1 00:00:00,160 --> 00:00:03,560 Speaker 1: My boyfriend said, I'm not a stereotypical female, so he's 2 00:00:03,560 --> 00:00:04,280 Speaker 1: breaking up with me. 3 00:00:05,040 --> 00:00:05,840 Speaker 2: Okay. Sorry. 4 00:00:06,840 --> 00:00:09,960 Speaker 1: Disclaimer. This isn't a post to say poor me, nor 5 00:00:10,039 --> 00:00:12,559 Speaker 1: to bash my ex. It's merely something I've been reflecting 6 00:00:12,560 --> 00:00:14,920 Speaker 1: on since I got out of my past relationship. I 7 00:00:14,920 --> 00:00:18,120 Speaker 1: would like to know whatever I felt slash, what I'm 8 00:00:18,120 --> 00:00:20,400 Speaker 1: feeling is still normal and valid. By the way, it 9 00:00:20,440 --> 00:00:23,320 Speaker 1: comes from interesting wee one six one on our slash 10 00:00:23,320 --> 00:00:27,640 Speaker 1: Okay storytime separated. So a brief storyline of my past relationship. 11 00:00:27,840 --> 00:00:30,680 Speaker 1: I twenty four female, was with my ex David twenty 12 00:00:30,680 --> 00:00:33,600 Speaker 1: five male for four years. We met when I was 13 00:00:33,640 --> 00:00:37,159 Speaker 1: eighteen and he was nineteen through a series through a 14 00:00:37,240 --> 00:00:40,720 Speaker 1: dating app, and immediately things hit off between us. We 15 00:00:40,720 --> 00:00:43,120 Speaker 1: were each other's first love, and overall we had a 16 00:00:43,159 --> 00:00:46,640 Speaker 1: stable and happy relationship. At least from my end. You know, 17 00:00:46,680 --> 00:00:49,599 Speaker 1: it was perfect for me. I don't know about you 18 00:00:49,880 --> 00:00:53,360 Speaker 1: the storybook. For the storybook, his dad adored me and 19 00:00:53,400 --> 00:00:55,400 Speaker 1: treated me as part of the family from the get go. 20 00:00:55,760 --> 00:00:58,280 Speaker 1: Fast forward to last October, he sat me down and 21 00:00:58,320 --> 00:00:59,800 Speaker 1: told me he wasn't happy anymore. 22 00:01:00,160 --> 00:01:01,360 Speaker 2: He said, because I was. 23 00:01:01,320 --> 00:01:03,880 Speaker 1: Looking to work in a regional area for a few 24 00:01:03,960 --> 00:01:06,679 Speaker 1: years after I graduate, the pay would be twice as 25 00:01:06,720 --> 00:01:09,240 Speaker 1: much compared to working in the city. He doesn't want 26 00:01:09,280 --> 00:01:11,479 Speaker 1: to stay in a relationship where he won't be able 27 00:01:11,520 --> 00:01:13,040 Speaker 1: to see his girlfriend all the time. 28 00:01:13,600 --> 00:01:16,280 Speaker 2: M Do we like this? Do we not? I don't know. 29 00:01:16,360 --> 00:01:19,640 Speaker 2: This is there's there's some tomfoolery afoot in this, In 30 00:01:19,760 --> 00:01:21,440 Speaker 2: this I think, I think I agree. 31 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:25,000 Speaker 1: He also talked about how I wasn't affectionate enough, how 32 00:01:25,080 --> 00:01:28,240 Speaker 1: I didn't initiate, how I didn't initiate spicy sleep or 33 00:01:28,400 --> 00:01:31,720 Speaker 1: hug him enough. Finally, he said that he doesn't love 34 00:01:31,800 --> 00:01:34,160 Speaker 1: himself at all, so he wants to have time to 35 00:01:34,280 --> 00:01:38,080 Speaker 1: find himself before getting into his next relationship. I was 36 00:01:38,200 --> 00:01:41,760 Speaker 1: obviously devastated, and I accepted the breakup because I knew 37 00:01:41,880 --> 00:01:44,640 Speaker 1: his mind was made up. At this point, things were 38 00:01:44,680 --> 00:01:48,760 Speaker 1: still respectful and amicable between us. A week later, I 39 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:51,040 Speaker 1: went to his place to pack up my stuff and 40 00:01:51,160 --> 00:01:54,320 Speaker 1: we sat down for a closure conversation. We read each 41 00:01:54,360 --> 00:01:56,520 Speaker 1: other the things we wanted each other to work on 42 00:01:56,760 --> 00:02:00,280 Speaker 1: if we were to get back together. Is this that's 43 00:02:00,360 --> 00:02:03,720 Speaker 1: at least a healthy way to break up? This is 44 00:02:03,720 --> 00:02:07,680 Speaker 1: the most emotionally matured nineteen year olds now now they're 45 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 1: twenty four twenty. 46 00:02:08,320 --> 00:02:11,600 Speaker 2: Oh right okay still but still but still still pretty good? Right, 47 00:02:11,720 --> 00:02:13,040 Speaker 2: better than the fifty year olds. 48 00:02:14,520 --> 00:02:17,800 Speaker 1: Yes, that was when David started telling me that throughout 49 00:02:17,840 --> 00:02:22,600 Speaker 1: this time he wanted a more stereotypically female as a girlfriend. 50 00:02:22,720 --> 00:02:25,320 Speaker 2: And then I was too much of a tomboy. Oh 51 00:02:26,120 --> 00:02:26,519 Speaker 2: here we go. 52 00:02:26,880 --> 00:02:29,359 Speaker 1: I rarely wore makeup, and I don't dress in cute 53 00:02:29,400 --> 00:02:32,680 Speaker 1: outfits like his friend's partners. He admitted that he would 54 00:02:32,720 --> 00:02:35,760 Speaker 1: secretly get jealous when the partners go into gatherings dressed 55 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:39,400 Speaker 1: in cute outfits and in full glam makeup and uh 56 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:42,920 Speaker 1: and at the back of his head, he would wish 57 00:02:43,160 --> 00:02:45,639 Speaker 1: that I was more like them, he said. If I 58 00:02:45,919 --> 00:02:48,079 Speaker 1: was more of a girly girl, it would be much 59 00:02:48,240 --> 00:02:52,000 Speaker 1: easier for him to shop for more stereotypically feminine gifts. 60 00:02:52,720 --> 00:02:56,160 Speaker 2: What okay is this guy? So he was just completely 61 00:02:56,240 --> 00:02:58,200 Speaker 2: full of it when he's like, I don't love myself. 62 00:02:58,240 --> 00:03:00,200 Speaker 2: I need to find myself. That's what it's, you know, 63 00:03:00,280 --> 00:03:04,079 Speaker 2: he needs to find himself a Barbie doll apparently, what 64 00:03:04,480 --> 00:03:08,560 Speaker 2: an of model? Yeah, the only way he'll be satisfying. 65 00:03:09,160 --> 00:03:11,480 Speaker 1: But with me, he always had to ask what I 66 00:03:11,600 --> 00:03:14,120 Speaker 1: wanted because I like more practical gifts, so he never 67 00:03:14,200 --> 00:03:15,000 Speaker 1: knew what to get me. 68 00:03:15,800 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 2: That really hurt me. Babe, I need a break up 69 00:03:18,240 --> 00:03:21,919 Speaker 2: because just Christmas comes wrong. I'm just like, what do 70 00:03:22,040 --> 00:03:24,600 Speaker 2: I get you? How do I possibly bog it for 71 00:03:24,680 --> 00:03:25,320 Speaker 2: a tomboy? 72 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:26,200 Speaker 1: Well? 73 00:03:26,280 --> 00:03:30,080 Speaker 2: What it's like a it's like the divin I can't 74 00:03:30,120 --> 00:03:30,480 Speaker 2: crack it. 75 00:03:31,160 --> 00:03:33,680 Speaker 1: All this time, I thought he loved me for exactly 76 00:03:33,760 --> 00:03:36,600 Speaker 1: who I was, so but it's come to learn that 77 00:03:36,720 --> 00:03:38,720 Speaker 1: he wished that I was more like someone else. 78 00:03:39,040 --> 00:03:40,840 Speaker 2: Was a huge slap in the face. 79 00:03:41,400 --> 00:03:43,320 Speaker 1: I broke down in front of him, and all he 80 00:03:43,400 --> 00:03:45,400 Speaker 1: could say was that he was sorry and that he 81 00:03:45,520 --> 00:03:47,480 Speaker 1: was thankful I taught him how to be a better 82 00:03:47,560 --> 00:03:52,280 Speaker 1: partner when he finds a new girlfriend. Oh yeah, yeah, brother, 83 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:56,400 Speaker 1: you do not have a way with words. That's that's brutal. 