1 00:00:00,600 --> 00:00:03,840 Speaker 1: Now before we begin with this week's episode. Last week 2 00:00:03,880 --> 00:00:06,480 Speaker 1: I mentioned that I am starting a new segment with 3 00:00:06,559 --> 00:00:09,600 Speaker 1: the listeners questions. So if you have any questions, any 4 00:00:09,640 --> 00:00:13,280 Speaker 1: comments and concerns, my therapist and I you know, I 5 00:00:13,320 --> 00:00:16,320 Speaker 1: gotta put my two sess in. We will be answering 6 00:00:16,360 --> 00:00:19,119 Speaker 1: your questions. So for those of you that have not 7 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:22,000 Speaker 1: experienced therapy and you want to see what a glimpse 8 00:00:22,000 --> 00:00:26,680 Speaker 1: of therapy would be like from experienced licensed therapists, please 9 00:00:26,720 --> 00:00:29,080 Speaker 1: make sure to email us at Hello at th h 10 00:00:29,200 --> 00:00:32,600 Speaker 1: E PhD podcast dot com. I think this would be 11 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:35,800 Speaker 1: a great opportunity for you all that have not experienced therapy, 12 00:00:35,920 --> 00:00:37,640 Speaker 1: or even if you have experienced therapy and you just 13 00:00:37,640 --> 00:00:40,280 Speaker 1: want to get a second opinion, please make sure to 14 00:00:40,440 --> 00:00:43,479 Speaker 1: email us UM and let's get all with this week's episode. 15 00:00:44,280 --> 00:01:22,039 Speaker 1: Enjoy y'all. Welcome you are now listening to H Hey, guys, 16 00:01:22,040 --> 00:01:25,000 Speaker 1: welcome to this week's episode of the PD Podcast. It's 17 00:01:25,040 --> 00:01:27,920 Speaker 1: your girl, eban A and as always, I am super 18 00:01:27,959 --> 00:01:31,440 Speaker 1: excited about this week's episode. Before we begin, let's do 19 00:01:31,480 --> 00:01:34,000 Speaker 1: a little housekeeping. 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When I 30 00:02:12,160 --> 00:02:14,919 Speaker 1: first heard about your platform, I would just like, yo, 31 00:02:15,040 --> 00:02:17,600 Speaker 1: who is the person behind this platform? Because the way 32 00:02:17,680 --> 00:02:22,359 Speaker 1: you display black love is just so beautiful. So you're 33 00:02:22,400 --> 00:02:26,120 Speaker 1: welcome so so, but also are not familiar with your platform? 34 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:29,480 Speaker 1: Me and somebody's son tell the listeners more about it. 35 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:34,480 Speaker 1: So it's a black love page rum and heterosexual black 36 00:02:34,520 --> 00:02:41,359 Speaker 1: woman's perspective, just dedicated to showcasing black love and all shapes, shades, forms, 37 00:02:41,520 --> 00:02:45,800 Speaker 1: And I really tried to veer away from celebrity couples 38 00:02:45,880 --> 00:02:49,120 Speaker 1: just so people can really resonate and see themselves in 39 00:02:49,200 --> 00:02:51,919 Speaker 1: the page. And that's one thing I really like your 40 00:02:52,200 --> 00:02:54,160 Speaker 1: really like about your page is you don't have any 41 00:02:54,200 --> 00:03:00,520 Speaker 1: celebrity a couples on it, which making it more relatable exactly. So, 42 00:03:00,639 --> 00:03:02,720 Speaker 1: before you create your page, did you feel like there 43 00:03:02,800 --> 00:03:06,280 Speaker 1: was a positive representation of black love. So, I feel 44 00:03:06,280 --> 00:03:09,360 Speaker 1: like it's up and coming. I feel like there are 45 00:03:09,400 --> 00:03:14,320 Speaker 1: a few spaces that really do highlight black love. And 46 00:03:14,480 --> 00:03:18,240 Speaker 1: I was even inspired by the Me and Somebody's Daughter's space, 47 00:03:18,320 --> 00:03:21,880 Speaker 1: who I believe is the original creator of this meme. 48 00:03:22,880 --> 00:03:25,960 Speaker 1: So prior to me creating this space, there was me 49 00:03:26,040 --> 00:03:29,440 Speaker 1: and somebody's daughter and me and somebody's queer can and 50 00:03:29,520 --> 00:03:32,480 Speaker 1: so I felt like there was a space missing and 51 00:03:32,560 --> 00:03:36,520 Speaker 1: that's kind of what really fueled me behind creating this space. 