. 324 00:19:10,400 --> 00:19:14,080 Speaker 1: And you know, two weeks in he had, you know, 325 00:19:14,160 --> 00:19:18,400 Speaker 1: a lot of knowingness of what he wanted. So two 326 00:19:18,440 --> 00:19:21,120 Speaker 1: weeks into us hanging out, he told me he loved me. 327 00:19:21,680 --> 00:19:23,960 Speaker 1: That scared me at first. You know, at first I 328 00:19:24,040 --> 00:19:26,919 Speaker 1: just responded and said thank you, because I didn't know 329 00:19:27,000 --> 00:19:29,600 Speaker 1: what to say. I didn't know that I felt that 330 00:19:29,720 --> 00:19:32,320 Speaker 1: just yet. You know, things are moving really fast for me. 331 00:19:32,880 --> 00:19:36,480 Speaker 1: And then maybe a month into us hanging out, it 332 00:19:36,560 --> 00:19:38,800 Speaker 1: was time for me to move, and so I moved 333 00:19:38,800 --> 00:19:41,200 Speaker 1: to New York and and he was just like, listen, girl, 334 00:19:41,320 --> 00:19:44,040 Speaker 1: like we go together. You can move to New York, 335 00:19:44,119 --> 00:19:47,359 Speaker 1: but we are together and work exprusive And you know 336 00:19:47,359 --> 00:19:49,880 Speaker 1: when I ended up falling in love and he ended 337 00:19:49,960 --> 00:19:52,280 Speaker 1: up asking me to marry him maybe three months after 338 00:19:52,359 --> 00:19:56,239 Speaker 1: we started dating. And then flash forward a few more 339 00:19:56,240 --> 00:19:59,000 Speaker 1: months we ended up married. So life happened really really fast. 340 00:19:59,240 --> 00:20:03,040 Speaker 1: I would not reck in moving that fast to anybody, um, 341 00:20:03,119 --> 00:20:05,920 Speaker 1: but you know, it worked out for us at that time. 342 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:11,479 Speaker 1: So yeah, I wasn't I wasn't consumed with the thought 343 00:20:11,760 --> 00:20:15,920 Speaker 1: of being in a relationship, getting married, any of that. 344 00:20:15,960 --> 00:20:19,320 Speaker 1: When I tell you, meeting him caught me so off 345 00:20:19,359 --> 00:20:21,760 Speaker 1: guard and by surprise and was truly not a part 346 00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:25,040 Speaker 1: of my life's plan and what I was envisioning for myself. 347 00:20:25,840 --> 00:20:29,439 Speaker 1: So I would just say, you know, definitely do do 348 00:20:29,480 --> 00:20:31,480 Speaker 1: whatever you're called to. If you do want to build 349 00:20:31,480 --> 00:20:34,080 Speaker 1: the vision board with you know, all the attributes of 350 00:20:34,119 --> 00:20:36,480 Speaker 1: the person you want to tract to you, that's dope. 351 00:20:36,640 --> 00:20:39,520 Speaker 1: Do it if you want to, you know, do maybe 352 00:20:39,520 --> 00:20:42,159 Speaker 1: a crystal grid or just put that energy into the 353 00:20:42,240 --> 00:20:46,439 Speaker 1: universe to bring that love and bring that you know, 354 00:20:46,640 --> 00:20:49,920 Speaker 1: partner into your life. I say, do it, but do 355 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:52,840 Speaker 1: not forget the biggest step, which is making sure that 356 00:20:52,920 --> 00:20:55,560 Speaker 1: you feel good about yourself, that you love your life, 357 00:20:55,920 --> 00:21:00,800 Speaker 1: that you have begun to tap in to any of 358 00:21:00,840 --> 00:21:04,560 Speaker 1: the unresolved issues that you have carried with you before 359 00:21:04,640 --> 00:21:07,320 Speaker 1: you meet this person. Because when you have a partner 360 00:21:07,320 --> 00:21:11,120 Speaker 1: and you have a relationship especially in a marriage. You're 361 00:21:11,160 --> 00:21:15,679 Speaker 1: each other's mirrors and one another's dysfunctions are going to 362 00:21:15,920 --> 00:21:19,359 Speaker 1: fall on top of the other person. So you just 363 00:21:19,480 --> 00:21:22,320 Speaker 1: want to make sure that you are prepared for the 364 00:21:22,400 --> 00:21:29,560 Speaker 1: real work that being in a significant relationship really entails. Okay, 365 00:21:29,640 --> 00:21:34,960 Speaker 1: let's see. Okay, I like this question. Star asked me, 366 00:21:35,440 --> 00:21:39,639 Speaker 1: how do you stay positive when you are catching God's fades? 367 00:21:41,960 --> 00:21:45,520 Speaker 1: I think I said that in my episode where Nita Parker, 368 00:21:45,920 --> 00:21:50,080 Speaker 1: I was like, God, stay trying to catch my fade? Yeah, okay, 369 00:21:50,160 --> 00:21:53,560 Speaker 1: how to stay positive when you feel like you are 370 00:21:53,720 --> 00:21:59,480 Speaker 1: catching God's face. So for me, one of the biggest 371 00:21:59,680 --> 00:22:02,600 Speaker 1: less and I have learned with my lifetime thus far, 372 00:22:03,520 --> 00:22:07,480 Speaker 1: it's that I have had to completely strip myself of 373 00:22:07,600 --> 00:22:12,040 Speaker 1: the thought or belief that life is fair. And I've 374 00:22:12,040 --> 00:22:15,560 Speaker 1: had to completely strip myself of the thought or belief 375 00:22:16,080 --> 00:22:19,760 Speaker 1: that by me just being a good person, good things 376 00:22:19,840 --> 00:22:22,640 Speaker 1: would happen to me, because it's just not true. It's 377 00:22:22,680 --> 00:22:25,119 Speaker 1: not how life works, is not how the universe works. 