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Speaker 1: I personally do not believe that this whole mediocrity thing

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Speaker 2: That's an interesting take, but I refuse to subscribe to

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Speaker 2: any level of mediocrity just because it makes somebody else

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Speaker 2: feel okay. As dead Ass, baby Wow, it.

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Speaker 1: All started with real talk, unfiltered, honest and straight from

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Speaker 1: the heart. Since then, we've gone on to become Webby

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Speaker 1: award winning podcasters in New York Times bestselling authors.

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Speaker 3: Dead Ass was more than a podcast for us.

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Speaker 2: It was about our growth, a place where we could

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Speaker 1: Wrong, of course, but most apportly be us.

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Speaker 2: But as we know, life keeps evolving and so do we,

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Speaker 2: and through it all, one thing has never changed. This

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Speaker 2: because we got a lot to talk about.

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Speaker 1: So I'm going to take and we went back to

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Speaker 1: a time where I'm not gonna lie. I was. I

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Speaker 1: was disappointed, but I was also very very confused. This

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Speaker 1: is when Jackson was going to public school in Brooklyn.

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Speaker 1: Oh okay, I'm not going to shout out the public

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Speaker 1: school name, but we were going to field Day and

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Speaker 1: as you guys know, I tend to be very competitive.

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Speaker 1: Jackson was I think first grade so this was his

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Speaker 1: we have been doing our treadmill workouts and stuff like that,

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Speaker 1: and you know, I'm like, yo, you got to run

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Speaker 1: know what I'm saying. We got to go out here

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Speaker 1: So I say to the teacher, wait a minute, that

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Speaker 4: She goes, it don't even matter. I said, excuse me,

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Speaker 4: there's no winners and losers. They're just running and I

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Speaker 1: And then I said, well, what about if they want

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Speaker 3: I think there's nothing fun about that.

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Speaker 1: But it was in that moment that I realized, yeah,

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Speaker 3: Interesting, we'll unpack.

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Speaker 2: All right, karaoke time. Yes, yes, it's so funny. We're

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Speaker 2: here looking up like songs that had mediocre.

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Speaker 2: But what came to mind for me is actually one

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Speaker 2: Have you heard it before?

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Speaker 2: Then my good tayad fisty, we fierce ganget, we owe

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Speaker 2: to the ris. Oh yeah, I forget the word. They say,

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Speaker 2: I'm in your place and then you draw bodkyod propaganda,

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Speaker 2: came to mind is just like you know, you're over

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Speaker 2: there and running your race. You're doing what you want

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Speaker 2: Like this is my lane and it's my race, and

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Speaker 1: I feel you, you know I feel you. Anyway, I'm

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Speaker 1: excited about this conversation because I hear where you're going,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm sure we're tied tied all together with a

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Speaker 2: back after paying these bills. So stick around y'all, all right,

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Speaker 2: and we're back. Yes, in that field, they had to

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Speaker 2: out to them, Yes, now known as trade Wit Field School,

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Speaker 2: but back when we had field day, like we looked

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Speaker 1: As early as nursery four years old, I remember my.

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Speaker 1: Was like first stopped laughing, Josh as four years old,

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Speaker 3: Seriously, I got it, I got it.

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Speaker 3: Like, well, who's gonna beat who this year?

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Speaker 2: But it was a friendly competition, like nobody was mad,

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Speaker 1: It was not for me if you beat me in

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Speaker 2: So then fast forward to Jackson's field day and we're

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Speaker 2: That's how it works now, so there's there's no reason

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Speaker 1: Well, and this was this was my issue, right. It

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Speaker 1: with the red pen they put red marks all over

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Speaker 1: maybe you did if you got red marks and you failed.

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Speaker 5: Now that's not fun, broch.

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Speaker 1: Which creates mediocre people that I can't control that, And

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Speaker 2: We label them the one person that be going too hard,

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Speaker 2: Sometimes, I'm sure, because we all over here at some

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Speaker 2: I've heard before that people say me and if I

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Speaker 3: And if I want that, what's the what's your problem

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Speaker 1: You got a problem with a list?

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Speaker 3: I want to be never never been on a D

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Speaker 1: Well, yes you have, hey, yo, really after after dark

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Speaker 3: Don't always find a way to massage that in there.

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Speaker 2: But seriously, like a A list is the list for me, honey, Okay?

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Speaker 2: And I was always I was getting a's. I was

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Speaker 2: that's followed me my whole life, honey, So why would

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Speaker 1: But you know what's funny, even your mom, right, your

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Speaker 3: Excellence, excellence, that's it.

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Speaker 1: She was doing too much.

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Speaker 9: Definitely. Going on the news this week, Cardi B is

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Speaker 3: Bitch, which one is worse.

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Speaker 6: She said she's security heavy, security guard heavy. She looks

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Speaker 1: I didn't hear this, worried about this. My only op

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Speaker 2: My op is that if she's somebody that I want

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Speaker 6: Yeah, she's going to fight. She's about that life and

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Speaker 3: She looks good doing it.

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Speaker 2: Like the baby was laid, Okay, nails were done, here

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Speaker 2: All a mediocre folk how they feel about that? They

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Speaker 5: That's right.

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Speaker 6: Speaking of mediocre, I had saw a clip of Oprah

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Speaker 1: I'm just like, wow, y'all wire all coming to do

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Speaker 1: do you do? You blame the gender. Bitches ain't shit,

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Speaker 1: find fault in people who are. And it's the same

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Speaker 1: thing as misery loving company. The same way. You and

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Speaker 1: We watch it all the time with women who do

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Speaker 1: is a little bit more upset. Right, we watch men

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Speaker 1: do the same thing. Do make a little bit more

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Speaker 1: That's part of misery, loving company, or they got.

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Speaker 8: The golden ticket. Your friend got the golden ticket even

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Speaker 8: though he's talented, you know what I'm.

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Speaker 1: Saying, and he won't do the work.

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Speaker 2: It had to be something else. It had to be

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Speaker 7: That's talking about what happened to me.

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Speaker 10: He's talking about it happened with me, like somebody was

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Speaker 10: I actually went on Instagram line. Somebody was talking and

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Speaker 7: What how I got to go to the ticket? I

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Speaker 1: Oh, because oh, oh, I get it. I get it

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Speaker 10: Because I had an opportunity, and I took advantage of

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Speaker 7: For working hard.

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Speaker 1: You had the golden ticket, but they had the same.

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Speaker 5: They had the same opportunity.

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Speaker 1: Though that's a perfect example that right, there is a

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Speaker 2: You simply executed your opportunity. But how did you even

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Speaker 8: Josh gave two people opportunities. Matt ticket, mantage of it,

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Speaker 3: That's a perfect Are you friends with that person to

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Speaker 5: Oh? Yeah, absolutely friends.

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Speaker 8: He's the degrees of friendships obviously, right, I'm still cool

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Speaker 1: I understand what their mindset is, but you know it's.

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Speaker 1: Yo. I don't think that, first of all, all friends

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Speaker 1: I also don't think that you have to not be

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Speaker 2: Sult because friendships are not conditional for you in that sense,

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Speaker 3: Essentially you like somebody for who they are.

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Speaker 1: Right.

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Speaker 2: The friendships are relationships that we choose to get into.

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Speaker 1: But that mindset that they talk about is why I

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Speaker 2: You have to and be mindful to to Gale's point,

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Speaker 3: I'm Jackson about it.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I told Jackson, little slights, little jazz.

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Speaker 9: They always said.

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Speaker 6: People say, oh, your little thing, your little business.

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Speaker 2: he's making those friendships, which is interesting to see the

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Speaker 2: space that he's in with friendships because he's not like

444
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Speaker 2: a kind of kid we were just talking about, like

445
00:20:02,320 --> 00:20:05,280
Speaker 2: he's not with any particular group. He's kind of had

446
00:20:05,359 --> 00:20:08,720
Speaker 2: his solid core two or three guys and gets along

447
00:20:08,720 --> 00:20:09,440
Speaker 2: with everybody.

448
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Speaker 1: I watched Jacks though, right, Jax has relationships with different people,

449
00:20:13,280 --> 00:20:15,600
Speaker 1: Like he has his one friend, don't play no sports.

450
00:20:16,160 --> 00:20:19,080
Speaker 1: He's just like a brainiac. Them two went to the movies.

451
00:20:19,320 --> 00:20:21,359
Speaker 1: You know what I'm saying, to go chill. Got another

452
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Speaker 1: friend that's all they do is sports. Then his other

453
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Speaker 1: homeboy they in robotics. It's like Jackson likes to be

454
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Speaker 1: around people who have like high achievers. Yes, like if

455
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Speaker 1: we're going to do something, let's all do it at

456
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Speaker 1: the same rate. And he also likes people who compete,

457
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Speaker 1: like his homeboy, they're competing to be valedictorian. His other homeboy,

458
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Speaker 1: he's competing with him to be the best in robotics.

459
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Speaker 7: I like that he definitely get that from y'all because

460
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Speaker 7: that's how you.

461
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Speaker 1: Yeah, that is how I am. Definitely like that and

462
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Speaker 1: think of us. I love competing, but his was the

463
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Speaker 1: craziest part. And I don't think anyone will ever say this.

464
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Speaker 1: I like losing because lesson I learned when you when

465
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Speaker 1: you around people that you always win. Right, where's the challenge?

466
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Speaker 5: Right?

467
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Speaker 1: It's only when I'm around people who have made me

468
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Speaker 1: think something and I'm like, oh, shoot, right, you know,

469
00:21:08,040 --> 00:21:10,520
Speaker 1: like dang, and then it's like dang, I'm sitting It

470
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Speaker 1: makes me feel like I'm sitting in a mediocre spot.

471
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Speaker 1: If I thought I had everything figured out, well.

472
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Speaker 2: They say that, right, if you're the smartest in the room,

473
00:21:16,160 --> 00:21:16,960
Speaker 2: needs a changing room.

474
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, yeah, Like I love to be challenged, even

475
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Speaker 1: like even having a podcast, someone has a different thought.

476
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Speaker 1: Come to the comments and say the thought. Let's talk

477
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Speaker 1: about it like your thought. And one thing I do

478
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Speaker 1: hate when people come and say no disrespect. You don't

479
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Speaker 1: have to leave with no disrespect. You don't have to

480
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Speaker 1: say no, it's just what's your thought because your thought

481
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Speaker 1: may open my mind.

482
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Speaker 3: Don't take this the wrong way.

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Speaker 7: Disrespect implies disrespect people.

484
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Speaker 1: Right right Exactly, it means I'm about to say it,

485
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Speaker 1: but I don't want you to take it.

486
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Speaker 2: But also like when you, for example, you've said it

487
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Speaker 2: before when we do post for even our podcast clips, right,

488
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Speaker 2: the whole point of posting these clips is to have

489
00:22:00,040 --> 00:22:02,480
Speaker 2: engagement for people to be in the comments and to

490
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Speaker 2: talk about things, to maybe possibly learn something take away

491
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Speaker 2: a little tidbit. But we're not giving our opinions trying

492
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Speaker 2: to persuade you to think the way we think.

