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Speaker 2: Yes, because ghosts can't talk back, that's true.

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Speaker 1: This comes from Aptlete Mysterious cod thirty two fifty five,

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Speaker 1: who says I forty six male, have two children, Fia

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Speaker 1: thirteen female and Kale ten males. Kising names the a

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Speaker 1: e Lal Kale, Kyle al Kale.

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Speaker 2: I'm going with Kale.

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Speaker 1: Their mom passed away five years ago in a car crash.

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Speaker 1: We had been married at the time, but only legally.

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Speaker 1: For the last three years of our life. We were

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Speaker 1: pretending to still be together, and we stayed married, but

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Speaker 1: it was all pretending for the kids. We did not

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Speaker 1: want to divorce for our kid's sake. Both of us

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Speaker 1: come from divorced families and what I consider broken homes

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Speaker 1: didn't want that for our kids. We feared we couldn't

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Speaker 1: do better, and a result was us hating each other.

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Speaker 1: It ran deep too. I regret that now the last

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Speaker 1: words we exchanged were not kind. Our kids deserve better

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Speaker 1: than that, better than having parents who hated each other.

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Speaker 1: Because we were so afraid to ooh wow. So after

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Speaker 1: kids knew they were both loved by both parents and

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Speaker 1: were not burdened by the issues we've had. Their mom

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Speaker 1: and dad both loved them. I truly believe their mom's

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Speaker 2: For them in them. That's beautiful at least OP can

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Speaker 2: admit that even though there was like a lot of

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Speaker 1: Relationship, exactly, he's growing and learning from this like tragic event,

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Speaker 1: and they both deserve to know that love. That's what

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Speaker 1: I was focused on. So I saved everything of hers

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Speaker 1: for them. It's all stored safely.

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Speaker 2: For them one day.

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Speaker 1: I kind of like that, and a couple of years

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Speaker 2: Of the house.

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Speaker 1: The rest are either in their room or stored for

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Speaker 1: them with the rest of their stuff. My kids love

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Speaker 1: Very close relationship with the three siblings. She spoke to

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Speaker 1: this is my children's home above all, and I make

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Speaker 1: sure it always feels that way. I love that approach.

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Speaker 1: I think is trying really hard to make sure that

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Speaker 2: Which is I see no a holary so far. I

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Speaker 2: see no a holary. I see great parenting, zero a holary,

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Speaker 2: zero Hillary, except maybe the a holary of sticking together

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Speaker 2: when you maybe should divorce. Yeah, yeah, that was maybe

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Speaker 2: more of just like a bad situation all. Yeah, because

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Speaker 2: it was done for very good reasons, which I would

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Speaker 2: argue in this case. Yeah, but so is murder. But

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Speaker 2: So bad bad thing, and you really served me for

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Speaker 1: Then when I met my wife, I remarried last year,

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Speaker 1: so this is the new wife now. I told her

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Speaker 2: Who cares? Who cares? Not in a relationship with you.

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Speaker 1: Correct, and they're maybe speaking on behalf of my wife

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Speaker 1: and she's not open. I'm still figuring that out now.

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Speaker 1: They're staying with us this weekend, and during a dinner

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Speaker 2: Mom, like trying to erase their their mom. To ask

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Speaker 1: My kids said they like having photos of their mom

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Speaker 2: Did you ever stop to consider that, Oh, you're making

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Speaker 1: And that's when I stepped in and shut them down,

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Speaker 2: Yeah, this is last time I checked.

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Speaker 1: This is my house, my house, my rules. You can

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Speaker 1: Yeah, let's do that. I told them it did not

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Speaker 2: If we forgot everyone that was dead, we wouldn't have history.

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Speaker 2: I feel like were the bar is on the floor? Yes,

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Speaker 1: They told me they should be allowed to question things

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Speaker 2: So am I the a whole note? Because I want

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Speaker 2: Tell I do not think the A hole at all.

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Speaker 2: And why I mean this is you're trying to remove history.

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Speaker 2: You're trying to remove oh, he's kids mom from their

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Speaker 1: Yes, And these are these poor kids, like the trauma

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Speaker 1: They're so old they should know have lived life experiences

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Speaker 2: Yeah. So in conclusion, Opie, you are not the A hole. No,

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Speaker 2: but your new girlfriend or whatnot, But your new wife's

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Speaker 1: And also, uh, OPI had a little line in there,

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Speaker 2: That's I honestly was thinking a little bit of that.

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Speaker 2: But I don't think you can put blame on her.

