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Speaker 1: Hello, everyone, Welcome to Cheeky's Into a Podcast. I'm Cheeky's Duh.

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Speaker 1: Thank you guys so much for being here. Thank you

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Speaker 1: for choosing this podcast week after week. I'm very grateful,

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Speaker 1: and I wanted to talk to you guys about something

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Speaker 1: that is very important, and that is love. I know

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Speaker 1: you may think, Okay, she's talking about love because Valentine's

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Speaker 1: Day is around the corner, and yes, but no, this

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Speaker 1: is very different. I'm talking about the love that we

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Speaker 1: all have within us, that some of us have forgotten

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Speaker 1: because of situations in our lives, because of pain, and

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Speaker 1: it causes us to move further and further away from love.

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Speaker 1: And that's something I've been working on for or really

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Speaker 1: my entire life, but really tapping into it deeply for

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Speaker 1: the past two years, especially last year. As you guys know,

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Speaker 1: I was in this deep healing era. I'm still in it.

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Speaker 1: Healing is something I'm gonna have to do, We're going

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Speaker 1: to have to do for the rest of our lives.

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Speaker 1: But I wanted to talk to you guys about what

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Speaker 1: love really is, what it means, what it does, and

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Speaker 1: when we have a lack of it, how it affects

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Speaker 1: our lives. So I'm sure you guys have heard me

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Speaker 1: say love is the moving force of the universe. I

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Speaker 1: say it all the time because it is without love,

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Speaker 1: there's absolutely no way that we can continue having a

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Speaker 1: happy life. And at the end of the day, all

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Speaker 1: of us want to be happy. And you may think,

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Speaker 1: is it love for another person? Yes, but really it's

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Speaker 1: love as a whole. Okay, So let's talk about what

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Speaker 1: love is because it took me a little bit to

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Speaker 1: understand this exactly. We're like, oh, you know, love, you

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Speaker 1: have to be love based or have a love foundation,

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Speaker 1: but what really is that? What is love? What are

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Speaker 1: you talking about Chiky's or what are you talking about book?

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Speaker 1: You know? And I had to break it down and

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Speaker 1: I was like, if I'm having a bit of a

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Speaker 1: difficult time understanding exactly what this book or what this

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Speaker 1: podcast or this quote that I saw on Instagram, what

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Speaker 1: it's really telling me. If I'm having some difficulty, I'm

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Speaker 1: sure I'm not the only one. So everything begins with love, guys,

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Speaker 1: That's just what it is. Creation, connection, healing, expansion equals love.

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Speaker 1: Love in motion. Okay. And again, like I said, if

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Speaker 1: love stopped, everything would stop. So what is love? Love?

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Speaker 1: Is patient, giving yourself an others grace. Love is kind,

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Speaker 1: love is gentle, love is truthful, Love is present. And

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Speaker 1: I had to come back to it, guys, because I

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Speaker 1: was so stuck in working in surviving for so long,

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Speaker 1: because I had gone through this crazy heartbreak with my

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Speaker 1: mom and losing her and how everything happened, that I

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Speaker 1: feel like I kind of lost myself. Not that I

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Speaker 1: stopped loving, but I was abandoning myself by putting up

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Speaker 1: this front of I'm strong and I have to be

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Speaker 1: this way because if I'm not this way, if I'm

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Speaker 1: not strong, if I'm not tough, then people will take

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Speaker 1: advantage of me. And I started getting further and further

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Speaker 1: away from my authentic self, not only me, but you too,

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Speaker 1: all of us. We all are born, pure, happy, joyful, unprogrammed,

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Speaker 1: just our divine essence that God has given us. It's

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Speaker 1: an energy, right, and I'm not going to get too

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Speaker 1: deep into this because it's a lot, but I really

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Speaker 1: truly believe that we are definitely all interconnected through energy.

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Speaker 1: We all want the same thing. Yes, we're all unique,

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Speaker 1: but we all want to be happy. We all want

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Speaker 1: to be loved. We all want to be successful at

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Speaker 1: the end of the day, we all want the same things.

