WEBVTT - First Crushes & First Bus Rides

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<v Speaker 1>Hi Amber. Hi Lola. Welcome to an unlikely affair. Hello everybody.

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<v Speaker 2>Welcome back to another episode of unlikely affair.

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<v Speaker 1>Good morning, darling. Good morning. Is this the first time

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<v Speaker 1>we've recorded in this room together?

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<v Speaker 3>It is.

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<v Speaker 1>It sure is. Usually it's Easton. I've only done it

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<v Speaker 1>here with Easton and myself. It's kind of fun. It's fine.

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<v Speaker 1>It's like, it's not the same as the studio, but no,

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<v Speaker 1>it's not this week. We'll take it. We'll take what

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<v Speaker 1>I can get. That's for sure. Not complaining right now

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<v Speaker 1>in life. By the way, before we jump into like

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<v Speaker 1>back to school and stuff, because it's the second week

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<v Speaker 1>of the kids being back. Are we like, this is

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<v Speaker 1>such a dumb question because I know the answer. Are

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<v Speaker 1>we feeling somewhat settled? You're funny. You're funny. You found

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<v Speaker 1>a place to live. I did. I did. I found

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<v Speaker 1>a place to live. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So last night, this is hysterical. I, I was like

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<v Speaker 2>Goldilocks and the three bears.

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<v Speaker 1>No joke.

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<v Speaker 2>It was, I actually started laughing and then I started

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<v Speaker 2>getting irritated. So I started off in my bed. That's a,

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<v Speaker 2>on the mattress on the floor.

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<v Speaker 1>Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Unfortunately, the house next to me, they have floodlights. So

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<v Speaker 2>one window, the floodlight was coming through. The other window

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<v Speaker 2>on the opposite side of my bedroom, the moon was shining.

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<v Speaker 1>And it's so beautiful. And I love the moon.

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<v Speaker 2>But it was like shining directly into my window.

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<v Speaker 1>Because you don't have any fixtures in there.

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<v Speaker 2>No, I don't have any blinds and curtains. And so

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<v Speaker 2>I ordered curtains, but I just... somehow can't seem to

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<v Speaker 2>nail down a handyman.

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<v Speaker 1>So I have the best. You do?

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh God. I'm so glad I just said something. Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>So I need his number ASAP.

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<v Speaker 2>Then I went into Riley's room where she does have

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<v Speaker 2>a bed, but this is going to sound so crazy.

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<v Speaker 2>So I'm terrified of the dark and there's the outside

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<v Speaker 2>floodlight on my house. It's right above this like cactus

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<v Speaker 2>looking plant and it cast a shadow on the roof

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<v Speaker 2>of the bedroom. So it looks like a monster's like coming.

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<v Speaker 2>And I was like, dude, this sucks. Like fuck this place.

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<v Speaker 2>Give me back to Montana. I'm, I was getting very upset.

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<v Speaker 2>And then I was like, you know what?

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<v Speaker 1>The couch seems like a nice place. I literally ended

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<v Speaker 1>up sleeping on the couch. You love a good couch moment.

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<v Speaker 1>But I, who knew? Like who knew?

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<v Speaker 2>So I, I, I, um, I'm settled, but I'm not

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<v Speaker 2>emotionally settled.

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<v Speaker 1>You think that's ever going to happen for us though?

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<v Speaker 1>I'm settled too, but like emotionally I feel very unstable.

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<v Speaker 2>I was so not well last night. I didn't sleep

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<v Speaker 2>at all. Like I did not sleep at all, but

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<v Speaker 2>that's okay. I'm here with you. I get to do

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<v Speaker 2>the podcast. Riley's happy. My ex is happy. Our ex

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<v Speaker 2>is happy that she's back. I'm trying to have a

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<v Speaker 2>better attitude in life.

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<v Speaker 1>So just fucking.

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<v Speaker 2>Go with it for a second. Because right now I'm, I'm,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm really missing Montana. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Like really miss. Actually, I'm also missing my stuff. You know,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want my stuff. I wonder if once your

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<v Speaker 1>stuff is here, you won't miss Montana as much because

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<v Speaker 1>if you, yes, you had like a life out there,

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<v Speaker 1>but it was only a life that was built over

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<v Speaker 1>the past year. Now your sister lived there, which was like,

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<v Speaker 1>Home is just where your heart is, which is like family, right?

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<v Speaker 2>Yeah, but like my family's not, yes, Autumn's there and

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<v Speaker 2>my nephew's there and I miss them dearly. But I

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<v Speaker 2>really think that like, I have to be able to

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<v Speaker 2>find my peace here. Like peace is, this sounds so

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<v Speaker 2>dumb and so cliche, but peace starts within.

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<v Speaker 1>And I associated and I clung on to my.

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<v Speaker 2>Peace being in Montana so tightly that, And I'm like, Amber,

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<v Speaker 2>you have to create that same environment, which starts with

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<v Speaker 2>my morning routine. Like I don't have my journal. I

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<v Speaker 2>did say my prayers this morning. I'm like, I can't

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<v Speaker 2>like kneel down and say them because my mattress is

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<v Speaker 2>on the floor and I'm like on account.

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<v Speaker 1>That's fucking weird. So I was like, all right, God,

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<v Speaker 1>we're just talking to you from bed today.

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<v Speaker 2>And I need to like, I'm working out with my

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<v Speaker 2>trainer and that feels really, really good just to be

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<v Speaker 2>moving my body.

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<v Speaker 1>So like, I just need to get into my routine,

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<v Speaker 1>but yeah. And your trainer's hot. Thank you. When Jenna

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<v Speaker 1>is gone, because she's doing a retreat, she does them

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<v Speaker 1>like once or twice a year out of the country.

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<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, I will be taking this opportunity. Because

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<v Speaker 1>you can't even do it via Zoom. It's like a

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<v Speaker 1>retreat where from morning until night, they're doing things. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>and you guys are going to be on the opposite

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<v Speaker 1>time zone. Yes, which sometimes we make that work. We

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<v Speaker 1>did it when she was in Spain. It was weird.

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<v Speaker 1>Don't love it. Well, you're working out in the morning

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<v Speaker 1>and she's working out at night before bed. Or like

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<v Speaker 1>she's training you. That bothers me too. I'm like, I

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<v Speaker 1>don't like that you're up right now. It's bothering me.

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<v Speaker 1>Your eyes should be closed. Why are you pumping weights?

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, I'm taking this opportunity to work out

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<v Speaker 1>with this hot man. Yeah. Jake is amazing. And he's

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<v Speaker 1>great with kids too. Really good with kids. As in

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<v Speaker 1>like a stepfather? Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Good.

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<v Speaker 1>We love that. Listen, every time I introduce you to someone,

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<v Speaker 1>I get in trouble by Lisa.

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<v Speaker 4>Why?

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<v Speaker 1>What does she say?

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<v Speaker 2>Well, remember the first one that I introduced you to

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<v Speaker 2>and she gave me this lecture in the kitchen?

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<v Speaker 1>Oh, the rapper. Yeah. She was not happy about that.

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<v Speaker 2>I said, Lisa, that was just a distraction. That was not,

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<v Speaker 2>I wasn't thinking like, yes, this could be her guy.

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<v Speaker 2>This could be the stepfather to your grandchildren.

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<v Speaker 1>She doesn't know how to wrap her mind around that

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<v Speaker 1>because she had a high school boyfriend who got into

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<v Speaker 1>a horrendous car accident. They, she's, I think he was

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<v Speaker 1>the love of her life, obviously, until she met my dad.

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<v Speaker 1>Horrendous car accident because his friend was drunk driving. He

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<v Speaker 1>was hooked up. He had significant brain damage and was paralyzed.

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<v Speaker 1>So he couldn't talk, walk. That's how she lost the

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<v Speaker 1>first love of her life. Then met my dad. Then

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<v Speaker 1>got married. Never lived on her own. Never had a struggle. Yes,

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<v Speaker 1>she lost. her boyfriend and she also lost my dad.

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<v Speaker 1>I acknowledge that. But I mean like the struggles that

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<v Speaker 1>you and I go through where like your heart is

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<v Speaker 1>involved and then it doesn't work out. You got to

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<v Speaker 1>have a distraction. She doesn't understand that. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Like with the rapper, she was like, I just don't,

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<v Speaker 1>it was world war three in this household. I over

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<v Speaker 1>this fucking rapper created. I just don't.