378 00:22:25,200 --> 00:22:28,119 Speaker 1: You know, when you're choosing to be a good person, 379 00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:30,440 Speaker 1: when you're choosing to grow as a person, you are 380 00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:34,359 Speaker 1: doing that for you, but it doesn't necessarily change the 381 00:22:34,400 --> 00:22:38,080 Speaker 1: obstacles and challenges that you're going to face because God, 382 00:22:38,119 --> 00:22:41,840 Speaker 1: the universe has its own idea of what you need 383 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:44,840 Speaker 1: to know and what you need to experience. I've also 384 00:22:44,920 --> 00:22:48,440 Speaker 1: learned that sometimes it's unfair, but some of us are 385 00:22:48,560 --> 00:22:53,280 Speaker 1: the cautionary tale sometimes in situations you know, just as 386 00:22:53,359 --> 00:22:55,360 Speaker 1: much as some of us are going to be the 387 00:22:55,480 --> 00:22:59,280 Speaker 1: example and the inspirational you know, point for other people 388 00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:02,240 Speaker 1: to look at. So when I stop looking at life 389 00:23:02,359 --> 00:23:05,200 Speaker 1: as needing to be fair or needing to have justice 390 00:23:05,359 --> 00:23:08,560 Speaker 1: for perceived harms that have been done to me or 391 00:23:08,720 --> 00:23:11,600 Speaker 1: challenges that I'm facing, it freed me up so much. 392 00:23:12,040 --> 00:23:15,879 Speaker 1: And I can honestly tell you right now, like fully 393 00:23:15,960 --> 00:23:17,840 Speaker 1: with all of my soul, I need you to know 394 00:23:18,440 --> 00:23:22,399 Speaker 1: my life. Even though I am doing the work and 395 00:23:22,440 --> 00:23:26,560 Speaker 1: I'm on my journey, my life is not easy. I 396 00:23:26,720 --> 00:23:31,399 Speaker 1: have a lot going on um and I feel like 397 00:23:31,480 --> 00:23:34,520 Speaker 1: every time I get over one one thing, you know, 398 00:23:34,720 --> 00:23:37,399 Speaker 1: some new challenge comes that I have to face. But 399 00:23:37,520 --> 00:23:42,040 Speaker 1: something I am committed to is my personal growth and 400 00:23:43,280 --> 00:23:47,640 Speaker 1: not adding on to my suffering. If I'm already very 401 00:23:47,680 --> 00:23:51,640 Speaker 1: clear that life is, by nature of how it's designed, 402 00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:55,320 Speaker 1: going to continuously present me with challenges, I do as 403 00:23:55,400 --> 00:23:58,720 Speaker 1: much as I can to limit my own self imposed 404 00:23:58,800 --> 00:24:01,960 Speaker 1: challenges and my own and self imposed suffering. So I 405 00:24:02,000 --> 00:24:06,399 Speaker 1: work really hard on having peace, on really understanding and 406 00:24:06,480 --> 00:24:08,840 Speaker 1: knowing who I am, what I stand for, what I 407 00:24:08,880 --> 00:24:12,719 Speaker 1: believe in, how I act, you know, making good choices, 408 00:24:13,119 --> 00:24:17,440 Speaker 1: being kind, being compassionate. I give that so much weight 409 00:24:17,480 --> 00:24:20,680 Speaker 1: in my life because that's the way that I honor myself. 410 00:24:20,760 --> 00:24:22,600 Speaker 1: And that's that's the way that I build up a 411 00:24:22,640 --> 00:24:27,200 Speaker 1: tolerance for all the other journeys and adventures you're gonna 412 00:24:27,280 --> 00:24:31,040 Speaker 1: be on through this winding, twisty road while we're here 413 00:24:31,080 --> 00:24:34,560 Speaker 1: on earth. UM. So that's what that's what allows me 414 00:24:34,600 --> 00:24:38,520 Speaker 1: to stay positive even when difficult things are happening to me. 415 00:24:39,080 --> 00:24:43,679 Speaker 1: I know who I am, you know, um, and you 416 00:24:43,720 --> 00:24:49,440 Speaker 1: would be really, really really hard pressed to be able 417 00:24:49,520 --> 00:24:52,640 Speaker 1: to get me out of my character. You don't, no 418 00:24:52,680 --> 00:24:55,080 Speaker 1: matter who you are, no matter what you try to do, 419 00:24:55,160 --> 00:24:58,639 Speaker 1: no matter what harm is heading my way, I know 420 00:24:58,800 --> 00:25:04,520 Speaker 1: ultimately everything is survivable and I'm protected, and I really, 421 00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:07,960 Speaker 1: even with this challenge, is love my life, and I 422 00:25:08,040 --> 00:25:12,840 Speaker 1: love who I have fought to become, who I've worked 423 00:25:12,960 --> 00:25:15,919 Speaker 1: really hard to be. So that's where I drawed my 424 00:25:15,960 --> 00:25:19,080 Speaker 1: positivity from. I draw my positivity from the fact that 425 00:25:20,320 --> 00:25:24,760 Speaker 1: I've learned that pretty much everything is survivable. I've also 426 00:25:24,880 --> 00:25:26,960 Speaker 1: learned how to tap into my own piece. I don't 427 00:25:27,000 --> 00:25:31,159 Speaker 1: require you know that, I don't require the validation of 428 00:25:31,160 --> 00:25:36,560 Speaker 1: other people. I don't require life to be fair or 429 00:25:36,680 --> 00:25:39,480 Speaker 1: for it to make sense for me to enjoy it. 430 00:25:40,080 --> 00:25:44,160 Speaker 1: If that makes sense. Okay, We've got a few more. 431 00:25:45,560 --> 00:25:50,320 Speaker 1: This one comes from love mss T Yates. I think 432 00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:52,400 Speaker 1: I said that right. How do you manage your work 433 00:25:52,440 --> 00:25:58,040 Speaker 1: life and personal life so effortlessly? Well, first of all, 434 00:25:58,080 --> 00:26:03,000 Speaker 1: it's not effortlessly, um, you know, and and I know 435 00:26:03,080 --> 00:26:04,840 Speaker 1: I say this all this time. You guys might get 436 00:26:04,840 --> 00:26:07,760 Speaker 1: sick of hearing this from me. But I just give 437 00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:10,560 Speaker 1: life the best that I am capable of in each moment, 438 00:26:11,119 --> 00:26:13,679 Speaker 1: which is to say that not every moment is going 439 00:26:13,760 --> 00:26:18,760 Speaker 1: to be the same. And I'm not chasing perfection. I 440 00:26:18,880 --> 00:26:22,399 Speaker 1: don't need an idea of perfection to be happy or 441 00:26:22,440 --> 00:26:25,200 Speaker 1: to get the job done. So that's what has really 442 00:26:25,240 --> 00:26:27,399 Speaker 1: aided me, especially in the last couple of years, of 443 00:26:27,440 --> 00:26:30,560 Speaker 1: my growth and of my life, so my work life, 444 00:26:30,600 --> 00:26:34,600 Speaker 1: my personal life. Every day I just do the best 445 00:26:34,720 --> 00:26:38,520 Speaker 1: that I can. Some days that means I am killing 446 00:26:38,600 --> 00:26:42,439 Speaker 1: it professionally. I'm knocking out a bunch of stuff, and 447 00:26:42,480 --> 00:26:44,600 Speaker 1: I'm making all the plans and I'm getting all the 448 00:26:44,680 --> 00:26:48,000 Speaker 1: gigs and opportunities. Um. But then that also means that 449 00:26:48,040 --> 00:26:49,959 Speaker 1: I'm going to have less time for my family, and 450 00:26:50,000 --> 00:26:52,560 Speaker 1: it means that I'm probably going to be pretty conflicted, 451 00:26:52,680 --> 00:26:57,080 Speaker 1: missing you know, certain moments throughout the day with my 452 00:26:57,200 --> 00:27:00,639 Speaker 1: beautiful baby boy, quest or not get in enough you know, 453 00:27:00,720 --> 00:27:03,320 Speaker 1: quality time with my partner, or not being able to 454 00:27:03,400 --> 00:27:06,399 Speaker 1: be the rock star family member to other people or 455 00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:09,119 Speaker 1: my friends. Right, But it's given a take. I can't 456 00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:11,879 Speaker 1: be all things to everybody, So I just try to 457 00:27:11,920 --> 00:27:14,560 Speaker 1: be the most that I can be to me and 458 00:27:14,600 --> 00:27:18,240 Speaker 1: for me, and that's pretty much it. You know, there's 459 00:27:18,240 --> 00:27:21,640 Speaker 1: gonna be people that say that she's you know, she's 460 00:27:21,680 --> 00:27:23,560 Speaker 1: not there for me enough, and there's some people that 461 00:27:23,600 --> 00:27:26,240 Speaker 1: will say she's there for me every chance you know 462 00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:30,159 Speaker 1: she has, and they're both probably right. All I can 463 00:27:30,200 --> 00:27:33,119 Speaker 1: say is that I just do my best and I 464 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:37,919 Speaker 1: try not to get too clouded by other people's desires 465 00:27:37,960 --> 00:27:42,040 Speaker 1: of me, perceptions of me, or projections on me. I 466 00:27:42,240 --> 00:27:45,960 Speaker 1: just try to be the most I can be for me. 467 00:27:46,400 --> 00:27:49,919 Speaker 1: Sometimes I succeed. Sometimes I failed, but I try again. 468 00:27:51,359 --> 00:27:55,160 Speaker 1: All right, let's see tell us about your experience at 469 00:27:55,280 --> 00:28:00,119 Speaker 1: Deepoc Choper's retreat. That is from Tree Nelly. I of 470 00:28:00,240 --> 00:28:03,080 Speaker 1: that I got this question. I think I'm actually gonna 471 00:28:03,080 --> 00:28:06,360 Speaker 1: try to put up on my website carmoblast dot com 472 00:28:06,480 --> 00:28:09,320 Speaker 1: like a little guide for people and how to pick 473 00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:13,200 Speaker 1: the right retreat for you. Retreat culture has become really 474 00:28:13,520 --> 00:28:16,840 Speaker 1: really big in the communities people of color right now. 475 00:28:17,240 --> 00:28:21,000 Speaker 1: Thank god. I'm so happy they have. But retreating is 476 00:28:21,080 --> 00:28:25,080 Speaker 1: something that I mean has been done for I don't know, 477 00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:27,960 Speaker 1: the last hundred years, maybe more. It's been done for 478 00:28:28,000 --> 00:28:32,080 Speaker 1: a long time and other communities and tapping into Deepak 479 00:28:32,119 --> 00:28:35,640 Speaker 1: Chopper's retreat is something that absolutely changed my life. UM. 480 00:28:35,680 --> 00:28:38,000 Speaker 1: If anyone's interested in going by the way, you can 481 00:28:38,000 --> 00:28:40,560 Speaker 1: go on Chopra Center dot com. They offer a bunch 482 00:28:40,600 --> 00:28:43,959 Speaker 1: of different types of retreats throughout the year. Probably in 483 00:28:44,000 --> 00:28:51,479 Speaker 1: the last maybe eight nine years, I've gone on probably 484 00:28:51,480 --> 00:28:56,479 Speaker 1: going on eight with Deepak. And I also did his 485 00:28:56,560 --> 00:29:00,440 Speaker 1: teacher's training. That's where I got certified to teach mortal 486 00:29:00,480 --> 00:29:05,520 Speaker 1: Sound meditation, which is his personal blend of meditation. UM. 487 00:29:05,600 --> 00:29:07,840 Speaker 1: And that was like I studied for about a year 488 00:29:07,920 --> 00:29:10,640 Speaker 1: for that, and then we did a week long intensive 489 00:29:11,120 --> 00:29:16,360 Speaker 1: of learning. But my my experience there was absolutely life changing. 