WEBVTT - Ep. 40 w/ Terrence J 0:00:00.040 --> 0:00:01.920 We don't want him to bust too quick. It's lip service. 0:00:01.920 --> 0:00:05.119 I'm Angela Yee, I'm Stephanie Santiago, I'm g G McGuire, 0:00:05.320 --> 0:00:10.200 and Terence Jay is here. Terence doesn't normally do stuff 0:00:10.200 --> 0:00:14.520 like this because he's a Hollywood actor, but he does 0:00:14.560 --> 0:00:17.279 have his own movie out now. Well it's coming out, 0:00:17.520 --> 0:00:22.160 The Perfect Match. It's like an autobiographical story about Terence 0:00:22.239 --> 0:00:24.120 Jay's life. That's what I got from the trailer. Well, 0:00:24.160 --> 0:00:26.960 Obama is fucking bed and in real life and all that. 0:00:27.040 --> 0:00:29.720 So yeah, I wanted the film to look like that. Well, 0:00:29.760 --> 0:00:33.960 based on a truth story, the story, Yeah, yeah, I 0:00:34.000 --> 0:00:38.640 would say so. Yeah, alright, so you have maybe it 0:00:38.680 --> 0:00:41.960 says in the trailer you have some issues as far 0:00:42.000 --> 0:00:43.640 as once you get with the woman and you have 0:00:43.720 --> 0:00:46.360 sex with her, the challenge is gone on your board? No, no, no, 0:00:46.800 --> 0:00:48.720 is that? Is that what the takeaway from the trailer is. 0:00:48.760 --> 0:00:50.760 That's interesting you said that. So that that means I 0:00:50.760 --> 0:00:52.879 got to talk to marketing and make sure the next 0:00:52.880 --> 0:00:56.320 trailer we cut really shows with the movie because it's 0:00:56.360 --> 0:00:59.800 not that it's it's about a player who who who 0:01:00.120 --> 0:01:03.360 meets a girl. His boys basically bet him that he 0:01:03.400 --> 0:01:05.920 can't just chill with one girl, like really just data 0:01:06.000 --> 0:01:09.840 girl and be with her until one of my boy's wedding, right, 0:01:10.240 --> 0:01:12.000 so he has to stick with one girl to win 0:01:12.120 --> 0:01:14.800 his bet. And as he just spends time with the girl, 0:01:15.120 --> 0:01:17.800 he really falls in love. But she ends up breaking 0:01:17.880 --> 0:01:20.240 his heart and it's his first time getting his heartbroken, 0:01:20.600 --> 0:01:22.800 and and you know, he goes on a journey from there. 0:01:22.920 --> 0:01:25.399 But it's it's nothing like any other romantic comedy because 0:01:25.400 --> 0:01:27.480 it's it's not there's no ribbon on the end, like 0:01:27.520 --> 0:01:29.440 it's not like you know, they get back to like, 0:01:29.520 --> 0:01:34.680 it's it's a different type of No, it's not sad, 0:01:34.760 --> 0:01:36.800 it's it's just different. You gotta see it. You gotta 0:01:36.840 --> 0:01:39.480 see it. It's it's not like anything that you've seen before. 0:01:39.640 --> 0:01:41.840 So you wrote this movie. Um we did a page 0:01:41.840 --> 0:01:44.640 one rewrite, which means, uh, we had a great script. 0:01:45.000 --> 0:01:47.760 But um so, like the character in the original script 0:01:48.320 --> 0:01:50.600 on the Shoe Store, I changed this so that now 0:01:50.640 --> 0:01:53.400 he's he's an agent, and so you you you you 0:01:53.480 --> 0:01:56.680 change the dynamics of the character to make the story fit. 0:01:56.800 --> 0:01:59.240 And um I put in real personal situations in there 0:01:59.280 --> 0:02:01.200 as well. Well, we're gonna get into that because I 0:02:01.200 --> 0:02:03.720 sew us some personal things going down. But first we 0:02:03.760 --> 0:02:05.280 always start with our tip of the day. Now, the 0:02:05.280 --> 0:02:07.480 tip is, how do you know when a guy only 0:02:07.520 --> 0:02:10.680 want you for sex and nothing else? All right, you're 0:02:10.680 --> 0:02:12.720 gonna go last, Terence, because we're gonna ask the ladies 0:02:12.760 --> 0:02:14.840 what they think, and you tell us if we're on point, 0:02:14.880 --> 0:02:18.919 and then you'll give us your inside aspect. Stephanie, how 0:02:18.919 --> 0:02:20.200 do you know when a guy only wants you just 0:02:20.320 --> 0:02:23.799 for sex and nothing