1 00:00:00,560 --> 00:00:04,840 Speaker 1: Welcome to Fitness Disrupted, a production of I Heart Radio. 2 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:15,520 Speaker 1: I am Tom Holland and this is Fitness Disrupted. I 3 00:00:15,560 --> 00:00:19,760 Speaker 1: have been training for a little over three months now 4 00:00:20,400 --> 00:00:23,560 Speaker 1: for my next race, my next race, iron Man Brazil. 5 00:00:24,239 --> 00:00:27,240 Speaker 1: I have done an Iron Man in Brazil before. This 6 00:00:27,320 --> 00:00:32,200 Speaker 1: is a different one, different location, all excited and training 7 00:00:32,240 --> 00:00:36,159 Speaker 1: harder than I have in many many years. Have the time, 8 00:00:36,640 --> 00:00:41,320 Speaker 1: kids are older, and although I've done many in the 9 00:00:41,360 --> 00:00:45,400 Speaker 1: past decade, those were to finished, to be in shape, 10 00:00:45,440 --> 00:00:48,360 Speaker 1: to have a goal, not to necessarily go fast. This one, 11 00:00:49,120 --> 00:00:51,680 Speaker 1: for the first time in a long time, I was 12 00:00:51,720 --> 00:00:56,360 Speaker 1: putting in the time and the effort to really go fast, 13 00:00:56,520 --> 00:01:00,520 Speaker 1: even at my advanced age of fifty one. And actually 14 00:01:00,520 --> 00:01:03,520 Speaker 1: it would be fifty two on race day. And yes, 15 00:01:03,600 --> 00:01:09,120 Speaker 1: as you may be guessing by my leading kind of intro, 16 00:01:09,760 --> 00:01:13,040 Speaker 1: it was canceled. It was canceled. I received an email 17 00:01:13,080 --> 00:01:16,160 Speaker 1: a couple of days ago, and of course not surprising 18 00:01:16,200 --> 00:01:19,360 Speaker 1: as I record this, Yes, still at the well I 19 00:01:19,400 --> 00:01:21,200 Speaker 1: was gonna say, the tail end of the pandemic, but 20 00:01:21,200 --> 00:01:25,120 Speaker 1: who knows, let's hope almost a year in and so 21 00:01:25,280 --> 00:01:29,800 Speaker 1: of course when I signed up that was an obvious 22 00:01:31,080 --> 00:01:36,360 Speaker 1: worry concern and I was willing to risk it. But 23 00:01:36,440 --> 00:01:39,000 Speaker 1: that doesn't mean I'm not angry, and that doesn't mean 24 00:01:39,160 --> 00:01:43,720 Speaker 1: that I'm not going through a bunch of feelings. And 25 00:01:44,040 --> 00:01:49,760 Speaker 1: that's what this show is about, dealing with obstacles. Dealing 26 00:01:49,880 --> 00:01:52,120 Speaker 1: with obstacles. I'm going to use that to get the 27 00:01:52,120 --> 00:01:55,400 Speaker 1: conversation started and then I'm gonna get into it because 28 00:01:55,800 --> 00:01:59,840 Speaker 1: that is a huge part of what I talked about 29 00:02:00,000 --> 00:02:02,440 Speaker 1: here on Fitness Disrupted and when I have done for decades, 30 00:02:03,000 --> 00:02:05,560 Speaker 1: back when I was working, you know, with clients one 31 00:02:05,560 --> 00:02:08,480 Speaker 1: on one as a trainer back in the day group 32 00:02:08,520 --> 00:02:14,600 Speaker 1: fitness obstacles, obstacles. So that's what we're going to talk 33 00:02:14,600 --> 00:02:19,480 Speaker 1: about because that is a huge part of what prevents 34 00:02:19,560 --> 00:02:23,960 Speaker 1: people from achieving their goals. But do they have to 35 00:02:24,440 --> 00:02:28,000 Speaker 1: and how do we deal with them? You Know, I 36 00:02:28,040 --> 00:02:32,359 Speaker 1: often talk about how I study several things and continue 37 00:02:32,400 --> 00:02:35,200 Speaker 1: to this day. When it comes to what I do, 38 00:02:35,400 --> 00:02:40,400 Speaker 1: it's the exercise science, of course, it's the nutrition, and 39 00:02:40,480 --> 00:02:44,880 Speaker 1: it's the motivation, the behavioral side, and that is what 40 00:02:44,960 --> 00:02:49,560 Speaker 1: today shows is about. It's about the motivation, the behavioral side, 41 00:02:49,639 --> 00:02:55,919 Speaker 1: how we deal with setbacks, obstacles. And I'm gonna talk 42 00:02:55,960 --> 00:03:01,440 Speaker 1: about the great line by Mike Tyson. We end the 43 00:03:01,480 --> 00:03:06,000 Speaker 1: intro with that. If you haven't heard it yet, so good. 44 00:03:06,400 --> 00:03:08,680 Speaker 1: And supposedly I looked it up because I've heard this 45 00:03:08,760 --> 00:03:10,359 Speaker 1: line for a long time and I kind of wondered, 46 00:03:10,720 --> 00:03:14,000 Speaker 1: you know, which event what he was talking about specifically, 47 00:03:14,720 --> 00:03:18,280 Speaker 1: and according to the quick research I did, Mike Tyson 48 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:21,560 Speaker 1: was supposedly asked by a reporter whether he was worried 49 00:03:21,600 --> 00:03:26,080 Speaker 1: about a fight with Evander holy Field and Evander holy 50 00:03:26,200 --> 00:03:30,799 Speaker 1: Field's fight plan, to which Mike Tyson answered, everyone has 51 00:03:30,840 --> 00:03:35,520 Speaker 1: a plan until they get punched in the mouth. Obstacles, 52 00:03:36,640 --> 00:03:41,240 Speaker 1: all right, we all experienced them, we will all continue 53 00:03:41,280 --> 00:03:45,560 Speaker 1: to experience them. So what do we do about them? 54 00:03:45,560 --> 00:03:48,160 Speaker 1: When we come back from the break? Four points that 55 00:03:48,280 --> 00:03:57,720 Speaker 1: I use four techniques to get over around through obstacles, 56 00:03:58,320 --> 00:04:11,080 Speaker 1: We'll be right back. Yeah, So we have to define 57 00:04:11,400 --> 00:04:16,880 Speaker 1: obstacle first and foremost, right, Miriam Webster defines an obstacle 58 00:04:17,000 --> 00:04:23,800 Speaker 1: as something that impedes progress or achievement, something that impedes 59 00:04:24,000 --> 00:04:27,920 Speaker 1: progress or achievement, something that gets in our way. Right now, 60 00:04:28,400 --> 00:04:34,880 Speaker 1: I just want to delineate the difference between obstacles and excuses. 61 00:04:36,920 --> 00:04:40,679 Speaker 1: And yes, that's tough love, but it's necessary. In this business. 62 00:04:40,680 --> 00:04:44,000 Speaker 1: As I talked about frequently here on the show, I 63 00:04:44,040 --> 00:04:46,080 Speaker 1: can tell you what you want to hear, and many 64 00:04:46,080 --> 00:04:49,000 Speaker 1: fitness people, nutritionists do. They tell you what you want 65 00:04:49,040 --> 00:04:51,960 Speaker 1: to hear because that makes them money, makes you feel good, 66 00:04:52,000 --> 00:04:54,520 Speaker 1: and doesn't get you the results. And when it comes 67 00:04:54,520 --> 00:05:00,720 Speaker 1: to health and wellness, it's literally a in your life. 68 00:05:00,760 --> 00:05:04,760 Speaker 1: Your health not okay. So there are obstacles in their excuses. 