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<v Speaker 3>See him being the stepfather to these kids that you need.

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<v Speaker 3>I'm like, what the fuck are you talking about?

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<v Speaker 1>Either do I? He's a good time. He's a good time.

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<v Speaker 2>He is really sweet, though. I do really admire how.

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<v Speaker 1>Sweet he is. I just... The whole fucking thing. Anyway, yes.

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<v Speaker 1>I don't even know how we went on that tangent. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>the guy.

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<v Speaker 3>The guy.

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<v Speaker 1>The hot trainer. Michelle works out with him now, too.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I see that. She's all up in the gym working

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<v Speaker 1>on that front nurse. Oh, my gosh. He killed me

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<v Speaker 1>the other day. I texted him. I was like, Jake,

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<v Speaker 1>I can't lift heavy weights like that. You have to

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<v Speaker 1>go slow. He thinks... I'm, I don't know. It's, but

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<v Speaker 1>it's good. I'm glad.

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<v Speaker 2>And I need it for my mental health. So as

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<v Speaker 2>long as I stay on my routine, I continue to develop.

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<v Speaker 1>I need to get, buy a journal. I'm going to

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<v Speaker 1>go to Target. I have to go to Costco to

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<v Speaker 1>buy a stupid vacuum.

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<v Speaker 3>Ugh.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just like these little things that you realize. So annoying.

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<v Speaker 1>That you're like, I need. And I took for granted.

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<v Speaker 1>And I actually need to go out now and purchase

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<v Speaker 1>them again. Again. Like Riley, for instance.

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<v Speaker 2>So Riley comes home in Montana every day after school.

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<v Speaker 1>She gets her dino nuggies. She gets her frozen french fries.

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<v Speaker 1>She sells dino nuggets? By the way, they slap. They

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<v Speaker 1>are so good. She's a creature of habit since she

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<v Speaker 1>was like three. And so she makes them.

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<v Speaker 2>And now I'm like, oh my God, today after school,

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<v Speaker 2>I panicked last night and I went on Amazon and

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<v Speaker 2>I ordered like, I love, that's the other difference between

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<v Speaker 2>Amazon in Montana and here is that Montana takes like

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<v Speaker 2>three or four days to get something. You could have

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<v Speaker 2>something the same day, if not the next morning from

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<v Speaker 2>like 4 a.m.

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<v Speaker 1>To 8 a.m.

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<v Speaker 2>And I pulled out of my driveway to come over

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<v Speaker 2>here and her air fryer was here. So she's going

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<v Speaker 2>to be very excited coming home from school.

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<v Speaker 1>Oh yeah, it's going to be crispy. Oh yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>I get very overwhelmed when I go and buy stuff

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<v Speaker 2>on Amazon because there's a thousand different options. And now

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<v Speaker 2>I like contemplate which one to buy. So I think

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<v Speaker 2>I just bought the same air fryer that I have

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<v Speaker 2>in Montana.

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<v Speaker 1>That's good. Anyways, the little things. Is she liking school?

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<v Speaker 1>I think so.

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<v Speaker 2>So something that's really funny, this is, she's going back.

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<v Speaker 2>Obviously the kids have to wear a uniform and the

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<v Speaker 2>first three days she, you know, it was free dress

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<v Speaker 2>day and she wore a spaghetti.

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<v Speaker 1>Strap, which. Oh wait, I saw her that day. I

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<v Speaker 1>would have never let her wear this. I thought I

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<v Speaker 1>told you she was in a tank top. Is a

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<v Speaker 1>tank top different than a spaghetti strap? Well, like this,

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<v Speaker 1>what I'm wearing right now, this is a tank top.

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<v Speaker 1>Hers was thinner than this. Right. It just like shows

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<v Speaker 1>her bra. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>Well, So she wore that. And she's like, they said

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<v Speaker 2>we couldn't wear things like that. And I was like, yeah,

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<v Speaker 2>you can't.

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<v Speaker 1>You can't.

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<v Speaker 2>When I was in school and I went to public school,

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<v Speaker 2>you couldn't wear that kind of stuff. And she's like,

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<v Speaker 2>they're so sexist. And she's been using this word sexist

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<v Speaker 2>for the last probably week. So I don't know if

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<v Speaker 2>she heard this from another friend. And I'm like, why

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<v Speaker 2>are they— why are you calling them sexist? Because you can't,

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<v Speaker 2>they have rules and you don't want to follow the rules.

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<v Speaker 2>And she's like, yeah, but the boys get to wear

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<v Speaker 2>whatever they want. And they have like their ass crack

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<v Speaker 2>is showing. And I was like, okay, so like, how

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<v Speaker 2>do I approach this as a mom? It's a little

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<v Speaker 2>double standard.

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<v Speaker 1>Because women are sexualized.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>That's what it is. A man can walk around with

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<v Speaker 1>his full body hanging out and women can control themselves

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<v Speaker 1>and be like, oh, his whole body's hanging out. Not

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<v Speaker 1>the appropriate time to be looking or commenting or any

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<v Speaker 1>of the above. Boys see a spaghetti strap and they

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<v Speaker 1>get a hard on and they can't even function. That's

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<v Speaker 1>the difference. We're mature creatures. We can't control them. So

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<v Speaker 1>we have to focus on what we can control, which

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<v Speaker 1>is ourselves. I think the other thing you should point

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<v Speaker 1>out is You may have seen boys wearing that. They

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<v Speaker 1>could have said the same thing to the boys. You

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<v Speaker 1>can't dress like that. Right. They could have called, like,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm sure.

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<v Speaker 3>They didn't walk up to the boys and say, everyone,

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<v Speaker 3>I'm letting you know that Riley will not be wearing.

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<v Speaker 1>Spaghetti straps any longer because we did tell her she can't.

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<v Speaker 1>You know, like, you don't know what the conversation was

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<v Speaker 1>on the other side. I love that she's using that word, though.

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<v Speaker 1>A little feminist after my own heart.

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<v Speaker 2>Jeez, I was like, oh God, we're back in LA

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<v Speaker 2>and she's already using words like sexist.

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<v Speaker 1>I was like, fuck. Different world out here. It's a

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<v Speaker 1>different world. Maybe you belong in L.A., Riley.

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<v Speaker 4>Oh, yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>She's L.A. through and through. A hundred percent. She is.

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<v Speaker 1>She is a L.A.

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<v Speaker 3>Girl.

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<v Speaker 1>How's Ocean's first week? Ish. Half a week. Few days.

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<v Speaker 1>Her favorite part is riding the bus. It's her favorite part.

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<v Speaker 1>And I cried at orientation. I cried the first day

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<v Speaker 1>of school. And the first day of school, we did

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<v Speaker 1>drop off just regular, like taking the car, whatever, because

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<v Speaker 1>I wanted to take pictures. I walk her into the

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<v Speaker 1>class and she's nervous. And that's not like Ocean. Ocean

0:11:39.120 --> 0:11:41.760
<v Speaker 1>has always been, granted, she's only five and a half,

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<v Speaker 1>but like first day of pre-K when she was three,

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<v Speaker 1>walked right in, didn't think another thing about it. Even

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<v Speaker 1>the next year that she went back to her preschool,

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<v Speaker 1>didn't think a thing about it. This is the first

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<v Speaker 1>time where she's talking to me like, I'm nervous about this.

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<v Speaker 1>I'm nervous about that. We walk into school, first day,

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<v Speaker 1>and she's like, I put her in a white button-up,

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<v Speaker 1>the uniform. She goes, mom. All of the girls that

0:12:14.020 --> 0:12:15.920
<v Speaker 1>I see are in red shirts. Was I supposed to

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<v Speaker 1>be in a red shirt? I didn't know that I

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<v Speaker 1>was supposed to wear a red shirt. I was like, honey,

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<v Speaker 1>you're fine. And the teacher overheard her. She goes, you

0:12:21.950 --> 0:12:24.250
<v Speaker 1>look great. That's a color that you can wear. We

0:12:24.270 --> 0:12:27.209
<v Speaker 1>can wear white. We can wear red on some days.