else? When he doesn't invite you out, 0:02:24.520 --> 0:02:26.680 he only wants to see you in the house. He's like, 0:02:26.720 --> 0:02:29.000 what you're doing? Come over? Yeah, come over? It's two am. 0:02:29.200 --> 0:02:31.560 That's even if no matter what time, because girls get 0:02:31.560 --> 0:02:34.520 excited when a guy calls him over at four pm 0:02:34.760 --> 0:02:37.720 or five pm. But if you're not going outside with him, 0:02:37.760 --> 0:02:39.720 he's just he's trying to suck you at four pm 0:02:41.560 --> 0:02:44.520 sex and maybe if you stay longer, he'll probably you're 0:02:44.520 --> 0:02:47.080 a gun at nine, you know six? All right? What 0:02:47.120 --> 0:02:48.480 do you say, g how do you know when a 0:02:48.520 --> 0:02:50.320 guy only wants you for sex and nothing else? That's 0:02:50.320 --> 0:02:52.360 pretty much it like when sex is all that you have, 0:02:52.600 --> 0:02:54.240 when you don't when you don't think anything else but 0:02:54.360 --> 0:02:56.600 meet up in hand sex, then it's really that's all 0:02:56.600 --> 0:02:58.720 he wants from you. Yeah, if he's not asking you 0:02:58.800 --> 0:03:02.079 like you know, like all up. Yeah, and another thing, 0:03:02.160 --> 0:03:05.200 even if his friends are around, it's still the same thing. 0:03:05.280 --> 0:03:08.520 It doesn't matter you only want sex. If a guy 0:03:08.639 --> 0:03:10.239 wants to get to know, he's gonna want to take 0:03:10.240 --> 0:03:12.799 you out. Yeah, he's gonna want to know about your 0:03:12.840 --> 0:03:19.240 interests and do things that make you happy. And um, 0:03:19.280 --> 0:03:21.079 if he doesn't do all of that, then if you're 0:03:21.160 --> 0:03:22.880 just bone in, then you're just and he's gonna send 0:03:22.880 --> 0:03:25.440 you like sweet text messages throughout the day and tell 0:03:25.440 --> 0:03:27.480 you he's gonna call you on the phone to talk 0:03:27.560 --> 0:03:30.040 and hear your voice and face time and all of that. 0:03:30.320 --> 0:03:35.480 If he's not doing things, just realize you don't know 0:03:35.520 --> 0:03:37.720 what's going on, and even don't know. But honestly, and 0:03:37.880 --> 0:03:40.280 guys even, um, I think even if they're calling you 0:03:40.360 --> 0:03:43.080 all day and texting you like, they're just trying to 0:03:43.160 --> 0:03:47.760 keep the pussy when I'm supposed to be to come back. Yeah, exactly, 0:03:47.920 --> 0:03:49.720 Because I feel like guys who only want sex only 0:03:49.760 --> 0:03:53.760 text you when they want you to come over, I 0:03:53.760 --> 0:03:55.680 don't know, or to set up the date for when 0:03:55.680 --> 0:03:58.200 they was right. They don't really call you just a chat. 0:03:58.240 --> 0:03:59.400 So how would your day? Let me tell you what 0:03:59.440 --> 0:04:01.680 happened today. That's like a more of a you know 0:04:01.760 --> 0:04:05.040 we're friends too, well, you tell less terrence now, you know. 0:04:05.160 --> 0:04:07.400 I just I think there are a lot of misconceptions, 0:04:07.440 --> 0:04:09.120 you know what I'm saying, Like like like you were 0:04:09.160 --> 0:04:11.400 saying earlier, like because there's a lot of maintenance, right, 0:04:11.760 --> 0:04:14.480 So so so if you do just want to smash, sometimes 0:04:14.920 --> 0:04:17.839 you'll you'll just send those text messages to keep it 0:04:17.880 --> 0:04:22.120 in play, right, And then sometimes you'll call like and 0:04:22.560 --> 0:04:25.200 just have a conversation just so that you can separate 0:04:25.240 --> 0:04:26.560 you stuff like yeah, I even call you. I know 0:04:26.600 --> 0:04:28.080 these other dudes don't call you know what I'm saying. 