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Speaker 2: Melissa is on the phone today for our first Date
Speaker 2: follow up, and she's getting ghosted by a guy named Austin.
Speaker 2: So in a few minutes, we're gonna call him and
Speaker 2: see if you'll tell us why he's ghostinger and maybe
Speaker 2: get her another date. But first, Melissa, how long has
Speaker 2: it been since you heard from Austin.
Speaker 3: It's been about a week.
Speaker 4: So did you try to reach out to him?
Speaker 3: I have, Yeah, I mean I just kind of distinct
Speaker 3: him for a wonder full time, and I would love
Speaker 3: to do it again soon. And I haven't heard of anything.
Speaker 3: But I thought, you know, our date was really solid,
Speaker 3: so I'm I'm really surprised.
Speaker 4: Sure, why don't you tell us about the date?
Speaker 3: Sure? Okay, Well, we met on bumble. You know, I
Speaker 3: was instantly attracted to him, just to set you up,
Speaker 3: you know, just to know the backstory a little bit
Speaker 3: before the date, Like, you know, we had talked for
Speaker 3: a couple of weeks and and you know, we had
Speaker 3: some really great phone conversations, so like the anticipation to meet
Speaker 3: in person was like super high. We met at an
Speaker 3: indoor mini golf arcade place, and we like kissed right away.
Speaker 3: It was it felt like we were magnets.
Speaker 4: Okay, that's hot.
Speaker 3: Yeah, and I really haven't felt like something like this before.
Speaker 3: Starts were flying. The date was just super hot and exciting,
Speaker 3: so yeah, I didn't want the night to end. And
Speaker 3: we went back to Austin. We started talking about life
Speaker 3: while we're staring at the sky from the falcony, and
Speaker 3: we hooked up. Okay, so yeah, like the chemistry was
Speaker 3: just crazy.
Speaker 4: Kissed right away. Describe like what happened there.
Speaker 3: So, since we were talking for a couple of weeks
Speaker 3: and it was building up, I already felt really familiar,
Speaker 3: like I've known him. So when I saw him waiting
Speaker 3: for me at the front, I just like instantly like
Speaker 3: ran up to him and he like scooped me up,
Speaker 3: and it was like out of a movie.
Speaker 4: Like wow, okay, sounds like yeah.
Speaker 3: It was like that dirty dancing scene, you know, like
Speaker 3: were you you know, and it just felt so spontaneous
Speaker 3: and we just instantly felt super comfortable.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 3: It was really sweet. So anyway, I left in the morning,
Speaker 3: and you know, I told him verbally like can't wait
Speaker 3: to see him again, and you know, I joked that,
Speaker 3: you know, he better call me, and he said, of course,
Speaker 3: and that was it. And I'm so confused.
Speaker 4: Did anything happen like that would have made him not
Speaker 4: call you back?
Speaker 3: I mean, the only thing that I can think about
Speaker 3: was like, I do have a kid, and I wasn't
Speaker 3: completely upfront with him, but like I needed to know,
Speaker 3: like that something was really there, that it really was
Speaker 3: real and being met like I knew that it was.
Speaker 3: It's just like a hard thing to slip in when
Speaker 3: you're on an amusing leet. But as I was leaving,
Speaker 3: I told him I I need to get home to my.
Speaker 4: Kids, and okay and.
Speaker 3: Yes, yeah, and I kept it light. I didn't like
Speaker 3: really want to get into it, just because I really
Speaker 3: was in a rush. But I felt like maybe he
Speaker 3: was like processing that news as I was leaving. I
Speaker 3: don't know, he seemed like he internalized it, but it
Speaker 3: seemed like we you know, I did say, let's talk
Speaker 3: about it next time, and it seemed like that was
Speaker 3: definitely a conversation, like I'm open to having NFLT, like
Speaker 3: he's someone that would also be open having that conversation.
Speaker 3: That's just why I'm just surprised because he seems like
Speaker 3: a really open person.
Speaker 1: Well you could be processing though, because you know, if
Speaker 1: real feelings are starting to develop at that point, then
Speaker 1: you really have to ask yourself, like, Okay, you know
Speaker 1: what role am I going to play with somebody that
Speaker 1: has a child? Like, how does that work?
Speaker 4: We'll see.
Speaker 2: We'll play a song come back, and then call him
Speaker 2: and seefa tell us why he's ghosting, maybe get you
Speaker 2: another date?
Speaker 3: Okay, okay, all right, this sounds good.