69 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:08,359 Speaker 1: What's an excuse? Well, the number one time that you 70 00:05:08,400 --> 00:05:13,560 Speaker 1: don't have time. Did a whole show on time And 71 00:05:13,680 --> 00:05:17,880 Speaker 1: if COVID has taught us anything, it's not about time. 72 00:05:19,279 --> 00:05:24,360 Speaker 1: Is people had time now that they're home to get 73 00:05:24,360 --> 00:05:26,280 Speaker 1: in the workouts. Yeah, you couldn't go to the gym. 74 00:05:26,480 --> 00:05:31,080 Speaker 1: That's another excuse. These are all excuses. At the end 75 00:05:31,120 --> 00:05:34,919 Speaker 1: of the day, their excuses, all the yeah butts are gone. 76 00:05:35,360 --> 00:05:37,440 Speaker 1: Yeah but I don't have time, Yeah you do. You 77 00:05:37,520 --> 00:05:40,039 Speaker 1: just gotta make it a priority because you don't have 78 00:05:40,080 --> 00:05:41,680 Speaker 1: to do an hour, you don't have to do a 79 00:05:41,760 --> 00:05:43,920 Speaker 1: half hour, you don't have to go to the gym, 80 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:47,719 Speaker 1: body weight exercises, walking, so many different ways, breaking it 81 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:50,320 Speaker 1: up throughout the day. My most recent book, The Micro 82 00:05:50,400 --> 00:05:54,120 Speaker 1: Workout Plan, gives you all the research into how and 83 00:05:54,480 --> 00:05:57,680 Speaker 1: why you can and should break it up throughout the day. 84 00:05:59,240 --> 00:06:03,080 Speaker 1: So excuses like genetics, well you know why, bother, it's 85 00:06:03,080 --> 00:06:05,560 Speaker 1: all about my genetics. I can't do anything about it. 86 00:06:05,640 --> 00:06:11,080 Speaker 1: Not true, science says, not true. You can make incredible changes. Yes, 87 00:06:11,120 --> 00:06:14,760 Speaker 1: we all have different genetics, but that does not mean 88 00:06:14,760 --> 00:06:20,840 Speaker 1: you can't make incredible achievements and achieve incredible things when 89 00:06:20,880 --> 00:06:23,600 Speaker 1: it comes to your health and your wellness. So I'm 90 00:06:23,640 --> 00:06:27,599 Speaker 1: defining for the purposes of this show, obstacles is something 91 00:06:27,600 --> 00:06:30,480 Speaker 1: that gets in your way, something that impedes progress or 92 00:06:30,520 --> 00:06:36,279 Speaker 1: achievement of your existing plan. Okay, you're already working towards 93 00:06:36,279 --> 00:06:41,720 Speaker 1: something and then you have an obstacle. Something happens. As 94 00:06:41,720 --> 00:06:44,080 Speaker 1: I said in the intro, I'm I was training for 95 00:06:44,120 --> 00:06:48,560 Speaker 1: Iron Man Brazil boom got canceled. Not a huge surprise, 96 00:06:49,600 --> 00:06:54,920 Speaker 1: but disappointing. So an obstacle for this show is about 97 00:06:55,000 --> 00:06:57,880 Speaker 1: something that gets in your way of a plan. And 98 00:06:57,920 --> 00:07:01,520 Speaker 1: that may be a race, that may be your weight 99 00:07:01,560 --> 00:07:04,520 Speaker 1: loss goals, that may be so many different things and 100 00:07:05,080 --> 00:07:09,240 Speaker 1: not even limited to fitness. But obviously that's what we're 101 00:07:09,240 --> 00:07:12,280 Speaker 1: talking about here. But it carries through to everything, carries 102 00:07:12,280 --> 00:07:17,720 Speaker 1: through to everything. And here's one thing I love about 103 00:07:18,200 --> 00:07:21,239 Speaker 1: endurance racing and that I have learned not just the physical, 104 00:07:21,320 --> 00:07:26,040 Speaker 1: the mental. So those of you listening who have done 105 00:07:26,080 --> 00:07:28,360 Speaker 1: iron Man races know what I'm talking about, and it's 106 00:07:28,400 --> 00:07:33,680 Speaker 1: a great lesson and talking point for everybody. When you 107 00:07:33,720 --> 00:07:37,440 Speaker 1: do an iron Man race, it's basically a year of 108 00:07:37,640 --> 00:07:41,800 Speaker 1: experiences condensed down into a single day. In my opinion 109 00:07:42,320 --> 00:07:44,880 Speaker 1: and experience. In other words, it's not a matter of if, 110 00:07:45,680 --> 00:07:49,560 Speaker 1: but when. Things will go wrong, when those obstacles are 111 00:07:50,160 --> 00:07:53,680 Speaker 1: thrown in your face. As Mike Tyson said, everyone has 112 00:07:53,680 --> 00:07:55,560 Speaker 1: a plan until they get punched in the face. I 113 00:07:55,640 --> 00:07:59,960 Speaker 1: actually use that. I used to coach a cancer chair 114 00:08:00,000 --> 00:08:03,720 Speaker 1: any the MMRF for a decade and I would give 115 00:08:04,040 --> 00:08:09,360 Speaker 1: a speech, a little you know, athlete kind of um, 116 00:08:09,400 --> 00:08:12,400 Speaker 1: you know, get them all excited for the race that day, 117 00:08:12,520 --> 00:08:16,760 Speaker 1: the night before, motivational speech. And one year I used that. 118 00:08:16,840 --> 00:08:18,400 Speaker 1: I used the line I said, how many of you 119 00:08:18,440 --> 00:08:21,240 Speaker 1: have a plan for tomorrow? Raise your hand. Everyone did, 120 00:08:21,520 --> 00:08:25,600 Speaker 1: and I said, yeah, here's Mike Tyson's line. I said 121 00:08:25,600 --> 00:08:29,600 Speaker 1: things are gonna go wrong. And that is actually the 122 00:08:29,640 --> 00:08:34,839 Speaker 1: beauty of it. As crazy as that sounds, everyone has 123 00:08:34,840 --> 00:08:38,040 Speaker 1: a plan. Everyone had worked hard for that iron Man race. 124 00:08:38,440 --> 00:08:41,920 Speaker 1: Many were first timers, which was another reason I was 125 00:08:41,960 --> 00:08:47,160 Speaker 1: giving that kind of tough love Mike Tyson speech because 126 00:08:47,200 --> 00:08:49,320 Speaker 1: things were going to go wrong, it was not a 127 00:08:49,360 --> 00:08:52,240 Speaker 1: matter of if. And some people were gonna get jabbed 128 00:08:52,240 --> 00:08:54,360 Speaker 1: in the face, some people are gonna get uppercuts, some 129 00:08:54,360 --> 00:08:59,440 Speaker 1: people are gonna get knockout punches, and all the cliches 130 00:08:59,480 --> 00:09:03,800 Speaker 1: are true. You get back up, you get back up, 131 00:09:05,520 --> 00:09:08,040 Speaker 1: and that is one of my favorite parts, and there's 132 00:09:08,080 --> 00:09:10,160 Speaker 1: so many of doing those type of races. Is the 133 00:09:10,320 --> 00:09:17,720 Speaker 1: day after the day after. Everyone has a story, everyone 134 00:09:17,720 --> 00:09:19,440 Speaker 1: has a war story. And I'm actually going to do 135 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:21,600 Speaker 1: something I've never done on the show. But I wrote 136 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:24,400 Speaker 1: little article that I'm going to finish this show with. 137 00:09:24,880 --> 00:09:26,440 Speaker 1: I wrote it a couple of years ago, but it 138 00:09:26,679 --> 00:09:28,880 Speaker 1: kind of brings it all together and talks about what 139 00:09:28,920 --> 00:09:33,240 Speaker 1: I'm talking about right now. But everyone has a story. 140 00:09:33,520 --> 00:09:38,720 Speaker 1: Everyone had things go wrong, and some people got knocked 141 00:09:38,720 --> 00:09:43,839 Speaker 1: out in racing. That's called the d NF. Did not finish. 142 00:09:44,160 --> 00:09:48,000 Speaker 1: And many of those people could have, some couldn't. Some 143 00:09:48,120 --> 00:09:53,160 Speaker 1: have issues that totally prevent the medical, mechanical, physical, but 144 00:09:53,320 --> 00:10:01,120 Speaker 1: oftentimes the DNF is avoidable. It's avoidable. And so the 145 00:10:01,240 --> 00:10:05,080 Speaker 1: article I'm going to talk about read to you short, 146 00:10:05,240 --> 00:10:11,520 Speaker 1: real short, little article is called scroll here. Embrace the 147 00:10:11,559 --> 00:10:16,400 Speaker 1: excuse or choose the challenge. Embrace the excuse or choose 148 00:10:16,400 --> 00:10:21,520 Speaker 1: the challenge. The choice is yours. But obstacles are inevitable. 149 00:10:23,840 --> 00:10:28,280 Speaker 1: And as I record this, as I said earlier, pandemic 150 00:10:28,400 --> 00:10:33,920 Speaker 1: is still going on. But that's a great talking point 151 00:10:35,240 --> 00:10:39,480 Speaker 1: in that we are all going through that pandemic, just 152 00:10:39,559 --> 00:10:43,800 Speaker 1: like everyone goes through the same conditions in an event 153 00:10:43,840 --> 00:10:46,439 Speaker 1: like an iron Man or a marathon, or any type 154 00:10:46,440 --> 00:10:50,960 Speaker 1: of event race for that matter. Everyone experiences what the 155 00:10:51,080 --> 00:10:57,600 Speaker 1: same weather conditions, the same course, hills, you know, does 156 00:10:57,640 --> 00:11:01,440 Speaker 1: it rain, is it hot? So sure you can complain 157 00:11:01,480 --> 00:11:06,520 Speaker 1: about that stuff, and it's challenging, but everyone on that 158 00:11:06,559 --> 00:11:10,200 Speaker 1: course is going through the same thing, experiencing the same thing. 159 00:11:10,760 --> 00:11:14,840 Speaker 1: Then the individual obstacles are thrown in your way. You 160 00:11:14,880 --> 00:11:17,640 Speaker 1: get a flat tire, you know, in the swim, you 161 00:11:17,679 --> 00:11:20,400 Speaker 1: get your goggles kicked off, you get punched in the face, 162 00:11:20,920 --> 00:11:27,000 Speaker 1: you crash your bike. Those are all individual and they're inevitable. 163 00:11:28,400 --> 00:11:32,960 Speaker 1: They're inevitable. And yes, even with the pandemic, people are 164 00:11:32,960 --> 00:11:37,080 Speaker 1: experiencing at different levels. Some people have lost their jobs. 165 00:11:37,080 --> 00:11:40,960 Speaker 1: So even though it's being experienced by everyone, of course, 166 00:11:41,000 --> 00:11:48,160 Speaker 1: there are different levels of challenges along the way. And 167 00:11:48,200 --> 00:11:55,520 Speaker 1: if I sound like a Pollyanna, am I am one 168 00:11:55,559 --> 00:11:59,520 Speaker 1: of the most optimistic, positive people you will ever meet. 169 00:12:00,760 --> 00:12:03,440 Speaker 1: And I did a little research on this too, because 170 00:12:03,520 --> 00:12:06,120 Speaker 1: I even though I've been using that term and have 171 00:12:06,200 --> 00:12:09,680 Speaker 1: been called that for forever, I didn't know where it 172 00:12:09,720 --> 00:12:12,800 Speaker 1: came from. And so, you know what, let me take 173 00:12:12,840 --> 00:12:15,600 Speaker 1: two seconds, because I met most of you, many of 174 00:12:15,640 --> 00:12:18,480 Speaker 1: you don't either, and I'm going to read you just 175 00:12:18,720 --> 00:12:24,120 Speaker 1: a couple of paragraphs where it comes from, because it's 176 00:12:24,320 --> 00:12:27,000 Speaker 1: totally connected into what I'm talking about here today and 177 00:12:27,040 --> 00:12:31,000 Speaker 1: your approach to your fitness into life. Okay, this is 178 00:12:31,080 --> 00:12:35,360 Speaker 1: directly from an article in Psychology today, and I quote 179 00:12:35,760 --> 00:12:39,960 Speaker 1: and will actually let me preface this by saying, pollyanna 180 00:12:40,320 --> 00:12:44,400 Speaker 1: pretty much an American term and has a negative connotation 181 00:12:44,480 --> 00:12:50,760 Speaker 1: to it, that it's uh unrealistic. One of the definitions, 182 00:12:50,880 --> 00:12:52,360 Speaker 1: or you know, as I was doing the research, I'm 183 00:12:52,360 --> 00:12:55,160 Speaker 1: just where it came from. The derivation said a Pollyanna 184 00:12:55,320 --> 00:13:00,440 Speaker 1: is a blindly or foolishly optimistic person, blindly or woolishly 185 00:13:00,920 --> 00:13:03,400 Speaker 1: And as I read that I that was like really 186 00:13:04,559 --> 00:13:09,400 Speaker 1: really so again, here's from Psychology today, and I quote 187 00:13:09,400 --> 00:13:14,200 Speaker 1: Pollyanna was not unrealistic or overly optimistic about anything. She 188 00:13:14,280 --> 00:13:16,440 Speaker 1: was a little girl with a very poor but very 189 00:13:16,440 --> 00:13:20,240 Speaker 1: wise father who recognized the duality of everything in life 190 00:13:20,600 --> 00:13:22,800 Speaker 1: and taught her to play a game based on this idea. 191 00:13:23,559 --> 00:13:27,480 Speaker 1: Pollyanna's game was known as the glad Game. One day, 192 00:13:27,559 --> 00:13:31,079 Speaker 1: Pollyanna's father, who was a church missionary supported by donations 193 00:13:31,120 --> 00:13:34,679 Speaker 1: from the Ladies