0:04:28.120 --> 0:04:30.520 So sometimes you you throw that in there just to 0:04:30.640 --> 0:04:32.800 keep it all in play. So, I mean, I just 0:04:32.839 --> 0:04:34.919 think it comes with tom and maturity. I think you 0:04:34.960 --> 0:04:36.880 know a woman, you'll be able to tell if a 0:04:36.920 --> 0:04:39.800 man has other intentions through his actions, and it's just 0:04:39.839 --> 0:04:42.480 across the board, because it's like even with the whole 0:04:42.760 --> 0:04:45.039 I won't introduce you to my friends, Like that's not true, 0:04:45.160 --> 0:04:47.320 Like I could just meet you at the club and 0:04:47.520 --> 0:04:51.520 and and then and be like yo, bread and shape 0:04:51.560 --> 0:04:52.880 for everybody, you know what saying. We all hang out, 0:04:52.880 --> 0:04:56.720 so it doesn't even like, well I met his friends, 0:04:57.520 --> 0:05:00.520 it doesn't matter if you meet his parents. Parents are 0:05:00.600 --> 0:05:03.000 down to no, no, no, I don't know about that. 0:05:03.480 --> 0:05:04.840 What you want to do? The girl you just with 0:05:04.920 --> 0:05:07.599 smashing it wasn't interested into your parents. My mom be 0:05:07.680 --> 0:05:10.240 falling in love with with chicks too much, like she'd 0:05:10.240 --> 0:05:12.360 be wanting them to be here. My mom wants a daughter. 0:05:12.400 --> 0:05:15.839 My mom, I'm convinced she wants like a daughter and grandkids. 0:05:15.880 --> 0:05:18.359 So if she even thinks that I could, she always 0:05:18.400 --> 0:05:20.839 likes them too much. So I try to like really 0:05:21.000 --> 0:05:23.640 save you know it got I gotta be like really 0:05:23.640 --> 0:05:26.960 dealing with somebody a long time. I don't think people 0:05:27.040 --> 0:05:32.120 just I don't. I don't know. I never know my 0:05:32.160 --> 0:05:34.200 real dad, but my stepdad, he don't be caring like 0:05:34.200 --> 0:05:37.240 he just he's cool. You can bring up an because 0:05:37.360 --> 0:05:39.239 I would think you're not gonna just bring some random 0:05:39.320 --> 0:05:42.080 chick though to meet your parents. I mean, my parents 0:05:42.120 --> 0:05:44.839 live in North Carolina, so so when they fly to me, 0:05:45.000 --> 0:05:47.520 it's like we just be spending you know, the weekend together. 0:05:47.640 --> 0:05:49.880 Like I just I don't want them to be anybody, 0:05:50.760 --> 0:05:52.960 all right, So what are some other tips that how 0:05:52.960 --> 0:05:54.719 do we know when a guy is interested? Then in 0:05:54.760 --> 0:05:58.160 that case, here's what you gotta understand is that with 0:05:58.160 --> 0:06:01.920 with the man, it's about time. Mean for us as men, right, 0:06:03.400 --> 0:06:06.280 we gotta go through the things in life, whether it's 0:06:06.279 --> 0:06:09.480 getting our career in order, getting getting our our our 0:06:09.520 --> 0:06:12.200 feelings and our oneness with ourselves. We gotta get all 0:06:12.240 --> 0:06:15.680 that in order before we can be a proper man 0:06:15.720 --> 0:06:18.760 to you. So by the time we meet you, it's 0:06:18.800 --> 0:06:21.680 already pred Like you, you might not know where we're at, 0:06:21.839 --> 0:06:24.680 but but we know where we are and when we're 0:06:24.720 --> 0:06:26.680 ready to accept the real woman in our life. And 0:06:26.760 --> 0:06:28.880 so like I could, I could be with a girl now, 0:06:29.120 --> 0:06:31.680 meet her the first night out, sleep with her the 0:06:31.720 --> 0:06:34.920 first night out, and have a three year relationship with her. 0:06:35.040 --> 0:06:36.440 You know what I'm saying, because I just look for 0:06:36.520 --> 0:06:39.520 different things now. So it's not Women sometimes think, oh, 0:06:39.520 --> 0:06:42.520 I gotta I gotta hold back to pussy before, you know, 0:06:42.600 --> 0:06:45.320 to make sure, like until he really proves like that's 0:06:45.360 --> 0:06:48.000 not even necessarily true. So you don't look at women 0:06:48.000 --> 0:06:50.000 differently if you sleep at them the first night. Absolutely, 0:06:50.880 --> 0:06:53.839 so it doesn't matter if she holds back Like listen. 