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Speaker 1: My mom won't leave me alone in the shower. Okayop,

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Speaker 1: this is Okayop. I'm Savingeldnor and I'm John Fry and

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Speaker 1: we tell the funniest stories on the Internet. And John,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if like when you were growing up

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Speaker 1: this ever happened to you, but like did your parents

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Speaker 1: ever just like knocked and like bust in your room

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Speaker 1: without man.

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Speaker 2: There were some close calls, you know, there are some

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Speaker 2: close calls.

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Speaker 1: My my parents are like a big fan of like

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Speaker 1: knocking but then just going in regardless. That's interesting said

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Speaker 1: at the knock. But I have I have a video

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Speaker 1: that's gonna up the ante. Okay, okay, my mom won't

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Speaker 1: leave me alone in the.

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Speaker 2: Shower, Billy, don't drop this out.

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Speaker 3: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: Mom's got that strap on, ready to take advantage any opportunity.

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Speaker 3: Started off with a bang, started off with a banger. Seriously,

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Speaker 3: you the pun in. Okay.

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Speaker 1: I've posted a few times in the subreddit about my

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Speaker 1: narcissistic mom and I've received overwhelming support. But something struck

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Speaker 1: me the other day and it wasn't that strap on

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Speaker 1: the shower.

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Speaker 2: Wasn't that big piece of plastic rates special.

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Speaker 1: Delivery argal Mom deliver room boxes all day, and I

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Speaker 1: thought I'd share. I live with my narcissistic mom and

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Speaker 1: my regular dad. Still I love how it's like. Still,

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Speaker 1: I'm twenty four. A year and a half ago, my

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Speaker 1: dad invited my boyfriend of three years to come live

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Speaker 1: with us when his family was going through a hard time.

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Speaker 1: We had the money to take him in. My family

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Speaker 1: loves him, and my dad actually suggested it. My father

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Speaker 1: is overwhelmingly supportive, both emotionally and financially. But that doesn't

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Speaker 1: make my narcissistic mom any less of a narcissistic mom.

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Speaker 1: Uh oh, it just gives me a little more support.

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Speaker 1: My narcissistic mom has certain ideas of privacy, and we're

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Speaker 1: not talking like Snowden privacy making sure all of our

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Speaker 1: government secrets are out there in the world. We're talking

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Speaker 1: about she's all up in your business. There was none.

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Speaker 1: I was not safe to be alone and uninterrupted anywhere

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Speaker 1: in my house. If she was awake, it didn't matter

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Speaker 1: if the door was closed. She had access to that room,

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Speaker 1: whether someone was in it or not. All access passed,

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Speaker 1: all like this level five clearance for anywhere in the

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Speaker 1: house anytime she wants.

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Speaker 2: But that's weird. It's like, what do you just barge

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Speaker 2: into a room when someone's napping and like take a

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Speaker 2: call or something.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, Hey, this is my house.

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Speaker 2: I can call wherever I want to unless I have

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Speaker 2: like two rooms. You know, I don't know.

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Speaker 3: I think it's just a narcissic mom.

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Speaker 2: It's just a narcissistic mom, opening them doors, opening them doors.

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Speaker 1: When I was a child, she would walk into the

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Speaker 1: bathroom or my bedroom without second thought, which I guess

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Speaker 1: is okay if you're little, but I always thought, Okay,

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Speaker 1: it's my mom, she changed my diapers, whatever. But it

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Speaker 1: started to get really weird when I went through and

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Speaker 1: finished puberty. My mother would burst through the bathroom door

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Speaker 1: the exact moment when I was in the shower to

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Speaker 1: use the toilet.

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Speaker 2: Oh my god.

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Speaker 1: So that's weird, but it's especially weird when we have

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Speaker 1: a perfectly functioning second bathroom.

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Speaker 2: Honestly, this takes the cake. Your mom is using the

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Speaker 2: toilet while you are in the shower, so let's.

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Speaker 1: Just disregard the fact that she's thinking up the place

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Speaker 1: while you're trying to enjoy a nice, relaxing shower.

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Speaker 3: So she's just freaking weird, bro.

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Speaker 2: That's absolutely like way way weird.

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Speaker 1: No no no no no no no no no no

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Speaker 1: no no no. This was bothersome. Yes, but it happened constantly.

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Speaker 1: Almost every shower I took was interrupted. And not only that,

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Speaker 1: my mother would make comments about how I washed myself

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Speaker 1: or shaved my legs or whatever to like, hey, they

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Speaker 1: should have gett into the crack Jimmy or Jamie or Jessica.

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Speaker 2: Good god, oh gosh, yeah this this spy. Oh my goodness,

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Speaker 2: this is just wow.

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Speaker 1: She would literally coach me on how to shower and

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Speaker 1: tell me, hey, you're doing it all wrong, all right,

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Speaker 1: like this is really weird.

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Speaker 3: But I'd like to take a moment.