Speaker 2: All right, we'll play a song come back, get your
Speaker 2: first a follow up next. Right in the middle of
Speaker 2: your first date follow up, if you're just joining us,
Speaker 2: Melissa is on the phone and Melissa is getting ghosted
Speaker 2: by Austin. So we're about to call him and see
Speaker 2: if he'll tell us why is ghostinger and maybe get
Speaker 2: her another date? But first, Melissa, why don't you catch
Speaker 2: us up on your situation?
Speaker 3: Yeah? So I met this incredible guy off of Bumble.
Speaker 3: We talked for a couple of weeks, went on this
Speaker 3: like mind blowing date. We hooked up. The chemistry was
Speaker 3: off the chart, and lo and behold, I listen when
Speaker 3: I'm walking out the door, I get home to my kid,
Speaker 3: and I feel like I sleepd him out and I
Speaker 3: haven't heard from him since, and it's been a week.
Speaker 4: Because that was the first time that you told him
Speaker 4: that you had a kid, was when you were leaving.
Speaker 3: Yes, but I do feel like we, you know, coming
Speaker 3: in hot with our chemistry. I just felt like it
Speaker 3: wasn't ever the right time to really unpass that. But
Speaker 3: I feel like that's what a second seat would before.
Speaker 4: Okay, well, are you ready for us to call him?
Speaker 3: Yes? Please?
Speaker 2: Okay, here we go. I man speak to Austin. Please, Yeah, Austin,
Speaker 2: what's up?
Speaker 5: Man?
Speaker 4: This is Jewbil. I'm calling from a radio show. It's
Speaker 4: called The Jewbil Show. Hi, Austin, I'm Nana also on
Speaker 4: the show. Hi, I'm Victoria.
Speaker 5: I've been overwhelming.
Speaker 4: How are you good?
Speaker 5: Good? So I'm on the call with three people here.
Speaker 4: Yeah. Have you ever listened to The Jewel Show before?
Speaker 3: I believe so.
Speaker 4: Well.
Speaker 2: We do a segment on the show it's called the
Speaker 2: First Aid follow Up. That's where if you go out
Speaker 2: on a day with somebody and then you end up
Speaker 2: ghosting them, that person can ask us to email you
Speaker 2: and ask why you're ghosting. And we got an email
Speaker 2: about you Austin, Okay, you have any idea who it
Speaker 2: would be, I feel like you do.
Speaker 5: I feel like it's probably Melissa.
Speaker 4: You are correct, sir, So you're intentionally ghosting her.
Speaker 5: I don't know if I would use the word ghosting.
Speaker 5: I kind of yeah, I did put some space there
Speaker 5: and then call her.
Speaker 4: Do you mind telling us why she wants to know?
Speaker 5: Oh? Man, it's kind of complex. I feel like when
Speaker 5: people want to get together that they should have a
Speaker 5: clean space for each other.
Speaker 3: You know what I mean.
Speaker 4: Clean space.
Speaker 5: So she's got a whole situation going on with her.
Speaker 5: I don't know if she's if she lives with her,
Speaker 5: she has, she had a kid. I always say this
Speaker 5: without putting any So we we stay stayed together at
Speaker 5: my place, and it was like in the morning, I'm
Speaker 5: half asleep because we you know, we have some drinks.
Speaker 5: We had a good time, and her phone's going off
Speaker 5: and constantly and I'm and I'm.
Speaker 3: Like, is that my phone? No?
Speaker 5: No, no, oh, it's hers, okay, and you know she's
Speaker 5: texting and doing whatever. And then she picks up the phone.
Speaker 5: She thinks I'm asleep, I'm sure, and she's like whispering,
Speaker 5: but she's like she sounds really tense, like someone's barking
Speaker 5: at her on the phone, and I hear her saying like, oh, no, no, no,
Speaker 5: I have too much to drink, so I'm staying at
Speaker 5: her friend's house. I'll be home soon.
Speaker 3: And I was like, like what.
Speaker 5: And then before she hangs up, I could hear it
Speaker 5: be like you two, which to me was like somebody
Speaker 5: just said I love you, right, And so I'm standing
Speaker 5: there like like what up. I don't know if I
Speaker 5: can cuss on the radio, but like, you know, waiting
Speaker 5: for her to maybe tell me something, and then she
Speaker 5: she sounds me she has to get home to her kid, which, okay,
Speaker 5: you have a kid. I don't know why you're telling
Speaker 5: me now, and you didn't tell me earlier, but I mean,
Speaker 5: it's not going to make me ghost you. But then
Speaker 5: I'm waiting there for her to explain further. But then
Speaker 5: she just leaves, and I'm like, is she's going home
Speaker 5: to my husband?
Speaker 4: And what a baby daddy?
Speaker 3: I don't know.