0:06:53.839 --> 0:06:56.279 I was talking to Megan Good today and she was 0:06:56.279 --> 0:06:58.560 talking about being celibate because she wanted to find a 0:06:58.680 --> 0:07:01.599 husband and she didn't to just date anymore. So for 0:07:01.640 --> 0:07:03.520 a year she didn't have sex, and they she didn't 0:07:03.520 --> 0:07:05.240 have sex with her husband till they got married. He 0:07:05.240 --> 0:07:07.360 would tell it, but for ten years. So you don't 0:07:07.360 --> 0:07:09.400 think any of that. I mean, I think that's a 0:07:09.560 --> 0:07:12.640 you know, there's there's always you know, there's always extremes 0:07:12.640 --> 0:07:14.520 in every example. You know what I'm saying, Like him 0:07:14.560 --> 0:07:16.720 being that is admirable, you know, and I know divan 0:07:16.800 --> 0:07:19.000 and so you know, to go ten years and be selibrant, 0:07:19.120 --> 0:07:21.160 that's just a different type of as long as you 0:07:21.240 --> 0:07:25.760 go on Terence. After a breakup, I take time like 0:07:26.080 --> 0:07:28.120 I've gone like you know, a couple of months, like 0:07:28.120 --> 0:07:31.360 like six months where I just like really, yeah, yeah 0:07:31.480 --> 0:07:34.000 you will you remember like the real bad breakup he 0:07:34.080 --> 0:07:38.560 was around the one yeah, like when I was really 0:07:38.600 --> 0:07:40.320 fucked up, and then it was just like I didn't 0:07:40.320 --> 0:07:42.080 even want to date girls. It was like I needed 0:07:42.120 --> 0:07:44.840 something to be like prob. He didn't mean that he 0:07:44.840 --> 0:07:54.800 went in to date boys. I forget where I'm at 0:07:57.560 --> 0:08:01.920 and having bitches. See guys go through that too, because 0:08:01.920 --> 0:08:04.040 sometimes as women, we think when guys break up, all 0:08:04.080 --> 0:08:05.800 they do is go and a bunch of women. Yeah, 0:08:05.920 --> 0:08:09.679 they sometimes I think the women he did. Go ahead, 0:08:10.200 --> 0:08:11.920 say what you mean? Say girl, I just want to 0:08:11.920 --> 0:08:14.720 say he did. I think I think the women do that. 0:08:14.800 --> 0:08:17.240 I think the women, but I'm never gonna get over him. 0:08:17.440 --> 0:08:20.200 Let me call my axs and get fucked. I think 0:08:20.240 --> 0:08:24.760 the women do that, but don't let me. So you 0:08:24.840 --> 0:08:27.040 went for six months. You were the heartbroken that you 0:08:27.080 --> 0:08:29.240 couldn't have sex. I mean this was probably like six 0:08:29.320 --> 0:08:31.320 years ago. You did it like a little puppy. I 0:08:31.360 --> 0:08:34.680 felt so bad for you. But it was transformative time, 0:08:34.920 --> 0:08:37.319 like like I went literally from a board to him, 0:08:37.400 --> 0:08:40.280 Like the amount of money I made after that, because 0:08:40.600 --> 0:08:43.600 you know, I got focused on work. I changed and 0:08:43.679 --> 0:08:46.559 just you know, I got a self in Aalizatian moment, 0:08:46.800 --> 0:08:48.320 and like, y'all, I don't want to be this little 0:08:48.320 --> 0:08:50.160 corny dude, right, I want to I want to do this. 0:08:50.200 --> 0:08:52.560 I want to be and so it takes that time. 0:08:52.600 --> 0:08:54.880 I believe in life you gotta go through those snumbling 0:08:54.960 --> 0:08:57.440 box in order to build yourself. And I just think 0:08:57.440 --> 0:09:01.680 every relationship man, you're really in a relationship with yourself 0:09:01.840 --> 0:09:05.760 right Your your connection is with God. Everybody that you 0:09:05.760 --> 0:09:08.839 you you encounter in your life is just a mirror 0:09:08.920 --> 0:09:11.480 projection of the things you put out, you know, And 0:09:11.559 --> 0:09:14.559 so when people come to you with bad energy, I 0:09:14.920 --> 0:09:17.959 can't even it doesn't even phasee me because my energy 0:09:18.080 --> 0:09:20.000 right now is so good. I'm so at one. I 0:09:20.080 --> 0:09:22.960 know who I am, so it's like none of that 0:09:23.000 --> 0:09:24.440 can even funk with me, you know what I'm saying. 0:09:24.600 --> 0:09:26.679 So it's like when when you know who you are 0:09:26.720 --> 0:09:28.480 in a relationship and then you meet somebody else in 0:09:28.520 --> 0:09:31.240 they the same way. That's when when I think it works. 