493
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Speaker 3: It's simply just us sharing.

494
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Speaker 2: What we think about it, and then you can take

495
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Speaker 2: or leave whatever you want, you know, and a lot

496
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Speaker 2: of did anybody read the book let them Let them theory?

497
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Speaker 9: Or have you heard it?

498
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Speaker 3: You've heard about it?

499
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Speaker 2: Yeah, right, So the essentially what it's saying is that

500
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Speaker 2: you know what people feel, believe, think, you just let

501
00:22:29,480 --> 00:22:32,359
Speaker 2: them even their opinions about you, because the only thing

502
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Speaker 2: that you can control is now once you let them,

503
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Speaker 2: let me make them so, make them go on, and

504
00:22:39,960 --> 00:22:43,159
Speaker 2: now let me either distance myself, put up a boundary,

505
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Speaker 2: whatever is required in order for you to just enagle

506
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Speaker 2: that relationship or realize, hey, it could also be a

507
00:22:47,960 --> 00:22:51,439
Speaker 2: comment coming from a complete stranger. They're commenting based off

508
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Speaker 2: of how they feel and then you let them be right,

509
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Speaker 2: because then I don't have to consume that.

510
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Speaker 9: I don't be trying to let them nothing. I'll be

511
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Speaker 9: trying to let them get cussed out.

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Speaker 6: Comment yeah little sometimes, but I give myself a limit.

513
00:23:06,200 --> 00:23:08,840
Speaker 6: I'll respond to a couple and then after it's been

514
00:23:08,920 --> 00:23:10,960
Speaker 6: up for twenty four hours, I'm not responding anymore.

515
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Speaker 2: Absolutely, because there's a lot of mediocrity in the comments. Yeah,

516
00:23:13,600 --> 00:23:18,560
Speaker 2: I'll tell you that, a lot of for sure, for sure.

517
00:23:19,080 --> 00:23:21,359
Speaker 3: And we don't do all this social media.

518
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Speaker 1: That's the whole world, is really the whole world. You

519
00:23:24,520 --> 00:23:27,600
Speaker 1: can't even take it, that's Realius, No, you can't, like

520
00:23:27,680 --> 00:23:28,080
Speaker 1: you can't.

521
00:23:28,160 --> 00:23:29,879
Speaker 2: You just what you have to do is stop giving

522
00:23:29,880 --> 00:23:33,439
Speaker 2: people the power over you. You got to stop expecting

523
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Speaker 2: things from people.

524
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Speaker 1: So this brings me back to remember the very very beginning.

525
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Speaker 1: Why I think mediocrity was forced on us. I think

526
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Speaker 1: it was just a way to fatten us up for

527
00:23:44,760 --> 00:23:48,560
Speaker 1: the slaughter, right, Like, it's easier to control a group

528
00:23:48,640 --> 00:23:51,920
Speaker 1: of people if they only aspire to be mediocre, right,

529
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Speaker 1: if they aspire to follow each other, Right, if they

530
00:23:55,520 --> 00:23:58,359
Speaker 1: just aspire to have nothing, Like remember when we grew up,

531
00:23:58,440 --> 00:24:01,000
Speaker 1: you know, too cool for school, like all the cool

532
00:24:01,160 --> 00:24:03,680
Speaker 1: kids failed, all the cool kids was doing drugs? Like

533
00:24:03,720 --> 00:24:07,439
Speaker 1: who pushed that narrative that being mediocre and not trying

534
00:24:07,440 --> 00:24:11,200
Speaker 1: hard was cool? And I noticed it's so easy to

535
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Speaker 1: change your mindset. When I was doing Prototype for the

536
00:24:13,880 --> 00:24:17,199
Speaker 1: ten years, we had a know nobody can be a

537
00:24:17,200 --> 00:24:20,320
Speaker 1: part of Prototype if you had under eighty GPA. And

538
00:24:20,359 --> 00:24:22,399
Speaker 1: my thing was I wanted to change the standard so

539
00:24:22,440 --> 00:24:24,119
Speaker 1: that people knew when you walked in here you were

540
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Speaker 1: part of the cool kids who got good grades. And

541
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Speaker 1: it was funny how the mindset changed right when we

542
00:24:29,240 --> 00:24:31,960
Speaker 1: had a whole class of people. In twenty fifteen, the

543
00:24:32,000 --> 00:24:34,159
Speaker 1: whole team that won the city title was supposed to

544
00:24:34,160 --> 00:24:36,600
Speaker 1: be a bunch of hood thug kids all graduated and

545
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Speaker 1: went to college, and then it became a thing in Prototype,

546
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Speaker 1: whereas if you got below at eighty, you got laughed at.

547
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Speaker 1: So it shows you how simple it is to change

548
00:24:46,320 --> 00:24:50,320
Speaker 1: a whole, entire group's mindset to not push for mediocrity,

549
00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:53,040
Speaker 1: and what you can achieve when you change your whole group.

550
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Speaker 1: The reason why they're trying to fatten us for the

551
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,760
Speaker 1: slaughter is because we're dangerous if we're not being mediocre.

552
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Speaker 2: So true do you realize that people love a struggle story,

553
00:25:04,520 --> 00:25:06,639
Speaker 2: and you will root for somebody when they're on their

554
00:25:06,640 --> 00:25:08,680
Speaker 2: way up, and you'll root for them while they're doing

555
00:25:08,760 --> 00:25:12,600
Speaker 2: all the things that may be somewhat attainable in your eyes.

556
00:25:12,760 --> 00:25:15,840
Speaker 2: And as they continue to progress and move forward and

557
00:25:15,880 --> 00:25:18,200
Speaker 2: they finally reach a level that might be in your

558
00:25:18,280 --> 00:25:22,120
Speaker 2: mind out of reach, yp then it becomes I don't

559
00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:24,960
Speaker 2: know if I really fuck with them anymore. Oh, they're

560
00:25:24,960 --> 00:25:28,280
Speaker 2: losing their authenticity. I liked it better when they were

561
00:25:28,280 --> 00:25:31,080
Speaker 2: in the Brooklyn apartment. You like to the struggle a

562
00:25:31,080 --> 00:25:34,200
Speaker 2: little bit better. I don't know who they think they are.

563
00:25:34,240 --> 00:25:36,720
Speaker 2: Like those comments starting to come through now, and it's

564
00:25:36,760 --> 00:25:39,840
Speaker 2: just like, man, here we are essentially trying to do

565
00:25:39,880 --> 00:25:42,960
Speaker 2: the best we can, to work hard for our goals

566
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Speaker 2: and our dreams, to set our family up for the

567
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Speaker 2: legacy that we want for them. But in turn, we

568
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Speaker 2: lose people and we lose support because at this point

569
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Speaker 2: they don't want to see us doing well.

570
00:25:51,480 --> 00:25:53,399
Speaker 1: Well. What I say is, we don't lose support. We

571
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Speaker 1: don't lose support because the support to gain to grow.

572
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Speaker 2: Yeah.

573
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Speaker 1: Right, But the thing is everybody isn't along for the

574
00:26:00,960 --> 00:26:03,800
Speaker 1: entire journey, right, Some people were only along for that

575
00:26:03,880 --> 00:26:06,720
Speaker 1: part of the journey then they go somewhere else. I'm

576
00:26:06,720 --> 00:26:10,080
Speaker 1: fine with that. We have continued to grow because we've

577
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Speaker 1: grown in abundance. It's just when people announce their exit,

578
00:26:12,920 --> 00:26:15,840
Speaker 1: it makes you feel like, you know, like, why announce

579
00:26:15,880 --> 00:26:19,200
Speaker 1: your egnent? Why announce your exit? I realize that people

580
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:22,120
Speaker 1: are going to announce their exit because that's all they have. Yeah,

581
00:26:22,640 --> 00:26:23,840
Speaker 1: that's it. You can't take it.

582
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Speaker 3: That's the power, that's what they have. They made their right,

583
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:28,520
Speaker 3: got it?

584
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Speaker 1: You like you like that in that moment, this is

585
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Speaker 1: all I have to let them know that something didn't

586
00:26:33,680 --> 00:26:34,479
Speaker 1: hit me right way.

587
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:35,800
Speaker 3: They've lost me, right.

588
00:26:35,640 --> 00:26:38,360
Speaker 1: And that's okay, right, because you got to look at

589
00:26:38,359 --> 00:26:42,200
Speaker 1: everybody around you, right, there's nobody that has that has

590
00:26:42,320 --> 00:26:44,720
Speaker 1: aspired to do something that everyone else hasn't done, that

591
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Speaker 1: hasn't lost people along the.

592
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Speaker 3: Way, oh for sure, and being exactly who they are.

593
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Speaker 2: You know, Josh, Matt and Triple y'all have been working

594
00:26:50,880 --> 00:26:53,320
Speaker 2: with us for how many years now, and I feel

595
00:26:53,359 --> 00:26:54,560
Speaker 2: like I feel like you guys can attest to the

596
00:26:54,640 --> 00:26:57,080
Speaker 2: fact that we are still at heart the same people, right,

597
00:26:57,520 --> 00:26:59,880
Speaker 2: if anything, that we still want everybody to win we're

598
00:27:00,160 --> 00:27:02,720
Speaker 2: trying to bring everybody along with us, you know, working hard.

599
00:27:02,720 --> 00:27:05,040
Speaker 2: But like to your point, some people are just okay

600
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Speaker 2: with that portion of the journey.

601
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Speaker 1: Yeah, And the thing is that if that journey or

602
00:27:09,640 --> 00:27:12,000
Speaker 1: that part of our journey spoke to them in that

603
00:27:12,080 --> 00:27:15,360
Speaker 1: moment and this part of the journey doesn't, that's okay too.

604
00:27:15,560 --> 00:27:15,679
Speaker 6: Right.

605
00:27:15,840 --> 00:27:18,320
Speaker 1: Maybe they can't relate because they haven't reached this part yet,

606
00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:20,560
Speaker 1: but then once they've reached this part, then maybe they

607
00:27:20,560 --> 00:27:23,399
Speaker 1: can relate. Like, I have no problems with that. Like,

608
00:27:23,720 --> 00:27:26,920
Speaker 1: there's certain people's lives that I've followed, or celebrities or

609
00:27:26,920 --> 00:27:29,080
Speaker 1: people that I've looked at that I'm like, I can't

610
00:27:29,119 --> 00:27:32,400
Speaker 1: relate to this. So in that moment that I can't

611
00:27:32,440 --> 00:27:34,239
Speaker 1: relate to, but then something else comes up and I

612
00:27:34,280 --> 00:27:35,400
Speaker 1: definitely can relate to.

613
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Speaker 3: That for sure.

614
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Speaker 1: I just feel like that's what it is, So I

615
00:27:38,600 --> 00:27:40,120
Speaker 1: really don't take it personal.

616
00:27:39,920 --> 00:27:43,000
Speaker 2: Right, Yeah, you're absolutely right, And to your point, we

617
00:27:43,000 --> 00:27:44,560
Speaker 2: feel the same way about other people. We just don't

618
00:27:44,560 --> 00:27:47,000
Speaker 2: feel the need to necessarily announce it. But you take

619
00:27:47,040 --> 00:27:47,840
Speaker 2: it and you leave.

