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Speaker 1: with a word from our sponsors. I want my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: to get back with his ex wife. That makes no

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Speaker 1: sense to me, okay, I twenty seven female, met my

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Speaker 1: boyfriend's thirty five male ex wife twenty nine female, and

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Speaker 1: I want them to get back together. Explain, Explain. I

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Speaker 1: have been with my boyfriend for nearly a year now,

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Speaker 1: let's call him Danny, and he never talks or nearly

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Speaker 1: touches a topic of his ex wife. Mrr. This comes

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Speaker 1: about them is that they have a five year old

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Speaker 1: son whom he visits or brings to his home every weekend.

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Speaker 1: That's the only thing you know. And they have a

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Speaker 1: child together, that's your like that child kind.

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Speaker 2: Of I'm still speechless on like the opening, We're so lost,

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Speaker 1: His son graduated from daycare recently, and Meurr invited us

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Speaker 1: for dinner as per their child's request. Danny asked me

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Speaker 1: to come, and although I hesitated at first, he insisted

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Speaker 1: on bringing me. Saturday came and we went to Merr's

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Speaker 1: house for dinner. I expected her to be a witch

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Speaker 1: to me, but she welcomed us warmly. She's casual, very polite,

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Speaker 1: and even introduced me to their child. Her house is

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Speaker 1: very welcoming, clean and smells flagrant that I meant to say, fragrance.

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Speaker 1: What did you say? I said flagrant?

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Speaker 2: I was gonna say, it smells like Japanese cherry blossom

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Speaker 2: up in here.

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Speaker 1: Scent.

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Speaker 2: That's a set, my brother. Did you guys not know? Well,

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Speaker 2: maybe you did. I worked at Bath and Bodyworks for

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Speaker 2: like a little bit.

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Speaker 1: Do you know the sense? Oh? I do? Brother, link

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Speaker 1: me with the sense. We'll get into that. We'll get

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Speaker 1: to that later. I know the secrets. It's a home.

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Speaker 1: I asked her if I could do something to help

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Speaker 1: her prepare the dinner while their child and Danny were playing.

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Speaker 1: She told me that she could manage and told me

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Speaker 1: had dinner and she and Danny were very casual, not

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Speaker 1: too friendly, but not too cold. They're not too distant either.

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Speaker 1: Murr didn't say anything that would make me uncomfortable, but

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Speaker 1: rather ask questions about me and anything you could talk

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Speaker 1: about during a first meeting. I know she's a good mother,

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Speaker 1: as their son Ian is very polite, giggly, and well behaved.

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Speaker 1: I noticed how both of them would answer every question

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Speaker 1: noticed how Danny looked at Merr. There's sadness and love.

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Speaker 1: I know this as he never looks at me this way.

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Speaker 1: Uh oh wow, whoa kean. I think we're fortunately or

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Speaker 1: unfortunately beginning to get some of the context we were

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Speaker 1: begging for earlier, more more, more more Well, when we

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Speaker 1: when I mentioned I live alone and always eat takeaway

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Speaker 1: had such a beautiful wife and a playful, well mannered son.

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Speaker 1: What happened? Danny pulled over and I thought he'd want

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Speaker 2: Oh, that's more context that. Uh, that's kind of wow.

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Speaker 1: What a guy, Kean. I had to get long. Oh.

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Speaker 1: I like it when you get long John Silver, because

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Speaker 1: this is shocking information.

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Speaker 2: I'm shocked. Considered me shocked. We're scrunching back in here. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: Wow, here we go. The girl he slept with happened

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Speaker 2: Wait wait, huh wait wait wait wait, yes, you heard

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Speaker 1: The friend of Murr filmed them doing the deed and

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Speaker 1: When Murr came home, she calmly told Danny she knew

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Speaker 1: She just flatly said, served the divorce papers and I'll

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Speaker 1: That's what I like to call emotional damage. Shout out

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Speaker 1: So I'm giving you evidence that he would do it.

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Speaker 1: I told you I tested him. I tested him for you.

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Speaker 1: Divorce him. Yeah, oh crazy. Yeah. Danny told me how

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Speaker 1: night before he left the house, he heard MRR crying

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Speaker 1: and also again, no wonder, OPI never knew the reason

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Speaker 1: or anything about MURR because this happened, and you should

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Speaker 2: No, that's too easy, John, it's too easy. He wanted

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Speaker 2: to start off with a clean slate.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, come on, I want my new partner to not

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Speaker 1: know about the horrible things I did in my earlier relationship,

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Speaker 1: because maybe then they'll know about the earlier things I

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Speaker 1: did in my earlier relationship. They won't stay with me

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Speaker 1: if I say that to them, maybe because it's.

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Speaker 2: A giant red flag. John, we don't want any red

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Speaker 1: This is me waving my pretend red flag, but it's

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Speaker 1: a denim tassel. Use your imagination. Well, he said, Murr

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Speaker 1: about taking care of in. Murr is literally an angel,

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Speaker 1: saint from heaven. She's a saint. And he messed this

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Speaker 1: all up. Boo this man Oooh, the question is, and

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Speaker 1: we're gonna pull. We're just gonna pull straight out of

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Speaker 1: the gate. Just let's just freaking do it divorce or not?

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Speaker 1: Should ope divorce Danny just right now? Should she just

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Speaker 1: do it?

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Speaker 2: I would know not this instant, right now, just to

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Speaker 2: see like what he I mean, he's telling you everything

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Speaker 2: that's going on, and like why didn't you tell me?

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Speaker 1: Then?

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Speaker 2: See, like because this was a terrible thing to do

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Speaker 2: and Oh it seems like loves him. Yeah, yeah, like

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Speaker 2: he's maybe changed, but who knows. But get their reasoning

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Speaker 2: and I also want to see the reasoning of what again?

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Speaker 2: The title is of what why op? He wants him

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Speaker 2: to get back with merr.

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Speaker 1: When's that gonna drop? We're gonna find out. I agree

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Speaker 1: with you, Keon, but chat might disagree. Put your votes

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Speaker 1: in now. She never nags at Danny and is very

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Speaker 1: He's apologizing to me and told me he likes me

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Speaker 1: and didn't use me. To move on. This whole reservation

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Speaker 1: I asked him why he cheated, and he said he

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Speaker 2: That chag Yes, this flips the story a little bit.

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Speaker 2: If it was, because again, did he know about the friend,

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Speaker 2: Like maybe the friend came on to him.

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Speaker 1: Again, I'm not defending anybody or of course, but if

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Speaker 1: she actually that and then also filmed it, Yeah, Okay,

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Speaker 1: that's worse than I say. That's the worst it can be. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: you guys know what I'm talking about. Well, after that night,

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Speaker 1: he's still the same, but I am not. I feel

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Speaker 1: like I'm in the way. Murr is still single. She

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Speaker 1: pursuing her law studies. I love Danny, but I could

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Speaker 1: not compete with Murr. Should I break up with him

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Speaker 1: and help him get back together? With Murr? We have

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Speaker 1: an update, but we have to talk about that crazy sentence.

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Speaker 1: WHOA WHOA? What? Brother? Talk to me. I'm baffled.

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Speaker 2: This is very that's a this is very weird to

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Speaker 2: handle because one Opie's comparing herself to Murr. Again, Murr

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Speaker 2: is great, but you're yourself are great to Opie, it

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Speaker 2: seems like that ship is sailed, jumping to like get

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Speaker 2: I don't know breaking up with Danny that seems reasonable,

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Speaker 2: but I don't know. You don't want to force something

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Speaker 2: that already was already split apart. Yeah, so what would

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Speaker 1: I mean, my brain would definitely not jump to oh,

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Speaker 1: I'm very weird. I would imagine Danny broke up with

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Speaker 1: which would be the most reasonable thing on planet Earth.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, you can't also just assume like, oh, they're a

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Speaker 2: No, Like, yes, it looks like Mr has the support

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Speaker 2: from Opie's boyfriend in this scenario. Right now, I don't

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Speaker 2: think they need to get back together. Maybe you break

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Speaker 2: help her out, but maybe find a date. But I

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Speaker 2: don't think this is very weird situation.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, if anything, just break up. Don't don't do anything

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Speaker 1: to try to get them back together, because guess what

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Speaker 1: if they want to get back together, it'll just happen.

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Speaker 2: Like, yeah, you can't force it, Yeah, don't don't. But

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Speaker 2: also don't put yourself down like that too. I don't

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Speaker 2: like how op is like I can't compare to Murr.

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Speaker 2: Murr is like Ean's better than me. I'm like, no,

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Speaker 2: don't do that. Murr is great, but you are great

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Speaker 2: as well.

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Speaker 1: Oh you deserve love too, You deserve a partnership too.

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Speaker 1: Maybe not with this freaking data guy.

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Speaker 2: Any Yeah, Danny's not great both of you, but you know,

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Speaker 2: work on that.

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Speaker 1: Yes, yes, but we have an update, brothers, let's tie

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Speaker 1: right in. I shared the information I knew and decided

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Speaker 1: to meet with MRR and ask her for her side

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Speaker 1: of the story. I also told her beforehand what the

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Speaker 1: on the spot. She agreed to it and we met

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Speaker 1: at her house. Danny knows nothing about it. I told

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Speaker 1: her why I was curious about it and what Danny

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Speaker 1: told me everything. Murr looks sad, but she told me

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Speaker 1: that as much as she wants a complete family for Ian,

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Speaker 2: Who are you talking to? You'll get in a mirror. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: It's kiky already to rumble. Yeah, that's crazy.

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Speaker 1: classic thing of like, oh, I don't know, want to

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Speaker 1: know if I'm gonna get the insane disease, but which

433
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Speaker 1: if he's a individual person, not in relationship or anything.

434
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Speaker 1: I'm like, Okay, fine, that's your prerogative. I don't know.

435
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Speaker 1: I'm actually a little bit, a little bit on the

436
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Speaker 1: fence because obviously it does affect his wife and their

437
00:22:39,480 --> 00:22:42,919
Speaker 1: future children. Yes, but also it is kind of I'm

438
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Speaker 1: a little bit torn at this second. I think I

439
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Speaker 1: need time to think on it, a little torn.

