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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Keon and this is Dakota, your favorite

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend pushed his religious beliefs onto my grieving sister.

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Speaker 1: Well, it's time to pull back.

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Speaker 3: A little background. I female twenty four, am an atheist

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Speaker 3: and my boyfriend, male twenty three, happens to be one two.

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Speaker 3: My family is Christian, but they are the type who

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Speaker 3: love everyone except people for who they are. Think people

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Speaker 3: attracted the same gender getting married is fine, and accept

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Speaker 3: that I'm an atheist. My parents have always had that

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Speaker 3: be christ like mentality, which sometimes does not mesh well

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Speaker 3: with more conservative Christians. By the way, this comes from

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Speaker 3: Throwaway Armchair and if you would to a spit your

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Speaker 3: own stories, Goda the r slash Okay Storytime subpared it.

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Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Keon, and we're here.

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Speaker 3: To give good advice. Gooofy, but we don't have all

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Speaker 3: the answers. We only know what we'd do, So let

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Speaker 3: us know what you would do in the comments and

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Speaker 3: op says. But anyway, they are there are awesome people,

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Speaker 3: and I love him. Our dad passed away after a

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Speaker 3: rough battle with cancer a week ago. It was pretty

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Speaker 3: bad and my family is mourning right now. We are

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Speaker 3: a pretty tight knit family, so we're reeling at the moment.

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Speaker 3: We had a funeral at a local church and it

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Speaker 3: was really nice and beautiful. I personally do not hold

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Speaker 3: the same beliefs, but I respect other people having their

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Speaker 3: own opinions. I do not take offense or make it

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Speaker 3: a personal mission to somehow prove them wrong, which is

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Speaker 3: something my boyfriend has a tendency to do. He is

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Speaker 3: more judgmental and is curbed back a lot, but it

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Speaker 3: is still there. Yesterday I got a phone call from

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Speaker 3: my older sister, female twenty eight, in tears because my

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Speaker 3: boyfriend started going at her regarding her faith. She is

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Speaker 3: the same as our parents. He sent her a message

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Speaker 3: on Facebook offering his condolences since they had not really

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Speaker 3: had a chance to talk after my dad's passing. She

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Speaker 3: thanked him and said that our dad was not in

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Speaker 3: pain now and that he was with God at peace.

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend replied, you're entitled to your opinion. I just

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Speaker 3: don't feel the same way your God.

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Speaker 1: I'm immediately bringing up with that person, immediately breaking up.

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Speaker 1: You're annoying. Oh you're so annoying, and you don't know

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Speaker 1: that that's not the time to be like push his

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Speaker 3: Actually, actually, good doesn't exist in your dad's like just

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Speaker 3: still freaking in the ground.

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Speaker 1: That's awful.

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Speaker 3: Good. Go sit in the corner and think about what

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Speaker 3: you just said, because.

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Speaker 1: You suck, which you know, it's less scary when you

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Speaker 1: think about thinking in a corner. Huh, timeouts are less scary. No,

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Speaker 1: I was probably gonna get too real. Let's keep going.

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Speaker 3: My boyfriend replied, you're entitled to your opinion. I just

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Speaker 3: don't feel the same way. This really upset my sister

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Speaker 3: because it was not the time or place for that comment,

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Speaker 3: and I agree with her. She told him that it

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Speaker 3: was not very appropriate to make remarks like that to

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Speaker 3: someone who had recently lost a parent. I guess my

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Speaker 3: a debate, and my sister ignored him. Yeah. No, genuinely,

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Speaker 3: I would be breaking up with that boyfriend if he

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's because it's like you're also kind of saying

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Speaker 1: it to like everybody, like even though I'm an atheist,

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Speaker 1: it's like I don't.

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Speaker 3: Like, I don't think that I need to be right.

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Speaker 3: So I'm going to tell you that I don't think

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Speaker 3: that your family member is, you know, in heaven or whatever,

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Speaker 1: That's ridiculous. It's like it's like just like being like, well,

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Speaker 1: technically it's like like imagine like the what was the

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Speaker 1: a family member was in there, and they're like, I

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Speaker 1: can't believe my family member exploded at the bottom of

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Speaker 1: the ocean. And then someone goes, well, actually, technically it

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Speaker 1: was an implosion. It's like it's just not the thing

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Speaker 1: to say. You go, yeah, I'm sorry, that's terrible. I'm sorry.

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Speaker 3: No. I have a lot of people in my life,

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Speaker 3: And when they say, oh, you know, like i've lost

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Speaker 3: this person I think they're here, like can you pray

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Speaker 3: for me? I say, of course, you.

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Speaker 1: Don't do a spit take. Yeah, pray pray who who

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's ridiculous. She showed me the messages and I

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Speaker 3: not even about faith to me. It is about the

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Speaker 3: quality of a person. In my opinion, when someone tries

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Speaker 3: to push their ideologies on another person, whether they are Atheist, Christian, Muslim,

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Speaker 3: or anything else, it shows deep rooted insecurity. I feel

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Speaker 3: really angry at my boyfriend, and this feels like a

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Speaker 3: deal breaker for me. We have only been dating a

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Speaker 3: few months. Yeah, he's gone, He's a few months. Get him, mady.

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Speaker 1: I'd rather have a few moths, yeah, than a few

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Speaker 3: I have a few moths in my closet than this

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Speaker 1: I'd rather have moths in my hair, moths everywhere, instead

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Speaker 3: Although we have known each other for a few years

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Speaker 3: and I'm realizing how utterly grating he.

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Speaker 1: Is, like a cheese grater.

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Speaker 3: It is not a blaze.

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Speaker 1: I'm realizing now. He's sort of like a hollow metal

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Speaker 3: That just like, really take the skin.

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Speaker 1: I've been dating a grater this whole time. I'm a

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Speaker 1: greater dater. I'm a greater dat.

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Speaker 3: It is not a blatant nails on a chalkboard kind

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Speaker 1: That's why school. Yeah, that's kind of crazy, so weird reason.

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Speaker 3: He complains constantly about all of this but does nothing

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Speaker 3: last Christmas season because he bought me a five dollars

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Speaker 3: it because I have a job. I'm sorry he got

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Speaker 4: No, you know, I'm unemployed, which is basically like I

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Speaker 4: have a privilege. I'm entitled to your money and better

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Speaker 3: Grow on trees you, it's nothing going for him.

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Speaker 1: They don't grow on trees unless your job is to

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Speaker 1: pick fruit, and in which case, depending on what fruit

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Speaker 3: Sorry, this is turning into an angry rant. What would

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Speaker 3: you do in this situation? I'm ready to cut contact

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Speaker 3: with this person. What is the best way to handle this?

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Speaker 3: And relevant comments? The pens are mightier, says as an

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Speaker 3: need to try and wage a war against religion. Believe

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Speaker 3: what you believe and let others do the same thing.

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Speaker 3: What he's trying to do is try to prove to

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Speaker 3: and smarter than her and picking the passing of her

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Speaker 3: and your father. To do that is just ridiculous. From

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Speaker 3: the rest of the post, he sounds like a child

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Speaker 3: and an ale. Get rid of him and be happy,

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Speaker 3: and there is an update, folks. But what do you think? Yeah,

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Speaker 3: to break up, that's what I think.

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Speaker 2: Easy, easy breakup. Yeah, I think we've covered it. But

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Speaker 2: like read the room.

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Speaker 1: Yeah you suck. I'm glad you could interpret my noises

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Speaker 1: and cron because that's what that was.

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Speaker 3: They were pretty obvious.

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Speaker 1: It's like, what are we doing here?

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Speaker 3: I mean, if you choose someone's someone losing their father

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Speaker 1: Yeah, by the way, your father's soul didn't go anywhere,

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Speaker 1: dors just now.

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Speaker 2: What Yeah, he's like skill issue, you know, like dude, dude.

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Speaker 3: But we got an update. Let's hope you see that.

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Speaker 2: You think he did it on purpose?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, it's not even like this.

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Speaker 3: I don't think it's like on purpose. I think it's

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Speaker 3: just like people like this are so pompous, curiating and

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Speaker 1: Well, it's just it's the vible like well, sorry, the truth.

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Speaker 1: Sorry you don't like the truth. Sorry, but I value

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I feel like we've we've at least Sophie

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Speaker 2: we've gone to Catholic school all our lives. We get it,

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Speaker 2: like we understand it. But it's also like we're also

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Speaker 3: Nice, yeah, and not have the same value.

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Speaker 2: You could be respectable to me, like you know what,

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Speaker 2: I'm sorry for the passing of your father. Like that's

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Speaker 1: Yeah, it's really really really really really really easy.

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Speaker 3: Update. Yesterday I took my sister and my mom out

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Speaker 3: pray for him, but good riddance. Nice mom.

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Speaker 1: Nice response, good Mom. Good mood mom response Queen, good mom.

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Speaker 3: This morning, I blocked him on every conceivable social media

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Speaker 3: more and told him that it was an excuse for

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Speaker 3: was only apologizing now because he was in the crap

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Speaker 3: house yeah, and only regrets that he was getting yelled at.

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Speaker 1: Yeah. I can't imagine the amount I would have to

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Speaker 1: drink to drop that on somebody like I would have

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Speaker 1: to be in a state where no one's trying to

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Speaker 3: He was wasted and had no control over his filter.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, that's wild, But we've got a little bit left.

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Speaker 3: Looking back, I think he held on because I'm financially

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Speaker 3: Thank you all for your wonderful, encouraging comments and top comments.

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Speaker 3: Gold End says, So, I'm a bit late to the party,

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Speaker 3: identifies more with being agnostic. That being said. A few

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Speaker 3: My uncle and aunt are very deeply religious people, which

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Speaker 3: They were looking over the messages and cards people had left.

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Speaker 3: When they got to my boyfriend's card, my aunt started crying.

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Speaker 3: Inside the card, he had written, the righteous perish, and

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Speaker 3: up right enter into peace. They find rest as they

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Speaker 3: lie in passing Isaiah fifty seven one through two. My

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Speaker 3: condolence is his name. That's really really sweet.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, that's a very thoughtful guy. That's very thoughtful, so thoughtful.

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Speaker 1: Little goober imagined if he opened the card and just

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Speaker 3: Yeah, no, no, no, no, no, no.

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Speaker 1: All your religions are fake.

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Speaker 3: That would be pretty awful. My agnostic boyfriend took time

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Speaker 3: out of his day to not only learn about Christianity

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Speaker 3: and the Bible. He later told me it was his

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Speaker 3: to care for my family. I asked him why he

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Speaker 3: uncle and aunt. Coincidentally, the quote he chose also happened

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Speaker 3: to be one of my aunt's favorites. Atheist or not.

