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Speaker 1: is Alayah. I refuse to have her at my wedding.

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Speaker 1: Oh cheating involved boss's wife. Oh no. Me female and

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Speaker 1: my fiance twenty nine male got engaged in July of

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Speaker 1: this year. We immediately started planning book revenue and are

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Speaker 1: slowly getting things into place. We're pretty mutual on the

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Speaker 1: guest list, as we have both met each other's friends

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Speaker 1: and family are the extended family of mine because it's

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Speaker 1: basically the size of a medium army. By the way,

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Speaker 1: this comes from WINNI friend on the r slash Okay

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Speaker 1: story Time sot about it. So the conversation has brought

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Speaker 1: up a few times of work colleagues coming to the wedding.

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Speaker 1: He's met a fair few of mine through small events

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Speaker 1: and after work drinks, and I've met a few of

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Speaker 1: his and similar situations, including his managing director. I have

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Speaker 1: never met his MD's wife that I know. She also

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Speaker 1: works at his business. She's head of accounting, but seems

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Speaker 1: to think she's a chief operating officer despite that, not

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Speaker 1: me in her position.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, go back to your numbers book, lady, No.

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Speaker 1: Your place, That's what I'll be saying. I've heard things

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Speaker 1: about her from what I gather, she's not the nicest woman.

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Speaker 1: And it's not because she's a tough boss. She's very

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Speaker 1: much a person that is do as I say, not

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Speaker 1: as I do. Gotta love those kind of people. On

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Speaker 1: top of this, I have never once had a conversation

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Speaker 1: with her, And even at one point I saw my

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Speaker 1: and she didn't even acknowledge me. He says, it's because

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Speaker 1: been a big enough hint.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, that's not even a hint. That's like a big

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Speaker 1: Hey. Maybe she was like, oh, that's a mistress I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna disrespect. Could be now for the story that has

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Speaker 1: made me point blank not want her at the wedding.

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Speaker 1: Around the pandemic times after the second lockdown, my fiance

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Speaker 1: was asked to go out and meet some clients. One

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Speaker 1: asked if I could go with them so I could

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Speaker 1: visit my mom. We were driving around to get some

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Speaker 1: let them know that he wasn't going to be able

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Speaker 1: to drive out that day. His CEO was fine with it,

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Speaker 1: because you know, if these things happened, and let him

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Speaker 1: take the day off. Whilst we were waiting for the

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Speaker 1: toe vehicle, his CEO must have told his wife what

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Speaker 1: my fiance, So not long after that he got a

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Speaker 1: My fiance, very confused, told her and asked her why,

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Speaker 1: of which she had no reason to call, and then

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Speaker 1: Not even fifteen minutes after being in this house, the

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Speaker 1: so later, he called me up and I could tell

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Speaker 1: because they didn't believe his car wasn't drivable. He was

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Speaker 1: so insulted, right rightfully so that he asked why they'd

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Speaker 1: ever think that he'd lie about that. We were in

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Speaker 1: a time where people would use having the sickness of

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Speaker 1: told him that she walked from their house with their

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Speaker 1: his car had broken down and was like, actually, I

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Speaker 3: Like, if your car's not working, why aren't you in it?

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Speaker 3: I mean, am I wrong? Is that not what she's saying?

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Speaker 3: Is your refrigerator running? Yeah?

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Speaker 1: Good. It was at this point I heard his voice crack,

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Speaker 1: I then started to get angry because they'd pushed him

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Speaker 1: I know you can relate when I tell you, there's

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Speaker 1: no feeling that matches the maternal rage of wanting to

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Speaker 1: but they did agree. Fast forward again, my fiance and

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Speaker 1: was telling the truth and his boss apologized. You think

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Speaker 1: think the wife, who after the CEO said it was fine,

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Speaker 1: was like, no, no, no, no, no, we need to torture you.

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Speaker 1: You're a liar. Do you think she's going to be like,

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Speaker 1: you know what, my bad. You were totally in the

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Speaker 1: right and that was totally my fault.

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Speaker 2: No, because she's going to be like, oh, I walked

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Speaker 4: It looked fine.

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Speaker 2: I've seen your car. It looks drivable.

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Speaker 1: You're not only lying in front of God, You're lying

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Speaker 1: in front of my dogs.

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Speaker 2: Not the dog.

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Speaker 1: Those are my dogs? How not the dogs? Dare you? No?

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Speaker 1: I got curious as to how she saw us, and

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Speaker 1: We're doing some some uh investigation over here giving me.

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Speaker 3: Some high school math problems where it's like if the

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Speaker 3: blah blah blah. It's been a long time, I don't remember.

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Speaker 2: Think it's like I'm like, oh, who would do that

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Speaker 1: And like, oh, now I'm the person in the math equation.

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Speaker 2: Yeah right.

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Speaker 1: And guess how long it was to go to I

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Speaker 1: you want to know how long we were waiting for recovery, folks,

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Speaker 1: forty five minutes. There was no way she walked to us,

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Speaker 1: not unless she's the bloody flash. After I found out

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Speaker 1: you know the backstory, you can understand why I don't

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Speaker 1: didn't want her there based on that story, the fact

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Speaker 1: that she's never apologized, and the fact that I've never

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Speaker 1: he told me that he just wants me to suck

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Speaker 1: it up because basically, he wants his boss there, and

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Speaker 3: It is the bosses. Why why do you want your

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Speaker 3: boss there? Let's be real, why do you want your

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Speaker 3: boss at your wedding? I have no desire for any

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Speaker 3: of my boss I mean, well except for with some exception. Yeah,

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Speaker 3: we may wait, maybe with some exception. Now, actually, now

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Speaker 3: I can think there's only there's three.

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Speaker 1: Okay.

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Speaker 3: I guess I'm not a good sample size all day,

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Speaker 3: but I'm not a good sample for this because bosses. Yes, technically, yes, Well.

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Speaker 1: What's what's what's the percentage though? How many total bosses

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Speaker 1: are we talking?

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Speaker 3: Oh that's like not even that's like maybe ten percent

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Speaker 3: of my boss Okay, so only passing, right, Yeah, that's

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Speaker 3: that's still, you know.

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Speaker 1: Pretty low. Opie said, that's stupid. He's a grown man

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Speaker 1: to me about that. My fiance then got mad and

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Speaker 1: an ahole. And you know what, ladies and gentlemen, you

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Speaker 1: shouldn't be an ahole because you can listen to full

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Speaker 1: episodes with stories like this. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts,

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Speaker 1: Don't be an ahole. Guys, it's all you gotta do.

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Speaker 2: Don't do it, and then you get the no a

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Speaker 1: Everyone wants that. John himself, let's talk about the story here, Dakota,

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Speaker 1: I'm thinking everyone sucks her. Do you agree? Because fiance

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Speaker 1: was like, I can invite whoever I want. I'm gonna

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Speaker 3: I do kind of get that where it's like it

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Speaker 3: could be awkward. It depends on the company, depends on

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Speaker 1: Of job it is.

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Speaker 2: We don't really know anything about it. He's in sales,

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Speaker 2: very clicky.

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Speaker 1: Like I was just gonna say, uh, hey, this is

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Speaker 1: your wedding, do we need to use it for it?

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Speaker 1: Sounds like he's like politicking with it the company and

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Speaker 1: it's like, you know what, just enjoy the day.

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Speaker 4: Maybe yeah, it's.

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Speaker 3: Like, but then if you do have friends that you

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Speaker 3: want from your job, that you're like that you would

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Speaker 3: want there, then it does make it hard because if

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Speaker 3: you don't want the boss feeling like you don't like him,

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Speaker 3: because then he's not gonna like you. Just like it's

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Speaker 3: a fact you never want your boss to not like you,

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Speaker 3: because it's gonna make your job more miserable. Like that's

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Speaker 3: just the wave of the that's the natural order of things.

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Speaker 3: But I don't think necessarily the problem here isn't even

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Speaker 1: It's his wife.

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Speaker 3: So if you can find I have a contingency that

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Speaker 3: somehow keeps the wife from like becoming like the coo

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Speaker 3: of the wedding, or should I say the fake coo

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Speaker 3: of the wedding, She's like, I have some numbers to

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Speaker 3: crunch here. Let's really crunch the numbers on your wedding.

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Speaker 1: You know what, She's the CFO. She fake officer.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, she fake CFO.

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Speaker 4: She fake officer, chief, fake officer.

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Speaker 1: So Obi says, he then switched on me and said

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Speaker 3: I don't know why is OP so concerned about it,

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Speaker 1: True to play Devil's advocate, I would say, it's like, hey,

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Speaker 1: brings negative energy to you at your wedding. Well, let's

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Speaker 1: might have their own take comment number one. Inviting someone

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Speaker 1: I thought they were saying the opposite, like, think about

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Speaker 1: how it might make you know, like ope feel to

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Speaker 1: have someone out their wedding, But they're like, no, think

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Speaker 3: You can't mess the money up, can't mess the money

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Speaker 3: up over because then this person's winning. All this goes

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Speaker 3: they're actually they're still winning. They're still they're they're impacting

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Speaker 1: This like, this is impossible for me. Commenter says, it's

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Speaker 1: I understand your reason, and my petty self would would

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Speaker 1: more than calling her out. I'm still undecided, but it's

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Speaker 4: Hmmm.

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Speaker 1: If your fiance won't stand up and have a firm

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Speaker 1: where you're coming from. Nice I did effort to go

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Speaker 1: to NICE. I wouldn't want them to be there either.

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Speaker 1: Why is your fiance hell bent on having them there

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Speaker 1: image slash promo seems like too much, so we've got

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Speaker 3: I can answer that, and it's it's because it's not

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Speaker 3: in a vacuum. It's like he because if you invite

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Speaker 3: don't even think it's about like making it himself look

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Speaker 1: Comment number three, Invite them and put them at a table,

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Speaker 1: buy the kitchen at reception. Comment number four, man for

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Speaker 1: congratulate you, look her up and down and walk off.

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Speaker 1: But I'm just a petty biatch.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, just give her the look at luberatly. Yeah, I'd

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Speaker 3: be proud of me too. See you, and that's it, goodbye,

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Speaker 4: My parents compared me to my brother's girlfriend because she's better. Dang.

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Speaker 4: I twenty nine female and my partner twenty nine were

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Speaker 4: chiefs or interests, for example, like me going in my

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Speaker 4: current field of work or me getting my driver's license,

435
00:20:05,680 --> 00:20:08,360
Speaker 4: but don't listen to my troubles with ADHD since they

436
00:20:08,359 --> 00:20:11,760
Speaker 4: don't believe it exists. Also, I used to love spending

437
00:20:11,800 --> 00:20:14,360
Speaker 4: time with them, but in recent years those feelings got

438
00:20:14,400 --> 00:20:18,080
Speaker 4: more complicated and we run in completely different circles. So

439
00:20:18,160 --> 00:20:20,719
Speaker 4: if it wasn't if I wasn't related to them, I

440
00:20:20,800 --> 00:20:24,600
Speaker 4: probably wouldn't have met either of my family. It's something

441
00:20:24,640 --> 00:20:26,800
Speaker 4: my partner, as well as their family and our mutual

442
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Speaker 4: friends have always been baffled about and comment too. I

443
00:20:30,680 --> 00:20:32,960
Speaker 4: think that for your birthday you should not cancel, but

444
00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:35,280
Speaker 4: I know all the invitations of your family. I would

445
00:20:35,280 --> 00:20:37,359
Speaker 4: even say that you should cut ties with your family.

446
00:20:37,760 --> 00:20:40,080
Speaker 4: You should be devoting yourself to people who value and

447
00:20:40,119 --> 00:20:43,240
Speaker 4: who help you move forward. People who are toxic to

448
00:20:43,320 --> 00:20:45,680
Speaker 4: you and hurt you need to get out of your

449
00:20:45,680 --> 00:20:48,640
Speaker 4: life for a very long time. Your mother just wants

450
00:20:48,680 --> 00:20:50,960
Speaker 4: you for what suits her. The day you have to paint,

451
00:20:51,080 --> 00:20:52,920
Speaker 4: tell her that you have the VID and can't go,

452
00:20:53,520 --> 00:20:55,439
Speaker 4: Obie says, I will definitely not help her paint the

453
00:20:55,440 --> 00:20:57,480
Speaker 4: living room. That was also one of the first things

454
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Speaker 4: my partner said when I spoke to them, thank you

455
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Speaker 4: for your and there is an update. Oh boy, let's

456
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Speaker 4: jump in. Let's do it. Basically, it has been quite

457
00:21:07,600 --> 00:21:10,280
Speaker 4: a wild ride since then. For one, my mother broke

458
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Speaker 4: her leg whoa and had to rely on me as

459
00:21:13,600 --> 00:21:15,840
Speaker 4: well as girlfriend, since my younger brother Jay is busy

460
00:21:15,880 --> 00:21:18,080
Speaker 4: working and my father can't really help for health reasons.

461
00:21:18,640 --> 00:21:21,240
Speaker 4: That in itself has been quite something because while my

462
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Speaker 4: parents talk to me when I'm over, as soon as

463
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Speaker 4: my brother and girlfriend show up, I'm literally not interesting anymore.