52 00:03:37,480 --> 00:03:41,840 Speaker 1: So what was like your biggest inspiration? Uh, I feel 53 00:03:41,880 --> 00:03:45,840 Speaker 1: like I am a hopeful romantic and I just love 54 00:03:46,000 --> 00:03:50,080 Speaker 1: the idea of love and being in love. And I 55 00:03:50,080 --> 00:03:52,840 Speaker 1: don't know, I know love it's not this like pretty 56 00:03:52,960 --> 00:03:57,440 Speaker 1: rainbow and sunshine thing. I know there's depth to it, 57 00:03:57,480 --> 00:04:01,119 Speaker 1: but I just love it. And that was really like 58 00:04:01,720 --> 00:04:05,200 Speaker 1: my inspiration. I love black people, I always have. I'm 59 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:08,000 Speaker 1: very proud of being black, So it was just like 60 00:04:08,600 --> 00:04:11,240 Speaker 1: it all made sense at the time to just go 61 00:04:11,360 --> 00:04:14,920 Speaker 1: forth and do it. So I know, after you create 62 00:04:15,000 --> 00:04:18,479 Speaker 1: the page, it was in Federary twenty nineteen, right, which 63 00:04:18,520 --> 00:04:23,480 Speaker 1: is praising me. The ship took off, yo, me, I'm 64 00:04:23,560 --> 00:04:25,880 Speaker 1: still like to this day and I even feel like 65 00:04:25,920 --> 00:04:27,560 Speaker 1: it's kind of crazy to say this, but I don't 66 00:04:27,560 --> 00:04:32,200 Speaker 1: even fully understand like to reach an influence I have, 67 00:04:32,400 --> 00:04:36,040 Speaker 1: Like it just took off so crazily and I never 68 00:04:36,120 --> 00:04:39,240 Speaker 1: that was not my intention. I didn't expect this. I 69 00:04:39,360 --> 00:04:41,839 Speaker 1: kind of just made this space for me and what 70 00:04:42,720 --> 00:04:45,160 Speaker 1: I wanted to see and what I wanted from love, 71 00:04:45,360 --> 00:04:49,400 Speaker 1: and people just resonated with it. And it wasn't you 72 00:04:49,600 --> 00:04:53,560 Speaker 1: mentioned in like a Shaft movie or something. I've mentioned, Um, 73 00:04:53,640 --> 00:04:58,880 Speaker 1: the Shaft movie during Essence Fast Netflix, like used as 74 00:04:58,880 --> 00:05:03,240 Speaker 1: somebody's son name in been featured in BT on Bossip 75 00:05:04,000 --> 00:05:11,440 Speaker 1: exce Nicole What Other Ones podcast podcast Advice from a 76 00:05:11,760 --> 00:05:17,560 Speaker 1: Boy podcast. Um, I've had like celebrity reach out. It's 77 00:05:17,600 --> 00:05:21,000 Speaker 1: just so it's so crazy. I just I'm just so thankful. 78 00:05:21,040 --> 00:05:24,960 Speaker 1: I thank God. I really amazing. Um. Have you ever 79 00:05:25,040 --> 00:05:27,400 Speaker 1: received like any like heartfelt story because sometimes when you 80 00:05:27,480 --> 00:05:29,320 Speaker 1: be posting, I feel like, Yo, this ship is like 81 00:05:29,760 --> 00:05:32,720 Speaker 1: it's so beautiful to see something in different shades of 82 00:05:32,839 --> 00:05:39,119 Speaker 1: brownies just in love. I get heartfelt stories. All that's time, 83 00:05:39,480 --> 00:05:43,919 Speaker 1: all the time of people just the splaying their love 84 00:05:44,080 --> 00:05:47,800 Speaker 1: and it's so beautiful to me. Now you don't cry, 85 00:05:47,800 --> 00:05:51,280 Speaker 1: Oh girl, I cry almost all the time. I'm such 86 00:05:51,320 --> 00:05:55,440 Speaker 1: a sensitive person. I grab all the time. I was 87 00:05:55,560 --> 00:06:00,240 Speaker 1: just crying over somebody messaging me and just shouting out. 88 00:06:00,279 --> 00:06:02,960 Speaker 1: It's saying really positive words. It's like it's so nice. 89 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:07,000 Speaker 1: And I just can't believe people really really rocked with 90 00:06:07,080 --> 00:06:10,600 Speaker 1: my page like that, Like, I just can't believe. How 91 00:06:10,680 --> 00:06:13,520 Speaker 1: has creating this page impacted your thoughts on black love? 92 00:06:14,680 --> 00:06:19,160 Speaker 1: Oh my goodness, I feel like I feel like what 93 00:06:19,240 --> 00:06:22,880 Speaker 1: I thought love was. And then after creating list pace, 94 00:06:23,240 --> 00:06:27,520 Speaker 1: like girl, el speak on it. I I definitely thought 95 00:06:27,560 --> 00:06:32,600 Speaker 1: about love and depth, but this has just opened my 96 00:06:32,680 --> 00:06:36,640 Speaker 1: eyes to the depths of love for real and like 97 00:06:36,680 --> 00:06:39,800 Speaker 1: what people go through in the the things that really 98 00:06:39,839 --> 00:06:43,320 Speaker 1: takes to maintain love for a really, really long time, 99 00:06:43,440 --> 00:06:47,000 Speaker 1: like the couples that are like thirty years plus. Every 100 00:06:47,080 --> 00:06:51,159 Speaker 1: couple says patience is like the biggest thing. Patience and communication. 