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Speaker 1: This is John.

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Speaker 1: My stepsister and I fought constantly as kids. Now she

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Speaker 1: wants to reconcile sounds fishy to me. My mom passed

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Speaker 1: away when I was six, and my dad remarried when

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Speaker 1: I was nine. The woman he married had a daughter

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Speaker 1: one year younger than me, so she was eight. By

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Speaker 1: the way, this comes from One Last Time seventeen thirteen

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Speaker 1: on the Okay Storytime subured it so. At first I

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Speaker 1: loved having a new mom. She wasn't the best and

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Speaker 1: will never replace my real mom, but I appreciate her

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Speaker 1: trying to be there for me, and I am pretty

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Speaker 1: close with her and my dad. At first, I loved

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Speaker 1: having a sister and we got along great. I loved

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Speaker 1: having a playmate during vacations and always having a play

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Speaker 1: or two. The problems really started to amp up when

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Speaker 1: I was thirteen and she was twelve. It seemed like

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Speaker 1: no matter what I did when unpunished in her eyes,

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Speaker 1: and she had to mock me constantly being a hot

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Speaker 1: headed thirteen year old usually meant I'd retaliate and we

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Speaker 1: would have those long, screaming matches till either of our

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Speaker 1: parents told us to knock it off, or they would

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Speaker 1: send up to different parts of the house to cool off.

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Speaker 1: I also started playing football in high school, and my

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Speaker 1: problem was that I was constantly getting injured. In eight

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Speaker 1: years eleven to eighteen, I broke my arm pinky wrist,

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Speaker 1: got two concussions, tore my ACL, sprained my MCL, and

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Speaker 1: dislocated my shoulder. Maybe that's a sign that you should

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Speaker 1: stop playing football.

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Speaker 4: Usually people stop after an aco dang.

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Speaker 1: On top of all that, I was kind of chubby.

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Speaker 1: I don't want to say I was fat. I was

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Speaker 1: about one hundred and eighty to two ten from the

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Speaker 1: ages of fourteen to eighteen at six two okay, probably

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Speaker 1: like all.

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Speaker 4: Like like your football player, Yeah, I'm six one and

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Speaker 4: one hundred eighty.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, so it's like he's probably like called blake muscle.

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Speaker 5: Yeah.

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Speaker 1: She used to make fun of me for my injuries

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Speaker 1: and my weight, which were very touchy subjects for me.

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Speaker 1: Her favorite insult was you fat, cripple loser.

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Speaker 4: She could have been way more clever, just saying that's

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Speaker 4: just mean. Yeah, that's me, and she could have been

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Speaker 4: way funnier too.

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Speaker 1: Yeah that was just like bam bam bam ouch or

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Speaker 1: maybe if you lost some weight you wouldn't get injured

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Speaker 1: so often. Back then, those insults really pissed me off,

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Speaker 1: but I kept trying to be the older brother and

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Speaker 1: just told her to shut up, fight back, or storm off.

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Speaker 1: She also loved to embarrass me when friends were over

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Speaker 1: by bringing up dumb stuff I did when I was

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Speaker 1: like nine or ten. My friends are great people, but

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Speaker 1: we tease each other a lot and would usually remember

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Speaker 1: anything embarrassing we did and bring it up later, so

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Speaker 1: whatever she said to them would always get back. I

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Speaker 1: did talk with her if she could just shut up

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Speaker 1: when I have my friends over, and she basically told

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Speaker 1: me to f off and that it's her house too.

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Speaker 1: At this point in my life, sixteen years old, I

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Speaker 1: am super pissed at how crappy she's treated me over

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Speaker 4: She's just being a sister, a bad one. You didn't

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Speaker 4: do this, I know.

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Speaker 1: I cause some if and usually fought back when she

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Speaker 1: got snippy and bratty at me. But to me she

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Speaker 1: started more fights than I did. I did try to

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Speaker 1: talk to my dad and stepmom about the way me

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Speaker 1: and her treat each other, and they basically said it's

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Speaker 1: normal sibling rivalry. I don't think that's a normal sibling.

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Speaker 1: It goes beyond me and.

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Speaker 4: Brother didn't really have a relationship until I started driving

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Speaker 1: Yeah, her antics got a lot worse and her words

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Speaker 1: gotten more and more mean filled and vile, which meant

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Speaker 1: I would retaliate with just as mean and vile filled insults.

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Speaker 1: I will not sit here and say I wasn't just

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Speaker 1: as mean to her as she was to me. I

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Speaker 1: used to bully her relentlessly for these hair buns she

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Speaker 1: I also told her plenty of times that I hate

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Speaker 1: her and don't consider her family. I have apologized so

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Speaker 1: much for those two because I feel bad. Even though

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Speaker 1: bet there were some other moments, but they didn't happen

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Speaker 1: to me, so I probably forgot them. I moved out

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Speaker 1: when I was eighteen, without ever sending her a text

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Speaker 1: message goodbye or even telling her I was moving out

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Speaker 1: the past five years of unpleasantness between us made me

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Speaker 1: happy that I didn't have to see her. A year later,

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Speaker 1: she moved out, and I still resented her for how

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Speaker 1: we treated each other. We go almost two years without

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Speaker 1: speaking other than on holidays, and that's really only dry stuff,

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Speaker 1: nothing big. I am now twenty one and she's twenty

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Speaker 1: and I got a text the other night asking why

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Speaker 1: we aren't close like we were when we were kids.

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Speaker 1: I basically said, I don't care to get along with

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Speaker 3: She told me to grow up, you grow up be

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Speaker 1: Now she's like, why aren't you close to me? And

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Speaker 1: he's like, well, we weren't close, and she's like.

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Speaker 3: Grow up, come on, let's do it.

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Speaker 1: And not even an hour later, I get a call

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Speaker 1: from my dad asking why I have so much hate

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Speaker 1: for my sister in quotes years since we have lived together.

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Speaker 1: I told him I'll be cordial and I won't cut

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Speaker 1: want to be close with her. How do I go

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Speaker 1: about telling her that I don't want us to be

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Speaker 1: leaving the door open for her not to resent me

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Speaker 1: and we can still love each other at it. I

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Speaker 1: would like to point out that I was just as

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Speaker 1: mean to my stepsister. I don't have examples because it's

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Speaker 1: been five years and didn't stick with me like hers did,

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Speaker 1: but our fighting growing up did go both ways. Edit too.

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Speaker 1: Some people have said that I shouldn't cut her out

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Speaker 1: of my life, and I agree with that. I love

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Speaker 1: her and want to be there for her, but I

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Speaker 1: don't like her enough to be close with her. And

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Speaker 1: Edit three I added more to the story of how

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Speaker 1: I was crappy to her too, and there is an

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Speaker 1: editor's note. Opie was voted not the ale, and there

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Speaker 1: are some relevant comments and an updates. But before we

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Speaker 1: get into that, what do you think Opie should do?

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Speaker 4: He's right, they should not like pursue healthy relationship until

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Speaker 4: he's ready for it, because she may be, but she's

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Speaker 4: still a child and she wants something out of him.

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Speaker 4: That's what I want to know.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, No, that is a good question. Yeah, maybe she's

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Speaker 1: like trying to get something out of this. I do

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Speaker 1: think that it's going to hurt your relationship more in

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Speaker 1: the long run if you force it when you're not ready. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: but I think it seems like you both. I mean,

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Speaker 1: she wants it out, but like you down the line

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Speaker 1: seem to want it. So you both want it eventually,

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Speaker 1: maybe just like slowly. It doesn't have to happen as fast,

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Speaker 1: like maybe it's just like talking to each other at

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Speaker 1: holidays first, like having actual conversations. Yeah, but there are

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Speaker 1: some relevant comments Opie when told maybe his sister matured

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Speaker 1: and changed honestly, Opie says, I do want a relationship

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Speaker 1: at some point with her, but some insults are a

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Speaker 1: bit too fresh and could still hurt. I also want

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Speaker 1: to explore life without being bogged down with a friendship

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Speaker 1: I don't want with a person I wouldn't like In

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Speaker 1: due time, I would like there to be a close

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Speaker 1: I love her and if she needed me, I'd be

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Speaker 1: there in a second, but I don't want to really

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Speaker 1: have that let's go get drinks any buddies type of

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Speaker 1: relationship at this point. I hope she knows that if

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Speaker 1: any dude tried to harass her, I'd be on him

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Speaker 1: in the second I remembered I knocked the daylights out

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Speaker 1: of a dude who slapped her butt when we were

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Speaker 1: at the beach. So it's like, only I could be

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Speaker 1: mean to you. If she ever needed to talk to

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Speaker 1: me about advice, of course i'd be there for her.

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Speaker 1: Just don't think I want that super close relationship yet,

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Speaker 1: and I would love a super close relationship with you.

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Speaker 1: You guys, where you watch episodes of stories like this

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Speaker 1: on Spotify, on Apple Podcasts or any of your podcast apps.

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Speaker 1: Just search up Okay, start time. Yeah, and there is

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Speaker 1: a little bit more to this story. There's an update,

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Speaker 1: but any final thoughts to finish us all.

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Speaker 4: He's not ready yet and I appreciate his emotional maturity

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Speaker 4: to admit that I agree.

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Speaker 1: But there is an update. After our text commo that

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Speaker 1: led to my dad calling me asking what's wrong between us,

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Speaker 1: I texted her about a meetup at my place. This

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Speaker 1: realization gave me a new look on our relationship. The

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Speaker 1: there wasn't any name calling or anything neat. We talked

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Speaker 1: kind of acts the same kind of moody, but can

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Speaker 1: hold it in so much better now. But it's a

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Speaker 1: isn't a wall of tension between us anymore. Thank you

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Speaker 1: all for the advice in comments. It really came in

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Speaker 1: handy and I all right, And there are some final

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Speaker 1: Up until now, I still can't make things right between

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Speaker 1: my big system me, but that's okay. Maybe we just

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Speaker 1: need to mature and talk it out. Opie says, give

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Speaker 1: her a shot, Invite her to a coffee meetup. That's

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Speaker 1: what we did, and it really helped make sure it's

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Speaker 1: public so things can't escalate to an actual screaming match.

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Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story. But it

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Speaker 1: seems like Opie's got on the path to working in

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Speaker 1: it very amicable. Yeah, it seems like they're gonna figure

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Speaker 1: it out, and I appreciate that. But that is the

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Speaker 1: end of that story.

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Speaker 4: My sister went hostile at her own wedding because I

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Speaker 4: revealed I'm already married.

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Speaker 1: I don't understand. I need more information now.

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Speaker 4: I am a twenty seven year old woman who is

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Speaker 4: married to another man who is twenty eight at the

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Speaker 4: time I am writing this. Our family is relatively accepting

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Speaker 4: of us, even though it can be awkward depending on

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Speaker 4: the person, and the two of us have been married

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Speaker 4: for four months. By the way, this comes from warm

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Speaker 4: He is also a very nice man, has never treated

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Speaker 4: My sister, however, slowly began treating me differently after she

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Speaker 1: I hate that because she says that she's an ally,

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Speaker 4: I told her, no, I will not be taking off

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Speaker 4: She told me word for word that if I wore

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Speaker 3: I crap you not. She told me word for word, Well,

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Speaker 4: I didn't even know what to say, so I just

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Speaker 4: On the day of the wedding, everything goes smoothly. I

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Speaker 3: My wedding, this is all about me. Don't you dare

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Speaker 4: This is crazy Why she's so jealous? One Two she

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Speaker 1: And she's like, wow, Op and his husband are having

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Speaker 4: Let me cook here, Let me cook here. Sam dropped

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Speaker 1: What if there's like a baby crying, I still.

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Speaker 4: Think that that should show what kind of person you are.

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Speaker 1: She is about you as a couple, and it's not

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Speaker 4: Front of all of your family. That's ridiculous. I would

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Speaker 1: But I'm in a horrible marriage.

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Speaker 4: She is the one who called me slurs and try

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Speaker 4: Hey Mark me, Amy? What do you want?

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Speaker 4: I didn't do anything wrong. Why would I apologize, Amy?

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Speaker 4: You did, though, You made my wedding day about yourself

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Speaker 1: I'm the a hole here.

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Speaker 3: You called me.

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Speaker 4: A slur for no reason. You overreacted, Amy, I needn't

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Speaker 3: Well, too bad, they slay.

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Speaker 1: What Your sister is the worst person ever? Black hole,

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Speaker 4: This is like abandoning your brother and throwing them under

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Speaker 4: not the cheerleader bus, the football kid bus. No, a

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Speaker 4: You just wouldn't have cared about it if it didn't happen,

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Speaker 4: how righteous of you to make my feelings about you

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Speaker 4: once more? You really aft up and made my day horrible.

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Speaker 1: Girl, you major day horrible. If you don't hate in

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Speaker 5: Me.

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Speaker 3: What that was wrong with you?

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Speaker 4: I did do anything wrong. I just answered a question.

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Speaker 4: I didn't get really wasted, stripped and proclaim my marital

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Speaker 1: I'm sorry, she's claiming to be a feminist.

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Speaker 4: You're just being a wiener right now. Me, what does

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Speaker 4: You honestly are being a wiener in this situation. Amy,

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Speaker 4: stop just using being a USI and apologized. It's not

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Speaker 3: Me what, I don't feel embarrassed to apologize.

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Speaker 4: I apologize when I'm wrong.

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Speaker 3: You know this.

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Speaker 4: I'm not in the wrong, and I won't apologize to

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Speaker 4: You are completely losing.