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Speaker 1: We're all energetically aligned, and it comes from a source

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Speaker 1: that's much bigger, much stronger than us. And I know

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Speaker 1: there probably are people out there that don't believe in

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Speaker 1: a higher power, and I respect that. If you're atheist,

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Speaker 1: then I respect that. But in reality, for me, I

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Speaker 1: look outside and I'm like, I can't make that sky,

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Speaker 1: are things that are unexplainable, and for me that's God.

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Speaker 1: God could be a woman. God could be a man

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Speaker 1: a female. God could be just an energy. Whatever it is,

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Speaker 1: however you see God. But at the end of the day,

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Speaker 1: it's what connects us in this universe of infinite expansion.

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Speaker 1: The source and the foundation of it is love. And

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Speaker 1: I know it is difficult to be patient with certain people,

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Speaker 1: But when you find that strength within yourself to have

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Speaker 1: have to constantly remind myself of this. And when I

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Speaker 1: it in every area of your life, at work, with

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Speaker 1: your partner, with your children. It's choosing to keep your

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Speaker 1: inner peace in moments of difficulty, and choosing to believe

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Speaker 1: the end of the day, even if people aren't the nicest,

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Speaker 1: you don't allow that to change you. That at the

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Speaker 1: end of the day, that's love. Love for yourself, that's

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Speaker 1: self love, love for God, love for the higher power

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Speaker 1: and that higher energy that is all within us, and

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Speaker 1: that love source every single day. And I'm not telling

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Speaker 1: going to have bad days and you're not going to

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Speaker 1: fall off track. That is just life, guys, And I'm

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Speaker 1: learning to accept that to know, Okay, life is life,

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Speaker 1: and there's pressures and there are mean people. Unfortunately, they

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Speaker 1: weren't always like that, and that's another part. There are

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Speaker 1: in their essence, at their core, they weren't always like that,

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Speaker 1: and I want to believe that. And I think when

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Speaker 1: that personal because at the end of the day, there

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Speaker 1: are things that you need to deal with and I'm

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Speaker 1: going to have compassion for that. Am I going to

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Speaker 1: but I don't have to add to it. I don't

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Speaker 1: have to let your mood affect mine. And it's having

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Speaker 1: that control and closing your eyes. And it's what I've

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Speaker 1: At the end of the day, I have control of

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Speaker 1: I choose to be love. I'm going to choose to

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Speaker 1: be kind. And that is hard to do. Guys. When

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Speaker 1: people are mean, the ego wants to come in and

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Speaker 1: And sometimes it's not even worth it. Not sometimes most

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Speaker 1: of the time, guys, if not always, it's not worth it.

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Speaker 1: It's like I'm not going to tap in to that

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Speaker 1: set hard boundaries, I had to make decisions that weren't easy,

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Speaker 1: and I was in limble with that, not remembering the

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Speaker 1: power that I have within, which is I'm not hurting anyone.

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Speaker 1: feeling guilty. And I had to tap into this. And

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Speaker 1: I started reading this book. It's from Mary Anne Williamson,

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Speaker 1: and it's called A Return to Love, and it reminded

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Speaker 1: me of all of these things that I already knew,

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Speaker 1: but we all need this refresher. So this is why

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Speaker 1: foremost is being gentle, being kind, being truthful, and honest

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Speaker 1: with ourselves, even those parts of ourselves that especially those

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Speaker 1: parts of ourselves that we're not proud of, that we

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Speaker 1: We're not perfect, guys. We were born perfect, but then

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Speaker 1: our parents raises a certain way because of their fears,

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Speaker 1: a beautiful light filled with love that just wants to

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Speaker 1: be loved and wants to give love. But we have too,

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Speaker 1: little by little, and that's what healing is, is taking

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Speaker 1: we all know and I always say, it starts with us.

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Speaker 1: Whatever we want to reflect in our lives is whatever

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Speaker 1: starts with you. How you treat yourself, how you speak

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Speaker 1: There's always going to be negative thoughts. It's stopping them

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Speaker 1: easier to do it with other people. Other things won't

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Speaker 1: You're like, I'm good with myself. I know where my

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Speaker 1: value myself, I value you now talking about love in

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Speaker 1: everyday life, love and relationships, listening to learn not to react,

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Speaker 1: listening to love and not control, like all those little things.