101 00:06:51,920 --> 00:06:56,000 Speaker 1: You have to have those two empty forgiving. Yeah, for 102 00:06:56,520 --> 00:07:00,640 Speaker 1: patience for sure. Um, is there anything a page? Talk 103 00:07:00,680 --> 00:07:02,680 Speaker 1: to you? Me and somebody's son talk to you that 104 00:07:02,720 --> 00:07:10,640 Speaker 1: you didn't know about when it came to that black love. Um, 105 00:07:10,680 --> 00:07:14,360 Speaker 1: I think it's taught me that black love doesn't have 106 00:07:14,560 --> 00:07:18,920 Speaker 1: to be the struggle that like it's portrayed to be 107 00:07:19,000 --> 00:07:22,640 Speaker 1: so often in the media and movies, and like it 108 00:07:22,760 --> 00:07:25,840 Speaker 1: doesn't have to be this fight and struggle to reach 109 00:07:25,880 --> 00:07:28,760 Speaker 1: that love and it shouldn't be that. And I think 110 00:07:28,920 --> 00:07:32,640 Speaker 1: that's really what this page has taught me, Like struggle 111 00:07:32,680 --> 00:07:35,200 Speaker 1: love is not it and if you have to be 112 00:07:35,240 --> 00:07:38,400 Speaker 1: it have you seen the photograph? I did not see 113 00:07:38,400 --> 00:07:41,120 Speaker 1: the photograph. Oh that's so funny because when you said that, 114 00:07:41,200 --> 00:07:44,040 Speaker 1: I instantly thought about the photograph of how it's just 115 00:07:44,080 --> 00:07:46,480 Speaker 1: like love is not supposed to be hard, Like it's 116 00:07:46,520 --> 00:07:49,680 Speaker 1: not supposed to be difficult, like like you're gonna be try, 117 00:07:49,720 --> 00:07:51,160 Speaker 1: You're gonna have you ups and down, but for the 118 00:07:51,160 --> 00:07:53,080 Speaker 1: most part, it's not supposed to feel like you pull 119 00:07:53,120 --> 00:07:56,240 Speaker 1: it s getting off somebody, right, Yeah, Like it's not 120 00:07:56,480 --> 00:07:59,840 Speaker 1: it's and it's not supposed to make you feel horrible 121 00:08:00,120 --> 00:08:03,720 Speaker 1: and alone and like all that strugg will be as 122 00:08:03,920 --> 00:08:07,600 Speaker 1: is really out the window for me, Like no, right, 123 00:08:07,800 --> 00:08:10,160 Speaker 1: I don't have to put up with that. Um, did 124 00:08:10,160 --> 00:08:12,440 Speaker 1: you have any influences of the examples of black Loves 125 00:08:12,480 --> 00:08:20,480 Speaker 1: growing up. Um, besides, like my parents, um, and like 126 00:08:20,600 --> 00:08:24,680 Speaker 1: TV shows aren't really and that my personal experiences have 127 00:08:24,800 --> 00:08:31,120 Speaker 1: been interesting, so I feel like no, go ahead. So 128 00:08:31,160 --> 00:08:35,640 Speaker 1: I feel like no. And in a way, that's also 129 00:08:35,760 --> 00:08:38,480 Speaker 1: like part of my creation of this page. Like I 130 00:08:38,559 --> 00:08:40,160 Speaker 1: felt like in a way I was losing hope a 131 00:08:40,200 --> 00:08:44,760 Speaker 1: little bit, and this kind of restored my faith and love. 132 00:08:47,559 --> 00:08:51,720 Speaker 1: So when I reach out to my guests, we agreed 133 00:08:51,760 --> 00:08:54,280 Speaker 1: that we would not be talking about her personal life, 134 00:08:54,400 --> 00:08:59,959 Speaker 1: but she sa I can asked her questions the question 135 00:09:00,040 --> 00:09:04,599 Speaker 1: that everybody kept asking me, cry so the million dollar questions, 136 00:09:05,240 --> 00:09:10,199 Speaker 1: are you dating somebody's son? The answer to that question 137 00:09:10,480 --> 00:09:15,520 Speaker 1: is now, I am currently not with anybody's signed right now. 138 00:09:15,800 --> 00:09:19,440 Speaker 1: When I started, when I started the page, there was 139 00:09:19,480 --> 00:09:24,120 Speaker 1: somebody signed in my life and he was definitely influencing 140 00:09:24,200 --> 00:09:28,719 Speaker 1: a lot of my writing. M Um, but that situation 141 00:09:28,840 --> 00:09:35,320 