464
00:21:28,080 --> 00:21:30,440
Speaker 4: Since I'm around my parents more than usual, I set

465
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Speaker 4: some boundaries. For one, I've told them firmly that I'm

466
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Speaker 4: not someone they can just order to come over at

467
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Speaker 4: their demand, and they have to tell me a day

468
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Speaker 4: before if they need something. My mother really didn't like

469
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Speaker 4: hearing that, but I'm just past the point of caring

470
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Speaker 4: right now, as you should be great for them if

471
00:21:46,600 --> 00:21:49,399
Speaker 4: girlfriend shows up whenever they want to, but I won't,

472
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Speaker 4: and I really don't care if she thinks that other

473
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Speaker 4: people have their priorities set straight, I don't. Also, if

474
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Speaker 4: they fail to show up or be there when we

475
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Speaker 4: set a date for like me coming over, to cook

476
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Speaker 4: dinner for them and they're not home. Once again, I

477
00:22:00,440 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 4: won't repeat these appointments anymore, either I'm important enough for

478
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Speaker 4: them to remember or not. I also told the both

479
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Speaker 4: of them that next year, I, not my father or

480
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Speaker 4: girlfriend nor anybody else, would pick the place where I

481
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Speaker 4: celebrate my birthday and they would either welcome, be welcome,

482
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Speaker 4: or could stay away for all I care. Again, that

483
00:22:19,880 --> 00:22:22,119
Speaker 4: was not received very well, or when I told them

484
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Speaker 4: that my job was majorly exhausting I work full time

485
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Speaker 4: as a kindergarten teacher, and that they can expect me

486
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Speaker 4: the same things for me as from my brother as

487
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Speaker 4: an office worker. As for the birthday party in two weeks, well,

488
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Speaker 4: I decided to go through with it, be the bigger person,

489
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Speaker 4: even though it will probably not be that entertaining, especially

490
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Speaker 4: since my partner broke up with me a few days ago.

491
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Speaker 4: They said they rather wanted us to be friends again

492
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Speaker 4: than be in a relationship, and that me being a

493
00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:50,960
Speaker 4: doormat for my family and showing no backbone when they

494
00:22:51,040 --> 00:22:54,119
Speaker 4: or my partner themselves are being mean to me isn't

495
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Speaker 4: something they can do in that capacity anymore.

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Speaker 5: That's hard, because that's understandable, and I think we've seen

497
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Speaker 5: that side of a lot of different stories.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but man, man, also because I'm still undecided if

499
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Speaker 4: I want kids in the future, and they definitely don't,

500
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Speaker 4: and that's very fair reason. Yeah, that hurt like a

501
00:23:12,080 --> 00:23:14,640
Speaker 4: knife to the gut, but I get it on some points. Also,

502
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Speaker 4: when I told my mother, I received zero emotional support,

503
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Speaker 4: and only after I explained to her that she's way

504
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Speaker 4: out of line, she apologized for like the first time

505
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Speaker 4: in a long while. So yes, I'm going to be

506
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Speaker 4: the biggest person there is celebrate my birthday with my

507
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Speaker 4: emotional labies, family, my ex partner and their parents. Your

508
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Speaker 4: ex partner broke up with you right before your birthday.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, and then they're just gonna be like, yeah, but

510
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Speaker 5: we could just go as a friend.

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Speaker 4: What. I don't think it's that easy. Unfortunately, probably the

512
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Speaker 4: worst time. And after that, I'm going to laylo for

513
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Speaker 4: a while and minimize contact to a lot of people,

514
00:23:51,440 --> 00:23:53,560
Speaker 4: do things I like, and go back to therapy because

515
00:23:53,600 --> 00:23:56,080
Speaker 4: after all that crap this last two months, my psyche

516
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Speaker 4: is not really doing that great. I read your previous

517
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Speaker 4: post are you Asians Chinese? Because you said dialect. Anyways,

518
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Speaker 4: if the girlfriend can do the Airlands can do the errands,

519
00:24:04,920 --> 00:24:07,240
Speaker 4: then you don't have to do it. Is like your

520
00:24:07,280 --> 00:24:09,840
Speaker 4: parents are already molding her into the obedient daughter in

521
00:24:09,880 --> 00:24:12,399
Speaker 4: law that will serve them. Anyway. Do you have other

522
00:24:12,560 --> 00:24:14,639
Speaker 4: friends that you can do a low key celebration of

523
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Speaker 4: You might want to work with a counselor with similar

524
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Speaker 4: heritage as you. You deserve better grieving the relationship sucks,

525
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Speaker 4: but is needed. I hope you can find yourself and

526
00:24:23,040 --> 00:24:25,239
Speaker 4: your values and find a way to see yourself as

527
00:24:25,320 --> 00:24:28,359
Speaker 4: valuable and have worth from within. And Opie says, no,

528
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Speaker 4: I'm German and I'm speaking mostly what we call High German,

529
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Speaker 4: while my family is only speaking with speaking with the

530
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Speaker 4: Bavarian dialect. My family is these old Bavarian values deeply

531
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Speaker 4: ingrained in their minds, and that includes anything outside of

532
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Speaker 4: Bavaria is let's just say they, especially my father, don't

533
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Speaker 4: really like people outsiders state very much. And yes, they

534
00:24:49,320 --> 00:24:51,360
Speaker 4: mostly just call me if girlfriend doesn't have the time

535
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Speaker 4: or something. So I'm not feeling bad about making my

536
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Speaker 4: boundaries clear in that regard. And yeah, I'm celebrating with

537
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Speaker 4: a few friends A week later, I'm keeping family and

538
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:01,680
Speaker 4: friends pretty apart. Since my friends have quite the bone

539
00:25:01,720 --> 00:25:05,360
Speaker 4: to pick with my family. Understandably, I'm going to look

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Speaker 4: into that. Thank you, And there is a second update.

541
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Speaker 4: Oh my gosh, man, oh man, do you have any thoughts?

542
00:25:11,800 --> 00:25:17,000
Speaker 4: My brain is hurting, Rope. It's a lot. I mean, OK,

543
00:25:17,000 --> 00:25:19,560
Speaker 4: he's going through a lot, like trying to stand up

544
00:25:20,160 --> 00:25:22,399
Speaker 4: to your parents and seemingly is doing that, but then

545
00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:24,720
Speaker 4: also got broken up for not standing up. These two

546
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Speaker 4: links are what happened until now. Also, this will be

547
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Speaker 4: the final update. The birthday party came and went and

548
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Speaker 4: it was pretty much like I thought it was going

549
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Speaker 4: to be, except that both my mother as well as

550
00:25:35,160 --> 00:25:37,960
Speaker 4: my brother tried to include me more than before, and

551
00:25:38,000 --> 00:25:42,159
Speaker 4: in general it was nice. Again, this is Opie's birthday,

552
00:25:42,240 --> 00:25:45,520
Speaker 4: I would hope you were included. Yeah, everyone was happy

553
00:25:45,600 --> 00:25:47,560
Speaker 4: and I had a nice time as well. It didn't

554
00:25:47,600 --> 00:25:50,320
Speaker 4: feel like I was an outsider all the time, just

555
00:25:50,359 --> 00:25:52,440
Speaker 4: a little bit, which is more than I can usually say.

556
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Speaker 4: As for the other three guests, my ex parents in

557
00:25:55,680 --> 00:25:59,000
Speaker 4: law excuse themselves, but they invited for us for coffee

558
00:25:59,000 --> 00:26:00,920
Speaker 4: on that day and I got my favorite cake lovely.

559
00:26:01,640 --> 00:26:03,679
Speaker 4: I still have a pretty solid relationship with them, and

560
00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:06,879
Speaker 4: I hope it holds and my ex partner now trying

561
00:26:06,880 --> 00:26:08,800
Speaker 4: to act like my best friend again because that was

562
00:26:08,840 --> 00:26:12,000
Speaker 4: who they were before our relationship started. Didn't show up either,

563
00:26:12,880 --> 00:26:15,080
Speaker 4: X claim that it would be too uncomfortable for them,

564
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Speaker 4: since my parents could make a comment or something about

565
00:26:17,320 --> 00:26:19,520
Speaker 4: why they broke up with me, and they didn't want

566
00:26:19,560 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 4: to expose themselves like that. You could say that our

567
00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:25,120
Speaker 4: relationship is a bit strained with some of the stuff

568
00:26:25,160 --> 00:26:27,679
Speaker 4: they said during the breakup still doesn't sit right with me,

569
00:26:28,240 --> 00:26:30,600
Speaker 4: like how I and my problems are a huge burden

570
00:26:30,640 --> 00:26:32,960
Speaker 4: to them and that I'm nothing more than a doormat.

571
00:26:33,280 --> 00:26:36,679
Speaker 4: I respect their decision, but it still makes me sad

572
00:26:36,760 --> 00:26:41,040
Speaker 4: and angry, which is totally understandable. Yeah, maybe I've just

573
00:26:41,080 --> 00:26:43,280
Speaker 4: grown bitter since the one person who I thought would

574
00:26:43,280 --> 00:26:46,119
Speaker 4: never hurt me did that so easily and seems to

575
00:26:46,160 --> 00:26:49,399
Speaker 4: thrive now that they're single once more. Sometimes it feels

576
00:26:49,440 --> 00:26:52,720
Speaker 4: like I can't recognize them anymore. But oh well, they

577
00:26:52,800 --> 00:26:54,919
Speaker 4: just have to realize and accept that they lost a

578
00:26:55,000 --> 00:26:58,480
Speaker 4: whole lot of my trust. Also, I've been in contact

579
00:26:58,480 --> 00:27:01,679
Speaker 4: with another old friend more made two friends that way,

580
00:27:02,000 --> 00:27:05,560
Speaker 4: So yeah, things aren't looking that bleak anymore. That is

581
00:27:05,640 --> 00:27:08,280
Speaker 4: amazing to hear yeah. And you know what else is

582
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Speaker 4: amazing to hear? Well, you guys can listen to full

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Speaker 4: Okay story time. I think, Op, you are headed in

586
00:27:18,359 --> 00:27:21,199
Speaker 4: the right direction. You've been through a lot of tough stuff.

587
00:27:22,160 --> 00:27:24,360
Speaker 4: But your partner breaking up with you does not mean

588
00:27:24,400 --> 00:27:26,959
Speaker 4: that you aren't going in the right direction. You are

589
00:27:27,040 --> 00:27:29,119
Speaker 4: standing up for yourself. You're putting up boundaries and that

590
00:27:29,240 --> 00:27:32,199
Speaker 4: is still needed, and you're making steps to that, and

591
00:27:32,200 --> 00:27:34,840
Speaker 4: that's great. In the grand scheme of things, this might

592
00:27:34,920 --> 00:27:37,200
Speaker 4: be the right direction. It might be Yeah, and maybe

593
00:27:37,240 --> 00:27:39,840
Speaker 4: you know you wanted to kids, your partner doesn't. In

594
00:27:39,880 --> 00:27:42,480
Speaker 4: the long run, that would have been another tricky thing.

595
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Speaker 4: So I think, yeah, you know exactly, Yeah, this is

596
00:27:45,600 --> 00:27:48,640
Speaker 4: right for you. As for my family and futures, since

597
00:27:48,680 --> 00:27:50,520
Speaker 4: I set up some boundaries and stuck with them, they're

598
00:27:50,560 --> 00:27:53,840
Speaker 4: in general more careful with me. I already went low

599
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Speaker 4: contact with them, but if they decide to pull some

600
00:27:56,040 --> 00:27:59,200
Speaker 4: bs again, I told them the consequences, meaning that I

601
00:27:59,240 --> 00:28:01,840
Speaker 4: would lower it even more. I've already heard my mother

602
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Speaker 4: talk about how much he misses me and how I'm

603
00:28:03,760 --> 00:28:06,960
Speaker 4: not aroullied as much anymore. Maybe you shouldn't have taken

604
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Speaker 4: Ope for granted. I hope with time they can accept

605
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Speaker 4: that I may be their daughter and not the offspring

606
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Speaker 4: who never did meet their expectations. With that, thank you

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Speaker 4: to everyone who read and left a comment. You made

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Speaker 4: me smile in difficult times, and your words gave me

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Speaker 5: My brother wrongly accused our parents of being controlling, so

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Speaker 4: Uh oh uh oh.

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Speaker 5: They have started giving my parents the silent treatment and

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Speaker 5: I have no idea what to do, especially because I

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Speaker 5: towards myself and my parents throughout their entire married life.

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Speaker 5: This all started due to a conflict that occurred when

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Speaker 5: a Halloween Horror Nights, inviting her friends from her high school,

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Speaker 5: and with my college nearby, I said I would be

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Speaker 5: would not be late. I sat at the Starbucks and

651
00:29:58,840 --> 00:30:01,280
Speaker 5: just people watched until it was around five o'clock, the

652
00:30:01,320 --> 00:30:03,680
Speaker 5: meeting time. I had not received a text and decided

653
00:30:03,680 --> 00:30:05,640
Speaker 5: to reach out to check the status on their arrival.

654
00:30:05,800 --> 00:30:07,480
Speaker 5: My soon to be sister in law was planning to

655
00:30:07,480 --> 00:30:10,080
Speaker 5: carpool with everyone from our hometown and drive one hour

656
00:30:10,120 --> 00:30:11,920
Speaker 5: to the park, so I assumed that they were late

657
00:30:11,920 --> 00:30:15,280
Speaker 5: for traffic reasons. I waited for a reply and still nothing.

