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Speaker 1: Maybe I'm sure I'm wrong, But I am the king

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Speaker 2: No, not really.

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Speaker 1: So dude says that you say it, that's then we're good. Yeah. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: It's terrible. It's terrible. You should no, no, no, no no.

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Speaker 1: Even I get way more honey from being a a

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Speaker 6: It's true that.

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Speaker 8: Women are idiots like they guys like they like a guy.

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Speaker 6: To be mean to them. You know what I'm saying.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, I see the good guys out there getting treated

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Speaker 8: them for some reason. I don't, I don't.

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Speaker 2: You're committed, you should ye.

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Speaker 3: Of everything.

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Speaker 8: When I used to play Crazy Taxi, this would go

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Speaker 1: All right? This is abomination. This is disrespectful, isoki.

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Speaker 5: We are going to West Asia to Yemen. We heard

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Speaker 3: Okay, that's ynh y. Thank you, Jason Ratt. Welcome.

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Speaker 1: This is fantastic. All right, she'll be sholling thousand about

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Speaker 1: next Fred show a fresh show. The Honorable Judge Kiky's here. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 8: f bombs while talking with his friends on the video game.

445
00:19:53,080 --> 00:19:57,400
Speaker 8: So I confronted him and took away his video game. Well,

446
00:19:57,840 --> 00:19:59,800
Speaker 8: he did not like that, so he used his s

447
00:20:00,480 --> 00:20:03,640
Speaker 8: to text his mother. I'm not sure what he told her,

448
00:20:03,680 --> 00:20:06,680
Speaker 8: but this lady showed up at our house literally fifteen

449
00:20:06,680 --> 00:20:09,240
Speaker 8: minutes after I took his game away and told me

450
00:20:09,440 --> 00:20:11,639
Speaker 8: she was picking her son up because I'm not allowed

451
00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:14,639
Speaker 8: to put my hands on him. I was so confused

452
00:20:14,800 --> 00:20:17,440
Speaker 8: because I never touched this child, but he clearly told

453
00:20:17,480 --> 00:20:19,840
Speaker 8: his mother that, and now it's his word against mine.

454
00:20:20,240 --> 00:20:22,320
Speaker 8: So my boyfriend came back in the middle of all

455
00:20:22,359 --> 00:20:25,000
Speaker 8: this drama, but to avoid more drama, he just let

456
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Speaker 8: her take the son home, hoping she'd cooled down and

457
00:20:27,280 --> 00:20:29,800
Speaker 8: we can move on. But now his ex is saying

458
00:20:29,880 --> 00:20:32,320
Speaker 8: she will not allow her son at our house for

459
00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:36,560
Speaker 8: the weekend anymore if I'm there. So my boyfriend actually

460
00:20:36,600 --> 00:20:39,840
Speaker 8: suggested that I get a hotel for the weekend that

461
00:20:39,960 --> 00:20:43,359
Speaker 8: he could spend time with his son. I said, absolutely not.

462
00:20:43,680 --> 00:20:46,239
Speaker 8: And now I'm the bad guy. Please tell me if

463
00:20:46,280 --> 00:20:49,640
Speaker 8: I'm wrong for not agreeing to follow his exies crazy rules.

464
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Speaker 3: I mean, this is this is layered baby.

465
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Speaker 1: Well, first of all, you got to she didn't put

466
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Speaker 1: her hands on the kid, No, but he's asserting that

467
00:20:58,400 --> 00:21:01,439
Speaker 1: she did, which now you're getting like child abuse type stuff,

468
00:21:01,760 --> 00:21:05,600
Speaker 1: which if if that goes any further, then you've got

469
00:21:05,680 --> 00:21:09,080
Speaker 1: much bigger problems than just you know, disciplinary stuff for

470
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Speaker 1: the kid.

471
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Speaker 3: The second thing is.

472
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Speaker 1: Was it really and look not that she couldn't have

473
00:21:15,359 --> 00:21:17,480
Speaker 1: been offended and said something, but was it really worth

474
00:21:17,480 --> 00:21:20,280
Speaker 1: it not to wait until the father came home and say, hey,

475
00:21:20,320 --> 00:21:22,239
Speaker 1: this is what I observed and let him handle it.