Aid Society, received a long awaited donation 194 00:13:34,760 --> 00:13:38,080 Speaker 1: box for his family. Pollyanna, who had very few toys, 195 00:13:38,360 --> 00:13:40,400 Speaker 1: had been wishing with all her might for a doll, 196 00:13:40,880 --> 00:13:42,959 Speaker 1: but the only thing for her to play with was 197 00:13:43,000 --> 00:13:46,240 Speaker 1: a broken pair of crutches. When Pollyanna started to cry, 198 00:13:46,280 --> 00:13:49,680 Speaker 1: her father promised her that if she stopped crying, he 199 00:13:49,679 --> 00:13:52,080 Speaker 1: would teach her to play a game that would bring 200 00:13:52,120 --> 00:13:55,720 Speaker 1: her more happiness than any doll ever could. He taught 201 00:13:55,720 --> 00:13:58,600 Speaker 1: her that in every situation, no matter how bad it 202 00:13:58,679 --> 00:14:01,440 Speaker 1: might seem, you could always find something to be glad 203 00:14:01,480 --> 00:14:04,800 Speaker 1: about if you look hard enough. Pollyanna and her father 204 00:14:04,880 --> 00:14:07,520 Speaker 1: played that game every day, looking as hard as they 205 00:14:07,559 --> 00:14:10,679 Speaker 1: could to find the thing they could be glad about 206 00:14:10,720 --> 00:14:14,760 Speaker 1: in every situation. The more difficult the situation, the more 207 00:14:14,800 --> 00:14:18,520 Speaker 1: fun and challenging it was for them. After a while, 208 00:14:18,559 --> 00:14:21,760 Speaker 1: the game became automatic to Pollyanna. She often didn't even 209 00:14:21,840 --> 00:14:25,680 Speaker 1: realize she was playing it. She had just trained herself 210 00:14:25,720 --> 00:14:28,320 Speaker 1: to see the silver lining or what she could be 211 00:14:28,400 --> 00:14:32,880 Speaker 1: grateful for in every situation. Pollyanna began to teach the 212 00:14:32,920 --> 00:14:37,000 Speaker 1: game to everyone she met, and life altering transformation started 213 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:41,440 Speaker 1: to occur for all who played. While the story of 214 00:14:41,480 --> 00:14:46,720 Speaker 1: Pollyanna was originally published in by Eleanor Porter, it wasn't 215 00:14:46,800 --> 00:14:49,120 Speaker 1: until almost one hundred years later when the field of 216 00:14:49,160 --> 00:14:53,840 Speaker 1: positive psychology began to seriously study gratitude on the effects 217 00:14:53,880 --> 00:14:57,240 Speaker 1: of emotional well being. Since then, a large body of 218 00:14:57,280 --> 00:15:00,240 Speaker 1: research has come together showing that those who in age 219 00:15:00,280 --> 00:15:05,119 Speaker 1: in the regular exercise of gratitude experience a multitude of benefits, 220 00:15:05,560 --> 00:15:11,800 Speaker 1: including improved sleep, greater happiness and less depression, better social relationships, 221 00:15:12,280 --> 00:15:19,160 Speaker 1: and a greater overall life satisfaction. Amazing. I can't believe 222 00:15:19,200 --> 00:15:22,760 Speaker 1: I didn't know that story until now, and I love it. 223 00:15:22,920 --> 00:15:29,400 Speaker 1: And this is how I have approached my racing and 224 00:15:29,640 --> 00:15:35,120 Speaker 1: life for decades now. And that's why, yes, I bring 225 00:15:35,240 --> 00:15:38,960 Speaker 1: up these races because It was through those races, through 226 00:15:38,960 --> 00:15:42,160 Speaker 1: that chosen suffering, as I call it, that I learned 227 00:15:42,200 --> 00:15:46,440 Speaker 1: this the gratitude I've talked about. When I've been on 228 00:15:46,760 --> 00:15:48,920 Speaker 1: the course of an iron Man feeling bad, you know, 229 00:15:49,720 --> 00:15:53,280 Speaker 1: iron Man Malaysia. Things went wrong, It's a hundred and 230 00:15:53,280 --> 00:15:55,160 Speaker 1: four degrees, and I didn't present admitted and feeling bad 231 00:15:55,160 --> 00:15:57,160 Speaker 1: about myself, and then you see someone in a wheelchair 232 00:15:57,160 --> 00:15:59,720 Speaker 1: in the sidelines, and that gratitude comes out. I'm so 233 00:16:00,040 --> 00:16:04,080 Speaker 1: grateful to be in an amazing location doing what I 234 00:16:04,200 --> 00:16:10,359 Speaker 1: love and and I'm healthy enough to do so. Gratitude. 235 00:16:11,640 --> 00:16:16,280 Speaker 1: And so let me get to my four ways to 236 00:16:16,400 --> 00:16:19,920 Speaker 1: deal with these obstacles. Real basic, real simple, as most 237 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:26,480 Speaker 1: of my advice is stuff you can use right away. 238 00:16:26,600 --> 00:16:30,480 Speaker 1: So this is just my four personals. Doesn't come from 239 00:16:30,520 --> 00:16:34,960 Speaker 1: any study, you know, yes, based in psychology, but this 240 00:16:35,040 --> 00:16:39,760 Speaker 1: is just four ways when I have something thrown in 241 00:16:39,960 --> 00:16:42,800 Speaker 1: my way and I have to say that, you know, 242 00:16:42,840 --> 00:16:48,960 Speaker 1: iron Man Brazil being canceled, first world problem, first world problem, 243 00:16:49,080 --> 00:16:54,760 Speaker 1: but an obstacle nonetheless. Okay, So first and foremost might 244 00:16:54,880 --> 00:17:01,680 Speaker 1: surprise you be angry, allow yourself to be angry, even 245 00:17:01,720 --> 00:17:06,960 Speaker 1: someone like me who's again as optimistic as positive as 246 00:17:07,080 --> 00:17:12,760 Speaker 1: pollyanna ish as can be. I'm gonna get angry, and 247 00:17:12,840 --> 00:17:18,440 Speaker 1: that's okay, that's natural, that's human. It's how long you 248 00:17:18,520 --> 00:17:21,840 Speaker 1: allowed to happen and what happens next that is the 249 00:17:21,840 --> 00:17:25,960 Speaker 1: most important part. But be angry, and you know what, 250 00:17:26,040 --> 00:17:28,240 Speaker 1: you can complain to people. My wife, I could complain 251 00:17:28,280 --> 00:17:32,800 Speaker 1: to her. Jenn't care. She doesn't care because she knows 252 00:17:32,840 --> 00:17:36,919 Speaker 1: where I'm going next. But you can complain. Make yourself 253 00:17:36,920 --> 00:17:40,760 Speaker 1: feel better, be be human, give yourself permission to be angry. 