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Speaker 3: You deserve someone that will love not only you, but

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Speaker 3: I hope you find your man one day, as I

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Speaker 3: have found mine. Ziggy Karmadas says, I hate that it

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Speaker 3: wasn't me. It was the booze excuse. It's like a

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Speaker 1: Dude, perfect loophole right there, Yeah perfect, you used that

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Speaker 1: one in a court of law.

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Speaker 3: I was drunk, your honor, I couldn't. I didn't know

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Speaker 3: I was driving.

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Speaker 1: Drunk, Officer. I love beer.

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Speaker 3: But folks, that's the end of that story. And we've

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Speaker 3: got another one coming right up.

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Speaker 1: Yeah we do, Yeah, yeah we do, Yeah we do.

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Speaker 3: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, we do.

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Speaker 2: Hey, feel what do you doing tonight?

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Speaker 3: Tonight?

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Speaker 1: Yeah, rehearsal. Why I was.

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Speaker 2: Saying about you to Trivia?

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Speaker 3: You can't go to Twivia? What about next week?

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Speaker 2: Potentially want to go to trin You boyfriend too?

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Speaker 1: Okay, I'm sorry I made the noise. I'm sorry I

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Speaker 3: Oh my god, I just bend my wrists too far back.

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Speaker 3: Wait do you my boyfriend and I whenever we're like jumping,

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Speaker 2: Don't start that sentence after we're making link sounds.

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Speaker 3: Friend and I, Yeah, we always do that when we're we'll.

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Speaker 1: Be like walking around, Kean, We'll.

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Speaker 3: Be like walking around and we just start like jumping.

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Speaker 1: But who you're who are you copying? Okay? Good, good,

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Speaker 1: just I was just making sure.

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Speaker 3: Girl nose Breath of Wild, oh, worth of Wild? What

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Speaker 2: She knows? Zelda?

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Speaker 1: No named five other legendim Zelda games. You're turning me

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Speaker 1: into this girl's terrible boyfriend. Okay, Tears of the Kingdom, Okay,

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Speaker 1: Breath of the Wild. Five other tears count, Zelda, that

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Speaker 1: does technically count. That's two, that's three, three, No, that's

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Speaker 1: you can't count the one that you already know as.

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Speaker 2: Tears for Fears legend of Zelda. Tears for Fears is crazy.

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Speaker 1: You don't know. There's you should know. There's two that

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Speaker 1: you should know. Come on, I haven't played any other ones.

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Speaker 1: I've only played Breath. There's plenty of stuff I haven't.

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Speaker 3: Twilight, Yes, Twilight Imperium so close, Twilight, Twilight opposite my

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Speaker 2: There we go?

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Speaker 3: What is my girlfriend the princess?

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Speaker 2: Uh uh?

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Speaker 1: He likes to play it.

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Speaker 3: Wind yes, Wind Princess Wind.

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Speaker 1: What do you do? What's the opposite of sleeper?

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Speaker 3: Wind Waker?

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Speaker 2: But o, there you go?

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Speaker 1: Wind Waker, wind Waker? Does it make any sense? She

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Speaker 1: doesn't get it, guys, wind Waker time? No way. Megora's

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Speaker 1: Megora's mask, man, Goora's mouse? Are you man Goora's musk?

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Speaker 2: Are you doing this one? Are you getting opt out

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Speaker 2: of this one?

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Speaker 1: I'm doing this.

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Speaker 2: Okay, I'm doing it. Oh gosh? All right? Uh sweet?

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Speaker 2: Are you ready? Te't your share? I would also accept

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Speaker 2: Hyro Warriors not really. Come on, it's a legend.

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Speaker 1: It's a Dynasty Warriors game.

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Speaker 2: Let's be real. Legendzelda.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, but okay, so is Mario Kart Zelda game because

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Speaker 1: it's got link in it. No.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, right, Hyral Warriors is based.

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Speaker 1: It is just it's yeah, okay, three two one maybe

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Speaker 1: baby baby, Sorry, that was frue. That was Kean's fault.

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Speaker 1: That was Keon's fault. Okay. My father keeps bringing my

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Speaker 3: Get her out of there.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, trigger warning, substance use disorder. Also, this comes directly

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Speaker 2: Sophia, I'm Keon, and we're here to.

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Speaker 1: Give a good advice goofy. But we don't have all

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Speaker 1: popping habit in college to the extent that people in

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00:20:06,359 --> 00:20:09,240
Speaker 1: her college course told my parents to do something that

438
00:20:09,359 --> 00:20:12,879
Speaker 1: was around when I was sitting my final year in school.

439
00:20:13,080 --> 00:20:15,639
Speaker 1: Bee has had a lot of substance use issues to

440
00:20:15,680 --> 00:20:17,919
Speaker 1: the point that a lot of my big life events

441
00:20:17,960 --> 00:20:20,200
Speaker 1: were put on the back burner to get Bee back

442
00:20:20,200 --> 00:20:24,240
Speaker 1: on track. My oldest sister, Piper most likely feels the same,

443
00:20:24,320 --> 00:20:26,639
Speaker 1: and I know she holds herself responsible due to her

444
00:20:26,680 --> 00:20:29,359
Speaker 1: being parentified while we all grew up. There is almost

445
00:20:29,400 --> 00:20:32,320
Speaker 1: a rhythm to it. B will get her hands on something,

446
00:20:32,400 --> 00:20:34,920
Speaker 1: her health will decline. My father will throw money at

447
00:20:34,960 --> 00:20:37,880
Speaker 1: the situation and get her back on track. No rehab

448
00:20:38,080 --> 00:20:40,280
Speaker 1: has been used so far. By the way, my father

449
00:20:40,320 --> 00:20:43,040
Speaker 1: also struggled with substances when he was younger and managed

450
00:20:43,040 --> 00:20:45,240
Speaker 1: to get on the straight and narrow by himself, and

451
00:20:45,280 --> 00:20:47,720
Speaker 1: he thinks everyone can and should do it by themselves,

452
00:20:47,960 --> 00:20:50,080
Speaker 1: though he did it when my mother said she would

453
00:20:50,200 --> 00:20:52,320
Speaker 1: leave with the three of us if he didn't sort

454
00:20:52,359 --> 00:20:54,920
Speaker 1: his crap out, so slightly different situations.

455
00:20:54,720 --> 00:20:57,200
Speaker 3: It's like everyone should do it without any help, and

456
00:20:57,720 --> 00:21:00,800
Speaker 3: I didn't do that, But yeah, that's that doesn't count.

457
00:21:01,040 --> 00:21:05,520
Speaker 1: Everyone should fix themselves alone, like me, because I had

458
00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:08,160
Speaker 1: to do it by myself or my wife would leave

459
00:21:08,200 --> 00:21:11,760
Speaker 1: me with my children. So I did it all by

460
00:21:11,800 --> 00:21:12,760
Speaker 1: myself in a vacuum.

461
00:21:12,960 --> 00:21:14,600
Speaker 3: Yep, no one else existed.

462
00:21:14,720 --> 00:21:19,920
Speaker 1: Fast forward to now me and Piper are married and

463
00:21:20,000 --> 00:21:23,760
Speaker 1: b is not. My father found and helped convert an

464
00:21:23,760 --> 00:21:26,800
Speaker 1: old sandstone building that all three of us live in.

465
00:21:26,960 --> 00:21:28,920
Speaker 1: Piper's on the top floor, I'm in the middle, and

466
00:21:29,040 --> 00:21:32,040
Speaker 1: b is on the bottom floor. I know, crazy, I know,

467
00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:34,200
Speaker 1: but we all thought it sounded great at the time.

468
00:21:34,400 --> 00:21:36,520
Speaker 3: It feels like, uh, you can build a house out

469
00:21:36,560 --> 00:21:39,520
Speaker 3: of sandstone, I guess so in Minecraft you can.

470
00:21:39,600 --> 00:21:41,760
Speaker 1: That's what I'm saying. Is this a Minecraft house? It

471
00:21:41,800 --> 00:21:45,720
Speaker 1: feels like is a Minecraft ai like Zeus?

472
00:21:45,920 --> 00:21:49,879
Speaker 3: Hades and Poseidon get like being you know, getting the

473
00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:53,560
Speaker 3: different kingdoms and stuff, and Hades just getting the short

474
00:21:53,680 --> 00:21:55,800
Speaker 3: end of the stick. That's what this feels like haties

475
00:21:55,840 --> 00:21:57,639
Speaker 3: is Piper? Or is it be? Sorry?

476
00:21:57,640 --> 00:21:59,280
Speaker 2: Be's on the bottom, right, who's orpheus?

477
00:21:59,280 --> 00:22:04,600
Speaker 1: He's on the bottom orpheus morphius Orpheus dwarphysis Walrus's.

478
00:22:04,359 --> 00:22:06,119
Speaker 2: Shout out, what thank you for that?

479
00:22:06,359 --> 00:22:09,720
Speaker 1: Shout out Hannibal Buris for that one she shows by

480
00:22:09,720 --> 00:22:12,840
Speaker 1: the she s orpheus. I used to sympathize with Bee,

481
00:22:13,080 --> 00:22:16,600
Speaker 1: mainly because I was naive to what a horrible person

482
00:22:16,760 --> 00:22:19,880
Speaker 1: substances make people, even going as far as defending her.

483
00:22:19,920 --> 00:22:24,200
Speaker 1: But then then she started dating a horrible man we'll

484
00:22:24,240 --> 00:22:27,960
Speaker 1: call Stewart that had a criminal history of all sorts.

485
00:22:28,480 --> 00:22:30,480
Speaker 1: I showed this to be and she said she didn't

486
00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:32,200
Speaker 1: want to hear it. I told her about the article

487
00:22:32,200 --> 00:22:34,920
Speaker 1: of him holding a gas station clerk hostage and robbing

488
00:22:35,000 --> 00:22:37,400
Speaker 1: an elderly couple, and the list went on.

489
00:22:37,480 --> 00:22:40,720
Speaker 3: Wait, I'm sorry what she's like, don't don't tell me

490
00:22:41,000 --> 00:22:45,280
Speaker 3: bad things about my boyfriend. Already know he's like, he robbed,

491
00:22:45,640 --> 00:22:48,160
Speaker 3: he robbed a store. It at pew pew point.

492
00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:49,360
Speaker 1: Yeah, who cares?

493
00:22:49,560 --> 00:22:51,680
Speaker 3: So everyone has a history.

494
00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:54,960
Speaker 1: Dude, he's supporting my substance use habit. I don't care

495
00:22:55,040 --> 00:22:58,360
Speaker 1: what he did rob those old people and take their

496
00:22:58,359 --> 00:23:00,159
Speaker 1: money so we can buy stuff with it.

497
00:23:00,400 --> 00:23:04,600
Speaker 3: He didn't rob anyone. His nickname is Rob and he

498
00:23:04,760 --> 00:23:06,000
Speaker 3: was pointing at someone.