84 00:03:56,840 --> 00:04:01,560 Speaker 1: Keeps it unacceptable, unacceptable. Honestly, he said that I had 85 00:04:01,640 --> 00:04:04,840 Speaker 1: considered changing all of those things. Had I considered changing 86 00:04:04,880 --> 00:04:07,320 Speaker 1: all of those things, we probably wouldn't have broken up. 87 00:04:08,080 --> 00:04:10,960 Speaker 1: I didn't recognize this person anymore. The man who used 88 00:04:10,960 --> 00:04:12,800 Speaker 1: to look at me like I was this whole world 89 00:04:13,080 --> 00:04:16,360 Speaker 1: is now saying some of the cruelest things about taking 90 00:04:16,440 --> 00:04:19,000 Speaker 1: what I said I wanted and using it for a 91 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:23,000 Speaker 1: new girlfriend. It crushed me to the core. But I 92 00:04:23,080 --> 00:04:25,200 Speaker 1: knew I had to stop. I knew I had to 93 00:04:25,240 --> 00:04:27,600 Speaker 1: stop having hope that he will change his mind and 94 00:04:27,800 --> 00:04:30,320 Speaker 1: just let go. I deserve someone who will treat me 95 00:04:30,520 --> 00:04:32,680 Speaker 1: like I'm the best thing that's ever happened to them. Yes, 96 00:04:33,000 --> 00:04:36,720 Speaker 1: not someone that constantly wishes I dressed and acted like 97 00:04:36,880 --> 00:04:37,560 Speaker 1: someone else. 98 00:04:37,760 --> 00:04:40,920 Speaker 2: Yes, that guy is that's whack wow whack. 99 00:04:41,800 --> 00:04:45,400 Speaker 1: Well we have an update from eleven months later. Oh 100 00:04:46,560 --> 00:04:47,680 Speaker 1: but before we get into. 101 00:04:47,600 --> 00:04:53,280 Speaker 2: That, wow, just what the guy was trying to cover 102 00:04:53,440 --> 00:04:55,400 Speaker 2: by being like, no, baby, it's not you, it's me. 103 00:04:55,600 --> 00:04:58,920 Speaker 2: I just don't even know who I am. It's like, oh, psych, 104 00:04:59,000 --> 00:05:01,840 Speaker 2: I actually know that it's You're the opposite of what 105 00:05:01,960 --> 00:05:07,920 Speaker 2: I want. And uh, thanksgiving me the blueprint. Yeah, I'm 106 00:05:07,960 --> 00:05:08,320 Speaker 2: trying to. 107 00:05:08,320 --> 00:05:10,720 Speaker 1: Like find someone else like bang all the time. You know, 108 00:05:10,880 --> 00:05:13,120 Speaker 1: like you like like gave me the blueprint, like finds 109 00:05:13,160 --> 00:05:15,400 Speaker 1: out a bang all time. I'm like, I'm like superty 110 00:05:15,440 --> 00:05:16,880 Speaker 1: dupretty grateful to you, gabes. 111 00:05:17,200 --> 00:05:20,040 Speaker 2: Yeah, thanks for thanks for like helping me like learn. 112 00:05:20,120 --> 00:05:23,600 Speaker 2: I don't like you at all. You're such a great teacher. 113 00:05:24,760 --> 00:05:28,480 Speaker 2: It's bad. Don't do that guys, it's soft soft touch, 114 00:05:28,600 --> 00:05:32,160 Speaker 2: all right, Finesse, you don't sometimes don't say everything that 115 00:05:32,200 --> 00:05:33,960 Speaker 2: pops in your head when you're breaking up with somebody. 116 00:05:34,120 --> 00:05:34,800 Speaker 2: Let me ask you this. 117 00:05:35,480 --> 00:05:38,160 Speaker 1: If he had earlier in the relationship, when he kind 118 00:05:38,200 --> 00:05:42,280 Speaker 1: of initially had these feelings, could he have Is there 119 00:05:42,360 --> 00:05:44,240 Speaker 1: a way he could have brought these up? 120 00:05:44,440 --> 00:05:46,200 Speaker 2: Like you know, like what do you think? 121 00:05:46,320 --> 00:05:46,360 Speaker 1: No? 122 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:48,760 Speaker 2: I think it's if you have these feelings, you go, oh, 123 00:05:48,839 --> 00:05:51,320 Speaker 2: I shouldn't date this person. Yeah, if your if your 124 00:05:51,360 --> 00:05:53,360 Speaker 2: feeling is like, wow, I really wish that the person 125 00:05:53,400 --> 00:05:56,920 Speaker 2: I'm dating was the polar opposite of the way that 126 00:05:57,040 --> 00:06:00,760 Speaker 2: she is every day. So like, so do you do you? Uh, 127 00:06:00,880 --> 00:06:04,240 Speaker 2: there's no way. You just ultimately not like tell them 128 00:06:04,279 --> 00:06:07,320 Speaker 2: I guess that those most gruesome details of it and 129 00:06:07,480 --> 00:06:09,200 Speaker 2: just kind of move on. Well, I mean you can 130 00:06:09,320 --> 00:06:13,400 Speaker 2: explain that, like it's just you know that you don't 131 00:06:13,440 --> 00:06:16,240 Speaker 2: feel like it's compatible. But I think it's hard because 132 00:06:16,279 --> 00:06:18,560 Speaker 2: they were like the first loves and it's like they 133 00:06:18,680 --> 00:06:20,400 Speaker 2: kind of like were you know, there was like that 134 00:06:20,600 --> 00:06:25,080 Speaker 2: really young, like sort of head spinning like stuff going on. Yeah, 135 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:27,120 Speaker 2: and then to maybe come out of that and realize like, 136 00:06:27,279 --> 00:06:33,320 Speaker 2: oh m, I wish that you didn't look like Tony Hawk. Yeah, 137 00:06:33,520 --> 00:06:35,640 Speaker 2: or I mean, not that you look like Tonyawk, but 138 00:06:35,839 --> 00:06:37,920 Speaker 2: like I don't know, like, you know, like a skater girl. 139 00:06:37,960 --> 00:06:40,040 Speaker 2: We all know the tom Boys. She was a skater girl. 140 00:06:40,080 --> 00:06:43,240 Speaker 2: And he said you later girl. Yeah, he's he literally 141 00:06:43,360 --> 00:06:46,919 Speaker 2: did that exactly. Scooter's kid asked, why even date her 142 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:49,480 Speaker 2: in the first place. That's a good question. 143 00:06:49,800 --> 00:06:53,080 Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I think it's that first love stuff. That 144 00:06:53,120 --> 00:06:56,120 Speaker 1: first love stuff is powerful. Yeah, it's yeah, and it 145 00:06:56,200 --> 00:06:59,680 Speaker 1: could have possibly couldn't have been puppy love for him, 146 00:06:59,680 --> 00:07:01,680 Speaker 1: because I feel like, you know, young, like high school, 147 00:07:01,800 --> 00:07:03,000 Speaker 1: Like what are you laughing. 148 00:07:02,800 --> 00:07:08,720 Speaker 2: At Riley post clarity? I hope not. But that's also 149 00:07:08,839 --> 00:07:11,400 Speaker 2: a thing, Dude's true. How do you have that after 150 00:07:11,600 --> 00:07:12,120 Speaker 2: six years? 151 00:07:12,200 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 1: Though? 152 00:07:13,120 --> 00:07:18,320 Speaker 2: Right? Yeah, it was not that it was a one. 153 00:07:18,440 --> 00:07:21,200 Speaker 2: It was just like, oh, it just got right in 154 00:07:21,280 --> 00:07:24,720 Speaker 2: the frontal lobe. Yeah, right, it am. They're now twenty 155 00:07:24,720 --> 00:07:29,160 Speaker 2: four to twenty five. His brain finally finished development. That's 156 00:07:29,240 --> 00:07:29,760 Speaker 2: what it is. 157 00:07:30,360 --> 00:07:31,080 Speaker 1: What we are. 158 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:34,960 Speaker 2: We are neurologists. That's where Okay, story time, So. 159 00:07:35,520 --> 00:07:37,280 Speaker 1: I don't know, I'm We're gonna keep reading the story, 160 00:07:37,320 --> 00:07:41,200 Speaker 1: but I'm very curious for chat and the comments. Is 161 00:07:41,280 --> 00:07:43,680 Speaker 1: there a way that you can communicate like earlier in 162 00:07:43,720 --> 00:07:44,480 Speaker 1: the relationship. 163 00:07:44,920 --> 00:07:48,000 Speaker 2: Is there a way? I don't know. Please tell me, 164 00:07:48,160 --> 00:07:50,560 Speaker 2: But I'm gonna get into this next. Uh update, I 165 00:07:50,640 --> 00:07:52,640 Speaker 2: think it's Oh, sorry, I didn't mean interet Let's get 166 00:07:52,640 --> 00:07:54,160 Speaker 2: into the update. Yeah, let's get the update. 167 00:07:54,320 --> 00:07:57,440 Speaker 1: It's been almost eleven months since everything went down, and 168 00:07:57,600 --> 00:08:00,480 Speaker 1: I'm honestly in a much better place. The longer I've 169 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:02,840 Speaker 1: been single, the more I've just realized, the more I've 170 00:08:02,880 --> 00:08:05,640 Speaker 1: just realized that David wasn't the one for me. I 171 00:08:05,720 --> 00:08:08,280 Speaker 1: started remembering how many times he declined to go on 172 00:08:08,400 --> 00:08:10,880 Speaker 1: dates with me or pushed a greed plans back for 173 00:08:10,960 --> 00:08:13,400 Speaker 1: the reason that he was tired from work. I've seen 174 00:08:13,480 --> 00:08:15,400 Speaker 1: him work weekends at home and knew that he was 175 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:18,240 Speaker 1: mentally exhausted, so I didn't push it. I had a 176 00:08:18,280 --> 00:08:21,400 Speaker 1: conversation with him about us not really doing anything other 177 00:08:21,480 --> 00:08:24,000 Speaker 1: than laying next to each other in bed, and I 178 00:08:24,080 --> 00:08:26,120 Speaker 1: didn't care if he just took me to McDonald's or 179 00:08:26,160 --> 00:08:28,200 Speaker 1: even at seven to eleven. I just wanted to make 180 00:08:28,240 --> 00:08:31,760 Speaker 1: new memories with him. Oh it's sad, but sweet from 181 00:08:31,800 --> 00:08:35,240 Speaker 1: her sad for the situation. He apologized and said he'll 182 00:08:35,280 --> 00:08:37,880 Speaker 1: try harder, but I saw no change up until the 183 00:08:37,960 --> 00:08:42,000 Speaker 1: month before he dumped me. I also, I was also 184 00:08:42,200 --> 00:08:45,280 Speaker 1: making more than ninety five percent of the effort to 185 00:08:45,360 --> 00:08:48,680 Speaker 1: stay at his place every weekend, a two hour trip 186 00:08:48,800 --> 00:08:51,199 Speaker 1: one way, so you can guess that I was usually quite. 