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Speaker 1: The d is back, so the band aid has been

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Speaker 1: ripped off. I have been single for a minute. When

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Speaker 1: I became single is nobody's business, but it's been a while.

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Speaker 1: I set a certain period of time for myself that

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Speaker 1: I was going to reflect, to heal, to do therapy,

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Speaker 1: to be alone, to not get into anything, to avoid intimacy,

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Speaker 1: to just take a beat, because my whole life is

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Speaker 1: someone liking me and then me reacting to that, versus

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Speaker 1: me saying I'm standing here, my own two feet that

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Speaker 1: are grounded and deciding what I want. And this is

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Speaker 1: going to be a very different dating error than I've

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Speaker 1: ever had before, because what I'm struggling with is so

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Speaker 1: many young women say I can't meet a man. I

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Speaker 1: want to meet someone, and at all ages, I mean

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Speaker 1: literally at fourteen, fifteen to twenty five to thirty five.

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Speaker 1: People want to meet someone. Women want to meet women,

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Speaker 1: men want to meet men. I'm not disregarding every type

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Speaker 1: of relationship. I'm just talking about I guess dating as

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Speaker 1: I see it in my sense. And this is different

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Speaker 1: this time because I feel like I'm a fully formed

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Speaker 1: human being. We're always growing, we're always evolving, but I'm

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Speaker 1: not trying to get anywhere. I'm not trying to become successful.

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Speaker 1: I'm not trying to get married. I'm not striving to

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Speaker 1: have kids. I'm not someone who would really like to

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Speaker 1: be a homeowner one day. All of my boxes are checked.

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Speaker 1: That's what's different. At every other period of my life,

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Speaker 1: even six years ago, because I wasn't yet done with

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Speaker 1: my divorce, I haven't had my boxes checked. I didn't

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Speaker 1: feel like I was financially sound, secure as a businesswoman.

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Speaker 2: Like I think I'm a badass at this point.

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Speaker 1: I always have been a badass, but at this point

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Speaker 1: I have street cred and the respect of people in

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Speaker 1: the financial community, venture capital, real estate, entertainment, media, podcasting,

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Speaker 1: social media, like all across the board. I have proven

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Speaker 1: myself as a businesswoman. I've proved myself as a woman.

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Speaker 1: I've proved myself to myself by the way I had

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Speaker 1: proved myself a long time ago as a businesswoman. But

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Speaker 1: I have proven myself to myself now as a mother,

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Speaker 1: as a partner, as a business partner, as a real

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Speaker 1: estate investor, as a venture capitalist, as a media mogul,

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Speaker 1: as an influencer, the accidental unexpected influencer, as a friend.

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Speaker 1: I'm good like I feel as a comedian. I feel

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Speaker 1: good and now I'm a fully formed human being. I

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Speaker 1: am not the ike addresser. I do not need to

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Speaker 1: be put together. I am coming fully formed, fully put together,

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Speaker 1: and now I'm ready to date, and I'm ready to

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Speaker 1: take you with me. I'm going for broke. So doesn't

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Speaker 1: mean I'm going to marry someone who's going to take.

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Speaker 2: Me for everything. And it doesn't mean I'm going out

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Speaker 2: with someone broke.

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Speaker 1: What it means is I'm going all the way or

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Speaker 1: I'm just not going to do it, meaning I want

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Speaker 1: a partner, someone additive. I want an equal rock stars

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Speaker 1: need rock stars, is what my friend Louis said to me,

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Speaker 1: and so that's what I want. If I don't find that,

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Speaker 1: I'm going solo because I've realized through this past several

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Speaker 1: months that i can be alone. I like being alone.

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Speaker 1: I'm confident, I'm secure, set a good example for my daughter.

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Speaker 1: I have consciously uncoupled. I have been healthy in a

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Speaker 1: breakup as one should. I have survived and thrived in

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Speaker 1: a divorce, and I have been in charge and I've

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Speaker 1: created my own destiny and now I'm happy. And you

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Speaker 1: shouldn't be dating until you're happy. You should be a

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Speaker 1: fully formed human being. You should be the person you'd

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Speaker 1: want to date. You should feel like you're coming into

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Speaker 1: a partnership bringing something to the table.

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Speaker 2: You know what I mean.

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Speaker 1: You show up at a pot luck, you want to

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Speaker 1: be proud of your dish. This is what I came

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Speaker 1: with tonight, not something you're like, well, I had to

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Speaker 1: buy at the supermarket, it sort of sucked, etc. You

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Speaker 1: want to walk in like proud. You go on that field,

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Speaker 1: the play sport. You want to be like I got this.

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Speaker 1: Whatever you do. You want to show up, things gonna happen.

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Speaker 1: You can make mistakes, But if I show up on

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Speaker 1: a stage and I'm gonna speak in front of a

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Speaker 1: bunch of people, I want to make sure I come correct.

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Speaker 1: So in dating it's the same thing. I am a

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Speaker 1: fully formed human being. I am a strong woman, I

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Speaker 1: am successful, I am confident, I am funny, I am sexy.

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Speaker 1: I look good, and I bring something to the table.

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Speaker 1: And that's what every woman should do and be when

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Speaker 1: she's entering into the dating space. You don't want to

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Speaker 1: be like some wounded bird walking in, choosing people for

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Speaker 1: the wrong reasons, going in for the rebound as a

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Speaker 1: reaction to what you had that wasn't.

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Speaker 2: Good for you. You want to go in like I've.

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Speaker 1: Experienced this, that and the other thing, and I'm walking

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Speaker 1: in now with all of this institutional knowledge and I'm

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Speaker 1: ready to go.

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Speaker 2: So this is just be dating. The d is back.

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Speaker 1: We are ready to go, and you're coming with me.

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Speaker 1: I will not be sharing personal information. I will be

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Speaker 1: dating a certain level of man that would never want that.

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Speaker 1: But I will be sharing the experience and the cautionary

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Speaker 1: tales and the advice and about the apps and about

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Speaker 1: the matchmakers and about all of it, the age, the texting,

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Speaker 1: the process, the experience in dating successful men. And we're

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Speaker 1: going all the way, baby. So who's coming with me?

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Speaker 1: Because you're going to learn a lot. Get your books out,

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Speaker 1: buckle up your seatbelts. I've never had a problem dating,

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Speaker 1: and this is going to be one for the ages,

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Speaker 1: one for the books.

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Speaker 2: Who's ready