Speaker 1: is no longer. So it's currently me what child somebody 142 00:09:35,400 --> 00:09:37,360 Speaker 1: someone's being on my damn nerves. So I had to 143 00:09:38,920 --> 00:09:42,000 Speaker 1: because he was to be the fun out Yo. That 144 00:09:42,160 --> 00:09:47,840 Speaker 1: is hilarious. Yeah, I felt similarly stressed and self love 145 00:09:48,040 --> 00:09:52,520 Speaker 1: is very important. Oh my god, and I feel like 146 00:09:52,640 --> 00:09:55,200 Speaker 1: I've touched on it briefly, but I definitely want to 147 00:09:55,200 --> 00:09:58,240 Speaker 1: talk about self love more on the page, because you 148 00:09:58,320 --> 00:10:02,320 Speaker 1: really can't love somebody if you've yourself. You can't. You 149 00:10:02,360 --> 00:10:05,520 Speaker 1: can't give yourself to somebody if you don't even know 150 00:10:05,559 --> 00:10:07,520 Speaker 1: who you are, you don't even know what you have 151 00:10:07,679 --> 00:10:12,280 Speaker 1: to get. So I think that's also something I really 152 00:10:12,360 --> 00:10:15,000 Speaker 1: learned in this page too, Like you have to be 153 00:10:15,160 --> 00:10:17,559 Speaker 1: whole to be some one's other half. And I think 154 00:10:17,600 --> 00:10:19,600 Speaker 1: a lot of times when I'm speaking from experience, because 155 00:10:19,600 --> 00:10:21,240 Speaker 1: I know a lot of my listeners like what you 156 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:23,880 Speaker 1: broke up with who? Like because this is what this 157 00:10:23,960 --> 00:10:27,959 Speaker 1: was somebody who I thought that I was gonna be forever, 158 00:10:28,320 --> 00:10:30,400 Speaker 1: and I say anything that happened. But I do believe 159 00:10:30,440 --> 00:10:32,360 Speaker 1: that you have to be whole and you have to 160 00:10:32,400 --> 00:10:34,840 Speaker 1: know who you are as a woman and what you'll 161 00:10:34,880 --> 00:10:38,200 Speaker 1: continue to allow, because if you don't know who you are, 162 00:10:38,280 --> 00:10:40,000 Speaker 1: like if I don't know who Evanate is, I can't 163 00:10:40,040 --> 00:10:42,880 Speaker 1: be with the next person. Like and it's just like 164 00:10:42,960 --> 00:10:45,400 Speaker 1: it's just so crazy, how like now I'm just having 165 00:10:45,440 --> 00:10:48,520 Speaker 1: so many moments, but it's like I was having I 166 00:10:48,559 --> 00:10:50,840 Speaker 1: was allowing certain things because I didn't know who I 167 00:10:51,000 --> 00:10:54,440 Speaker 1: was exactly, and you set the standard how you love 168 00:10:54,520 --> 00:10:57,240 Speaker 1: and how you treat yourself, It's how others are going 169 00:10:57,280 --> 00:11:00,680 Speaker 1: to love and treat you. So I so it's also 170 00:11:00,720 --> 00:11:03,160 Speaker 1: important to know you and know what you're gonna deal 171 00:11:03,200 --> 00:11:06,520 Speaker 1: with and know your standards and know your words. And 172 00:11:06,679 --> 00:11:11,240 Speaker 1: I've been at such peace, Like it's like also when 173 00:11:11,280 --> 00:11:13,120 Speaker 1: you know your stuff and then when you know what 174 00:11:13,200 --> 00:11:15,440 Speaker 1: you're gonna be putting up with, it's like you're at 175 00:11:15,480 --> 00:11:17,120 Speaker 1: peace with your stuff because you know who you are 176 00:11:17,160 --> 00:11:21,440 Speaker 1: and you know that's what you deserve. Yes, Like, yes, 177 00:11:22,240 --> 00:11:26,760 Speaker 1: so are you interested in dating anybody? So I feel 178 00:11:26,800 --> 00:11:30,880 Speaker 1: like my focus is so me and somebody's son and 179 00:11:30,960 --> 00:11:35,880 Speaker 1: my brand and my business that like, I'm not necessarily looking. 180 00:11:36,679 --> 00:11:39,160 Speaker 1: But if somebody wants to come along, you know, I'm 181 00:11:39,200 --> 00:11:43,640 Speaker 1: not like against that, but I'm not out here chose. 