1 00:00:00,240 --> 00:00:03,200 Speaker 1: Life is full of things that you don't always want 2 00:00:03,240 --> 00:00:07,360 Speaker 1: to do. We don't live a life ever doing things 3 00:00:07,640 --> 00:00:11,080 Speaker 1: just that we want to do. We have to add 4 00:00:11,119 --> 00:00:26,040 Speaker 1: things in there that adds adversity to us. What's up, everybody. 5 00:00:26,120 --> 00:00:29,280 Speaker 1: Welcome to the podcast, Episode one fifty five, Happy Monday. 6 00:00:29,280 --> 00:00:32,000 Speaker 1: Thanks for being here with me, Thanks for all you 7 00:00:32,080 --> 00:00:35,159 Speaker 1: longtime listeners, and thanks for you brand new listeners that 8 00:00:35,320 --> 00:00:39,080 Speaker 1: just came and found this. We answer your questions and 9 00:00:39,159 --> 00:00:43,959 Speaker 1: you email me Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. That's 10 00:00:44,000 --> 00:00:46,479 Speaker 1: what we do on this podcast. Well that's what I 11 00:00:46,560 --> 00:00:49,760 Speaker 1: do on this podcast, and I will answer anything you got. 12 00:00:49,840 --> 00:00:52,720 Speaker 1: Could be about any subject. It could be about anything 13 00:00:52,760 --> 00:00:55,720 Speaker 1: you're going through, anything you're excited about, anything you're worried 14 00:00:55,720 --> 00:01:00,440 Speaker 1: about or anxious about, maybe something you really love. Email me. 15 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:02,080 Speaker 1: Let's talk about it. Like we're sitting in the cab 16 00:01:02,120 --> 00:01:03,920 Speaker 1: of a truck and we're driving down the road and 17 00:01:04,760 --> 00:01:06,160 Speaker 1: you say, hey, man, I got something I want to 18 00:01:06,200 --> 00:01:09,840 Speaker 1: run by you and we just dissect it in long form. 19 00:01:10,080 --> 00:01:16,039 Speaker 1: There's no rush on this. First question here. Subject line 20 00:01:16,080 --> 00:01:20,600 Speaker 1: says hi, but not h H I g H. It 21 00:01:20,640 --> 00:01:24,000 Speaker 1: says hello, hope you're doing well today. I'm nineteen, I 22 00:01:24,000 --> 00:01:27,040 Speaker 1: have a question. Why do you think marijuana is illegal? 23 00:01:28,040 --> 00:01:31,240 Speaker 1: It's one of the most natural herbs, all from God, 24 00:01:31,680 --> 00:01:34,360 Speaker 1: not man made. It comes from a seed that you 25 00:01:34,440 --> 00:01:36,840 Speaker 1: cover in dirt and the sun and rain helps it 26 00:01:36,959 --> 00:01:40,840 Speaker 1: thrive and grow, all from the gifts of God. Why 27 00:01:40,920 --> 00:01:44,240 Speaker 1: is it considered illegal or a sin? Have a great day. 28 00:01:44,440 --> 00:01:48,200 Speaker 1: Hope to hear back from you about this question. Yeah. Question. 29 00:01:48,880 --> 00:01:50,480 Speaker 1: I'm not going to say who it comes from because 30 00:01:50,520 --> 00:01:54,400 Speaker 1: they didn't say, so we'll call you anonymous. Anonymous, thanks 31 00:01:54,400 --> 00:01:58,480 Speaker 1: for kicking off the show. Thanks for the email, And 32 00:01:58,520 --> 00:02:02,960 Speaker 1: this one's pretty straightforward. Things that are a sin that 33 00:02:03,320 --> 00:02:06,800 Speaker 1: has nothing to do with if it's all natural or not. 34 00:02:07,680 --> 00:02:10,400 Speaker 1: Like there's nothing in the Bible that says if it 35 00:02:10,520 --> 00:02:14,080 Speaker 1: is all natural, then it is good for you, you know, 36 00:02:14,320 --> 00:02:18,400 Speaker 1: like a woman is all natural for you. You know, 37 00:02:18,600 --> 00:02:21,919 Speaker 1: like a man that you shouldn't be with is all natural. 38 00:02:22,040 --> 00:02:25,519 Speaker 1: I mean, hopefully the man is all natural maine from 39 00:02:25,520 --> 00:02:28,200 Speaker 1: the earth. So that has nothing to do with it. 40 00:02:28,720 --> 00:02:32,520 Speaker 1: What it does have everything to do with is it 41 00:02:32,639 --> 00:02:36,880 Speaker 1: numbs your brain. It transforms your mind, It changes your thoughts, 42 00:02:37,560 --> 00:02:42,480 Speaker 1: It alters you and your consciousness in a way. Now, 43 00:02:42,600 --> 00:02:44,320 Speaker 1: the more you have, the more it's going to do it. 44 00:02:44,360 --> 00:02:48,880 Speaker 1: But this is why it is illegal to drive while 45 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:52,240 Speaker 1: under the influence of marijuana. You can't get pulled over 46 00:02:52,480 --> 00:02:57,440 Speaker 1: super high. Why because your reflexes have changed. Your decision 47 00:02:57,520 --> 00:03:02,320 Speaker 1: making patterns are changed through the substance. It doesn't matter 48 00:03:02,440 --> 00:03:05,840 Speaker 1: if it's if it's chemically made by meth or if 49 00:03:05,880 --> 00:03:09,799 Speaker 1: it's naturally grown like marijuana. The reason it's illegal, and 50 00:03:09,840 --> 00:03:12,400 Speaker 1: if you get pulled over super high, you're going to 51 00:03:12,440 --> 00:03:15,880 Speaker 1: get arrested or lose your license or get a big 52 00:03:15,960 --> 00:03:18,960 Speaker 1: fine in some way. The reason for that is because 53 00:03:19,000 --> 00:03:22,919 Speaker 1: your judgment is impaired. So say you're not driving, say 54 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:26,720 Speaker 1: let's take driving out of it. Your judgment is still 55 00:03:26,760 --> 00:03:30,200 Speaker 1: impaired even when you're not running heavy machinery. So the 56 00:03:30,240 --> 00:03:33,480 Speaker 1: reason it's a sin is because your judgment and your 57 00:03:33,960 --> 00:03:39,560 Speaker 1: cognitive ability to discern the will of God with your 58 00:03:39,760 --> 00:03:45,120 Speaker 1: mind is now changed. It's now altered. That's why it's 59 00:03:45,200 --> 00:03:48,800 Speaker 1: a sin. I don't think I have to say any 60 00:03:48,840 --> 00:03:56,640 Speaker 1: more than that second question. Subject line says God's timing 61 00:03:56,760 --> 00:04:01,960 Speaker 1: or devil's temptation should be interesting, Anonymous, and it says 62 00:04:02,040 --> 00:04:04,680 Speaker 1: I've found so much peace through your advice on your podcast. 63 00:04:04,720 --> 00:04:06,880 Speaker 1: Thank you for your service to those who need it most. 64 00:04:07,640 --> 00:04:09,960 Speaker 1: I encourage you to keep doing God's work and guiding 65 00:04:10,000 --> 00:04:13,400 Speaker 1: people to His love. Thank you. The body of the 66 00:04:13,400 --> 00:04:19,160 Speaker 1: email says, Since my last email to you, I've been 67 00:04:19,200 --> 00:04:22,359 Speaker 1: working on my relationship with God through reading the Bible 68 00:04:22,440 --> 00:04:26,120 Speaker 1: and daily prayer. Also, I've asked my boyfriend of three 69 00:04:26,200 --> 00:04:28,560 Speaker 1: years now for a break so I could work on 70 00:04:28,600 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 1: myself and figure out where God is taking my life. 71 00:04:33,560 --> 00:04:35,440 Speaker 1: I've also been honest with him, letting him know that 72 00:04:35,520 --> 00:04:38,080 Speaker 1: I feel that he treats me as if we're just 73 00:04:38,240 --> 00:04:41,239 Speaker 1: friends with benefits, and I no longer feel the connection. 