0:12:27.250 --> 0:12:29.430
<v Speaker 1>But she was like, you're wearing exactly what you're supposed

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<v Speaker 1>to wear. And so, like, that broke my heart. Then

0:12:32.950 --> 0:12:34.369
<v Speaker 1>she walks in. She goes, I don't know any of

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<v Speaker 1>these kids. I was like, just start going up to

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<v Speaker 1>the playground and making new friends.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>Like, just start talking to people. Oh, my God. That

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<v Speaker 1>makes me so emotional. I know that nervous feeling when

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<v Speaker 1>you start a new school. It's terrifying. What I do

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<v Speaker 1>love is that this school she's going to be at

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<v Speaker 1>shouldn't be a great fit for the long haul until

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<v Speaker 1>she graduates. Yes, thank God. So she's not going to

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<v Speaker 1>have the newness, which I had to do like four

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<v Speaker 1>different times, like normal, you know? It was preschool. Preschool. Elementary,

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<v Speaker 1>junior high, high school. And it was like, oh my gosh,

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<v Speaker 1>I cannot. I felt like I was going to have

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<v Speaker 1>a heart attack every single time I started a new school.

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<v Speaker 1>And so then I get her from the bus stop

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<v Speaker 1>first day of school. And she's just like beaming how much.

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<v Speaker 1>She gets off and she goes, I love the bus.

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<v Speaker 1>And the bus driver said, bye, Ocean. Because she's the

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<v Speaker 1>youngest one on the bus. Everyone else is like in

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<v Speaker 1>middle school. Then I take her the second day. to

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<v Speaker 1>the bus stop to go to school. And she is

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<v Speaker 1>just beaming about getting on the bus. The door is open.

0:13:44.480 --> 0:13:48.620
<v Speaker 1>She walks up. The bus driver is like, good morning, Ocean.

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<v Speaker 1>She goes, you're going to sit up here with me.

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<v Speaker 1>So she's in like the front row. The girl's buckling

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<v Speaker 1>her in. And all I see is they drive away.

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<v Speaker 1>It's just the top of her. Oh, that's so cute.

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<v Speaker 1>I sobbed, Amber. Yeah, I would too. I don't know

0:14:07.290 --> 0:14:10.920
<v Speaker 1>why I'm so emotional about it, but like it has

0:14:11.340 --> 0:14:18.059
<v Speaker 1>fucked me up. Yeah, she's just like. The bond I

0:14:18.120 --> 0:14:20.750
<v Speaker 1>have with that child is like something I cannot explain.

0:14:20.810 --> 0:14:24.430
<v Speaker 1>And obviously I love and adore Sosa, but I and

0:14:24.450 --> 0:14:28.220
<v Speaker 1>I've talked about this before. It's like all of these.

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<v Speaker 1>These big moments happening and I feel such like a

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<v Speaker 1>trauma bond with Ocean. Where like I'm so protective because

0:14:36.290 --> 0:14:40.150
<v Speaker 1>I had to fight so hard for her. Yeah. So

0:14:40.290 --> 0:14:44.630
<v Speaker 1>any big moment, it just means something. It just feels

0:14:44.710 --> 0:14:47.410
<v Speaker 1>different than it does. Like I'm so at peace with

0:14:47.510 --> 0:14:51.210
<v Speaker 1>being Sosa's mom. And I don't really feel that sense

0:14:51.250 --> 0:14:54.270
<v Speaker 1>of peace with being Ocean's mom. Like I feel like

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<v Speaker 1>I'm constantly... in fight mode and I don't understand that

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<v Speaker 1>at all. No, I get that. I totally get the

0:15:03.490 --> 0:15:06.690
<v Speaker 1>fight mode. Every year that rolls around and I go

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<v Speaker 1>back and I look at like all of these videos

0:15:10.200 --> 0:15:12.100
<v Speaker 1>of how her voice used to sound, how it used

0:15:12.120 --> 0:15:14.220
<v Speaker 1>to sound when she would call me mama and then

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<v Speaker 1>just like how it changes and you don't really notice

0:15:16.800 --> 0:15:20.440
<v Speaker 1>the change because you see them every day. And I'm just,

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<v Speaker 1>I do not like change. I hate time passing. And

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<v Speaker 1>I'm like, my child is in kindergarten. She's, she's like

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<v Speaker 1>becoming a little, she's at a real school. And I

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<v Speaker 1>know that this, I'm sure moms can relate to this,

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<v Speaker 1>but you just, you just want the time to like

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<v Speaker 1>just pause. I know. I see videos.

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<v Speaker 2>I actually can't go through videos in my phone because

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<v Speaker 2>it fucks me up.

0:15:52.580 --> 0:15:54.840
<v Speaker 1>Like if I go through old videos of the kids.

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<v Speaker 2>When, we were in Hawaii or London's little voice, like

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<v Speaker 2>when she was obsessed with Justin Bieber or she used

0:16:02.810 --> 0:16:05.830
<v Speaker 2>to watch Doc McStuffins. And I have so many, I

0:16:05.870 --> 0:16:08.750
<v Speaker 2>actually have more videos of London than I do Riley,

0:16:09.290 --> 0:16:12.700
<v Speaker 2>but it fucks me up. Like I can't, it's almost like,

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<v Speaker 2>I'm just like, no, like you're here now. Like it's

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<v Speaker 2>just a great gentle reminder that these are the moments.

0:16:19.620 --> 0:16:26.000
<v Speaker 2>And because our kids both come from separated homes, we

0:16:26.040 --> 0:16:27.880
<v Speaker 2>get their life cut in half.

0:16:28.380 --> 0:16:28.680
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 2>Like that's half of the drop offs that a normal,

0:16:34.460 --> 0:16:36.960
<v Speaker 2>you know, a family that's together, like we get half

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<v Speaker 2>of everything. And so it's, it's just a good reminder

0:16:40.260 --> 0:16:42.840
<v Speaker 2>just to be like, no, I don't, I don't.

0:16:42.900 --> 0:16:46.140
<v Speaker 1>Have to pick ocean up from school today.

0:16:46.220 --> 0:16:49.490
<v Speaker 2>I get to like, it just teaches you to slow

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<v Speaker 2>down and just like savor every freaking moment.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I want to be the one that picks up and

0:16:57.820 --> 0:17:00.600
<v Speaker 1>drops off. That has to be a part of my

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<v Speaker 1>routine because there's going to be a day where she

0:17:05.790 --> 0:17:09.369
<v Speaker 1>just jumps in the car and goes. Once these kids

0:17:09.550 --> 0:17:12.250
<v Speaker 1>turn 16 and they get their license, they're gone. Even

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<v Speaker 1>beyond that though, in LA, these kids that I see

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<v Speaker 1>just out and about at the mall, I'm like, how'd

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<v Speaker 1>you get here? Where's your mom?

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<v Speaker 4>No, I know.

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<v Speaker 1>They're super independent. You walk past them and they're cussing

0:17:23.340 --> 0:17:27.109
<v Speaker 1>and I'm like, Why are you talking that way? I know.

0:17:27.470 --> 0:17:29.660
<v Speaker 1>I got upset with Riley because she said his ass

0:17:29.700 --> 0:17:33.160
<v Speaker 1>crack was showing. And I was like, please don't say that.

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<v Speaker 1>Please don't talk like that.

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<v Speaker 3>Like, really?

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<v Speaker 1>Like, now I understand. I remember my mom went through

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<v Speaker 1>my phone when I was in junior high. And she

0:17:43.690 --> 0:17:49.070
<v Speaker 1>saw messages. And she was laying in bed looking sad

0:17:49.109 --> 0:17:53.680
<v Speaker 1>and depressed. And she like, I went through your phone.

0:17:54.250 --> 0:17:56.410
<v Speaker 1>And I saw language that I didn't want to see.

0:17:56.970 --> 0:17:58.290
<v Speaker 1>And I like blamed it on my friend. I was like,

0:17:58.350 --> 0:18:01.560
<v Speaker 1>I let my friend text from my phone, like complete lie.

0:18:02.150 --> 0:18:04.120
<v Speaker 1>But it was, I think what it is, is it's

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<v Speaker 1>like less about like, you can't say those words because

0:18:07.359 --> 0:18:09.420
<v Speaker 1>they're bad, but it's like, those are for grownups.

0:18:09.740 --> 0:18:09.940
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:18:10.100 --> 0:18:13.570
<v Speaker 1>Which you're not. Be my baby. Because the moment you're

0:18:13.609 --> 0:18:16.810
<v Speaker 1>out here thrown around ass crack or the F word,

0:18:17.350 --> 0:18:19.630
<v Speaker 1>that means that we have now ventured into a new

0:18:19.970 --> 0:18:22.930
<v Speaker 1>stage of life and I'm not ready for it. Right.