658
00:30:15,400 --> 00:30:18,680
Speaker 5: Waiting for another thirty minutes, I texted again and finally

659
00:30:18,760 --> 00:30:21,040
Speaker 5: received a reply. She said that they were on their

660
00:30:21,080 --> 00:30:23,719
Speaker 5: way to the park. Apparently, my sister in law decided

661
00:30:23,720 --> 00:30:26,560
Speaker 5: to book her hairstyle practice for her wedding the same

662
00:30:26,680 --> 00:30:30,400
Speaker 5: day as Halloween. Horranites in the afternoon, so her hair

663
00:30:30,440 --> 00:30:33,000
Speaker 5: would be done for her bachelorette and that's why she

664
00:30:33,120 --> 00:30:35,280
Speaker 5: said she was running late. I decided to grab some

665
00:30:35,320 --> 00:30:37,800
Speaker 5: food as the event would not be opened until six o'clock,

666
00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:38,840
Speaker 5: and sat waiting.

667
00:30:39,280 --> 00:30:40,480
Speaker 4: About an hour later.

668
00:30:40,840 --> 00:30:43,560
Speaker 5: I waited expecting them to have reached the hotel, and

669
00:30:43,600 --> 00:30:46,719
Speaker 5: texted my sister in law yet again for an update.

670
00:30:46,840 --> 00:30:47,560
Speaker 4: She said that they.

671
00:30:47,520 --> 00:30:50,600
Speaker 5: Arrived but were hungry. They ordered pizza to the hotel.

672
00:30:50,760 --> 00:30:51,080
Speaker 4: Again.

673
00:30:51,240 --> 00:30:54,120
Speaker 5: I waited thirty minutes, so it was close to eight o'clock.

674
00:30:54,160 --> 00:30:56,200
Speaker 5: At this point, I had not heard any updates, so

675
00:30:56,240 --> 00:30:58,600
Speaker 5: I decided to head into the park to experience some

676
00:30:58,680 --> 00:31:00,920
Speaker 5: of the scare zones, but did not enter any houses

677
00:31:00,960 --> 00:31:02,840
Speaker 5: because the express pass only worked.

678
00:31:02,640 --> 00:31:03,760
Speaker 4: Once for each house.

679
00:31:03,960 --> 00:31:06,280
Speaker 5: I sat alone in the park and still not having

680
00:31:06,320 --> 00:31:08,440
Speaker 5: heard from my sister in law, I texted my brother

681
00:31:08,480 --> 00:31:10,400
Speaker 5: if he knew where she was and told my parents

682
00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:11,200
Speaker 5: about the situation.

683
00:31:11,400 --> 00:31:12,600
Speaker 4: Big mistake.

684
00:31:13,160 --> 00:31:16,120
Speaker 5: My dad called my brother in a frenzy, asking him

685
00:31:16,160 --> 00:31:19,120
Speaker 5: how his future wife could lack empathy and not communicate

686
00:31:19,160 --> 00:31:21,440
Speaker 5: where she was. He was pissed that I was left

687
00:31:21,440 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 5: in the park by myself during a huge event like

688
00:31:23,720 --> 00:31:26,880
Speaker 5: Halloween horror nights where something could happen, even though I

689
00:31:27,000 --> 00:31:29,320
Speaker 5: was a college student at the time. My brother called

690
00:31:29,360 --> 00:31:31,920
Speaker 5: me soon after and apologized, asking me where I was

691
00:31:31,960 --> 00:31:34,360
Speaker 5: and to go have fun by myself. During this time,

692
00:31:34,400 --> 00:31:36,920
Speaker 5: my brother was also snapchatting my sister in law asking

693
00:31:36,960 --> 00:31:39,080
Speaker 5: her where she was. My brother said that she was

694
00:31:39,120 --> 00:31:41,520
Speaker 5: on her way and that was that. I sat on

695
00:31:41,560 --> 00:31:44,720
Speaker 5: the curb and they all finally showed up a little

696
00:31:44,760 --> 00:31:45,880
Speaker 5: after nine o'clock.

697
00:31:46,000 --> 00:31:51,520
Speaker 4: Jang and they said six. Yeah, I mean Opie chose

698
00:31:51,520 --> 00:31:53,360
Speaker 4: to be there at five, but like still has been

699
00:31:53,360 --> 00:31:56,360
Speaker 4: there right since five? Yeah, I mean, like you can't

700
00:31:56,360 --> 00:31:59,280
Speaker 4: complain for being there for like an hour if they

701
00:31:59,280 --> 00:32:00,880
Speaker 4: were like if they go there for sake, you could

702
00:32:00,880 --> 00:32:02,440
Speaker 4: be like, I've been here for an hour. But the

703
00:32:02,640 --> 00:32:06,280
Speaker 4: several hours like after the meeting time, you can definitely

704
00:32:06,440 --> 00:32:11,719
Speaker 4: think about that. Yeah, absolutely, four hours after they were

705
00:32:11,720 --> 00:32:14,760
Speaker 4: supposed to be there. My sister in law looked unbothered,

706
00:32:14,800 --> 00:32:17,560
Speaker 4: and they all brushed it off like nothing happened. Actually, no,

707
00:32:17,600 --> 00:32:18,160
Speaker 4: they said.

708
00:32:18,000 --> 00:32:20,000
Speaker 5: Five, so it was it was four hours, So she

709
00:32:20,600 --> 00:32:22,680
Speaker 5: I think was there at four then, and then they

710
00:32:22,720 --> 00:32:24,640
Speaker 5: pushed it back to six because of the hair thing

711
00:32:25,160 --> 00:32:28,600
Speaker 5: and then so it's just like it's just I think

712
00:32:28,600 --> 00:32:29,000
Speaker 5: I think.

713
00:32:29,040 --> 00:32:30,720
Speaker 4: We did get there at five, but I think you're

714
00:32:30,800 --> 00:32:35,440
Speaker 4: right that, Like originally the time was yeah, five, and

715
00:32:35,480 --> 00:32:38,280
Speaker 4: then they pushed their way. Most a lot of hours

716
00:32:38,320 --> 00:32:41,640
Speaker 4: had gone by, bad communications, so bad regardless of what

717
00:32:41,680 --> 00:32:42,160
Speaker 4: the time was.

718
00:32:42,240 --> 00:32:44,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, my sister in law looked unbothered and they all

719
00:32:44,440 --> 00:32:47,840
Speaker 5: brushed it off like nothing happened, nudging me, yeah, nudging

720
00:32:47,880 --> 00:32:50,280
Speaker 5: me to follow them to our first house. Throughout the evening,

721
00:32:50,400 --> 00:32:52,480
Speaker 5: it was fine. I made small talk with her friends,

722
00:32:52,520 --> 00:32:54,200
Speaker 5: but did not have too much in common with them.

723
00:32:54,280 --> 00:32:56,320
Speaker 5: I was nice and did not bring up their root delay.

724
00:32:56,560 --> 00:32:58,120
Speaker 5: At the end of the night, I decided to leave

725
00:32:58,160 --> 00:33:00,520
Speaker 5: early because I still had class the next morning, and

726
00:33:00,560 --> 00:33:03,440
Speaker 5: bid them a goodbye. They seemed kind of relieved I

727
00:33:03,480 --> 00:33:05,640
Speaker 5: was leaving, but I decided to brush it off.

728
00:33:05,800 --> 00:33:07,560
Speaker 4: Dang, that's rough, man, that's rude.

729
00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,080
Speaker 5: Fast forward, my sister in law was not forgiving of

730
00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:13,560
Speaker 5: That night, my brother apparently was told off by my

731
00:33:13,680 --> 00:33:16,200
Speaker 5: dad and said that his wife should have been more

732
00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:18,680
Speaker 5: responsible in caring for other people's time. He said that

733
00:33:18,720 --> 00:33:21,120
Speaker 5: he did not appreciate her leaving his daughter alone and

734
00:33:21,120 --> 00:33:23,680
Speaker 5: not communicating with her. He said something along the lines

735
00:33:23,760 --> 00:33:26,320
Speaker 5: of you should think twice about marrying someone like that.

736
00:33:26,520 --> 00:33:28,360
Speaker 5: My father said that in the heat of the moment

737
00:33:28,440 --> 00:33:30,760
Speaker 5: when he was very angry at my sister in law,

738
00:33:30,880 --> 00:33:32,560
Speaker 5: my dad stood up for me when I could not,

739
00:33:32,680 --> 00:33:35,360
Speaker 5: and he came from a loving place for my sake. Apparently,

740
00:33:35,480 --> 00:33:38,040
Speaker 5: my brother told everything to my future sister in law,

741
00:33:38,160 --> 00:33:42,680
Speaker 5: especially that part in quotes. Dude, yikes, dude, we probably

742
00:33:42,720 --> 00:33:45,280
Speaker 5: could have probably could have kept a few things.

743
00:33:45,400 --> 00:33:48,360
Speaker 4: Yeah, you don't need to be that. Yes, it would

744
00:33:48,400 --> 00:33:52,360
Speaker 4: have to be like a freaking court reporter. Yeah, exactly.

745
00:33:52,920 --> 00:33:56,120
Speaker 4: You can pare a phrase. She was pissed at me

746
00:33:56,440 --> 00:33:58,400
Speaker 4: and moreover, my father.

747
00:33:58,760 --> 00:34:00,959
Speaker 5: My mom went out to lunch with them to mitigate

748
00:34:01,000 --> 00:34:02,840
Speaker 5: the situation, and sister in law said that it was

749
00:34:02,840 --> 00:34:06,080
Speaker 5: not her fault. She communicated clearly and then I should apologize.

750
00:34:06,640 --> 00:34:08,680
Speaker 5: I decided to let it go. I knew it was

751
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:11,040
Speaker 5: not my fault. She was late and left me, deciding

752
00:34:11,080 --> 00:34:13,480
Speaker 5: to be the bigger person. I did, in fact apologize

753
00:34:13,520 --> 00:34:15,360
Speaker 5: to her, but said that I did not feel like

754
00:34:15,400 --> 00:34:17,800
Speaker 5: I was in the wrong. I only contacted my brother

755
00:34:17,840 --> 00:34:19,799
Speaker 5: and my parents because I was worried about what to

756
00:34:19,840 --> 00:34:21,840
Speaker 5: do in the situation. I did not come from a

757
00:34:21,960 --> 00:34:25,600
Speaker 5: malicious place to ruin her bachelorette like she said I did.

758
00:34:25,800 --> 00:34:28,160
Speaker 4: No, you literally didn't do anything wrong. Yeah, not at all.

759
00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:31,200
Speaker 5: Then this mess led to the first ever harsh treatment

760
00:34:31,239 --> 00:34:33,840
Speaker 5: from her and also my brother. According to her, it

761
00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:36,520
Speaker 5: was my fault and my parents for messing her up

762
00:34:36,560 --> 00:34:40,080
Speaker 5: her bachelorette and causing drama. The wedding came and we

763
00:34:40,080 --> 00:34:42,479
Speaker 5: were left out of details and were not told much,

764
00:34:42,640 --> 00:34:46,040
Speaker 5: even though my parents were paying for the majority of it.

765
00:34:46,239 --> 00:34:50,000
Speaker 4: WHOA wow, wondering if they were left out like if

766
00:34:50,040 --> 00:34:53,040
Speaker 4: OP was originally going to be like a bridesmaid or

767
00:34:53,080 --> 00:34:55,160
Speaker 4: something and then was left out. I don't know that.

768
00:34:55,160 --> 00:34:58,319
Speaker 5: Would be a crazy, crazy thing to yeah, or if

769
00:34:58,320 --> 00:35:00,440
Speaker 5: they're just like, hey, we decided on these flowers and

770
00:35:00,480 --> 00:35:02,839
Speaker 5: they're like the most expensive flowers or something like that.

771
00:35:03,120 --> 00:35:05,440
Speaker 5: Sister in law told her entire family about what my

772
00:35:05,480 --> 00:35:08,399
Speaker 5: father said and turned his words against us, all making

773
00:35:08,480 --> 00:35:10,680
Speaker 5: us scene like we hated her and wanted to break

774
00:35:10,680 --> 00:35:13,319
Speaker 5: off their engagement. The wedding rehearsal came and it was

775
00:35:13,480 --> 00:35:17,440
Speaker 5: awkward silence. Her family clearly was angry at us, thinking

776
00:35:17,480 --> 00:35:20,680
Speaker 5: of hit this predisposition they had in their mind. We

777
00:35:20,719 --> 00:35:23,720
Speaker 5: had already met them before, but to have this switch

778
00:35:23,840 --> 00:35:27,000
Speaker 5: was scary and uncomfortable. Getting to the wedding, her family

779
00:35:27,160 --> 00:35:30,160
Speaker 5: was put first throughout the process, and everyone from her

780
00:35:30,160 --> 00:35:32,719
Speaker 5: family made a speech, while myself and my parents were

781
00:35:32,760 --> 00:35:35,400
Speaker 5: never asked. My parents and I kept in the background

782
00:35:35,400 --> 00:35:37,319
Speaker 5: with our side of the family. I never even got

783
00:35:37,360 --> 00:35:39,200
Speaker 5: to dance with my brother or really talked to him,

784
00:35:39,280 --> 00:35:42,359
Speaker 5: which I guess happens at weddings. My parents ended up

785
00:35:42,400 --> 00:35:44,840
Speaker 5: paying for my brother and my sister in law's entire

786
00:35:45,000 --> 00:35:47,879
Speaker 5: honeymoon to an all inclusive resort as a wedding gift.

