1 00:00:20,800 --> 00:00:24,599 Speaker 1: Hey, everybody, Emily Abadi here you are listening to five 2 00:00:24,600 --> 00:00:26,000 Speaker 1: Minute Friday from Hurdle. 3 00:00:26,840 --> 00:00:28,640 Speaker 2: Good morning, good afternoon, good evening. 4 00:00:29,360 --> 00:00:32,800 Speaker 1: I have been thinking a lot about something I saw 5 00:00:32,960 --> 00:00:34,960 Speaker 1: a couple of weeks ago, and I wish that I 6 00:00:35,000 --> 00:00:38,720 Speaker 1: remember where I saw it. But the concept is, if 7 00:00:38,720 --> 00:00:43,440 Speaker 1: you are incapable of articulating what it is that you want, 8 00:00:43,960 --> 00:00:48,480 Speaker 1: then you don't get to get it. So it makes sense, right, 9 00:00:49,159 --> 00:00:52,239 Speaker 1: I wrote down at one point, or came up with 10 00:00:52,280 --> 00:00:54,880 Speaker 1: the concept at one point that I wanted to start 11 00:00:54,960 --> 00:00:58,400 Speaker 1: a podcast. I didn't just sit down behind a microphone 12 00:00:58,400 --> 00:01:02,720 Speaker 1: one day and start podcasting and voila, here we are. 13 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:07,360 Speaker 1: I had to sit down and get very granular about 14 00:01:07,400 --> 00:01:10,640 Speaker 1: what it was that I wanted to create. And this 15 00:01:10,800 --> 00:01:15,440 Speaker 1: is just one example of writing down or concepting or 16 00:01:15,560 --> 00:01:21,080 Speaker 1: ideating the thing that you are after. Now, the problem 17 00:01:22,000 --> 00:01:27,039 Speaker 1: is that often times we and I'm not trying to 18 00:01:27,120 --> 00:01:30,440 Speaker 1: generalize here, but I feel like it's okay, you get it. 19 00:01:31,360 --> 00:01:35,520 Speaker 1: We underestimate ourselves or we don't think big enough. And 20 00:01:35,600 --> 00:01:38,959 Speaker 1: that's what I've really been thinking about this week, and 21 00:01:39,040 --> 00:01:42,640 Speaker 1: drawing some parallels actually to times in my life where 22 00:01:42,680 --> 00:01:48,800 Speaker 1: I surprised myself and realized that I was god underestimating myself. 23 00:01:49,240 --> 00:01:53,600 Speaker 1: Case in point, when I ran the Chicago Marathon in 24 00:01:53,680 --> 00:01:57,760 Speaker 1: twenty nineteen. I had a certain goal that felt like 25 00:01:57,800 --> 00:02:00,960 Speaker 1: a reach for me. But what I ended up doing 26 00:02:01,240 --> 00:02:05,920 Speaker 1: was surpassing that goal and accomplishing something that I never 27 00:02:06,120 --> 00:02:10,040 Speaker 1: even aimed for. I never even saw it out. That 28 00:02:10,280 --> 00:02:15,240 Speaker 1: experience then instilled in me the benefit of thinking and 29 00:02:15,320 --> 00:02:20,920 Speaker 1: dreaming big. Then I started to really get clear on 30 00:02:21,400 --> 00:02:26,280 Speaker 1: writing down, maybe even what felt like manifesting the things 31 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:27,480 Speaker 1: that excited me. 32 00:02:28,120 --> 00:02:31,799 Speaker 2: And so fast forward a handful of years. 33 00:02:31,919 --> 00:02:35,400 Speaker 1: Last year, I was keen on going to Paris and 34 00:02:35,480 --> 00:02:36,800 Speaker 1: working during the Olympics. 