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Speaker 1: She's making me insane.

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Speaker 4: I am calm Amy, just f off. You made me

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Speaker 4: so absent. I canceled my beach honeymoon and now we

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Speaker 4: have to figure something out. Go play dress out with

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Speaker 1: This woman is driving me insane.

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Speaker 4: And we could drive you insane with more stories like

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Speaker 4: this on your favorite podcast platform, Apple, Spotify, whatever you

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Speaker 4: on those podcast platforms, and we got a little bit

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Speaker 4: more here. Right now, I don't even want to hear it.

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Speaker 4: Sophia's done.

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Speaker 1: I hate this woman so much.

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Speaker 4: I want to know what she was using him for,

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Speaker 4: because you played the tend this whole time. I know

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Speaker 4: what I want to know.

441
00:19:51,080 --> 00:19:54,280
Speaker 1: She freaking suck you, despicable human being, and.

442
00:19:54,320 --> 00:19:56,840
Speaker 4: Ob being the amazing guy is probably didn't think of it.

443
00:19:56,880 --> 00:19:58,960
Speaker 4: I just got lost my sister. Not I also got

444
00:19:59,080 --> 00:20:01,639
Speaker 4: used and was abandoned by my sister. Just abandon and

445
00:20:01,720 --> 00:20:02,320
Speaker 4: you don't got to call.

446
00:20:02,440 --> 00:20:05,040
Speaker 1: Names used, op, I'm sorry.

447
00:20:05,200 --> 00:20:08,240
Speaker 4: After that, we stopped texting, mostly because I thought she

448
00:20:08,320 --> 00:20:10,200
Speaker 4: was acting like a five year old and I truly

449
00:20:10,240 --> 00:20:13,160
Speaker 4: didn't want to deal with it now. Literally half an

450
00:20:13,160 --> 00:20:16,440
Speaker 4: hour before I started writing this, I got a package

451
00:20:16,760 --> 00:20:19,160
Speaker 4: at my door that was wrapped up in tacky Christmas

452
00:20:19,200 --> 00:20:22,320
Speaker 4: wrapping paper and it said it was from Amy. My

453
00:20:22,480 --> 00:20:25,680
Speaker 4: sister confused. I opened it, crap you not. There was

454
00:20:25,720 --> 00:20:28,680
Speaker 4: a white bikini and lingerie set inside with a note

455
00:20:28,680 --> 00:20:31,000
Speaker 4: from my sister saying, since I'm not going to the

456
00:20:31,040 --> 00:20:33,440
Speaker 4: beach anymore. I thought I might give this to you.

457
00:20:33,600 --> 00:20:36,399
Speaker 4: The only blah blah blah I know enjoyed dressing up

458
00:20:36,440 --> 00:20:37,040
Speaker 4: for your husband.

459
00:20:37,040 --> 00:20:40,840
Speaker 1: You freaks. Wow, what a nightmare the person. I can't

460
00:20:40,880 --> 00:20:43,360
Speaker 1: believe she like tricked everyone into thinking.

461
00:20:43,119 --> 00:20:46,240
Speaker 4: She was an ally okay and ending with an overly

462
00:20:46,320 --> 00:20:49,040
Speaker 4: obvious x XI. I'm your sister, Amy. That's all I

463
00:20:49,080 --> 00:20:51,359
Speaker 4: have for you. If more happens, I will update again.

464
00:20:51,400 --> 00:20:53,960
Speaker 4: And that's all the updates we got right now. Holy crap.

465
00:20:54,800 --> 00:20:57,800
Speaker 1: Being this hateful of a person and thinking that you're

466
00:20:57,840 --> 00:21:01,080
Speaker 1: still in the right, You're the worst. Bye, Bye bye.

467
00:21:01,240 --> 00:21:05,359
Speaker 1: I won't miss you. Everyone's upset. I left my brothers stranded.

468
00:21:05,560 --> 00:21:07,639
Speaker 1: It's because what he wanted was illegal.

469
00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:10,600
Speaker 4: If the cobs aren't watching, nothing's illegal.

470
00:21:10,800 --> 00:21:13,480
Speaker 1: So I twenty four female went to a festival with

471
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Speaker 1: my boyfriend twenty six mail and my uncle fifty two male.

472
00:21:17,160 --> 00:21:19,520
Speaker 1: It was for the whole weekend, and my uncle lives

473
00:21:19,520 --> 00:21:21,760
Speaker 1: in a truck with a horse trailer which is now

474
00:21:21,760 --> 00:21:24,280
Speaker 1: converted into a motor room. He's not poor, he just

475
00:21:24,320 --> 00:21:26,600
Speaker 1: loves the lifestyle with his two small dogs. By the way,

476
00:21:26,680 --> 00:21:29,200
Speaker 1: this comes from Princess bamby two thousand on the Okay

477
00:21:29,200 --> 00:21:31,879
Speaker 1: Storytime severed it. So it's worth mentioning that I'm not

478
00:21:32,000 --> 00:21:34,960
Speaker 1: super close with my older brother thirty one Mail because

479
00:21:34,960 --> 00:21:38,399
Speaker 1: he's hard work, selfish and emotionally draining. You'll see why

480
00:21:38,560 --> 00:21:41,280
Speaker 1: that being said, he's still my brother. We didn't plan

481
00:21:41,359 --> 00:21:43,640
Speaker 1: to go with my brother and it was sheer coincidence

482
00:21:43,680 --> 00:21:45,880
Speaker 1: that he was there at the same festival as us.

483
00:21:46,240 --> 00:21:48,800
Speaker 1: We knew he was there, but he didn't know we

484
00:21:48,800 --> 00:21:51,440
Speaker 1: were there initially, and we decided to have a good

485
00:21:51,480 --> 00:21:54,800
Speaker 1: time whilst avoiding him like the plague, and then afterwards

486
00:21:54,800 --> 00:21:56,840
Speaker 1: we would have wanted it to go down like OMD.

487
00:21:57,160 --> 00:22:00,680
Speaker 1: I had no idea you were there, small. Oh eh,

488
00:22:01,240 --> 00:22:03,800
Speaker 1: that's not what happened. My boyfriend and I camped in

489
00:22:03,840 --> 00:22:06,560
Speaker 1: a tent next to my uncle's truck, and despite the

490
00:22:06,640 --> 00:22:09,600
Speaker 1: twelve hours of rain on the Saturday, we were all

491
00:22:09,640 --> 00:22:12,640
Speaker 1: having a great time and did well to steer clear

492
00:22:12,680 --> 00:22:15,080
Speaker 1: of my brother, who was there with his girlfriend. The

493
00:22:15,119 --> 00:22:18,040
Speaker 1: festival was about a two hour trip from his hometown

494
00:22:18,200 --> 00:22:21,480
Speaker 1: using public transport. That may not sound like much to

495
00:22:21,520 --> 00:22:24,760
Speaker 1: people in the US or other bigger countries, but with

496
00:22:24,800 --> 00:22:27,679
Speaker 1: the cost of travel in the UK and the inconvenience

497
00:22:27,720 --> 00:22:31,240
Speaker 1: of catching trains and buses. It's really hard work. So

498
00:22:31,480 --> 00:22:34,440
Speaker 1: on the Sunday evening, my brother spotted my boyfriend somewhere

499
00:22:34,440 --> 00:22:38,080
Speaker 1: at the festival. Brother began calling me non stop, very

500
00:22:38,160 --> 00:22:40,800
Speaker 1: late on Sunday night and early hours of Monday morning.

501
00:22:41,040 --> 00:22:43,800
Speaker 1: I really just wanted to enjoy this last night, so

502
00:22:43,880 --> 00:22:46,119
Speaker 1: I didn't respond. When I went to bed, he was

503
00:22:46,160 --> 00:22:49,639
Speaker 1: still calling and messaging and didn't stop until I finally

504
00:22:49,720 --> 00:22:53,840
Speaker 1: answered around three am. He gave me this whole story

505
00:22:53,880 --> 00:22:56,560
Speaker 1: about how his girlfriend is awful because she wanted to

506
00:22:56,600 --> 00:22:59,320
Speaker 1: hear certain music with her friends while he wanted to

507
00:22:59,320 --> 00:23:01,760
Speaker 1: go to different st just for other music. Now I

508
00:23:01,840 --> 00:23:04,040
Speaker 1: understand group safety and all that, but if there was

509
00:23:04,080 --> 00:23:06,240
Speaker 1: a group of friends, perhaps they could have split the

510
00:23:06,280 --> 00:23:08,560
Speaker 1: group back, or he could have gone wherever he wanted

511
00:23:08,600 --> 00:23:10,280
Speaker 1: and she would have been safe with her friends and

512
00:23:10,320 --> 00:23:12,800
Speaker 1: they could beat up later. She never said they have

513
00:23:12,840 --> 00:23:14,879
Speaker 1: to be right next to each other the entire time,

514
00:23:15,359 --> 00:23:17,280
Speaker 1: but my brother seemed to want to stay with her

515
00:23:17,280 --> 00:23:20,560
Speaker 1: every second. Anyway, my brother tells me the story about

516
00:23:20,560 --> 00:23:23,679
Speaker 1: how awful she spent him, although it mostly sounds like

517
00:23:23,720 --> 00:23:26,879
Speaker 1: he's the difficult one. And it's three a m. And

518
00:23:26,920 --> 00:23:29,320
Speaker 1: I just want to sleep. So I said, maybe we

519
00:23:29,400 --> 00:23:31,359
Speaker 1: can meet up for a sig, a coffee and a

520
00:23:31,440 --> 00:23:33,840
Speaker 1: hug before we all leave in the morning, and he

521
00:23:33,960 --> 00:23:37,520
Speaker 1: responded with, Yeah, that sounds really nice. I appreciate it, sis,

522
00:23:37,680 --> 00:23:39,880
Speaker 1: and so I went back to sleep. When I woke up,

523
00:23:40,080 --> 00:23:43,359
Speaker 1: I had loads more miss calls and messages for my brother,

524
00:23:43,600 --> 00:23:45,919
Speaker 1: my mom, and my brother's friend, who was not at

525
00:23:45,920 --> 00:23:49,040
Speaker 1: the festival. Apparently, according to his friend and our mother,

526
00:23:49,200 --> 00:23:52,800
Speaker 1: his girlfriend had left him stranded at the festival. Whoa

527
00:23:53,280 --> 00:23:55,240
Speaker 1: his phone was on low batteries, so I guess he

528
00:23:55,280 --> 00:23:57,159
Speaker 1: told his friend and mum what it was happening so

529
00:23:57,200 --> 00:23:58,560
Speaker 1: they could try and get through to me in the

530
00:23:58,640 --> 00:24:01,320
Speaker 1: event that his phone died, which it did. I speak

531
00:24:01,359 --> 00:24:03,159
Speaker 1: to a friend and mom and they tell me he's

532
00:24:03,200 --> 00:24:05,480
Speaker 1: waiting on a specific landmark at the festival and I

533
00:24:05,560 --> 00:24:08,360
Speaker 1: need to go find him. Great. I'm a little hungover,

534
00:24:08,600 --> 00:24:10,399
Speaker 1: but I go in search of my brother while my

535
00:24:10,440 --> 00:24:13,639
Speaker 1: boyfriend packs the tent up ready to leave. Okay, his

536
00:24:13,720 --> 00:24:18,119
Speaker 1: girlfriend didn't leave him stranded. Instead, he got pretty pissed

537
00:24:18,119 --> 00:24:20,040
Speaker 1: with her because she wanted to break up with him

538
00:24:20,040 --> 00:24:23,119
Speaker 1: after his behavior at the festival, but she insisted that

539
00:24:23,160 --> 00:24:25,520
Speaker 1: She'll still make sure he can get home. Okay, they

540
00:24:25,560 --> 00:24:27,400
Speaker 1: can talk about it with a clear head when they're

541
00:24:27,440 --> 00:24:31,240
Speaker 1: not hungover or coming down from substances. Brother didn't like this, and,

542
00:24:31,280 --> 00:24:33,760
Speaker 1: having confirmed that I was at the festival, decided to

543
00:24:33,800 --> 00:24:36,320
Speaker 1: pack his crap because he didn't want to spend almost

544
00:24:36,359 --> 00:24:39,280
Speaker 1: two hours in the car with that be and left

545
00:24:39,280 --> 00:24:42,720
Speaker 1: her tent early hours of Monday morning to continue calling me.

546
00:24:42,880 --> 00:24:46,800
Speaker 1: So he's just lying about the whole situation. What the heck? Yikes.

547
00:24:47,000 --> 00:24:49,199
Speaker 1: Rather than calling a taxi to get him to a

548
00:24:49,240 --> 00:24:52,119
Speaker 1: train station or rudder, he used all of his phone

549
00:24:52,160 --> 00:24:55,400
Speaker 1: battery trying to track me down. He could have potentially

550
00:24:55,480 --> 00:24:58,919
Speaker 1: left himself stranded in this big old field in the countryside.

551
00:24:59,040 --> 00:25:01,119
Speaker 1: Of course, I know it's go isn't the villain, But

552
00:25:01,240 --> 00:25:03,000
Speaker 1: Brother is the kind of person that me and the

553
00:25:03,040 --> 00:25:05,920
Speaker 1: rest of my family have to tiptoe around to avoid

554
00:25:06,000 --> 00:25:09,640
Speaker 1: annoying him. He punched doors in the past and broke them.