476
00:21:22,440 --> 00:21:26,000
Speaker 1: Oh okay, Well honestly, because I mean, you know, if

477
00:21:26,040 --> 00:21:27,879
Speaker 1: you're just getting to know the kid, I don't know.

478
00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:31,199
Speaker 1: I'm the child of a step parent. And at some

479
00:21:31,240 --> 00:21:33,480
Speaker 1: point he started to jump in because he lived in

480
00:21:34,119 --> 00:21:37,280
Speaker 1: our home and his home and married my mom, and

481
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Speaker 1: you know, so at some point he took on a

482
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Speaker 1: disciplinary role. But in the beginning he didn't do that.

483
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Speaker 1: He you know, he would defer to my mom because

484
00:21:44,640 --> 00:21:46,720
Speaker 1: that was kind of her deal and we were still

485
00:21:46,720 --> 00:21:49,720
Speaker 1: trying to build some level of trust and the whole thing.

486
00:21:50,040 --> 00:21:52,520
Speaker 1: So is it up to her to be disciplining the

487
00:21:52,600 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 1: kid in any way and putting herself in that position

488
00:21:54,840 --> 00:21:55,399
Speaker 1: this early on?

489
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Speaker 8: Well, as a judge, I say absolutely, it's our role

490
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Speaker 8: to step and discipline the child.

491
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Speaker 6: And what she did was not crazy.

492
00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:04,840
Speaker 8: And so what I say is, you know, usually when

493
00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:06,919
Speaker 8: it comes to kids and being a step parent, you

494
00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:10,320
Speaker 8: always just take the high road, right. However, in this case,

495
00:22:10,400 --> 00:22:12,360
Speaker 8: my gps don't work because I would have to get

496
00:22:12,359 --> 00:22:15,240
Speaker 8: on this kid's level. First of all, you're cursing and

497
00:22:15,280 --> 00:22:18,119
Speaker 8: swearing in my house. Your father left you here with me.

498
00:22:18,720 --> 00:22:21,080
Speaker 8: We've been in a relationship. I'm a new person in

499
00:22:21,119 --> 00:22:23,240
Speaker 8: your life. If he didn't feel safe with you being

500
00:22:23,280 --> 00:22:25,280
Speaker 8: with me, you wouldn't have been left alone with me.

501
00:22:25,720 --> 00:22:27,879
Speaker 8: If you leave your child in my care, I absolutely

502
00:22:27,920 --> 00:22:30,480
Speaker 8: can discipline them. And what she did, which was just

503
00:22:30,520 --> 00:22:33,040
Speaker 8: to take away his video game, was not any type

504
00:22:33,040 --> 00:22:36,159
Speaker 8: of drastic thing. So like if I don't, if I

505
00:22:36,200 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 8: can't take away his video game, then why am I

506
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Speaker 8: able to be left alone with him?

507
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Speaker 1: Eight five five one three five. You're the jury. You

508
00:22:43,640 --> 00:22:47,760
Speaker 1: got to call us. I mean, I see what you're saying.

509
00:22:47,800 --> 00:22:49,119
Speaker 1: I just was it worth it? Is?

510
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Speaker 3: My question?

511
00:22:49,800 --> 00:22:53,720
Speaker 1: Like, was it worth it to step in and be

512
00:22:53,760 --> 00:22:56,439
Speaker 1: a disciplinarian in that situation when the father was going

513
00:22:56,480 --> 00:22:58,439
Speaker 1: to come in And if it had been something directed

514
00:22:58,480 --> 00:23:01,200
Speaker 1: at her, right, I could understan that. And I'm not

515
00:23:01,240 --> 00:23:03,199
Speaker 1: saying what the kid did was right, but I'm just saying, like,

516
00:23:03,320 --> 00:23:05,080
Speaker 1: is it worth it to put yourself in that position,

517
00:23:05,160 --> 00:23:07,800
Speaker 1: especially when you know that there's drama. You know, you

518
00:23:07,920 --> 00:23:10,080
Speaker 1: know that the mother of this kid is not going

519
00:23:10,119 --> 00:23:13,119
Speaker 1: to side with you under any circumstances. You're also putting

520
00:23:13,119 --> 00:23:15,040
Speaker 1: yourself in a situation where it's his, the kid's word,

521
00:23:15,119 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 1: versus yours.

