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Speaker 1: Nation The Fresh Show. It's Geek's Court. All rise, the

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Speaker 1: Honorable Judge Kiki is presiding.

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Speaker 2: All right, let's get in the court room. The gabble

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Speaker 2: has been hit.

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Speaker 3: It says, hey, Kiki, am I wrong for needing a

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Speaker 3: little help with my kids?

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Speaker 2: Even though I don't work.

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Speaker 3: My name is Kim, I may stay at home mom

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Speaker 3: with three kids, two in school and a toddler who's

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Speaker 3: glued to me twenty four to seven. I love my kids,

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Speaker 3: but I'm beyond burnt out. So in a moment of frustration,

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Speaker 3: I wrote a post on Facebook about being tired, and

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Speaker 3: I mentioned maybe hiring a part time sitter to come

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Speaker 3: over a few times a week just so I can breathe.

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Speaker 3: That's when my mother in law went insane on my post.

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Speaker 3: She wrote a long comment about how her son worked

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Speaker 3: so hard and how she was a single mom and

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Speaker 3: did it on her own.

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Speaker 2: She went off.

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Speaker 3: Then she called my husband, who came home mad and said,

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Speaker 3: if I'm so stressed with one kid at home, his

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Speaker 3: mom will help, or I can just go get a job.

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Speaker 2: Since the post, my mother in law is.

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Speaker 3: Now at my house daily, being condescending and trying to

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Speaker 3: teach me how to be a mother. It is torture.

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Speaker 3: Am I wrong for wanting a little paid help? Because

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Speaker 3: clearly now I'm being punished.

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Speaker 1: So what you say?

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Speaker 2: I can't wait, Paulina?

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Speaker 3: I cannot wait because, first of all, girl, you you

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Speaker 3: better than me, because let me tell you something, the

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Speaker 3: moment your mama would have pulled up, I would have

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Speaker 3: booked me a vacation on your credit card.

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Speaker 2: I would have left you.

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Speaker 3: You know what, you want to come teach me how

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Speaker 3: to be a mother after I've raised two of your

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Speaker 3: other grandchildren and I just need a little break.

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Speaker 2: I got mad on Facebook. Hey, come come on.

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Speaker 3: Over here, mama, and take these kids and let me

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Speaker 3: go live my best license.

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Speaker 2: That's what y'all. Y'all would act like. That's what I'm

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Speaker 2: having every day.

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Speaker 4: You know.

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Speaker 3: I feel like, you know, everyone makes a mistake of

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Speaker 3: getting frustrated and taking things to social media sometimes. But

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Speaker 3: that doesn't mean that just because you're a stay at

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Speaker 3: home mom, you don't deserve a break or you don't

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Speaker 3: deserve a little help sometime.

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Speaker 1: Right, Because it's twenty four to seven, yes, And it's

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Speaker 1: like no one's saying here that that one person's working

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Speaker 1: harder than the other. That's not what this post was.

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Speaker 1: This post was simply like, man, every now and again,

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Speaker 1: I just like a break, because you know, you can

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Speaker 1: go to your job and work hard for eight hours

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Speaker 1: and you know, compartmentalize and be around adults and do

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Speaker 1: all that, and then you can come home and then

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Speaker 1: that goes away. This never goes somewhat. I'm not saying

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Speaker 1: that dads or moms who work and then come home

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Speaker 1: don't contribute once they get home, because they do. But

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Speaker 1: it's like, I don't know, it's two different.

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Speaker 2: Things, right, and we shouldn't compare it.

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Speaker 3: But it gets messy when your mother gets in the

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Speaker 3: comments and she's telling me about her life as a

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Speaker 3: single mother, like girl should picked a different baby.

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Speaker 2: Daddy ain't got none doing me.

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Speaker 3: I don't know, you know, so I just feel like,

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Speaker 3: you know, you should, he should stick up for his

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Speaker 3: wife in this sense, and like, hey, mom, I understand

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Speaker 3: that triggered you, but you know we're going to handle

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Speaker 3: it at home. And if your wife is crying out

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Speaker 3: saying she needs a little help, a little assistant, a

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Speaker 3: break every now and then, see how you guys can.