187 00:08:51,080 --> 00:08:54,880 Speaker 2: Tow by the time I got dang, wow, those an 188 00:08:54,960 --> 00:08:58,199 Speaker 2: hour trip's not even fun. And that's what I have. 189 00:08:58,559 --> 00:09:01,600 Speaker 1: And she's making all the two two hour trips every weekend, 190 00:09:01,760 --> 00:09:02,520 Speaker 1: every weekend. 191 00:09:02,760 --> 00:09:07,040 Speaker 2: Oh, you're in a way better place, right, this is 192 00:09:07,120 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 2: the right. I mean, it's some time to cold water 193 00:09:10,840 --> 00:09:12,200 Speaker 2: feels bad, that's right. 194 00:09:12,320 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: But hey, he just wasn't the one makes you harder 195 00:09:16,160 --> 00:09:20,880 Speaker 1: David gog and style stronger. I asked him maybe once 196 00:09:21,000 --> 00:09:23,240 Speaker 1: every three to four months to stay over at my place, 197 00:09:23,360 --> 00:09:25,800 Speaker 1: but again he was very reluctant because I lived with 198 00:09:25,880 --> 00:09:28,480 Speaker 1: my parents and he wanted space to do what he wanted. 199 00:09:28,720 --> 00:09:31,760 Speaker 1: Completely understandable, but I just wished back then that he 200 00:09:31,840 --> 00:09:34,720 Speaker 1: would make an occasional effort to see me, especially when I. 201 00:09:34,760 --> 00:09:36,920 Speaker 2: Had busy weeks at school. The last thing. 202 00:09:37,120 --> 00:09:39,079 Speaker 1: The last thing was that he would always try to 203 00:09:39,120 --> 00:09:41,760 Speaker 1: start eating more healthy to lose weight, but almost every 204 00:09:41,800 --> 00:09:44,480 Speaker 1: time he would fall off the bandwagon. After about two weeks, 205 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:46,880 Speaker 1: he agreed to walk with me to the mall once 206 00:09:46,960 --> 00:09:51,240 Speaker 1: instead of driving reluctantly and halfway through walking, halfway through 207 00:09:51,280 --> 00:09:54,040 Speaker 1: walking back. He was complaining how tiring it was and 208 00:09:54,160 --> 00:09:56,840 Speaker 1: that he should have just driven. I walked by myself. 209 00:09:57,000 --> 00:10:02,240 Speaker 1: Ever since that, it just sounds like a totally incompatibility. 210 00:10:02,280 --> 00:10:05,920 Speaker 2: Sounds like this guy is completely the antithesis of what 211 00:10:06,160 --> 00:10:08,319 Speaker 2: you need out of a guy. He sucks. Maybe do 212 00:10:08,360 --> 00:10:11,240 Speaker 2: you think it was first time love goggles? Just like 213 00:10:11,480 --> 00:10:14,559 Speaker 2: I think that's what it really Yeah, it's and then 214 00:10:14,960 --> 00:10:17,440 Speaker 2: maybe after that long of a time together, they kind 215 00:10:17,480 --> 00:10:20,880 Speaker 2: of got like the sunk cost fallacy. Yeah, where it's 216 00:10:20,920 --> 00:10:23,240 Speaker 2: like to it, well, we should stay together because well 217 00:10:23,280 --> 00:10:25,320 Speaker 2: we loved each other so much. But it's like, nah, 218 00:10:25,559 --> 00:10:28,520 Speaker 2: you guys are completely different people now. Yeah, and hope 219 00:10:28,559 --> 00:10:30,640 Speaker 2: he is feeling better a loveless down the line. So 220 00:10:31,160 --> 00:10:34,040 Speaker 2: suck to happen, but maybe for the better. I'm not 221 00:10:34,160 --> 00:10:36,480 Speaker 2: saying any of this to bash David or to say 222 00:10:36,640 --> 00:10:38,800 Speaker 2: what kind of bad person he is. I just think 223 00:10:38,840 --> 00:10:41,280 Speaker 2: that it's funny that we only started seeing the downside 224 00:10:41,280 --> 00:10:44,120 Speaker 2: of relationship when we were out of it, Even though 225 00:10:44,240 --> 00:10:46,920 Speaker 2: I've been better off, and I've also been working on myself, 226 00:10:46,960 --> 00:10:49,880 Speaker 2: both both physically and mentally. His words about how I 227 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:54,000 Speaker 2: wasn't feminine enough still stick in my mind again. To 228 00:10:54,160 --> 00:10:57,520 Speaker 2: hear someone who thought who you thought was your world, 229 00:10:57,920 --> 00:11:00,559 Speaker 2: someone who thought that you would marry, say all those 230 00:11:00,600 --> 00:11:02,760 Speaker 2: things to you, it caused my confidence to take a 231 00:11:02,960 --> 00:11:05,640 Speaker 2: huge blow, and I'm still trying to build it back 232 00:11:05,679 --> 00:11:08,760 Speaker 2: to this day. But guys, you can build up your 233 00:11:08,840 --> 00:11:09,440 Speaker 2: joy every. 234 00:11:09,360 --> 00:11:12,680 Speaker 1: Day by joining us every weekday at three pm pst 235 00:11:13,120 --> 00:11:13,840 Speaker 1: aper profile. 236 00:11:14,000 --> 00:11:16,880 Speaker 2: That's correct, you can be live with us. Let's do it. Now. 237 00:11:17,320 --> 00:11:21,000 Speaker 2: Why am I still letting this? Why now? 238 00:11:21,240 --> 00:11:23,400 Speaker 1: Why am I still letting what he said affect me? 239 00:11:24,160 --> 00:11:26,760 Speaker 1: Was it because he was someone I once valued? Was 240 00:11:26,840 --> 00:11:29,439 Speaker 1: it because it made me question if I knew him 241 00:11:29,480 --> 00:11:32,320 Speaker 1: at all? I kept telling myself that it's been eleven months, 242 00:11:32,440 --> 00:11:35,319 Speaker 1: I should be over this already. But I'm not ashamed 243 00:11:35,360 --> 00:11:37,520 Speaker 1: to say that this. But I'm ashamed to say that 244 00:11:37,640 --> 00:11:40,480 Speaker 1: this is not the case. Please do not just tell 245 00:11:40,520 --> 00:11:42,559 Speaker 1: me to move on or get over it already. I 246 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:44,680 Speaker 1: have no desire to be with them, and I feel 247 00:11:44,720 --> 00:11:48,080 Speaker 1: better off by myself. I am simply asking to help 248 00:11:48,120 --> 00:11:50,400 Speaker 1: myself completely move on to the next phase. 249 00:11:50,880 --> 00:11:52,000 Speaker 2: I want no longer. 250 00:11:52,240 --> 00:11:54,120 Speaker 1: I want no longer to have him pop him in 251 00:11:54,200 --> 00:11:56,719 Speaker 1: my head at the most unexpected times and for me 252 00:11:56,920 --> 00:11:59,360 Speaker 1: to be the happiest, healthiest person I can be. 253 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:01,760 Speaker 2: Thank you all for reading my story. 254 00:12:01,840 --> 00:12:03,440 Speaker 1: It takes a minute to get over a break, yes, 255 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:05,600 Speaker 1: but you're on the right track. It sounds like that's 256 00:12:05,679 --> 00:12:06,600 Speaker 1: definitely the right track. 257 00:12:06,760 --> 00:12:11,559 Speaker 2: And he hit you with a big, fat, ugly I 258 00:12:11,640 --> 00:12:15,520 Speaker 2: guess it was truth bomb from his perspective, but because 259 00:12:15,720 --> 00:12:17,880 Speaker 2: just because it's what he feels, it doesn't mean that 260 00:12:17,960 --> 00:12:21,319 Speaker 2: that's like an objective reality where it's like you're wrong 261 00:12:21,520 --> 00:12:24,839 Speaker 2: for being a tomboy or not, you know, putting on 262 00:12:24,920 --> 00:12:26,640 Speaker 2: makeup every time you go out and all this stuff. 