787
00:35:47,920 --> 00:35:50,080
Speaker 5: They had a great time, but never really told us

788
00:35:50,160 --> 00:35:51,920
Speaker 5: much about it. They then went on to get an

789
00:35:51,920 --> 00:35:54,960
Speaker 5: apartment and a dog. My brother left me and my

790
00:35:55,040 --> 00:35:58,399
Speaker 5: mom to clean out his entire childhood room, bringing all

791
00:35:58,480 --> 00:36:01,400
Speaker 5: his stuff to his new apartment. We boxed everything and

792
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,640
Speaker 5: helped him out because we wanted to. But when we

793
00:36:03,719 --> 00:36:05,919
Speaker 5: got to his apartment, he asked, why did you bring

794
00:36:05,960 --> 00:36:09,200
Speaker 5: all of this? We looked at each other, confused. We

795
00:36:09,280 --> 00:36:12,920
Speaker 5: spent hours packing this up. Sister in law walked in

796
00:36:12,960 --> 00:36:15,319
Speaker 5: and started going through the stuff, making piles for us

797
00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:15,960
Speaker 5: to take back.

798
00:36:16,080 --> 00:36:19,520
Speaker 4: No, come on, my goodnes, come on, you just ask Yeah,

799
00:36:19,560 --> 00:36:22,240
Speaker 4: you just asked. Yeah, that's wild.

800
00:36:22,600 --> 00:36:25,960
Speaker 5: My poor mom relented and started taking stuff back to

801
00:36:26,080 --> 00:36:28,480
Speaker 5: the car. After this event and move, my parents and

802
00:36:28,520 --> 00:36:31,000
Speaker 5: I did not hear much from my brother. We decided

803
00:36:31,040 --> 00:36:33,320
Speaker 5: to give him space to figure out this new process

804
00:36:33,320 --> 00:36:35,640
Speaker 5: in his life, leaving out other small events that happened

805
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:36,160
Speaker 5: in between.

806
00:36:36,239 --> 00:36:38,280
Speaker 4: It was my turn to graduate college.

807
00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:42,080
Speaker 5: This even started the first silent treatment phase. How you

808
00:36:42,160 --> 00:36:44,719
Speaker 5: may ask, I only got five tickets for my graduation,

809
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:47,000
Speaker 5: and clearly I was giving two to my parents who

810
00:36:47,000 --> 00:36:49,600
Speaker 5: supported me, one to my grandma, one to my brother,

811
00:36:49,719 --> 00:36:52,080
Speaker 5: and the last ticket I figured I would give to

812
00:36:52,120 --> 00:36:55,080
Speaker 5: my sister in law. However, with not hearing from them much,

813
00:36:55,120 --> 00:36:56,920
Speaker 5: I assumed that she would not want to go, and

814
00:36:56,960 --> 00:36:59,440
Speaker 5: she was not a big contributor to this milestone. My

815
00:36:59,440 --> 00:37:02,319
Speaker 5: best friend, however, was studying with me and cheering me

816
00:37:02,360 --> 00:37:04,680
Speaker 5: on twenty four to seven. But I decided to give

817
00:37:04,719 --> 00:37:07,120
Speaker 5: it to my sister in law because my brother was invited.

818
00:37:07,200 --> 00:37:09,399
Speaker 5: I came home from college one weekend and they were

819
00:37:09,400 --> 00:37:11,720
Speaker 5: over for dinner at my parents' house. As the sister

820
00:37:11,760 --> 00:37:13,839
Speaker 5: in law was leaving, I whispered to my mom if

821
00:37:14,000 --> 00:37:15,640
Speaker 5: it would be the right time to invite her to

822
00:37:15,680 --> 00:37:19,000
Speaker 5: my graduation. My mom said, clearly, do what you want, sweetie,

823
00:37:19,080 --> 00:37:21,520
Speaker 5: it's your decision. I then proceeded to ask my sister

824
00:37:21,560 --> 00:37:23,640
Speaker 5: in law if she and my brother would like to attend.

825
00:37:23,760 --> 00:37:26,359
Speaker 5: She gave me a weird look and asked the date

826
00:37:26,400 --> 00:37:28,840
Speaker 5: in a weird tone. I told her, and she said,

827
00:37:29,239 --> 00:37:32,440
Speaker 5: I probably can rushing out with my brother right behind her,

828
00:37:33,200 --> 00:37:34,960
Speaker 5: she can show up at like nine o'clock.

829
00:37:35,440 --> 00:37:36,440
Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly, Like.

830
00:37:36,480 --> 00:37:39,560
Speaker 5: Oh sorry, I was sitting my hair done right, It's

831
00:37:39,600 --> 00:37:41,360
Speaker 5: like everyone's gone, We're.

832
00:37:41,200 --> 00:37:45,680
Speaker 4: Graduated in this I already walked yeah, like at twelve

833
00:37:46,200 --> 00:37:47,880
Speaker 4: right coming back to this.

834
00:37:47,960 --> 00:37:50,480
Speaker 5: Later, a few months after my parents and I, in

835
00:37:50,560 --> 00:37:52,839
Speaker 5: little to no contact with my brother, learned that they

836
00:37:52,880 --> 00:37:55,840
Speaker 5: had moved back into my sister in law's parents' house.

837
00:37:56,040 --> 00:37:58,200
Speaker 5: This was shocking because they had been living there for

838
00:37:58,320 --> 00:38:01,280
Speaker 5: months and did not tell us. My brother said words

839
00:38:01,280 --> 00:38:03,719
Speaker 5: that he would never use towards my parents. We thought

840
00:38:03,760 --> 00:38:06,440
Speaker 5: you would judge us. My parents were in fact not

841
00:38:06,560 --> 00:38:10,360
Speaker 5: judgmental and understood about saving money, but were more appalled

842
00:38:10,360 --> 00:38:13,120
Speaker 5: by the thought that my brother was not living where

843
00:38:13,120 --> 00:38:16,080
Speaker 5: he said he was. My graduation announcement was sent to

844
00:38:16,120 --> 00:38:18,640
Speaker 5: their apartment, and when it was sent back, they lied,

845
00:38:18,880 --> 00:38:21,120
Speaker 5: telling me that their mail system still had a few

846
00:38:21,160 --> 00:38:22,480
Speaker 5: things they needed to sort out.

847
00:38:22,600 --> 00:38:24,640
Speaker 4: It was a crazy shock.

848
00:38:24,840 --> 00:38:27,880
Speaker 5: Nonetheless, I graduated and was prepping to move to a

849
00:38:27,880 --> 00:38:30,840
Speaker 5: different state for a graduate school when they messaged my

850
00:38:30,840 --> 00:38:33,239
Speaker 5: mom randomly saying that they needed to talk.

851
00:38:33,280 --> 00:38:33,879
Speaker 4: I remember this.

852
00:38:33,880 --> 00:38:36,319
Speaker 5: Being a random evening this past summer when they sat

853
00:38:36,400 --> 00:38:40,440
Speaker 5: us down and started accusing each person of wrongdoing. First

854
00:38:40,719 --> 00:38:43,120
Speaker 5: was my father. They brought up the Halloween horror Nize

855
00:38:43,239 --> 00:38:46,000
Speaker 5: event that occurred, saying that he hated my sister in

856
00:38:46,120 --> 00:38:48,919
Speaker 5: law and would never welcome her into the family, which

857
00:38:49,000 --> 00:38:51,880
Speaker 5: was a complete lie. My father said that out of

858
00:38:51,920 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 5: defense for me and was angry in the spur of

859
00:38:54,320 --> 00:38:57,640
Speaker 5: the moment. Also, they accused him of being too judgmental

860
00:38:57,640 --> 00:39:01,280
Speaker 5: about their living situation, which he never spoke a peep about.

861
00:39:01,440 --> 00:39:04,240
Speaker 5: Then they started to accuse my poor mother of encouraging

862
00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:06,800
Speaker 5: the fact that I would not invite my sister in

863
00:39:06,880 --> 00:39:09,800
Speaker 5: law to my graduation. That is when I started getting

864
00:39:10,000 --> 00:39:13,080
Speaker 5: pissed I was inviting her and she took it out

865
00:39:13,120 --> 00:39:16,680
Speaker 5: of context. Sister in law started ranting about my mom

866
00:39:16,719 --> 00:39:19,720
Speaker 5: and how she was in the wrong. Then they both

867
00:39:19,840 --> 00:39:23,759
Speaker 5: looked at me. She mentioned the graduation invite, saying, even

868
00:39:23,840 --> 00:39:26,720
Speaker 5: if I did not want to go, my family still goes,

869
00:39:26,880 --> 00:39:28,400
Speaker 5: bringing it back to why her.

870
00:39:28,320 --> 00:39:29,200
Speaker 4: Family was better.

871
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:31,560
Speaker 5: What even if I did not want to go, my

872
00:39:31,760 --> 00:39:34,959
Speaker 5: family still goes. She's saying that, like her family would

873
00:39:34,960 --> 00:39:36,120
Speaker 5: go to Ope's graduation.

874
00:39:36,280 --> 00:39:37,520
Speaker 4: Yeah, I don't. I don't know what that means. It

875
00:39:37,560 --> 00:39:40,960
Speaker 4: doesn't make any sense, but it's is not a contest.

876
00:39:41,239 --> 00:39:41,960
Speaker 4: I digress.

877
00:39:42,200 --> 00:39:44,680
Speaker 5: Sister in law then started getting angry at my constant

878
00:39:44,680 --> 00:39:47,480
Speaker 5: messaging for my brother to hang out by himself with me.

879
00:39:47,800 --> 00:39:50,600
Speaker 5: My brother joined in, saying that they are a pair

880
00:39:50,800 --> 00:39:53,040
Speaker 5: now and need to be invited together.

881
00:39:53,280 --> 00:39:58,040
Speaker 4: I don't like any of this. They were invited to

882
00:39:58,719 --> 00:40:00,000
Speaker 4: the graduation. I'm confus.

883
00:40:00,520 --> 00:40:05,080
Speaker 5: I think this is now like they're both the graduasure happened. Yeah,

884
00:40:05,120 --> 00:40:07,960
Speaker 5: this is now about just hanging out in general, just

885
00:40:08,000 --> 00:40:09,200
Speaker 5: hang out just with the brother.

886
00:40:10,719 --> 00:40:13,800
Speaker 4: This is so silly. This is so silly. That's also ridiculous.

887
00:40:13,800 --> 00:40:16,560
Speaker 5: I can see all the manipulation behind it, of all

888
00:40:16,640 --> 00:40:19,200
Speaker 5: the isolation twisted a big no.

889
00:40:19,200 --> 00:40:22,080
Speaker 4: No. Yeah, she's trying to twist it because he seems

890
00:40:22,080 --> 00:40:24,640
Speaker 4: like he was like super when he first called him,

891
00:40:24,680 --> 00:40:27,040
Speaker 4: he was like super apologetic and was like, oh my god,

892
00:40:27,120 --> 00:40:30,239
Speaker 4: I'll just you know, have fine, I'll find out. And

893
00:40:30,280 --> 00:40:33,400
Speaker 4: then after that there was this huge switch, right, and

894
00:40:33,440 --> 00:40:36,120
Speaker 4: I feel like she got her her hooks in them.

895
00:40:36,200 --> 00:40:38,799
Speaker 5: Yeah, she got offended and then she was like, oh no,

896
00:40:38,960 --> 00:40:41,399
Speaker 5: they're all against me, and now she needs some sort

897
00:40:41,400 --> 00:40:45,319
Speaker 5: of validation or something like that by by convincing him

898
00:40:45,640 --> 00:40:48,040
Speaker 5: that they're all against both of them. Yeah, and it's

899
00:40:48,120 --> 00:40:51,879
Speaker 5: like no, what now, No, No, that's so hard to see.

900
00:40:52,000 --> 00:40:54,759
Speaker 5: That isolation. Man, that's rough. I said that that.

901
00:40:54,880 --> 00:40:57,239
Speaker 4: Is fine, but I also want to do things with

902
00:40:57,400 --> 00:40:57,799
Speaker 4: just you.

903
00:40:57,880 --> 00:41:00,600
Speaker 5: Sister in law did not take that well, which was

904
00:41:00,640 --> 00:41:04,280
Speaker 5: not a good sign. They left more talkative and nicer

905
00:41:04,320 --> 00:41:07,160
Speaker 5: to us after they simply pointed fingers at us. The

906
00:41:07,200 --> 00:41:09,719
Speaker 5: next part of the story is where I got crazy.

907
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,480
Speaker 5: I hate getting sentences like that.

908
00:41:12,480 --> 00:41:15,360
Speaker 4: I wanted to be like in the next part of

909
00:41:15,400 --> 00:41:19,120
Speaker 4: the story. My brother apologized and we figured it out.

910
00:41:19,320 --> 00:41:23,440
Speaker 5: Everyone held hands in the sunset together and said together,

911
00:41:24,200 --> 00:41:27,120
Speaker 5: Oh my gosh. Sister in law and my brother came

912
00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:29,720
Speaker 5: back for a family dinner right after that weird meeting,

913
00:41:29,880 --> 00:41:30,640
Speaker 5: the first.