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Speaker 2: Work that out.

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Speaker 1: Well, I'm not sure I have you mentioned this, but

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Speaker 1: how many kids did mom have?

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Speaker 5: Oh?

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Speaker 2: She didn't say.

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Speaker 1: And then did mom never hire a babysitter ever to

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Speaker 1: go do anything? She never did one thing for herself ever.

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Speaker 2: No, she took her and if she didn't her back.

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Speaker 1: I would argue that she needed to that she did.

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Speaker 1: You know, you should prioritize yourself just a little bit

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Speaker 1: from time to time. You guys are the Jerry though

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Speaker 1: eight five, five, five, nine one o three five. What

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Speaker 1: would you do if mom in law came around with

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Speaker 1: an opinion about you wanting a little bit of relief

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Speaker 1: from what three kids?

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Speaker 5: Was it?

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Speaker 2: Yes?

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Speaker 1: M M Paulia the mom in the room.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, so thank you, first of all, yes for acknowledging

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Speaker 6: that being a say at home is work and it

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Speaker 6: is a lot of work.

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Speaker 4: Me.

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Speaker 2: I am Paulina Row.

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Speaker 6: I am on this radio every morning, but when I

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Speaker 6: go home at ten oh one am, whatever time I'm

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Speaker 6: off the radio, I am mom until bedtime. So I

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Speaker 6: understand that being at home with a kid all day,

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Speaker 6: every day, with my one child who is two years old,

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Speaker 6: it is a lot. And you guys know that I

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Speaker 6: am an outsourcing queen. I will outsource and get me

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Speaker 6: a babysitter. And I've got a couple in rotation, So

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Speaker 6: if my mother in law is not available, or my

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Speaker 6: sister or whatever at my sister in law, then I

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Speaker 6: will have somebody come watch my baby for a couple

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Speaker 6: of hours while I get things done around the house,

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Speaker 6: do some work or whatever it is I gotta do,

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Speaker 6: or I go to an event.

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Speaker 1: Whatever.

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Speaker 2: Now, my mother in law, I know I say this.

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Speaker 6: I am blessed that she if she saw me put

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Speaker 6: that on Facebook, she would probably call me and do

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Speaker 6: the right thing and say, hey, honey, can I come

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Speaker 6: help you. I saw your post, Like there's no need

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Speaker 6: for that I'll come help you now. Now everybody has

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Speaker 6: that relationship, and you know, I hope that I can

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Speaker 6: whatever in the future.

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Speaker 2: My only issue with that is like, yeah, mother in

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Speaker 2: law is wrong for that.

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Speaker 6: Just because she struggled as a single mom does not

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Speaker 6: mean that I have to do the same. And I

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Speaker 6: mean that respectfully, Like my mom was a single mom,

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Speaker 6: but I will not endure the same struggles that she did.

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Speaker 2: Because how do I say this.

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Speaker 6: I believe in in a asking for help, but I

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Speaker 6: also I also set up my life a certain way

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Speaker 6: where it's like, no want I want the help, you

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Speaker 6: know what I mean? Like, if I'm not there, somebody

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Speaker 6: else will be there to watch my baby. I feel

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Speaker 6: like that's so wrong, so wrong, so wrong. That mother

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Speaker 6: is struggling three kids all day, every day, twenty four

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Speaker 6: to seven.

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Speaker 2: Is a lie.

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Speaker 1: Well, it's projection, obviously, it is projection. Babe's a mom who, yes, who,

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Speaker 1: I don't know. She had a difficult time I guess

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Speaker 1: raising her kids, and that's respectable and did the best

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Speaker 1: job she could. But now, but this mom, this younger mom,

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Speaker 1: wants to go about it differently, right, and I think

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Speaker 1: she has every right to do that. And I don't

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Speaker 1: know any time that the in law is get involved

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Speaker 1: in the parental direction, especially if it's not about safety

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Speaker 1: or well being, which this isn't. This has more to

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Speaker 1: do with the adults than it does with the kids.