263 00:12:26,720 --> 00:12:29,719 Speaker 2: Like me, personally, I've always thought it was ridiculous that 264 00:12:29,880 --> 00:12:32,040 Speaker 2: people demand that out of out of women. I like, 265 00:12:32,440 --> 00:12:38,120 Speaker 2: I don't like. I prefer like no makeup. Yeah, personally, 266 00:12:38,559 --> 00:12:41,120 Speaker 2: it's just so much. And there's not to say there's 267 00:12:41,120 --> 00:12:43,599 Speaker 2: anything wrong with me, of course, of course, it's just like, 268 00:12:43,760 --> 00:12:45,240 Speaker 2: if you want to do it, do it, and if 269 00:12:45,240 --> 00:12:49,280 Speaker 2: you don't, don't unfair expectation, Like we like, we have 270 00:12:49,520 --> 00:12:53,240 Speaker 2: no expectation of that, although we're both pretty beautiful if 271 00:12:53,280 --> 00:12:54,640 Speaker 2: I something myself. 272 00:12:54,360 --> 00:12:54,440 Speaker 1: But. 273 00:12:56,160 --> 00:13:00,360 Speaker 2: Yeah, I hate that too. And uh, here's my question. 274 00:13:00,600 --> 00:13:01,839 Speaker 2: Now that we're at the end of the story, we've 275 00:13:01,840 --> 00:13:05,000 Speaker 2: seen the whole timeline play out, do you think he 276 00:13:07,240 --> 00:13:09,559 Speaker 2: do you think that he should have told her, like 277 00:13:09,640 --> 00:13:11,280 Speaker 2: straight up all those things he said, like oh, you're 278 00:13:11,280 --> 00:13:13,040 Speaker 2: a tomboy, you didn't wear him enough makeup da da 279 00:13:13,559 --> 00:13:16,079 Speaker 2: Or should he have just like you know, just given 280 00:13:16,120 --> 00:13:18,719 Speaker 2: as much detail as he can without like crossing a 281 00:13:18,800 --> 00:13:21,679 Speaker 2: line of like the territory. I think that's I mean, 282 00:13:22,000 --> 00:13:23,959 Speaker 2: as just a human, that's what you want to do, right, 283 00:13:24,280 --> 00:13:26,520 Speaker 2: Like you don't want to you don't want to try 284 00:13:26,559 --> 00:13:29,319 Speaker 2: to put the person that you've been with like down, yes, 285 00:13:29,559 --> 00:13:32,439 Speaker 2: for no reason. Like it'd be different if it was 286 00:13:32,520 --> 00:13:34,800 Speaker 2: like she was like no, no, like no we have 287 00:13:34,920 --> 00:13:36,240 Speaker 2: to say to get like you know there's people who 288 00:13:36,320 --> 00:13:37,040 Speaker 2: like won't let go. 289 00:13:37,559 --> 00:13:37,760 Speaker 1: Yeah. 290 00:13:38,400 --> 00:13:40,199 Speaker 2: Yeah, Like you'll tell somebody like we're breaking up and 291 00:13:40,240 --> 00:13:42,480 Speaker 2: they'll just be like, no, we're not. Yeah, then you 292 00:13:42,520 --> 00:13:44,600 Speaker 2: would have to be like, all right, fine, yeah, here's 293 00:13:44,640 --> 00:13:45,000 Speaker 2: what we're doing. 294 00:13:45,040 --> 00:13:45,440 Speaker 1: No reason. 295 00:13:45,559 --> 00:13:50,440 Speaker 2: But yeah, it was completely kind of overboard, and maybe 296 00:13:50,480 --> 00:13:52,040 Speaker 2: he just didn't know because that's like their kind of 297 00:13:52,120 --> 00:13:54,439 Speaker 2: first I guess real big relationship. He probably hasn't really 298 00:13:54,520 --> 00:13:56,840 Speaker 2: done that because they were together for all that time, 299 00:13:56,880 --> 00:13:58,880 Speaker 2: and it's like, but you should still know. I think, 300 00:13:59,440 --> 00:14:01,520 Speaker 2: you know, so I wouldn't give him pass. It's like 301 00:14:01,600 --> 00:14:02,600 Speaker 2: that was a pretty a whole thing. 302 00:14:03,320 --> 00:14:05,040 Speaker 1: I think at the end of the story now, especially 303 00:14:05,160 --> 00:14:07,600 Speaker 1: hearing how it affected her, I'm like, yeah, I think. 304 00:14:08,080 --> 00:14:10,560 Speaker 1: And it's hard because it's like most of the time 305 00:14:10,640 --> 00:14:13,439 Speaker 1: it's like, oh, be completely honest and communicate everything with 306 00:14:13,520 --> 00:14:17,640 Speaker 1: your partner, but in this instance, hearing how she felt it, 307 00:14:18,679 --> 00:14:21,320 Speaker 1: I think it might have been better if he explained 308 00:14:21,360 --> 00:14:25,360 Speaker 1: everything like we're not compatible like everything else, and make 309 00:14:25,400 --> 00:14:28,520 Speaker 1: it impersonal, making it not like don't get so specific 310 00:14:28,760 --> 00:14:31,600 Speaker 1: about like like just be like it's just not we 311 00:14:31,760 --> 00:14:32,920 Speaker 1: are not. 312 00:14:34,520 --> 00:14:37,200 Speaker 2: On the same page, we are not moving in the 313 00:14:37,360 --> 00:14:40,080 Speaker 2: same way. Like it's just we don't want the same 314 00:14:40,160 --> 00:14:42,840 Speaker 2: stuff out of each other. But you know, I think 315 00:14:43,480 --> 00:14:46,400 Speaker 2: maybe inevitably that stuff comes out. Who knows. You can 316 00:14:46,640 --> 00:14:50,680 Speaker 2: break up conversations if you want to improve, keep doing 317 00:14:50,760 --> 00:14:51,840 Speaker 2: what you're doing. I think maybe. 318 00:14:52,240 --> 00:14:55,200 Speaker 1: I always say therapy, therapy is great, yes, and especially 319 00:14:55,320 --> 00:14:58,520 Speaker 1: it's like I've had I had like my similar situation, 320 00:14:58,560 --> 00:15:02,160 Speaker 1: similar situation with like first love of being like we 321 00:15:02,280 --> 00:15:05,680 Speaker 1: were together for a long time, broke breakup was gnarly 322 00:15:06,360 --> 00:15:06,560 Speaker 1: and I. 323 00:15:06,600 --> 00:15:08,280 Speaker 2: Held on to it for so long. 324 00:15:08,280 --> 00:15:11,240 Speaker 1: I held on it for years afterwards, and it's like 325 00:15:11,520 --> 00:15:13,560 Speaker 1: you really have to reach a point where you like 326 00:15:13,680 --> 00:15:15,080 Speaker 1: let go of that past. 327 00:15:15,920 --> 00:15:18,360 Speaker 2: And it takes time, and honestly, I could have used 328 00:15:18,360 --> 00:15:21,040 Speaker 2: a little therapy. Probably, Yeah, that's why it took so 329 00:15:21,160 --> 00:15:23,360 Speaker 2: long for me. Yeah, get on therapy, a get up. 330 00:15:23,480 --> 00:15:24,520 Speaker 2: It seems like, oh, piece on the time. 331 00:15:24,680 --> 00:15:24,840 Speaker 1: Yep. 332 00:15:24,920 --> 00:15:28,040 Speaker 2: I just started listening to Okay storytelling like crazy, and 333 00:15:28,080 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 2: then it turned out for the best. That's that's I 334 00:15:30,600 --> 00:15:32,400 Speaker 2: think that's the best. You just listen to every single 335 00:15:32,400 --> 00:15:34,920 Speaker 2: episode of Okay this time, listen to all three thousand 336 00:15:34,960 --> 00:15:37,440 Speaker 2: stories we've read. You just might learn something. 337 00:15:38,040 --> 00:15:41,080 Speaker 1: Speaking of three thousand stories, Dakota, would you do me 338 00:15:41,120 --> 00:15:43,120 Speaker 1: the honor of bumping it to three thousand and one? 339 00:15:43,200 --> 00:15:46,920 Speaker 2: My friends, No way, let's do it. Wow, number three 340 00:15:47,240 --> 00:15:52,000 Speaker 2: thousand and one maybe not accurate. It's not accurate, not accurate, 341 00:15:52,080 --> 00:15:53,400 Speaker 2: but probably probably close. 342 00:15:53,520 --> 00:15:57,320 Speaker 1: Oh we got another, we got some more, Josephine says 343 00:15:57,560 --> 00:15:59,040 Speaker 1: today Swedish accent. 344 00:15:59,200 --> 00:16:02,360 Speaker 2: I been none y'all get through you Wow from you, 345 00:16:03,720 --> 00:16:07,800 Speaker 2: And that's so let's have a dude and let's probably to. 346 00:16:09,360 --> 00:16:16,120 Speaker 1: Uh. Since joining y'all from uh l j Jaliba Jelliba, 347 00:16:17,040 --> 00:16:19,320 Speaker 1: thank you, thank you for being a member for seven months. 348 00:16:19,520 --> 00:16:23,960 Speaker 2: Yes, since joining y'all seven months ago, everything is okay 349 00:16:24,520 --> 00:16:28,360 Speaker 2: and like story time, let's freaking go and is that 350 00:16:28,520 --> 00:16:34,600 Speaker 2: the Yeah, there's one more? Do we have another one 351 00:16:34,640 --> 00:16:38,680 Speaker 2: from gaye Okay? Donation from Heidi Vincent for twenty five 352 00:16:39,360 --> 00:16:43,840 Speaker 2: US smack a Rooney's, John, Dakota and Riley are my favorite. 353 00:16:44,320 --> 00:16:48,440 Speaker 2: Don't tell the others well, thanks for making my day better. 354 00:16:48,840 --> 00:16:53,160 Speaker 2: We'll never tell Trifect, We'll never tell Trio. Thank you, Heidi. 