254 00:17:42,119 --> 00:17:47,720 Speaker 1: And here's the fun thing. Do you then? Number two, 255 00:17:48,119 --> 00:17:51,240 Speaker 1: you gotta give yourself some time off. What do I 256 00:17:51,280 --> 00:17:56,840 Speaker 1: mean by that? And there's two kind of time frames 257 00:17:57,280 --> 00:18:01,800 Speaker 1: that I'm gonna give you that will clarify. So when 258 00:18:01,800 --> 00:18:05,399 Speaker 1: I got that email that Iron member Zil had been 259 00:18:05,720 --> 00:18:07,560 Speaker 1: and you know what, as I say this for the 260 00:18:07,560 --> 00:18:10,560 Speaker 1: fourth time, fifth time canceled, it got moved to November. 261 00:18:12,320 --> 00:18:15,240 Speaker 1: That's canceled for me. That's just another you know that's 262 00:18:15,240 --> 00:18:20,840 Speaker 1: canceled for all intensive purposes. So number two is give 263 00:18:20,880 --> 00:18:26,240 Speaker 1: yourself time off. Give yourself time off. So when I 264 00:18:26,240 --> 00:18:32,240 Speaker 1: got that email, I had been again exercising, working out, 265 00:18:33,080 --> 00:18:37,879 Speaker 1: dieting down down twenty pounds muscle and somebody fat and 266 00:18:37,920 --> 00:18:42,399 Speaker 1: trying to get to race weight. Well, guess what. For 267 00:18:42,440 --> 00:18:46,480 Speaker 1: the next couple of days, I ate everything in sight 268 00:18:47,080 --> 00:18:51,040 Speaker 1: and I didn't exercise, and I mentally knew as soon 269 00:18:51,080 --> 00:18:53,120 Speaker 1: as I made that shift, I said, you know what, 270 00:18:53,440 --> 00:18:56,720 Speaker 1: and busting my butt for three months, take a couple 271 00:18:56,720 --> 00:18:59,560 Speaker 1: of days, I would take three days and have some fun. 272 00:19:01,680 --> 00:19:03,439 Speaker 1: And at the end of those three days, which was 273 00:19:04,160 --> 00:19:07,240 Speaker 1: a day or two ago, I slowly got back on 274 00:19:07,280 --> 00:19:12,240 Speaker 1: the wagon. And right before I did this podcast, I 275 00:19:12,280 --> 00:19:15,920 Speaker 1: went for amazing outdoor run He'll work out. If you 276 00:19:15,920 --> 00:19:17,880 Speaker 1: want to hear about He'll Workouts, listen to that podcast. 277 00:19:18,960 --> 00:19:22,359 Speaker 1: But I gave myself time. I had worked really hard, 278 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:30,080 Speaker 1: and falling off the wagon is not only okay, it's necessary. 279 00:19:30,440 --> 00:19:34,600 Speaker 1: Be angry, take some time off, and then get back 280 00:19:34,640 --> 00:19:39,680 Speaker 1: to it. And here's the problem. Here's the natural tendency. 281 00:19:39,760 --> 00:19:42,080 Speaker 1: And I've talked about this and done podcasts about this 282 00:19:42,119 --> 00:19:44,640 Speaker 1: as well. It's like when you get on a diet 283 00:19:44,720 --> 00:19:48,800 Speaker 1: plan and you have something bad for breakfast and then 284 00:19:48,800 --> 00:19:53,240 Speaker 1: you throw the whole day away. That's not what I'm 285 00:19:53,240 --> 00:19:56,840 Speaker 1: talking about here, And then you throw the whole week away, 286 00:19:57,520 --> 00:20:00,200 Speaker 1: and then you never get back on because you are 287 00:20:00,200 --> 00:20:06,120 Speaker 1: guilty about taking time off. So just because you had 288 00:20:06,200 --> 00:20:12,080 Speaker 1: a bad you know, meal snack indulgence doesn't mean you 289 00:20:12,200 --> 00:20:15,879 Speaker 1: throw everything away. And that may be the day and 290 00:20:15,880 --> 00:20:19,840 Speaker 1: it's a little different context, but you understand my point. 291 00:20:21,240 --> 00:20:23,680 Speaker 1: So taking three days off after I had worked really 292 00:20:23,680 --> 00:20:27,879 Speaker 1: hard for three months, I needed that. I needed to 293 00:20:27,880 --> 00:20:32,000 Speaker 1: be angry and I needed to, you know, have an 294 00:20:32,160 --> 00:20:34,760 Speaker 1: entire pint of Ben and Jerry's. But I've done this 295 00:20:34,800 --> 00:20:36,119 Speaker 1: long enough to know that I was getting back on 296 00:20:36,119 --> 00:20:41,399 Speaker 1: the wagon. Then I needed to be angry and depressed 297 00:20:41,440 --> 00:20:45,520 Speaker 1: and even though you know, odds were it was gonna 298 00:20:45,560 --> 00:20:52,439 Speaker 1: get canceled. So here's one little addendum. Though you also 299 00:20:52,560 --> 00:20:54,679 Speaker 1: give your time off in a very short amount of 300 00:20:54,680 --> 00:20:58,879 Speaker 1: time sometimes what do I mean by that? So during 301 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:02,080 Speaker 1: a race back to the race analogies first fifty mile run, 302 00:21:02,160 --> 00:21:05,720 Speaker 1: I did the JFK fifty mile or through the woods, 303 00:21:06,000 --> 00:21:09,160 Speaker 1: appellates and trail for the first miles or so twenty miles. 304 00:21:09,760 --> 00:21:14,359 Speaker 1: So one of my weaknesses are my ankles. Uneven terrain, 305 00:21:14,480 --> 00:21:20,159 Speaker 1: I'm falling. I fell so many times, and one or 306 00:21:20,160 --> 00:21:24,040 Speaker 1: two times hard and you know, really twisted the ankle. 307 00:21:25,640 --> 00:21:29,919 Speaker 1: So in that situation, same thing I'm talking about just 308 00:21:29,960 --> 00:21:32,600 Speaker 1: condensed way down. So, in other words, got really angry, 309 00:21:34,080 --> 00:21:36,600 Speaker 1: fresh great amount of time, and I gave myself time 310 00:21:36,640 --> 00:21:39,840 Speaker 1: off to walk it off, walk just long enough to 311 00:21:39,880 --> 00:21:42,800 Speaker 1: get back, to get my head back, my mental state back, 312 00:21:44,000 --> 00:21:46,600 Speaker 1: and then I continued on. So I give you those 313 00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:51,399 Speaker 1: two examples because they are extremely important. You're gonna have 314 00:21:51,520 --> 00:21:55,280 Speaker 1: these really short periods of time where you go through 315 00:21:55,320 --> 00:22:00,320 Speaker 1: these four techniques, these four steps, and then gonna have 316 00:22:00,320 --> 00:22:04,200 Speaker 1: the longer. Sometimes it's three days off, sometimes it's thirty seconds. 