522
00:23:16,200 --> 00:23:18,280
Speaker 8: But then you also set the tone that this kid

523
00:23:18,320 --> 00:23:20,960
Speaker 8: can do disrespectful things in front of me and I'm

524
00:23:20,960 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 8: not allowed to ever correct them.

525
00:23:22,880 --> 00:23:24,720
Speaker 4: I would probably I don't know if she did this

526
00:23:24,840 --> 00:23:27,119
Speaker 4: or not call my there are they dating?

527
00:23:27,200 --> 00:23:27,880
Speaker 6: Yeah, boyfriend?

528
00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:30,480
Speaker 4: Well I would call my boyfriend before I did any disciplining,

529
00:23:30,800 --> 00:23:32,640
Speaker 4: just to run it by him.

530
00:23:32,720 --> 00:23:35,520
Speaker 2: I yeah, it's hard, but I've been in this position.

531
00:23:35,720 --> 00:23:39,000
Speaker 3: It also sounds like the dad doesn't take her side either,

532
00:23:39,040 --> 00:23:40,480
Speaker 3: because he's like, yo, you need to get a hotel

533
00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:42,680
Speaker 3: room now. Well, yeah, and see my son. Yea.

534
00:23:42,760 --> 00:23:44,800
Speaker 9: So it's stuff like I agree with with Freddie Kaylen,

535
00:23:44,880 --> 00:23:48,359
Speaker 9: Like I feel like you have some sort of responsibility

536
00:23:48,400 --> 00:23:51,040
Speaker 9: to take care of the child while they're in your care,

537
00:23:51,119 --> 00:23:54,359
Speaker 9: but to discipline them in that situation, like she is

538
00:23:55,359 --> 00:23:57,760
Speaker 9: new to the relationship and new to that child. So

539
00:23:58,520 --> 00:24:00,879
Speaker 9: and you say, taken away in a video game is not

540
00:24:01,000 --> 00:24:04,080
Speaker 9: that crazy, But to that child. That's like the craziest

541
00:24:04,080 --> 00:24:06,560
Speaker 9: thing you could do is take away their video game.

542
00:24:06,680 --> 00:24:08,400
Speaker 3: But I don't care. I don't even care about that.

543
00:24:08,560 --> 00:24:11,000
Speaker 1: I'm just it's just like the kid was cussing at

544
00:24:11,000 --> 00:24:14,280
Speaker 1: the video game in another room and you overheard it

545
00:24:14,359 --> 00:24:16,240
Speaker 1: like that, that's something that I had to have been handed.

546
00:24:16,320 --> 00:24:17,720
Speaker 3: You had to handle that right then.

547
00:24:18,040 --> 00:24:21,240
Speaker 1: You couldn't wait till the father got home from whatever

548
00:24:21,240 --> 00:24:23,320
Speaker 1: he was doing and then said, hey, look I witnessed this.

549
00:24:23,960 --> 00:24:25,840
Speaker 3: Can I handle it? Should I handle it? Do you

550
00:24:25,880 --> 00:24:26,639
Speaker 3: want to handle it?