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Speaker 2: Gotcha, especially since he just found out.

441
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Speaker 1: I get it.

442
00:22:49,440 --> 00:22:52,080
Speaker 2: Yeah, and he's like, uh, this is a lot, but

443
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Speaker 2: it's one of those things that it does need to

444
00:22:53,920 --> 00:22:56,359
Speaker 2: be brought up like you should, Riley, What do.

445
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Speaker 1: He got He can't handle the truth? He can't handle

446
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Speaker 1: the truth? Get heard of her first, folks, Thank you,

447
00:23:01,920 --> 00:23:03,920
Speaker 1: Riley Bot, Thank you appreciate that.

448
00:23:04,200 --> 00:23:06,680
Speaker 2: It's not the disease I'm scared of, it's the not knowing.

449
00:23:07,000 --> 00:23:10,280
Speaker 2: If we know he'll get it, we can prepare financially, practically,

450
00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:13,640
Speaker 2: and emotionally. He says a positive test result will hold

451
00:23:13,720 --> 00:23:15,760
Speaker 2: him back from living his life. But I feel like

452
00:23:15,800 --> 00:23:18,640
Speaker 2: it's the opposite. How can we live with this giant

453
00:23:18,640 --> 00:23:22,040
Speaker 2: maybe looming over us? How can I make smart decisions

454
00:23:22,119 --> 00:23:24,840
Speaker 2: on where to live, how to budget, or even whether

455
00:23:24,960 --> 00:23:27,679
Speaker 2: or not to have biological children with this man? If

456
00:23:27,720 --> 00:23:31,080
Speaker 2: I'm allowed to have all the facts, so I've come

457
00:23:31,119 --> 00:23:33,560
Speaker 2: to decision that I have to break it off.

458
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Speaker 1: Oh wow, you didn't give him a chance?

459
00:23:37,920 --> 00:23:41,119
Speaker 2: Or like yeah, if he kept saying no, I get it,

460
00:23:41,160 --> 00:23:45,200
Speaker 2: but like it seems if this seems all very rash, Yeah,

461
00:23:45,240 --> 00:23:48,840
Speaker 2: I respect his decision, but I can't understand or accept it.

462
00:23:49,640 --> 00:23:51,760
Speaker 2: I have literally no one I could talk to about

463
00:23:51,760 --> 00:23:54,320
Speaker 2: this because it's his effing secret and.

464
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Speaker 1: Not mine to tell. And there is an edit.

465
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Speaker 2: I just want to clarify a few things up here.

466
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Speaker 2: I One, I would not leave him if he tested

467
00:24:01,200 --> 00:24:03,760
Speaker 2: positive for the defect. I would not leave him if

468
00:24:03,760 --> 00:24:05,959
Speaker 2: he got sick. I just want to plan for us

469
00:24:06,000 --> 00:24:08,320
Speaker 2: to be able to afford the best life and care

470
00:24:08,359 --> 00:24:11,359
Speaker 2: for him if he does, which means we'd have to

471
00:24:11,400 --> 00:24:12,840
Speaker 2: start immediately.

472
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Speaker 1: Two.

473
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Speaker 2: I don't want or need perfect children. That isn't realistic,

474
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Speaker 2: but it is possible to avoid them being subjected to

475
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Speaker 2: a fifty to fifty chance of having the disease. Of course,

476
00:24:25,640 --> 00:24:30,480
Speaker 2: there are alternative options, but again they involve preparation and planning.

477
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Speaker 2: I'm more than willing to take a full genetic panel

478
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Speaker 2: as well.

479
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Speaker 1: Three.

480
00:24:35,200 --> 00:24:38,080
Speaker 2: Yes, one or both of us could get cancer or

481
00:24:38,119 --> 00:24:41,479
Speaker 2: permanently disabled in an accident or any other number of things.

482
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Speaker 2: But I've come to learn that you can't plan for

483
00:24:44,000 --> 00:24:47,280
Speaker 2: every unpredictable thing life throws at you. This is the

484
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Speaker 2: rare occasion that we do have the opportunity to prepare. Essentially,

485
00:24:51,640 --> 00:24:54,359
Speaker 2: it comes down to the fact that we're incompatible, regardless

486
00:24:54,359 --> 00:24:56,560
Speaker 2: of how much we love each other. I'm a planner

487
00:24:56,840 --> 00:25:00,680
Speaker 2: and he's very laid back. Until now, well, these traits

488
00:25:00,680 --> 00:25:03,879
Speaker 2: have complimented each other, but unfortunately they've brought us to

489
00:25:03,920 --> 00:25:06,760
Speaker 2: an impasse that I don't think we both move forward

490
00:25:06,800 --> 00:25:10,679
Speaker 2: from happily. And there is a second edit. I've decided

491
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Speaker 2: to take a few steps back. Those of you who

492
00:25:12,800 --> 00:25:14,679
Speaker 2: brought up the fact that a few weeks is probably

493
00:25:14,720 --> 00:25:17,480
Speaker 2: too little time for him to fully process his possible

494
00:25:17,520 --> 00:25:21,560
Speaker 2: diagnosis have a really valid point. Yeah, just because I

495
00:25:21,600 --> 00:25:24,320
Speaker 2: want to immediately jump into problem solving mode doesn't mean

496
00:25:24,359 --> 00:25:27,840
Speaker 2: it's necessarily the right thing to do. Here, So I'm

497
00:25:27,880 --> 00:25:32,040
Speaker 2: not leaving yet at least and hopefully never, I'm going

498
00:25:32,080 --> 00:25:34,600
Speaker 2: to find a therapist to help me work through my anxieties.

499
00:25:34,800 --> 00:25:37,680
Speaker 2: It gives my fiance some space not literal, to work

500
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Speaker 2: through his, and then we'll revisit this conversation, hopefully with

501
00:25:41,280 --> 00:25:43,920
Speaker 2: more patience on my part and willingness attack on his,

502
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Speaker 2: and there is an update John, how do we feel well?

503
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Speaker 1: Kelsey Jade made a great comment that was giving us

504
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Speaker 1: what hunting disease is. Hunting di disease is a hereditary

505
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Speaker 1: neuro degenerative disorder that affects a person's movement, thinking, and

506
00:25:58,920 --> 00:26:03,240
Speaker 1: mood by a mutation in the gene yes. And I

507
00:26:03,280 --> 00:26:06,160
Speaker 1: saw someone maybe Riley, if you could do some additional research.

508
00:26:06,320 --> 00:26:10,679
Speaker 1: Someone was basically saying like, if you have that diagnosis,

509
00:26:10,760 --> 00:26:14,920
Speaker 1: then it like does mean that you will pass away

510
00:26:14,960 --> 00:26:18,320
Speaker 1: from it. I think that's essentially what the comment was saying, Yeah,

511
00:26:18,560 --> 00:26:21,400
Speaker 1: medical testing, Yeah, that's important to know if you don't

512
00:26:21,400 --> 00:26:24,520
Speaker 1: want to have kids or you wouldn't have any kids

513
00:26:24,880 --> 00:26:26,359
Speaker 1: of yours to have to deal with it.

514
00:26:26,600 --> 00:26:29,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, because because it's like we've read a story

515
00:26:29,480 --> 00:26:31,280
Speaker 2: with That's why I remember it. I don't remember the

516
00:26:31,320 --> 00:26:33,640
Speaker 2: exact reasoning, but I remember we read a story where

517
00:26:33,640 --> 00:26:38,119
Speaker 2: the parents hid it from OP and OP grew up

518
00:26:38,119 --> 00:26:40,600
Speaker 2: and they're like I have a family now, and like

519
00:26:40,760 --> 00:26:43,880
Speaker 2: what and we were like that's messed up way.

520
00:26:44,320 --> 00:26:46,840
Speaker 1: Like like they hid from the child that they had

521
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Speaker 1: Huntingson's disease.

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Speaker 2: Their parents had huntington One of the parents had Huntington's

523
00:26:50,240 --> 00:26:53,960
Speaker 2: and they didn't tell op until like until they're like

524
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Speaker 2: a full adult, and they knew they.

525
00:26:55,560 --> 00:26:58,120
Speaker 1: Had had kids, so they passed it down without even

526
00:26:58,160 --> 00:26:59,680
Speaker 1: having this. I don't think knew.

527
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Speaker 2: I don't remember exactly, but yeah, okay, yeah, and like

528
00:27:03,680 --> 00:27:06,680
Speaker 2: that one was like, Okay, they suck because they knew

529
00:27:06,680 --> 00:27:08,959
Speaker 2: and they didn't tell. But now you have the opportunity

530
00:27:09,160 --> 00:27:12,080
Speaker 2: again with well, you know now especially with Opie of

531
00:27:12,160 --> 00:27:15,720
Speaker 2: like her soon to be husband is laid back, chill

532
00:27:15,800 --> 00:27:20,760
Speaker 2: guy and he doesn't like the plant things, and Opie's planning, planning, planning, planning. Yeah,

533
00:27:20,800 --> 00:27:23,640
Speaker 2: this makes a lot of sense. Now, Yes, this makes

534
00:27:23,640 --> 00:27:26,560
Speaker 2: a lot of sense. That immediately that she's like, we

535
00:27:26,680 --> 00:27:29,360
Speaker 2: have to start right now. If we don't, it's all

536
00:27:29,359 --> 00:27:31,639
Speaker 2: gonna collapse and it won't make it like it's not

537
00:27:31,680 --> 00:27:34,280
Speaker 2: gonna work. Yeah, And I guarantee he's like, whoa, I

538
00:27:34,400 --> 00:27:35,360
Speaker 2: just need to process.

539
00:27:35,400 --> 00:27:39,720
Speaker 1: That's scared. He's scared a lot to have to deal with. Yeah,

540
00:27:39,760 --> 00:27:41,520
Speaker 1: And someone said is yeah, it's try and chat. They said,

541
00:27:41,520 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 1: it's a terminal, terminal disease.

542
00:27:43,280 --> 00:27:47,440
Speaker 2: It seems like right now where nothing's happening yet they're

543
00:27:47,480 --> 00:27:48,200
Speaker 2: working through things.