317 00:22:05,640 --> 00:22:07,480 Speaker 1: You get that obstacle thrown in your way. I was 318 00:22:07,520 --> 00:22:10,760 Speaker 1: not gonna d n if and it hurt, but I've 319 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:13,960 Speaker 1: learned over time. Even though it hurt, I knew that 320 00:22:14,000 --> 00:22:17,560 Speaker 1: I could finish most likely, and that if I kept 321 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:23,119 Speaker 1: moving I would feel better over time. And that is 322 00:22:23,119 --> 00:22:28,080 Speaker 1: a lesson learned that is so powerful that no matter 323 00:22:28,160 --> 00:22:30,800 Speaker 1: how you feel in the moment, no matter how bad 324 00:22:30,880 --> 00:22:34,920 Speaker 1: you think things are, ten seconds later, ten minutes later, 325 00:22:35,040 --> 00:22:39,240 Speaker 1: a couple hours later, you keep moving forward, you not 326 00:22:39,320 --> 00:22:43,440 Speaker 1: only ken, most often will feel better than you did 327 00:22:43,520 --> 00:22:47,800 Speaker 1: before that obstacle was thrown in your way. All right, 328 00:22:48,960 --> 00:22:51,440 Speaker 1: final break and when we come back. Final two points. 329 00:22:51,520 --> 00:22:56,720 Speaker 1: First to be angry. Number two, give yourself time time off, 330 00:22:58,400 --> 00:23:01,320 Speaker 1: and when we come back final two points, we'll be 331 00:23:01,400 --> 00:23:16,800 Speaker 1: right back talking about obstacles. Every single person listening is 332 00:23:16,960 --> 00:23:21,800 Speaker 1: dealing with will deal with obstacles on a regular basis, 333 00:23:21,800 --> 00:23:27,400 Speaker 1: small and large, you know, and you can get through 334 00:23:27,440 --> 00:23:31,480 Speaker 1: them all. And these four steps that I use, you 335 00:23:31,520 --> 00:23:40,919 Speaker 1: can use immediately for success. Number three, reframe it, so 336 00:23:40,960 --> 00:23:43,200 Speaker 1: now you're getting out of the negative. Give yourself time 337 00:23:43,200 --> 00:23:46,600 Speaker 1: to be negative, give yourself time to be angry, give 338 00:23:46,640 --> 00:23:50,520 Speaker 1: yourself time to be lazy, whether that's three days or 339 00:23:50,560 --> 00:23:53,159 Speaker 1: thirty seconds, as I said, and then you reframe it 340 00:23:54,359 --> 00:23:58,600 Speaker 1: back to the gratitude part, looking at the positive side. 341 00:23:59,720 --> 00:24:04,720 Speaker 1: So when I received that email, race has moved again, 342 00:24:04,720 --> 00:24:09,359 Speaker 1: which is canceled for me, I said, Okay, let me 343 00:24:09,440 --> 00:24:13,520 Speaker 1: look at the positive. I've spent three months getting in 344 00:24:13,640 --> 00:24:19,280 Speaker 1: really good shape again, losing somebody fat, I fixed some 345 00:24:19,320 --> 00:24:21,760 Speaker 1: weak links, was working on my shoulder with the swimming 346 00:24:21,840 --> 00:24:24,800 Speaker 1: and you know, leg exercises. So I looked at all 347 00:24:24,840 --> 00:24:29,720 Speaker 1: the positive of the training. And by the way, I've 348 00:24:29,760 --> 00:24:33,920 Speaker 1: had people, you know, over the years when the goal 349 00:24:34,040 --> 00:24:37,400 Speaker 1: was to break three hour marathon or break a ten 350 00:24:37,400 --> 00:24:40,720 Speaker 1: hour iron man, and I didn't achieve it right away, 351 00:24:40,840 --> 00:24:42,679 Speaker 1: and I kept going back, and I had people say, 352 00:24:42,720 --> 00:24:44,280 Speaker 1: why do you keep going back? Why do you keep 353 00:24:44,280 --> 00:24:46,560 Speaker 1: doing iron Man's in marathons. I thought, that is like 354 00:24:46,640 --> 00:24:49,000 Speaker 1: the craziest question ever to me. But I'll answer it, 355 00:24:49,880 --> 00:24:51,760 Speaker 1: and I need about three hours. But the short of 356 00:24:51,760 --> 00:24:56,000 Speaker 1: it is, um, I'm getting in gray, I'm doing great 357 00:24:56,000 --> 00:25:00,000 Speaker 1: things for my health. It's the journey. The event itself, 358 00:25:01,880 --> 00:25:06,960 Speaker 1: that's just that's just the game day. But the the 359 00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:13,480 Speaker 1: true happiness and success is in the journey, in the training. 360 00:25:14,920 --> 00:25:17,360 Speaker 1: And sure it could be challenging, of course, the training, 361 00:25:17,400 --> 00:25:21,600 Speaker 1: but that's part of it. And so you gotta reframe, 362 00:25:22,119 --> 00:25:25,320 Speaker 1: gotta look at the positive. You know, as I described 363 00:25:25,359 --> 00:25:29,600 Speaker 1: at the beginning, an obstacle for this show's purposes, definition 364 00:25:30,240 --> 00:25:33,359 Speaker 1: is something that impedes progress or achievement to something you 365 00:25:33,400 --> 00:25:36,560 Speaker 1: are working on a plan. So first and foremost, be 366 00:25:36,600 --> 00:25:40,160 Speaker 1: proud that you set out to achieve something, to put 367 00:25:40,200 --> 00:25:44,560 Speaker 1: together a plan. Many people do not. Many people do not. 368 00:25:46,359 --> 00:25:48,639 Speaker 1: And let me just throw in a couple more positive 369 00:25:48,680 --> 00:25:53,280 Speaker 1: reframing elements that I used. My kids saw me training 370 00:25:53,840 --> 00:25:57,359 Speaker 1: for an event, working hard towards something that never lost 371 00:25:57,400 --> 00:25:59,720 Speaker 1: on me. If you're a parent, you are, and we 372 00:25:59,800 --> 00:26:01,520 Speaker 1: all are role models for our kids. You want them 373 00:26:01,520 --> 00:26:05,080 Speaker 1: to eat healthy, well, start with yourself. You want them 374 00:26:05,119 --> 00:26:08,680 Speaker 1: to exercise, start with yourself. Be that role model. You 375 00:26:08,760 --> 00:26:14,560 Speaker 1: want them to be happy. People model that for them. 376 00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:20,200 Speaker 1: And finally, listen, I invested in some new equipment and 377 00:26:20,240 --> 00:26:23,560 Speaker 1: you know, you go, well, I've got that equipment now. 378 00:26:23,880 --> 00:26:27,280 Speaker 1: And truth be told, I'm really cheap when it comes 379 00:26:27,280 --> 00:26:30,320 Speaker 1: to money I spend on myself. When it comes to equipment. 