551
00:24:26,800 --> 00:24:28,760
Speaker 1: And I think in that case, when you've got drama

552
00:24:28,840 --> 00:24:31,440
Speaker 1: with the X and you're relatively new and the kid

553
00:24:31,440 --> 00:24:34,040
Speaker 1: doesn't know you and trust you that I'm not saying

554
00:24:34,080 --> 00:24:35,640
Speaker 1: that you let the kid get away with it. Yeah,

555
00:24:35,680 --> 00:24:37,800
Speaker 1: but I think you let the dad handle it because

556
00:24:38,560 --> 00:24:42,120
Speaker 1: the reality is as soon as girlfriend gets involved and

557
00:24:42,160 --> 00:24:44,560
Speaker 1: you know that things aren't, you know, necessarily great, like

558
00:24:44,600 --> 00:24:47,960
Speaker 1: she the mom with this kid's not loving you, You're

559
00:24:48,000 --> 00:24:49,840
Speaker 1: not going to get her support no matter what I mean.

560
00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:51,960
Speaker 1: I again, Calin, I know you grew up like this too,

561
00:24:52,000 --> 00:24:54,520
Speaker 1: but it was like, yeah, my parents would. My father

562
00:24:54,560 --> 00:24:56,280
Speaker 1: would do the exact opposite of what my mom said

563
00:24:56,280 --> 00:24:58,280
Speaker 1: to do because it just didn't matter what it was.

564
00:24:58,320 --> 00:24:59,840
Speaker 3: Oh, you can't have that. Here you go.

565
00:25:00,240 --> 00:25:02,640
Speaker 1: Oh she didn't like that, it's fine, Oh she thought

566
00:25:02,680 --> 00:25:04,399
Speaker 1: that was okay, it's not, you know what I mean.

567
00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:06,439
Speaker 1: And it was just just in spite of one another.

568
00:25:07,040 --> 00:25:08,880
Speaker 1: So I don't I guess I don't see the win.

569
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:12,080
Speaker 7: I mean, yeah, no, I agree with you guys too.

570
00:25:12,160 --> 00:25:14,480
Speaker 7: And I'm also like, yeah, a kid of stepparents or

571
00:25:14,480 --> 00:25:17,119
Speaker 7: a stepdad. But I also feel like, now we just

572
00:25:17,160 --> 00:25:19,399
Speaker 7: got messier because I thought this whole time it was

573
00:25:19,440 --> 00:25:21,520
Speaker 7: a wife, Like she's a girlfriend.

574
00:25:21,560 --> 00:25:23,199
Speaker 2: Like I'm not saying that changes a lot, but it

575
00:25:23,280 --> 00:25:24,120
Speaker 2: changes something.

576
00:25:23,920 --> 00:25:26,639
Speaker 4: And maybe her house, but it's like it's only like

577
00:25:26,760 --> 00:25:29,159
Speaker 4: him living there because she's dating the dad. It's not

578
00:25:29,280 --> 00:25:31,920
Speaker 4: like he's in her actual house by herself. I mean,

579
00:25:32,000 --> 00:25:34,159
Speaker 4: the only reason they're together is because she's dating it

580
00:25:34,200 --> 00:25:34,560
Speaker 4: the dad.

581
00:25:34,560 --> 00:25:34,960
Speaker 2: I don't know.

582
00:25:35,119 --> 00:25:36,159
Speaker 3: I know well, and I.

583
00:25:36,359 --> 00:25:38,960
Speaker 1: Gotta think that unless the relationship is really stable, and

584
00:25:39,040 --> 00:25:41,760
Speaker 1: even then, a dad's more than likely going to pick

585
00:25:41,800 --> 00:25:43,840
Speaker 1: access to his child over.

586
00:25:44,040 --> 00:25:45,040
Speaker 6: The living girlfriend.

587
00:25:45,280 --> 00:25:48,160
Speaker 3: I think. So yeah, I mean, to be honest, that's

588
00:25:48,200 --> 00:25:49,400
Speaker 3: that's the right thing to do. Now.

589
00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:52,480
Speaker 1: Granted, I don't think she did anything wrong necessarily. I

590
00:25:52,520 --> 00:25:54,880
Speaker 1: just don't know that it was necessary to expose herself.

591
00:25:54,880 --> 00:25:57,520
Speaker 1: And now now he runs the risk of not seeing

592
00:25:57,560 --> 00:26:00,040
Speaker 1: his kid as a result. Now, if she'd, like I

593
00:26:00,119 --> 00:26:01,639
Speaker 1: can'd have done something to her. She has every right

594
00:26:01,680 --> 00:26:04,520
Speaker 1: to defend herself. Yeah, but it really didn't involve her.