182 00:11:45,080 --> 00:11:48,800 Speaker 1: That's not like my focus right now. So we spoke 183 00:11:48,840 --> 00:11:51,720 Speaker 1: about this before we started the interview because me and 184 00:11:51,720 --> 00:11:55,560 Speaker 1: her was keeking but where do you see? Because I 185 00:11:55,600 --> 00:11:57,640 Speaker 1: love talking to my guests because all of my guests 186 00:11:57,640 --> 00:12:00,079 Speaker 1: I go, But where do you want to see? And 187 00:12:00,160 --> 00:12:02,360 Speaker 1: somebody starting a new future? Because I feel like if 188 00:12:02,360 --> 00:12:04,640 Speaker 1: you was able to grow it at such a fast 189 00:12:05,120 --> 00:12:08,160 Speaker 1: pace while even like like you're trying, but he wasn't 190 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:14,600 Speaker 1: really trying. Like anything is possible now exactly. I feel like, 191 00:12:14,600 --> 00:12:17,120 Speaker 1: like you said, it really really was not trying. I 192 00:12:17,200 --> 00:12:21,840 Speaker 1: really want to try at all. Um. So at this point, 193 00:12:21,880 --> 00:12:24,680 Speaker 1: I feel like now that I want to try, I 194 00:12:24,720 --> 00:12:28,600 Speaker 1: want to start this YouTube series. UM. I want to 195 00:12:28,640 --> 00:12:34,240 Speaker 1: have events, panel discussions, mixers. I was even thinking about 196 00:12:34,320 --> 00:12:38,480 Speaker 1: an app, like I just see this growing to some 197 00:12:39,600 --> 00:12:44,080 Speaker 1: crazy magnitude, but I'm also taking my time getting there. 198 00:12:44,320 --> 00:12:47,559 Speaker 1: I feel like, UM, a little while ago, I was 199 00:12:47,600 --> 00:12:49,480 Speaker 1: trying to rush to do things, but now I'm just 200 00:12:49,679 --> 00:12:54,880 Speaker 1: taking my time and letting everything play its course. Are 201 00:12:54,920 --> 00:12:57,319 Speaker 1: you in communication with me and somebody daughter and the 202 00:12:57,800 --> 00:13:02,120 Speaker 1: other page? I'm just serious, No, I'm not in communication 203 00:13:02,280 --> 00:13:08,920 Speaker 1: with either um, me and somebody's daughter. I there was 204 00:13:08,960 --> 00:13:14,160 Speaker 1: there's been riffs in our relationship and we we UM 205 00:13:14,200 --> 00:13:17,960 Speaker 1: we met last summer and tried to like do some 206 00:13:18,040 --> 00:13:21,520 Speaker 1: things together, but it just it didn't work out, and 207 00:13:21,559 --> 00:13:24,800 Speaker 1: I haven't really heard from them since. And then me 208 00:13:24,840 --> 00:13:28,320 Speaker 1: and somebody squeaking, I've never really talked to them. I 209 00:13:28,440 --> 00:13:31,960 Speaker 1: always like, I always like shout them out when I 210 00:13:32,040 --> 00:13:37,840 Speaker 1: like post like anything related to queer anything. Um, but 211 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:41,520 Speaker 1: we haven't talked. Do you ever say any flag for 212 00:13:41,600 --> 00:13:45,600 Speaker 1: your page? Um? So that was like the kind of 213 00:13:45,679 --> 00:13:49,880 Speaker 1: like riff. When I first started the page, I got 214 00:13:49,920 --> 00:13:54,400 Speaker 1: backlash from me and somebody's daughter page. They said I 215 00:13:54,480 --> 00:13:58,280 Speaker 1: was just like copying them and I didn't even know 216 00:13:58,360 --> 00:14:00,560 Speaker 1: that they were the original creator. But we're making the 217 00:14:00,559 --> 00:14:03,439 Speaker 1: page because I saw it and somebody squarekin and me 218 00:14:03,520 --> 00:14:05,720 Speaker 1: and somebody's daughter. I just thought this was like a 219 00:14:05,840 --> 00:14:08,600 Speaker 1: thing that's happening now, but there was no space for 220 00:14:08,679 --> 00:14:11,760 Speaker 1: us black women. So I was just like I want 221 00:14:11,800 --> 00:14:15,559 Speaker 1: that space, so I created it. But they were kind 222 00:14:15,559 --> 00:14:19,800 Speaker 1: of upset with me. And even today, like, um, I 223 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:22,120 Speaker 1: saw a post where somebody was just kind of like 224 00:14:22,640 --> 00:14:26,040 Speaker 1: talking negatively about the page and how like I basically 225 00:14:26,120 --> 00:14:30,040 Speaker 1: took over the movement. That was never my intention. I 226 00:14:30,120 --> 00:14:36,920 Speaker 1: mean room for more than one. Yeah, and it's not 227 00:14:37,000 --> 00:14:40,440 Speaker 1: even like it's not like I'm also me and somebody's daughter. 