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Speaker 1: First Date follow up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys

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Speaker 2: Ken is on the phone today for a first day

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Speaker 2: follow up and he's getting ghosted by Jamie and he

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Speaker 2: has no idea why. So we'll see if we can

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Speaker 2: figure it out for him in a second. But first, Ken,

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Speaker 2: how long has it been since you heard from Jamie?

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Speaker 3: Uh?

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Speaker 4: It's been about two weeks.

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Speaker 5: Okay, Well let's hear about it. How did you meet Jamie?

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Speaker 5: How is the date? What's going on?

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Speaker 4: So? Yeah, so we met at a concert. You know,

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Speaker 4: it was like a real small venue and we were

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Speaker 4: both kind of at the back, kind of away from

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Speaker 4: the crowd, so it felt like a good time to

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Speaker 4: strike up a conversation. So we did. We talked back

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Speaker 4: and forth, you know, we were both dig in the concert,

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Speaker 4: and then as things started to wind down, I was like, screw, I'll.

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Speaker 3: Just ask her out.

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Speaker 6: Good for you.

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Speaker 4: Yeah. I was like, well, we're in person, let's actually

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Speaker 4: do what people used to do and talk to each other.

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Speaker 3: So she agreed, and she, you know, she.

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Speaker 7: Said something like I don't know, I was awkward but

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Speaker 7: too cute to say no to, which was fine with me.

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Speaker 7: So I text her the next day, see, you know,

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Speaker 7: are you still down to do this? And she seems

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Speaker 7: really excited about it, so I was like, okay, great,

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Speaker 4: Okay, So then I take her out. I took her

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Speaker 4: to this restaurant. It's kind of my secret gem. I

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Speaker 4: don't go there often, but when it's you know, someone,

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Speaker 4: I think I want to kind of you know, start

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Speaker 4: them off write with. So go to this place and

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Speaker 4: we just chat about the concert, we get to know

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Speaker 4: each other, ask her about like other music she's into,

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Speaker 4: and again everything's going well. She starts talking about you know,

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Speaker 4: she's done well, we've all done you know, the and

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Speaker 4: on the apps. Just trying to date around but it's hard, right,

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Speaker 4: and she was like, you know, I don't know. I

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Speaker 4: want to take it slow. And she said something like

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Speaker 4: But then I'm like, well, you're out with me, it

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Speaker 4: well up to this point. So I take this to

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Speaker 4: the compliment she enjoys being with me. I tell the

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Speaker 4: kind of the same thing. I just I'm looking for

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Speaker 4: something normal in my life right now, right, nothing too hectic,

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Speaker 4: but just something consistent. A cool girl. So after dinner

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Speaker 4: we talk a bit more. There's actually this park across

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Speaker 4: with someone you don't know that cool. Right. It was

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Speaker 4: And so you know, it's getting late, and I knew

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Speaker 4: want to be too forward, too creepy, but I was like, look,

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Speaker 4: And I didn't want to push anything, but she felt

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Speaker 4: her home. This is all going well. Again, I'm trying

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Speaker 4: I was like, this has gone well. I don't want

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Speaker 3: I assume there's.

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Speaker 4: Going to be another date. So I go for the

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Speaker 4: hug instead. Okay, right, which seems like the normal thing

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Speaker 4: Yeah, And so this is where I'm like, if there

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Speaker 4: Who but like she knew that it was an accident, right,

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Speaker 4: And I'm like, I'm apologizing profusely. I'm telling her it's

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Speaker 4: needs that to happen. And she was like, it's fine.

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Speaker 6: It's fine, you're nervous.

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Speaker 2: You're like, I don't want to go for a kiss. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I'll go for a hug exause I'm just going to pounce.

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Speaker 4: On it right now, exactly right. If someone was watching this,

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Speaker 4: it would look creepy. But it was a total accident.

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Speaker 4: And so anyway, she offers me to do like a

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Speaker 6: Okay, wow, wow, Well we'll try to figure it out

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Speaker 6: for you.

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Speaker 2: Play a song and then come back and call her

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Speaker 2: and see if she'll tell us why she's ghosting you

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Speaker 2: and maybe get you another day if you still want them. Okay,

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Speaker 2: maybe she has, Yeah, plas, I'll come back.

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Speaker 6: I get your first Day follow Up, Next First.

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Speaker 1: Date follow Up powered by the Advocates Injury Attorneys online

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Speaker 1: at advocatesla dot com.

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Speaker 2: If you're just joining us for today's First Day follow up.