914
00:41:30,400 --> 00:41:30,920
Speaker 4: In a while.

915
00:41:31,160 --> 00:41:33,520
Speaker 5: I am about to move, and they brought over a

916
00:41:33,560 --> 00:41:36,120
Speaker 5: bag for Father's Day. They also brought a gift for

917
00:41:36,200 --> 00:41:38,239
Speaker 5: my mom, which I thought was a belated Mother's Day

918
00:41:38,280 --> 00:41:40,200
Speaker 5: gift because they didn't get it or anything.

919
00:41:40,320 --> 00:41:43,680
Speaker 4: Inside, they announced that they were having a baby. I

920
00:41:43,760 --> 00:41:46,280
Speaker 4: knew it. I knew it. I knew I was coming.

921
00:41:46,400 --> 00:41:48,520
Speaker 4: I freaking knew it was coming. Man, let us know

922
00:41:48,560 --> 00:41:50,719
Speaker 4: in the chat if you also knew, do you know it?

923
00:41:50,840 --> 00:41:51,960
Speaker 4: Because we knew it.

924
00:41:53,080 --> 00:41:56,040
Speaker 5: I'm in pain right now. Yeah, this is hard. We

925
00:41:56,239 --> 00:41:59,600
Speaker 5: had no clue what to say. We were happy, but

926
00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:03,120
Speaker 5: just shocked. After hugging them and giving our congratulations, I

927
00:42:03,200 --> 00:42:05,840
Speaker 5: went to my room. They clearly did not talk with

928
00:42:05,920 --> 00:42:08,480
Speaker 5: us for months because they were angry, but decided to

929
00:42:08,600 --> 00:42:10,760
Speaker 5: confront and make up with us because they were having

930
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:13,239
Speaker 5: a baby. We did not even know that they were

931
00:42:13,280 --> 00:42:15,600
Speaker 5: mad in the first place. We had just gotten used

932
00:42:15,600 --> 00:42:18,480
Speaker 5: to no contact because sister in law is controlling of

933
00:42:18,560 --> 00:42:22,240
Speaker 5: every little thing my brother does. Flash forward, Everything is fine,

934
00:42:22,440 --> 00:42:24,440
Speaker 5: I guess in terms of the normal dynamic.

935
00:42:24,600 --> 00:42:27,239
Speaker 4: It is the fall and the baby shower is coming up.

936
00:42:27,360 --> 00:42:29,560
Speaker 5: I was nervous because I had to tell them that

937
00:42:29,600 --> 00:42:31,000
Speaker 5: I would not be able to make it because of

938
00:42:31,040 --> 00:42:33,719
Speaker 5: my classes. Fortunately it did not seem to matter, but

939
00:42:33,880 --> 00:42:36,480
Speaker 5: that sounds kind of sad. My parents had a wedding

940
00:42:36,600 --> 00:42:39,239
Speaker 5: that they already planned to attend, but drove down the

941
00:42:39,280 --> 00:42:40,960
Speaker 5: next day so that they would be able to attend

942
00:42:40,960 --> 00:42:42,840
Speaker 5: their first grandchild's baby shower.

943
00:42:42,920 --> 00:42:44,280
Speaker 4: They were very excited.

944
00:42:44,400 --> 00:42:47,680
Speaker 5: Sister in law rented out a wedding venue discount through connections,

945
00:42:47,719 --> 00:42:50,320
Speaker 5: but still expensive. My parents, yet again, out of the

946
00:42:50,400 --> 00:42:53,040
Speaker 5: kindness of their hearts, gave them money for the baby shower.

947
00:42:53,120 --> 00:42:55,560
Speaker 5: My mom asked if she could invite people, and sister

948
00:42:55,600 --> 00:42:58,719
Speaker 5: in law gave her a limit. My mom invited thirtyish

949
00:42:58,760 --> 00:43:02,439
Speaker 5: people minus me. Sister in law invited over seventy five.

950
00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:06,440
Speaker 5: This is a giant baby shower. Oh my goodness, yows

951
00:43:06,280 --> 00:43:07,600
Speaker 5: us in the seventy five?

952
00:43:07,760 --> 00:43:11,400
Speaker 4: Yeah, they they got a wedding venue for a baby shower.

953
00:43:11,520 --> 00:43:14,160
Speaker 4: That's kind of insane. And they're gonna have one hundred people.

954
00:43:14,320 --> 00:43:15,759
Speaker 4: And did they say who's paying for it?

955
00:43:16,320 --> 00:43:16,440
Speaker 3: Uh?

956
00:43:16,880 --> 00:43:19,440
Speaker 5: I think probably they were paying for it. But the

957
00:43:19,920 --> 00:43:23,719
Speaker 5: parents Opie's parents are like giving them so much. Of course,

958
00:43:23,760 --> 00:43:25,759
Speaker 5: that's what I thought. Yeah, in exchange for being able

959
00:43:25,760 --> 00:43:29,200
Speaker 5: to advise some people. My parents attended and they said

960
00:43:29,239 --> 00:43:31,160
Speaker 5: that they were glad I did not come because I

961
00:43:31,200 --> 00:43:34,560
Speaker 5: would have been banished to the background. Just like the wedding.

962
00:43:34,640 --> 00:43:36,399
Speaker 5: They hung out with the few people that did come

963
00:43:36,400 --> 00:43:38,800
Speaker 5: from their invites. But again this was not enough for

964
00:43:38,880 --> 00:43:41,600
Speaker 5: sister in law and my brother. Apparently during their opening

965
00:43:41,680 --> 00:43:44,120
Speaker 5: of presents, my brother was not able to get their attention.

966
00:43:44,400 --> 00:43:46,680
Speaker 5: At the same time, did not try too hard. He

967
00:43:46,719 --> 00:43:49,000
Speaker 5: got mad that they were not present for the opening

968
00:43:49,040 --> 00:43:51,680
Speaker 5: of their gift. My parents were stuck all the way

969
00:43:51,880 --> 00:43:55,279
Speaker 5: the freaking back. For Christ's sake, what do you expect,

970
00:43:55,640 --> 00:43:57,680
Speaker 5: like grandparents should be in the front.

971
00:43:57,840 --> 00:44:01,200
Speaker 4: Absolutely, absolutely twenty people at this party.

972
00:44:01,320 --> 00:44:03,440
Speaker 5: Yeah, but it's like that's people that you would find

973
00:44:03,520 --> 00:44:05,000
Speaker 5: and be like, Okay, you got to come here.

974
00:44:05,040 --> 00:44:08,799
Speaker 4: I want you here. Yeah, Like hey, you don't feel like, hey,

975
00:44:08,880 --> 00:44:11,799
Speaker 4: someone's seen my mom. Yeah. They like I don't know,

976
00:44:11,920 --> 00:44:13,719
Speaker 4: and you're like, okay, well that's it. They're like as

977
00:44:13,719 --> 00:44:15,520
Speaker 4: hard as I'm trying at the very end of the room,

978
00:44:15,520 --> 00:44:15,880
Speaker 4: and you're like.

979
00:44:15,880 --> 00:44:20,920
Speaker 5: Hey mom, Mom, Ah, she didn't, she didn't keep ignoring me,

980
00:44:21,000 --> 00:44:21,479
Speaker 5: keep going.

981
00:44:21,719 --> 00:44:22,719
Speaker 4: Yeah.

982
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:26,040
Speaker 5: Anyways, after the baby shower, my mom called and asked

983
00:44:26,040 --> 00:44:27,680
Speaker 5: if they got the extra money as she put in

984
00:44:27,719 --> 00:44:29,799
Speaker 5: the cart. My brother validated that he got the check,

985
00:44:29,880 --> 00:44:31,839
Speaker 5: but then proceeded to ask my mom if she would

986
00:44:31,880 --> 00:44:34,520
Speaker 5: be willing to purchase a five hundred dollars car seat

987
00:44:34,600 --> 00:44:36,359
Speaker 5: on top of what my parents did.

988
00:44:36,480 --> 00:44:39,840
Speaker 4: I'll let that sink in. Bro, just go to Target.

989
00:44:40,040 --> 00:44:42,920
Speaker 5: Why do you need this premiere car seat and Lulu

990
00:44:42,960 --> 00:44:46,680
Speaker 5: Lemon diaper bag? What Lululemon diaper bag? I think it

991
00:44:46,760 --> 00:44:50,200
Speaker 5: is still some very solid diaper bag. I had no idea, dude,

992
00:44:50,320 --> 00:44:52,520
Speaker 5: I'm looking this up while you read. Yeah, please do

993
00:44:53,040 --> 00:44:54,840
Speaker 5: I think it is sister in law asking you to

994
00:44:54,960 --> 00:44:58,080
Speaker 5: ask mom for sure? Now almost caught up to the

995
00:44:58,120 --> 00:44:59,080
Speaker 5: story in the title.

996
00:45:00,680 --> 00:45:05,240
Speaker 4: I just pretty nice. It's actually pretty nice, but Lulu Lemon.

997
00:45:05,280 --> 00:45:08,560
Speaker 5: You don't even need Lulu Lemon leggings. Those are still overpriced.

998
00:45:08,719 --> 00:45:11,719
Speaker 4: Yeah, a diaper bag, I feel like I could get

999
00:45:11,719 --> 00:45:14,200
Speaker 4: a cheaper one that still does the job. I kind

1000
00:45:14,200 --> 00:45:17,600
Speaker 4: of just need, like any backpack I think. I mean, I've.

1001
00:45:17,440 --> 00:45:20,719
Speaker 5: Douvered a one, but like I'm it looks like a

1002
00:45:20,719 --> 00:45:22,160
Speaker 5: backpack with some extra pockets.

1003
00:45:22,280 --> 00:45:26,280
Speaker 4: That's what it is. I guess it's just organizationally, it's easier. Maybe, yeah, maybe,

1004
00:45:26,400 --> 00:45:29,000
Speaker 4: I'm sure there are alternatives that are other options for

1005
00:45:29,200 --> 00:45:30,319
Speaker 4: than a Lulu Lemon bag.

1006
00:45:30,480 --> 00:45:33,359
Speaker 5: My parents received a call around Thanksgiving when they were

1007
00:45:33,440 --> 00:45:35,479
Speaker 5: visiting me, asking if sister in law and my brother

1008
00:45:35,520 --> 00:45:36,120
Speaker 5: could stay.

1009
00:45:35,920 --> 00:45:36,960
Speaker 4: At their house for the weekend.

1010
00:45:37,080 --> 00:45:38,919
Speaker 5: My parents, being the kind of people that they are,

1011
00:45:39,040 --> 00:45:42,480
Speaker 5: said sure, we are not there anyways. Apparently my sister

1012
00:45:42,560 --> 00:45:46,600
Speaker 5: in law's dog bit her brother's newborn, and this caused

1013
00:45:46,600 --> 00:45:49,480
Speaker 5: her to have a big fight with her parents. WHOA,

1014
00:45:49,600 --> 00:45:53,680
Speaker 5: my sister in law's dog bit her brother's newborn.

1015
00:45:54,200 --> 00:46:00,560
Speaker 4: Wow? Whoa, Oh my god, wild a newborn getting bit

1016
00:46:00,680 --> 00:46:04,520
Speaker 4: by a dog. Oh my god, that's terrifying. Yikes, yikes,

1017
00:46:04,560 --> 00:46:07,440
Speaker 4: sud Be So, I mean, oh my god, how do

1018
00:46:07,560 --> 00:46:10,840
Speaker 4: you not know that? Your your dog is yeah, you

1019
00:46:10,880 --> 00:46:13,279
Speaker 4: know like like bites people.

1020
00:46:13,200 --> 00:46:16,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, or just even any dog being around a newborn.

1021
00:46:16,239 --> 00:46:18,440
Speaker 5: It's like your own watch. Yeah, you have to be

1022
00:46:18,520 --> 00:46:21,920
Speaker 5: so carefully honestly. Also, parents should have been like, don't

1023
00:46:22,160 --> 00:46:25,600
Speaker 5: like keep this dog regardless of how friendly the dog is. Absolutely,

1024
00:46:25,719 --> 00:46:28,000
Speaker 5: and I mean we might find out a little bit

1025
00:46:28,000 --> 00:46:31,280
Speaker 5: more about that situation, but I'm guessing that the whatever

1026
00:46:31,320 --> 00:46:32,839
Speaker 5: it was, a sister in law was just like no,

1027
00:46:33,000 --> 00:46:37,319
Speaker 5: like it's yeah, it's like, well, it's your dog, girl.

1028
00:46:37,520 --> 00:46:37,880
Speaker 4: Sorry.

1029
00:46:38,520 --> 00:46:40,920
Speaker 5: They packed up their stuff and moved into my parents'

1030
00:46:40,960 --> 00:46:43,560
Speaker 5: house and staying with them till Christmas. During this time,

1031
00:46:43,719 --> 00:46:46,239
Speaker 5: my mom did the dishes, helped watch their dog, and

1032
00:46:46,280 --> 00:46:48,760
Speaker 5: a bunch of other chores on top of working.

1033
00:46:48,800 --> 00:46:50,400
Speaker 4: My mom would ask simple.