74 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:44,440 Speaker 1: I fell in love with my ex boyfriend five years 75 00:04:44,440 --> 00:04:47,360 Speaker 1: ago and we have yet to duplicate those same feelings 76 00:04:47,360 --> 00:04:50,559 Speaker 1: in someone else. My current boyfriend took it pretty hard 77 00:04:50,920 --> 00:04:53,760 Speaker 1: and begs me daily to work on our relationship. He's 78 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:56,760 Speaker 1: a great guy who checks most of the boxes and 79 00:04:56,800 --> 00:04:59,120 Speaker 1: could make an incredible husband one day, but I question 80 00:04:59,240 --> 00:05:00,719 Speaker 1: whether or not he he is the one for me. 81 00:05:01,360 --> 00:05:04,200 Speaker 1: I'm having a hard time figuring out where God is 82 00:05:04,240 --> 00:05:07,040 Speaker 1: trying to lead me. My ex and I have had 83 00:05:07,080 --> 00:05:09,760 Speaker 1: some years to grow and mature. Recently, my ex reached 84 00:05:09,760 --> 00:05:12,320 Speaker 1: out and I thought that God was providing me with 85 00:05:12,360 --> 00:05:15,360 Speaker 1: the closure I needed to move on. Now I'm left 86 00:05:15,400 --> 00:05:17,599 Speaker 1: wondering if God was trying to open that door back 87 00:05:17,680 --> 00:05:20,200 Speaker 1: up for me to follow. Is God trying to lead 88 00:05:20,240 --> 00:05:23,120 Speaker 1: me towards my ex or is this just the devil 89 00:05:23,240 --> 00:05:25,800 Speaker 1: trying to distract me from what God has put right 90 00:05:25,880 --> 00:05:27,839 Speaker 1: in front of me in my current relationship. Thanks so 91 00:05:27,880 --> 00:05:34,120 Speaker 1: much for your time and advice. Well, Anonymous, let's get 92 00:05:34,160 --> 00:05:36,120 Speaker 1: to this one. Let's dig into this a little bit. 93 00:05:36,120 --> 00:05:40,360 Speaker 1: It's a lot. That's a lot to dig into, and 94 00:05:40,400 --> 00:05:43,960 Speaker 1: we could do it. My first thought, just like first read. 95 00:05:44,160 --> 00:05:46,520 Speaker 1: And by the way, guys, I don't have notes. I 96 00:05:46,560 --> 00:05:49,679 Speaker 1: don't prepare on these emails. I don't I don't prepare 97 00:05:49,680 --> 00:05:53,880 Speaker 1: with answers because of pre read them and dissected them. 98 00:05:54,440 --> 00:05:57,159 Speaker 1: I'm reading it for the first time, and you're hearing 99 00:05:57,240 --> 00:05:59,400 Speaker 1: it with me reading it for the first time, so 100 00:05:59,440 --> 00:06:03,040 Speaker 1: we're all brain new to every email I read. So 101 00:06:03,400 --> 00:06:06,360 Speaker 1: the first read of this, I'm going to say, Anonymous, 102 00:06:07,680 --> 00:06:12,040 Speaker 1: you've got boy problems. You're boy crazy right now. You're 103 00:06:12,279 --> 00:06:15,800 Speaker 1: you're desperate to be in a relationship, and you're you're thinking, no, 104 00:06:15,880 --> 00:06:18,479 Speaker 1: I'm not not desperate, but it sounds like you're just 105 00:06:18,560 --> 00:06:23,240 Speaker 1: not content. Single where you are right now. Now. It 106 00:06:23,360 --> 00:06:26,120 Speaker 1: started out by you saying you took a break from 107 00:06:26,120 --> 00:06:28,960 Speaker 1: your boyfriend so that you could work on yourself and 108 00:06:28,960 --> 00:06:31,400 Speaker 1: figure out where God is taking your life. That's what 109 00:06:31,440 --> 00:06:34,760 Speaker 1: you said. Now I have mentioned it on this podcast 110 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:38,960 Speaker 1: before that that is an excuse for I just don't 111 00:06:39,120 --> 00:06:44,160 Speaker 1: love you, like I'm not that into you. So we 112 00:06:44,240 --> 00:06:47,040 Speaker 1: say things like I want I need to focus more 113 00:06:47,040 --> 00:06:49,520 Speaker 1: on my career, or I need to take some time 114 00:06:49,560 --> 00:06:52,360 Speaker 1: for me, or I need to take some time for God, 115 00:06:53,040 --> 00:06:55,839 Speaker 1: or this long distance thing is too hard on me, 116 00:06:56,480 --> 00:06:59,440 Speaker 1: or my parents want us to break up. There's there's 117 00:06:59,760 --> 00:07:02,320 Speaker 1: a thousand excuses that we come up with, but the 118 00:07:02,360 --> 00:07:04,919 Speaker 1: bottom line is what we're trying to say to the 119 00:07:04,960 --> 00:07:09,080 Speaker 1: other person is I just don't totally love you, because 120 00:07:09,120 --> 00:07:12,360 Speaker 1: if I did, I would overcome all these obstacles to 121 00:07:12,440 --> 00:07:15,360 Speaker 1: make it work because I'm connected to you and I 122 00:07:15,440 --> 00:07:17,760 Speaker 1: love you, and I will sacrifice for you, and I'm 123 00:07:17,760 --> 00:07:22,040 Speaker 1: going to be selfish to you, self less to you 124 00:07:22,200 --> 00:07:26,800 Speaker 1: and not selfish, right and so it's okay, it's okay, 125 00:07:26,880 --> 00:07:29,440 Speaker 1: I understand what you're saying. I'm gonna take some time 126 00:07:29,480 --> 00:07:31,560 Speaker 1: off to find out where God's taken me in my life. 127 00:07:31,600 --> 00:07:34,920 Speaker 1: I understand that, but I also understand that what you're 128 00:07:34,920 --> 00:07:39,400 Speaker 1: saying is you don't really love this guy, and that's obvious. Okay, 129 00:07:39,840 --> 00:07:42,000 Speaker 1: So now you're thinking, now that we broke up, now 130 00:07:42,000 --> 00:07:44,640 Speaker 1: that I'm taking time to figure out where God has 131 00:07:44,680 --> 00:07:48,680 Speaker 1: taken my life. Oh man, now that I think about it, 132 00:07:48,720 --> 00:07:51,840 Speaker 1: this ex boyfriend was pretty awesome and he just reached 133 00:07:51,840 --> 00:07:54,920 Speaker 1: out to me. Hindsight's twenty twenty. You forget why you 134 00:07:54,960 --> 00:07:56,640 Speaker 1: broke up. I don't know why you broke up, but 135 00:07:56,920 --> 00:08:01,240 Speaker 1: we forget that so easily, and we date somebody that 136 00:08:01,280 --> 00:08:03,640 Speaker 1: we're not totally into, and we're like, man, but the 137 00:08:03,640 --> 00:08:06,720 Speaker 1: one before this I really loved. I was really into 138 00:08:06,760 --> 00:08:09,240 Speaker 1: that guy. I know we were toxic, you know, we 139 00:08:09,280 --> 00:08:12,840 Speaker 1: had we had drama all the time because we butted heads, 140 00:08:13,360 --> 00:08:15,440 Speaker 1: but we were very passionate about each other and we 141 00:08:15,520 --> 00:08:18,560 Speaker 1: definitely had love and I was definitely attracted, not like 142 00:08:18,600 --> 00:08:22,679 Speaker 1: this new guy who was great and a good could 143 00:08:22,680 --> 00:08:25,280 Speaker 1: be a future husband and checked all the boxes, but 144 00:08:25,320 --> 00:08:28,000 Speaker 1: we just didn't have passion. We just didn't have like 145 00:08:28,360 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 1: this great attraction for each other like I did with 146 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:33,400 Speaker 1: the X. So then you go back to the X, 147 00:08:33,440 --> 00:08:36,000 Speaker 1: and then of course he messages you and you say, man, 148 00:08:36,160 --> 00:08:38,360 Speaker 1: is this this is like a sign from God? He 149 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:41,040 Speaker 1: messaged me, Oh, man, this is a sign God's trying 150 00:08:41,080 --> 00:08:43,360 Speaker 1: to bring him into my life. Or maybe it's the 151 00:08:43,400 --> 00:08:45,319 Speaker 1: devil like that. Maybe the devil is just trying to 152 00:08:45,400 --> 00:08:47,800 Speaker 1: tempt me. And this is a test. I need to 153 00:08:47,840 --> 00:08:51,560 Speaker 1: wonder if I'm gonna pass the test. You got a 154 00:08:51,600 --> 00:08:53,800 Speaker 1: lot going on in your head, and I'm gonna make 155 00:08:53,840 --> 00:08:57,200 Speaker 1: it really simple. Neither one of these guys are right 156 00:08:57,280 --> 00:09:00,840 Speaker 1: for you, Neither one of them. If you want to 157 00:09:00,880 --> 00:09:04,640 Speaker 1: truly take time, like you said, take some time to 158 00:09:04,640 --> 00:09:07,600 Speaker 1: figure out what God, what direction he's taken you. Then 159 00:09:07,679 --> 00:09:11,080 Speaker 1: do that. That's the best solution, not getting back with 160 00:09:11,120 --> 00:09:14,440 Speaker 1: an X for whatever the reason. Maybe you screwed up, 161 00:09:14,520 --> 00:09:17,040 Speaker 1: maybe he screwed up. Maybe you've grown since then maybe 162 00:09:17,080 --> 00:09:22,640 Speaker 1: you forgive him, maybe he forgives you. That's irrelevant. Right 163 00:09:22,679 --> 00:09:25,960 Speaker 1: now is the time just to be single and content. 164 00:09:27,720 --> 00:09:30,640 Speaker 1: Lean into your hobbies, lean in, lead into your church groups, 165 00:09:30,720 --> 00:09:33,920 Speaker 1: lean into your girlfriends. But now it's not the time 166 00:09:34,240 --> 00:09:38,280 Speaker 1: to jump into an old relationship like going back and 167 00:09:38,320 --> 00:09:41,640 Speaker 1: buying that's like, that's like buying your childhood home so 168 00:09:41,679 --> 00:09:43,200 Speaker 1: you can live there again. So you could have some 169 00:09:43,240 --> 00:09:46,240 Speaker 1: of those old memories, but then you forget. Oh yeah, 170 00:09:46,280 --> 00:09:49,120 Speaker 1: I didn't. I didn't totally love this home. You know. 171 00:09:49,200 --> 00:09:54,280 Speaker 1: It's like you're you're, you got a lot going on, 172 00:09:54,880 --> 00:09:56,800 Speaker 1: and I want to tell you to pump the breaks. 