Speaker 1: Watch up and welcome back to another episode and no
Speaker 1: Seillers podcast with your host now funk that with your
Speaker 1: low classes Malone, no ceilings, g L Peter and his
Speaker 1: spar is not like usually My big brother resident host
Speaker 1: uh and podcaster extraordinary originator at his inception from the West,
Speaker 1: My big brother big still food Gash the chronicles is here,
Speaker 1: um pete something you sent me on d M just
Speaker 1: a second ago. You know this was like a couple
Speaker 1: of days ago where the girl where oh boy was
Speaker 1: kicking the girl out of the car. Yes, so let
Speaker 1: me tell you what happened. Still, So the recording took
Speaker 1: place inside of a Dodge Challenger and when the footage started,
Speaker 1: it was a girl just saying, you just lay it fun.
Speaker 1: You just gonna kick me outcause you ain't get no pussy.
Speaker 1: He's like, Hell, yeah, you ain't. I ain't sunk with y'all.
Speaker 1: Take to the airport now, fil me'all flew y'all here.
Speaker 1: You don't give me no pussy. So they're pulling up
Speaker 1: to the terminal and uh, he's like, gonna get the
Speaker 1: funk out of the car. Get out the car. She
Speaker 1: kind of man lane lane mass nigger just send me
Speaker 1: my just testing my confirmation number. He was like, I
Speaker 1: canceled that flight. He's getting out the car giving her back,
Speaker 1: Like you cancel the flight. Yeah, you can fill yourself
Speaker 1: on all this because you're like, yeah, you're playing with
Speaker 1: the cheeks. You playing with the cheeks. And what I
Speaker 1: was able to get was he was he flew her
Speaker 1: to a town, to either his town or to some
Speaker 1: vacation place, and when they decided, like when she got there,
Speaker 1: she decided she was not going to give him no vagina,
Speaker 1: and at that point he wasn't going for it. He
Speaker 1: turned around a ticket to the airport or either the
Speaker 1: next day he took her to the airport and cancer
Speaker 1: the plane ticket and left it up to her to
Speaker 1: get home. Yes, what do you think step well, see see,
Speaker 1: I trust your wisdom in this as man who's been
Speaker 1: married for years. What do you think about that? Well?
Speaker 1: I have two different points off you. First of all, um,
Speaker 1: that was pretty shadow of him just to bring her out,
Speaker 1: to fly her out with the intenda just having sex
Speaker 1: with her, right show. But because she was such a
Speaker 1: charming personality. Oh don't listen, look, let me click, Because
Speaker 1: I got to two points of this right, I don't
Speaker 1: know if i'd win as far as canceling her flights.
Speaker 1: I'm not mad at him for taking her back home,
Speaker 1: because if that was his main intention, just to give
Speaker 1: him some pussing, he should have took her back to
Speaker 1: the airport. But I don't know if I had wanted
Speaker 1: cancel flights and stuff like that. You know, because the thing,
Speaker 1: you know, he brought her up there, He's utterly responsible
Speaker 1: to get her back home in a correct way of speaking,
Speaker 1: you see what I'm saying. No, I also disagree because
Speaker 1: he had a responsibility. Let me finish my let me
Speaker 1: finish my point. But she was an idiot for bringing
Speaker 1: her ass out of town without no backup plan or
Speaker 1: plan in mind in case this dude trip, because she
Speaker 1: knew she wouldn't give him no pussy before she went
Speaker 1: out there. She knew that would you. So so let
Speaker 1: me ask you something now, this version is still no.
Speaker 1: Have you ever flew a woman somewhere right when you
Speaker 1: was a single or he was too young? Yeah, I've
Speaker 1: been married a long time. Seven when I was close enough.
Speaker 1: Because you wasn't always married. It was a time in
Speaker 1: your adulthood. It was on this small window. Well, I
Speaker 1: just did. I gotta remember, see, I didn't just beat
Speaker 1: Maria and marry her the second day I met her.
Speaker 1: We went to according period. We were a boyfriend and
Speaker 1: girlfriend for a long time. So when I was single,
Speaker 1: I'll tell you this, I was always a gentleman if
Speaker 1: a girl didn't want to co operated to do this.
Speaker 1: I didn't never kick nobody out of the car, didn't
Speaker 1: never do no weird ship like that. I just didn't
Speaker 1: funk with him. So let me ask you a question
Speaker 1: with your wisdom. Now, would you fly a woman? Do
Speaker 1: you think it's wise? Why else would a man be
Speaker 1: flying you out of state? Well, you know, she probably
Speaker 1: in this case, I think she probably try to run
Speaker 1: one over on this guy. She probably wanted to go
Speaker 1: out there and travel. She wanted to travel. Ain't nobody
Speaker 1: could turn down a free trip. Though she could have
Speaker 1: came out here and saw some other friends and used
Speaker 1: him to get her audio. Right, So I'm not mad
Speaker 1: at him for sending her home. I'm not mad him
Speaker 1: for sending her home. And in a way, it was
Speaker 1: her responsibility to make sure she got home because she
Speaker 1: came b it just depending on somebody else, and she
Speaker 1: knew she wouldn't go get that man no draws before
Speaker 1: she came out here. Women know when they can get
Speaker 1: somebody to pussy. When the first second woman meets you,
Speaker 1: she knows if she's gonna have sex. She's just gonna
Speaker 1: play a little game kind of you did what I'm saying.
Speaker 1: I think they all play that game kind of where
Speaker 1: they want to make if a girl really likes you, dog,
Speaker 1: she's gonna try to make you wait for the trend
Speaker 1: because she don't want you to look at her like
Speaker 1: in the hole? Am I right, Peter? A lot of women,
Speaker 1: not everybody, Because you can have a you can have
Speaker 1: a long, extensive relationship with a girl and get you
Speaker 1: some pussy the first night. She might have just been
Speaker 1: feeling you like that. That may not be your normal
Speaker 1: get down. But for the most part, a woman knows
Speaker 1: if they if they are going to partake upon a
Speaker 1: sexual act with you for the first time they meet you,
Speaker 1: within the first thirty seconds. Why would you board a
Speaker 1: flight to somebody you don't really know without believing that
Speaker 1: that's what they I had this conversation on Van Lake
Speaker 1: this podcast right Higher Learning, and I was talking to
Speaker 1: his co host, a lovely lady Brandy was there. Was funny,
Speaker 1: but she was saying to me how women should have
Speaker 1: the same freedom of sexual liberation that they believe a
Speaker 1: man has. Right where it's like, okay, well, if I
Speaker 1: want to just sleep with a man, nobody should judge
Speaker 1: me for it. And I'm like, well, the reality is
Speaker 1: you do have the freedom of it, right, But you're
Speaker 1: worried about people judging you. That's the problem. You gotta
Speaker 1: just like I'm a crip. I'm not worried about what
Speaker 1: you think of crips. So I'm gonna be a crip.
Speaker 1: Probably in this particular situation. If when a man and
Speaker 1: a woman meet each other ninety nine times out of
Speaker 1: a hundred probably nine ninety nine out of ten thousand,
Speaker 1: probably nine million, nine hundred and ninety nine, nine million,
Speaker 1: nine hundred and ninety nine thousand, nine hundred ninety nine
Speaker 1: times out of a hundred million or ten million, whatever
Speaker 1: that number was, right, if a man sees you, or
Speaker 1: if a man interacting, he wants to have sex with you,
Speaker 1: that's the initial thought. Somebody lying you out of town?
Speaker 1: What else? Why would you think he's flying you out
Speaker 1: of town without this? And it's that I was telling Brandy.