499
00:23:06,680 --> 00:23:10,439
Speaker 1: That's all that happened. It's true, He's just misunderstood. She

500
00:23:10,640 --> 00:23:13,040
Speaker 1: said she'd ask him about it, but I think she

501
00:23:13,240 --> 00:23:15,720
Speaker 1: just said that to get me to stop. The next day,

502
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:17,639
Speaker 1: she said that it wasn't him that did all that,

503
00:23:17,800 --> 00:23:20,000
Speaker 1: and that she had done things in her past she

504
00:23:20,040 --> 00:23:22,520
Speaker 1: wouldn't want brought up. I explained to her the difference

505
00:23:22,600 --> 00:23:24,880
Speaker 1: of an eighteen year old popping too many pills and

506
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:27,640
Speaker 1: being a participant in a family crime ring. I genuinely

507
00:23:27,760 --> 00:23:29,360
Speaker 1: argued with her till I was blue in the face

508
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:31,320
Speaker 1: about it, and she wasn't hearing any of it. I

509
00:23:31,359 --> 00:23:34,160
Speaker 1: showed her more articles on his family, how they were

510
00:23:34,160 --> 00:23:37,840
Speaker 1: in the news for having wars with one another. Whoa

511
00:23:38,080 --> 00:23:40,679
Speaker 1: is this guy in the mafia? I don't know. The

512
00:23:40,720 --> 00:23:43,360
Speaker 1: list went on and on, and the amount of research

513
00:23:43,560 --> 00:23:46,600
Speaker 1: I put into this man and his family terrified me,

514
00:23:46,720 --> 00:23:49,320
Speaker 1: not only for Bee's sake, but all of us. I

515
00:23:49,359 --> 00:23:51,600
Speaker 1: told Bee I was worried and concerned, but that I

516
00:23:51,680 --> 00:23:54,119
Speaker 1: hadn't told anyone yet. I know it sounds threatening, but

517
00:23:54,160 --> 00:23:56,320
Speaker 1: I was desperate, She said she wasn't going to see

518
00:23:56,400 --> 00:23:59,320
Speaker 1: him anymore and that I was right. Obviously, I was

519
00:23:59,359 --> 00:24:02,159
Speaker 1: suspicious of this as she flipped a switch and was

520
00:24:02,280 --> 00:24:04,199
Speaker 1: just done with him. Piper then told me that she

521
00:24:04,240 --> 00:24:07,600
Speaker 1: saw Bee not only coming out of a bar but wasted,

522
00:24:07,680 --> 00:24:10,879
Speaker 1: but with Stuart and climbing into my car my father

523
00:24:10,920 --> 00:24:13,679
Speaker 1: had loaned her and driving away. She is not the

524
00:24:13,720 --> 00:24:17,400
Speaker 1: best driver when sober, and I spoke to Piper about

525
00:24:17,400 --> 00:24:19,879
Speaker 1: my concerns and suspicions. So it got to that point

526
00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,600
Speaker 1: Piper and I raised our concerns to my parents and

527
00:24:22,680 --> 00:24:25,679
Speaker 1: that not only was this guy a walking red flag,

528
00:24:25,920 --> 00:24:28,560
Speaker 1: but he and b were skipping down a bad path.

529
00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:31,280
Speaker 1: My father, at the start told us that we had

530
00:24:31,320 --> 00:24:33,800
Speaker 1: to be happy. She was happy. One of my main

531
00:24:33,840 --> 00:24:36,679
Speaker 1: issues with everything is that I highlighted how dangerous this

532
00:24:36,760 --> 00:24:39,800
Speaker 1: man was four B and for all of us to

533
00:24:39,840 --> 00:24:41,880
Speaker 1: be around, and how we could all end up being

534
00:24:41,880 --> 00:24:44,600
Speaker 1: collateral damage in an old Western shootout. But my father

535
00:24:44,680 --> 00:24:46,679
Speaker 1: brushed it off, saying how he had done things in

536
00:24:46,720 --> 00:24:48,840
Speaker 1: his past that he wasn't proud of and not to

537
00:24:48,880 --> 00:24:51,560
Speaker 1: worry about it, and nothing will happen. No wonder, She's

538
00:24:51,560 --> 00:24:54,320
Speaker 1: got a substance use disorder. What is dad doing?

539
00:24:54,520 --> 00:24:57,240
Speaker 3: Dad does nothing. He's just like, if I don't look

540
00:24:57,280 --> 00:25:00,919
Speaker 3: at it exists. She's happy.

541
00:25:01,280 --> 00:25:03,840
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's what is that? How she got into pills.

542
00:25:04,440 --> 00:25:06,439
Speaker 3: She's so happy the pills.

543
00:25:06,520 --> 00:25:08,359
Speaker 1: The school reaches out and me like, I think your

544
00:25:08,480 --> 00:25:10,639
Speaker 1: daughter has a substanitute problem. It's like, yeah, but it

545
00:25:10,680 --> 00:25:11,760
Speaker 1: makes you so happy.

546
00:25:11,840 --> 00:25:13,120
Speaker 3: She just loves doing it.

547
00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:14,080
Speaker 1: It makes you sad.

548
00:25:15,080 --> 00:25:17,040
Speaker 2: It's good, she's doing fine.

549
00:25:17,080 --> 00:25:20,879
Speaker 1: She's doing fine. Don't worry about it so much. It's collige.

550
00:25:21,119 --> 00:25:24,720
Speaker 1: Come one anyway, that kind of stinks. So he was

551
00:25:24,840 --> 00:25:27,919
Speaker 1: very nonchalant until we highlighted that we thought she was

552
00:25:27,960 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 1: doing substances again due to her behavior. I genuinely think

553
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:35,560
Speaker 1: she was on something. And then the floodgates were open.

554
00:25:35,800 --> 00:25:39,120
Speaker 1: My father told her she was fired, she couldn't drive

555
00:25:39,160 --> 00:25:41,040
Speaker 1: his car anymore and had to move out of our

556
00:25:41,080 --> 00:25:43,440
Speaker 1: building unless she ended things with Stuart because Piper and

557
00:25:43,480 --> 00:25:46,000
Speaker 1: I felt unsafe around him. Thanks Dad for that. So

558
00:25:46,520 --> 00:25:49,560
Speaker 1: b did just that she broke up with him.

559
00:25:49,960 --> 00:25:51,200
Speaker 3: I think you're lying.

560
00:25:51,359 --> 00:25:55,080
Speaker 1: Yeah, so obviously she didn't break up with Stuart. And

561
00:25:55,359 --> 00:25:57,919
Speaker 1: being the bottom of the building, be snuck Stewart in

562
00:25:57,960 --> 00:26:00,440
Speaker 1: every day twice a day. It was actually he mildly

563
00:26:00,520 --> 00:26:03,000
Speaker 1: hilarious seeing this grown man army crawl through the bushes

564
00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:04,960
Speaker 1: to get to the back door. So at this point

565
00:26:05,000 --> 00:26:07,439
Speaker 1: I was done speaking to Be. She was lying all

566
00:26:07,480 --> 00:26:09,280
Speaker 1: the time and wasn't even good at it. It was

567
00:26:09,280 --> 00:26:11,640
Speaker 1: more insulting at this point, but I think she thought

568
00:26:11,680 --> 00:26:14,200
Speaker 1: she was convincing and getting away with it. I wasn't

569
00:26:14,240 --> 00:26:16,960
Speaker 1: for telling my father and having another We have to

570
00:26:17,000 --> 00:26:19,159
Speaker 1: make sure Bee is okay. We have to team up

571
00:26:19,160 --> 00:26:22,200
Speaker 1: together and help her through this kind of deal. Eventually,

572
00:26:22,240 --> 00:26:24,720
Speaker 1: Stuart and my father had to sit down conversation and

573
00:26:24,760 --> 00:26:28,720
Speaker 1: apparently Stuart is a convincing man, as my father, if anything,

574
00:26:29,040 --> 00:26:31,720
Speaker 1: brought Stuart more into the family, giving him a job

575
00:26:31,760 --> 00:26:33,680
Speaker 1: to take care of the heavy equipment in the work.

576
00:26:33,800 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 1: Oh lord, so I had to work with him and be.

577
00:26:37,119 --> 00:26:40,040
Speaker 1: But you know, Piper and I said how uncomfortable it

578
00:26:40,119 --> 00:26:42,920
Speaker 1: made us and how our living situation was uncomfortable too,

579
00:26:43,119 --> 00:26:46,080
Speaker 1: which was met with that it was our choice to

580
00:26:46,119 --> 00:26:49,080
Speaker 1: live like that, which it was. But man, I didn't

581
00:26:49,080 --> 00:26:51,920
Speaker 1: realize b was going to make a lying crime lord

582
00:26:51,960 --> 00:26:54,679
Speaker 1: her new main squeeze is he is he really a

583
00:26:54,760 --> 00:26:56,720
Speaker 1: crime lord? Though I don't know.

584
00:26:56,800 --> 00:26:58,600
Speaker 3: I don't know what this guy's deal is, you know

585
00:26:59,400 --> 00:27:02,040
Speaker 3: the grap She doesn't sound too good, though.

586
00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:05,520
Speaker 1: People can change, that's true. Eventually, my father saw that

587
00:27:05,560 --> 00:27:07,840
Speaker 1: the living situation wasn't going to work, as Piper and

588
00:27:07,880 --> 00:27:10,240
Speaker 1: I started looking at new places to move to. So

589
00:27:10,320 --> 00:27:13,000
Speaker 1: my father, being a control freak, demanded we stay and

590
00:27:13,119 --> 00:27:15,040
Speaker 1: offered to pay for Bee and her new boo to

591
00:27:15,080 --> 00:27:17,359
Speaker 1: move into a house away from all of us. Why

592
00:27:18,119 --> 00:27:22,160
Speaker 1: why why are we rewarding Bee's bad behavior? Why are

593
00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:25,200
Speaker 1: we doing this? B then announced she wasn't going to

594
00:27:25,240 --> 00:27:27,840
Speaker 1: see him anymore again and that she agreed he was

595
00:27:27,880 --> 00:27:29,000
Speaker 1: no good and a danger.

596
00:27:29,080 --> 00:27:31,520
Speaker 3: Okay, well you've said that three times now, so I

597
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:32,639
Speaker 3: don't really believe it.

598
00:27:33,119 --> 00:27:33,480
Speaker 1: Mm hmm.

599
00:27:33,760 --> 00:27:36,600
Speaker 3: She's like, Okay, this time for sure, I'm breaking up

600
00:27:36,600 --> 00:27:40,600
Speaker 3: with them. The other times I was lying, but this time, no, sir.