35 00:02:37,200 --> 00:02:38,920 Speaker 2: I didn't know what it was going to look like. 36 00:02:39,000 --> 00:02:42,720 Speaker 1: I had some ideas, but I didn't put myself into 37 00:02:42,840 --> 00:02:46,600 Speaker 1: a certain box. I kept it abstract. I had a 38 00:02:46,639 --> 00:02:50,840 Speaker 1: big goal. I wasn't afraid to set it, and by 39 00:02:50,960 --> 00:02:55,200 Speaker 1: doing that, I would argue that I was able to 40 00:02:55,240 --> 00:02:59,200 Speaker 1: obtain it because I dared to dream it. Now, of course, 41 00:02:59,280 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 1: there is some research that talks about the benefit of 42 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:06,120 Speaker 1: setting what might feel like unattainable goals. I am all 43 00:03:06,200 --> 00:03:10,000 Speaker 1: about going after the things that are manageable, that are smart, 44 00:03:10,160 --> 00:03:14,160 Speaker 1: that acronym and makes sense for you. But if you 45 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:18,079 Speaker 1: think about it, when you set an unattainable goal, that 46 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:23,240 Speaker 1: can lead to higher achievements. So if you maybe at 47 00:03:23,320 --> 00:03:26,440 Speaker 1: one point thought that a goal was unattainable, later on 48 00:03:26,680 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 1: when you reflect, you could realize if I didn't attempt 49 00:03:30,200 --> 00:03:32,280 Speaker 1: that goal, I would have achieved a lot less than 50 00:03:32,280 --> 00:03:33,000 Speaker 1: what I have now. 51 00:03:33,080 --> 00:03:34,880 Speaker 2: So I'm better off for trying. 52 00:03:35,320 --> 00:03:40,040 Speaker 1: And that is the mindset that I'm approaching this chat, 53 00:03:40,480 --> 00:03:45,800 Speaker 1: this lesson with here. The secret sauce to all of 54 00:03:45,840 --> 00:03:49,600 Speaker 1: this is truly going to be how do you react 55 00:03:50,000 --> 00:03:53,760 Speaker 1: to what you may perceive in the moment as a 56 00:03:53,960 --> 00:03:58,600 Speaker 1: and I'm using air quotes failure. Right, You cannot get 57 00:03:58,680 --> 00:04:01,000 Speaker 1: so down on yourself if you are shooting for the 58 00:04:01,040 --> 00:04:03,200 Speaker 1: moon and you land amongst the stars, and I know 59 00:04:03,240 --> 00:04:07,600 Speaker 1: that is something that sounds super cheesy, right, But if 60 00:04:07,680 --> 00:04:10,680 Speaker 1: you go after something that excites you and makes you 61 00:04:10,840 --> 00:04:14,960 Speaker 1: feel that fire within you, that is something within itself 62 00:04:15,080 --> 00:04:18,880 Speaker 1: to be proud of. And that is why I say, 63 00:04:19,360 --> 00:04:22,680 Speaker 1: don't be afraid to dream big, don't dwell on your 64 00:04:22,760 --> 00:04:27,839 Speaker 1: quote unquote failures, celebrate your small winds along the way, 65 00:04:28,240 --> 00:04:31,680 Speaker 1: and think about all of the benefits that you get 66 00:04:31,720 --> 00:04:35,720 Speaker 1: when you chase your own potential. And when you recognize 67 00:04:35,760 --> 00:04:38,520 Speaker 1: that there is so much within you that is excitable 68 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:42,120 Speaker 1: and awesome and wonderful and worth celebrating. 69 00:04:42,560 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 2: There I said it, I'm here. 70 00:04:44,480 --> 00:04:47,440 Speaker 1: I'm here to be your hype human today, knowing that 71 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:50,360 Speaker 1: every day when you get up it doesn't feel always 72 00:04:50,520 --> 00:04:55,320 Speaker 1: easy or natural or convenient to approach your day to 73 00:04:55,400 --> 00:04:59,479 Speaker 1: day with this level of self belief. But it's like 74 00:04:59,520 --> 00:05:02,000 Speaker 1: a muscle. Well I say it all the time. You 75 00:05:02,120 --> 00:05:04,359 Speaker 1: have to work on it, you have to strengthen it. 76 00:05:04,520 --> 00:05:08,039 Speaker 1: That is how you build resiliency, that is how you 77 00:05:08,080 --> 00:05:12,800 Speaker 1: build mental toughness. And by setting these lofty goals, you 78 00:05:12,800 --> 00:05:17,520 Speaker 1: have the opportunity to do something really, really special. And 79 