355 00:16:54,240 --> 00:16:57,760 Speaker 1: And oh we got another one from gay Swan five 356 00:16:57,800 --> 00:16:59,480 Speaker 1: dollars from gay Swan message. 357 00:16:59,560 --> 00:17:01,960 Speaker 2: Seriously cannot believe I'm actually here. It feels like a 358 00:17:02,040 --> 00:17:04,399 Speaker 2: fever dream having you shout me out. And Dakota, if 359 00:17:04,440 --> 00:17:07,400 Speaker 2: you like gay Swan's, you'll love gay penguin parents at 360 00:17:07,640 --> 00:17:11,200 Speaker 2: Rosamund Gifford Zoo. I do love the gay penguin parents. 361 00:17:11,240 --> 00:17:14,520 Speaker 2: I want to see those. They're great. They the zoo 362 00:17:14,680 --> 00:17:18,120 Speaker 2: gives them like a little like eggs to take care 363 00:17:18,119 --> 00:17:20,800 Speaker 2: of because they can't have them because they're gay. Penguins, right, 364 00:17:20,840 --> 00:17:24,320 Speaker 2: but but they like raise their own little penguin children. 365 00:17:24,600 --> 00:17:28,280 Speaker 2: It's amazing gay penguin's babies. That is cartoon Norwegian, not 366 00:17:28,359 --> 00:17:32,560 Speaker 2: cartoon Swedish. Thank you, Josephine. And that you know, fun fact, guys, 367 00:17:33,080 --> 00:17:36,040 Speaker 2: the Norwegians and the Swedish, they do have beef. They 368 00:17:36,119 --> 00:17:37,080 Speaker 2: got beef. They got beef. 369 00:17:37,440 --> 00:17:40,920 Speaker 1: Who is the better member of that peninsula? Because it's yeah, 370 00:17:41,040 --> 00:17:43,879 Speaker 1: it's it's always neighbors. Neighbors always have is it across 371 00:17:43,960 --> 00:17:49,960 Speaker 1: the water, Josephine, Tell you don't like neighbors, Riley has 372 00:17:50,520 --> 00:17:53,040 Speaker 1: I really got to hold him back from anything our 373 00:17:53,080 --> 00:17:53,560 Speaker 1: neighbors do. 374 00:17:54,240 --> 00:17:59,159 Speaker 2: It just pisses him off. Yard, I had some bad neighbors. 375 00:18:00,520 --> 00:18:02,520 Speaker 2: I didn't realize it was their bush, but I was like, oh, 376 00:18:02,800 --> 00:18:05,280 Speaker 2: but I had to go. Wait, so you just you 377 00:18:05,400 --> 00:18:08,080 Speaker 2: just outed yourself as the maybe part of the problem here. No, 378 00:18:08,240 --> 00:18:10,400 Speaker 2: they didn't know I was watering their planets. Dude, that's 379 00:18:10,400 --> 00:18:12,120 Speaker 2: not a big deal. Like, no, they didn't know. It's 380 00:18:12,160 --> 00:18:14,480 Speaker 2: like you didn't know that they were standing in the 381 00:18:14,560 --> 00:18:17,119 Speaker 2: window watching you tube. I looked, I was looking. I 382 00:18:17,200 --> 00:18:21,520 Speaker 2: was like, oh, hopefully Riley likes to urinate. And I 383 00:18:22,040 --> 00:18:25,800 Speaker 2: did not like it. We're not dogs. I think it's 384 00:18:25,920 --> 00:18:29,359 Speaker 2: it's a set and setting right, It's it's proper place, 385 00:18:29,440 --> 00:18:32,640 Speaker 2: proper time. Yeah, it's just I've done my whole life. 386 00:18:33,800 --> 00:18:36,880 Speaker 1: But not in our backyard when we have many toilets 387 00:18:36,880 --> 00:18:39,399 Speaker 1: in the house. Oh no, not in that backyard. In 388 00:18:39,480 --> 00:18:42,240 Speaker 1: that backyard, I'm not doing it in the back corner 389 00:18:42,720 --> 00:18:45,119 Speaker 1: where the mulches the No no, no, no, no no. 390 00:18:45,280 --> 00:18:47,360 Speaker 2: That backyard is not compatible for peepee time. 391 00:18:47,520 --> 00:18:51,120 Speaker 1: Absolutely, it is not. Absolutely it is not. If you're chippy, right, 392 00:18:51,560 --> 00:18:54,640 Speaker 1: And we got one more dono from Lolalita. Uh, John, 393 00:18:54,760 --> 00:18:57,240 Speaker 1: you have been saying three thousand stories, like fifteen hundred 394 00:18:57,240 --> 00:19:00,960 Speaker 1: stories ago high Dakota and Riley, let's say it's a 395 00:19:01,080 --> 00:19:03,920 Speaker 1: lotch Maybe it's for you know what, You're right, Maybe 396 00:19:03,920 --> 00:19:04,520 Speaker 1: it's four thousand. 397 00:19:04,920 --> 00:19:06,840 Speaker 2: We just we need someone to tally it up. That's 398 00:19:06,880 --> 00:19:09,840 Speaker 2: what we need. And Miss Schaber, do not encourage Riley. 399 00:19:10,160 --> 00:19:13,360 Speaker 2: Miss Chaber says, Hi, Riley, I I do. Note she's 400 00:19:13,400 --> 00:19:15,240 Speaker 2: doing the thing where it's like, am I who am I? 401 00:19:15,880 --> 00:19:15,960 Speaker 1: Hi? 402 00:19:16,600 --> 00:19:22,600 Speaker 2: I'm Riley side dude, Hi, I'm Riley. I like to 403 00:19:22,640 --> 00:19:27,879 Speaker 2: peek Kinky Rocks locks member for six months. 404 00:19:28,480 --> 00:19:34,119 Speaker 1: I love a good guys, stream sparkly heart, here's is 405 00:19:34,200 --> 00:19:35,520 Speaker 1: it a good guys. 406 00:19:37,119 --> 00:19:43,119 Speaker 2: At the stream? Right? We're cutting Riley off this story. 407 00:19:43,280 --> 00:19:47,480 Speaker 2: The stream is strong? Is strong? All right? Next story, 408 00:19:48,240 --> 00:19:51,359 Speaker 2: go for it. My mother has been a terrible house guest, 409 00:19:51,520 --> 00:19:57,440 Speaker 2: so I'm kicking her out. Dang, see you later. My 410 00:19:57,680 --> 00:20:01,640 Speaker 2: mother fifty five, moved in with me twenty seven non 411 00:20:01,760 --> 00:20:05,640 Speaker 2: binary and my partner forty five mail a few months ago. 412 00:20:06,280 --> 00:20:09,840 Speaker 2: My partner and I were between jobs, as were as 413 00:20:09,960 --> 00:20:12,520 Speaker 2: where I was working at the time was going out 414 00:20:12,560 --> 00:20:15,560 Speaker 2: of business and he was let go after an injury. Damn, 415 00:20:16,119 --> 00:20:18,399 Speaker 2: I hate to see that. My mother will call her 416 00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:21,560 Speaker 2: Mary Mother. Mary was living where I grew up in 417 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:24,040 Speaker 2: Ohio and wanted to move back to be closer to 418 00:20:24,160 --> 00:20:26,800 Speaker 2: my sister and I, so as a last resort, I 419 00:20:26,920 --> 00:20:28,720 Speaker 2: called her and asked if she'd like to move in 420 00:20:28,800 --> 00:20:30,800 Speaker 2: with us until she could find her own place, and 421 00:20:30,920 --> 00:20:34,919 Speaker 2: she agreed. I think, ww child, right there, that's very 422 00:20:35,040 --> 00:20:38,480 Speaker 2: nat By the way, this comes from you Shepherd cream 423 00:20:38,640 --> 00:20:43,399 Speaker 2: on the r slash Okay, story time subredding. So I 424 00:20:43,560 --> 00:20:45,920 Speaker 2: was really unsure about this because we always had issues 425 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:48,320 Speaker 2: when I was younger. My sister was her favorite and 426 00:20:48,400 --> 00:20:51,600 Speaker 2: I was just the difficult child, having autism and ADHD. 427 00:20:52,200 --> 00:20:55,240 Speaker 2: I was an afterthought and I always knew that, But 428 00:20:55,560 --> 00:20:58,600 Speaker 2: my sister told me mother Mary had been doing much 429 00:20:58,720 --> 00:21:01,560 Speaker 2: better with her and my going to therapy and working 430 00:21:01,680 --> 00:21:05,160 Speaker 2: on her issues. We love to hear that gross. When 431 00:21:05,240 --> 00:21:07,160 Speaker 2: she moved in, I made it very clear that while 432 00:21:07,240 --> 00:21:09,680 Speaker 2: this was her new home now she was, and she 433 00:21:10,000 --> 00:21:12,679 Speaker 2: was open to it, my partner and I expected her 434 00:21:12,760 --> 00:21:15,440 Speaker 2: to respect our privacy and just help around the house 435 00:21:15,440 --> 00:21:18,160 Speaker 2: where she could. She agreed, saying that that was more 436 00:21:18,200 --> 00:21:21,680 Speaker 2: than reasonable, and I really wanted to believe her. But 437 00:21:21,840 --> 00:21:24,760 Speaker 2: not even a month after moving and the issues started. 438 00:21:25,160 --> 00:21:28,560 Speaker 2: She wouldn't unpack the rest of her stuff. Boxes filled 439 00:21:28,600 --> 00:21:31,280 Speaker 2: the dining room and the living room of our apartment, 440 00:21:31,359 --> 00:21:36,280 Speaker 2: making them unusable. I hate that. Yeah, that'd because just 441 00:21:36,440 --> 00:21:39,919 Speaker 2: random crap around that now I can't use the space. 