173 00:09:57,240 --> 00:10:01,480 Speaker 1: Neither one of these guys is right. You're talking about 174 00:10:01,679 --> 00:10:04,600 Speaker 1: how you're getting close to God, and you've been praying 175 00:10:04,600 --> 00:10:08,120 Speaker 1: a lot. You've been you know, well, we can discern 176 00:10:08,200 --> 00:10:12,680 Speaker 1: God's will for our lives by diving into the word 177 00:10:13,200 --> 00:10:15,720 Speaker 1: and soaking it up, saying God, I'm following your lead. 178 00:10:17,200 --> 00:10:20,240 Speaker 1: I'm following your direction, not mine, not some ex boyfriend 179 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:23,640 Speaker 1: that's just randomly messaging and I think he's gotten better. No, 180 00:10:24,920 --> 00:10:27,560 Speaker 1: that's my advice. Capit of the truck we're driving together, 181 00:10:28,600 --> 00:10:35,920 Speaker 1: I'm like, hey, no, neither one of them. All right, 182 00:10:36,000 --> 00:10:39,760 Speaker 1: let's hit another one here. This one has no subject. 183 00:10:39,760 --> 00:10:42,040 Speaker 1: It says, Hey, Granger. I feel like I've been trapped 184 00:10:42,120 --> 00:10:45,880 Speaker 1: in this situation. I've been playing football for the past 185 00:10:46,120 --> 00:10:49,680 Speaker 1: three going on four years. After my third year, I 186 00:10:49,760 --> 00:10:52,480 Speaker 1: kind of went into this depressed state and lost my 187 00:10:52,559 --> 00:10:55,520 Speaker 1: interest in doing it. Talking about football. Here I am 188 00:10:55,559 --> 00:10:57,440 Speaker 1: in my freshman year of high school, and I don't 189 00:10:57,440 --> 00:11:01,520 Speaker 1: want to quit because I've come this far, but it's 190 00:11:01,559 --> 00:11:04,840 Speaker 1: getting to be too much. If I quit, I will 191 00:11:04,920 --> 00:11:07,800 Speaker 1: live with that regret forever, and I can't let my 192 00:11:07,920 --> 00:11:11,680 Speaker 1: team down. I don't know what to do in the situation. 193 00:11:12,000 --> 00:11:16,679 Speaker 1: Please keep me anonymous. Thank you, Yeah, okay, anonymous. So 194 00:11:16,880 --> 00:11:20,600 Speaker 1: what's happening here is freshman year of high school. I 195 00:11:20,600 --> 00:11:23,680 Speaker 1: played football all through those years, and so the freshman 196 00:11:23,760 --> 00:11:27,560 Speaker 1: year of high school, things are changing mentally, things are 197 00:11:27,679 --> 00:11:36,320 Speaker 1: changing physically, and with a contact sport like football, like baseball, 198 00:11:36,440 --> 00:11:42,680 Speaker 1: like basketball, like soccer, you start changing around your age. 199 00:11:42,679 --> 00:11:45,480 Speaker 1: So what are you're like, fifteen sixteen years old? Somewhere 200 00:11:45,559 --> 00:11:48,840 Speaker 1: in there, fifteen sixteen, and so it's totally natural for 201 00:11:48,920 --> 00:11:51,120 Speaker 1: you to wake up one day and be like, man, 202 00:11:51,160 --> 00:11:54,000 Speaker 1: I'm just not into this football thing. I used to 203 00:11:54,040 --> 00:11:58,559 Speaker 1: be when I was twelve, thirteen, fourteen, but I'm changing physically, 204 00:12:00,320 --> 00:12:03,760 Speaker 1: I'm mentally, I'm past it. I'm just not into it anymore. 205 00:12:03,840 --> 00:12:10,240 Speaker 1: That's totally understandable. But you are right, and one one 206 00:12:10,360 --> 00:12:12,720 Speaker 1: piece of your email here, you're right in thinking you 207 00:12:12,720 --> 00:12:16,120 Speaker 1: can't quit on your teammates. You've come this far and 208 00:12:16,160 --> 00:12:18,960 Speaker 1: you're gonna regret that. You absolutely will regret it no 209 00:12:19,000 --> 00:12:21,920 Speaker 1: matter how much you hate football, how much you think 210 00:12:21,960 --> 00:12:25,880 Speaker 1: you're depressed. By the way, if you're depressed over this, 211 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:29,800 Speaker 1: then there's bigger things in life to be depressed about. 212 00:12:29,960 --> 00:12:33,600 Speaker 1: But that's a side note. But you're gonna regret this. 213 00:12:33,640 --> 00:12:35,560 Speaker 1: You're gonna you're gonna look back ten years from now 214 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:39,479 Speaker 1: and go, you know what I let off of my teammates. 215 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:42,760 Speaker 1: I quit halfway through the season and we only had 216 00:12:42,840 --> 00:12:46,559 Speaker 1: eight more games left. Like, look, it's from when I'm 217 00:12:46,600 --> 00:12:49,440 Speaker 1: reading this email. It's the end of September, first of October. 218 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:52,520 Speaker 1: You're past the hard part. You're past the summertime two 219 00:12:52,559 --> 00:12:55,400 Speaker 1: a days. It's just coasting now. Now you just got 220 00:12:55,440 --> 00:12:59,360 Speaker 1: practice and games. That's the fun part. So make it 221 00:12:59,400 --> 00:13:02,600 Speaker 1: through this sea. Make it through. You don't have to 222 00:13:02,600 --> 00:13:06,080 Speaker 1: play next year. Don't sign up your sophomore year. I 223 00:13:06,200 --> 00:13:09,640 Speaker 1: do encourage you to sign up for something different, like 224 00:13:09,760 --> 00:13:13,559 Speaker 1: maybe it's banned, or choir or chess or drama or 225 00:13:14,200 --> 00:13:18,840 Speaker 1: something another sport. But do something. Get involved with something. 226 00:13:18,960 --> 00:13:22,679 Speaker 1: Replace football with something else. Okay, don't just sit on 227 00:13:22,720 --> 00:13:25,360 Speaker 1: the couch at home and play video games or something 228 00:13:25,400 --> 00:13:27,120 Speaker 1: like that. I'm not saying that's who you are. I 229 00:13:27,160 --> 00:13:31,040 Speaker 1: don't know, but don't do that. Don't replace it with nothing, okay, 230 00:13:31,280 --> 00:13:36,120 Speaker 1: with laziness. Make it through this year and as hard 231 00:13:36,160 --> 00:13:39,240 Speaker 1: as it might be this year, as you're pushing forward, 232 00:13:39,400 --> 00:13:42,000 Speaker 1: just think to yourself, I'm doing hard things right now. 233 00:13:42,440 --> 00:13:46,000 Speaker 1: This is good for me. I'm learning through this kind 234 00:13:46,000 --> 00:13:48,920 Speaker 1: of adversity, through something I don't really want to do. 235 00:13:49,000 --> 00:13:51,880 Speaker 1: But I'm showing up. My alarm goes off, I'm getting up, 236 00:13:52,320 --> 00:13:55,360 Speaker 1: I'm grabbing my jersey, I'm putting my pads in right, 237 00:13:56,320 --> 00:13:58,400 Speaker 1: I'm getting dressed in the locker room with my guys, 238 00:13:58,400 --> 00:14:01,360 Speaker 1: and I'm ready to go out. And it's and we 239 00:14:01,400 --> 00:14:04,199 Speaker 1: have a tough game coming up, and I'm studying film 240 00:14:04,240 --> 00:14:06,440 Speaker 1: and I don't really want to, but I'm doing it 241 00:14:06,480 --> 00:14:08,280 Speaker 1: because this is a hard thing, and this is gonna 242 00:14:08,320 --> 00:14:11,440 Speaker 1: prepare me in my life for doing things that I 243 00:14:11,480 --> 00:14:14,680 Speaker 1: don't love to do. Because guess what, anonymous life is 244 00:14:14,760 --> 00:14:17,680 Speaker 1: full of things that you don't always want to do. 245 00:14:18,480 --> 00:14:22,000 Speaker 1: We don't live a life ever doing things just that 246 00:14:22,040 --> 00:14:25,440 Speaker 1: we want to do. We have to add things in 247 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:30,080 Speaker 1: there that adds adversity to us because that shapes us. 248 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:37,120 Speaker 1: It refines us, competition, adversity, problems, suffering, It helps us 249 00:14:37,160 --> 00:14:39,520 Speaker 1: it grows us. We get stronger when we come out 250 00:14:39,560 --> 00:14:42,520 Speaker 1: of it. Like anything in life, anything, you know, they 251 00:14:42,520 --> 00:14:46,400 Speaker 1: say pressure makes diamonds, right, Well, that's a silly analogy, 252 00:14:46,440 --> 00:14:49,960 Speaker 1: but it's absolutely true. At the same time, it takes pressure. 