601
00:27:41,600 --> 00:27:45,280
Speaker 1: This seemed to appease my father. Stuart was still there

602
00:27:45,520 --> 00:27:48,320
Speaker 1: like nothing had happened. I told Bee, I know she

603
00:27:48,440 --> 00:27:50,639
Speaker 1: was still seeing him, but she told me that it

604
00:27:50,680 --> 00:27:52,879
Speaker 1: was a onea off and to butt out. So my

605
00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:56,520
Speaker 1: father and mother confronted Be again, and at this point

606
00:27:56,560 --> 00:27:58,560
Speaker 1: I tried to take as little to do with it

607
00:27:58,600 --> 00:28:01,480
Speaker 1: as possible, which you all might think is cowardly, but

608
00:28:01,560 --> 00:28:04,160
Speaker 1: I was emotionally drained at this point. It's not really cowardly.

609
00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:06,240
Speaker 1: It's like, dude, why do I have to keep dealing

610
00:28:06,240 --> 00:28:07,240
Speaker 1: with her bs?

611
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:09,880
Speaker 3: I do think I would be trying to move out

612
00:28:09,920 --> 00:28:12,560
Speaker 3: at this point, regardless of what your dad says. I

613
00:28:12,600 --> 00:28:14,800
Speaker 3: would be like, Dad, I need to pick myself up

614
00:28:14,800 --> 00:28:18,639
Speaker 3: by the bootstraps, like you're always saying, and not live here.

615
00:28:19,000 --> 00:28:20,840
Speaker 1: Screw that. I'd be like, Dad, pay for me to

616
00:28:20,880 --> 00:28:22,560
Speaker 1: live somewhere else. Why would you pay for her to

617
00:28:22,600 --> 00:28:24,800
Speaker 1: live somewhere? Pay for me?

618
00:28:25,280 --> 00:28:27,320
Speaker 3: I just couldn't be connected with these people anymore.

619
00:28:27,560 --> 00:28:30,560
Speaker 1: So everything went quiet and I didn't ask. I didn't

620
00:28:30,600 --> 00:28:33,560
Speaker 1: need to know. Bee was still living downstairs, but wasn't

621
00:28:33,640 --> 00:28:36,920
Speaker 1: at work anymore, which was a mild wind. It comes

622
00:28:37,000 --> 00:28:39,600
Speaker 1: up to Christmas. Me and Piper and our partners were

623
00:28:39,600 --> 00:28:42,560
Speaker 1: invited to Christmas dinner at my parents' house, and I

624
00:28:42,680 --> 00:28:45,160
Speaker 1: was under the impression B would probably be there, so

625
00:28:45,280 --> 00:28:48,760
Speaker 1: I prepared for some awkwardness. But wow, any guesses, can

626
00:28:48,800 --> 00:28:53,480
Speaker 1: you guess who else was there? Would it have been Stuart.

627
00:28:51,680 --> 00:28:54,560
Speaker 2: Secret, Santa Claus? Is there?

628
00:28:54,920 --> 00:29:00,080
Speaker 1: Stewart Claus, Stuart Claw, Stewart Claw stew Claus Stuart Little So.

629
00:29:00,160 --> 00:29:00,840
Speaker 3: Little was there.

630
00:29:01,120 --> 00:29:03,480
Speaker 1: I don't know what happened, but he was there and

631
00:29:03,640 --> 00:29:07,120
Speaker 1: welcomed into the family my parents only again. We had

632
00:29:07,160 --> 00:29:09,960
Speaker 1: dinner like nothing had happened, though my partner was giving

633
00:29:10,000 --> 00:29:13,719
Speaker 1: me eyes like want the going here the whole evening,

634
00:29:13,960 --> 00:29:16,280
Speaker 1: and Piper was staring at me like she was trying

635
00:29:16,280 --> 00:29:18,479
Speaker 1: to muster the strength to not say anything and can

636
00:29:18,560 --> 00:29:21,920
Speaker 1: only do so by glaring at me. Then came exchanging

637
00:29:21,920 --> 00:29:25,200
Speaker 1: presence and pretending the past year was fine. I had

638
00:29:25,240 --> 00:29:28,320
Speaker 1: gotten a backup gift in case b was there, but

639
00:29:28,520 --> 00:29:31,080
Speaker 1: oblivious to the slightest chance of Stuart being there, so

640
00:29:31,120 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 1: I had gotten him nothing. It was an awkward, silence

641
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:36,920
Speaker 1: riddled night. So because of that, and also Piper and

642
00:29:36,960 --> 00:29:40,360
Speaker 1: I making Bee feel uncomfortable and unwanted at Christmas, I know,

643
00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:43,400
Speaker 1: poor Bee. And the months leading to my father's birthday

644
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:45,920
Speaker 1: in March just a measuring stick you'll see in a minute.

645
00:29:45,960 --> 00:29:48,360
Speaker 1: My father began getting angry at Piper and I for

646
00:29:48,440 --> 00:29:51,840
Speaker 1: still holding a grudge also known as boundaries, and started

647
00:29:51,840 --> 00:29:54,640
Speaker 1: giving me the cold shoulder at work too, with minimum

648
00:29:54,680 --> 00:29:58,040
Speaker 1: conversation except for one worded work related emails. This became

649
00:29:58,200 --> 00:30:01,800
Speaker 1: very obvious to the extent, and people from different teams

650
00:30:01,800 --> 00:30:04,200
Speaker 1: and departments were asking me if I was okay and

651
00:30:04,280 --> 00:30:07,400
Speaker 1: if they could do anything. They too had experienced Stewart

652
00:30:07,560 --> 00:30:10,320
Speaker 1: and knew that my father can and did force uncomfortable

653
00:30:10,360 --> 00:30:13,880
Speaker 1: situations on them too. People at work have problems with Stu.

654
00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:15,680
Speaker 3: Yees, I mean they work together.

655
00:30:16,160 --> 00:30:17,800
Speaker 2: Let's just what Stuart got.

656
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:21,200
Speaker 1: I don't know. Stewart's got a good work ethic and

657
00:30:21,240 --> 00:30:25,360
Speaker 1: a heavy machinery operating license, so he's forklifts certified. Folks,

658
00:30:25,640 --> 00:30:29,720
Speaker 1: you want to override your dastardly days, become a forklift

659
00:30:29,760 --> 00:30:32,360
Speaker 1: certified individual that will solve all.

660
00:30:32,280 --> 00:30:34,160
Speaker 3: Of your problems, apparently for Stewart.

661
00:30:34,400 --> 00:30:37,760
Speaker 1: Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite good time boy host. Here.

662
00:30:38,000 --> 00:30:39,920
Speaker 1: We're going to get back to the stories, but here's

663
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664
00:30:44,240 --> 00:30:47,320
Speaker 1: I too can be stubborn af and in no way

665
00:30:47,360 --> 00:30:49,920
Speaker 1: would he make me do or be friendly to anyone

666
00:30:50,000 --> 00:30:53,520
Speaker 1: I didn't want to. Through therapy and counseling, I figured

667
00:30:53,520 --> 00:30:56,400
Speaker 1: out later that my family dynamic was very choot. The

668
00:30:56,400 --> 00:30:59,320
Speaker 1: Messengery and me and Piper not being our normal loving

669
00:30:59,360 --> 00:31:02,680
Speaker 1: sisterhood was a reminder to my father that his family

670
00:31:03,080 --> 00:31:06,720
Speaker 1: wasn't so perfect and was actually alive, so he was

671
00:31:06,760 --> 00:31:09,280
Speaker 1: taking it out on me and Piper. Though Piper transferred

672
00:31:09,320 --> 00:31:12,040
Speaker 1: to another branch away from my dad. Smart girl, I

673
00:31:12,160 --> 00:31:16,640
Speaker 1: again was too stubborn. So fast forward to around March twelfth.

674
00:31:16,720 --> 00:31:18,920
Speaker 1: I had pre ordered a gift for my father's birthday

675
00:31:19,040 --> 00:31:22,280
Speaker 1: before he was a steaming pile of duquie and thought,

676
00:31:22,320 --> 00:31:23,800
Speaker 1: ef it, I might as well give it to him,

677
00:31:23,840 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 1: though he was avoiding me, giving me the silent treatment.

678
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:28,240
Speaker 1: The day of his birthday, I put his gift on

679
00:31:28,280 --> 00:31:31,760
Speaker 1: his office chair and messaged him Happy birthday, and then

680
00:31:31,800 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 1: he said, thank you if you mean it. I will

681
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:37,080
Speaker 1: be happy when my family stops reminding everyone of the past,

682
00:31:37,240 --> 00:31:40,480
Speaker 1: stop asking for apologies, move on together and like and

683
00:31:40,560 --> 00:31:42,280
Speaker 1: love each other, then I will be happy.

684
00:31:42,520 --> 00:31:46,240
Speaker 3: That's crazy, hope he takes happy birthday, thanks if you

685
00:31:46,400 --> 00:31:48,800
Speaker 3: mean it, if you can shut up about the past,

686
00:31:49,040 --> 00:31:51,200
Speaker 3: He's like, I just said out a birthday, that's all

687
00:31:51,240 --> 00:31:51,640
Speaker 3: I said.

688
00:31:51,840 --> 00:31:54,400
Speaker 1: Yeah, I said, I do mean it, and I've never

689
00:31:54,480 --> 00:31:57,600
Speaker 1: asked for an apology. I don't even want an apology. Father.

690
00:31:57,800 --> 00:31:59,680
Speaker 1: You might not ask, but you won't let go in

691
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:02,880
Speaker 1: for a give uh me. I'm sorry you feel that way,

692
00:32:02,920 --> 00:32:04,680
Speaker 1: but it's not the case. It seems you have an

693
00:32:04,680 --> 00:32:07,160
Speaker 1: issue with me and won't let go and forgive. But anyway,

694
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:09,440
Speaker 1: I honestly hope you have a happy birthday. I have

695
00:32:09,520 --> 00:32:12,480
Speaker 1: an issue with all of my family. We did wrong

696
00:32:12,560 --> 00:32:15,120
Speaker 1: when we threw be out. We and I mean the

697
00:32:15,160 --> 00:32:17,680
Speaker 1: six of us, Mom and I have apologized to her

698
00:32:17,680 --> 00:32:19,880
Speaker 1: on many occasions, but the four of you can't move

699
00:32:19,920 --> 00:32:23,880
Speaker 1: on and cuddle her, cuddle her shoe love. She is

700
00:32:23,960 --> 00:32:26,480
Speaker 1: damaged from that day and no one wants to bring

701
00:32:26,520 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 1: her back in. Forget the lies, forget the bad behavior,

702
00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:33,200
Speaker 1: draw a line love her. What dude, you're the reason

703
00:32:33,240 --> 00:32:36,600
Speaker 1: why she's like this. You're literally like, well, we have

704
00:32:36,680 --> 00:32:39,120
Speaker 1: to make everything that she's ever done okay, and she

705
00:32:39,120 --> 00:32:42,720
Speaker 1: can't have any consequences or repercussions, so she never learns

706
00:32:42,720 --> 00:32:44,600
Speaker 1: her lesson. That's what we have to do.