442 00:21:40,400 --> 00:21:45,760 Speaker 2: It's we got the space. Uh. She would take our 443 00:21:45,840 --> 00:21:48,440 Speaker 2: clothes out of the dryer just to leave them in 444 00:21:48,520 --> 00:21:52,480 Speaker 2: a pile somewhere random to get dirty. I don't know 445 00:21:52,520 --> 00:21:57,240 Speaker 2: if that's I'm enraged. I'm enraged. She would wake my 446 00:21:57,320 --> 00:22:00,280 Speaker 2: partner up when she knows he works thirds, which is 447 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:03,440 Speaker 2: overnight shifts for people who don't know she wasn't taking 448 00:22:03,800 --> 00:22:06,119 Speaker 2: her dog out properly or giving it baths, causing the 449 00:22:06,160 --> 00:22:09,439 Speaker 2: poor thing to stink and scratch until it made massive sores. 450 00:22:09,800 --> 00:22:12,480 Speaker 2: Not to mention the numerous times she would walk down 451 00:22:13,320 --> 00:22:17,240 Speaker 2: she would oh, she would talk down to me with 452 00:22:17,400 --> 00:22:21,040 Speaker 2: complete disrespect like I was ten. Again, that's the problem 453 00:22:21,080 --> 00:22:24,520 Speaker 2: with living with mom. We got in a massive fight 454 00:22:24,600 --> 00:22:26,879 Speaker 2: after she walked in on us getting into the shower 455 00:22:26,960 --> 00:22:30,160 Speaker 2: and literally eyed my partner up and down, then giggled 456 00:22:30,480 --> 00:22:33,680 Speaker 2: saying there's pizza if you want some before closing the door. 457 00:22:34,680 --> 00:22:38,080 Speaker 2: Ah dude. He was in nothing but boxers and felt 458 00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:42,200 Speaker 2: so humiliated and objectified. When I confronted her about knocking 459 00:22:42,400 --> 00:22:46,000 Speaker 2: first when she's done this before, she gave me that 460 00:22:46,080 --> 00:22:48,600 Speaker 2: look parents give their kids when they're warning them they 461 00:22:48,720 --> 00:22:51,840 Speaker 2: crossed a line. I was beyond angry as now My 462 00:22:51,960 --> 00:22:54,800 Speaker 2: partner was scared to even change clothes without the bedroom 463 00:22:54,840 --> 00:22:58,720 Speaker 2: door a lock. Oh my goodness, this is like, that's 464 00:22:58,760 --> 00:23:03,439 Speaker 2: a insane in vain Yeah, invasion of the mom's moms 465 00:23:03,480 --> 00:23:07,840 Speaker 2: from Mars mom Villa and Illa question the mom is 466 00:23:08,040 --> 00:23:11,240 Speaker 2: not paying rent? Yeah, I think Mom's still trying to 467 00:23:11,240 --> 00:23:13,560 Speaker 2: get on her feet, and it's been what a month, 468 00:23:13,680 --> 00:23:16,159 Speaker 2: and this is what has unfolded. I don't like it. 469 00:23:16,560 --> 00:23:19,440 Speaker 2: I don't like it, especially the dog stuff. If nothing 470 00:23:19,520 --> 00:23:21,480 Speaker 2: bothers me more than if you have a animal that 471 00:23:21,560 --> 00:23:25,560 Speaker 2: you cannot take care of. Yeah, like, just don't have it. Yep. 472 00:23:27,600 --> 00:23:29,760 Speaker 2: My partner and I had been working a while before 473 00:23:29,840 --> 00:23:34,359 Speaker 2: the bathroom incident, and as much as I didn't want to, 474 00:23:34,600 --> 00:23:37,679 Speaker 2: I told Mother Mary she couldn't stay with us much longer. 475 00:23:38,200 --> 00:23:41,120 Speaker 2: She didn't have to pay for anything anymore, just your food. 476 00:23:41,440 --> 00:23:45,280 Speaker 2: My partner and I would, and my partner and I 477 00:23:45,320 --> 00:23:48,120 Speaker 2: would help her find a place. I spent two months 478 00:23:48,160 --> 00:23:50,800 Speaker 2: looking for places she could easily afford close by that 479 00:23:50,920 --> 00:23:52,359 Speaker 2: she liked and we're pet friendly. 480 00:23:52,680 --> 00:23:55,160 Speaker 1: I did all the work for her, she just needed 481 00:23:55,160 --> 00:23:57,359 Speaker 1: to pick some and apply. But no matter what I found, 482 00:23:57,440 --> 00:23:59,640 Speaker 1: she came up with excuses as to why she didn't 483 00:23:59,640 --> 00:24:00,840 Speaker 1: want to. Now. 484 00:24:00,880 --> 00:24:02,840 Speaker 2: The blow up that pushed me to the edge was 485 00:24:02,880 --> 00:24:05,639 Speaker 2: when I was out with my bestie and my partner 486 00:24:05,720 --> 00:24:08,880 Speaker 2: called me after stepping in a pile left by the dog. 487 00:24:09,320 --> 00:24:12,480 Speaker 1: Because Mother Mary was in the room. It was in 488 00:24:12,600 --> 00:24:15,560 Speaker 1: her room and locked the dog out all day. 489 00:24:16,880 --> 00:24:19,920 Speaker 2: So I called her, telling her what happened and to 490 00:24:20,000 --> 00:24:22,879 Speaker 2: please start taking care of her dog properly. I was 491 00:24:22,920 --> 00:24:25,439 Speaker 2: tired of having to clean carpets and furniture. She went 492 00:24:25,520 --> 00:24:28,800 Speaker 2: on a long tirade about how I'm always yelling at 493 00:24:28,880 --> 00:24:30,840 Speaker 2: her and treating her like crap, and I was so 494 00:24:31,000 --> 00:24:35,600 Speaker 2: ungrateful and never help her with anything. What about you 495 00:24:36,080 --> 00:24:40,240 Speaker 2: not being homeless? Excuse me, I've I've kept you off 496 00:24:40,320 --> 00:24:44,480 Speaker 2: the streets, mother Mary. How about I put you back there, yeah, 497 00:24:44,560 --> 00:24:46,600 Speaker 2: where I found you, put you in the sewer with 498 00:24:46,680 --> 00:24:49,080 Speaker 2: your best friend, the clown from it. Yeah, because you're 499 00:24:49,119 --> 00:24:52,159 Speaker 2: both monsters and the poop and yeah, and then the 500 00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:56,719 Speaker 2: poopy doodoo did down there? Come on? Oh goodness, okay, uh, 501 00:24:57,680 --> 00:25:01,439 Speaker 2: I had enough and lost it. I brought up everything 502 00:25:01,560 --> 00:25:04,200 Speaker 2: she did when we asked her so many times not 503 00:25:04,560 --> 00:25:07,200 Speaker 2: to that how she talks to me is not okay. 504 00:25:07,480 --> 00:25:10,320 Speaker 2: That I'm her child, not her property, and she constantly 505 00:25:10,359 --> 00:25:13,280 Speaker 2: disrespects me and my partner. I wasn't dealing with it anymore, 506 00:25:13,480 --> 00:25:16,359 Speaker 2: and she had two weeks to move out. All she 507 00:25:16,440 --> 00:25:20,600 Speaker 2: said back was that I'm an ungrateful b word and 508 00:25:20,760 --> 00:25:22,879 Speaker 2: she never did any of that, and that I just 509 00:25:23,119 --> 00:25:25,600 Speaker 2: hate her. I hung up on her and cried in 510 00:25:25,680 --> 00:25:29,400 Speaker 2: my friend's car. The whole way home. What a classic move, 511 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,639 Speaker 2: being like, actually, you just hate me and you're not 512 00:25:32,760 --> 00:25:33,359 Speaker 2: a good person. 513 00:25:33,680 --> 00:25:33,920 Speaker 1: Dude. 514 00:25:34,720 --> 00:25:38,840 Speaker 2: Oh god, come on, all right, So here's we got her. 515 00:25:38,960 --> 00:25:42,240 Speaker 2: She packed her things with surprising Honestly, I'm surprised. 516 00:25:43,080 --> 00:25:46,280 Speaker 1: I'm surprised. She packed her things and moved out two 517 00:25:46,280 --> 00:25:48,280 Speaker 1: weeks later and blocked me on everything. 518 00:25:48,800 --> 00:25:51,320 Speaker 2: I recently found out through a stepsister that she's been 519 00:25:51,400 --> 00:25:55,560 Speaker 2: on Facebook, TikTok, pretty much anywhere she can bad mouthing me, 520 00:25:55,960 --> 00:26:00,399 Speaker 2: but leaving out everything that she did. Of course, that's 521 00:26:00,440 --> 00:26:04,600 Speaker 2: what you do. Brother. Wow mother, wow, wow, wow, wow wow. 522 00:26:05,240 --> 00:26:08,200 Speaker 2: Many of my family members are on her side, but 523 00:26:08,359 --> 00:26:10,359 Speaker 2: there are a lot that grew up with her that 524 00:26:10,520 --> 00:26:13,240 Speaker 2: have defended me since I can't see anything she's saying 525 00:26:13,520 --> 00:26:18,720 Speaker 2: and they know her and her antics. So am I 526 00:26:18,760 --> 00:26:20,600 Speaker 2: an a hole for kicking her out after everything that 527 00:26:20,680 --> 00:26:23,560 Speaker 2: she did? And we do have relevant comments, but we 528 00:26:23,600 --> 00:26:25,000 Speaker 2: don't need to read them right now, because. 