253 00:14:50,720 --> 00:14:53,920 Speaker 1: We need that pressure. We need showing up every day 254 00:14:53,920 --> 00:14:56,360 Speaker 1: going I don't love it, but I'm showing up. And 255 00:14:56,400 --> 00:14:58,600 Speaker 1: that's gonna teach you. Down the road. Ten years from now, 256 00:14:58,640 --> 00:15:01,320 Speaker 1: you're gonna go I don't like this boss. I don't 257 00:15:01,360 --> 00:15:04,440 Speaker 1: like this job necessarily, I don't like the task that 258 00:15:04,520 --> 00:15:07,360 Speaker 1: this job and this boss put me on. But I 259 00:15:07,440 --> 00:15:10,680 Speaker 1: know from ten years ago when I didn't like football 260 00:15:10,720 --> 00:15:12,920 Speaker 1: and I pressed on, I know I could do it 261 00:15:13,600 --> 00:15:16,120 Speaker 1: because my mind is stronger than my body. I could 262 00:15:16,160 --> 00:15:18,080 Speaker 1: push forward and go, you know what, I'm gonna finish. 263 00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:20,600 Speaker 1: I'm gonna finish for my teammates. I'm gonna finish for 264 00:15:20,680 --> 00:15:23,040 Speaker 1: myself so that I know that I'm not a quitter. 265 00:15:23,520 --> 00:15:26,800 Speaker 1: You don't have to play next year, but push through it. 266 00:15:27,200 --> 00:15:30,520 Speaker 1: And while you're doing it, in the pain, in the pressure, 267 00:15:31,000 --> 00:15:36,080 Speaker 1: just remind yourself, preach to yourself. This pressure is refining me. 268 00:15:36,480 --> 00:15:40,120 Speaker 1: It's making me better. I'm learning. I'm going to be 269 00:15:40,200 --> 00:15:50,960 Speaker 1: a better person because of this. Next question, sub decline says, 270 00:15:51,120 --> 00:15:56,600 Speaker 1: stay anonymous. This guy serious about Anonymous? Okay, it says, hey, Granger, 271 00:15:56,640 --> 00:15:59,560 Speaker 1: I got divorced six years ago. It had a bad ending. 272 00:16:00,360 --> 00:16:02,760 Speaker 1: I've never stopped loving her. We have a kid together, 273 00:16:03,000 --> 00:16:06,160 Speaker 1: we co parent great together. I've tried dating, but it 274 00:16:06,200 --> 00:16:09,400 Speaker 1: never clicks with anyone. She was married and then got 275 00:16:09,440 --> 00:16:14,120 Speaker 1: divorced recently. Again, I felt like I'm healed emotionally, But 276 00:16:14,240 --> 00:16:16,840 Speaker 1: is it wrong to always feel this way? Thanks for 277 00:16:16,880 --> 00:16:21,400 Speaker 1: your time, all right, Anonymous, thanks for the email, And 278 00:16:21,840 --> 00:16:23,880 Speaker 1: you are not alone in this situation. A lot of 279 00:16:23,880 --> 00:16:28,960 Speaker 1: people are going through exactly what you're going through. Mistakes 280 00:16:29,000 --> 00:16:32,080 Speaker 1: in the past. Maybe you were in your twenties, Maybe 281 00:16:32,080 --> 00:16:34,840 Speaker 1: you made some mistakes in the marriage, maybe she made 282 00:16:34,840 --> 00:16:38,520 Speaker 1: some mistakes. Maybe you've moved on and now you feel 283 00:16:38,560 --> 00:16:43,280 Speaker 1: like you're a better person because of it. The reason 284 00:16:43,320 --> 00:16:45,680 Speaker 1: this is different from the email about the girl with 285 00:16:45,720 --> 00:16:49,680 Speaker 1: the X. The reason this is very different well two reasons. One, 286 00:16:49,720 --> 00:16:54,320 Speaker 1: you were married. Two, you have a kid. So when 287 00:16:54,320 --> 00:16:59,080 Speaker 1: we have babies, they then become a giant priority in 288 00:16:59,160 --> 00:17:05,200 Speaker 1: the marriage, our lives forever until we die. So I'm 289 00:17:05,200 --> 00:17:07,320 Speaker 1: gonna suggest in this kind of situation. I've known a 290 00:17:07,359 --> 00:17:13,680 Speaker 1: lot of people who were married, had a baby, got divorced, dated, 291 00:17:14,119 --> 00:17:18,280 Speaker 1: grew emotionally, and then got back together with the ex 292 00:17:19,280 --> 00:17:24,359 Speaker 1: spouse and remarried. I don't think that's too far off 293 00:17:24,440 --> 00:17:27,920 Speaker 1: to tell you that, Anonymous. Maybe it's time to call 294 00:17:27,920 --> 00:17:31,639 Speaker 1: her up and say, hey, we have some coffee, go 295 00:17:31,720 --> 00:17:34,040 Speaker 1: have some dinner without the kid, just me and you. 296 00:17:34,119 --> 00:17:35,639 Speaker 1: We haven't done that in a long time. I know 297 00:17:35,680 --> 00:17:38,359 Speaker 1: it might be weird, it might be awkward, but I'd 298 00:17:38,400 --> 00:17:40,440 Speaker 1: like to just take you to dinner and just talk 299 00:17:40,640 --> 00:17:45,720 Speaker 1: off the record, take her out, tell her this, say, look, 300 00:17:47,200 --> 00:17:51,280 Speaker 1: I screwed up. Six years ago. I screwed up. I 301 00:17:51,320 --> 00:17:54,920 Speaker 1: know we had a bad ending and I still regret 302 00:17:55,040 --> 00:17:57,760 Speaker 1: that bad ending, and I feel like I've grown since then. 303 00:17:57,800 --> 00:18:01,520 Speaker 1: I feel like I've grown emotionally. Know this might be crazy, 304 00:18:02,680 --> 00:18:08,119 Speaker 1: but I'd like to suggest taking you out dating you again. 305 00:18:09,400 --> 00:18:13,199 Speaker 1: I know that sounds wild, but I love you and 306 00:18:13,240 --> 00:18:15,960 Speaker 1: we copare it great together. And we have this child, 307 00:18:16,560 --> 00:18:20,160 Speaker 1: and this child depends on us, and it would mean 308 00:18:20,200 --> 00:18:22,960 Speaker 1: everything to the child to have mom biological mom and 309 00:18:23,040 --> 00:18:26,919 Speaker 1: dad together in the same house. Would you consider and 310 00:18:27,040 --> 00:18:30,000 Speaker 1: don't move too fast, Anonymous, like you're not gonna move 311 00:18:30,000 --> 00:18:31,760 Speaker 1: in with her. She's not gonna move in with you, 312 00:18:31,960 --> 00:18:36,520 Speaker 1: not yet. Take it slow, Start with some dates, Be 313 00:18:36,680 --> 00:18:40,280 Speaker 1: selfless about those dates. Pour into her. Show her that 314 00:18:40,320 --> 00:18:43,680 Speaker 1: you're a new person. Not in a fake way, not 315 00:18:44,160 --> 00:18:46,960 Speaker 1: in a used car salesman way that's gonna wear off 316 00:18:47,000 --> 00:18:53,200 Speaker 1: in a year, but legitimately open up your heart. 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So 356 00:20:57,760 --> 00:21:01,040 Speaker 1: show up early ten amye dot com and get your 357 00:21:01,080 --> 00:21:08,440 Speaker 1: favorites before they're gone. Back to the podcast. Welcome back 358 00:21:08,440 --> 00:21:12,360 Speaker 1: to the podcast. Okay, getting right back into the inbox here. 359 00:21:12,520 --> 00:21:15,200 Speaker 1: Subject line on the next email says should I go 360 00:21:15,280 --> 00:21:19,040 Speaker 1: for it? And the question says, Hey, Grangeer, my name's Renee. 361 00:21:19,240 --> 00:21:22,000 Speaker 1: I'm from a small town in Michigan. I'm just asking 362 00:21:22,040 --> 00:21:24,400 Speaker 1: for a little bit of guidance and advice. I graduated 363 00:21:24,480 --> 00:21:26,800 Speaker 1: last year and have been working full time since then. 364 00:21:27,240 --> 00:21:30,120 Speaker 1: I've been noticing recently that every day I go to work, 365 00:21:30,160 --> 00:21:33,160 Speaker 1: it feels like I'm just in this cycle and I'm 366 00:21:33,200 --> 00:21:37,399 Speaker 1: not growing as a person, sometimes even dreading going. I 367 00:21:37,440 --> 00:21:39,960 Speaker 1: want to learn, go to college for criminal justice, and 368 00:21:40,000 --> 00:21:42,560 Speaker 1: try to start looking for better opportunities for me. But 369 00:21:42,600 --> 00:21:45,280 Speaker 1: my problem is one day I'm ready to go for it, 370 00:21:45,320 --> 00:21:46,879 Speaker 1: the next day I just want to stay in my 371 00:21:47,000 --> 00:21:49,800 Speaker 1: job and my comfort zone. If you have any advice 372 00:21:49,920 --> 00:21:52,480 Speaker 1: for just going for it or what you would do 373 00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:54,879 Speaker 1: in this kind of situation, be appreciated. Love you, and 374 00:21:54,880 --> 00:22:00,800 Speaker 1: your music. Thanks Renee, Renee, thanks for the email. And yeah, 375 00:22:00,840 --> 00:22:02,959 Speaker 1: this is this is pretty simple for me. If we 376 00:22:02,960 --> 00:22:05,000 Speaker 1: were friends, this is what I would say, Renee, and 377 00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:10,479 Speaker 1: we are friends, right, I would say, you're right in 378 00:22:10,520 --> 00:22:16,879 Speaker 1: your thinking. I feel like on one side of the coin, 379 00:22:17,000 --> 00:22:22,679 Speaker 1: I say that the typically, this generation, this culture gets 380 00:22:22,840 --> 00:22:27,480 Speaker 1: dissatisfied too quickly, and we have a problem with being content. 