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Speaker 1: Am I the a hole for destroying my friend's wedding

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Speaker 1: by exposing her cheating fiance?

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Speaker 2: This just makes me sad already.

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Speaker 1: Why are you do you have a cheating fiance that

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Speaker 1: I should know about? Or am I the mistress?

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Speaker 2: You're the misoo?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, forget about your husband. Come away with me, darling.

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Speaker 2: People are to think that's actually how we make out.

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Speaker 1: Also, this is my girlfriend Rihanna. She's summing in for

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Speaker 1: John this week. Please be nice to her and don't

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Speaker 1: tell her anything I've said about her.

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Speaker 2: Tell me please in the comments below the best and

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Speaker 2: the worst things he said about me.

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Speaker 1: Don't do it. Don't tell her shit it okop color

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Speaker 1: of Silence. And actually this comes from a listener. This

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Speaker 1: is from our subreddit, our slash Okop show. And this

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Speaker 1: comes from user the one that Never Died cool use

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Speaker 1: her name op? All right? You ready to get into it?

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Speaker 2: Ready as ever? All Right?

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Speaker 1: I twenty nine female have been best friends with my

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Speaker 1: friend twenty six fet email for eight years. I knew

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Speaker 1: her years before she started dating her fiance twenty six mail.

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Speaker 1: She was always the girl that wanted to be in

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Speaker 1: a relationship and couldn't be happy by herself.

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Speaker 2: Kind of lame.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I know, super lame. It would be so lame

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Speaker 1: if you were in so many relationships since you were sixteen.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, like back back to back to back, your

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Speaker 2: real monogamousamous. Yeah, this type of person. It's not me,

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Speaker 2: not Sam.

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Speaker 1: Totally get it and never judge her for it except

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Speaker 1: your kind of art, because you're you're flaming her in

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Speaker 1: this stop post. She met her fiance and she seemed happy,

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Speaker 1: and I was happy for her until she started crying

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Speaker 1: to me about how she caught him. And don't she

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Speaker 1: started crying to me about how she caught him on

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Speaker 1: dating apps such as Grinder.

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Speaker 2: This is a quick turn in the story. Good term,

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Speaker 2: Is it cheating if they're cheating with the same same sex?

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Speaker 1: Yes, it is, because it is. You don't have a

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Speaker 1: hull ask.

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Speaker 2: For the ladies, right unless, of course? Right?

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Speaker 1: Well we can talk about that. Of one. I was

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Speaker 1: supportive and loving and was there for her, reminding her

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Speaker 1: that she could do better. But whatever she decided to do,

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Speaker 1: I'd support her. She took him back and I accepted it.

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Speaker 1: What are you doing? Come on? This type of behavior

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Speaker 1: has gone on for the majority of their relationship, either

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Speaker 1: one or the other has stepped out on the other.

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Speaker 1: Not only was there cheating from both sides, but abuse

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Speaker 1: as well. They will engage in domestic violence with each

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Speaker 1: other while having arguments. These arguments were always explosive and

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Speaker 1: would always end up him leaving and turning off his phone.

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Speaker 2: I feel like at this point Op needs to not

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Speaker 2: be a supportive.

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Speaker 1: Friend and like this dude. Well, on Christmas of last year,

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Speaker 1: she informed me that he had proposed to her. She said, yes,

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Speaker 1: what are you doing? She said yes, and I was

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Speaker 1: happy for I congratulated her and gave her my best wishes. Well,

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Speaker 1: the other day, I was watching a YouTube video and

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Speaker 1: it mentioned the Facebook group are we dating the same guy?

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Speaker 1: I met my partner thirty one mail on Tinder, so

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Speaker 1: I was curious and decided to look through it. While scanning,

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Speaker 1: I came across a photo of someone I knew. It

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Speaker 1: was my past friend's Beyonce.

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Speaker 2: Let's go big Surprise.

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Speaker 1: Big Surprise, and it was a fairly recent post a

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Speaker 1: few weeks ago. So, without sharing any information or anything

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Speaker 1: about the post per group rules, I texted my friend

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Speaker 1: that she may like to join the group to see

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Speaker 1: what's inside. Guys, let me know In the comments what

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Speaker 1: you would do in this situation? She declined, but I persisted,

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Speaker 1: saying she might want to check it out because her

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Speaker 1: boyfriend might be on there at.

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Speaker 2: This fort Just something, Just fucking say it.

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Speaker 1: Now, you just sound yeah.

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Speaker 2: Now it sounds like op is like suggesting that it's

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Speaker 2: a shitty relationship without having proof of it.

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Speaker 1: She said no again, so I finally straight out went

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Speaker 1: said it that she needed to look there for herself.

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Speaker 1: Once again, she refused, so I reached out to the

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Speaker 1: woman that posted my friend's fiance and told her that

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Speaker 1: he was in a serious relationship. Well, the woman decided

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Speaker 1: to confront him and went to his location. They shared

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Speaker 1: locations in Snapchat.

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Speaker 2: And then cheating. Why are you sharing locations?

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Speaker 1: I know, dude phones, Go buy a good carrier pitcheon.

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Speaker 1: The girl on Facebook that was dating the fiance that

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Speaker 1: was the side piece found my friend in him together crazy.

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Speaker 1: A fight broke out, and later on my friend calls

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Speaker 1: me to give me the details. She's crying and calling

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Speaker 1: him an a hole, and I'm trying to support her

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Speaker 1: and be a good friend. But then she turns it

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Speaker 1: on me, calling me an a hole because I didn't

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Speaker 1: send photo proof or try harder to get her on

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Speaker 1: the group. She called me an a hole for not

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Speaker 1: protecting her and whatnot. She has since called off the

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Speaker 1: engagement again and blames me for it.

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Speaker 2: Isn't she happy the engagement got called off?

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Speaker 1: I mean, does anyone happen that their fiance cheats on

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Speaker 1: them and then their engagement is called off?

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Speaker 2: No, but at least the sense of relief.

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Speaker 1: Completely cheated me. And also, I mean, all right, guys,

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Speaker 1: I want to know what you think, like, please put

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Speaker 1: in the comments what what the fuck is going on here?

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Speaker 1: But like to get mad at op for literally helping

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Speaker 1: her out.

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Speaker 2: Wouldn't have she would have never found out a girl

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Speaker 2: to save her.

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Speaker 1: She would have never found out. They would have had kids,

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Speaker 1: you know, they would have gone, they would have had

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Speaker 1: little babies. They would have gone on like a cruise together.

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Speaker 1: And then on the cruise, right, they're walking by the

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Speaker 1: pool and who do they see around the corner with

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Speaker 1: the ex fiance. He's happy, he's with his two kids.

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Speaker 1: He realized he made a huge mistake and he's going

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Speaker 1: to be better for it. And so he's been a

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Speaker 1: loving husband to this new girl. And you know, every

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Speaker 1: every happy ever after, everyone.

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Speaker 2: Wins it was beautiful. Might shut a tear I'm.

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Speaker 1: I'm, I'm literally crying right now. If you need a

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Speaker 1: tissue from that tear jerker of a story, a tissue

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Speaker 1: in the comments, and we'll see you next time. The

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Speaker 1: Beautiful Ariana is my co host while John's out this week.

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Speaker 1: See you next week.