555
00:25:10,119 --> 00:25:13,280
Speaker 1: And he's always blocking the entire family because of an

556
00:25:13,440 --> 00:25:16,360
Speaker 1: argument with one of us and then unblocking us when

557
00:25:16,400 --> 00:25:20,000
Speaker 1: he feels better. Kind of loses the impact of blocking someone.

558
00:25:20,080 --> 00:25:23,280
Speaker 1: So knowing that she probably did nothing wrong and she

559
00:25:23,560 --> 00:25:26,280
Speaker 1: was the one who bought his ticket. I kept quiet

560
00:25:26,359 --> 00:25:28,960
Speaker 1: during his rants and monologues, knowing that I'll ask my

561
00:25:29,080 --> 00:25:31,520
Speaker 1: uncle to drive him home, since my uncle lives in

562
00:25:31,560 --> 00:25:33,639
Speaker 1: the same town as him, and my boyfriend's car is

563
00:25:33,640 --> 00:25:37,320
Speaker 1: parked on uncle's land. However, there's only space in the

564
00:25:37,320 --> 00:25:40,280
Speaker 1: cab of the truck for a driver and two passengers.

565
00:25:40,840 --> 00:25:43,439
Speaker 1: It's illegal here to drive around with people in the

566
00:25:43,440 --> 00:25:46,680
Speaker 1: back of a van or truck unless it is specifically

567
00:25:46,720 --> 00:25:48,960
Speaker 1: set up for people to walk with ease between the

568
00:25:49,040 --> 00:25:51,160
Speaker 1: cab and the back of the truck while the vehicle

569
00:25:51,240 --> 00:25:54,640
Speaker 1: is moving. It's a converted horse trailer, so obviously it's

570
00:25:54,680 --> 00:25:57,520
Speaker 1: not set up that way. Uncle suggested that we put

571
00:25:57,520 --> 00:25:59,639
Speaker 1: brother in the back and drive him to the nearest

572
00:25:59,640 --> 00:26:02,439
Speaker 1: trains station so he can complete the journey alone. He

573
00:26:02,480 --> 00:26:05,560
Speaker 1: had travel fairs, so that's not an issue. It's still illegal,

574
00:26:05,680 --> 00:26:09,680
Speaker 1: but it's not driving for two hours under illegal circumstances illegal.

575
00:26:09,880 --> 00:26:11,680
Speaker 4: He could lay down on the bed the trae.

576
00:26:13,720 --> 00:26:16,520
Speaker 1: It was tough to persuade Brother to understand that's the

577
00:26:16,560 --> 00:26:19,200
Speaker 1: best we could do, but he's settled for it under

578
00:26:19,240 --> 00:26:20,960
Speaker 1: the condition that I sit in the back of the

579
00:26:21,000 --> 00:26:23,080
Speaker 1: truck with him for the journey to the station so

580
00:26:23,119 --> 00:26:26,400
Speaker 1: we can chat. We didn't chat the entire time. Instead,

581
00:26:26,440 --> 00:26:28,159
Speaker 1: he was on the phone to all of his friends

582
00:26:28,160 --> 00:26:31,639
Speaker 1: telling them how awful is now ex girlfriend was. I

583
00:26:31,640 --> 00:26:34,399
Speaker 1: thought we left on good terms, and although I often

584
00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:36,720
Speaker 1: can't stand to be around him, he's sounds like a

585
00:26:36,800 --> 00:26:39,520
Speaker 1: nightmare if everyone hates him. I was glad he was safe,

586
00:26:39,560 --> 00:26:41,880
Speaker 1: and I hugged him goodbye before he ran for his train.

587
00:26:42,160 --> 00:26:44,760
Speaker 1: He messaged me to say he got home safely. It's

588
00:26:44,800 --> 00:26:46,679
Speaker 1: been a couple of weeks now and I currently have

589
00:26:46,760 --> 00:26:50,160
Speaker 1: a pretty severe ear affection, which I suspect I got

590
00:26:50,160 --> 00:26:54,320
Speaker 1: from the festival. Anyway, I've since been receiving hateful messages

591
00:26:54,359 --> 00:26:56,840
Speaker 1: from my brother and mother for not driving him all

592
00:26:56,840 --> 00:26:59,920
Speaker 1: the way home, which I didn't understand because it wasn't

593
00:27:00,760 --> 00:27:03,840
Speaker 1: it was my uncle's. Yeah, why is OP getting the flak?

594
00:27:04,040 --> 00:27:05,000
Speaker 4: That is kind of crazy.

595
00:27:05,200 --> 00:27:08,320
Speaker 1: He got home, he took the train, No one was stranded.

596
00:27:08,440 --> 00:27:10,680
Speaker 1: What I thought it was fine, But I guess maybe

597
00:27:10,760 --> 00:27:13,919
Speaker 1: his toxic mind or some of his toxic friends, not

598
00:27:13,960 --> 00:27:15,960
Speaker 1: all of them are toxic. I've convinced him that I

599
00:27:16,000 --> 00:27:18,879
Speaker 1: didn't try hard enough to persuade my uncle to illegally

600
00:27:19,000 --> 00:27:21,000
Speaker 1: drive him all the way home. I get where he's

601
00:27:21,040 --> 00:27:23,560
Speaker 1: coming from. Here's where I may be the a hole.

602
00:27:24,000 --> 00:27:26,280
Speaker 1: If we could illegally drive him to the station with

603
00:27:26,359 --> 00:27:29,200
Speaker 1: no issues, why not the rest of the journey? Admittedly

604
00:27:29,320 --> 00:27:31,480
Speaker 1: I didn't want to be around him anymore, and he'd

605
00:27:31,520 --> 00:27:32,920
Speaker 1: want me to sit in the back with him for

606
00:27:32,960 --> 00:27:35,720
Speaker 1: the entire journey. I don't have the mental strength for that,

607
00:27:35,920 --> 00:27:39,080
Speaker 1: and maybe that's my problem. But you guys will have

608
00:27:39,119 --> 00:27:42,320
Speaker 1: a problem if you don't listen to more episodes like

609
00:27:42,359 --> 00:27:47,240
Speaker 1: this on Apple Podcasts, Spotify or your favorite podcast up.

610
00:27:47,600 --> 00:27:49,760
Speaker 1: Just search up. Okay, story time, and then we won't

611
00:27:49,800 --> 00:27:51,600
Speaker 1: have a problem. But there is a little bit left

612
00:27:51,600 --> 00:27:53,280
Speaker 1: to the story. But do you a need final thoughts?

613
00:27:53,520 --> 00:27:57,080
Speaker 4: Hot take? Hot take, I'm disagreeing with Opie. Whoa if

614
00:27:57,119 --> 00:27:59,080
Speaker 4: my brother was in a tight situation, even if I

615
00:27:59,119 --> 00:28:01,560
Speaker 4: didn't like him in the stage, I hates him like

616
00:28:01,640 --> 00:28:03,520
Speaker 4: he sucks, But he'd be in the back of the

617
00:28:03,560 --> 00:28:05,760
Speaker 4: truck laying down for two hours.

618
00:28:05,760 --> 00:28:07,439
Speaker 1: She said, he would probably make her do it like

619
00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:08,480
Speaker 1: sit in the back of the drug too.

620
00:28:08,600 --> 00:28:10,320
Speaker 4: No, no, no, he's either sitting in the back of

621
00:28:10,359 --> 00:28:12,879
Speaker 4: the drug or he's not coming. Yeah, that's what's happened.

622
00:28:12,920 --> 00:28:14,959
Speaker 1: This is kind of a situation where, like, you know,

623
00:28:15,359 --> 00:28:18,040
Speaker 1: you have had friends or something where there's too many

624
00:28:18,040 --> 00:28:20,440
Speaker 1: people and so someone's got to sit on someone's lap

625
00:28:20,520 --> 00:28:22,760
Speaker 1: or something, and it's like that, and it's like, Okay,

626
00:28:22,800 --> 00:28:24,760
Speaker 1: if it's ten minutes away, that's fine, but if it's

627
00:28:24,760 --> 00:28:26,960
Speaker 1: a two hour trip, can't have someone sitting on people's

628
00:28:27,040 --> 00:28:30,080
Speaker 1: lap because that's dangerous. So I feel like that's this situation. Yeah,

629
00:28:30,200 --> 00:28:33,000
Speaker 1: if you already don't like your brother, it's like, eh, true, Yeah,

630
00:28:33,080 --> 00:28:34,919
Speaker 1: your mom and your brother can get over it. He

631
00:28:34,960 --> 00:28:37,560
Speaker 1: got home, he's fine. When I said it's not my truck,

632
00:28:37,640 --> 00:28:40,200
Speaker 1: they all started talking crap about my uncle. When I

633
00:28:40,240 --> 00:28:42,400
Speaker 1: stood up for him. They said I'm the wrong because

634
00:28:42,400 --> 00:28:45,240
Speaker 1: he's not my real uncle. He's just my dad's friend

635
00:28:45,240 --> 00:28:47,480
Speaker 1: of thirty plus years, and the safety of my brother

636
00:28:47,560 --> 00:28:50,000
Speaker 1: should have been the top priority. They said, I left

637
00:28:50,040 --> 00:28:54,280
Speaker 1: him stranded in a strange town. He's like thirty, and

638
00:28:54,360 --> 00:28:58,200
Speaker 1: he took the train. He's fine. Yeah, Apparently I just

639
00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:00,440
Speaker 1: didn't try hard enough to convince my uncle to break

640
00:29:00,440 --> 00:29:02,840
Speaker 1: the law for my brother's sake. And that makes me

641
00:29:02,920 --> 00:29:05,640
Speaker 1: the ahle, so am I the ale ps. He's my

642
00:29:05,720 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 1: half brother. We share a mother, but not a father.

643
00:29:08,000 --> 00:29:10,600
Speaker 1: So he doesn't really know this uncalled mine and comments

644
00:29:10,880 --> 00:29:13,640
Speaker 1: not sorry twenty nineteen says he's totally right. He can

645
00:29:13,720 --> 00:29:16,840
Speaker 1: never depend on you for anything, including a legal activity.

646
00:29:17,160 --> 00:29:19,600
Speaker 1: He should remember that for the future and leave you alone.

647
00:29:21,440 --> 00:29:23,640
Speaker 1: That's true. Yeah. Ope, he's like, yeah, you're right. I

648
00:29:23,680 --> 00:29:25,480
Speaker 1: did really let you down. You should never rely on me.

649
00:29:25,600 --> 00:29:26,040
Speaker 4: There we go.

650
00:29:26,160 --> 00:29:29,320
Speaker 1: It's not you going no contact, it's him protecting himself

651
00:29:29,320 --> 00:29:33,080
Speaker 1: from your evil, wicked ways of check's notes, not promising

652
00:29:33,160 --> 00:29:35,720
Speaker 1: him anything or convincing people he doesn't know to break

653
00:29:35,760 --> 00:29:38,320
Speaker 1: the law for room sarcasm on it being your fault.

654
00:29:38,480 --> 00:29:42,080
Speaker 1: He's an idiot and that is rarely curable. Yeah, every

655
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Speaker 1: requirement thirteen says. He sounds exhausting. Maybe it's time for

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Speaker 1: you to block him your mother too. Yeah, he's aptly sick,

657
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Speaker 1: and he's a baby, and he's thirty years old and

658
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Speaker 1: he needs to grow up. Yeah, but I don't know

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Speaker 1: if you will.

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Speaker 4: There's this thing called man childism, and he's definitely got it.

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Speaker 1: He's got it. But that is the end of that story. Here.

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Speaker 2: We're gonna get back to this episode, but a quick

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Speaker 2: three minute break with Asrama sponsors my.

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Speaker 1: Sister's maid of honor humiliated me with her wedding speech.

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Speaker 1: The whole family was disappointed. Dude, you got whole family

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Speaker 1: disappointment and you are the maid of honor made of dishonor.

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Speaker 1: I twenty seven female, was a bridesmaid at my older

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Speaker 1: sister's wedding last week. The wedding was beautiful and everything

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Speaker 1: seemed perfect until the reception. During the reception, the maid

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Speaker 1: of honor, who has been my sister's best friend since childhood,

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Speaker 1: gave her speech. By the way, this comes from few

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Speaker 1: setting forty nine seventeen and if you want to submit

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Speaker 1: your stories, go to Okay storytime. Severed it. It was

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Speaker 1: emotional in all, but then she made a joke about

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Speaker 1: how I was the family screw up who finally managed

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Speaker 1: to do something right by not messing up my bridesmade duties.

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Speaker 1: Everyone laughed, but I didn't find it funny. For context,

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Speaker 1: I've had a few rough years. I struggled with my

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Speaker 1: mental health and dropped out of college for a while.

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Speaker 1: I've since gotten my life back on track, but still

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Speaker 1: a sensitive topic for me. Hearing that joke in front

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Speaker 1: of all of our family and friends wasn't funny at all.

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Speaker 1: My sister's best friend and I never really got along,

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Speaker 1: but still I never expected something like this from her,

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Speaker 1: especially since the day wasn't about me at all. Then

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Speaker 1: why bring me up in the speech. I tried to

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Speaker 1: stay composed, but I felt the tears coming, so I

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Speaker 1: quietly left the reception and went outside to collect myself.

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Speaker 1: My sister followed me out and asked what was wrong.