381 00:22:28,440 --> 00:22:30,400 Speaker 1: So I do I do want to address that. We 382 00:22:30,560 --> 00:22:33,160 Speaker 1: have a problem with being content. I'm one of them. 383 00:22:33,200 --> 00:22:36,320 Speaker 1: Everyone feels this way. That's that's the nature of this generation. 384 00:22:36,840 --> 00:22:40,399 Speaker 1: So there is something to say for sticking with a 385 00:22:40,520 --> 00:22:43,199 Speaker 1: job and doing a great job at it for a 386 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:47,320 Speaker 1: long time, regardless of the circumstances or the drama around you. 387 00:22:48,080 --> 00:22:51,800 Speaker 1: Just having a commitment for many years is very admirable. 388 00:22:51,920 --> 00:22:55,920 Speaker 1: I'll say that first second. To address your question more directly, 389 00:22:58,600 --> 00:23:02,680 Speaker 1: I think you're you're feeling a calling for something, something 390 00:23:03,240 --> 00:23:07,000 Speaker 1: greater in your life, something that's greater than yourself, which 391 00:23:07,040 --> 00:23:12,240 Speaker 1: is why you're mentioning criminal justice. So the way we 392 00:23:12,280 --> 00:23:18,520 Speaker 1: go about this is we aim small, we start small. Right, 393 00:23:18,920 --> 00:23:21,359 Speaker 1: So what I'm meant to say is you we aim low, 394 00:23:21,760 --> 00:23:26,480 Speaker 1: We aim low and start small, Meaning if you're gonna 395 00:23:26,560 --> 00:23:29,560 Speaker 1: if you're gonna clean the garage, you can't look at 396 00:23:29,560 --> 00:23:32,640 Speaker 1: the whole garage and go I gotta find a day 397 00:23:32,840 --> 00:23:35,399 Speaker 1: in my schedule when I have enough hours to clean 398 00:23:35,400 --> 00:23:37,520 Speaker 1: this whole garage, because it's gonna take a long time. 399 00:23:38,000 --> 00:23:43,000 Speaker 1: That that just puts off, it prolongs the job itself. Instead, 400 00:23:43,240 --> 00:23:46,800 Speaker 1: a better solution is I'm gonna take five minutes a day. 401 00:23:46,840 --> 00:23:50,320 Speaker 1: I'm gonna take ten minutes, or i'm gonna take one minute. 402 00:23:50,320 --> 00:23:52,040 Speaker 1: If that's all I have. I'm gonna take one minute. 403 00:23:52,119 --> 00:23:54,800 Speaker 1: I'm gonna take one thing out of place in this garage. 404 00:23:54,880 --> 00:23:56,760 Speaker 1: I'm gonna put it up, i'm gonna donate it, i'm 405 00:23:56,760 --> 00:24:00,719 Speaker 1: gonna sell it, i'm gonna trash it. So and then 406 00:24:00,720 --> 00:24:04,040 Speaker 1: when that small one minute job is finished, i'm gonna 407 00:24:04,040 --> 00:24:05,719 Speaker 1: go in the corner. I'm gonna go, Okay, just this 408 00:24:05,800 --> 00:24:08,119 Speaker 1: corner of the garage, right here is this whole garage 409 00:24:08,160 --> 00:24:10,080 Speaker 1: is messy, but right here in the corner, I'm gonna 410 00:24:10,080 --> 00:24:14,000 Speaker 1: start here and i'm gonna take one item out. That 411 00:24:14,040 --> 00:24:17,119 Speaker 1: makes the whole task a lot easier. It's like they say, 412 00:24:17,800 --> 00:24:21,440 Speaker 1: how do you eat an elephant one bite at a time. 413 00:24:22,280 --> 00:24:25,439 Speaker 1: So that's the same thing with this big transition you 414 00:24:25,480 --> 00:24:28,560 Speaker 1: have at work. So you're saying, to repeat your email, 415 00:24:28,600 --> 00:24:31,399 Speaker 1: I want to learn go to college for criminal justice. 416 00:24:31,520 --> 00:24:36,240 Speaker 1: Try to start looking for better opportunities. But then the 417 00:24:36,320 --> 00:24:38,879 Speaker 1: problem is one day you're ready and ready to go 418 00:24:38,920 --> 00:24:40,159 Speaker 1: for it, then the next day you just want to 419 00:24:40,200 --> 00:24:41,919 Speaker 1: stay in your comfort zone. Well the reason you want 420 00:24:41,960 --> 00:24:44,479 Speaker 1: to stay in your comfort zone is because it just 421 00:24:44,520 --> 00:24:48,400 Speaker 1: seems so daunting to do all this. It's like, ah, 422 00:24:48,440 --> 00:24:50,560 Speaker 1: I want a job in criminal justice, but that got 423 00:24:50,600 --> 00:24:53,280 Speaker 1: it so much to do, and like college admissions and 424 00:24:54,119 --> 00:24:57,200 Speaker 1: paperwork and meeting people, and then I got to delegate 425 00:24:57,280 --> 00:25:00,879 Speaker 1: new time to this new career your path. That just 426 00:25:00,920 --> 00:25:07,200 Speaker 1: sounds like so much work. So instead you just start small. 427 00:25:07,359 --> 00:25:13,080 Speaker 1: You research. You spend spend thirty minutes researching a career 428 00:25:13,119 --> 00:25:17,600 Speaker 1: opportunity for criminal justice, maybe in your hometown, maybe in 429 00:25:17,720 --> 00:25:21,399 Speaker 1: one town over something in a thirty minute area. You 430 00:25:21,480 --> 00:25:23,040 Speaker 1: just go. You just show up and just go, hey, 431 00:25:24,040 --> 00:25:25,800 Speaker 1: I want to I want to get a job here, 432 00:25:26,800 --> 00:25:29,320 Speaker 1: but I need to know the requirements. What's the job 433 00:25:29,520 --> 00:25:32,240 Speaker 1: requirements to get in here? What's the entry level requirements? 434 00:25:32,280 --> 00:25:34,920 Speaker 1: And they go, yeah, no problem, you need to have 435 00:25:35,040 --> 00:25:37,880 Speaker 1: this kind of degree. You need to have this kind 436 00:25:37,920 --> 00:25:40,800 Speaker 1: of experience, and you go cool, got it, and you 437 00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:44,480 Speaker 1: go home, you live your life, go back to your 438 00:25:44,480 --> 00:25:47,080 Speaker 1: boring job that you don't like. But now you have 439 00:25:47,200 --> 00:25:49,640 Speaker 1: some information to build on. So this is the foundation 440 00:25:49,720 --> 00:25:52,960 Speaker 1: you're building. The next step would be whatever kind of 441 00:25:53,080 --> 00:25:56,200 Speaker 1: educational requirement that job had. You go to their website, 442 00:25:57,280 --> 00:26:00,800 Speaker 1: a couple of them, and you find a school, an 443 00:26:00,840 --> 00:26:04,000 Speaker 1: online school of some sort, and maybe it's a maybe 444 00:26:04,040 --> 00:26:07,160 Speaker 1: it's a part time night school type thing in your town. 445 00:26:08,560 --> 00:26:10,040 Speaker 1: And then you go to that website and you go, 446 00:26:10,600 --> 00:26:14,879 Speaker 1: what's the price of tuition, what's the time requirement that 447 00:26:15,280 --> 00:26:17,680 Speaker 1: it would take, and what are the requirements to get 448 00:26:17,680 --> 00:26:20,280 Speaker 1: into the school? Maybe they say you need a high 449 00:26:20,280 --> 00:26:23,440 Speaker 1: school ged and you need to fill out this application. 450 00:26:23,960 --> 00:26:27,959 Speaker 1: So you go and you spend ten minutes and you 451 00:26:28,000 --> 00:26:30,160 Speaker 1: get on your phone or your computer and you fill 452 00:26:30,160 --> 00:26:32,840 Speaker 1: out the application and you submit it. Then you go 453 00:26:33,040 --> 00:26:36,240 Speaker 1: back to your boring job and you continue living your life. 454 00:26:36,240 --> 00:26:39,639 Speaker 1: So you're taking one bite of the elephant at a time. 455 00:26:40,400 --> 00:26:44,320 Speaker 1: So then you're slowly filling in the blanks of this puzzle. Right, 456 00:26:44,440 --> 00:26:47,760 Speaker 1: the pieces are starting to come together slowly. It's like 457 00:26:47,800 --> 00:26:50,760 Speaker 1: have you ever put together a big jigsaw puzzle and 458 00:26:52,119 --> 00:26:55,440 Speaker 1: it fills up a whole table. Well, you don't expect 459 00:26:55,480 --> 00:26:58,640 Speaker 1: to just finish the jigsaw puzzle in one sitting, do you. 460 00:26:58,680 --> 00:27:02,040 Speaker 1: Now that's kind of the fun thing about puzzles is 461 00:27:02,119 --> 00:27:04,040 Speaker 1: you just take it one piece at a time and 462 00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:06,080 Speaker 1: then you sit down and someday you sit down, you 463 00:27:06,119 --> 00:27:08,840 Speaker 1: don't find any pieces at all. Like you start with 464 00:27:08,880 --> 00:27:11,520 Speaker 1: the edges, you know, like you find the corners and 465 00:27:11,560 --> 00:27:14,119 Speaker 1: the edges, and that's the easiest part because they're flat 466 00:27:14,160 --> 00:27:16,960 Speaker 1: on one side, but those middle parts are pretty hard. 467 00:27:17,640 --> 00:27:20,159 Speaker 1: So you just wait. You don't expect to do it today, 468 00:27:20,600 --> 00:27:23,159 Speaker 1: but now that you have, you find out what you 469 00:27:23,320 --> 00:27:26,200 Speaker 1: need for the job, and then you find out what 470 00:27:26,240 --> 00:27:29,560 Speaker 1: you need for the admissions to the education, and then 471 00:27:29,680 --> 00:27:31,480 Speaker 1: you just keep following the pass. And then the next 472 00:27:31,480 --> 00:27:35,200 Speaker 1: step is you wait for that admissions to come back 473 00:27:35,240 --> 00:27:39,000 Speaker 1: and then they email you and they say, hey, Renee, congratulations, 474 00:27:39,000 --> 00:27:43,760 Speaker 1: you've been accepted to this criminal justice night school. And 475 00:27:43,800 --> 00:27:46,040 Speaker 1: then you go, okay, cool, I'm going to sign up 476 00:27:46,040 --> 00:27:49,919 Speaker 1: for classes in the fall. And then you get an 477 00:27:49,960 --> 00:27:52,879 Speaker 1: email and it's cool, here's your classes, and you start. 