Speaker 1: I was talking to Brandon. I was talking to brandy
Speaker 1: cousin Mika, and they was like, well, maybe he just
Speaker 1: enjoys my company and conversation. I'm like, we can talk
Speaker 1: on the phone. I could talk on the phone. That
Speaker 1: is such bullshit. That is such a treat. That is
Speaker 1: no because, like I said, that woman knew she wasn't
Speaker 1: gonna get that man no pussy when she came out
Speaker 1: of it, when she brought rass out here and with her. Now,
Speaker 1: this is what I would tell her. You knew you
Speaker 1: wouldn't working with that dude like that, so you should
Speaker 1: have never took that trip or or being prepared to
Speaker 1: take your ass on on your way in case he
Speaker 1: started trip. And I think a woman should go out
Speaker 1: of town like that. I think anytime a woman goes
Speaker 1: out of town, especially going to go men that she
Speaker 1: don't know, even if she can want to go, she knew,
Speaker 1: she should already have a backup planing in score. She
Speaker 1: should have money with her. She should have in case
Speaker 1: this dude as a psychopath, she made need to go
Speaker 1: get her a hotel and go get her own flights back.
Speaker 1: She don't know this motherfucker. You should not get on
Speaker 1: a plane. That's a side point. Yeah, that's exactly my
Speaker 1: being responsible as a woman, like you're speaking now almost
Speaker 1: like more so as a father, and I get that,
Speaker 1: and I respect that. And giving advice as you know
Speaker 1: that the dudes and don't of being somewhat intelligent is important.
Speaker 1: This is a matter of principle. Has to deal with
Speaker 1: the delusional worldview that women have where they obsessively overvalue
Speaker 1: themselves and think that they're more important than they really are. Like, well,
Speaker 1: a lot of women don't like take an accountability. To Peter,
Speaker 1: it's always a man slot. We've certainly certainly didn't if
Speaker 1: we didn't cross that ridge. We we built it, if
Speaker 1: we didn't just cross it. So it's like it's like
Speaker 1: the sixth Street Bridge right now, what was going on
Speaker 1: in we're playing on that bridge steel Literally we do
Speaker 1: donuts on that bridge. We're hitting up graffiti. That is
Speaker 1: our that we actually built that bridge. We no Ceilings
Speaker 1: has established women live in the world with no accountability.
Speaker 1: That's our thing. That's literally if we made a T
Speaker 1: shirt that would be the greatest no Ceiling slogo. We
Speaker 1: could almost change the name of the show from a
Speaker 1: reference to ceilings to a reference to accountability. Yes, that's
Speaker 1: how much we dance in that arena that you just
Speaker 1: referred to. It to me, the issue is exactly what
Speaker 1: you just said, Like why why? I mean, like a
Speaker 1: while ago you were grilling me, you kind of about face.
Speaker 1: We have the whole podcast episode about why I'm this single?
Speaker 1: So long as you were like, you don't just like
Speaker 1: the company of a woman, and I was like that
Speaker 1: the worst part. No, I think, No, that's not true.
Speaker 1: I think you can like the company of a woman.
Speaker 1: I just don't think if you're flying somewhere to a
Speaker 1: state to meet up with a guy, the desire is
Speaker 1: just your company for sure. If you guess again, it's
Speaker 1: not impossible. There are some guys that are handicapped and
Speaker 1: a penis don't work. We're getting into that obscure abortion
Speaker 1: justifications outlier territory now. I'm just saying, so, yes, I'm
Speaker 1: totally aware, because people can't help but find those obscure
Speaker 1: you know, singled out silly explanations of really grand ideas.
Speaker 1: What you know, where combatting. So I'm aware of those things.
Speaker 1: I'm just saying, if a guy flies you out of town,
Speaker 1: i'd say a hundred percent. He wants to hit that thing.
Speaker 1: Even though I love Maria to death, I'm my wife
Speaker 1: with all my heart. I wouldn't have been married to
Speaker 1: for thirty some of my years if I didn't put
Speaker 1: I got told her one day when I first met her.
Speaker 1: My main intention was getting pains everything. Whenever a million
Speaker 1: meets a woman the first time, about how about you?
Speaker 1: About no? But that's the thing, though, bro, every man's
Speaker 1: intends to get something. And what happens he is you're
Speaker 1: using mead a woman and you find that you've got
Speaker 1: a lot of stuff in common with them. They become
Speaker 1: a friend, and that's our relationships start. Right With some women,
Speaker 1: it begins and ends with the sixth will he because
Speaker 1: they don't have nothing else to offer you mm hmm yeah.
Speaker 1: The general rule of thumb on this is largely if
Speaker 1: a man is spending an ordinate amount of money for
Speaker 1: a small period of time, let's think it through. You know, Like,
Speaker 1: there's a million places I could take a girl to dinner.
Speaker 1: If I choose the most fucking expensive one and pay
Speaker 1: for a few extra rounds or thirty dollar cocktails, we
Speaker 1: could have eaten. We could have had a steak in
Speaker 1: the Martini any goddamn Well, that's another thing. You know what,
Speaker 1: I think women should be required to do because they
Speaker 1: know this is scientific to bro a woman woman discovered.
Speaker 1: A woman knows if she's going to sleep with you
Speaker 1: the first thirty seconds to one minute after meeting you, right,
Speaker 1: they have the idea in their mind. Don't mean they
Speaker 1: go do it right. Then they may stretch it out
Speaker 1: and make you. Wait. You feel what I'm saying. It's
Speaker 1: like a game with them. But I believe this. I
Speaker 1: believe you take a woman out the dinner and she
Speaker 1: knows for sure. I don't really feel this, dude like
Speaker 1: that she should pay for own meal at night. You
Speaker 1: would think you would think women honorable, but that just not.
Speaker 1: That's not gonna say that she's wrong. Ship. Let me
Speaker 1: ask you something right now. Still, you're not gonna be honest,
Speaker 1: but I'm ask you to be honest. Anyway, if you're
Speaker 1: going to go on vacation with your wife, would take
Speaker 1: her while she's on her period? Yeah? Or would you
Speaker 1: schedule around her administration? But that's my wife. She I'm
Speaker 1: gonna take her. We're going on vacation, were going on vacation.
Speaker 1: It wouldn't matter she was on her ministry site or not,
Speaker 1: because I'm not there just to get some pussy. That's
Speaker 1: my wife. It's a little different. But if she was
Speaker 1: my girlfriend, I would definitely get that trip around her site.
Speaker 1: Thank you. You know it's a difference, though, that's my wife,
Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Obviously three kyears later and
Speaker 1: you know, several years of marriage, you know that's that's
Speaker 1: like that's going to get a cup of coffee together.
Speaker 1: The Yeah, I've been there, done that, so I'm not
Speaker 1: going it's more to our relationship than just that act.
Speaker 1: We actually have good conversation, actually have a lot of
Speaker 1: fun together. Whence while we've been married, still longe. But
Speaker 1: if that's my girlfriend, I'm a young nick out there
Speaker 1: springing and she said, I'll start my period tomorrow. Can
Speaker 1: we go get some tampons? Man? Why the fund you
Speaker 1: didn't tell me that ship before we came out here,
Speaker 1: because I'm thinking about that's the ultimate actor smashes and
Speaker 1: and for man the system. You know you're being romantic.
Speaker 1: You do get the biggest week to king with the
Speaker 1: biggest baby. You can test that motherfucker out and jump
Speaker 1: up down a little bit on it like I'm about
Speaker 1: to wear some ship out and they like this and
Speaker 1: they give you the hand, you know how you go
Speaker 1: to reach it for a girl like this. So maybe
Speaker 1: maybe it's a street ethnic thing. It's an ethic thing.
Speaker 1: I mean, you're asking, why does the in a cross
Speaker 1: section of demographics and the human race, why does the
Speaker 1: most self and self indulgent and entitled the group of
Speaker 1: people not feel a need to somehow not be that way.
Speaker 1: That's ridiculous. Well, I have a situation, right and I
Speaker 1: won't say her name. Does this somebody means you both
Speaker 1: know gen and they gotta show on black effect and everything.