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Speaker 1: When I told her, she said it was just a

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Speaker 1: joke and she meant nothing bad. I try to go

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Speaker 1: back inside, but I just couldn't, and I ended up

693
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Speaker 1: leaving the wedding early. My parents understand why I was upset,

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Speaker 1: but my sister is angry with me. I do feel

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Speaker 1: terrible for leaving, but I also feel like I had

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Speaker 1: the right to feel hurt and humiliated. Of course she did, absolutely,

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Speaker 1: I mean, there was a mean comment that wasn't necessary

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Speaker 1: at all. Edit I said nothing at the moment because

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Speaker 1: I didn't want to cause a scene on my sister's

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Speaker 1: special day. And I can't reason with her right now

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Speaker 1: because she will just ask me if I haven't been

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Speaker 1: taking my meds lately. That's what she does when she

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Speaker 1: angry with me. So I'm giving her some time to

704
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Speaker 1: maybe realize how her best friend's joke was out of line.

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Speaker 1: Edit too. Someone asked me if my sister's best friend

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Speaker 1: and I argued before slash, did I give her a

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Speaker 1: reason to do this? My sister's best friend and I

708
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Speaker 1: never went past high. She told me before a few

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Speaker 1: years ago that she in general, doesn't feel comfortable around

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Speaker 1: someone struggling mentally because in her head, God only knows

711
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Speaker 1: what they're capable of. Since she said this, slash to

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Speaker 1: this day, I just try to avoid her. There is

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Speaker 1: an update. The same day I posted, my dad called

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Speaker 1: to check up on me and see if my sister

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Speaker 1: and I had talked things out. When I told him no,

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Speaker 1: he said it's better if we talk about it now

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Speaker 1: and assured me that I have nothing to apologize for.

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Speaker 1: If my sister thinks she has nothing to apologize for,

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Speaker 1: then the least she can do is make her best

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Speaker 1: friend apologize or fully realize that the joke was out

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Speaker 1: of line. By the way, my brother and I met

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Speaker 1: four days ago, and he told me that brother in law,

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Speaker 1: my sister's husband, didn't like the way a maid of

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Speaker 1: honor called me a screw up in front of everyone,

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Speaker 1: and some of those who left voice later that they

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Speaker 1: did so out of nervousness.

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Speaker 3: That is true. I've been there. Sometimes you laugh because

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Speaker 3: it's just like.

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Speaker 1: AH could also have been like, oh, maybe they're friends

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Speaker 1: or something like there is a point to this joke

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Speaker 1: that everyone's in on, instead of oh, this person's at

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Speaker 1: the butt of the joke. On Monday, my sister called

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Speaker 1: me to talk. When I made it to her place,

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Speaker 1: her best friend was on the phone and didn't put

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Speaker 1: it down for a second. My sister started by saying

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Speaker 1: that just a few years ago, I would have laughed

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Speaker 1: hard and not taken the joke as an insult. I

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Speaker 1: told her maybe some laughed because they didn't know the

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Speaker 1: reason she called me as grew up were context. When

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Speaker 1: I was sixteen, something happened and that's why I struggled mentally,

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Speaker 1: really badly between sixteen to eighteen. When I was seventeen,

742
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Speaker 1: I was diagnosed with PTSD and later with depression and anxiety.

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Speaker 1: Since then, I don't like it when someone touches my head,

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Speaker 1: especially my hair and the back of my head sashed neck.

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Speaker 1: My sister knows everything. During our conversation, my sister did

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Speaker 1: most of the talking. At some point, I felt like

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Speaker 1: my sister had called me just to blame again without

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Speaker 1: trying to understand my perspective.

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Speaker 3: I'm sorry, but just the next level of an a hole.

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Speaker 5: You are someone like fell off the rails because they

751
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Speaker 5: got traumatized, and now you're gonna be.

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Speaker 3: Like, oh yeah, look at the screw up.

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Speaker 5: Now she did something right, unlike ever since she got traumatized,

754
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Speaker 5: Like go back into your little pit, you orc.

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Speaker 1: When I tried to talk, she put her hand on

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Speaker 1: the back of my neck and pulled me toward her

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Speaker 1: with each sentence, as if to say, do you understand

758
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Speaker 1: or okay? I hated it and felt irritated. I honestly

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Speaker 1: kept thinking if I pushed her away, would I be

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Speaker 1: in the wrong. Would they just call me mental and

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Speaker 1: tell family I got physical. I tried to leave, but

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Speaker 1: she insisted that no one was leaving until we sort

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Speaker 1: this out. She told her best friend to just apologize.

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Speaker 1: She refused and reminded my sister that I was the

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Speaker 1: reason her husband got angry at her on their wedding

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Speaker 1: day because I couldn't take a joke. And when I

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Speaker 1: tried to explain why at it, I told her if

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Speaker 1: she had focused her speech on the bride and groom,

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Speaker 1: that maybe he wouldn't have had a reason to be angry.

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Speaker 1: At least Opie's brother in law is on her side.

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Speaker 3: How is she not being like.

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Speaker 5: Oh, it's my fault that your husband didn't like her joke.

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Speaker 5: It's your friend's fault. It's not my fault that your

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Speaker 5: husband has a conscience.

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Speaker 1: She refused to listen and brushed my words off. She said, yeah, whatever, sorry.

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Speaker 1: I was glad it was finally over, And as I

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Speaker 1: was about to leave, I heard her say, can't take

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Speaker 1: a joke that everyone knows it's true, Then it's not

779
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Speaker 1: a joke. What are we dying? Both of them laughed,

780
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Speaker 1: but my sister stopped mid laugh and apologized. I didn't

781
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Speaker 1: say anything and left. And that's when you cut these

782
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Speaker 1: people off, and you say, yeah, no, they weren't joking.

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Speaker 1: And whenever anyone asks and you say and they say,

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Speaker 1: what do you mean, No, it's totally a joke, You're like, no,

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Speaker 1: they confirmed it wasn't a joke. Wow, I hate these people.

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Speaker 1: I think I've had enough. I mean, I know I've

787
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Speaker 1: had a rough few years. I dropped out of college

788
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Speaker 1: for a while. Fine, but I've since gotten my life

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Speaker 1: back on track. My parents helped me through it all

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Speaker 1: and never made me feel like a burden. At first,

791
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Speaker 1: I was on some strong meds that made me feel tired,

792
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Speaker 1: slash sleepy most of the time. After a while, I

793
00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:04,480
Speaker 1: started to feel a little better with therapy and my

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00:36:04,520 --> 00:36:07,920
Speaker 1: family's support. During that period, it was me, my parents,

795
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Speaker 1: and my brother. My sister was three hours away for

796
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Speaker 1: a job and used to visit sometimes and would often

797
00:36:13,239 --> 00:36:15,640
Speaker 1: bring her best friend along with her. Looking back, I

798
00:36:15,680 --> 00:36:18,040
Speaker 1: don't want to say she hates me, but I know

799
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Speaker 1: she felt ashamed of have a family member struggling with

800
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Speaker 1: mental health issues. I don't know how to explain this.

801
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Speaker 1: I've made up my mind and decided to go no

802
00:36:25,719 --> 00:36:27,920
Speaker 1: contact for now. I think that is a good idea.

803
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Speaker 1: If my parents and my brother, who were there when

804
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Speaker 1: I was going through it all, never made me feel

805
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Speaker 1: that they're ashamed of me, then why would she. I'm

806
00:36:35,680 --> 00:36:38,200
Speaker 1: still on some meds, but feel so much better than before.

807
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Speaker 1: I have a stable job at my own place and

808
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Speaker 1: friends who love me for who I am. I can

809
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Speaker 1: say I'm proud of myself a little. I love my

810
00:36:45,360 --> 00:36:47,839
Speaker 1: family to death and try to maintain a relationship with

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Speaker 1: my sister all these years, but I'm trying to improve myself,

812
00:36:51,719 --> 00:36:54,719
Speaker 1: not constantly be reminded of what I was a few

813
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Speaker 1: years ago. And there is an update. But oh boy,

814
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Speaker 1: death and cut these people off.

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Speaker 3: Get rid of your sister does not deserve you.

816
00:37:03,280 --> 00:37:07,000
Speaker 1: No, people are gonna realize who she is eventually, and

817
00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:08,960
Speaker 1: then she's gonna be like, h you took away everyone

818
00:37:08,960 --> 00:37:11,239
Speaker 1: from me, and you're gonna say, Nope, that was you.

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Speaker 5: Yeah, like Loki, this might be the start of her

820
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Speaker 5: losing her husband from the way that she's reacted to

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Speaker 5: all this.

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Speaker 1: Her husband was defending you and she's not. And she's

823
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Speaker 1: still doubling down on her best friend. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: If I was him and I saw her treating op

825
00:37:25,840 --> 00:37:27,640
Speaker 5: this way, I would have to be like, oh my god,

826
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Speaker 5: did I just make the biggest mistake of my life.

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Speaker 5: I'm this monster truly.

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Speaker 1: And at the end of the day, even if it

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Speaker 1: was a joke, if it hurts someone's feelings, apologize. Yeah.

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Speaker 5: When you're making a joke literally about a specific person,

831
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Speaker 5: their reaction is the benchmark.

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Speaker 3: Was it good or bad? If their reaction's bad, bad.

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Speaker 1: Joke, you say, oh my god, I'm so sorry. I

834
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Speaker 1: didn't be like that. Update too. Hey, this happened a

835
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Speaker 1: few days ago, but it's been a busy week for

836
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Speaker 1: me and I was a bit hesitant to update. I

837
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Speaker 1: went to see my parents with my brother. My dad

838
00:37:56,239 --> 00:37:58,480
Speaker 1: texted me before too to let me know that my

839
00:37:58,560 --> 00:38:01,160
Speaker 1: sister was coming too. I did want to cause any

840
00:38:01,239 --> 00:38:04,080
Speaker 1: problems between her and my parents by telling them about

841
00:38:04,120 --> 00:38:06,160
Speaker 1: what she and her best friend did, but when she

842
00:38:06,239 --> 00:38:10,000
Speaker 1: started the conversation with lies, I told them everything and

843
00:38:10,040 --> 00:38:12,080
Speaker 1: made it clear that I'm not asking them to take

844
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Speaker 1: sides and that I will still come to family gatherings,

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Speaker 1: but I won't engage with her in any way. Perfect.

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Speaker 3: That's perfect.

847
00:38:19,200 --> 00:38:21,279
Speaker 1: It's like you can still have a relationship with her.

848
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Speaker 1: I just won't be doing that. My dad couldn't let

849
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Speaker 1: the facts that she grabbed me by the back of

850
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Speaker 1: my neck slide, but my mother tried to make it

851
00:38:28,280 --> 00:38:30,600
Speaker 1: seem like it was out of desperation to make me

852
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Speaker 1: accept her apology.

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Speaker 3: No, she knew what she was doing. There's no way

854
00:38:34,520 --> 00:38:35,040
Speaker 3: she didn't.

855
00:38:35,400 --> 00:38:38,359
Speaker 1: I'm sorry. No one just grabs someone's neck. I don't

856
00:38:38,360 --> 00:38:42,680
Speaker 1: think that's a normal response to anything. And adding in

857
00:38:42,760 --> 00:38:44,799
Speaker 1: the fact that she knows that Opie does not like that.

858
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:48,080
Speaker 1: I've never seen anyone do that in real life. What

859
00:38:48,160 --> 00:38:51,000
Speaker 1: my sister said next did it for my mom. She

860
00:38:51,080 --> 00:38:53,680
Speaker 1: asked them, how is anyone still supposed to remember what

861
00:38:53,760 --> 00:38:56,759
Speaker 1: exactly triggers me after all these years, and that I

862
00:38:56,800 --> 00:38:59,200
Speaker 1: already got over it since I didn't react, And what

863
00:38:59,280 --> 00:39:01,360
Speaker 1: if I've been fake out all of these years. I

864
00:39:01,400 --> 00:39:03,440
Speaker 1: know I shouldn't have said this, and I really regret

865
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Speaker 1: it now, but I told her I wish she could

866
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Speaker 1: go through exactly what I went through. Maybe then she

867
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Speaker 1: could give me a better example of how I should

868
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Speaker 1: have handled it all. She told me to get over

869
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Speaker 1: it and stop begging magazines to post about what happened

870
00:39:15,280 --> 00:39:17,840
Speaker 1: at the wedding and left. My dad told me later

871
00:39:17,920 --> 00:39:20,360
Speaker 1: that her best friend's younger sister read about it in

872
00:39:20,440 --> 00:39:24,200
Speaker 1: People magazine. Dang, it was posted on their Instagram, and

873
00:39:24,400 --> 00:39:26,800
Speaker 1: get over it. She's the only one who still brings

874
00:39:26,840 --> 00:39:29,720
Speaker 1: up what happened. My mother now understands why I decided

875
00:39:29,760 --> 00:39:32,279
Speaker 1: to go no contact. My dad and brother are one

876
00:39:32,320 --> 00:39:35,279
Speaker 1: hundred percent supportive of my decision, but I can't stop

877
00:39:35,360 --> 00:39:37,719
Speaker 1: thinking about what she said. She tried to trigger a

878
00:39:37,760 --> 00:39:39,960
Speaker 1: reaction out of me and now thinks I've been faking

879
00:39:39,960 --> 00:39:43,120
Speaker 1: it because I didn't give her one. It's been eleven years,

880
00:39:43,640 --> 00:39:46,759
Speaker 1: years of therapy and meds. Of course I've gotten better,

881
00:39:47,320 --> 00:39:49,920
Speaker 1: not one hundred percent, though, Since I felt irritated, and

882
00:39:50,000 --> 00:39:52,319
Speaker 1: if it wasn't for me being already labeled crazy, I

883
00:39:52,320 --> 00:39:54,280
Speaker 1: would have shoved her away. I feel like I should

884
00:39:54,280 --> 00:39:56,120
Speaker 1: have cut contact with her the moment she asked my

885
00:39:56,160 --> 00:39:59,000
Speaker 1: parents why I didn't stay for the party and wait

886
00:39:59,000 --> 00:40:01,000
Speaker 1: for my brother to come pick me up. The reason

887
00:40:01,000 --> 00:40:02,920
Speaker 1: I left the party was because some of the guys

888
00:40:02,920 --> 00:40:05,799
Speaker 1: who were invited were much older than I was, and

889
00:40:05,840 --> 00:40:08,960
Speaker 1: they were getting wasted and loud. Two of them followed me.