0:09:31.480 --> 0:09:34.160 And I think Megan, like in the Megan and Making 0:09:34.160 --> 0:09:36.600 that been through through things in her life that made 0:09:36.640 --> 0:09:38.800 her her wanting and she was She's such a good woman, 0:09:38.880 --> 0:09:40.440 you know what I'm saying, And it worked. Now, it's 0:09:40.480 --> 0:09:42.480 interesting that you said that. I was just saying this earlier. 0:09:42.480 --> 0:09:44.400 With guys, I feel like you could be with the 0:09:44.520 --> 0:09:46.360 right woman, but if it's at the wrong time in 0:09:46.400 --> 0:09:49.120 your life, it's not gonna work. But it's like whenever 0:09:49.160 --> 0:09:50.800 you're ready to settle down. I kind of felt like 0:09:50.880 --> 0:09:53.800 sometimes with guys, whatever woman you're with or around that 0:09:53.840 --> 0:09:57.360 time that she's gonna be it. Timing is everything. That's 0:09:57.360 --> 0:10:00.880 what I said. Timing is before anything else. Man is everything, 0:10:00.920 --> 0:10:03.080 because you gotta be you gotta be ready to accept it. 0:10:03.120 --> 0:10:04.600 You know what I'm saying. You gotta be you gotta 0:10:04.600 --> 0:10:08.840 be built for it, you know. All right? Now, do 0:10:08.880 --> 0:10:11.040 you stay friends with your excess? You've just been talking 0:10:11.080 --> 0:10:13.400 about bad breakups and all of that, and I see 0:10:13.440 --> 0:10:15.920 Brandy's in the movie and we know y'all dated. Um, 0:10:16.000 --> 0:10:18.120 so how do you stay friends with your exces? And 0:10:18.120 --> 0:10:20.200 how your friends with? Would you say the majority of them, 0:10:20.400 --> 0:10:23.240 I would say, so yeah, I mean, yeah, I'm friends 0:10:23.280 --> 0:10:26.320 with with Brandy did me a solid on this movie 0:10:26.600 --> 0:10:29.400 because somebody dropped out and we needed somebody. I called 0:10:29.440 --> 0:10:32.080 Brandon like like five in the morning, was like, please, 0:10:32.120 --> 0:10:34.400 can you can you do this this role for for 0:10:34.400 --> 0:10:36.360 for the film. She was on set by like nine 0:10:36.360 --> 0:10:39.680 o'clock killed it. So so yeah, so you know, she 0:10:39.679 --> 0:10:45.880 she's fantastic. I would say the majority, like, like, are 0:10:46.000 --> 0:10:49.760 are really good? And then you know, like selfishly with 0:10:49.960 --> 0:10:52.480 some of them, I kind of it's it's weird, like 0:10:52.920 --> 0:10:55.240 I feel like women motivate me, you know, and I 0:10:55.240 --> 0:10:58.720 feel like we're relationships. Sometimes you need that that pain 0:10:58.800 --> 0:11:02.280 in order to to fuel. Like the most incredible artist 0:11:02.320 --> 0:11:05.480 like Pablo Picastle, his Blue Period was written when I mean, 0:11:05.559 --> 0:11:07.880 was was painted when he went through a really hard breakup, 0:11:08.200 --> 0:11:10.080 you know. And so I've always said, you know, I 0:11:10.080 --> 0:11:11.640 want to I want to be the biggest movie star, 0:11:11.840 --> 0:11:14.680 so I can put a billboard on such as such house, 0:11:14.960 --> 0:11:17.400 you know, on the side of her apartment building, petty 0:11:17.520 --> 0:11:21.559 petty as So. Yeah, so sometimes, you know, sometimes you 0:11:21.600 --> 0:11:25.079 need that separation. But I always try to keep you know, positive, 0:11:25.400 --> 0:11:27.880 and and and but if that right after you break up, 0:11:27.880 --> 0:11:29.400 can y'all still be friends? You think, because you know 0:11:29.400 --> 0:11:31.040 how some people break up and they try to still 0:11:31.040 --> 0:11:33.600 be cool, like, well, you know, we could still be friends. 0:11:33.800 --> 0:11:36.720 I think it all depends on the situation. Yeah, that's 0:11:36.760 --> 0:11:38.760 that's a that's the type of It depends on what happened. 