529 00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:29,719 Speaker 1: No, dude, here's what I'm Thank god she's packing up, 530 00:26:30,359 --> 00:26:33,320 Speaker 1: But what if she's just like, no, I'm just gonna stay. 531 00:26:34,000 --> 00:26:35,800 Speaker 2: Yeah, she like packed all her stuff up and then 532 00:26:35,880 --> 00:26:41,600 Speaker 2: moved into Op's room. Oh ye, listen, that power move, right, 533 00:26:41,640 --> 00:26:42,720 Speaker 2: there that could happen. 534 00:26:42,760 --> 00:26:44,920 Speaker 1: And then she has her dog do a line of 535 00:26:45,040 --> 00:26:48,280 Speaker 1: crap outside the door so that way they don't Dare she. 536 00:26:48,480 --> 00:26:51,360 Speaker 2: Trained her dog to do tactical poops? Yes, a force 537 00:26:51,440 --> 00:26:55,320 Speaker 2: field of dookie, just completely a claymore mine if you will. Yeah, 538 00:26:56,920 --> 00:27:01,040 Speaker 2: weaponized dog doodoo. Wow. So we've got relevant comments. Do 539 00:27:01,119 --> 00:27:02,800 Speaker 2: we have an update? Okay, we do not. Let's let's 540 00:27:02,840 --> 00:27:06,480 Speaker 2: look at some of these comments. See it from Poppy's garden. 541 00:27:06,520 --> 00:27:11,880 Speaker 2: I almost said poopies guarden, not the a hole. Something 542 00:27:11,960 --> 00:27:16,720 Speaker 2: I'm wondering about since you stated that your sister said you, guys, 543 00:27:17,119 --> 00:27:20,600 Speaker 2: your guy's mother was going to therapy. Could that just 544 00:27:20,920 --> 00:27:23,800 Speaker 2: have been a lie to get you to take her in? Oh? 545 00:27:23,880 --> 00:27:26,840 Speaker 2: That is a good question because it really seems like 546 00:27:27,160 --> 00:27:30,040 Speaker 2: she didn't do much growing if she was going to therapy. Yep. 547 00:27:31,560 --> 00:27:34,920 Speaker 2: Narc parents don't treat their golden child like the way 548 00:27:35,000 --> 00:27:38,040 Speaker 2: you were treated. They need lifelong therapy and to build 549 00:27:38,119 --> 00:27:40,359 Speaker 2: with the people they hurt. This is why I am 550 00:27:40,480 --> 00:27:43,040 Speaker 2: side eyeing your sister and your mom. Good on you 551 00:27:43,160 --> 00:27:46,560 Speaker 2: for standing up for yourself. It hurts. Sometimes it's better 552 00:27:46,680 --> 00:27:48,920 Speaker 2: to close that chapter of your life and let go 553 00:27:49,040 --> 00:27:51,960 Speaker 2: of those who cause pain. Do not let your sister 554 00:27:52,119 --> 00:27:54,760 Speaker 2: or anyone else pressure or bully you into taking her 555 00:27:54,800 --> 00:27:58,160 Speaker 2: in or having a relationship with her. In this case, 556 00:27:58,240 --> 00:28:01,320 Speaker 2: I agree, Yeah, I kind of go on like the 557 00:28:02,280 --> 00:28:04,240 Speaker 2: with it when it comes to parents, not even for 558 00:28:04,320 --> 00:28:07,159 Speaker 2: their sake, but for our sake, Right, it's like not 559 00:28:07,359 --> 00:28:09,480 Speaker 2: to cut them off all the way so that we 560 00:28:09,560 --> 00:28:11,399 Speaker 2: can still have that peak because there's nothing we can 561 00:28:11,440 --> 00:28:14,480 Speaker 2: do about it. Our parents are our parents. And instead 562 00:28:14,480 --> 00:28:15,919 Speaker 2: of just being like, well, I'm gonna cut them off, 563 00:28:15,960 --> 00:28:17,600 Speaker 2: it's like, really, all that does, I feel is hurt 564 00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,760 Speaker 2: you more down the line than anything in a lot 565 00:28:20,800 --> 00:28:23,399 Speaker 2: of cases, not every case, but in a lot of cases, 566 00:28:24,960 --> 00:28:27,840 Speaker 2: and clearly like this was an incredibly toxic relationship, and 567 00:28:27,920 --> 00:28:31,240 Speaker 2: she was just just taking advantage of your your kindness 568 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:34,320 Speaker 2: and the opportunity that you gave her at literally every 569 00:28:34,359 --> 00:28:34,960 Speaker 2: moment that she could. 570 00:28:35,040 --> 00:28:37,160 Speaker 1: Yeah, I feel like she kind of gets like joy 571 00:28:37,320 --> 00:28:40,720 Speaker 1: out of being a menace. Yeah, the mom the thing 572 00:28:40,800 --> 00:28:41,040 Speaker 1: with the. 573 00:28:41,160 --> 00:28:43,240 Speaker 2: Yeah walking in on the husband, her and the husband 574 00:28:43,280 --> 00:28:48,040 Speaker 2: getting in the shower and being right, yeah, you're gross, 575 00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:50,960 Speaker 2: and uh, there's like food in the oven or whatever. 576 00:28:51,520 --> 00:28:55,040 Speaker 1: I got some extra extra small salami on this pizza 577 00:28:55,080 --> 00:28:57,720 Speaker 1: out here in case you need anymore, I have. 578 00:28:58,240 --> 00:29:05,000 Speaker 2: Very small pepperone eats a extress modude. Oh no, okay, 579 00:29:05,120 --> 00:29:08,800 Speaker 2: and we have one one more comment from Shepherd Cream, 580 00:29:08,840 --> 00:29:15,080 Speaker 2: who's actually the op. My sister tried multiple times to 581 00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:18,200 Speaker 2: get me to change my mind, but I wouldn't good good, 582 00:29:18,880 --> 00:29:22,000 Speaker 2: like Dusty always says, my sister only wanted me to 583 00:29:22,160 --> 00:29:24,400 Speaker 2: change my mind so she wouldn't have to deal with 584 00:29:24,800 --> 00:29:27,600 Speaker 2: mother Mary. That's right. I think she's trying to take 585 00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:30,040 Speaker 2: you take her, yes, you take her, and she's she's 586 00:29:30,120 --> 00:29:32,240 Speaker 2: the good one. She's the one that she treats even better. 587 00:29:32,360 --> 00:29:34,800 Speaker 1: So for the good sister to be like, I can't 588 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:36,640 Speaker 1: even deal with this woman, get her out of here, 589 00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:40,640 Speaker 1: she's got to be absolutely so freaking true. If the 590 00:29:40,800 --> 00:29:43,120 Speaker 1: if the golden child, the one that she's always like 591 00:29:43,240 --> 00:29:45,800 Speaker 1: favored and given everything to, if she's like I can't 592 00:29:45,840 --> 00:29:48,920 Speaker 1: deal with this, and you're the not favorite child, Yeah, 593 00:29:49,280 --> 00:29:50,200 Speaker 1: you're a goner. 594 00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:55,640 Speaker 2: That's and to think that you literally saved her from homelessness, yes, 595 00:29:56,080 --> 00:29:59,520 Speaker 2: like and she just kind of complete like it was 596 00:30:00,000 --> 00:30:03,880 Speaker 2: I could just completely expected. But I think what you 597 00:30:04,040 --> 00:30:06,480 Speaker 2: need a punishment that does fit the crime. 598 00:30:07,080 --> 00:30:10,400 Speaker 1: And if you go and completely disrespect and up in 599 00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:12,960 Speaker 1: someone's like living situation that they. 600 00:30:12,960 --> 00:30:15,400 Speaker 2: Provided for you, then you don't get to live with 601 00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:18,440 Speaker 2: them anymore. And honestly, like the amount of what it 602 00:30:18,520 --> 00:30:20,960 Speaker 2: was like, I guess a month or more than a month, 603 00:30:21,000 --> 00:30:24,320 Speaker 2: because then she heard the two weeks after that. That's 604 00:30:24,800 --> 00:30:27,240 Speaker 2: kind of gracious in terms of like coming in and 605 00:30:27,320 --> 00:30:28,920 Speaker 2: immediately being a complete menace. 