890
00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:11,760
Speaker 1: First thing my sister told my parents was and still

891
00:40:11,760 --> 00:40:14,800
Speaker 1: believed that I left with them because I was naive

892
00:40:14,920 --> 00:40:17,359
Speaker 1: and just scared. In a shame to admit it, your

893
00:40:17,360 --> 00:40:21,600
Speaker 1: sister freakings, even after both of them confessed everything. But

894
00:40:21,719 --> 00:40:24,200
Speaker 1: I was young, I guess, and cutting contact with her

895
00:40:24,280 --> 00:40:28,080
Speaker 1: wasn't something I could do. Oh, your sister is a

896
00:40:28,160 --> 00:40:28,960
Speaker 1: terrible person.

897
00:40:29,120 --> 00:40:30,680
Speaker 3: Yeah, she's she's the worst.

898
00:40:30,840 --> 00:40:33,760
Speaker 1: You're better off, but you're not better off without us.

899
00:40:33,960 --> 00:40:36,960
Speaker 1: So come listen to more episodes with stories like this

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Speaker 1: on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, or your favorite podcast app. Just

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Speaker 1: search up Okay, storytime, and there is a little bit more.

902
00:40:43,480 --> 00:40:46,440
Speaker 1: But oh my god, oh my god, never see your

903
00:40:46,480 --> 00:40:48,960
Speaker 1: sister again. Yeah, dude, I mean until she gets like

904
00:40:49,600 --> 00:40:52,080
Speaker 1: serious help, some sense knocked into her.

905
00:40:52,520 --> 00:40:55,640
Speaker 3: She has no business having a relationship with you.

906
00:40:55,880 --> 00:40:58,160
Speaker 1: She doesn't deserve one. There is a little bit more

907
00:40:58,200 --> 00:41:00,200
Speaker 1: to the story. I also want to mention, how word

908
00:41:00,239 --> 00:41:02,480
Speaker 1: if my partner has been through all of this From

909
00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:06,279
Speaker 1: the day I told him everything, he has been incredibly understanding,

910
00:41:06,840 --> 00:41:09,040
Speaker 1: even though I never asked him to and he never

911
00:41:09,080 --> 00:41:11,799
Speaker 1: told me. But I know. He still goes through each

912
00:41:11,840 --> 00:41:14,880
Speaker 1: movie slash series before we watch it together to make

913
00:41:14,920 --> 00:41:17,560
Speaker 1: sure there aren't any scenes that could make me uncomfortable.

914
00:41:17,640 --> 00:41:19,959
Speaker 1: It's very sweet. When I put something on, he finds

915
00:41:19,960 --> 00:41:21,719
Speaker 1: a way to distract me for a few minutes to

916
00:41:21,800 --> 00:41:24,000
Speaker 1: check it before we watch. He has never made me

917
00:41:24,040 --> 00:41:26,040
Speaker 1: feel like a screw up. He makes me feel like

918
00:41:26,080 --> 00:41:28,600
Speaker 1: I still deserve to be loved. Thank you to each

919
00:41:28,640 --> 00:41:31,480
Speaker 1: of you for your kind comments and reaching out in private.

920
00:41:31,960 --> 00:41:36,200
Speaker 1: And that is the end of that story. My sister

921
00:41:36,360 --> 00:41:40,480
Speaker 1: ditched my wedding for a musical festival, so I blocked her. Blocked.

922
00:41:40,600 --> 00:41:42,399
Speaker 1: She's like, I can't go to your wedding. I've got

923
00:41:42,440 --> 00:41:44,600
Speaker 1: gaja when am I supposed to do?

924
00:41:45,360 --> 00:41:48,320
Speaker 3: Megan d Stallion is on stage bye.

925
00:41:48,640 --> 00:41:50,880
Speaker 1: I apologize for the length of this, but it's messy

926
00:41:50,960 --> 00:41:54,719
Speaker 1: af I thirty female, got married back May twenty fifth

927
00:41:54,719 --> 00:41:56,879
Speaker 1: of this year to my now husband thirty one male.

928
00:41:57,360 --> 00:41:59,839
Speaker 1: After being together is seven and a half years. By

929
00:41:59,840 --> 00:42:02,960
Speaker 1: the oh way, this comes from beginning smoke to sixteen

930
00:42:03,120 --> 00:42:04,920
Speaker 1: and if you want to submit your stories, go to

931
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Speaker 1: our slash Okay storytime suvered it. I have an older sister,

932
00:42:07,880 --> 00:42:10,720
Speaker 1: thirty seven female, who when I got engaged, was over

933
00:42:10,800 --> 00:42:14,000
Speaker 1: the moon, excited and wanted to help plan everything with me.

934
00:42:14,280 --> 00:42:16,719
Speaker 1: We live about two hours apart from one another, and

935
00:42:16,760 --> 00:42:20,200
Speaker 1: she has significant social anxiety that prevents her from comfortably

936
00:42:20,280 --> 00:42:24,920
Speaker 1: driving long distances and being in social situations. She frankly

937
00:42:24,960 --> 00:42:27,720
Speaker 1: avoids them when she can or I tried to include

938
00:42:27,719 --> 00:42:30,560
Speaker 1: her where I could, asking her opinion on things, sharing

939
00:42:30,600 --> 00:42:34,080
Speaker 1: my ideas and inspopics. She was relatively unresponsive for a

940
00:42:34,080 --> 00:42:36,080
Speaker 1: lot of it. She said she wanted to be involved

941
00:42:36,080 --> 00:42:38,360
Speaker 1: in planning the shower, so I had my mom and

942
00:42:38,520 --> 00:42:41,720
Speaker 1: bridal party include her in the chat. My bridal shower

943
00:42:41,760 --> 00:42:45,040
Speaker 1: comes around and she isn't there. My mom informs me

944
00:42:45,080 --> 00:42:47,480
Speaker 1: that my youngest niece is sick and my sister didn't

945
00:42:47,480 --> 00:42:49,760
Speaker 1: want to share the cooties. I didn't receive a message

946
00:42:49,760 --> 00:42:53,760
Speaker 1: from her until the next day explaining what happened. Kisses

947
00:42:53,800 --> 00:42:56,680
Speaker 1: me off. It's an adequate excuse, but you need to

948
00:42:56,760 --> 00:42:59,320
Speaker 1: give the excuse before the party.

949
00:42:59,440 --> 00:43:02,640
Speaker 3: You know that you're sick before that, I would assume.

950
00:43:02,400 --> 00:43:05,560
Speaker 5: Dude a text, okay, even before you become acutely sick.

951
00:43:05,600 --> 00:43:06,440
Speaker 3: You can feel it coming on.

952
00:43:06,560 --> 00:43:09,680
Speaker 1: If you're going to cancel on something, tell people in advance.

953
00:43:10,080 --> 00:43:12,439
Speaker 1: She also didn't attend my batch, but I really wasn't

954
00:43:12,480 --> 00:43:15,000
Speaker 1: expecting her to, as she does not drink and would

955
00:43:15,000 --> 00:43:17,720
Speaker 1: definitely not drive the two hours to get there. In April,

956
00:43:17,760 --> 00:43:19,800
Speaker 1: she sent me a message asking for me to remove

957
00:43:19,800 --> 00:43:22,200
Speaker 1: her partner and his daughter from the guest list as

958
00:43:22,239 --> 00:43:24,839
Speaker 1: they have broken up. I consult her, told her I'm

959
00:43:24,880 --> 00:43:27,440
Speaker 1: so sorry and asked if she wanted to talk. He

960
00:43:27,520 --> 00:43:30,279
Speaker 1: did not. I tried to respect her, but would often

961
00:43:30,320 --> 00:43:33,839
Speaker 1: send her short messages wishing her well with no response back.

962
00:43:34,120 --> 00:43:34,440
Speaker 3: Well.

963
00:43:34,480 --> 00:43:37,920
Speaker 1: On the Sunday before my wedding, six days she messages

964
00:43:38,000 --> 00:43:40,080
Speaker 1: me and ask me if there's any way I could

965
00:43:40,120 --> 00:43:42,080
Speaker 1: add them back onto the guest list because they would

966
00:43:42,120 --> 00:43:43,040
Speaker 1: really like to attend.

967
00:43:43,360 --> 00:43:45,160
Speaker 3: Now, this is just nonsensical.

968
00:43:45,280 --> 00:43:47,640
Speaker 1: This is too much for a wedding. I was shocked,

969
00:43:47,640 --> 00:43:49,960
Speaker 1: but after my dad talked me down and agreed to

970
00:43:50,040 --> 00:43:52,319
Speaker 1: pay for their plates if the caterer would let them,

971
00:43:52,400 --> 00:43:54,520
Speaker 1: I told her I would try. I had to reprint

972
00:43:54,520 --> 00:43:56,640
Speaker 1: my seating chart. I had to make them place guards

973
00:43:56,680 --> 00:43:59,640
Speaker 1: and get additional favors. The caterer said, no problem. We

974
00:43:59,680 --> 00:44:01,319
Speaker 1: said up the money, and I let her know that

975
00:44:01,360 --> 00:44:03,400
Speaker 1: I was so excited everyone was able to come.

976
00:44:03,440 --> 00:44:03,680
Speaker 3: Again.

977
00:44:03,920 --> 00:44:06,120
Speaker 1: Well, it comes to the day of my wedding. I

978
00:44:06,160 --> 00:44:09,160
Speaker 1: walked down the aisle, I say my vows, I go

979
00:44:09,200 --> 00:44:12,360
Speaker 1: and sign my marriage license. And when I stand the side,

980
00:44:12,480 --> 00:44:14,920
Speaker 1: finally getting to look out of the group gathered for us,

981
00:44:15,080 --> 00:44:18,400
Speaker 1: I see no sign of my sister, her partner, and

982
00:44:18,480 --> 00:44:21,880
Speaker 1: two out of three of my nieces. She she literally

983
00:44:21,920 --> 00:44:25,600
Speaker 1: asked you to add her back in. I'm upset, but

984
00:44:25,640 --> 00:44:27,879
Speaker 1: I continued on with my day. I had to tell

985
00:44:27,880 --> 00:44:30,720
Speaker 1: the photographer they weren't there for the photos in front

986
00:44:30,760 --> 00:44:33,759
Speaker 1: of a large group of people, which was embarrassing, but

987
00:44:33,840 --> 00:44:35,319
Speaker 1: I didn't let it ruin my day.

988
00:44:35,520 --> 00:44:36,680
Speaker 3: I talked to my one.

989
00:44:36,600 --> 00:44:39,560
Speaker 1: Niece, fifteen that did come thanks to my older brother

990
00:44:39,600 --> 00:44:42,120
Speaker 1: picking her up. My sister didn't even get ready. She

991
00:44:42,160 --> 00:44:45,600
Speaker 1: didn't buy a gift, a card, nothing. I didn't address it,

992
00:44:45,719 --> 00:44:48,360
Speaker 1: but let it go. The next day I sent her

993
00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:50,680
Speaker 1: a message and told her how I upset I was.

994
00:44:50,960 --> 00:44:53,840
Speaker 1: We added out I understand her mental illness and respect

995
00:44:53,880 --> 00:44:55,719
Speaker 1: that it was all too much for her, But what

996
00:44:55,880 --> 00:44:59,040
Speaker 1: have at least appreciated an explanation, a text saying she

997
00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:01,640
Speaker 1: wasn't able to make it anything For the next month.

998
00:45:01,719 --> 00:45:03,920
Speaker 1: She only sent me a message on my birthday and

999
00:45:03,960 --> 00:45:06,719
Speaker 1: that was it. No contact. She didn't comment on the

1000
00:45:06,719 --> 00:45:09,400
Speaker 1: pictures I shared up my wedding. You didn't say anything

1001
00:45:09,440 --> 00:45:11,160
Speaker 1: at the picture I texted her with my niece and

1002
00:45:11,200 --> 00:45:13,920
Speaker 1: I at the wedding. I finally had enough and called

1003
00:45:13,920 --> 00:45:16,760
Speaker 1: her out on it and attempted to bury the hatchet

1004
00:45:17,080 --> 00:45:19,799
Speaker 1: well today, I found out this past week that she

1005
00:45:19,840 --> 00:45:24,399
Speaker 1: attended a local music festival with hundreds, if not over

1006
00:45:24,560 --> 00:45:27,919
Speaker 1: thousands of people attended in the rain, about twenty five

1007
00:45:27,960 --> 00:45:31,200
Speaker 1: minutes away from where I had my wedding. I'm livid

1008
00:45:31,280 --> 00:45:32,719
Speaker 1: and just pausing right there.