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Speaker 2: Ken is on the phone and he's getting ghosted by Jamie.

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Speaker 2: We're about to call her and see if she'll tell

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Speaker 2: us why she's ghosting him and maybe get him another

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Speaker 2: date if he still wants one. But before we do that,

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Speaker 2: why don't you catch everybody up on your date with Jamie.

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Speaker 6: Ken.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, so met Jamie out at a concert. We kind

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Speaker 4: of hit it off, asked her, if I could call her.

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Speaker 4: We set up a date, went out to dinner. It

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Speaker 4: was real good. Kind of spent the whole night connecting, talking,

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Speaker 4: ended up driving her home, went in for a hug.

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Speaker 4: The only thing I can think here that went wrong

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Speaker 4: is I did bump into her. I tricked on her doormat.

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Speaker 4: we ended off with a hug and then I reached

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Speaker 3: Haven't heard from like nine days?

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Speaker 6: Okay, all right, man, were you ready to call her?

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Speaker 1: Yeah?

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Speaker 4: Please?

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Speaker 6: Okay, here we go. Hello, Hi, man, I speak to Jamie. Please.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 6: This is Jamie Jamie. How are you. My name is

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Speaker 6: Jubal and I host a radio show. It's called The

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Speaker 6: Jebel Show.

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Speaker 5: Hi, Jamie. I'm Nina on the show too. Hi, and

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Speaker 5: I'm Victoria. What's up, Jamie?

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry? Why are you calling?

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Speaker 6: Do you listen to the show at all? Ever?

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Speaker 4: Oh?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean I have, but I.

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Speaker 6: Highly recommend it.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 2: The reason that we're calling is we do a segment

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Speaker 2: on the show called the First Dight follow Up. That's

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Speaker 2: where if you go on a date with somebody and

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Speaker 2: then you end up ghosting them, that person can email

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Speaker 2: us to get you on the phone and ask why

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Speaker 2: you're ghosting them. So we got an email about you.

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Speaker 3: Oh okay, yeah, I mean I think I know where

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Speaker 3: this is going. Okay, I know who emailed you.

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Speaker 6: Who do you think it is.

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Speaker 3: I'm going to say it's Ken.

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Speaker 6: You are correct, Yes it is.

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Speaker 2: Ken emailed us and said that he really liked you

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Speaker 2: a lot, but he doesn't know why you're ghosting him.

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Speaker 3: Oh, this is this is awkward.

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Speaker 6: Can you tell Do you mind telling us? He really

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I guess. I mean we we had a really

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Speaker 3: nice date and Ken is like he's a goofball. He's awkward,

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Speaker 3: I guess it was just the end of the day.

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Speaker 3: That was That was really a bummer for me. What happened.

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Speaker 3: He came to my door, you know, he was he

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Speaker 3: Yeah, he tripped into me, and yeah, my face hit

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Speaker 3: It was the worst sensation ever. And literally an hour

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Speaker 4: Guys.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, Hi, Hey, Jamie Ken Jamie.

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Speaker 4: I had no idea. I'm so sorry. It was a

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Speaker 4: complete accident. I can't believe that it got that bad.

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Speaker 3: I'm so sorry. I know, I understand. I really appreciate

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Speaker 4: Look, I am so sorry that you had to deal

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Speaker 4: with that, you know, but it was totally an accident.

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Speaker 4: You know, I thought maybe you would at least give

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Speaker 3: Oh, look, I understand it was an accident. I get that.

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Speaker 3: I was just in so much shock about everything that

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Speaker 5: Fair emotion I feel in the moment.

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Speaker 4: Oh, i'd be pissed too, Like I man, I'm just smedia.

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Speaker 4: I can't believe.

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Speaker 6: That, Jamie. Do you like going out with Ken though?

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Speaker 2: Right?

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Speaker 6: Other than that, I.

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Speaker 3: Mean, yeah, it was a good time. And I was

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Speaker 4: It, Jamie. If you agree to go out again, then

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Speaker 4: you can knock me over as many times as you like.

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Speaker 2: Oh all right, well, Jamie, would you like to go

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Speaker 2: out with Ken Agan? We'll pay for it.

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Speaker 3: Oh my gosh, Ken, you're on like you're gonna have

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Speaker 3: a worse black guy than me, but you'll have fun.

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Speaker 5: Yeah either way.

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Speaker 2: Congratulations, Ken, you got another data or at least you've

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Speaker 2: got your beat.

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Speaker 6: I have no idea.

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Speaker 4: Thank you guys so much, Jamie, this is great.

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