380 00:26:30,320 --> 00:26:33,240 Speaker 1: I've had, you know, three four bikes I think four 381 00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,560 Speaker 1: bikes total in twenty iron Man races, and none of 382 00:26:36,600 --> 00:26:41,679 Speaker 1: them were super expensive. So these races forced me to 383 00:26:41,720 --> 00:26:44,880 Speaker 1: buy things that I probably should have purchased a long 384 00:26:44,920 --> 00:26:47,000 Speaker 1: time ago. But I'm cheap with myself. So just yet 385 00:26:47,040 --> 00:26:54,879 Speaker 1: another way to frame it. Reframe. Its so important. Be 386 00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:57,919 Speaker 1: angry and then reframe it. You don't have to be. 387 00:26:58,200 --> 00:27:01,399 Speaker 1: No one is a Pollyanna right away. It's just not 388 00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:06,480 Speaker 1: human nature. But the more you put yourself out there, 389 00:27:06,800 --> 00:27:10,920 Speaker 1: the more you challenge yourself, the shorter those first two 390 00:27:11,760 --> 00:27:15,960 Speaker 1: points are. The less angry you are for a short 391 00:27:15,960 --> 00:27:18,360 Speaker 1: amount of time, and the less time you take off. 392 00:27:19,560 --> 00:27:22,960 Speaker 1: You know, many of you probably heard me say three 393 00:27:23,040 --> 00:27:26,800 Speaker 1: days and thought that's probably short. Maybe some of you 394 00:27:26,880 --> 00:27:31,160 Speaker 1: thought along, but I would think that for the vast 395 00:27:31,200 --> 00:27:33,320 Speaker 1: majority of people, three days doesn't seem like a long time. 396 00:27:33,320 --> 00:27:37,280 Speaker 1: Most people take months months off when an obstacle gets 397 00:27:37,280 --> 00:27:41,960 Speaker 1: in their way of their exercise nutrition plant. So the 398 00:27:42,040 --> 00:27:44,720 Speaker 1: more you do it, the more you learn, the shorter 399 00:27:44,800 --> 00:27:49,520 Speaker 1: those first two steps are. But you still need them. 400 00:27:49,680 --> 00:27:52,280 Speaker 1: You still need them. You know. The good thing was 401 00:27:52,320 --> 00:27:54,760 Speaker 1: when I fell in the woods during that fifty mile race. 402 00:27:55,119 --> 00:27:58,200 Speaker 1: You know, dropped a bunch of f bombs, but there's 403 00:27:58,240 --> 00:27:59,960 Speaker 1: no one around me to hear him at the time. 404 00:28:00,280 --> 00:28:02,320 Speaker 1: If you swear in the woods and no one's around you, 405 00:28:03,000 --> 00:28:06,159 Speaker 1: did you swear? But I needed to be angry and 406 00:28:06,160 --> 00:28:09,200 Speaker 1: it made me feel better. And you know, give myself 407 00:28:09,240 --> 00:28:16,320 Speaker 1: a couple seconds minutes to walk it off, reframe, look 408 00:28:16,320 --> 00:28:19,680 Speaker 1: at all the positives and and I can't stress enough 409 00:28:19,720 --> 00:28:24,080 Speaker 1: that the first major positive is that you set out 410 00:28:24,560 --> 00:28:29,200 Speaker 1: to achieve that goal in the first place, because so 411 00:28:29,359 --> 00:28:33,600 Speaker 1: often the fear of the obstacle is the obstacle itself. 412 00:28:34,200 --> 00:28:37,879 Speaker 1: What do I mean by that? The more time you invest, 413 00:28:37,920 --> 00:28:39,880 Speaker 1: the more money you invest in a plan and a 414 00:28:39,920 --> 00:28:44,000 Speaker 1: goal that scares people away because they say, what if, 415 00:28:44,800 --> 00:28:48,239 Speaker 1: what if it gets canceled. What if I don't have 416 00:28:48,320 --> 00:28:52,680 Speaker 1: the you know, outcome that I expect and you can't 417 00:28:52,680 --> 00:28:56,680 Speaker 1: worry about that. You can't worry about That topic for 418 00:28:56,720 --> 00:29:01,440 Speaker 1: another show. But if you listen to my podcast on 419 00:29:01,880 --> 00:29:04,280 Speaker 1: my Grand Canyon experience, when I did the Rim to 420 00:29:04,400 --> 00:29:08,240 Speaker 1: Rim to Rim ran across and back the night before, 421 00:29:09,680 --> 00:29:13,400 Speaker 1: I sat up in my dingy hotel room and went 422 00:29:13,440 --> 00:29:15,560 Speaker 1: over like thirty things that I was worried about going 423 00:29:15,560 --> 00:29:20,800 Speaker 1: wrong and thirty you know, issues that I had with 424 00:29:20,840 --> 00:29:23,040 Speaker 1: what I was about to do and lack of you know, 425 00:29:24,280 --> 00:29:30,200 Speaker 1: just thirty issues and not one of them happened. So 426 00:29:31,400 --> 00:29:35,440 Speaker 1: the fear of the obstacle being the obstacle that is 427 00:29:36,120 --> 00:29:37,760 Speaker 1: the issue for so many people that I don't want 428 00:29:37,760 --> 00:29:40,560 Speaker 1: to invest the time and the money if things could 429 00:29:40,560 --> 00:29:44,640 Speaker 1: possibly not turn out the way I want them to. Well, 430 00:29:45,080 --> 00:29:48,520 Speaker 1: there will always be the obstacles when you put in 431 00:29:48,560 --> 00:29:53,520 Speaker 1: the effort, because that's what this is about, effort. There 432 00:29:53,560 --> 00:29:56,360 Speaker 1: will always be a payoff. There will always be a payoff, 433 00:29:56,960 --> 00:30:00,400 Speaker 1: and as I said earlier, the payoff quite often it 434 00:30:00,480 --> 00:30:06,920 Speaker 1: is the process itself. The end goal becomes so much 435 00:30:06,960 --> 00:30:09,880 Speaker 1: less important, even though the vast major at the times 436 00:30:09,880 --> 00:30:13,240 Speaker 1: you're gonna You're gonna complete that end goal. It may 437 00:30:13,320 --> 00:30:18,040 Speaker 1: change again, it may take a little longer, but you 438 00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:21,560 Speaker 1: can't have the fear of the obstacle. Be the obstacle itself, 439 00:30:21,960 --> 00:30:31,840 Speaker 1: all right. Final one, number four, Refocus, Refocus. After my 440 00:30:31,920 --> 00:30:35,560 Speaker 1: three day eating binge with no exercise, I got right 441 00:30:35,560 --> 00:30:38,320 Speaker 1: back on the computer to find my next event. What 442 00:30:38,400 --> 00:30:41,160 Speaker 1: am I going to do next? And by the way, 443 00:30:41,200 --> 00:30:43,280 Speaker 1: I ran across the Grand Canyon and back with a 444 00:30:43,360 --> 00:30:48,360 Speaker 1: friend because there were no events. Control what we can. 445 00:30:50,640 --> 00:30:56,040 Speaker 1: But the world is opening up a little bit. And 446 00:30:56,880 --> 00:31:00,240 Speaker 1: long story short, found a marathon, found a Mary fawn 447 00:31:00,320 --> 00:31:04,280 Speaker 1: about two months away down in Florida, and new goal 448 00:31:04,800 --> 00:31:12,080 Speaker 1: requalify for Boston. So refocus, be angry, give yourself time, 449 00:31:12,840 --> 00:31:17,440 Speaker 1: look at the positives, reframe it, and then refocus. Find 450 00:31:17,440 --> 00:31:21,360 Speaker 1: that next goal. And I have written this fitness I 451 00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:23,080 Speaker 1: call I call it that all the time, and now 452 00:31:23,080 --> 00:31:25,600 Speaker 1: at one riding the fitness just means training for life. 453 00:31:26,400 --> 00:31:28,440 Speaker 1: So in other words, I've been training hard for three months. 