0:11:38.800 --> 0:11:41.240 It depends on how deep the womb, how deep the 0:11:41.280 --> 0:11:43.599 cut was, how worse the situation was. I feel like 0:11:43.640 --> 0:11:45.320 if it was a situation where it wasn't all of 0:11:45.360 --> 0:11:48.880 that bad, then yeah, that's just remain friends and moving 0:11:48.920 --> 0:11:52.120 especially when the children involved, right, you know, So what 0:11:52.200 --> 0:11:54.160 if you have a kid, right, and you break up 0:11:54.200 --> 0:11:56.559 with your man, but he was close with your daughter, 0:11:57.800 --> 0:12:01.640 is it? Are you still gonna have them hang out stuff? Yes? Well, whenever, 0:12:01.720 --> 0:12:03.439 when we broke up, my daughter still lived with him. 0:12:03.480 --> 0:12:06.280 So it's Harden meeting into the question on personal level. Right, 0:12:06.280 --> 0:12:07.640 But then y'all ended up. You knew he was gonna 0:12:07.679 --> 0:12:10.680 get back together at some point? Yeah, I knew the 0:12:10.760 --> 0:12:12.160 data that moved out that I was going to be 0:12:12.200 --> 0:12:14.720 moving back here. That's when I realized that I was 0:12:14.880 --> 0:12:16.920 slightly psychic Data I moved out. I was like, I 0:12:16.960 --> 0:12:21.480 love you. That that sounds stalker Rish, right, Well it 0:12:21.520 --> 0:12:24.120 was stalker Rish when he pushed me in the whatever. 0:12:24.200 --> 0:12:32.560 But yeah, never mind, too close to the situation, don't 0:12:32.600 --> 0:12:37.640 even all right? Um, Now, recently we saw this picture 0:12:37.679 --> 0:12:41.160 of Kim Kardashian and Amber Rose together and people are like, Okay, 0:12:41.200 --> 0:12:43.880 look at this, Kanye's X is hanging out with his 0:12:43.960 --> 0:12:46.440 current wife. What do you think about your girlfriend being 0:12:46.520 --> 0:12:49.880 friends with like an X? Oh? I mean, all that's cool, man. 0:12:49.960 --> 0:12:52.440 It's maturity, you know what I mean. It's it's you know, 0:12:52.559 --> 0:12:55.040 people or people when you can't you can't stop people 0:12:55.040 --> 0:12:57.959 from you know, build the friendships but is it weird 0:12:58.000 --> 0:13:00.040 to you? Because it's like, what do you think I 0:13:00.160 --> 0:13:04.040 must be immature as Because no, I don't want to 0:13:04.080 --> 0:13:07.120 be around any of my boyfriends anything that he ever 0:13:07.240 --> 0:13:10.480 touched like cool, I'm not sure. Enemy. I don't hate you, 0:13:10.600 --> 0:13:13.480 but when we're not friends, you don't you don't feel 0:13:13.480 --> 0:13:16.920 like you could gain insight. But like like no, no, 0:13:17.559 --> 0:13:20.720 I think sometimes she might have ulterior motives too. You 0:13:20.760 --> 0:13:22.760 have to get careful with that. You don't want your 0:13:22.800 --> 0:13:25.360 boyfriend's X trying to tell you stuff about him and 0:13:25.400 --> 0:13:28.200 giving you insight on my man because and then she 0:13:28.280 --> 0:13:30.559 might be doing stuff just to purposely. And then if 0:13:30.600 --> 0:13:32.520 it's okay for you to hang out with one of 0:13:32.600 --> 0:13:34.800 his acts, that means it's okay for him saying his 0:13:34.880 --> 0:13:37.520 ex and you don't know what's gonna go on behind 0:13:37.880 --> 0:13:40.520 your back, Like no, no, you can never trust somebody 0:13:40.559 --> 0:13:48.319 who has already to be like your boy used to be. No, 0:13:48.720 --> 0:13:51.160 oh my god, you can't trust a woman who's already 0:13:51.160 --> 0:13:54.880 how your boyfriend's taking their moufic. You just can't listen. 