544
00:27:48,320 --> 00:27:49,920
Speaker 1: Yes, that's what we needed.

545
00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:51,880
Speaker 2: This is like, hey, maybe we just take a little

546
00:27:51,880 --> 00:27:54,159
Speaker 2: bit of time, take a little bit of a breather, yeah,

547
00:27:54,200 --> 00:27:54,959
Speaker 2: to see where we go.

548
00:27:55,440 --> 00:27:58,800
Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, I think I think op like you know

549
00:27:58,920 --> 00:28:02,640
Speaker 1: one for sure on the just immediately divorce, was like, hey, wait,

550
00:28:02,640 --> 00:28:04,800
Speaker 1: hold on, give him some time, let's process, let's like

551
00:28:05,160 --> 00:28:08,359
Speaker 1: talk about as game plan and then honestly to chat.

552
00:28:08,400 --> 00:28:11,040
Speaker 1: You might disagree with me on this, but I think

553
00:28:11,080 --> 00:28:15,280
Speaker 1: if they don't have children and she knows he might

554
00:28:15,400 --> 00:28:17,600
Speaker 1: have it, it's not like she's completely in ark. She

555
00:28:17,640 --> 00:28:20,359
Speaker 1: knows there's a chance he has it. I think in

556
00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:23,640
Speaker 1: that scenario it could be okay to respect his right

557
00:28:23,840 --> 00:28:26,800
Speaker 1: do not want to get tested because it's like if

558
00:28:26,840 --> 00:28:30,159
Speaker 1: I'm not passing it down to a kid, and I

559
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:33,480
Speaker 1: know it's a tough one, but uh, I think that

560
00:28:33,560 --> 00:28:35,680
Speaker 1: might be okay. I might change my mind during this episode,

561
00:28:35,720 --> 00:28:37,280
Speaker 1: but I think Riley disagrees with me.

562
00:28:37,440 --> 00:28:39,520
Speaker 2: I don't well, I was gonna say, I don't know

563
00:28:39,640 --> 00:28:42,320
Speaker 2: how the testing goes, like yeah, what does he have

564
00:28:42,360 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 2: to go through blood work or like it's like very severe.

565
00:28:45,360 --> 00:28:48,080
Speaker 2: It was just like a simple like pick blood test.

566
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Speaker 2: I don't see why not. It does prepare you, yeah,

567
00:28:51,840 --> 00:28:53,680
Speaker 2: for the truth. Like it's one of those things like

568
00:28:53,760 --> 00:28:56,320
Speaker 2: do you want to know how like when you pass

569
00:28:56,520 --> 00:28:59,240
Speaker 2: or like you're like no, or like do you want

570
00:28:59,240 --> 00:28:59,720
Speaker 2: to know when you have?

571
00:28:59,840 --> 00:29:00,920
Speaker 1: Like how you're like no?

572
00:29:01,040 --> 00:29:03,080
Speaker 2: But like this is something we're like at least you

573
00:29:03,120 --> 00:29:06,320
Speaker 2: can prepare yourself for, like when it does happen. That's

574
00:29:06,320 --> 00:29:08,480
Speaker 2: what you know. I get where op He's coming from,

575
00:29:08,600 --> 00:29:10,720
Speaker 2: especially if they're gonna have a future together.

576
00:29:10,920 --> 00:29:13,240
Speaker 1: LCJA agrees with me. I might I might be alone

577
00:29:13,280 --> 00:29:15,520
Speaker 1: on an island on this one, and I might change

578
00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:18,400
Speaker 1: my mind too, But we'll see. Yeah, we have an update.

579
00:29:18,640 --> 00:29:23,360
Speaker 2: Oh anyway, we talked about it at length. We cried,

580
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:27,840
Speaker 2: we thought, we researched. I showed him empathy. We consulted

581
00:29:27,840 --> 00:29:31,560
Speaker 2: with friends, family and specialists. We pressed pause for days

582
00:29:31,680 --> 00:29:33,680
Speaker 2: or weeks when we needed a break from the whole

583
00:29:33,760 --> 00:29:37,120
Speaker 2: damn thing. And in the end he agreed to have

584
00:29:37,320 --> 00:29:40,760
Speaker 2: the test. Oh he's negative.

585
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Speaker 1: Oh so, oh my god.

586
00:29:43,840 --> 00:29:47,239
Speaker 2: He he flipped the coin the fifty to fifty and

587
00:29:47,680 --> 00:29:52,320
Speaker 2: he's negative than freaking dot, both for developing the disease

588
00:29:52,400 --> 00:29:55,880
Speaker 2: himself as well as the risk of passing it on. Amazing,

589
00:29:55,920 --> 00:29:59,720
Speaker 2: great stuff, amazing. No matter what else happens, this is

590
00:29:59,800 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 2: one the area where he's assuredly safe. All this said,

591
00:30:03,800 --> 00:30:06,400
Speaker 2: once the euphoria faded, we decided it was necessary to

592
00:30:06,440 --> 00:30:09,080
Speaker 2: put a hold on our engagement and take some time apart.

593
00:30:10,000 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 2: I spent the last few months traveling abroad, and other

594
00:30:12,480 --> 00:30:14,840
Speaker 2: than a few texts, we haven't spoken much. But I'm

595
00:30:14,880 --> 00:30:17,720
Speaker 2: home now and we have our second first date tonight.

596
00:30:18,000 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 2: Wish be luck.

597
00:30:19,000 --> 00:30:20,160
Speaker 1: Oh, we have some edits.

598
00:30:20,800 --> 00:30:23,000
Speaker 2: I mentioned this a million times in my first post,

599
00:30:23,120 --> 00:30:26,920
Speaker 2: but here goes again. I had no plans to leave

600
00:30:26,960 --> 00:30:30,920
Speaker 2: if he tested positive. It was just assuring again. Opie

601
00:30:30,920 --> 00:30:33,280
Speaker 2: just wanted to be assured. Because Opie likes to plan

602
00:30:33,480 --> 00:30:35,920
Speaker 2: for the future. She's also to make sure you know

603
00:30:36,280 --> 00:30:38,600
Speaker 2: in case that does happen. I just need to know

604
00:30:38,760 --> 00:30:41,760
Speaker 2: so that we can plan our lives. Accordingly, Boom, we

605
00:30:41,840 --> 00:30:45,240
Speaker 2: decided together to take a break. It's been an incredibly difficult,

606
00:30:45,320 --> 00:30:48,960
Speaker 2: emotionally charged rollercoaster of a year. I didn't leave him.

607
00:30:49,400 --> 00:30:52,400
Speaker 2: We planned from one day to keep communication to a minimum.

608
00:30:52,560 --> 00:30:55,800
Speaker 2: It was difficult. I actually began keeping a journal of

609
00:30:55,840 --> 00:30:57,640
Speaker 2: all the things I wanted to call or text him

610
00:30:57,640 --> 00:31:00,640
Speaker 2: about it's extensive and I can't wait to share it

611
00:31:00,680 --> 00:31:03,239
Speaker 2: with him. I didn't give him an ultimatum, but I

612
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:06,560
Speaker 2: understand why that's the takeaway. I only told Reddit that

613
00:31:06,720 --> 00:31:09,160
Speaker 2: I was thinking of leaving, and I know that it

614
00:31:09,200 --> 00:31:12,440
Speaker 2: was a rash and irrational. Why does everyone seem to

615
00:31:12,440 --> 00:31:14,680
Speaker 2: think that traveling means sleeping around.

616
00:31:15,120 --> 00:31:17,920
Speaker 1: I was going to make the joke of, oh, traveling

617
00:31:17,960 --> 00:31:20,160
Speaker 1: around is a funny way of saying clapping peaks, but

618
00:31:20,360 --> 00:31:20,800
Speaker 1: I didn't.

619
00:31:21,320 --> 00:31:24,200
Speaker 2: No, I just did this was I think for both

620
00:31:24,240 --> 00:31:26,120
Speaker 2: of them, they just needed to you know, take a

621
00:31:26,160 --> 00:31:29,960
Speaker 2: step back and just Riley. I mean they probably did

622
00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:33,800
Speaker 2: that too. But if you're gonna like focus on now

623
00:31:34,000 --> 00:31:37,480
Speaker 2: us get some alone time, Yeah, I kind of like it. Yeah,

624
00:31:37,640 --> 00:31:39,960
Speaker 2: it's not bad to go travel alone and like do

625
00:31:40,040 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 2: your own thing. Yes, you want to do it with

626
00:31:41,280 --> 00:31:43,040
Speaker 2: your partner, but some alone time is good.

627
00:31:43,160 --> 00:31:45,920
Speaker 1: It's it's I feel like it gives them a second

628
00:31:46,080 --> 00:31:49,160
Speaker 1: to just like make sure you know, this was kind

629
00:31:49,200 --> 00:31:52,880
Speaker 1: of a pretty They basically almost split over this. Yeah,

630
00:31:52,880 --> 00:31:54,520
Speaker 1: you know, they were like right on the brink of that,

631
00:31:54,920 --> 00:31:56,600
Speaker 1: and so now it's like, okay, we have a chance,

632
00:31:56,680 --> 00:31:59,600
Speaker 1: like let the dust settle, make sure. We're both like

633
00:31:59,840 --> 00:32:01,920
Speaker 1: if we go back into this relationship, we're both like, yes,

634
00:32:01,960 --> 00:32:03,880
Speaker 1: this is what we want. We've thought of it, We've

635
00:32:03,880 --> 00:32:07,080
Speaker 1: had time on our own where we're not influencing each other.

636
00:32:07,280 --> 00:32:10,200
Speaker 2: Or get it, Yeah, we're like emotionally pressing each other

637
00:32:10,440 --> 00:32:12,840
Speaker 2: or like you know, because even if it was happy

638
00:32:12,880 --> 00:32:16,040
Speaker 2: times and like oh the good news, there was still

639
00:32:16,120 --> 00:32:19,200
Speaker 2: you know, all that high intensity, all that stress, all

640
00:32:19,240 --> 00:32:22,560
Speaker 2: that anxiety, all that pressure. I think, yeah, it's exactly

641
00:32:22,920 --> 00:32:27,080
Speaker 2: have some time to yourself. We have a second update. John, Oh, snap,

642
00:32:27,400 --> 00:32:29,440
Speaker 2: it feels like many of you are determined for there

643
00:32:29,480 --> 00:32:32,200
Speaker 2: to be a bad guy here. But please don't put

644
00:32:32,240 --> 00:32:35,840
Speaker 2: this label on my fiance. He doesn't deserve it. He's

645
00:32:35,840 --> 00:32:38,760
Speaker 2: not a knucklehead, an a hole, or an ostrich.