490 00:29:16,480 --> 00:29:19,400 Speaker 1: The very first retreat that I have ever done was 491 00:29:19,480 --> 00:29:22,640 Speaker 1: called Perfect Health and it's offered by the Chopper Center. 492 00:29:22,720 --> 00:29:26,560 Speaker 1: It's a ten day Pancha Karma retreat. It's all about 493 00:29:26,560 --> 00:29:33,560 Speaker 1: finding Yourudosha Kappa pita vada. Yeah, and it um. It's 494 00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:36,200 Speaker 1: all about like really resetting your body, mind and soul. 495 00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:39,120 Speaker 1: Everything that you eat is I your Vedic. You do 496 00:29:39,200 --> 00:29:41,200 Speaker 1: a lot of spa treatments that are I your Vedic, 497 00:29:41,520 --> 00:29:44,840 Speaker 1: and learned how to meditate there. It was It changed 498 00:29:44,880 --> 00:29:47,280 Speaker 1: my whole life. For ten days, I didn't use my phone, 499 00:29:47,640 --> 00:29:51,040 Speaker 1: I didn't check email, I didn't talk to anybody that 500 00:29:51,080 --> 00:29:53,959 Speaker 1: wasn't part of the program. I've also done silent programs 501 00:29:54,360 --> 00:29:58,120 Speaker 1: where you live and meditate in silence for several days. 502 00:29:58,240 --> 00:30:01,040 Speaker 1: I've done ret reachs that are, you know, in the 503 00:30:01,080 --> 00:30:04,920 Speaker 1: middle of the mountains of Sedona, out of nowhere. I'm 504 00:30:05,000 --> 00:30:08,680 Speaker 1: really really into that stuff, and I think that it's 505 00:30:08,720 --> 00:30:10,760 Speaker 1: super important that if you're looking to be a part 506 00:30:10,760 --> 00:30:12,840 Speaker 1: of a of a retreat, you do a lot of 507 00:30:12,880 --> 00:30:18,240 Speaker 1: research because now especially that mindfulness self care retreating has 508 00:30:18,320 --> 00:30:24,520 Speaker 1: become so on trend and so popular. You could just 509 00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:28,440 Speaker 1: be involved in someone else's cash grab, but not necessarily 510 00:30:28,480 --> 00:30:33,320 Speaker 1: getting the soul nourishment that you need or deserve. So 511 00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:37,040 Speaker 1: do do a lot of investigation in this um. There's 512 00:30:37,080 --> 00:30:40,680 Speaker 1: a lot of programs out there. There's the Omega Institute 513 00:30:40,720 --> 00:30:43,480 Speaker 1: and Upstate New York they do a lot of incredible, 514 00:30:43,560 --> 00:30:47,520 Speaker 1: beautiful programs. There's obviously the Chopper Center, which right now 515 00:30:47,600 --> 00:30:51,600 Speaker 1: is based in Carlsbad at La Costa Resort Um. There's 516 00:30:51,680 --> 00:30:55,719 Speaker 1: many there's like a couple in Utah once in other countries, 517 00:30:55,920 --> 00:31:00,320 Speaker 1: Costa Rica, Bali, lots of different ones. And you know, 518 00:31:00,400 --> 00:31:02,760 Speaker 1: some of the best ones, to be honest, are not 519 00:31:02,800 --> 00:31:06,000 Speaker 1: going to have the best photos that they're not going 520 00:31:06,080 --> 00:31:08,239 Speaker 1: to have the most up to date website, they're not 521 00:31:08,280 --> 00:31:11,320 Speaker 1: going to have, you know, the great marketing campaign because 522 00:31:11,320 --> 00:31:14,120 Speaker 1: they're really just committed to doing the work. So they're 523 00:31:14,160 --> 00:31:17,880 Speaker 1: bare bones about how they present themselves and believe that 524 00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:20,600 Speaker 1: you know, you'll find them when you're ready. So ask 525 00:31:20,640 --> 00:31:24,880 Speaker 1: a lot of questions, look look up a lot of things, um, 526 00:31:24,920 --> 00:31:27,920 Speaker 1: and don't just go with whatever looks shiny or very 527 00:31:27,960 --> 00:31:31,640 Speaker 1: well presented. Really go with what is the day to 528 00:31:31,720 --> 00:31:34,440 Speaker 1: day curriculum? What are we there to learn? And do 529 00:31:34,960 --> 00:31:38,120 Speaker 1: you know the first one that I did every single day. 530 00:31:38,320 --> 00:31:41,640 Speaker 1: We were learning how to meditate, we were in lectures, 531 00:31:42,200 --> 00:31:47,840 Speaker 1: we were doing things that were very laid out to 532 00:31:49,560 --> 00:31:53,960 Speaker 1: invoke certain things in us. So call the numbers, ask 533 00:31:54,000 --> 00:31:57,160 Speaker 1: the questions. Don't