707
00:32:44,720 --> 00:32:47,360
Speaker 3: For me, None of this makes sense. You're a bad dad,

708
00:32:47,480 --> 00:32:50,240
Speaker 3: and Ope, I genuinely think you have to distance yourself

709
00:32:50,240 --> 00:32:52,000
Speaker 3: from this bad Yeah who is off for Piper?

710
00:32:52,080 --> 00:32:53,000
Speaker 1: But he's the dad?

711
00:32:53,080 --> 00:32:54,959
Speaker 2: Yeah, no, no, no, who is he to draw the line

712
00:32:55,520 --> 00:32:57,600
Speaker 2: like you say? For you to draw the line when

713
00:32:57,880 --> 00:33:02,200
Speaker 2: he's never drawn a line ever. He's he's drew.

714
00:33:02,200 --> 00:33:06,080
Speaker 1: Opposite of what you're talking about exactly. He's talking about

715
00:33:06,080 --> 00:33:08,200
Speaker 1: erasing the line and just being like, you can do

716
00:33:08,280 --> 00:33:12,160
Speaker 1: whatever you want. You step all the lines, draw that line,

717
00:33:12,360 --> 00:33:15,800
Speaker 1: we will forget over it. Any bad behavior you've ever

718
00:33:15,840 --> 00:33:18,040
Speaker 1: done in your life, we will forgive you. Don't even

719
00:33:18,080 --> 00:33:19,000
Speaker 1: have to be sorry for it.

720
00:33:19,120 --> 00:33:21,320
Speaker 3: Pick it up and limbo underneath it.

721
00:33:21,600 --> 00:33:25,479
Speaker 1: Yeah, Op continues, Well, I didn't reply, like what the

722
00:33:25,720 --> 00:33:27,640
Speaker 1: FM I meant to say to that. He does have

723
00:33:27,680 --> 00:33:30,640
Speaker 1: a tendency to send scrollers and we all find it

724
00:33:30,720 --> 00:33:32,640
Speaker 1: easier to just leave it alone and he would go

725
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:35,880
Speaker 1: back to normal in time. I know that's super healthy communication, right,

726
00:33:36,120 --> 00:33:38,600
Speaker 1: But him deciding to take his car back and fire

727
00:33:38,600 --> 00:33:41,120
Speaker 1: her and throw me out. Now he regrets it and

728
00:33:41,320 --> 00:33:44,040
Speaker 1: it's using a we and us thing, but that was

729
00:33:44,080 --> 00:33:46,680
Speaker 1: his decision. So anyway, back to the story. A bit

730
00:33:46,680 --> 00:33:48,560
Speaker 1: of info on my job. I manage a team of

731
00:33:48,560 --> 00:33:51,760
Speaker 1: five construction leaders. But the bookkeepers get me to take

732
00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:54,160
Speaker 1: their petty cash home with me and bring it back

733
00:33:54,160 --> 00:33:56,840
Speaker 1: to them in the morning so that it's not their responsibility,

734
00:33:56,840 --> 00:33:59,800
Speaker 1: which is reasonable. My father isn't always in the office

735
00:33:59,800 --> 00:34:01,560
Speaker 1: and I'm the only one that will be there every

736
00:34:01,640 --> 00:34:04,600
Speaker 1: day and can be trusted and doesn't mind the responsibility.

737
00:34:04,760 --> 00:34:06,760
Speaker 1: So I go to leave and go home still the

738
00:34:06,760 --> 00:34:09,120
Speaker 1: twelfth of March and put my bag into my car

739
00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:12,440
Speaker 1: and find Stuart calling out my name. He says he

740
00:34:12,440 --> 00:34:15,080
Speaker 1: wants to show me something because my father was okay

741
00:34:15,120 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 1: with him and be now. Stuart was doing some part

742
00:34:17,200 --> 00:34:19,640
Speaker 1: time work for my father, so he shows me some

743
00:34:19,719 --> 00:34:24,280
Speaker 1: of the heavy equipment that needed some replacement parts. I'm like, cool, noted, thanks.

744
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:27,440
Speaker 1: I wasn't being rude to him or anything, just cordial.

745
00:34:27,680 --> 00:34:29,840
Speaker 1: I get back to my car. My bag is open.

746
00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:32,640
Speaker 1: I hadn't locked my car. Half the money from the

747
00:34:32,640 --> 00:34:34,040
Speaker 1: petty cash was gone.

748
00:34:34,160 --> 00:34:39,480
Speaker 3: Ooopye, No, we got locked car when, especially when we

749
00:34:39,520 --> 00:34:40,200
Speaker 3: got money in there.

750
00:34:40,440 --> 00:34:42,359
Speaker 1: I know who took all that.

751
00:34:42,760 --> 00:34:45,560
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's not very hard to figure that out.

752
00:34:45,960 --> 00:34:47,640
Speaker 1: It seems like it was your sister.

753
00:34:48,239 --> 00:34:52,399
Speaker 3: Yeah, Stuart was distracting you. Well, your sister stole your door.

754
00:34:52,920 --> 00:34:56,120
Speaker 1: Was running a classic con YEP. I don't know what

755
00:34:56,160 --> 00:34:57,920
Speaker 1: the name is, but it would probably sound like the

756
00:34:57,960 --> 00:35:00,160
Speaker 1: Saskatoon doo Hickey or something like that.

757
00:35:00,600 --> 00:35:03,120
Speaker 3: The distract detect or something yet like that.

758
00:35:03,600 --> 00:35:05,880
Speaker 1: It could also sound like that. To be fair, mhm,

759
00:35:06,120 --> 00:35:09,840
Speaker 1: it's multiple names. I break down in tears in my car.

760
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:13,920
Speaker 1: Around about then was when I realized how much all

761
00:35:13,960 --> 00:35:15,759
Speaker 1: of this was taking a toll on me. I had

762
00:35:15,760 --> 00:35:18,840
Speaker 1: my suspicions it was Stuart that had stolen from me,

763
00:35:18,920 --> 00:35:21,320
Speaker 1: But how would I even broach that topic with my father?

764
00:35:21,480 --> 00:35:24,160
Speaker 1: He already thought I had it out for Bee and Stuart.

765
00:35:24,320 --> 00:35:26,160
Speaker 1: At this point, I'm planning on taking out money from

766
00:35:26,200 --> 00:35:28,960
Speaker 1: an ATM and being done with it. When Beverly, our receptionist,

767
00:35:29,040 --> 00:35:32,080
Speaker 1: and Lewis, her manager, came out and say they saw

768
00:35:32,320 --> 00:35:35,680
Speaker 1: Bee stealing money out of my bag. I have witnesses.

769
00:35:36,280 --> 00:35:37,080
Speaker 3: Nice.

770
00:35:37,320 --> 00:35:40,400
Speaker 1: They were understandably sheepish to intervene since it was family

771
00:35:40,440 --> 00:35:42,600
Speaker 1: stealing from family, but they thought I should know. I

772
00:35:42,640 --> 00:35:45,120
Speaker 1: am ugly crying about now in front of people I

773
00:35:45,160 --> 00:35:48,400
Speaker 1: barely know, but I have witnesses now. But even having witnesses,

774
00:35:48,480 --> 00:35:50,800
Speaker 1: I wasn't confident my father would hear it from me.

775
00:35:51,120 --> 00:35:54,520
Speaker 1: And I couldn't get those two angelic witnesses to go

776
00:35:54,600 --> 00:35:56,560
Speaker 1: to the boss and tell him his middle daughter is

777
00:35:56,600 --> 00:35:59,160
Speaker 1: a thieving little witch. So I called my mom like

778
00:35:59,200 --> 00:36:02,360
Speaker 1: a child, still ugly crying, and get her so she

779
00:36:02,480 --> 00:36:04,600
Speaker 1: can tell him. She too had been giving me the

780
00:36:04,640 --> 00:36:07,560
Speaker 1: silent treatment throughout all of this, though I feel like

781
00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:10,120
Speaker 1: it was more of an I'm not getting involved type

782
00:36:10,160 --> 00:36:10,719
Speaker 1: of silence.

783
00:36:10,920 --> 00:36:13,719
Speaker 3: That is involvement, though, that's direct involvement.

784
00:36:13,840 --> 00:36:19,120
Speaker 1: Yeah, lack of involvement is a choice to not be involved. Yeah,

785
00:36:19,200 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 1: so you're involved in a way involved. You're involved, picking

786
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:24,480
Speaker 1: aside because you're not talking to your daughter with your

787
00:36:24,560 --> 00:36:27,560
Speaker 1: non involvement, you are involved. I offer her to talk

788
00:36:27,600 --> 00:36:29,919
Speaker 1: to the witnesses if she didn't believe me, but she did,

789
00:36:30,080 --> 00:36:33,120
Speaker 1: and she spoke to my father on my behalf. So apparently,

790
00:36:33,200 --> 00:36:35,600
Speaker 1: stealing money from your family company you no longer work

791
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:38,000
Speaker 1: for it on your father's birthday in front of employees

792
00:36:38,160 --> 00:36:40,239
Speaker 1: isn't a good look. My father came into the work

793
00:36:40,320 --> 00:36:43,360
Speaker 1: the following day found not only me the sole standing

794
00:36:43,520 --> 00:36:46,640
Speaker 1: working daughter in that branch, but also found the present

795
00:36:46,680 --> 00:36:48,959
Speaker 1: that I had left for him yesterday. At this point,

796
00:36:49,040 --> 00:36:51,560
Speaker 1: I'm so happy I got that gift for him and

797
00:36:51,640 --> 00:36:54,360
Speaker 1: left it for him. It's just like, ooh, that daughter

798
00:36:54,400 --> 00:36:56,359
Speaker 1: you tried to beerate into being friends with your other

799
00:36:56,480 --> 00:36:58,440
Speaker 1: thieving daughter. I got you a gift, would it be

800
00:36:58,520 --> 00:37:00,680
Speaker 1: gets you a couple hundred pounds worth of debt to

801
00:37:00,680 --> 00:37:03,839
Speaker 1: the account's department. How f and crappy is that, Yeah,

802
00:37:03,840 --> 00:37:06,840
Speaker 1: it's pretty bad, But yeah, I think your father's really empathetic.

803
00:37:06,480 --> 00:37:07,920
Speaker 3: To her, overly empathetic.

804
00:37:08,160 --> 00:37:10,040
Speaker 1: It's just because it's because he went through the same

805
00:37:10,120 --> 00:37:12,200
Speaker 1: kind of struggle. But he also just doesn't understand that

806
00:37:12,239 --> 00:37:14,320
Speaker 1: the way that he did it wasn't doing it alone,

807
00:37:14,360 --> 00:37:16,600
Speaker 1: and that B probably needs to go to some kind

808
00:37:16,640 --> 00:37:17,360
Speaker 1: of something.