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<v Speaker 2>That's exactly how I feel when Riley was like, they're sexist.

0:18:26.380 --> 0:18:30.740
<v Speaker 1>I was like, wait, wait, like what? Like, how do I? No, no,

0:18:30.780 --> 0:18:31.700
<v Speaker 1>you're in seventh grade.

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<v Speaker 2>And it's like, oh no, this is the age that

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<v Speaker 2>these thoughts and ideas. And like, I, oh, last night

0:18:39.470 --> 0:18:42.740
<v Speaker 2>I had to tell you this. She called me and

0:18:42.830 --> 0:18:45.389
<v Speaker 2>I actually called to make sure that her, see, I still,

0:18:45.450 --> 0:18:48.590
<v Speaker 2>this is me helicoptering from afar. I was like, is

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<v Speaker 2>your computer charged for school?

0:18:50.490 --> 0:18:52.210
<v Speaker 1>Do you have your clothes picked out? Did you brush

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<v Speaker 1>your teeth? Did you did it? And she's like, yes, yes, yes, yes.

0:18:55.310 --> 0:18:57.510
<v Speaker 1>Which is like, probably half of it is a lie.

0:18:58.390 --> 0:19:01.470
<v Speaker 1>But I said, okay. She's like, mom, this.

0:19:01.390 --> 0:19:06.030
<v Speaker 2>Boy reached out to me and asked like, he would,

0:19:06.250 --> 0:19:07.630
<v Speaker 2>he wanted to get to know me better.

0:19:07.770 --> 0:19:10.090
<v Speaker 1>And like, keep it on the DL, but he thought

0:19:10.109 --> 0:19:10.870
<v Speaker 1>I was really cute.

0:19:10.890 --> 0:19:14.590
<v Speaker 2>And I was like, the fact that she was willing

0:19:14.630 --> 0:19:16.410
<v Speaker 2>to open up to me and tell me this.

0:19:16.890 --> 0:19:17.130
<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

0:19:17.770 --> 0:19:18.910
<v Speaker 1>And she didn't keep it from me.

0:19:18.930 --> 0:19:20.000
<v Speaker 4>I know.

0:19:20.020 --> 0:19:21.840
<v Speaker 1>I was like, oh, yes.

0:19:22.380 --> 0:19:25.220
<v Speaker 2>Like, there are moments where I'm like, oh, she loves

0:19:25.300 --> 0:19:29.240
<v Speaker 2>her dad. And she is like, so about her dad

0:19:29.260 --> 0:19:29.580
<v Speaker 2>right now.

0:19:29.859 --> 0:19:32.420
<v Speaker 1>You love that he, that she loves him. Yeah. But

0:19:32.460 --> 0:19:34.369
<v Speaker 1>it's like Disneyland. Who the fuck doesn't want to go

0:19:34.400 --> 0:19:36.570
<v Speaker 1>to Disneyland? When she comes to you. I want to

0:19:36.590 --> 0:19:42.189
<v Speaker 1>go to Disneyland. Actually, no. There's home. It's stability. She

0:19:42.230 --> 0:19:45.550
<v Speaker 1>talks to you about the cute things, like a boy

0:19:45.570 --> 0:19:46.890
<v Speaker 1>likes me. You're her mom.

0:19:47.170 --> 0:19:49.169
<v Speaker 2>I know, but I love, so I was just saying that, like,

0:19:49.250 --> 0:19:51.040
<v Speaker 2>I love that moment. that I, it was just a

0:19:51.119 --> 0:19:53.280
<v Speaker 2>gentle reminder for me that I was like, Oh, we

0:19:53.300 --> 0:19:55.330
<v Speaker 2>still have that connection where she's willing to open up.

0:19:55.359 --> 0:19:57.780
<v Speaker 1>And that's all I want. I just want my kids.

0:19:57.619 --> 0:19:59.680
<v Speaker 2>To always be able to come to me, whether it's

0:19:59.780 --> 0:20:03.880
<v Speaker 2>boys or friendship or whatever it is. That's like my

0:20:03.940 --> 0:20:07.820
<v Speaker 2>main goal. Like just keep the channel of dialogue open.

0:20:08.180 --> 0:20:11.880
<v Speaker 2>Open always and be in the ear and sometimes not

0:20:11.920 --> 0:20:13.820
<v Speaker 2>even give them advice about what they're.

0:20:13.760 --> 0:20:17.400
<v Speaker 1>Asking or make a comment. Just listen. Because sometimes they

0:20:17.420 --> 0:20:18.760
<v Speaker 1>just need to get it out. Like in that moment,

0:20:19.300 --> 0:20:21.940
<v Speaker 1>that boy had just text her and she just needed

0:20:21.980 --> 0:20:22.680
<v Speaker 1>to tell someone.

0:20:22.840 --> 0:20:23.040
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>So it was so cute. I was so, I was like, Oh,

0:20:25.560 --> 0:20:27.379
<v Speaker 1>you know what? That's a funky age though. I remember

0:20:27.420 --> 0:20:31.570
<v Speaker 1>when I went through that phase of life, like 12

0:20:31.570 --> 0:20:38.060
<v Speaker 1>to 14 and my mom, which is hard to imagine

0:20:38.080 --> 0:20:41.480
<v Speaker 1>because we're so close. But that little period of time,

0:20:42.220 --> 0:20:44.640
<v Speaker 1>she was so fucking annoying to me. I was like,

0:20:44.780 --> 0:20:47.980
<v Speaker 1>get out of my business. Don't talk to me about stuff.

0:20:48.040 --> 0:20:49.500
<v Speaker 1>I just want to be with my friends. I just

0:20:49.520 --> 0:20:52.419
<v Speaker 1>want to text this boy, like get out of my grill.

0:20:52.660 --> 0:20:57.590
<v Speaker 2>So they say that the biggest changes in child development

0:20:58.010 --> 0:21:01.470
<v Speaker 2>are from, I think, zero to three and from 11

0:21:01.470 --> 0:21:04.870
<v Speaker 2>to 14. And I saw that the other day. There's

0:21:04.890 --> 0:21:07.000
<v Speaker 2>this woman that I follow on Instagram who's been like

0:21:07.640 --> 0:21:09.480
<v Speaker 2>a saving grace whenever I feel like I'm losing my

0:21:09.740 --> 0:21:12.760
<v Speaker 2>shit with Riley or one of the kids. It's like,

0:21:13.060 --> 0:21:17.850
<v Speaker 2>I have to remember, they're going through so many changes.

0:21:17.869 --> 0:21:19.330
<v Speaker 1>And I'm like, okay, we got this. We got this.

0:21:20.390 --> 0:21:22.330
<v Speaker 1>Of course you do. But like 11 to 14, I'm

0:21:22.369 --> 0:21:24.950
<v Speaker 1>in it. She's going to be 13 in November. Yeah,

0:21:24.970 --> 0:21:27.210
<v Speaker 1>so like you're basically out of it almost. So she'll

0:21:27.230 --> 0:21:29.230
<v Speaker 1>be back in like her freshman year. Yeah.

0:21:30.470 --> 0:21:32.530
<v Speaker 2>She'll be back her freshman year. No, her sophomore year.

0:21:32.550 --> 0:21:34.630
<v Speaker 2>I heard they get really nice again their sophomore year.

0:21:35.850 --> 0:21:38.430
<v Speaker 1>Oh, yeah. I turned into an angel. Right? I, like,

0:21:38.470 --> 0:21:42.000
<v Speaker 1>was listening again. I realized, like, my mom knows best.

0:21:42.480 --> 0:21:45.780
<v Speaker 1>The girls that I was confiding in were actually bitches. Yeah.

0:21:46.000 --> 0:21:47.979
<v Speaker 1>You know, I'm like, my mom has never told my secrets. Like,

0:21:48.020 --> 0:21:51.750
<v Speaker 1>you hoes. You hoes are talking.

0:21:51.930 --> 0:21:55.330
<v Speaker 2>It's hard. It's a hard age. But other than that,

0:21:55.690 --> 0:21:58.880
<v Speaker 2>I think Riley is super... Excited to be back here

0:21:58.900 --> 0:22:02.060
<v Speaker 2>in LA going to school and she better get her

0:22:02.200 --> 0:22:02.680
<v Speaker 2>homework done.