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Speaker 6: But moms could judge all the time though even it's

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Speaker 6: not my mother in law. If I was to post

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Speaker 6: on social media or whatever, just even vent to a friend, like,

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Speaker 6: people can be so judgy because they'll say, like, you know, oh,

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Speaker 6: you stay home all day, you don't need a break

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Speaker 6: or whatever.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean, a lot of projection from

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Speaker 2: moms to it, and it's sad. I don't like that.

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Speaker 1: I also, I don't love the cry for help on Facebook.

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Speaker 1: I don't. I don't don't. I don't love that. I

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Speaker 1: mean it's like you handle it like if you want

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Speaker 1: if there's something you want to do, then I would

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Speaker 1: maybe not don't put it out there. Someone texted that

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Speaker 1: and I kind of agree. It's like, okay, well then right,

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Speaker 1: let's do that. Do what you want to do. If

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Speaker 1: you want to hire a babysitter, if you want some help,

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Speaker 1: if you want some relief, then you have every right

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Speaker 1: to that, But I don't like it when people go

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Speaker 1: to Facebook first, because you are kind of opening yourself up.

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Speaker 2: To everyone's opinion, right, yeah.

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Speaker 1: And everyone is going to come at it from the

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Speaker 1: perspective of what they have available to them. True, and

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Speaker 1: if they can't afford a babysitter, or they don't have one,

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Speaker 1: or they're in a relationship or a dynamic where that

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Speaker 1: going to get upset because of what they can't have. Right.

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Speaker 2: I'm guilty of that. You guys know.

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Speaker 6: I love going to social media or love calling my

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Speaker 6: husband's mom. Okay, I had to stop, But in this case,

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Speaker 6: you're right, Like, if you open yourself up to that

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Speaker 6: criticism or feedback on social media, you're going to get

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Speaker 6: everyone's perspective and opinions.

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Speaker 3: And it makes feelings. Somebody on a tax said, the

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Speaker 3: mom is spoiled. You only have one kid at home.

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Speaker 2: That doesn't change anything.

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Speaker 1: It's so hard, Mandy, How you doing.

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Speaker 7: Good?

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Speaker 1: How are you? Hi? Mandy? Good morning? So you're stay

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Speaker 1: at home mom and you hear this Kiky's court and

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Speaker 1: you think what.

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Speaker 7: I think, she is absolutely entitled to some paid help.

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Speaker 7: I think the mother in law is completely in the wrong.

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Speaker 7: She should not have gone and commented went on a

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Speaker 7: tie rate on her post. Every mom, every dad, whatever

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Speaker 7: you do.

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Speaker 4: Inside or outside of the house, you deserve that break.

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Speaker 1: What how about mom in law? To Paulina's point, being like, Wow,

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Speaker 1: she's going through it right now, Like, let me call

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Speaker 1: and let me help her.

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Speaker 2: It's a cry for help.

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Speaker 1: I'll be the one. Let me come in and take

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Speaker 1: it over for a few hours.

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Speaker 7: Yeah, I mean, I guess it depends on their relationship.

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Speaker 7: I have a good relationship with my mother in law,

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Speaker 7: so I would love that, but it sounds like they

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Speaker 7: may not have the same type of relationship. But now

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Speaker 7: she feels like she's being tortured.

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Speaker 1: So I don't know.

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Speaker 2: I guess it depends.

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Speaker 6: Yeah, well, I know you better off going to care

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Speaker 6: dot comm in my opinion, if your mother in law's

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Speaker 6: going to treat you like that and say comments like that,

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Speaker 6: if from your children, no we're going to urbansitter dot com,

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Speaker 6: We're going somewhere else.

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Speaker 1: Well that's what I'm saying. Well, she worn't coming at

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Speaker 1: it from a judgm mental standpoints, like this isn't about

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Speaker 1: a good day, true, Thank you too. Taylor. Good morning, Taylor.

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Speaker 1: How are you?