620
00:27:47,720 --> 00:27:51,040
Speaker 1: It right, and you just don't you can't say to yourself, well,

621
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Speaker 1: I'm not going to keep trying harder to get more

622
00:27:53,800 --> 00:27:56,600
Speaker 1: from my family or to do more for myself because

623
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Speaker 1: other people seem uncomfortable. Yeah, that's part of feeding into

624
00:28:00,320 --> 00:28:04,040
Speaker 1: the mediocrity of it. Think about it. You know how

625
00:28:04,080 --> 00:28:07,119
Speaker 1: when you when you're younger. We've heard this before. The

626
00:28:07,240 --> 00:28:10,080
Speaker 1: young person in the class don't get as good of

627
00:28:10,119 --> 00:28:12,240
Speaker 1: grades because they don't want to stand out too much

628
00:28:12,280 --> 00:28:14,200
Speaker 1: because they get made fun up for being a door

629
00:28:14,280 --> 00:28:17,680
Speaker 1: coord Have you ever heard it's like you can't keep

630
00:28:17,720 --> 00:28:20,480
Speaker 1: dimming your light because other people feel uncomfortable that you

631
00:28:20,600 --> 00:28:23,800
Speaker 1: shine in either they gonna put sunglasses on or they

632
00:28:23,920 --> 00:28:25,840
Speaker 1: just gonna watch you walk away blind because you got

633
00:28:25,880 --> 00:28:28,119
Speaker 1: to keep shining. That's how you got to do it.

634
00:28:28,440 --> 00:28:31,520
Speaker 1: Because you're shine may blind somebody else, but may need

635
00:28:31,800 --> 00:28:34,200
Speaker 1: be everything someone else needs to see in that moment.

636
00:28:34,680 --> 00:28:36,720
Speaker 1: So dimming your life may not only be hurting yourself,

637
00:28:36,720 --> 00:28:38,880
Speaker 1: it could be hurting other people who want to see

638
00:28:38,880 --> 00:28:40,520
Speaker 1: that message. You know what I'm saying.

639
00:28:40,560 --> 00:28:42,160
Speaker 3: That's a good point.

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Speaker 1: I do have a question though. My question is for

641
00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:47,840
Speaker 1: everybody though, Like as much as we're talking about keeping

642
00:28:47,880 --> 00:28:52,440
Speaker 1: good company, right, can we all be be honest and

643
00:28:52,480 --> 00:28:59,200
Speaker 1: say how comfortable you are about receiving the truth If

644
00:28:59,240 --> 00:29:02,680
Speaker 1: you're being stagged and a friend telling you I see

645
00:29:02,680 --> 00:29:04,440
Speaker 1: you being stagnant. The reason why I say this is

646
00:29:04,520 --> 00:29:07,440
Speaker 1: because it's easy to say to people, be more open

647
00:29:07,480 --> 00:29:10,560
Speaker 1: to receiving this information and stuff like that, don't be mediocre.

648
00:29:11,200 --> 00:29:14,480
Speaker 1: But then when someone tries to correct us, it's hard

649
00:29:14,520 --> 00:29:17,600
Speaker 1: for us to take. Yeah, how comfortable are y'all when

650
00:29:17,720 --> 00:29:19,000
Speaker 1: it comes to receiving that.

651
00:29:19,160 --> 00:29:21,200
Speaker 3: I know I always was never comfortable with it.

652
00:29:21,240 --> 00:29:23,040
Speaker 2: I think for me it was just a matter of

653
00:29:23,720 --> 00:29:26,960
Speaker 2: lacking accountability and in my mind feeling like I'm doing

654
00:29:27,000 --> 00:29:29,760
Speaker 2: my best in this moment. So because I feel like

655
00:29:29,800 --> 00:29:33,440
Speaker 2: I'm doing my best, there's no room for improvement. But then,

656
00:29:33,480 --> 00:29:36,200
Speaker 2: for example, you as a friend, as a husband's spouse,

657
00:29:36,240 --> 00:29:38,120
Speaker 2: have had moments where you're like, hey, like you're not

658
00:29:38,160 --> 00:29:40,800
Speaker 2: even maxing your potential right now, You're just coasting. And

659
00:29:40,880 --> 00:29:43,360
Speaker 2: sometimes you have to hear that from somebody whose opinion

660
00:29:43,440 --> 00:29:46,320
Speaker 2: you value, because it can't just come from anybody but you.

661
00:29:46,400 --> 00:29:50,240
Speaker 3: For example, for me, is someone who's actually living that life.

662
00:29:50,440 --> 00:29:50,600
Speaker 6: Right.

663
00:29:50,680 --> 00:29:54,040
Speaker 3: You're always aspiring to be greater, to do more, to advance.

664
00:29:54,440 --> 00:29:56,720
Speaker 2: So if I'm getting that note from a friend who

665
00:29:56,840 --> 00:29:58,440
Speaker 2: hadn't done shit with their business.

666
00:29:58,200 --> 00:29:59,280
Speaker 3: Either, or whatever it is.

667
00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:02,640
Speaker 2: It's hard to take that criticism versus from somebody who

668
00:30:02,680 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 2: was actually doing it and walking the walk that I

669
00:30:05,280 --> 00:30:05,960
Speaker 2: know I was going.

670
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:07,280
Speaker 10: To pick it back and say the same exact thing.

671
00:30:07,280 --> 00:30:09,680
Speaker 10: It always depends on who's coming from because if you

672
00:30:10,040 --> 00:30:12,400
Speaker 10: if you're not even doing half of what you're trying

673
00:30:12,400 --> 00:30:14,400
Speaker 10: to do, why are you particularly.

674
00:30:14,080 --> 00:30:14,920
Speaker 1: That is a good point.

675
00:30:14,960 --> 00:30:17,880
Speaker 10: So at least try to be doing effort to better yourself,

676
00:30:18,080 --> 00:30:19,600
Speaker 10: and I'm open to listening.

677
00:30:19,720 --> 00:30:21,000
Speaker 1: That is a good point.

678
00:30:21,320 --> 00:30:24,280
Speaker 9: I think it depends on also how well the person

679
00:30:24,360 --> 00:30:28,640
Speaker 9: knows you, because you know, everybody has their reasons for

680
00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:30,840
Speaker 9: why they do what they do, why they don't do

681
00:30:31,120 --> 00:30:33,600
Speaker 9: what they do, or like what, you know what, it's

682
00:30:33,640 --> 00:30:36,400
Speaker 9: stopping them from being greater than they are. And so

683
00:30:36,560 --> 00:30:39,400
Speaker 9: if it's somebody like my best friend is somebody that

684
00:30:39,440 --> 00:30:42,479
Speaker 9: I talk about a lot about personal growth and career

685
00:30:42,480 --> 00:30:44,560
Speaker 9: growth and stuff like that, and she's always honest with

686
00:30:44,600 --> 00:30:48,240
Speaker 9: me about you know what she thinks you know, where

687
00:30:48,280 --> 00:30:50,800
Speaker 9: she thinks I am. But she's always also honest with

688
00:30:50,880 --> 00:30:54,160
Speaker 9: me about what she thinks I'm great at. You know

689
00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:57,760
Speaker 9: what I'm saying, And she gives me real information about

690
00:30:57,800 --> 00:31:01,320
Speaker 9: how she thinks that I can improve to be better

691
00:31:01,360 --> 00:31:03,280
Speaker 9: at what I'm great at. And it's not just like

692
00:31:03,360 --> 00:31:05,960
Speaker 9: you ain't doing shit, you mediocre, you know what I'm saying,

693
00:31:06,000 --> 00:31:09,120
Speaker 9: It's like, Wow, you are so amazing at this, and

694
00:31:09,160 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 9: I feel like you are fearful or you know what I'm.

695
00:31:11,040 --> 00:31:13,160
Speaker 3: Saying, right, and like you know, yeah, you're.

696
00:31:13,680 --> 00:31:15,920
Speaker 1: Idea, Yeah, yeah.

697
00:31:15,960 --> 00:31:18,760
Speaker 6: I think it definitely depends on how well somebody knows you,

698
00:31:18,760 --> 00:31:21,360
Speaker 6: because it is very It's a vulnerable conversation to have

699
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:23,640
Speaker 6: with somebody else, and you got to be able to

700
00:31:23,640 --> 00:31:26,960
Speaker 6: go there with them and allow them to be able.

701
00:31:26,720 --> 00:31:29,280
Speaker 9: To receive you know what I'm saying your response to

702
00:31:29,320 --> 00:31:29,720
Speaker 9: that too.

703
00:31:30,280 --> 00:31:32,360
Speaker 2: And I think with a friend, or with most friendships

704
00:31:32,360 --> 00:31:34,240
Speaker 2: at least, I would hope that within my friendships that

705
00:31:34,280 --> 00:31:36,800
Speaker 2: you can have those honest conversations and not feel like

706
00:31:36,840 --> 00:31:39,520
Speaker 2: someone is attacking you. But let's face it, we're not

707
00:31:39,680 --> 00:31:43,520
Speaker 2: always going to have the discipline needed or the motivation

708
00:31:43,920 --> 00:31:45,080
Speaker 2: needed to do the things we need to do. And

709
00:31:45,160 --> 00:31:48,120
Speaker 2: we know the difference between discipline and motivation. Sometimes you

710
00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:50,080
Speaker 2: need somebody to light a fire under your tail and say,

711
00:31:50,080 --> 00:31:51,800
Speaker 2: you know what, I know that you're capable of this,

712
00:31:52,240 --> 00:31:52,480
Speaker 2: do it.

713
00:31:52,520 --> 00:31:53,480
Speaker 3: I had to have this fuck.

714
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:55,560
Speaker 2: Recently with a friend of mine who's been putting something off,

715
00:31:55,880 --> 00:31:59,720
Speaker 2: forever putting something off, but also simultaneously complaining about where

716
00:31:59,760 --> 00:32:01,960
Speaker 2: they are in their life. And it's like, you're continuous

717
00:32:02,080 --> 00:32:05,560
Speaker 2: continuing to complain, but you're not doing anything that's within

718
00:32:05,600 --> 00:32:07,720
Speaker 2: your power to correct that. So then what are we

719
00:32:07,760 --> 00:32:10,240
Speaker 2: talking about here? And it was almost like I don't

720
00:32:10,280 --> 00:32:11,640
Speaker 2: want to hear it again. It's like a tough love.

721
00:32:11,640 --> 00:32:14,280
Speaker 2: I don't want to hear about this conversation again unless

722
00:32:14,320 --> 00:32:15,880
Speaker 2: you have something that you've moved forward with.

723
00:32:16,360 --> 00:32:19,520
Speaker 3: So guess what she's moving forward with her stuff.

724
00:32:19,600 --> 00:32:21,200
Speaker 2: You know, And everybody kind of has to have their

725
00:32:21,200 --> 00:32:23,160
Speaker 2: own moment of revelation where they're just like, man, I'm

726
00:32:23,200 --> 00:32:26,360
Speaker 2: tired of living in this space of mediocrity.