Speaker 1: So we were talking yesterday and she was telling me
Speaker 1: that her and her husband had a conversation. Her husband
Speaker 1: admitted to where he cheated, right, and she was just
Speaker 1: trying to understand it. Like I really appreciate her because
Speaker 1: she was trying to just understand the whole psycholege your
Speaker 1: men right now, this is a pretty nice looking girl.
Speaker 1: She not ugly. She was somebody didn't look as good
Speaker 1: as well, at least in her opinions, and she was ugly,
Speaker 1: you feel what I mean. So she was telling me,
Speaker 1: she said, I know men produce all these sperms. You
Speaker 1: know women have one egg, you know they have one eggs,
Speaker 1: but men have these nine. I was a sperm. It's
Speaker 1: almost like we were just built to breathe. And obviously,
Speaker 1: as you know what that may be. I think man
Speaker 1: up until the point the man is thirty years old. Dude,
Speaker 1: I don't think no man should get married before the
Speaker 1: age of maybe even nine, because when you were young,
Speaker 1: the only thing you have in your mind every minute,
Speaker 1: you notice, every ask if it's if this. You could
Speaker 1: be in the store with two women and you go
Speaker 1: notice the ones that got fat asses or look good.
Speaker 1: You gonna notice the day you die. Though, Yeah, I
Speaker 1: think you know what. No, you you calm down, b
Speaker 1: I think you calmed down at a certain point, and
Speaker 1: I think you calmed down about trying to get them,
Speaker 1: but you never stopped noticing. Oh dude, don't know the
Speaker 1: thing else if you think your wife don't look at
Speaker 1: ni A you got life worked up. Yeah, But I
Speaker 1: just think that it's not the same. Like I get
Speaker 1: it that we would like to make it. People say equal,
Speaker 1: not exactly the same, But I don't even think we're
Speaker 1: equal in that regard, or I think any of those things.
Speaker 1: I think like particularly your partner, right, Like women always
Speaker 1: trying to figure out why do men cheat, and I'm
Speaker 1: telling them it's a personal thing. Like women seem to
Speaker 1: believe it's about them, like if they're not giving you sex, right,
Speaker 1: if they're not, they reduce it down to just this
Speaker 1: physical thing. And I think that's because a lot of
Speaker 1: men mislead them and make them think that it's just
Speaker 1: this physical thing, and it's not. It's really like a
Speaker 1: personal fulfillment, like a value. Like you get a false
Speaker 1: sense of value you and I say false, You get
Speaker 1: a false sense of value by every woman that allows
Speaker 1: you to sleep with them. You really feel like you
Speaker 1: have to be some kind of special person for a
Speaker 1: woman to give you her vadana because of how we
Speaker 1: put this ridiculous worth on vaginarect g um. A lot
Speaker 1: of guys that are serial cheaters. I'm talking about dudes
Speaker 1: and the serial cheaters that just they're not gonna be
Speaker 1: loyal to nobody. They used something some low, self esteemed dog,
Speaker 1: I believe, and they think that them knocking down a
Speaker 1: bunch of broads invalidates them in some way, and that's
Speaker 1: not that's not necessarily true. I've had dudes, right, that
Speaker 1: was my partners, people that I considered friend. And people
Speaker 1: ask me, how can I consider the type of person
Speaker 1: a friend? And I'm like, cause I understand what's deficient
Speaker 1: about him? Somebody me and you both know. Particularly he
Speaker 1: felt like if he slept with the same girls I
Speaker 1: slept with, that makes him as powerful or as valuable,
Speaker 1: whatever the funk that mean? As I am so like,
Speaker 1: huh no, because that's the easiest thing. It'd be harder
Speaker 1: for him to go out and live the life that
Speaker 1: I've lived. It'd be harder for him to survive selling PCP.
Speaker 1: Being a you know, a reputable crypt from seven Street
Speaker 1: to where you don't have to fight and you have
Speaker 1: to come up the hard way, you know, street racing
Speaker 1: and cars going a hundred and fifty sixty miles per
Speaker 1: hour on the street, all the things that make me
Speaker 1: me to the general public, to the public in l
Speaker 1: a right, being a reptable seven Street, being Olivia's son,
Speaker 1: being a street racer, having a low rider as a teenager,
Speaker 1: all of this stuff, going to jail, never telling, having
Speaker 1: to shoot niggas, having to fight niggas, getting jumped, standing
Speaker 1: back up, all of the things that make me, me,
Speaker 1: those are really hard things to sleep with. This broad
Speaker 1: is the easiest thing. So he's like, okay, that makes
Speaker 1: me him if I sleep with this broad because that
Speaker 1: and if you catch what I'm saying, that's the easiest
Speaker 1: thing to do out of all of this stuff. It's
Speaker 1: it's tant amount like from a value standpoint, it's tant
Speaker 1: amount to seeing like, Okay, you bought a brand new
Speaker 1: whatever Mercedes as six hundred may Box series off the
Speaker 1: lot or whatever the hell, and you have a huge,
Speaker 1: you know, financial empire and all this ship and whatever.
Speaker 1: You just wouldn't bought it because it was Tuesday. Another
Speaker 1: guy sees you and buys the same car and thinks, well,
Speaker 1: I'm at the same level as that guy, and he's
Speaker 1: financed the ship out of it and whatever. He just
Speaker 1: happens to know, my car brand and your car brand
Speaker 1: are the same, Thus we're the same. You. You get
Speaker 1: it right here. You spot on me and cheek to
Speaker 1: make themselves feel good. I tell I told my sisters,
Speaker 1: I told home girls, I said, you gotta understand it's
Speaker 1: not about you. But this goes back into that sends
Speaker 1: me Pe talk about all the time. Accountability. That's the
Speaker 1: only time they want to be accountable when when they're
Speaker 1: being cheated on. Like I've heard women, that's the time,
Speaker 1: what did I do wrong? That's the only time they're
Speaker 1: ever blaming their selves for anything in life, or the
Speaker 1: one the one time out of everything that happens that
Speaker 1: they shouldn't blame themselves. That's the one time they're gonna
Speaker 1: blame themselves. What did I do? What? What? What? I
Speaker 1: wasn't good enough that I didn't give him enough sex,
Speaker 1: I didn't suck his penis, I didn't do any of
Speaker 1: these things, you know, blah blah blah. It's like this
Speaker 1: is the one time. It's not all the other times
Speaker 1: it could have been about you. The reason he's staying
Speaker 1: out late at night without sleeping nobody because you tripping.
Speaker 1: The reason he's eating this, whatever he's doing, those are
Speaker 1: your faults. Men. Cheating is never the woman's fault. It's
Speaker 1: never the woman's fault. Even like I got a army
Speaker 1: who who feel like his girl sometimes be stepping out,
Speaker 1: so when he feels like she's mistreating him, he ago
Speaker 1: gets them vagina, and I explained to him, like the
Speaker 1: reason you do that is because you feel bad about
Speaker 1: her doing it. I don't be tripping. Yes you do.
Speaker 1: You don't know it, but this is your your repair
Speaker 1: mechanism to your ego, So you and she may not
Speaker 1: be doing it. It may be him. If you ever
Speaker 1: know this dog motherfucker they cheat, it's always accusing their spouse,
Speaker 1: so they're significantly doing it doing it. Here's here's the
Speaker 1: thing though, with that, there's a small intricacy. If it
Speaker 1: was about her, he would cheat and tell her. He
Speaker 1: probably doesn't. He keeps it to himself to not get
Speaker 1: caught because it's about him. And I was trying to
Speaker 1: tell him because he feels like, well, I don't really
Speaker 1: complain to her often about what she's doing. I'm saying
Speaker 1: you probably need to have it here because what you're
Speaker 1: doing is still the same thing you're You're you're repairing
Speaker 1: your ego. By saying you still out value because some
Speaker 1: other girl wants to suck your penis or give you
Speaker 1: some vagina. Yeah, you try to balance and no, I'm
Speaker 1: I'm still in demand in the marketplace, so I'm not antiquated.