0:13:54.920 --> 0:13:56.480 I feel you. I don't know if I could trust 0:13:56.480 --> 0:13:58.559 the money unless it was the situation. It was like 0:13:58.800 --> 0:14:04.240 twenty years ago you know what I'm saying. You know, 0:14:04.360 --> 0:14:09.200 but I'm Puerto Rican. You know, I'm very possessive. I'm like, no, see, 0:14:09.880 --> 0:14:13.679 I believe everybody has amount rushmore right, like like you 0:14:13.800 --> 0:14:16.680 got your you know, like the top four presidents is on. 0:14:18.520 --> 0:14:21.400 So I feel like everybody got you know, the one 0:14:21.480 --> 0:14:23.840 or too you know, in life, I give you one 0:14:23.920 --> 0:14:26.640 or two, you know, maybe three that like really hold 0:14:27.200 --> 0:14:30.160 that space in your life, right And then for me, 0:14:30.400 --> 0:14:33.120 if it's anybody else besides that, I just really don't care, 0:14:33.960 --> 0:14:36.360 Like I just there's no level. I just it's not 0:14:36.840 --> 0:14:38.920 good or that. I just don't it's not part of 0:14:38.960 --> 0:14:40.960 my moment. No, I think it's a beautiful thing. You 0:14:40.960 --> 0:14:43.640 can be friends with your access. Your current girlfriend could 0:14:43.680 --> 0:14:45.720 be friends with your access. I think that's beautiful. God 0:14:45.720 --> 0:14:53.040 bless your guy. Like no, and then you know, I'm like, 0:14:53.320 --> 0:14:57.440 you know, you single right now, I'm single. I've been 0:14:57.440 --> 0:15:00.320 single for like six months. But she's I'm in a 0:15:00.320 --> 0:15:03.920 great time. I'm really happy. It's like the best time 0:15:03.920 --> 0:15:07.760 in my life. But she was in a relationship before that, 0:15:07.920 --> 0:15:10.480 so she was in a long term relationship. So now 0:15:10.520 --> 0:15:12.680 she's single, you know how it is the long term. 0:15:12.920 --> 0:15:16.120 My last relationship was like a year some change. I mean, 0:15:16.200 --> 0:15:18.480 but that's not like it wasn't that. It felt like 0:15:19.320 --> 0:15:22.240 felt like it felt like a very deep I felt 0:15:22.240 --> 0:15:25.600 like it felt like a decade. I felt real still 0:15:26.120 --> 0:15:30.000 over or he's in jail. There's no coming over. Yeah, 0:15:30.640 --> 0:15:32.520 there's no coming going. When it comes over, she'd be 0:15:32.680 --> 0:15:34.480 called the cops and turned his ass in, or she'll 0:15:34.520 --> 0:15:41.000 be aiding in her betting. Damn. Yeah, whatever, Terence, When 0:15:41.040 --> 0:15:43.880 it comes to dating, do you like girls that, if 0:15:43.880 --> 0:15:46.320 you had to choose, have a lot of followers or 0:15:46.480 --> 0:15:49.320 basically anonymous and no profile. If you had to pick, 0:15:50.800 --> 0:15:52.720 do you want to be like that power couple everybody 0:15:52.760 --> 0:15:55.200 knows her, y'all posting picks, or do you want her 0:15:55.200 --> 0:15:57.760 to be anonymous to the world. You know, I feel 0:15:57.800 --> 0:16:01.600 like for me today, you know, I don't. I don't 0:16:01.600 --> 0:16:03.320 want a relationship out there in the public. You know 0:16:03.360 --> 0:16:05.200 what I mean, I've done I've done it both ways 0:16:05.760 --> 0:16:08.000 and and you know, as as far as having a 0:16:08.000 --> 0:16:13.680 private relationship, have to clarify everything. I've had private private 0:16:13.720 --> 0:16:17.080 relationships and I've had public relationships. And when you have 0:16:17.120 --> 0:16:20.239 a public relationship, it's like it's three people in it 0:16:20.320 --> 0:16:23.280 is you the girl, and then the public people just 0:16:23.400 --> 0:16:26.760 comment on I saw Terrence going to the club, Oh 0:16:26.840 --> 0:16:29.920 he was flirty with you know, g G and Stephanie 0:16:29.920 --> 0:16:31.800 on the show. You know what I'm saying. And it's 0:16:31.800 --> 0:16:34.360 just like, I don't even want that energy, so so 0:16:34.880 --> 0:16:36.800 I just choose not to put it out. Now, whether 0:16:36.880 --> 0:16:38.960 she has a bunch of followers or not, you know 0:16:39.000 --> 0:16:41.440 that that's I mean, that's irrelevant, you know what I'm saying. 