00:05:17,560 --> 00:05:22,120 Speaker 1: so my question for you this beautiful day is what 80 00:05:22,160 --> 00:05:25,800 Speaker 1: do you want? It sounds simple, I know, but it 81 00:05:25,960 --> 00:05:30,800 Speaker 1: starts here. It starts by you being in a place 82 00:05:31,520 --> 00:05:36,800 Speaker 1: where you are willing to get a little outside of 83 00:05:36,800 --> 00:05:40,400 Speaker 1: your comfort zone to dream big, to be your own 84 00:05:40,720 --> 00:05:44,240 Speaker 1: biggest fan. Again, the question for you this week what 85 00:05:45,040 --> 00:05:51,240 Speaker 1: do you want? And now a listener question now of note, 86 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:55,800 Speaker 1: this one came in over DM. So although I love 87 00:05:55,800 --> 00:05:58,440 Speaker 1: it when you email the questions to Hello at Hurdle 88 00:05:58,760 --> 00:06:01,359 Speaker 1: dot us, you can feel free to reach out to 89 00:06:01,640 --> 00:06:06,200 Speaker 1: us over on Instagram as well via dms over at 90 00:06:06,279 --> 00:06:11,200 Speaker 1: Hurdle podcast. The question what is one simple wellness tip 91 00:06:11,240 --> 00:06:14,120 Speaker 1: you'd recommend for someone who feels like they don't have 92 00:06:14,240 --> 00:06:17,159 Speaker 1: time to prioritize themselves? 93 00:06:17,279 --> 00:06:19,279 Speaker 2: Oh my god, I have so been here when. 94 00:06:19,440 --> 00:06:23,039 Speaker 1: Work just feels like overwhelming their stuff going on in 95 00:06:23,040 --> 00:06:25,840 Speaker 1: your personal life. Maybe someone that you care about is 96 00:06:25,920 --> 00:06:28,800 Speaker 1: navigating something sticky, Maybe you're navigating something sticky. 97 00:06:29,200 --> 00:06:30,760 Speaker 2: Yeah, I get it, I've been there. 98 00:06:31,279 --> 00:06:34,640 Speaker 1: So the question a simple tip you'd recommend for someone 99 00:06:34,640 --> 00:06:38,320 Speaker 1: who feels like they don't have time to prioritize themselves. 100 00:06:38,760 --> 00:06:41,360 Speaker 1: You have to do something small, so it's not like 101 00:06:41,440 --> 00:06:45,000 Speaker 1: if you feel like you don't have time being so 102 00:06:45,200 --> 00:06:48,559 Speaker 1: strict and saying if I don't do a thirty minute 103 00:06:48,680 --> 00:06:51,960 Speaker 1: or forty five minute or hour long workout, it doesn't count, 104 00:06:52,080 --> 00:06:55,480 Speaker 1: Like that's not the attitude. Just like you can have 105 00:06:55,760 --> 00:06:57,599 Speaker 1: a snack in the middle of the day. 106 00:06:58,000 --> 00:06:58,800 Speaker 2: That's food. 107 00:06:59,480 --> 00:07:03,200 Speaker 1: You can take the time to snack and move your body. 108 00:07:03,640 --> 00:07:07,680 Speaker 1: So something that is you prioritizing yourself is truly just 109 00:07:07,760 --> 00:07:12,400 Speaker 1: taking five minutes to walk around the block and take 110 00:07:12,400 --> 00:07:14,920 Speaker 1: a few deep breaths. So maybe do a few rounds 111 00:07:14,920 --> 00:07:18,720 Speaker 1: of box, breath, something else that's prioritizing yourself. And this 112 00:07:18,800 --> 00:07:21,400 Speaker 1: can take literally thirty seconds when you sit down to 113 00:07:21,440 --> 00:07:23,600 Speaker 1: your desk at the beginning of the workday. If that 114 00:07:23,720 --> 00:07:26,440 Speaker 1: is something that you do and you have a desk job, 115 00:07:27,040 --> 00:07:29,760 Speaker 1: write down one thing that you're grateful for. That might 116 00:07:29,840 --> 00:07:34,200 Speaker 1: even only take you, gosh, sixteen total seconds. But that 117 00:07:34,520 --> 00:07:40,880 Speaker 1: small moment of dedication to affirmations positivity, that is something 118 00:07:40,880 --> 00:07:42,840 Speaker 1: that is good for your mental health. 