0:22:02.780 --> 0:22:04.780
<v Speaker 1>That's all I have to say. Yeah. I asked Ocean,

0:22:04.800 --> 0:22:06.920
<v Speaker 1>do you like school? I know you love riding the bus,

0:22:06.940 --> 0:22:11.610
<v Speaker 1>but do you like school? And she goes, it's different.

0:22:12.390 --> 0:22:13.929
<v Speaker 1>And then the second day that I picked her up,

0:22:13.970 --> 0:22:16.990
<v Speaker 1>I said, are you liking school more? And she goes, mom,

0:22:17.030 --> 0:22:23.430
<v Speaker 1>I like it like this much more already. So Riley. Okay.

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<v Speaker 2>So I had a conversation with Riley and I didn't

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<v Speaker 2>tell you this last night when I talked to you

0:22:26.280 --> 0:22:28.469
<v Speaker 2>on the phone. I'm going to pick Riley up from

0:22:28.510 --> 0:22:32.410
<v Speaker 2>school today, but going forward, I'm dropping her off. She's

0:22:32.430 --> 0:22:34.590
<v Speaker 2>on the same bus as Ocean. So I can drop

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<v Speaker 2>her off.

0:22:35.150 --> 0:22:35.370
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>But they get out at different times. I know, but

0:22:39.250 --> 0:22:41.750
<v Speaker 1>they wait for the upper school. Oh, they do.

0:22:41.830 --> 0:22:42.109
<v Speaker 2>Yes.

0:22:42.410 --> 0:22:44.590
<v Speaker 1>See, I wanted her to take the bus today. That's

0:22:44.710 --> 0:22:48.909
<v Speaker 1>why Ocean basically gets dropped off at the bus stop

0:22:49.080 --> 0:22:53.100
<v Speaker 1>an hour later than she gets out of school. So

0:22:53.119 --> 0:22:54.580
<v Speaker 1>what do they do for that hour? They play? They

0:22:55.400 --> 0:22:57.560
<v Speaker 1>have like play times? Yeah, probably.

0:22:57.580 --> 0:22:59.000
<v Speaker 2>Okay, I wonder if I can call the school today

0:22:59.020 --> 0:23:01.000
<v Speaker 2>and get Riley on the bus because the only reason

0:23:01.020 --> 0:23:04.280
<v Speaker 2>why she didn't want to take the bus home, she's like, well,

0:23:04.340 --> 0:23:05.260
<v Speaker 2>Ocean's not on the bus.

0:23:05.560 --> 0:23:10.040
<v Speaker 1>But tomorrow we should do pickup, figure it out later.

0:23:10.100 --> 0:23:11.459
<v Speaker 1>I got to pick up at the school because my

0:23:11.500 --> 0:23:16.640
<v Speaker 1>baby is starting gymnastics at a real gym and she

0:23:16.720 --> 0:23:19.869
<v Speaker 1>is so excited. Wow. She said, do they have a

0:23:19.910 --> 0:23:22.149
<v Speaker 1>balance beam, mom? So you're going to pick her up

0:23:22.210 --> 0:23:24.980
<v Speaker 1>straight from the school earlier? At the time she gets out.

0:23:25.020 --> 0:23:27.680
<v Speaker 1>Cause then I got a beat at her trial gymnastics thing.

0:23:27.840 --> 0:23:30.300
<v Speaker 1>Like my kid wants to go to the Olympics. She's

0:23:30.340 --> 0:23:30.960
<v Speaker 1>going to go.

0:23:31.020 --> 0:23:33.399
<v Speaker 2>I mean, if she has your personality, she's going to

0:23:33.420 --> 0:23:38.750
<v Speaker 2>the Olympics. She's going, we will be there front and center.

0:23:39.470 --> 0:23:40.470
<v Speaker 1>I love that.

0:23:40.550 --> 0:23:40.850
<v Speaker 2>I know.

0:23:40.869 --> 0:23:43.350
<v Speaker 1>I do too. Okay. I have a question for you.

0:23:43.510 --> 0:23:47.410
<v Speaker 1>So now that my kids are older there, I'm like,

0:23:47.450 --> 0:23:48.790
<v Speaker 1>I can't do anything. That's cool.

0:23:48.830 --> 0:23:51.490
<v Speaker 2>Like I have to literally, I'll be a mile away

0:23:51.510 --> 0:23:53.710
<v Speaker 2>from the school. And Riley will be like, will you

0:23:53.750 --> 0:23:56.230
<v Speaker 2>turn down the music? I'm like, Riley, we're not even

0:23:56.280 --> 0:23:59.440
<v Speaker 2>at the fucking school yet. We haven't even hit the turn.

0:23:59.480 --> 0:24:00.980
<v Speaker 1>She wants to do what? She wants to turn the

0:24:01.020 --> 0:24:01.540
<v Speaker 1>music down.

0:24:01.980 --> 0:24:02.260
<v Speaker 4>Oh, okay.

0:24:02.359 --> 0:24:06.340
<v Speaker 1>Like, she's so embarrassed. It is the craziest. I'm like,

0:24:06.380 --> 0:24:08.180
<v Speaker 1>we're not even close to the school.

0:24:08.240 --> 0:24:10.840
<v Speaker 2>I'm not going to write in silence for another five

0:24:10.920 --> 0:24:13.810
<v Speaker 2>minutes in fear of you being, quote, embarrassed, by the way.

0:24:14.570 --> 0:24:17.430
<v Speaker 2>So this question I'm going to ask you is like,

0:24:18.160 --> 0:24:20.359
<v Speaker 2>I'm already out of the woods and I don't even

0:24:20.380 --> 0:24:23.200
<v Speaker 2>have to worry about it, but how involved.

0:24:22.859 --> 0:24:24.160
<v Speaker 1>Do you actually want to be?

0:24:24.180 --> 0:24:28.010
<v Speaker 2>Do you see yourself being when it comes to, because

0:24:28.050 --> 0:24:30.450
<v Speaker 2>in kindergarten you, you can still be really involved as

0:24:30.470 --> 0:24:30.810
<v Speaker 2>a parent.

0:24:31.430 --> 0:24:34.389
<v Speaker 1>The school that they're at right now, you have to

0:24:34.430 --> 0:24:38.879
<v Speaker 1>be involved like weekly, like every day at the same,

0:24:39.100 --> 0:24:42.800
<v Speaker 1>like a job that you don't get paid for, which

0:24:42.840 --> 0:24:47.800
<v Speaker 1>is great. That's totally fine. But my schedule starts getting

0:24:47.900 --> 0:24:52.790
<v Speaker 1>very chaotic with just what I do for a living.

0:24:52.900 --> 0:24:57.369
<v Speaker 1>So I don't know that I could be there every

0:24:57.530 --> 0:25:01.629
<v Speaker 1>single week, you know? So I'll be as involved as

0:25:01.710 --> 0:25:03.570
<v Speaker 1>I can be. Let's sign up for like book fair

0:25:03.590 --> 0:25:07.110
<v Speaker 1>together or something. Something that's just a one-off. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

0:25:07.210 --> 0:25:08.689
<v Speaker 1>Like the book fair once a year, we have to

0:25:08.730 --> 0:25:10.030
<v Speaker 1>show up. That's great.

0:25:10.210 --> 0:25:10.390
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:25:10.510 --> 0:25:12.850
<v Speaker 1>But we should do that together. That's what's really fun

0:25:12.890 --> 0:25:14.070
<v Speaker 1>about them being at the same school.

0:25:14.210 --> 0:25:14.390
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:25:14.850 --> 0:25:17.210
<v Speaker 1>Is that we can do shit together. Yeah. I know.