1009
00:45:32,840 --> 00:45:34,719
Speaker 5: There are a few things I despise more than like

1010
00:45:34,920 --> 00:45:39,600
Speaker 5: hiding behind a nonexistent mental illness diagnosis to like just

1011
00:45:39,680 --> 00:45:41,560
Speaker 5: excuse you being selfish.

1012
00:45:41,640 --> 00:45:43,440
Speaker 1: People do this for like if they have a mental

1013
00:45:43,520 --> 00:45:48,200
Speaker 1: health sometimes they still excuse selfishness. And it's like, okay,

1014
00:45:48,360 --> 00:45:51,239
Speaker 1: you're like how to have mental health problems, but like

1015
00:45:51,320 --> 00:45:52,960
Speaker 1: you have to own up to the mistakes and the

1016
00:45:53,040 --> 00:45:54,080
Speaker 1: hurt that you're causing people.

1017
00:45:54,160 --> 00:45:55,840
Speaker 5: It's not a get out of jail free card for

1018
00:45:55,920 --> 00:45:59,520
Speaker 5: your behavior. It's like it informs where your behavior comes from.

1019
00:45:59,640 --> 00:46:00,759
Speaker 3: But now you have to do the work.

1020
00:46:00,800 --> 00:46:03,120
Speaker 5: It'd be like being like breaking your arm and then

1021
00:46:03,200 --> 00:46:06,279
Speaker 5: being like, no, I can just never work again. It's

1022
00:46:06,320 --> 00:46:08,840
Speaker 5: because my arm broke, And it's like, did you do

1023
00:46:09,000 --> 00:46:10,800
Speaker 5: anything about it? Did you get a cast, did you

1024
00:46:10,840 --> 00:46:12,520
Speaker 5: get a splint, did you put it in a slingk?

1025
00:46:12,560 --> 00:46:12,880
Speaker 1: Whatever?

1026
00:46:12,920 --> 00:46:16,320
Speaker 3: It'll never heal. It's like, cause you're not doing anything

1027
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:16,839
Speaker 3: about it.

1028
00:46:17,000 --> 00:46:21,360
Speaker 1: But let's continue. She can attend that the music festival,

1029
00:46:21,520 --> 00:46:24,319
Speaker 1: but not my eighty person wedding. I'm ready to block

1030
00:46:24,360 --> 00:46:26,760
Speaker 1: her on everything and not hear her out for anything.

1031
00:46:27,120 --> 00:46:30,200
Speaker 1: Every time she didn't attend, it was her anxiety. She

1032
00:46:30,239 --> 00:46:32,960
Speaker 1: couldn't drive there herself, she couldn't have be around that

1033
00:46:33,040 --> 00:46:36,319
Speaker 1: many people, et cetera. I respected it. I understand it,

1034
00:46:36,640 --> 00:46:38,920
Speaker 1: but this is too far for me. So I need

1035
00:46:38,960 --> 00:46:41,200
Speaker 1: to know. Am I the a hole? If I just

1036
00:46:41,360 --> 00:46:44,120
Speaker 1: block her everywhere and don't hear her out? And there

1037
00:46:44,280 --> 00:46:47,000
Speaker 1: is an update. I think, because maybe she's your sister,

1038
00:46:47,080 --> 00:46:48,560
Speaker 1: you could just send her a text and be like, hey,

1039
00:46:48,760 --> 00:46:51,319
Speaker 1: I don't think this relationship is healthy for me, Like,

1040
00:46:51,360 --> 00:46:53,359
Speaker 1: I think you could have somewhat of a conversation with her.

1041
00:46:53,560 --> 00:46:54,640
Speaker 1: You can still cut her off.

1042
00:46:54,760 --> 00:46:57,160
Speaker 5: I think she needs maybe a little wake up call

1043
00:46:57,200 --> 00:46:59,800
Speaker 5: that her behavior has consequences.

1044
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:00,600
Speaker 1: Like, don't let her be She's like, oh my god,

1045
00:47:00,600 --> 00:47:02,520
Speaker 1: oh Pete cut me off for no reason, Like just

1046
00:47:02,560 --> 00:47:05,680
Speaker 1: be like, hey, your behavior was unacceptable. I cannot continue

1047
00:47:05,680 --> 00:47:06,640
Speaker 1: this relationship right now.

1048
00:47:06,840 --> 00:47:10,319
Speaker 5: Yeah, I feel like you're lying and manipulating, and I

1049
00:47:10,320 --> 00:47:11,920
Speaker 5: don't want to condone it or be a part of it.

1050
00:47:12,200 --> 00:47:14,040
Speaker 5: So just tell me, hey, if you don't want to

1051
00:47:14,080 --> 00:47:16,440
Speaker 5: go to my wedding, just tell me all right, Or

1052
00:47:16,440 --> 00:47:18,560
Speaker 5: if you have something else you'd rather do instead, just

1053
00:47:18,560 --> 00:47:18,920
Speaker 5: say that.

1054
00:47:19,120 --> 00:47:21,840
Speaker 1: Don't waste anybody's time. But there is an update, So

1055
00:47:22,120 --> 00:47:25,160
Speaker 1: thank you for everyone for commenting. I have some backstory

1056
00:47:25,160 --> 00:47:28,480
Speaker 1: and an update. My sister is actually my stepsister. Our

1057
00:47:28,520 --> 00:47:31,360
Speaker 1: parents started dating when I was nine and she was sixteen.

1058
00:47:31,480 --> 00:47:33,759
Speaker 1: She hated me and my mom. She was rude all

1059
00:47:33,880 --> 00:47:35,879
Speaker 1: the time, but as she grew up and we got

1060
00:47:35,880 --> 00:47:38,479
Speaker 1: to know each other better, we became closer. She wasn't

1061
00:47:38,520 --> 00:47:41,080
Speaker 1: always this anxious, but has been through some trauma that

1062
00:47:41,160 --> 00:47:44,120
Speaker 1: really amped up the anxiety. I've always been supportive of

1063
00:47:44,160 --> 00:47:47,160
Speaker 1: her and been up all through the night texting or

1064
00:47:47,200 --> 00:47:50,160
Speaker 1: talking to her mid anxiety attack. She had my oldest

1065
00:47:50,200 --> 00:47:52,920
Speaker 1: nieces and moved in with my mom and stepdad and I.

1066
00:47:52,920 --> 00:47:54,600
Speaker 1: I helped her take care of my baby niece at

1067
00:47:54,600 --> 00:47:57,399
Speaker 1: the age of fifteen after school. When she moved out.

1068
00:47:57,400 --> 00:47:59,400
Speaker 1: Shortly after, I went on a trip with my parents

1069
00:48:00,040 --> 00:48:02,319
Speaker 1: and she said they deliberately planned it for after she

1070
00:48:02,400 --> 00:48:04,279
Speaker 1: moved out. When I went to college, she said, the

1071
00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:06,480
Speaker 1: only reason I could do it was because they helped me.

1072
00:48:06,719 --> 00:48:08,560
Speaker 1: This was not true at all. Sure, they helped me

1073
00:48:08,560 --> 00:48:10,560
Speaker 1: with a couple of textbooks and paid my two hundred

1074
00:48:10,560 --> 00:48:12,640
Speaker 1: dollars parking pass for the year, but that was it.

1075
00:48:12,840 --> 00:48:16,040
Speaker 1: When I bought my first house completely independently at twenty two,

1076
00:48:16,239 --> 00:48:18,400
Speaker 1: she said I must have had them co signed, because

1077
00:48:18,440 --> 00:48:21,919
Speaker 1: there's no way. All through this, they helped her move

1078
00:48:22,000 --> 00:48:24,680
Speaker 1: many many times. They would buy my niece all her

1079
00:48:24,719 --> 00:48:28,520
Speaker 1: back to school supplies and her snowsuits. They would spoil her.

1080
00:48:28,560 --> 00:48:30,839
Speaker 1: And then as my sister had another relationship with her

1081
00:48:30,840 --> 00:48:33,680
Speaker 1: new partner, his daughter as well, and then when she

1082
00:48:33,719 --> 00:48:36,600
Speaker 1: had my third niece, they continued to spoil all of them.

1083
00:48:36,760 --> 00:48:39,200
Speaker 1: I'm not a jealous person, so this has never bothered me.

1084
00:48:39,440 --> 00:48:41,960
Speaker 1: They are their grandparents and help out whenever they can.

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Speaker 1: It just bothered me that she's never accounted for how

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00:48:45,560 --> 00:48:48,200
Speaker 1: hard I've worked and always assumed someone helped me with it.

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Speaker 1: I didn't explain this because I've moved past it and

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00:48:50,640 --> 00:48:52,960
Speaker 1: will do anything and everything I can for my nieces.

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00:48:53,160 --> 00:48:55,920
Speaker 1: I've taken them on sleepovers and spent hundreds of dollars

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00:48:55,920 --> 00:48:58,760
Speaker 1: on birthdays and Christmas. I would say we got closer,

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00:48:58,880 --> 00:49:01,360
Speaker 1: but she really only reaches out to me when she

1092
00:49:01,480 --> 00:49:05,960
Speaker 1: was wanting emotional support, happy to oblige or for the girls. Also,

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00:49:06,000 --> 00:49:08,120
Speaker 1: the partner she was bringing to my wedding been together

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00:49:08,200 --> 00:49:11,600
Speaker 1: ten years. He's cheating on her and she is cheating

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Speaker 1: on him.

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Speaker 3: They're perfect for each other.

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00:49:13,760 --> 00:49:15,719
Speaker 1: Were they about to break up? What happened there?

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00:49:15,760 --> 00:49:18,439
Speaker 3: He probably has an excuse for that too, like oh,

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00:49:18,520 --> 00:49:19,879
Speaker 3: I have depression and.

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00:49:19,800 --> 00:49:21,520
Speaker 1: He's like, I actually have to cheat on you. My

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00:49:21,640 --> 00:49:23,719
Speaker 1: doctor told me to do it. She said. The only

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00:49:23,719 --> 00:49:26,239
Speaker 1: reason they're still together is because it's too expensive to

1103
00:49:26,239 --> 00:49:29,920
Speaker 1: move out herself. Now for the update. My parents were

1104
00:49:30,040 --> 00:49:32,399
Speaker 1: furious with her for not attending, but heard her out

1105
00:49:32,440 --> 00:49:34,440
Speaker 1: and said that what she did was not okay, but

1106
00:49:34,640 --> 00:49:37,360
Speaker 1: it's not their torch to carry. You can carry that torch.

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00:49:37,520 --> 00:49:40,320
Speaker 5: You can carry that torch like an Uri Khai trying

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00:49:40,360 --> 00:49:44,200
Speaker 5: to break down the wall of elms Deep.

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Speaker 1: I blocked my sister on all forms of social media

1110
00:49:47,000 --> 00:49:48,920
Speaker 1: and asked that she connect with me only for the

1111
00:49:48,920 --> 00:49:51,279
Speaker 1: girls or if she wanted to attempt to reconnect with me.

1112
00:49:51,520 --> 00:49:53,640
Speaker 1: She asked why so I told her I was hurt.

1113
00:49:54,160 --> 00:49:56,919
Speaker 1: She is adamant that she did not go to the concert. Girl,

1114
00:49:56,920 --> 00:49:57,640
Speaker 1: why are you lying?

1115
00:49:57,960 --> 00:50:00,760
Speaker 3: A perfect example of why this is happening.

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00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:03,280
Speaker 1: The person who told me was her own mom. Girl,

1117
00:50:03,640 --> 00:50:06,319
Speaker 1: you've been caught. Her mother then started harassing me and

1118
00:50:06,360 --> 00:50:08,879
Speaker 1: my mom, saying that it wasn't true. I'm not sure

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00:50:08,880 --> 00:50:10,359
Speaker 1: what to believe at this point, but I told her

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00:50:10,400 --> 00:50:13,360
Speaker 1: I need a break to think about this. Her response, fine,

1121
00:50:13,520 --> 00:50:15,920
Speaker 1: do what you want, but do not talk to my daughter.

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00:50:16,080 --> 00:50:18,000
Speaker 1: A fifteen year old niece. I alwill talk to her

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00:50:18,040 --> 00:50:20,600
Speaker 1: every now and then. Well, this is incredibly upsetting to me.

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Speaker 1: I'm trying to recognize that I have set boundaries and

1125
00:50:23,200 --> 00:50:25,319
Speaker 1: she's setting her own. I don't like them, but I

1126
00:50:25,360 --> 00:50:28,840
Speaker 1: don't imagine she liked mine. By the way, I like

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Speaker 1: when you guys listen to more episodes with stories like this.

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Speaker 1: Just go to Okay story Time on Apple Podcasts, Spotify

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00:50:36,280 --> 00:50:38,520
Speaker 1: or your favorite podcast app, and there is a little

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00:50:38,520 --> 00:50:40,200
Speaker 1: bit left to the story. Yeah, I would say like

1131
00:50:40,400 --> 00:50:42,759
Speaker 1: talking to her was a good idea, because you still

1132
00:50:42,760 --> 00:50:44,680
Speaker 1: want to have a relationship with your nieces, but it does

1133
00:50:44,719 --> 00:50:46,960
Speaker 1: seem right now with her youngest niece, she kind of

1134
00:50:47,000 --> 00:50:47,680
Speaker 1: has to say.

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Speaker 5: Oh key, she's old enough to decide what relationship she

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00:50:50,920 --> 00:50:52,320
Speaker 5: wants to have with her family members.