228 00:14:40,480 --> 00:14:43,560 Speaker 1: It's like I'm your I'm your pair. Yeah I'm not, 229 00:14:43,600 --> 00:14:45,880 Speaker 1: you know. So I was just I was confused and 230 00:14:45,880 --> 00:14:49,520 Speaker 1: I'm still confused when I get like backlash. But for 231 00:14:50,440 --> 00:14:54,240 Speaker 1: every negative comment, there's a thousand positive ones, So I 232 00:14:54,320 --> 00:14:58,560 Speaker 1: really try not to, like, what about how do you 233 00:14:58,640 --> 00:15:01,280 Speaker 1: receive it in black um backlash when it comes to 234 00:15:02,880 --> 00:15:04,920 Speaker 1: the amount of positivity you promote when it comes to 235 00:15:04,960 --> 00:15:07,000 Speaker 1: black love, because I'm pretty sure you have other races 236 00:15:07,040 --> 00:15:10,840 Speaker 1: that want to be a part of it too. Um 237 00:15:10,880 --> 00:15:17,160 Speaker 1: So not really honestly, um Like, if people reach out 238 00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:21,400 Speaker 1: with inter racial couples or other ethnicities, I just let 239 00:15:21,400 --> 00:15:24,920 Speaker 1: them know, like this page is dedicated to the black 240 00:15:25,000 --> 00:15:27,920 Speaker 1: love that exists between black women and black man and 241 00:15:27,960 --> 00:15:32,600 Speaker 1: they're just like okay, Like it's really never any negativity. Honestly, 242 00:15:32,680 --> 00:15:35,160 Speaker 1: for the most part, I can say this space is 243 00:15:35,240 --> 00:15:39,000 Speaker 1: like ninety eight percent positive and that two percent it's 244 00:15:39,080 --> 00:15:41,720 Speaker 1: just like stuff when it comes to me and somebody's 245 00:15:41,800 --> 00:15:45,200 Speaker 1: daughter here and there, Damn girl, you we don't have 246 00:15:45,200 --> 00:15:51,000 Speaker 1: to jump somebody. No no, no, I'm just like I 247 00:15:51,080 --> 00:15:54,720 Speaker 1: really have no like malage towards them, more hate because 248 00:15:54,760 --> 00:16:00,640 Speaker 1: they really inspired me. Like it's just it, it's it 249 00:16:00,800 --> 00:16:03,480 Speaker 1: really is unfortunate to me, and it's sad. And I 250 00:16:03,560 --> 00:16:06,440 Speaker 1: hope that one day we do connect again and we 251 00:16:06,520 --> 00:16:10,360 Speaker 1: can like collaborate and do things together because it makes sense. 252 00:16:10,600 --> 00:16:14,480 Speaker 1: Like so I hope that even I hope that met 253 00:16:14,760 --> 00:16:17,320 Speaker 1: them and me and somebody squeer can can all do 254 00:16:17,400 --> 00:16:19,920 Speaker 1: something one day. It would be really dope for our community. Now, 255 00:16:19,960 --> 00:16:22,080 Speaker 1: I really think it's important to because even when I 256 00:16:22,120 --> 00:16:24,040 Speaker 1: was doing my research and you, like, when I saw 257 00:16:24,080 --> 00:16:25,920 Speaker 1: your name, I saw the other two. So it's like, 258 00:16:26,960 --> 00:16:30,080 Speaker 1: it is very unfortunate that three platforms that are are 259 00:16:30,200 --> 00:16:33,680 Speaker 1: geared towards positivity within those communities can't come together off 260 00:16:33,720 --> 00:16:38,320 Speaker 1: of something that's like if a emotion, you know, yeah, 261 00:16:38,440 --> 00:16:41,640 Speaker 1: and it's awful of love and it's all love over here. 262 00:16:41,640 --> 00:16:43,600 Speaker 1: If they are like they want to reach out to 263 00:16:43,600 --> 00:16:48,480 Speaker 1: me at any time while we're scoping to any they 264 00:16:48,560 --> 00:16:50,120 Speaker 1: reach out to you, because I really think that what 265 00:16:50,200 --> 00:16:53,080 Speaker 1: y'all doing, and just like I mean and then said, 266 00:16:53,160 --> 00:16:56,160 Speaker 1: that's your pair like me, somebody's son need somebody daughter, 267 00:16:56,320 --> 00:16:59,960 Speaker 1: Like come on right, like we could be a power. 268 00:17:00,000 --> 00:17:05,440 Speaker 1: We're duop. This is the year of positivity. So exactly 269 00:17:05,480 --> 00:17:07,639 Speaker 1: that's what I'm like, I don't try to focus on 270 00:17:07,680 --> 00:17:11,000 Speaker 1: the negative stuff and just keep pushing forth because obviously 271 00:17:11,040 --> 00:17:15,320 Speaker 1: I am touching people and inspiring people, and obviously the 272 00:17:15,440 --> 00:17:18,800 Speaker 1: space is needed. So I'm just gonna keep going forth. 