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Speaker 1: Good Morning, This is Laura. Welcome to the Before Breakfast podcast.
Speaker 1: Today's tip is to say yes when you can. We
Speaker 1: say no to a lot of things. Saying yes when
Speaker 1: you can buys a lot of goodwill and creates an
Speaker 1: environment where people are willing to take risks and explore.
Speaker 1: In any large organization, the default answer to anything new
Speaker 1: can quickly become no. Managers become worried about how things
Speaker 1: will be perceived or about setting a precedent. Before COVID,
Speaker 1: for example, a great many requests to work from home,
Speaker 1: work work flexibly. We're automatically turned down because, well, what
Speaker 1: if everyone wanted to work from home. We now know
Speaker 1: that that would most likely be fine In many organizations.
Speaker 1: Everyone worked from home for a year and things kept
Speaker 1: chugging along if folks have some level of self awareness.
Speaker 1: Hopefully this realization spawned some hard thinking about those automatic knows, namely,
Speaker 1: the catastrophizing doesn't serve anyone. We can say no when
Speaker 1: we have to, but yes is an option as well. Indeed,
Speaker 1: I once heard the advice that a real leader's job
Speaker 1: is to say yes as much as possible. The idea
Speaker 1: is that leadership isn't just about what you do. It's
Speaker 1: also about what you allow and the environment you create.
Speaker 1: When you have staff or volunteers who bring you ideas
Speaker 1: about things they want to make happen, and you generally
Speaker 1: say yes to these things, then people want to bring
Speaker 1: you more ideas. Your organization becomes more innovative. People become
Speaker 1: happier with their jobs when they feel like their ideas
Speaker 1: are taken seriously and they are given the runway to
Speaker 1: try things out. Not everything will work, of course, and
Speaker 1: you might know that as a leader, but some things will.
Speaker 1: So if something isn't terribly expensive or risky legally, then
Speaker 1: there's no real harm and giving it a whirl. So
Speaker 1: someone wants to work a different schedule, someone wants to
Speaker 1: start an employee volunteering group, someone wants to test a
Speaker 1: product in a totally different market. Why not saying yes
Speaker 1: when you can. It's not just for leaders, it's good
Speaker 1: counsel for parents too. It is painful to think about
Speaker 1: how often we as parents say no on a typical
Speaker 1: day to having pancakes for breakfast on a rushed morning,
Speaker 1: or two going back upstairs to get different shoes. When
Speaker 1: a child is running late, or to having a second
Speaker 1: helping of noodles before any chicken or peas to reading
Speaker 1: one more book when it's already after bedtime. I imagine
Speaker 1: you have said no to all sorts of things this
Speaker 1: morning already, and to an extent that is appropriate, because
Speaker 1: part of parenting is setting boundaries, but part of parenting
Speaker 1: is also creating the space for our children to explore
Speaker 1: life and become their own people. So if no one
Speaker 1: is going to get hurt and it's not going to
Speaker 1: bust the bank, why not try flipping the automatic no script?
Speaker 1: So say yes when you can. To the bizarre outfit
Speaker 1: a child puts together, the weird combination of foods in
Speaker 1: the lunch bag, to the request to try archery or
Speaker 1: acts throwing, to the suggestion to camp out in your backyard,
Speaker 1: or even paint the playroom yellow. Instead of asking why,
Speaker 1: I think why not? And if there is no reason
Speaker 1: to say no, you could just say yes. You may
Speaker 1: be amazed at what people come up with, and you
Speaker 1: buy a lot of goodwill so that when you do
Speaker 1: need to say no, people are more likely to accept
Speaker 1: that you have a good reason as opposed to just
Speaker 1: generally being a downer about everything. So this week in
Speaker 1: your professional and personal life, try saying yes when you can.
Speaker 1: I'd love to hear how it goes. You can reach
Speaker 1: me at Laura at Laura vander Kim. Come in the meantime,
Speaker 1: This is Laura. Thanks for listening and here's to making
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