809
00:37:17,480 --> 00:37:19,440
Speaker 3: But that's like the weird thing to me is that

810
00:37:19,480 --> 00:37:23,840
Speaker 3: he has this mentality of if you get yourself into trouble,

811
00:37:24,160 --> 00:37:26,840
Speaker 3: you need to go it alone and figure it out yourself.

812
00:37:26,960 --> 00:37:30,280
Speaker 3: But also that's exactly the opposite of what he's doing

813
00:37:30,680 --> 00:37:34,239
Speaker 3: with B. Even though it's not helpful. He's not saying, oh,

814
00:37:34,280 --> 00:37:36,640
Speaker 3: we should just leave her alone and she's beyon help.

815
00:37:36,680 --> 00:37:38,960
Speaker 3: He's like everyone has to help her, even when she

816
00:37:39,280 --> 00:37:41,440
Speaker 3: f's everyone over fifty million times.

817
00:37:41,719 --> 00:37:47,040
Speaker 1: It's true. It's weird, weird, weird paradox there. Okay, B

818
00:37:47,280 --> 00:37:49,960
Speaker 1: knew I take home the petty cash and that it's

819
00:37:50,040 --> 00:37:53,120
Speaker 1: my responsibility. Did she give an f about what would

820
00:37:53,160 --> 00:37:55,319
Speaker 1: happen to me when I handed that back in the

821
00:37:55,360 --> 00:37:58,880
Speaker 1: following day? She knows I would have no clue what happened.

822
00:37:59,040 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 1: She knew everyone in the office would have thought I

823
00:38:01,360 --> 00:38:03,880
Speaker 1: just took it or lost it anyway. Now, believe me

824
00:38:03,880 --> 00:38:06,000
Speaker 1: when I say this. I have only seen my dad

825
00:38:06,040 --> 00:38:09,279
Speaker 1: cry once at his father's funeral. But he cried, And

826
00:38:09,320 --> 00:38:11,120
Speaker 1: as much as I want to say I told him

827
00:38:11,120 --> 00:38:13,880
Speaker 1: to go f himself for being such a ginormous d bag,

828
00:38:13,960 --> 00:38:16,560
Speaker 1: I didn't. I hugged him, though I'm still building a

829
00:38:16,560 --> 00:38:19,200
Speaker 1: friendship with my father to this day because he said

830
00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:21,719
Speaker 1: things within those six months that he can't take back.

831
00:38:21,880 --> 00:38:24,280
Speaker 1: So b had truly after chances of my father forcing

832
00:38:24,280 --> 00:38:26,360
Speaker 1: her back into the family circle, but she went on

833
00:38:26,480 --> 00:38:28,839
Speaker 1: to demand money from my father, which he didn't tell

834
00:38:28,880 --> 00:38:31,239
Speaker 1: me or Piper about. And it went on till my

835
00:38:31,320 --> 00:38:34,320
Speaker 1: father had a heart attack that he survived and recovered from.

836
00:38:34,360 --> 00:38:37,239
Speaker 1: Though it was down to stress and though we all

837
00:38:37,320 --> 00:38:40,280
Speaker 1: think and no, the stress comes in a B size

838
00:38:40,280 --> 00:38:47,200
Speaker 1: and shape in reality, a B sized stress when it

839
00:38:47,280 --> 00:38:47,759
Speaker 1: stings you.

840
00:38:48,120 --> 00:38:50,239
Speaker 3: Oh, I have a very funny story about it.

841
00:38:50,239 --> 00:38:52,439
Speaker 1: Bee, Yeah, I'll tell it. I'll tell us Mark, I'll

842
00:38:52,440 --> 00:38:55,839
Speaker 1: tell it after. In reality, he made that monster after

843
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:58,400
Speaker 1: years and years and years of catching her before she

844
00:38:58,520 --> 00:39:01,399
Speaker 1: hit rock bottom and cleaning up the messes. So as

845
00:39:01,480 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 1: much as we occasionally joke about Bee being the cause

846
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:06,800
Speaker 1: of that, it all stems from my father's life choices.

847
00:39:07,000 --> 00:39:09,640
Speaker 1: Do it, do it now and you can listen until

848
00:39:09,680 --> 00:39:14,280
Speaker 1: the bees buzz, the final buzz, the buzz the funnel biz.

849
00:39:14,600 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 1: Yes what and there is just a little bit they

850
00:39:17,360 --> 00:39:19,360
Speaker 1: got b business. Okay, let's hit it.

851
00:39:19,520 --> 00:39:22,440
Speaker 3: I think I think the same thing. We already know

852
00:39:22,600 --> 00:39:25,120
Speaker 3: your father kind of sucks, and now he's realizing that

853
00:39:25,200 --> 00:39:28,719
Speaker 3: Bee does too, And uh, that's great. But also I

854
00:39:28,760 --> 00:39:31,520
Speaker 3: think you've got to limit contact for just a little.

855
00:39:31,560 --> 00:39:33,239
Speaker 3: You don't have to go full no contact, but like

856
00:39:33,360 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 3: I think limiting would put you know, your mind at

857
00:39:36,160 --> 00:39:38,520
Speaker 3: peace a little bit. Yeah, because this drama is.

858
00:39:38,520 --> 00:39:42,480
Speaker 2: Too much, too much for everyone. Yeah, too much drama.

859
00:39:42,360 --> 00:39:45,560
Speaker 1: Make me bump. So this was all about a year ago,

860
00:39:45,719 --> 00:39:48,719
Speaker 1: and Be and Stuart still live downstairs. I just take

861
00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:51,120
Speaker 1: nothing to do with her. I would move, but I

862
00:39:51,200 --> 00:39:53,720
Speaker 1: love my flat, my home, and have come to whisper

863
00:39:53,840 --> 00:39:56,640
Speaker 1: to myself, not to my circus, not my monkeys, enough

864
00:39:56,680 --> 00:39:59,960
Speaker 1: that I'm happy for Bee to turn into an estrange neighbor.

865
00:40:00,560 --> 00:40:02,560
Speaker 1: I am truly done with her, And though it does

866
00:40:02,640 --> 00:40:05,799
Speaker 1: make me sad, sometimes because we were really close, but

867
00:40:05,880 --> 00:40:07,920
Speaker 1: now we're not. We're not anything. I guess we all

868
00:40:07,920 --> 00:40:10,400
Speaker 1: grow up eventually, even if it's just me doing the growing.

869
00:40:10,560 --> 00:40:13,080
Speaker 1: I have cameras everywhere now, and that crap isn't happening

870
00:40:13,120 --> 00:40:16,319
Speaker 1: twice and next time I'm calling the police, and that

871
00:40:16,719 --> 00:40:17,800
Speaker 1: is the end of that story.

872
00:40:17,960 --> 00:40:19,560
Speaker 3: Sure is, Sure is.

873
00:40:19,920 --> 00:40:22,359
Speaker 1: Sometimes you just gotta call the police on your sister

874
00:40:22,400 --> 00:40:24,440
Speaker 1: because she's stealing the petty cash right out of your

875
00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:24,879
Speaker 1: work trow.

876
00:40:24,960 --> 00:40:27,080
Speaker 3: Yeah, I mean she keeps stealing from you, or at

877
00:40:27,160 --> 00:40:29,600
Speaker 3: least she's stolen from you once already. It's not a

878
00:40:29,640 --> 00:40:31,400
Speaker 3: type of person we need to keep in our lives

879
00:40:31,480 --> 00:40:34,360
Speaker 3: until she really turns her life around, which is not

880
00:40:34,680 --> 00:40:37,840
Speaker 3: gonna happen anytime soon, I think. But we got another

881
00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:39,000
Speaker 3: story coming up.

882
00:40:39,239 --> 00:40:41,439
Speaker 1: Yeah we do, Yeah we do. It's in my hand.

883
00:40:41,640 --> 00:40:45,560
Speaker 1: I'm gonna turn the air. It's right here in my hands.

884
00:40:46,239 --> 00:40:49,240
Speaker 1: You're gonna turn the air off because she's a little,

885
00:40:49,840 --> 00:40:53,200
Speaker 1: tiny creature. You are such a small creature that the

886
00:40:53,400 --> 00:40:59,120
Speaker 1: air penetrates into your bones and you become icy icy.

887
00:41:01,000 --> 00:41:03,560
Speaker 1: I forgot that song. What I'm trying to bring the

888
00:41:03,680 --> 00:41:09,840
Speaker 1: thing close to me? Oh it's back, it's muck again monkey,

889
00:41:10,960 --> 00:41:12,160
Speaker 1: little capuchin monkey.

890
00:41:13,480 --> 00:41:18,040
Speaker 2: All right, all right ready you uh three two one.

891
00:41:18,480 --> 00:41:21,719
Speaker 3: My ex dumped me while pregnant. Now he wants to

892
00:41:21,840 --> 00:41:22,400
Speaker 3: co parent.

893
00:41:22,800 --> 00:41:25,400
Speaker 1: Well, you shouldn't have dumped me, a little dumper.

894
00:41:25,760 --> 00:41:28,680
Speaker 3: And this comes directly from the r slash Okay storytime

895
00:41:28,680 --> 00:41:31,560
Speaker 3: Separate It. My ex partner and I separated at the

896
00:41:31,600 --> 00:41:33,880
Speaker 3: start of June, and our baby was born at the

897
00:41:33,920 --> 00:41:35,879
Speaker 3: end of June. We were together for a little over

898
00:41:35,960 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 3: three years and lived together for about one and a

899
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:41,360
Speaker 3: half years. We are both over thirty, me thirty five

900
00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:44,520
Speaker 3: female and he thirty two male. By the way, this

901
00:41:44,600 --> 00:41:47,360
Speaker 3: comes from Salt Scarcity sixty six nine three. And if

902
00:41:47,400 --> 00:41:48,680
Speaker 3: you want to smit your own stories, go to the

903
00:41:48,800 --> 00:41:51,640
Speaker 3: r slash okay storytime Separate It where this was submitted.

904
00:41:51,880 --> 00:41:54,959
Speaker 1: I'm Sophia, I'm Dakota, I'm Keon.

905
00:41:54,680 --> 00:41:56,360
Speaker 3: And we're here to give good advice goofley. But we

906
00:41:56,360 --> 00:41:58,360
Speaker 3: don't have all the answers. We only know what we'd do,

907
00:41:58,560 --> 00:42:00,000
Speaker 3: So let us know what you would do in the comments.

908
00:42:00,200 --> 00:42:02,520
Speaker 1: Wait, what what's your b story?

909
00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:03,480
Speaker 3: Oh?

910
00:42:03,840 --> 00:42:04,560
Speaker 2: After tell it?

911
00:42:04,600 --> 00:42:06,759
Speaker 1: After this story, I'm forget to do it. At the end,

912
00:42:06,800 --> 00:42:07,440
Speaker 1: I will forget it.

913
00:42:07,760 --> 00:42:08,800
Speaker 3: Try me to tell my bee.