478 00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:55,760 Speaker 1: So you're not trying to finish the puzzle on day one, 479 00:27:55,880 --> 00:27:58,600 Speaker 1: you're just like, yow, I'm just following this slowly, following 480 00:27:58,640 --> 00:28:03,000 Speaker 1: this path. Anytime you can go. You know what, I've 481 00:28:03,040 --> 00:28:07,159 Speaker 1: realized through this path that I'm not unhappy in my 482 00:28:07,200 --> 00:28:09,879 Speaker 1: current job. That's something else making me unhappy. It's not 483 00:28:09,960 --> 00:28:14,119 Speaker 1: my job, it's another issue. But now you know, and 484 00:28:14,160 --> 00:28:17,560 Speaker 1: you've accomplished that little piece of information you figured out 485 00:28:18,000 --> 00:28:20,399 Speaker 1: because of these bites of the elephant that you're taking, 486 00:28:21,320 --> 00:28:24,760 Speaker 1: and then over time you don't have to put a 487 00:28:24,800 --> 00:28:27,480 Speaker 1: certain limit on it. But after time you look back 488 00:28:27,520 --> 00:28:30,639 Speaker 1: and you go, man, it's been two years. I just 489 00:28:30,800 --> 00:28:35,199 Speaker 1: finished this criminal justice degree. This is great, Like I 490 00:28:35,280 --> 00:28:38,640 Speaker 1: did it and nothing. Really it didn't take that much 491 00:28:38,680 --> 00:28:41,560 Speaker 1: of a time commitment, or maybe it did, but you're 492 00:28:41,920 --> 00:28:44,760 Speaker 1: you're happy for it. So then you go back to 493 00:28:44,840 --> 00:28:47,240 Speaker 1: step one and you go back to that criminal justice 494 00:28:47,280 --> 00:28:52,480 Speaker 1: department whatever it is, police department, whatever, and you show 495 00:28:52,560 --> 00:28:55,160 Speaker 1: up and go, hey, my name's Renee and I'm here 496 00:28:55,160 --> 00:28:57,640 Speaker 1: to apply for a job. And they say, well, you 497 00:28:57,640 --> 00:28:59,920 Speaker 1: need a you need college credit for that, and you go. 498 00:29:00,360 --> 00:29:02,320 Speaker 1: You slide the little piece of paper on the desk, 499 00:29:02,400 --> 00:29:04,120 Speaker 1: you go here, you go here it is, this is 500 00:29:04,160 --> 00:29:07,720 Speaker 1: my resume, here's my degree. Papers that I've been working 501 00:29:07,760 --> 00:29:10,960 Speaker 1: on the last two years, and you see where you 502 00:29:11,000 --> 00:29:15,040 Speaker 1: go from there. But one bye at a time, one 503 00:29:15,160 --> 00:29:21,800 Speaker 1: puzzle piece at a time, starting with the edges. Next 504 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:28,040 Speaker 1: question was fine one here, let's randomly scroll something, Glene says. 505 00:29:28,040 --> 00:29:30,920 Speaker 1: Granger says, Hey, Granger needs some advice. I'm thirty one 506 00:29:30,960 --> 00:29:33,600 Speaker 1: years old and my father has been in and out 507 00:29:33,600 --> 00:29:36,040 Speaker 1: of my life. He left me at three when his 508 00:29:36,080 --> 00:29:40,480 Speaker 1: step Fadder, his stepfather sexually abused me and called me 509 00:29:40,520 --> 00:29:44,120 Speaker 1: a liar. I'm having a hard time forgiving him though 510 00:29:44,120 --> 00:29:46,360 Speaker 1: he won't give me that kind of closure that I need. 511 00:29:46,720 --> 00:29:49,680 Speaker 1: I wanted to sit down and talk a few months back, 512 00:29:49,920 --> 00:29:53,240 Speaker 1: but he blocked me. How do I forgive someone who 513 00:29:53,240 --> 00:29:57,760 Speaker 1: has caused so much damage and to get the closure 514 00:29:58,000 --> 00:30:01,080 Speaker 1: that I need to move on? How do I forgive 515 00:30:01,200 --> 00:30:05,440 Speaker 1: someone and get closure to someone who has caused me 516 00:30:05,560 --> 00:30:12,600 Speaker 1: so much damage? Okay? Question comes from Amy A. I 517 00:30:12,720 --> 00:30:17,800 Speaker 1: am ee like the song Amy, what you Gonna Do? Okay? 518 00:30:17,880 --> 00:30:22,040 Speaker 1: So I'm sorry for your situation and I appreciate the 519 00:30:22,080 --> 00:30:26,080 Speaker 1: email and your vulnerability and trusting. This podcast was something 520 00:30:26,840 --> 00:30:30,840 Speaker 1: so sensitive to you, and we get a lot of 521 00:30:30,880 --> 00:30:34,000 Speaker 1: questions about forgiveness and the first thing I would say, 522 00:30:34,480 --> 00:30:37,080 Speaker 1: just from one hundred and fifty five episodes of this podcast. 523 00:30:37,160 --> 00:30:40,840 Speaker 1: First thing I would say is you are not alone. 524 00:30:41,480 --> 00:30:43,080 Speaker 1: You're not the only one that this has happened to. 525 00:30:43,880 --> 00:30:46,440 Speaker 1: You're not the only one looking for closure and trying 526 00:30:46,440 --> 00:30:49,760 Speaker 1: to figure out a way to forgive and forgiveness is 527 00:30:49,800 --> 00:30:54,400 Speaker 1: a tough thing. And the way I usually lead with 528 00:30:54,440 --> 00:30:58,120 Speaker 1: this is we have to preach it to ourselves. We 529 00:30:58,200 --> 00:31:00,920 Speaker 1: have to say it out loud and let our heart 530 00:31:01,160 --> 00:31:06,800 Speaker 1: catch up later. So it's like, Dad, I forgive you. 531 00:31:06,840 --> 00:31:10,520 Speaker 1: I think if you said this every morning, Dad, I 532 00:31:10,560 --> 00:31:17,000 Speaker 1: forgive you. I truly forgive you. And then your heart 533 00:31:17,040 --> 00:31:19,240 Speaker 1: screams out, no, I don't, no, I don't know, I don't, 534 00:31:19,680 --> 00:31:25,840 Speaker 1: and you go, Dad, I forgive you because because I'm 535 00:31:25,880 --> 00:31:31,200 Speaker 1: not perfect and God forgave me out of my imperfections, 536 00:31:31,280 --> 00:31:36,800 Speaker 1: despite all my problems, God forgave me. And we don't 537 00:31:36,880 --> 00:31:38,920 Speaker 1: rank problems. We don't say but Dad, you have more 538 00:31:38,960 --> 00:31:42,800 Speaker 1: problems than me. We don't rank it. We just say, so, Dad, 539 00:31:43,520 --> 00:31:49,200 Speaker 1: I forgive you. We can do that and that's what 540 00:31:49,280 --> 00:31:53,000 Speaker 1: we can control our own mind. We go, Dad, I 541 00:31:53,320 --> 00:31:58,200 Speaker 1: forgive you. I have closure in this because I forgive you. 542 00:31:59,360 --> 00:32:02,560 Speaker 1: We don't get closure because of how the person reacts 543 00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:06,120 Speaker 1: to that. So maybe you still have this number. Maybe 544 00:32:06,120 --> 00:32:08,920 Speaker 1: he blocked you on something, maybe social media, but you 545 00:32:08,960 --> 00:32:10,360 Speaker 1: have another way to get a hold of him, and 546 00:32:10,400 --> 00:32:11,760 Speaker 1: you could just tell him that. Dad. I just want 547 00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:16,720 Speaker 1: to let you know, I genuinely forgive you, no strings attached. 