595
00:26:04,960 --> 00:26:07,040
Speaker 1: It isn't something that couldn't have waited until the dad

596
00:26:07,080 --> 00:26:07,480
Speaker 1: got home.

597
00:26:07,840 --> 00:26:09,640
Speaker 8: I agree with that, But I just think we set

598
00:26:09,680 --> 00:26:12,880
Speaker 8: a bad tone if I can't I can't be an adult,

599
00:26:13,200 --> 00:26:16,160
Speaker 8: a responsible adult in the situation because I'm worried about

600
00:26:16,200 --> 00:26:18,000
Speaker 8: like what your mom is going to say, or what

601
00:26:18,240 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 8: if your dad's going to agree with me? And I

602
00:26:19,520 --> 00:26:22,199
Speaker 8: also put some responsibility on the father because when he

603
00:26:22,280 --> 00:26:24,200
Speaker 8: showed up, I feel like he should have been a

604
00:26:24,280 --> 00:26:26,960
Speaker 8: mediator in their situation and like explain to his ex

605
00:26:27,320 --> 00:26:29,159
Speaker 8: what you know, Like, this is what happened, this is

606
00:26:29,160 --> 00:26:31,320
Speaker 8: why she did what she did. I think it's very

607
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,640
Speaker 8: extreme for you to tell me to tell my living

608
00:26:33,720 --> 00:26:36,640
Speaker 8: girlfriend to leave her home because you don't like.

609
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:38,200
Speaker 6: And she didn't do anything that you can prove.

610
00:26:38,440 --> 00:26:40,119
Speaker 8: I just I just feel like the father in that

611
00:26:40,200 --> 00:26:43,520
Speaker 8: case should have to like take some responsibility man up,

612
00:26:43,560 --> 00:26:45,560
Speaker 8: have a conversation with his ex and try to smooth

613
00:26:45,600 --> 00:26:47,399
Speaker 8: that out rather than just like, well you should just

614
00:26:47,400 --> 00:26:48,320
Speaker 8: get a hotel like.

615
00:26:48,960 --> 00:26:52,159
Speaker 3: The kids in exes. It's things aren't logical. You know.

616
00:26:52,240 --> 00:26:54,760
Speaker 1: There's a lot of emotion here, and anybody who feels

617
00:26:54,800 --> 00:26:56,600
Speaker 1: like their kid was victimized in some way is going

618
00:26:56,640 --> 00:26:58,919
Speaker 1: to win. Anyone who's a decent human being is more

619
00:26:58,960 --> 00:27:01,359
Speaker 1: than likely their first react is to attack. And it

620
00:27:01,400 --> 00:27:04,200
Speaker 1: sounds like that's what's happening here. So maybe maybe in time,

621
00:27:04,359 --> 00:27:06,480
Speaker 1: hopefully they can resolve it. But I mean, if it's

622
00:27:06,480 --> 00:27:10,440
Speaker 1: if it's a matter of this kid says that essentially

623
00:27:10,480 --> 00:27:14,200
Speaker 1: that she abused him, I mean, and I don't get

624
00:27:14,200 --> 00:27:16,520
Speaker 1: to see my kid if you're around, then I don't.

625
00:27:16,560 --> 00:27:20,040
Speaker 3: I yeah, that relationship might be gone, you know what

626
00:27:20,040 --> 00:27:22,760
Speaker 3: I'm saying. I mean, the dad's gonna choose a kid

627
00:27:22,800 --> 00:27:25,119
Speaker 3: every time. I mean, I should not

628
00:27:25,200 --> 00:27:26,719
Speaker 1: That the kid's telling the truth here, but I mean,

629
00:27:26,800 --> 00:27:28,920
Speaker 1: you're kind of that's what that's that's the hand you've

630
00:27:28,920 --> 00:27:29,359
Speaker 1: been dealt