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Speaker 1: Yeah, in like three years, she'll probably come back to

1138
00:50:55,239 --> 00:50:56,920
Speaker 1: you and be like, yeah, my mom's crazy.

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00:50:57,520 --> 00:51:00,080
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you've done the right thing here. You

1140
00:51:00,120 --> 00:51:02,080
Speaker 5: didn't make any decisions that I think would make everything

1141
00:51:02,120 --> 00:51:05,080
Speaker 5: go nuclear or like make things worse. You basically just

1142
00:51:05,680 --> 00:51:08,239
Speaker 5: put it straight out there. You're like, these are my boundaries.

1143
00:51:08,520 --> 00:51:10,440
Speaker 5: This is why I'm putting them up. This is what

1144
00:51:10,440 --> 00:51:13,560
Speaker 5: I would like to see and you left the door open.

1145
00:51:13,600 --> 00:51:15,920
Speaker 5: You were like, and if you do want to reconnect,

1146
00:51:16,120 --> 00:51:18,919
Speaker 5: you can contact me, but don't contact me for anything else.

1147
00:51:19,200 --> 00:51:19,880
Speaker 3: We're done.

1148
00:51:20,040 --> 00:51:22,120
Speaker 1: But there is a little bit more to this story,

1149
00:51:22,239 --> 00:51:24,520
Speaker 1: so let's get into it. Maybe I just shouldn't have

1150
00:51:24,560 --> 00:51:26,439
Speaker 1: messaged her at all, but I didn't want to text

1151
00:51:26,480 --> 00:51:28,600
Speaker 1: at two am saying she was having a panic attack

1152
00:51:28,640 --> 00:51:31,480
Speaker 1: and wanted to talk. Why should I continue to support

1153
00:51:31,520 --> 00:51:34,200
Speaker 1: her emotionally when she doesn't care about me. I didn't

1154
00:51:34,239 --> 00:51:36,880
Speaker 1: want to go absolutely no contact because I love my

1155
00:51:36,960 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 1: nieces and I value my relationship with them, but it

1156
00:51:39,520 --> 00:51:42,680
Speaker 1: seems that isn't an option. I'm okay being an ahole.

1157
00:51:42,800 --> 00:51:44,879
Speaker 1: It's no skin off my back. I just don't want

1158
00:51:44,880 --> 00:51:47,680
Speaker 1: to lose my relationship with the girls. And that is

1159
00:51:47,719 --> 00:51:48,960
Speaker 1: the end of that story.

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Speaker 3: Perfect thinking of the children. Hey, it's Sam. We're going

1161
00:51:52,840 --> 00:51:54,760
Speaker 3: to get back to these stories. But here's three minutes

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Speaker 5: I warned my sister's friend to get security for her wedding,

1164
00:52:00,120 --> 00:52:05,439
Speaker 5: to keep my problematic sister out, keep her out, be gone.

1165
00:52:05,239 --> 00:52:07,080
Speaker 1: From me, and stay out.

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Speaker 5: My sister will call her Susan thirty seven female got

1167
00:52:10,840 --> 00:52:13,879
Speaker 5: married a while back. Her friends were a huge help

1168
00:52:13,920 --> 00:52:16,759
Speaker 5: to her and also the bridesmaids for her wedding. By

1169
00:52:16,800 --> 00:52:20,439
Speaker 5: the way, this comes from user Persephone on Earth and

1170
00:52:20,800 --> 00:52:25,120
Speaker 5: you can submit your story to our slash Okay storytime now.

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Speaker 5: One of the bride'maids let's call her Buffy thirty seven female,

1172
00:52:28,000 --> 00:52:30,440
Speaker 5: has been her friend for almost twenty years now and

1173
00:52:30,719 --> 00:52:33,480
Speaker 5: was the maid of honor at Susan's wedding. They have

1174
00:52:33,920 --> 00:52:37,800
Speaker 5: had arguments and then rekindled their friendship over and over

1175
00:52:37,880 --> 00:52:41,240
Speaker 5: again over the years. Buffy has been super excited about

1176
00:52:41,280 --> 00:52:44,520
Speaker 5: her own upcoming wedding. She had been wearing a placeholder

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00:52:44,600 --> 00:52:47,319
Speaker 5: engagement ring. Didn't make a big deal of her wedding

1178
00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:50,640
Speaker 5: at Susan's wedding, just casually mentioned it was happening to

1179
00:52:50,680 --> 00:52:52,800
Speaker 5: those who had come from states away who were also

1180
00:52:52,880 --> 00:52:56,560
Speaker 5: her friends, not random people. She was very respectful and

1181
00:52:56,560 --> 00:52:58,840
Speaker 5: put out a ton of fires so Susan wouldn't be

1182
00:52:58,880 --> 00:53:02,640
Speaker 5: stressed as much about her wedding and just generally went

1183
00:53:02,680 --> 00:53:06,239
Speaker 5: above and beyond or Susan. Now that Buffy's wedding is

1184
00:53:06,239 --> 00:53:08,760
Speaker 5: getting closer, she tried to lean a little on Susan

1185
00:53:08,760 --> 00:53:11,160
Speaker 5: for help with hers Since Susan was going to be

1186
00:53:11,239 --> 00:53:15,040
Speaker 5: her maid of honor too. Susan has constantly made excuses

1187
00:53:15,440 --> 00:53:19,040
Speaker 5: for why she can't help, has constantly asked Buffy to

1188
00:53:19,080 --> 00:53:20,120
Speaker 5: do favors.

1189
00:53:20,040 --> 00:53:23,760
Speaker 3: For her instead, or generally just brushed her off.

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00:53:23,880 --> 00:53:26,080
Speaker 5: How are you gonna hit someone with the Uno reverse

1191
00:53:26,160 --> 00:53:28,600
Speaker 5: card after they were the maid of honor at your wedding?

1192
00:53:28,840 --> 00:53:30,880
Speaker 5: You're like, actually, can you do me a favor? All

1193
00:53:30,920 --> 00:53:33,279
Speaker 5: this came to a head when Susan was moving into

1194
00:53:33,320 --> 00:53:36,480
Speaker 5: a new house with her husband. Her husband suddenly got

1195
00:53:36,480 --> 00:53:39,800
Speaker 5: deployed to Gaza, so he ended up not being able

1196
00:53:39,840 --> 00:53:42,800
Speaker 5: to help with the move. She has been complaining about

1197
00:53:42,800 --> 00:53:45,880
Speaker 5: being lonely, how hard her life is, how she'll be

1198
00:53:46,400 --> 00:53:49,440
Speaker 5: all alone and has to do everything herself. She knew

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Speaker 5: when she married him that he might be deployed for

1200
00:53:52,080 --> 00:53:54,799
Speaker 5: possibly years at a time. She complains about how she's

1201
00:53:54,800 --> 00:53:58,160
Speaker 5: always worried he won't come back, which is valid and awful,

1202
00:53:58,320 --> 00:54:01,880
Speaker 5: but she acts like her own actions have no impact

1203
00:54:01,960 --> 00:54:05,480
Speaker 5: on him being sent to Gaza. She convinced him not

1204
00:54:05,640 --> 00:54:09,720
Speaker 5: to take a deployment to Japan just before the fighting started.

1205
00:54:09,960 --> 00:54:12,640
Speaker 5: Her reason she would have to learn a new language

1206
00:54:12,640 --> 00:54:16,000
Speaker 5: and would have no friends. She also had demanded that

1207
00:54:16,040 --> 00:54:18,520
Speaker 5: they get a dog just before the wedding, and now

1208
00:54:18,560 --> 00:54:21,239
Speaker 5: that he's not here, the dog doesn't get walked and

1209
00:54:21,360 --> 00:54:24,120
Speaker 5: is stuck in a crate almost all day. She refuses

1210
00:54:24,160 --> 00:54:27,319
Speaker 5: to try and train her. She complains constantly about the

1211
00:54:27,360 --> 00:54:30,359
Speaker 5: dog getting into her chocolate and says it's not her

1212
00:54:30,400 --> 00:54:33,120
Speaker 5: fault she keeps eating it. Susan has never tried to

1213
00:54:33,200 --> 00:54:35,960
Speaker 5: keep it somewhere out of the dog's reach. Buffy gave

1214
00:54:35,960 --> 00:54:39,760
Speaker 5: her solid and valid advice, but she ignored it. Susan

1215
00:54:39,840 --> 00:54:42,399
Speaker 5: just keeps giving Buffy these long rants about how bad

1216
00:54:42,480 --> 00:54:46,520
Speaker 5: the dog behaves, but does nothing about it. Susan demanded

1217
00:54:46,520 --> 00:54:49,640
Speaker 5: that Buffy and her other bridesmaid let's call her Genie

1218
00:54:49,760 --> 00:54:53,160
Speaker 5: thirty six female, come over and help her move into

1219
00:54:53,160 --> 00:54:55,839
Speaker 5: the new house. Buffy and Genie explained that they were

1220
00:54:55,880 --> 00:54:59,600
Speaker 5: already super busy with the wedding work and had taken

1221
00:54:59,680 --> 00:55:02,040
Speaker 5: a lot of time to listen to her, that Susan

1222
00:55:02,080 --> 00:55:04,400
Speaker 5: hadn't accepted any of their advice and they needed to

1223
00:55:04,440 --> 00:55:07,799
Speaker 5: focus now on arrangements for Buffy's wedding. They said they

1224
00:55:07,800 --> 00:55:10,839
Speaker 5: were disappointed she wasn't helping them and often distracted from

1225
00:55:10,920 --> 00:55:14,360
Speaker 5: or derailed conversations about the wedding. To focus on Susan. Instead,

1226
00:55:14,640 --> 00:55:20,359
Speaker 5: Susan exploded on them. Susan laid into them about how

1227
00:55:20,400 --> 00:55:23,280
Speaker 5: she does so much for them, how she always buys

1228
00:55:23,280 --> 00:55:26,720
Speaker 5: them things which she does buy stuff, but often things

1229
00:55:26,840 --> 00:55:29,400
Speaker 5: they never asked her to buy. She does it on

1230
00:55:29,440 --> 00:55:32,640
Speaker 5: her own whim, and that they should be dropping everything

1231
00:55:32,680 --> 00:55:34,680
Speaker 5: to help her right now. She said a lot more

1232
00:55:34,719 --> 00:55:37,239
Speaker 5: horrible things to both of them and screamed at them

1233
00:55:37,239 --> 00:55:39,279
Speaker 5: for never helping her when she needed it. Hello, do

1234
00:55:39,320 --> 00:55:40,920
Speaker 5: you not remember this was the maid of honor at

1235
00:55:40,960 --> 00:55:44,120
Speaker 5: your wedding? Genie have decided to go no contact with her.

1236
00:55:44,600 --> 00:55:47,080
Speaker 5: I apologized to both of them for having to deal

1237
00:55:47,120 --> 00:55:49,680
Speaker 5: with it, but that this is classic.

1238
00:55:49,280 --> 00:55:51,360
Speaker 3: Susan behavior since we've been.

1239
00:55:51,360 --> 00:55:55,960
Speaker 1: Kids, Classic Susan always ruining friendships and lives.

1240
00:55:56,200 --> 00:55:58,960
Speaker 5: They asked a bit more about it, and I explained

1241
00:55:59,000 --> 00:56:01,920
Speaker 5: how things were growing up, that she's manipulative and has

1242
00:56:02,000 --> 00:56:05,280
Speaker 5: always been the golden child, got everything she ever wanted,

1243
00:56:05,280 --> 00:56:07,720
Speaker 5: and if I denied her anything, I would be punished,

1244
00:56:07,960 --> 00:56:10,919
Speaker 5: So she came to expect this of everyone around her.

1245
00:56:11,120 --> 00:56:13,480
Speaker 5: They were shocked because she had been telling them that

1246
00:56:13,719 --> 00:56:15,560
Speaker 5: I had been doing all this stuff to her. I

1247
00:56:15,640 --> 00:56:18,200
Speaker 5: told them that she has mastered Darva when she was

1248
00:56:18,239 --> 00:56:21,040
Speaker 5: a kid, so it really didn't shock me. I apologize

1249
00:56:21,040 --> 00:56:23,600
Speaker 5: to them both sincerely because they did not deserve this,

1250
00:56:23,960 --> 00:56:25,799
Speaker 5: and I thanked them for having put up with her

1251
00:56:25,880 --> 00:56:28,399
Speaker 5: and been her friends for all this time. I told

1252
00:56:28,480 --> 00:56:31,120
Speaker 5: them that it was Susan's loss to throw away such

1253
00:56:31,160 --> 00:56:34,120
Speaker 5: patient and lovely people. They emphasized that I wasn't the

1254
00:56:34,120 --> 00:56:37,080
Speaker 5: one who needed to apologize, and especially not apologize for

1255
00:56:37,160 --> 00:56:40,160
Speaker 5: her crappy behavior. That was something she should be doing.

1256
00:56:40,520 --> 00:56:43,000
Speaker 5: I'm now torn on whether I should warn Buffy to

1257
00:56:43,000 --> 00:56:45,719
Speaker 5: get security, because I wouldn't be shocked if she went

1258
00:56:45,800 --> 00:56:47,960
Speaker 5: to the wedding and made a scene. She has done

1259
00:56:48,040 --> 00:56:50,719
Speaker 5: this kind of thing to me many many times. For

1260
00:56:50,800 --> 00:56:53,640
Speaker 5: my graduation dinner, she threw a massive screaming fit because

1261
00:56:53,640 --> 00:56:55,600
Speaker 5: she didn't want to go to a sushi restaurant. My

1262
00:56:55,719 --> 00:56:57,400
Speaker 5: dad said it was fine and we would do it

1263
00:56:57,440 --> 00:57:00,920
Speaker 5: some other time and took us to her favorite place instead.