0:25:17.380 --> 0:25:20.780
<v Speaker 1>That would actually be hysterical. Oh, I have such a

0:25:20.840 --> 0:25:25.300
<v Speaker 1>funny story for you. Tell me. So transportation calls me

0:25:25.940 --> 0:25:27.639
<v Speaker 1>and they're like, Hey, just confirming the ocean's going to

0:25:27.680 --> 0:25:29.320
<v Speaker 1>be on the bus today. And I was like, yes,

0:25:29.480 --> 0:25:32.600
<v Speaker 1>she's like plan on her. And they go, okay. And

0:25:32.920 --> 0:25:36.580
<v Speaker 1>there's one more student, uh, Riley and she'll, she'll be

0:25:36.600 --> 0:25:38.110
<v Speaker 1>on the bus too. And I was like, yep, she'll

0:25:38.119 --> 0:25:41.710
<v Speaker 1>be on the bus. They are so confused. I was

0:25:41.780 --> 0:25:45.340
<v Speaker 1>so confused. Who's mom? And then I was like, I

0:25:45.380 --> 0:25:47.580
<v Speaker 1>just confirmed that Riley's on the bus and I actually

0:25:47.619 --> 0:25:53.060
<v Speaker 1>have no idea what her transportation is. So I'm like,

0:25:53.080 --> 0:25:54.919
<v Speaker 1>of course I'm not going to call him. So I

0:25:54.960 --> 0:25:57.110
<v Speaker 1>call you. I'm like, you may need to call to

0:25:57.140 --> 0:25:58.429
<v Speaker 1>let them know. I don't know.

0:25:58.450 --> 0:26:00.530
<v Speaker 2>They were very confused when I talked to them because

0:26:00.570 --> 0:26:03.350
<v Speaker 2>I was calling the transportation lady and I was like, okay,

0:26:03.510 --> 0:26:06.010
<v Speaker 2>where is Riley's bus stop? Cause I want her on

0:26:06.050 --> 0:26:07.750
<v Speaker 2>the same one as ocean so they could ride the

0:26:07.790 --> 0:26:12.370
<v Speaker 2>bus together. And, and she goes, well, actually the one

0:26:12.410 --> 0:26:16.390
<v Speaker 2>stop is like ridiculous. It's like an extra three grand

0:26:16.590 --> 0:26:17.130
<v Speaker 2>or something.

0:26:17.430 --> 0:26:17.750
<v Speaker 4>What?

0:26:17.850 --> 0:26:18.230
<v Speaker 3>Yes.

0:26:18.550 --> 0:26:20.510
<v Speaker 2>For the year for transportation. And I was like, no,

0:26:20.530 --> 0:26:23.149
<v Speaker 2>where's the free bus stop. And it was actually our

0:26:23.230 --> 0:26:23.840
<v Speaker 2>new bus stop.

0:26:24.230 --> 0:26:24.890
<v Speaker 1>The one I'm on.

0:26:24.970 --> 0:26:25.230
<v Speaker 4>Yes.

0:26:25.340 --> 0:26:26.040
<v Speaker 1>Yeah.

0:26:26.460 --> 0:26:26.940
<v Speaker 4>Free.

0:26:27.020 --> 0:26:28.679
<v Speaker 1>I'm like, I'm not paying an extra three grand for

0:26:28.700 --> 0:26:29.400
<v Speaker 1>my daughter to ride the bus.

0:26:29.960 --> 0:26:32.200
<v Speaker 2>So when I said I need her to be on

0:26:32.220 --> 0:26:35.020
<v Speaker 2>the same bus stop, bus as Ocean Kent and they're

0:26:35.040 --> 0:26:37.020
<v Speaker 2>like well who's Ocean Kent I said no Ocean is

0:26:37.660 --> 0:26:41.429
<v Speaker 2>Riley Emmett's half sister and they're like okay so are

0:26:41.490 --> 0:26:43.750
<v Speaker 2>you Ocean's mom I'm like no no no I'm not

0:26:43.790 --> 0:26:47.390
<v Speaker 2>the mom I'm like no Lala's the mom and then

0:26:47.450 --> 0:26:51.070
<v Speaker 2>she I think I confused her even more once I

0:26:51.090 --> 0:26:53.570
<v Speaker 2>started explaining I'm like I think I need to drive down.

0:26:53.470 --> 0:26:55.590
<v Speaker 1>The school and do a family tree like we need

0:26:55.630 --> 0:26:56.409
<v Speaker 1>a family tree.

0:26:56.270 --> 0:26:58.750
<v Speaker 4>For our family yeah we do the co-parents are here

0:26:58.770 --> 0:27:04.520
<v Speaker 4>Lala and Amber this guy like give or take Kids,

0:27:05.300 --> 0:27:06.800
<v Speaker 4>always in the same mix. Yeah.

0:27:07.300 --> 0:27:09.720
<v Speaker 1>Always on the same bus. So funny.

0:27:09.900 --> 0:27:10.219
<v Speaker 2>You know what?

0:27:10.240 --> 0:27:15.840
<v Speaker 1>We should just draw a square. Bala, Amber, Riley, Ocean.

0:27:16.520 --> 0:27:17.280
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:27:17.800 --> 0:27:19.760
<v Speaker 1>Here's the family square. That's all you need to know.

0:27:19.940 --> 0:27:20.120
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:27:20.940 --> 0:27:21.580
<v Speaker 1>Don't you think?

0:27:22.359 --> 0:27:22.699
<v Speaker 4>Totally.

0:27:23.480 --> 0:27:26.979
<v Speaker 1>I think so. Our square is consistent, and it's just easy.

0:27:27.080 --> 0:27:27.300
<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

0:27:27.580 --> 0:27:31.590
<v Speaker 1>It's not confusing, really. But also, what I told the

0:27:31.609 --> 0:27:35.670
<v Speaker 1>school is I'm like, But Riley's mom, who is not

0:27:35.770 --> 0:27:40.230
<v Speaker 1>Ocean's mom because I'm Ocean's mom. Riley's mom has permission

0:27:40.350 --> 0:27:42.949
<v Speaker 1>to get Ocean from school. Oh, good. Because I put

0:27:42.990 --> 0:27:47.590
<v Speaker 1>you down, too. Yeah. Oh, good. We have to. Yeah. OK, perfect.

0:27:48.290 --> 0:27:50.990
<v Speaker 2>Well, I'm glad we got that out of the way.

0:28:00.270 --> 0:28:02.310
<v Speaker 2>So I don't know if you heard about this.

0:28:02.869 --> 0:28:06.909
<v Speaker 1>I saw this on Instagram and it was posted and

0:28:06.990 --> 0:28:09.410
<v Speaker 1>labeled Oreo gate. So this is a school that I'm

0:28:09.730 --> 0:28:12.430
<v Speaker 1>unsure of like where it's located, but it's literally a

0:28:12.530 --> 0:28:15.670
<v Speaker 1>school group chat about Oreos. You're going to die about

0:28:15.690 --> 0:28:19.899
<v Speaker 1>what it says. Ooh. So one mom sent her kid

0:28:20.040 --> 0:28:25.920
<v Speaker 1>to school with Oreos in their lunchbox. Another little girl

0:28:26.020 --> 0:28:30.350
<v Speaker 1>comes home crying. Okay. So this, because she didn't get

0:28:30.430 --> 0:28:33.129
<v Speaker 1>Oreos in her lunch and they don't allow Oreos in

0:28:33.170 --> 0:28:36.659
<v Speaker 1>their household. So that mom calls the teacher and says,

0:28:37.380 --> 0:28:40.200
<v Speaker 1>you know, can we make note that like my child

0:28:40.240 --> 0:28:43.220
<v Speaker 1>comes home from school upset that kids are having Oreos.

0:28:43.860 --> 0:28:46.870
<v Speaker 1>The mom sends them again. The little girl who doesn't

0:28:46.900 --> 0:28:49.290
<v Speaker 1>get Oreos cries, goes home to her mom. The mom

0:28:49.310 --> 0:28:50.870
<v Speaker 1>calls the teacher again and was like, we got to

0:28:50.890 --> 0:28:53.670
<v Speaker 1>do something about the Oreos. So the teacher sends out

0:28:53.830 --> 0:28:56.489
<v Speaker 1>a group chat. Please do not pack Oreos in your

0:28:56.510 --> 0:29:00.340
<v Speaker 1>kid's lunch. So the one mom, In the group chat,

0:29:00.380 --> 0:29:04.090
<v Speaker 1>they're discussing the Oreos. Her name's Charlotte. She goes, I mean,

0:29:04.110 --> 0:29:08.450
<v Speaker 1>I sent the Oreos. Laughing, crying face. Michelle. Oh, okay.