727
00:32:26,480 --> 00:32:28,840
Speaker 3: I need to buckle down and get it done.

728
00:32:28,960 --> 00:32:31,280
Speaker 1: See. I'm glad you had you talked about the moment

729
00:32:31,320 --> 00:32:33,800
Speaker 1: on that revelation because I wanted to share my revelation

730
00:32:33,880 --> 00:32:37,560
Speaker 1: of when I realized that sometimes mediocuity isn't even only

731
00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:39,960
Speaker 1: what you think you're doing is what you're actually doing.

732
00:32:40,560 --> 00:32:43,600
Speaker 1: So I learned early in my life that I don't

733
00:32:43,680 --> 00:32:48,200
Speaker 1: like taking stuff. I didn't like taking advice from people

734
00:32:48,240 --> 00:32:50,000
Speaker 1: because I one, just like to figure stuff out on

735
00:32:50,000 --> 00:32:52,080
Speaker 1: my own. I like to learn. But number two, I

736
00:32:52,160 --> 00:32:54,880
Speaker 1: always felt so picked apart by my parents growing up

737
00:32:55,200 --> 00:32:57,719
Speaker 1: that I just took everything and I got defensive like

738
00:32:57,720 --> 00:33:00,280
Speaker 1: my mom and dad's attitude. This year attitue too, So

739
00:33:00,320 --> 00:33:02,480
Speaker 1: I always just felt like I didn't have a right

740
00:33:02,560 --> 00:33:05,760
Speaker 1: to think. So anytime someone tried to take away my

741
00:33:05,880 --> 00:33:08,480
Speaker 1: right to think about something on my opinion, I felt attacked.

742
00:33:08,920 --> 00:33:11,680
Speaker 1: And it wasn't until football when I learned that the

743
00:33:11,720 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 1: eye and the sky don't lie. I'm busting my ass

744
00:33:14,400 --> 00:33:17,280
Speaker 1: giving one hundred percent. And then coach says, yo, Devo,

745
00:33:18,240 --> 00:33:20,120
Speaker 1: you know, do you know why you got pulled? And

746
00:33:20,360 --> 00:33:22,280
Speaker 1: my first thing was I pulled because you rather have

747
00:33:22,320 --> 00:33:24,960
Speaker 1: somebody else in right. I was getting ready to get defensive,

748
00:33:25,000 --> 00:33:27,760
Speaker 1: and he said, no, how long? How far you have

749
00:33:27,800 --> 00:33:30,600
Speaker 1: to run for a crawl route? I said twelve yards?

750
00:33:31,080 --> 00:33:32,760
Speaker 1: He said how far did you run in the crawlerd

751
00:33:32,760 --> 00:33:35,760
Speaker 1: I said twelve yards. He said, you want to watch

752
00:33:35,800 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 1: the film. I said, I know, I ran twelve yards.

753
00:33:38,120 --> 00:33:42,040
Speaker 1: I ran eight yards, and in my mind I thought

754
00:33:42,480 --> 00:33:44,880
Speaker 1: that I was running twelve yards, so I legitimately thought

755
00:33:44,920 --> 00:33:47,320
Speaker 1: I was giving like one hundred percent effort the right way,

756
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:50,959
Speaker 1: and it wasn't until I seen it and I was like, oh, shoot,

757
00:33:51,080 --> 00:33:52,720
Speaker 1: like that and in my mind I was like, that's

758
00:33:52,760 --> 00:33:55,880
Speaker 1: the shittiest curl, right. I wouldn't throw that route either.

759
00:33:56,240 --> 00:33:58,080
Speaker 1: But then what it taught me was you have to

760
00:33:58,120 --> 00:34:02,640
Speaker 1: be open to receiving information from people because you don't even.

761
00:34:02,480 --> 00:34:04,680
Speaker 3: Know sometimes how it comes across.

762
00:34:04,400 --> 00:34:05,840
Speaker 1: Right, You don't know. You know.

763
00:34:05,840 --> 00:34:07,480
Speaker 7: It shouldn't always be from a friend either.

764
00:34:07,760 --> 00:34:10,000
Speaker 1: That's and that was my It can't always be for first,

765
00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:12,200
Speaker 1: I had to take this from Approach, who at the

766
00:34:12,200 --> 00:34:14,560
Speaker 1: time I couldn't stand, I really couldn't stand, but.

767
00:34:14,600 --> 00:34:16,560
Speaker 3: Also was making decisions over your livelihood.

768
00:34:16,600 --> 00:34:18,279
Speaker 2: So it's just like shit, at this point, I'm gonna

769
00:34:18,280 --> 00:34:21,120
Speaker 2: have to suck it up because I have no other choice.

770
00:34:21,480 --> 00:34:23,160
Speaker 3: But ultimately, the eye and the skuy don't lie, right,

771
00:34:23,200 --> 00:34:24,520
Speaker 3: That's what you say, and that's how you.

772
00:34:24,480 --> 00:34:27,640
Speaker 1: Get out of mediocoity, being willing to be open to

773
00:34:27,760 --> 00:34:29,400
Speaker 1: hearing it, and then it just being like all right,

774
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,879
Speaker 1: let me take inventory. And then when you can see it,

775
00:34:32,120 --> 00:34:35,120
Speaker 1: it's something like, oh shit, that person was right, and

776
00:34:35,239 --> 00:34:37,440
Speaker 1: it's like, all right, I can I can at least

777
00:34:37,480 --> 00:34:40,279
Speaker 1: trust that that person is trying even if even if

778
00:34:40,280 --> 00:34:42,520
Speaker 1: I trust that they don't like me, if we are

779
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:45,680
Speaker 1: lungs and synergies and we both have to go forward together,

780
00:34:45,760 --> 00:34:48,000
Speaker 1: and I can trust that they're gonna put me in

781
00:34:48,000 --> 00:34:50,279
Speaker 1: a situation to grow or be better, and I think

782
00:34:50,320 --> 00:34:52,719
Speaker 1: we all have to start taking heed to that. You

783
00:34:52,760 --> 00:34:55,640
Speaker 1: may get some advice from somebody you don't like or

784
00:34:55,719 --> 00:34:58,120
Speaker 1: don't trust either, right, but if you know what can

785
00:34:58,160 --> 00:35:00,680
Speaker 1: help you take it. You know what I'm saying, don't just

786
00:35:00,719 --> 00:35:03,440
Speaker 1: sit in mediocrity because I'm not listening to that person.

787
00:35:03,520 --> 00:35:05,759
Speaker 1: You know, like we're all gonna have to learn how

788
00:35:05,800 --> 00:35:08,840
Speaker 1: to use discernment once again to pick apart that information.

789
00:35:09,280 --> 00:35:11,560
Speaker 3: Do you believe that? Sorry, Josh, go ahead, all right,

790
00:35:11,760 --> 00:35:12,239
Speaker 3: thank you.

791
00:35:12,560 --> 00:35:14,600
Speaker 8: I think a big part of it is also just

792
00:35:14,640 --> 00:35:18,239
Speaker 8: being able to self reflect, right, Like, you know, you

793
00:35:18,360 --> 00:35:20,560
Speaker 8: hearing yourself about yourself. You might not be willing to

794
00:35:20,640 --> 00:35:23,880
Speaker 8: change anything. It might not be anything you want to hear,

795
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:27,719
Speaker 8: or you just might be completely completely defensive over it.

796
00:35:28,400 --> 00:35:28,880
Speaker 5: Having the.

797
00:35:30,520 --> 00:35:34,200
Speaker 8: Mindset of fortitude to self reflect on your own self

798
00:35:34,239 --> 00:35:36,439
Speaker 8: is where the real change comes in. Because you could

799
00:35:36,440 --> 00:35:38,319
Speaker 8: tell me something that to kingdom come. You can tell

800
00:35:38,360 --> 00:35:40,840
Speaker 8: me about myself till you know like, yo, Josh, you

801
00:35:40,840 --> 00:35:43,040
Speaker 8: ain't doing this, you ain't doing this, Like you can

802
00:35:43,080 --> 00:35:45,480
Speaker 8: do this, you can do that, but if I'm not

803
00:35:45,640 --> 00:35:51,000
Speaker 8: looking internally at myself to say like and I think

804
00:35:51,000 --> 00:35:52,920
Speaker 8: that's where the defensive comes in a lot of time

805
00:35:52,960 --> 00:35:54,920
Speaker 8: when you're telling people self. One, they're not prepared to

806
00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:57,880
Speaker 8: hear it. Second is unsolicited. I didn't ask you to

807
00:35:57,920 --> 00:35:58,279
Speaker 8: tell me.

808
00:35:58,280 --> 00:36:00,759
Speaker 1: Nigga, right right.

809
00:36:01,400 --> 00:36:04,920
Speaker 8: And then three, it's like, if I can take the

810
00:36:04,960 --> 00:36:07,279
Speaker 8: time to like look at myself, I'll take you back

811
00:36:07,320 --> 00:36:10,040
Speaker 8: to a conversation we had, the three of us we

812
00:36:10,080 --> 00:36:14,640
Speaker 8: had in La at the b ET Awards, and I

813
00:36:14,680 --> 00:36:17,480
Speaker 8: said something about Matt about what he did, and you say, yeah,

814
00:36:17,480 --> 00:36:19,640
Speaker 8: that's funny that you said this about Matt when you

815
00:36:19,719 --> 00:36:22,200
Speaker 8: do that all the time, right, And I was like yeah, yeah,

816
00:36:22,239 --> 00:36:25,960
Speaker 8: And I was like at that time, I was focused

817
00:36:26,000 --> 00:36:26,759
Speaker 8: on what Matt did.

818
00:36:27,160 --> 00:36:27,359
Speaker 5: Right.

819
00:36:27,440 --> 00:36:30,840
Speaker 8: It was like, Matt, you're wrong for this whatever, or

820
00:36:30,960 --> 00:36:32,600
Speaker 8: you can look at it a different way. And Matt

821
00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:35,040
Speaker 8: just like, yeah, I didn't mean it that way, but yeah,

822
00:36:35,040 --> 00:36:37,080
Speaker 8: I see what you're saying. And then when you came

823
00:36:37,080 --> 00:36:38,800
Speaker 8: to me, I was just like, Nigga, we ain't talking

824
00:36:38,800 --> 00:36:42,360
Speaker 8: about me, but it's not solicited.

825
00:36:42,680 --> 00:36:43,719
Speaker 5: I got to ask for it.

826
00:36:44,400 --> 00:36:49,200
Speaker 8: But the truth is, like, after Matt stays quiet, you're

827
00:36:49,239 --> 00:36:51,479
Speaker 8: going we're going back and forth, and Matt stays quiet,

828
00:36:51,520 --> 00:36:54,600
Speaker 8: and I look at Matt and like, Matt's quiet.

829
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:55,640
Speaker 5: I'm wrong.

830
00:36:56,440 --> 00:36:57,719
Speaker 1: I know that because.