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Speaker 1: And that's why I wanted to talk about love, guys,

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Speaker 1: because it's like love is so simple, yet it encompasses

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Speaker 1: so much love and parenting, for instance, guidance guiding your

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Speaker 1: And again this is not to make our parents or

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Speaker 1: is my truth. I love my mother. I forgive her.

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Speaker 1: I'm like, wait, Janey, get whatever you can done. Don't

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Speaker 1: you're good. I love you. You're gonna be fine. Do what

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Speaker 1: you can because I've lived my life well. Tomorrow and

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Speaker 1: the next day and like all these things I want

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Speaker 1: to accomplish. Yes, that's good, but at the end of

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Speaker 1: the day, your spirit. Taking care of your spirit and

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Speaker 1: your soul is the most important thing. Your most important

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Speaker 1: task on a daily basis is really catering and loving

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Speaker 1: and taking care of your soul, whatever that means to you.

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Speaker 1: For me, it's waking up, praying, meditating. That looks different.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I stretch, sometimes I breathe. Sometimes I take a bath.

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Speaker 1: Sometimes I'm just moving. I dance in the bathroom. Whatever

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Speaker 1: it is to take care of my soul, to connect

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Speaker 1: to my higher power, it's life changing and then everything

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Speaker 1: else follows along. When this, when your center is good,

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Speaker 1: and when you're treating yourself with love, it helps you

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Speaker 1: show up everywhere and in every area of your life

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Speaker 1: with love and it attracts good things. So, now that

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Speaker 1: Valentine's Day is coming up, Happy Valentine's Day, I hope

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Speaker 1: that you guys have an amazing Valentine's Day with your

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Speaker 1: loved ones with even if you're alone, you're not alone.

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Speaker 1: Even if you don't have a partner, It is okay.

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Speaker 1: Now that you know what type of love I'm talking about,

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Speaker 1: trying to say is, don't feel sorry for yourself, because

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Speaker 1: if you feel sorry, for yourself, then you're only attracting

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Speaker 1: more of that energy versus just saying it's Valentine's Day,

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Speaker 1: I love myself. I'm going to cook for myself, I'm

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Speaker 1: going to take a bath, whatever it is that you're

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Speaker 1: going to do, or go to dinner with your friend

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Speaker 1: or whatever, bake, whatever you want to do, but do

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Speaker 1: not feel sorry for yourself, and celebrate love every single day,

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Speaker 1: especially on Valentine's Day. And if you do have a

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Speaker 1: loved one or a husband, or a girlfriend or a partner,

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Speaker 1: or even if just just your grandma, send her flowers.

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Speaker 1: It's a day to celebrate love and the most important thing, guys,

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Speaker 1: that we have at the end of the day, that's

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Speaker 1: the only thing that's going to keep this universe moving

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Speaker 1: and flowing energetically and in every way. So I hope

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Speaker 1: this episode was able to help you and that now

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Speaker 1: you can celebrate love in a different way. And just

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Speaker 1: remember that energy never dies. Love is connected to that

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Speaker 1: energy and whenever you want to tap in, it's there.

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Speaker 1: And if for whatever reason, you just make sure you

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Speaker 1: know that that source will always always be there eternally

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Speaker 1: and it's infinite, and tap in every single day if

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Speaker 1: you can, but tap in as much as you can,

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Speaker 1: and I promise you that your life will change. The

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Speaker 1: way you look, the way you feel, the way you

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Speaker 1: present yourself in life, it all changes. Love is a

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Speaker 1: beautiful thing. And I was so scared of love for

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Speaker 1: so long because I was always afraid of being hurt,

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Speaker 1: and I was allowing myself to be loved or allowing

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Speaker 1: people to come in fully because I was keeping that

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Speaker 1: I had been hurt so much. And I'm not saying

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Speaker 1: you're not going to be hurt, that's inevitable. But choose

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Speaker 1: love always, always. It will always make you happier at

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Speaker 1: the end of the day. Thank you for listening. I

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Speaker 1: appreciate you, and Happy Valentine's Day. I'll catch you here

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