Speaker 1: This is an antiquated dick, dammit, exactly, I'm I'm prime
Speaker 1: candidate right now, you feel me. I'm great a b
Speaker 1: So how men use women, right, is a very unique
Speaker 1: type of tool. So that's what I'm saying. I don't
Speaker 1: get how you could think somebody would fly you out
Speaker 1: of town and the one thing for sure you would
Speaker 1: have to do, at the bare minimum is give that
Speaker 1: man some vagina. I mean, in all honesty, you could
Speaker 1: probably be an ornary, miserable bitch. But if you bust
Speaker 1: it open at the end of the day and you're
Speaker 1: there for three days, give a fuck. Okay, gee, I
Speaker 1: want to read a few things now, either from so
Speaker 1: called experts. Right now. This is from a woman that's
Speaker 1: supposedly an expert. Name she's a PhD. Christine over Street.
Speaker 1: She's a PhD and supposed to be an expert in
Speaker 1: this type of manner. Right, Yeah, So what she says,
Speaker 1: nine of reasons mean cheating relationships. They're looking for a
Speaker 1: way out is the number one reason? Right, She's wrong?
Speaker 1: Oh no, not now, this is her right. They're looking
Speaker 1: for connection is number two. Number three, they have sociopathic
Speaker 1: or narcissistic traits. Now that could be possible. That could
Speaker 1: be possible. No, I don't believe that's a very vague.
Speaker 1: I think I think number two so far. I agree.
Speaker 1: Sometimes men do look for connections. Yeah, I do think that.
Speaker 1: Let's do this. Let's go over each one of these individuals.
Speaker 1: I want to go into detail. Have a conversation that
Speaker 1: you said, right. Her name is Dr. Let me go
Speaker 1: back at the top. Her name is Dr Christie Overstreet. Okay,
Speaker 1: Dr okay. So for her number one thing, she says,
Speaker 1: they're looking for a way out. What she said was this,
Speaker 1: Sometimes when men cheat is because they are trying to
Speaker 1: get out of a relationship, and that is the first step.
Speaker 1: And this has come from my relationship therapist, Kim Paige.
Speaker 1: Right now, all the people of all genders might do
Speaker 1: cheat for this reason. Burgo explains that men may be
Speaker 1: less likely to have difficult conversations with their partner about
Speaker 1: their own easy relationship if they're looking for a way out,
Speaker 1: they may see cheating as a means to the meaning
Speaker 1: they're sort of done with their marriage or relationship. Instead
Speaker 1: of having that difficult conversation, they're just having a fair
Speaker 1: I'm curious if these people aren't even been the relationship.
Speaker 1: That's the dumb and should've heard in my life, because
Speaker 1: that's a woman trying to tell you why a man
Speaker 1: and you know what's funny, that's the problem. I've noticed
Speaker 1: something else. Now this could just be me. I've always
Speaker 1: paid way more attention to women then women pay attention
Speaker 1: to men. Like that's w I can tell you a
Speaker 1: bel a mill away like I pay attention to women. Women. See,
Speaker 1: the reason men don't understand women is because women are
Speaker 1: not understandable exactly. There's no logistics to it. It's it's
Speaker 1: more like it is more emotional and hormonal and fluid,
Speaker 1: and and and that day. I mean because again always
Speaker 1: say this, and it's a joke that I hear women
Speaker 1: get upset about it, but it's true, Like and I
Speaker 1: wish they would just internalize this and really think about it.
Speaker 1: You have to be at war with yourself to want
Speaker 1: to wear makeup constantly. You get what I'm saying. It
Speaker 1: sounds crazy because it's such a mainstay in society, right,
Speaker 1: but if you really think about it, to feel like
Speaker 1: you need to alter your face, not groom your face, right, Okay,
Speaker 1: I get it. If you feel like your eyelashes is wild,
Speaker 1: but you feel like your skin tone is wild, you
Speaker 1: feel like you don't like your cheek, but they create
Speaker 1: contract that and and again like my major problem would
Speaker 1: make up is really two parts foundation and the consiler
Speaker 1: like that is the worst. But overall, they are at
Speaker 1: constant war with themselves. They're always judging themselves. They're always
Speaker 1: women look in the mirror so much what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: So it's like they're always at war with themselves. So
Speaker 1: when women comment on certain things like this, even the doctors,
Speaker 1: I'm skeptical because they'll let a man lie to them,
Speaker 1: see me and a lot of women and tell you
Speaker 1: the truth, like your homies to tell you the woman
Speaker 1: a lot tell you the truth. Yeah, where you guys
Speaker 1: want to go to? Um, let's go to the number
Speaker 1: two now. And this is real funny to me. They're
Speaker 1: looking for a connection. I agree with that. No, this
Speaker 1: is what she says. Despite what gender norms may tell
Speaker 1: us about men, seeing doesn't always happen for purely physical reasons.
Speaker 1: If they're feeling unseen or disconnected from their partner, those
Speaker 1: things hurt and make us go into a zone where
Speaker 1: we protect ourselves. And when this happens a lot of
Speaker 1: the time, the impults to think about sex with other
Speaker 1: people goes up significantly, and generally speaking, men are much
Speaker 1: less likely to have a good social support system as
Speaker 1: far as close male friends. In those instances, the compassionate
Speaker 1: support from another woman in his life may be very welcome.
Speaker 1: It often starts the friendship, maybe a woman co worker
Speaker 1: who starts to make him feel better about himself, and
Speaker 1: some of emotional connection forms. She sucked it up because
Speaker 1: I agree. I think men do cheap for connection. I
Speaker 1: do sometimes think they do. I don't quite know the
Speaker 1: connection they're looking for, but I've listened to enough men
Speaker 1: talk about how somebody else makes them feel. See, I
Speaker 1: think she's talking about. I think people have affairs for
Speaker 1: that reason, which a little bit differently just having sex up.
Speaker 1: And that's what I think she's talking about. She's not
Speaker 1: talking about just she she's talking about like white people
Speaker 1: have affairs. I don't think that's I think that's about
Speaker 1: that's right important word to to establish the separation between
Speaker 1: just cheating and having an affair, because I agree, because
Speaker 1: it's a difference, you know. I think if a guy
Speaker 1: feels a connection with somebody, he's going out having coffee
Speaker 1: with her, he's sneaking off on the movies and stuff,
Speaker 1: but he's actually in the whole outside relationship, whereas getting
Speaker 1: some pussy is just transactional. That's the one thing that's
Speaker 1: a transactional thing to where I'm gonna get this pussy,
Speaker 1: beat this pussy up for ten fifteen minutes, and if
Speaker 1: I kicks you on a rebound and getting cool. If
Speaker 1: I don't cool, I'm gonna go see my other bitchally
Speaker 1: think married me and funk up too much with that,
Speaker 1: especially the one who planned to stay married. I think
Speaker 1: forgive me for saying this sugar free if you listen
Speaker 1: to this podcast, I apologize, But I think if you're
Speaker 1: a married man and you feel like you just need
Speaker 1: to feel special about yourself and cheating is your goal,
Speaker 1: you should probably pay a postitute, get your condom, pay
Speaker 1: of prostitute. I think that is the smartest decision you
Speaker 1: can make, because that you have to bust your fucking self.
Speaker 1: That's a that's the best decision you can make. Either
Speaker 1: which way, we'll probably a better decision to make them
Speaker 1: the marriage geez, I'm gonna tell you something as crazy
Speaker 1: this song, I agree with you, And then my thing
Speaker 1: is this and this is where this is what I
Speaker 1: tell people. Right, you have to go through so much
Speaker 1: bullshita not getting to where you may as well. If
Speaker 1: you just need to go do that, man, you might
Speaker 1: as well make the transactional thing go all the way.