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Speaker 8: I'm great, How are you doing great?

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Speaker 8: But just to have a babysitter where you know they're

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Speaker 5: What do you need for?

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Speaker 5: So totally get it.

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Speaker 8: Yeah, And I don't need somebody nagging at me. Like

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Speaker 8: But the same thing, I'm sure it's nice to just know,

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I get it, Thank you, Taylor.

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Speaker 1: a good point. Hi Jay, Hey, how you doing Hey Man?

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Speaker 1: Say you say it? Say your piece, Jay.

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Speaker 9: So my pieces is first off, finally got on the

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Speaker 9: Thank you guys. Here's the thing, Like everyone'salking about mom.

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Speaker 9: I get I grew up with a single mother with

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Speaker 9: You know, how about that happiness? Dad needs a break?

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Speaker 5: You know?

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Speaker 9: The mother in law said that he's working on a lite,

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Speaker 9: he's working hall, you know, he comes home. I mean,

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Speaker 9: I'm pretty sure he spend time with his you know,

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Speaker 1: You know, man with.

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Speaker 9: Sacrifice happiness to make a family happy. So when when

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Speaker 9: when did his dad get to break?

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Speaker 1: Interesting, Well we didn't. We haven't really covered that. I

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Speaker 1: I don't that's sure for sure, because I don't know

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Speaker 2: His stance was, if you want more childcare, then you

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Speaker 1: Go to work.

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Speaker 2: He told his wife go.

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Speaker 9: I agree with mom, Mom. They need the time alone,

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Speaker 1: I mean. Being a mom for sure, it's tough.

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Speaker 1: I mean to hire somebody else because I don't That

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Speaker 9: I don't know my mother anymore, a.

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Speaker 1: Lot of judgmental activities. Yeah, thank you, have a good day.

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Speaker 1: I mean, dad does deserve a break. We don't. I

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Speaker 2: On Facebook, also, I don't understand is he I.

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Speaker 1: Don't know that he does. He doesn't get one. I

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Speaker 1: guess I don't have any information about Hey, Michelle, you

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Speaker 5: Huh I do? Okay, morning guys.

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Speaker 1: Good morning. Tell me your story.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, so anytime if I post anything on Facebook, my

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Speaker 1: But why is Facebook the venue? Do you think? Because

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Speaker 5: And I've learned no, and I've learned not to do

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Speaker 1: Just blocker, ass man, just a blocker?

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Speaker 3: Did you get an I was asking did you get

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Speaker 5: I wanted my own money. I'm tired of asking my

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Speaker 5: I was tired of asking my husband for money. But

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Speaker 1: Yeah that's really yeah, it makes sense, So yeah, thank you.

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Speaker 5: Michelle, Thanks, guys, have.

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Speaker 1: A good day. The way is it tas is how

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Speaker 1: you say your name? Yes, it's take hi jays Kiki's court.

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Speaker 1: So basically to battle between daughter and mother in law

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Speaker 1: that because mother in law apparently never got a moment alone.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like it's a sign of the times

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Speaker 1: But let me ask you this, Like, does that mean

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Speaker 1: know what I mean? Like, I hear what you're saying,

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Speaker 1: wouldn't you take it?

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Speaker 9: Oh?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, for sure?

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Speaker 4: And you know everybody deserves a break. But sometimes the

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Speaker 4: I don't get a moment from myself. I tell them

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Speaker 4: Fami redillion every time I want to go to everybody

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Speaker 4: can I get two seconds?

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Speaker 1: Let me boop in peace? I tell you, yeah, right, no,

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Speaker 1: I get it to me though it sounds and I

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Speaker 1: sound like mom is It's like it's it's oh, I

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Speaker 1: Associate you and it's like, but maybe maybe you don't

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Speaker 4: Kind of thing right, and that's kind of like you

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Speaker 4: have to, you know, just appreciate what you have and

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Speaker 4: understand that there's so many people that would think of

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Speaker 1: Can't super mom, I really are, yeah you super mom?

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Speaker 1: Hanging there?

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