831
00:36:57,760 --> 00:37:00,879
Speaker 8: Because Matt will defend, Matt wills step in and say

832
00:37:00,920 --> 00:37:05,799
Speaker 8: something about me if it's warranted. But then when I

833
00:37:05,880 --> 00:37:09,120
Speaker 8: look at it, and I'm like, if Matt's quiet, and

834
00:37:09,280 --> 00:37:13,040
Speaker 8: I'm I'm now getting angry, right, I'm feeling it's a

835
00:37:13,160 --> 00:37:17,640
Speaker 8: visceral feeling to hear something about yourself, about it about

836
00:37:17,680 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 8: yourself in a way where somebody is trying to explain

837
00:37:19,600 --> 00:37:22,360
Speaker 8: something to you and you didn't ask for it, and

838
00:37:22,400 --> 00:37:25,359
Speaker 8: you're not in the to get feedback. Sometimes you have

839
00:37:25,400 --> 00:37:28,680
Speaker 8: to be in this like accepting sort of like absolutely,

840
00:37:29,000 --> 00:37:30,080
Speaker 8: it doesn't matter if you trust them.

841
00:37:30,640 --> 00:37:31,400
Speaker 5: I can trust.

842
00:37:31,120 --> 00:37:36,560
Speaker 11: You about this trying to eat my burger, right, And

843
00:37:37,320 --> 00:37:39,120
Speaker 11: I just think I think it has to do a

844
00:37:39,120 --> 00:37:41,279
Speaker 11: lot to do with the mediocrity.

845
00:37:41,880 --> 00:37:47,239
Speaker 8: Well, combating mediocrity has to do with self reflection. I

846
00:37:47,239 --> 00:37:48,160
Speaker 8: think that's the biggest thing.

847
00:37:48,200 --> 00:37:50,520
Speaker 1: And now check this out. Everything you just said made

848
00:37:50,520 --> 00:37:52,640
Speaker 1: the most amount of sense. And we grew up during

849
00:37:52,640 --> 00:37:56,120
Speaker 1: the time where corporal punishment was allowed. So imagine we

850
00:37:56,280 --> 00:37:58,960
Speaker 1: still have to self regulate our emotions when we hear

851
00:37:59,000 --> 00:38:00,000
Speaker 1: something about ourselves.

852
00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:00,600
Speaker 5: Absolutely.

853
00:38:00,840 --> 00:38:04,439
Speaker 1: Just imagine a generation of kids who are told from

854
00:38:04,480 --> 00:38:07,440
Speaker 1: young your parents can't correct you, your teachers can't correct you.

855
00:38:08,040 --> 00:38:10,040
Speaker 1: So you grow up your whole time being a child

856
00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:12,040
Speaker 1: thinking I can say what I want at home and

857
00:38:12,120 --> 00:38:15,560
Speaker 1: say what I want. And oh, those young people are

858
00:38:15,600 --> 00:38:18,640
Speaker 1: now adults because those were the kids that I like,

859
00:38:18,680 --> 00:38:21,960
Speaker 1: those were Jackson's age kids and they started before that.

860
00:38:21,920 --> 00:38:24,920
Speaker 2: Right, So we're noticing people in like their twenties now

861
00:38:25,360 --> 00:38:28,680
Speaker 2: can't do like basic things, you know what I'm saying,

862
00:38:28,719 --> 00:38:31,080
Speaker 2: Like it's hard to even find good help nowadays with

863
00:38:31,160 --> 00:38:35,160
Speaker 2: anything because that entire generation they've been fed this level

864
00:38:35,200 --> 00:38:39,440
Speaker 2: of they're entitled to certain things, certain wages, not having

865
00:38:39,480 --> 00:38:41,960
Speaker 2: to put the work in going above and beyond.

866
00:38:42,440 --> 00:38:44,759
Speaker 3: What's that take initiative? We don't even know how to

867
00:38:44,760 --> 00:38:45,160
Speaker 3: spell it.

868
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:48,920
Speaker 2: Let's chat GPT it Like that's literally where we are

869
00:38:48,960 --> 00:38:51,120
Speaker 2: with things now. But you know what I was thinking

870
00:38:51,239 --> 00:38:55,279
Speaker 2: right before Josh mentioned the self reflection, is there just

871
00:38:55,360 --> 00:38:59,080
Speaker 2: a place for people who are mediocre because everyone can't

872
00:38:59,080 --> 00:39:02,399
Speaker 2: be yes, the overachiever. We need to be shamed those

873
00:39:02,400 --> 00:39:04,279
Speaker 2: people for saying, you know what, you're okay with just

874
00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:06,839
Speaker 2: living an average life because that's just what you want

875
00:39:06,840 --> 00:39:09,920
Speaker 2: out of life. Because I know how we sometimes, for example,

876
00:39:09,960 --> 00:39:13,040
Speaker 2: even just with our siblings or our friends, we're like, yo,

877
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:15,680
Speaker 2: we know that you can do all these things, but

878
00:39:15,719 --> 00:39:18,080
Speaker 2: it's like do they even want all those things or

879
00:39:18,239 --> 00:39:21,440
Speaker 2: so just imparting what we feel can happen if they

880
00:39:21,440 --> 00:39:23,160
Speaker 2: were to apply themselves.

881
00:39:23,239 --> 00:39:27,080
Speaker 8: In the capitalist In a capitalist uh environment and economy,

882
00:39:27,080 --> 00:39:29,239
Speaker 8: you need people to be mediocre because those are your

883
00:39:29,239 --> 00:39:32,359
Speaker 8: consumers the right.

884
00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:34,560
Speaker 1: You can't have everybody, can't be.

885
00:39:36,600 --> 00:39:43,279
Speaker 8: A boss of a bill gates of freaking you need

886
00:39:43,320 --> 00:39:48,680
Speaker 8: to have those people and also those people make uh.

887
00:39:48,800 --> 00:39:51,359
Speaker 8: I would say most of your workforce will be those

888
00:39:51,400 --> 00:39:55,040
Speaker 8: people for the most part. It's not like mediocrity in

889
00:39:56,120 --> 00:39:58,759
Speaker 8: a global sense is a bad thing. It's just it's

890
00:39:58,880 --> 00:40:03,560
Speaker 8: it's just a standard. I wouldn't say it's like there's

891
00:40:03,640 --> 00:40:06,080
Speaker 8: there's a there's a part of med mediocrity where we're

892
00:40:06,120 --> 00:40:08,640
Speaker 8: like it's a bad thing in terms of like how

893
00:40:09,200 --> 00:40:11,319
Speaker 8: you're not trying to attain anything.

894
00:40:11,040 --> 00:40:14,359
Speaker 3: If you have the potential to be better correct correct.

895
00:40:14,120 --> 00:40:16,359
Speaker 8: And most people do have the potential it's just that

896
00:40:16,440 --> 00:40:19,840
Speaker 8: I'm comfortable being mediocre.

897
00:40:20,000 --> 00:40:22,040
Speaker 7: It goes back to what you're saying. They literally train

898
00:40:22,120 --> 00:40:22,480
Speaker 7: you for that.

899
00:40:25,360 --> 00:40:27,080
Speaker 10: Because you're going to be the consumer for me, and

900
00:40:27,080 --> 00:40:28,720
Speaker 10: I'm gonna make lots of money.

901
00:40:29,160 --> 00:40:32,640
Speaker 6: Just like now we have everybody getting their information from

902
00:40:32,680 --> 00:40:35,560
Speaker 6: TikTok because they don't want to read anything, and so

903
00:40:35,840 --> 00:40:39,960
Speaker 6: people's reading comprehension skills are down to a level where

904
00:40:40,400 --> 00:40:42,040
Speaker 6: you're voting on a feeling.

905
00:40:42,160 --> 00:40:43,680
Speaker 9: You're voting on the fact that you're.

906
00:40:43,520 --> 00:40:46,799
Speaker 1: A biggot and we are the algorithm.

907
00:40:47,120 --> 00:40:49,160
Speaker 6: When it's actually a class war and you're gonna get

908
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:51,319
Speaker 6: slaughtered with the rest of us because you wouldn't open

909
00:40:51,360 --> 00:40:53,239
Speaker 6: a fucking book or a newspaper.

910
00:40:53,320 --> 00:40:56,560
Speaker 1: That's a fact though, it's an absolute, And that goes

911
00:40:56,560 --> 00:40:58,279
Speaker 1: back to my point why I say this is why

912
00:40:58,280 --> 00:41:00,879
Speaker 1: they're doing it on purpose. Like think about it when

913
00:41:00,880 --> 00:41:02,680
Speaker 1: we were before we were growing up. You go back

914
00:41:02,680 --> 00:41:05,480
Speaker 1: to gym classes in the fifties and sixties, there were

915
00:41:05,520 --> 00:41:07,919
Speaker 1: physical exams that people had to take.

916
00:41:09,120 --> 00:41:11,240
Speaker 10: Sixties, I had to do the military testing on nine.

917
00:41:11,400 --> 00:41:13,719
Speaker 10: You had to do that overne They had that for

918
00:41:13,760 --> 00:41:15,120
Speaker 10: a long while, then they got rid of it.

919
00:41:15,200 --> 00:41:17,120
Speaker 8: I think, well, you went to private school they got

920
00:41:17,200 --> 00:41:19,480
Speaker 8: they got rid of it, and I think in Obama administration,

921
00:41:20,000 --> 00:41:21,680
Speaker 8: I think that's where those.

922
00:41:21,760 --> 00:41:26,480
Speaker 2: Gymis with Then the obesity for kids, When was that movement,

923
00:41:26,840 --> 00:41:31,880
Speaker 2: because you know during the Obama administration, I think started simultaneously.

924
00:41:32,040 --> 00:41:33,680
Speaker 1: I want to say prior to that, but well, I

925
00:41:33,719 --> 00:41:35,440
Speaker 1: know that they took Jim out of They took Jim

926
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Speaker 1: out of the schools when we was heading towards middle

927
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Speaker 1: school because I remember going into ANDREWS. Hudy Junior High

928
00:41:41,120 --> 00:41:43,360
Speaker 1: School and we no longer had gym. We had recinch

929
00:41:43,440 --> 00:41:45,799
Speaker 1: during lunch if it was cold outside, but we didn't

930
00:41:45,840 --> 00:41:48,080
Speaker 1: have gym anymore, which was like a crazy thing. And

931
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Speaker 1: that was like nineteen ninety eight.

932
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Speaker 9: Yeah, I'm from Ohio. We always had gym.

933
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Speaker 6: We had to learn how to swim, we had to

934
00:41:53,680 --> 00:41:55,960
Speaker 6: play tennis, basketball, we had to live weights, we had

935
00:41:55,960 --> 00:41:56,640
Speaker 6: to run a mile.

936
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Speaker 3: Look at that.

937
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Speaker 8: Three Lives and all those all those programs in the

938
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Speaker 8: fifties and sixties. I still had it until I was

939
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:08,200
Speaker 8: junior high school. You had to push ups, you had

940
00:42:08,239 --> 00:42:10,920
Speaker 8: to do all this crazy stuff. You had to learn

941
00:42:10,960 --> 00:42:13,640
Speaker 8: electric slide in junior high school because it was about

942
00:42:13,760 --> 00:42:14,600
Speaker 8: physical movement.