606 00:30:29,040 --> 00:30:31,800 Speaker 1: Totally, Yeah, totally. I don't know what the I guess 607 00:30:31,840 --> 00:30:35,160 Speaker 1: the thing is that the whatever their eviction laws. 608 00:30:34,960 --> 00:30:37,920 Speaker 2: Are, well, there are other resources for mother Mary to 609 00:30:37,960 --> 00:30:40,600 Speaker 2: take advantage of if she really but it sounds like 610 00:30:40,680 --> 00:30:43,680 Speaker 2: she's like lazy and projecting because on her daughter was 611 00:30:43,760 --> 00:30:45,680 Speaker 2: literally helping her find another place and then was like 612 00:30:46,080 --> 00:30:49,600 Speaker 2: you just hate me and you haven't helped me with anything. Yeah, 613 00:30:49,920 --> 00:30:50,560 Speaker 2: I don't lock it. 614 00:30:50,800 --> 00:30:52,760 Speaker 1: I was saying on op side of like if she 615 00:30:52,880 --> 00:30:57,560 Speaker 1: didn't want to leave, like what legally, how long would 616 00:30:57,560 --> 00:30:59,400 Speaker 1: the mom be a thing? 617 00:30:59,560 --> 00:31:01,480 Speaker 2: You know what I mean? Because like I don't I 618 00:31:01,520 --> 00:31:03,640 Speaker 2: don't think. I don't think you get those rights until 619 00:31:03,640 --> 00:31:05,880 Speaker 2: you've been in a place for at least six months. 620 00:31:06,040 --> 00:31:08,920 Speaker 1: Yeah, it's it's it's it's it changes state to state, 621 00:31:08,920 --> 00:31:11,120 Speaker 1: and I think some of them are changed. 622 00:31:11,200 --> 00:31:15,080 Speaker 2: California was notoriously difficult to do that for like squatters 623 00:31:15,080 --> 00:31:17,520 Speaker 2: and stuff. But there's been a thing that's changed now 624 00:31:18,120 --> 00:31:21,040 Speaker 2: where you can submit a report directly to the Sheriff's 625 00:31:21,040 --> 00:31:23,640 Speaker 2: department and then they can go. They you don't have 626 00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:26,640 Speaker 2: to go through the entire eviction process because like now 627 00:31:26,680 --> 00:31:29,440 Speaker 2: you have it on paper that there's this report directly 628 00:31:29,480 --> 00:31:32,040 Speaker 2: to the Sheriff's department that they can act on. There 629 00:31:32,080 --> 00:31:34,840 Speaker 2: you go. And that's a new development, recent development. If 630 00:31:34,880 --> 00:31:36,800 Speaker 2: you own property in California and you are dealing with 631 00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:38,560 Speaker 2: a squatter, call the sheriff. 632 00:31:39,320 --> 00:31:43,560 Speaker 1: Dude, unrelated zuper super helpful advice from Dakota. 633 00:31:43,960 --> 00:31:45,400 Speaker 2: I went on a rabbit hole a couple of weeks 634 00:31:45,440 --> 00:31:47,680 Speaker 2: ago and it was that's where I ended it. Dude, 635 00:31:47,720 --> 00:31:48,080 Speaker 2: here we go. 636 00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:50,760 Speaker 1: Good to know, okay, and we got some FI file 637 00:31:50,880 --> 00:31:53,000 Speaker 1: donas to close this out, death rage, Thanks for the 638 00:31:53,080 --> 00:31:55,960 Speaker 1: two bucks. Can we get a short okay story time 639 00:31:56,000 --> 00:31:59,840 Speaker 1: from y'all. I'm trying to think about I'll think of 640 00:32:00,080 --> 00:32:04,160 Speaker 1: by the end of these do't knows? Oh king ranking raking, 641 00:32:04,400 --> 00:32:07,600 Speaker 1: Uh say again rah rah ra king. 642 00:32:07,720 --> 00:32:10,760 Speaker 2: Thank you. Let Riley p freely on the plants. Know 643 00:32:11,120 --> 00:32:13,560 Speaker 2: it's all. It's what we do from rural areas. I 644 00:32:13,640 --> 00:32:18,960 Speaker 2: would do it more if I was a man. Haha. No, look, 645 00:32:19,080 --> 00:32:22,200 Speaker 2: I I agree with the sentiment. As someone who was also. 646 00:32:22,400 --> 00:32:26,480 Speaker 1: Born and raised Midwest, I understand taking a leak underneath 647 00:32:26,560 --> 00:32:27,240 Speaker 1: the starry sky. 648 00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:29,760 Speaker 2: Okay, there's nothing wrong with that, but it's not in 649 00:32:29,840 --> 00:32:33,760 Speaker 2: our backyard, not in that the backyard is it's it's 650 00:32:35,960 --> 00:32:39,640 Speaker 2: finished backyard, California's finished. It's good. 651 00:32:39,720 --> 00:32:42,600 Speaker 1: It's good if it's different, if there's like, you know, 652 00:32:42,760 --> 00:32:44,800 Speaker 1: a dirt patch back there. 653 00:32:45,240 --> 00:32:47,600 Speaker 2: Okay, go pee in the corner. He doesn't know what 654 00:32:47,680 --> 00:32:49,120 Speaker 2: he's talking about. I'm not here for it. 655 00:32:49,800 --> 00:32:53,560 Speaker 1: Uh, Scary's cherry gifting one membership. Let's freaking go love 656 00:32:53,640 --> 00:32:57,800 Speaker 1: to see that. Uh, Grandma's got potty mouth gifted ten 657 00:32:58,560 --> 00:32:59,960 Speaker 1: freaking memberships. 658 00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:02,480 Speaker 2: That's right, that's right. Hot. 659 00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:05,040 Speaker 1: That ups because now ten people have joined the family. 660 00:33:05,360 --> 00:33:08,080 Speaker 1: Heck you goodness and Lily Ray thanks for being a 661 00:33:08,120 --> 00:33:11,120 Speaker 1: member for two months. Let's freaking go any other No, nos, 662 00:33:11,880 --> 00:33:14,560 Speaker 1: I think, Oh here we go. Uh, loly To, thanks 663 00:33:14,560 --> 00:33:17,960 Speaker 1: again for the five bucks. Oh yeah, John, please don't 664 00:33:18,160 --> 00:33:20,560 Speaker 1: tell me your family's okay. After Helene signed a concerned 665 00:33:20,560 --> 00:33:23,360 Speaker 1: Floridian weally to thank you for your concern, everyone is 666 00:33:23,360 --> 00:33:26,240 Speaker 1: perfectly fine. Dacote actually came up the other day and 667 00:33:26,320 --> 00:33:28,120 Speaker 1: he was like, hey, is your family Okay? He's like, 668 00:33:28,240 --> 00:33:30,480 Speaker 1: hopefully I did just assault you with that question. I'm like, dude, 669 00:33:30,560 --> 00:33:33,040 Speaker 1: you're just being very kind and caring. Like he's nearly 670 00:33:33,080 --> 00:33:34,560 Speaker 1: like in the middle of work, and as soon as 671 00:33:34,600 --> 00:33:36,480 Speaker 1: he looked up, I was like, yeah, is your family 672 00:33:36,600 --> 00:33:37,000 Speaker 1: like good? 673 00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:38,080 Speaker 2: Like is your family dead? 674 00:33:39,360 --> 00:33:43,200 Speaker 1: They're alive and well, so thanks everyone for your concern globally, 675 00:33:44,040 --> 00:33:46,360 Speaker 1: and then five bucks from Scooter Kid. I recently watched 676 00:33:46,400 --> 00:33:48,920 Speaker 1: the Scream from a while back. Well, y'all were arguing 677 00:33:49,040 --> 00:33:51,760 Speaker 1: whether Scout is a real name or a nickname. Just 678 00:33:51,840 --> 00:33:54,280 Speaker 1: to settle the debate and let you know, my legal 679 00:33:54,440 --> 00:33:57,400 Speaker 1: name is Scout, passed this message to Sam. Yeah, I 680 00:33:57,440 --> 00:34:00,840 Speaker 1: feel like Scout's a great name. Scout feel like that's 681 00:34:00,960 --> 00:34:02,960 Speaker 1: like a is that a girl name? 682 00:34:03,160 --> 00:34:03,440 Speaker 2: Or is it? 683 00:34:04,640 --> 00:34:08,879 Speaker 1: I think it's famously from the the book Oh my god, 684 00:34:09,200 --> 00:34:13,879 Speaker 1: kill that's right, that's where it's like famously for I'm 685 00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:16,840 Speaker 1: not going to respect any comments that Riley puts on 686 00:34:16,920 --> 00:34:19,960 Speaker 1: the screen to screen to further his own cause I will. 687 00:34:20,080 --> 00:34:22,200 Speaker 1: I refuse to read them. I refuse to read all 688 00:34:22,239 --> 00:34:26,000 Speaker 1: of them. But guys, uh, that is tragically our time. 689 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:28,680 Speaker 2: But really are we doing? 690 00:34:28,800 --> 00:34:28,920 Speaker 1: Uh? 691 00:34:29,160 --> 00:34:31,719 Speaker 2: We can, we can do a little secret streams if 692 00:34:31,760 --> 00:34:32,360 Speaker 2: you guys. 693 00:34:32,560 --> 00:34:34,919 Speaker 1: Want to stick around, We're going to do a little 694 00:34:34,960 --> 00:34:37,880 Speaker 1: members only for you. So you can go to YouTube 695 00:34:38,040 --> 00:34:39,719 Speaker 1: click the joint button to become a member if you 696 00:34:39,719 --> 00:34:42,759 Speaker 1: want to see us. But if you love us, make 697 00:34:42,800 --> 00:34:43,800 Speaker 1: sure to sub subscribe. 698 00:34:44,239 --> 00:34:47,680 Speaker 2: We love you and seorrow.