548 00:32:17,400 --> 00:32:19,680 Speaker 1: You don't need to do anything. You don't need to change, 549 00:32:20,200 --> 00:32:23,000 Speaker 1: You don't need to tell me you're sorry. You don't 550 00:32:23,040 --> 00:32:26,560 Speaker 1: need to rebuke your step dad for sexually abusing me. 551 00:32:26,640 --> 00:32:28,400 Speaker 1: You don't need to do it. I'm just telling you, 552 00:32:28,440 --> 00:32:34,200 Speaker 1: no strings attached. I forgive you. That's what you can control, 553 00:32:34,840 --> 00:32:39,960 Speaker 1: and then you dismiss the uncontrollables. The uncontrollables are how 554 00:32:40,000 --> 00:32:43,840 Speaker 1: he reacts to you, because you cannot control how he 555 00:32:43,920 --> 00:32:49,720 Speaker 1: reacts to you. All of that being said, here's a kicker, Okay, 556 00:32:50,960 --> 00:32:59,120 Speaker 1: Forgiveness is not trust. Say that again. Forgiveness does not 557 00:32:59,480 --> 00:33:05,960 Speaker 1: equal trust. You can forgive somebody and still not trust them, 558 00:33:06,960 --> 00:33:10,600 Speaker 1: So don't take that the wrong way. It's a misconception 559 00:33:10,720 --> 00:33:13,440 Speaker 1: to think that you can forgive someone and that means 560 00:33:13,480 --> 00:33:16,000 Speaker 1: you let them back into your life and you trust them. 561 00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:20,560 Speaker 1: That doesn't mean that you can forgive someone and still 562 00:33:20,640 --> 00:33:24,080 Speaker 1: maintain space and go I forgive you, and then you're thinking, 563 00:33:24,480 --> 00:33:28,160 Speaker 1: but I don't trust you and I need my space, 564 00:33:28,200 --> 00:33:30,440 Speaker 1: and you're not going to come marching back into my life. 565 00:33:30,840 --> 00:33:32,480 Speaker 1: That doesn't mean you have a head of the table 566 00:33:32,560 --> 00:33:35,800 Speaker 1: seat at Thanksgiving this year. Dad. You don't have to 567 00:33:35,840 --> 00:33:37,640 Speaker 1: tell them this, but this is what you This is 568 00:33:37,680 --> 00:33:41,520 Speaker 1: the rock that you stand on. You're not coming to 569 00:33:41,640 --> 00:33:44,280 Speaker 1: my house for Thanksgiving. You're not going to be around 570 00:33:44,320 --> 00:33:47,640 Speaker 1: my kids until you earn it. Because trust is earned. 571 00:33:48,120 --> 00:33:53,240 Speaker 1: Forgiveness is free. It's a gift of grace. A free 572 00:33:53,560 --> 00:33:59,160 Speaker 1: gift of grace is forgiveness, but trust is earned, Dad, 573 00:33:59,160 --> 00:34:03,000 Speaker 1: you got to earn the trust. I love you, I 574 00:34:03,080 --> 00:34:06,120 Speaker 1: forgive you. But no, you're not coming over for Thanksgiving, 575 00:34:06,400 --> 00:34:10,040 Speaker 1: not until you earn this trust. That earn trust comes 576 00:34:10,080 --> 00:34:13,719 Speaker 1: with how he reacts to your forgiveness. You give him 577 00:34:13,719 --> 00:34:17,600 Speaker 1: a no strings attached, free gift of grace forgiveness, and 578 00:34:17,680 --> 00:34:22,799 Speaker 1: he doesn't accept it, and he fights against it. He's 579 00:34:22,840 --> 00:34:26,440 Speaker 1: not earning your trust, and so that just prolongs the 580 00:34:26,480 --> 00:34:29,440 Speaker 1: time that he actually gets to come back into your life. Okay, 581 00:34:29,520 --> 00:34:33,760 Speaker 1: so separate those two things. Forgive, That's where the closure 582 00:34:33,800 --> 00:34:38,239 Speaker 1: comes from. Don't trust has nothing. Trust has nothing to 583 00:34:38,280 --> 00:34:41,400 Speaker 1: do with closure. You don't walk away and go. I 584 00:34:41,440 --> 00:34:45,440 Speaker 1: got closure now because I trust him. Now, there's two 585 00:34:45,480 --> 00:34:55,719 Speaker 1: different things. Okay, Amy, thank you for the email. All right. 586 00:34:55,800 --> 00:35:00,600 Speaker 1: Next question subject client says I messed up Granger. I'm 587 00:35:00,640 --> 00:35:04,759 Speaker 1: fourteen years old. I'm a freshman and my first ever 588 00:35:04,880 --> 00:35:07,360 Speaker 1: high school football game. I was given a cup with 589 00:35:07,480 --> 00:35:10,919 Speaker 1: the contents unknown and was told it was kool aid 590 00:35:10,920 --> 00:35:13,480 Speaker 1: at the time, and for some reason, I drank it 591 00:35:14,680 --> 00:35:16,920 Speaker 1: at the time. After having the drink, I lost my 592 00:35:17,000 --> 00:35:21,120 Speaker 1: balance and everything became blurry. During the time that things 593 00:35:21,120 --> 00:35:24,120 Speaker 1: were blurry, I couldn't understand what was going on, and 594 00:35:24,160 --> 00:35:27,480 Speaker 1: I made some bad decisions. But I got help from 595 00:35:27,560 --> 00:35:31,160 Speaker 1: my friends and they got me home safely. The problem 596 00:35:31,239 --> 00:35:34,520 Speaker 1: is I don't know what they're going to say or 597 00:35:34,520 --> 00:35:37,640 Speaker 1: I think about me now, and I don't know how 598 00:35:37,680 --> 00:35:41,680 Speaker 1: much of the school knows. My friends know that I 599 00:35:41,760 --> 00:35:44,920 Speaker 1: was told that the cup was kool aid. I have 600 00:35:45,239 --> 00:35:48,880 Speaker 1: learned now that the contents of the cup were alcohol. 601 00:35:49,719 --> 00:35:51,920 Speaker 1: The past couple of days, I've been praying and I 602 00:35:52,000 --> 00:35:54,480 Speaker 1: don't know how to fix the things I did at 603 00:35:54,520 --> 00:36:01,640 Speaker 1: the game. Question comes from Joseph. Joseph fourteen years old 604 00:36:01,760 --> 00:36:08,440 Speaker 1: freshman who thanks for the email, buddy. I'm trying. I'm 605 00:36:08,480 --> 00:36:10,640 Speaker 1: pausing because I'm trying to figure out how not to 606 00:36:10,760 --> 00:36:13,520 Speaker 1: yell at you, how to be How am I going 607 00:36:13,600 --> 00:36:16,520 Speaker 1: to be sweet to you, Joseph? Because what I really 608 00:36:16,560 --> 00:36:23,400 Speaker 1: want to say is, Joseph, stop being so stupid. Stop 609 00:36:23,480 --> 00:36:30,680 Speaker 1: being so stupid? I said, can I please? Can I 610 00:36:30,719 --> 00:36:36,200 Speaker 1: say that in a loving way? Listen? The opposite of 611 00:36:36,280 --> 00:36:42,360 Speaker 1: love is in difference, meaning the opposite of love is 612 00:36:42,400 --> 00:36:47,440 Speaker 1: in difference. And I say that because if I didn't 613 00:36:47,480 --> 00:36:50,560 Speaker 1: say anything to you out of love, and the opposite 614 00:36:50,600 --> 00:36:52,560 Speaker 1: of love is indifference, that means, Dude, I don't care. 615 00:36:52,640 --> 00:36:54,560 Speaker 1: I don't care about your email. I don't care about 616 00:36:54,560 --> 00:36:57,640 Speaker 1: your story. I don't care. Just Joseph, I don't care 617 00:36:58,000 --> 00:37:00,160 Speaker 1: at all. I could, I could go either way. I 618 00:37:00,239 --> 00:37:03,880 Speaker 1: just it really doesn't matter at all to me. That's indifference. 619 00:37:03,920 --> 00:37:07,439 Speaker 1: And that's the opposite of love. If I truly loved you, 620 00:37:08,000 --> 00:37:11,279 Speaker 1: which I love my podcast listeners, if I truly loved you, 621 00:37:11,440 --> 00:37:13,759 Speaker 1: then I would take time from your email and I 622 00:37:13,800 --> 00:37:16,560 Speaker 1: would dig in and I would say, Joseph, stop being stupid. 623 00:37:18,640 --> 00:37:21,160 Speaker 1: Do you not know? Do you not know? To not 624 00:37:21,480 --> 00:37:25,799 Speaker 1: drink a cup? That someone passes you just a random 625 00:37:25,960 --> 00:37:28,759 Speaker 1: open container and they're like, here, Joseph, drink this. It's 626 00:37:28,840 --> 00:37:31,400 Speaker 1: kool aid. And you're like, okay, I will drink the 627 00:37:31,440 --> 00:37:36,000 Speaker 1: kol Aid. Are you serious? Bro? Yeah, I know you're fourteen, 628 00:37:36,080 --> 00:37:39,239 Speaker 1: but dude, you know this stuff. Man, Okay. And the 629 00:37:39,320 --> 00:37:43,000 Speaker 1: second thing is, what are you talking about? You didn't 630 00:37:43,200 --> 00:37:46,080 Speaker 1: you thought it was kool aid. It just tasted really weird. 