943
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Speaker 1: You couldn't be laxed, but you're taking all of the

944
00:42:19,520 --> 00:42:24,200
Speaker 1: things that challenge people out of school. Yeah, because now now,

945
00:42:24,360 --> 00:42:28,600
Speaker 1: and I'm not knocking Montessori, but now there's there's no

946
00:42:28,680 --> 00:42:31,560
Speaker 1: more grades. Oh, we don't grade the kids. We let

947
00:42:31,640 --> 00:42:35,000
Speaker 1: them free plays that you may work for some kids

948
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Speaker 1: at some part of the day, but at some point

949
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Speaker 1: there has to be a standard to where we know

950
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Speaker 1: that there's some level OFDMIA being reached, you know, and

951
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Speaker 1: it just seems like it becomes more and more free.

952
00:42:45,920 --> 00:42:49,440
Speaker 8: I sit thought behind that though, taking out grades. Is

953
00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:51,440
Speaker 8: it because they don't want kids to compete against each other?

954
00:42:51,480 --> 00:42:54,840
Speaker 9: Well, Montossori, they never really had grade grading system.

955
00:42:54,880 --> 00:42:58,040
Speaker 6: So you can get a U for unsatisfactory, as for satisfactory,

956
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Speaker 6: or E for excellent.

957
00:42:59,320 --> 00:43:00,800
Speaker 9: So it never really was a grade.

958
00:43:00,920 --> 00:43:02,760
Speaker 6: It was just that you had to do a certain

959
00:43:02,880 --> 00:43:04,920
Speaker 6: level of work and you had to be at a

960
00:43:04,920 --> 00:43:07,640
Speaker 6: certain level of knowledge through each grade.

961
00:43:07,680 --> 00:43:09,799
Speaker 2: I guess meeting a certain mouse stone, a courtance like

962
00:43:09,840 --> 00:43:12,800
Speaker 2: your age. Right, So if they're like dissecting fine motor

963
00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:15,120
Speaker 2: skills and things like that, they're going to give you

964
00:43:15,160 --> 00:43:18,120
Speaker 2: activities where they can assess that. But other than that,

965
00:43:18,160 --> 00:43:20,799
Speaker 2: there's not like the force I would say behind, like

966
00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:22,480
Speaker 2: you need to write your name, you need to be

967
00:43:22,520 --> 00:43:25,120
Speaker 2: reading by this age. Even when I had a parent

968
00:43:25,160 --> 00:43:27,560
Speaker 2: teacher conference with Dakota, he's three going on four, and

969
00:43:27,560 --> 00:43:28,960
Speaker 2: I'm just like, are they going to be reading in

970
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:29,400
Speaker 2: this class?

971
00:43:29,400 --> 00:43:29,960
Speaker 3: Site words?

972
00:43:30,040 --> 00:43:31,920
Speaker 2: And she was kind of like, well, we don't really

973
00:43:32,000 --> 00:43:35,440
Speaker 2: push that on them now, and you know it'll come,

974
00:43:35,719 --> 00:43:37,279
Speaker 2: And for I was just like, well, we didn't push

975
00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:39,120
Speaker 2: it at home, so he's gonna.

976
00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:41,239
Speaker 3: Come in here and knowing a lot of stuff. Anyway, Yeah,

977
00:43:41,360 --> 00:43:43,160
Speaker 3: it comes over here like doing.

978
00:43:43,040 --> 00:43:45,640
Speaker 2: All the things like but to you, to you guys's point,

979
00:43:45,960 --> 00:43:48,399
Speaker 2: it's just very much like a kind of Laisz fear thing.

980
00:43:48,480 --> 00:43:50,920
Speaker 2: And they try to spiral it and say that it's

981
00:43:50,960 --> 00:43:54,520
Speaker 2: on mental health and not wanting people to feel inferior, or.

982
00:43:57,719 --> 00:44:03,279
Speaker 9: It encourages it independence and yeah, interdependen. It's like collaborative work. Yeah,

983
00:44:03,320 --> 00:44:06,440
Speaker 9: but not competition. They're not focused on competition. They're focused

984
00:44:06,440 --> 00:44:08,279
Speaker 9: more on collaboration. And Montessori and.

985
00:44:08,600 --> 00:44:12,600
Speaker 1: I agree, when you're three four, maybe even into second

986
00:44:12,600 --> 00:44:15,759
Speaker 1: grade grades grades shouldn't matter. You know, we're going into

987
00:44:15,760 --> 00:44:18,200
Speaker 1: second grades. But I think once you get put that

988
00:44:18,360 --> 00:44:20,719
Speaker 1: third grade, it's true the fifth grade we have to

989
00:44:20,719 --> 00:44:23,279
Speaker 1: start testing kids. That's just my opinion, you know what.

990
00:44:23,200 --> 00:44:25,239
Speaker 2: You're actually right because when I went for parent teacher

991
00:44:25,280 --> 00:44:27,040
Speaker 2: conference at the top of the year, Chiro's teacher, he's

992
00:44:27,040 --> 00:44:28,279
Speaker 2: going in the third grades. She's like, this is where

993
00:44:28,280 --> 00:44:30,120
Speaker 2: it kind of gets real, like this is what we're doing,

994
00:44:30,160 --> 00:44:31,960
Speaker 2: book reports, this is where we're doing all the things.

995
00:44:32,040 --> 00:44:33,560
Speaker 2: And then I noticed with cats is class in the

996
00:44:33,560 --> 00:44:36,879
Speaker 2: second grade, it's a lot of group things, figuring out

997
00:44:36,920 --> 00:44:40,759
Speaker 2: things through groups. So there's a collaborative, you know, way

998
00:44:40,760 --> 00:44:41,680
Speaker 2: of learning, which I.

999
00:44:41,600 --> 00:44:43,839
Speaker 1: Think is important because we have to also teach kids

1000
00:44:43,840 --> 00:44:46,480
Speaker 1: community right, Like the way you do that is through

1001
00:44:46,480 --> 00:44:48,680
Speaker 1: the Montessori method, which my point is like you do

1002
00:44:48,719 --> 00:44:51,800
Speaker 1: need a little bit of both. But we can't eliminate

1003
00:44:51,880 --> 00:44:55,399
Speaker 1: all standards because we're worried about people feeling bad. This

1004
00:44:55,480 --> 00:44:58,680
Speaker 1: is a fact and people may not like it. Those

1005
00:44:58,680 --> 00:45:03,600
Speaker 1: who work harder deserve more. It's a fact. If we're

1006
00:45:03,680 --> 00:45:06,319
Speaker 1: all in the class, or we're all doing something, and

1007
00:45:06,400 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 1: I'm doing twice as much work to gather and do

1008
00:45:08,560 --> 00:45:11,480
Speaker 1: all this other stuff, I deserve my fear shared. Plus

1009
00:45:11,520 --> 00:45:14,160
Speaker 1: some I don't think it's fair that I have to

1010
00:45:14,239 --> 00:45:16,680
Speaker 1: work my hardest, But then everybody gets even and the

1011
00:45:16,719 --> 00:45:19,480
Speaker 1: person that sits back and chills gets the same amount.

1012
00:45:19,600 --> 00:45:22,920
Speaker 1: And we should teach people that early. So if they understand,

1013
00:45:23,000 --> 00:45:24,920
Speaker 1: let me carry my own weight, you know, let me

1014
00:45:24,960 --> 00:45:27,920
Speaker 1: have pride in being able to contribute. And my contribution

1015
00:45:28,040 --> 00:45:30,600
Speaker 1: may not be the same as Kadeen's. Right, my contribution

1016
00:45:30,680 --> 00:45:32,640
Speaker 1: may not be the same as Mats. Matt's bigger than me,

1017
00:45:32,960 --> 00:45:35,440
Speaker 1: he may lift more than me. Right, Kadeen may be

1018
00:45:35,480 --> 00:45:37,360
Speaker 1: able to swift that she can move faster than me.

1019
00:45:37,440 --> 00:45:40,080
Speaker 1: But there's a way that we can all find a

1020
00:45:40,080 --> 00:45:43,640
Speaker 1: way to contribute. And then who's teaching. Yeah, what's your strength?

1021
00:45:44,200 --> 00:45:46,239
Speaker 1: Focus on that? Now we know your strength. Let's not

1022
00:45:46,280 --> 00:45:48,880
Speaker 1: be mediocre at your strength. Gi you know what I'm saying,

1023
00:45:49,480 --> 00:45:50,600
Speaker 1: Like that would be my thing.

1024
00:45:51,600 --> 00:45:53,840
Speaker 5: Interesting, don't be mediocre at your strength.

1025
00:45:54,560 --> 00:45:55,239
Speaker 3: There you come on.

1026
00:45:57,120 --> 00:45:58,560
Speaker 7: The fact that you have to say that if you

1027
00:45:58,600 --> 00:45:59,839
Speaker 7: work harder, you deserve more.

1028
00:46:00,520 --> 00:46:02,520
Speaker 9: Well, you do, because we don't we live in a.

1029
00:46:02,760 --> 00:46:04,640
Speaker 7: You shouldn't have to say that though we.

1030
00:46:04,560 --> 00:46:07,480
Speaker 9: Live in a fake meritocracy where we are hard.

1031
00:46:07,600 --> 00:46:10,799
Speaker 6: This this society is a fake meritocracy where we think

1032
00:46:10,920 --> 00:46:13,160
Speaker 6: billionaires worked hard for what they have and they didn't.

1033
00:46:13,280 --> 00:46:16,000
Speaker 6: The workers work work the hardest and they don't have

1034
00:46:16,080 --> 00:46:18,360
Speaker 6: the most, but when you believe that, you continue to

1035
00:46:18,440 --> 00:46:20,719
Speaker 6: run the rat race. So it is kind of like

1036
00:46:21,200 --> 00:46:23,400
Speaker 6: it it's a double edged sword in a way. Like

1037
00:46:23,440 --> 00:46:26,600
Speaker 6: I understand what you're saying. When you are working on yourself,

1038
00:46:26,600 --> 00:46:28,879
Speaker 6: working on your goals, you should work as hard as

1039
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:30,680
Speaker 6: you can to get the most out of life that

1040
00:46:30,719 --> 00:46:33,200
Speaker 6: you can, but you got to also be real that's

1041
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:35,720
Speaker 6: a possibility that that's not going to happen.

1042
00:46:35,719 --> 00:46:37,520
Speaker 9: You can get so far, you know.

1043
00:46:37,600 --> 00:46:40,600
Speaker 1: There's definitely a possibility that you can work your hardest

1044
00:46:40,880 --> 00:46:42,719
Speaker 1: and still not get it. But my thing is you're

1045
00:46:42,719 --> 00:46:45,239
Speaker 1: never going to be able to put that on me right, right,

1046
00:46:45,320 --> 00:46:47,440
Speaker 1: Like say, if I work my hardest down and get it,

1047
00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:52,080
Speaker 1: I know I got something because work hard. And what

1048
00:46:52,160 --> 00:46:54,319
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna ever do or don't accept is someone

1049
00:46:54,320 --> 00:46:57,040
Speaker 1: who don't work hard but then complaints for what they

1050
00:46:57,080 --> 00:47:01,120
Speaker 1: don't have, because you know, there's two sides that, right.