646
00:32:38,880 --> 00:32:39,040
Speaker 1: Oh.

647
00:32:39,600 --> 00:32:41,600
Speaker 2: He's a man who was suddenly forced to face his

648
00:32:41,600 --> 00:32:44,480
Speaker 2: own mortality. He had a very human response, and I

649
00:32:44,520 --> 00:32:46,760
Speaker 2: didn't make it any easier on him during those first

650
00:32:46,760 --> 00:32:50,720
Speaker 2: few weeks. Essentially, he concluded in his words that the

651
00:32:50,760 --> 00:32:52,800
Speaker 2: cat was already halfway out of the bag and it

652
00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:55,120
Speaker 2: could come out, but it was never going back in.

653
00:32:55,600 --> 00:32:58,520
Speaker 2: If he was positive, we'd be obsessing over every little

654
00:32:58,560 --> 00:33:01,320
Speaker 2: thing being a possible symptom. But if we left things

655
00:33:01,360 --> 00:33:04,040
Speaker 2: as they were, we'd be doing that anyway. That doesn't

656
00:33:04,040 --> 00:33:06,400
Speaker 2: mean it was easy at all. We actually had to

657
00:33:06,400 --> 00:33:08,959
Speaker 2: make a second appointment to get the results because he

658
00:33:08,960 --> 00:33:12,080
Speaker 2: couldn't bring himself to hear them the first time. Can

659
00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:15,160
Speaker 2: you imagine, Like it's so high, it's so stressful, but

660
00:33:15,480 --> 00:33:19,120
Speaker 2: again you're gonna find out, like, hey, your life will

661
00:33:19,160 --> 00:33:19,800
Speaker 2: be cut short.

662
00:33:20,160 --> 00:33:24,440
Speaker 1: Yeah, that's that's I don't blame him at all for

663
00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:26,360
Speaker 1: hours of the time he needed to take to like

664
00:33:26,400 --> 00:33:28,840
Speaker 1: get that, I get it, I get it. But that

665
00:33:29,080 --> 00:33:29,640
Speaker 1: was okay.

666
00:33:30,200 --> 00:33:32,400
Speaker 2: I was there for him the whole time, to support

667
00:33:32,480 --> 00:33:36,760
Speaker 2: him however he needed to. Well, the magic was still there.

668
00:33:37,320 --> 00:33:39,560
Speaker 2: We may have spent months apart, but it didn't feel

669
00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:42,280
Speaker 2: that way at all. In fact, everything felt even better

670
00:33:42,400 --> 00:33:44,840
Speaker 2: and more comfortable when we were parted. We felt like

671
00:33:44,880 --> 00:33:47,240
Speaker 2: the happy couple we'd been back in January before this

672
00:33:47,280 --> 00:33:49,520
Speaker 2: whole thing started. It was like there was a weight

673
00:33:49,560 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 2: hanging over our relationship that was keeping us from actually

674
00:33:52,360 --> 00:33:56,440
Speaker 2: moving forward despite the good news, and it's finally been lifted.

675
00:33:56,800 --> 00:33:59,440
Speaker 2: Before last night, I couldn't remember the last time anything

676
00:33:59,440 --> 00:34:01,040
Speaker 2: with him felt bright and easy.

677
00:34:01,520 --> 00:34:03,720
Speaker 1: But we're back, baby, Yeah.

678
00:34:04,080 --> 00:34:06,520
Speaker 2: We stayed up all night, sharing stories and pictures and

679
00:34:06,560 --> 00:34:09,000
Speaker 2: telling each other about the people we'd met. It was

680
00:34:09,080 --> 00:34:12,799
Speaker 2: absolutely amazing sharing our experiences with each other. I know

681
00:34:12,880 --> 00:34:14,759
Speaker 2: it may seem like it would have been better if

682
00:34:14,760 --> 00:34:17,520
Speaker 2: we'd done it together, but there was something really special

683
00:34:17,560 --> 00:34:20,840
Speaker 2: about living it through each other's eyes. Anyway, we have

684
00:34:20,880 --> 00:34:22,680
Speaker 2: the rest of our lives to travel the world together

685
00:34:23,080 --> 00:34:26,000
Speaker 2: because we're not breaking up something that people who were

686
00:34:26,040 --> 00:34:28,120
Speaker 2: hoping he'd leave me. There's a little bit left of

687
00:34:28,120 --> 00:34:29,920
Speaker 2: the storyge On, but it seems like we're at the

688
00:34:30,040 --> 00:34:33,160
Speaker 2: end and everything's going in the right direction.

689
00:34:33,680 --> 00:34:37,160
Speaker 1: You know. My therapist says a thing, Oh yes, in

690
00:34:37,160 --> 00:34:41,160
Speaker 1: addition to pain is growth. Yeah, in addition to that,

691
00:34:41,320 --> 00:34:44,799
Speaker 1: say that really slowly for us, yep, I won't uh,

692
00:34:44,880 --> 00:34:48,920
Speaker 1: And that is we're humans. He got this news of like, okay,

693
00:34:49,400 --> 00:34:52,799
Speaker 1: you know you might have this thing you get tested. Ope,

694
00:34:52,840 --> 00:34:54,400
Speaker 1: he's freaking out, like, oh my god, you need to

695
00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:57,840
Speaker 1: do this right now. Da da da da. Sometimes humans

696
00:34:58,040 --> 00:35:01,240
Speaker 1: are good human and when we human and we can

697
00:35:01,880 --> 00:35:04,120
Speaker 1: not be the best and not be one hundred percent,

698
00:35:04,640 --> 00:35:08,799
Speaker 1: But what matters is the not those moments, but the aggregate,

699
00:35:08,880 --> 00:35:12,520
Speaker 1: the the you know, coming together, the talking, the working

700
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:17,399
Speaker 1: it out, the the full picture of what's happening. And

701
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:20,399
Speaker 1: if in the full picture, we come together, we work

702
00:35:20,480 --> 00:35:23,120
Speaker 1: through things, we work it out again. I was a

703
00:35:23,120 --> 00:35:27,120
Speaker 1: little like I was very suspicious of Op not letting

704
00:35:27,200 --> 00:35:29,239
Speaker 1: him kind of like have a space and going straight

705
00:35:29,280 --> 00:35:33,000
Speaker 1: to the divorce. However, you know, they they did both

706
00:35:33,160 --> 00:35:36,759
Speaker 1: come together. It all worked out. They went through a

707
00:35:36,760 --> 00:35:39,400
Speaker 1: tough thing. I think they grew better and stronger for

708
00:35:39,680 --> 00:35:43,160
Speaker 1: going through that tough thing. And you could say, all's well,

709
00:35:43,200 --> 00:35:46,400
Speaker 1: that ends well, wrap that up with a nice little ribbon.

710
00:35:46,920 --> 00:35:48,960
Speaker 1: Couldn't upset it better myself? Yeah?

711
00:35:49,160 --> 00:35:52,800
Speaker 2: Literally, they I think they better themselves and they bettered

712
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:56,400
Speaker 2: their relationship. So let's go ahead and finish the story.

713
00:35:56,680 --> 00:35:58,839
Speaker 1: Do it. Hey, y'all, it's John og Host here. We're

714
00:35:58,840 --> 00:36:00,919
Speaker 1: gonna get back to the stories quick three minute break

715
00:36:00,920 --> 00:36:02,000
Speaker 1: from as for more sponsors.

716
00:36:02,520 --> 00:36:06,239
Speaker 2: Look, we know this new honeymoon period we're in won't

717
00:36:06,320 --> 00:36:08,680
Speaker 2: last forever, but I really think we're prepared to handle

718
00:36:08,719 --> 00:36:11,680
Speaker 2: whatever other challenges life tries to throw at us. Honestly,

719
00:36:11,680 --> 00:36:13,799
Speaker 2: there's a pretty good chance we've already gotten through the

720
00:36:13,800 --> 00:36:17,080
Speaker 2: worst one knock on wood. But even if there's something

721
00:36:17,120 --> 00:36:21,799
Speaker 2: bigger and better waiting, for us, I'm completely optimistic will

722
00:36:21,840 --> 00:36:25,359
Speaker 2: be okay. So that's that we've officially reached the other

723
00:36:25,400 --> 00:36:28,200
Speaker 2: side of our first major life issue together. Did either

724
00:36:28,200 --> 00:36:29,920
Speaker 2: of us behave perfectly? No?

725
00:36:30,360 --> 00:36:33,480
Speaker 1: Are we going to be perfect next time? Probably not.

726
00:36:34,360 --> 00:36:37,120
Speaker 2: Are we one hundred percent committed to combining our completely

727
00:36:37,120 --> 00:36:40,560
Speaker 2: opposite ways of dealing with crisises into a superpower designed

728
00:36:40,560 --> 00:36:45,399
Speaker 2: to crush conflict like a nineties cartooning lutey, I love it,

729
00:36:45,520 --> 00:36:49,879
Speaker 2: that's yeah. And we have some comments common one, it's

730
00:36:49,920 --> 00:36:52,400
Speaker 2: an awful disease. I don't blame people not wanting to

731
00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:54,160
Speaker 2: know if they carry the gene or not. Once you

732
00:36:54,239 --> 00:36:57,160
Speaker 2: test positive, you know with one hundred percent chance that

733
00:36:57,239 --> 00:36:59,400
Speaker 2: you will get the disease and it will eventually un

734
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:02,400
Speaker 2: alive you. And it's an awful death. You lose your

735
00:37:02,400 --> 00:37:05,680
Speaker 2: grip on reality, your emotional balance, and controls of your movements.