0:29:08.670 --> 0:29:12.230
<v Speaker 1>Would you mind maybe not sending them again? Charlotte. Why? Laughing,

0:29:12.250 --> 0:29:16.750
<v Speaker 1>crying face. Michelle. Just because Ava was really upset about it,

0:29:16.930 --> 0:29:20.010
<v Speaker 1>and I think it would be easier if we're all consistent. Casey.

0:29:20.590 --> 0:29:23.969
<v Speaker 1>I don't really think we can control what everyone else packs, though. Michelle.

0:29:24.490 --> 0:29:27.080
<v Speaker 1>I'm not trying to control anyone. I'm just asking everyone

0:29:27.120 --> 0:29:30.740
<v Speaker 1>to be considerate. Charlotte. With respect, I'm not changing my

0:29:30.760 --> 0:29:33.270
<v Speaker 1>daughter's lunch because your daughter wants an Oreo.

0:29:34.910 --> 0:29:38.910
<v Speaker 3>The one mom was like, I really don't under, like,

0:29:38.990 --> 0:29:39.970
<v Speaker 3>we're not giving your kid.

0:29:40.090 --> 0:29:42.040
<v Speaker 1>Oreos we know that they're not allowed and she was

0:29:42.060 --> 0:29:43.840
<v Speaker 1>like i know but she gets upset and she's.

0:29:43.700 --> 0:29:48.560
<v Speaker 3>Like i'm not discussing oreos that is the weirdest thing

0:29:48.760 --> 0:29:50.700
<v Speaker 3>i would be like bitch you're crazy now i'm gonna

0:29:50.720 --> 0:29:52.810
<v Speaker 3>send my kid with two packs of oreos.

0:29:52.530 --> 0:29:54.209
<v Speaker 4>Yeah and i'm gonna make her give your kid one

0:29:54.230 --> 0:29:56.850
<v Speaker 4>because yeah by the way it's a fucking.

0:29:56.630 --> 0:29:58.330
<v Speaker 1>Oreo you're depriving your child of an.

0:29:58.390 --> 0:30:02.150
<v Speaker 3>Oreo by the way that's so weird during uh when

0:30:02.170 --> 0:30:04.860
<v Speaker 3>i was in school, my parents downstairs, we had like

0:30:04.900 --> 0:30:07.060
<v Speaker 3>this media room and there were these drawers and the

0:30:07.280 --> 0:30:08.920
<v Speaker 3>front had all of this candy.

0:30:08.940 --> 0:30:11.280
<v Speaker 1>So you could see which drawer had what in it.

0:30:12.480 --> 0:30:14.320
<v Speaker 1>And then you would see like a bunch of M &amp; Ms.

0:30:14.340 --> 0:30:15.820
<v Speaker 1>You would open that drawer and there's like a bunch

0:30:15.840 --> 0:30:18.120
<v Speaker 1>of packs of M &amp; Ms or whatever. So I

0:30:18.120 --> 0:30:20.520
<v Speaker 1>was like not deprived. I had a full like candy

0:30:20.560 --> 0:30:24.250
<v Speaker 1>bin at my house that was like, have at it

0:30:24.290 --> 0:30:26.370
<v Speaker 1>whenever you want. And I never really cared about it.

0:30:26.770 --> 0:30:29.469
<v Speaker 1>My friends who didn't get candy at their house. Oh,

0:30:29.610 --> 0:30:31.870
<v Speaker 1>we'd had nothing left when they would come. It's like,

0:30:32.880 --> 0:30:34.320
<v Speaker 1>I feel like if you just like give your kid

0:30:34.340 --> 0:30:39.020
<v Speaker 1>the option, like sure, have them. Yeah. Yeah. Well, they're Oreos.

0:30:39.620 --> 0:30:41.040
<v Speaker 1>And they are delicious.

0:30:41.060 --> 0:30:44.900
<v Speaker 2>You're not packing your kid like a bag of cocaine.

0:30:46.980 --> 0:30:49.000
<v Speaker 2>Which basically your brain doesn't know the difference, but I

0:30:49.040 --> 0:30:49.780
<v Speaker 2>would still be like, yeah.

0:30:50.180 --> 0:30:52.610
<v Speaker 1>Your brain doesn't know the difference between an Oreo and cocaine?

0:30:52.920 --> 0:30:55.030
<v Speaker 2>Well, if you're getting a dopamine hit every time you

0:30:55.050 --> 0:30:57.310
<v Speaker 2>have a, like when I have something that I love,

0:30:57.790 --> 0:30:59.350
<v Speaker 2>I imagine I'm like, oh, this is what it.

0:30:59.330 --> 0:31:01.230
<v Speaker 1>Would be like to do cocaine. Like that feeling of

0:31:01.310 --> 0:31:04.120
<v Speaker 1>just being able to be like, Wow, this is really

0:31:04.220 --> 0:31:06.620
<v Speaker 1>fucking good. Wow, it doesn't take much to get you

0:31:06.640 --> 0:31:08.800
<v Speaker 1>to hit the ceiling, does it? No, it doesn't. But

0:31:08.940 --> 0:31:12.620
<v Speaker 1>that's how much I love food. Here's the difference between

0:31:12.640 --> 0:31:15.610
<v Speaker 1>an Oreo and cocaine. One burns holes in your brain.

0:31:15.950 --> 0:31:17.610
<v Speaker 1>The other does not. Yeah, the other one just gives

0:31:17.630 --> 0:31:21.370
<v Speaker 1>you diabetes. And one of them you could dip in

0:31:21.410 --> 0:31:25.190
<v Speaker 1>milk and the other one you cannot. No, not at all.

0:31:28.210 --> 0:31:31.070
<v Speaker 1>But I was dead over that group chat. I'm... I'm

0:31:31.110 --> 0:31:33.350
<v Speaker 1>doing school lunch. And by the way, I want to

0:31:33.430 --> 0:31:37.130
<v Speaker 1>eat there at the school. Really? Have you seen the menu? No,

0:31:37.190 --> 0:31:39.630
<v Speaker 1>I haven't. Holy shit. I just showed up. I was like, oh,

0:31:39.650 --> 0:31:41.500
<v Speaker 1>this is your new school. Okay, bye. What does she

0:31:41.520 --> 0:31:43.420
<v Speaker 1>eat for lunch? Do you pack a lunch? No, I

0:31:43.440 --> 0:31:46.800
<v Speaker 1>don't know. Have you ordered her lunch? I also don't know. Amber,

0:31:48.120 --> 0:31:50.480
<v Speaker 1>what is Riley eating for lunch?

0:31:50.500 --> 0:31:50.880
<v Speaker 4>I don't know.

0:31:50.940 --> 0:31:57.380
<v Speaker 1>I don't know. I did ask her. Okay. Okay. I said,

0:31:57.400 --> 0:31:58.670
<v Speaker 1>do you want to go get snacks for school? And

0:31:58.690 --> 0:31:59.210
<v Speaker 1>she goes, no.

0:31:59.250 --> 0:32:00.950
<v Speaker 2>And I said, are you sure? I'll take you to

0:32:00.990 --> 0:32:03.480
<v Speaker 2>Trader Joe's or like wherever. She likes these like fake

0:32:03.540 --> 0:32:04.360
<v Speaker 2>talkies or whatever.

0:32:04.720 --> 0:32:05.060
<v Speaker 1>Okay.

0:32:05.940 --> 0:32:10.090
<v Speaker 2>And then- She didn't take anything. I said, where's your

0:32:10.130 --> 0:32:12.150
<v Speaker 2>snack bag? Okay, well, then she got upset because I

0:32:12.190 --> 0:32:14.130
<v Speaker 2>wanted to buy her a lunchbox. She's like, I'm not

0:32:14.150 --> 0:32:16.670
<v Speaker 2>doing a lunchbox. We don't do lunchboxes anymore. I said, well,

0:32:16.690 --> 0:32:17.920
<v Speaker 2>then what do you do? She goes, I do a

0:32:17.980 --> 0:32:19.900
<v Speaker 2>Lululemon bag. I'm like, that means I have to go

0:32:19.940 --> 0:32:23.120
<v Speaker 2>to a fucking Lululemon, buy something. For $ 500. So you

0:32:23.140 --> 0:32:25.620
<v Speaker 2>could just take the bag. I was like, maybe we

0:32:25.640 --> 0:32:28.300
<v Speaker 2>can just go ask for a bag at Lululemon. And

0:32:28.520 --> 0:32:30.390
<v Speaker 2>I didn't have any, obviously, because I don't have any

0:32:30.410 --> 0:32:31.010
<v Speaker 2>of my stuff here.