914
00:42:08,640 --> 00:42:10,720
Speaker 1: Storysay I can't. I'll forget as well.

915
00:42:10,880 --> 00:42:14,960
Speaker 3: Oh, he says. My ex partner initiated the separation, telling

916
00:42:15,000 --> 00:42:17,920
Speaker 3: me in June that he doesn't love me anymore and

917
00:42:18,160 --> 00:42:20,600
Speaker 3: wanted to leave. I said that maybe we shouldn't be

918
00:42:20,680 --> 00:42:23,600
Speaker 3: together anymore then, and we separated. He said he had

919
00:42:23,600 --> 00:42:25,839
Speaker 3: been thinking about this for about one year or so

920
00:42:26,120 --> 00:42:27,920
Speaker 3: before I was pregnant.

921
00:42:28,480 --> 00:42:30,839
Speaker 1: Why are you gonna think about that for a year

922
00:42:30,360 --> 00:42:33,680
Speaker 1: and nothing, say nothing? Come on, weird, dude.

923
00:42:34,120 --> 00:42:36,799
Speaker 3: We are coworkers and met at the same workplace. My

924
00:42:36,880 --> 00:42:39,440
Speaker 3: ex partner's friend had told him earlier to share his

925
00:42:39,480 --> 00:42:43,759
Speaker 3: feelings before my pregnancy. Yeah, but he didn't listen. Then

926
00:42:43,840 --> 00:42:46,360
Speaker 3: he met a new coworker thirty four female who is

927
00:42:46,400 --> 00:42:48,239
Speaker 3: his girlfriend now. She told him at the end of

928
00:42:48,280 --> 00:42:51,560
Speaker 3: May to tell me his feelings, and he followed her advice.

929
00:42:51,960 --> 00:42:54,200
Speaker 3: He didn't cheat on me. He wanted to quit our

930
00:42:54,239 --> 00:42:57,480
Speaker 3: relationship before he did something like that. In his own words,

931
00:42:57,719 --> 00:43:00,200
Speaker 3: he and the new woman started doing things together as

932
00:43:00,320 --> 00:43:04,600
Speaker 3: friends after our separation and started officially dating in August

933
00:43:04,680 --> 00:43:07,200
Speaker 3: when they went on a trip abroad together. The girlfriend

934
00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:09,480
Speaker 3: doesn't want to be in the child's life and wants

935
00:43:09,480 --> 00:43:11,920
Speaker 3: a child free life. Then, why did you try to

936
00:43:11,960 --> 00:43:14,560
Speaker 3: stregon out with a guy who had a kid? Seems

937
00:43:14,600 --> 00:43:15,480
Speaker 3: pretty stupid of you.

938
00:43:15,840 --> 00:43:16,760
Speaker 1: Counterintuitive.

939
00:43:17,160 --> 00:43:19,360
Speaker 3: She accepted the fact that he has a child, though

940
00:43:19,480 --> 00:43:21,920
Speaker 3: he told her that we're just friends, which is true.

941
00:43:22,000 --> 00:43:25,319
Speaker 3: We are not interested in each other romantically anymore. He

942
00:43:25,400 --> 00:43:28,200
Speaker 3: came to the hospital to support the delivery and saw

943
00:43:28,200 --> 00:43:31,520
Speaker 3: his child being born. I appreciate his support, but I

944
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:34,680
Speaker 3: wanted more support when at the hospital. I felt so

945
00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:36,759
Speaker 3: bad when he left me and the baby at the

946
00:43:36,760 --> 00:43:39,960
Speaker 3: hospital and went to a restaurant with the new woman.

947
00:43:40,160 --> 00:43:42,600
Speaker 3: I cried a lot and talked with the nurses. One

948
00:43:42,640 --> 00:43:45,000
Speaker 3: of the nurses was very stressed with her work and

949
00:43:45,160 --> 00:43:47,720
Speaker 3: was very rude and mean to me. I just wanted

950
00:43:47,719 --> 00:43:50,640
Speaker 3: to get out of the hospital as soon as possible. Thankfully,

951
00:43:50,680 --> 00:43:52,480
Speaker 3: they didn't hold me there too long. We bought an

952
00:43:52,480 --> 00:43:54,840
Speaker 3: apartment together in May, and I started living in the

953
00:43:54,880 --> 00:43:57,520
Speaker 3: empty apartment with the baby. Although he came to get

954
00:43:57,600 --> 00:44:00,000
Speaker 3: us from the hospital, you and your ex started looking together.

955
00:44:00,360 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 1: I guess to co parent, that seems like that's a

956
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:04,640
Speaker 1: really hard situation.

957
00:44:04,920 --> 00:44:08,240
Speaker 3: Yeah, he lives with his friend nearby, and now after

958
00:44:08,360 --> 00:44:10,600
Speaker 3: four months, he's going to get all of his stuff

959
00:44:10,640 --> 00:44:13,239
Speaker 3: from our apartment and give the key to me. I

960
00:44:13,320 --> 00:44:15,799
Speaker 3: asked him to do this and he agreed. He used

961
00:44:15,840 --> 00:44:18,480
Speaker 3: to eat, shower, and do his laundry here too. Now

962
00:44:18,520 --> 00:44:21,040
Speaker 3: he doesn't do those things here anymore. And if he

963
00:44:21,080 --> 00:44:23,560
Speaker 3: eats here, he goes shopping and makes his own sandwiches.

964
00:44:23,719 --> 00:44:25,480
Speaker 3: I used to pay for his phone bills too, but

965
00:44:25,520 --> 00:44:27,520
Speaker 3: I said now that he needs to do that himself.

966
00:44:27,560 --> 00:44:31,600
Speaker 3: You were paying for your ex's phone bills. What you

967
00:44:31,680 --> 00:44:34,759
Speaker 3: are too nice? So pee, This is letting him walk

968
00:44:34,800 --> 00:44:35,319
Speaker 3: all over you.

969
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:36,760
Speaker 1: Is he paying you back?

970
00:44:36,960 --> 00:44:38,759
Speaker 3: I don't think so. I don't think so.

971
00:44:39,280 --> 00:44:41,279
Speaker 1: Why Why did we do that?

972
00:44:41,800 --> 00:44:44,399
Speaker 3: He was like this in our relationship also, He sat

973
00:44:44,440 --> 00:44:46,920
Speaker 3: on the computer and I did everything at home. He

974
00:44:46,960 --> 00:44:49,279
Speaker 3: didn't even do anything nice with me, like go to

975
00:44:49,320 --> 00:44:52,080
Speaker 3: a restaurant or a broad on a trip. I asked

976
00:44:52,160 --> 00:44:54,680
Speaker 3: him many times, but he didn't want to. He was

977
00:44:54,800 --> 00:44:58,120
Speaker 3: very cold emotionally too. He said that's just how he is.

978
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:01,440
Speaker 1: He just sucks. He's a stinky little guy.

979
00:45:01,760 --> 00:45:04,120
Speaker 3: He wanted to save money for the apartment, and thanks

980
00:45:04,120 --> 00:45:06,640
Speaker 3: to him, we could pay the needed amount beforehand to

981
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:09,880
Speaker 3: the bank. We own the apartment fifty to fifty. Why

982
00:45:09,880 --> 00:45:13,520
Speaker 3: did we do this? Why? Did we I understand maybe

983
00:45:13,560 --> 00:45:18,040
Speaker 3: having a shared place a while. I understand having a

984
00:45:18,200 --> 00:45:20,239
Speaker 3: shared place to co parent, but it seems like you

985
00:45:20,320 --> 00:45:23,480
Speaker 3: bought Unless I'm mistaken, seems like you got this place

986
00:45:23,920 --> 00:45:27,680
Speaker 3: after you separated, which is kind of bonkers to me.

987
00:45:28,360 --> 00:45:31,920
Speaker 3: Sure I could be wrong. I could be wrong, and

988
00:45:31,960 --> 00:45:34,680
Speaker 3: maybe they did it before. Oh yeah, maybe you got

989
00:45:34,680 --> 00:45:35,000
Speaker 3: it before.

990
00:45:35,040 --> 00:45:35,520
Speaker 1: I'm not sure.

991
00:45:35,640 --> 00:45:36,400
Speaker 3: Have you got it before?

992
00:45:36,400 --> 00:45:38,600
Speaker 1: That makes sense? Hey, it's to God, to your favorite

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00:45:38,600 --> 00:45:41,440
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996
00:45:45,520 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 3: We don't want to sell the apartment because we haven't

997
00:45:47,680 --> 00:45:50,560
Speaker 3: lived there that long, and if we would sell it now,

998
00:45:50,600 --> 00:45:53,240
Speaker 3: we wouldn't get any money back because of the taxes. Okay,

999
00:45:53,239 --> 00:45:55,200
Speaker 3: So I think I think you got it before. I

1000
00:45:55,320 --> 00:45:57,920
Speaker 3: was so stressed about everything that I couldn't breastfeed my

1001
00:45:58,040 --> 00:46:00,919
Speaker 3: baby anymore. The milk stopped coming, So now I'm using

1002
00:46:00,960 --> 00:46:03,800
Speaker 3: formula and the baby is content with that, thankfully. Now

1003
00:46:03,880 --> 00:46:06,279
Speaker 3: he has been seeing our baby several times a week

1004
00:46:06,440 --> 00:46:09,239
Speaker 3: during the day. I'm alone at nights, usually for four

1005
00:46:09,280 --> 00:46:11,760
Speaker 3: to five hours. When he comes to visit, he usually

1006
00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:14,319
Speaker 3: brings his computer and does work and school stuff in

1007
00:46:14,400 --> 00:46:17,360
Speaker 3: between taking care of the baby. He works a lot.

1008
00:46:17,560 --> 00:46:20,600
Speaker 3: He is a workaholic. He feeds the baby and plays

1009
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:23,120
Speaker 3: with the baby, but doesn't change diapers. That is a

1010
00:46:23,239 --> 00:46:25,240
Speaker 3: key aspect of taking care of a baby.

1011
00:46:25,440 --> 00:46:27,640
Speaker 1: Yeah, pooby diaper, poopy diaper man.

1012
00:46:27,800 --> 00:46:30,319
Speaker 3: And it's also not hard. I also help him with

1013
00:46:30,360 --> 00:46:33,440
Speaker 3: work and school stuff weekly, usually checking his spelling and

1014
00:46:33,480 --> 00:46:35,640
Speaker 3: helping with writing a little. He said he can help

1015
00:46:35,680 --> 00:46:37,440
Speaker 3: me next year when I go back to work and

1016
00:46:37,480 --> 00:46:40,319
Speaker 3: do remote studies at school at the same time. So

1017
00:46:40,560 --> 00:46:42,560
Speaker 3: we help each other this way and he gets to

1018
00:46:42,600 --> 00:46:44,760
Speaker 3: have time with our baby and I get some alone

1019
00:46:44,760 --> 00:46:47,520
Speaker 3: time without the baby and help with taking care of

1020
00:46:47,560 --> 00:46:50,359
Speaker 3: the baby. He plans to have his paternity leave next

1021
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:52,479
Speaker 3: year so I can go back to work at least

1022
00:46:52,480 --> 00:46:54,320
Speaker 3: part time. He is going to be with the baby

1023
00:46:54,400 --> 00:46:56,680
Speaker 3: during the days in our apartment when I'm at work.