Speaker 5: She said something about a baby daddy like I'm oh,
Speaker 5: I'm so sorry my baby daddy for waking you up
Speaker 5: or whatever. She kind of briefed it out like it
Speaker 5: meant nothing, and I'm like, you're telling me that you're
Speaker 5: answering the phone from your baby daddy. Clearly you're going
Speaker 5: home to him, and that's a whole situation.
Speaker 4: But a kid though.
Speaker 5: No, the conversation that she was happy, I couldn't make
Speaker 5: out exactly what she was saying, but clearly there's this
Speaker 5: guy who's borderline yelling at her as she's like, no,
Speaker 5: I'm sorry, I no, no, I've just got drunk. I'm
Speaker 5: staying at her friend's I'll be home soon. I heard
Speaker 5: her say i'll be home soon. That's really messy. And
Speaker 5: I had a great time with her, and it was
Speaker 5: very passionate date and we really hit it off.
Speaker 3: I was shocked.
Speaker 5: I said, wow, so you're getting involved with me, but
Speaker 5: you have a whole situation.
Speaker 4: Well, thanks for telling us. I appreciate it.
Speaker 2: And now I'll let you know that she's actually on
Speaker 2: the phone listening to you.
Speaker 3: Hi, Austin. Yeah, I'm happy to hear it. Yeah. I mean,
Speaker 3: this was my idea to have you on the radio,
Speaker 3: so I wanted to hear your side of the story.
Speaker 3: All I can say is that, yes, my child's father,
Speaker 3: you know, he is still in love with me and
Speaker 3: I just felt like it's best right now to keep
Speaker 3: him happy while you know, we have our son, so
Speaker 3: I play along, but we are definitely not together.
Speaker 4: So he thinks you're together.
Speaker 3: For our kids, you know, because we want to have
Speaker 3: a family unit for him. And it's not scared our kid. Yes,
Speaker 3: because we didn't work out that we have a divided
Speaker 3: family that.
Speaker 4: You're with him.
Speaker 3: Yeah, Well, like I said, like it's for our kid
Speaker 3: right now, it's a temporary situation until it changes.
Speaker 5: Well, listen, listen. Obviously we have a great time and
Speaker 5: we connect at a very deep level physically, we're drawn
Speaker 5: to each other, like I can't even explain it with words.
Speaker 5: It's very noble that you put your child first, but
Speaker 5: at the end of the day, you basically have a boyfriend.
Speaker 5: He thinks that all you have to do is work
Speaker 5: harder to get you if he's not all the way there.
Speaker 5: It is just so dramatic.
Speaker 3: It's like, like, for what it's worth, he knows that
Speaker 3: that's what you say.
Speaker 5: That's what you say, and with all due respect, men
Speaker 5: don't see it like that. They see it as you're
Speaker 5: just adjusting and he's going to eventually get you.
Speaker 3: And at the end of the day.
Speaker 4: You know.
Speaker 5: I know you say you're playing along, but obviously he
Speaker 5: said I love you and you said you too.
Speaker 3: So no matter what, you yeah, I'm the person I'm.
Speaker 1: In love with you, because that's going to be an
Speaker 1: awkward thing to hear anyway you're laying next to somebody else.
Speaker 5: I think if you clean up your situation, it takes
Speaker 5: a little bit of growing and you make final what
Speaker 5: the relationship is with him, Like if you're not with him,
Speaker 5: he has to know that and he can't think there's
Speaker 5: a chance and hit me up sometime. But Melissa's let
Speaker 5: me ask you one question. Do you do you sleep
Speaker 5: in the same bed with him?
Speaker 3: Melissa, I'm not gonna lie to you. Yes, but it's
Speaker 3: for our kids.
Speaker 5: Okay, So you have no business even talking to me.
Speaker 5: And that sucks to say because I had a great
Speaker 5: time with you, but you have.
Speaker 3: No body too. I just know that I won't find
Speaker 3: chemistry like we have ever done. And I hate to
Speaker 3: see that guy and I feel like I know how
Speaker 3: to shoot my shot. I guess you know.
Speaker 4: So you know I tried, Well, Austin, would you like
Speaker 4: to go out? Wasn't Melstena again? We'll pay for it.
Speaker 5: I can't do that right now. I mean, in a year,
Speaker 5: if things change, call me back up, give us a
Speaker 5: free date.
Speaker 3: But right now I respect that, and you know, I'll
Speaker 3: clean up my situation and I hope you don't meet
Speaker 3: someone else, and I'll call you however long it takes.
Speaker 3: You know, i'll circle back.
Speaker 4: Good luck, guys, Thank you. The First Date follow up