0:32:31.430 --> 0:32:34.580
<v Speaker 1>So then... I was like, well, just take something in

0:32:34.600 --> 0:32:35.980
<v Speaker 1>your backpack. She goes, no, I don't want to. So

0:32:36.000 --> 0:32:37.880
<v Speaker 1>I was like, you're literally taking no food to school.

0:32:37.900 --> 0:32:43.070
<v Speaker 1>And she goes, yeah. I go, okay, fine. Starve. They

0:32:43.110 --> 0:32:45.150
<v Speaker 1>get to an age, Lala, where you're just like, you

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<v Speaker 1>know what? Fuck it. They have to learn.

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<v Speaker 2>It's like if they forget their gym shoes or if

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<v Speaker 2>they forget their homework. Like, I'm not fucking driving to

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<v Speaker 2>the school. My mom didn't do that for me.

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<v Speaker 1>My mom did that. Someone did it.

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<v Speaker 3>Well.

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<v Speaker 1>My mom didn't. I was like, you know what? She's

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<v Speaker 1>got to learn her lesson. I just can't believe that

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<v Speaker 1>Riley's going to school. No food. No, there's this. She's eating.

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<v Speaker 1>There's this section. They have these credit cards that you

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<v Speaker 1>put money on to. These menus, you get on and

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<v Speaker 1>you pick it every day. I did like a couple

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<v Speaker 1>of weeks in advance. She's fed through this week. I

0:33:22.280 --> 0:33:26.010
<v Speaker 1>need to do it again. They have three different options.

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<v Speaker 1>An avocado, cucumber. Sushi roll. Oh, Riley loves that. Oh no,

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<v Speaker 1>she doesn't do avocado. We'll just make her do it. Yeah,

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<v Speaker 1>just a cucumber roll.

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<v Speaker 2>Okay.

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<v Speaker 1>They have like lo mein noodles with edamame. They have

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<v Speaker 1>blueberry lemon crisps. It sounds amazing. Grass fed beef bolognese.

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<v Speaker 1>You're joking. Do you know what I had? I swear

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<v Speaker 1>to God. Every day in middle school, I'll never forget.

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<v Speaker 2>I had a wrapped fucking chimichanga and a brownie.

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<v Speaker 1>That was my lunch. That was my lunch every day. Oh,

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<v Speaker 1>before there was like no nuts. Cause every school is

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<v Speaker 1>like nuts. You're not conscious.

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<v Speaker 4>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>I had PB and J for however many days out

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<v Speaker 1>of the year that we went to school. When I

0:34:16.460 --> 0:34:18.700
<v Speaker 1>was finished with school, I was like, I never want

0:34:18.719 --> 0:34:22.609
<v Speaker 1>to see a fucking PB and J ever again. But

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<v Speaker 1>now we're on the other side. I can't get enough

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<v Speaker 1>of the PB &amp; Js. I'm so good. Oh, I

0:34:26.140 --> 0:34:27.680
<v Speaker 1>know she did have pizza the other day.

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<v Speaker 2>This is good for your control issues.

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<v Speaker 1>You know what she did?

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<v Speaker 2>She goes, I just asked the school if they can

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<v Speaker 2>give me a slice of pizza. And I said, well,

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<v Speaker 2>did they say you owe them money? She's like, no,

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<v Speaker 2>but I told them that I would pay them back.

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<v Speaker 1>So they probably just bill you. Because I was super

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<v Speaker 1>concerned when I did the school lunch thing. I was like,

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<v Speaker 1>I just want to make sure that my child has

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<v Speaker 1>lunch tomorrow. Like, can you look on your computer and

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<v Speaker 1>see if my order came through? Well, okay. They were like,

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<v Speaker 1>your kid's not going to go hungry.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>We have a lot of different stuff. If the order

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<v Speaker 1>didn't come through, like no one's going to like not

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<v Speaker 1>feed your kid. That's a great thing about these private schools.

0:35:09.640 --> 0:35:13.239
<v Speaker 1>You have top-notch shit happening. Also, at public schools, they

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<v Speaker 1>also do free lunches.

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<v Speaker 2>Even the school in Montana, the kids that needed a

0:35:20.110 --> 0:35:22.489
<v Speaker 2>hot breakfast in the morning, you can go early, and

0:35:22.530 --> 0:35:24.049
<v Speaker 2>the state provides.

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<v Speaker 1>They have to. It's by law.

0:35:25.290 --> 0:35:27.790
<v Speaker 2>The state provides hot breakfast and stuff for kids that...

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<v Speaker 2>Don't have maybe a mom and dad who can wake

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<v Speaker 2>up and make them a breakfast. But I feel like

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<v Speaker 2>a lot of kids don't eat breakfast anyways. When they're little,

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<v Speaker 2>they do. But as they get older, they start not

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<v Speaker 2>wanting to eat.

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<v Speaker 1>Yeah, don't you remember taking tests? They'd be like, hey,

0:35:41.310 --> 0:35:43.830
<v Speaker 1>in the morning, you have to take those tests that

0:35:43.850 --> 0:35:47.109
<v Speaker 1>were for the state. Make sure you eat breakfast. It's

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<v Speaker 1>going to be all day. Bring a snack. We recommend berries.

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<v Speaker 1>They're good for the brain. And it was like, ugh. Yeah. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>And then you're taking the test. You're like, oh my God,

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<v Speaker 1>I'm so hungry. My stomach is eating itself. And so

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<v Speaker 1>that's when you start going, can I get the berries

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<v Speaker 1>out of my bag? Yeah. Or I'll go, just make

0:36:03.350 --> 0:36:03.970
<v Speaker 1>it go by faster.

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<v Speaker 2>I used to go A, A, A, B, B, B, C, C, C, C, A, B, A, B, A, C, C, A, B, D.

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<v Speaker 1>And then I was like, done. I can eat now.

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<v Speaker 1>I was not a great student. Me neither. You should

0:36:14.030 --> 0:36:17.410
<v Speaker 1>have seen me in math. It was really hard. It

0:36:17.450 --> 0:36:20.270
<v Speaker 1>was really fucking hard. And don't even ask me to

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<v Speaker 1>read a book and then take a test about it.

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<v Speaker 1>This was me.

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<v Speaker 3>Why are those eyes.

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<v Speaker 1>Stuck to the left? If we were in school together,

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<v Speaker 1>we would have been in so much trouble. Especially high

0:36:40.360 --> 0:36:46.340
<v Speaker 1>school because that, yeah. Oh, Oh yeah. Especially when I

0:36:46.360 --> 0:36:48.850
<v Speaker 1>got sexually active and could not keep my mind off

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<v Speaker 1>of like it's like.

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<v Speaker 2>I need to get to my boyfriend you're like when

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<v Speaker 2>does this fucking lecture end oh and forget it college

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<v Speaker 2>thank god i didn't go to college i would.

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<v Speaker 1>Thank god we didn't go to college.

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<v Speaker 2>That would have been what a waste of money for

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<v Speaker 2>my parents had i gone oh a hundred percent i

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<v Speaker 2>hated school all right so stay in school kids so

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<v Speaker 2>overall we feel good we feel good about being at

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<v Speaker 2>the school i love the school we gotta get you

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<v Speaker 2>back to montana so you can get situated You got

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<v Speaker 2>to get my stuff.

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<v Speaker 1>We need to get blinds up.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>To do list.

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<v Speaker 4>Yep.

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<v Speaker 3>Yep.

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<v Speaker 2>Oh, a handyman.

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<v Speaker 1>Remind me. I need your handyman. Yeah.

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<v Speaker 3>Yeah.

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<v Speaker 1>We're going to have to text my mom. She's the

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<v Speaker 1>house manager. I don't really have his phone number. I

0:37:32.070 --> 0:37:34.890
<v Speaker 1>don't even think I've met him actually. Anyway, you guys,

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<v Speaker 1>thank you for listening to another episode of an unlikely affair.

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<v Speaker 1>We hope your kids are loving school to my mom

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<v Speaker 1>was who their first day of a real school. And

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<v Speaker 1>the first week I see you, I feel for you.

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<v Speaker 1>Happy almost weekend. Love you guys. Almost weekend. Thank God.

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<v Speaker 3>Bye.

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<v Speaker 2>Bye.