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Speaker 2: I don't think we have any evidence.

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Speaker 1: We don't have any evident any of it, he said.

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Speaker 1: He I believe Opie said, he was trying to, like

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Speaker 2: What would you do in this situation? Please help me?

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Speaker 2: I really don't know what to do. PS. English is

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Speaker 1: So very curious what everyone in the comments has to say. So,

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Speaker 1: but basically like he was always hinting about marriage, not

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Speaker 2: That's what I was getting from it. Felt it felt

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Speaker 2: like this whole story is like, Oh, you're gonna make

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Speaker 1: Yes, Like why drop all of these hints over these

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Speaker 2: I just want to make this a commitment. But I

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Speaker 1: No, no, no, I I personally agree, but like to

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Speaker 2: Opie's husband. I'm sorry, yes, Opie's husband.

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Speaker 1: So like I'm almost like just like keeping consistent and

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Speaker 2: It sounds than this one. Basically, Ope thought we're going

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Speaker 2: have kids and then get married. Yes, so it's just

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Speaker 2: an order and order thing. Then why not swap them?

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Speaker 2: And also so like another old so like, uh, get

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Speaker 2: But we can just pop out a baby now. Court

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Speaker 2: That's good. That's smart. What are we talking about? Yeah,

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Speaker 2: that actually is a great solve. Court marriage, Baby's big marriage.

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Speaker 2: I feel like he's like, there's a secret.

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Speaker 2: I don't know why. I know he was how do

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Speaker 1: First off, people have children outside of being married, right, well, yeah,

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Speaker 1: I think I figured it out. The reason I'm feeling

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Speaker 1: He's like, I'll give you marriage after you give me kids.

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Speaker 1: She could sue for child support, but probably a divorce.

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Speaker 1: It's a lot easier to go after more assets, right,

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Speaker 2: Versus like this person is good enough. So it's a

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Speaker 1: Yeah, So if he's like dangling the carrot and then

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Speaker 1: And now the worst case scenario is she gets child support,

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Speaker 1: I'm kind of like that makes sense to me, dude,

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Speaker 1: when you're off the SELSA, the.

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Speaker 2: Crazy. I don't know what do you all think? I

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Speaker 2: Do you agree with John's conspiracy theory? Do you think

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Speaker 2: totally normal and it's first comes babies, then comes marriage.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, And to be clear with Op, hopefully you're watching

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Speaker 1: it since you're you're you're in our sublett.

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Speaker 2: This is our s Okayop. So this is just a

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Speaker 2: few I forget. This is such a good story, you know,

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Speaker 2: I know. So yeah, there's okay, shit, all right, wait

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Speaker 2: we got this. We're not saying this is one hundred

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Speaker 2: that's a conspiracy theory to be completely normal, but just

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Speaker 2: you know, be aware.

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Speaker 1: Yes, to sit down, like actually, I think you have

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Speaker 2: Experience.

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Speaker 1: You need to sit down and clear it up, like

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Speaker 2: Could you break that down for me? Could you help

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Speaker 2: me understand? What do you imagine? Like how do you

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Speaker 2: imagine things going? Yeah? I like I like the if

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Speaker 2: the court room marriage.

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Speaker 1: Court room marriage now just for legality, get it on paper,

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Speaker 1: then have a big celebration when you can say for

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Speaker 1: it and bring all your friends that.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, I like that. I liked it a lot. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: but you know what, I hope you like what the show?

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Speaker 2: Oh I love this show. Yeah, because if you love us,

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Speaker 2: This is an episode from Deep within the Archives. Time

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Speaker 2: for okop relash. We told lazy group member that we

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Speaker 2: to fail. That's right, I'm gonna force you to fail. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: force feed you this freakin f I just finished a

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Speaker 2: big group project worth about thirty percent of our total grade.

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Speaker 2: The groups were selected for us, so I didn't know

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Speaker 2: anyone beforehand. So like any other group project, there's always

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Speaker 2: a slacker who just piggybacks off everyone else's work. Yep.

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Speaker 2: The project spanned the entire length of the term, and

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Speaker 2: him it's all good man, We'll just cover your part

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Speaker 2: in the demo. Okay, agrees, as he won't have to

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Speaker 2: do shit once again. Here's the kicker. In the requirements

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Speaker 2: Oh oh, clearly this guy didn't read the rubric, so

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Speaker 2: he thinks he's getting a good deal. If you didn't

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Speaker 2: Malicious sweete Sweet Justice. Here's the rubric, yo,