just pay the money without knowing what 534 00:31:57,200 --> 00:31:59,760 Speaker 1: you're getting into, because if you're really committed to investing 535 00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:02,920 Speaker 1: your in yourself in this way, really important that you 536 00:32:02,960 --> 00:32:08,040 Speaker 1: maximize that, especially in these very transformational spaces. If you 537 00:32:08,120 --> 00:32:11,760 Speaker 1: have the wrong experience, it could really hinder your growth 538 00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:15,240 Speaker 1: and really just turn you away from from doing some 539 00:32:15,320 --> 00:32:18,080 Speaker 1: of this self work. But I highly recommend the Chopper 540 00:32:18,160 --> 00:32:23,080 Speaker 1: Center to be one with you. It is pricey um. 541 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:25,840 Speaker 1: Some of them are more expensive than others. The amount 542 00:32:25,840 --> 00:32:28,479 Speaker 1: of money does not dictate what the experience is going 543 00:32:28,480 --> 00:32:32,760 Speaker 1: to be, though, So do your work, do your research. Okay, 544 00:32:32,880 --> 00:32:39,959 Speaker 1: this is the last question. Sean to star pragmatic teachings 545 00:32:40,040 --> 00:32:43,880 Speaker 1: for inner joy. You always glow. That's my daily goal. 546 00:32:43,960 --> 00:32:48,280 Speaker 1: But hard to attain Number one. Thank you, Number two. 547 00:32:48,600 --> 00:32:52,640 Speaker 1: I hear you, girl, It's hard for all of us. 548 00:32:52,960 --> 00:32:57,840 Speaker 1: It truly is. Nothing is this perceived version of effortless. 549 00:32:58,960 --> 00:33:00,520 Speaker 1: You know, you just get to a point where you 550 00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,920 Speaker 1: get in a true flow with yourself. And it's not 551 00:33:03,000 --> 00:33:06,120 Speaker 1: that it's effortless, because you truly are. You know, I'm 552 00:33:06,160 --> 00:33:10,680 Speaker 1: not rocked or rattled really by much, but it's because 553 00:33:10,680 --> 00:33:13,360 Speaker 1: I've done so much work to get to that point 554 00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:17,640 Speaker 1: and I continue to do the daily investment of you know, 555 00:33:18,640 --> 00:33:22,160 Speaker 1: the spiritual practices and the personal development. That's the biggest part. 556 00:33:22,240 --> 00:33:25,600 Speaker 1: You can't start it and then think, Okay, I've reached 557 00:33:25,960 --> 00:33:28,320 Speaker 1: I've learned all there is to learn, and then stop 558 00:33:28,360 --> 00:33:31,720 Speaker 1: it because you'll forget, you'll lose it. You have to 559 00:33:32,160 --> 00:33:34,800 Speaker 1: be committed to making this a part of your everyday life. 560 00:33:35,160 --> 00:33:39,040 Speaker 1: But so teach these techniques, excuse me, and teachings for 561 00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:42,320 Speaker 1: inner joy this year, I'm super committed to having more 562 00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:45,360 Speaker 1: joy in my life. That has been an intention I 563 00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:47,680 Speaker 1: said at the top of the year. And then also 564 00:33:47,760 --> 00:33:51,720 Speaker 1: on my birthday, I reset intentions and I redo like 565 00:33:51,760 --> 00:33:54,840 Speaker 1: all of my affirmations and my you know, tweaking of 566 00:33:54,880 --> 00:33:57,440 Speaker 1: my practices because I kind of look at my birthday 567 00:33:57,440 --> 00:33:59,920 Speaker 1: as my personal new year. So I give it that 568 00:34:00,120 --> 00:34:03,200 Speaker 1: same intention um and attention that you would for the 569 00:34:03,200 --> 00:34:09,440 Speaker 1: new year. But techniques for inner joy. Look for moments 570 00:34:09,440 --> 00:34:12,200 Speaker 1: of tiny joy and your every day. That has been 571 00:34:12,320 --> 00:34:16,840 Speaker 1: revolutionary for me right now, just finding all of the 572 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:20,239 Speaker 1: beauty and all of the little things, you know, I 573 00:34:20,280 --> 00:34:23,480 Speaker 1: find that, Like there are moments that I'm outside playing 574 00:34:23,520 --> 00:34:25,799 Speaker 1: with my kid and the breeze hits my face in 575 00:34:25,840 --> 00:34:30,160 Speaker 1: a certain way and I'm like, wow, thank you God. 576 00:34:30,960 --> 00:34:34,120 Speaker 1: You know, nothing is ever going to be perfect a 577 00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:36,440 Speaker 1: hundred percent at a time. But when we can find 578 00:34:36,640 --> 00:34:40,959 Speaker 1: gratitude in those tiny, tiny, little moments, when we can 579 00:34:41,000 --> 00:34:47,160 Speaker 1: celebrate those small kindnesses and small winds just as much 580 00:34:47,200 --> 00:34:52,799 Speaker 1: as we do the huge you know, shows and acts 581 00:34:53,320 --> 00:34:57,600 Speaker 1: and gift givings and opportunities, you know, it changes everything. 