0:16:41.560 --> 0:16:43.920 So it's not intimidating to you, like if you're say 0:16:43.960 --> 0:16:46.520 you're with Stephanie. She's posting sexy pictures on the Graham 0:16:46.920 --> 0:16:49.120 and guys are leaving comments like I'll eat your ass 0:16:49.160 --> 0:16:51.760 and stuff like that. That went by you because I 0:16:51.960 --> 0:16:53.800 get it, and I'm sure she, I mean, she probably 0:16:53.800 --> 0:16:55.840 gets so much of that in her DM she's probably 0:16:55.920 --> 0:17:01.880 numb to it. First, all right, like you're probably And 0:17:01.920 --> 0:17:07.000 then I mean I always, whenever I'm in relationships, by default, 0:17:07.040 --> 0:17:09.119 I look at it from a business protective perspective. So 0:17:09.160 --> 0:17:11.159 I'm like, Okay, you got all these followers, how can 0:17:11.160 --> 0:17:14.600 we monetize? Can you post the trailer for my movie? 0:17:13.680 --> 0:17:18.600 And I'm gonna have you hold this bottle. We're gonna 0:17:18.640 --> 0:17:21.920 do this some little messages. Who are you getting your 0:17:22.000 --> 0:17:24.399 you know, you got your fitness seed, you got this? Whatever? 0:17:24.600 --> 0:17:26.720 What are we doing? And and and build the brand 0:17:26.720 --> 0:17:28.879 and make money from it because now social media is 0:17:28.880 --> 0:17:32.040 just the business tools you know, you make, you make. Honestly, 0:17:32.080 --> 0:17:33.440 I feel the same way, like I don't want to 0:17:33.480 --> 0:17:35.439 have a relationship and I don't want to have a 0:17:35.480 --> 0:17:38.920 public relationship, but I do wanna. I do want to 0:17:39.000 --> 0:17:41.600 date somebody who you know, is in this business and 0:17:41.760 --> 0:17:45.240 understands like this is all normal for me, Like you 0:17:45.280 --> 0:17:47.880 know all the comments and the guys, So you want 0:17:47.960 --> 0:17:51.520 somebody in the business. Yeah, I mean I want to date. 0:17:51.640 --> 0:17:54.480 You know, I'm I'm not dating outside of entertainment. I'm not. 0:17:54.640 --> 0:17:59.600 I tried. It doesn't work, Like I don't feel like 0:17:59.640 --> 0:18:01.600 they don't have to stand. I mean, I just want 0:18:01.600 --> 0:18:04.959 to date somebody who can understand my lifestyle, understand that 0:18:05.000 --> 0:18:07.359 I might say that I have nothing to do this 0:18:07.400 --> 0:18:10.080 week and then I have to travel somewhere that's man 0:18:10.160 --> 0:18:12.879 got at last minute, or I have to or you know, 0:18:13.000 --> 0:18:15.320 I'm promoing this, I have to take a picture with 0:18:15.400 --> 0:18:17.960 this person. You know. I just need somebody to understand 0:18:17.960 --> 0:18:21.800 that my previous relationships it's been really hard, you know, 0:18:21.920 --> 0:18:25.040 like I just don't understand, like this is just normal, 0:18:25.480 --> 0:18:28.120 Like why is this person commenting that? I don't know 0:18:28.240 --> 0:18:32.040 that person the day to women that's not in the business, 0:18:32.040 --> 0:18:34.440 it doesn't understand certain things like why would you understand 0:18:34.440 --> 0:18:38.199 club along? Like why are you always busy? Women are 0:18:38.240 --> 0:18:40.480 innately smarter than men. So it's easier for me to 0:18:40.520 --> 0:18:43.760 find that might not be in the industry, that that 0:18:43.880 --> 0:18:46.880 understands or has empathy for for my career. Plus, I'm 0:18:46.880 --> 0:18:49.880 just older and I've been doing this literally for you know, 0:18:50.119 --> 0:18:52.359 ten fifteen years. So when I talk to him and 0:18:52.400 --> 0:18:55.760 even she's not in industry, I'm so respectful and so 0:18:56.440 --> 0:18:59.000 you know open that that usually I don't. I don't 0:18:59.000 --> 0:19:01.800 have that type of issue, But I mean that that 0:19:01.840 --> 0:19:04.040 becomes a gift in a curse with with sticking to 0:19:04.640 --> 0:19:06.800 you know, you don't want to limit your blessings you 0:19:06.800 --> 0:19:09.040 don't know where Oh no, I'm not. I mean if 0:19:09.040 --> 0:19:11.760 I find somebody who's not in the industry, gonna say 0:19:11.800 --> 0:19:14.280 that is um because you know, I still date. I 0:19:14.359 --> 0:19:17.439 still date, you know, guys who aren't in entertainment. I did, 0:19:17.600 --> 0:19:20.200 I'm dating guys who are in entertainment. You know, I'm 0:19:20.240 --> 0:19:25.199