736
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:10,160
Speaker 2: It's like schizophrenia turning into dementia turning into Parkinson's and als.

737
00:37:10,680 --> 00:37:13,799
Speaker 1: Wow. Wow, that is a way to put it.

738
00:37:13,920 --> 00:37:18,040
Speaker 2: Brutal individuals who live long enough usually pass away because

739
00:37:18,120 --> 00:37:21,840
Speaker 2: of repeated pneumonia caused by food aspiration. There are no

740
00:37:21,920 --> 00:37:25,439
Speaker 2: treatments and nothing really effective to prevent the disease and

741
00:37:26,160 --> 00:37:29,759
Speaker 2: the punter here, no one can really tell when you

742
00:37:29,880 --> 00:37:32,239
Speaker 2: will get the disease, depending on the state of the

743
00:37:32,320 --> 00:37:35,200
Speaker 2: mutation that you carry. Doctors can give you an estimate,

744
00:37:35,200 --> 00:37:38,200
Speaker 2: such as most people with a mutation similar to yours

745
00:37:38,400 --> 00:37:41,239
Speaker 2: develop the disease around forty five, but it is not

746
00:37:41,400 --> 00:37:42,480
Speaker 2: a perfect prediction.

747
00:37:42,920 --> 00:37:43,800
Speaker 1: For the same mutation.

748
00:37:44,120 --> 00:37:47,000
Speaker 2: You have people that will develop the disease at thirty,

749
00:37:47,200 --> 00:37:50,960
Speaker 2: while some will stay asymptomatic until their late fifties early sixties,

750
00:37:51,640 --> 00:37:55,839
Speaker 2: and no one really knows why. And again it's not great.

751
00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:57,520
Speaker 2: That's why when I heard it first thing, I was like,

752
00:37:57,600 --> 00:38:00,319
Speaker 2: oh boy, yeah, that's a rough one.

753
00:38:00,680 --> 00:38:00,960
Speaker 1: Yeah.

754
00:38:01,000 --> 00:38:05,120
Speaker 2: So again, here's to also the dismay of what if

755
00:38:05,160 --> 00:38:07,319
Speaker 2: he did get it. I think it would have been

756
00:38:07,320 --> 00:38:10,359
Speaker 2: the same exact thing. Op would have been like, Hey,

757
00:38:10,600 --> 00:38:12,640
Speaker 2: we need some time apart, let's do this and let's

758
00:38:12,640 --> 00:38:15,120
Speaker 2: live our lives to the fullest. Yeah, there's again, no

759
00:38:15,200 --> 00:38:17,239
Speaker 2: bad guy here. This is just a crazy situation. But

760
00:38:17,320 --> 00:38:18,560
Speaker 2: bad guy's Huntington's disease.

761
00:38:18,840 --> 00:38:21,319
Speaker 1: There it is. That's the real bad guy. There it is.

762
00:38:21,680 --> 00:38:25,080
Speaker 1: But that is the end of that story. Okay, are

763
00:38:25,120 --> 00:38:28,240
Speaker 1: we ready for this final? This is the last story

764
00:38:28,239 --> 00:38:31,320
Speaker 1: of the day. That's it. My boyfriend's friend is still

765
00:38:31,360 --> 00:38:33,200
Speaker 1: in love with him. I'm not in love with any

766
00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:37,160
Speaker 1: of that. Oh, neither am I. I thirty nine female,

767
00:38:37,239 --> 00:38:40,879
Speaker 1: met my boyfriend Tim, forty nine male, about four months ago.

768
00:38:41,280 --> 00:38:45,360
Speaker 1: Everything has been great and wonderful between us. He's funny, kind, supportive,

769
00:38:45,680 --> 00:38:48,839
Speaker 1: easy to talk to, a great communicator, and much much more.

770
00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:51,400
Speaker 1: He has a wonderful social group and many many friends

771
00:38:51,400 --> 00:38:53,640
Speaker 1: who I have met as we have been dating. One

772
00:38:53,680 --> 00:38:55,879
Speaker 1: of those friends is a female friend he has had

773
00:38:55,920 --> 00:38:58,720
Speaker 1: for forty five years, who we will call Debbie around

774
00:38:58,800 --> 00:39:01,919
Speaker 1: forty five female. By the way, this comes from What's

775
00:39:01,960 --> 00:39:04,000
Speaker 1: Sleep Again? And if you want to submit your own stories,

776
00:39:04,040 --> 00:39:06,279
Speaker 1: go to the r slash okay storytime sub rereddit. So

777
00:39:06,760 --> 00:39:10,239
Speaker 1: Tim let me know early on that there's potentially a

778
00:39:10,360 --> 00:39:15,000
Speaker 1: bit of unrequited love from Debbie towards him, but also

779
00:39:15,040 --> 00:39:17,319
Speaker 1: said that she is socially awkward and does not have

780
00:39:17,400 --> 00:39:20,840
Speaker 1: a lot of friends. Odd they're pretty close and she

781
00:39:20,960 --> 00:39:23,520
Speaker 1: is definitely one of his closest friends that live near us.

782
00:39:23,760 --> 00:39:25,960
Speaker 1: She watches his dog whenever he needs a dog sitter.

783
00:39:26,040 --> 00:39:29,080
Speaker 1: She texts him daily, usually memes about his favorite football

784
00:39:29,080 --> 00:39:32,239
Speaker 1: team or just general questions about how he's doing, never

785
00:39:32,360 --> 00:39:35,400
Speaker 1: anything inappropriate or crosses any sort of boundaries for me,

786
00:39:36,040 --> 00:39:39,680
Speaker 1: I am curious, specifically from Riley. Can I get a

787
00:39:39,760 --> 00:39:43,960
Speaker 1: quick thumbs up or thumbs down? Is this sus or not?

788
00:39:44,080 --> 00:39:47,279
Speaker 1: To you? Sus? It is sus every day is a

789
00:39:47,560 --> 00:39:51,600
Speaker 1: little bit, always watches the dog like it's it's.

790
00:39:53,120 --> 00:39:57,040
Speaker 2: I'm intrigued to see more about this friend because again,

791
00:39:57,120 --> 00:39:59,759
Speaker 2: the little context we got about them is they don't

792
00:39:59,760 --> 00:40:00,520
Speaker 2: have any friends.

793
00:40:00,880 --> 00:40:04,920
Speaker 1: Yep, So what does that to say? A submit of

794
00:40:05,080 --> 00:40:14,240
Speaker 1: Fargo sub sub sulfur sulfur subject to Fargo? Huh? Subplot

795
00:40:14,600 --> 00:40:18,640
Speaker 1: the subplot? Why are we subplot of Fargo? AnyWho? So

796
00:40:18,719 --> 00:40:21,040
Speaker 1: back to the story. They are also the sort of

797
00:40:21,040 --> 00:40:23,040
Speaker 1: friends that show up to help each other when the

798
00:40:23,080 --> 00:40:26,239
Speaker 1: other one needs something, i e. Picking each other up

799
00:40:26,239 --> 00:40:29,560
Speaker 1: from the airport, helping with two person house projects. Again

800
00:40:30,280 --> 00:40:32,080
Speaker 1: a little bit sus put it in the chat? What

801
00:40:32,120 --> 00:40:34,080
Speaker 1: do you think? Actually? Can we have a poll? Is

802
00:40:34,080 --> 00:40:35,560
Speaker 1: it sus or not? I'm curious.

803
00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:38,920
Speaker 2: I don't know, like if if they were the same gender,

804
00:40:39,120 --> 00:40:40,600
Speaker 2: I don't know, but they were the same gender because

805
00:40:40,600 --> 00:40:42,760
Speaker 2: I do this a lot on my face for Carly,

806
00:40:42,880 --> 00:40:46,880
Speaker 2: A lot of my boyfriends yeah, yeah, yeah, like i'd

807
00:40:46,920 --> 00:40:50,759
Speaker 2: send memes and talk to my friends on a daily basis.

808
00:40:51,320 --> 00:40:53,920
Speaker 1: What's up you guys too? It could be fine, yeah,

809
00:40:53,960 --> 00:40:57,120
Speaker 1: but it is in potential sus characterized. I think I

810
00:40:57,120 --> 00:40:59,080
Speaker 1: would if I have to choose, I would vote Suss

811
00:40:59,080 --> 00:40:59,520
Speaker 1: on this pole.

812
00:40:59,760 --> 00:41:03,080
Speaker 2: I'm not sussed out yet because again, nothing's inappropriate. Again,

813
00:41:03,160 --> 00:41:06,480
Speaker 2: that was the big keyword. Nothing inappropriate, nothing flirty. It's

814
00:41:06,520 --> 00:41:09,160
Speaker 2: just like your football team, your favorite football team, ha ha.

815
00:41:09,440 --> 00:41:12,560
Speaker 2: Like it's back and forth, like general talk, like you

816
00:41:12,640 --> 00:41:13,000
Speaker 2: like this.

817
00:41:13,040 --> 00:41:15,360
Speaker 1: I like this. Riley has something to add.

818
00:41:15,760 --> 00:41:18,040
Speaker 3: Oh god, I think he wants to throw a bone

819
00:41:18,960 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 3: because he should leave it be.

820
00:41:21,280 --> 00:41:23,560
Speaker 1: He's cooking, he's telling me the zombie apocalypse.

821
00:41:23,560 --> 00:41:26,279
Speaker 3: He wants to throw a bone because he should leave

822
00:41:26,320 --> 00:41:27,200
Speaker 3: it be.

823
00:41:28,040 --> 00:41:32,879
Speaker 1: Did you make it more British? Of course you did,

824
00:41:33,080 --> 00:41:38,040
Speaker 1: getting more sophisticated by the second. Riley Bott has become self.

825
00:41:37,880 --> 00:41:40,399
Speaker 2: Lad that one went to Oxford, that's for sure.

826
00:41:40,480 --> 00:41:43,359
Speaker 1: Oh yeah, Well he would now call me for these

827
00:41:43,440 --> 00:41:46,120
Speaker 1: type of things. But she still calls on him for

828
00:41:46,160 --> 00:41:48,719
Speaker 1: those types of things, which is completely okay with me.