119 00:07:42,840 --> 00:07:45,320 Speaker 2: That is you giving back to you. Again. I cannot 120 00:07:45,360 --> 00:07:46,240 Speaker 2: reiterate this enough. 121 00:07:46,440 --> 00:07:49,640 Speaker 1: So often we feel or we should ourselves into these 122 00:07:49,760 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: lengthy routines or something that we see someone else doing 123 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:56,160 Speaker 1: on social media, and it doesn't need to be that way. 124 00:07:56,760 --> 00:08:03,480 Speaker 1: You will upkeep anything that is something that a excites 125 00:08:03,520 --> 00:08:07,640 Speaker 1: you and b feels manageable for you. In order to 126 00:08:07,840 --> 00:08:11,360 Speaker 1: build a habit over time, you have to meet yourself 127 00:08:11,400 --> 00:08:15,600 Speaker 1: with where you're at. I give this example often, but 128 00:08:15,840 --> 00:08:18,160 Speaker 1: if you want to drink more water, say right now, 129 00:08:18,160 --> 00:08:20,440 Speaker 1: you're drinking two glasses of water a day and you 130 00:08:20,480 --> 00:08:23,920 Speaker 1: want to drink something like eight. Before you set the 131 00:08:23,960 --> 00:08:27,000 Speaker 1: goal of drinking eight glasses a day, it would be 132 00:08:27,000 --> 00:08:29,640 Speaker 1: better to meet yourself with where you're at and start 133 00:08:29,720 --> 00:08:34,080 Speaker 1: drinking four. Four is aspirational for someone who drinks too. 134 00:08:34,679 --> 00:08:38,320 Speaker 1: Eight is aspirational for someone who drinks four. You're following me. 135 00:08:38,600 --> 00:08:41,360 Speaker 1: I know that you are. So if you feel like 136 00:08:41,400 --> 00:08:43,880 Speaker 1: you don't have the time the energy to give back 137 00:08:43,920 --> 00:08:49,960 Speaker 1: to yourself, ask this important foundational question, where am I 138 00:08:50,040 --> 00:08:52,840 Speaker 1: right now? And what is something that I can do 139 00:08:53,040 --> 00:08:56,280 Speaker 1: for myself that makes me feel good? That's me filling 140 00:08:56,360 --> 00:09:00,640 Speaker 1: up my cup that takes five minutes or less instead 141 00:09:01,080 --> 00:09:05,680 Speaker 1: of shooting yourself into some lengthy routine that's just not 142 00:09:06,040 --> 00:09:07,559 Speaker 1: currently obtainable. 143 00:09:07,600 --> 00:09:08,679 Speaker 2: And also recognize this. 144 00:09:08,840 --> 00:09:13,160 Speaker 1: Oftentimes, these moments that we feel as though, these circumstances 145 00:09:13,160 --> 00:09:16,040 Speaker 1: where we don't feel like we have the bandwidth the 146 00:09:16,120 --> 00:09:20,480 Speaker 1: energy to prioritize ourselves, they don't last forever. So know 147 00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:24,040 Speaker 1: that maybe this is just a season, and it is 148 00:09:24,080 --> 00:09:27,400 Speaker 1: a season that you have the tenacity, the grit, the 149 00:09:27,440 --> 00:09:32,320 Speaker 1: strength to not only get through, but truly hurdle over. 150 00:09:32,480 --> 00:09:32,720 Speaker 2: Wow. 151 00:09:32,840 --> 00:09:36,520 Speaker 1: I really came in hot today with the inspirational takes 152 00:09:36,720 --> 00:09:40,240 Speaker 1: and you're welcome. I am thinking about all of you, 153 00:09:40,440 --> 00:09:44,040 Speaker 1: and again I want your listener questions, so DM email 154 00:09:44,240 --> 00:09:45,199 Speaker 1: whatever feels. 155 00:09:45,000 --> 00:09:45,480 Speaker 2: Right to you. 156 00:09:45,679 --> 00:09:49,640 Speaker 1: I am all ears fam I'm over at Emily a 157 00:09:49,679 --> 00:09:53,360 Speaker 1: Body and at Hurdle Podcast, another hurdle conquered. 158 00:09:53,800 --> 00:09:54,839 Speaker 2: Catch you guys next time.