273 00:17:18,920 --> 00:17:22,480 Speaker 1: And what's meant to be will happen. I'm curious and 274 00:17:22,560 --> 00:17:25,800 Speaker 1: the concept of love during a social media error. What 275 00:17:25,880 --> 00:17:30,880 Speaker 1: are your thoughts and relationship though? I think the idea 276 00:17:31,000 --> 00:17:36,479 Speaker 1: of relationship goals is it shouldn't be, which is kind 277 00:17:36,520 --> 00:17:38,399 Speaker 1: of crazy because I feel like that's what, in a 278 00:17:38,480 --> 00:17:40,480 Speaker 1: sense of my page has become. But I don't want 279 00:17:40,520 --> 00:17:43,440 Speaker 1: it to just be a space of relationship goals, because 280 00:17:43,960 --> 00:17:48,440 Speaker 1: everybody's relationship is different and what works for what works 281 00:17:48,480 --> 00:17:51,760 Speaker 1: for somebody may not work for me or the other person, 282 00:17:51,840 --> 00:17:54,600 Speaker 1: the next person. So I think what I've learned in 283 00:17:55,359 --> 00:17:59,159 Speaker 1: making this page and running this page is to just admire, 284 00:18:00,080 --> 00:18:04,080 Speaker 1: not compare, and like take on whatever is in this 285 00:18:04,200 --> 00:18:07,840 Speaker 1: picture or whatever this person relationship is talking about, because 286 00:18:07,920 --> 00:18:11,560 Speaker 1: what works for them may not work for me. Why 287 00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:17,160 Speaker 1: do you think black love is so special? M that's 288 00:18:17,200 --> 00:18:19,240 Speaker 1: such a loaded question. I know I was when I 289 00:18:19,280 --> 00:18:22,040 Speaker 1: was thinking about these questions, and I'm like, I don't know, 290 00:18:22,080 --> 00:18:24,720 Speaker 1: it's just something about black love, like it's just the 291 00:18:24,760 --> 00:18:28,640 Speaker 1: most beautiful thing ever. And maybe because I'm a black woman. Yeah, 292 00:18:28,800 --> 00:18:32,439 Speaker 1: I think that's exactly why, Like it's so special because 293 00:18:32,440 --> 00:18:35,840 Speaker 1: we're black people, Like, of course it's gonna restonate with us. 294 00:18:35,880 --> 00:18:38,680 Speaker 1: It's love of self. It's love of your community. Like 295 00:18:39,800 --> 00:18:42,240 Speaker 1: I feel like that's like vibrating on the high is 296 00:18:42,359 --> 00:18:45,800 Speaker 1: frequency when you love yourself. And I don't mean that 297 00:18:45,880 --> 00:18:49,840 Speaker 1: to like knock anybody else or what have you, because, 298 00:18:50,680 --> 00:18:52,359 Speaker 1: like I said, what works for somebody else may not 299 00:18:52,400 --> 00:18:54,600 Speaker 1: work for me. And I accept what works for something else. 300 00:18:54,720 --> 00:18:57,760 Speaker 1: But for me, I love black love and everything about 301 00:18:57,800 --> 00:19:01,920 Speaker 1: it and us And at least what does black love 302 00:19:02,000 --> 00:19:08,960 Speaker 1: mean to you? Black love to me because that is 303 00:19:09,080 --> 00:19:15,120 Speaker 1: love of self, love of your community. It is an 304 00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:19,120 Speaker 1: understanding that no one else can have because no one 305 00:19:19,160 --> 00:19:23,280 Speaker 1: else understands what it is to be in a black body. Yeah, 306 00:19:23,359 --> 00:19:26,800 Speaker 1: besides a black man or black woman. Yeah, nobody else 307 00:19:26,880 --> 00:19:32,240 Speaker 1: can really understand us and know us to a level 308 00:19:32,400 --> 00:19:35,800 Speaker 1: of you can know us without us even having to speak, 309 00:19:35,880 --> 00:19:40,040 Speaker 1: and no, we connect and that just that it's about 310 00:19:40,040 --> 00:19:43,760 Speaker 1: a divine connection and I feel like I can only 311 00:19:43,800 --> 00:19:48,480 Speaker 1: achieve that with the black man personally for me. Now, 312 00:19:48,520 --> 00:19:51,600 Speaker 1: if people want to submit their pages of them and 313 00:19:51,720 --> 00:19:55,800 Speaker 1: somebody's son, how would they go about doing it? Um? 314 00:19:55,840 --> 00:19:59,679 Speaker 1: There is a submission highlights on my page that goes 315 00:20:00,000 --> 00:20:06,520 Speaker 1: you all of the guidelines. It's highlighted