Speaker 1: It's already a transactional thing kind of. But that's where
Speaker 1: you go because with most women, unless they're just a stink,
Speaker 1: they're not used to go let you all the time
Speaker 1: without doing something, and they're gonna make you bumb something
Speaker 1: to eat, and that's time time from your wife, that's
Speaker 1: someway from your family. I don't so. I do think
Speaker 1: as a married man, for sure, if you plan the cheat.
Speaker 1: First off, I don't think no man sleep best with
Speaker 1: no lady because he's trying to get rid of his lady.
Speaker 1: He goes like as a man cheating the normal thing
Speaker 1: that men do feel and them situations they start a
Speaker 1: fight with the old lady just to lead a house.
Speaker 1: That's like all women know what you're doing when you
Speaker 1: do that, and women do that with men too. I
Speaker 1: would like to believe that better, but you're probably true.
Speaker 1: I would just say something like that because I genuinely
Speaker 1: think women are greater than men. Well, I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: you this, bro, You're right, because I'm gonna tell you this.
Speaker 1: I know most women. If a woman is cheating on
Speaker 1: you and she don't want to get cut. You will
Speaker 1: never know, But I genuinely think women really be looking
Speaker 1: for a way out, trying to find something better. Probably,
Speaker 1: so this is I don't think. I don't think men
Speaker 1: cheat to find something better. I think women cheat to
Speaker 1: find some better. I'm gonna tell you this, and I
Speaker 1: think I think I think with the average man, I
Speaker 1: don't think they're looking for no connection. I don't think
Speaker 1: they're looking for no way out. I think they're just
Speaker 1: trying to get them susy. You see somebody and they're
Speaker 1: trying to recreation. Sure, sure, I can go ahead, go
Speaker 1: to number three. Okay, number three. They have sociopathic or
Speaker 1: narcissistic traits. Agree wholeheartly with this one right here. If
Speaker 1: a partner has cheated, there could be sociopathic tendencies or
Speaker 1: narcissist cheats involved. They could be someone who just literally
Speaker 1: doesn't care about their partner's feelings. They want what they want,
Speaker 1: and it's just that simple burker lads that often want
Speaker 1: an opportunity to cheat presense itself. There are certain people
Speaker 1: who don't have a good ability to be understanding other
Speaker 1: people's emotions or the impact of their behead on other people.
Speaker 1: Narcissistic qualities. Notably, most people have some level of narcissistic behaviors,
Speaker 1: and not every person with narcissistic behaviors is a full
Speaker 1: blown narcissist. The same can be said for sociopath a
Speaker 1: k A antisocial personality. This order, now, I do agree
Speaker 1: with that, because I'm gonna tell you this. It's a
Speaker 1: person that we know and I can't stand this motherfucker.
Speaker 1: He's a serial cheater. Like serial cheater, don't give a
Speaker 1: funk either, abody, And he's a narcissistic person. He has
Speaker 1: these qualities. He only cares about himself, don't give a
Speaker 1: funk about nobody else. Yeah, and he falls right in
Speaker 1: line with this. And I'll be honest with you, most
Speaker 1: men that I know that a serial cheegers. I'm not
Speaker 1: talking about the guy that had the one discretion five
Speaker 1: or six years ago and he regretted and he did
Speaker 1: it at one time. I never did it again. I'm
Speaker 1: talking about the motherfucker that is constantly if he meets
Speaker 1: your wife, he checking her out. You just tell. If
Speaker 1: he meets Peter's girlfriend, he checking her out. If he
Speaker 1: meets my wife, keeps checking her out. Let me ask
Speaker 1: you something, pete, Hm, how far is a narcissist from
Speaker 1: like a superbly insecure person? Like, how far is that
Speaker 1: spectrum a man? That's it depends on the manifestations. It
Speaker 1: feels like it looks so far that you still end
Speaker 1: up right next to the most insecure person, like, how
Speaker 1: far is it from what would what would be the
Speaker 1: little bit? Uh? It depends to me personally. I think
Speaker 1: the laziest cheap cop out in amateur psychology is to
Speaker 1: defer everything to insecurities. No insecurities if you're genuinely insecure,
Speaker 1: like legitimately, like you have legitimate insecurities, you know, it's
Speaker 1: not turning into you being somehow then self righteous where
Speaker 1: you think you're better than everybody else around you, which
Speaker 1: is largely what narcissism is, you know what I mean. So,
Speaker 1: so I think that if we're really talking about insecurities,
Speaker 1: it's probably not very close. You can maybe get your
Speaker 1: insecure an area A, so you want to overcompensate for
Speaker 1: an area B to try to, you know, balance the
Speaker 1: equilibrium out in your mind. But if you have like
Speaker 1: deep seated insecurities about yourself, you're gonna have tremendous like
Speaker 1: confidence problems, you know, they're those are inherently tied. And
Speaker 1: narcissists don't have confidence problems, they have confidence surplus problems.
Speaker 1: So you don't think that a person has superbly insecure
Speaker 1: cheats a lot as well, or or I believe so
Speaker 1: ge what I'm saying, and I'm gonna tell you why,
Speaker 1: Peter Um, It's almost like most women that sleep with
Speaker 1: a lot of men have insecurity issues because somebody tells
Speaker 1: them they pretty. It makes them feel good, they feel desired,
Speaker 1: and I think that's what the thing. And I think
Speaker 1: all human beings that the innate desire to be desired.
Speaker 1: I think we all want to be desired. You know,
Speaker 1: this is my point, even with a narcissist, right, So,
Speaker 1: a narcissist and insecure, because I know two different people
Speaker 1: that's like that one person. I don't really like that
Speaker 1: word so much. But let's say I play along with
Speaker 1: it and believe that that's I've met somebody like that,
Speaker 1: because I don't think that's as often as people thinks. Right,
Speaker 1: but let's say that's a real thing narcissism at that point, right, Um,
Speaker 1: they cheat because right their their confidence comes from I
Speaker 1: exist right, like I exist. Like steal situation, you say,
Speaker 1: somebody a woman with cheat because she doesn't feel beautiful,
Speaker 1: so she'll go for other guys to feel beautiful. But
Speaker 1: this is my point. Let me make my point. So
Speaker 1: a narcissist, right, he cheats because his existence itself is
Speaker 1: his confidence. Right. But then let's say a superbly insecure
Speaker 1: person who don't understand value right when they both talk
Speaker 1: about why they're the ship, one person is I exist,
Speaker 1: the other person needs validation through something else. That's what
Speaker 1: I'm saying. They can end up almost doing the same
Speaker 1: exact action. I'm not sure, but I'm obviously thought they
Speaker 1: can end up doing. A superbly insecure person and a
Speaker 1: narcissist can end up doing the exact same actions, and
Speaker 1: the reason they do the actions. The only thing that's
Speaker 1: different is the validation of the action. To me though,
Speaker 1: that the question now becomes defined insecure because if you're
Speaker 1: in if something happens that questions your degree of being
Speaker 1: self assured about something about you too, where you have
Speaker 1: to draw action to validate that, then you don't believe
Speaker 1: in the question that's being brought to you, and you're
Speaker 1: looking for evidence to the contrary, Whereas if you believe
Speaker 1: it and you're genuinely insecure, you're bought in. You're not
Speaker 1: gonna be out there trying to convince yourself Otherwise you're
Speaker 1: gonna be trying to deal with demons. Whatever I said,
Speaker 1: we gotta talk about that, We gotta we gotta get Dr.
Speaker 1: We gotta get Dr Crazy Lady on here to really
Speaker 1: have a conversation about it. The last time we had
Speaker 1: a doctor on the episode, we couldn't even air it
Speaker 1: exactly where you know, one thing before I go on
Speaker 1: the number four, I think it comes down to this, man.