1034
00:46:50,080 --> 00:46:52,399
Speaker 5: Favors, like to go help her pick up her car

1035
00:46:52,440 --> 00:46:54,360
Speaker 5: from the shop, but sister in law had a scheduled

1036
00:46:54,440 --> 00:46:56,719
Speaker 5: lunch that she has every week with her brother and

1037
00:46:56,760 --> 00:46:59,680
Speaker 5: her own sister in law. Sister in law would still

1038
00:47:00,000 --> 00:47:02,680
Speaker 5: this is it her own family who she was angry with.

1039
00:47:02,880 --> 00:47:05,840
Speaker 5: During the day, when my parents and brother were at work.

1040
00:47:06,040 --> 00:47:08,399
Speaker 5: Talking to my brother, my dad agreed to help him

1041
00:47:08,400 --> 00:47:11,000
Speaker 5: pay for a down payment for a home and readily.

1042
00:47:11,200 --> 00:47:12,240
Speaker 4: My brother agreed.

1043
00:47:12,440 --> 00:47:15,120
Speaker 5: Oh boy, the day I come home for Christmas, my

1044
00:47:15,200 --> 00:47:17,600
Speaker 5: brother and sister in law were signing for a house

1045
00:47:17,640 --> 00:47:20,400
Speaker 5: and moved out the very day I arrived. Do you

1046
00:47:20,480 --> 00:47:23,000
Speaker 5: really think that we heard from them after Christmas?

1047
00:47:23,320 --> 00:47:24,120
Speaker 4: Not really.

1048
00:47:24,920 --> 00:47:27,120
Speaker 5: Even though my parents decided to help with the house

1049
00:47:27,160 --> 00:47:30,000
Speaker 5: and try to bridge this disconnect, they were back to

1050
00:47:30,080 --> 00:47:32,960
Speaker 5: square one. I had already given up on my relationship

1051
00:47:33,000 --> 00:47:35,160
Speaker 5: with my brother, but for them, I wanted it to

1052
00:47:35,200 --> 00:47:37,960
Speaker 5: get better. They now have a house and the baby

1053
00:47:38,080 --> 00:47:40,800
Speaker 5: is due soon this month. However, a new silent treatment

1054
00:47:40,880 --> 00:47:44,200
Speaker 5: has begun. My parents have now been accused of being

1055
00:47:44,239 --> 00:47:47,239
Speaker 5: too controlling and have given my brother anxiety when it

1056
00:47:47,280 --> 00:47:50,240
Speaker 5: comes to judging him. My brother is now in therapy,

1057
00:47:50,280 --> 00:47:53,040
Speaker 5: but all he discusses is how my father expects more

1058
00:47:53,040 --> 00:47:57,800
Speaker 5: from him, and how his father hates his wifeikes yike yuey.

1059
00:47:58,080 --> 00:48:00,400
Speaker 5: Who knows what he says about my mom? And I

1060
00:48:00,480 --> 00:48:02,400
Speaker 5: called him this week after hearing that he was not

1061
00:48:02,440 --> 00:48:04,720
Speaker 5: talking to my parents. I tried to hear his side,

1062
00:48:04,760 --> 00:48:06,560
Speaker 5: but he was accusing them of things that they have

1063
00:48:06,719 --> 00:48:09,319
Speaker 5: never said and never even would. He even brought up

1064
00:48:09,360 --> 00:48:13,280
Speaker 5: the Halloween hornites again, and how my father was horrible

1065
00:48:13,280 --> 00:48:15,920
Speaker 5: to my sister in law, saying that they still dwell

1066
00:48:15,960 --> 00:48:18,440
Speaker 5: on it. It seems that he has lost sight of

1067
00:48:18,480 --> 00:48:21,040
Speaker 5: who our parents are and that sister in law is

1068
00:48:21,080 --> 00:48:23,840
Speaker 5: feeding him lies. I feel the person I am talking

1069
00:48:23,880 --> 00:48:25,279
Speaker 5: to is not even him.

1070
00:48:25,440 --> 00:48:28,359
Speaker 4: Oh this is this is getting sad now eahn they

1071
00:48:28,360 --> 00:48:31,080
Speaker 4: have like a good relationship. I feel like, yeah, before

1072
00:48:31,120 --> 00:48:32,360
Speaker 4: this they yeah.

1073
00:48:32,400 --> 00:48:35,160
Speaker 5: Man, I confronted him, angry that he would say such

1074
00:48:35,200 --> 00:48:37,840
Speaker 5: things after our parents gave us a loving home and

1075
00:48:37,920 --> 00:48:40,480
Speaker 5: have done so much for us despite their own hardships

1076
00:48:40,520 --> 00:48:40,920
Speaker 5: in life.

1077
00:48:40,960 --> 00:48:42,840
Speaker 4: It is like he forgets that my parents.

1078
00:48:42,600 --> 00:48:44,920
Speaker 5: Are loving and kind people who would give up their

1079
00:48:44,960 --> 00:48:45,839
Speaker 5: lives for us and.

1080
00:48:45,840 --> 00:48:50,760
Speaker 4: Also like paid for his wedding. Yeah, they contributed a lot.

1081
00:48:51,080 --> 00:48:54,359
Speaker 5: Yeah, and this thing is like the Halloween Hornites saying

1082
00:48:54,360 --> 00:48:56,919
Speaker 5: has got to be at least like two years past. Yeah,

1083
00:48:57,000 --> 00:49:00,239
Speaker 5: this is ridiculous. Like this, oh my gosh. You know

1084
00:49:00,280 --> 00:49:03,720
Speaker 5: it's not ridiculous is the fact that we are.

1085
00:49:03,760 --> 00:49:05,880
Speaker 4: We got full episodes of stories just like this.

1086
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Speaker 4: Okay, story time.

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Speaker 5: We have given up our lives for you, and I

1090
00:49:14,400 --> 00:49:17,360
Speaker 5: think that's the one, the one time we'll make that exception.

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00:49:17,800 --> 00:49:21,680
Speaker 5: We've got days and days, even weekdays, even weeks over

1092
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Speaker 5: a month. Yeah, of content for you. It's true. Yeah,

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Speaker 5: so go check it out. But there is a little

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Speaker 5: bit more to the story. Have any final thoughts before

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Speaker 5: we move on.

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Speaker 4: I'm really hoping that eventually the brother comes around and

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00:49:39,360 --> 00:49:42,239
Speaker 4: realizes that he's in this kind of toxic relationship that

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00:49:42,320 --> 00:49:45,719
Speaker 4: is pulling him away from his familial relationships. Yeah, and

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Speaker 4: other relationships as well.

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Speaker 1: Yep.

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Speaker 4: Yeah, but I don't know if that's gonna happen. I

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Speaker 4: don't know, man, Yeah, that's just hard.

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00:49:52,160 --> 00:49:56,319
Speaker 5: She's obviously this is like textbook manipulation, textbook, you know,

1104
00:49:56,800 --> 00:50:00,759
Speaker 5: hanging on to one little thing from soul long ago

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00:50:00,840 --> 00:50:03,520
Speaker 5: and having that be like the reason for everything. And

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Speaker 5: then it's like and she's probably saying, like, oh, well,

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00:50:05,960 --> 00:50:08,160
Speaker 5: this all wouldn't have happened if you just didn't say

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00:50:08,200 --> 00:50:09,879
Speaker 5: that that one time two years ago.

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Speaker 4: It could be Yeah, that's just oh man. I really

1110
00:50:13,480 --> 00:50:15,480
Speaker 4: hope he's okay. But there is a bit more.

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00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:18,239
Speaker 5: I did not tell my brother anything bad about his

1112
00:50:18,280 --> 00:50:21,520
Speaker 5: wife and only confronted his odd behavior. Sister in law

1113
00:50:21,600 --> 00:50:24,680
Speaker 5: now blocked me on Instagram for no reason after that conversation.

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00:50:24,920 --> 00:50:27,000
Speaker 5: I find that there is some deeper meaning of control

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00:50:27,040 --> 00:50:29,640
Speaker 5: going on, and she would prefer that our family is

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00:50:29,680 --> 00:50:32,200
Speaker 5: out of his life. I would love to see my

1117
00:50:32,280 --> 00:50:34,960
Speaker 5: nephew and have my parents be awesome grandparents, but there

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00:50:35,040 --> 00:50:37,960
Speaker 5: is some weirdness constantly happening. We feel like we are

1119
00:50:38,040 --> 00:50:40,600
Speaker 5: walking on eggshells. So am I the a hole for

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00:50:40,840 --> 00:50:43,320
Speaker 5: confronting him after all that has happened?

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00:50:43,360 --> 00:50:46,640
Speaker 4: And that's the end. That's our final question.

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Speaker 5: Please please answer in the comments what you think?

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Speaker 4: How what you think? The answer is? Am I? Or

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00:50:53,280 --> 00:50:56,839
Speaker 4: is OP the a hole? No? I think no, No,

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00:50:57,239 --> 00:50:58,920
Speaker 4: I don't think you were ever the a hole. You

1126
00:50:58,960 --> 00:51:02,880
Speaker 4: literally just ask when they were coming. Yeah, yeah, like

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00:51:02,920 --> 00:51:04,000
Speaker 4: that that's all you.

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Speaker 5: Did, though, And I feel like in this kind of situation,

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00:51:07,440 --> 00:51:09,440
Speaker 5: it's so hard with situations.

1130
00:51:08,880 --> 00:51:11,840
Speaker 4: Like these because it's like you can't when.

1131
00:51:11,680 --> 00:51:14,000
Speaker 5: Someone's in like a toxic situation like this, It's like

1132
00:51:14,040 --> 00:51:16,520
Speaker 5: you can't be like too overbearing and be like this.

1133
00:51:16,400 --> 00:51:18,600
Speaker 4: This person's terrible, you're doing this blah blah blah, because

1134
00:51:18,600 --> 00:51:20,440
Speaker 4: then it's just more fuel for the fire, which I

1135
00:51:20,440 --> 00:51:22,520
Speaker 4: think is kind of what happened. I mean, the dad

1136
00:51:22,600 --> 00:51:24,279
Speaker 4: was like you should be careful who you get married

1137
00:51:24,320 --> 00:51:27,239
Speaker 4: to and then it was like, ah, exactly exactly. But

1138
00:51:27,280 --> 00:51:29,080
Speaker 4: it's like at a certain point, it's like if you

1139
00:51:29,200 --> 00:51:30,279
Speaker 4: actively see.

1140
00:51:30,000 --> 00:51:32,759
Speaker 5: This person changing, like you'll want to say something about that.

1141
00:51:32,840 --> 00:51:35,200
Speaker 5: Especially this is your brother, Like, this isn't just some

1142
00:51:35,280 --> 00:51:37,200
Speaker 5: friend that you just like, I don't know, can part

1143
00:51:37,239 --> 00:51:40,879
Speaker 5: ways with. This is your brother. So like, that's that's

1144
00:51:40,920 --> 00:51:43,480
Speaker 5: really hard. So you're definitely not the ahole. You're doing

1145
00:51:43,520 --> 00:51:45,400
Speaker 5: the best you can. That's really all you can do

1146
00:51:45,480 --> 00:51:46,200
Speaker 5: in the situation.

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00:51:46,520 --> 00:51:48,479
Speaker 4: Agreed. It may just be the thing that you.

1148
00:51:48,400 --> 00:51:51,920
Speaker 5: Just have to I don't know, just just I'm glad

1149
00:51:51,920 --> 00:51:55,520
Speaker 5: you're you're not being too aggressive and just like letting

1150
00:51:55,600 --> 00:51:59,160
Speaker 5: it happen kind of and then you know, trusting that

1151
00:51:59,520 --> 00:52:02,080
Speaker 5: he'll just have to come to this conclusion himself or something.

1152
00:52:02,719 --> 00:52:06,040
Speaker 4: Yeah, and hopefully he comes to it soon, hopefully hopefully.

1153
00:52:06,840 --> 00:52:10,440
Speaker 4: But that is the end of that story.

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Speaker 1: Sam here og host. We're gonna get back to these stories.

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Speaker 4: First, my boyfriend cheated on me with my sister. Then

1157
00:52:19,600 --> 00:52:24,520
Speaker 4: they continue to cheat on each other. Oh man, is

1158
00:52:24,560 --> 00:52:27,360
Speaker 4: it worse that they cheated on each other and didn't

1159
00:52:27,360 --> 00:52:31,080
Speaker 4: stay together? I feel like that's how it goes. It's

1160
00:52:31,120 --> 00:52:33,240
Speaker 4: just the cycle of cheaters. It would it be better

1161
00:52:33,320 --> 00:52:36,920
Speaker 4: if they cheated on OP and then like stayed together,

1162
00:52:36,920 --> 00:52:39,480
Speaker 4: because it's like at least it was, you know, worth it. No,

1163
00:52:39,640 --> 00:52:40,200
Speaker 4: it's still bad.

1164
00:52:40,280 --> 00:52:42,879
Speaker 5: Then she'd have to be reminded of that every Yeah,

1165
00:52:43,000 --> 00:52:44,640
Speaker 5: this way, I hope he can be like you like

1166
00:52:44,680 --> 00:52:45,759
Speaker 5: see freaking.

1167
00:52:45,840 --> 00:52:49,319
Speaker 4: Just torture each other. I twenty two female, have a

1168
00:52:49,360 --> 00:52:52,600
Speaker 4: sister twenty five female, who has always made me miserable.