631 00:37:47,360 --> 00:37:51,520 Speaker 1: You're serious right now? You thought it tasted weird. It's like, well, 632 00:37:51,520 --> 00:37:53,480 Speaker 1: this is an interesting taste in kool aid. Never had 633 00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:55,839 Speaker 1: kool aid like this, and it's making me buzz right now. 634 00:37:55,840 --> 00:37:59,719 Speaker 1: It's making me dizzy. And it never connected with you that, yes, 635 00:38:00,040 --> 00:38:03,240 Speaker 1: people drink at high school football games, and everyone else 636 00:38:03,360 --> 00:38:06,200 Speaker 1: was drinking this kool aid and they're getting drunk and 637 00:38:06,280 --> 00:38:10,839 Speaker 1: I cannot but listen. This is what I'm trying to say. Bro, 638 00:38:11,200 --> 00:38:13,640 Speaker 1: you're either being really dumb right now or you're just 639 00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:18,799 Speaker 1: in total denial because this whole email, nothing you said 640 00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:22,120 Speaker 1: is gonna fix your problem. Okay, you actually think you 641 00:38:22,120 --> 00:38:25,360 Speaker 1: have a problem right now because you don't know what 642 00:38:25,400 --> 00:38:26,960 Speaker 1: your friends are gonna think, and you don't know how 643 00:38:27,040 --> 00:38:30,279 Speaker 1: much of the school knows the real problem is you're 644 00:38:30,320 --> 00:38:35,280 Speaker 1: not owning up to a mistake. I know that fourteen 645 00:38:35,360 --> 00:38:37,120 Speaker 1: is still a kid, but man, you probably look like 646 00:38:37,160 --> 00:38:40,480 Speaker 1: a man. By now. You're probably getting the size of 647 00:38:40,480 --> 00:38:42,080 Speaker 1: a man. So I'm gonna treat you like a man, 648 00:38:42,400 --> 00:38:46,120 Speaker 1: and I'm gonna say, dude, stop it, stop this, stop 649 00:38:46,160 --> 00:38:49,080 Speaker 1: this denial talk, and just own up to it. It 650 00:38:49,120 --> 00:38:51,239 Speaker 1: looks like this, It looks like that. This is what 651 00:38:51,320 --> 00:38:55,360 Speaker 1: your email should have said. Okay, it should have said, Granger. 652 00:38:55,640 --> 00:38:57,840 Speaker 1: I'm fourteen years old. I'm a freshman. I went to 653 00:38:57,880 --> 00:39:00,600 Speaker 1: my first ever high school football game, was given a 654 00:39:00,640 --> 00:39:04,359 Speaker 1: cup with the contents unknown and told it was kool aid. 655 00:39:05,080 --> 00:39:07,920 Speaker 1: I was so stupid, Granger, because I actually drank it. 656 00:39:07,960 --> 00:39:11,120 Speaker 1: Can you believe I actually drank some contents of a 657 00:39:11,120 --> 00:39:13,480 Speaker 1: cup that was open from some other people that were 658 00:39:13,480 --> 00:39:15,440 Speaker 1: getting drunk, and I drank it, and dude, I was 659 00:39:15,440 --> 00:39:18,120 Speaker 1: so stupid. And then I realized I got drunk, and 660 00:39:18,160 --> 00:39:21,520 Speaker 1: I realized I made mistakes, and then I screwed up 661 00:39:21,560 --> 00:39:23,319 Speaker 1: at the game, and then my friends took me home 662 00:39:23,920 --> 00:39:26,760 Speaker 1: and I just really screwed up. Man. I got drunk, 663 00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:31,440 Speaker 1: and my intention was sincere at the beginning, but now 664 00:39:31,480 --> 00:39:33,839 Speaker 1: I know I'm drunk. I got drunk and just really 665 00:39:33,880 --> 00:39:36,839 Speaker 1: screwed up. So that's what your EMO should have said. 666 00:39:37,080 --> 00:39:39,200 Speaker 1: And the way you fix that is you go to 667 00:39:39,239 --> 00:39:43,200 Speaker 1: your friends and you go, guys, thank you, thank you 668 00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,960 Speaker 1: so much for taking care of me. I am a 669 00:39:47,040 --> 00:39:52,360 Speaker 1: complete idiot. I mean, everybody on the planet knows. Don't 670 00:39:52,360 --> 00:39:54,600 Speaker 1: just drink a random cup from a random person who 671 00:39:54,600 --> 00:39:57,240 Speaker 1: says it's kool aid like that's like a bad meme. 672 00:39:58,320 --> 00:40:02,680 Speaker 1: And I messed up. And guys, you guys are real 673 00:40:02,719 --> 00:40:05,600 Speaker 1: friends because you took care of me, and I said 674 00:40:05,600 --> 00:40:09,279 Speaker 1: some stupid things. I did some stupid things, and I 675 00:40:09,400 --> 00:40:12,680 Speaker 1: just man, guys, look after me. You guys are amazing. 676 00:40:12,920 --> 00:40:15,799 Speaker 1: I'm not going to do that again. Okay, I give guys, 677 00:40:15,800 --> 00:40:17,680 Speaker 1: I give you my word. I'm not going to do 678 00:40:17,719 --> 00:40:20,040 Speaker 1: that again. And then if the school found out, and 679 00:40:20,080 --> 00:40:23,359 Speaker 1: that's a problem with the principal, whatever, own it. Own 680 00:40:23,440 --> 00:40:28,680 Speaker 1: it up to the principle, just say hey, yes sir, yes, ma'am. 681 00:40:28,840 --> 00:40:32,480 Speaker 1: I messed up, and I will take whatever punishment is 682 00:40:32,520 --> 00:40:38,440 Speaker 1: coming my way. I will own whatever school punishment comes 683 00:40:38,480 --> 00:40:43,040 Speaker 1: my way because I'm an idiot and I was blindsided 684 00:40:43,320 --> 00:40:46,440 Speaker 1: and then I fell into the trap and I didn't 685 00:40:46,440 --> 00:40:49,720 Speaker 1: stop drinking when I felt something strange happening, I kept 686 00:40:49,920 --> 00:40:55,160 Speaker 1: sipping the stupid kool aid. And I'm so sorry. This 687 00:40:55,280 --> 00:40:58,360 Speaker 1: called Joseph, That's called remorse. Okay, you gotta have a 688 00:40:58,400 --> 00:41:02,440 Speaker 1: remorseful heart when you mess up up. But this garbage 689 00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:06,960 Speaker 1: dude about you and denial of this strange email you 690 00:41:07,040 --> 00:41:11,000 Speaker 1: wrote about all these strange details of how you're totally innocent. 691 00:41:11,120 --> 00:41:14,359 Speaker 1: Oh my god, I'm so I'm so innocent. I had 692 00:41:14,400 --> 00:41:17,360 Speaker 1: no idea. This was everyone else's fault. This is definitely 693 00:41:17,600 --> 00:41:20,560 Speaker 1: do you understand, granger, the trap I fell into because 694 00:41:20,840 --> 00:41:24,040 Speaker 1: everyone else set me up in this perfect trap, and 695 00:41:24,080 --> 00:41:28,160 Speaker 1: I'm just mister innocent dude. Just own it. Tell your 696 00:41:28,160 --> 00:41:34,560 Speaker 1: friends guys, I screwed up. Principal, punish me. I'll take 697 00:41:34,600 --> 00:41:37,440 Speaker 1: the punishment, and I will not mess up again. I 698 00:41:37,480 --> 00:41:41,560 Speaker 1: won't make the same mistake twice. Right, everybody has allowed 699 00:41:41,560 --> 00:41:46,280 Speaker 1: that kind of mistake at fourteen. Just don't do it again. 700 00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:51,359 Speaker 1: I say this out of love, Joseph. If I didn't care, 701 00:41:52,000 --> 00:41:55,040 Speaker 1: I wouldn't bring it up. I would just delete the email. 702 00:41:55,040 --> 00:41:58,160 Speaker 1: I'd be like, this guy's lost it. I don't care, 703 00:41:58,760 --> 00:42:01,479 Speaker 1: But I do care. I do care about you, man. 704 00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:03,920 Speaker 1: I care about you. You listen to this podcast, you 705 00:42:04,000 --> 00:42:08,040 Speaker 1: have the guts first of all, to email me. That's cool, like, 706 00:42:08,120 --> 00:42:10,080 Speaker 1: where's that where the side of you that said, I'm 707 00:42:10,120 --> 00:42:13,200 Speaker 1: gonna email Granger Smith and tell them the story. That 708 00:42:13,360 --> 00:42:16,320 Speaker 1: part of you, whatever that was inside your gut, that 709 00:42:16,680 --> 00:42:19,200 Speaker 1: pulled out and said I've got I'm gonna be brave. 710 00:42:19,360 --> 00:42:22,520 Speaker 1: I got some courage to email and dump my story 711 00:42:22,560 --> 00:42:25,759 Speaker 1: on Granger Smith on his podcast. I want that side 712 00:42:25,760 --> 00:42:29,120 Speaker 1: to come out, Bro, you, I'm speaking to you, the 713 00:42:29,200 --> 00:42:32,759 Speaker 1: part of Joseph that has courage. I want that side 714 00:42:32,800 --> 00:42:38,440 Speaker 1: of you to own it. Own your mistake, accept the punishment, 715 00:42:38,920 --> 00:42:41,760 Speaker 1: thank your friends for being there for you, and don't 716 00:42:41,800 --> 00:42:47,160 Speaker 1: do it again. Happy Monday, Love you guys, See you 717 00:42:47,160 --> 00:42:49,440 Speaker 1: next Monday. Ye Ye, thanks for joining me on the 718 00:42:49,480 --> 00:42:52,680 Speaker 1: Granger Smith Podcast. I appreciate all of you guys. You 719 00:42:52,719 --> 00:42:55,560 Speaker 1: could help me out by rating this podcast on iTunes. 720 00:42:55,840 --> 00:42:58,920 Speaker 1: If you're on YouTube, subscribe to this channel. 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