454 00:31:30,200 --> 00:31:32,720 Speaker 1: So now I'm gonna just shift it a little bit. 455 00:31:33,120 --> 00:31:34,840 Speaker 1: I'm still gonna swim, bike and run, but I'm gonna 456 00:31:34,920 --> 00:31:37,160 Speaker 1: run a lot more. In the next couple of weeks, 457 00:31:37,200 --> 00:31:39,640 Speaker 1: a couple of months with a different goal in mind. 458 00:31:42,120 --> 00:31:45,320 Speaker 1: So yeah, you can feel bad about yourself. Yeah you 459 00:31:45,320 --> 00:31:48,680 Speaker 1: can feel bad about your situation, but you kind of 460 00:31:48,760 --> 00:31:53,320 Speaker 1: keep moving forward and find that new goal. All right. 461 00:31:53,400 --> 00:31:55,400 Speaker 1: You know what, let me finish up again. A little 462 00:31:55,440 --> 00:31:58,040 Speaker 1: different for me to read something I have written, but 463 00:31:58,080 --> 00:32:02,480 Speaker 1: why not because I think you'll you'll appreciate it perfectly. 464 00:32:02,520 --> 00:32:05,840 Speaker 1: To kind of bring everything together, I've already given the title, 465 00:32:05,840 --> 00:32:09,000 Speaker 1: embraced the excuse, or choose the challenge. So here's how 466 00:32:09,000 --> 00:32:11,640 Speaker 1: we're just going to end this show. Okay, quick, short 467 00:32:11,800 --> 00:32:15,400 Speaker 1: little blog post of sorts, all right, So here you go. 468 00:32:16,000 --> 00:32:18,160 Speaker 1: I was running on the treadmill recently when I slipped 469 00:32:18,200 --> 00:32:21,680 Speaker 1: off during a fast interval. One leg became wedged behind 470 00:32:21,720 --> 00:32:23,200 Speaker 1: the belt and it tore up the front of my 471 00:32:23,240 --> 00:32:26,760 Speaker 1: sockless ankle pretty good before I could regain my balance 472 00:32:26,840 --> 00:32:30,280 Speaker 1: and get off. Yes it hurts a lot. Yes I 473 00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:32,920 Speaker 1: could have quit and ended the workout, but I knew 474 00:32:32,920 --> 00:32:35,080 Speaker 1: that it wasn't so bad that finishing the workout would 475 00:32:35,120 --> 00:32:37,600 Speaker 1: have made it worse. So I got back on and 476 00:32:37,600 --> 00:32:40,960 Speaker 1: I completed the session. What I have learned from competing 477 00:32:40,960 --> 00:32:44,400 Speaker 1: in endurance events is not if, but when something will 478 00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:47,239 Speaker 1: go wrong. I have crashed my bike hard in an 479 00:32:47,240 --> 00:32:50,280 Speaker 1: iron Man race in Australia. I've fallen at least a 480 00:32:50,280 --> 00:32:52,680 Speaker 1: dozen times in the woods during my fifty mile JFK 481 00:32:52,840 --> 00:32:57,560 Speaker 1: Ultra run, competed in three typhoons, and bonked countless times 482 00:32:58,000 --> 00:33:00,880 Speaker 1: during races all over the world, to name just a 483 00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:04,600 Speaker 1: few of my mishaps and misfortunes. Yet regardless of what 484 00:33:04,680 --> 00:33:07,959 Speaker 1: has happened, I learned to get up and keep moving forward. 485 00:33:09,520 --> 00:33:12,040 Speaker 1: There was the Iron Man China when I swam open 486 00:33:12,120 --> 00:33:15,160 Speaker 1: mouthed into an enormous red jellyfish not once, but three times. 487 00:33:15,520 --> 00:33:18,440 Speaker 1: It stung my face like crazy and made my tongue 488 00:33:18,440 --> 00:33:21,440 Speaker 1: swell up to twice its size. Yes, I learned you 489 00:33:21,440 --> 00:33:24,520 Speaker 1: can scream and cry underwater and still swim two point 490 00:33:24,560 --> 00:33:28,560 Speaker 1: four miles. I was feeling particularly sorry for myself until 491 00:33:28,600 --> 00:33:30,640 Speaker 1: I saw another athlete on the course with the same 492 00:33:30,680 --> 00:33:35,600 Speaker 1: bright red tentacle marks criss crossing his face, still racing heart. 493 00:33:37,200 --> 00:33:39,560 Speaker 1: I often me people who have competed in events who 494 00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:41,719 Speaker 1: will tell me how they were on track to achieve 495 00:33:41,760 --> 00:33:45,719 Speaker 1: their goals when something went wrong. It started raining, they 496 00:33:45,800 --> 00:33:50,400 Speaker 1: drank too much sports drink. It was unseasonably hot. What 497 00:33:50,560 --> 00:33:53,040 Speaker 1: makes an event like iron Man so powerful is that 498 00:33:53,120 --> 00:33:56,200 Speaker 1: everyone on the course, from the professionals to the very 499 00:33:56,320 --> 00:34:00,240 Speaker 1: last finisher, is that we are all suffering to other 500 00:34:01,400 --> 00:34:04,960 Speaker 1: and in addition to the difficulty of simply completing the 501 00:34:06,040 --> 00:34:09,560 Speaker 1: pot six mile distance, every single person will also have 502 00:34:09,640 --> 00:34:13,280 Speaker 1: their own personal war story about what went horribly wrong 503 00:34:13,320 --> 00:34:17,480 Speaker 1: for them along the way to that finish line. Whether 504 00:34:17,520 --> 00:34:21,720 Speaker 1: it's a five K marathon, Ironman, or life itself, something 505 00:34:21,719 --> 00:34:26,960 Speaker 1: will inevitably go wrong. Except that fact, there will be obstacles. 506 00:34:27,719 --> 00:34:30,319 Speaker 1: We can either give up and use them as our 507 00:34:30,400 --> 00:34:34,440 Speaker 1: easy excuses for why we quit, where we can push 508 00:34:34,480 --> 00:34:39,640 Speaker 1: through and use them to make us exponentially stronger physically 509 00:34:39,800 --> 00:34:44,640 Speaker 1: as well as mentally. Embrace the excuse or choose the 510 00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:49,399 Speaker 1: challenge the choices ours to make. We are the ones 511 00:34:49,480 --> 00:34:56,840 Speaker 1: who decide how the story ends. I am Tom Holland. 512 00:34:57,400 --> 00:35:08,360 Speaker 1: This is Fitness Disrupted. Believe in your Self. Fitness Disrupted 513 00:35:08,440 --> 00:35:11,800 Speaker 1: is a production of I Heart Radio. 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