1169
00:52:52,920 --> 00:52:55,440
Speaker 4: For context to my older sister we will call Emily,

1170
00:52:55,640 --> 00:52:59,840
Speaker 4: has always liked younger guys and is my mom's prize child.

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Speaker 4: By the way, this comes from Maximum Dentist thirty five

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Speaker 4: ninety two and if you want to submit your own stories,

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Speaker 4: got our slash okay, storytime separate it So. A few

1174
00:53:07,760 --> 00:53:10,359
Speaker 4: years ago I had a guy best friend will call Drew.

1175
00:53:10,440 --> 00:53:12,919
Speaker 4: I fell deeply in love with him. After six months

1176
00:53:12,960 --> 00:53:15,040
Speaker 4: of viking him, he asked me to be his girlfriend.

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Speaker 4: I was over the moon when he asked me, and

1178
00:53:17,400 --> 00:53:19,680
Speaker 4: my sister was happy for us, as she was also

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Speaker 4: in a relationship at the time with a boy we

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00:53:21,719 --> 00:53:24,319
Speaker 4: will call Tyler. As Drew and I grew close, I

1181
00:53:24,440 --> 00:53:28,120
Speaker 4: noticed him and my sister got closer as well. Uh oh,

1182
00:53:28,160 --> 00:53:31,239
Speaker 4: my sister always suggested we go on double dates. Not

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00:53:31,480 --> 00:53:35,560
Speaker 4: even two months into our relationship, I noticed strange behaviors

1184
00:53:35,600 --> 00:53:38,000
Speaker 4: between my sister and my boyfriend. I had a talk

1185
00:53:38,040 --> 00:53:40,360
Speaker 4: with Tyler about it, and he agreed he was not

1186
00:53:40,520 --> 00:53:42,959
Speaker 4: comfortable with how they acted around each other. I told

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00:53:43,000 --> 00:53:45,799
Speaker 4: Tyler that my sister has a history of manipulating and

1188
00:53:45,880 --> 00:53:48,520
Speaker 4: cheating on guys. I told him to be careful of

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00:53:48,560 --> 00:53:51,560
Speaker 4: her because I actually liked him as a person. I mean,

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Speaker 4: now you take that as Tyler as the boyfriend. Side note,

1191
00:53:55,080 --> 00:53:56,960
Speaker 4: he was my friend before he ever met her, and

1192
00:53:57,000 --> 00:53:59,160
Speaker 4: he was the closest in age she's ever been with.

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00:53:59,400 --> 00:54:02,760
Speaker 4: Drew All always reassured me that he never had any

1194
00:54:02,880 --> 00:54:05,799
Speaker 4: kind of feelings for Emily and agreed not to be

1195
00:54:05,880 --> 00:54:08,600
Speaker 4: around her so much. Emily wasn't the only issue though.

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Speaker 4: At this time, I still trusted Emily, but did not

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Speaker 4: trust her friends as they are known home wreckers. I

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00:54:14,800 --> 00:54:18,040
Speaker 4: wouldn't trust Emily if her friends are known home wreckers.

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Speaker 4: Yeah you are. Yeah, by the transit of property. Yeah.

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Speaker 4: One day I asked to use my boyfriend's phone, but

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00:54:25,000 --> 00:54:27,759
Speaker 4: he refused. I thought I was suspicious and grilled him

1202
00:54:27,800 --> 00:54:29,680
Speaker 4: on why he wouldn't let me use it. I know,

1203
00:54:30,120 --> 00:54:32,799
Speaker 4: not the best way to communicate with your partner, but

1204
00:54:32,880 --> 00:54:35,399
Speaker 4: I was young and dumb. He eventually confessed that one

1205
00:54:35,400 --> 00:54:37,960
Speaker 4: of Emily's best friends, a girl who I was also

1206
00:54:38,080 --> 00:54:40,239
Speaker 4: very close to at the time, had been asking him

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00:54:40,239 --> 00:54:43,080
Speaker 4: to have a thing with her and her friend because

1208
00:54:43,120 --> 00:54:46,720
Speaker 4: they were prettier than me. Oh no, big red flag

1209
00:54:46,760 --> 00:54:52,480
Speaker 4: baggrad flag Emily's best friend. Oh my god, So Emily's

1210
00:54:52,560 --> 00:54:57,799
Speaker 4: best friend asked, oh, he's boyfriend for a little a

1211
00:54:57,840 --> 00:55:01,680
Speaker 4: little action because they were like that much. That's ikey.

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Speaker 4: That is really ichy. You showed me messages from weeks

1213
00:55:05,440 --> 00:55:08,520
Speaker 4: before and refuse to let me see their present conversations.

1214
00:55:08,600 --> 00:55:11,480
Speaker 4: That's suspicious. He began hanging out with that girl and

1215
00:55:11,520 --> 00:55:15,960
Speaker 4: her friends frequently, which made me very uncomfortable. I'm sorry.

1216
00:55:16,360 --> 00:55:21,640
Speaker 4: The second that like a partner shows you like messages

1217
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Speaker 4: from people saying I want to have a threesome without

1218
00:55:24,080 --> 00:55:27,520
Speaker 4: your partner, yeah, like without ope, yeah, and also that

1219
00:55:27,560 --> 00:55:30,640
Speaker 4: they're prettier than ope, I'd just like no, No, I'd

1220
00:55:30,640 --> 00:55:33,040
Speaker 4: be like absolutely, I mean, like, you can hang out

1221
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Speaker 4: with them, but I'm I don't want to continue this relationship.

1222
00:55:35,680 --> 00:55:38,000
Speaker 4: If you do, yeah, that would not be that's so

1223
00:55:38,239 --> 00:55:41,880
Speaker 4: very comfortable. Yeah, absolutely, But I dismissed it because he

1224
00:55:41,920 --> 00:55:44,200
Speaker 4: would guilt me into being okay with it by saying

1225
00:55:44,239 --> 00:55:45,960
Speaker 4: things like you have to trust me to be a

1226
00:55:46,000 --> 00:55:50,279
Speaker 4: good girlfriend, or you're so controlling, or I'm assuming trust

1227
00:55:50,360 --> 00:55:52,600
Speaker 4: me to be a good boyfriend, or you're so controlling.

1228
00:55:52,640 --> 00:55:55,120
Speaker 4: About four months into our relationship, I thought it would

1229
00:55:55,160 --> 00:55:57,759
Speaker 4: be funny to switch phones with Emily and text Drew.

1230
00:55:57,960 --> 00:56:00,399
Speaker 4: She at first was hesitant, but then agree it would

1231
00:56:00,400 --> 00:56:02,799
Speaker 4: be funny. Her only condition was that she had to

1232
00:56:02,880 --> 00:56:05,480
Speaker 4: know what I was saying. I began texting him as

1233
00:56:05,640 --> 00:56:09,840
Speaker 4: if I were her and asking funny questions and stupid things. Suddenly,

1234
00:56:09,920 --> 00:56:12,399
Speaker 4: my sister got a text from her friend group about

1235
00:56:12,440 --> 00:56:15,240
Speaker 4: my boyfriend. The message explained how our friends thought Emily

1236
00:56:15,280 --> 00:56:17,400
Speaker 4: and Drew would have made the perfect couple and how

1237
00:56:17,400 --> 00:56:19,439
Speaker 4: they should have kissed when they played Truth or Dare

1238
00:56:19,480 --> 00:56:22,319
Speaker 4: at their last hangout. Why are they at twenty five

1239
00:56:22,440 --> 00:56:26,080
Speaker 4: years of age playing truth or Dare with someone who

1240
00:56:26,080 --> 00:56:27,680
Speaker 4: has a partner.

1241
00:56:27,360 --> 00:56:29,680
Speaker 5: And one of those dares is to give a cuz

1242
00:56:29,800 --> 00:56:32,120
Speaker 5: I don't like that high school.

1243
00:56:32,480 --> 00:56:36,160
Speaker 4: I immediately texted Drew as my sister, asking if he

1244
00:56:36,239 --> 00:56:38,640
Speaker 4: wished he had kissed her that night. He told me

1245
00:56:39,080 --> 00:56:41,240
Speaker 4: he wished he had kissed her and that I still

1246
00:56:41,239 --> 00:56:44,840
Speaker 4: would jail jail. I then got mad at my sister

1247
00:56:44,960 --> 00:56:47,080
Speaker 4: and went into the bathroom with her phone. I started

1248
00:56:47,080 --> 00:56:50,520
Speaker 4: to flirt with him to seize reaction, and he flirted back. Suddenly,

1249
00:56:50,600 --> 00:56:53,680
Speaker 4: I wasn't getting responses, and my sister desperately wanted her

1250
00:56:53,680 --> 00:56:55,680
Speaker 4: phone back. When she gave me my phone back, I

1251
00:56:55,760 --> 00:56:58,120
Speaker 4: went into the deleted messages and saw that she had

1252
00:56:58,160 --> 00:57:00,759
Speaker 4: told him I had her phone and was pretending to

1253
00:57:00,800 --> 00:57:03,279
Speaker 4: be her. I almost lost my crab then and there,

1254
00:57:03,400 --> 00:57:05,759
Speaker 4: but me being my young and dumb self, I let

1255
00:57:05,840 --> 00:57:07,960
Speaker 4: the two of them convince me to forgive them and

1256
00:57:08,040 --> 00:57:11,960
Speaker 4: let it go. Girl. My gosh, girl, he confessed to

1257
00:57:12,080 --> 00:57:14,400
Speaker 4: wanting to cheat on you and that he was interested

1258
00:57:14,400 --> 00:57:17,960
Speaker 4: in your sister. Yeah you saw him flirting'. The two

1259
00:57:17,960 --> 00:57:21,120
Speaker 4: of them eventually began hanging out alone together almost every day,

1260
00:57:21,120 --> 00:57:24,120
Speaker 4: and I became very jealous. Yet if I even talked

1261
00:57:24,160 --> 00:57:26,440
Speaker 4: to a boy, I would be scolded by Drew, and

1262
00:57:26,520 --> 00:57:28,440
Speaker 4: if I hung out with anyone other than him, he

1263
00:57:28,480 --> 00:57:30,360
Speaker 4: would yell at me and say I didn't love him.

1264
00:57:30,400 --> 00:57:32,360
Speaker 4: And then my friends mattered more to me than him.

1265
00:57:34,280 --> 00:57:38,560
Speaker 4: I literally hate this man's tribute. Shit, we always what happens.

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00:57:38,640 --> 00:57:42,720
Speaker 5: I hate this always projects yeah, and they always it

1267
00:57:42,960 --> 00:57:44,160
Speaker 5: just they just turned out.

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Speaker 4: It's ah ah. I forgot to mention that by this point,

1269
00:57:50,080 --> 00:57:52,360
Speaker 4: Tyler had broken things off with my sister and she

1270
00:57:52,560 --> 00:57:55,000
Speaker 4: banned me from talking to him because he broke up

1271
00:57:55,000 --> 00:57:59,600
Speaker 4: with her. And there is an update, But man, oh man,

1272
00:58:00,160 --> 00:58:04,160
Speaker 4: is this annoying? Ope? If this update isn't you breaking

1273
00:58:04,240 --> 00:58:08,040
Speaker 4: up with your boyfriend? I don't want it, please, I

1274
00:58:08,080 --> 00:58:11,600
Speaker 4: don't want it. Please. Five months into our relationship, one

1275
00:58:11,600 --> 00:58:14,040
Speaker 4: of Emily's friends got a boyfriend. He was a very

1276
00:58:14,120 --> 00:58:16,720
Speaker 4: attractive and sweet guy and all the girls in the

1277
00:58:16,760 --> 00:58:19,720
Speaker 4: group swoon for him. We'll call him Liam, and he's

1278
00:58:19,720 --> 00:58:22,280
Speaker 4: also younger than me. Liam is very important to the

1279
00:58:22,320 --> 00:58:24,560
Speaker 4: story and other stories I would love to share. Our

1280
00:58:24,640 --> 00:58:27,560
Speaker 4: six month mark came, and so did my birthday. Liam

1281
00:58:27,600 --> 00:58:30,400
Speaker 4: attended my party without his girlfriend, and Emily could not

1282
00:58:30,720 --> 00:58:33,640
Speaker 4: keep away from him. I told his girlfriend and she

1283
00:58:33,920 --> 00:58:37,040
Speaker 4: was extremely angry at Emily. But at my party, Emily

1284
00:58:37,080 --> 00:58:39,720
Speaker 4: was also all over my boyfriend and I barely got

1285
00:58:39,760 --> 00:58:41,680
Speaker 4: to talk to him. A week after that, my sister

1286
00:58:41,720 --> 00:58:44,120
Speaker 4: invited Drew and Liam to a party with her friends,

1287
00:58:44,200 --> 00:58:46,600
Speaker 4: including the friend who asked him to cheat on me

1288
00:58:46,840 --> 00:58:49,200
Speaker 4: with her. I told him I wasn't comfortable with him going.