1051
00:47:01,160 --> 00:47:03,360
Speaker 1: It's like, okay, so you're not working hard for anything,

1052
00:47:03,400 --> 00:47:05,760
Speaker 1: there's no standard, you just want to just sit here.

1053
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:08,120
Speaker 1: But then all the other people who are working hard,

1054
00:47:08,120 --> 00:47:10,319
Speaker 1: you just point out all of their flaws. It's like

1055
00:47:11,280 --> 00:47:13,240
Speaker 1: that that do we're not trying to hear that either. Dude,

1056
00:47:13,280 --> 00:47:15,239
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. You gotta work. I think

1057
00:47:15,480 --> 00:47:17,399
Speaker 1: all of us as people have to learn to work,

1058
00:47:17,520 --> 00:47:19,879
Speaker 1: especially at your strengths. Push that.

1059
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Speaker 3: I love it.

1060
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Speaker 2: All right, Well, let's go push these bills because they

1061
00:47:23,440 --> 00:47:25,600
Speaker 2: ain't gonna go nowhere, and we'll be back with our

1062
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Speaker 2: listener letter of the day.

1063
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Speaker 3: So stick around, y'all. All right, y'all, were back with

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Speaker 3: our listener letter of the day.

1065
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1066
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1070
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Speaker 2: thirties who hopes for marriage and kids with a god

1071
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Speaker 2: free man who isn't intimidating by my career as a doctor.

1072
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Speaker 3: I'm in my twenties.

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Speaker 2: I dated without wait. In my twenties, I dated without

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1075
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1076
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Speaker 2: COVID burnout, a breakup, caring for my grandmother until she passed.

1077
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Speaker 2: I almost quit medicine. But that season is when God

1078
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Speaker 2: brought me back to him and showed me my place

1079
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Speaker 2: in medicine to help patients like her.

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Speaker 3: That's awesome.

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Speaker 2: So I stayed and now I love my job. After

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Speaker 2: two years of healing, I started dating again. But wow,

1083
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1084
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Speaker 2: impatience and even bitterness. But I longed for a Christ's

1085
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1086
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1087
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Speaker 2: After a disappointing date. I cheered myself up with meet

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00:49:00,120 --> 00:49:01,240
Speaker 2: settle for anything less.

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Speaker 3: So here's my question.

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00:49:02,600 --> 00:49:05,040
Speaker 2: How can I keep hope, enjoy alive while dating with

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Speaker 2: intention without slipping into impatience or compromising my faith and values.

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00:49:10,000 --> 00:49:16,320
Speaker 2: You guys are amazing. Thank you for writing it. Yeah, girl,

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Speaker 2: well it seems like you're doing all the right things.

1097
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Speaker 3: But I just heard.

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Speaker 2: I mean, I'm not in the dating pool now, so

1099
00:49:20,200 --> 00:49:22,520
Speaker 2: it's really hard sometimes for me to answer those dating questions.

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00:49:22,560 --> 00:49:25,360
Speaker 2: But from what I've gathered, you know, from friends, my sister,

1101
00:49:25,400 --> 00:49:28,160
Speaker 2: even being single, Like, there's not much out there, man,

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00:49:28,840 --> 00:49:30,920
Speaker 2: and I think, if anything, you need to show up

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00:49:30,920 --> 00:49:32,920
Speaker 2: as your true self to see if you can be

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00:49:32,960 --> 00:49:35,359
Speaker 2: able to attract people in those spaces. I'm wondering where

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00:49:35,400 --> 00:49:37,160
Speaker 2: you're dating, where you're going? I don't even know where

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00:49:37,160 --> 00:49:38,000
Speaker 2: do people go to date? Now?

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00:49:38,000 --> 00:49:40,759
Speaker 3: Does anyone know? Anybody know? Everyone here is married except.

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00:49:41,840 --> 00:49:42,600
Speaker 1: Where people.

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Speaker 9: Find?

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Speaker 3: Yeah, like, what's the dating scene looking like? Now?

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Speaker 2: You know?

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Speaker 3: I just I don't know. I'm so out the loop.

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Speaker 6: I'm not an app girly, but I know some of

1114
00:49:56,040 --> 00:49:59,040
Speaker 6: the girls are using apps. Facebook dating is a popular

1115
00:49:59,080 --> 00:50:00,400
Speaker 6: one now here and just popular.

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Speaker 9: Yeah?

1117
00:50:02,360 --> 00:50:04,680
Speaker 3: Really yeah? Directly linked to Facebook?

1118
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Speaker 9: Yeah, I think it is. I think it's directly linked

1119
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Speaker 9: to Facebook.

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Speaker 3: Interesting.

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Speaker 9: I wouldn't go that route.

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Speaker 6: I always tell people to go where you like to

1123
00:50:12,600 --> 00:50:15,799
Speaker 6: be and see who else is in there. That's how

1124
00:50:15,800 --> 00:50:18,399
Speaker 6: you find like minded individuals. That's how you find people

1125
00:50:18,480 --> 00:50:20,040
Speaker 6: that like to do the same things that you do.

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00:50:20,160 --> 00:50:25,400
Speaker 6: You already are starting at a level of uh compatibility.

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00:50:25,560 --> 00:50:28,200
Speaker 6: If you do that and you get to read somebody's

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Speaker 6: real energy in person, see if they know how to

1129
00:50:30,960 --> 00:50:33,680
Speaker 6: have a conversation with you. I mean seeing these girls

1130
00:50:33,680 --> 00:50:36,560
Speaker 6: post about like finding a date on an app, and

1131
00:50:36,600 --> 00:50:38,960
Speaker 6: then the first time he texts her, the first time

1132
00:50:38,960 --> 00:50:41,239
Speaker 6: he's supposed to go out, he starts acting like a

1133
00:50:41,239 --> 00:50:44,400
Speaker 6: fucking nutcase. That's why I'm not on apps because I

1134
00:50:44,440 --> 00:50:48,240
Speaker 6: think everybody not everybody, but I think people on apps

1135
00:50:48,239 --> 00:50:51,359
Speaker 6: are socially awkward, and I don't like that. I want

1136
00:50:51,400 --> 00:50:55,000
Speaker 6: to see somebody, feel somebody's energy the first time we meet.

1137
00:50:55,320 --> 00:50:57,840
Speaker 6: That that that's what I'm attracted to. So go where

1138
00:50:57,880 --> 00:50:59,680
Speaker 6: you like to go and see who the hell is

1139
00:50:59,680 --> 00:51:00,000
Speaker 6: in there?

1140
00:51:00,120 --> 00:51:02,120
Speaker 2: Yeah, I feel like I would do mutual friends.

1141
00:51:02,600 --> 00:51:05,640
Speaker 1: I would rock with with Triple Slage, mainly because like

1142
00:51:06,200 --> 00:51:09,000
Speaker 1: there's too much with absent I. I want to go

1143
00:51:09,000 --> 00:51:10,759
Speaker 1: and meet some You can't catfish me if I met

1144
00:51:10,800 --> 00:51:12,400
Speaker 1: you in person. You know what I'm saying. But but

1145
00:51:12,440 --> 00:51:15,719
Speaker 1: I do think people need to understand they can't. You

1146
00:51:15,760 --> 00:51:16,480
Speaker 1: know what You're right?

1147
00:51:19,440 --> 00:51:22,640
Speaker 3: Wait, person, have you had it?

1148
00:51:22,920 --> 00:51:25,560
Speaker 1: Have you ever read? Ever watched the movie I'm Gonna

1149
00:51:25,560 --> 00:51:28,919
Speaker 1: Get You Sucker. No, Well, there's there's a scene where

1150
00:51:29,360 --> 00:51:32,680
Speaker 1: she's beautiful. She's beautiful right, She's beautiful right, and he

1151
00:51:32,760 --> 00:51:34,960
Speaker 1: takes her back to enjoy a night, and by the

1152
00:51:35,040 --> 00:51:37,000
Speaker 1: time we see her at the end of the night.

1153
00:51:37,080 --> 00:51:46,839
Speaker 1: She then took off her eyelids, her eyeballs, eyebrow cat

1154
00:51:46,880 --> 00:51:50,600
Speaker 1: fish and this dude's walking around with three sixty waves

1155
00:51:50,600 --> 00:51:53,279
Speaker 1: and the beer and if you throw that pool, you're

1156
00:51:53,280 --> 00:51:56,239
Speaker 1: gonna come out with an egg and that big gonna

1157
00:51:56,239 --> 00:51:58,959
Speaker 1: be running down his neck. So you know you can't

1158
00:51:58,960 --> 00:51:59,959
Speaker 1: cat person.

1159
00:52:00,800 --> 00:52:02,000
Speaker 3: That makes sense.

1160
00:52:02,040 --> 00:52:04,279
Speaker 2: Like if you enjoy karaoke, for example, go to freaking

1161
00:52:04,360 --> 00:52:06,440
Speaker 2: karaoke bars and clubs and whatnot, and you can see

1162
00:52:06,440 --> 00:52:07,120
Speaker 2: who you bump into.

1163
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Speaker 6: You don't you want to find somebody that's not intimidated

1164
00:52:10,400 --> 00:52:13,080
Speaker 6: by your career as a doctor, Maybe go to a

1165
00:52:13,080 --> 00:52:15,960
Speaker 6: professional conference or something like that where there's people on

1166
00:52:16,000 --> 00:52:19,200
Speaker 6: your level in your career field or in another professional field.

1167
00:52:19,239 --> 00:52:21,200
Speaker 3: I never thought about career conferences, But that's actually a

1168
00:52:21,239 --> 00:52:21,520
Speaker 3: good one.

1169
00:52:21,520 --> 00:52:22,560
Speaker 1: That is really you could tell.

1170
00:52:22,760 --> 00:52:24,440
Speaker 3: It's a really good way outside.

1171
00:52:28,200 --> 00:52:30,040
Speaker 1: How many doctor conferences been too.

1172
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:33,520
Speaker 3: Surgeon?

1173
00:52:37,040 --> 00:52:41,720
Speaker 1: Any room with a day, I believe colleges.

1174
00:52:45,480 --> 00:52:46,240
Speaker 3: Brushing sound.

1175
00:52:46,440 --> 00:52:47,879
Speaker 1: No, this is this is a serious though. What I'm

1176
00:52:47,880 --> 00:52:50,760
Speaker 1: about to say. I think people really need to understand

1177
00:52:50,760 --> 00:52:54,759
Speaker 1: when they say dating with intentionality, right, you're looking for

1178
00:52:54,840 --> 00:52:59,040
Speaker 1: the one, the one one person out of billions of people,

1179
00:52:59,520 --> 00:53:02,239
Speaker 1: which means you have to kiss a lot of frauds.