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Speaker 1: There are a lot of people that never learn how

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Speaker 1: to poop properly because like they didn't have someone in

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Speaker 1: the room like coaching them.

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Speaker 2: Oh, like you're supposed to like lift your legs or

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Speaker 2: or what's that like squatty potty or.

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Speaker 3: We don't talk about the bathroom.

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Speaker 1: We don't talk about it's unfortunately, Yeah, we need potty trainers, right,

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Speaker 1: Potty training shouldn't end at three. We need potty contillion

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Speaker 1: because like there are people on Reddit that are like,

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Speaker 1: how do you tell whether you're finished, you know, wiping,

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Speaker 1: and it's like bruh.

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Speaker 3: You check the scorecard and if you're.

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Speaker 1: Leaving ones all over that dishue pavor, you're not done that.

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Speaker 1: Some people will just put their underwear on and not

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Speaker 1: even check the scorecard to see if they're done wiping

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Speaker 1: the scorecard.

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Speaker 3: That's great to check the scorecard.

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Speaker 1: Several years ago, my grandfather with late stage Alzheimer's would

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Speaker 1: wander into our house and just look for people to

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Speaker 1: talk to. He would open the door while you were

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Speaker 1: using the bathroom to talk to you, and we did

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Speaker 1: everything we could to stop him, leaving notes on the

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Speaker 1: door saying don't come in, whatever we could think of. Sadly,

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Speaker 1: we have to replace the bathroom door with a door

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Speaker 1: with a lock. None of our colonel doors in the

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Speaker 1: house have walks by the way, oh, which I guess,

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Speaker 1: which is why.

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Speaker 2: Part of the system open door policy system.

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Speaker 1: This was great for OP though, because I would lock

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Speaker 1: the door constantly to keep my mother and my grandfather,

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Speaker 1: but mostly my mother out.

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Speaker 3: Thank god, my mother realized what I was doing.

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Speaker 1: Taking a dumper, and once my grandfather passed away, she

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Speaker 1: broke the lock on the door so I could no

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Speaker 1: longer lock her out. My father will always knock on

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Speaker 1: my bedroom door, especially since my boyfriend both lives and

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Speaker 1: sleeps with me in my rooms. Knocked at some definitely

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Speaker 1: inopportune times, sure, but he's always knocked.

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Speaker 3: Has been fine. They're doing the dirty. The last straw.

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Speaker 1: Was my mother walking in constantly, even once my boyfriend

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Speaker 1: moved in, trying to get a live show.

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Speaker 3: Got to pay for that.

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Speaker 2: All my evidence.

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Speaker 1: She walked in on me changing, on him changing, and

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Speaker 1: one time she walked in on the two of us

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Speaker 1: in an intimate situation.

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Speaker 2: Oh God.

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Speaker 1: My mother was furious and went to my father about

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Speaker 1: how she could do something like that in our house,

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Speaker 1: and my father finally went off on her.

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Speaker 3: She was being.

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Speaker 1: Disrespectful to me for not respecting my privacy. I had

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Speaker 1: no way of locking her out of my room. Doors

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Speaker 1: are old and can't be replaced. The doors with flocks

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Speaker 1: really can't be replaced with other doors. Sure, I'm pretty

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Speaker 1: sure there's a door guy that I feel like.

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Speaker 2: That's another lie in her kingdom of lawlessness.

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Speaker 1: He said that it was my space and I was

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Speaker 1: an adult. He gave her a thorough talking to about

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Speaker 1: respect rspect and the fact that she didn't have any

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Speaker 1: for me. But what was worse was that it was

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Speaker 1: downright extremely rude to my boyfriend, who now lived with us.

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Speaker 1: He even paid my dad rents.

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Speaker 2: Wow, even when they didn't ask for it. Yeah, that's cool.

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Speaker 1: So he deserved the privacy that she was not giving

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Speaker 1: to him. Ever since that talk, she's knocked when coming

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Speaker 1: into my bedroom and bathroom.

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Speaker 3: Thank the Lord.

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Speaker 1: That's what should have been happening this whole time. This

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Speaker 1: is the bare minimum, bro, that's basically it.

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Speaker 2: It's a tricky situation because you're like, you're living with

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Speaker 2: your parents with your partner. Yeah, so it's like you

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Speaker 2: gotta you gotta give some space for naughty time. Yeah, yeah,

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Speaker 2: it's it's yeah. Wow, man, that that mom is absolutely

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Speaker 2: and I mean, so many lines, so many lines have

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Speaker 2: been crossed. But you know, what's a line you should

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Speaker 2: always cross?

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Speaker 3: Yeah? What's the line you should always cross? Crossing the line.

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Speaker 2: That's yet. I think she's commented on like the initial one.

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Speaker 1: love you, Kathy. That's right, forever and ever.

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Speaker 3: Uh I think with that we bid we bid a

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Speaker 3: do see

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Speaker 2: You next time