1289
00:58:49,360 --> 00:58:51,560
Speaker 4: He immediately told me I was controlling him and I

1290
00:58:51,600 --> 00:58:54,600
Speaker 4: wouldn't let him do anything with his wife. Minutes later,

1291
00:58:54,680 --> 00:58:56,720
Speaker 4: I was getting texts from my sister or her friends

1292
00:58:56,760 --> 00:58:59,080
Speaker 4: and calls from my family. The texts that were getting

1293
00:58:59,120 --> 00:59:01,360
Speaker 4: were how horrible I was as a girlfriend for not

1294
00:59:01,440 --> 00:59:03,320
Speaker 4: letting him go to the party. I told him he

1295
00:59:03,400 --> 00:59:05,680
Speaker 4: could go to the party, it's his choice, but I'd

1296
00:59:05,760 --> 00:59:08,240
Speaker 4: rather be there with him since I didn't trust my

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Speaker 4: sister's friends. My mom called me home, and when I

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00:59:10,880 --> 00:59:12,880
Speaker 4: got there, she said that Emily had told her about

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00:59:12,920 --> 00:59:16,040
Speaker 4: the party and that I was horrible and controlling for that,

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00:59:16,320 --> 00:59:18,160
Speaker 4: and that I needed to let my boyfriend live his

1301
00:59:18,240 --> 00:59:22,400
Speaker 4: life where he can live his life alone. There you go,

1302
00:59:22,400 --> 00:59:25,160
Speaker 4: got the mom on board. Yeah, on, who's lying to

1303
00:59:25,200 --> 00:59:27,800
Speaker 4: this lady? Honestly, my mother made me believe it was

1304
00:59:27,880 --> 00:59:30,040
Speaker 4: all my fault and that I needed to leave him

1305
00:59:30,040 --> 00:59:33,360
Speaker 4: because I was manipulative and controlling. I broke down, ran

1306
00:59:33,440 --> 00:59:38,280
Speaker 4: out and called Drew to tell him we were over. Good. Oh, good.

1307
00:59:38,600 --> 00:59:41,640
Speaker 4: Oh my gosh. I wouldn't stop crying and apologizing to

1308
00:59:41,720 --> 00:59:44,120
Speaker 4: him while he listened with not a care in the world.

1309
00:59:44,200 --> 00:59:46,080
Speaker 4: He went to the party with my sister but still

1310
00:59:46,160 --> 00:59:48,360
Speaker 4: kept in touch with me. Emily sent me a video

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00:59:48,360 --> 00:59:50,680
Speaker 4: of them dancing together and hugging at the party, which

1312
00:59:50,760 --> 00:59:55,720
Speaker 4: really hurt. Why would you do that, wow, psycho? Oh

1313
00:59:55,760 --> 00:59:59,280
Speaker 4: my god, gosh. I still wanted to be with him,

1314
00:59:59,400 --> 01:00:01,640
Speaker 4: so I told them, and he said he still loved

1315
01:00:01,680 --> 01:00:03,800
Speaker 4: me and suggested we get back together. He said I

1316
01:00:03,840 --> 01:00:06,720
Speaker 4: should stay away from other guys and fix myself so

1317
01:00:06,760 --> 01:00:09,720
Speaker 4: he could get back with me soon. Oh so now

1318
01:00:09,720 --> 01:00:12,440
Speaker 4: he's putting it on her. Now. He's like, well, you

1319
01:00:12,600 --> 01:00:15,200
Speaker 4: need to so you need to be that you need

1320
01:00:15,200 --> 01:00:17,680
Speaker 4: to work out because right now you're not letting me

1321
01:00:17,720 --> 01:00:19,560
Speaker 4: get with your sister, and that's a problem.

1322
01:00:19,720 --> 01:00:23,040
Speaker 5: Yeah, He's like, like, you have you were the problem.

1323
01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:25,080
Speaker 5: You have to change so that I can get better.

1324
01:00:25,160 --> 01:00:27,760
Speaker 5: It's like, that's simply never how it works out.

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Speaker 4: Emily and Drew hung out every day without me after that.

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01:00:31,200 --> 01:00:33,720
Speaker 4: A week after the breakup, I saw them holding hands

1327
01:00:33,720 --> 01:00:35,960
Speaker 4: in a store. Another week went by and I caught

1328
01:00:35,960 --> 01:00:39,040
Speaker 4: them hooking up in her car. They began to just

1329
01:00:39,120 --> 01:00:41,280
Speaker 4: kiss and hold hands in front of me, which broke

1330
01:00:41,320 --> 01:00:43,320
Speaker 4: my heart because I was still deeply in love with him.

1331
01:00:43,360 --> 01:00:45,080
Speaker 4: I told her I wasn't okay with it, but she

1332
01:00:45,160 --> 01:00:46,920
Speaker 4: told me it's not up to me and that they

1333
01:00:46,960 --> 01:00:49,240
Speaker 4: love each other. I don't think that's gonna last. Really,

1334
01:00:49,480 --> 01:00:52,160
Speaker 4: it always ends how it begins. Uh huh. Emily told

1335
01:00:52,160 --> 01:00:54,480
Speaker 4: me that I wasn't good enough girlfriend to him and

1336
01:00:54,520 --> 01:00:58,400
Speaker 4: that he deserves someone better like her. They became exclusive,

1337
01:00:58,480 --> 01:01:01,480
Speaker 4: but soon cheated on each other. They didn't last a

1338
01:01:01,520 --> 01:01:05,800
Speaker 4: month of you see, Dan, there you go. I don't

1339
01:01:05,960 --> 01:01:09,000
Speaker 4: understand the thought process of like getting together and then

1340
01:01:09,040 --> 01:01:13,120
Speaker 4: immediately cheating like a month and you could break up, yeah,

1341
01:01:13,240 --> 01:01:14,680
Speaker 4: or just like never make it official.

1342
01:01:14,800 --> 01:01:17,240
Speaker 5: Yeah, just be like yeah, no, we're just like having fun.

1343
01:01:17,400 --> 01:01:18,840
Speaker 5: We're just a situation ship.

1344
01:01:18,880 --> 01:01:21,400
Speaker 4: But if you can do whatever you want, dude. Yeah.

1345
01:01:21,440 --> 01:01:24,400
Speaker 4: It's important to note that he cheated on her with

1346
01:01:24,480 --> 01:01:27,120
Speaker 4: one of her friends, and she cheated on him with Liam,

1347
01:01:27,320 --> 01:01:29,800
Speaker 4: who was also still dating her friend. His friend group

1348
01:01:29,840 --> 01:01:32,720
Speaker 4: man Messy Messy. Liam and Emily are now together, Oh

1349
01:01:32,760 --> 01:01:35,600
Speaker 4: my goodness, and have been for about two years. Wow.

1350
01:01:35,760 --> 01:01:38,440
Speaker 4: Going strong. In the span of this time, I have

1351
01:01:38,520 --> 01:01:42,760
Speaker 4: caught Emily cheating on Liam twice, never mind going very weak.

1352
01:01:43,160 --> 01:01:45,600
Speaker 4: I even got pictures of cuddling and kissing other guys.

1353
01:01:45,840 --> 01:01:48,800
Speaker 4: I obviously told them immediately and sent them the pictures

1354
01:01:48,840 --> 01:01:50,960
Speaker 4: because I believe cheating is a terrible thing, but he

1355
01:01:51,000 --> 01:01:54,680
Speaker 4: said he loved her, so would rather forget about it. Liam, dude,

1356
01:01:54,720 --> 01:01:56,920
Speaker 4: I mean, you also cheated on your girlfriends, so like,

1357
01:01:57,080 --> 01:02:00,480
Speaker 4: probably don't have that many moral qualms, but yeah, come on. Yeah.

1358
01:02:00,680 --> 01:02:02,840
Speaker 4: Just about a month ago, some of my sister's old

1359
01:02:02,840 --> 01:02:05,320
Speaker 4: friends reached out to me because they all hate her

1360
01:02:05,320 --> 01:02:07,520
Speaker 4: for being with Liam and confess that my sister had

1361
01:02:07,520 --> 01:02:10,240
Speaker 4: been hooking up with Drew toward the end of our relationship,

1362
01:02:10,240 --> 01:02:11,880
Speaker 4: and that Emily and Drew made it clear to the

1363
01:02:11,880 --> 01:02:15,680
Speaker 4: group they hated me and also planned on getting together again.

1364
01:02:15,800 --> 01:02:19,120
Speaker 4: They even showed me screenshots as proof. I finally feel

1365
01:02:19,200 --> 01:02:22,200
Speaker 4: validated for feeling insecure and telling him I wasn't comfortable

1366
01:02:22,200 --> 01:02:24,240
Speaker 4: with him being around her so much. I am now

1367
01:02:24,280 --> 01:02:26,880
Speaker 4: starting to tell others as it still gets brought up.

1368
01:02:27,000 --> 01:02:29,560
Speaker 4: It has caused drama and people to stop talking to

1369
01:02:29,640 --> 01:02:31,920
Speaker 4: my sister. Emily and my mother are now telling me

1370
01:02:32,080 --> 01:02:34,200
Speaker 4: i'd need to not bring it up that it's in

1371
01:02:34,280 --> 01:02:36,840
Speaker 4: the past, so it doesn't matter. I've finally come to

1372
01:02:36,880 --> 01:02:38,919
Speaker 4: realize it wasn't my fault and I was just trying

1373
01:02:39,000 --> 01:02:41,200
Speaker 4: my best as a girlfriend and a sister. I left

1374
01:02:41,200 --> 01:02:44,080
Speaker 4: out many other terrible details of ways Drew and Emily

1375
01:02:44,160 --> 01:02:46,640
Speaker 4: hurt me during that time period. This is just a

1376
01:02:46,680 --> 01:02:48,480
Speaker 4: fraction of what my sister has done to me, and

1377
01:02:48,520 --> 01:02:51,200
Speaker 4: I think it's time I stopped talking to her because

1378
01:02:51,240 --> 01:02:53,439
Speaker 4: talking to her only makes me miserable, and also talking

1379
01:02:53,520 --> 01:02:56,160
Speaker 4: to her she steals your boyfriend. Yeah, as she just

1380
01:02:56,240 --> 01:02:58,560
Speaker 4: degrades me and goes off on me. But you know

1381
01:02:58,600 --> 01:03:01,480
Speaker 4: who you guys should talk to us and you can

1382
01:03:01,520 --> 01:03:04,440
Speaker 4: listen to full episodes with stories just like that, this

1383
01:03:05,000 --> 01:03:07,880
Speaker 4: and that. Just go to Spotify, Apple Podcasts, you your

1384
01:03:07,880 --> 01:03:10,680
Speaker 4: favorite podcast app and search up. Okay, story time, do it?

1385
01:03:11,000 --> 01:03:11,400
Speaker 1: Do it?

1386
01:03:11,480 --> 01:03:14,360
Speaker 4: Tath a little bit more to this story. But OHI,

1387
01:03:14,640 --> 01:03:17,320
Speaker 4: oh my boy, oh.

1388
01:03:17,120 --> 01:03:20,720
Speaker 5: Boy, hoy yy yay is just like kind of crazy

1389
01:03:20,720 --> 01:03:23,480
Speaker 5: because there's like so much going on. It all started

1390
01:03:23,520 --> 01:03:26,000
Speaker 5: with like what happened with Opie and the boyfriend, and

1391
01:03:26,040 --> 01:03:30,160
Speaker 5: then it's like it's just continuing on for the rest of.

1392
01:03:30,160 --> 01:03:34,280
Speaker 4: The group chat like everyone else is just dipping their

1393
01:03:34,320 --> 01:03:35,400
Speaker 4: fingers and all the byes.

1394
01:03:35,880 --> 01:03:39,160
Speaker 5: Yeah, it's just, oh my gosh, she's just like watching

1395
01:03:39,200 --> 01:03:45,960
Speaker 5: this all unfurl. Yeah, it's wild, Like, uh okay, but

1396
01:03:45,960 --> 01:03:48,160
Speaker 5: there's a little bit left after all of this.

1397
01:03:48,280 --> 01:03:50,600
Speaker 4: I am now with the absolute love of my life

1398
01:03:50,680 --> 01:03:53,880
Speaker 4: and fiance, who refuses to even talk to Emily, knowing

1399
01:03:53,920 --> 01:03:56,080
Speaker 4: what she has done to me. He's like, I can't

1400
01:03:56,120 --> 01:03:59,040
Speaker 4: let her get her her hooks into me. I've got

1401
01:03:59,080 --> 01:04:02,560
Speaker 4: to stay away from Emily. No surprise, when she somehow

1402
01:04:02,640 --> 01:04:05,160
Speaker 4: got his number and hit on him, he blocked her

1403
01:04:05,160 --> 01:04:08,120
Speaker 4: and told me immediately, good amazing. I couldn't be more

1404
01:04:08,160 --> 01:04:10,440
Speaker 4: grateful for him. Still to this day, my mom and

1405
01:04:10,480 --> 01:04:13,160
Speaker 4: sister stick by their statement that she did nothing wrong

1406
01:04:13,280 --> 01:04:16,400
Speaker 4: and that I was the terrible and controlling girlfriend who

1407
01:04:16,400 --> 01:04:18,960
Speaker 4: should just let go. Am I the able for exposing

1408
01:04:19,000 --> 01:04:21,800
Speaker 4: my sister for hooking up with her my now ex boyfriend,

1409
01:04:22,560 --> 01:04:26,560
Speaker 4: and there is that is actually no, there's nothing more, okay.

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01:04:26,640 --> 01:04:28,880
Speaker 4: That is the end of the story.