1024
00:46:56,719 --> 00:46:59,000
Speaker 3: He can't take the baby to his friend's house because

1025
00:46:59,040 --> 00:47:02,560
Speaker 3: his friend hasn't agreed to that. He supports us monetarily.

1026
00:47:02,760 --> 00:47:05,240
Speaker 3: We have a contract for child support and the baby

1027
00:47:05,280 --> 00:47:07,680
Speaker 3: gets the same amount every month. We have talked about

1028
00:47:07,719 --> 00:47:09,799
Speaker 3: getting a better bed for the baby and plan to

1029
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:12,400
Speaker 3: pay for it together. We have shared custody of the baby,

1030
00:47:12,440 --> 00:47:15,479
Speaker 3: but we haven't signed any contract about the meeting times yet.

1031
00:47:15,600 --> 00:47:18,440
Speaker 3: He said he can't because of his work and became

1032
00:47:18,520 --> 00:47:23,400
Speaker 3: irritated when I mentioned it. I think that it seems

1033
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:26,000
Speaker 3: like you guys were still together when you had all

1034
00:47:26,000 --> 00:47:28,520
Speaker 3: of these like housing things and such like that, but

1035
00:47:29,040 --> 00:47:32,319
Speaker 3: it seems like he's still not an active participant in,

1036
00:47:32,600 --> 00:47:37,680
Speaker 3: you know, raising your child monetarily or otherwise doing the playing,

1037
00:47:38,040 --> 00:47:41,440
Speaker 3: which maybe we have to go the legal route now

1038
00:47:42,040 --> 00:47:47,640
Speaker 3: if that's an issue. Yeah, that's my suggestion, because you

1039
00:47:47,800 --> 00:47:50,400
Speaker 3: deserve to get money from him for your kid. We

1040
00:47:50,440 --> 00:47:52,839
Speaker 3: are planning to have this co parenting and helping each

1041
00:47:52,840 --> 00:47:55,920
Speaker 3: other relationship for two years and then sell the apartment

1042
00:47:56,320 --> 00:47:59,360
Speaker 3: or I'm possibly buying the apartment for myself. I can't

1043
00:47:59,360 --> 00:48:01,839
Speaker 3: afford it now. So what do you think should be

1044
00:48:01,880 --> 00:48:05,279
Speaker 3: continue this arrangement? Is it beneficial to me? Somebody said

1045
00:48:05,280 --> 00:48:07,239
Speaker 3: to me that he benefits more from this than me,

1046
00:48:07,400 --> 00:48:10,160
Speaker 3: but he stands to lose more if we quit this arrangement.

1047
00:48:10,520 --> 00:48:11,960
Speaker 3: What do you think I should do? I don't want

1048
00:48:11,960 --> 00:48:14,279
Speaker 3: to lose money or end up homeless, and I want

1049
00:48:14,280 --> 00:48:16,680
Speaker 3: our baby to grow up having a father. I'm not

1050
00:48:16,800 --> 00:48:19,920
Speaker 3: interested in any relationships at the moment, even though I

1051
00:48:19,960 --> 00:48:23,200
Speaker 3: feel lonely sometimes I want to focus on myself and

1052
00:48:23,280 --> 00:48:25,600
Speaker 3: the baby at the moment. So taking a new partner

1053
00:48:25,719 --> 00:48:27,960
Speaker 3: isn't a good option at the moment either. And that

1054
00:48:28,200 --> 00:48:30,759
Speaker 3: is the end of the story. Is it better? Like

1055
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:33,600
Speaker 3: I can't tell you if it's beneficial. Are you feeling

1056
00:48:33,680 --> 00:48:37,319
Speaker 3: like you are receiving the help financially and just like

1057
00:48:37,360 --> 00:48:40,600
Speaker 3: the physical help of raising your child or not. You

1058
00:48:40,640 --> 00:48:42,320
Speaker 3: got to answer that question for yourself.

1059
00:48:42,480 --> 00:48:45,400
Speaker 1: You have the answer to that. It's inside of you.

1060
00:48:45,800 --> 00:48:46,960
Speaker 1: It's inside of your hoky.

1061
00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:49,520
Speaker 2: Yeah, I was gonna say, like, maybe get something on paper.

1062
00:48:49,880 --> 00:48:52,680
Speaker 3: Oh yeah, I think I think absolutely go the legal route.

1063
00:48:52,760 --> 00:48:58,000
Speaker 2: Yeah, because yes, thankfully he's there to help out and

1064
00:48:58,200 --> 00:49:01,560
Speaker 2: just didn't like abandon y'all. But there can be he

1065
00:49:01,600 --> 00:49:03,640
Speaker 2: can do. He's like doing the bare minimum. I Thinkdakota

1066
00:49:03,680 --> 00:49:04,000
Speaker 2: said that.

1067
00:49:04,160 --> 00:49:06,279
Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean he's of course he didn't abandon y'all

1068
00:49:06,280 --> 00:49:09,080
Speaker 1: because it's like he gets more out of this than money, yeah,

1069
00:49:09,120 --> 00:49:09,880
Speaker 1: than he loses.

1070
00:49:09,920 --> 00:49:12,160
Speaker 3: You know, he literally does not have the money to abandon.

1071
00:49:12,400 --> 00:49:16,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, Like you're a spell checker, you you help him

1072
00:49:16,320 --> 00:49:19,120
Speaker 2: out with other things too. It's kind of crazy. H

1073
00:49:19,560 --> 00:49:21,600
Speaker 2: it's like you're kind of taking care of him while

1074
00:49:21,600 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 2: taking care of the baby.

1075
00:49:23,800 --> 00:49:26,680
Speaker 3: But that's the end of that story. And we've got

1076
00:49:26,719 --> 00:49:29,840
Speaker 3: some comments from video. Girlfriend outed me as a cheater.

1077
00:49:30,120 --> 00:49:34,040
Speaker 3: I didn't cheat. And this was posted July eighteenth, twenty

1078
00:49:34,120 --> 00:49:37,680
Speaker 3: twenty five. And this TLDR comes from story one. Op.

1079
00:49:37,719 --> 00:49:39,840
Speaker 3: He went on a great first date with Danielle, but

1080
00:49:39,960 --> 00:49:43,280
Speaker 3: she panic and posted his picture to a huge cheaters

1081
00:49:43,320 --> 00:49:47,279
Speaker 3: Facebook group to check his loyalty. His private life got exposed.

1082
00:49:47,560 --> 00:49:51,200
Speaker 3: Friends and coworkers saw it, and she initially lied about it.

1083
00:49:51,400 --> 00:49:55,560
Speaker 3: OPI realized the trust was broken before anything serious even started.

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Speaker 3: If you're curious to know the full story, you can

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Speaker 3: go watch the full video.

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Speaker 2: I think I remember this one.

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Speaker 1: I kind of remember this one, and I remember it

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Speaker 1: being like, yeah, if you're going a date with somebody,

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Speaker 1: in there immediately like.

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Speaker 3: Did this is this guy?

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Speaker 1: Cheater? Does this guy? They're just not ready to date?

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Speaker 3: Anybody's like, why would you assume that about someone? Well,

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Speaker 3: because they had because yeah, because you have experience of

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Speaker 3: that probably doesn't happen and you're not ready to go

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Speaker 3: in a day.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, we have some comments here.

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Speaker 1: I believe in the positivity. Okay, no, no, I'm fine.

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Speaker 1: I'm fine. I don't know what any of y'all are

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Speaker 1: talking about. I'm fine.

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Speaker 2: Terrifying, but we do have some comments here. First one

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Speaker 2: is from Mango Lilac saying, appearing on and are we

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Speaker 2: dating the same guy doesn't mean that someone is a cheater.

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Speaker 2: It is a way for women to help each other

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Speaker 2: and keep each other safe. Unfortunately, a friend of mine

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Speaker 2: found out that her husband was on there had dated

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Speaker 2: a ton of women in the area. Tough. Mmm. Some

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Speaker 2: woman who had dated him from dating apps had posted

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Speaker 2: his profile or profiles to check because he was being

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Speaker 2: wishy washy and something just wasn't adding up. My friend

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Speaker 2: had friends who were part of the Facebook group and

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Speaker 2: gathered the info from the women who posted and the

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Speaker 2: many who confirmed they also dated him, and shared the

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Speaker 2: info with my friend. They confirmed that it was indeed

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Speaker 2: her husband, and the women who dated him from the

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Speaker 2: apps were super nice and of course horrified he is

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Speaker 2: now her ex husband. It truly is meant to protect women,

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Speaker 2: and appearing on there doesn't mean that someone is a cheater.

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Speaker 2: It's often women trying to be safe and verify. There

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Speaker 2: are also men who will appear and women who know

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Speaker 2: or who have previously dated that person. You can't verify

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Speaker 2: they're also a good they're good people to date and

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Speaker 2: not a crazy person or a cheater.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, I think they're good in the bed.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, there's uses and there's uh. It kind of goes

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Speaker 3: overboard in this situation.

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Speaker 1: Oh, the good, the bad, and the ugly, and that's

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Speaker 1: just how life is.

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Speaker 2: And we have another comment here by ih Waffles forty

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Speaker 2: five to thirty four? Are we dating the same guy?

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Speaker 2: Can be helpful and harmful. Some people are just plain

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Speaker 2: mean about looks, et cetera. Then there are real reports

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Speaker 2: of not great people. You see guys married with kids

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Speaker 2: or have criminal records and would be a danger to children.

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Speaker 2: I've also seen a bunch of women talk great things

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Speaker 2: about a guy, so it can technically vary. The point

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Speaker 2: was to make sure the person isn't lying about being single,

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Speaker 2: et cetera. Men and women both cheat and lie. There

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Speaker 2: is also a group of we dating the same women

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Speaker 2: for guys, and from what I've seen in there, there

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Speaker 2: aren't any better than the females grew, so it goes

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Speaker 2: for both.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, I'm assuming in the like cheating forum you're gonna

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Speaker 3: find some cheaters.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, they're gonna be Yeah, they will be there to

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Speaker 1: be around.

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Speaker 2: And we have one more comment from de Shania seventy

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Speaker 2: four nineteen two weeks question Mark, what the ef you

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Speaker 2: have to use that site just break up?

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Speaker 1: Yeah? Absolutely, it's true.

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Speaker 3: But that's the end of that section and the end

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Speaker 3: of this episode. So if you love us, make sure

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