1180
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:06,200
Speaker 1: So you can't get disappointed when you've gone on a

1181
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:08,440
Speaker 1: couple of dates and it's two weeks into this journey

1182
00:53:08,480 --> 00:53:10,319
Speaker 1: and you've been on three dates, and now it's like

1183
00:53:10,360 --> 00:53:12,560
Speaker 1: the world is coming to an end. You're looking for

1184
00:53:12,600 --> 00:53:15,479
Speaker 1: the one, right, you know what I'm saying. Yeah, So hey,

1185
00:53:15,840 --> 00:53:18,400
Speaker 1: listen to trouble. Go to some conferences, go to some

1186
00:53:18,400 --> 00:53:21,239
Speaker 1: different places. I prefer to meet people in person. But

1187
00:53:21,640 --> 00:53:24,279
Speaker 1: don't get you know, Hey, you may go on one

1188
00:53:24,360 --> 00:53:26,800
Speaker 1: hundred and fifty dates. That don't mean you sleep with everybody.

1189
00:53:26,840 --> 00:53:28,799
Speaker 1: But you may go on dates. Hey have a coffee,

1190
00:53:29,080 --> 00:53:30,759
Speaker 1: you know, may go have a dinner, may go to

1191
00:53:30,840 --> 00:53:33,759
Speaker 1: the museum, you know, But just understand it's going to

1192
00:53:33,800 --> 00:53:36,960
Speaker 1: take a lot of dates to meet the one, all right,

1193
00:53:37,000 --> 00:53:40,759
Speaker 1: So don't get discouraged. I honestly believe every person has

1194
00:53:40,800 --> 00:53:42,960
Speaker 1: a one. You know what I'm saying, has that person

1195
00:53:42,960 --> 00:53:45,879
Speaker 1: that is their person. You just take time to find them,

1196
00:53:45,920 --> 00:53:47,799
Speaker 1: and anything that's worth finding it takes time.

1197
00:53:47,920 --> 00:53:50,279
Speaker 3: So and keep being exactly who you are. When I say,

1198
00:53:50,280 --> 00:53:51,200
Speaker 3: show up with your true.

1199
00:53:51,000 --> 00:53:53,640
Speaker 2: Self, like, don't dim You're like, don't dim your achievements,

1200
00:53:53,680 --> 00:53:55,840
Speaker 2: don't dim who you are because you're trying to like

1201
00:53:55,880 --> 00:53:57,560
Speaker 2: fit into because then you're gonna end up in the

1202
00:53:57,560 --> 00:53:58,600
Speaker 2: wrong pool of people.

1203
00:53:59,440 --> 00:54:00,840
Speaker 1: And then what ca was a doctor?

1204
00:54:00,880 --> 00:54:01,000
Speaker 9: Man?

1205
00:54:01,040 --> 00:54:04,279
Speaker 1: I'd love it, I say, put them scrubs on. You

1206
00:54:04,320 --> 00:54:06,360
Speaker 1: know what time it is? You know what? You know

1207
00:54:06,400 --> 00:54:07,359
Speaker 1: what time it is? All right?

1208
00:54:07,920 --> 00:54:12,400
Speaker 2: Some scrubs stirs from an audition she put.

1209
00:54:12,120 --> 00:54:18,560
Speaker 1: Join with the back, Jos, Josh, how would you put

1210
00:54:18,600 --> 00:54:21,080
Speaker 1: me in the back this joint? Why you were supposed

1211
00:54:21,080 --> 00:54:23,960
Speaker 1: to know you supposed to be that one? Would you

1212
00:54:24,280 --> 00:54:29,640
Speaker 1: bring that into imagination? Josh?

1213
00:54:29,719 --> 00:54:29,959
Speaker 2: Why?

1214
00:54:30,160 --> 00:54:31,640
Speaker 1: Man? Why?

1215
00:54:31,640 --> 00:54:31,960
Speaker 5: People?

1216
00:54:32,200 --> 00:54:32,520
Speaker 1: Why?

1217
00:54:32,960 --> 00:54:33,240
Speaker 2: Why?

1218
00:54:33,840 --> 00:54:34,120
Speaker 1: Why?

1219
00:54:34,960 --> 00:54:37,080
Speaker 5: Every episode y'all get a little bit more about me.

1220
00:54:39,840 --> 00:54:42,200
Speaker 1: I'm sorry, Josh, every episode.

1221
00:54:42,560 --> 00:54:43,840
Speaker 3: Oh my goodness. Goodluck to you.

1222
00:54:43,960 --> 00:54:44,440
Speaker 5: Sis.

1223
00:54:44,680 --> 00:54:46,720
Speaker 2: It seems like you're on the right path. And whoever

1224
00:54:46,880 --> 00:54:50,080
Speaker 2: that person is for you, I'm sure you'll find all

1225
00:54:50,200 --> 00:54:52,320
Speaker 2: right if you want to be featured as a listener.

1226
00:54:52,440 --> 00:54:54,839
Speaker 2: Letter keep writing in from last time I checked, trip

1227
00:54:54,840 --> 00:54:57,600
Speaker 2: But has the email box been overflowing?

1228
00:54:58,680 --> 00:55:00,600
Speaker 9: Not really, y'all need to write in a lot more

1229
00:55:00,640 --> 00:55:01,399
Speaker 9: than now.

1230
00:55:02,600 --> 00:55:02,960
Speaker 1: Advice.

1231
00:55:03,520 --> 00:55:06,200
Speaker 2: Hello, you know, stay anonymous, you know what I'm saying.

1232
00:55:06,200 --> 00:55:08,480
Speaker 2: But at least we're gonna give you a you know,

1233
00:55:08,640 --> 00:55:09,920
Speaker 2: I want to say We're gonna give you all the

1234
00:55:10,000 --> 00:55:12,120
Speaker 2: right answers, but we're gonna give you some perspective, you know,

1235
00:55:12,200 --> 00:55:13,840
Speaker 2: So write in if you want to be a listener

1236
00:55:13,920 --> 00:55:17,480
Speaker 2: letter letter. It is the uh v LS Advice at

1237
00:55:17,520 --> 00:55:18,399
Speaker 2: gmail dot com.

1238
00:55:18,400 --> 00:55:20,000
Speaker 3: That's the mamail address t H.

1239
00:55:20,000 --> 00:55:22,319
Speaker 1: E E L L I S A d V I

1240
00:55:22,400 --> 00:55:25,040
Speaker 1: C E at gmail dot com.

1241
00:55:25,080 --> 00:55:26,960
Speaker 2: All right, time for the moment of truth. Today we're

1242
00:55:27,000 --> 00:55:30,680
Speaker 2: talking about mediocre and does a love company? Josh, I

1243
00:55:30,719 --> 00:55:33,000
Speaker 2: think you had a little one line or blurb for

1244
00:55:33,040 --> 00:55:33,839
Speaker 2: your moment of truth.

1245
00:55:34,120 --> 00:55:35,880
Speaker 5: Oh yeah, copying and paste that from Devel.

1246
00:55:37,000 --> 00:55:38,839
Speaker 3: That bad cant.

1247
00:55:42,000 --> 00:55:47,440
Speaker 1: Don't be mediocre. I almost forgot. I don't know what

1248
00:55:47,520 --> 00:55:50,640
Speaker 1: it was. It wasn't until just now I remember that

1249
00:55:50,719 --> 00:55:54,080
Speaker 1: it was don't be medioocre at what you great at? MMM, Like,

1250
00:55:54,160 --> 00:55:56,279
Speaker 1: don't just sit in that. Find out what's great for

1251
00:55:56,360 --> 00:55:59,160
Speaker 1: you and just create a high standard for yourself and

1252
00:55:59,239 --> 00:56:01,560
Speaker 1: don't let any adios knock you off of trying to

1253
00:56:01,600 --> 00:56:04,120
Speaker 1: achieve that standard. I don't care how much they talk

1254
00:56:04,160 --> 00:56:04,520
Speaker 1: about you.

1255
00:56:04,600 --> 00:56:04,759
Speaker 6: Yo.

1256
00:56:04,880 --> 00:56:08,160
Speaker 1: If that's what you know you great at, go get it, absolutely.

1257
00:56:08,760 --> 00:56:14,760
Speaker 10: Mind simple, don't be whatless, don't be whatless.

1258
00:56:15,160 --> 00:56:17,719
Speaker 3: I love that it's such a thing I would.

1259
00:56:17,560 --> 00:56:22,400
Speaker 8: Say to my point earlier on try not to be

1260
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:24,360
Speaker 8: mediocre on your own. Don't wait for nobody else to

1261
00:56:24,440 --> 00:56:28,120
Speaker 8: tell you that you be a mediocre. And if I

1262
00:56:28,120 --> 00:56:29,840
Speaker 8: think the point went out earlier, if you're the smartest

1263
00:56:29,880 --> 00:56:30,279
Speaker 8: person in.

1264
00:56:30,200 --> 00:56:32,520
Speaker 5: The room, then you in the wrong room.

1265
00:56:32,680 --> 00:56:36,600
Speaker 8: I'm trying to uh live that, So I encourage you

1266
00:56:36,600 --> 00:56:38,320
Speaker 8: to do to say nope.

1267
00:56:39,600 --> 00:56:42,680
Speaker 6: I think learning how to take feedback from people you

1268
00:56:42,800 --> 00:56:45,120
Speaker 6: respect will help you level up every time.

1269
00:56:45,840 --> 00:56:46,439
Speaker 3: I love that.

1270
00:56:47,000 --> 00:56:48,399
Speaker 7: Respect and don't respect.

1271
00:56:48,719 --> 00:56:51,760
Speaker 3: Mm from peopa from people.

1272
00:56:52,560 --> 00:56:53,040
Speaker 9: I love that.

1273
00:56:53,320 --> 00:56:56,400
Speaker 2: And I think I can round it out by just saying,

1274
00:56:58,560 --> 00:57:00,759
Speaker 2: let people believe what they want to believe about you.

1275
00:57:00,880 --> 00:57:03,359
Speaker 2: If you want to be great, go ahead and be great,

1276
00:57:03,560 --> 00:57:06,000
Speaker 2: and whatever that looks like for you, continue on that path.

1277
00:57:06,080 --> 00:57:08,080
Speaker 2: Because what you don't want to allow is the noise

1278
00:57:08,120 --> 00:57:10,759
Speaker 2: from folks who aren't doing the very same thing that

1279
00:57:10,800 --> 00:57:12,759
Speaker 2: you want to do, or not even doing it with

1280
00:57:12,800 --> 00:57:15,560
Speaker 2: themselves in their own lives, to have that kind of

1281
00:57:15,680 --> 00:57:18,959
Speaker 2: pressure or even that kind of control over your thought

1282
00:57:19,000 --> 00:57:22,000
Speaker 2: and over your life. So let people be, and then

1283
00:57:22,040 --> 00:57:23,840
Speaker 2: you should do your own thing.

1284
00:57:24,560 --> 00:57:24,920
Speaker 1: I like that.

1285
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1286
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1287
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Speaker 6: Got Ellis ever After is an iHeartMedia podcast. It's hosted

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Speaker 6: by Kadeen and Deval Ellis. It's produced by Triple Video,

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Speaker 6: Production by Joshua Dwayne and Matthew Ellis, video editing by

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Speaker 6: Lashan Rowe.

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