1264
00:57:01,160 --> 00:57:01,440
Speaker 1: What.

1265
00:57:01,719 --> 00:57:04,600
Speaker 5: No, At that point, you're being excluded, The grown sister

1266
00:57:04,680 --> 00:57:08,960
Speaker 5: throws a tantrum. Hi, sister, you're going home. You're excluded

1267
00:57:08,960 --> 00:57:13,359
Speaker 5: from the graduation now, literalllly bye bye. I don't want

1268
00:57:13,400 --> 00:57:16,959
Speaker 5: you there. Very very bad parenting there He then tried

1269
00:57:17,000 --> 00:57:19,920
Speaker 5: to avoid actually going through with it until my stepmother

1270
00:57:20,080 --> 00:57:22,960
Speaker 5: told him off about his disregard for me, even on

1271
00:57:23,040 --> 00:57:24,160
Speaker 5: my special occasions.

1272
00:57:24,520 --> 00:57:27,160
Speaker 3: When we finally did go, she blew up and.

1273
00:57:27,120 --> 00:57:30,320
Speaker 5: Screamed about how there was nothing she liked and stormed out.

1274
00:57:30,360 --> 00:57:31,920
Speaker 1: Then why did you go stupid?

1275
00:57:32,400 --> 00:57:35,040
Speaker 3: If you don't like sushi, don't go to the sushi restaurant.

1276
00:57:35,280 --> 00:57:37,160
Speaker 1: If someone's like, hey, we're going to sushi Ni, they'll

1277
00:57:37,200 --> 00:57:39,240
Speaker 1: be like, actually, we're not going to sushi.

1278
00:57:39,360 --> 00:57:41,640
Speaker 3: I don't like it, or just order gioza.

1279
00:57:41,760 --> 00:57:45,040
Speaker 5: So the whole restaurant stared at us for the rest

1280
00:57:45,080 --> 00:57:48,640
Speaker 5: of the meal, and I was humiliated. I really don't

1281
00:57:48,640 --> 00:57:51,560
Speaker 5: want something like that to happen at Buffy's wedding. So

1282
00:57:52,000 --> 00:57:54,400
Speaker 5: would I be the a hole for warning my sister's

1283
00:57:54,440 --> 00:57:58,040
Speaker 5: friends to higher security for the wedding to keep her out? Sorry,

1284
00:57:58,120 --> 00:57:59,840
Speaker 5: this ended up being so long. I just wanted to

1285
00:57:59,880 --> 00:58:02,000
Speaker 5: get as much info as I could so you could

1286
00:58:02,000 --> 00:58:04,320
Speaker 5: make an informed decision and we have an update.

1287
00:58:04,360 --> 00:58:06,320
Speaker 3: But hit me with the SOFIA where are we at?

1288
00:58:06,360 --> 00:58:08,160
Speaker 1: I don't think you would be the ale. You're not

1289
00:58:08,280 --> 00:58:10,440
Speaker 1: hiring the security beyond their back. You're not saying you

1290
00:58:10,520 --> 00:58:12,920
Speaker 1: have to hire a security you're just advising them. I

1291
00:58:12,920 --> 00:58:15,120
Speaker 1: think it's fine to offer advice in this situation.

1292
00:58:15,520 --> 00:58:17,560
Speaker 5: Yeah, I think you've been maybe conditioned to think that

1293
00:58:17,600 --> 00:58:20,480
Speaker 5: your like thoughts and opinions like shouldn't be voiced. And

1294
00:58:20,520 --> 00:58:22,160
Speaker 5: that's why it's like, I don't know, sh would I

1295
00:58:22,200 --> 00:58:25,640
Speaker 5: be crossing in line. It's like your sister's already basically

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Speaker 5: been like I want nothing to do with these people

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Speaker 5: who were already not It's like they would probably understand

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Speaker 5: if anything, they'd be like, oh my god. Thank you

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Speaker 5: for letting us know that this is how she is.

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Speaker 5: We have not been tapped into that aspect of her

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Speaker 5: personality clearly, as we were kind of shocked at how

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Speaker 5: she's been behaving recently. So if you really think that

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Speaker 5: we're gonna need a bouncer to keep her from ruining

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Speaker 5: the wedding, thank you.

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Speaker 1: Update.

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Speaker 5: First, I want to thank everyone who commented and encouraged

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Speaker 5: me to speak up. I struggle with self confidence and

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Speaker 5: often worry it will be taken the worst possible way.

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Speaker 1: Thank you for.

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Speaker 5: That trauma, but you guys help me push to do

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Speaker 5: the right thing despite my fears.

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Speaker 3: Thank you so much. And here's the update after I

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Speaker 3: mustered up the courage.

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Speaker 5: I reached out to Buffy, laying out things Susan had

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Speaker 5: done in the past, that I was not reaching out

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Speaker 5: out of spite and I wouldn't be able to forgive

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Speaker 5: myself if I didn't warn her, and somehow Susan ruined

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Speaker 5: her day. I recommended they get security and maybe ask

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Speaker 5: some friends to keep an eye out just in case.

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Speaker 5: She responded that she already had it covered. She figured

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Speaker 5: that Susan might try something, and she already has it

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Speaker 5: set up so anyone who is not on the guest

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Speaker 5: list cannot come into the building. Susan was her maid

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Speaker 5: of honor, but she has since been completely removed from

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Speaker 5: the wedding and Buffy has gone full on no contact

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Speaker 5: with her because I don't have time for that high

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Speaker 5: school drama.

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Speaker 1: B s good, good dated round. Don't want Susan boss

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Speaker 1: her way.

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Speaker 3: As adults, there's no time to have people like this

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Speaker 3: in your life.

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Speaker 1: No, my goal this hears, just be more straightforward. I

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Speaker 1: don't have time for all the like, but no, I

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Speaker 1: have an army to lead.

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Speaker 5: She was thankful that I reached out, though, and she

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Speaker 5: had set up passwords for the vendors. She made it

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Speaker 5: clear she had even cut off childhood friends for being

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Speaker 5: like this, and she had no problem doing it for

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Speaker 5: anybody who tried to bring unnecessary drama into her life.

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Speaker 5: I also found out exactly what broke the camel's back,

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Speaker 5: and it's so stupid and Betty, I can't even the

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01:00:23,240 --> 01:00:27,200
Speaker 5: utter audacity of this bee. Since it's getting closer to

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Speaker 5: the wedding, Buffy wanted a more solid headcount. She asked

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Speaker 5: Susan if she could reach out to our parents, like

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01:00:32,200 --> 01:00:34,120
Speaker 5: literally our mom and dad, to see if they were

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Speaker 5: still going to come to the wedding. They hadn't gotten

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Speaker 5: official invitations because Susan was supposed to be the maid

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Speaker 5: of honor and they had talked about a lot during

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01:00:41,320 --> 01:00:44,000
Speaker 5: the planning for Susan's wedding. They all had been working

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Speaker 5: with each other to try and make sure it was perfect,

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Speaker 5: so it didn't seem like it needed an official invitation. Susan,

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01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:53,520
Speaker 5: this delusional bee. Susan told Buffy it wasn't her effing

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Speaker 5: job to ask them, and as the bride, she should

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Speaker 5: effing do it herself. Buffy told her that she was

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01:00:59,440 --> 01:01:01,760
Speaker 5: pretty sure as the maid of honor, it was her

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01:01:01,840 --> 01:01:04,840
Speaker 5: job to be helping get the final touches done. Susan

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Speaker 5: blew up and it led to a huge argument, but

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Speaker 5: basically Susan pulling the I'm so overwhelmed, why is no

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Speaker 5: one helping me? Throwing it in her face. I've bought

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Speaker 5: so much for you. Again, she wasn't asked to buy

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Speaker 5: those things. I'm not letting you use the leftover decorations

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01:01:20,920 --> 01:01:23,160
Speaker 5: for my wedding anymore, just spewing utter.

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Speaker 3: Bs.

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Speaker 5: Buffy said she was cutting her off because she's too

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01:01:26,480 --> 01:01:29,439
Speaker 5: old for this foolishness and high school bs. Buffy hasn't

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Speaker 5: spoken to her since we did get the story.

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Speaker 1: Thank you, Yeah, because we deserve to know. Yeah. No,

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Speaker 1: I think that was the right move. I mean, Buffy's

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Speaker 1: a nightmare. I mean not Buffy. Sorry, Susan's the nightmare.

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Speaker 1: Buffy seems cool. Buffy's a vampire slayer, and she slaid

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Speaker 1: that vampire Susan, She's a freaking energy vampire.

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Speaker 5: I apologized to her again, and she said I wasn't

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01:01:46,960 --> 01:01:49,440
Speaker 5: the one who needed to apologize. We chatted a bit

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01:01:49,480 --> 01:01:51,840
Speaker 5: more about things, and we will be keeping in touch

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Speaker 5: from here on out. I told her if there was

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Speaker 5: anything I could help with, I would and if she

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Speaker 5: needed someone to talk to, I was here for she said,

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01:01:59,480 --> 01:02:02,200
Speaker 5: she really I appreciated it and went to bed. So

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Speaker 5: Buffy was already anticipating Susan's possible attempts and had taken

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Speaker 5: measures already.

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Speaker 3: It was a huge relief. As for Susan's dog, I

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01:02:11,080 --> 01:02:12,400
Speaker 3: ended up reaching out to my dad.

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Speaker 5: Oh my god, yeah, the dog. The dog being neglected.

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Speaker 5: Save the dog. I ended up reaching out to my dad,

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01:02:17,960 --> 01:02:20,560
Speaker 5: explaining the situation to him and asking if he could

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01:02:20,640 --> 01:02:22,680
Speaker 5: check on her since she seemed to be struggling with

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Speaker 5: her husband being gone. I made it very clear this

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01:02:24,880 --> 01:02:27,760
Speaker 5: wasn't me trying to be vindictive, cruel, or mean. I

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01:02:27,880 --> 01:02:31,000
Speaker 5: was genuinely concerned that the dog was not getting the

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01:02:31,040 --> 01:02:34,400
Speaker 5: proper care and treatment it deserved. It sounded like her

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01:02:34,440 --> 01:02:36,920
Speaker 5: living condition wasn't any better than being stuck in a shelter.

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Speaker 5: And by the way, I want you stuck listening to

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Speaker 5: full episodes with stories like this.

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Speaker 3: I want you being.

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Speaker 5: Stuck in a podcast loop and you can get stuck

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Speaker 5: in it on Spotify or Apple Podcasts or wherever you

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Speaker 5: listen to podcasts. Just search Okay story time and you

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Speaker 5: will have the limitless you know, the archives, the complete archives,

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Speaker 5: so we do have a little bit more story belaying

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Speaker 5: where we at here, where we at, we are we

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01:03:02,720 --> 01:03:03,480
Speaker 5: feel in I.

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Speaker 1: Think this is all going as planned as need to be.

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Speaker 5: You're not doing anything wrong in Susan's honestly, that's where

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01:03:10,200 --> 01:03:11,920
Speaker 5: we're at. Please let the dad take the dog, and

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01:03:11,960 --> 01:03:14,080
Speaker 5: these don't get a dog if you can't take care of.

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01:03:14,040 --> 01:03:15,800
Speaker 1: It at the end of the night. If you cannot

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01:03:15,800 --> 01:03:17,320
Speaker 1: take care of the pat, you should not have a pat.

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Speaker 3: Yeah, bipet, that's really easy to take care of, like

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Speaker 3: a fish.

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Speaker 5: I haven't heard back at all, but I'm hoping he

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01:03:23,520 --> 01:03:25,440
Speaker 5: will at least check on her. I decided not to

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01:03:25,480 --> 01:03:28,600
Speaker 5: call animal control because it would also impact her husband.

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Speaker 5: He's a good man and was taking the dog for

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01:03:31,040 --> 01:03:33,800
Speaker 5: several mile runs every morning, working on her training, and

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01:03:33,960 --> 01:03:36,840
Speaker 5: just generally took good care of her. I would hate

1416
01:03:36,840 --> 01:03:38,640
Speaker 5: for him to never be able to adopt a dog

1417
01:03:38,680 --> 01:03:41,200
Speaker 5: again for something happening when he's not there.

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01:03:41,480 --> 01:03:43,200
Speaker 1: Well, then you call him up and you say, hey,

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01:03:43,240 --> 01:03:46,800
Speaker 1: your dog is being mistreated. You need to I don't know,

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01:03:46,880 --> 01:03:47,680
Speaker 1: do something about that.

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01:03:47,960 --> 01:03:50,280
Speaker 5: I hope this update finds you all well, and thank

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01:03:50,320 --> 01:03:52,160
Speaker 5: you all once again for giving me the courage to

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01:03:52,240 --> 01:03:54,680
Speaker 5: do what needed to be done. I was honestly really

1424
01:03:54,720 --> 01:03:57,000
Speaker 5: scared that I would end up in Susan's crosshairs, or

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01:03:57,040 --> 01:03:59,000
Speaker 5: that I might not be believed at all.

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Speaker 3: Well, thank Goodnes, that's not what happened. That's the end

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Speaker 3: of that story.