Speaker 1: I think people want to feel validated. People have insecurities,
Speaker 1: and people have desires, and I think it could go
Speaker 1: as deep as people in society. Sometimes people turn into
Speaker 1: what society dictates they should be. They may have family members,
Speaker 1: like do you know how many gay men there are
Speaker 1: in the relationships that are just in relationships because they
Speaker 1: want to satisfy their parents, their friends. They don't want to,
Speaker 1: you know, they don't want to they don't want to
Speaker 1: be themselves. So a lot of people, and then you've
Speaker 1: got some people that are just super kinky. You may
Speaker 1: have a dude that may have a desire that's so kinky,
Speaker 1: he may not feel comfortable coming to his wifehood, right, Like,
Speaker 1: it's a lot of rappers off their g Like. You know,
Speaker 1: I've seen a couple of tapes where there's some of
Speaker 1: these rappers that like getting playing with toys. And I'm
Speaker 1: not talking about what they women. You see what I'm saying,
Speaker 1: So you know that's well, I'm not watching them. You
Speaker 1: gotta remember the line of works about me. You see
Speaker 1: the video. But the um the thing is, there are
Speaker 1: a lot of people that have different desires, I believe, right,
Speaker 1: But let me go on the number four because I'm
Speaker 1: not an expert on this number four. It revenge cheating.
Speaker 1: Some people act out and cheat out of anger, jealousy,
Speaker 1: or a desire for her hand down. I think this
Speaker 1: is true even if their partner hasn't cheated on them,
Speaker 1: if they've done something to upset their partner, for example,
Speaker 1: having a close friendship with another man. Burkel office an example,
Speaker 1: they will end up cheating to make a point, he says.
Speaker 1: And I'm gonna tell you this. Women are so evil.
Speaker 1: If they want to be caught, they'll leave your little
Speaker 1: clues just to catch you, just to bust your ass off.
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you. I had a friend that was
Speaker 1: in the military, right, he's always cheating, always cheating, broke
Speaker 1: his wife hard multiple times. You know what his wife
Speaker 1: did him. She knew when he was coming home, and
Speaker 1: she would usually have a dinner prepared for him and
Speaker 1: have a little party or whatever. You know what. She
Speaker 1: made sure this motherfucker saw her doing sucking a dick.
Speaker 1: He walked in the house and she heard that. She
Speaker 1: had to hear this man pull up in their dride
Speaker 1: for the house ain't number this big. You know how
Speaker 1: those marriage bass are. She was on the cock sucking
Speaker 1: the dudes that she wanted him to see that. But
Speaker 1: so that that's my point, that's that's that's more the clues,
Speaker 1: you know. But that's what I'm saying. She wanted to
Speaker 1: hurt him, She wanted to see And this is why
Speaker 1: I'm saying, because you'll have people telling each other that
Speaker 1: they're doing revenge porn or excuse me, revenge revenge cheating, right,
Speaker 1: but you're not getting caught at that point. It's not
Speaker 1: revenge cheating. Revenge requires the other person to be affected.
Speaker 1: And that's what I was telling my homie that you know,
Speaker 1: we think it's all let shop toppy cheating and he
Speaker 1: cheat and he thinks it's revenge. I'm like, no revenge
Speaker 1: would be if you let her see it, or you
Speaker 1: let her find out you cheating. But if you're still
Speaker 1: defending it, it's only to to stroke your ego and
Speaker 1: repair what you feel like what's fractured. I'm gonna tell
Speaker 1: you this, at this point in my life, man, where
Speaker 1: I'm at with everything, if I ever found out my
Speaker 1: wife was seating leaving, and she would probably leave me too,
Speaker 1: I'm not gonna waste no time. I'm too old for
Speaker 1: that ship, Like I'm too old to go to the
Speaker 1: whole thing and giving her and then being worried every
Speaker 1: time she goes somewhere she up working with this guy.
Speaker 1: I would just leave him. I just think that's the
Speaker 1: best result. Like if and I believe if I did
Speaker 1: something to her, she would have being up with from
Speaker 1: her right and leaving me to wait. But what you
Speaker 1: pay for her flight home? I wouldn't do. I wouldn't
Speaker 1: pay for sho. I would try to ruin her age,
Speaker 1: shed some wrong to me, tho I would try to
Speaker 1: ruin it. I'm just being real I'm not mad at that,
Speaker 1: do that like all the all the great year, go
Speaker 1: out all like a snitch, all that ship because love
Speaker 1: is my thing? Is this g I had my opportunities
Speaker 1: and I not and I haven't done anything wrong. So
Speaker 1: you mean to tell them you can't resist Hector or
Speaker 1: or Anthony or whoever the funk he was at your job,
Speaker 1: that you fucking win. You did that to me, funk
Speaker 1: that ship. They don't know. I'm gonna make her as
Speaker 1: start and I'm gonna try to take the house. I'm
Speaker 1: gonna try to leave her as busted, every person, every
Speaker 1: boat getting cut up and burned up, every piece of Oh,
Speaker 1: I'm taking that ship with me, all that ship. I'm
Speaker 1: snacking the ring off the finger and everything. Damn fantastic everything,
Speaker 1: Go to the next one, all right, number five? Now
Speaker 1: this is this, I don't know. They're struggling with substance abuse.
Speaker 1: If one partner is dealing with a substance abuse problem,
Speaker 1: instances of cheating may become much more likely. When we
Speaker 1: become addicted like that. It creates an impost driven, more
Speaker 1: immature version of ourselves. Nothing that has nothing that he's seen.
Speaker 1: Many relationships fall apart after noting that he's seen many
Speaker 1: relationships for all apart after one partner become addictive pain
Speaker 1: killers after the surgery, for example, Um, I think that's
Speaker 1: very rare. Who knows. I have no idea, And the
Speaker 1: choice of pain killers after surgery was very odd because
Speaker 1: I would imagine that she would be more of a
Speaker 1: like social kind of whatever drug use or whatever than
Speaker 1: just someone who's laid up in fake back pain on
Speaker 1: you know whatever for ten years. Now this one number six,
Speaker 1: I can feel this. They're struggling with their mental health. Similarly,
Speaker 1: Paig says depression and anxiety can also increase that imposed
Speaker 1: driven behavior because if depression and anxiety are intense, it
Speaker 1: can really excaporate the need to get read, read, read
Speaker 1: it again, Okay. Similarly, Paig says depression and anxiety can
Speaker 1: also increase that impulse driven behavior because if depression and
Speaker 1: anxiety are intense, it can really exacerbate the need to
Speaker 1: get relief, and relief often can come in the form
Speaker 1: of someone really attractive outside of the relationship. Yeah depression. Yeah, again,
Speaker 1: that just goes into vagina being kind of this like
Speaker 1: fix it all, this fix it all solution. Like vagina
Speaker 1: is like just like the last one with alcohol or drug.
Speaker 1: Same thing, like vagina becomes a fix it all. It's
Speaker 1: a temporary patch on it. Like men get vagina when
Speaker 1: they depressed, Me get vagina to celebrate. Vagina is like
Speaker 1: the all around go to tool for instant boost. It's
Speaker 1: just all off. That's a positive chemical release in the brain.
Speaker 1: It is because I can you know what, I think
Speaker 1: some people are better than others, man, But I don't
Speaker 1: think nobody can never say they necessarily had some bad puss.
Speaker 1: Yeah I have, you know what. I think. It's this
Speaker 1: broad thing. Some puss is better than others, But I
Speaker 1: don't know. I've had bad you have, you know? Yeah,
Speaker 1: I can see that for the second time we go
Speaker 1: going to number seven. They're seeking validation number one. That
Speaker 1: should be number one. These are actually the same thing
Speaker 1: over and over, and this is what they say. Feelings
Speaker 1: of insecurity and low self esteem can also drive someone that.
Speaker 1: When you said that, particularly if they're not getting that
Speaker 1: validation in their own relationship. If people don't feel attractive
Speaker 1: enough to their partner, they make cheat to look for
Speaker 1: external validation. Like you said that, he is that sexual issue.
