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Speaker 1: Coming on, Hold on, tight, we gotta fun you here.

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Speaker 1: It is a Strawberry letter subject subject he loves to

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Speaker 1: do it. That is the subject. Let's get into it

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Speaker 1: all right, he finally Hello, Stephen Shirley. I am a

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Speaker 1: forty three year old female and I've always dated older men. Well,

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Speaker 1: about eight months ago, I started dating a thirty six

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Speaker 1: decided to be intimate. Now here's the problem. I guess

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Speaker 1: since he's younger than me, he wants to have sex

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Speaker 1: or make love three to four times a night, seven

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Speaker 1: days a week. I work nights and he works days.

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Speaker 1: When I get off, I'm tired. I have tried to

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Speaker 1: talk to him about this and told him that I

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Speaker 1: need my rest. His response was that we should do

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Speaker 1: quickie sometimes instead of full sessions. This was not what

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Speaker 1: I wanted to hear. This was not it. Can you

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Speaker 1: give me please some advice on this situation. This is

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Speaker 1: running the love I have for him. This is ruining

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Speaker 1: the love I have for him because I can't take

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Speaker 1: all of the bedroom action. Should I break up with

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Speaker 1: this younger man? Please help? WHOA be careful what you

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Speaker 1: wish for, because you you you're not. You didn't. I

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Speaker 1: guess one you didn't tell us why you and the

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Speaker 1: older man broke up. But you guys were no longer together.

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Speaker 1: You probably should have stayed with him. Maybe he wasn't

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Speaker 1: doing it enough for you, but you should have stuck

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Speaker 1: with the older guy. I mean, this is too much,

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Speaker 1: clearly for you, for anyone. I don't even see how

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Speaker 1: the thirty six year old can handle this. You guys

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Speaker 1: are just sexually incompatible. Three to four times a night,

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Speaker 1: seven days a week. Yeah, I see your lips moving,

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Speaker 1: but I don't believe anything that's coming out of your mouth.

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Speaker 1: I really don't this the game. It's a lot for

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Speaker 1: any It's a lot for any human. I'm just sorry, Steve,

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Speaker 1: your nerves, remember your nerves. It's just a lot for anyone,

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Speaker 1: you know. I don't know how much longer you're gonna

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Speaker 1: be able to keep up. You're already tired. Have you

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Speaker 1: talked to him about it? If you have, he probably

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Speaker 1: doesn't want to hear it. And if you're not doing it,

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Speaker 1: he's probably gonna go out and get it to someplace else.

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Speaker 1: You guys are simply sexually incompatible. It is too much

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Speaker 1: for you. Uh. And unless you you know, want to

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Speaker 1: adhere to what he's doing unless he brings it down.

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Speaker 1: That's the only way this is gonna work. I don't.

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Speaker 1: I don't see that. I don't see this relationship working.

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Speaker 1: I really don't. Yeah, you might have to break up

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Speaker 1: with this younger man because you can't handle him. Simple

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Speaker 1: as that, Steve, O, we come back. I already know

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Speaker 1: what's I'm straight cracks back all right. Steve is gonna

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Speaker 1: have part two of his response to today's Strawberry Lett

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Speaker 1: when we come back. Oh, part well, that's right alright,

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Speaker 1: coming up in about twenty minutes. I'm excited about this.

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Speaker 1: A girl to J p Henson will be our special guest. Yes,

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Speaker 1: but right now, Steve, come on, it's up to you. Well,

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Speaker 1: is afforded three year old female and she always dated

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Speaker 1: older men in the past, but now she didn't dip

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Speaker 1: down into the pool and started dating and doing at

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Speaker 1: thirty six. After seven months of dating, they decided to

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Speaker 1: be intimate. Yeah. Well, I guess since he's younger than me,

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Speaker 1: he wants to have sex or make a little three

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Speaker 1: to four times a night, seven days a week. All right,

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Speaker 1: I work nights, he worked days. When I get off

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Speaker 1: I'm tired. I've tried to talk to this boy, but

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Speaker 1: I hadn't told him I needing damn rest his response

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Speaker 1: full session. That was not what I wanted to hear.

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Speaker 1: Can you please give me some advice on this situation.

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Speaker 1: This is ruined the love I have for him because

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Speaker 1: I can't take all this being room actions. Should I

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Speaker 1: break up with this younger man? Please help? Well, let's go.

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Speaker 1: Let's do some numbers. Right you're dating a man to

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Speaker 1: seven years younger than you. He thirty six, I'm six.