829
00:41:48,920 --> 00:41:51,600
Speaker 1: I do not feel jealous of her or feel any

830
00:41:51,640 --> 00:41:54,960
Speaker 1: sort of concerns about his interactions. With her at all,

831
00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:57,560
Speaker 1: there we go. The first time I met her was

832
00:41:57,560 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 1: over lunch. She joined him and me at a bar

833
00:42:00,080 --> 00:42:02,560
Speaker 1: near our house. She had just received good news about

834
00:42:02,560 --> 00:42:04,360
Speaker 1: her job and spent most of the time speaking to

835
00:42:04,400 --> 00:42:06,640
Speaker 1: Tim about the updates, so we didn't get to talk

836
00:42:06,719 --> 00:42:09,680
Speaker 1: that much. Tim kept bringing me into the conversation, but

837
00:42:09,719 --> 00:42:11,759
Speaker 1: I didn't really get to speak to her or get

838
00:42:11,760 --> 00:42:14,080
Speaker 1: to know her much. The second time I met her,

839
00:42:14,120 --> 00:42:16,280
Speaker 1: she came over to Tim's house for a small gathering

840
00:42:16,600 --> 00:42:19,719
Speaker 1: thing of two other people, Tim and myself. When she

841
00:42:19,800 --> 00:42:21,719
Speaker 1: got there, she started to come in and said that

842
00:42:21,719 --> 00:42:23,360
Speaker 1: she had a bad day and didn't want to be

843
00:42:23,400 --> 00:42:26,080
Speaker 1: with people. To me, it seemed like when she saw

844
00:42:26,080 --> 00:42:29,360
Speaker 1: me she suddenly became uncomfortable about coming in, which I

845
00:42:29,360 --> 00:42:31,680
Speaker 1: feel bad about since I wanted her to feel comfortable

846
00:42:31,680 --> 00:42:34,080
Speaker 1: around me, given that she is an important part of

847
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:37,000
Speaker 1: Tim's life. Tim spent a few seconds encouraging her to

848
00:42:37,000 --> 00:42:39,080
Speaker 1: come in, and then I came out and also asked

849
00:42:39,080 --> 00:42:41,080
Speaker 1: her to come in and have a drink with us,

850
00:42:41,280 --> 00:42:43,040
Speaker 1: and she did. We were all hanging out in the

851
00:42:43,040 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 1: living room, but she stayed in the dining room, which

852
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:47,399
Speaker 1: is attached, but not really with the rest of us.

853
00:42:47,800 --> 00:42:49,799
Speaker 1: I intentionally sat with the two other people who were

854
00:42:49,800 --> 00:42:51,680
Speaker 1: there instead of sitting with Tim, just in case she

855
00:42:51,719 --> 00:42:54,840
Speaker 1: was feeling uncomfortable. Also, quick shout out to OPI. Opie

856
00:42:54,960 --> 00:42:58,759
Speaker 1: is a very understanding and self secure. I would say, yeah.

857
00:42:59,160 --> 00:43:02,359
Speaker 2: I was going to say, like, very understanding, but again,

858
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:07,160
Speaker 2: seems fair because nothing nothing seems like it's sus yet

859
00:43:07,239 --> 00:43:11,720
Speaker 2: to me, to me, to you, Yes, but no flirty touchy.

860
00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:13,560
Speaker 1: We're gonna see.

861
00:43:13,440 --> 00:43:15,359
Speaker 2: Maybe some inside jokes, but like that's about it.

862
00:43:15,480 --> 00:43:19,000
Speaker 1: Yeah, so so far chats sixty seven percent sus thirty

863
00:43:19,040 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 1: three percent, now, which is you know almost, we're we're

864
00:43:22,200 --> 00:43:25,279
Speaker 1: getting to split fifty to fifty. We'll see, we'll you

865
00:43:25,280 --> 00:43:28,120
Speaker 1: can revote as a story changes. So there you go.

866
00:43:28,440 --> 00:43:30,520
Speaker 3: John, If you had to pick one friend to be

867
00:43:30,560 --> 00:43:32,400
Speaker 3: all flirty with, who would it be?

868
00:43:32,840 --> 00:43:35,000
Speaker 1: If har to be a male, I'd de pick one

869
00:43:35,000 --> 00:43:36,719
Speaker 1: friend to be all flirty with? Who would it be?

870
00:43:36,800 --> 00:43:40,600
Speaker 1: And has to be a male? Oh see Dakota's smile,

871
00:43:41,000 --> 00:43:45,719
Speaker 1: Keon's cakes, Riley's like dude. Riley gets these looks sometimes,

872
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:49,279
Speaker 1: like when his like specifically like when his hair gets

873
00:43:49,320 --> 00:43:52,800
Speaker 1: perfectly quaffed, and I do like the the chin strap.

874
00:43:52,960 --> 00:43:54,920
Speaker 1: Maybe because I may or may not have influenced it

875
00:43:55,000 --> 00:43:57,640
Speaker 1: during our Baldy strip, may or may not be. It's

876
00:43:57,640 --> 00:43:59,319
Speaker 1: got to be all of you at once. Honestly, it's

877
00:43:59,320 --> 00:43:59,560
Speaker 1: got to.

878
00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 2: No John, you have to pick give more context for

879
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:04,200
Speaker 2: the fan fiction.

880
00:44:04,400 --> 00:44:07,879
Speaker 1: Sam is so strong without even trying. Dude, it's crazy. Dude,

881
00:44:07,920 --> 00:44:11,120
Speaker 1: his physique, I mean, he's he's he's insane. I should

882
00:44:11,239 --> 00:44:13,919
Speaker 1: say he's insanely active, but he doesn't, like he doesn't

883
00:44:14,000 --> 00:44:16,240
Speaker 1: hit the gym all the time, like, and his physique

884
00:44:16,280 --> 00:44:17,160
Speaker 1: is like insane for that.

885
00:44:17,480 --> 00:44:20,600
Speaker 2: God, say someone's name John. Now we're all pissed at you.

886
00:44:21,480 --> 00:44:25,160
Speaker 1: People ask if I'm a boob band or an ass man.

887
00:44:25,560 --> 00:44:28,000
Speaker 1: I'm both. I'm gonna go with Kean, you're a boobman,

888
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:33,360
Speaker 1: I am, but but it's both. What are we talking about?

889
00:44:33,640 --> 00:44:35,200
Speaker 1: He said to me? What are we talking?

890
00:44:35,560 --> 00:44:38,200
Speaker 2: He said to me, add another boyfriend to my list.

891
00:44:38,239 --> 00:44:41,640
Speaker 1: I had the I had to do it. Okay, anyways, worry,

892
00:44:41,719 --> 00:44:43,920
Speaker 1: it's kind of like a polycule. Now it's guys.

893
00:44:44,080 --> 00:44:46,120
Speaker 2: Riley's one of my boyfriends, and so like you can

894
00:44:46,160 --> 00:44:46,440
Speaker 2: come in.

895
00:44:46,800 --> 00:44:49,400
Speaker 1: It's really all. It's it's all. Yeah.

896
00:44:49,520 --> 00:44:51,359
Speaker 2: That was the right answer, because I was like, oh,

897
00:44:51,400 --> 00:44:53,880
Speaker 2: if you get me you get all the other boyfriends.

898
00:44:54,440 --> 00:44:59,160
Speaker 1: Yes, there we go. I'm not greedy, but sharing is caring, baby,

899
00:44:59,280 --> 00:45:02,640
Speaker 1: and that's from ELM. Back to the story. She still

900
00:45:02,640 --> 00:45:04,920
Speaker 1: refused to really join us. Tim kept asking her to

901
00:45:04,960 --> 00:45:06,600
Speaker 1: come in and sit with us. After about ten to

902
00:45:06,600 --> 00:45:08,600
Speaker 1: fifteen minutes, she did come into the room with the

903
00:45:08,600 --> 00:45:10,680
Speaker 1: rest of us, but she sat on the floor instead

904
00:45:10,680 --> 00:45:12,440
Speaker 1: of with us on the couches where the rest of

905
00:45:12,520 --> 00:45:17,279
Speaker 1: us were sitting. Getting a millimeter more sus as we go, Sam, here,

906
00:45:17,320 --> 00:45:19,160
Speaker 1: we're gonna get back to the stories. But here's three

907
00:45:19,160 --> 00:45:21,440
Speaker 1: of minutes bads from our sponsors. I bought her a

908
00:45:21,520 --> 00:45:23,439
Speaker 1: drink while she was sitting on the floor and sort

909
00:45:23,440 --> 00:45:25,680
Speaker 1: of squatted down next to her when I gave it

910
00:45:25,719 --> 00:45:27,840
Speaker 1: to her and said something like, I'm sorry you had

911
00:45:27,880 --> 00:45:29,600
Speaker 1: a bad day, but even though we don't know each

912
00:45:29,640 --> 00:45:31,439
Speaker 1: other yet, I'm here if you ever need to talk

913
00:45:31,920 --> 00:45:36,000
Speaker 1: O baye. She used her two fingers to push poke

914
00:45:36,040 --> 00:45:39,839
Speaker 1: B in the shoulder and responded very sharply with something

915
00:45:39,840 --> 00:45:42,359
Speaker 1: along the lines of I don't know you like that,

916
00:45:42,480 --> 00:45:43,880
Speaker 1: so I'm not gonna talk to you.

917
00:45:44,400 --> 00:45:47,680
Speaker 2: Hmm. Do we have any information on the friend being

918
00:45:47,719 --> 00:45:49,320
Speaker 2: like neurodivergent?

919
00:45:49,640 --> 00:45:51,239
Speaker 1: We have zero information on that.

920
00:45:51,440 --> 00:45:54,320
Speaker 3: Okay, this is middle school crush behavior.

921
00:45:54,600 --> 00:45:57,840
Speaker 2: Really, I from ever experienced from UHET.

922
00:45:57,880 --> 00:46:01,439
Speaker 1: Yeah, not from Open, I'm from Ope. So I said

923
00:46:01,440 --> 00:46:05,120
Speaker 1: okay and got up and sat right next to Tim. Anyways,

924
00:46:05,360 --> 00:46:07,680
Speaker 1: thence she was being rude. Anne had physically touched me.