Speaker 1: Sex is erected out dysfunction can also someone to look
Speaker 1: with someone newhere and more exciting to prove to themselves
Speaker 1: that they're still sexually quote and capable. Now, well, if
Speaker 1: it works, then that then we've determined that the you know,
Speaker 1: dependent variable is the woman. Yeah exactly. So my thing
Speaker 1: is this, if you can have these erected out this
Speaker 1: function problems, like like, let's say you've been going through like, man,
Speaker 1: my dick ain't got hard in two years, but you're
Speaker 1: walking to the grocery store and see you old thick,
Speaker 1: thick as girl walking to that and all of a
Speaker 1: sudden already already jumped up like this, Then you know,
Speaker 1: man ship problem made me. I agree, you know what
Speaker 1: I mean, It's like, thank God I don't have them issues,
Speaker 1: but I can see that being a one and and
Speaker 1: I think that when it comes down to it, though,
Speaker 1: some people are just addicuative, because some girls are just
Speaker 1: addictive big no matter how much pipe you're giving you
Speaker 1: the fund them every day, they still will get as
Speaker 1: much as dick as they can. It's just someone like that.
Speaker 1: There are women that have went into porn because they
Speaker 1: can't satisfy the urge they have a sexual appetite. This
Speaker 1: for racious. They want to have sex every five minutes,
Speaker 1: whether they're on the period or not. Do you believe
Speaker 1: that though, Oh yeah, I've seen it before. Yeah, but
Speaker 1: porn stars don't funk all the time. That's no they've done.
Speaker 1: But there are Yeah, but there have been. I talked
Speaker 1: to a porn star before they got into poorn just
Speaker 1: to satisfy their racious sexual appetite. I was talking to
Speaker 1: Ryan Jeremy as a matter of fact, when we're in
Speaker 1: the CBS building. Yeah, so I interviewed round Jeremy. Then
Speaker 1: if you got lost piste off about that. They got
Speaker 1: it just got sucked up. I don't know what happened.
Speaker 1: They just sounded like a bunch of digital noise. Right.
Speaker 1: But Ryan Jeremy was actually a who teacher when he
Speaker 1: was the born. He wasn't He didn't fit the normal
Speaker 1: profile of the person entering form. Usually people are entered
Speaker 1: foreign they've been abused when they were younger, they have
Speaker 1: something going on psycholzely that kind of drove them to
Speaker 1: that path. Right. He defied all that. He was a
Speaker 1: school teacher, came from a good family, and he just
Speaker 1: liked sex. So he said, man, I can get his
Speaker 1: much because he as I want to he had a
Speaker 1: sexual addiction, because that's what he we wounded up going
Speaker 1: examed for every woman he met. He thought he could
Speaker 1: suck it. I'm gonna tell you a story about Ryan Jeremy. Dog.
Speaker 1: Ryan Jeremy meets fans right all the time. Right, There's
Speaker 1: a guy that met him and that's how he got
Speaker 1: his manager. Right, he met this guy, right, guy was
Speaker 1: a fan and Ryan said hey. You know he was like, hey, man,
Speaker 1: well you know we got the time with party and
Speaker 1: you know in the room if you want to come back,
Speaker 1: come back. So Ryan, they get a knock on the door.
Speaker 1: It's Ryan Jeremy. Oh ship, they got beers there. His
Speaker 1: his like, um, his place, sister is there, his wife
Speaker 1: is there, and the other girl's mom. Now this is
Speaker 1: a real story, right, they've run out of beer. He says,
Speaker 1: I'll running the seven eleven around the corner and go
Speaker 1: grabingother twelve. Fact he comes back, Royan is sucking all
Speaker 1: three of the girls in the room. Like, got a
Speaker 1: mall spread faced down, ass up on the bed and
Speaker 1: he's sucking all three of these bases. That's Ryan jarreny dog.
Speaker 1: He's used to getting the weightless stuff like that, because
Speaker 1: people when they meet him want to give him some
Speaker 1: possy because it's a fantasy. It is, so he's people's lives.
Speaker 1: He's fucking nuns like people that you wouldn't think that
Speaker 1: he's he's fucking story. This is just like because he's
Speaker 1: used to being able to get trimmed whenever he's goings to.
Speaker 1: So every woman he meets, he thinks on that ship.
Speaker 1: So that's what happened. He's raped women before in that
Speaker 1: process of thinking that, oh they would they wanted you know. Yeah,
Speaker 1: So I think he was a sexual DV. And I
Speaker 1: think he was and I don't know if dving is
Speaker 1: the right word dog when he was the person that
Speaker 1: was a dicky say, yeah, he was the person that
Speaker 1: was a digital sex And I don't know if these
Speaker 1: are written in order of importance, but I think this
Speaker 1: damn sure it should have been the number one reason.
Speaker 1: Uh number eight. And I said this before. They're denying
Speaker 1: part of their their identity. In some case, they're denying
Speaker 1: a part of that. They're denying their identity. In some cases,
Speaker 1: cheating can be the result of one partner denying their
Speaker 1: own sexual or gender identity. Someone may be struggling with
Speaker 1: a seven. Yeah, yeah, this is deep and they want
Speaker 1: to experiment, they want to explore. This could also be
Speaker 1: true with gender identity issues, and you're desire to explore
Speaker 1: sex as well as identity around that because it's a
Speaker 1: hidden part of yourself. Yeah, that's correct. That that's deep
Speaker 1: right there, that's deep right there. It's but it's substantial,
Speaker 1: you know. Number nine, they are emotionally immature. Lastly, Burglar
Speaker 1: Pigs both agree that many of these reasons fall under
Speaker 1: the category of emotional immaturity. I think that's at the
Speaker 1: core of what Nan cheap, noting that men are taught
Speaker 1: not to talk about their emotions. By the time a
Speaker 1: man has an affair, there's already been a long period
Speaker 1: of time when they have had issues, and they have
Speaker 1: been an inability to talk about those feelings. According to Page,
Speaker 1: it often comes down to simply for a judgment like
Speaker 1: a wheel power, lack of self control, and immaturity. I
Speaker 1: agree with that too to a certain Yeah, it's it's
Speaker 1: also to me just like that's kind of a vague
Speaker 1: offloading of responsibility, the same way that somebody had too
Speaker 1: many numbers and just gave you an extra number Yeah,
Speaker 1: And it's the same as like the insecurity thing. It's
Speaker 1: like if you can tie anything to it. It really
Speaker 1: doesn't have a great definition in and of itself, but
Speaker 1: you can fit a lot of odd shaped items into
Speaker 1: that box, you know what I mean. And then they
Speaker 1: have a reason to end signs. Your partner maybe cheat.
Speaker 1: And I hate ship like this because women going to
Speaker 1: read this bullshit. And if you take your phone in
Speaker 1: the bathroom with you, why do you take your phone
Speaker 1: in the bathroom with you? Because I'm sitting on the
Speaker 1: toilet taking the ship and I'd like to look at
Speaker 1: the TV or like I'd like to read ship. I
Speaker 1: may be talking to homie'll may be talking to Glass
Speaker 1: as I may be talking to you. It doesn't mean
Speaker 1: I'm taking the phone in their show me in this
Speaker 1: podcastle let us hear this so we could actually thumbs
Speaker 1: up and thumbs down this okay. Number one. They're more withdrawn,
Speaker 1: more closed off, and are more emotionally disconnected. Let's see
Speaker 1: that posible. Well, that's what I'm saying, because you can
Speaker 1: become with drawn because you just got to move the
Speaker 1: fun with people. You don't feel like being bothered everye more.
Speaker 1: You having personal problems about success. Thing't happen at work
Speaker 1: or something whatever. Okay, Number two, you notice significant changes
Speaker 1: and the way they do things, for example, their schedule
Speaker 1: or their general be gate. I think that's kind of
Speaker 1: I think that's kind of generalizing. And ship say that again.