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Speaker 1: I remember them days, but I will not go three

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Speaker 1: four times a night, seven days a week. Ridiculous. Where

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Speaker 1: does he work? That is his goals in life? Do

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Speaker 1: we have anything he won't other than some tale? Right now?

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Speaker 1: He just got to be your one am in life?

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Speaker 1: When you got to have a three folk time week,

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Speaker 1: seven days a week, and let's do it. If it

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Speaker 1: four times a week, four times a night times, ain't

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Speaker 1: nothing left. Boy is in bad shape. Now let's go

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Speaker 1: into this party right here when I get off. I'm tired,

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Speaker 1: so I talked to him about it. And I told

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Speaker 1: him that I need my rest. His responsible. We are

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Speaker 1: we should just do quickly sometimes instead of full session.

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Speaker 1: But what we're learning is that he has no friends

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Speaker 1: of cutting back. We're gonna do it the same amount

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Speaker 1: This is going to happen. Now. That ain't what I

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Speaker 1: This is ruining the love out. He I can't take

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Speaker 1: all this bad room action. Okay, well you can't take

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Speaker 1: Please help? Answer to this is yes, you must break

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Speaker 1: up night. Listen to me. Ain't no, you don't need

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Speaker 1: no one last night. You got this now here. You

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Speaker 1: need one more night for that because that's more time.

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Speaker 1: Normally you will hear people say, well that's just one

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Speaker 1: more time, see one more night with this boy. Hen

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Speaker 1: lose your job because this boy don't know. He don't

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Speaker 1: have no time. Now. A couple of things is happening here.

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Speaker 1: He's first of all, is this is new to him? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: this is like a new toy to him, and he

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Speaker 1: ain't got past the newness of it. See. Plus, let

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Speaker 1: me tell you something. The letter that I saw after

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Speaker 1: seven months a date right there, You hail a man

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Speaker 1: out for seven months full trying. He making up for

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Speaker 1: Now he in that backtrack. This is called retroactive. That's

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Speaker 1: what this is. This is I'm now I'm getting it

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Speaker 1: for what I should have got back there. So Duke

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Speaker 1: could be going through the makeup period in his mind.

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Speaker 1: Now you can have one more conversation with him and say,

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Speaker 1: us to remain together, this is what we're gonna have

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Speaker 1: to do. We're going to work this out because of

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Speaker 1: our shift. Different is different. I would night you were

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Speaker 1: days blah blah blah blah blah. We need some time off. Now,

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Speaker 1: will he go somewhere else? Probably? So got to because

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Speaker 1: jack Rabbit Johnson's committing what's jack rabbit, jack Rabbit Johnson committed.

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Speaker 1: Jack Rabbit Johnson's committed to doing what he do. And

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Speaker 1: now you have a situation. Now I don't agree that

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Speaker 1: you should date older men, but I think you're gonna have.

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Speaker 1: Then you went through a seven month here, so you

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Speaker 1: bring them me in slowly. You held him off for

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Speaker 1: seven months. You gotta walk here slowly. Now what's gonna

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Speaker 1: be hard for you to do is you can't backtrack

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Speaker 1: and start reducing the amount of sex you have because

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Speaker 1: he gonna know you can't backtrack it. So now that

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Speaker 1: she's up to three or four times a night, she's

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Speaker 1: got to stay there. Is that what you're saying, You're

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Speaker 1: gonna have to start missing night? Yeah, coming up missing? Yeah,

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Speaker 1: bull shift not to go. See what you're gonna have

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Speaker 1: to do is you're gonna have to take off some night.

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Speaker 1: You had to come up with some excuse. You got

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Speaker 1: to get into some type of program. You can get

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Speaker 1: away from it far a six weeks. If you're in

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Speaker 1: a rehab programs you take, Yeah, you witness detection program,

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Speaker 1: that's another one. You could attempt to kill him and

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Speaker 1: go on the run. That's another way to get away. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you can get yourself into a self induced coma after

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Speaker 1: to put you in it. You could do something. But

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Speaker 1: if you keep going in there four nights, four times

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Speaker 1: trying to pop up too much. That's eighty four times

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Speaker 1: a month on the lowing eight. But don't have all

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Speaker 1: the old man. Don't come over here with that. You're

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Speaker 1: gonna get the same damn thing. Okay, that's the one

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Speaker 1: tail on the high. You could do eighty four. All Right,

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Speaker 1: we gotta go, we gotta get out of here. Email

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Speaker 1: as their Instagram. I think the real problem is he

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Speaker 1: ain't that damn good. No, he's not. No, really close.

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Speaker 1: The four times or night you're working, you you're doing

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Speaker 1: something that ain't effect You're listening to the Steve Harvey

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