582 00:34:57,760 --> 00:35:01,600 Speaker 1: It's changed everything for me. I will celebrate the tiny 583 00:35:01,719 --> 00:35:05,000 Speaker 1: kindness that I experienced in a day as much as 584 00:35:05,120 --> 00:35:09,960 Speaker 1: I will celebrate the amazing opportunity that came with a 585 00:35:09,960 --> 00:35:13,720 Speaker 1: fat check that I get from a company or or something. 586 00:35:13,880 --> 00:35:17,760 Speaker 1: You know. I want to share this story. I should 587 00:35:17,760 --> 00:35:19,640 Speaker 1: I share it. Yeah, I'm gonna share it. I want to. 588 00:35:19,680 --> 00:35:21,799 Speaker 1: I want to tell this as part of a larger story, 589 00:35:21,840 --> 00:35:24,480 Speaker 1: so I'll probably revisit it in a future episode. But 590 00:35:24,560 --> 00:35:27,239 Speaker 1: I was having this, this experience in my life where 591 00:35:27,280 --> 00:35:31,680 Speaker 1: I was deeply depressed and I was barely barely holding 592 00:35:31,680 --> 00:35:35,440 Speaker 1: it together. And I went to have lunch with a girlfriend. 593 00:35:35,640 --> 00:35:37,680 Speaker 1: And you know when you're going through something in life, 594 00:35:37,880 --> 00:35:40,040 Speaker 1: or like if you've been in a place where you 595 00:35:40,120 --> 00:35:43,760 Speaker 1: are crying a lot, like you're experiencing some real depth 596 00:35:43,800 --> 00:35:46,799 Speaker 1: of pain and you're you're crying and when you're around 597 00:35:46,840 --> 00:35:49,160 Speaker 1: other people, you're just trying to hold it together. Well, 598 00:35:49,200 --> 00:35:52,640 Speaker 1: I remember this is probably ten years ago. I was 599 00:35:52,680 --> 00:35:56,640 Speaker 1: at the Grove and I was having lunch with a 600 00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:59,759 Speaker 1: girlfriend and at the end of lunch, I felt the 601 00:36:00,480 --> 00:36:05,880 Speaker 1: coming into my throat and I remember thinking to myself, Okay, 602 00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:07,920 Speaker 1: you have five minutes to get out of here before 603 00:36:07,920 --> 00:36:10,920 Speaker 1: you fall apart. You can only hold it together and 604 00:36:11,040 --> 00:36:14,680 Speaker 1: keep your face dry for five minutes or you're gonna 605 00:36:14,760 --> 00:36:19,040 Speaker 1: lose it. And so I was trying to get out 606 00:36:19,040 --> 00:36:20,239 Speaker 1: of there. I was like, hey girl, I gotta go 607 00:36:20,600 --> 00:36:22,600 Speaker 1: pay the check. She was like, oh, hang on, I 608 00:36:22,640 --> 00:36:24,920 Speaker 1: need to go to the bathroom. So I'm sitting by 609 00:36:24,960 --> 00:36:27,200 Speaker 1: the door and I'm tapping my foot really hard. I'm 610 00:36:27,239 --> 00:36:30,200 Speaker 1: just trying to distract myself. I feel the water, the 611 00:36:30,320 --> 00:36:34,399 Speaker 1: warm water, filling in my eyes and this waitress saw me, 612 00:36:35,000 --> 00:36:37,440 Speaker 1: and she walked over to me, and she bent down 613 00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:41,479 Speaker 1: and she just grabbed my hand and she I could 614 00:36:41,480 --> 00:36:43,920 Speaker 1: cry right now talking about it. She grabbed my hand 615 00:36:44,280 --> 00:36:49,080 Speaker 1: and she put this tiny, cheap, hard candy, like one 616 00:36:49,120 --> 00:36:51,000 Speaker 1: of those that Grandma is always having the bottom of 617 00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:53,200 Speaker 1: the purse. She put in the center of my hand, 618 00:36:53,280 --> 00:36:56,480 Speaker 1: closed my fingers over it, clutched my hand and gave 619 00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:58,680 Speaker 1: it a squeeze, and just looked me in the eye 620 00:36:59,400 --> 00:37:02,720 Speaker 1: and smile and weaked, and then got up and walked away. 621 00:37:03,120 --> 00:37:09,799 Speaker 1: Never saw her again. But there was something about that humanity, 622 00:37:09,840 --> 00:37:15,200 Speaker 1: that touch, that recognizing that this other human that I 623 00:37:15,280 --> 00:37:19,440 Speaker 1: don't know is having a hard time and doing something 624 00:37:19,640 --> 00:37:23,200 Speaker 1: small to make me smile. So that didn't change the 625 00:37:23,239 --> 00:37:25,520 Speaker 1: problems that I was going through, right, but it did 626 00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:30,960 Speaker 1: reinforce my understanding and belief that I am cared for 627 00:37:31,040 --> 00:37:33,640 Speaker 1: by the world, by the universe, no matter what's happening 628 00:37:33,680 --> 00:37:37,520 Speaker 1: in my life. And so ever since then, especially now, 629 00:37:37,640 --> 00:37:41,840 Speaker 1: I just love looking for tiny joys. I love photographing flowers. 630 00:37:42,000 --> 00:37:44,760 Speaker 1: If you follow me on Instagram and you see my stories, 631 00:37:45,360 --> 00:37:50,360 Speaker 1: I stay with a flower pick like every day. Um, 632 00:37:50,400 --> 00:37:52,480 Speaker 1: you know, I like I like taking time for myself. 633 00:37:52,520 --> 00:37:54,960 Speaker 1: I take my I take myself to lunch sometimes, or 634 00:37:55,000 --> 00:37:58,520 Speaker 1: I make time to just do something that feels serving 635 00:37:58,600 --> 00:38:01,040 Speaker 1: for me, even if the only chance I get is 636 00:38:01,080 --> 00:38:05,200 Speaker 1: to walk outside, kick my shoes off, move my toes 637 00:38:05,239 --> 00:38:08,240 Speaker 1: around in the grass, and feel connected to the earth. 