Speaker 1: You notice significant changes in the way they do things,
Speaker 1: their schedule or their behavior, and that's women in general too.
Speaker 1: They come up with that. Maybe I'll go for that.
Speaker 1: You can tell the woman wrote this ship for sure. Yeah,
Speaker 1: women give I'll tell you another thing. Women give women
Speaker 1: the worst advice ever. They do all the time. And
Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell you I talked about that involved thought
Speaker 1: but whatever. Yeah. So yeah, for real, you bring up
Speaker 1: a particular person or instance that seems fishing, and they
Speaker 1: get very defensive, or in other cases they're very vague
Speaker 1: and dismissive about Agree with that one more time. Yeah, yeah,
Speaker 1: I mean on the defensive ship. Yeah, when you bring
Speaker 1: up a particular person or instance they seems real fishing,
Speaker 1: they get very defensive or in other cases they're very
Speaker 1: vague and dismissive about it. Yeah, you don't give it
Speaker 1: up or you'll be tripping. Like when you choose me
Speaker 1: to cheat her. You know what, though a woman was
Speaker 1: getting mad because a woman was I'm gonna tell you
Speaker 1: this has happened to me before. I've been the car
Speaker 1: not paying attention to nothing. My wife could see a
Speaker 1: girl way across down somewhere while were you looking at her? Especially?
Speaker 1: You know, not something much however before and I'll be like,
Speaker 1: I don't know what the hell are you talking about? Who?
Speaker 1: I know he was looking at him, And it's kind
Speaker 1: of like, you know, but number five, they're certainly putting
Speaker 1: more effort into their appearance. Perhaps the four workers we're
Speaker 1: going out that too. I believe that too, because that's
Speaker 1: actually the best one so far. Let me see number six.
Speaker 1: They seem super enthusiastic about another person. Maybe I yeah,
Speaker 1: that's that's true, you know what? Yeah, yeah, you know
Speaker 1: what the indicator like because I got cheated on before,
Speaker 1: and you know how I knew it was happening. The
Speaker 1: girls phraseology and her sentences changed, and I'm like, you
Speaker 1: hanging around someone and you like him, so you're talking
Speaker 1: how they talk like you usually wouldn't say around the corner.
Speaker 1: You'd say the other side of the block or so
Speaker 1: something arbitrary like that. But like I picked up on.
Speaker 1: I said, you don't say ship like that, like where
Speaker 1: you Why are you saying you like that? Now? One
Speaker 1: the thing is Pete Peter. Every man is not as
Speaker 1: observing as you. I would observe something like that, You know,
Speaker 1: I would know. I would like to think I would
Speaker 1: know if I was betting, cheated on, because I've been
Speaker 1: around my wife is so long, you know. And and
Speaker 1: plus he's the person of habit. She's a creature of habit.
Speaker 1: She pretty much does the same thing, same way all
Speaker 1: the time, you know, So I would definitely I would
Speaker 1: definitely know. Yeah, you could tell when something significantly influential
Speaker 1: it's happening to someone that's that close to you. If not,
Speaker 1: then that relationship probably not gonna be very successful anyway.
Speaker 1: All right, now, this is some bullshit right here. This
Speaker 1: is the ship to get a motherfucking trouble. All of
Speaker 1: a sudden, your partner seems extra nice, as if they're
Speaker 1: trying to make up for something. So if I decided
Speaker 1: just to be nice with my wife, can take her
Speaker 1: out to dinner when you get home, I could be
Speaker 1: accused of cheating trying to do some good ship. You
Speaker 1: know what I'm actually going to agree where her whoever
Speaker 1: wrote that, I'm going to agree, that's a bullshit that
Speaker 1: you be extra nice you got away with some ship,
Speaker 1: or you think you got away with some ship, or
Speaker 1: it's a possibility you could have got away with some
Speaker 1: ship and you just do it to one. Extra nice
Speaker 1: is not taking your grad at dinner. But if you
Speaker 1: if you never take it to dinner, Yeah, I might agree.
Speaker 1: That's the second good point, all right. Number nine, they're
Speaker 1: not accountable for where they're spending their time and in
Speaker 1: some cases their money, big chunks of time when they
Speaker 1: don't want to talk about what they were doing. No,
Speaker 1: hell no, that's just done. I hate when they do
Speaker 1: dead no, you know, And I think that's again just
Speaker 1: another generalization because me and you both in the business
Speaker 1: gether where we might get a nice chunk of money, right,
Speaker 1: and we may spend sixty send that money back in
Speaker 1: the business. We may dump that money back in the
Speaker 1: business where there's upgrading equipment or at least in the spot.
Speaker 1: You feel what I'm saying. Sometimes, like I told Laria
Speaker 1: one day, because she was expecting me to account to
Speaker 1: her for all the money in my business, and I said,
Speaker 1: the only money I need to be accountable to you
Speaker 1: for is the profit is part of the profit that
Speaker 1: is ours because I don't look at money is just
Speaker 1: being mine hers. This is ours, right, That's the only
Speaker 1: thing I need to be accountable to Before. What I
Speaker 1: spend on my business ain't really none of your business.
Speaker 1: You wouldn't understand it if I told you, because if
Speaker 1: she had her way, I wouldn't spend money on ship.
Speaker 1: But give it the earth. I'm with you. I hear
Speaker 1: what you're saying. Okay, now this is a good one
Speaker 1: right here. Okay. Number teen, and first, they seem more
Speaker 1: irritated by your judgment of living in an ongoing way.
Speaker 1: I believe that. I believe when a woman is or
Speaker 1: somebody is cheating on somebody, they start looking at the
Speaker 1: deficiencies in their spouse and started species. You start comparing.
Speaker 1: I literally was just talking to somebody about this. You
Speaker 1: start comparing your old lady to other women, m somebody
Speaker 1: that's right there? Yeah, and it is. Yeah. It do
Speaker 1: be with bias too, yep. And this is number eleven.
Speaker 1: There's been a strong downgrading of sexual interests. They maybe
Speaker 1: have more difficulty getting and or maintaining and direction as
Speaker 1: well as orgasmic. That's just obvious. If you went there
Speaker 1: and you usually putting me in work, and you can
Speaker 1: the whip new to when you came busting that dog,
Speaker 1: that's probably a sign that you've been out doing your things.
Speaker 1: It could be your health health rated thing in sex
Speaker 1: pell you like your your health is connected. And this
Speaker 1: all mental too, bro. I'm gonna tell you this. Sex
Speaker 1: is all in the here. And these lists like this
Speaker 1: list are all cuts and maybes and mites. They're not
Speaker 1: If this is then that's for sure. Blank. There's just
Speaker 1: like if this is, it might be blank. No. Remember
Speaker 1: twelve is just so basically just expected. And of course
Speaker 1: physical evidence like emails and ticks left golden and hearing
Speaker 1: condoms under the battle or condoms in the wallet. It's like, dude,
Speaker 1: at this point in my life, dog, I'm fifty two
Speaker 1: years old. If I'm walking around with some rubbers, Maria
Speaker 1: got to write the bust me in here with a
Speaker 1: rolling pin. You see what I'm saying that that's because
Speaker 1: obvious right there, because I can't say, oh, well, I'm
Speaker 1: using for us. Maybe they ares, you know, no ship
Speaker 1: going for that ship okay. And the last thing they
Speaker 1: say what to do about infidelity in a relationship. I
Speaker 1: don't even want to talk about this. We're not gonna
Speaker 1: do this, you know what. I don't even wanna talk
Speaker 1: about this subject. This motherfucker podcast, though it's over, it's over,
Speaker 1: is just depressing and listening towards right. Yeah, don't pitch
Speaker 1: you off door, because this is the ship you get.
Speaker 1: You the arguments with your wife and bought it. You
Speaker 1: ain't did the damn thing wrong. Good looking out for
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