925
00:46:08,040 --> 00:46:10,480
Speaker 1: I decided that my efforts were kind of wasted there.

926
00:46:10,760 --> 00:46:13,239
Speaker 1: She left a few minutes later. I can't believe OPI

927
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:14,759
Speaker 1: hadn't mentioned that yet. She was like, Oh, she's so

928
00:46:14,840 --> 00:46:17,400
Speaker 1: sweet and great and nothing's cross the line. Anyways. Yeah,

929
00:46:17,440 --> 00:46:20,560
Speaker 1: after the situation, Tim offered to essentially remove her from

930
00:46:20,600 --> 00:46:23,320
Speaker 1: his life if it meant it would make me more comfortable.

931
00:46:23,880 --> 00:46:26,840
Speaker 1: It was is a new relationship, and I decided that

932
00:46:26,960 --> 00:46:29,799
Speaker 1: everyone should get one free haul passed and can make

933
00:46:29,880 --> 00:46:32,720
Speaker 1: one mistake and have one bad day again. So pegs

934
00:46:32,880 --> 00:46:36,600
Speaker 1: secure again. So chill shout out to Ope. Passing the

935
00:46:36,680 --> 00:46:40,120
Speaker 1: chill test. Passing the chill vibes are immaculate. I told

936
00:46:40,200 --> 00:46:42,239
Speaker 1: him she seemed like she needed friends and that I

937
00:46:42,280 --> 00:46:44,000
Speaker 1: didn't want him to cut her out of his life,

938
00:46:44,360 --> 00:46:48,520
Speaker 1: but did say I was uncomfortable with the a interaction. Obviously,

939
00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:51,160
Speaker 1: Tim spoke about what happened, and the next time I

940
00:46:51,160 --> 00:46:53,880
Speaker 1: saw her. She apologized to me for the situation and

941
00:46:54,000 --> 00:46:56,160
Speaker 1: explained that she was having a really bad day due

942
00:46:56,160 --> 00:46:58,879
Speaker 1: to some things going on in her personal life. Since then,

943
00:46:59,000 --> 00:47:01,279
Speaker 1: I have seen her two other times and she was

944
00:47:01,360 --> 00:47:05,480
Speaker 1: friendly and nice, albeit somewhat socially awkward. The last time

945
00:47:05,480 --> 00:47:07,160
Speaker 1: I saw her was about a month ago, and we

946
00:47:07,200 --> 00:47:09,879
Speaker 1: started talking about her hobbies. She mentioned that she wanted

947
00:47:09,880 --> 00:47:11,759
Speaker 1: to learn how to crochet. I told her that I've

948
00:47:11,760 --> 00:47:14,120
Speaker 1: been crocheing since I was a kid and offered to

949
00:47:14,120 --> 00:47:16,239
Speaker 1: help her if she ever wanted to. There we go,

950
00:47:16,560 --> 00:47:17,719
Speaker 1: There we go, There we go, Then they.

951
00:47:17,719 --> 00:47:20,240
Speaker 2: Go again, just passing the chill vibe test.

952
00:47:20,400 --> 00:47:22,640
Speaker 1: Asking the chill vibe test, she asked me if I

953
00:47:22,719 --> 00:47:24,520
Speaker 1: was making anything at the time, and I let her

954
00:47:24,520 --> 00:47:26,760
Speaker 1: know that I was making a blanket for Tim because

955
00:47:26,800 --> 00:47:28,440
Speaker 1: he had told me that no one had ever made

956
00:47:28,480 --> 00:47:31,040
Speaker 1: him something like that before. If she's sus you know

957
00:47:31,160 --> 00:47:33,239
Speaker 1: that got under her skin. I let her know. I

958
00:47:33,280 --> 00:47:35,120
Speaker 1: was really excited about it because I wanted to see

959
00:47:35,120 --> 00:47:37,600
Speaker 1: his reaction when he got that kind of gift. This

960
00:47:37,800 --> 00:47:43,120
Speaker 1: brings me to the reason for my post lock in Today,

961
00:47:43,360 --> 00:47:47,040
Speaker 1: Debbie knocked on Tim's door. Who is it? It's me,

962
00:47:47,239 --> 00:47:51,200
Speaker 1: Debbie unexpectedly, I answered the door. For the record, she

963
00:47:51,200 --> 00:47:53,960
Speaker 1: had texted him fifteen minutes before arriving letting him know

964
00:47:54,000 --> 00:47:56,560
Speaker 1: that she was going to come over and bring a surprise,

965
00:47:56,960 --> 00:47:59,160
Speaker 1: but he didn't see the text before she got there.

966
00:47:59,520 --> 00:48:01,799
Speaker 1: When I Owe opened the door, she told me she

967
00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:06,360
Speaker 1: had a surprise for Tim. The surprise was a crocheted

968
00:48:06,480 --> 00:48:11,160
Speaker 1: blanket she had made for him. That's rude. Remember she

969
00:48:11,239 --> 00:48:14,680
Speaker 1: said she wanted to get into crocheting, therefore meaning she

970
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:18,520
Speaker 1: was not an expert in crocheting right, which means she

971
00:48:18,520 --> 00:48:22,960
Speaker 1: would have had a temptest in Chat says crocheting a

972
00:48:23,000 --> 00:48:29,799
Speaker 1: blanket is dedication and learning and learning to do it.

973
00:48:29,960 --> 00:48:33,920
Speaker 1: That means she went in like probably every second from

974
00:48:34,080 --> 00:48:36,440
Speaker 1: when she finished that conversation with op too when she

975
00:48:36,480 --> 00:48:40,319
Speaker 1: showed up that door, she was going crazy trying to

976
00:48:40,320 --> 00:48:42,560
Speaker 1: make this or paid a lot of money or something.

977
00:48:42,760 --> 00:48:46,680
Speaker 2: Yes, now the susmeter is going up, susmeter. I guarantee

978
00:48:47,000 --> 00:48:50,399
Speaker 2: you she has a picture of Op in like one

979
00:48:50,440 --> 00:48:52,799
Speaker 2: of her closets and like just throwing darts at it.

980
00:48:53,200 --> 00:48:56,719
Speaker 1: M I'm better than you. Ooh, I'm better than you. Ooh.

981
00:48:56,840 --> 00:49:01,120
Speaker 1: Maybe she has a hey Arnold like you know, shrine

982
00:49:01,280 --> 00:49:08,960
Speaker 1: Oh the Hella shrine, bro, But she's not mean. I

983
00:49:09,040 --> 00:49:10,839
Speaker 1: mean it, Riley, What do you got for me? Talk

984
00:49:10,880 --> 00:49:11,440
Speaker 1: to me, baby.

985
00:49:11,520 --> 00:49:14,120
Speaker 3: I used to have a friend like this. I just

986
00:49:14,200 --> 00:49:16,120
Speaker 3: kind of waited it out and it went away.

987
00:49:16,680 --> 00:49:20,680
Speaker 1: Oh they were into you. Okay, look you had a shrine.

988
00:49:21,120 --> 00:49:24,320
Speaker 1: Maybe we have to invade her house in that suit,

989
00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:28,279
Speaker 1: bust down the door, you know, like like freaking you know,

990
00:49:28,400 --> 00:49:32,480
Speaker 1: quarantine CDC, just as a ruse to see if the

991
00:49:32,520 --> 00:49:36,440
Speaker 1: shrine was actually there or not. Anyways, the weirdest part

992
00:49:36,520 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 1: was that it was baby blanket sized, so was completely

993
00:49:40,200 --> 00:49:43,040
Speaker 1: useless for him, also indicating to me that she made

994
00:49:43,080 --> 00:49:45,239
Speaker 1: it herself and again was like struggling to make it

995
00:49:45,239 --> 00:49:49,279
Speaker 1: in time. She was just trying to beat up Peep. Nonetheless,

996
00:49:49,320 --> 00:49:51,840
Speaker 1: I was completely shocked because she knew I was actively

997
00:49:51,880 --> 00:49:54,719
Speaker 1: making a blanket for him, and why I was excited

998
00:49:54,760 --> 00:49:56,800
Speaker 1: to give it to him, because he hadn't got one before.

999
00:49:57,480 --> 00:49:59,840
Speaker 1: Debbie wanted to be the first. It feels like she

1000
00:50:00,080 --> 00:50:02,160
Speaker 1: rushed out to make a blanket for him just in

1001
00:50:02,239 --> 00:50:04,040
Speaker 1: order to beat me to get the gift that I

1002
00:50:04,160 --> 00:50:06,719
Speaker 1: was going to give him. At one point, he said

1003
00:50:06,719 --> 00:50:08,839
Speaker 1: to her, I didn't know that this was in your

1004
00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:12,520
Speaker 1: skill repertoire. How long have you been crocheting? She responded

1005
00:50:12,520 --> 00:50:15,000
Speaker 1: by saying that she just started and it was the

1006
00:50:15,080 --> 00:50:17,680
Speaker 1: second thing that she had ever made, but the first

1007
00:50:17,760 --> 00:50:20,840
Speaker 1: thing was really bad. After hanging out with us for

1008
00:50:21,000 --> 00:50:23,080
Speaker 1: half an hour or so and continuing to talk about

1009
00:50:23,120 --> 00:50:26,080
Speaker 1: her crocheting, she said that when she was making it

1010
00:50:26,160 --> 00:50:28,520
Speaker 1: and had to figure out who she was going to

1011
00:50:28,520 --> 00:50:31,719
Speaker 1: give it to, because once you start crocheting, you have

1012
00:50:31,800 --> 00:50:33,839
Speaker 1: too much crochet stuff in your house and you have

1013
00:50:33,920 --> 00:50:36,600
Speaker 1: to figure out who to start gifting things to, which

1014
00:50:36,640 --> 00:50:39,720
Speaker 1: is exactly what I told her when we were speaking

1015
00:50:39,719 --> 00:50:42,680
Speaker 1: about our hobbies. And obviously does it make sense if

1016
00:50:42,719 --> 00:50:45,400
Speaker 1: it's only the second thing she's ever made.