638 00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:12,319 Speaker 1: To me, that brings joy. So joy doesn't always have 639 00:38:12,360 --> 00:38:15,960 Speaker 1: to come in the guise of the shopping trip or 640 00:38:16,000 --> 00:38:20,560 Speaker 1: even the face sheet mask, or the spa day or 641 00:38:20,600 --> 00:38:26,799 Speaker 1: any grand gesture like sometimes it is just finding the 642 00:38:26,800 --> 00:38:31,040 Speaker 1: the profound beauty and the little moments in nature. So 643 00:38:31,080 --> 00:38:33,080 Speaker 1: whatever whatever that is for you, I think that that's 644 00:38:33,120 --> 00:38:35,880 Speaker 1: a great technique for finding inner joy. Make it a 645 00:38:35,920 --> 00:38:41,520 Speaker 1: point every day to really feel something, to really smile 646 00:38:41,880 --> 00:38:45,520 Speaker 1: at something, even if you have to force yourself through it. 647 00:38:45,640 --> 00:38:48,640 Speaker 1: Make a playlist, you know, with nothing but songs that 648 00:38:48,880 --> 00:38:52,120 Speaker 1: bring a smile to your face, that, as Marie Condo would, day, 649 00:38:52,200 --> 00:38:57,160 Speaker 1: sparks joy. You know, give yourself that and whatever little 650 00:38:57,200 --> 00:39:00,480 Speaker 1: way that you can. All Right, that's pretty much, um, 651 00:39:00,520 --> 00:39:03,360 Speaker 1: all the questions that I will go through today. But 652 00:39:03,480 --> 00:39:05,000 Speaker 1: I got a lot, and I think I'm gonna do 653 00:39:05,040 --> 00:39:08,279 Speaker 1: this more often because that felt really good. Okay, So 654 00:39:08,400 --> 00:39:11,120 Speaker 1: for time's sake, I think I'm gonna stop right here 655 00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:15,880 Speaker 1: for now a few housekeeping items. Thank you so much 656 00:39:16,280 --> 00:39:18,600 Speaker 1: for all of the five star ratings and reviews that 657 00:39:18,640 --> 00:39:21,520 Speaker 1: you guys have left. I deeply appreciate the fact that 658 00:39:21,719 --> 00:39:24,120 Speaker 1: so many of y'all are giving me time out of 659 00:39:24,160 --> 00:39:26,799 Speaker 1: your day to not just listen, but to go the 660 00:39:26,800 --> 00:39:31,160 Speaker 1: extra mile of subscribing, rating, and writing a review. Usually 661 00:39:31,200 --> 00:39:33,680 Speaker 1: we only take time in our life to report bad 662 00:39:33,719 --> 00:39:38,080 Speaker 1: customer service, keep playing, or comment about a bad experience 663 00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:42,439 Speaker 1: on Yelp or in person um. Personally, I've really been 664 00:39:42,440 --> 00:39:46,040 Speaker 1: trying to make the time to give praise and celebration 665 00:39:46,320 --> 00:39:50,720 Speaker 1: of good experiences. That's same energy. So I'm really grateful 666 00:39:50,760 --> 00:39:54,000 Speaker 1: that y'all are doing the same for me. Really appreciate it. 667 00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:57,000 Speaker 1: Oh and I have some events coming up soon if 668 00:39:57,000 --> 00:39:59,600 Speaker 1: you want to connect in person. One's going to be 669 00:39:59,640 --> 00:40:03,239 Speaker 1: in a a tour in New York and another is 670 00:40:03,239 --> 00:40:05,200 Speaker 1: going to be a digital offering that will be an 671 00:40:05,280 --> 00:40:09,400 Speaker 1: out soon. So I'm thinking sometime in the near future, 672 00:40:10,160 --> 00:40:12,839 Speaker 1: I'm going to have some more access for you guys 673 00:40:12,880 --> 00:40:14,799 Speaker 1: to this stuff, so you can always check out the 674 00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:19,720 Speaker 1: events tab on Karma Bliss dot com for more info. 675 00:40:20,160 --> 00:40:22,839 Speaker 1: We're also having a pretty good sale on crystals right 676 00:40:22,840 --> 00:40:25,080 Speaker 1: now if you want to check those out. Oh, which 677 00:40:25,080 --> 00:40:27,359 Speaker 1: reminds me actually before I get out of here. So 678 00:40:27,440 --> 00:40:29,400 Speaker 1: a lot of the questions that I got to that 679 00:40:29,440 --> 00:40:31,600 Speaker 1: I didn't get a chance to get to just yet. 680 00:40:32,560 --> 00:40:37,040 Speaker 1: We're like crystal questions. Like specifically, a lot of people 681 00:40:37,160 --> 00:40:40,280 Speaker 1: asked me, how did you start on your crystal journey? 682 00:40:40,440 --> 00:40:42,800 Speaker 1: What are the attributes of this crystal or that crystal? 