submission, but you 316 00:20:07,040 --> 00:20:12,440 Speaker 1: follow the page and just DM high quality Soto and 317 00:20:12,520 --> 00:20:14,600 Speaker 1: just be patient with me and wait for me to 318 00:20:14,640 --> 00:20:17,360 Speaker 1: post it, because I do run this page by myself 319 00:20:17,920 --> 00:20:21,600 Speaker 1: and I get so many submissions every day, so just 320 00:20:21,680 --> 00:20:24,479 Speaker 1: be patient. Well, I want to think my guests, we're 321 00:20:24,520 --> 00:20:26,480 Speaker 1: taking the time and to spoke to me. I'm really 322 00:20:26,520 --> 00:20:28,679 Speaker 1: excited about this, and the fact that she was anonymous 323 00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:33,000 Speaker 1: made my job a little easier. But I love what 324 00:20:33,040 --> 00:20:35,800 Speaker 1: you're doing. I think that's what you're promoting on your platform, 325 00:20:35,840 --> 00:20:39,080 Speaker 1: and positivity and the images that you're portraying with black 326 00:20:39,119 --> 00:20:41,600 Speaker 1: love is just so beautiful. So thank you for creating 327 00:20:41,600 --> 00:20:45,119 Speaker 1: something so dope and giving girls like me and everybody 328 00:20:45,160 --> 00:20:48,119 Speaker 1: else is listening to this does something look forward to. 329 00:20:50,040 --> 00:20:54,440 Speaker 1: Thank you guys for supporting me, because this page will 330 00:20:54,480 --> 00:20:58,720 Speaker 1: not exist without the support and love within my community. 331 00:20:58,880 --> 00:21:02,680 Speaker 1: And I just have to out my followers out all 332 00:21:02,680 --> 00:21:06,080 Speaker 1: the time because really would not exist without you guys. 333 00:21:06,520 --> 00:21:10,240 Speaker 1: So thank you for rocking with me and supporting me 334 00:21:11,200 --> 00:21:13,560 Speaker 1: and just continuing to grow. Wait, do your parents know 335 00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:16,680 Speaker 1: about this age? What did they say? I'm just curious 336 00:21:17,680 --> 00:21:22,680 Speaker 1: they I've actually I've posted them before. I have posted 337 00:21:22,800 --> 00:21:27,800 Speaker 1: before so and they love it. I actually somebody asked me. 338 00:21:27,880 --> 00:21:30,480 Speaker 1: This was another question I got. Have I ever posted myself? 339 00:21:30,560 --> 00:21:33,879 Speaker 1: And no, I've never posted myself, but I mean, they 340 00:21:33,880 --> 00:21:39,359 Speaker 1: wouldn't know them, they wouldn't know. But I think that 341 00:21:40,160 --> 00:21:43,600 Speaker 1: if I was to ever break my anonymity, it would 342 00:21:43,600 --> 00:21:46,399 Speaker 1: probably be posting me and somebody stud okay at the 343 00:21:46,440 --> 00:21:50,040 Speaker 1: wedding child, right, what do you want to be? I'm 344 00:21:50,080 --> 00:21:51,920 Speaker 1: just curious, why did you want to be a nonmous 345 00:21:52,000 --> 00:21:54,200 Speaker 1: on your page? Because your page is so positive and 346 00:21:54,280 --> 00:22:00,480 Speaker 1: it's like it's growing. I feel like it's not about me, 347 00:22:00,920 --> 00:22:04,720 Speaker 1: and then just feel like people get so caught up 348 00:22:04,840 --> 00:22:09,400 Speaker 1: in the height of social media nowadays. I just wanted 349 00:22:09,440 --> 00:22:14,440 Speaker 1: to like, let myself be something and this be something 350 00:22:14,480 --> 00:22:17,480 Speaker 1: as well, Like it's not about me, it's about my 351 00:22:17,560 --> 00:22:23,560 Speaker 1: community and love within my community. And that's really the 352 00:22:23,560 --> 00:22:27,480 Speaker 1: main reason I wanted to be anonymous. You guys be 353 00:22:27,520 --> 00:22:29,119 Speaker 1: able to look up because if you get married, we're 354 00:22:29,119 --> 00:22:34,159 Speaker 1: gonna see that picture. But thank you so much. If 355 00:22:34,160 --> 00:22:36,480 Speaker 1: you have any questions comments, because you want to connect 356 00:22:36,520 --> 00:22:39,719 Speaker 1: with my listener, please make sure my guests please make 357 00:22:39,720 --> 00:22:42,719 Speaker 1: sure to follow her at me and Somebody's son and 358 00:22:43,280 --> 00:22:47,480 Speaker 1: underscore score And until next time, guys. Later