1017
00:50:46,920 --> 00:50:49,719
Speaker 2: Come back here, The susmeter is now going up.

1018
00:50:50,200 --> 00:50:52,960
Speaker 1: What's our poll at? Oh wow? People are saying it's

1019
00:50:53,000 --> 00:50:55,200
Speaker 1: less us. I think we haven't revoted yet yet. Revote

1020
00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:57,640
Speaker 1: we revote people. Now. It feels like if I give

1021
00:50:57,719 --> 00:50:59,719
Speaker 1: him my blanket, it will look like I made it.

1022
00:50:59,719 --> 00:51:01,959
Speaker 1: In re sponse to her giving him a blanket, even

1023
00:51:02,000 --> 00:51:04,520
Speaker 1: though I started at first, I'm not sure how to

1024
00:51:04,520 --> 00:51:07,120
Speaker 1: address the situation without seeming petty or like I'm making

1025
00:51:07,239 --> 00:51:09,480
Speaker 1: drama out of a gift. She gave him any advice

1026
00:51:09,520 --> 00:51:12,160
Speaker 1: on how to navigate this would be very much appreciated. Ken,

1027
00:51:12,280 --> 00:51:15,160
Speaker 1: I'm curious if you feel any differently, well, my thoughts

1028
00:51:15,160 --> 00:51:16,760
Speaker 1: are just tell him.

1029
00:51:16,920 --> 00:51:19,359
Speaker 2: Just tell him, no, that does what I was gonna say, like, hey,

1030
00:51:19,880 --> 00:51:23,920
Speaker 2: she's she's again, because he did say to op if

1031
00:51:23,920 --> 00:51:26,680
Speaker 2: she makes you uncomfortable, I will cut off that French

1032
00:51:26,800 --> 00:51:28,520
Speaker 2: right be to make you more comfortable.

1033
00:51:28,560 --> 00:51:28,960
Speaker 1: You're right.

1034
00:51:29,160 --> 00:51:31,480
Speaker 2: And if somebody did this where I'm like, hey, I'm

1035
00:51:31,480 --> 00:51:34,080
Speaker 2: making Carly some stuff that you know, it's homemade, and

1036
00:51:34,120 --> 00:51:35,960
Speaker 2: like one of her friends just did it out of

1037
00:51:35,960 --> 00:51:38,719
Speaker 2: the blue, all whimsy, just to beat me to it,

1038
00:51:38,760 --> 00:51:40,040
Speaker 2: I'm like, I didn't like that.

1039
00:51:40,480 --> 00:51:43,960
Speaker 1: Yeah that was weird. Yeah, uh huh. But if a friend,

1040
00:51:44,000 --> 00:51:46,560
Speaker 1: you know, surprised with or like, has had a gift

1041
00:51:46,719 --> 00:51:48,479
Speaker 1: or something, you know, if.

1042
00:51:48,360 --> 00:51:50,000
Speaker 2: It's a gift, but if it's the same thing as like, oh,

1043
00:51:50,080 --> 00:51:53,440
Speaker 2: I'm really into I'm really into I don't know, I

1044
00:51:53,440 --> 00:51:56,560
Speaker 2: can't think of anything pottery, yeah, and like they're like, oh,

1045
00:51:56,600 --> 00:51:58,440
Speaker 2: I took a pottery class for the first time yesterday

1046
00:51:58,440 --> 00:52:00,200
Speaker 2: and I wanted to like make a potter, Like here's

1047
00:52:00,200 --> 00:52:03,080
Speaker 2: a pot for Carly, not even for myself. A pot

1048
00:52:03,080 --> 00:52:07,680
Speaker 2: for Carly, I'm like, okay, all right, buddy, why do that?

1049
00:52:08,480 --> 00:52:11,719
Speaker 1: Why you don Yeah, we have an update update. I

1050
00:52:11,840 --> 00:52:14,640
Speaker 1: ended up speaking to my boyfriend about it, very good.

1051
00:52:14,880 --> 00:52:17,279
Speaker 1: He agreed it was completely weird and not appropriate for

1052
00:52:17,280 --> 00:52:19,400
Speaker 1: her to do. He ended up sending her text message

1053
00:52:19,400 --> 00:52:21,879
Speaker 1: saying that he learned she was aware I was making

1054
00:52:21,960 --> 00:52:24,440
Speaker 1: him a blanket, and that her gift therefore across boundaries

1055
00:52:24,480 --> 00:52:27,359
Speaker 1: and was not appropriate. She responded to his message by

1056
00:52:27,400 --> 00:52:29,759
Speaker 1: saying that she had no idea about the fact I

1057
00:52:29,800 --> 00:52:32,880
Speaker 1: was making him a blanket, lies and said that he

1058
00:52:32,880 --> 00:52:34,719
Speaker 1: could give it back to her or throw it out,

1059
00:52:34,920 --> 00:52:37,719
Speaker 1: and said she was quote unquote so sorry. Before he

1060
00:52:37,760 --> 00:52:41,280
Speaker 1: could reply, she called him and was sobbing on the phone.

1061
00:52:41,400 --> 00:52:43,160
Speaker 1: She said again that she had no idea that I

1062
00:52:43,200 --> 00:52:45,160
Speaker 1: was making him something and told him to just throw

1063
00:52:45,200 --> 00:52:47,799
Speaker 1: the blanket away because she didn't want to cause conflict.

1064
00:52:48,080 --> 00:52:52,280
Speaker 1: And that's wrong. This is getting worse and worse false. Yeah.

1065
00:52:52,480 --> 00:52:55,200
Speaker 1: I think he believes her emotional reaction to be genuinely

1066
00:52:55,320 --> 00:52:58,560
Speaker 1: upset over a misunderstanding, while I feel like it's more

1067
00:52:58,560 --> 00:53:02,319
Speaker 1: of an emotional reaction to shift the focus of the conversation.

1068
00:53:02,920 --> 00:53:05,759
Speaker 1: And I agree mm hmm. After they got off the phone.

1069
00:53:05,760 --> 00:53:07,440
Speaker 1: He messaged her and told her that he didn't mean

1070
00:53:07,480 --> 00:53:09,400
Speaker 1: to upset her, and he understood it wasn't her intention

1071
00:53:09,480 --> 00:53:12,440
Speaker 1: to rush out a blanket before I finished mine. She

1072
00:53:12,600 --> 00:53:15,480
Speaker 1: responded to him by saying again he should throw it away.

1073
00:53:15,560 --> 00:53:17,520
Speaker 1: He said he wasn't going to do that, and she

1074
00:53:17,680 --> 00:53:19,960
Speaker 1: said and that next time she is there, she's going

1075
00:53:20,000 --> 00:53:22,920
Speaker 1: to take it and throw it away because she didn't

1076
00:53:22,920 --> 00:53:25,360
Speaker 1: want her nice gesture to be a source of conflict.

1077
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Speaker 1: She then told him they need to have an honest

1078
00:53:27,960 --> 00:53:34,720
Speaker 1: conversation with each other eventually, whatever that means, sus, sus,

1079
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Speaker 1: But any final thoughts before we get into this the

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Speaker 1: last little titbit here.

1081
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Speaker 2: I mean, I feel like he's being manipulated by the friend.

1082
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Speaker 2: You know, the crying tactic. Yeah, again, tell your boyfriend

1083
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Speaker 2: or his boyfriend husband, tell your partner. Yes, I'm not

1084
00:53:48,840 --> 00:53:51,880
Speaker 2: comfortable with this this friend of yours anymore. Yep, you

1085
00:53:51,920 --> 00:53:54,800
Speaker 2: know what she just said. I was like, Lie, Lie,

1086
00:53:54,920 --> 00:53:58,839
Speaker 2: that's a blatant lie. She's manipulating you, And Lie, I say,

1087
00:53:58,920 --> 00:54:01,800
Speaker 2: go have this meeting, see what she says, and then

1088
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Speaker 2: take that information and still be like even it's positive,

1089
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Speaker 2: I'm like, I'm not comfortable with this check anymore.

1090
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Speaker 1: Please cut her off. YEP, I agree, I freaking agree.

1091
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Speaker 1: We'll see if that happens, sop. He says. She also

1092
00:54:13,960 --> 00:54:16,040
Speaker 1: said she had no idea she was making a mistake,

1093
00:54:16,239 --> 00:54:17,600
Speaker 1: and that she doesn't want to make these kind of

1094
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Speaker 1: mistakes in the future, and asked him to please help her. Okay,

1095
00:54:22,360 --> 00:54:24,759
Speaker 1: he's out of town until tomorrow night, so the conversation

1096
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Speaker 1: is kind of paused for now until he's back. I

1097
00:54:27,280 --> 00:54:29,279
Speaker 1: tend to err on the side of giving people the

1098
00:54:29,280 --> 00:54:32,080
Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt. But none of this is sitting well,

1099
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Speaker 1: that's the end of the story. That's it, unfortunately, But Op,

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Speaker 1: I think she's I think you already gave her the

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00:54:39,840 --> 00:54:42,480
Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt in the first half of everything

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00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:44,839
Speaker 1: had happened, and now we've reached the place where the

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00:54:44,880 --> 00:54:46,920
Speaker 1: benefit of the doubt is no longer applicable because she

1104
00:54:46,960 --> 00:54:51,360
Speaker 1: did all those super weird it's super weird now I

1105
00:54:51,400 --> 00:54:54,200
Speaker 1: gave her the benefit of the doubt. Debbie once.

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Speaker 2: Once your man's she's gonna give him a little like doll.

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00:54:58,640 --> 00:55:01,040
Speaker 2: I'm like, this is you right, I made you.

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Speaker 1: I made it. I kiss it every night before I

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Speaker 1: go to sleep. Ah, I love the doll, I mean

1110
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Speaker 1: the doll. But that's it. I want to know what

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00:55:11,680 --> 00:55:17,319
Speaker 1: they talk about, right, yeah, like what update? That's fine,

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Speaker 1: it please, but that is the end of the story,

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Speaker 1: in the end of this episode and the end of

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Speaker 1: the stream. Oh my god, what a day. What a

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Speaker 1: freaking day. Take it away, all right? Well, if you

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