683 00:40:42,960 --> 00:40:45,239 Speaker 1: How do you use sage? I got a lot of 684 00:40:45,239 --> 00:40:49,000 Speaker 1: really specific questions like that. Now I have to tell you, guys, 685 00:40:49,239 --> 00:40:54,200 Speaker 1: I have a book that answers all of that and more. 686 00:40:54,239 --> 00:40:57,000 Speaker 1: Like the whole first chapter of the book is dedicated 687 00:40:57,000 --> 00:41:00,400 Speaker 1: to me kind of talking about how I got into stills, 688 00:41:00,480 --> 00:41:03,000 Speaker 1: how I use them. Um, I go over a lot 689 00:41:03,080 --> 00:41:08,160 Speaker 1: of like modalities of healing and and practices like staging, 690 00:41:08,760 --> 00:41:11,160 Speaker 1: and I give you the attributes if I think around 691 00:41:11,200 --> 00:41:13,759 Speaker 1: fifty four different crystals and how to use them for 692 00:41:13,800 --> 00:41:16,600 Speaker 1: different things in your life. So to save time for 693 00:41:16,680 --> 00:41:18,920 Speaker 1: me and keep me from repeating some stuff, I do 694 00:41:19,000 --> 00:41:22,320 Speaker 1: want to direct you guys to my book. It's called 695 00:41:22,400 --> 00:41:25,799 Speaker 1: Crystal Bliss. It's available in all bookstores or you can 696 00:41:25,840 --> 00:41:29,200 Speaker 1: get it to you quick fast on Amazon Prime. So 697 00:41:29,280 --> 00:41:31,640 Speaker 1: if you go on Karma Bliss dot com, um, there's 698 00:41:31,680 --> 00:41:33,960 Speaker 1: links to the book as well, but that book answers 699 00:41:34,000 --> 00:41:36,120 Speaker 1: all of those questions. Even if you go to the 700 00:41:36,239 --> 00:41:40,840 Speaker 1: bio of my personal website, which is Debbie Brown dot com, 701 00:41:40,880 --> 00:41:44,439 Speaker 1: You'll have access to tons of information about me and 702 00:41:44,719 --> 00:41:46,960 Speaker 1: kind of how I found myself where I am at 703 00:41:46,960 --> 00:41:50,040 Speaker 1: this moment in time in the world. So check that out. 704 00:41:50,080 --> 00:41:53,120 Speaker 1: Another quick question, I just looked at my notebook and 705 00:41:53,200 --> 00:41:56,680 Speaker 1: forgot I wrote this down. Someone asked me, are your 706 00:41:56,719 --> 00:42:02,160 Speaker 1: eyebrows micro bladed? Yes? Girl, And I know you asked 707 00:42:02,200 --> 00:42:04,359 Speaker 1: me that because when I put up the prompt on 708 00:42:04,440 --> 00:42:07,799 Speaker 1: my I G story, I had just got them retouched 709 00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:11,120 Speaker 1: that morning, so my eyebrows were extra fleaky. But yeah, 710 00:42:11,160 --> 00:42:14,360 Speaker 1: so I get my eyebrows micro bladed. My girl, Maggie 711 00:42:14,520 --> 00:42:18,680 Speaker 1: of Impressive Faces in Houston is the first person to 712 00:42:18,760 --> 00:42:22,359 Speaker 1: do micro blading on me. This is maybe four years ago, 713 00:42:22,760 --> 00:42:24,960 Speaker 1: and now that I'm back in l A, I have. 714 00:42:25,320 --> 00:42:28,800 Speaker 1: I used Katie Brows, which is in Studio City, so 715 00:42:29,280 --> 00:42:32,400 Speaker 1: it's it can be pretty pricey, but I recommend that 716 00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:35,360 Speaker 1: if you're interested in getting your your eyebrows micro bladed, 717 00:42:35,640 --> 00:42:37,960 Speaker 1: do a lot of research and do not pay the 718 00:42:38,080 --> 00:42:42,000 Speaker 1: cheap price because a lot of people are taking other 719 00:42:42,680 --> 00:42:46,719 Speaker 1: people's photographs of their work and putting it on their 720 00:42:46,800 --> 00:42:50,640 Speaker 1: Instagram page and people are signing up for them and 721 00:42:50,760 --> 00:42:53,160 Speaker 1: because the price is cheaper. But that's not their work, 722 00:42:53,320 --> 00:42:58,640 Speaker 1: you know, this is your face, your face getting tattooed, 723 00:42:59,520 --> 00:43:04,040 Speaker 1: So you can never do too much research for something 724 00:43:04,120 --> 00:43:07,160 Speaker 1: like that. Um, but yes, I love having my eyebrows 725 00:43:07,160 --> 00:43:09,200 Speaker 1: micro bladed. I also get my lashes done and that's 726 00:43:09,239 --> 00:43:11,279 Speaker 1: pretty much it. I don't really wear makeup other than 727 00:43:11,320 --> 00:43:15,240 Speaker 1: that really, for no other reason than I'm very lazy, 728 00:43:15,520 --> 00:43:18,439 Speaker 1: and the limited time that I do have free time, 729 00:43:18,480 --> 00:43:20,160 Speaker 1: I just kind of want to use for other things. 730 00:43:20,719 --> 00:43:23,000 Speaker 1: So I work really really hard on my skincare. I 731 00:43:23,080 --> 00:43:26,080 Speaker 1: use a lot of Eminence products. I get my eyebrows 732 00:43:26,160 --> 00:43:29,000 Speaker 1: micro related once a year, and I do lashes every 733 00:43:29,040 --> 00:43:31,600 Speaker 1: two weeks. And for me, that is my recipe to 734 00:43:31,719 --> 00:43:34,759 Speaker 1: be in my best self while not being stressed doing 735 00:43:34,800 --> 00:43:37,120 Speaker 1: it in the process. But those are definitely my must have. 736 00:43:37,840 --> 00:43:41,000 Speaker 1: So yeah, I hope then answered that question. Um so yeah. 737 00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:43,759 Speaker 1: Karmogoos dot com for more info on the events that 738 00:43:43,800 --> 00:43:45,759 Speaker 1: I have coming up. You can also sign up for 739 00:43:45,880 --> 00:43:50,080 Speaker 1: my newsletter there too. My newsletter goes out once a week, 740 00:43:50,160 --> 00:43:52,600 Speaker 1: usually on Friday's. Okay, that's it. That's all I got. 741 00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:57,960 Speaker 1: I love y'all, stay open, treat yourself well. 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